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Yeah, divorces tend to do that to a person and now that I'm diagnosed I can start accepting my contributions. Unmanaged ADD was the main cause for mines, how I could do wonders in many important aspects but totally miss others that seemed insignificant to me but were important nonetheless. I still wouldn't trade it but man it hits
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 04:43 PM
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I'm a believer that with late diagnosed ADD/ADHD. The disorder was a huge contributor to the breakup.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 03:58 PM
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This is a reminder I have to remember. At the moment it's a kids only conversation. I have no interest in entertaining anything else I also don't enter the house being that that's not being respected.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 05:33 PM
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This is my thread that for some reason has me logged as someone else. I spoke with her attorney that I would be hiring an attorney myself and that we would need to post pone today's hearing which happened. Stbxw called 2 hours later wanting an explanation why I did not sign anything, she feels like I'm trying to mess her up, she said she could have kept all of the custody if she wanted, that she doesn't make that much money, that I'm acting scorned and that I make side hustle money from electric…
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 04:31 PM
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Feel free to share them. In my case I had undiagnosed ADHD. I was suffering from anxiety for about 4 years which I thought was related to COVID lifestyle change, then with depression for working extremely hard trying to start a business but progress was slow. I've always been a jack of all trades, two careers, kids, wife, business. Functioning by giving all of this my 100%. As the kids got older and the wife started checking out mentally I started going harder at work/business but never towards …
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 07:27 PM
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While doing therapy make sure you seek psychiatry. Have the Dr. put you on some anti-depressants, this will start drying up some of that wet timber and help the climate around you. Being that in her mind she's moved on and has given up on you ever changing it will truly start messing with her when you start doing every unexpected action. So when you start to show up for yourself it creates a block in her plan that they have to account for which gives them more stress and this can lead to instabi…
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 01:04 PM
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We tried 0 and it did not work. The calculator yielded $110 from her part. I'm not doing this out of spite but according to a legal consult unless she takes on other responsibilities there's no way she can avoid. She's taken the fear route and took on an attorney for representation, it would be stupid for me not to. What would be another resolution to this in a way that takes the least amount of attorney time. I'm already spending half of my salary in rent alone. Leaves me 20k to raise two child…
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 02:16 AM
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The only thing left on the table is child support which she believes she doesn't have to pay so hires an attorney for $$$$ to find a way to get out of it. She could come after my retirement which is the same money she has in her account so it would not be wise. The other could be Alimony, unsure how that will go since we both have worked and she makes more.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 09:24 PM
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There's a huge part here that we tend to ignore and is our contribution. Simmer in the shit you created, identify the feces that are yours so you can then determine what hers are. I recently had a convo with my sbtxw and realized without telling her that we both just became complacent. She had this pre-concieved idea that she was being fully submissive by not expressing her emotions and shutting down when her opinion did not match mines. I took it as I can't figure out what's wrong and I want to…
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 12:37 PM
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The hardest pill to swallow. I guess we will find out what type of character she will be. Thanks for that.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/24 05:17 PM
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There is a part of me that is slowly adjusting to letting it go fully. I pretty much became distant and stopped contributing to the relationship, immersing myself in work and trying to grow a business. I still do care about her but just not in that way anymore. It feels like she's trying to do the same thing I apparently was doing. She can be a child in reactions when things dont go her way and being that I was the anxious and financially controlling one even though she made more money make this…
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 08:33 PM
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I do struggle with it, just trying to be careful being that in that pettiness I feel like she can just sacrifice it all just to see me suffer from not bowing my head and or burst in anger. She's not in the space to hire an attorney which is why the sly moves however I do and will follow the steps. We should be moving towards mediation soon and again, it's my choice that if in mediation she starts with the bullshit to decline any agreement and fully equipt myself. So far I hired the attorney to h…
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 03:55 PM
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Cluster bomb for real. Financially she's put all her money into the purchase of her new appt and car that I just dont see her affording an attorney. Something also tells me shes cheating, so maybe that person can pay that attorney
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 04:09 PM
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Cluster bomb for real. Financially she's put all her money into the purchase of her new appt and car that I just dont see her affording an attorney. Something also tells me shes cheating, so maybe that person can pay that attorney
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 04:08 PM
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We already seaparated everything and in all honesty there's nothing that she kept that I desperately want.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 04:02 PM
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My father gave me those same words yesterday.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 04:00 PM
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Mines would be about 4,000, thankfully with amicably split everything already prior to. The issue here is that she walked out in the I don't love you I've been asking for a while and I was just doing it to make you happy type move and expected me to agree with it all and open the door. And though I have done a lot of that with things that I agree with not with the self-appointed child support that she tried to get me to eat. She's freaking out at the moment because she tied herself up financiall…
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 12:01 PM
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Plenty of men have been where you're at, I went through many months of self blame which were helpful in holding myself accountable for my actions. Just like the stages of grief say, you're in the denial stage, continue to make your progress. Be careful of the anger stage as it can bite you in the ass. Remind yourself that it takes two in here, the people pleasing and women on the pedestal came from our childhood. Learn what childhood wounds you still have to work on. Do the work, do the therapy …
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 02:57 AM
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Because of my integrity, I'm documenting every single measure and taking the proper steps. This will clear any sort of manipulation later in the future, especially with the kids. Kids are with grandparents and she told them she cannot video call until Sunday (she's been video calling for 3 months since the separation) Y'all already know she'll be deep in. Monday would have been our 14yr anniversary. Hurts, but steps like this solidify any sort of backpedaling from my end.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 02:25 AM
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OP, sadly she's entered a phase where she needs excitment, rush, forced dopamine. She might have been like this and age brought it out, it might be a mix of your low self confidence and that you dont stand up for yourself/ turned into nice guy syndrome. Sadly there's very little recovery from this, sit down with yourself and ask what would it take from her to get to a "healthy" point in your eyes. The answer will make you cry. It will clear your eyes from the desicion you need to make. She's pro…
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 08:26 PM
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It's extremely difficult to find a sane woman after 100k salary. I stand firm on this.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 08:12 PM
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I feel like I should be securing renting an apartment before the divorce finalizes but unsure if or how this will work. It would be in my name and I would be showing it as part of my expenses. Not having anything secured prior to the divorce feels like I could get shafted
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/24 11:08 PM
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I have plans on seeking legal advice in this matter due to the continuous signs that I keep seeing. I need to further understand the alimony part as who in this situation can ask for it. If after the divorce she can ask for alimony. As far as she said, she would never ask me to pay child support, but she's always been the higher earner. As far as child support is concerned how could she alienate me from the kids?
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/24 10:56 PM
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Her own checking account
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/24 08:15 PM
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Thanks for the support. So far the raise wont happen until Sept. The apartment won't happen until July. Both of our retirements started when we got together so it's all marital property and being that they're close to one another I like to believe that in a 50/50 split it will end up being similar. The lease on our current apartment is up in July so I'll have to have a secure place and one that the kids can stay in. In that process I'm looking at a 2br because the financial difference of a 1br i…
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/24 04:25 PM
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