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Correct. Nice user name btw... Phish phan?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 04:50 PM
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It’s not shocking to find men on apps wanting to be “discreet.”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 04:38 PM
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Group projects? However, it does suck when hot people latches on to other hot people. Then it's the fight for the scrapes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 02:32 AM
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Well a lot of guys on the swipe apps swipes right on everything, then manages the matches (if any).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 02:11 AM
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Truth! The hot sexual relationship is the one she'll be thinking about in her 50s and beyond.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 08:58 PM
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Right, because most "normal" dudes aren't going to be on Reddit on a Friday/Saturday night looking up dating advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 08:53 PM
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So much TRUTH here. Getting involved in sports and working out can make a difference. If I had kids you betcha they will be playing sports instead of playing video games.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 08:25 PM
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Oh yes this is true. I remember a girl who I wasn’t close with tell me to my face that the guy I was dating was lame. At the time I was internally offended. Now I look back and she was right. He was lame.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 08:34 PM
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Not always. Men at the gym does not approach women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/21 10:01 PM
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I feel all of this. I dated the male version of this. I should've left 2 months in and I gave him a chance. There is dislike and hate and I legit hate him. Anytime we spoke my blood pressure would go up. I like many others in this thread grew and matured. I am hyper aware of mental illnesses now.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/21 01:34 AM
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I act like I don't even know what's going on. On reddit, I'm pretty much a right leaning libertarian.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 05:32 PM
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I have a small crush on him. I can't get rid of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 05:21 PM
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Bruh, I totally understand incels frustration. I know what it’s like to get ignored by everyone. Not just average dudes, but even ugly women too. All I wanted was friends in school and to be invited to cool shit. So I get it. I never got invited to festivals, road trip to Coachella, ski trips, parties, etc. I can say this it’s a lot easier being white at a state school than black. At least people won’t question you on “how did you get in” to the school. I had way too many people question how did…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 07:33 PM
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It can work for men, but for women it’s a toss up. I’m a bit jaded since I found myself is a stupid relationship with a man that was fucked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 02:16 PM
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The loving wonder can also be manipulated into oblivion sadly. Being naive sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 01:10 PM
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That’s great and all but people still can lie. Take a look at the BPD loved ones sub. Those people got screwed.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 01:08 PM
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Terrible example. White men and women are the most desired on dating apps. Even in real life. As a minority that’s been around a variety of white people, sorry not sorry they have it easier with dating. Even the weird and awkward white peeps gets married. It’s viewed as cute and “quirky.” If a black person is weird and awkward, no one wants to be around them because it doesn’t fit the stereotype and archetype. Some of the most oddball white people I know has families. I’m not blue pill at all. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 12:53 PM
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God I love Viola soooo much!! I want to meet her!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 01:54 AM
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I'm a late bloomer female and I want to settle down. I do think if I would've had a "hoe" phase in college, I probably would be married now. From my perspective, I got the sense that dudes were iffy about me. Which is understandable. Why date the awkward girl that's not putting out verses the outgoing girl? Clear choice...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 01:28 AM
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Which season/episode is that? Also I'm black and female, dating has and will always be DOA for me. At first I felt sorry for the incels, but over time I just can't help to roll my eyes. Most of them are white dudes that needs to dress better and gain some social skills. To be fair most feels entitled to the hottest girl in the room and they can't get her.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 01:04 AM
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I wish they would see the bigger picture. The small town conservative girl that went to the party college is under A LOT of social pressure if she doesn't fit in. She's under EVEN more pressure if she's not having sex or has a FWB. People will notice and talk about it. It will effect networking opportunities. Social skills are important.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 12:34 AM
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As someone that had a very conservative upbringing. Putting yourself out there is really the only answer..
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 12:15 AM
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Am I lying now?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 06:18 PM
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All of this. I hate to say this but fuck it. Gen Z and some millennial men are just soft and wimpy. They aren’t assertive enough. They think saying “hi” on Tinder is something special. Well it isn’t. They put more effort in buying a PS5 and Cyberpunk than their appearance. Then they wonder why their crush is dating “Chad.”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 06:08 PM
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See edit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 01:48 PM
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See my edit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 01:48 PM
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There was post in r/dating about this. The OP used examples of average guys before and after photos. A bunch of neckbeards complained that the guys were tall and white. Then the opie used ethnic guys and they complained about the jaw line. Can't win on reddit. They will complain that "dressing up" will change who they are. I see way too many dudes over the age of 25 dressing like shit in my city. All it takes is working out 3-4 days a week and not wearing the tee shirts. Don't get me wrong I lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 01:21 AM
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This goes for women too. I’m not gaslighting at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 05:35 PM
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Thanks for the advice! Isn’t crazy that 2020/2021 you need professional photos for an online dating app.. If I told my living parents and grandparents this they would look me like I’m on drugs. I think they’d questioned if they failed me. Lol!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 05:22 PM
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Oh no no do your thing. I’m not mad at all. Quite frankly I’ll probably do the same. I don’t blame the nerds and ugly ducklings going for people out of their leagues when they make it. At least the kids will be attractive and won’t go through the same bullshit. Meh I did the apps and it was terrible. I even messaged first too. I am working on getting more and better photos. Next year I’ll be on it and I will give it one month.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 04:54 PM
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I feel you I had the same issues. When I was younger I was “boring” but I was (and still am) in shape, knows how to cook, conservative, decent job, responsible, not on any medication, clean car, and clean place, etc and the nerdy dudes never looked my way. I wasn’t a hot blonde. I’m not going to lie, from 25-27 I was bitter at it. I wasn’t on any apps and at my job the bimbos got positive attention. Even the coke whore that was cheating on her fiancé had males in her face all the time. It’s piss…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 04:31 PM
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I don’t understand the using resources to get women yet they don’t want a gold digger. Traditional gender roles means providing for a female and being a good husband and dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 01:32 PM
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Or men could approach their looks match, but they don’t want that. That’s part of the reason they complain about women. Always approaching the hottest girl in the room won’t always lead to a relationship/sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 01:28 PM
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To be fair those hobbies are expensive to get in now. Where I live now hunting and fishing is a wealthy hobby now. A decent fly fishing reel cost well over $100, plus the other equipment and license does not make it cheap.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 02:06 AM
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I’m from the rural south and it’s normal for a group of guys that met at church, school, work, etc to go fishing and/or hunting together. Even in UMC southern circles having a camping, football game at the college, golf, etc weekend trip is normal. I think some men are just filled with soy and doesn’t know how to socialise with other masculine men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/20 08:15 PM
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Even the daily mass catholic girls weren’t virgins at my school weren’t virgins. My first kiss was sophomore year and I lost my virginity the summer of my senior year. College is just an extension of high school. People were mocked for waiting so long. The only person that knew I was a virgin was the guy I lose my virginity to and even he looked at me funny while we were naked.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/20 11:17 AM
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Ahhh yes Tebow! I remember when girls were wanting to de-flower him.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/20 06:21 AM
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I went to a very liberal school so I lied/didn't talk about sex stuff. The girls in my dorm were all experienced and they def made fun of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/20 06:15 AM
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I dated a man that had BPD and he was severely possessive of me. He would say things like I don’t want you around men (I work in finance and it’s mix gender) and just really weird about me going out without him. Yet he downloaded Tinder and slept with someone else. My relationship before that was the opposite. He had no problems with me going to happy hour after work or concert by myself because he had work the next day.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/20 06:57 PM
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Yeah gay men are attracted to men not women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/20 03:37 PM
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OK I understand. Who’s going to do the approaching then?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/20 01:50 PM
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Trust me girls makes fun of other girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/20 10:05 AM
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I find "white boy" comedy just as funny as "black" comedy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/20 10:04 AM
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Lena Dunham Is not a comedian.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/20 09:55 AM
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You get it! I love playing sports games because I'm into sports. Those other games.. Yeah I have zero interesting in playing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/20 09:45 AM
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Sooooooo You don't like women approaching and you don't like approach... What are you looking for? Honestly curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/20 09:20 AM
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Gotcha I see...
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/20 05:29 PM
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Maybe because I’m not an E-thot, but I’ve never had a dude(s) “slip” into my DMs. I really don’t see how this works...
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/20 03:26 PM
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The baseline of having your shit together. Apparently it's "hard" these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/20 06:29 PM
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There's a lot of women out there that has the "baseline" (job, car, own place, food in the fridge, etc) and I honestly feel for some men out there especially now. I will say it is amazing that older people especially women that are impressed by it. Kinda shows how bad society is.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/20 04:51 AM
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1971 De Tomosa Pantera Sexy car! Also couple goals! Very nice!!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/20 06:00 AM
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I think the select few of feminine women should have a shot at a few masculine men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 03:25 PM
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Well, the winners that figures it out won't act feminine.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 01:47 AM
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This is why I prefer traditional southern males. 80% of the time they don't follow society and will open the door for a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 01:46 AM
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I hate to say but there are too many feminine men these days. Before some red piller blames women for lack of masculine men, just know that a masculine man that ignores bull shit is attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 06:42 PM
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Correct. Getting sex and getting a relationship are two different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 12:27 PM
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My life is pretty boring. It’s work, gym, and Reddit these days. Occasionally I’ll see a movie.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 09:08 AM
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Ohhh I’m so sorry. Not going to lie, but I’d love to have a PS4. The sad thing is, I probably won’t play it much...
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 08:40 AM
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A PS4 is janky now? I'm still on the PS1 and PS2! :) Cheap games and cheap entertainment.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 02:11 AM
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Holy shit. Truth bomb. This is me to T. I am def struggling with social stuff, covid is not helping either. All my life I've been called "weird" or Oreo for not playing the stereotype, so I'm just in the corner eating/or redditing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 02:03 AM
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Yes. It’s a chit show.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 09:02 PM
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We all want what we can't have...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 04:52 PM
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Not really. Everything is on an app and with COVID, people are super awkward about everything...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 04:47 PM
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Same here, I want to up my geek skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 03:42 AM
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Can confirm. I dated an engineer he dressed very poorly. His friends were even worse. Jeans that didn't fit, old tennis shoes, shirts with holes in it, etc. One of his friends made his own 3-D printer, yet was a nervous wreck about it. Total geek, but cool though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 03:18 AM
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This is very true. A man (especially in his 30s) that's dependent on his family is not attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 04:56 PM
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A survey of 2,000 people... lol....
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/20 09:17 PM
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You mean normie extroverted guys aren't on the red pill....
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/20 04:10 AM
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LOL... You mean the ugly women?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/20 04:06 AM
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I can attest to 2. Growing up I was way more reserved. After going to college and trying different things I gradually became extroverted. It takes time. Keep pushing yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/20 04:03 AM
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Correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/20 08:52 PM
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In upper middle class society they care.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/20 01:00 AM
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No debt, decent job, I can cook, I clean, avid football fan, I can speak French to get by a few days in France, not on any prescription drugs, own place, own car, own hobbies, a bad ass CD collection, low count... What do you bring to the table?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/20 05:20 PM
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I’ve been on here too long and I just cringe at some of the posts. I grew up in the rural south going to church 2-3 times a week, no alcohol, no parties, etc and most of those red pill guys wouldn’t last a week of that kind of traditional living. I will say around 25 I started to read the red pill stuff and it helped me with some things, but the dating stuff. I gave a lot of average guys chances that they shouldn’t have received. I hate to say it but, I wasted my time. At 30, I have a different …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/20 10:31 PM
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I find it interesting that they do this. Like they complain how slutty women are (that’s what happens when you only follow hoes on IG) yet they can’t wait for sex. I’d like a low count man, but same days I feel like that’s impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/20 02:53 PM
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I 100% agree with this. Before I knew the term "Red pill" I watched the guys that had 100+ girls vs the ones that didn't. It really had nothing to do with looks or money. The dudes with 100+ girls were average white guys with social skills. They were involved with school, clubs, and overall very charismatic. They didn't spend 8 hours a week in the gym. They went out and talked to people. Hell one I knew went to a boys school and still had better social skills than the nerds that went to public s…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/20 04:51 AM
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If there are single moms on tinder, then so are single dads. When I was on the apps there were so many single dads on it. It was too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 05:17 PM
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The males I went to school with definitely got around and to be honest they weren’t Chads either. Just your average white guy with social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 05:06 PM
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Men back in the day had to approach and weren’t awkward geeks. Today guys would rather play video games than approach a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 05:04 PM
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I agree with this. TRP is good for confidence and appearance help. Way too many dudes are going out wearing anime shirts and baggy jeans.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 02:39 PM
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Sex is a powerful thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/20 04:00 PM
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So BPD and Schizophrenia can be genetic. Both of his parents has family history of it. Sad that his brain works like that. If he didn't have it, he would be very desirable. When I met him he wasn't like that. He was very kind, assertive, smart, and had values. I fell in love with him. I think the root of my parents divorce was money. When they were broke AF they survived and we're happy with what little they had. When my dad was bringing the money and my mom was bringing in big money the dynamic…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 08:40 PM
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Don't get me wrong I want marriage and kids, but fuck after being in a relationship with a BPD and schizophrenic man I kinda want to give up. The sad part is he wanted the same thing. 3 kids, a house in the burbs, cabin in mountains, 2-3 vacations per year, etc. You know the typical American middle-class family life. It's just he wasn't stable mentally. I also didn't want my future kids to have that illness. It's the most complicated mental illness. What I do like about my parents is that they b…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 06:59 PM
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It had to be cool growing up in NYC. One of my favourite places to visit, I will defend NY any time someone talks shit about it. Some rural folks are closed minded and others are wild partiers. My parents didn’t drink and they were afraid I was going to end up pregnant at 16 so I wasn’t allowed to date growing up. It was school, church, sports, and home. I appreciate their concern, but it stunt my social development. I think part of the reason why some marriages fail is because the communication…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 06:32 PM
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No question. I’m still playing the PS2 and it still rocks!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 05:38 PM
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Haha well I went to party state school and I became aware of what's cool and geeky very quickly. To give you a background of me, I was raised in the rural south with very religious people. Thank god my parents had cable. I hate to say it, but MTV taught me a lot of things about the outside world. I got into internet forums when I was 12 (2002) and my God it was crazy. I learned how to be socially savvy, how to network, health stuff, what cool places to be, cool clothes, etc. In other words, I wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 02:42 PM
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I'll take a PS4 thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 01:53 PM
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I'm on this sub for a male perspective in dating/relationships. Yeah most "normie" aren't even on reddit to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 01:42 PM
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I wish more males was like this. In a few months, I will be back on the dating scene and I am scared shitless. I also have a very low tolerance for bullshit. I am aware apps are filled with bullshit. Great post.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 04:32 PM
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See this is why I laugh at people when they say it's an easy job. If the time comes hopefully I would be able to afford a nanny/daycare when the time is right.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 11:52 PM
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I agree most men in their 30s are as mature as a 12 year old having their Xbox being taken away.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 04:50 PM
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Have you seen the stats? The proof is out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 03:21 PM
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You don’t have to be rich to travel. Free camping is available at lots of places.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 02:53 PM
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Not trolling.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 02:52 PM
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Haha right!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 02:52 PM
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I’ll post it during purge week.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 02:34 PM
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Thank you for getting it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 02:32 PM
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I know, however ethnic folks like myself can attest to having difficulty with online dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 02:27 PM
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Because it’s makes a person well rounded and it’s a conversation starter.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 02:26 PM
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White men and women are the most desired. Not enough attractive, skinny, stable, and white are available.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 02:24 PM
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Just stating the fax...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 02:22 PM
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It’s not racist if it’s a preference?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 02:21 PM
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I was semi red pilled in middle school when all the cute white girls got asked out. College was the real eye opener for me. Being attractive can go a longgggggg way in life. Internships, jobs, connections, etc. It use to piss me off and I was bitter about it, but now I just deal with the cards I have.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 11:15 PM
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I’ve been preaching this for awhile now. If y’all want a gym rat, then go to a gym. Same shit different pile.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 10:49 PM
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I’ve never had sex on the first date. I think you’re meeting the wrong girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 04:13 PM
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All of this!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 08:52 AM
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Dream first date for me and after the gym a nice healthy lunch would be cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 08:46 AM
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Some dudes are lazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 08:17 AM
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Yep. No father wants their daughter or son to date a shitty person. This is human nature. It's human nature to want the best. It seems like this is a rant fest by males that can't get high quality women. Not sure why this is a debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/20 06:37 AM
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I with you on this. I have 1 male friend that I sparingly text (3-4 texts every 4-6 months). We've known each other since freshman year in college and we both turn 30 this year. That's a long ass time. Unfortunately my (kinda) bf has jealousy issues. I am honest to him about him, but it gets exhausting him questioning me while he goes through my phone.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/20 06:07 AM
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Absolutely. Too many single dads around on apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/20 07:40 PM
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I was desperate and giving "average" men a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/20 02:30 AM
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I was just adding to the dialogue. No need to be sassy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/20 11:05 PM
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When I was on the apps I got ghosted by so many dudes it was laughable. Legit short, balding, and fat dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/20 08:41 PM
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What do you mean by that? I dated a dorky engineer that was sexless and had extremely liberal views. What was I supposed to do? I tried to find an activity we both could enjoy, like most couples do.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 08:08 PM
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I’m athletic if that’s what you’re asking. Short answer yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 06:56 PM
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I like your username ;) A friend gave me a gel tab and I’m saving that baby!!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 12:52 PM
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Yep. I’ve never told anyone they could do better. Because frankly it’s not my business. If a buck toothed male or female compliments my friends life who am I to judge.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 08:27 AM
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I counter and say “can I really at 30? If so find me a man you think is better.” They usually shut up after that. I’ve been told this by males and females. People are superficial these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 06:56 AM
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Sadly a lot of former nerds just don’t take care of themselves. I dated one and he would never want to go to the gym with me. He wasn’t fat, just not muscular. I even got him free passes and still didn’t want to. He’d rather pay $50+ for a game than to workout.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 06:34 AM
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Back in college my friend from high school was in a relationship with a 30 year old and everyone said it was creepy and weird. She was 18 at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 06:30 AM
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Blame the internet for that...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/20 11:08 PM
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It’s a hard pill to swallow for some people that looks matter. You can have your shit together and still wind up alone, it’s hard to swallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/20 10:53 PM
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I hate how every dude I’ve dated (which hasn’t been many) and the comments I received from people is “you can do better.” It’s almost like looks over everything is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/20 08:26 PM
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Interesting perspective. Guys all over the internet says that women should put in effort. Hell even my boomer parents said to make sure you look nice, have a clean house, clean car for a man on top of the other shit. I’m guessing you have to have a good balance between fuck it and effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/20 07:01 PM
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So are Pick mes/simps desperate with low self esteem or just showing effort? Genuinely asking, cause I’m a female and I put in lots of effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/20 02:16 PM
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Welp! I just discovered that I’m a pick me :(
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/20 02:09 PM
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So fcuking true. Attractive people has a different set of problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/20 07:23 PM
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You can drive 5 over...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/20 06:16 PM
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My ex was like this. He was politically liberal and lived downtown, yet his lifestyle was very conservative. He was against marijuana, didn’t like bars, never stayed up late, obeys the speed limit, etc. Overall a pretty boring guy. He also dressed like a grandpa too. He wore those old white shoes that old men wears, old shirts from high school. Just really bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/20 05:23 PM
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Yet white women are the most desired.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/20 05:44 PM
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Sadly it continues with the kids too. I met my bf’s parents and holy shit they have zero backbone. My BF had a tantrum and cussed at his parents and they just let it happen. The dad did not show any masculinity. It’s a let down. Maybe it’s because I grew up in a military household, but cussing was a no no growing up.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/20 05:43 PM
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To be honest I’m not happy with the relationship. If you read my post history it would explain a lot. He has a mental illness that he doesn’t want to admit to. However his parents loves me and talks shit about his ex to me which puts me in an awkward position.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/20 02:18 PM
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It is what it is...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/20 03:51 AM
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When I lived in the UK it seemed like British men had no issues with approaching. American men are a little different.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 03:49 PM
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I’m a subscriber to his podcast. I also listen to Rachel Cruz and Chris Hogan. They are all in biz of helping people get out of debt.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 03:38 PM
2

Dave Ramsey is in the business of helping people get out of debt. I’ve never heard him say anything like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 03:33 PM
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Absolutely. We align politically and constantly have conversations about it and the stock market too. We have bomb ass sex to boot.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 03:08 PM
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I think some males (the smart ones) chooses the girl that has a pleasant, nice, and smart personality over looks. I’m not the prettiest girl in the room, but the guy I’m with is hell bent over me. His ex was fat, but had big boobs and a pretty face. Apparently she was/is a Bitch. She was mean to him and he left her for me. It kinda weirded me out at first.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 02:31 PM
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Husband material:Has a career, stable, has values and morals, and good with kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/20 07:42 PM
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That sounds like my ex. Whiny, spoiled, disrespectful to his parents, financially a shit show, lazy, mentally crazy, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/20 07:44 PM
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You'd be surprised...
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/20 03:59 AM
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I just came up with that number.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/20 08:40 PM
2

Black/Pink pill right here^
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/20 07:43 PM
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It kinda makes me scratch my head in why men allows it (obviously looks) yet they cringe at the behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/20 04:59 PM
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This is where I’m at. Sadly the guys I like that are like me are not into me or already married.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/20 04:54 PM
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😂😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/20 04:42 PM
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Ahhh that’s the dream! You and your wife are rockstars!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/20 04:40 PM
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My mom stayed at home with my sister for 6 years and after I was born she worked part time. When I was in middle school she worked full time. I want a family FYI. Looking back in my college years, I was pretty serious about things and I guess I came off as abrasive towards people. I guess that’s why I didn’t have a lot of guys chasing me and I didn’t have many friends. I did go out to parties, but I had priorities. I kinda feel I did college wrong :/
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/20 03:31 PM
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What if she’s into triathlons? I say this because my boss’s sister has 6 kids and has done several Ironmans (pre-COVID). She’s not fat at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/20 03:26 PM
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You are correct. There are the powerlifting girls that wears big shirts, big pants, headphones in, not playing on their phone, puts their head down and works out. Those girls aren’t there for men. They are extremely attractive and men looks at them. Then you have some of the cardio bunnies that wears tight shorts and just a sports bra. We all know what they’re doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/20 02:31 PM
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I see what you’re saying. When I’m done with work I’ll make thread. I think it would be a great discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/20 09:38 PM
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Red pill here ladies and fellas. This is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/20 09:36 PM
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This is how I feel about online dating. It’s antisocial.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/20 07:49 PM
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Ouch I guess I’m that female. I can say my parents (my dad especially) raised me like a Navy cadet and always told me to depend on myself and be smart. Why is that behavior viewed as masculine? Just looking back at my childhood I guess it was “masculine”, but grown adults always liked me and said things like “you’re very mature and you are doing better than most adults.” I guess what I’m asking is, why for women in particular having their shit together (job, no debt, discipline, etc) is masculin…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/20 07:37 PM
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Haha I cringe at my gender sometimes. I go to the gym to increase my endurance. Since race season is cancelled, I’m in maintenance mode. Plus I’m wearing an oxygen resistant mask so I don’t have time look for attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/20 07:30 PM
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The person you replied to.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/20 07:28 PM
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The poster has a point. In certain parts of the country if a woman doesn’t have her shit together by 30 she’s kinda a failure. If a man doesn’t have his shit together by 35 (sperm kids thing) he’s kinda a failure. Sad but true. Where I’m from if you aren’t married by a certain age people see’s you as a failure and something is wrong with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/20 04:31 PM
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It sounds like that woman is a toddler. I guess because I have my own shit going on (gym, hobbies) I just don’t understand why some females act like that. Don’t get me wrong men can be like that (neediness/validation) I dated one and it was extremely exhausting.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/20 03:42 PM
1

Define alcoholic. Is it one glass a day? Or 3 beers a day?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/20 03:39 PM
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During sex play sure. It’s kinda a turn on... 👀
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/20 01:53 PM
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Yeah low count women that aren’t on apps typically looks for guy like that. I know I have in the past. It’s not easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 10:01 PM
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I’m on a secret finance forum and one of the posters there played this while a female manager was ripping him apart. The manager and HR were super friendly towards him after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 02:30 PM
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Those women aren’t looking to settle down and raise a family with the whore.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 01:42 PM
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I agree. If he was a Reddit nerd women wouldn’t be chasing him. However, he’s the example of some virgin men should follow. Be charming, fit, wear attractive clothes, have something going for you, etc. I was a virgin till I was 21 and it all finally clicked when I started working out and dressing better.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/20 10:44 PM
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Tebow is a wholesome family man Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/20 09:52 PM
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Yeah no one wants the town whore.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/20 05:51 PM
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I like to use the Tim Tebow example. He’s a good looking, wealthy, athletic, wholesome, charming, mature, and respectable man. He also happen to have a lot of women (and gay men) seeking him, but he didn’t whore himself out. A lot of women looks for a man like Tebow, highly sought after, but shows self control. I know lots of women that got horny after he publicly admitted that he was a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/20 04:29 PM
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From my experience they don’t. They’d rather jack off to anime pron than approach a female.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/20 03:51 PM
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Some men are desperate or maybe she has a pleasant personality?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/20 02:50 PM
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Lol that shit doesn’t mean fuck. HR is to protect the company not the employees. The only time a company gets harassment nervous is when a “marginalised” member gets ripped or fired. If you're a straight white guy and you feel that you were wronged by a shit boss, claim to be gay or bisexual and watch how quickly your company will make things right. These days all it takes is “are you treating me badly because I’m female/Hispanic/gay/etc?” Will turn heads quickly. No company wants to be in the n…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 06:10 PM
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Yeah even average dudes won’t date ugly girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 02:45 PM
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Ehhh not true. I’m in corporate America and women will rip other women a new one if something is not right. I’ve been ripped to shreds from other women in multiple jobs. I usually find another job weeks after.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 02:29 PM
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Oh my SO place was always in a mess. Dishes everywhere, clothes all over the place, etc. Then he would complain that he had no clean dishes when he cooked.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 08:47 PM
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I have. It’s a weird feeling like, am I going to get snatched tomorrow?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 04:09 PM
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I care about a guy’s number. It can show if he has self control or not. I prefer wholesome and moral men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 03:58 PM
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From the rural south, this is all true. The educated girls married their college bf 2-3 years after college and had a baby soon after. I don't even live down south and I feel some pressure to marry the guy I'm dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 11:04 PM
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All of this^ People in general take married people more serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 10:58 PM
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Speaking (typing) as a non "objectively attractive" female that lives in one of the worst cities for dating, females don't have it easy on apps. 200 matches? 100 will not respond, 50 could be fake profiles, 20ish are duds, maybe 5ish are decent in person. I barely got any matches and I tried really hard too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 10:42 PM
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I feel you on this. I was raised in the rural south, but my parents were middle upperish class. They grew up super poor and always talked about money. I went to private school, but my mom used coupons at Walmart. Even though I make decent money now, I still worry about financial stability. I'm dating a guy with mental issues and both of his parents are millionaires. He wastes so much money on junk I internally explode. I watched him drop over $5K on art and he doesn't even have a job nor his own…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 09:20 PM
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They're not getting the same attention though that's the point, you guys say it here constantly aswell men are thirstyer(is this a word ?) than women and are far more likely to simp to a beautiful girl. I've seen it with my own eyes, men who have 0 chances still shoot their shot & believe by virtue of being "nice" I.e favours/gifts she will look past his unnactractiveness/low social standing. Women tend to stay in their lane more when it comes to looks (maybe not resources but that's another ket…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 08:53 PM
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Nahhh most are naive. I went to college at a well known party school. I had classes with the most attractive females in the state/coast. Some were in magazines, TV shows, etc. They absolutely are naive. Some are complete airheads though. The conversations I would overhear are the most bone dry it's unbelievable.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 08:44 PM
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Sex is emotional for some people. Building up the anticipation makes the sex better and enjoyable emotionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/20 02:45 PM
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So why is waiting months for sex bad? I grew up conservative and sex for marriage and lots of young folks changed that to sex is for only LTR leading to marriage. Where should one fall into that category in modern dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/20 06:14 PM
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What if the girl doesn’t want to come off as clingy and waits after sex because ya know the “test drive.” Lots of people wait to have sex. Not everyone is a whore.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/20 05:44 PM
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Not all the time. If a female is highly interested in a guy, they’ve been dating for months, and after the deed she asks for a title. If the guy says no or “I don’t believe in labels” bs who’s fault is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/20 04:12 PM
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I work in finance in an “outdoors” state and it’s a mix between fly fishing and doing a massive hike. The finer things (pre COVID) was eating a $200 steak.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/20 02:21 PM
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Haha! Is it me or did hunting/fishing become yuppie hobbies?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/20 04:53 AM
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Agreed I’m the same. I remember one of my male colleagues telling me to post more pictures and update my social media. He’s the guy that has a new picture every day of his family. I flat out said no. Just because I did a high altitude race in the mountains doesn’t mean I need to brag about it. Also when did posting fishing picture become adventurous and expensive? Rods are hundreds and the good reels are close to $1K. When my dad was growing up he fished because he was broke AF.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/20 09:50 PM
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I agree. I like the outdoors, traveling, and such, but I don’t take pictures of it. My problem that I had with app dating is not enough “interesting” photos so I barely got any matches. I’m female by the way. I enjoy running and cycling it’s just I'd rather not take pictures. That’s just me. I guess I’m boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/20 09:27 PM
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When I was on Hinge back in the day it seemed like every white dude age 25-35 had a fishing picture, travelled to New Zealand or Machu Pichu. It seems like traveling to London or Paris is too cliche these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/20 08:20 PM
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Music and podcasts :)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/20 01:59 AM
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Pretty sure 90% of the dating subs on Reddit is full of jaded people. I would assume most aren’t sluts (male and female).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/20 03:38 PM
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Can one be jaded and not be a slut?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/20 04:40 AM
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It’s hilarious that Reddit nerds are so concerned about your spouse.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 05:27 PM
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Yeah I see the humour from miles away. He’s right though, some dudes are pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 05:21 PM
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It’s gross and just playing the game... Those women that does it to climb the corporate ladder are especially smart because they are playing the game. Hate the game not the player.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 05:20 PM
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Yeah it’s exhausting. I just don’t want to be another single Black woman meme. We both want marriage and he’s the only guy that’s expressed that to me (yeah low self esteem for ya). I just don’t want to deal with the dating market, because it’s a Shit show. Even my 30+ devout Catholic friends on Catholic match is having a hard time too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/20 06:29 PM
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Absolutely! I grew up in church and some of the Christian couples is something that I and many others want, but it takes discipline.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/20 05:01 AM
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I'm kinda in that situation. With a man that has no job and paying for everything. I even paid for my birthday dinner too. He has a mental illness and gets very emotional and sensitive over the smallest things. Kinda annoying. Oh and when he was living with me I did the cooking and cleaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/20 03:49 AM
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Holy shit the amount of women that are a single mom with a husband is high, especially the older generation. I've read and listened too many older 50+ women that said "my husband was at work all day and didn't help with kids..." or "I always took the kids to practice while my husband was gone..."
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/20 12:35 AM
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I can see this, it happened to me several times in college. Average to below average dudes that liked me with nothing much to offer that didn't want a relationship,etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/20 12:31 AM
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I almost choked on y'all replies. So much truth!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/20 12:25 AM
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I wish I had most of the list. Hell I can't even get a guy to workout with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/20 12:14 AM
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Which is why approaching males is not very good. I was raised to let the man approach me so I wouldn’t come off as fast.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/20 08:49 PM
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Ding ding ding! That’s why she’s having trouble with dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 08:22 PM
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Yeah my BF is like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/20 10:56 PM
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You just described my BPD BF’s mom. He has zero respect for his mom. She is too nice to him. He’s in his 30s and she is still supporting him through all of his bullshit. She was a SAHM and all 3 of the kids are fucked up in some way. Because they are UMC they cover up the BS in public.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/20 03:49 PM
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Yeah I went to UMC type schools and people marry within their class and educational levels. All the PHD folks I knew back in the day married someone with at least a masters.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/20 03:20 PM
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Correct. I went on a date with a guy one time and I wasn’t feeling it, something was off about him. Later he told me that he was still talking to his ex. After one date, he would text “good morning” every fucking day for 2 weeks straight. After the 15th “good morning” text I just told him I wasn’t interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 02:23 PM
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Yes! I dated a dorky engineer that had no sense of style and didn’t wear a watch. Guys that are opposite of that has zero issues with getting dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 02:12 PM
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Because WoMeN Are AwFuL!!! Reeeeeee!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/20 01:42 PM
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Yeah women get ridiculed for not being feminine if they aren’t organized or into girly things. It’s very insulting not fitting in when you’re 15 for not painting your nails, not wearing make up, or being organized. I know what that’s like.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/20 06:42 PM
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I’d be offended if his number was high.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/20 04:37 PM
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Well my dad owned several real estate properties out of state. He bought them in the marriage. To to average people that is a lot yes you are correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/20 04:29 PM
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You are correct. My dad owned several rental properties and classic cars. On paper and reality my mom didn’t get much. She made the argument that she took care of the kids while working 50+ hours a week while he played Army man overseas.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/20 04:27 PM
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Yeah my parents were married for 30 years and my mom didn’t get much. Just a house and 2 cars. No alimony nor cash.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/20 09:29 AM
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Yeah I’m confused too.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/20 09:21 AM
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This^ white women can claim oppression and men will save them the minute they get a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/20 05:06 PM
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I’m not going to lie I do wish I could wear a GoPro to meetings I’ve had with past and current managers. The most ridiculous bull shit that was said to me does make me think “are they being racist?” However I just move on find another job that pays more. Racism is a real thing and I’m saying that because, when I get sent home for a pair of leather shoes, while Stacy looks like she’s at the club does scratch my head. And yes that did happen to me before.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 06:38 PM
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Yeah I know and it’s sad too. I hate the diversity requirements in corporate America and I’m a minority. It’s totally Bullshit that some bimbo that cruised through college (didn’t study because professors liked her) and gets promoted because she processed a few more transactions than the others on her team. I have literally seen bimbos get easy work and then weeks later gets promoted. All because she’s pretty. Not hating the player, I just hate the game.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 06:21 PM
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I work in corporate America and most of “VPs” at these companies are young attractive white women. Most are terrible leaders too and got that title because they have perky tits and a cute smile. I can’t tell you how many times they’ve been completely dumbfounded on basic shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 05:28 PM
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Yes most of the attractive white women I know are usually dating men in their class or higher. What baffles me is that the rich dudes will pay for everything for them. Rent, student loans, vacations (pre virus), purses, etc. I don’t even ask men to pay for my shit, but I’ve never had a man pay a bill for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 03:06 PM
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You are absolutely right. I went to uni at a very white and rich school and 90% of the white girls there were basic AF and had zero awareness of their privilege.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 02:56 PM
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For attractive women yes. Ugly? God no !
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 02:49 PM
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Seriously. If you’re a male that has his shit together (job, own place, vehicle, not crazy, not in crazy debt, has a decent social circle) yes you are a prize.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 12:35 PM
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Yeah and I feel sorry for men on the apps. A lot of girls swipe left on a decent guy, but they swipe left because he’s holding a fish and/or is 5’7. I hate to say this, but white women has it very easy. I’ve liked all kinds of profiles of males, even the cliche fishing profiles and barely received the same. I’ve never received 700 messages of “hey” before.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 08:51 PM
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I think the results won’t be that great. I think in YouTube there are some videos of black women’s experiences OLD/app dating. It’s not pretty.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 08:02 PM
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Cool! Now make a profile with an average black woman in a white state (Montana, South Dakota, etc) and come back with the results...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 07:32 PM
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Yeah when I was on the apps I barely had any matches and if I did they barely responded to messages. Also Chad is not swiping right on every female. Chad is chooses white he fucks with..
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 03:39 PM
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They are! I know one girl that’s overweight, but has gorgeous long hair and a beautiful face. She’s about to get engaged and every time there was a work happy hour dudes would always be in her face. She has wonderful and bubbly personality to boot.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 04:53 PM
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You are so right about the 9-5 dumbasses. I work in a white collar field and the fat n happy types are the ones happy to go home to their spouses and kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 02:07 PM
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Ignorance is bliss as they say... You’re right though. My parents did dating by the book and they got married. I tried to to dating by the book and it’s been nothing, but failures.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 02:01 PM
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I love a man with a hairy chest. I guess that’s the cavewoman in me...
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 01:57 PM
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He shouldn’t be paying for her shit at the beginning. That’s his problem. Lol at paying for shit before being married.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/20 02:38 PM
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Lol I have zero student debt... lol at the men that rejected me over looks!!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/20 02:21 PM
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Where did I say I was in a relationship with a married man? I’m in a relationship with a man that has a mental illnesses. You mentioned that your friend is married to women with an illness. All I said was God bless him because it’s not easy. I know this because I don’t want to date the man I’m with.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/20 07:42 PM
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What?!? I think what I wrote you took out of context. Have a good day sir.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/20 07:28 PM
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I have sympathy for him because he’s married to a woman with a mental illness. It’s not easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/20 07:06 PM
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I’m currently in (trying to leave) a relationship with a schizophrenic/schizo-active with BPD male and it’s a nightmare. I use to be chilled out and relaxed, now I have anxiety and stressed out over him. Not sure how he’s dealing with her, but God bless him.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/20 06:57 PM
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Buuuurrrrrnnnnn!!! Funny there’s a stat out there that women are buying homes faster than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/20 05:13 PM
2

I am pointing out that not all women are the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 11:10 PM
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I don’t post pics of myself and men do not “slip” into my DMs...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 10:59 PM
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But can you blame them though? No one asked to be born into this world. I wish my parents were easier on me, maybe I wouldn’t turnout to be socially awkward in college. It’s too late now... The change I can make is to not raise my future kids like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 09:48 PM
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I feel like this is the same for a few females that doesn’t have “dating game.” (In before girls don’t have to try posts). The girls in high school and college that always had boyfriends knew how to flirt and date. Those were the girls at the parties with drugs and alcohol. They now are married and working on baby 2..
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 09:45 PM
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Ahhh the ol following book kids. My ex was like this which made him a bit boring. Not to say he didn’t have fun, he did. Yet he was very safe. I rebelled a little against my parents strict rules.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 09:34 PM
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What grinds my gears is that some parents thinks it’s cute their 4 year old is bossy. It’s even more hilarious when it’s posted on social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 09:30 PM
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Female here I would do the same when I have kids. They (I hope) will be into sports and team stuff. Hopefully if they decide to go to college they will be interested in Greek life. I don’t want them to weird or awkward like I was.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 09:15 PM
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I feel you OP. My parents are religious and somewhat strict. At 16 all I did was stay at home, church, and my sport. That was hit. No hanging with friends unless they were from church. I didn’t even “date.” I feel like I was sheltered growing up. By the time I was in college I felt so socially awkward and behind that I had social anxiety.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 08:40 PM
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Yeah I envy my parents generation, they had fun back in the day. Now people are on eggshells these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/20 03:09 PM
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Unless he brings home STIs and HIV...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/20 05:33 PM
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OP does have a point though. Regular people I know in real life does not go on Reddit to look for help with dating (male and female). Dating for them is easy, because they aren’t weird and is attractive. Hell regular basics doesn’t even know what Reddit is.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/20 10:12 AM
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Some of the most sluttiest women I knew in college are married and preggo/preggo with baby 2. You know why they’re married? Because they’re hot and knows how to play the game. Meanwhile the average and homely looking girls nearing 30 are single.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 10:58 PM
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Don’t care I want it all!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 08:29 PM
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Damn that’s deep! I believe in potential too. It’s why my parents are inspired me to work hard for my money. He says all these things, but I have some doubts. When this pandemic is over I will see if he’s better, if not I’m out. Sadly I’m 30 and washed up according to TRP :/
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 08:24 PM
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I can’t tell you how many attractive girls on my social media will post an essay about their depression struggle and will have 100s of likes and comments on it. It’s like they get pass for it. These girls also grew up with rich parents, going to exclusive schools, driving nice cars, and having a decent well connected social circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 08:06 PM
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Ahhhh polo!! I’d love to play it, but that’s fuck you money status.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 08:04 PM
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Believe I know! The red pill helped me when I was 25-27 with finances and career stuff. I told him yesterday that most women would not date him right now. He’s doing some community service for the legal stuff then getting a job. I will say though, if I dump him (I have before) I will be that girl that can’t keep a man and won’t be there for him at his lowest. It’s fucked up and his parents know it too. There was a time when my parents were dirt poor eating sardines while the lights were off and …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 07:55 PM
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You are 1000000X right on social mistakes. If Chad and Stacy gets drunk at a bar it’s funny. If an ugly person does it, no one wants to be around them, they have a perceived drinking problem, they need to grow up, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 07:32 PM
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Yes to all of this. I was fat kid too and puberty was a shit show. Would not wish it on my worse enemy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 07:29 PM
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Well I’m actually dating a guy that rejected a relationship with me in the past and now that I make money and have my shit together he wants to family plan. I’m walking on eggshells because he’s basically me years ago, but much worse. He’s homeless and in a shit ton of debt. When we first got back together he was starting a business and now it’s a joke. Hell I even offered to help him with the advertising, but his ego got in the way. The women that posts those cringe memes are jokes. If I were a…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 07:18 PM
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Oh those memes are cringe and I see them all over social media, like GTFO! If I was guy I wouldn’t date myself at my worse. Maybe I have high standards, but when you’re at a certain age some things are just not tolerated.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 07:10 PM
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That’s awesome!! I use to be apart of it, but I had some issues with people in it. I still believe in my faith though! I hope you find the one :)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 07:04 PM
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Sad but true...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 06:39 PM
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Exactly it’s the situation I’m in now. I’m pretty much being a mommy to my BF. He’s in a lot of trouble and I’m trying to be positive, but it’s exhausting.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 06:05 PM
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I’m a female and when I was unemployed, fat, hair nappy, low confidence, etc no man wanted me. I get the premise of the question, but who wants to date someone at their worst? This is a different world and struggle love is not attractive these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 06:01 PM
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I hear ya on this. I’m from the country and pretty sheltered and Chads n Brads didn’t look at me. I wasn’t fast enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 05:46 PM
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Those kinds of guys are rare! I love him!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 05:42 PM
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I’m Catholic too, but not practicing. Have you joined any young adult groups? I know the ones at my old church got married to each other!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 05:40 PM
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We’ve. Talked about it and his mother is secretly talking to me about him. Not sure what game she’s playing, but she briefly mentioned not having kids with him. Not sure if it’s because I’m black and he’s white or if it’s his personality... who knows. The thing is I’m 30 and dating at my age is a shit show. Not sure if I should stick it out or play the field.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 03:11 PM
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Fencing. Good blades cost about $200 these days. A serious fencer usually has 5-10 minimum of weapons for tournaments. In case it doesn’t work. When I was competitive back in the day a good blade cost $140. Let’s not even talk about travel expenses, camps, lessons, etc shit adds up. Oh yeah Hockey and Lacrosse are extremely expensive these days. I know one parent that’s spent over $10K on her son’s hockey shit, but they live in MN.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 03:08 PM
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As female I feel like I can chime in on this. I was a super late bloomer and I didn’t have my first kiss until I was 19 in college, 21 first time with sex, 27 with first real BF. The guy I had sex with for the first time was a friend of mine and I wanted a relationship with him, he strung me along with the “I’m not ready” BS. Then another guy (I’m currently with) played the same game with me at 24-25. After he “broke up” me I was single and not having sex until 27 when I dated a dorky engineer. …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 02:44 PM
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I don’t want a high N count man. I’d feel I would constantly on my heals and insecure. Plus it’s not really safe. Comes off as trashy too. Yes I’ve received negative reactions.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 02:58 AM
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I can understand why. The “ghetto” types see her as uppity. At 30 I’ve learned to code switch with blacks that didn’t grow up like me. Sad but true. It maybe a double life, but it eliminates problems down the road.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 02:24 AM
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I 100% agree! I’m into running and a niche sport that costs a lot of money. A few weeks ago I dropped over $200 on the top of the line mask. Zero regrets. The guy I’m dating told me his ex had a problem with him buying hunting gear. I said it’s your money go ahead and buy it. Hell if we were married I’d give him $1K BassPro gift card because love. Btw I was driving a vehicle that was over 13 years old and it got me from point A to B. You love and take care of that sedan. I know a millionaire tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 01:55 AM
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There maybe some truth to the last part. I’ve been madly in love with a man for 10 years and last year he came back into my life and honestly it’s been stressful. I use to have a routine and now there is a cog in the wheel. I am doing my best to love him in hard times and not to come off as mean. Is it really hard to have your shit together at 33? He’s a grown man and his mom is still helping him out. Lucky for him, but I feel like if we were to ever get married I would be babysitting not only t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 01:49 AM
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Black woman here.. take my upvote and money. My life is literally shit for me. I say that as a white collar, almost zero debt, roof over my head, educated, low key, and fit. Some people think I have it easy, but no it sucks ass. I hate to say this, but if I was just an average white female, my life would be 10000x better.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/20 10:46 PM
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Yeah like wasting money.. define wasting money? I’ve been needing a blender for 6 months. Should I spend $40 on amazon for it or not make smoothies for the rest of my life?!? Everybody has different definitions of “wasting money...” BTW I bit the bullet and bought the blender.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/20 10:41 PM
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I kinda chuckled at the night club thing (pre COVID). It’s one thing if it’s every weekend, but once every 6 months to see a particular DJ is debatable.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/20 04:04 PM
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Well I’m 30 and the days of making things complicated are over for me. I’ve been ready to settle down and start a family for awhile. Currently in a relationship with a man that wants the same, but his mental health is shit. All I want is peace and to be left alone. The salon I went to (pre COVID) was filled with the ghetto types. I didn’t agree with them 90% of the time, but I needed my hair done because I had work the next day. I sadly had a double life with them. They didn’t understand that th…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/20 03:40 PM
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There are loser women and men. Just make an average female profile on any dating app and you will see.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/20 12:40 PM
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Yeah I want more socialising among my peers 30-35, but it’s “weird” and seen as desperate.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 11:29 PM
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Yep I was raised like this. Both my mom and grandmother was like this towards their man. They made their husbands the Center of attention. It doesn’t matter if the man is being abusive or mediocre. A lot of women are taught to stick it out or have the persona of not “keeping a man around.” Sad, but true.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 03:52 PM
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Yeah UMC men aren’t going to seriously date trashy low class women with nothing going for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 02:33 PM
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Oh I get it. The thuggish types check me out now than ever before, especially if I’m holding hands with a white dude. I’m sorry non ghetto black girls didn’t check you out. I didn’t have any white collar black men check me out, because most were dating white women. No hard feelings from me. For a lot of UMC blacks we have peculiar dating experiences. We subvert stereotypes and it causes confusion with white and black people. I know several UMC blacks that refuses to have black friends because of…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 02:02 PM
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Female version of this. I grew up going to private schools. Went to college on the west and played “white girl” sports. The funny thing is in college the seldom attention I received was from white dudes and one Korean guy. Zero black men checked me out. It was almost like I was “too white washed” for them, yet they dated white girls. I am a white collar job and still the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 10:42 AM
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I’m from the country/rural south and I was hungry for city living. I love driving and cars, but people watching on a bus/train is peaceful.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 06:40 PM
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Same here. I have a white collar job (pre cova) and had the same 6+ for years while taking the bus to work. I saved so much of money by not spending on gas. Plus my insurance rate went down too. It’s fiscally responsible in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 03:49 PM
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Yeah the stigma is awful. I know lots of New Yorkers that takes the subway all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/20 03:35 PM
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Too “white washed” for black men, and not attractive enough for some white dudes. It is what it is...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 10:14 PM
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30F black and Native American. Conservative, likes a little bit of weed, listens to hippy music and other stuff (rap, thrash metal, bluegrass, country, house), I like guns, outdoorsy, running, hiking, etc. I’m also from the South too. If I was a white woman I would have zero issues with dating, in fact a lot of dudes would want me with those kinds of interest. Since I’m a minority it’s a bit confusing for some people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 04:18 PM
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Yes to all of this! I feel like square black people are the types to be on message boards. I was pretty lonely growing up, so message boards kept me entertained. I have heard from numerous people that Asians and Middle Easterns are more racist than 1950s whites. I have some Asian and ME friends that aren’t like that, but I’d imagine their parents and grandparents are pretty racist.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 04:01 PM
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It’s the same in my area. Indian women usually has advanced degrees and high up the chain professionally by 35.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 03:43 PM
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I feel you. There are some black dudes I’d love to date in my area, but they date white girls. The preppy, dorky, conservative black dudes aren’t seen with black women most of the time. When I was in college the attention I did receive (which was very small) was by white dudes. Black dudes never checked me out. I was too republican back in the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 03:41 PM
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Absolutely shitty.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 03:33 PM
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My ex (he has BPD and possibly schizophrenic) said my mom was a loser for not breastfeeding me that’s why I’m a cold person. I cannot make this up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 11:37 PM
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Minority, making money, own place, own car, not much debt, in shape (pre virus), hobbies, not many friends, etc. I’d probably do well with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/20 10:10 PM
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I was about to say this. I’d assume a virus (no pun) would latch on to the phones. Yeah would not watch porn on my phone.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/20 10:07 PM
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My ex was like this. He was extremely intelligent, but dressed like an old man. Old white tennis shoes, geek t-shirts, too big jeans, an old leather coat from HS that was not flattering. I never tried to change him in anyway. I didn’t know his salary, but he made good money to afford a condo in a popular area of town. He would spend hundreds on games, anime, playing cards for magic the gathering game, but yet wouldn’t buy nice clothes for a nice steak dinner that I paid for. I was actually embar…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/20 09:48 PM
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Holy shit what a call out!! Congrats OP!!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/20 09:42 PM
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Oh yeah! I remember in college some dudes would be impressed that I drank whiskey instead of vodka. Seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/20 07:41 PM
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Yeah very few men are going to settle down with a 5 or under especially if she wants to be a homemaker. Unless it’s religious marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/20 07:38 PM
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That’s me right now. I spent a lot time with a man that I was hard working in his 20s then went into a deep slump in his 30s. It sucks honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/20 03:15 PM
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Fair point. However there are wanderlust women in their 30s and 40s that are into that. I have friend that travels all the time and has zero interest in having kids. She’s in her mid 30s and wants a guy that travels too. She dated a dude that lived I. Alaska that was into tj self-sufficient lifestyle that lives off the grid. He broke up with her because he’s not into dating plus he was in his late 40s. As I said, it’s what you make it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/20 03:26 PM
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No man or woman wants a “loser.” However it’s what you make or your situation...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/20 02:49 PM
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Both... sadly both men and women play games and entertains drama in their early 20s. There are special cases, but 90% of the time it’s all BS.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/20 02:44 PM
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I like the honesty in this.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 02:45 PM
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Lol! Mediocre dudes are told from day one the world is their oyster... Go out there and get it son!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 04:45 PM
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This^ My dad was pretty traditional in a lot of ways, but he was super hard on me growing up. Had my sibling and I outside working in the hot sun, washing cars, waxing, cutting the weeds, hard on me with school, and getting a decent job after school. I’m actually glad he raised me to me independent and self sufficient. I feel like I am miles ahead against my peers.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/20 04:43 PM
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Seriously. After work I would go straight to the gym, run, lift some weights, stretch and head home. Now I’ve been lazy the past few weeks. It sucks so much to stay motivated.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 01:10 AM
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I miss the gym so much...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 01:42 PM
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Fair point. My last ex was the opposite, his place was always a zoo and when he lived with me he never picked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 07:26 PM
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I sincerely doubt women are thinking about how clean a man’s place is while on a date. I also doubt people will ask about cleaning habits. It would come off as a stage 5 clinger.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 06:25 PM
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I have to agree with this. One of my ex’s was the cleanest man I ever dated. His condo was never messy, never had dishes in the sink, no clothes on the floor, etc. I never told him to change in anyway. The downside to him was that he was pretty beta in a lot of ways and dressed horribly wrong. He won’t have issues with women in the future. Honestly a grown adult shouldn’t be told to pick up their clothes off the floor, at least that’s how I was raised...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 06:15 PM
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Yeah it’s why it’s better to just do it yourself to avoid “nagging.” However it creates a cycle.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 06:07 PM
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Anything these days is considered emotional abuse. If you tell your SO to pick up the clothes off the floor (because their lazy) 5x or more it’s considered abuse now.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 06:05 PM
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Trust me I get it, some people make bad choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 08:19 PM
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Legally yes sadly.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 08:16 PM
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Exactly, especially if she wants to settle down and have kids. I myself makes decent money and I live an athletic lifestyle (run, gym, meal prep on Sundays). I’d want to settle down with man that’s similar to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 08:10 PM
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Well said. Dating is absolutely fucked. You were spot on when you mentioned the more unusual you are the harder it is. Particularly minorities that aren’t the stereotypes has this problem in dating especially online.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 08:06 PM
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You’d be surprised at the amount of broke adults...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 07:50 PM
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Ask 100 random tax payers would they be OK with this and 9 out of 10 would not be fine with paying for mom to be in jail while the kid is in foster care.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 03:23 PM
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Yeah I pretty much saying this before. Some men are already doing this right now, especially in the lower classes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 03:18 PM
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Aren’t some doing this right now with there kids? We’ve all heard the story of the dead beat dad not financially supporting the kid(s) and the mom is going through the court system to fight this. This isn’t new to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 03:13 PM
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Regarding point 2. Some people are in particular cultures and scenes. That’s where they find their partner, most of the time. I was recently scrolling through IG (bbq pages) and the couples on those pages are looks AND archetype matched. The guy into outdoor shit cooking with his barehands is dating/married to a country girl that bow hunts and shoots guns. They match and click with each other. I think the rp men that are struggling are probably not finding their looks and archetype match. Some p…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 11:21 PM
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Congrats on being attractive OP! Wish I had that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 08:32 PM
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Oh I agree. We had had different political opinions (he’s hardcore liberal and I’m pretty libertarian) not that we got in arguments over small shit. He was really into nerd culture (anime, programming, magic the gathering) and I wasn’t. I tried getting into Magic, but I thought it was cringe. On top of that he dressed like shit. The guy made a lot of money, but dressed like he was in high school and was too cheap to order a $7 uber (I even offered to pay) and would rather walk after a concert. O…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 08:12 PM
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Define small details... What’s small to one person is big to another. One of my ex’s broke up with me because one of my friend’s smoked marijuana on our way to concert. My friend that smoked owns his own house and is a Big 4 accountant. Oh and is about to get engaged too. My ex had a problem with marijuana use in a legal state. My friends think that is small while others see that as a red flag. It is what it is...
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 05:20 PM
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Exactly. People in general are pretty sensitive and does not like straight shooter types, regardless of the gender. Look at how dudes on here calls other men “assholes.” Those guys are usually straight shooters.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 05:04 PM
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OMG we are the same person. All throughout my career he’ll even at the grocery store certain people gets away with being late, wearing jeans, play music, being flirtatious, etc will not get in trouble. I remember when I was teller and like you I was 4 minutes late on Saturday morning (no lines since it we opening) and I got a coaching. Meanwhile Chad is always 10 minutes late and never gets a coaching. Bimbo Becky that never really talks to anyone gets treated like a princess and every male gets…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 03:54 PM
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Come on girls have to do way more in order to get socialized with the opposite sex. Shaving, make up, the right clothes, etc it’s all superficial Bullshit that males find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 03:35 PM
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I totally understand all of this. It’s like certain people can get away with being silly, getting “white girl wasted,” making inappropriate jokes, etc. if I did any of those things it’s cringe and weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 02:44 PM
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Well I’m not a gold digger and I don’t want men to willy billy buy me shit just because. I wasn’t raised like that. Not all girls lives life like a freeloader. Plus when I was in college I didn’t get invited to road trips, spring break, boats, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 02:31 PM
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That shit gives me lolzzz it’s always have found a boyfriend yet?!? Errrrrr I didn’t know how to socialize until I was 25 and by then it’s too late to find any decent friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 10:23 PM
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Yeah Money is a big factor in these things. It’s why I brought up in another thread that hobbies cost money. It’s why I didn’t have much going on with me after I graduated from college making $8.40 per hour. Can’t do shit with that money.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 10:00 PM
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If I ever have kids I will make sure they play team sports and get involved in various clubs in school. I won’t be authoritative like my mom and dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 08:54 PM
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Ahhh I miss cookout (I’m from the south)! Those were the days :) Scumbag mode is fun, but after a certain age it’s not cool lol!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 06:37 PM
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I get you on this. My mom is very introverted and doesn’t let people get close to her so I learned that at a young age. She doesn’t have any friends and would freak out when I was younger when I did talk to boys. So when college came around I had no idea what to do regarding socializing with boys. I was always envious of people with cool parents that let them go to parties and have friends. I didn’t get that growing up :/
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 05:27 PM
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Yeah when bring your kid to work day was at my job last year, you can tell the kids that are sociable verses the kids that are on the iPad all day. It’s day and night. The kid that doesn’t have an iPhone would approach adults like myself and ask what I was doing, etc. The other kids were too shy for that and instead played games. The biggest mistake a parent could make today is giving a kid an iPad.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 05:19 PM
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Absolutely! 100%!! This is the root of the problem. Parenting. If your parents didn’t suggest that you go out and make friends during the summer, then they failed that part. My parents didn’t encourage me to make friends, they pushed the educational things on me. While they had good intentions, I failed learning some social skills growing up and it caught up to me when I was in college.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 05:16 PM
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Oh I agree with you in this stuff 100%. After college I had a hard time finding a job so I had to take a job stocking groceries and making $8.40 per hour for a couple of months. It was humbling and hard work. It wasn’t the 9-5 schedule. I took up running as a hobby because it was “cheap” and I became mad fit by it. Any hobby can get expensive, just like running. When you add in race fees, new shoes after certain mileage (lol at that red pill) socks, clothing, etc it gets pricey.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 05:04 PM
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Well there are weekend warriors in my state. The ones that works 40 hours and has time to run a marathon. Yeah those peeps exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 03:22 PM
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I can answer the last part. After college for me at least, my parents cut me off and I had bills to pay. I pretty much stop playing the sports I did in college, because the adult leagues were too expensive and/or the meet up times was during work. So for about 3+ years all I did in early to mid twenties was work, pay bills, gym, go to concerts, smoke weed, and Netflix. I didn’t have money to go out to bars, so I drank at home by myself. Plus I didn’t have many friends. I didn’t even have time no…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 03:14 PM
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Religious and votes Democrat’s. I’m not very religious yet I’m as nationalist libertarian as it gets. Real head scratcher there.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/20 06:47 PM
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Hahaha wearing the Jcrew shorts as I’m working from home. I need to build my confidence up before I can make that plunge. Thanks for the kind words 🤘
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/20 06:33 PM
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I’m telling you, I had a very hard time with dating on the apps and IRL. It also doesn’t help that I vote conservative. When I was 27 I had my first real boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/20 06:31 PM
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Nahhh born n bread southern black folks. I will say they do enjoy some of the music I listen too, but not the hard stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/20 06:30 PM
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This is spot on. A lot of people shit on frat guys in college, but those kinds of guys even the ones majoring in engineering knew how to dress and had a high social IQ. Some of the most popular dudes at my school were engineers or CS majors. They just knew how to talk to people with coming off as weird or robotic.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/20 04:32 PM
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Ahhh I always wanted to feel apart of the punk/metal scene, but I don’t even dress like it. I’m kinda nervous to go to a gig honestly. I grew up with conservative parents and they shunned me for liking and even wearing the clothes. So I’m this preppy black chick wearing Patagonia, listening to Pantera and Gojira on my way to my banking job. I just wouldn’t fit in and I don’t want to come off as a poser.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/20 04:12 PM
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Holy shit I wish I could upvote this 10000x. You are right about men doing household shit (not to say women are cleaner) being seen as a feminine thing. The guy a I use to date was not very clean and expected me to do household chores and to cook too. If he did cook it was just basic things, like tacos and hamburgers.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/20 04:06 PM
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Meh I got over it and it just made me wiser.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/20 02:38 PM
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Sorry for offering input. I’ll leave. You know some girls that happens to not be white that are awkward does not have life on easy mode.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/20 02:36 PM
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Female here, I had this happen to me. All it takes is one cringe awkward moment and it’s all over.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/20 02:13 PM
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This applies to “ugly” women too. I’m not very attractive, but I can’t tell you how many times a Becky or a Stacy has tried to get me in trouble or fired professionally. At one job this blonde literally hated my guts and all I did was kept quiet and did my work. She was always aggressive towards me and other people at that job would ask me why was she so mean to me. I didn’t have an answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/20 02:09 PM
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Yes. Some men are attractive, but they don’t have their shit together. Thus unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/20 10:41 PM
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Well I’ll give you an answer from my point of view. Some people like myself grew up with overbearing and authoritarian type parents that solely pushed to focus on school and getting a good job. In my early twenties I was focused on getting a good job after college. Even though I went out to bars and parties I wasn’t really flirty with guys and I guess they saw that. I was their to make friends. I also didn’t know how to date nor flirt so I was pretty awkward well into my twenties. I didn’t start…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/20 10:00 PM
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Please post this on the bodybuilding misc forums. They say getting dating advice from women is awful, but all of this is spot on. I’d also add be mentally healthy to the list, this goes for everyone. If you have any sort of mental illness go see a doctor about it, because when you do enter a relationship the issues will show up and show out without mentioning it to your partner. A relationship won’t fix depression nor anxiety.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/20 09:51 PM
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When I was on the apps thing, so many dudes needed help. I myself wasn’t that great, but I put in effort in the bio. Some average to below dudes would only have 1-3 photos and bios were often 1 worded. I remember one dude his interest was tacos. I kid you not. Then the dudes that does have interesting bios and photos are usually too busy to respond or out of my league. So the app game is just a circle of problems which causes people to give up and jack/jill off every night. Online dating is one …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/20 09:24 PM
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I can understand this. My dating pool wasn’t very big and I’m kinda stuck with my bf until I move out of state. Last weekend I blew up and yelled at him to get a job and he didn’t take it very well. If you read my post history you’ll see why I said that. I can’t imagine the stress you’re in. It will get better.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/20 07:08 PM
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Fuck cancer! I wish y’all the best!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/20 07:04 PM
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Absolutely. I wasn’t 100% on moving in before marriage thing (I see both sides), but a lot of couples I’ll come out different after this is over.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/20 07:04 PM
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Absolute truth right here. My bf (soon to be ex) is unemployed and living with me. I don’t feel he’s a partner 100%. The majority of the time he’s a burden. He has BPD, CTE, and wide range of other issues. Every time I get paid I feel like most of my money goes to food for us and barely any savings. I hate to complain, but that’s how it is. If he had a regular job I wouldn’t be typing this. I can also see why some women are monkey branching to “better” men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/20 01:36 PM
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Well the show Friends has lots of issues, but you’re right. Hell Ross was divorced and had a kid, yet was still in love with Rachel. He even had Hot flings, but was still in love with Rachel. Friends also showed how unrealistic single life can be. Living in a great city, big apartment, a different fling every weekend, shit talk your friends and they are still there for each other, emotional support, etc. I wish I had 5 friends that I could call on to meet, have coffee/drinks, talk about life, et…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/20 07:46 PM
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Yes UMC kids in general can get away with being “weird” in high school and not get shat on too much. The parents won’t like it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/20 05:15 PM
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Damn so much truth here. Some of the most alpha dudes I’ve been around came from single mom households. Those dudes in particular wants to be the strong family man type.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/20 05:14 PM
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This^ The whole “my wife is a nagging bitch” thing is kinda laughable. Leave the relationship or just be cleaner. They won’t leave because they want to bust a nut.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/20 05:11 PM
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Everyone has different opinions on what’s high value. A man that works out 5-6 days a week, eats healthy 90% of the time, has job, etc is A+ in my book. I do the same (before the shutdown). I would love for a guy to run 6 miles or more with me on a Saturday morning and come home we make brunch together. That’s a hot date in my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/20 05:05 PM
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I went to state school that had a large percentage of kids from UMC families and most of them did not have domestic skills. I had to teach 3 girls how to use the washing machine and my old roommate how to clean the shower. No joke some people were not taught how to do basic shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/20 01:04 PM
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Your sons are going to be a hot commodity once they hit the dating age. It is so attractive when a man has a clean place and knows how to cook.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/20 09:13 PM
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I’m currently trying to leave the relationship at the moment. His mom even knows that the relationship is not going anywhere given his circumstances. He’s basically affluenza kid with BPD. His mom always bails him out when he’s in trouble or needs money.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/20 08:56 PM
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This may come off as a dictatorship, but growing up I had both my parents get on my case about keeping a home clean. I grew up UMC with no maid or housekeeper. My mom would work and come home to cook. The house was also clean too. On Saturday mornings it was a routine for my sibling and I to clean the bathroom and to make sure the whole house was clean. When I got older and my parents divorced my dad’s house was clean as well my mom’s house. So living with a man that grew up with a housekeeper g…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/20 08:54 PM
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He tells me to communicate and I do. He even says I’m the boss sometimes. Which I don’t like.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/20 07:09 PM
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I always have a nice tone with him. He’s told me that his ex yelled at him all the time over chores so he has PTSD. I’d guess after working she would come home and the place would be a mess and naturally she’d get upset at him.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/20 07:08 PM
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Yeah IDK why this idea of girls in HS are total whores. I went to religious school and was homeschooled growing up and girls at 14-18 were either praying the rosary or at practice trying to get an athletic scholarship. Now some of the public school kids were a bit more liberal than the religious school kids. Hell I didn’t lose my V card until I was 21. My mom freaked out when she found out I wasn’t a virgin. The first thing she said was don’t have a lot of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/20 08:42 PM
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I’m catholic, but not practicing and wanted to wait until my wedding night. That all changed when I went to a party liberal school and practically everyone freshman year was having lots of sex. By 21 I gave it up to frat boy at his place. He was Catholic too. I just got tired of lying and the internal pressure I put on myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/20 08:36 PM
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Yeah I alway chuckle at men that wants a virgin girl yet they aren’t virgins themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/20 11:51 AM
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Yes and I do feel for men that are Bi and wants a LTR with a female.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 02:39 PM
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Agreed, sometimes we have to explore out of our comfort zones.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 02:38 PM
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You are correct. I will admit this, an old ex BF of mine told me he wasn’t into vanilla rough sex (I’m into vanilla and rough-submission style). He wanted me to be dominant and to peg him. After that all I could think was if he was gay or bisexual. I have no issues with it, in fact I would date a bisexual man. The thought of me wearing a strap on grossed me out (sorry for those who are into it). A couple months later he told me job was getting personal since he had clearance and I asked was it s…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 10:53 PM
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I was going to make a post about this article when I read it... All I have to say is communicate, communicate, communicate, and communicate with your partner about your wants and needs. Otherwise it’s all downhill.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 10:42 PM
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These are my thoughts when I read posts in this sub. Just because a dude is all over a girl doesn’t mean she likes it. There is one guy I know that is absolutely unattractive (overweight, bad breath, slacker) and he hits on me constantly and even tries to flirt with me when I’m with another male. I have given him zero attention yet, he wants me. A lot of women goes through this.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 07:53 PM
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Sexual attraction or security? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/20 11:24 PM
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Oh I get what you’re saying. I’d say in America particularly is pretty hard being dark skin regardless of class. You are right when a white dude starts dating a black woman racism really comes out. My ex and I had many discussions regarding racism and white/black liberals. We’re both conservative and we found it super ironic. I from the south and for reason it’s a bit different than say the Midwest. Almost all of my cousins on both sides of my family are in interracial relationships. The men mos…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/20 01:16 PM
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Roll Tide!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 06:09 PM
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What's trouble are you speaking of? Is it the stereotypes? The perceived stereotype that black women are loud and aggressive? Because I've came across some whte women that are extremely aggressive, rude, loud, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 05:39 PM
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Just being cautious.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 04:34 PM
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I'm on my work computer, that's why I typed it like that. I'm from the South and I vote red 99% of the time, yes interracial dating is not even an issue there. I openly get asked out by whte men even with my grandmother standing next to me. It happened to me twice when I visited. Which makes me want to move down south again.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 03:56 PM
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Absolutely! It doesn’t matter if you grew up in the wealthiest neighborhood, went to the best private schools, studied abroad, working a white collar job, dressed to the nines, etc. We will always be seen in a negative way. Most of this is ours and the media’s fault. One thing about the other races is that their middle class to elites separates from the rift raft. My white friends from private school will not be around the trash, same for Hispanics. We want to keep it “real” 90% of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 02:18 AM
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Yeah I feel you on being black is a disadvantage. Hell even in this thread most are not attracted to black men/women. Sad :(
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 09:58 PM
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Oh no :( I sure those were some kick ass toasters.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 09:35 PM
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That really does suck regardless of race. One time I went one date that catfished me. On the app he had these outdoorsy photos and in person he was overweight. I barely matched with black dudes. If I did, radio silence. I do find it interesting when I go back home (down south) to visit my family. The minute I get off the plane I get hit on by mostly SEC frat daddy whte men with/wo their kids. I honestly get scared if their wife is around. Black men not so much which is kinda confusing, but most …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 09:19 PM
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I'm black and when I was on apps I had a very hard time (I live in a very whte liberal state). I'm athletic, no kids, have hobbies, job, own place, car, responsible, etc and for the life of me I only got the bottom of the barrel type guys. The profiles were awful. Which always made me scratch my head when I hear dudes in particular whte ones complain about dating. They really don't see that they have a HUGE advantage in dating, especially online/app.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 08:47 PM
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A lot more than you think secretly...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 07:44 PM
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This discussion should be good....
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 07:42 PM
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The outbursts, delusions, paranoia, happy one day, sad the next day, anger, damages to rooms and personal property, a broken phone, etc. It was a nightmare.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 07:40 PM
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This is how I feel too. If they are trying to better themselves and getting treatment for it, I will be with them. If they aren't trying then I am out.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 06:29 PM
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I dated a guy with BPD, I wouldn't wish it on my worse enemy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 06:28 PM
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Ride or die....
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 04:26 PM
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Wish I could upvote this more. I get what their saying in give average guys a chance, but some dudes are awful just like women. I was doing the app thing 3 years ago and it was awful. The profiles were absolutely jokes. The dudes that did have decent profiles barely responded or weren’t on the apps. I got off the apps and did the real life thing, that’s an even bigger joke. I’d approach a guy at a singles event (I’d approach the short/nerdy dudes) and would receive very little eye contact. Red p…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/20 08:15 AM
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Yeah the popular attractive rich girls were never friends with me (I wasn’t attractive and I was pretty weird too) even though our parents were in the same tax bracket. I pretty much was on my own from middle school till college and even in college I hung out with the losers. I was Acquaintances with the popular kids because I had resources.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/20 02:26 AM
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Well Europe is different when it comes to the car thing. In the states, driving at 16 is a coming of age thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/20 02:22 AM
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I feel you on the standards too high thing. My ex was an unemployed stoner with BPD that had his own business, but it went no where. His apartment was always a mess and his vehicle was even messier. My confidence was really low, but rep pill Boards and threads say women should give men a chance. Well I did and for months, I gained weight, lost a lot of hair, lost a lot of money because I paid for a lot of shit, added more stress, and a lot of unnecessary drama. I can see why some women are flat …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/20 02:07 AM
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I’m going to assume that you grew up in a major city?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/20 01:54 AM
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I grew up the same way and was red pill’d pretty early in life. Girls in middle school can be extremely viscous. I caught all of BS early in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/20 01:53 AM
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Let’s be real though, some average dudes can do better. I take public transportation and the dudes that takes care of themselves has zero issues. The fat guy looking like Iron Man wearing the Star Wars shirt going to work unkempt could get women, but he’s not trying.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/20 01:46 AM
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Right!?!? If a female typed this, some dudes would scream some hypergamy BS.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/20 01:25 AM
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Absolutely! Average Joe's and Jane’s will struggle in dating. Yes people are shallow, it’s everywhere. The workplace, going out, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/20 12:53 AM
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Yeah some of my best friendships are with males. They were my work colleagues that helped me professionally, critique my CV, etc. Nothing sexual at all. I wish I had female friends that did this, but females can be hard at times because of emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/20 04:08 PM
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Yeah most of the high quality dudes I knew in college are all in LTR or married. The 30+ dudes that are single (the ones I know) usually has some issues, same with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/20 03:58 PM
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29
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 05:34 PM
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LOL people my age and younger does not want to put in work. It's all about instant gratification.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 03:42 PM
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Wasn't that chart a sample from online dating? Because feel I like IRL would have different results.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 11:14 PM
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Every man (that wants kids) almost always wants a boy. That's just how it is. They want to teach his son how to fish, throw a football around, take him to baseball games, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 10:21 PM
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This is really what comes down to it. The 6s and below will take a guy that’s decent/the bare minimum. Sad, but true.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 01:21 PM
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You can easily turn that $100K to $1M with the right investments within a few years. Young people I swear..
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 04:19 AM
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It's a black pill that STEM is not upper middle-class. It's not the "traditional" WASP-y profession.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 03:01 PM
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Haha you ain't lying son!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 03:00 PM
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Any dude especially online (Reddit, 4Chan, bodybuilding misc, etc) that says they don’t care about a woman being smart or having money clearly came from the lower class. No smart man will get married to a cheap bimbo.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 08:27 PM
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Canada, Pakistan, Mexico, UK, Japan, and some Euros. Some are from traveling and others from random purchase and from picking up change on the ground.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 07:29 PM
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I was deeply in love with him back in college (he was hard working and had his shit together) and when we got back together he had these plans that seemed great on paper. After a few months shit started to go downhill. I talked with him about it and he started to make some changes, but then he got worse. One thing about BPDs is that they are master manipulators. They are charming, great at sex, and the honeymoon period is very high.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 07:27 PM
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Black pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 05:46 PM
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Ding ding ding SOCIAL SKILLS! Some Reddit nerds won't understand this, because they weren't exposed to this growing up.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 05:43 PM
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Kate Middleton is an example of this. Despite her parents owning a successful business the British media was very negative towards her for years until she married William and popped out some kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 05:38 PM
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Yeah no high class male is going to marry a trailer park ghetto hood rat.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 05:36 PM
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God I wish I could upvote this. My ex always said "don't keep score." He was the laziest, most delusional, drunk, abusive (BPD) man I have ever been around.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 05:02 PM
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Some females aren't comfortable with number 2. I know I'm not. I told my guy that I didn't want to do anything for V-day because it's a cringe holiday. We stayed in and ordered postmates.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 04:59 PM
1

Yeah a hot woman wouldn't be caught on Tinder.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 04:19 PM
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Nice!! I’m starting slowly, I’ve randomly collected coins from different countries since the cashiers aren’t looking these days...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 02:04 PM
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Preach.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/20 08:23 PM
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Hey I get it. I’m a female and I collect coins. When I said that work both my male and female colleagues looked at me in confusion. No one cares about vintage $2 bills and 1922 pennies.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/20 06:30 PM
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That females hates muscular men. I love em'
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 08:48 PM
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I said this in another thread. Being fun, a little adventurous (not too much), caring, masculine, and a good listener. I'll add well dressed and groomed. This is for women too just replace masculine with feminine.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 08:38 PM
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LOL so true about the college sorority girl working at Walmart. It is funny to see men say chit like "Oh I don't care what kind of career a woman has, she could be making sandwiches at Subway." Yeah fcuking right, those kinds of people at places like that are either in HS, in between jobs, a student, or a degenerate.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/20 11:45 PM
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Correct. Have a 9-5 M-F type job that pays well can afford fun activities. Concerts, festivals abroad or across the country, sporting events, wine tasting, hiking, camping, etc that's fun stuff, but you have to have some money to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/20 11:27 PM
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You don't have to project and prioritize money in a relationship to win over a woman. Being fun, a little adventurous (not too much), caring, masculine, and a good listener can win a women. A developer at FAANG can do those things, but playing video games and watching anime on your spare time won't excite a female unless she's into that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/20 11:19 PM
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Nope. It's always focus on school, dating will come later...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 10:22 PM
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I'd disagree with fathers hovering. At least my dad and few others I know would be very independent. My dad encourage me to take risks, play chess, travel, etc. My mom was the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 06:37 PM
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I def know some dudes that played around with the party fast girls in college and later on marry the nice church girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 05:51 PM
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I wish it was this easy, but it's not. The guy also has to be attracted to me...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 06:52 PM
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Actually just one. He had BPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 03:22 PM
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I'm pretty stoic and I don't cry and rarely show emotion.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 06:59 PM
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Touche you're right. However, there is difference between hanging out with addicts and a big city art dealers that are seen at invite only plays before the public release, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 03:20 PM
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Yeah I was explaining in another post that I'm short, but I carry a lot of muscle. I run and lift weights. Yet I'm overweight.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 03:09 PM
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100%
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 02:56 PM
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Don't forget a man that's interesting and not too boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 02:53 PM
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Agreed, and it seems so anti-social to say something like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 02:48 PM
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I agree with the 1st part (don't chit where you eat), but the 2nd can be debatable.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 02:46 PM
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Yeah the BMI is not a good indicator of who's fat. I'm "overweight" yet I have a lot of muscle on my body and I'm short.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 10:20 PM
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Truth!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 10:07 PM
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Too pushy and aggressive....
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 03:10 PM
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Yeah I prefer the city over the country and I grew up in the country. I want my future kids to live in the Burbs with friends, bike across the street and have fun. That's not really done in the country. Some people can be a Stay at home spouse on a limited income, but that is just not for me. Most people on this sub are techies, so they are a bit out of touch.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 10:18 PM
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Money is def included.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 06:28 PM
2

I didn't date at all when I was broke.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 05:43 PM
1

I was a military dependent for awhile and TriCare pays for everything. EVERYTHING.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 05:36 PM
1

Yikes! Will your kids be able to get involved in sports or other hobbies on that?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 05:21 PM
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Yeah I made a mistake of thinking that my ex was going to do well in his business and I didn't take a job out of state. Now I am regretting it and he hasn't chit with his "business."
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 04:55 PM
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I would to be at the bar with y'all celebrating! Are tacos severed at the bar? Also congrats!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 08:13 PM
1

Perfect response.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 06:59 PM
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Agreed. The weekends are pretty much my "hobby" days.... Especially since with the sun going down right around 5.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 06:33 PM
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I was implying that he has a fit body. I prefer big muscles on a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 11:09 PM
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Yeah the days of being a fat mom are long gone. I've seen some preggo ladies that looks better than most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 10:29 PM
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Is the second guy single?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 10:17 PM
0

To be fair I like muscles on a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 10:08 PM
2

Fellow Arsenal fan here! Go Gunners!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 08:22 PM
1

Very true.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 08:19 PM
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There is some truth to this. The guy I use to date was hyper masculine and alpha. He wouldn't care if my legs were hairy, if I had make up on (he didn't even want me to wear make up), etc. He just wanted sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 03:23 PM
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Well it's easier to lift than to be social and join a team sport...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/20 10:15 PM
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I'm from the South and I grew up UMC. Trust me men and women cares about money down there too. They may lie, but deep down they don't want a gold digger.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/20 11:35 PM
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I absolutely agree (I'm a female). I've been dirt poor before (i.e. paying for ramen noodles and eggs with spare change at the self checkout line), but having a partner in the same bracket that's financially smart is gold.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/20 11:30 PM
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If you have a season pass (getting it early) it can be cheaper.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/20 11:25 PM
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My ex told me he wanted to be pegged within 3 months, that killed the attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 08:07 PM
1

Exactly. Women can be colder than ice.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 07:08 PM
1

I agree with this. Back in college, during my second year I lived alone and it was def weird. Pretty sure I got made fun of. The next year I got 4 roommates and it appeared "normal."
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 10:34 PM
1

My parents are pretty religious so I had that advice too. My mom didn't want me to date in college so by the time I was 25 I was very behind and clueless when it came to dating and relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 09:12 PM
1

Attractive, intelligent, mentally stable, wholesome, conservative (not politically), stable, and personable. This is for men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 07:16 PM
1

This sums it up. The dudes I knew that got married in their early 20s, cut out the party life style, got their chit together, and married a wholesome female. It's really not that difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 07:08 PM
1

As I stated before, very few will commit to a relationship with their equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 06:56 PM
1

What?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 03:37 PM
2

My situation is so fcuk up right now. It was normal last summer, but then it went to crazy town as the season changed. I'm trying to move out of state at the moment to improve my situation. Congrats on being sober! I know it's hard road, but keep it up! Depression is very real and I wish our health system would put more focus on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 08:48 PM
2

I'm like this as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 06:54 PM
1

Agreed. As shallow as this sounds, I just don't want to date a man with a lot of issues. I don't want to date a man that will have a mental breakdown over small petty chit, not taking his klonopin, etc. Mentally stable is just as important to career stability for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 06:26 PM
1

Currently dating a man that has BPD, bipolar, anger issues, etc. It's exhausting and I wouldn't wish it on my worse enemy. After I break up with him, I will take a break from dating for awhile...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 06:10 PM
5

100% correct. It kinda ticks me off when I read on here about females in their late 20s to early 30s from red pill dudes saying women want this and that. 80% of women in that age range are really just seeking a guy that's normal, with stability, a decent career (doesn't have to be a millionaire), and husband material. The men that are single with traits in that same age range ain't settling down yet or they are already in a committed relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 03:58 PM
1

Ehhh as a below average female, apps didn't do anything for me. There would be days I wouldn't get any matches.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 03:28 PM
1

Put a ring on it!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 06:27 PM
4

Sorry about the reminder. I got the whole "why are you with him?" look all night. So embarrassing and to make matters worse I just bought a plane ticket to see his mom this weekend. I kinda just want to ghost him and break up with him. Full on miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 06:14 PM
1

Yeah I learned a hard lesson over Xmas dinner last night. Dating someone that's crazy, yet attractive is just not worth it. Even though the sex can be amazing, it's not worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 06:08 PM
3

Agreed!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 06:02 PM
3

Brutal truth here....
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 05:50 PM
1

It wasn't really looks, but I dated a gamer nerd, that was really boring. However he was husband material. Something that I miss.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 05:22 PM
2

YES! I love a man with thick thighs! Would date one in a heartbeat!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 05:00 PM
1

Yeah New Yorkers dresses a hell of a lot better than Californians.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 10:38 PM
3

I'll admit this. I am lonely and I have low self-esteem. He came back when I was at my low. Before him I didn't kiss any man for a year after my ex and I broke up. I also didn't want to do app dating. So yeah I wanted some companionship.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 03:02 PM
1

We dated after college for a bit then he broke up with me. Came back to me this past year. A few months ago he wanted to move in. I said it was too quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 02:54 PM
2

He literally called my mom a loser for not breastfeeding me because I don't want to cuddle with him every night. His BPD is really dab some days.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 02:48 PM
1

Wow the link OP posted just proved that anyone can find someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 11:25 PM
2

Stay strong friend!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 08:37 PM
1

Hmmm 6 months is actually a pretty good timeline.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 08:12 PM
3

Borderline personality disorder
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 07:46 PM
3

He's been unemployed for awhile, zero motivation too look, his place is always a mess, his mom is pay his rent, hasn't showered since Saturday, I pay for everything and even had to dip into my savings, etc...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 07:40 PM
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Don't get me wrong I'm in love with him and we have a lot in common. We met at school and he was a completely different person then. Now I am just shocked at the down fall of everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 07:38 PM
4

Not married and no kids, but he adamantly wants it with me very quickly. We've know each other for about 10 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 07:36 PM
3

Thanks for understanding my feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 07:30 PM
12

He's at my place right now not looking for jobs, but smoking and/or eating up food I bought for the week. He's done absolutely nothing for months. I've cooked, cleaned, walked his dog, bought concert tickets, drinks, etc. All for him, yet I should stay with him?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 07:19 PM
9

My BF is kinda like that. It seems like he brings chit on his own and love drama. On top of that he has BPD and has a grievance with everyone. I don't want to come off as some hypergamous female, but when he was a hard working manager with hobbies and things to do it was attractive. Now he doesn't have those things it's not attractive. He's a boring guy now. Sorry to complain, but I totally understand your post.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 07:14 PM
3

It's not me it's him...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 07:07 PM
1

We have a Peloton store in town and I tested it. It's a beast and I'd love to have one!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 03:47 PM
2

Damn that's the cold truth there. I actually know a guy that's tatted and bearded and he owns the busiest/most popular tattoo shop in the city (I live in a major city). I'd guess he's bringing in $300K a year at least. You wouldn't guess it judging by his looks though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/19 06:38 PM
1

I'd say a woman should be on the look out for a man's potential. If he has strong work ethic, starting his own business, and working two jobs at the same time. I'd say go for it. If he's bumming around and not doing anything then yeah dump him. Yes you are correct, no child should go hungry/be poor when the parent can put two pennies together.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/19 06:01 PM
2

Yeah kids aren't cheap these days. The days of the man working at the factory while the mom stays homes raising the baby are long gone. So yeah the modern woman does struggle to work and raise the kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/19 04:04 PM
1

Yeah my BF is currently unemployed and disabled and I'm doing everything at the moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/19 03:53 PM
3

I agree with you, but Jeff and Mackenzie both worked at the same hedge fund when they met, so technically they both were at least middle-class. However, she was with him when he was a nerd.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/19 03:35 PM
1

Not at bars.... Hiking on a Sunday, run club on Wednesday, book club on Friday, etc... Those kinds of places. Those are also the types that won't be on social media too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 11:28 PM
1

I'm 29 now and guys 30s and up are either lazy slobs or the ones that got their chit together are slaying women. I don't really find that many dudes that are boring in their 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 11:15 PM
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I think it has to be situational. Someone like me for example wasn't in a relationship until my late 20s. In my early 20s I was awkward, dressed weird, didn't have any style, etc. Basically I was a late bloomer. So I don't think it's fair to write off people that didn't experience love and relationships in their early 20s, especially long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 08:19 PM
1

Yeah I get a bit of an ick feeling when I hear men of having double digits counts. I was raised in a conservative environment.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 05:35 PM
1

Yeah I've been catcalled and looked at, but never on that level.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 03:32 PM
1

I grew up in a socially conservative household and yeah women are taught to never make the first move first. There's a reason for that. It's to not appear too fast or slutty.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 03:11 PM
1

Yeah men that are forward, socially savvy, and approaches first 90% of the time has zero issues attracting women regardless of looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 03:07 PM
1

So much truth in this post...
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 03:03 PM
22

Yeah if a female is "too forward" that scares people away. Women are "supposed" to be soft and feminine. Too forward is seen as masculine.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 02:55 PM
1

Yeah some dudes will straight up run away the second a girl talks about marriage and kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 08:09 PM
1

Yeah I get your point OP. Go to any alternative rock show and you'll see scruffy dudes with some pretty attractive women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/19 04:12 PM
3

That sub is a cesspool.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/19 03:34 PM
1

In this situation right now. If you look at my post history in BPD sub I'm talking about my loser (career is a chit show) BF that has BPD. I've tried to break up with him for various reasons, yet he keeps pulling back. I am pretty much "dating down" these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 02:30 PM
1

Hypoagency applies to UMC pretty girls. Other than that guys do it too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 06:47 PM
1

This is why being rich has huge advantages in parenting. Would you send your kid to the moldy public school or the nice private school with gourmet food, the latest technology, the best teachers, etc? This is why if I ever had kids I'd prefer my husband to have a decent job, especially if I have to take time off.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 04:15 PM
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At least in my area (High cost of living) careers are important in dating. No one wants to date a bum. I'm not Asian, but both of my parents pushed me to getting a good career and not depend on a man all the time. Times are hard these days and having money to pay for things is a lot better than struggling.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/19 06:20 PM
2

True, it's why in your mid to late 20s men and women should try/have to their chit together and not play games.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 04:59 PM
1

Would you kiss a stranger with cold sores on their mouth?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 04:55 PM
14

If a woman wants to settle down, have a family, etc then yeah she should get with a guy that has is his chit together. It's logical in my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 04:45 PM
1

I was liking/swiping right on some down right creepy profiles. Dudes with selfies, one picture in the profile, group pics, etc. The thing is not all of those dudes even responded to messages. I will say though, I will never tell someone to lower their standards. Lowering values in order to get in a relationship is a recipe for disaster.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 08:30 PM
1

When I was single and doing the app dating thing. I lowered my standards and I ended up deleting the apps. I went out with a guy that seemed normal 5 minutes into the date and after he went full tourettes syndrome. He had ticks, interrupted me, licked is fingers, texted while talking with food in his mouth, revealed he lived with his parents, etc. I went on a date with a dude that forgot his wallet so I had to pay for drinks and the concert. Another dude had herpes on his lips, etc. I could go o…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 08:00 PM
2

TBH I don't have many friends and the ones I have are out of state, so I'm pretty much alone. I now spend 90% of my time with my BF, which is a lot and he doesn't have any friends either. So yeah I'm a loner these days. I'm in my late 20s so people around my age group aren't partying like they use too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 06:13 PM
3

Yeah I can go several weeks into months without an invite to a "party." Before I dated the guy I'm with, I was pretty much at home all the time. Unless I was at the gym, work, or a concert by myself I was alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 05:56 PM
1

I lost it when I was comfortable with it. No regrets.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/19 10:07 PM
1

I was. I went to a big party state school. The people that went there was very much socially liberal.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/19 02:16 PM
4

This is true. I was even a little embarrassed (at that time) going into college a virgin. I didn't lose it until I was around 21. I was legit looked down for being a virgin freshman year.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 09:40 PM
1

Visit any small town in the South or traditional/religious communities and you'll see.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 07:10 PM
1

Currently dating an assertive guy that also has BPD and some other issues going on. The idea of him is amazing and what I look for (strong, masculine, leader, non conformist, etc), but my god if his place was cleaner, have a decent job (not looking for some baller lawyer type), and wasn't suspicious of everyone and everything I'd consider staying with him. Basically if he had chit together mentally, he'd be a top 10% male. He's the opposite of my ex. My ex was a boring engineer with his own plac…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 04:29 PM
2

This is where looks and social status comes into play. You'd be surprise at some dudes out there bringing nothing, yet comes from an affluent family.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 08:34 PM
1

Yeah my BF and I discussed (If we were married) me working while he's at home with the kids. I bring in more money and pretty career driven.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 08:32 PM
2

It was pretty difficult the first 2 years. I had a really hard time making friends. My roommate only invited me to party once. I felt that people were only friends with me because I had a car and I was somewhat smart in certain subjects. I just came off awkward at times and it made me really lonely. All I wanted was the typical college experience you see in the movies, instead most of my Friday and Saturday nights was spent alone in my room depressed. Girls between the ages of 18-22 can be reall…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 10:20 PM
1

Women are the gatekeepers to sex. Men are the gatekeepers to commitment. Just look around on any female base internet and you'll see plenty of women complaining about not finding a relationship. And it has nothing to do with Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/19 09:34 PM
0

Yes. Current BF has major BPD, PTSD, and CTE. Trying to get out of the relationship. Constant fights about nothing. 2 days ago I mentioned something about is friend like "oh Paul is cool..." and he went from 1 to 55 in seconds and accused me of wanting to sleep him. That argument went on for about 10 minutes. I'm not even attracted to him nor even thought of sleeping with his friend I met for 2 minutes at a bar with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/19 09:18 PM
3

Yep and as someone that was homeschooled from 3rd grade till college, I had a very hard time learning social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/19 09:08 PM
1

You mean the bubba frat boys that dresses preppy...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 12:44 AM
1

Neither. Never done a threesome. Too scared to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 12:36 AM
1

I have a fantasy MFM, but I don't really want to do it. Unless I was traveling overseas and had lots of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/19 02:56 AM
2

Brutal truth here. Girls with Blake Lively, Emma Stone, etc levels of attractiveness can by far get away with being a bitch and still have men chasing them. Average and below average girls has to use some "game" to get a guy. I myself has to do it and be extra nice around people. I have noticed over the years I get pushed to the "cool girl" category and not the "GF/Wife" stage. IDK how to do it without being slutty.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/19 01:33 AM
1

I knew a few religious people that did this, same for anal too.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/19 11:14 PM
1

I work in high finance and this 100% true.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/19 10:23 PM
1

This made me think about myself. I do have a "masculine" soul. I enjoy being a woman, but I am just to manly some days. It's hard to describe, but I'm not like other women. I'm not very sensitive, I don't like girl drama, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/19 09:54 PM
1

I'd also add, a lot of women has probably asked for exclusivity in multiple "situations" and got shut down. And before people say "hurrr durrr Chad!" Average dudes can be commitment phobes.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/19 02:41 AM
1

This is spot on. I told my ex after the 3rd time we had sex that I believed in monogamy and deleted the app in front of him. 3 months later we became exclusive. I say by the 2nd or 3rd date people should be up front, preferably on the 1st meet up.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/19 02:08 AM
1

Yeah I've been single since last year and gone on maybe 10-12 dates and have not had sex, cause those guys were either crazy or looking to pump n dump. When I tell my LTR/married friends "ohh that guy is cute over there" they think I'm on the prowl and wanting to sleep with him. Like good grief.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/19 08:19 PM
1

I'm in a year long dry spell so none.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/19 08:13 PM
1

Correct. It starts out banging each other, then it's "hey wanna see this band on Friday night?" Then it's "dating." No one can do all this stuff and it's not guaranteed a LTR will come out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/19 08:03 PM
1

I was part of the rich kid social crew and party people are always the coolest to be around. They can have a notch count of 50+ and still be cool. Even though deep down I wasn't a slut I tried to act like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/19 07:47 PM
7

Yeah even the most average dudes aren't ready to settle down at 25.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/19 07:32 PM
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