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If a guy tries to jump on the girl you "tagged", shows he's not 100% loyal. That said, it's going to be a funny memory in a days time. ​ Personally I find it quite funny and just laugh it off. Cus we're all horny fucks. I've even had chats like this with my friends the day after, saying we need a plan to stop stepping over one another. Some of the funniest conversations.
/r/askTRP16/10/18 06:19 PM
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We've all felt like this. It's part of life. Soon, you'll be so used to passing shit/comfort tests that it'll become second nature, and it'll be like shooing away a fly. Annoying, but you forget about it a minute later.
/r/askTRP16/10/18 06:13 PM
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If I got a dollar every time you used the word "because" / attempted to hamster your way out of your own situation...I've counted 6 "but"s in the last paragraph alone.
/r/askTRP16/10/18 06:09 PM
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Never DEER. This is probably the oldest shit-test in the book. Never answer honestly, always use humor, you owe her nothing. I know people in LTR's who would also not mention this to their significant other. Only answer if you know with 100% certainty what she is going to do with that information. If you can't keep your own secrets, don't expect someone else to.
/r/askTRP16/10/18 06:05 PM
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Somewhere, you lost her respect. May be a failed shit-test, or your frame cracked that one time, or she has simply plans of branch swinging. Girls are secretive creatures. Whenever a women acts so directly and blatantly, without disguising it, it means she does not give a fuck anymore. ​ Taking the initiate, organising a party, not inviting you, making it overnight, having alcohol, the picture does not get any more clear. Women tend to do this to "test" a man's boundaries. She's thinking: "is he…
/r/askTRP16/10/18 06:02 PM
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Women are experts in this - if you give them something, they will say "well you're the one who gave it to me". What you're feeling is gratitude and loyalty, in my experience women don't really relate and she won't think it's a slight that you're also talking to others. Maybe she's using you to boost her SMV - "look at my large social circle". Also she might have invited other people so she's sure to have company. ​ As for your plate, if she messages you about joining, you tell her. If not, say y…
/r/askTRP16/10/18 05:49 PM
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The better question is: why do you feel like it takes "so much energy"? Maybe you're energy levels are low - get your testosterone checked. Maybe you're just inefficient in chasing women - lift, learn game. ​ Philosophically, nobody knows. I'm a realist, and a practical person, so I just try to find more optimal ways to chase women. You play the hand you are dealt.
/r/askTRP16/10/18 05:44 PM
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Only pay for experiences, not gifts. Gifts, she'll take it and have it boost her SMV. Experiences, she'll have a better impression of you. ​ The counter point is, in my experience and many others', is paying women inherently makes her see you a little more blue. I feel usually it's not enough for it to matter. If you're frame is on point, this won't matter. If you're being supplicating, this will clearly matter.
/r/askTRP16/10/18 05:41 PM
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Lose weight, become attractive. HS is basically all social-status game so if you are on a team or in a position of power, chicks will flock to you. Everything else is pretty much standard - openers, kino, escalating, etc.
/r/askTRP16/10/18 05:38 PM
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If you're just meeting a girl, its definitely not the lack of pull that's causing her to go away. Probably your frame, or her sensing that you're faking it.
/r/askTRP16/10/18 05:36 PM
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Schedule out your time, for example if you have a free evening, give it to plate #1. That way, you got your logistics set, nice and tidy. Rinse and repeat for the entire week, and if you find there is not enough time, reduce plate count and vice-versa.
/r/askTRP16/10/18 05:35 PM
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I swear blowjobs are underrated. Girls who give good head are amazing. It's a skill which much be trained. Be her trainer, or come back in 2 years after she has ridden the CC, and she'll be a-ok. ​
/r/askTRP16/10/18 05:32 PM
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Being a virgin, you're automatically going to pedastalize sex more than non-virgins. And there is no shame in that, hell we've all been at that stage where getting female attention felt like euphoria. ​ Also, it depends on your age. If you're no longer young, I'm of the mindset that you should just get laid. Doesn't matter with who, or how you do it, just lose the v-card. It'll help put things in perspective, of what's important (ex: working on yourself which we here in the sub PREACH) versus pu…
/r/askTRP16/10/18 05:29 PM
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Firstly, you shouldn't judge so quickly. Work on making yourself a winner, not focusing on how other people are losers. Second, the reality is we only have limited hours in a day. You don't need to find a group of friends, you only need to find one. Ask the people on the sub, I know I've been out and networking with tons of people, and I can only say I've got a handful of friends who I thought had great ambitions, values, and mental strength. Its just the law of averages. You kind of have to go …
/r/askTRP16/10/18 05:25 PM
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That bring back memories. ​ When I was blue, I was chasing after this one girl. Basically, my oneitus. I knew I had oneitus when I started getting irrationally jealous at photos of her with others. Long story short, I went after other women, gained abundance, and my oneitus actually came running for me. Understand the only cure to what you are feeling is to meet other women, and chase other women. Build up your self-esteem by lifting. ​ As for the question on ED, alcohol affects your stamina. "W…
/r/askTRP16/10/18 05:21 PM
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There's tons of content here, and on Youtube, on "gaming" a crowd. Look those up, mostly its around having good frame, prioritizing your own enjoyment, being friendly, talking to many people, and directing the crowd. ​ Also, your mindset should be that a k-close is not enough to secure your undivided attention for the entire night. You should give her attention, but only slightly more than the other people you will meet at the party. If anything, you should be making new connections. Make her ch…
/r/askTRP16/10/18 05:11 PM
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This to me seems like a real logistical misfortune - I'm assuming you mean the two room are interconnected somehow? If so, it will be tremendously awkward to have done anything honestly, unless she's the type to be shameless. Probably should have arranged to move somewhere else, like a car, to strike while the iron is hot. ​ Seems to me you're doing things well and she is receptive. Keep doing what you are doing, arrange a meet, and make sure to close. Not closing this time was fine, make sure t…
/r/askTRP16/10/18 05:06 PM
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Clearly, true chads go dressed as gladiators to show our off our gains.
/r/askTRP16/10/18 05:01 PM
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You likely faced LMR and handled it incorrectly, causing her attraction to you to dwindle.
/r/askTRP14/10/18 09:20 PM
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It's the sign that a plate will soon break. The short answer is to enjoy your ride, as there is nothing humanly possible you can do to have a plate spin infinitely. ​ To maximize your opportunities with this one girl, work on yourself. This will create dread, stimulating attraction. Remember, women rather be #2 to an alpha than #1 to a beta.
/r/askTRP14/10/18 09:17 PM
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We've hit rock bottom.
/r/askTRP14/10/18 09:14 PM
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Enjoy your turn. ​ You're focused on the "textbook" definition of intimacy, companionship, and love. Explore women, date around, and discover the true meaning of those words. After you have internalized it, you'll break your BP fantasy. For now, enjoy "she's not yours, only your turn" and spin as much as you can humanly handle.
/r/askTRP14/10/18 09:08 PM
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Side chicks. It's optimal. ​ Threesomes, as stated many times on this sub and the main sub, will destroy relationships. However, I don't think you have a relationship. More like a FWB. By the way, you do not truly believe that she is giving a one-way offer that YOU are allowed to fool around while SHE cannot do the same, right? She seems to also be a classic nut-case. Clingy, emotionally dependent, possessive, horny AF.
/r/askTRP14/10/18 09:06 PM
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Tinder. Its a fucking messaging app, it doesn't matter who types first. This is not IRL where frame matters, its literally a means to an end, to make plans to meet in person. Sounds to me you have oneitus. If you want to fuck, hit her up, run game. If you don't, do other things.
/r/askTRP14/10/18 08:59 PM
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You don't have to do shit. Read the sidebar, and become less blue pilled.
/r/askTRP14/10/18 08:56 PM
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Let me give you some insight other's here did not mention. ​ Girl's LOVE when guys fight over her. They love the feeling of being wanted. They love it even more when good friends end friendships, and fights begin because of her. This is how all girls are, AWALT. They live for this shit. ​ Your job as a man, is to be a man. Is she worth more, or your friend? Your friend's job is to screen for red flags in his girl, and to put a leash on his women, which he failed in both. The reality is when anot…
/r/askTRP14/10/18 08:54 PM
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And how does any of that FORCE you to make conversation with him? You don't have friends? You don't have a smartphone to look at? You don't have girls to approach?
/r/askTRP14/10/18 08:45 PM
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She wants a promotion, AKA the lifestyle of a LTR, without giving you monogamy or treating you like a king. ​ This is basically the woman saying: "I want my cake, and eat it". She's seeing if you're willing to be her plate. She is also testing to see if she can get control.
/r/askTRP14/10/18 08:42 PM
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Eye-contact. Opener. Kino.
/r/askTRP14/10/18 08:39 PM
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Next. Move on with your life, go no contact. He has his, you have yours.
/r/askTRP14/10/18 08:38 PM
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You only feel bad, because you are inexperienced. Come back after having your N-count rise to at least double digits. You'll discover that plates break randomly. Sometimes your turn is over right after it begins, sometimes you can effortlessly spin it for way longer than you should. ​ This variance can be explained by only one thing - it is less likely that YOU did sometime, and most probable that HER environment has changed. Maybe her BF is back, maybe her friends found out, maybe she's on the …
/r/askTRP14/10/18 08:35 PM
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Do not give her an excuse to sound the "anti-slut" defenses. This 100% means pushing for a one-on-one meet, ideally at a location where her BF is not there, and nobody she knows is around. Think of a locale where she can slut out, and not get judged. Keep it casual - the deep emotional stuff is for her and her BF, you are there to provide fun.
/r/askTRP14/10/18 08:31 PM
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If you need to resort to mindgames at this level, you're doomed. ​ At a high-school level you are only tapping into the basics of whatever you are studying. Hit the books, learn the advanced materials, and give the best performance you can. Whoever's judging you will see quality from the pack.
/r/askTRP14/10/18 08:28 PM
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"Semi-boyfriend" - is this womanese for riding the CC while keeping a beta bux at bay? ​ His boy toy is her plate, and so are you. Enjoy the experience together, have fun, and do not get oneitus.
/r/askTRP14/10/18 08:25 PM
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Most of the time, spending money is unavoidable. I try to limit my spending in dates by only spending for the "mandatory things". For me, this is condoms, transport, and possibly a trip to the bar/club if she is the type who needs an excuse to be a slut. ​ Everything else, I try to avoid. Dinner at a fancy restaurant? "Nah". Drinks? "I'll find you after". Going for a walk? "Sure!"
/r/askTRP14/10/18 08:24 PM
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She's asking for attention. This is literally the best time for you to game her. "Strike while the iron is hot", and it won't get any hotter than this. ​ Remember, if you don't give a women attention when she explicitly asks for it, she will receive it from someone else. Women generally talk in subliminal so when she is direct, listen and act. Not a time to be playing cold, strike now.
/r/askTRP14/10/18 08:20 PM
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Sounds like a women's definition of a fuckboy. Or someone from the Blue Pill world. ​ In male terms, "super nice" means passing her shit-tests, taking control, and being charismatic. "Become a dick" means nexting her when she shows red flags, or acts out of hand, or becomes an entitled bitch.
/r/askTRP14/10/18 08:17 PM
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Yes, play it cool. ​ Remember to realize her status - she is pretty much a one-night-stand. Do not treat her like a plate, treat her like a booty call. Text for logistics for sex. If she replies well, game her.
/r/askTRP14/10/18 08:14 PM
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You miss 100% of the shots you do not take. Strike while the iron is hot. If you're not in her DMs, someone else will be.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 07:16 PM
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And how often are they there to offer a lending shoulder? You're spending time making them feel better about themselves, to me it seems you're rather selfless. People don't do this "listening to all your problems, vent at me" schtick because they got better things to do, typically selfish reasons (ex: rather play video games, rather gossip about others, rather go drinking, rather read a book, etc). ​ To me, I would not judge a person for being a good listener. But believe me, there are a lot out…
/r/askTRP13/10/18 06:07 PM
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If a girl flakes without suggesting an alternative, you should soft next her. It's rude, she knows it, you know it. If she messages again, give short, uncaring responses. And if she approaches you wondering if she did anything wrong, you say: "have you come to apologize?". ​ Sometimes you have to do this with plates to keep them spinning.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 05:58 PM
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Disrespect is automatically a soft next and a demotion. If she's a FWB, she's now a plate. It is up to her to exchange non-sexual favors in order for you to promote her into a plate. If it continues, demote further - she's now a booty call. If it continues, hard next and move on.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 05:57 PM
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You've placed too much value into girls. She is just a person. You're overly invested when you shouldn't be. Remember, women exchange sex for investment. Unless you're getting sex, she should not be getting your investment. ​ Practically what you should do is approach random girls to get your confidence up. For example, talk to the first girl you see. We call this "quick wins'. At worst you'll become more confident, and at best you'll get a few numbers or possibly a same day date/lay. This is al…
/r/askTRP13/10/18 05:55 PM
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Happened to me and my friends as well, and probably to a lot of other men. When you realize pussy is just pussy, and sex is just sex, you begin to take that off the pedestal. When you learn "game" and see women for what they really are, it becomes easy to maneuver around shit-tests and make yourself more attractive. Happens when you realize how easy it is to get laid. ​ What you are looking for is new stimulus - maybe a hobby, maybe a new job. For a long time, my main focus was to fuck as many a…
/r/askTRP13/10/18 05:50 PM
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These guys have nothing to lose and will love to start shit. You did the right thing.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 05:44 PM
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Hot, cold, repeat. LMR is common, keep rinse and repeating it. Stick to that plan and it will work out. Do not get pissy, emotional, butt-hurt over it.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 05:43 PM
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If you do not want a LTR who gets shit-faced, then find a LTR who does not do these things. Your issue stems from the lack of abundance - you want to change a person who has red flags. You can't turn a hoe into a housewife. If you had an encyclopedia of women to choose from, would you still choose to remain in this relationship?
/r/askTRP13/10/18 05:42 PM
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100% boundaries are only for LTRs.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 05:39 PM
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You gotta be secure about your hobbies. We all take breaks and have hobbies just for "fun". ​ In general, talk hobbies, goals, and work with guys. Women do not react well to these types of conversations, and honestly are piss poor at maintaining these conversations. If somebody judges you about your video game altar, just say: "Yup, it's not for everyone". Basically, it draws a line in the sand saying you like this, and you will spend no energy trying to get others to like it as well.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 05:38 PM
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The most optimal option is actually to next/break up with this girl. Give no reason aside from "moving on". Confessing anything will lead to drama, anxiety, and gossip. It's not the type of energy you want in your life.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 05:35 PM
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She's messed up, as you have pointed out. Probably why she was attracted to you in the first place. Now that you've moved on and straightened up, she hasn't. She wants the thrill, she's seeking the old you. Unless you want to anchor your own personal development to satisfy her immature wishes, it would be best to separate and arrange for custody of your child.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 05:32 PM
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100% not a shit test. She's is being a bitch. ​ It's time to go fishing for new women.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 05:27 PM
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TRP is about balance - don't fall in love too hard, yet constantly pursue women. It's also a handbook to guide men to achieve their life's goals. The goal here is to internalize TRP, and use it to achieve your goals. ​ If you want a family, go for it. If you want to use spend every cent you earn on yourself, go for it.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 05:25 PM
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Definitely not a time to be unemotional. She's invested and wants you to feel the same. Sometimes playing too cold can scare of a girl. Saying you're excited is fine. ​ To me, too much would be if you kept bugging the person on when she's coming back, sending her good mornings/good nights, etc. She told you her logistics, you know when she's back. Set up a date, and use sparse messages to keep the fire alight.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 05:22 PM
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Always trust your instincts. That being said, you being afraid of your GF's friend will actually make him more attractive in her eyes. Under no circumstances do you confront her on it. ​ What you should do is dread - start hanging out with women alone. Chicks get more insecure and more jealous than men in general, and they'll get it. Sometimes all it takes is to take out your phone while you're chatting with her, and start sending snapchats/messages to randoms. She'll more than likely ask: "who …
/r/askTRP13/10/18 05:19 PM
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You got to be more decisive - how do you want to spend this night? What do you actually want? And make women fit YOUR plan, you should not be the one to compromise.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 05:14 PM
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Do not stick your dick in crazy.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 05:12 PM
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100% pick out your target and make it clear to the group. You still want to "entertain" everyone to make conversation, but make it obvious you're focused on one girl.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 05:11 PM
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If he's your friend ask him to lunch to "catch up". Then apologize in person, and buy him a beer.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 05:10 PM
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I generally get a "feel" of whether it will be a good interaction, or a bad one. But there's definitely a random element to women because they're feelz based creatures.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 05:09 PM
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Have you even read my reply. There is no solution to this. If you're venting, I understand. But don't ask for help because there is no solution. ​ No commit to relationship -> increase in tests -> bad behavior -> plate breaks -> move on. It's life.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 05:31 AM
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Sex feels great. Why would anyone, if given the option, not want to be seeing someone?
/r/askTRP12/10/18 07:10 PM
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You're arguments are horrible. Do you live in the real world? Seems you just like armchair philosophy. ​ If I were ever in that situation, I would shoot his ass. However, laws exists and jails suck. I also don't want battery on my record over a dumb chick. Nor do I want medical expenses, or a attorney note on my desk. These real life consequences are the only reasons you need to base your rationality on.
/r/askTRP12/10/18 07:09 PM
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And how many of these are actual qualities you can measure, and how many are your projections?
/r/askTRP12/10/18 07:05 PM
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You don't. It's why everyone typically only have one specialty. There are only so many hours in a day. If you can maintain a good job, lift, maintain hygiene and have a good diet, it is plenty. ​ People say (and I agree) to "do what you love", it helps to reduce the feeling of missing out on "other stuff".
/r/askTRP12/10/18 07:04 PM
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If it's not worth the effort, move on. Quit spending mental energy on this.
/r/askTRP12/10/18 06:58 PM
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Keep hustling. You weren't working for this "X" company since birth, and you'll be working for another company "Y" soon.
/r/askTRP12/10/18 06:56 PM
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If you're neither smart nor successful, and are attending events where you are surrounded by smart and successful people, why the fuck would they network with you.
/r/askTRP12/10/18 06:54 PM
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If you don't even have money to spend on for sex, reconsider your priorities.
/r/askTRP12/10/18 06:51 PM
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God damn, I can smell the oneitus from here, and that's before your trip. Have you even read the emotional puke you just wrote? Why don't you start by picking up some dignity. ​ First of all, do you have autism? You're not dating her, she's not dating you. It is presumed by any sane person that you are free to meet, message, sext, fuck any other person you so wish. You're getting butt-heart because she's acting on that right, while you've been on your ass overly investing in this one girl. Now y…
/r/askTRP12/10/18 06:49 PM
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When there's smoke, there's fire. ​ By the way, 2 months and you call it an LTR? Did you even screen her for LTR qualities before promoting her? She probably was a whore, and after you promoted her, is reverting back to her true self. Any girl who is genuinely interested in you will not lose interest after a month. She probably feigned interest and boosted certain qualities in order to trap you to commit. ​ Girls do this all the time. Move on, your turn's over.
/r/askTRP12/10/18 06:40 PM
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This "scientific" data probably accounts for a lot of lying women. These women may be religious (deny), famous (preserve their image), wives (feed their BP husbands) or live in a place where they get shot for sex. When they say 10, they mean 10 "meaningful partners" aka 6+ months of relationship. That one trip to Mexico does not count. Nor the one to Vegas, etc. ​
/r/askTRP12/10/18 06:37 PM
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Cars, dorms, her place, hotels, motels.
/r/askTRP12/10/18 06:31 PM
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Is it beta to stalk and chase after a girl's IG after she straight up rejected giving you her number? Yes. ​ However - alpha fux beta bux. Beta's still get sex. While it's not the most dignified way to chase, and also a method with a low probability of success, beta game has worked before and will continue to work. Why? Because women get spontaneously horny - sometimes you get laid for right place right time. If it's killing you to have this missed encounter, add her ass. If you luck out, update…
/r/askTRP12/10/18 06:29 PM
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Man up. ​ Women are gatekeepers of sex. Do you know why all plates are destined to fall? The shit-tests/comfort-tests become too great that no man can jungle. You will not see a single person on TRP who claims to have an 100% plate spinning record. It is just how it is. Hence the analogy to actual plate spinning.
/r/askTRP12/10/18 06:26 PM
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2 causes: either she thinks "Wow I can't believe I just did that, that was great", or "Wow, this guy is a fraud and tricked me into thinking he's alpha, he'll be grateful for a position as an orbiter".
/r/askTRP12/10/18 06:23 PM
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It really has not. ​ Well, to be fair it depends on your age. If you're 60+ you probably got away with a lot of leg touches, grabbing tits, making sexual remarks etc. World was truly different then. Think of the drunk uncle stereotype. Plus if you were a man with power, you probably were genuinely the shit - like educated when most were not, rich when most were not, etc. This will clearly seem like a big change in societal philosophy. ​ If you're under 30, nothing's really changed as you probabl…
/r/askTRP12/10/18 06:22 PM
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Sometimes its useful to go through the details of your encounter, and analyse where you went wrong, what you could have done, etc. ​ In this case (and I've been in your shoes), no amount of reflection and analysis will improve you to such an amount that if another girl just like her came, that the same thing would not happen again. ​ What you need to do, and is preached on this sub, is to next and move on. What you desperately need is more real life "on the ground" experience. Lift, meet girls, …
/r/askTRP12/10/18 06:16 PM
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The fact that you cannot keep this within yourself is a reflection on your mental strength. Often, the relationship will never be the same afterwards. Trust is hard to repair, and its something she will use against you in the future. Better to chalk it up as a one-time mistake, and move on, treat her better. Speak with actions and be her stoic alpha to "make it up for her", don't just spew you banged a chick out of the blue.
/r/askTRP12/10/18 06:13 PM
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Gradually reduce affection and attention, she will get the message.
/r/askTRP12/10/18 11:56 AM
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