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FIELD REPORTObedientLittleWife/r/RedPillWomen13/02/19 08:48 PM
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SELF IMPROVEMENTObedientLittleWife/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 02:57 PM
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Psst... Women can have multiple orgasms
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/19 09:00 PM
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I'm not lying. We were not warned. We had to figure out this shit by ourselves. Only thing I was told is to use a condom.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 10:28 PM
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No, you don't need to seek. Not having a spiritual journey doesn't make you a worse person.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/19 04:33 PM
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Excactly, it's a personal journey, not advice to be a better person.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/19 10:31 PM
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Women are the most unhappy now then they have ever been. You can ignore the facts and look at everyone's fake smiles if you want to. I'm just trying to help you not make a big mistake.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/19 10:23 PM
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You think I disagree with you because I worded something strongly about religious people. You said that some religious people aren't necessarily good people (either buddhistic or wiccan or whatever), I agreed with you and said that it's silly to say that having a relationship with god makes you inherently good. I don't think I did disagree with you. Do you understand now?
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 09:53 PM
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It is risky! But the biggest risks come with big rewards. ;)
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 09:43 PM
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And are those women happy? Would you be happy only seeing your baby a few hours a day? It's great if you want to focus on a career but you will not be able to be there completely for your child. You won't bond properly with your child if you just jump back to work immediately. Or you stay home with your kid the first few years and you won't have that "good income" and "intellectual and professional fulfillment". Ya can't have it all gall. I know what the feminists told you but women who are doin…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 09:27 PM
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I think you just jumped on me because I said something that has a little to do with a group you identify with. I also didn't disagree with you, maybe read it again. Pregnancy gives you brainfog.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 09:18 PM
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I didn't say all Christians are like that, didn't even mention a particular religion in my comment. But when someone asks "How can I have a prettier heart?" then the advice "just believe in god" is very unhelpful. Having a relationship with god has nothing to do with being a good person, as you already expressed in your comment.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 04:02 PM
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Excactly. It's fine to believe in god but saying that believing in god automatically makes you have a good heart is absolute bullshit.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 03:55 PM
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It's a choice you need to make, be a high flying lawyer or be a mom. Choose both and you most likely will be miserable. BTW: why don't you postpone lawschool to after you have raised your kids?
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 03:53 PM
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Most Christians I know (the hardcore go to church every sunday kind) do it this way. They don't really care about the charity itself they care about the karmic points.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 03:48 PM
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A lot of Christians do, in my environment most Christians do. But they are also the kind who are surprised that atheists don't rape an plunder through life.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 03:47 PM
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It's your life and you know best but there is a big chance you will hate not being around your kids more.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 02:03 PM
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I already said that it is possible, but moms with a very high demanding job are generally miserable. It's OPs choice but these are the facts. Not spending time with your kid is not fun for mothers. Nannies are also not a good idea for bonding purposes.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 01:54 PM
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But you can also be a very good person by not believing in god. You don't need to be a god fearing woman to treat people with respect. I actually think that's more genuine than someone who just want to get into heaven so acts 'good'.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 11:46 AM
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That's not really about STFU. STFU is about being a nag, you being an extroverted and bubbly girl is absolutely fine. Nagging your boyfriend about every little thing he does is really not fine. Don't change who you are, a lot of guys would love your personality. (It would be a good idea to practice your active listening skills, tho ;) )
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 11:42 AM
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O shut up. He wasn't a unicorn. You can't possibly smell what someone's religious beliefs are by standing near them. There are literally thousands of others like him. If you live in a big city maybe even 10s of thousands. Learn how to vet men efficiently and work on your trust issues, go on A LOT of dates and don't think of this perfect, fictional image of an ex during those dates. The person you've created in your mind isn't actually real.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 11:25 AM
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You know you probably can't really work a lot just after having kids. Try working 40 hrs a week (as a lawyer probably much more) with having to wake up every few hours to breastfeed. Hello brainfog! So, you probably aren't going to climb the career ladder very fast the first few years, actually being absent most of the time from maternity leave isn't going to help. So I would really reconsider this. Women can do it, ofcourse but they are terribly unhappy. :( And if you don't work for a few years…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 11:14 AM
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It's possible but she probably won't be able to give her children a 100% or her career a 100%
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 11:05 AM
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You had a 'real' relationship, right? Then you aren't technically an alpha widow just really bad at dealing with heartbreak. I know there are plenty of guys out there but I can’t help thinking a guy like him would never look at me again. This stood out to me very much. I assume you mean with "a guy like him" men who are really really hot. Sooooo, you are a plain Jane with a great personality and a good head on your shoulders. Why don't you look for a plain Joe with the same qualities? Hotness wi…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/19 10:51 PM
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Do you guys want to have kids?
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/19 10:31 PM
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It is to me. I think this conversation is seriously derailing a thread about a man who might seriously have something physically wrong with him. Have fun with your rabbit sex.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/19 10:21 PM
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Again, not really my point. If you cannot have sex the way you did a year or two ago there is probably something wrong physically. If you want to have sex the way I did when I was 17 that's your business. I don't particularly enjoy being jack hammered.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 05:36 PM
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That's not what girls are told... Girls hear that exploring their sexuality is a good thing, in my circles at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/19 08:40 PM
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If you can't physically keep up with the sex you could have a year before that there is something wrong. That's the point. I don't really care how others have sex.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/19 08:18 PM
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Do people actually have sex like that? Sounds uncomfortable and boring to have hard sex for ten minutes until he can't breath anymore...
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/19 03:34 PM
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10 min of sex and he can't breath anymore? Damn, that actually seems like a serious health problem... I would be more concerned about that than the actual lack of sex. Even if you are really out of shape or tired you should be able to finish a session.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/19 12:45 PM
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So, you haven't spoken to him or seen him in 6 months? I'm not trying to be mean but that's a pretty long time... When I had no contact for 6 months with my ex (real no contat, no snooping on social media or checking in with mutual friends) I barely thought of him at all. Do you have mutual friends or places where you see him? Do you have him on social media? If you literally have nothing to do with him anymore then maybe there is something else going on and it's worth going to a therapist.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/19 09:35 AM
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I don't think this really is being alpha widowed, it's more about being strung along by a man who is 'better' than you. You had a emotional, deep connection with a man. Ofcourse that's hard to get over! But you NEED to stop contacting him, you NEED to not respond when he contacts you. YOU ARE KEEPING THE WOUND OPEN WITH CONTACT!!! Date different types of men and have fun on your dates, you don't need to sleep with or get into a relationship with every guy you go out with. Time will make it easie…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/19 09:19 PM
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Only men can be amoral, if a woman is amoral she's a WITCH
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/19 12:44 PM
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Like can we just discuss beauty and housekeeping and relationship tips without some guy at the bottom of the page talking about how ALL WOMEN are this or that and getting into an argument. I know... 😅
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/19 12:40 PM
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For example, there was a thread about dating multiple men at once which is a really good strategy to keep yourself detached in the vetting fase, but that was something that was considered 'unkind' and 'manipulative'. If something is not in the docterine that men have it worse than women it's not accepted here, which gives censorship on what you can post.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/19 12:30 PM
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I agree :/ It's hard to talk about more advanced stuff because RPW is sooooo intertwined with the manosphyre and a lot of stuff would be labelled 'unfair against men'.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 08:58 PM
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I understand, I was more making a point that this could just be anxiety about becoming a father and temporary behaviour, not a permanent character flaw.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/19 05:44 PM
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Cut him out completely. Don't take calls from him, block him on all social media, go to different events and don't have anything to do with him anymore. Stop 'bumping into eachother'. If you keep doing this you will never get over him. I had to stop hanging out with a certain group of friends to get over my ex ( they reacted pretty shitty but now I also know they were never really friends) and after that I finally got over him. Don't see him anymore, don't talk to him anymore and let time heal y…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/19 09:45 AM
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It's a huge life changing event, it doesn't matter how chill you are it could still be very stressful for him.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/19 09:35 AM
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My husband loves when the first snow in the season falls because I always react like it's the first time I see snow. Or when I point out a pink house when we are on a trip, it makes him smile. I think this is a very good way of having that 'innocence' energy, seeing wonder in mundane situations. Next time you see something beautiful, stop and take note of it.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/19 10:02 PM
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;)
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/19 08:59 PM
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You don't THINK he would be super fond of an allowance makes it sound like you haven't brought up the idea to him. You should do that, he might see the benefits of it.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/19 03:16 PM
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This is so weird... Using things you made in his projects NEED citation, those are the rules. It's fine if he doesn't want your name in his projects but then he shouldn't use your work. Also very classy that he got into a fight with your father and brother. I hope for you this isn't the man he is and is more about the stress of you being pregnant...
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/19 03:12 PM
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Then don't read it, but you can't really judge a book by who read it and enjoyed it. It definitely won't make you a man hating, poly feminist all of the sudden, that's not really how reading books works. Everybody takes something away from the media they consume. Don't be so closed minded!
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/19 12:17 PM
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For what guys want; I think you have two 'easy' options when it comes to wanting to be a SAHM, finding a very traditional (maybe religious) man or going the BDSM route and be a stay at home submissive (which for many doms is the dream). And it doesn't matter what anybody thinks, YOU need to be happy with your life.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/19 10:54 PM
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You really should read Women Who Run With Wolves, it reminds you what femininity actually is since it has been squashed down and minimised for hundreds of years.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/19 10:40 PM
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Money is a great plus but it doesn't magically make a baffoon prince charming. Well, to most women at least.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/19 10:34 PM
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Making this a serious issue with a 'talk' is probably going to backfire. I like cookie training, everytime he wears something you like you're gonna bombard him with compliments. Same thing with when he does something active or sporty, tell him you think he is so sexy when he is being active. Positive reinforcement is the way to go!
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/19 10:30 PM
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He thought I was adorable. I tend too be super giggly and nervous on a first date and he loved that. After that I kept being honest with my feelings , how he could keep me happy and me asking how I could make him happy. We have amazing communication and we were ALWAYS honest with eachother. With such a good basis it's easy to cone to love eachother. We're also really really really attracted to eachother... Just be the best version of yourself, be vulnerable and open and DON'T PLAY GAMES and you …
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/19 05:14 PM
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Sounds a bit like playing a game, and you attract what you are and I personally didn't like dating players.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/19 04:52 PM
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I don't like people blaming society for their problems, it is such a cop out. What does he want to do to make things less mundane? I think that's a good question to ask him. He probably needs to think on it but that's fine. Maybe it's something as simple as learning to ride a motorcycle or have more date nights but he needs to figure it out on his own.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/19 12:30 PM
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Why don't people just date reliable, monogamous people if you want a monogamous relationship? If the relationship is good a man won't leave, and it's not very hard to keep a man happy in a relationship... You should be kind to a guy anyways, if you start being 'honey' only when a man has a slight opportunity to 'jump ship' you are not doing your relationship right and he should start dating someone else. Ignore the dumb bitch who is texting him, trust that he will not cheat on you and just keep …
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/19 12:20 PM
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See if he tries to make it up to you and show that he cares, also take note of this and see if he behaves differently in the future. You don't really have to do anything apart from being honest with your feelings and observing his actions.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/19 12:05 PM
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If you want a man to pay for your vacation, you should date someone who can pay for a vacation... He's a poor student, nothing will fix that but time. There is nothing wrong with splitting the cost but if it really makes you feel THAT uncomfortable, you probably shouldn't go on that trip.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/19 12:00 PM
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The beginning of a relationship should be easy, if it isn't something is wrong. It doesn't necessarily needs to be communicated with words but there needs to be an escalation in commitment...
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 01:41 PM
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I think a good level 5 is giving a man purpose. Masculine men absolutely LOVE taking care of a woman and their family, being the provider and feeling useful. Being able to fulfill that need for him is a big thing.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 01:32 PM
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I have a few male friends, but I don't really spend time 1 on 1 with them. I mostly see them on movie or game nights with other people around. I do text a few quite often (few times a week, which is a lot for me.) I don't feel attraction to them and my husband doesn't really care.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/19 11:37 PM
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Do whatever you want. Waiting until you have "a connection" and finding out he isn't interested in marriage and kids really sucks. But you do you, see how it works out. Lol
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/19 11:32 PM
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Do you trust him too not cheat on you? If the answer is yes then just stop caring about this, he is committed to you.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 07:13 PM
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It depends... If you are around 20 most guys that are around your age really don't want to marry yet (unless they are the religious kind), if you are between 25-30 there are plenty of guys who are ready for a serious relationship. I think the 'safest' age range to date in is 30-35, most guys want a relationship leading to marriage at that point.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 07:09 PM
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Maybe it's code for: "please whip me, Mistress." ;)
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 06:52 PM
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You think that. Saying it in a light hearted way is cute and makes clear that she is looking for a serious relationship. If they were freaked out by the fact I want kids I would be happy they never talk to me again. Next please :) Better than getting attached to a guy and finding out after date nr. 5 he is not interested in marriage and kids, girls shouldn't worry about 'sounding like a lunatic'.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 06:48 PM
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Are you totally 1000% you don't want children? If you are really sure you don't wanna, you can start vetting for a guy who also doesn't want kids, there are quite a few who don't.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/19 10:44 PM
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People need to work, we need food and shelter and stuff... Maybe you can figure something to get round with less money and work a little less? Maybe get a roommate or start couponing? Also get a pet. Rats are a very good option! Very snuggely and not as high maintenance as dogs or cats. Or a bunny, hamster etc. if you aren't into rats 😅
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/19 10:37 PM
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I think most men are faithful, some are unfaithful when they are unhappy in a relationship but that only happens when communication in a relationship is shit. Some people are just cheaters, cant really change them. Vetting is the answer, if they cheated in the past it either means they are bad communicators or just assholes. Not really interested in both of those. But I truly believe most guys are faithful.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/19 10:21 PM
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I had braces when I was 18/19. A few of guys thought it was pretty hot... I think it's worth it in the long haul even if they are annoying at the moment.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/19 10:15 PM
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Let them be freaked out! When I was 21/22 and still dating the first thing I said to potential partners was that I was looking for the father of my children. A lot of them didn't contact me after that first date and I didn't really care, they weren't in it for a serious relationship anyways. If you are a pleasent person who knows what you want it's not too difficult to find a good guy, just be BRUTALLY honest with them.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/19 10:09 PM
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I think it would be fair to tell a potential partner about this episode in your life but not everybody needs to know about it. Nothing wrong with removing them imo.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/19 04:30 PM
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You ask him to load the dishwasher and he points all the knives up, like a psycho. who even does that ... Damn
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 07:43 PM
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Violence is never the answer. To that question maybe something like: "yes, and I'm proud of it".
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 07:36 PM
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That's right! Black doesn't give a negative association but also doesn't give a positive association. It doesn't say anything. Wearing a different colour does say something, so why not say something with what you wear :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 06:05 PM
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A lot of things in the red pill aren't really backed up by very solid evidence. I know that an unnatural looking hair colour, especially very bright bleach blonde, can look a bit ditzy and 'slutty'. It doesn't make someone look like wife material, that's what this is about. Looking like wife material, I know these are things that will give you that extra step up in the dating scene.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 06:00 PM
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There are differing opinions, ofcourse, fact still is that a bleach blonde look is not prefered by most high value men. You got an exception to the rule.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 05:51 PM
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Bleach blonde DOES NOT look natural lol. I know, I was blonde for a while. And again, it's their choice but if you are that blonde you do present yourself a certain way... Having hair that looks natural helps you find a high value men that wants to marry you much easier than a coupe play bunny. I'm sorry this fact offends you but it's the truth.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 05:47 PM
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He may prefer your darker hair colour now because he sees you as 'a wife and mother' instead of 'the fun girlfriend'. But everybody is different ofcourse, some guys love green hair!
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 05:43 PM
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I said bleach blonde, not natural. I also said it won't help but doesn't mean you are magically unable to marry someone... Are you blonde? Because being a natural blonde is totally fine hahaha
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 05:27 PM
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https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/picturegalleries/howaboutthat/9950759/Why-being-blonde-might-not-be-so-fun-after-all.html
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 05:22 PM
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Buying a few pastel tops isn't really dressing up for a date imo, women who only wear black wouldn't follow this advice anyway, so that's a bit of a moot point. If someone wants bleach blonde hair, that's their choice but it won't help you find a husband. Men don't think red is impure, colours have very deep seated symbolisms and psychological effects. I studied marketing, colour choice is very important in advertisement. I don't say this because 'my husband lukes white dresses' I say this becau…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 05:15 PM
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Goodwill has some pretty nice stuff sometimes! Lol
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 05:07 PM
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They don't 'think' like this. It's very very subconscious and subliminal. This is only about how you appear to a man, only looks, nothing else. I made a different post about how to make a man love you in other ways. How you look doesn't make a man fall in love with you but it does make him form an opinion about you.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 05:05 PM
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I had a lot of suiters of different ages, I choose him. I know what men want. And this isn't a message for you anyway, it's for girls who are dating. Colour has psychological effects on people, it's not just that my husband perfers white. I have studied this in college actually :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 05:00 PM
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I don't think ypur daughter wants to be perceived as sexy, right? Looking age appropriate is important in my opinion, but those other girls might be a bit hyperbolic.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 04:10 PM
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But they do take note subconsciously. A pastel floral button up say something different than a dark coloured flanel button up. It's a good thing to be aware of that. But cut is more important than color ofcourse!
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 04:05 PM
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Excactly! Tone is also very important ofcourse, but you can push the playful teasing too far. I can be a very abrasive person so I do have to pay some mind to it.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 04:00 PM
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It's fact. Most men do want a pure girl. Best to cast your net as wide as possible but you do you.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 03:55 PM
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I really do love florals! It does make me feel happy!
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 03:54 PM
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Men do like innocent girls, but you have a 'unconventional' love story anyways. I just want to give young girls the best chances
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 03:49 PM
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I think everybody tests everybody. We want to see what people are made of and do this mostly unconsciously. A shit test is generally speaking a insult or witty remark to get a reaction from someone. Basically, just being a bit of a meany. Ex. He: "I like listening to country music." She: "Damn, that's really white trash." If he reacts like a 'real man' he passes. A better way to know someone's worth is to listen to what they say and see if their actions match up with their words. I do have a ten…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 03:47 PM
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I'm also very pale, I love white. It's good to be aware how you are perceived by others and colours are a big part of that. These aren't rules, they are suggestions. If you are a very committed goth it would be weird to start buying pastel dresses.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 03:32 PM
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That's your choice. But we do have associations with certain colours, it does make a difference. I like to pick and choose how I want to be perceived by people.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 03:29 PM
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Why do you think so xD
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 03:22 PM
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I honestly can't remember what I excactly wore on my first date... Kudos that you can 😅 The colours are very much psychological. Advertisement also uses different colours to make you feel different things, girls who start out dating might as well take advantage of these principles.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 03:20 PM
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I totally agree with this! This is basically what I meant but I couldn't find the words.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 03:06 PM
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Again: Just don't.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/19 08:09 AM
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I'm also not here to talk about red pill for men. This is my preference, I don't care that some women are like that. Pick a good woman, problem solved.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/19 08:04 AM
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I don't really care. I'm not here to talk about female psychology. Good luck with your marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/19 08:01 AM
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Because you should always practice how you act around men in a romantic setting, you don't get that from chatting with work buddies. That's my reason. I edited it to be more clear.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/19 07:57 AM
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I don't really believe in nun mode... I think you should always practice how you act around men
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 08:30 PM
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Could be a lot of things. Probably more insightful is she posts herself, moms tend to see their daughters as perfect beings.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 04:49 PM
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I don't know why you keep defending yourself. Are you trying to convince me you had a fine childhood or yourself? Because I honestly don't care...
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 04:42 PM
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Good for you I guess? Still a very toxic thing to say to young children.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 03:25 PM
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But that's shitty advice...
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 02:59 PM
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HAHAHAHAHA poor guy...
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 02:59 PM
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😬
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 02:57 PM
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Must be a lovely person who told you this...
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 12:10 PM
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I've never 'swallowed the red pill', I've always known men and women are different. Nothing to be mad about, we're just different.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 12:06 PM
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I've had a couple of relationships and I feel the same about my husband. RP just assumes that all women will cheat and/or leave their bf but it's their fault for not vetting for a loyal woman imo.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 12:04 PM
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Just don't.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 11:55 AM
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Yes, because she is laying so much emphasis on it. He probably doesn't see her as boring but if the only vibe she is giving is that she is boring people start to believe it.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 11:29 AM
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Some guys do but if this one did they wouldn't be in a relationship...
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 11:25 AM
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I think you are on the wrong forum...
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/19 11:39 PM
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Be better than the other boys, problem solved.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/19 11:36 PM
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That's a rediculous comparison. A better comparison would be when I'm on my period eating chocolate in a stained sweatshirt. You won't find your partner a 1000% attractive all the time, a relationship is a lot more than just attraction, life happens. If you can't be there for eachother you might as well not be in a relationship. If he is a whiny negative nagger on the first date it's different than when he is crying because he lost a friend after two years of marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/19 11:32 PM
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If he wanted a girl who is louder and more argumentive he would date someone like that. You're making a problem where there isn't one and when you think enough about it, it becomes reality.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/19 10:44 PM
2

My parents have a blue pill relationship and I don't have any brothers. They are quite happy tho. I'm just very into self improvement and I have some idea what men want ;)
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/19 10:34 PM
2

I know my man is not invincible... He is a strong man but he isn't super man. I don't think this type of relationship is healthy in the long haul and if your woman would run away when you would show some form of vulnerability, you picked the wrong woman.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/19 10:29 PM
1

Yes, but that is not physical. Types still don't excist, for men at least, idk about women.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/19 06:48 PM
2

If you aren't 'it' for him you probably tried to make something happen, texted him or asked for dates etc. If a man doesn't see you as 'it' he will probably lose interest quickly but if you are a 'sure thing' he might give you a chance. If you can make a man feel he doesn't care what you look like... Men are pretty emotional beings when it comes to love.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/19 04:36 PM
3

Excactly! Very very few women are brave enough to take a step back.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/19 03:37 PM
3

Type doesn't excist. Being able to make a man feel things for you makes him forget you don't have a perfect face or a perfect body. Men think feeling something is falling in love. I don't know the specifics of your relationship but you probably failed to make him feel something. Also, if you don't do this within the first few times you meet him it's basically a lost cause.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/19 03:37 PM
5

Be happy when things happen but don't be desperate for them to happen. It's hard to keep a cool head but when you manage to do this you are FAR ahead of other girls.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/19 03:34 PM
13

Yes, it's cool to be cold these days.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/19 09:47 AM
5

Totally agree, how much you want to share with some is also a good question to ask. Building up walls is, in my opinion, a worse idea.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/19 09:46 AM
8

I'm married :) You know how hard it is to avoid texting? Very hard. Passivaty is not as important as vulnerability tho. Being vulnerable is key. This advice is also more for girls who are still in the dating scene than women in relationships. I might also make a post about that.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/19 09:44 AM
6

I think being vulnerable is something that both parties in a relationship can benefit from. BUT men probably shouldn't be vulnerable until it's a pretty serious relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/19 09:41 AM
2

It's fine if a good friend shows of her relationship a bit but this is basically your only interaction with her. I would either bring it up or distance yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/19 09:02 PM
3

Is she trying to make you jealous? Very strange behaviour indeed...
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/19 08:03 PM
4

She's 30 not 50... Calm down lol
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/19 07:59 PM
5

Sometimes life happens :( If you keep/start being a kind and feminine person you will have a good guy in no time! Good luck <3
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/19 07:54 PM
4

Meditation! It's great :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/19 07:51 PM
3

I don't have them because I have boundaries :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/19 07:50 PM
5

I don't like giving advice to my friends. I feel like a bit of a smug ass hat while giving advice to them Just listening to their problems generally makes them feel better. They're smart people, they'll figure it out. And most my friends also see alot of value in being single, seeing what's out there and dating different people is so much fun! Maybe that's the best advice to give them: stay positive!
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/19 07:46 PM
10

That's not being submissive, that's being a doormat. Having boundaries is so, so important! You have your own life and from what I hear it's pretty damn busy! You need to take care of your other responsibilities. If he doesn't accept that you might need to think if he is good captain material... I don't want to scare you but it does sound a bit like love bombing. First the guy isolates you from friends and family because he overthrows you with love and attention and you get totally dependent on …
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/19 06:40 PM
3

This is really important! Get in touch with how you feel and how to communicate that in a healthy way.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/19 06:07 PM
4

I use botox sometimes but it's more preventive than anything. DON'T take out a loan for anything beauty related!!!! You can go quite far with cheap drugstore products if you watch what is in creams etc.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/19 06:04 PM
1

I assume you haven't been dating for long? Having negative feelings about the relationship in the early stages of dating isn't a good sign, generally speaking...
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 11:57 PM
4

I do it with coconut oil! It's great, especially for the delecate areas.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 11:54 PM
1

How you word it is the most important thing. Also, CHOOSE YOUR BATTLES, lol.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 11:51 PM
3

Such drama... Jesus. Go for a shower together. I don't even know who would want to have sex while they're ill...
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/19 07:51 PM
4

I honestly would dump this guy. He needs to heal a lot of trauma.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/19 07:44 PM
7

TRP tells young men all women will leave as soon as they can get something better, I think that's where his hatred of make-up comes from. He is just totally scared of losing her.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/19 04:39 PM
4

It doesn't really matter if she is 'an untrustworthy branch swinger' he acts like she is, if you tell people long enough they are something they will start to believe it. He is ruining it for himself with this childish behaviour.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/19 04:37 PM
2

Then this thread is basically useless... But it's good for you to be single anyways, use this time wisely.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/19 01:00 AM
2

Breaking up while being angry is not healthy behaviour. I mean, you are VERY much doubting yourself right now because you didn't think before you acted. Breaking up with someone is something extremely final, not a slap on the wrist.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/19 12:53 AM
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Because you turn into a monster if he would have told you. This would be literally harmless if you would have brought it up in a less confronting manner. Be single for a while, work on yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/19 12:37 AM
1

If you don't want advice you shouldn't ask for it. You are in NO PLACE for a 24/7 TPE, not wanting a man to even look at other women means you don't trust him, especially if he never lied to you before. If you don't even see your issues, that's an even bigger problem.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/19 12:29 AM
3

That's not even remotely about anything in this thread... You have serious trust issues if you see flirting as cheating and he shouldn't lie. You both should not be dating anybody at the moment
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/19 11:46 PM
1

I think you both have some serious maturing to do...
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/19 10:51 PM
5

We compliment eachother so well. He is a total type A personality, he is very well organized, industrious and ambitious, I'm the opposite. He made me a better person, he helped me achieve a lot of my goals. He is pretty strict with me but very caring. I love him so so much, I would be a lesser woman if I had never met him.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/19 10:47 PM
12

I always wanted a dominant man to lead me, it was very natural to me.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/19 10:37 PM
1

Obviously something is stopping him from taking the next step... I don't know what it is, it could be something that you could have an influence over but it also might be something that is totally out of your control.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/19 04:02 PM
3

For me having to pay for a date is a huge turn off... I like the feeling of being cared for and most guys I dated love caring for a beautiful woman. :)
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/19 03:57 PM
3

Men LOVE competition, especially the high value kind. How do you think a high value men got his value? Because he wanted to be better than other men.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/19 03:55 PM
1

I used to do this! But when I met my husband I almost immidiatly dropped all other guys. I just knew he was it.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/19 03:50 PM
3

1 I don't work a lot. I work from home as a illustrator but I barely see that as work, it's so much fun! He makes A LOT more money than me. 2 We have a relatively large home, so we have someone mop the floors and clean the bathrooms once a week 3 I do basically all the chores around the house but he cooks often. I married an amateur chef 😊 4 and 5. If you mean chores he isn't responsible for anything. Sometimes he fills up the diswasher or does some ironing. 6 I'm very content with how things ar…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/19 03:39 PM
1

It sounded like you were talking about a woman who never really was very attracted to her husband in the first placed. Maybe you should specify that in the OP.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/19 05:07 PM
1

Not really hard red pill truths, more like things all mature people know. The girl OP made up in the post sounded like a woman who settled for someone who she didn't find attractive in the first place, everybody with half a brain knows humans are gross and weak sometimes. I'm married and I've cared for my husband when he was ill and during the death of close friends but those experiences actually bring us closer. I guess I still don't understand your point.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/19 05:03 PM
1

I don't have children, yet hopefully, and I think the only thing it has a real inpact on is our stresslevels. We live a very peaceful life, I think children might rock the boat more often. I still want a couple of kids and so does my husband. Everything in time tho :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/19 05:00 AM
1

... I'm going to dump him when he is 'too old', I would date if he would die when I would be relatively young.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/19 01:11 PM
2

He would be dead if I start dating someone else. Jesus, that feels shitty to say.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/19 01:10 PM
3

I always been attracted to older people. I also had older friends when I was in school and did theatre with people quite a bit older than me. People my age frustrated me as a early 20 year old and the types who knew what they wanted in life were generally religious freaks or otherwise didn't work for me. It worked out for me and if I am unfortunate enough to lose him sooner than I would hope I wouldn't regret a thing :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/19 01:10 PM
1

That's not what your original post was about... Things like dominance and social standing is something you can vet for, life happens to everybody. On his good days my husband is still the sexiest man I've ever met.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/19 12:59 PM
3

Op wasn't about gross men stuff. It's about him not being dominant, being fat, having low social standing or bad grooming. That is something you can easily vet for.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/19 12:54 PM
1

The MOST important thing for any child is that they grow up emotionally healthy and with a good view of relationships. Try to love as unconditional as you can. Don't blame a child for his unwanted emotions and behaviours, try to guide him gently in the direction that you think is best.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/19 12:47 PM
2

I think you already checked out of the relationship, either check back in and commit fully or break up. Being in the middle is just unkind to him.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 11:39 PM
6

Or don't marry someone you don't think is sexy?
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 11:34 PM
-5

I'm sorry but this was not very comprehensive. What was your point excactly?
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 11:05 AM
1

We celebrate valentine's day the weekend after, probably go to some restaurant for a valentine's menu, we're not very much into holidays anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 11:00 AM
1

That why I started with a disclaimer :) I live a really great RP life now and I wouldn't have gotten here while trying to be celibate. OP also sounded like the rediculously HL type of girl, there are a lot of risks to it which alot of the girls above attended OP about, so she does know it could turn out very wrong. Would making a different thread about this be fine? Not giving anybody in particular advice?
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 01:20 AM
1

Old people can also date :)
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 01:08 AM
1

I understand, but in my youth this really helped me. I didn't want to have sex before I truly got to know someone but I'm an EXTREMELY sexual person, it's a blessing when you are in a relationship but a curse when you are single. Took me quite some time to find my amazing husband, I would have ended in the looney bin if I would have been celibate the entire time.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 01:07 AM
6

Darn those communists! shakes fist
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 01:00 AM
4

I don't understand why people are so judgemental... It doesn't really matter what your home situation is like, if you enjoy spending time with someone it's great to be friends! I do think there is a bit of push back against being a SAHM. I also experience this. I work from home as an illustrator but I take on very few assignments, my husband makes A LOT more money than me. When I tell people this they they also ask me condescending questions where the baseline is basically that I am lazy and naï…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 12:58 AM
1

We don't have a prenup. I brought it up but my husband didn't think it would be necessary. Marrying eachother was a very conscious decision on both of our sides, we are also extremely in love we were also very logical about the decision.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 12:48 AM
6

Intentionally alpha windowing girls is pretty narcissistic imo. Plate spinners who have plates for more than a few months do this.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 12:38 AM
7

I thought the biggest problem in marriages was fighting about finances?
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 12:33 AM
1

O, now I see more where you are coming from. I think this is very salvageable! You should start another thread with the specifics!
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 12:31 AM
4

Walking away means walking away. It's not 'kinda being on a break until he misses me'. I really hate the advice in the OP.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 12:30 AM
1

You can always turn a relationship around. But leaving someone as a 'wake up call' is what makes this scenario happen. Breaking up is never good for a otherwise healthy relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 12:26 AM
4

That sounds very childish, but saying 'I want to be someone's wife, if you don't want to be married I need to look for a man who does' is a very reasonable thing to say
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 02:12 PM
4

Timing is everything. You see it quite a lot, the men who lives together with a woman for years and years, they break up and he is married to another woman a year later. I think you need to have a bit of luck to meet the right guy at the right time, if it isn't the right time for him it's better to walk away than to wait for him to be ready. If you wait for him you won't be his wife.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 02:00 PM
1

This is very anti-RPW, but I think a FWB who you like and find attractive but can't have a long term relationship with for some kind of reason could be a good outlet. Someone you can see once every few weeks so you don't go crazy. I totally understand, being celibate is very hard. It also has the added benefit of not imidiatly having sex with someone you click with the first or second time you meet, it makes you less desperate and more zen :) But if you feel that n-count is very important you, g…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 01:50 PM
2

My husband actually takes on all of the mental load. He keeps a planner of all the household chores I need to do and how often, what day etc. and I get a daily to do list with my chores :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 11:16 PM
1

Maybe I will die in my 40s and my husband will be alone when he is old. You shouldn't live just thinking 'what if'.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 11:01 PM
4

This is very personal imo. I love it when my nails are done, it makes me feel very regal :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 02:44 PM
3

That's really exciting! Congratulations!!! I lived together with my husband before we got married but I did prepare quite a lot before I packed my bags to move in with him. I was going to take care of everything in the house, so I started reading about organisation and the best way to clean different things. I really love flylady.net. It was pretty overwhelming taking care of my own household but very satisfying. My husband is an amazing cook so he taught me some great dishes after I moved in, s…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 02:52 AM
13

When he is home I do my chores naked ;)
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 02:18 AM
2

Cinge your waist! Wearing very loose clothes only makes you look bigger! Get a few cute belts :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 02:09 AM
1

I married an amazing man who is almost 20 years older than me. If I would have listened to all the people who tried to scare me into 'normalcy' I would have missed out on the most amazing man I've ever known. If OP's guy turns out to be equally as amazing she should go for it.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 01:59 AM
2

I either wear disgustingly cute clothes or very sleek and classy clothes. Its kinda funny, one half of my wardrobe is pastel and the other half is black. My two favourite outfits are a cute low v-neck blouse in beige with a long pleaded pink skirt and darkwash bootcut jeans with a black turtleneck and a vintage suit jacket.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 01:47 AM
8

Just laying in bed and having his arms around me makes me feel incredibly safe :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/19 09:25 AM
-1

That's a bad reason to choose. People can die young, don't let fear dictate your life.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/19 09:08 AM
2

I married a man who was close to double my age when we met. I just wasn't attracted to guys my age in my early 20s they seemed immature and lost to me. Guys who are a little more mature, succesul, and know who they are and what they want. In my opinion older men are generally better :) But a guy in his 40s has no excuse to not have his life in order, which is ofcourse less of a problem with men in their 20s
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/19 08:55 AM
1

I said it first... After the first time we had sex. I kinda meant it tho 😅
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/19 08:32 AM
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