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My pleasure!
/r/ExRedPill04/09/25 02:44 AM
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I started doing that very thing at my YouTube channel here: https://youtube.com/@normalize-polyamory?si=qpyxERQsJosDIQ7M
/r/ExRedPill04/09/25 01:20 AM
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Or maybe women aren’t into men as much anymore because a lot of them think like this. My wife loves me because I’m not a red pill weirdo. It’s a bonus that I pay half of the mortgage, but we fell in love before we moved in together. That’s why we moved in together.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 07:26 PM
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Yeah, it’s unfortunate. There’s all sorts of unfortunate shit about nature. And the more we recognize it and acclimate ourselves to it the better. I could blame my natural tendency to be violent. Or I can recognize it, and refuse to take part in it. Education can at times trump nature. This is assuming that we even have a natural tendency to begin with. I don’t know how much we were killing each other before the advent of agriculture, where there was a surplus of population.
/r/ExRedPill28/06/25 04:54 AM
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If this is true, the solution doesn’t have to be lower everyone’s testosterone and thereby remove the benefits of a healthy level of testosterone. We can educate people about this and via that knowledge and awareness, they can consciously avoid toxic behavior and still enjoy the benefits of libido and athletic capabilities. I understand my testosterone levels can contribute to aggression, but my understanding of that results in taking conscious, intentional steps to avoid undue aggression, like …
/r/ExRedPill27/06/25 04:29 PM
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And also doing the things that I described are not always going to magically work immediately because society has already been so seriously fucked up. What I’m describing is what will change society if everybody does it. It won’t necessarily work for a single individual. And the red pill does the opposite. They exacerbate the problem in response to the problem, rather than ameliorate the problem.
/r/ExRedPill13/06/25 03:44 PM
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If she sees you as nothing anyway, then she probably has a lot of other options. Meanwhile, there are single woman who also feel like they are seen as nothing. If men are ignoring those women, then men are probably spending too much time looking at Instagram. models or porn etc. And they don’t find women at their same attraction level attractive anymore. This might mean you have to do no fap for a while, so that you actually are willing to pursue women that are attracted to you.
/r/ExRedPill13/06/25 03:42 PM
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You would care if you care about yourself or others. I assume you want to date women and I would hope that you would find happiness in the happiness of other men when they accomplish the same
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 01:31 AM
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Sex negativity has been around for human history (more so than pre-history). The internet is not remotely required. But the harm of sex negativity persists regardless of the communication method.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 12:44 AM
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That’s very unfortunate that your mom feels this way. The attitude she has is contributing to a societal trend that prevents a lot of people from dating or having sex. I don’t know how any good can come from this mentality
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 12:42 AM
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I don’t think women are a fan of this double standard so I you want to stop scaring women away from the dating scene, you probably shouldn’t be promoting this double standard and harming men in the process
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 12:41 AM
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Exactly. So why be the dude that gets rejected? That sounds like poor strategy if you’re all about sexual strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 12:39 AM
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What view? That they should be shamed for having sex with a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 12:38 AM
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I have yet to see a single example of that
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 12:24 AM
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It is possible for a man to believe that his value increases when he has sex but a woman’s value decreases when she does the same. That’s what I’m asking about here.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 12:22 AM
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Do you actually think that women being exposed to a plethora of men talking on the internet about how they lose value when they date and have sex has no impact on their desire to date and have sex? Think about it from a woman’s perspective. Why would she be excited about dating men when she sees a bunch of men that don’t value her and she doesn’t know which ones are that way and which ones aren’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 12:05 AM
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And we see a growing amount of women expressing a lack of interest in sex and relationships, making it more difficult for men to date and have sex. How does the red pill and similar talking points impact that trend?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 11:58 PM
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Do you actually believe that the women are not aware of the sex negative attitudes towards them despite it being littered all over the internet and do you also actually believe that instilled sexual shame has no impact on their sexual desire?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 11:55 PM
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The Martian insult is unnecessary. Do you believe you also need to demonstrate the ability to not have sex with others besides her?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 11:50 PM
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Do you believe a woman’s value decreases with the amount of partners she has while a man’s value increases when he does the same?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 11:44 PM
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Do you want to have sex with women? How does it impact your chances of having sex with one if you believe she should demonstrate the ability to not have sex with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 11:40 PM
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It makes a tremendous amount of difference if she has a relationship with a sex positive man because he will not shame her and if things don’t work out, she will continue to not be shamed if she continues to date sex positive men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 11:38 PM
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Thank you for not shaming others for having a different lifestyle than you
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 11:37 PM
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Is this how you feel or are you more speaking for other people right now?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 11:24 PM
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The situation that the woman is placed in here means that if she were to ever break up with him, she would be less valued by her next boyfriend. And it’s very unrealistic to expect your first relationship to succeed forever. People usually date multiple people before they find a spouse. She therefore can either date no one or not have sex with a man until she is absolutely sure he will be a lifetime husband (extremely difficult without determining sexual compatibility) or she can date a sex posi…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 11:10 PM
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How can a man who views sex shamefully expect a woman to want to have sex with him and enjoy it? How can one enjoy something that they are being shamed for by the very person they are doing it with?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 10:56 PM
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Assuming that this guy who wants something serious would like sex to be a part of it, the question still stands. If he believes that a woman loses value when she has sex with him, why would she want to have sex with him, regardless of the seriousness of their relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 10:54 PM
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I think the difficulty that men have with getting a girlfriend is a result of misogyny harassment, and even assault of women, which makes them very hesitant to date men. Ironically, the red pill supports this very same misogyny, and they seem to turn a blind eye to harassment and assault, denying that it exists, or pretending that it’s not a big deal. The specific instructions here would be stop doing that and discourage other men from doing it and promote an environment where women actually fee…
/r/ExRedPill07/06/25 10:25 PM
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What do you mean by taking kindness for granted? What is the outcome of that? How is there an advantage with throwing in ad hominems alongside your points? Can you not make your same points without the ad hominems?
/r/ExRedPill05/06/25 07:20 PM
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You aren’t developing naive arrogance by being kind and you can make all of these points, including to developing children, without being rude. Being rude makes you less believable anyway as it makes people get defensive. So if you’re trying to help someone by changing their mind or teaching them something, being unkind is the last thing you want to do.
/r/ExRedPill05/06/25 06:07 PM
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You are able to be kind while making a point.
/r/ExRedPill05/06/25 05:42 PM
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I’d say it’s accurate more often than not and it’s very useful, innovative technology. But it shouldn’t be used as an ultimate truth by any means. It’s trained on human made data so if humans can make mistakes, it certainly can.
/r/ExRedPill05/06/25 04:30 PM
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As far as I can tell, it is pretty accurate but it can absolutely make mistakes just like how a person on Reddit can say, “studies show…” but you wouldn’t believe that person without a source
/r/ExRedPill05/06/25 02:52 PM
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You can’t just take ChatGPT’s word for it. Large language models are good for providing context but you need to find a reliable source to determine facts
/r/ExRedPill05/06/25 02:23 PM
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There’s nothing magical about the gender of someone’s parents. Two dads. Two moms. Or a traditional mother and father. Or non binary parents. Kids need resources. And parents of any gender can provide that. Just how parents of any gender can also be shitty.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 03:37 AM
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Do you know where the clitoris is and do you stimulate it when you have sex, assuming you have sex with women at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 06:11 PM
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So, I don’t think that answers my question. Have you ever spoken to a woman about her experience of dating apps?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 02:07 PM
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So it helped some people get out of poverty. That sounds good. A lot of immigrants move to a new country seeking a better life. And the less desirable jobs tend to be occupied by immigrants. I don’t think that’s grounds to make fast food, construction, landscaping, or berry picking illegal. And the undesirability could be promoted by societal stigma anyway rather than an inheritance lack of value
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 09:18 PM
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Difference in what? Quality of life of the sex workers or quality of life of the customers?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 09:03 PM
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Someone in the comments suggested Germany, where prostitution is legal nationwide, and that could perhaps be a good place to look. Even better might be Australia or New Zealand.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 09:00 PM
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If the people living in the county are the ones using the service, sure. But I would suspect a lot of the people in the county are ranchers or farmers and probably don’t like it. I imagine the bulk of their customers are tourists from elsewhere. It’s hard when it’s not statewide. But even when it’s isolated to a single state, a lot of the tourists could be from out of state, like the people who live in Utah that travel to Wendover to get weed. We could, however, do a study on the sex workers the…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 08:57 PM
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It is not legal in all of Nevada. In fact, Las Vegas county itself, it is not legal. It is only legal in some counties and those counties seem to be pretty remote and have lower populations.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 08:44 PM
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Have you ever spoken to a woman that uses dating apps and asked her about her experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 08:43 PM
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Then they need to date girls that look like them because you can say the same thing about girls being too unattractive to get a boy friend.
/r/ExRedPill20/11/24 01:14 PM
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Two years is a long time for someone’s personality and beliefs to dramatically change. The person you first met could have very well been genuine but people can change.
/r/ExRedPill17/11/24 12:03 AM
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I’m trying to figure out what emoji you used but I just can’t. What is it?
/r/ExRedPill16/11/24 06:21 AM
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Omg please post this in purple pill debate. You don’t need to respond to anything but the guys that complain about how hard it is to get a woman need to know that it’s THEIR IDEOLOGY that is causing the thing that they ceaselessly complain about.
/r/ExRedPill12/11/24 06:03 PM
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I suspect this is true but it’d be good to have survey data on why people voted the way they did and more importantly why they did NOT vote. I suspect that the election results were more people not voting at all rather than swapping to trump. Trump supposedly got less votes than last time so people weren’t so much switching to him. It’s just that democrats got way less votes. I assume that was mostly because of the Gaza war but Bernie could be onto something here
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/11/24 06:28 PM
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The sexual market place is probably more of a cultural phenomenon than a biological one.
/r/ExRedPill07/11/24 10:01 PM
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They want to have their cake and eat it too. It’s just an impossible desire. Another example is wishing everyone could be rich but wealth requires people less wealthy than you working for you. It’s just mathematically and logically impossible but that doesn’t stop people from wanting it.
/r/ExRedPill06/11/24 03:03 PM
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The answer i got out of a red pill guy was that he needs to keep having Sex until he finds his trad wife so he uses sluts while he looks for his wife. Of course if this low body count trad wife comes his way, he may get upset if she doesn’t put out so not sure how he’s going to keep dating her. It doesn’t make sense and they’re shooting themselves in the foot. No wonder they’re so miserable
/r/ExRedPill06/11/24 02:59 PM
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Of course, people need to be honest. And people who want polyamory should not feel the need to be with a monogamous person. Destigmatizing, polyamory ubiquitously would help a lot with that. There’s several other societal issues that we would need to work on too, but having it well known that polyamory is an option, would enable people to have the choice and probably not get into a monogamous relationship in the first place, that would then result in them being in the impossible scenario that yo…
/r/ExRedPill23/10/24 12:28 PM
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Then it sounds like monogamy wasn’t for them, and we shouldn’t push that as the default when it clearly doesn’t work for many people
/r/ExRedPill22/10/24 11:13 PM
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Condoms are pretty close to being a guarantee if used right. 97% is pretty close to 100% and a lot of that 3% is probably improper use. The promiscuous last thing has nothing to do with one’s tendency to cheat. That has everything to do with how honest the person is. Also there is such things as open relationships where cheating is somewhat of a meaningless term. STI testing is helpful too like you mentioned and one should be getting tested regularly.
/r/ExRedPill22/10/24 02:07 PM
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And even if you do catch it, it’s very manageable. Most people don’t even have symptoms and there is medication to prevent symptoms and prevent passing it to someone else. I have the antibodies for “genital” herpes and have never experienced any symptoms.
/r/ExRedPill21/10/24 03:49 PM
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I could talk to you more about this over DM if you’d like
/r/ExRedPill21/10/24 03:42 PM
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Do you mean they ghost you before they know you very well?
/r/ExRedPill21/10/24 03:09 PM
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Those are certainly helpful things to do. What would you say have been the main obstacles for you?
/r/ExRedPill21/10/24 03:02 PM
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You say you’ve tried to have sex? What have you tried so far?
/r/ExRedPill21/10/24 02:54 PM
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2/3 of the population have heroines and most people who have it are asymptomatic. Many STIs are curable and many are treatable and also highly preventable from condoms and dental damns. The people who are promiscuous and have STIs are likely not getting tested regularly or not properly wearing condoms etc. educating and encouraging people to take precautions is a much better alternative to shaming them for enjoying their sex life.
/r/ExRedPill21/10/24 02:51 PM
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Do you find the methodology of the study to be reliable? The convenience sample as they stated it surveying people based off of their experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 03:03 PM
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I don’t know why someone would do this. They could instead hit on someone who they think they have a chance with?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 02:52 PM
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I’m curious about what other people believe and why they believe it so I like to seek out the perspective of other people. I’ve had some discussions with red pill men and this red pill women sub caught my attention. The red pill men seem to be largely anti women so I found it interesting that a group of women would adopt the same name
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/24 02:33 PM
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I think the main difference is that one person decided to only date the one person because that’s what they prefer and it’s not because their partner mandated that they be with just them while their partner can be with as many people as they want.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/24 12:58 PM
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Polygamy has historically been coercive. I didn’t think that was necessarily what you were talking about but polygamy is what comes to mind when we’re talking about 1 sided non monogamy.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/24 03:59 AM
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Yes this is a dynamic that some people have but it’s a choice hence the term ethical non monogamy. It isn’t cheating and it’s not coercive polygamy.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/24 03:31 AM
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I’m sorry that you’ve experienced that. 😕 not everyone has success with polyamory. I have never experienced jealousy myself and I truly don’t mind how many partners my partners have and I don’t know why I would be concerned about that. I’m more concerned about how happy and healthy my partners are than the number of people they are dating. What would convince you that my feelings are real?
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/24 01:31 AM
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I am a man. I do not want a harem of virgins. I do not mind how many partners that my partners have had or currently have. I think it is acceptable for both myself to have multiple partners and my partners to have multiple partners not as a post hoc rationalization but because it is fair and I experience happiness when the people I love experience happiness. Is any of this problematic in your view?
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/24 01:22 AM
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That’s a pretty extreme overgeneralization and I think what men and women and other genders want is far more diverse than the two options you’ve laid out.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/24 11:15 PM
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Exactly. Either you want to be nonmonogamous and be with other people who are non-monogamous or you want to be exclusive you can’t have your cake and eat it too. Otherwise, what they’re asking for is to have a harem of virgin brides and not only is that super unrealistic, but it’s also super unreasonable and unfair
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/24 10:54 PM
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What do you mean by a side bar?
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/24 10:46 PM
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We all need to have realistic expectations. Both types of people you described sound like they could benefit from healing their jealousy, and either finding someone who realistically could be exclusive with them, or having a consensual open relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/24 08:57 PM
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I’ve found red pill men to be somewhat contradictory. They want women to have sex with them easily but at the same time they want a woman with a low body count. I’m not sure house women are supposed to win in that case. Have you experienced this?
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/24 08:32 PM
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He needs counter information. Perhaps suggest feminist videos to him as well. Unfortunately they may need to be male feminists, while I wish we could just listen to good ideas regardless of the gender identity of the person saying them. There’s a YouTube channel called amazing atheist and he’s made some videos critical of incel ideas using humor
/r/ExRedPill18/08/24 02:25 PM
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Do you think ENM itself is unethical or do you think the way it’s presented in this course is unethical?
/r/ExRedPill18/08/24 02:20 PM
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Ironically I’ve heard red pillers complain about women viewing them as disposable.
/r/ExRedPill09/08/24 03:00 PM
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The perception of everyone being cruel is probably more of a result of rage bait and social media algorithms. The internet seems to be a totally different environment than real life where people at least pretend to be nice to each other. I don’t think women have standards that are super high as much as red pillers having standards that are pretty low. They complain about women’s body count and put them on a scale between 1 and 10. Do you think a women or any other person wants to put up with tha…
/r/ExRedPill09/08/24 02:59 PM
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I 28M have been in similar situations to you as far as feeling starved of social interaction. Particularly after I graduated from college and moved to a town where I didn’t know anybody. It took a while, but I attended enough social events where I managed to build a community of close friends and a wife. Facebook and meetup events are a pretty great way to get out there and meet people. You can search for something you like. It can induce social anxiety to talk to strangers at bars, clubs, or pa…
/r/ExRedPill30/07/24 02:58 PM
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Have you posted this on r/purplepilldebate? I’d be interested in seeing how the red pills respond
/r/ExRedPill30/07/24 12:13 AM
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Thank you so much for your sympathy. You have no idea how much it means to me. I really hope you are able to sift out all of the garbage and find a good man that cares about your happiness, and treats you like an equal.
/r/ExRedPill14/07/24 02:04 PM
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I would love to think this is the case. Maybe more people are recovering from red pill. I will say that from the looks of it, the red pill doesn’t seem to be a sustainable thing. Using sexual strategy that involves lying to women, for example, pretending to be monogamous or exclusive, when you’re actually dating several other women. Demanding that women be exclusive to you while you do not do the same yourself. Women are catching onto these tricks, and they are increasingly ditching dating men. …
/r/ExRedPill10/07/24 02:21 PM
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I didn’t mean to use any word play. I appreciate you for having this discussion with me and have enjoyed talking to you. The subject of distaste towards sex with multiple people is perhaps too complicated to discuss over a Reddit thread. Would you like to discuss it more in an anonymous google meet call?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 12:45 AM
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Are you claiming that distaste in people having sex with multiple people is inherent rather than societally conditioned?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 12:29 AM
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How did you become convinced that women generally behave this way?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 10:56 PM
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Have you thought about how this restriction of women's sexuality has lead to a world where men are expected to make the first move, pay for dates, etc.? If women were more sexually free, how do you think that would impact how easy it would be for men to attract them?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 10:55 PM
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Ah so to the point here is that women that were previously promiscuous are more likely to treat their current male partner poorly by doing things like restricting sex with him while in a relationship with him??
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 10:53 PM
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What is it that you do that you previously weren't able to do?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 10:32 PM
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Could I ask why you're not interested in the discord server?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 10:31 PM
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I don't know the details, but I can imagine it'd be hurtful to be mocked / insulted because of the way one sneezes or something like that. What I'm wondering though is why would one feel any ick about someone having sex with multiple people?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 10:30 PM
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I agree that there are many things messed with society that lead to us feeling wronged. I also agree that it is unfair for someone to have sex with other while expecting their partner to be exclusive to them. Your story / analogy seems to make the point that people are treated unfairly if one person is more attractive than another and people who are treated better may develop narcissism. This is concerning indeed, but I'm not sure what that has to do with a women having sexual partners in additi…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 10:28 PM
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I agree that it is normative to be adverse to one's partner enjoying sex with other people. What i'm wonder though is why be adverse to this?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 10:21 PM
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So that you can have relationships with other women. You can look at it like a pay it forward system. Do you only want to be with one women for your entire life? Some people prefer that. Is that your preference?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 10:18 PM
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This is a common concern that is brought up in the polyamorous community. It's a complicated issue though and there are more factors to consider. I think this conversation may be more appropriate in the community I made for these types of conversations. Would you like to post your thoughts there? https://np.reddit.com/r/monogamy_non_monogamy/s/bDSpBUOp8G
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 10:16 PM
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What reward have you obtained?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 10:15 PM
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u/mike-sonko I really appreciate you for introducing studies into the conversation because we should definitely be basing our beliefs and decisions off of research and data. I read the abstract of the article you posted. I have some concerns with the premises of what's being studied: Does divorce mean a failure of a relationship or does suffering mean a failure? Are more promiscuous people likely to divorce more because their relationships are unhappy or is it because they have a more progressiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 10:12 PM
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It sounds like you believe women are incapable of being fair while men are capable of being fair? I'd love to continue this discussion with you, though there's a lot to unpack here that I don't think we can do so in sufficient depth within a reddit thread. How would you feel about joining this community's corresponding discord server? Or are you in it already?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 10:02 PM
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I’m very glad to know that you are so supportive of alternative lifestyles and that you are happy with your relationship! I’m not sure how you concluded that people’s minds cannot change. Red pill used to not be a thing that existed as it is in the minds of people but now it does. If these ideas can be created then they can be uncreated via education. That is why there is a recovering from red pill Reddit community, literally a community of people that have changed their minds. Most of my friend…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 09:59 PM
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There’s a lot to unpack there. Since this discussion has become specific to monogamy and non monogamy, it may be more appropriate to discuss in the community I created for these types of discussions. Would you like to post your thoughts there? https://np.reddit.com/r/monogamy_non_monogamy/s/bDSpBUOp8G
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 09:49 PM
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Do you think humans are incapable of creating a fairer world?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 03:12 PM
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Would you like life to be more fair?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 02:27 PM
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This brings up a whole other discussion and this seems like a valuable thing to discuss. 1. What does fairness mean to you? 2. Would the world be better for you if fairness could be a component of romantic relationships? 3. How did you come to the conclusion that fairness has no place in romantic relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 02:25 PM
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It’s okay to not prefer non monagamy. I have to ask though about your points of not being able to build a family or being able to experience being that person or having that person. How does this account for the non monogamous people who have had long term deep relationships with their partners and have even raised children together?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 02:23 PM
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I appreciate you for commenting on my post. Could I ask how fair you think it is if they are not allowed to also have romantic / sexual relationships with others?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 02:20 PM
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I wasn’t asking for validation. I was asking a question out of curiosity and to start a discussion about an important topic that has a real impact on people’s lives People’s attitude towards other group’s of people does not simply end at a benign disapproval. It influences the way they treat others which can have direct or indirect impacts on people I care about. Polygamy is not the same as polyamory. Polyamory allows woman to have multiple partners as well, including multiple Mae partners. When…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 02:20 PM
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You make a lot of points here so I’d like to address one at a time. You’ve claimed that non monogamy is degenerate. What does degenerate mean to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 02:15 PM
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What is the difference between being the third party and being the cuck in your view?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 02:14 PM
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This is a very good question so thank you for asking it. The reality is that the choices of 8 billion people that I share this planet with has a much greater impact on my life than my personal choices because I am one person. Beliefs influence people’s choices. Therefore, if I want to live in a better world for me, I need to change people’s minds. Also, this question was motivated by curiosity as well. It seems counterintuitive to me that a philosophy dedicated to sexual strategy would restrict …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 02:13 PM
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Do you think that is fair to her?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 02:07 PM
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You’re saying that the number of people someone has had sex with contributes to a higher chance of the relationship ending? Could I ask how you determined that likelihood? Trauma? For who? The man dating a women with high body count?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 01:00 AM
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Why does body count factor in when looking for a LTR?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 12:56 AM
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To clarify, are you saying you are disgusted by women who have sex with other men besides you? Specifically, it’s disgusting to you if they are less attracted to you than a previous partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 12:50 AM
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A roster of women? Could you elaborate? So you’re saying that you don’t define body count as the amount of people she has uniquely had sex with? That is the only definition of body count I have ever heard so you’ll have to tell me how you define body count.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 12:47 AM
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Support means advocate for and desire. The onus is on red pill because my understanding is that red pillers generally favor monogamy, don’t want a “hoe”, are concerned about body count, etc.at least that’s what I’ve heard from red pill influencers like Andrew tate
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 12:37 AM
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Monogamy is a valid choice but one doesn’t have to have the emotional qualities that prevent polyamory from being an option for them. People are capable of change if it’s what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 12:33 AM
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Not necessarily. There may be other reasons for someone to choose monogamy. But it seems to limit your options when you’re goal is to strategize to achieve sex and relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 12:30 AM
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Thank you. I’m not convinced that conversation is hopeless. Maybe people think that it’s hopeless because they think that it’s hopeless and haven’t really tried. Or they’ve tried but their tactic has been to spew insults rather than show compassion and seek mutual understanding
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 12:28 AM
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The conversation doesn’t have to end there. Where is this insecurity coming from and is it a helpful trait to have or is it a crutch? Could overcoming these insecurities be helpful? These are the thoughts I’d like to explore.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 12:25 AM
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And the purpose of my question is to understand why that is
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 12:21 AM
1

It appears that the red pill hypothesis here could be an oversimplification. First off, the premise of this question is that the bedroom is dead because the women doesn’t want to have sex where a bedroom could be dead if a man doesn’t want to have sex. Making yourself more attractive is great, but different people see different things as attractive, and getting jacked may attract most women but for some women, muscular strength may have little to nothing to do with if she wants to have sex. Ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 12:15 AM
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Why do you not think therapy is likely to succeed?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 12:05 AM
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Sorry missed that part somehow.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 12:04 AM
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It depends on why she doesn’t want to have sex though. She might want to want to (and this applies for men and all other genders as well). It depends on the situation. Seeing a sex therapist or couples therapist or communication could help. Maybe she just wants to try something new and is bored of the vanilla sex they may have been having. And that’s just one of many possible causes. I think there are more options than the three you listed depending on the situation and leaving a relationship as…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 12:02 AM
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How did you conclude this?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 11:56 PM
2

Non monogamous people raise children and have jobs and go to school. What are they doing that contributes to decline of civilization advancement?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 11:52 PM
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When you say for most of history, you mean most of written history. Humans existed long before that and monogamy was not the norm. Monogamy became the norm after the agricultural revolution and the concept of property / inheritance. There are polyamorous couples / relationships that raise healthy children. There are many other factors that contribute to the declining birth rate, the largest factor being education and prosperity. This is why Japan is developing artificial wombs since Japanese wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 11:49 PM
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I was only able to pick one option
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 11:42 PM
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