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Widget work is repeatable and easily replacable. At its simplest form, making a handburger is widget work because you follow the instructions. Just about anyone can do it, it won't pay a high salary and there is no real room for advancement in making hamburgers unless you get a different job doing something completely different. Soft skills are more brain work - consulting, sales or ultimately management (which now you have to deal with other people's insecurities and can be its own nightmare). …
/r/TheRedPill05/10/22 01:08 PM
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I can be part of your case study, but have reaped the benefits of small town life. I've lived my life / work had me traveling to major cities for the majority of my professional career. Post divorce and having a "big city folk" paycheck in the farming town next to where I grew up (but still 30 minutes from decent enough restaurants and such), I was a medium sized fish in a small town. I'm not hideous looking and am a hair under 6', but I do have a litte bit of wit, charm, humor and an expensive …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 06:35 PM
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The wall is relative. If you have a baby, congratulations, you hit the wall. If you fall into depression, the wall fell on you. If you accuse someone publicly of something or have a Karen video out there and people can google your name and find it, you hit the wall. There is no black and white wall.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 06:29 PM
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Not just woman - people with little financial responsibility and have a financial support system can.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 06:19 PM
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An interesting theory. If I can add a twist with the over 50 percent divorce rate in mind... Older woman in their 30s/40s either lose "their way" or find that their models were not as solid as they once thought they were. They don't "know themselves" or "have grown as humans". Or they made bad choices in men. Or the men change. And society celebrate and incents divorce to these woman. And so they throw themselves out there to the world, only to find the rules of the game have changed and if one …
/r/TheRedPill22/09/22 04:11 PM
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I grew up in a family of yellers. I am confident I can protect myself if a yelling man aggressively moves towards me. If a woman is yelling and out of control, I am terrified of a false accusation she can make against me when she leaves that room. If she is trashy or angry enough to yell, she is a shit human being who could ruin my career or family when she walks out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:27 PM
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Or more easily accept hypergamy in the less tradtional direction.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 06:43 PM
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It gets even worse for the GenX woman. Because woman are more social beings, there is more peer pressure and also false inspiration poisoning the well. And the way that humans get all levels of PTSD from past bad relationships, the majority of people who really need therapy but would never can't help but take it out on one another When I was first divorced, I dated woman my age in the late 30s/early 40s. Slowly but surely, I found I was a medium sized fish in a small pond and started dating youn…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 04:40 PM
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From my heavy dating experience, I would argue most woman either don't know what they want, or are convinced they want one thing until something else captures their eye. Most men don't have the ability/desire to realize these changes and feel as though they have been baited and switched. Woman read that as this man can't handle responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 04:29 PM
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Elon Musk's Neural Link so you both truly know your intentions? But that also sounds like bringing in the Bears and venonous snakes to cure the squirrel problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 04:20 PM
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Would you please explain this comment? Very interested in the argument against this.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:52 PM
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I remember when FDSPros, the satire site got banned for hate speech.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 01:36 PM
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The quickest way to have both parties in a relationship get into their own heads is when you make your lover your therapist. Or are forced to talk about something you really don't want to talk about. I have a Pentium 1 processor in my head. I broke down in tears over a good friend who died while changing the oil in my car 4 years after he died. I also don't really care what that your friend best friend Janice was stuck in traffic on her way to work today. Or other stories about Janice. Janice is…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 11:33 PM
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I'd give 10K upvotes and a big award to this if I could
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 11:29 PM
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Because this. If you can find the internal memos that were floating around online, it also states preferential treatment to woman. https://www.yahoo.com/now/twilio-ceo-announces-11-employees-215416475.html
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 11:26 PM
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Why does this feel like a Troll fresh out of the Troll Academy at his first day on the job at his Troll job.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 09:54 PM
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You summed it up - I can upvote this enough and if I had rewards, I would give them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 09:47 PM
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But when people are bad at making decisions, and are angry that things are not working the way they were told they were supposed to, they only want to use the hammer.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 09:44 PM
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In my opinion, here's the problem. Some situations and people you run into in your life, your are best served by having a red pill mind set. Other situations, relationships and people, you are best served by a blue. Or a purple. Or a red-ish with that dimmer switch slightly on. Unfortunately, we are in a black and white world where many people are not wildly comfortable changing their mindset. We absolutely need to to thrive. That's why successful businesses use words like "change" and "agile" a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:04 PM
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Even when they've been driven too far and fast, they can still be parted out or sold for scrap. Or even donated or left if the backyard where sure it will be an eye sore, but at least it will be quiet. I know the worth. I'll take the civic.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/09/22 01:52 PM
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Yes I'm pregnant. (Vain and wants to make sure you know she's not fat. Otherwise she'd be hiding that shit) Tired of guys leading me on saying they want one thing but do another just stringing me along (Like pulling out?). Looking for someone who wants something serious and knows my worth (Cost is the opposite of worth. In time, in aggravation, in pure money.). Being up front and honest. (Trust me - you do not want this) If you can't handle me being pregnant having a kid soon then do swipe. (I'd…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/09/22 07:34 PM
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Unless there was a single tear shed when writing the words "I know my worth", she does not know her worth.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/09/22 07:27 PM
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Civics are reliable, do what they were designed to do and have notoriously bullet proof transmissions. Apologize to r/civic
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/09/22 07:26 PM
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The cost of the Patriarchy that those askfeminism are always talking about is only $500?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 11:17 PM
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After 40, after a woman had their kids with their first husbands, after you have earned all that money you assume you are going to earn, after you still keep yourself in shape when it starts getting a little harder than it was before, and not only after you develop, but you actually mature with great experiences that give you an interesting perspective, that is when it is fairly easy to date. You just have to do the work first.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 11:15 PM
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Because 25 year olds are dickheads.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 11:11 PM
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I slightly disagree. Get hired, work hard for 2 years, learn the game, ride on the coat tails of being a hard worker. Leave in 2 if you don't see a career path. Rinse, repeat. And don't do widget work. Keep it soft skills and stay close to revenue.
/r/TheRedPill15/09/22 09:38 PM
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When I was first dating, when my job sound exciting on paper but was basically auto-pilot, and I was a medium fish in a small pond in terms of online dating, I enjoyed passing shit tests or making them keep coming back for more. From the "kinky feminist" who had way too many terms and conditions around submitting that I couldn't remember what was allowed and what wasn't to the 40 year old brat who never really worked and was just wrapping up her second divorce now that the kids from her first ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 08:42 PM
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I had double the emotional abuse of 2 people both dealing with their own trauma dumping it on me every since I remember. So I got that going for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 06:54 PM
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First - big congrats. Second - but there is effort. When people put effort into their appearance - weight loss, clothing, eat healthier, even a good haircut - they feel better about themselves and a behavior tends to follow. The appearance is the end result of effort and a more productive/optimistic attitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 01:01 PM
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I agree. Everyone needs to put in effort - men and women. I disagree. Maybe it is the lower middle income suburbs, but I don't see many woman putting in much effort any more. Obesity, clothing more considered pajamas and house shoes and loud mouth at the local bar on Friday night. I don't care if you are going to Applebee's for some extreme fajitas or going to Walmart for groceries - Everyone needs to step their fucking game up.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 12:56 PM
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To break it down - the most valuable resources are left aside because people assume they will cost too much without doing the research?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 06:10 PM
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I was in love with my blankie when I was a baby. I was in love with my country when I was waving a flag at a parade when I was a kid before I realized we do some shitty things. I was in love with my stay at home mom wife before she fucked half the town, took half and continues to be a thorn in my side. Unconditional love is for fairy tales. It can come and go. And if you don't continually put effort in, you don't deserve it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 01:11 PM
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As early as possible, when someone asks, I always say "no pressure here at all, we are not exclusive until we have a conversation about it.". 95% of the time when they want to have the conversation it is time to bail because it is way too much pressure.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:20 PM
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It is such a gray area. Because truth be told - sometimes you will fail. Some dates will be really cool with woman you are attracted to. Others will be fine, but no attraction. Others will be looking for a reason to say all men are assholes. It could be something simple, a disagreement on a view or someone who puts in zero effort to be a good person.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 09:10 PM
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If I had an award to give, you'd get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 06:46 PM
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I learned about feminism in theory 20 years ago and thought "yeah, that sounds right. Things should be equal." Then, in my liberal industry, I saw it become a corporate policy in hiring, promoting and in HR complaints in men in fear about 10 years ago. Post divorce, I learned about in dating where everything was a micro-aggression and all the victim mentalities I ran into. Then I learned it by joining a few reddit boards and hearing time and time again, misogyny and the patriarchy is the cause o…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 06:14 PM
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Wants all those things, but will settle for a going home with a guy after a few drinks so she can have more "proof" all men are dogs or if he only called her back, she could change that one.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/09/22 08:13 PM
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I earn 10x my partner and she is about 10 years younger than my exwife. And WAY hotter. Thank you life experience, maturity and figuring out the game.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 06:21 PM
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Even if she is equal in the finances (you are not swinging above your weight, we just don't get to do that)... Are you willing to do the trade off of giving up hobbies, friends, etc because that woman with goals will also have goals to change you?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 06:17 PM
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Blaming everything on misogyny and the patriarchy is too easy and creates further divides than it brings us together. It really does suck for all of us unless you are completely financially independent and don't have to answer to work, friends or family. And you do care about the opinion of your profession, friends and family even if you try to say you don't. You are not fooling anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 06:15 PM
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With age, I have the first 3 levels of the hierarchy of needs figured out. If you are not into food, shelter and maturity, go partner up with a millenial living in their parents basement.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 05:01 PM
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Any man posting on r/AskFeminists with a positive upvote
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 10:37 PM
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I always seen Alt Right as a Nazi/Nazi adjacent and Red Pill as something you can casually dip your toe into. Any extremism tends to be bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 07:52 PM
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Funny - going through the list of negative is why I am so happy after divorcing my ex-wife who was the same age as me. People are assholes. Regardless of age or gender. Isolating her from her friends and family (she hated my family/friends and did wanted us to move far away) Coercing her to do things against her will (Every god damn day - I forgot what I liked doing and lost my own identity) Threatening her so that she cooperates with him (So emotionally manipulative). Forcing her to do sexual a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 02:19 PM
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Other than all the money I pay the ex-wife, being divorced is the best. It is an expensive life lesson. No - 30 year olds who are just starting their therapy journey into their daddy issues. 20 year olds have no idea how tough life can be when you have to pay your own way.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 04:58 PM
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My girl goes out, but with what looks like a wedding ring on so men do not go over the top hitting on her. She asked if she could do this and I wouldn't find it offensive. She's a good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 04:03 PM
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Divorced, 42, medium sized fish in a little pond with plenty of options. I settled down when I found the one. Definitely arm candy attractive. Someone who is agreeable. Appreciative. Cooperative. People pleaser. Sexually adventurous. Younger. No drama. Gets along with my family. Brings little drama to the house.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 04:00 PM
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Option 3: No one understands anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 01:45 PM
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In my current male dominated, quite liberal industry, I have a a woman who made the comment she only wants to work with females. Every man has been described as "weird vibe" or "not friendly to woman". I have limited options who I can have this person work with, but am also afraid of my own HR department.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 01:05 PM
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The title is decieving. The woman you are talking about sounds negative value even if she did not have a kid. My girl is a single mom who is sexy, appreciative, gives me space the kids are around at the other side of the house and minimal drama. If the understanding is there, the kids can keep her busy while I play Xbox, my hobbies or do around the house shit that needs to get done.
/r/TheRedPill25/08/22 02:00 PM
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6-6-6 or bust! RIP r/FemaleDatingStrategyPros
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 06:34 PM
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A victim mindset is jaded before the first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 03:26 PM
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The OP is making the assumption woman know what they want...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 02:01 PM
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I think a lot of people date while still hurt from previous relationships or just have unresonable expectations of themselves/people around them. At that point, their option is only other toxic people or a FWB situation. People without the famine mentality head for the hills when they run into these behaviours.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 09:46 PM
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I think it gets justified because of "value". A C-level peer of mine making $350K a year cheated on her husband (admitted to emotionally, but who knows how far it went) who decided to stay home with the kids from birth to high school(? At least middle school from pics I saw). She was conventionally unattractive, but was very good at what she did and was paid well. Although I don't know specifics, I know she pays alimony and a portion of child support to him because she earns so much (he is going…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 04:52 PM
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This is new? It is named after the Marquis de Sade from the 1700's who was more abusive BECAUSE HE ACTUALLY KILLED PEOPLE....
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 04:15 PM
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I would argue a different poitn - and again purely observational. Covid plus everything else has woman (and people) dressing like slobs out in public. We have been on the decline for a long time. As a long time business traveler, people used to dress up to fly. Now it looks like a Sunday early afternoon Walmart spectacle. It is not promiscous as much as low effort. Which is wildly disapointing. People have taken the whole comfort thing to another level.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 04:08 PM
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My material was Rhonda Shear UP all Night, Elvira, Adam West's Batman where Batgirl got captured and a very particular Victoria Secret Catalog I traded a kid down the street some baseball cards for after he stole it from his sister.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 01:29 PM
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I was never straight talk about hooking up. I was a "open to all possibilities" which was the absolute truth. I had a few different relationships, from a few hours / weeks / months to almost a year over 8 years. Out of the game a year now with one I dated a year before we got serious, but I still have some great stories and strong thoughts on the subject.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 01:23 PM
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Your mom. And as stated, personal experience. A few hundred dates over 7-8 years from someone wildly interested with a minor in psychology? I saw a lot of mental gymnastics to justify behaviors or hide shame. Part of being the strong feminist does not always compute with saying you don't fuck too soon and then fucking too soon. And to build upon that, if you take any survey like this as gospel, you are not being honest with yourself. People generally tell others what they want to hear. Woman mig…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 01:14 PM
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It is not the social stigma of being a slut. It is the social stigma of somehow the men are winning. Again, no study whatsoever, just observed casual behavior of being a medium sized fish in a small pool and dating a lot...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 01:01 PM
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Pre-qualify for your kinks via banter on OLD as well as personality. Then save your time and drink money for when in person. More often than not, it is not going to work out and that is ok. It is a total numbers game. Life is short. Don't waste time if there is not a minimum bar of attraction or you can already tell this person would annoy you if you spent a weekend away with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 12:59 PM
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Maybe I was a deviant early on? I took boy scouts to learn how to tie a knot. I tied the neighborhood girls up during cowboys and indians. I mean it got weird when we were like 13, but....
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 12:57 PM
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Did you see some of those devices the Riddler had her locked in? Band saws, swinging blades and lasers getting closer by the second? Those were pretty violent. Or at least had the fear, anxiety and adrenaline going. Those were straight up bondage predicaments... And I understand if you are more into the magic lasso.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 12:56 PM
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I always the truth - "I am not too seriously looking to get serious with someone not so serious". I always said assume we are both casually dating others unless there is a serious conversation. But if I find someone and it gets serious, I'll let you know about it. I am by no means a Chad, just some wit, charm, a few good stories and fairly specificly seeking out woman with certain kinks. I'm off the OLD now - I casually dated my current partner for a year before we got serious and I let the othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 10:27 PM
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Some woman have selective memories about what they'd do for compliments, drinks and dinner. "Oh that one doesn't count..."
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 08:46 PM
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Some woman have selective memories about what they'd do for compliments, drinks and dinner. "Oh that one doesn't count..."
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 08:45 PM
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As someone who was doing a lot of casual dating after divorce... I can't tell you how many woman who said "I'm not like that" was actually "like that". The study might be more believable if it was "less woman admitting to...".
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 08:44 PM
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You definitely were not into super hero culture growing up. Batgirl was getting captured and tied up by bad guys every episode. I'm convinced that is where it all started for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 08:27 PM
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I think it is weird for you normies to insert part A into socket B and start thrusting. How boring. I need something more mentally MOST of the time. I'm not into the action as much as I am into the reaction from a consensual partner. Adrenaline junkie is part of it, as is sharing a dirty little secret with someone special. I just wouldn't engage in this type of behavior with someone who I don't connection with - I will only tie up a girl and fuck her mouth if I REALLY like her. I use the word "e…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 08:21 PM
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Is it fair to give the advice "do desirable things"? Not money, but have cool hobbies (I can talk fashion with woman, I can do brakes on my car). Be grateful. Be polite. I hate to say submissive if that is not your thing, but "agree-able". Use websites that you are already on to find people who have stuff in common with. Be passionate about something. Be fit. Put in effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 11:21 PM
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Woman have no logical reasoning behind anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 07:04 PM
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As someone who dated quite a bit up from late 30's to mid 40s (until relatively recently), "single woman" needs defining. When I was dating, I made it very clear - until there was a conversation that we would do otherwise, we are seeing other people too (and will use protection/be safe/yadda yadda). If we both wanted to be monogamous, that's great. If one party did not want it, the other party could accept the terms or bail. I think it is a fairly common "Single people got to get theirs" /Friend…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 01:55 PM
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Victim mentalities will always find a way to make themselves the victim. Selective data can be used to prove any point. And with that nugget positivity - Have a great weekend everyone!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 08:41 PM
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I have a personal observation. Divorce is bad. It cost me over $400K. I'm not sure any argument you make will be able to change my opinion. Unless it is about my hot younger girlfriend. But feel free to make another pithy reply if you enjoy screaming into the void.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 01:49 AM
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Claiming the divorce rate is not that bad is like saying "Other than that, how was the rest of the play Mrs. Lincoln?".
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 09:56 PM
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I'd say that everyone on Redditt is an outlier. I'm from the Northeast. Pre-covid, I traveled a ton for work. Recently, I did a family road trip stopping quite a bit down the eastern seaboard and occasionally taking the long way. You'd be surprised how many confederate flags in peoples yards are still out there. How many middle-aged/ young people can't string coherent thoughts together you run into. A lot of people rank on tourists because it is people outside of their usual comfort zone coming …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 08:55 PM
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Stalking their current partners' ex-girlfriends/wives FaceBook and clicking like on their brother's exwives page. Seriously, it happened today. If you are reading this, find something better to do Jess.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 07:43 PM
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I think 35 year old woman with unrealistic expecations and no self awareness blame the "Sexist wall" because their looks no longer get them where they once got them. A woman with a great attitude does not have the same wall issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 06:44 PM
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My personal experience suggests you are wrong. As does the rate of divorces initiated by woman. Most woman have no idea of what they want. They only know what they feel like what they don't want at that moment.
/r/TheRedPill22/06/22 12:35 PM
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Yes. Or just write something on your profile. Stealing from others... Vanilla belongs in the kitchen. Often tied up at weekends Looking for the SUBway to my DOMino's. I can never wait for the pizza to cool before I eat it. I always let the things I love hurt me. Bonus Double Secret Message What's your safest word?
/r/TheRedPill22/06/22 12:05 AM
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It depends on how much of it the person makes it their identity. If she is chanting the slogan "ALL MEN ARE EVIL" during the day and "MAKE ME YOUR SLUT" at night, she probably is not really comfortable with her se or her own desires. The emotional black and white thinking of the moment is potential trouble for a man trying to help achieve pleasure for all people involved.
/r/TheRedPill21/06/22 08:25 PM
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Best to pre-qualify on a dating app. You can be a little forward as long as it is playful and not creepy. All about building in conversation so you can disqualify early.
/r/TheRedPill21/06/22 08:18 PM
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Like many perspectives, this seems like a college educated coastal, probably urban/suburban opinion. The midwest and rural areas (where most people live) is closer to the archaic gender norms you describe.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 12:13 AM
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I would say it makes me spiteful to "the wrong kind of woman". I used to have more patience thinking this might be my only chance of getting laid. Instead, I immediately see a victim, entitled or an ungrateful mentality and run away. No more famine thoughts for me. I'd rather be alone than be with that kind of person.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 04:11 PM
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I never said love did not matter. I said it can come and go. I said divorce is bad. I said it has an emotional and financial cost. You disagreed, and I am going to assume a piece of your disagreement is based on ego. We can have compassion and strong feelings for different things based upon facts or incorrect unresearched gut feels. Enjoy the weekend.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 10:47 PM
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Source and statistics for this statement? Is there an end where you say, "You know what, there are some good points out there that I did not think about before and maybe my thinking before on this topic needs to be rexamined?" But to throw out a strawman of my own that I will never be able to prove - And just because it was not contested does not mean it was not financially and emoitionally painful. Or what was best for the kids. And to circle back to the OP - people can fall out of love. And it…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 10:35 PM
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Thank you for providing statistics - That take away from your argument and make my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 08:25 PM
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You are sick of it because you are not educated on it, don't want to be educated on it, it does not fit an existing agenda or you are benefitting from it. You have not brought a single statistic or cohesive logical argument to this conversation, and truly hope future people reading see your comments as a negative to whatever point you are trying to make. And to address the "divorce rape" attempts to shockingly end the conversation with one more statistic - It was observed that divorced and separ…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 08:22 PM
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The national average cost of divorce is about $15,000 per person. That includes legal fees, court costs, and the cost of hiring outside experts. (Even if you do a collaborative divorce, for example, you will have to build a team of experts. You will have your attorney, of course. But you will also have specialists like a financial advisor, a child custody expert, and maybe a therapist.)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 08:17 PM
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And uneducated? Or do they not count?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 08:11 PM
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I apologize in advance for bringing statistics into the arguement. It is not a wild assumption With taking the top line of every google search on how expensive is divorce, child support Divorce is expensive. A recent article from USA Today reported that the average cost of divorce in California with children involved is $26,300 — per person. $229 (or about 23%) of the combined net weekly income for 1 child. $322 (or about 32%) for 2 children. $385 (or about 39%) for 3 children. Just writing thos…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 08:10 PM
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So a C- for marriages staying intact is not bad? Almost a 1/3 of families destroyed put through financial and emotional despair? Sometimes it is going to happen because people change, but I would say you are a little optimistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 06:59 PM
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Decreasing, but still ridiculously high. Bringing up decreasing divorce rates is like asking "But other than that, how was the rest of the play Mrs. Lincoln?"
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 06:12 PM
6

Romantic love, in most cases, is a temporary state. Divorce rates will remain high until civilization crumbles completely.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 05:06 PM
1

Experience is true, but to get experience you need confidence. Just like in sales, if you make it a numbers game and get used to failing 9 times and getting lucky that tenth time, you get experience. Creative googling also helps you know what to do when you are successful enough to be invited to the party.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 10:52 PM
1

And maybe we want to disconnect work from home and don't want them to understand the specifics.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 01:13 PM
1

OP's entire argument and supporting evidence is on shakey ground to start. From my dating and social experiences, doctors are the biggest narcissists of all. They have to be to be effective at their jobs. It spills over into social narcissism. The doctor power couple (personal experience again, I know 2 which are similar, and there is definitely a pattern) are all miserable or fairly disconnected as they tend to focus on themselves. It gets fun to push the buttons after a few glasses of wine so …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 01:12 PM
3

RP is against traditional marriage / partnership. I talk business all day to pay for a mortgage and provide for a family. The last thing I want is to come home and talk business with her. I make the money to pay all the bills, provide, have her do most of the children raising (she is way better at it than me) and we still live comfortably. We are both way happier with our defined pink jobs and our blue jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 01:03 PM
3

Be it through religion or social media, many MEN and WOMAN celebrate "casual victimhood" that is really nothing more than meeting unrealistic expectations or just being bored. A lot of these people think they can do better when in some cases, they actually have less value themselves when the younger version of them were in that relationship. Call it Sellers' Regret.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 06:48 PM
1

Pointless unless you are talking about how horrible humans are.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 09:32 PM
1

"The Culture" could mean a lot of different things to different people. The culture around my house with daughters is we protect our own (our own could be seen as our biological family). It extends with charity where and when we can (and let's face it, when convenient most of the time), but it I have no vow of poverty to help strangers. There is also the culture of white knighting as a means to an end. And mostly that end is to get laid or compete in a sexual marketplace. To either ultimately re…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/05/22 03:54 PM
1

You are confusing education with emotional IQ.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 06:07 PM
3

I think a little different. A wise (piano) man once said, I'd rather laugh with the sinners then cry with the saints. I think I have the saving a woman complex. Especially when she is appreciative compared to the average American woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 08:21 PM
2

I think you are missing a very important attitude component. A GenX woman has a bleak, dark, fight the man by default demeanor that I find to be a total turn off. They are also usually a divorce or a few heartbreaks into, kids, etc which makes them even less desirable. Looks is important, but you got that default attitude for life (of course unless some serious changes are made)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 04:10 PM
2

Hypothetically speaking... What happens if the unknown husband confronts you?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 10:32 PM
1

You nailed it. Guilt vs. Shame. Guilt is a feeling you get when you did something wrong, or perceived you did something wrong. Shame is a feeling that your whole self is wrong, and it may not be related to a specific behavior or event.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 08:48 PM
1

Then it is not wrong for you. Unless you are fooling yourself into justifying it. If you think your world would collapse and you would be disowned / downward spiral / safety would be jeopardized due to angry spouses, is that steam release valve of a married person really worth it?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 08:29 PM
2

Is it wrong? Would you feel shame if everyone knew? Then it is probably wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 06:33 PM
0

It is your attitude more than anything else. If you are the victim or always badmouthing the ex, then that is baggage I moved away from fairly quickly. I did not want to have to pay for the PTSD of the last 29 years. Or just get into very kinky stuff and you have a great target audience...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 06:30 PM
2

I'd argue that some get rewarded for breaking the contract. And the reason the post divorce dating market is so tough is that individuals are not used to immediate consequences after breaking a contract. They may come years later when they realize how good they had it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 01:30 PM
1

From my experience, and I dated a ton post divorce, the majority of woman who are in their 40's grew up in a pop culture which promoted that bleak, cynical and disaffected outlook that just looks more jaded on an aging GenXer when life responsibility, kids and career are involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 07:18 PM
1

Do you buy a car without taking it for a test ride? I was always kind, paid for dates and gave them what they were looking for, right up until commitment, which i made clear was not there from the start. I have no remorse from casual, just remorse from the ones that started casual and built it to be more in their heads without a check-in or expected more from me when they said they wanted more. That is called dating, not committing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 06:45 PM
1

I don't do it now (I finally found the one), but when I did, pure boredom and that I liked being liked. I always said everything is casual unless we have a conversation about a relationship. Which was always true. If and when that conversation actually happened, I was upfront that I was not interested in a relationship with them and bailed. A few times I stuck around and we gave it a good relationship go, but ultimately did not work out because life. It worked great with the current relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 05:57 PM
1

Or when the spouse's abuse becomes too much as responsibilities increase. Or when they realize the children will also be on the end of that mental/physical abuse and they want to break that chain. If you want to call that an upgrade.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 04:22 PM
2

The old saying "You get what you pay" for is real. It is all about getting value.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 03:40 AM
1

No one should have to go through what? Divorce? Maturity? Getting older? What part of our yum are you yucking? It is a viable option because both of us choose it by our own free will. We have had quite a bit of life experience. It works for us. And truly at the end of the day, it does not matter. We all have our opinions. It is more of a curiosity.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 02:44 AM
1

Is that a yikes of seeing another perspective or a "yikes - that post is nuts"?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 09:48 PM
2

Because a low commitment for her is a less of a commitment for me. And it gives ME the full license to keep looking without getting any shit from her. I multi-date until I find someone that makes me want to be just with her. And I usually want that to go on longer than she wants to. But I want her to want me more than the others. Or if she wants to be with another guy more, I would wish her the best, because that one probably is not going to last either.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 04:28 PM
1

You are looking to win something. Otherwise why bother posting at all. Be it "attaboys" in the echo chamber validating you why don't get the amount of woman you think you deserve or a good chuckle from a bit of trolling. Congratulations on killing some time for both of us and getting a few upvote stupid "prises".
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 03:46 PM
1

From my experience... As you get more self confident and less worry about other men judging you based upon your arm candy, your whole life just gets better. You can concentrate on how that person makes you feel. Are they cooperative and appreciative? Long run, all Stacies will start to lose their looks. If will sneak up on the ones who are not self aware and the ones who did not have to spend time on personality. The ones who do a remarkably bad job of understanding their own value. And that wil…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 03:41 PM
2

Like make posts on reddit that are not that well thought out?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 03:22 PM
1

So no one should reproduce?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 03:21 PM
1

Then talk to him about it knowing it may alleviate the situation so he can comfort you, he may bail immediately, or he will probably lie and say he is not thinking that even though he is. Or live in fear until the day he does decide to bail. Or bail first.
/r/ExRedPill07/04/22 02:14 PM
1

Then talk to him about it knowing it may alleviate the situation so he can comfort you, he may bail immediately, or he will probably lie and say he is not thinking that even though he is. Or live in fear until the day he does decide to bail. Or bail first.
/r/ExRedPill07/04/22 02:14 PM
0

u/emerald_engineer_08 / u/BWDGJTTDDW /u/Play_Muted You are absolutely right that a sizable percentage of these situations came from "oopsies", but it shows the 61.6% plus whatever fellas that dodged the bullet are getting laid. At least once. Not that I have statistical numbers to help, but I'll be what I think is conservative and say about 20% are not getting pregnant so I can back into the Pareto 80/20 rule. I think the OP could have done a better job by pointing out a higher percentage of wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 01:49 PM
1

Apparently what is important to you is coming on Reddit and arguing fringe beliefs about feminist boogie persons (don't want to gender) in an echo chamber. And don't expect to win the game if you don't play by the rules. Congratulations on deciding to take your ball away and go home.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 08:36 PM
6

Divorced late 30's. Found someone mid 40's. Made good money, drove a good car, owned a cool house, had a dog, lived a bachelor life, looks wise probably a 6 or 6.5, always had good weed, and was in sales so used to clients / people turning me down and just continuing on. I went through just about every dating app in my general area. Once a week, I would put a few hours into looking for 10 interesting profiles on OKC, Fish, Match, FetLife, etc. My profiles were sincere, yet playful and witty. I w…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 08:17 PM
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I was attached / married young. After divorce, I dated a lot. A bit to make up for lost time, a bit to just see what was out there, a bit for fantastic stories to make my friends laugh and a lot out of boredom. When I did find one to settle, I feel like I have seen every red flag there was to see, found I never really had to settle and the utter importance of cooperation and appreciation. And it doesn't hurt she is younger, attractive and kinky. I would not have appreciated all that she was when…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 07:52 PM
0

Once you learn to discount/ridicule ALL fringe and worry about what worth means to you and the people you find important, you can just be happier. You are not going to change that feminist's mind. You don't want to be seen as worthless? Work on things that make you valuable to the people you would like to win the favor of. Don't hate the player, hate the game. Accept the poker hand life dealt you. Play it to the best of your abilities. Don't be a dick while doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 06:43 PM
3

As a post divorce busy dater in my 40s, I found exactly what I did not like time and time again. Jaded, talking shit about their Xs, telling me "what they deserve", how they'd "change me". My dating profile always said "Start casual until it gets serious". A handful of relationships lasted a weeks, to a few years (current one). Once you have a really good high value item, you don't waste time going to the dump looking to replace it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 01:57 PM
1

Your ideas are intriguing to me and I would like to subscribe to your newsletter.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 01:53 PM
1

I guess I am the 2% - and other than a high paying job, feeling like it is important to do man shit, big dick energy and generally being nice to her, I don't feel like I am extroidinary. She's early 30's so maybe extend that number to 5%?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 01:52 PM
1

Because I am mid 40's. First marriage turned south. As I was the primary breadwinner/provider and she had money costing/neutral hobbies, was perpetually going back to school, wanted to stay home with young kids to eventually despise me for it, and just generally unappreciative, uncooperative, hidden credit card debt, depressed, etc. She was indecisive and jaded. 0.5/10 happy. Fast forward to my current partner. Over 10 years younger. She did not always have the easiest life, but very appreciativ…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 01:41 PM
1

Nailed it u/Snoo52682 - it was just taking me a little longer to set the stage to get there. Unconditional love is for puppies and the way people should care for children. The Disney fairy tale is just that. A fairy tale.
/r/ExRedPill06/04/22 01:13 PM
2

Unfortunately, I think the boyfriend (and the world) operates slightly different than you do. He is looking at other woman, and might possibly choose one over you because they have more value than you. Be it younger, sexually more adventurous, that new relationship energy, better at something he values, etc. Possibly values themselves based on your non-answer. Because you value your own sanity more than him, and you don't see an end to it, rip the band-aid off. I was truly trying to apply logic …
/r/ExRedPill05/04/22 09:39 PM
1

Do not need to be an object to have value. Value could be emotional, mental or physical. If not value, then that is unconditional love. And if that is the case, then you are probably not leaving him.
/r/ExRedPill05/04/22 09:14 PM
1

What is his value to you?
/r/ExRedPill05/04/22 08:37 PM
2

And are you possibly my sister-in-law? Ha!
/r/ExRedPill05/04/22 07:57 PM
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I swear, not an attack but more of a curiosity. If you think he is biding his time, what is your motivation for being in the relationship? What gives him value over others that keeps you coming back for more? Would he be considered "high value"?
/r/ExRedPill05/04/22 06:52 PM
1

A true question. And it will sound like a dick, but I am VERY interested in where this perspective comes from. How old are you? How happy are you? How successful are you with woman? If we could set up your life/relationship situation as our "template", would you reccomend it to others? Why or why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 02:53 PM
1

I was going with personal experience. And not to worry about Jen. They still let her into her appointment.
/r/ExRedPill05/04/22 02:49 PM
1

Men and woman are only committed to each other as they are to their percieved options.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 01:19 PM
1

90-99% of lies? But not including the Harvey Weinsteins of the world. Or Epstein. Or Clinton. Or this list - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List\_of\_federal\_political\_sex\_scandals\_in\_the\_United\_States Or Louis C.K. Who admitted being a creeper a few years ago. And then won a Grammy this year. Very few men are creeps. Very few woman lie. Your post would have us believe to lock the doors in stay inside because there are woman out there just waiting to point a finger at you. Who ever hurt yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 03:31 PM
1

So find someone who is not delusional? Or someone who never had the a large selection of choice? Or have learned early after a few bad choices to "settle"?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 03:16 PM
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The real solution is to stop working. Give up your house, your food, your clothing. Move to the woods and start hunting and gathering. Fight off wild animals at night. Try not to freeze to death. If you are worried about surviving - acquiring food, shelter, clothing and warmth while not succumbing to the elements. There won't be time left at the end of the day to worry about dating due the exhaustion of survival.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 01:46 PM
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She babbles on about how her friend Jen was stuck in traffic which made her late to her appointment which really stressed her out. "Wow, that sucks." No. Not really. I'm just acknowledging the situation and responding to what she wants to hear. It is a white lie, telling ehr exactly what she wants to hear. There are gray lies woman want to hear. Then again if you think Jen is hot and really want to bang her, she doesn't want that to come out.
/r/ExRedPill04/04/22 01:43 PM
1

All part of us not having to hustle for food, shellter and clothing, we now get to overthink our relationships to cause us pain and guilt of having it too easy.
/r/ExRedPill04/04/22 01:40 PM
1

What about a 45 year old person who dates a 30 year old person? I am still trying to identify if it is the age the low age you actually have the problem with or is it the gap.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 12:58 PM
1

Just following your logic. You are arguing that middle aged people who have the ability to be attractive (be it phystically, emotionally, intellectually or financially) to the attractive to someone 10+ years younger than them are detrimental to the gene pool. I am saying that since you are arguing against what some would say is the attractive, you must be ordinary yourself. Therefore, don't reproduce. If you do, you are a hypocrite who is not thinking about the children.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 09:32 PM
1

Actually a mother who depression *ucks up kids and my partner's abusive ex-husband fucks up kids. We are making the best with the hand we were dealt. But thanks for the concern.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 02:01 PM
1

u/acornfroggie In trying to better understand your logic - the only problem you have is when the female is under 21 or was it an age gap difference? If there was a 45 year old man who was partnered with a 30 year old woman, that should not raise a social eyebrow? Should all men and all woman be completely seprated until they reach a mandated age of maturity? I agree - let kids be kids. Pedophiles are the worst people on earth and have a special place in hell. It just sounds like you are calling …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 01:59 PM
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People who are arguing vehemently against the OP because they don't know anyone in this position is probably average/below average and only knows average/below average other people. I make good money. I have an appreciative younger woman is is way out of my league looks wise, but I got some big dick energy and make good money for where I live. We are done with kids - she already has hers and is very helpful with mine from the first marriage. I have several friends in the same boat. We are all fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 09:01 PM
1

Low inteligence is hereditary too. Posts like this make me hope you are not a hypocrite and not having kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 08:54 PM
-2

Not merely, but mostly. Pink jobs and blue jobs. It was the way it was in the 50s til feminism put woman in the workforce. Still around in conservative or traditional pockets which is still 50% of the country.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 08:52 PM
4

You need to start leading with "Normal people...". The OP is talkign about extroidinary people.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 08:49 PM
8

From my experience, dating woman in their late 30s and up fuck. A lot. I am by no means a great looking guy, but when dating and casually looking for long term, if sex did not come around after a while, I was out. A lot told me I was the exception, but I am by no means extroidinary enough to be anyone's exception.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 08:44 PM
1

Why even make the original post and put up the facade of a debate if you have already made up your mind? Echo chamber upvotes? If you don't look around and see creepy guys, you either are not looking hard enough or just might be one of them. Some men rape. Some woman lie. Most people don't do either. How many do you know have been accused? I know more people several people I believe when they say they have been sexually assaulted. I don't know a single person who I either think is lying. I know …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 08:35 PM
1

And they should be shamed on the backside if they are proven incorrect. I know accusations out there that have hurt people. I also know of people who I truly believe did it, were accused, and got away from it. Including the preist in my hometown who touched all the boys who got transferred. 2 of those close friends committed suicide. If I got a phone call about one of the nieghborhood boys OD-ed tomorrow I wouldn't be that surprised. Don't get me started on a 8 year old I know who is a shell of …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 02:32 PM
2

It is not at all costs - it can vary in degrees. It is opportunistic. It is has an end goal. I defintiely have friends who really pretend to be more liberal on a date because that is what the woman want to hear. He might even throw a few hundred dollars at her if she wants something material or having trouble with bills, but he expects sex that to be his main way to win the sexual (or friend that eventually will turn sexual) competition.
/r/ExRedPill02/04/22 02:26 PM
1

I'm not saying it is not perfect. I am just saying the rhetoric from both sides is toxic. Columbine Shooters/Denver movie theater shooter was/were celebrated in small but dark circles. Columbus had a good run as a national holiday until recently, and not only did he not discover shit, he killed a bunch of the people who already lived in North America. Big ups on saying some people are distancing themselves from Osama. I think some the debate on the topic are really starting to make you think. Ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 01:46 PM
1

I just assume a cat would eat its deceased owner out of pure spite.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/04/22 01:41 PM
6

This also prepares you to be in sales, where you can make the most money with the least amount of effort, education and brain power. I speak from experience.
/r/TheRedPill01/04/22 01:05 PM
2

Self awareness is key
/r/ExRedPill31/03/22 11:21 PM
4

Plus I bet this woman even tastes bitter.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/03/22 11:21 PM
1

Always consider the source. Do they have your best interests in mind, do they have a hint of truth to them, are they mean spirited or is it someone who is a sociopath who is deflecting. Proceed as neccessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 11:17 PM
1

If she does not appreciate your tense of humor, then she is not the one for you. Unless you are like this all the time. Then I can see it getting kind of annoying after a while.
/r/ExRedPill31/03/22 10:13 PM
3

And this is where black and white thinking falls down. We need to mock all the fringe activist and thinkers, not just the fringe on the opposite of where we stand. The very vocal and extremely minority of the parties are all a little generally insane. Yes to everything you said. But the argument from the other side that I'd probably agree with - I am willing to bet Timothy McViegh was a red piller. Same with Osama Bin Laden. Nobody wants those two on their team.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 09:25 PM
8

Back in the day, I swiped right to find out who hurt her as a child out of curiosity. Two dates of my total charm. Told her she wasn't my type. Solified her evidence that "there are no good men out there". Rinse, repeat. Happy now though. But single life was more of a social experiment for me.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/03/22 08:23 PM
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She was also allowed to watch Marvel movies because that helps her connect to people. Wasn't allowed cats or dogs either. Looking for a man to take on even more responsibility. Or not die alone. The cat will eat her dead body once she dies alone in her 3 bedroom condo. Damn that got dark fast.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/03/22 08:20 PM
2

Truth be told, a different kind of baggage. From MY fairly successful dating in my 40's experiences.... Widows had the most emotional baggage because even if the guy was a giant dick, they start the conversation "He wasn't perfect, but...". They also tend to have a bit of a judging tone. "I didn't fail the marriage, the other person died". It is a way for them to ignore some of their own flaws and come at the dating experience like a victim. Most divorced woman have resent from their ex. Be it t…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 07:33 PM
6

Or you can acknowledge that conservatism, liberalism, feminism and anti-feminism all have their flaws. Just a thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 07:07 PM
2

Props to OP. Great post to get me thinking about my dating history and approach. Vetting is really two part in my mind. Safety vetting is something that could probably be solved with a simple Google or arrest records search plus being in the same room for 2 minutes (I jetted on a girl after a crazy vibe after 30 seconds once). Compatibility vetting can be done via making sure they are not posting on the regular to r/askafeminist and via conversation. I'm fairly self depreciating and witty in my …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 05:43 PM
-5

I would think terrible taste in memes probably translates to a bad personality in other areas of their life.
/r/ExRedPill31/03/22 01:52 PM
4

Single people don't know the true lonlieness of being attached and feeling alone next to someone who has disdain for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 01:49 PM
3

As someone who dated a lot of divorced woman just going back on the market, the statment should be "re-evaluate your worth". If you are not making yourself better via education, interesting job, earnings, art, interesting hobbies, community work or even excercise/thereapy your value is going down. And with all those things, there is a plateau. We are all getting older. Time is going to be a motherfucker for a lot of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 01:44 PM
1

It is not showing through on reddit comments.
/r/ExRedPill31/03/22 01:12 PM
2

You probably don't have the attitude the 50 year old man is looking for.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/22 08:58 PM
2

I wish we could get better statistical data on this. It feels like men in their 40's are saying yes to woman in their 30's. People in their 20's and 30's are saying creepy.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/22 08:54 PM
0

Preach brother. And expect lots of vote downs on positivity and success.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/22 08:51 PM
1

Remember the room. Lots of people are still bitter about competition in the sexual marketplace. And general positivity.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/22 08:26 PM
0

No. Just a woman in her early 30s.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/22 01:13 PM
0

20+ years ago, my college job was a valet parking attendent at a really nice restaurant / wedding banquent hall. Best job ever. Nevermind being around cars, descent tips, the service industry down time hilarity, but there was on many occasions a lonely drunken bridesmaid who went outside for some air where it was easy to strike up a conversation. They weren't miserable, but afraid of being alone or finding their own way to rebel a little. Especially the single sisters of the bride. Sitting behin…
/r/ExRedPill29/03/22 08:25 PM
-8

Half your age plus 7 is the magic number. And of course legal.
/r/ExRedPill29/03/22 08:02 PM
1

Both sexes are total wrecks. Both sides need to be honest with themselves and then date accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 07:57 PM
1

Any swipe without an arbitrary rating system is somewhat blind.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 05:23 PM
2

When I was going a little crazy, I did it out of boredom. And because there was a taboo about it. And maybe to gloat to my friends as the guy who never got a bunch of girls now had pretty easy access. Times have changed once I found an amazing woman, but the merry-go-round was great when I did not have a good xbox game or there was no UFC on.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 03:36 PM
1

Tator toys after long shifts keep relationships strong.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 01:24 PM
1

I don't have many relatioships with people. I weeded out a lot of family and friend negativity lately. And I am happier. In the remaining, I have both men and woman and have never been happier, more supported, more supportive and less exhausted by the emotionally burdensome.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 09:20 PM
1

I agree. No one is perfect. No one gets a 10. Also, no one can give themselves a 7. It is a cop out and allows people to be dillusional. You are either closer to a 6 or an 8, but can't give yourself a 7.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 09:17 PM
1

Imagine all the 5s out there finally figuing out they are a 5. Or the joys of someone who thought they were hopeless that they are actually a 5. Afterall, that is where most people would fall.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 09:16 PM
0

I think the people who are most hard on themselves would be surprised in what they have. It would also attract the self improvement crowd who is all about them GAINZ....
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 09:13 PM
1

Imperfect system but better than blindly swiping
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 09:11 PM
0

From my experience dating post divorce in my 30s/40s, woman need it the most.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 09:09 PM
2

"General casting called and they wanted someone forgetable. Get me What's his name punk!"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 06:11 PM
2

Incorrect - beauty is in the eye of the beer holder. And then out the nose.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 06:09 PM
2

No, because I would throw you away and upgrade to a better version if you were.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 04:29 PM
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moderate So the purple pill then - r/PurplePillDebate/
/r/ExRedPill24/03/22 02:30 PM
1

Don't hate the player, hate the game
/r/ExRedPill24/03/22 02:27 PM
1

As someone who dated in the 90's in suburban New England, everyone went out. Drugs and drinking were huge, especially in the woods or by the dead ends. People were forced to be social. There was a dungeons and dragons crew, but they went out too. Talking to girls was difficult because all the groups were so tight knit. Friend groups occasionally brokered deals before there was any sort of initiation. As a man with a few kinks that friends did not know about, I couldn't pre-qualify or share them …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 02:12 PM
2

I can add a few from the early 2000's. There was 6 of us on the team. 1 was socially awkward, 2 were obese, the other 3 constantly had our asses grabbed by the obese, loud mouthed, always threatening or picking someone to be mad at for the quarter Director. This was before LinkedIn was around to make it easy and the Monster.com job board was in its infancy. We were all hard working Boston guys from blue collar families who thought we just need to tough it out for 30-40 years. We still get togeth…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 02:07 PM
5

One more slouching, shirking boy who financially provided as the sole breadwinner coming in after the 3rd 12 hour day in a week in my case. Only to be told old meat loaf from the other night was in the fridge and that we were going out to dinner with the mother in law friday at 530 so dont be late.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 01:50 PM
4

not Men have a famine mentality in their 20's. Second partners (or wives' with Pre-nups) are always the best. I don't say wife because no need to get the state involved in making her a wife if you know your worth and don't want to give all your stuff away.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 01:42 PM
2

In the 80's it was Satanists and the USSR In the 90's it was video games. In the 2000's it was anyone middle eastern. 2010s it started going home grown terrorists. 2020 COVID had a good run. What's next?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 01:38 PM
2

I wouldn't say it is the wedding cake that makes woman stop having sex, but the kids that come after. And the lack of appreciation from both sides. In my situation, I was the sole breadwinner working 50-60 hours with travel to be able to pay for a comfortable suburban home, a couple of car payments, a vacation or two a year, a few thousand dollars to finance a few of her failed business ideas, dinner out twice a week and some retirement. She watched the kids with help from my family. I was exhau…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 01:33 PM
1

Confidence in every moment and every situation is an unreasonable ask. Confidence in what makes you competent is key. Displaying confidence in a group setting of something you are above average at is a great start. And then it cascades.
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 08:32 PM
1

Arnold Swartzenegger never simp-ed in Predator. He sent the woman out in the jungle so he could kick alien ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 03:33 PM
2

I would say realistically settle or better yet, have a realistic view of your own worth. When I was actively dating, so many jaded woman with limited earning potential, not terribly motherly, no home skills would always tell me "How much they are worth". My reply of "not to me" or "not to me yet" did not go over well.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 09:42 PM
1

LinkedIn profiles with people staring off into the distance, wildly unprofessional and obviously a selfie are turn offs for any 6 figure salary hiring manager. You have a good point - I heard models earn $250 an hour for private shoots, and then earn whatever they can if it is their own content. If they can get the work. In the YOLO economy, that is a couple of shifts at retail/fast food job. Although probably not sustainable, that's maximizing benefit value of time. And sometimes they don't eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 01:19 PM
1

Hate the game, not the player. And it worked. I eventually found my partner after identifying what is important to me and wading through a sea of jaded, unappreciative, uncooperative woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 01:07 PM
1

My troll and shit stirrer radar is always on high alert
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 08:15 PM
1

Yes. You need to talk to lots of people. Be nice by default until someone gives you a reason not to. Maybe she has a friend? Maybe she is sneaky hot? Maybe you need the practice to talk to people? Maybe always having sex on your brain comes off desparate and you just need more reps with banter so you've had the practice when it comes down to it. And maybe generally, I just like to be liked.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 07:44 PM
2

I have a far different mindset. I come from a sales background and fully understand "forecasting the cycle" and "disqualifying the least likely opportunities" in order to get a commission check. I just kind of go numb to being rejected most of the time - personally and professionally. Every week I'd have to identify my target market, get outright rejected 17 out of 20 times, not compatible/didn't like 2/3 remaining, and maybe date the last one standing for a while until it did not work for whate…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 07:18 PM
1

I have one someone with some deep rooted, red pill leaning, non child support paying, holier than though because he and his bible group find loop holes to justify being pricks to people, low self esteem and trying to bring everyone else down pricks as my partner's baby daddy and I occasionally wonder what is going on his head. It probably requires it's own post. When I really need to procrastinate at work...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 01:22 PM
1

Funny you should bring that up. I have had interactions with a real piece of shit lately (probably a future post?) and he is probably red-pilled tendencies but using the bible as his manifest, but maybe blackpilled with the fatalism or just flat out narcissist the way he refuses child support. Or narcissist traits. Or just an asshole. (Now I am thinking definitely a future post).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 01:19 PM
2

I'm feeling exactly the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 12:58 PM
1

So needing someone from the outside to change you instead of changing yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 12:56 PM
1

I was having one of those moments when I originally posted.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 08:18 PM
3

I look at it from a selling/sales mindset of disqualifying an opportunity so I know best where to invest my time. Risk it for the biscuit vs. going to look for other biscuits.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 07:58 PM
1

So you are going to hang out here as long as you can think of swarmy, not that funny tongue in cheek replies?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 07:56 PM
2

What percentage of posts is trolling vs a loud minority?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 07:29 PM
0

I might have responded back with "I reading the like as a sign you want to talk." and follow up with something they posted about themselves lately. By starting with the obvious and then giving them "what they want", you win playfully. If they dis your opening line, then you know for sure. And probably never had a chance with them anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 07:24 PM
1

I feel like there are just a bunch of shit stirrers who keep pushing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 06:25 PM
2

What is the percentages of loud minority vs. shitposting trolls vs. audeince?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 06:05 PM
1

Would you call it the vocal minority, straight up trolling, or 50/50?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 05:56 PM
1

As long as the love is reciprocated with cooperation and appreciation, it is not a simp situation.
/r/TheRedPill17/03/22 05:49 PM
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Maybe more of just a reminder - the majority of the people posting are incapable of differentiating People or acknowledging people individually. Any most people on this post take it as entertainment and trolling...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 04:58 PM
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Calling people out is fun. Shit stirring is fun. I tend to assume most of the out there ridiculousness is trolling, so don't call out as much. This is coming from the mid 2000s 4Chan society that encouraged users to charge their iphones by putting them in the microwave and being on a the OG /r that started the Karen meme. No place to add those accomplishments to my LinkedIn profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 04:55 PM
6

You changed my opinion. Before it goes to your head, it was very slightly and in no significant way to makes the world better, but you added to my perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 04:46 PM
3

Fanning the flames
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 04:44 PM
6

As soon as the market bounces back...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 04:42 PM
3

Does the negativity ever get to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 04:41 PM
2

Fully agree. I'm somewhat optimistic, but the no hope crowd has been especially loud lately. I think I posted this while considering a mental health break.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 04:40 PM
2

I have a very kinky relationship and use porn for new ideas. I see the woman tied up in different ways and imagine how my partner would react. I also like passing the time at work. She fully knows. It's not an addiction. It is enjoyable research that passes the mundane moments. I'll always prefer the real thing. It helps our relationship and keeps her on her toes. Sometimes literally.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 04:36 PM
0

I usually think it means trolling.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 03:44 PM
5

My local church had a preist who touched a bunch of the boys and then moved on, so I am hesitant use it as a tool for helping with finding a suitable "mate".
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 03:40 PM
5

Target one woman for a few months at a time to give her a fair shot. Don't chase every piece of tail that moves. It took me a while to follow this advice, but it eventually paid dividends.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 03:17 PM
2

I have some friends who are VERY RICH. They were able to buy their Ramen in bulk and got the hotpot with the automatic turn off.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 03:06 PM
1

You haven'e seen my ex-wife's condo. She is living WAY outside her means on speculative property that I truly doubt is going to work out when a bubble hits.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 03:04 PM
1

It is called having something to offer. Just like visually pleasing to look at it, a charismatic personality, being honesty, empathetic, compassionate, no horrible addictions or vices, etc. etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 03:00 PM
1

Where I am coming from: I make >$200K my partner and am over 10 years older. We started niche by meeting via a kinky website before she knew I had any money. About 3 years dating / about a year cohabitating. Niche beats screaming into the void. Ever. Single. Time. Effort counts. Optimism in the face of what you are realistically going after shows. Some woman out there are appreciative and cooperative. Some have had a bad beat in life (failed marriage, daddy issues, loss, living in a Ukrainian wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 01:36 PM
1

Old timer nerd reference - Because it is not a useful skill with so many better candidates out there. If you are calling out using a 10 year old app, you've been left behind by the competition.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 01:12 PM
3

Hate the game not the player. Go in eyes open and there is still an opportunity for finding a match. Or complain about it on a reddit board. Whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 01:08 PM
10

I'm encouraging people to play to their strengths.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 09:38 PM
1

But as an Engineer, you knew the salary ranges available to you. You can switch jobs. If you are in software, send over your resume so I can possibly get the referral check.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 09:23 PM
22

Well since you brought up the private sector solution... Do a better job marketing yourself. If you can't get the main stream, go niche. Be it Farmer's Only or FetLife. Stack the odds in your favor trying to appeal to the target market, not just screaming into the void of Match.com. And if you want to steal my idea - Rip off Tinder by have it be for Socially Awkward Tech Workers who earn over $200K a year and the woman who love them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 09:19 PM
1

Indisputable facts. But my point was more YOLO/maximizing earnigns based on limited skills where yours is more forward thinking. AND. As a hiring manager, I dismiss people based on if their LinkedIn profile headshots look like they belong on a dating App, if they have shitty experience or things don't add up. I never go googling their name for porn. People get paid what they are worth. Sometimes people's experiences limit them down the line. I won't hire any web developer that calls themselves a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 09:06 PM
2

When I was 18, I was delivering newspapers for what equated to $.025 cents per delivery. That's all that I was worth. If a woman has no skills, no education, no opportunities, other responsibilities, and no drive to start with delivering newspapers to later on pay for a trade school or some sort of career advancement, that couple of hundred dollars in the moment for a few pictures or a video equates to a lot of newspapers.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 08:54 PM
1

In my own head, I think I was referring to the slow death by a 1,000 cuts mental breakdown from work vs. the sex worker. It all ends with everyone bleeding out - emotionally speaking. I think I am coming from a mid life crisis perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 08:50 PM
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I crushed it in the suburban dating market before I found my one. Teachers were insane. They had such a chip on their shoulder about not being given enough respect, not earning enough money and no one understood how hard it is for them. Sexually fun because they were usually kinky, but generally not all that great or interesting people because they did not have many life experiences I found that intersting.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 08:25 PM
1

Woman hate porn because it has the potential to hurt the future mental health of the performers and the gives the male audience an unrealistic expectation of woman. Men hate reality shows like THE REAL HOUSWIVES OF XYZ because it does the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 08:18 PM
2

Work is work. I have less respect for people who plug away on a laptop / in a cube for 25 years for the same company because most of them never took a chance and died slowly.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 08:14 PM
2

Well put - and thanks for making me think about myself a little differently.
/r/ExRedPill16/03/22 08:08 PM
1

When I was dating, I would have a coffee with just about any woman within 30 miles of where I live, but I would run away or even cut a date short if I got a whiff of FDS nonsense. You level up with effort into your appearance and a positive/attractive atittude, not by trying to lower the self esteen of a high value man to be more attainable. I have the feeling the FDS was designed as an inside joke by the same 4chan people who pumped up the "Free Bleeding Movement" and then laughed about all the…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 06:33 PM
2

You nailed it. If I could walk away from her with no need for future communication, if her day-to-day decisions did not effect the offspring that I am responsible for or the monthly check-writing, the topic of this thread would have barely jumped out at me. I would more passively write that person off as breaking a "man code" then have a tinge of resentment every month when I write baby momma check. He is definitely out of the friend group. If the guys want to talk to him individually, that is n…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 05:58 PM
3

It is fair to say I lost a 30 year plus friend because he is dating my ex / baby momma. We were still on a group text with a few of the nieghborhood guys, sharing inappropriate jokes, referencing jokes from our childhood and being as vulnerable as GenX men can be with one another. There were also a few calls a year, checking in on one another, going to parents funerals, and generally being there in stoic ways. My divorce (over 5 years ago) was slightly messy but not as bad as some of the other o…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 03:32 PM
2

I stand corrected. I appreciate the facts.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 03:31 PM
1

And it is probably why more woman die alone than men. in MOST CASES, men can date woman their own age or younger to find an agreeable woman, many men do not settle for the older woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 07:28 AM
2

Undesirables are out there - There are plenty of girls out there nobody wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 08:52 PM
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Don't bother responding at all - Her mind will never be truly changed. Instead she is looking for the "Preach Girl" response where other victim mentality woman with decreasing worth and the white knights thinking this is their chance can all band together.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/02/22 08:49 PM
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