When I first started to try dating women, I was told over and over again by the girls I asked out that they already had a boyfriend. Then I tried dating apps where I was pretty much ignored. This was heartbreaking, so I gave up on dating for years. I didn’t have my first relationship until a polyamorous woman was willing to start dating me. She was already married, but having an open relationship, I was allowed to have love too. Then I had a number of relationships after that with other polyamorous women. This made it easier to find sex and love. My experiences make me wonder this. For those who identify as red pillers, why not support normalizing non monogamy?