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Ofourkind/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/19 03:05 PM
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Ofourkind/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 07:56 AM
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No. Seems exceptionally self-indulgent to worry about "romantic status". You're not that important. People don't sit around thinking about your relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 01:43 AM
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I have literally never put any thought into this and cant imagine why I would obsess over what other people think about my personal love life and relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 01:26 AM
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Try having fun
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 11:19 PM
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He is hilarious and pulls ingenious pranks. Can dish it out and take it. Keeps things fun and light. He's hot and in good health. He's awesome in bed. He has excellent attention to detail, which comes in handy for both of us. He's educated, knowledgeable, and resourceful He's very affirming and motivating He's a wonderful dog dad He works hard and does his part both at work and at home. He's very patient He's stable and mature He likes the same things I like, so we have a lot of fun together
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 10:49 PM
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You're making the erroneous assumption that divorce is always a life ruining event for men. I know plenty of divorced men who dont regret their marriage or their divorce. Sometimes people just grow apart.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 08:18 PM
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I enjoy when my partner shares any of my hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 07:52 PM
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Divorced men are more likely than divorced women to say they want to get married again
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 05:52 PM
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Alphas don't obsess over whether or not they're "alpha" and try to gain everyone's approval.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 04:31 PM
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Obviously. I don't think anyone alive is in the mood for cuddling all the time. Just dont be a dick about it and explain to your partner that it's not personal. Just like any other normal thing in a relationship. Sex, talking, spending time together, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 04:29 PM
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Why would anyone other than me and people who love me give a flying fuck about my personal achievements?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 09:26 PM
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Betas mistake indifference for aggression
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 08:26 PM
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The only thing that bothers me is the hypocrisy. Most of the dudes out there criticizing women for not suiting their particular preferences and standards put zero effort into themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 07:36 PM
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/r/badwomensanatomy
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 07:37 AM
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One is real and one is make believe. So what do you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 10:09 PM
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No, but I have been in that awkward position when the holidays happened at the beginning of a relationship and panicked because I didn't know what was expected/appropriate. I have both under estimated and over estimated in that situation. I usually just make it clear that I only buy presents for children and do not want or expect anyone to buy me anything and hope for the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 08:58 PM
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Initially met at small gathering at a mutual friend's house and then ran into each other at a bookstore, which is where he asked me for a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 08:53 PM
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I'm not single any more, but I was when I was 31. It was very relaxed. I was busy with work and passion projects. Had a very active social life, enjoyed my job and earned a good living. Unlike my twenties, I was putting about zero energy directly into dating and instead focusing on what made me happy. The anxiety of "needing a man" was long gone, it was very apparent that I didn't need a relationship to be happy and fulfilled. So I was free to set my standards as high as I liked and just roll wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 08:39 AM
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I don't hold any individual to particular expectations. I create my own set of standards and boundaries and if someone doesnt meet them I move on to someone who does.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 06:39 AM
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That's exactly how women feel about sexually repulsive men
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 10:09 PM
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Gay men will pay you good money to jerk off on camera. Why don't you do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 10:08 PM
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Is that why more straight guys don't cam for men?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 09:59 PM
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Because the vast majority of men who use these services are unpleasant, creepy, and often downright dangerous. Juice isnt worth the squeeze.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 09:55 PM
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Our animal instincts arent always in our best interests as individuals living in a modern world. That's why we have reason and the ability to override our instincts much of the time. We usually don't eat the entire pizza, jerk off on the train, express our anger/violence whenever we feel like it, etc. Our instincts might tell us to, but we have the intelligence to choose when not to indulge ourselves with the understanding of future consequences. So while my instincts might from time to time tel…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 09:30 PM
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You have a VERY poor understanding of war history
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 09:22 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 07:48 PM
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Continuing to behave like men are undesirable and useless will just push society into muslim models where women are considered harmful for society when they're free. You're acting like this is something new. Low value men have always been "undesirable and useless". They used to die of tuberculosis, become cannon fodder, or toil away in fields until they dropped. Now they live long comfortable lives coding and complaining on the internet. The system is working the way it was designed. Women have …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 07:44 PM
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I rather like voting, owning property, being educated, having control over my destiny, and working for a living so I'll stick with modern times.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 07:34 PM
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Are we talking about men who physically approach and explicitly ask for my number or a date? Happens maybe once to three times a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 05:04 PM
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Happily married to a wonderful and smoking hot husband. Because I didn't date down and never ever would.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 04:59 PM
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I don't. But if you were doing it then it wouldn't be a problem for you and you wouldn't be complaining. Where have I complained? I've been perfectly satisfied with my love life and marriage. Women think men need women. Men's lives are infinitely better with intimacy with women, but when they use it as a bargaining chip they'll lose because 99% men will then say "get lost". Lol. Incel revenge fantasy. Men are, always have been, and always will be desperate for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 04:58 PM
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An unmade bed certainly bothers me, but if the rest of the house is immaculate then whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 07:10 AM
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You have eyes and a sense of smell, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 06:35 AM
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Did you not read the OP? We are talking about dating down in education and income. Which is why the question is aimed towards women Where did you pick up the delusional idea that men and women value the exact same things in partners? Bizarre Your logic means that a lesbian relationship can’t date down in either three and is insane. The have different values. Rarely do you see a lesbian looking for a woman sugar daddy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 06:34 AM
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If his house is smelly and/or messy, I'm out
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 06:31 AM
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No. Women date down in status and money Men date down in looks
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 05:50 AM
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Oh yes the old incel argument. "We were told looks dont matter AT ALL". Horseshit. No one told you that. Even if they did, it's a stupid thing to believe
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 05:50 AM
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bad habits
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 05:46 AM
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Only about 5% more. So, not that significant.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 05:45 AM
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Incels constantly demand credit for the achievement of men greater than themselves. It's weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 05:43 AM
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Creepy
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 05:39 AM
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Why do you care if people complain?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 05:39 AM
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Yes all very believable lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 11:51 PM
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I've rejected plenty of dudes based solely on my first impression of their hygiene. Show up to a date smelling funny and it won't matter how cool or hot you are. I also don't fuck a dude until I see his house for that reason. Most dudes have basic hygiene, but there is no shortage of grown men living in a permanent state of apparently waiting for mom to come home and fold their laundry and wash their towels.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 11:28 PM
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Good looking men are good looking??? And women can tell when a man is good looking?? This changes everything!!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 11:25 PM
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You can hang on to your incel delusions if you want. No one will care. But the reality is that you have to be of some use to people in order for them to want to be with you. Friends, lovers, coworkers, everyone. Be useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 11:24 PM
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Lol the fuck you talking about? If money is all it takes, then all those tech and STEM nerds would be swimming in it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 11:13 PM
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It's both, but there are some sweeping dealbreakers. Religious women will obviously prefer religious men. Women addicted to meth will obviously prefer drugdealers
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 11:09 PM
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my god you're dense. A woman dating a man who is less educated and more poor than she is dating down. A man who does the same is not necessarily dating down.. Because men and women value different things Stop trying to be treated like a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 11:08 PM
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I talked to a guy on here once that said it was impossible that I had to pay off my student loans myself because I'm hot. You cant really reason with that level of delusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 11:06 PM
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There are more fat men than fat women in America. Are they collectively delusional enough to think fit chicks will settle for them? Doubt it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 11:04 PM
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Everyone has to provide something. You can tell who is high value by who is able to attract and keep high value partners. No quality person sticks around for nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 10:59 PM
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For women Are you a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 10:58 PM
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Different types of women find them valuable. I'd rather toss myself off a cliff than end up with a church guy
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 10:58 PM
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If it ain't worth it, don't do it. That's his problem
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 10:08 PM
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You have an autistic understanding of value between sexes. What men find valuable is different than what women find valuable. You're trying to compare apples to oranges and you want to be treated like a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 09:55 PM
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He needs to provide something. Money, company, good sex, fun, intellect, creativity, social connections. If you aren't rich, at least don't be boring. Only your mommy loves you simply for existing
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 09:52 PM
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For women, not for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 09:51 PM
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I've outearned most of the dudes I've dated in adulthood, including my husband who I outearn quite significantly. I don't care as long as the dude is willing to do his bit and pull his weight. A few guys have had a crisis about it, so I dumped them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 09:34 PM
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There's no math involved here ya dingus. If you are getting an equal amount of value from your partner as you are contributing, then you are not dating down. Could be money, sexual attraction, shared interests and values, time, status, commitment etc. I can't quantify my sexual attraction to my husband with "MATH". But I know when I'm getting a good deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 09:26 PM
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She is either contributing in a meaningful valuable way (raising children, etc), or she has something else to offer that you have personally decided is worth financially supporting her for. No woman on earth is going to want to support a man just for dick. That's like paying money for the sun to come up.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 09:10 PM
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Theres only one qualification for being a model. And he fulfills that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 09:08 PM
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A high value man adds to my life positively A low value man does not
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 09:07 PM
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Average men have friends, girlfriends, and wives. A lot of dudes here THINK they're average. But they're not.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 08:14 PM
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Then they had something else of value to offer you. If they're not a burden, you're not dating down.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 08:09 PM
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A little less than 48 hours. There was an immediate connection and we went on our first date about 3 hours after we first met and hung out for about 4 days straight. We met when I ran into a friend at a coffee shop and he introduced us. We got to talking and that was that. We ended up dating for about 3 years. Really great dude. I've fucked on other first dates, but only with dudes I already knew.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 07:34 PM
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Sounds like you weren't dating down
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 07:31 PM
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If I'm dating down, that means he's not putting the same amount of effort that I am If I'm having to financially support him longterm, then he is by virtue making me a less successful and prosperous person. If he's sitting around playing video games and eating junk while I'm working my ass off in the gym, then he will be sexually repulsive to me. If he is relying on me completely for his social wellbeing, then he will be an emotional burden on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 07:28 PM
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It would be good for society for you to live off dumpster scraps and donate your whole paycheck to charity. Why don't you do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 06:50 PM
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I would 100% rather live alone in the woods than with a tyrant or a loser. Why do you expect others to sacrifice for your wellbeing?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 04:56 PM
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That's because he's qualified to be a model.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 04:55 PM
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The point is simply that good looking men exist and are good looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 09:05 AM
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Ya, if you wanna be a model. If he was trying to be an elementary school teacher he would have a pretty big challenge ahead of him.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 09:04 AM
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Yes I'm aware. Like I said, I dont really see the big deal. I don't know why incels believe that physically attractive people don't commit felonies or that being nice is a requirement for being a model. To me, those things have nothing to do with each other. A good looking person who is an asshole is still a good looking person.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 08:11 AM
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I never really understood the big deal about Meeks. He has pretty eyes but I don't get as horny about him as the incels. I see better looking dudes walk down the street pretty much every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 07:42 AM
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I don't. I take other people's experiences and opinions into consideration and add that to my own experiences and opinions. My parents have given me excellent advice and terrible advice. All of it was well meaning and all of it was true for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 07:40 AM
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Which is why the metric for what qualifies as "overweight" is different for women and men. The data still stands.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 01:49 AM
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That's not how it works at all. Do you actually believe that the CDC decides what qualifies as "overweight" in a completely abstract and arbitrary manner? Or are you just a science denier generally?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 01:47 AM
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That depends on the couples. I love my husband for specific reasons, and before him I loved other men for very different reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 12:24 AM
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Yes, but the condition of being her kid is unchangeable. I would argue that many fathers also love unconditionally, and some mothers do not love unconditionally. Some people who are not your parents might love you unconditionally (I have an uncle like this). Still, most of us can only depend on one person to love us no matter what we do. And that's mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 12:23 AM
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None of that has anything to do with what I said and what you were in total denial about until proven wrong. Most people are fat, but there are more women out there keeping it tight than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 12:21 AM
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It's not just love between men and women. You only love/like who you love/like because of what they have to offer you. Everyone who has ever loved or liked you has loved/liked you for what you offer them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 12:19 AM
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When people say they love someone for "who they are" they mean they love them for what they do. There's no other way to interpret that. Who you are and what you do are literally the exact same thing. Except your mom. She loves you for existing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 11:56 PM
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You're essentially arguing that any condition placed on love makes it disingenuous and "not real". Real love exists. Romantic love exists. They are genuine AND conditional. I love my husband and have stuck with him throughout all kinds of not-so-ideal circumstances and fucked up situations. That doesn't mean he can come home from work and randomly punch me in the face and it won't change the way I feel about him.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 11:49 PM
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No one loves you unconditionally other than your mommy. Most adults understand this.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 11:44 PM
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http://www.healthdata.org/news-release/vast-majority-american-adults-are-overweight-or-obese-and-weight-growing-problem-among Jesus dude a simple google search would have cleared up your confusion >Nearly three-quarters of American men and more than 60% of women are obese or overweight. So, 75% of men and 60% of women here's an easy to read chart. Notice that fat men outnumber fat women in every state. https://www.kff.org/other/state-indicator/adult-overweightobesity-rate-by-gender/?currentTimef…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 11:33 PM
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What I'm saying is really not that confusing. There are more fat dudes than fat chicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 11:17 PM
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I order a 16oz coffee, drop a buck in the tip jar, say thank you and leave. Seriously how can anyone answer this without context? Is he my boss? Is he ny friends husband? Is he my client? Is he asking me for a date?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 10:50 PM
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Like, just because YOU were capable of something at a certain point doesn't mean others are. You were able to work when you were legally able but not everyone is.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 10:45 PM
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Nowhere in my original comment do I say anything close to "well I solved all life's problems on my own so others should too!" So either you didnt read my comment carefully or you responded to the wrong person.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 10:37 PM
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Unwed doesnt mean single. My parents would technically fall into that category because they had one kid and another on the way when they married. I was raised in a two parent household.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 10:33 PM
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That OP asked a question and I answered it ya dingus
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 10:32 PM
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You should have read my entire comment. Claiming something as "my problem" doesnt mean I have the solution. It doesn't even mean that a solution exists. It's simply taking ownership of my own circumstances and problems by not passing them off as someone else's fault. Assigning blame is pointless and only creates a victim complex.. For example, it's not my fault that I have a seizure disorder. There's nothing I or anyone else can really do about it. I could wail and cry about how unfair it is, or…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 10:32 PM
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Fat women are fatter than fat men But there are more fat men than fat women
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 10:29 PM
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As soon as they are old enough to do something about it. My poverty became my problem as soon as I became legally able to work My health became my problem as soon as I could sign up for insurance and make a Drs appointment. My social wellbeing became my problem as soon as I started socializing without my parents. Something being "your problem" doesnt always necessarily mean that you will always be able to do something to help yourself. It's maintaining a perspective that it's your responsibility…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 05:32 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 05:32 PM
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I'm answering the question OP asked. If you want to make a thread about women, go ahead.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 05:31 PM
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Yes, but a greater number of men are fat And for the dudes in denial about that fact, here's the data https://www.kff.org/other/state-indicator/adult-overweightobesity-rate-by-gender/?currentTimeframe=0&sortModel=%7B"colId":"Location","sort":"asc"%7D
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 05:30 PM
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Legions my ass. Most dudes are fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 05:05 PM
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The only people "puzzled" by this are those who are generally confused about basic social interaction and lack an ability to comprehend nuance. Different women handle conflict in different ways. Some lash out in anger/violence, some bully, some manipulate, some self-blame, some avoid/disappear, some become doormats, some slander/gossip, some mediate and problem solve, some alienate, some repress, some just get over it on their own. Pretty much every woman (and man) alive, has done everything on …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 09:06 AM
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Only a tiny minority of men are in shape, dress in decent clothes that fit, practice impeccable hygiene, have active social lives, and support themselves financially all at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 08:41 AM
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What secret society do you imagine exists here? I interact with different women in different ways. Like a normal person. There are no special rules. I deal with my bosses like bosses, my mother like my mother, bitches like bitches, and friends as friends. Normal social skills apply. Cant imagine why they wouldnt.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 08:12 AM
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"I'm going to make the creepiest and weirdest suggestion I can imagine and if I'm not validated that means others have no empathy" Lol k
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 07:43 AM
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I would often just find creative ways to work it in to normal conversation. "Oh you like The Jesus Lizard? I saw them live in '92. Great show" or whatever. Subtle ways to suggest I'm older than I look. I'm often mistaken for being in my twenties. It bothered me a lot more when I was in my actual twenties getting mistaken for a teenager.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 06:58 AM
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Or maybe I'll go ask my dad to teach me how to give better blowjobs!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 01:04 AM
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People should have the accountability to take ownership of their shortcomings and figure it out for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 12:05 AM
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It's like fashion that way. I'm sure parents have their own opinions, but this is something that really should be brought up with your peers and not your family.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 11:31 PM
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This response reminds me of some woman I saw in some trashy daytime talk show who said that her parents should pay for her glasses for the rest of her life because she didnt ask to be born and it was "their fault" that her eyesight was poor. It's a very common complaint among teenagers. I'm pretty sure I pulled the "I didn't ask to be born!!" thing on my parents in my youth. Super bizarre to hear that argument from an adult, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 11:29 PM
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Value is as value provides. If I have contributed positively to the lives of individuals or communities (which I think I have), then I am valuable. So, I'm more individually valuable than many men. Equally or less valuable to many more.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 06:16 PM
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Shit happens in longterm relationships. We had a dry spell after his close friend died and then again after I had back to back surgeries a few years ago. Now we're getting old so I'm sure more interruptions are on the horizon. Neither of us are selfish enough to pack up and leave if we don't get our way all the time so I'm pretty confident we'll be alright. But if he was holding out just because he didn't feel like it and was not forthcoming as to why, that would be a dealbreaker
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 05:23 PM
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Depends on context. Like, he's just done? I'd be gone in and instant. Is he sick? Grieving? Incarcerated? Injured? I would be patient.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 05:15 PM
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There are plenty of men and women into the same hobbies as me. Hiking/backpacking/climbing/camping/running and most other outdoor sports, cooking, literature, road trips, dog training, guitar/piano. I've dated people with completely different interests and it was fine, but a mutual love of the outdoors and reading was definitely the driving force in falling in love and building a life with my husband. In fact, we met in a bookstore. We've also gotten more in to each others hobbies with time as w…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 04:35 PM
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Manbaby
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 06:45 AM
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Lol. You believe women were allowed to fight in wars.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 06:45 AM
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It's insane that you believe women had the option to be resistantlce fighters.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 06:44 AM
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What the fuck does a domestic resistance have to do with anything? Every war has resistance fighters.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 01:40 AM
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You're full of shit. No one with a functioning intellect would choose a bombed out wasteland over stability and safety based on some "values" misdirected at fellow collateral damage of war. It's pretty fucked up (and also inaccurate and stupid) to lay the blame of the horrors of war on the frontline.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 12:13 AM
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Of course not. Be honest. If you had the unfortunate luck of living in a country that was being destroyed by war and some employee of the government who has zero influence in decision making for the regime struck your fancy and offered you the opportunity to live in a safe, prosperous place, you would take that opportunity. It would be retarded not to. If I date an Iraq veteran, does that make me complicit in the atrocities of that war?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 11:56 PM
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What an odd leap to attribute the crimes of war to what were most likely just enlisted average joes. Most soldiers are/were just regular guys. They're not conquerors. That's like refusing to date someone because you dont approve of the policies of the ruling class of their country of origin. Or alternatively, asserting that dating a foreigner means you agree with the policies of their country of origin. So dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 11:25 PM
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I would marry someone I felt lukewarm about if the alternative was staying behind in the scorched remains of a conquered shithole. I think anyone would. I doubt these women were taking into consideration the goal of the particular regimes involved. More self preservation.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 09:32 PM
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Always dated sweet, charitable men. Always hated bullies and ESPECIALLY hotheads. I've never dated anyone who could be described as abusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 09:30 PM
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I have never really been invested in marriage. I would have been fine with being a "forever girlfriend" so to say. I got married because it was important to my husband to have that bond, and I was happy to make him happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 09:37 AM
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My younger cousin is an incel. 28 years old, painfully socially awkward, never been on a date, most definitely on the spectrum, overweight, no style. We have been very close since he was born. We keep in close touch and he tells me most of what's going on in his life. He has a few female friends as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 09:34 AM
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What's the point? People will just lie the same way they lie about height.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 01:54 AM
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And yea I get that. And I guess things can get mechanically awkward if there’s a big height difference as well (if you know what I mean). Yep. Cant fuck a tall dude in the shower.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 01:52 AM
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Yikes. One of my family members has BPD and he is fucking brutal. can't imagine dating someone like that. Good thing she's your ex. I dunno why I like short guys. I'm extremely short, so I think that has something to do with it. Short and strong, its just what I've always liked.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/19 11:16 PM
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Short guys are often the worst of all. Especially if they have napoleon complex. I have a general preference for shorter men, so I've had to sort through a lot of the small angry types.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/19 10:52 PM
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I find that it's the opposite with less attractive guys. In my experience, they tend to be more bitter, angry, and demanding than attractive ones. Not always, of course. But generally.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/19 07:42 PM
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I asked you to find a misandrist comment
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/19 07:31 PM
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No you didnt. what comment are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/19 05:37 PM
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What if not every little thing a man does has to be arousing in order for a woman to be sexually attracted to him? I don't find it arousing when my husband gets a cold, eats breakfast, or drives a car. Still wanna fuck him.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/19 05:31 PM
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My pit mix would have ripped someone's arm off if they tried to break in when I wasn't home. But like I said, I never did figure out exactly what kind of dog he was. Just a really good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/19 05:28 PM
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Where?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/19 05:24 PM
3

When it affects his life negatively and he still doesn't cut down or quit
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/19 12:23 AM
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I adopted my last dog when I was single. He was probably a pitbull mix, not exactly sure. When I was selecting a dog, it was vital that it be a guard dog. I absolutely don't see the point of a single woman living alone in the city getting a dog that's not going to protect her. That's like 50% of the reason I wanted one. It came in handy, too. He chased off some punk trying to pry open my bathroom window (Rest in peace, Doug. A very good boy) I'm not single or living alone anymore, but I still wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/19 12:18 AM
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I've always preferred shorter men. Under 5'8 and strong is my default. Maybe it's because my dad is short and ripped or maybe it's because I'm so short myself (under 5 feet). Don't know don't care. That's just what I like. I've dated taller men, even very tall men, but I much prefer someone closer to my level. Hard to imagine a man who is smaller than me without being an actual little person. I would in theory date a little person if everything else were there. I have dated two men who were abou…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 09:11 PM
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It's not a choice I would personally make, but no judgment for those who do. There are plenty of men into the fake barbie look. Just as there are plenty of men into a more natural look and plenty who don't really care either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 09:06 PM
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Parents having appropriate boundaries does not mean they dont want the best for their kids. You mommy isnt going to get you laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 05:20 PM
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Hey if you want the best for your son, why don't you just fuck him?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 04:50 PM
2

Who said anything about single moms?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 04:45 PM
2

Who gave that woman power to murder?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 08:43 AM
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Men
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 08:42 AM
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Why would I bother? It has nothing to do with anything. "An evil psychopath murdered her babies? Confirmation women are evil!" Evil women exist. No one said they didnt. I have no idea what you're trying to prove.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 08:39 AM
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Show me a misadnrist comment I've made
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 08:31 AM
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The point is that everyone here has their mind made up. The men are not more open minded..
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 08:30 AM
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Lol sure. you've never read anything I've written but also you're sure I must be a secret sexist. K
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 08:28 AM
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Do you hate misogyny?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 07:40 AM
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"Let me prove how not sexist the men are by trashing women" You're doing my job for me
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 07:40 AM
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It's because I've never even hinted at it. at any point. and you know it. You're just trying to feel special
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 07:38 AM
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I will buy you gold if you find one single man hating comment in my entire history
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 07:36 AM
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What populations have been wiped out from misandry? Cant fight against an idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 07:35 AM
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Calling out someone else's strawman is not a strawman, dingus
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 07:34 AM
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Who, women? I mean I could say that you're in the group that created slavery, nazis, and ISIS.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 07:08 AM
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Holy shit, no. That is NOT what sex ed is good grief. Teaching your kids about sex is appropriate. Teaching your kids HOW to have sex is not. Jesus christ dude
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 07:04 AM
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Lol. 90% of the dudes here spout misogynistic beliefs.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 07:03 AM
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Imagine a father giving his daughter advice on how not to be cheated on
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 07:02 AM
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There is no theoretical situation in which it is appropriate for a mother to teach her son how to be sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 07:01 AM
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Sex education IS NOT the same as teaching your kids how to be sexy what the fuck are you talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 07:00 AM
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Imagine a dad telling his daughter how to be attractive to men. Seriously how fucked up do you have to be to think this is appropriate? Yeesh I hope you never have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 06:59 AM
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Because the men here are so open minded and have the humility required to acknowledge when they're wrong. Fucking LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 06:50 AM
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My dad only offered romantic advice to me one time in my life. After I got dumped by a longterm boyfriend, he said "Never take a man back who dumps you". Good, solid, non invasive advice that I took to heart. And then like a good dad he never brought up my sex or dating life again. My mom gave me some good tips, but only when I explicitly asked for advice and strictly dating. Nothing about sex. Because that is fucking weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 06:47 AM
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Parents should not be involved in their kid's sex life. That is weird and creepy and wildly inappropriate. If you want dating advice from a parent, ask your same sex parent. Still a little weird, but not as creepy. Try to imagine a thread where girls were describing getting advice on how to sleep with men from their fathers. If that doesn't seriously weird you out, theres something wrong with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 06:42 AM
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I would mind my business and stay out of my kid's sex life unless he explicitly asked for my advice. What's with incels wanting their mommies to get them laid? That's so weird. I cant imagine involving my dad in my romantic life. Makes me sick just thinking about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 03:06 AM
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Yes I love him passionately Yes I settled in some ways
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 02:33 AM
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Way back in my brief internet dating days, two men lied about their ages initially. A few others who were much fatter IRL than in their dating profiles. A guy I dated for a year or so in my early twenties was actually gay and banging our neighborhood bartender. I mean, I was pissed at the time but it wasn't some huge revelation. Men lie. Some quite convincingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/19 11:06 PM
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Lol "favor"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/19 05:40 PM
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Google Kim Petras
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/19 04:56 PM
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The fact that you believe its impossible to go a whole day without lying is a projection. It is possible. Try it. It actually feels really good.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/19 06:35 AM
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You seem pretty desperate to project and defend shitty behavior, dude. No ones telling you that you MUST be ethical.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/19 01:43 AM
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How did I indicate that I believe any such thing? By implying that I was claiming to have never lied, stolen, enacted violence, etc Oh, you took accountability and the consequences were embarrassment? Wow. People with a moral compass feel a sense of remorse and sometimes shame for not living up to their standards. It IS embarrassing to lie. It should be, at least. I am embarrassed to lower myself to immoral behavior. Because I expect more from myself. Yes, “relying on the law” is such an outland…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/19 01:16 AM
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Why does it seem that way to you? I said that yours was dumb and you don’t follow it on the regular. The fact that you seem to believe that having standards for one's behavior means that they are perfect says a lot Tell me about the time that taking accountability was the hardest for you. I'm not sharing anything personal. But there have been times when I've had to own up to lying or withholding truth that have been difficult. I always come clean, though. No matter how embarrassing or difficult …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/19 12:58 AM
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It seems as though you're unfamiliar with the concept of a moral code. These are my ideals, which I strive for. Sometimes I fall short. When I fall short, I don't make excuses for myself. I take accountability. I don't always live up to my ideals, but I always aim too. But ya I guess excusing your violence and deception as practice for when Nazis come looking for you works too lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/19 12:43 AM
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Youre overcomplicating it. Women are simply more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 11:56 PM
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I'm not talking about just any dude who fucks a fat chick. I'm talking about dudes who prefer fat chicks
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 11:05 PM
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By the fact that men naturally pursue women more than women pursue men. The fact every culture across the globe has worshipped female beauty since the dawn of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 09:50 PM
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Men don't make women they're not attracted to "their queens" Also that's a very weird and cringey way to describe loving relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 09:43 PM
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I grew up with a dude who looks like James Fucking Dean and he has preferred fat girls his whole life. I've known him for 30 years and I don't think he's ever pursued a skinny chick, even though he could date pretty much anyone he wants. Very handsome and sweet guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 09:30 PM
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They are not at all mutually exclusive A man who likes big women will want to fuck AND fall in love with them
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 09:28 PM
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It is a fetish, but it's a very very popular fetish. Scat, not so popular.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 09:00 PM
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Women have always been more attractive than men. Long before makeup even existed.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 09:00 PM
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Do you have a hard time detecting when people are joking generally? Aside from your poor example, my answer is no. I like to keep my morals simple and consistent. I don't deceive, steal, enact violence or abuse under any circumstances. It doesnt matter if I want to fuck the person or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 08:48 PM
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I have an ass of a "girl who likes to run ". Most men prefer a fit figure, but theres no shortage of chubby chasers. I know a few personally. There's an entire subculture of men who are attracted to fat and even super fat women. Google "fat admirer"
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 08:44 PM
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Bad link, no picture. But I'm gonna go ahead and assume that you're using the same argument as all the delusional people on /r/fatlogic and I'm guessing the picture is of a super ripped dude? Y'all aren't super ripped. A vast majority of men aren't. Most of you are fat or skinnyfat. It would be practically statistically impossible for that to be untrue. Most dudes are fat. Many of them don't believe they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 08:38 PM
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You'd be surprised. There are a lot of attractive dudes who prefer big women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 08:35 PM
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Consistency.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 08:34 PM
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Lying, stealing, violence, abuse...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 08:21 PM
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Anything that's immoral generally.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 08:13 PM
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It's less about ability and more about willingness. I have a guard dog, I don't need a hero. But a dude has to be willing to defend me in the unlikely event that I need defending. I DO NOT want some hothead looking for a fight, though. Massive turnoff.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 08:08 PM
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Right. So if you're attractive to gay men, then you're attractive to gay men. If you're attractive to women, you're attractive to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 07:36 PM
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Ugly duckling syndrome. Same with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 05:58 PM
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As evidenced by the fact that every dude here insists they aren't fat. 70% of men are fat. Y'all are in serious denial.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 05:57 PM
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One is real life and the other is make believe
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 05:56 PM
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Attraction is as attraction attracts. It really doesn't matter how attractive you think you are. If you aren't attracting people, you aren't attractive. Women and gay men decide which men are attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 05:54 PM
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Nooooope
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 05:51 PM
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And that's usually what the general public feels. If you're in the men's room, just be a dude and dont be weird and no one cares. It shouldn't be a big deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 08:39 AM
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Bench press and a high fiber snack?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 05:57 AM
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Oh stop we agree all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 05:13 AM
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This is very interesting and cool! But it doesnt seem like this has been used for transition operations yet. Only to reconstruct portions of existing female genetalia on biological women and girls using their own vaginal tissue. Transwomen dont have vaginal tissue. Still, it will be interesting to see where this leads in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 03:31 AM
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Ya as long as he wasn't weird about it. And by that I mean if he treated her with the same level of respect and dignity as the cis women he dated. If it were a weird shamey closet kink I would probably pass. If he just liked trans girls I wouldn't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 03:20 AM
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Political affiliation is a personal liberty and choice. Being trans is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 02:48 AM
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Trans rights have always been political. Being trans is apolitical. There are trans people across the political spectrum and trans people with all kinds of political opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 02:39 AM
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It's a real shame because these are real issues for real people that deserve proper discourse. I have this friend, Kenneth, who's an older trans dude. No one on God's green earth would ever clock him as trans. He 100% passes as a regular old man and has been living as a man since the 70s. Kenneth shouldn't have to use the women's restroom. I think most people would agree he doesnt belong there. Kenneth just wants to pee and move along without it becoming a political issue. If you think Kenneth s…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 02:37 AM
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"Implanted" is not the right word. Trans women's vaginas are constructed with the penis tissue. They can look very realistic but are not quite like natural vaginas. For example, they dont lubricate or expand/contract with arousal. Just the way you describe makes it seem like they grow vaginas in some laboratory and sew them on lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 02:23 AM
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This is a modern phenomenon that I've noticed with younger trans people. Back in my day, being trans wasn't really a political thing. They were just regular people living their lives. I feel sorry for trans people these days. Their very existence is exploited and politicized by annoying extremist children.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 02:21 AM
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I'm a straight woman, in my early 40s. I've been on dates with a few trans guys and would again in theory (I'm happily married). I wouldn't seek it out specifically, but if they're attractive and we get along I don't consider the trans thing a big issue. The trans guys I've dated have all been pretty unremarkable regular dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 02:08 AM
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Lol I earn twice as much as my husband. I dont care if he earns as much as me, just that he pulls his weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/19 04:30 PM
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There's plenty I find physically attractive, but I would only date a small fraction of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/19 04:29 PM
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That wasn't your question. You were asking what goals/purpose in life a woman could have other than having children or being sexy for men. There are loads.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 10:39 PM
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Creating art, doing some good in the world, getting money, traveling, mastering a skill, gaining knowledge, relaxing and having fun
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 09:14 PM
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There are so many factors that play into "happiness" that one couldn't possibly say that "most" of any kind of person can be truly happy. I bet most childfree women aren't perfectly happy. I would bet my house that most mothers aren't truly happy either. I know that I am very happy and satisfied with my life, and not having kids is a piece of that. It's not the only thing making me happy, but it helps. I'm sure I could be childfree and miserable or happy with children, too. Double income, no kid…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 07:56 PM
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Same. I've done a few modeling jobs as favors for friends but I'm SO bad at it that I rarely get called back. Which is fine with me because I agree that I fucking suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 07:07 PM
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I've tried, just for shits and giggles. I'm very athletic and pretty coordinated and I can't do it. Even with a Victoria's Secret "angel" trying to teach me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 07:00 PM
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Ya why not? Given the industry I work in, a lot of my closest women friends are professional models. They have to be militant about their diet and exercise, are subject to insane and unpredictable travel schedules, have to deal with some of the worst people on the planet, etc. Not to mention that poise, posing, and even walking is a learned skill not unlike dancing. It might look easy, but most people couldn't do it without a lot of practice. They have to be "on" all the time. They can't just da…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 06:53 PM
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Ok. So none.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 07:22 AM
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You'll never be able to convince people that men care so much but they never bother to ask. My last two relationships knew exactly how many partners I've had, because it came up as a casual conversation (at my prompting) well into our relationship. They both asked me to marry them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 05:07 AM
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Just show us one example.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 05:05 AM
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I dont think its unwillingness. Most people just dont find it important. Like I'm not unwilling to tell a dude my blood type, but it would be pretty unusual for him to ask about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 01:47 AM
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Ya that is deeply weird. I wouldn't be offended if a dude asked, it's just extremely strange.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 10:16 PM
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"I saw a woman be rude to another woman" is not an example ya dingus There are huge subreddits and websites filled with men shitting on young women. I haven't seen anything like that with older women shitting on younger women. Have you?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 10:15 PM
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It's just a weird incel obsession. In all my years of dating, it's never been brought up.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 09:56 PM
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So, no actual examples?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 09:55 PM
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Let me sum it up for you Women: dont know and don't care Men: don't know don't want to know
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 08:39 AM
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If they have the humility and open mindedness to learn to do and say things that don't make intuitive sense to them, they can succeed
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 08:37 AM
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Lol. I've been called every ugly name in the book for rejecting men. In fact, there are entire subreddits and hashtags filled with behavior like that from men. People sometimes lash out when you hurt their feelings. It's not a gendered thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 08:29 AM
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such as? I see a lot of women shitting on men and a lot of men shitting on women. Not much else.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 06:53 AM
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In a sleeping bag and/or hammock. Because it's fucking awesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 04:23 AM
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Where have you seen that?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 12:40 AM
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Lazies
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 12:39 AM
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I've done a lot of rock climbing solo that one should really never do alone. Most of them were meant to be low risk climbs but I just got a wild hare and was like "well, I'm already here. Might as well". I do not recommend this to anyone who isn't 100% confident in their skills and knowledge of the terrain. Or really anyone who is. In the same vein, I've traveled across the US by car camping/backpacking/climbing alone along the way 3 times. Definitely plan on doing it again. I've travelled to 8 …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 12:31 AM
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Correct. It just so happens that a lot of women would rather be alone than with a low value man. I know I would.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 11:05 PM
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A high value man adds to the fulfillment and happiness in my life. A low value man does not
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 07:29 PM
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Sometimes. Sometimes not.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 07:28 PM
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They're not at all uncommon. If a woman has the unfortunate combination of good looks and poor mental health, she'll spend her entire adult life bombarded with male attention. I was just talking about this the other day with a few girlfriends. One of them is in recovery for severe anorexia and said the only downside to getting healthy is that men aren't as interested in her anymore. She's still quite thin and needs to gain some more weight, but when she was emaciated the dudes were banging down …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 06:59 PM
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Ya I'd say anything between 5 and 50 is totally normal for a dude in his mid thirties who's never been married. That accounts for LTRs with a few casual dating periods in between.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 06:55 PM
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Sounds like your brother needs a good therapist
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 06:53 PM
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There's justified rape and slavery in the Christian bible
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 05:14 PM
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If you actually mature as you age (most do), you learn not to indulge in useless negative thought patterns. They become fleeting thoughts rather than emotions to be acted upon. For example, when a child gets angry they throw a fit. When a mature adult gets angry, they take a deep breath and center themselves. Jealousy is a childish indulgence.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 08:16 AM
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Na, people get this. This is only confusing to those who lack social skills
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 08:14 AM
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And yet, pretty much every woman here says she's never been asked. Black Mirror is a television show. Not real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 05:55 AM
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people dont ask because they dont care. N count obsession is an incel thing
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 03:47 AM
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No I want you to clarify. You told me to "stop this". In your imagination, what could I "stop"? What could anyone "stop"? Stop men from wanting women? Stopping women and men from prioritizing their own best interests? Force women to find unattractive men suddenly attractive? I think you're starting to understand the absurdity of your argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 01:56 AM
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Stop what? Me, as an individual, fucking a gross loser isnt going to solve any of society's problems and will only make my life miserable. The "consequences" of my actions thus far have resulted in a successful and happy adulthood. I'm not going to sacrifice my stable and happy life for some random gross dude. That would be insane. You have nothing to offer anyone in return for their sacrifice. It would be uselessly wasted on you and people like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 01:43 AM
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Another wall of feelings mixed with far fetched revenge fantasy isnt proving anything. You are entitled to your feelings and fantasies. No one is preventing you from feeling or imagining anything. Go nuts. Even if people did give a shit about incels (which they don't), there's nothing they could do about it. I'm no more capable of convincing women to fuck repulsive men than you are. which is to say, quite incapable.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 12:57 AM
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So what? They're not being legally prevented from having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 12:26 AM
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Right. Those negative feelings about black people resulted in tangible, legal restrictions and discrimination. It's still perfectly legal to hate black people. You just can't legally discriminate against them. What your trying to do is limit people's personal feelings towards men. Impossible. Your freedom is not limited by peoples feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 12:21 AM
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Yes, those are your feelings and opinions. Others have different feelings and opinions. Youre allowed to feel that way. Others are allowed to feel another way. And that's all there is to it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 11:54 PM
1

Sorry to trigger you
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 11:38 PM
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I hope youre seeing a therapist
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 11:28 PM
1

So why are you complaining?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 11:20 PM
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Most of the people claiming to ask their dates about N count are larping incels. No one actually does this.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 11:20 PM
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Right. Feelings. Like I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 11:17 PM
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You know a lot of people simply don't obsess over pointless jealousy of past lovers, right? It's not repression. It's mental stability and straight priorities.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 11:16 PM
1

Well, ya those are your options. If you ask someone out, practice basic manners. Be rude on a date Wait until someone asks you out or Dont date. What's the problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 11:09 PM
1

So you dont have any source that shows correlation between high counts and divorce?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 10:21 PM
1

Then don't invite anyone out. Pretty simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 10:20 PM
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The fact that you read everything I wrote and somehow think I'm RP is hilarious to me
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 10:15 PM
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Emotionally mature people (aka adults who behave like adults) don't repress. If I see someone who has something I want, I observe them and I try to do what they do. I am curious, not resentful. If Jane has a great job that I wish I had, I ask her how she got it. If Joe has gotten in much better shape than me, I ask what his routine is. I can't imagine what a woman who slept with my husband before I even knew he existed has anything to do with me at all, or what I could gain from analyzing her.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 10:03 PM
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And as a psychologist I know what a projection actually is so your watered down version of it as a "i know you are but what am i" retort isn't working. You mean like your exact response to my statement that I have no reason to be jealous of these women? Lol ok mr "psychologist" Emotionally mature people don't sit in resentment and fear about what other people have. They are grateful for what they have.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 09:59 PM
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Projection. For me to feel jealous, I would have to believe that those women have something I want. I have everything I want and need in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 09:49 PM
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No. I'm a grown adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 09:19 PM
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I married a dude who's best estimate is 25-30. He was in his mid thirties, never married when we began dating so that number doesnt seem high to me at all. "Too high" would depend on context. Normal people don't ask about partner counts when dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 09:09 PM
4

I already get approached too much. Why would I add to that?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 08:45 PM
1

Source?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 07:08 PM
-1

But you do pity men who can't fuck hot women om demand whenever they want? Interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 07:08 PM
-1

Pity is an unkind emotion. I don't pity people.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 05:42 PM
8

Some people who have to have jobs feel like they're losing because some people are born wealthy. Do you feel sorry for them?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 05:21 PM
6

How is that unreasonable? I wouldn't date a guy who couldn't cook. Every adult should have that ability. You just eat convenience foods or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 05:07 PM
1

That's definitely a big one, but I think laziness is the worst. Of course most losers in their thirties or older are both
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 05:04 PM
1

If you never get asked out by women and you want to go on dates, just keep it cheap. What's the big deal about buying someone a cup of coffee? And yes obviously if I offer to take a friend to dinner I pay for dinner. It would be rude not to.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 05:02 PM
1

When I was dating? Somewhat frequently
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 05:01 PM
1

to marry a woman in her thirties with lots of dating experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 04:59 PM
2

Divorce rates are actually highest among people who marry before the age of 25. So, those who are much less likely to have a high partner count
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 07:20 AM
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No, unless you are a super-rare exception, you don't vet for such silly things. If a person is interesting and funny, you don't care if they are lazy. As a casual acquaintance? Sure. As a close friend? Nope A romantic partner? Hellll fucking no Lazy and loser are not the same thing. We have a saying "laziness is an engine of progress." Keep telling yourself that. You'll regret it when you're older. Trust me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 06:29 AM
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Hey you have plenty of time. Due to some serious health problems in my early twenties, my "fucking off" period was delayed until after I graduated college and paid off a little debt. I was in my late twenties/early thirties before I was able just to get into my shitty car and drive thousands of miles away to whatever. It was awesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 06:28 AM
1

What difference do you see in my original comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 06:21 AM
1

You're trying to make it seem like a bad thing that someone would vet people for desirable/undesirable character traits before allowing them in to their inner circle. It's not. I'm very picky with who I keep as friends and lovers. My time and energy are limited, and I don't want to waste either on duds. Surround yourself with losers, and you'll get pulled down. As my uncle always says "stay dummy free"
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 06:20 AM
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Maybe that's your opinion, which you are entitled to. My opinion is that it's best when both people practice basic adult manners. But you do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 06:18 AM
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Value is as value gets. If the person gets what they want in the end, then they are high value. I've not seen much real life evidence that having many sexual partners stops a woman from finding quality guys to date and marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 06:06 AM
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"has a job and plays video games" isnt enough information to make a judgment. But it seems like you are suggesting that there's NO WAY you can tell if someone is lazy or not while you're getting to know them. Which is, of course, absurd.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 06:05 AM
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I literally described the exact same etiquette for both men and women but hey whatever strokes your victim complex
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 06:03 AM
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Thank you for this question, fellow old person. I'm very curious about this myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 03:30 AM
2

If you're dating someone, it means they have something you want. It could be their time, body, social connections, intellect, knowledge, money, resources, conversation, or any combination of those things. If I have something you want, I automatically have a degree of power over you. As it is my freedom to give it or take it away. Healthy, happy relationships have a dynamic of more or less equal exchange. Unhealthy relationships are imbalanced, leaving one partner feeling used or underappreciated…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 03:29 AM
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I'm I supposed to feel sorry for people who stay in failing, codependent relationships with incompatible partners or something? If you arent getting what you want from a partner, just leave. Assuming he/she isnt a violent psychopath, the only person responsible for you being in that position is you. It's ok to barter sex it's ok to dump someone for bartering sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 01:22 AM
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Basic manners. If you invite me out, I expect you to offer to pay. Even though I always come prepared to pay for myself. If I invite you out, I expect to pay, but it's polite to demonstrate that you are also prepared to pay for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 01:19 AM
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Ambition towards mom's basement is lazy
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 11:00 PM
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So, you want to change laws that don't exist. And you're confused about why the movement isnt going anywhere? I mean, you are certainly entitled to spend your time and energy trying to convince people to feel a certain way, but it's not a very productive use of your time.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 10:37 PM
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You mean something stupid and unproductive like video games? Lazy
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 10:36 PM
2

What specific laws or legal restrictions are you referring to?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 09:43 PM
1

Obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 09:26 PM
1

What? It's obvious when someone lacks ambition and drive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 09:08 PM
1

No. I observe their behavior and lifestyle. I'm selective with who I choose to spend time with.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 09:03 PM
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They should do whatever they want, but I don't respect that lifestyle choice and would not choose to be close friends with them and certainly wouldn't date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 08:58 PM
1

Most men in their twenties are also fat and lazy. If they get their shit together, they could easily outdo their younger selves. But obviously most won't do that and will instead just get fatter and more lazy and less attractive as they age.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 08:56 PM
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Usually not. There are of course some exceptions
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 08:53 PM
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Generally? Absolutely not. Most dudes in their thirties are fat and lazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 08:51 PM
1

The what?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 08:46 PM
7

Horseshit
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 07:30 PM
6

Not just drugs, but laziness/loserness and generally "mama's boy" tendencies. Yucky in your twenties, completely pitiful in your thirties and beyond.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 07:30 PM
2

Ya it was a surprise to everyone. I was a bit annoyed that he wasted my time like that, but better late than never
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 06:04 PM
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It say it's just more extreme on both ends. The "good ones" are MUCH better than the "good ones" in their twenties. The "bad ones" are MUCH worse and more pathetic than the "bad ones" in their twenties.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 06:01 PM
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It's impossible to create political change for a problem that isn't political. Men don't have anything tangible to rally against. Women wanted the right to vote and make legal decisions for themselves. Black people wanted the same rights as white people. Gay people wanted the freedom to marry. If MRAs were smart, they would organize around the only legal prejudice against men that has ever existed, which is the draft. It would be pretty easy considering that the majority of the population and ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 05:57 PM
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Yep, in my early twenties. It was pretty abrupt and seemed to happen for no reason. Things were going well, I thought. Of course, I thought there must be something wrong, but he wouldn't open up about it. So I dumped him. About a year later, he reached out to apologize and tell me that he is gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 07:59 AM
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It wouldn't matter if women gave a damn or didnt. There's nothing they can do about it. No one can force people to feel a certain way.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 06:57 AM
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If you don't care about women's opinions, dont ask women for their opinions ya ding dong
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 06:21 AM
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If he feels empowered by something, than it's empowering. I don't spend my energy giving a shit about what other people choose to do with their bodies. Cant imagine why these dudes would give a shit about my opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 06:19 AM
1

in collective sense, sure. Not on an individual level, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 06:18 AM
1

There's justification for pretty much every evil act you could imagine in that book
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 06:17 AM
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I am well aware of what an autoimmune disorder can do to your body. Because I have one. And I have been on steroids for it. It can cause all kinds of problems, but magical weight gain is not one of them. I also spent 18 months in the hospital for brain surgery and rehabilitation due to a severe seizure disorder for which I will have to take medication for the rest of my life. Had to relearn how to walk and tie my shoes. Again, causes many problems, but does not make calories appear out of nothin…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 09:08 PM
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These are not tangible goals. You're just trying to make people like you. It's not illegal to hurt peoples feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 07:33 PM
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If you find yourself "incompatible" with 50% of the population, you're the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 07:29 PM
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I've made exactly as many sacrifices as I've demanded from my husband. So, zero.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 07:28 PM
1

I do count reps. Those reps and sets take about an hour to complete.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 06:48 PM
1

Yes of course. I have an autoimmune disorder myself. Lupus does not and cannot create fat without calories. Nothing can. Notice how I've been able to site sources and you have not. That's not a coincidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 06:47 PM
1

Ypu think treating autistic adults like children is helping them?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 05:41 PM
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A reddit comment starting with "I know someone who" is not a credible source. Some people gain weight on steroids because they eat more. Steroids don't have calories. If you're on steroids, you should be careful to not indulge in calorie dense or obesegenic foods. The way to avoid weight gain on steroids is to eat healthfully and exercise. https://www.hss.edu/conditions_steroid-side-effects-how-to-reduce-corticosteroid-side-effects.asp Again, there is no way one can gain 100lbs without overeatin…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 05:38 PM
1

Have you dated in France? Because I have
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 10:18 AM
1

I've known people who have had success with WW, I just stay away because I like to keep things as simple as possible. No programs or apps for me. Just math.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 09:28 AM
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My weight loss journey began when I stopped making excuses and over complicating it. I had to cease the dramatics. It's not a disaster if I go out with my friends and just enjoy their company instead of eating dessert. It's not more difficult to count calories than it is to take a shower or pay a bill. If I have time to binge watch scifi, I can lift weights for 40 minutes a day. Injury and illness havent stopped people with way worse problems than me, so why cant I do it? What I wanted was a pat…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 09:24 AM
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Laziness is by definition not putting in any effort. So yes, not being lazy requires effort. Effort is not the same thing as difficulty. It takes effort to brush your teeth every morning but I'm assuming you dont fret about that. Think of logging your calories like brushing your teeth. It's just something you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 09:11 AM
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It only requires effort once. I go for date night every week with my husband. One evening, I took a few minutes to calculate the estimated calories of my favorite dishes and wrote them down. Now it takes 2 seconds to log it in.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 09:09 AM
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The amount of servings is determined by how much you eat. If you arent sure how many cups are in a pot, just measure it. Like, I know that the salad dressing I make has about 300 calories per jar and that I use about 1/3 of the jar per meal, so I add 100 calories. And I don't buy into "zero" foods. All foods have calories. All calories count. Whether they come from a carrot or a milkshake, they all get logged.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 09:07 AM
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I said that some of your actions are foolish and lazy, you are the only one calling yourself names. Literally every human does foolish and lazy things. It's the unwillingness to acknowledge when we are being foolish and lazy that's the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 08:56 AM
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Simple math. Keep track of all the calories you add into a recipe and then divide it by how many servings there are. Adds about 1 minute to prep time.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 08:54 AM
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Then order things you're familiar with or avoid eating out until you learn
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 08:48 AM
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You're extreme need to be validated bu strangers is alarming. I dont construct my commentary about my life experiences to make sure everyone feels hugged and included. I'm expressing my experience, what I've learned, and my opinions about it. Don't like it? Dont read it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 08:46 AM
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You estimate up. It's not hard. For example, I had a unique type of bread today that I couldn't find any info on, so I looked up something similar and added a few more calories just for good measure. Took about 20 seconds.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 08:41 AM
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I'm not going to lie to make you feel better
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 08:39 AM
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I do track my intake and burn what I eat. I don't do a fad diet. But it's also difficult to measure and weigh everything you put in your body. It takes about 5 seconds to measure and record a piece of food. If I go out to eat, I don't know how much butter they put in the steak. Does this mean I can't do date nights anymore? Does this mean I can't eat with my family anymore because I don't know how they cooked their food? Does this mean I can't travel the world and try different cuisines ? Of cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 08:30 AM
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No one can help or inspire you with the beliefs you're hanging on to. And just because some people cant figure something out doesnt make the thing complicated or difficult. I'm sure there is a fully grown adult somewhere out there who hasn't learned how to tie their shoes. That doesnt make tying one's shoes a difficult process. There have been some things in life that I've had difficulty with that other people find effortless. That's just how life works.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 08:27 AM
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Diet pills and quick fix weight loss teas are incredibly foolish. See, you're holding two conflicting beliefs: that you can't do it, but also that you're doing everything right. Until you can humble yourself enough to see that you are actually over complicating a very simple process and therefore making it difficult, you will stay stuck. Stop the fad diets. Track your calories and burn what you eat. Every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 08:20 AM
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It's my opinion that neglecting physical health in favor of fleeting indulgence is foolish and lazy, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 08:07 AM
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I lack that power. You are choosing to make my success somehow about your failures.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 08:01 AM
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YOU MADE ME FEEL THIS WAY. Impossible. I cant make you do anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 08:00 AM
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Blaming me for your tantrum is what makes you unaccountable and incompetent
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 08:00 AM
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Blaming outside influence for your actions and reactions is the opposite of accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 07:59 AM
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Bipolar disorder does not make someone lose complete ability to be competent and accountable, and its insulting to suggest it does. Seriously, reach out to someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 07:57 AM
2

Again, your words.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 07:54 AM
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Do whatever you want. Unlike you, I don't require validation from strangers or have an absolute meltdown because someone online says something I don't like.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 07:54 AM
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From the sound of it, you should be in the hospital
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 07:52 AM
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No one can make you feel that way. You do that to yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 07:52 AM
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That is not my experience at all. After I stopped all excuses, it was very very easy and got even easier with time.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 07:52 AM
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I very blatantly made an exception for profound mental illness
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 07:50 AM
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Would you prefer I gain back 50lbs and feed you a bunch of lies?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 07:48 AM
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I don't have that power.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 07:47 AM
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You've decided its complicated and impossible, so theres nothing anyone can say to show you that it's really not. I dont know you, but this seems like a mental/emotional issue and not a physical one. But you really shouldn't be online if other peoples weight loss upsets you to this degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 07:46 AM
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Get off the internet and go see a doctor.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 07:42 AM
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I was 142 pounds in my early 20s. Your attitude is troubling. You should probably talk to a professional. Not trying to be a dick, but that's not a normal reaction to fit people existing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 07:40 AM
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Those are your words, not anyone else's. I'm not passing judgment, this is just reality. If you've already decided that you can't do it because you're a woman, or because you take birth control, or because you're short, or because it's impossible for you to burn as much or more than you eat, etc then you are going to have a hard time. If you prefer to be overweight, that's your absolute right and prerogative. It's your life and your body. We all have to make choices for our health, and all of th…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 07:37 AM
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I'm not a man
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 07:26 AM
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I'm a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 06:34 AM
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I am also 4'11, 98 pounds. Eating for your size is not "severe restriction". Your body needs fewer calories than an average sized person.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 06:34 AM
1

That is impossible. Please understand that I'm not trying to be a dick. It's just a plain fact that one cannot gain fat from a medication alone. You gained 100 pounds because you were significantly overeating. There is no other possible way for that to happen outside a 100lb tumor. Has never happened, will never happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 06:33 AM
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No secrets, no tricks. I just make sure I burn more calories than I consume. I know I'm going to eat extra calories on Thanksgiving, so I've restricted calories a little bit each day this week and stepped up my workouts a bit. Also, one day of overeating isnt going to totally sabotage your weight loss. It's just a day. Just get right back on your healthy routine on Friday and you'll be fine. It's only hard when you make up excuses as to why you cant do it. You can.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 05:56 AM
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lol "clinical"
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 05:13 AM
1

It can make you retain water, but that's usually temporary and won't amount to much difference on the scale. But as far as birth control making you gain fat? That is impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 05:10 AM
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What makes you assume I've never had to lose weight?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 05:08 AM
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I'm being genuine. I'm asking you to source your claim that birth control causes massive weight gain.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 05:01 AM
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You mean like the ones I sourced? Do you have a source from accredited doctors that says birth control can create fat out of nothing? I would find that very interesting to read
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 04:03 AM
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No, eating excess calories makes people gain massive weight. Birth control can cause temporary water retention, which may effect weight but not significantly. There is no medication that creates fat out of nothing. https://www.webmd.com/sex/birth-control/birth-control-pills-weight-gain
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 03:58 AM
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Ya that seems pretty ideal to me. My husband is a bit on the bulky side up top, but it's because he climbs so much. He's not the type to stare in a mirror doing curls for hours.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 03:26 AM
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A very small amount of weight
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 03:25 AM
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I've always had a preference for lean and toned, like a runner's body. I find super bulky dudes unattractive, but I wouldn't consider noticeable chest and bicep definition a turn off. I think the key is to look like you give a shit, but not like you live at the gym. If that makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 03:00 AM
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People with exceptionally rare diseases like Cushings, PWS, or profound mental illness sure
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 02:57 AM
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And making up cringey and childish language for it is necessary...why?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 01:55 AM
2

Blaming mom and dad is easier
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 01:13 AM
3

Dating is dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 01:13 AM
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It's not the concept, it's the autistic and mega cringey overanalysis that rubs me the wrong way. The need to create stupid terminology to make you feel special for doing something totally normal. You're dating. What you're doing is called dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 01:08 AM
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Dude same story here. I shredded my rotator cuffs in my late teens and subsequently injured them further and more severely as time passed. Since I started lifting weights and focusing on my shoulders regularly in my mid thirties (about 8 years ago), my chronic issues seemed to have completely disappeared. I'm thrilled but also a little pissed that I didn't know this earlier. I actually avoided working my shoulders out of fear it would make them worse. Now I take every opportunity. Being in my fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 01:03 AM
4

Then stop eating trash all together. It's pretty simple. Or keep eating trash and not exercising and accept the consequences of your choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 12:58 AM
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7 days a week. I might take 1 day off every month or so. It's my favorite part of my day. I don't want to go into detail about my exact routine because I've made that mistake before only to have a bunch of twenty something dudes who just discovered what a gym is spewing a bunch of Joe Rogan bro science. I'll just say that I do 20 minutes of legs, 20 minutes arms/shoulder/chest, and 20 minutes core each day. I try to sneak in at least 3 or 4 extra shoulder training sessions a week because I have …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 12:50 AM
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Then just don't shovel massive amounts of trash down your face. Make adult choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 12:43 AM
1

So you believe about 1% of men successfully fuck and date women?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 12:42 AM
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Seems like you are tuning the men out. Even on this sub, men constantly complain about "not being able to" be healthy and how it's unreasonable and unfair to expect that from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 11:22 PM
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70% of men are also overweight. That said, as a very fit person I have complicated feelings about this. Not Being Fat is simple and easy. If you can't do that, you're lazy. Most men and women are lazy. Being "fit" can be a lot more difficult. If it were easy, everyone would do it. But very few do. I love fitness and find whatever sacrifices are necessary to stay fit totally worth it, but not everyone feels the same way or has the time to live the way I do. So for me, it's easy to stay under 1500…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 11:12 PM
2

If someone engages with me in a social situation, it's a completely different thing. It's when they approach at inappropriate times that I get annoyed. I'm not on a train or at the DMV or in the grocery store to meet dudes or make friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 10:53 PM
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Sent you the link. Men who have lost their job and cannot pay child support.... thrown. in. prison. indefinitely. And so are women. So you have no point. So, after all your outbursts, you come to the same conclusion in my original comment. Outside of the draft, there are no laws that discriminate against men specifically.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 10:17 PM
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Political movements need tangible goals. Black rights, gay rights, women's rights, etc all had/have legal arguments to support their movements, which is why they were/are successful. "We want people to like us more" cannot a social movement make. Some people not liking you or disapproving of you might not feel nice, but it does not limit your freedom.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 10:15 PM
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What laws specifically are preventing men from being free? What can women legally do that men cannot?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 09:42 PM
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Women don't get thrown into debtor's prison because they lost their job. Show me the law that states debtors prison only applies to men. There are incarcerated women in Detroit who would be very interested in this information. Also, LOVE the tactic "apart from the one I know about so it doesn't count..." it fucking DOES count. The constitution somehow not applying to men doesn't matter to you, just the possibility that women can't murder babies under the guise of "body autonomy". Again, you're t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 09:41 PM
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Turns out if you're poor and you haven't paid child support as a result, you aren't entitled to the constitutionally guaranteed access to an attorney because reasons. And this applies to women too. So, not at all what I'm asking about. Also, there's this. https://www.nytimes.com/2019/02/24/us/military-draft-men-unconstitutional.html WHAT WHAT? DRAFTING MEN ONLY IS UNCONSTITUTIONAL? How long has that been going on and is still going on? Hmmmmm Which is why I asked for examples other than this one…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 09:20 PM
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Those laws do not exist. You are wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 09:02 PM
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This is a very long answer to questions I didnt ask, nor do I care. I can see you have many opinions and feelings, but none are relevant. You cant name any legal rights being taken from men specifically because none exist. If there were an effort to strip men of their rights unequally, I expect there would be political backlash. As there should be.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 08:53 PM
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I rather enjoy the right to own property, vote, get divorced, have a job, and make reproductive decisions
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 08:42 PM
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Neither can you. I'm not asking about your feelings about it, nor am I sharing mine. I'm just asking if you're aware of any rights that are being taken from men and not women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 08:40 PM
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You're arguing with feelings, I'm only using facts and leaving my opinion out of it. You feeling like women shouldn't have that particular constitutional right doesnt make it any less of a constitutional right. I'm asking a very simple question about facts, not asking you how you feel about the facts. Can you name a constitutional right that is being stripped from men in particular?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 08:39 PM
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Name one law or restriction that only applies to men other than the draft
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 08:37 PM
1

With the exception of the draft, none of those are specific to men. Can you show me a law or restriction that only applies to men, other than the draft?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 08:36 PM
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Dont move goal posts. You asked about legal rights and I gave you an example. Can you think of any constitutional right that is being stripped away from men only?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 06:41 PM
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Under the law, medical abortion is defined as body autonomy. Under the law and medical science, abortion is not murder. Not my opinion, just facts. You not liking the laws and facts doesn't make them fake.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 06:11 PM
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Ypu haven't heard about the states trying to take away women's constitutional rights to medical abortion? Seriously?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 06:04 PM
1

I don't find rude men with poor social skills attractive. No matter what they look like.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 05:51 PM
1

I disagree. A terrible Christian is still a Christian. You and I don't decide what a "real" Christian is.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 05:50 PM
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In some states, women's body autonomy is being stripped away/threatened. I've never heard of any proposed legislation to take bodily autonomy away from men and not women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 05:48 PM
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Laugh all the way to a divorce lawyer
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 09:22 AM
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Lol what? The only point of a cold approach or cat call is to gain attention from someone you find attractive. You're living in serious denial, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 09:06 AM
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Calling oneself a feminist is about as descriptive as calling yourself a Christian. We all have a general idea of what the core beliefs are, but the application and nuance varies widely due to how vast the following is. Some Christians use their faith to become inspired to help those less fortunate. Others use it as justification for terrorism, murder, torture, rape, war, etc. A feminist is someone who aligns with the belief that women should have equal rights, opportunities, and autonomy as men…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 08:52 AM
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People with basic social skills don't generally go around begging strangers for attention. Just saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 08:34 AM
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Most men aren't that socially retarded
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 06:42 AM
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Most men don't bother women at the grocery store or on the city bus. Normal men wait for a socially appropriate time to hit on women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 06:40 AM
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And that was my initial point...most men aren't assholes. Most men are good at handling rejection, or at the very least will leave the woman alone after, whether at a party or somewhere in public. This is your theory. You might be right, but we'll never know because most sane, stable dudes don't cold approach strangers. Your hypothesis of "well maybe if they did they would be more polite about it" is useless. Most men who cold approach women do not handle rejection well. That's just how it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 06:36 AM
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Competent, quality men dont need to chase women down in the streets to get attention
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 06:34 AM
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It would be a shorter list to name those I havent met, honestly. I've been in the industry a long long time. Uh, Shia Labeouf? Tom Hanks? Michael Jordan? The Rock? is that what you're looking for? Are you one of those people who loves celebrity gossip?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 06:32 AM
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You are ignoring an important factor. Hitting on women in grocery stores or on city streets is not something most men do. Most normal guys reserve that for social settings. If a guy is cold approaching a woman at all, chances are he's a little off. Not all men who hit on women in public are creeps, but all creeps hit on women in public. Most men arent rude to me, because most men would never beg for attention from a woman they don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 04:42 AM
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Most dudes will try to negotiate/argue/ask why/attempt to continue the interaction after being shot down. A few will get insulting or hostile. It's pretty fucking rare to have a guy just take it politely and move along, although that does happen
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 04:35 AM
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Two random famous people?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 04:23 AM
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I work with them every day, so yes. Pretty much everyone you could think of.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 01:16 AM
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I don't know how straight men feel about being approached by gay men, because I'm a straight woman. I know how I feel when random men approach me. Mild annoyance at best and absolute disgust or even intense fear at worst. I have never felt flattered by a random man's "compliments". That's like feeling special for getting a spam email.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 11:34 PM
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Can you name the difference between writing "women" well and just writing well?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 08:28 PM
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There are billions of women. How can one write "women" well?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 09:37 AM
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That's the story for working people these days. Job security is an illusion for most. I'm well educated and have a stable career, but I'm well aware that anything can happen and I could end up at Starbucks or Walmart in my fifties (if I'm lucky). It could happen to any of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 05:23 PM
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That's a big one. Both my parents had the same jobs for over 30 years, which is pretty normal for people of that generation. That is basically impossible in the modern economy for most well-paying jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 04:41 PM
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Something that anyone who's had relationships will tell you is that it's impossible to accurately describe a relationship unless you yourself were/are in it. It is much much too complex for outsiders to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 07:37 AM
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Unless they have actual experience with dating, they're just guessing. Some might have pretty good and accurate guesses, but their word should never be trusted over those who have actual living experiences with relationships. Of course one of the more ridiculous assertions of incels is that they actually know more about relationships than the individuals in them. Which is obviously absurd.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 07:24 AM
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People with no experience with something should not pretend to be experts on that thing. Like, I've never been to Japan. Would love to go, but it hasn't happened. Never having been to Japan doesnt make me a bad or stupid person, it just means that I'm clueless about what it's like to visit or live in japan. No matter how many books or articles I read or how many videos I watch, it's not the same as living it. If someone has genuine questions about what Japan is like, they should talk to someone …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 07:10 AM
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I always assumed I would have children. I love kids and I've always been great with them. Then the time came when I was of age to start popping them out and reality set in. The astronomical cost. The strain on marriage. The uncertainty and instability of modern careers. The disruption to my ability to earn a decent living. The unlikelihood of finding a partner rich enough to comfortably solely support a growing family in the city. The changes to my body. It also occurred to me at that time that …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 07:05 AM
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Those exercises are good for everyone. But from my experience, focusing on shoulder strength is the most beneficial for breast related pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 11:45 PM
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Lol I wish this was accurate
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 11:43 PM
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Certainly helped me. Not only do I have large breasts, but I had a catastrophic shoulder injury about a decade ago that required 2 surgeries. Shoulder presses are incorporated into every single workout. I even do them on my off days. It helps a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 11:23 PM
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Oh it certainly has hindered me. Especially before internet shopping made it easy to find good sports bras. There are certain exercises I cant or won't do because of my breasts. I would imagine it's much more difficult for bigger women. I just had to be more imaginative when creating my workouts.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 11:21 PM
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I have a tiny frame and large breasts. I would say it's been challenging but I honestly dont know what it's like to not have large breasts so I'm not exactly sure how my challenges compare to other women. High quality, very restrictive sports bras (sometimes even two sports bras) are mandatory for any intense cardio, running, dancing, etc. Regular sports bras work just fine for weight lifting, climbing, yoga, cycling, etc. Weight lifting has helped with the shoulder pain I sometimes experience w…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 11:07 PM
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Right, a mentally stable and reasonably intelligent woman would just carry on having reckless sex and risking her wellbeing while doling out pity sex to repulsive men. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 07:26 PM
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Right. She didn't bargain her time, energy, and health in the past and faced the consequences. So now that she knows better, she does better. Like a reasonable person would.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 05:42 PM
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Shes not "bargaining pussy", she's bargaining her time, energy, and general wellbeing. Which is exactly what a mentally stable adult would and should do. You're not realizing the mistake you're making. Viewing dating from a fully autistic and dehumanized lens, and essentially advocating for pity sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 05:26 PM
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My N count does not affect my general success and happiness positively or negatively
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 07:53 AM
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Recently, my 8 year old nephew shared with me his personal evacuation plan should his school get shot up in a very matter if fact and practical way. I could tell it was something he's thought about a lot. He even gave me some advice if my "school" were attacked. Heartbreaking.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 09:08 PM
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I think that sentiment usually comes from the type of dude who consistently chases unavailable women. Which in my opinion is a mental illness.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 06:55 PM
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Enjoy being a young grandpa!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 05:00 PM
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Because when kids fear their parents, they do things behind their back.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 09:12 AM
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Ya hows that working for super religious families?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 09:09 AM
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Oh you poor naive thing.....
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 09:06 AM
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Right. Girls with tyrant fathers never run into the arms of other men. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 09:02 AM
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My dad is the fuckin best, and I have always respected him. That did exactly nothing to quell my teenage hormones.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 08:58 AM
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How do you react when you feel that you are not receiving enough attention? Never been an issue at any point in our relationship. Are you asking for attention? Has your need for attention changed from partner to partner? I have literally asked for attention from partners in the past. Not necessarily because they were neglecting me, more likely that I was going through something and needed extra care. How has your need for attention changed in the course of your relationship / marriage? It hasn't…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 08:54 AM
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There's no shortage of men who prefer bigger girls independent of outside influence, never has been. Let's also not ignore the fact that 70% of men are also fat. That said, the increase in representation of fat models isn't for the purpose of enticing men. It's to sell fat women clothes. Thin/fit will always be the gold standard for beauty.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/19 05:16 PM
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Words of affirmation. Cringy to give and recieve for me. I'm working on it
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/19 04:46 AM
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Hey 21 with no cavities is pretty impressive!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/19 04:45 AM
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I am very strict about my diet and totally dedicated to working out every day. Have been for years. I take good care of my teeth by flossing and brushing and regularly visiting the dentist (41 years old and never had a cavity!). I shower every day and try to smell nice. I moisturize. I wear sunscreen. I'm not much of a fashionista, but I do wear flattering, unflashy clothing that fits properly and is functional. Honestly the rest just kinda works itself out. As long as my diet is on track my ski…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/19 01:57 AM
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Right now, I earn about twice as much as my husband. He's a high school teacher so it's not as though I was expecting a cash cow when we married. I don't care about discrepancy, I care about effort. So long as he is contributing meaningfully to the household to the best of his ability, is not miserable to live with, and is reasonably able to help support the unit and manage his money wisely, I'm satisfied.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 07:04 PM
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It's an exchange in effort. Yes, men are grnerally expected to court their partners more and to use gestures or tokens to show esteem and continued interest. Women are expected to cater to their partners by stay as pretty as possible for as long as possible, do more labor in the household, etc And then there's common ground like fidelity, kindness, and respect. Relationship breakdowns are usually a result of either or both parties failing to keep up their end. So, yes I think its perfectly accep…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 05:00 PM
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Using words like "cuck" unironically
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/19 09:06 PM
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Sure but when youre on your own, you dont need a ton of money to be stable.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/19 07:27 PM
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Probably pretty similarly as I do now. Spending a lot of time alone in nature, get a dog, find a well paying and interesting career, work out a lot, read books.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/19 07:23 AM
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I would stress the importance of a healthy diet and regular exercise, participation in sports, and instill responsible behaviors early on like getting a job, doing his chores, and contributing meaningfully to the household.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 10:27 PM
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Oh I'm fully on board with that conspiracy "theory".
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 09:25 PM
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I mean, they are out there. They're just pretty rare. I guess my point is that there are a million better and more realistic reasons to stay in shape as we age than dating someone 1/3 your age. As we both know as some of the elder people here, the benefits of healthy diet and exercise only increase as you get older, as do the consequences of laziness. Fit and healthy people are just better partners across the board. No matter what age range you're looking to date/fuck/marry/whatever and no matte…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 07:35 PM
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You're also going to die soon, though. Young women don't care about mortgages, reliable vehicles and good health insurance. They dont want dads, they want boyfriends. They want to go to parties and stay out until 3am and make out. As nice as an older man might be in some ways, he cannot offer the same frantic fun and spontaneity that a young guy can.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 05:12 PM
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The fact that you think feeding yourself like an adult and maybe hanging some art on your walls and folding your towels makes you "beta" says a lot about you
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 05:09 PM
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Yep. Which is why most women have no sympathy when they complain about not being able to attract women
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 09:52 AM
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I'm cool with no marriage and no kids, not living separately forever
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 09:49 AM
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Sure, it happens. People are just generally much more likely to date and fuck within their same age range no matter how attractive they are. Pretty much all of the super attractive old dudes I know and hang with are with fit, attractive older women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 08:13 AM
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Do you fold your laundry? Is your house tidy? Do you cook actual food for yourself? Do you wash your face? Style your hair? Decorate your apartment?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 08:11 AM
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If it were easy to stay in shape, everyone would do it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 06:33 AM
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They sound exactly like MGTOWs and Incels
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 12:43 AM
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Well, sure. But fertility isnt exactly an important factor for most people dating in middle age so I'm not sure it's super relevant Young attractive fertile women who want to start families will rarely choose a hot old guy over someone closer to her own age.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 12:40 AM
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Depends entirely on the situation and individuals involved. Usually, there are red flags before something terrible happens. However I have witnessed situations in which someone behaves in ways their partners couldn't have possibly predicted. It does happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 10:25 PM
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Seriously you should go look at the posts in /r/fatlogic Obese women saying shit like "My skinny hot friends eat 5000 calories of McDonald's every day and chainsmoke but they are still hot because of their genetics!! No fair!!" Y'all are peas in a pod. Don't complain about people's success when you're not putting in the effort they are. Don't undermine and deny their efforts. Its pitiful.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 10:18 PM
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Yes, but my point stands. Just like how a messy house is never just a messy house. It's a symptom of a warped concept of maturity and self sufficiency, laziness, and mental weakness. Bad habits don't exist in a vacuum, most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 10:04 PM
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Living in a messy home, not putting any effort into presentation, eating convenience foods instead of learning to feed oneself like an adult, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 10:02 PM
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I'd welcome your comment on my men age like warlords, not wine comment. I mean, some certainly do. But as I said, so few men are willing to put in even a minimal amount of effort to not age like an open can of wet cat food that it's hard to say. My husband is certainly aging like a warlord. But without his commitment to healthy diet and exercise he would be exactly like every other skinnyfat loser on here complaining about chad. Aging is as aging does. For everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 10:01 PM
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Oooh you're a teenager. Explains your confusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 09:21 PM
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Older men only have the advantage if they pull their heads out of their asses in time. Sadly, most never do. An older guy with his shit together and who is in excellent shape will indeed be desirable to many women. They are exceptionally rare, though. On the flip side, an older man who still lives like a 21 year old bachelor and doesnt take care of his health is exceptionally pathetic and undesirable, and will be at a major disadvantage even compared to losers half his age. That's the story for …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 09:19 PM
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You are not a chad. Chad has no problem fucking and dating
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 09:16 PM
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I dont speak for other women, just myself. I prioritize my health, wellbeing, and success. I put in the effort. Why on earth would I want to share my life with someone who is undisciplined and lazy?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 09:14 PM
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Most obese people have general issues with self control
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 09:13 PM
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Y'all consistently undermine and deny the amount of effort most "chads" put in to their wellness and appearance. Maybe a tiny minority of hot dudes can just eat whatever they want, never wash their faces, and roll out of bed looking sexy, but that's not reality for the vast majority. I know these dudes. I fuck, date, and marry them. They give a fuck and put in effort. Seems like sour grapes and envy of someone who's put in more work than you and is enjoying the results. Like the fat activists wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 09:11 PM
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The most prevalent issue I ran into with otherwise eligible men while dating was grown ass adults needing a mommy. As far as the more surface issues, being fat was the quickest and most common disqualifier. One guy in particular stands out to me. Basically my dream man in every aspect other than his obesity and unwillingness to get himself under control. True bummer. Great dude who would make a wonderful partner. Basically most issues including obesity come from the larger problem of laziness an…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 08:59 PM
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Done it before and would do it again. Having a stay at home partner is fucking awesome. I loved coming home to a clean house, errands run, and a relaxed boyfriend. Our time together was actual quality time. It was just a temporary arrangement with an ex due to his work not only not paying nearly enough, but causing so much stress it was effecting his health. I encouraged him to quit and take a few months to get healthy before looking for something better. He ended up taking about 8 months off be…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/19 09:22 PM
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Yes. He can crash and burn on his own. That's why I married a man who is sensible with his/our money
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 10:44 PM
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Coffee and a walk or a few beers
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 01:09 AM
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Yes to both. I am very happy to be childfree. My 40-something self would like to thank my 20-something past self for making that decision. I had planned on living marriage free as well, but it didn't work out that way for me. I am a very solitary person and enjoy doing most things by myself, and I didn't ever envision having a husband. Then I met a guy who fit right in to my lifestyle and had no problem with letting me do my thing on my own and giving me lots of space. He really wanted to get ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 06:48 AM
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guitar, drums, and keys.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 12:24 AM
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It worked very well for some of them, not as well for others. I've never met an "alpha widow". I've known women who've been seriously bummed and sidetracked by a breakup, but they just move on to someone else. The only people I know who are still hung up on exes to such a degree that it affects other relationships longterm are men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/19 06:48 AM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 09:32 PM
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As upsetting as many of these strategies are, they do work
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 03:34 PM
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Could be skinnyfat
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 03:11 AM
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I promise you, life is much more fun when you're not fat. I hope that you can experience it someday.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 12:20 AM
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Again, the fact that you think prioritizing health and fitness makes a person "no fun" says a lot about you. This is why most people are fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 12:00 AM
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Do you have any concept at all of what "in shape" means? Jesus christ. Of course I work out. Why would I waste my time with a man who doesn't?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 10:53 PM
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BTW, are you in an excellent Stacey's shape? Yes. Because I'm not lazy. So why would I choose a lazy partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 10:00 PM
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Almost anyone can get into excellent shape.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 08:57 PM
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I didn't need to change at all, other than to make a few small changes to my day to day living to accommodate another person. If I had chosen to truly change for a partner, I don't believe the relationship would have been fulfilling or sustainable
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 07:41 PM
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The fact that you think one needs to be "Mr Universe" to be in good shape says a lot about you
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 07:39 PM
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Na. I'm not fucking or dating anyone who isnt in excellent shape. And I would never date someone who binges pizza and pounds beers with any sort of regularity. Wouldnt fit into my lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 04:56 PM
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Whether or not it's worth it depends entirely on the individual and their personal priorities. Before I met my husband, I put minimal effort specifically on dating because I didnt find it worthwhile. I was perfectly happy being single and didn't see the point of sacrificing an evening to go out with some dude who didn't knock my socks off. There were times when I declined all potential dates for a year or more, just because I couldn't be bothered. I focused my energy on personal fulfillment and …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 08:43 AM
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This is what severe lack of social intelligence looks like
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 07:31 AM
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lolololol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 07:26 AM
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I put in exactly how much my partner does. No more, no less.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 03:44 AM
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Seems like you want people to be triggered by your personal preferences but no one actually cares
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 03:43 AM
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Because you're not a woman and you choose to not acknowledge any reality that challenges your victim complex
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 08:23 PM
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Keep livin in denial, dude. It's easier to feel like a victim that way
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 06:21 PM
1

Dudes catcall. They'll catcall anyone from prepubescent school girls to elderly grandmothers. They'll catcall the disabled and men walking with their boyfriends and husbands. They'll catcall whether she's in a parka in a blizzard or in a swimsuit at the beach. That's just reality
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 04:46 PM
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You are so far into fantasy world its entertaining. That's neither slutty nor attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 08:55 AM
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Not too bad. I had two LTRs fall apart due to the dude failing to convince me to get knocked up. Not a big deal to me. Obviously not a good match. There were plenty others who didn't care or who enthusiastically agreed. Whether or not to have kids is a deeply personal choice. No matter what you choose, you're bound to question whether or not you made the right decision. I've gone through short phases of wondering if I made the right choice, but ultimately I am VERY grateful and happy that I am c…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 08:47 AM
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Not OP, but all kinds. Friends of friends, dudes I had met once or twice, dudes I knew years ago and lost touch with, work colleagues, clients/customers, random strangers, drunk and lonely exes, my friends family members including their dads, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 08:44 AM
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Lol. I've literally been catcalled in a ski suit AND a hospital gown
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 08:42 AM
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I've never been that into social media. I deleted facebook after using it only for about 6 months many, many years ago. Creeps were part of the reason I deleted, but not the prevailing issue. Recently started an instagram account, mostly to keep in touch with my adult nieces and nephews and friends/family. Creeps are unavoidable. I usually either ignore or mock, but would definitely delete all social media rather than deal with more creeps than I already do. I stopped using online dating very qu…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 08:36 AM
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How would you meet them if they're isolated?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 02:43 PM
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I have a family member like this. She get lonely sometimes, but by and large she just wants to be alone most of the time. It's a bummer only because I think lots of people would like to be her friend or date her if she had enough confidence to actually let people get to know her, but if she wants to live in isolation that's her choice. I think she's awesome, albeit a little strange. I actually have a male family member who's just like that too. Same thing. I don't believe she's been diagnosed wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 02:40 PM
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I don't care for his music that much, but Andrew WK is pretty hot. Gene Kelly was the hottest man to ever live
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 02:31 PM
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Eh, it worked for me. It's nice to know that I can be happy fulfilled on my own.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 12:39 AM
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That's exactly what you're saying. That you're oprsessed and victimized because not enough hot women will have casual sex with you
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 12:38 AM
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You sound like a Tumblrina
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/19 07:24 AM
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Fat men demanding thin women is absurd
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/19 05:50 AM
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I don't. Which is evidenced by the fact that I easily find quality men to commit to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 06:38 PM
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Ignoring the fact that 70% of men are fat too
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 04:29 PM
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Dude. Not having the hottest women to have casual sex on demand does.not make you or anyone else a victim. If you're lonely, go do something about it. Women can't solve that problem for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 04:24 PM
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Stop punching above your weight
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 04:22 PM
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Made up statistics arent going to convince me or any rational person to believe in some incels victimhood dramatics. I'm not going to feel sorry for average/below average dudes who cant attract gorgeous women for casual sex on demand.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 08:19 AM
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Nope. Women are always selective.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 08:18 AM
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Um ya obviously you could easily die from not having a job. So having a girlfriend that isnt as hot as a celebrity's girlfriend is akin to being assaulted?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 08:16 AM
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Then about one third of men are over inflating their value and punching above their weight. Anyone who complains that there are "No good men/women left" is no good themselves. There are plenty of both. If you cant get one, it's because you're in denial about where you stand.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 07:55 AM
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Most men are normal. Normal men have normal dating lives. Normal dating lives mean they have a few girlfriends before settling down and getting married. Incels are not normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 07:52 AM
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Hey if you think women are leeching hags, then them. not liking you should be great news.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 07:51 AM
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Oh ya? You gonna die if your girlfriend isn't hot enough?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 07:50 AM
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Like 90% of dudes get at least a few women to like them. A vast majority find at least one to marry them. It's not that dire.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 06:49 AM
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Child abuse, generally, is sadly quite common across the board. But yes. Anyone dating or planning on children should weigh the risks of abuse. Especially if you're dating men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 03:51 PM
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Debt, poverty, illness, isolation, disability, mental illness, addiction, abuse, general hopelessness. Can happen to anyone. Even people you percieve as "having it all". Even fabulously wealthy, attractive, talented celebrities end up killing themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 03:39 PM
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Apples to apples, men abuse children more often than women. That's why it's often safer to be a single mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 03:36 PM
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Depends on context Deployed overseas? Young guy visiting Amsterdam and thinking "when in Rome"? Not a big deal to me. Trolling red light districts or craigslist looking for street walkers? Hard no
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 03:06 PM
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Well the second most likely to abuse children are biological fathers, so it's just a pitfall of dating men generally
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 03:03 PM
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Is an impoverished and incapable mother good for a child?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 07:43 AM
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Universal basic income. That's it. And I should say that I had an ideal childhood and both my parents worked. I was watched by my aunt, retired neighbor, and my older siblings when they were gone. A community approach to raising children is what's best for a child's social development and independence. A SAHM is a good way to raise sheltered and helpless children that later fail to launch.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 07:43 AM
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Sure, but the BEST way is to already have all the money. I'm just mocking you a bit. Obviously having a parent stay at home is ideal. But it's not realistic for most families.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 06:43 AM
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And having rich parents is the best way to avoid student loans
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 05:50 AM
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Not my style, but I know a lot of people who it worked for quite well.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/19 10:03 PM
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I would love to foster at some point. I don't want to give birth to any children, but I do hope to foster. It was a wonderful experience to have as a kid. BUT, my parents are the good ones. Many foster parents are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/19 10:02 PM
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If I were much younger and in a similar situation, ya. I dated poor dudes when I was poor. It just kinda works out that way. Now? Fuck no.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/19 09:23 PM
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Kinda all over the map. One kid had a meth addicted mother, so her husband was obviously garbage. Another kid was taken from his mother and stepfather due to illness and extreme financial hardship (nice people) and placed with his father. His father, while wealthy, was the most horrifically abusive parent I have ever heard of. I'm talking broken bones and starvation. One girl was adopted by her addicted mothers ex boyfriend, who only dated her mom for a few months and wasn't her biological dad. …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/19 09:18 PM
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I grew up with both parents, but our family took in foster kids so I have some perspective on this. It depends on who the mom and dad are. Most of the kids we took in would have been better off raised by wolves than with either or both parents/stepparents. A few had parents that were good people doing their best, but simply couldn't care for their kids. Some had nightmare parents and step parents, some had good ones that became ill, impoverished, incarcerated or dead. Some had stepparents that r…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/19 06:50 PM
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But I'm steaming my broccoli in there
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/19 08:26 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/19 04:44 AM
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AND IT WAS ONLY 15 BUCKS AT TARGET
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 07:16 PM
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Neither TRP nor the manosphere are political groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 07:16 PM
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Because they're retarded
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 06:23 PM
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OPs question is about TRP. Are you trying to claim that TRP is a political movement with tangible goals?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 06:21 PM
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YES
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 04:09 PM
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Can you name a single men's group that focuses on any of these other than feminist ally groups? Or are you actually trying to say that TRP champions these issues? lol Get a message beyond "plz fuk me" and people might actually start caring
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 04:07 PM
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I've had way more problems with dicks that are too big vs dicks that are too small. I'm a very small person. It's just unpleasant
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 08:42 AM
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Right. Because there's nothing to be done for these people. That's as close as you're gonna get.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 08:41 AM
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I GAVE AWAY MY OLD RICE COOKER BECAUSE I GOT A NEW, MORE EXPENSIVE AND FANCY RICE COOKER AND IT FUCKING SUCKS AND I WANT MY OLD CHEAP RICE COOKER BACK
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 07:37 AM
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Legalize prostitution. That's it. The rest is just you trying to figure out how to get something for nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 07:35 AM
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rights to vote, rights to own property, rights to education, rights to access birth control, sexual harassment laws..... Agree or disagree, feminism has been a very effective movement for changing policy and social norms. I've yet to see any cohesive goal from the manosphere. You can't legislate "please love me".
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 07:33 AM
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I don't think anyone should be given respect for no reason I also dont think people should be blatantly disrespected for no reason. The hysterical dramatics over single mothers existing is just boring and pathetic. No one is trying to force you to date single parents. Just be a normal person and move along to someone more suited to your preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 03:18 AM
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No. Feminism had a tangible, achievable goal that could be reached through action and legislation. Red Pill and other manospheres just want people to like them more.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 03:16 AM
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Hiking, climbing, trail running, dog training, cooking/baking, reading, bird and insect spotting, road trips, and volunteer work
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 03:15 AM
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Well ya. I don't talk to those losers. They talk to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 03:13 AM
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Sometimes unavoidable or accidental, though. And most dudes don't wait for eye contact
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 12:06 AM
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Who cares?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 12:05 AM
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I don't strike up conversations with anyone for no reason. I interact with ugly men the same way I interact with anyone else I'm not sexually attracted to. Would be pretty impossible to avoid them completely.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 12:03 AM
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I'm 41, happily married. The first time a man called me names for rejecting his advances, I was 8 years old. Has continued since. Would be cool if women could select which men approach them, though. I like that fantasy world you've built.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 11:58 PM
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Its pretty amazing how quickly I transform from "gorgeous" to "ugly ass bitch" when I decline a man's advances.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 08:38 PM
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You're not important enough for so many people to want to mislead and lie to you. Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 08:36 PM
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You cant possibly understand how common it is, because you're a man. And you're a man desperate to hang on to a victim complex and this doesnt fit into your narrative. And women dont lash out at men like men lash put at women. It happens all the time Half the human population is not conspiring to lie to you. It's basic reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 08:14 PM
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I'd rather die alone
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 06:57 PM
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oh yes they will. As I've mentioned before, my lifelong bestfriend is obese and I've seen it with my own eyes. And it's amazing how quickly I go from "gorgeous" to "ugly bitch" as soon as I decline a guy's advances. You know there's literally an entire subreddit for those dudes, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 04:33 PM
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😘
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 07:17 AM
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Neither men nor women should let themselves become fat and lazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 07:15 AM
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You live in absolute delusion. It's stunning.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 07:11 AM
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Women will fuck guys who earn 100K, but they'd prefer 20mil. Mem don't just stick their dicks in older women. The pursue them, propose marriage, take them on fancy dates, even offer to buy them cars and houses.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 07:10 AM
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That's why I prefer men my own age or older as well
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 07:07 AM
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You don't see it because you're a man. Your denial only further proves my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 02:07 AM
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Make a dating profile for an average looking middle aged woman and see how wrong you are
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 12:45 AM
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I'm a woman in my early forties. I'm in great shape, make good money, my skin looks awesome, I have lots of friends, and my life is super fun. Wouldn't trade it back for my twenties for anything. I have very high standards because I can. I've spent a long enough time single to know that I can be very happy alone. I don't need a partner to maintain my lifestyle. So men who want to be in my life should be amazing or gtfo. I think a lot of older women feel similarly. We've had enough experience to …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 12:42 AM
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I'd wanted to be treated like a man if I were a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 12:38 AM
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You're right. It's even more common elsewhere. Men I dont know have yelled out what they think about my body in London, Dublin, Thailand, Indonesia, Paris, Mexico City, and even Canada. Didnt happen to me in Vietnam. But I was in the middle of nowhere
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 12:28 AM
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I would like to note your level of hysteria given the fact that at no point did I Express my opinions or feelings about this reality. You are crying about something that didn't even happen. These are facts. Men comment constantly on womens appearance. Sometimes positively, sometimes negatively. Sometimes both in the same breath. Men compliment women they want to fuck. They will tell women they dont want to fuck exactly why they don't find them fuckable, especially when no one asked. They will la…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 10:56 PM
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It's cute that you thunk you can change basic reality to feed your victim complex and illicit pity. Men comment on womens appearance much more often than the reverse. That's not my opinion. That's a simple and very basic fact. Even a child can see that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 10:24 PM
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Right. Getting called an ugly bitch by a stranger for no reason is super validating.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 04:59 PM
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Women can cheat whenever they want. They usually don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 04:53 PM
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I've never my life seen a man hanging out of a car window to tell a woman she is unattractive btw. Because you're a man. It happens all the time. Even to attractive women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 04:52 PM
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Do you need proof that the sun rises in the morning and sets in the evening, too?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 04:51 PM
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Dude do you live in the world? Literally any post anywhere on reddit with a picture of a woman. Any of them. Every sidewalk in every busy city That's like asking for a source that the common cold makes your nose stuffy. Everyone knows that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 07:01 AM
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Penetrative sex is like a fun night out on the town Masturbation is like staying in wearing your pajamas and watching Netflix Both are great, in their own ways. Sometimes you're in the mood/not in the mood for one or the other
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 06:59 AM
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The outside world isnt. You dont see women yelling out of car windows to compliment or insult mens appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 06:56 AM
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Do you prefer "Have the uncontrollable need to Express their opinion when not asked"?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 06:55 AM
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Oh ya? Women comment on mens appearance constantly in the streets?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 06:54 AM
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My opinion isn't relevant. I'm just pointing out obvious, observable facts
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 06:36 AM
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Men and women cheat at very similar levels, but men cheat slightly more often than women. Most people never cheat at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 06:27 AM
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Are you really denying that men comment on womens appearance much more than the reverse? Even a small child can observe that
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 06:26 AM
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Put a picture of an ugly woman on reddit and see what happens. Men comment on womens appearance in general MUCH more often than the reverse. Both positive and negative. Women dont hang out of car windows to tell men they have nice legs. They also don't hang out of car windows to call men fat cows.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 06:21 AM
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Men lash out at women they find unattractive Women ignore men they find unattractive
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 05:30 AM
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bullshit bro science= "rationale" You know who is statistically the most likely to ask for a divorce? Women who marry younger than 25. So, inexperienced, virginal women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 03:41 AM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 12:18 AM
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But not if you have to put a used spoon in your mouth?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 12:07 AM
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Lol "movement"
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 12:05 AM
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First, point and laugh. Then I would take him to the doctor.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 12:04 AM
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Who is a single woman sleeping around being disloyal to?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 12:03 AM
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Sometimes I like to imagine y'all having a panic attack when you have to touch money, doorknobs, or utensils at restaurants
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 12:02 AM
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Not to mention that being physically fit improves pretty much every other aspect of your life
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 09:41 PM
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yes that too. Still do
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 03:56 PM
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I suppose so. I had a lot of fun in my youth.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 08:37 AM
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Probably Trump. If not Trump, probably Warren
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 07:50 AM
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Eh. That's less than 2 a year for the tine I was single. Didn't have any negative impact on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 07:48 AM
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How do you give comfort? My husband loves food and sweets. Sometimes I wake up extra early to make him cinnamon rolls or pancakes. He's also very touchy feely so I hold his hand, hug him, kiss him, massage him, etc. He's also a big talker. Often the best thing I can do is just sit and listen. How would you like to be comforted? I guess my love language is "words of affirmation". Some comforting words, advice, and sometimes a tough reality check are what makes me feel supported. My husband is ver…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 05:53 AM
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More than 20 less than 30 I dunno. I've never cheated and I'm very happily married.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 05:46 AM
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In and of itself? No I consider lying infidelity.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 06:26 PM
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The problem with incels is that they build their personal identity on the fact that they can't get laid. Kinda reminds me of people who write bios for themselves like "autistic queer indigenous nonbinary person". What I hear when I read shit like that is "There is nothing interesting about me so I'm just going to list various features as though they are important and meaningful qualities" You are a dude who has trouble dating. You are also a dude who cares about other people, probably has some c…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 08:18 AM
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Not my type. Fitness is very important to me, but I'm very turned off by the body builder look. Also I watched a bit with the sound off so I have no idea what he said.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 07:55 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 08:30 PM
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I couldn't live with myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 08:30 PM
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I got loads at my last apartment. Now I just put a bucket out front so the kids can see it and hope they take as much as they want. I don't fuck around with Halloween candy. King size everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 07:42 PM
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Home with my dog and husband for some caramel apples and a movie. Ready and waiting for the trick or treaters we NEVER get :(
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 07:35 PM
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Incels are not average. Average dudes don't have women hanging out of moving cars to insult their appearance on a regular basis. Average dudes go on more than one date every two years. Average guys have normal dating lives. They have girlfriends and wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 07:33 PM
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Incels want so badly to believe they are average. They aren't
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 07:32 PM
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I think the main difference between her and a male incel is that she doesnt blame "men" or "society" for her problems. For all her faults, she is an intelligent and accountable person and acknowledges the reality of her situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 07:31 PM
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lol Average dudes go on more than one date every other year.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 05:09 PM
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I mean ya, it's very frustrating and tragic for me to see someone I love so much completely disregard her health as well. I understand that food addiction and depression is a terrible combination, and I understand that she feels daunted by the massive amount of weight she'd need to lose to get healthy, but I am very candid with her about that. She really does need to do something about her health. And I said right there in my comment that she pretty much exclusively goes after fat and unattracti…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 05:09 PM
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Eh, it's different. As I've mentioned before, my best friend is obese and unattractive. She isnt a virgin, but she has to try really really hard to get any sexual or romantic attention from men. Even though shes generally very well liked, has many friends, and played guitar in a popular band for years. She always has to initiate, most often is rejected, and can find a normal, sane dude to go out with her maybe once every other year or so. It's been like this since she was 14 and continues into h…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 07:42 AM
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Data supports that a vast majority of people are marrying or will marry. Including the majority of plumbers and cops.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 07:35 AM
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Dude like 85% of men get married what are you talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 06:25 AM
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The types of people who might fall in love with a sex robot were never on the market in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 06:24 AM
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If I have more expertise or experience or very strong preference of a certain thing, my husband should and does defer to me. If he has more expertise or experience or very strong preference of a certain thing, I defer to him
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 05:48 AM
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It won't alter it in any significant way. They are just a masturbatory aid.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 05:46 AM
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Still a lie
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 01:29 AM
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Did he lie about it? Bye If not, eh. Don't really care.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 12:54 AM
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👊
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 09:15 PM
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I completely agree. It's smelly and rank and makes people fat. I don't touch the stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 09:11 PM
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No, dummy. Why do you have more than one friend?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 09:11 PM
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What can my friend Mike to for me that my friend Josh cant?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 07:37 PM
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It's ok to be gay, bro
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 05:31 PM
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Cultures/religions yes Races no
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 05:29 PM
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Sure. Evey friend I have has something unique to offer.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 03:53 AM
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Yes. Unless they wanted something different.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 02:38 AM
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What can friend A offer that friend B can't? All of our friends bring different value and perspective to our lives. That's why we have more than one friend
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 02:37 AM
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lol. I've spent 23 of my 41 years on the west coast. I live here now. You think it seldom happens because it doesn't happen to you. because women dont generally behave that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:55 PM
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I think we both know that the vast majority of dudes in TRP claiming to be spinning plates are doing no such thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 08:10 PM
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Maybe that's true for you. I have no idea. But for the vast majority of men, it's the other way around. Average middle aged dudes have waaaay fewer dating options than average middle aged women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 07:32 PM
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You're either larping, lying, live in isolation, or have somehow lived an experience that almost no other woman in the west has. I'm in my forties and I still get cat called several times a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 04:31 PM
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This is a very naive comment. Just as I can't go 48 hours without some dude on the street making a lude comment about my breasts or legs, my best friend (who is overweight) can't go a month without some jackass hanging out of a moving car calling her a fat cow.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 04:00 PM
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You do realize that most women are cat called and have strangers making comments on their appearance constantly, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 03:55 PM
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It's a revenge fantasy. Loser men see women as bullies for not choosing them. We all like to think that our bullies went on to be miserable and alone, but we really know deep down that's not the case. My worst bully grew up to be a professional athlete and successful business owner. I saw him in a fitness magazine once. I could try to convince myself that he's probably sad and lonely IRL, but that would just be sour grapes. He's probably very happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:17 AM
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Men feel the need to comment on women's appearancein general much more often than the reverse. That should be blatantly obvious to everyone. Men lash out at ugly women. Women ignore ugly men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:11 AM
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Nightclubs are creepy
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 03:59 AM
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50 would be less than 3 men per year for the entire time I was single. Not that men stopped "confessing feelings" after I got married. It still happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 07:40 PM
2

Seems about right, ya.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 07:38 PM
1

Depends on how well the dude pulls off being bald. plenty of average guys look fine
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 05:28 PM
1

I agree with you. My best friend is both fat and ugly and I've seen what she goes through.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 05:28 PM
16

No. Fat women get the same treatment as ugly men. Not all bald men are ugly. In fact, some are very attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 05:15 PM
1

I've never dated anyone I want very attracted to, but I did have a longterm boyfriend that my friends thought was unattractive and didn't understand why I thought he was so hot. I get where they were coming from. Nothing really stands out about him, he's just a guy. But I was crazy for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 05:08 PM
3

Come on now, that's incel logic Is it really that hard to believe that an attractive woman who stayed single most of her life would have a lot of men interested in her over time?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 05:00 PM
1

I was thinking more along the lines of "I have feelings for you"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 04:56 PM
2

How many times have you confessed your feelings to a man FIRST, and what were the results? Ah jeez. Maybe 4 or 5 times? They all returned the feelings except for one. How many times has a man confessed his feelings to you first? What were the results? Hundreds and hundreds of times. Likely thousands. Obviously the vast majority were "nos", with a few "maybes" and "hell yes". How many times have you had feelings for a man but decided to never confess? What were the results? One stands out. He ask…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 08:35 AM
3

I stopped drinking in my twenties, so I get that. Learning to date sober is a fuckin trip, like being a teenager again. I have found that it's more difficult, but much better all around if there's no alchohol involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 08:21 AM
6

TRP seems more like a guide on how to get pumped and dumped for dudes to me. Can't imagine how their advice could lead to a stable LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 06:10 AM
2

I wouldn't make a "beta" guy wait because I wouldn't be interested in a relationship with a guy like that. If I find the guy sexually attractive AND otherwise compatible for an LTR, I wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 06:08 AM
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When I've done this to dudes, it was usually because I wanted sex and he seemed like an attractive and reasonably fun, normal guy but not someone I would want anything longterm with (for whatever reason) Are you frustrated or just confused?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 02:15 AM
1

Because they're not normal
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 12:50 AM
1

Like most women here, I have never been asked about how many people I've slept with. At any point.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/19 08:12 PM
1

Kinda pointless to lie about something nobody cares enough to ask about
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/19 06:51 PM
1

See for yourself by conducting an experiment. Make a post as an overweight, unemployed divorced single dad. See how many women try to rip you to shreds in the comments. Merely mention the existence of the female equivalent and see how hysterical loser men become.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/19 12:13 AM
1

Go make a post somewhere about being an overweight, unemplyed single dad and see how many women try to rip you to shreds in the comments. Then do it as a woman. But really you don't need to do this experiment because like me you already know exactly what will happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/19 07:20 PM
1

Not since high school
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/19 07:18 PM
1

Unplug. Go socialize. See that things are not nearly as dire as some losers here want you to believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/19 07:09 PM
3

This is a dumb hypothetical, but I'll play along. Out of control men are the responsibility of more rational men. I don't deal with loose cannons and man babies. Stronger, more rational men will put them in their place. Of that doesn't work, the law will deal with him. Not my problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/19 06:03 PM
-1

Incel fantasy. Men obsess about loser women. Women ignore loser men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/19 06:00 PM
0

Women don't obsess over men the way men obsess about women. Loser men are insignificant to us, not offensive. That's why there arent multiple well populated subreddits filled with women crying about the existence of loser men, but the mere existence of something like an overweight divorced single mom triggers a cascade of complaints from men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/19 05:59 PM
-1

Rare. The word for women like that is "rare"
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/19 04:02 PM
3

Also also to 19 year old self, if she pulls you into her bedroom, locks the door and plays "Closer" by nine inch nails, SHE WANTS TO FUCK (ME LIKE AN ANIMAL)!! Holy shit I know this feeling. I genuinely believed that my crush would go half a mile out of his way to walk me home after school just to be polite. I thought he brought me my favorite pie on my birthday just because he liked to bake. I thought it was impossible that a cool hot dude with a motorcycle would be interested in me. Kicked mys…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/19 06:58 AM
2

Are you drunk?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/19 06:54 AM
1

I find that little things can turn into regrets, but the BIG mistakes in my life have all resulted in positive change and were therefore valuable. It's fair to say that I would do some things differently if I had the chance, but not to the extent to which it hinders me or weighs heavily on my conscious.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/19 06:40 AM
5

Another way of looking at that could be that living amongst people just gets gross. We eat and drink together, shake hands, shit in the same places, squish next to each other on the train, handle money, kiss, fuck, share phones, sneeze, cough, wipe our asses, breate each other's cigarette smoke and car exhaust and bodily gasses.... So we wash our hands and stay home when we're sick and use gloves or face masks and condoms. Unless we dont. So infections happen. Even to the most paranoid and OCD a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/19 09:51 PM
6

So if you get strep from a classmate who coughs in your direction: moral Strep from kissing someone: immoral
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/19 08:43 PM
3

I mean I generally agree, but the fact is that people don't have the same level of moral hysteria when there's a strep throat outbreak.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/19 08:09 PM
2

Ya sure anyone can eat at home for cheap. But going out costs money. More troublesome for college students than money is often time. I could've (and sometimes did) had a line of 50 eligible bachelors begging me for a date and there still wouldn't have been a thing I could do about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/19 07:23 PM
2

Both. Major issues (like addiction, severe mental illness, financial disaster, etc) should be worked on before entering a relationship. That doesn't mean they need to be cured, but one should be in action and progressing at a point that can be sustained after adding the stress that relationships can bring. Nobody brings their perfect self into a relationship. Once you have one problem managed, another pops up. That's just how adult life is. Whoever your entering the relationship with will have h…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/19 04:52 PM
1

And you have time to go out to dinner? Doubtful
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/19 07:04 AM
1

Lol. I'm guessing you were one of the rich kids who didn't have to work during college
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/19 05:50 AM
3

That was actually the only advice my eldest brother (who has been married for several happy decades) gave me. Make sure you marry someone you can have hilarious sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/19 05:46 AM
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10+ years together and almost 8 years married. Sex has stayed frequent for the duration, barring periods of illness, injury, or separation of course. Steady at 4 or 5 times a week and maybe 2 times a week while I have my period. Sex isn't as frantic and lustful as it was early on, but it's more intimate and more fun now. We laugh a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/19 01:55 AM
2

And in your imagination, when would o have time to do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 04:32 PM
4

Can I eat attention? What good did that do me?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 02:30 PM
1

Probably my regular long periods of isolation from humanity
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 03:53 AM
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If you have a wild night out once a month over a time period it all adds up. Once a month is probably about right, but I wasn't hooking up with people every time I went out. It was often just drinks with girlfriends and the occasional party, date, or show. I had two steady hookups throughout college, FWB type situations, and one steady boyfriend near graduation time. You don't need much money to go out especially as a woman Much more about time than money. Hard to stay out late and get wasted wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 03:49 AM
11

Contrary to common incel delusion, being hot didn't make my parents automatically rich or reduce my rent and tuition.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 03:46 AM
2

22 is not "nubile".
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 10:24 PM
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YOU said pedophiles. I said losers. If you are actually trying to say that it's totally normal for well adjusted grown men to go after 18 and 19 year old women, then you are either totally delusional or not being serious. Look around you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 10:24 PM
1

You are trying to argue my original comment, which is about nubile girls. Stop trying to make a point by abruptly changing the subject.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 10:04 PM
2

Unless you're the type of dude who sexually pursues teenagers, you are not who I'm talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 10:03 PM
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Anecdotal, but I was a young hottie once upon a time. College was not the nonstop party incels think it is. I had two jobs, a full class load, was surviving on lentils and rice and lived in a dingy rented room. I would go out and go on dates from time to time, but mostly I was way too busy and way too broke. The kids I knew who were living that lifestyle were the ones with super rich parents who didn't have to work and probably didnt even really need degrees. Obviously a very small minority. Aft…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 09:12 PM
1

If you're not talking about young girls who have just reached sexual maturity (so 12 to 18), then don't say you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 08:51 PM
1

Ok so you just don't know what "nubile" means
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 08:38 PM
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Are we supposed to feel sorry for average dudes that don't get to live like rockstars? Is that the point? This whole "sure I have it ok but some people have it better so POOR ME" thing us so tiresome
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 08:19 PM
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Are you lost? Respond to the wrong thread? OPs question is about "nubile" girls. Do you know what that means? If you are going after nubile girls, you are exactly what I'm talking about and likely a pedophile. If you're not going after nubile girls, you probably arent a pedophile. Most dudes arent pedophiles, which is why only creeps and losers go after teens.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 08:15 PM
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The proof is in the pudding. One doesn't need to be a man to observe the reality for most men around them. Average men get laid. Average men having normal dating experiences and relationships. The problem is that the lowest quality dudes here desperately want to believe that they are normal. They aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 08:10 PM
1

It's normal for teen boys to be interested in teen girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 08:04 PM
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40 year old busboys who bought weed from the same dude as me. Men who would lurk around the teen hangout spots and beg for attention from kids. Older dudes who wanted us to think they were "cool" by offering to buy us beer for high school parties. Adult men who would hang out outside our gymnastics practice and offer us rides. Dudes moving closer to the group of young girls at the beach. Adult men using lines like "I'm young at heart" or "You're so mature for such a young lady".
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 08:04 PM
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OP said "nubile". Do you know what that means? Teens. It is absolutely not normal for successful guys to date teens. Not even a little bit normal. Minor age differences in adulthood are normal and no big deal. That's not what we're talking about here.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 07:58 PM
3

8 years old
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 07:56 PM
1

This is about what women demand of men in order for a man to become a romantic person in her eyes. Right. And it's not the end of the world if she doesn't find you desirable. If he behaves like it is, then he will be perceived as pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 08:39 AM
1

So you percieve personal criteria for dating as "demands" on men in general? Weird. If I say "I'd only date someone who went to college", would you percieve that as demanding that men to to college? If you say "I would only date a woman who speaks the same language as me", does that mean you demand that women learn english? It's a weird hysterical drama that incels paint. Saying "I am only interested in men with X quality" somehow turns into "All men without X quality should DIE". I don't care w…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 08:03 AM
1

What do you percieve I "demand" from men?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 07:48 AM
1

Doubtful that you outearn me, but possible. If you think natural selection doesn't affect females, you are seriously confused about the basics of evolutionary biology. We are all the products of the strongest, luckiest, and most resourceful men and women in history. And that's not something one should feel "proud" of. You didn't earn that. You should feel proud of your accomplishments, not the survival of people who died generations before your great grandparents were born
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 06:53 AM
2

Ever heard of Hollywood?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 04:09 AM
1

Are you trying to make the point that only mentally Ill men feel depressed, frustrated, angry, etc?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 04:01 AM
2

Depression is an emotional disorder. Rage is an emotion. Anxiety is an emotion. Frustration is an emotion. Anger is an emotion. Men are very emotional
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 03:43 AM
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"Men aren't emotional" "Why doesn't anyone care that men are so much more depressed than women??" The delusion is stunning, truly.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 03:27 AM
4

Is your life so empty of validation that you need to harp on attributes of men greater than you, as if that somehow reflects on your individual worth? Congrats. You're probably taller than me. Everyone is very proud of your accomplishment. Very meaningful.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 03:24 AM
3

That gap is closing as men become weaker and lazier
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 03:07 AM
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There is no evidence that humans are any more or less intelligent than we were a few thousand years ago. We've just accumulated more knowledge and resources. And lol at the idea that men are stronger now than they were historically. 70% of western men are fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 03:05 AM
2

I semi regularly go a few weeks without any contact when I'm on solo backpacking trips. When both of us are in range and in civilization, we see each other everyday, obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 03:03 AM
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Ask anyone who was once a young, attractive woman. The older dudes that pursue them are almost all losers and/or predators. There's a reason normal dudes don't date teens.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 03:01 AM
1

Most people do.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 02:28 AM
2

Yes, but they tend to be more withdrawn and solitary, rather than lashing out.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 12:59 AM
10

Incels, extreme radfems, MGTOWs, and fat positive activists are all exactly the same. They're all trying to turn the fact that they are unfuckable into political and societal oppression
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 12:54 AM
4

barf
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 12:53 AM
1

Looks are obviously paramount for hookups, but no amount of good looks can make up for things like terrible hygiene or being really stupid. At least for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 10:48 PM
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Because we were all very young women once and know exactly what kinds of dudes go after them. More disgust than denial
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 10:04 PM
13

Being physically attractive and having mental/emotional/ethical/lifestyle compatibility with the dude
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 10:02 PM
11

It's probably not personal. I avoid young men in the streets every day. In my experience, any greeting or even eye contact will result in the dude trying to stop me for a conversation, make crude comments, or follow me about 25% of the time. I also go out of my way to avoid anyone who gives me a creepy vibe. That could be you, but I can't say because I don't know you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 03:36 PM
1

Normal, stable people don't live their lives for the approval of others. He didn't live an honest life for me, he wasn't a sociable and kind dude for me, he didn't become educated for me, he didn't choose to prioritize physical fitness for me. He was a high quality dude before he knew I existed, and he would have stayed a high quality dude if we had never met.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 03:04 PM
1

People who cheat are liars with no integrity
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 02:58 PM
1

Women despise men who are desperate enough to try to prove themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 08:45 AM
2

Says the guy who believes integrity is a privilege and not a conscious choice
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 08:39 AM
2

"Me ex would have been a great partner if they had been a better partner" lol what
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 08:02 AM
2

Men (and women) who spend their energy trying to prove their worth to a partner are low quality and lack integrity.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 07:54 AM
1

Ya there's just too many variables at play
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 01:42 AM
1

My husband didnt have to "prove" himself to me either.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 12:46 AM
12

It depends on the chemistry of the people involved I dumped an otherwise great dude in my twenties because the sex was TERRIBLE. He still stands out as the absolute worst all these years later. He ended up marrying one of my friends, and she is very satisfied with their love life. Similarly, I compared notes with a different friend about a dude we had both hooked up with in the past and she thought he was too lazy and that his dick was too small. I found sex with him super fun and totally satisf…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 11:05 PM
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Right. So to answer OPs question of how I went about proving my worth to my husband, the answer is nothing. I did exactly what I was doing before I met him, and exactly what I would have been doing if I had never met him.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 10:58 PM
2

Worry less about winning the approval of everyone. It's impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 09:17 PM
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Which is why OPs question is stupid. I don't set out to impress anyone but myself and live authentically within my own standards and values. Some people appreciate it, some people don't. Whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 08:53 PM
5

Happily married to my dream man. Didn't spend a single ounce of energy trying to "prove myself" to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 08:49 PM
2

Then live better.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 08:47 PM
1

It's not "hard to get", it's genuine disinterest. Absolute catnip to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 08:20 PM
3

My values/ethics/morals/lifestyle are not dependent on a man. Whether or not those things add up to something he wants in a longterm partner is for him to judge. I'm not going to compromise or manipulate any of those things to try to convince a specific man to like me. That seems insane to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 08:19 PM
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My values and morals exist independently of seeking/developing/living within a relationship with a man. He can see how I live and decide whether or not that's in step with what he's seeking for himself. If so, great. If not, that's ok too.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 08:17 PM
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The idea of trying to prove my worth to a man is absolutely ridiculous to me. I am the sum of my experiences, beliefs, goals, and actions. Either he likes that or he doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 06:13 PM
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I don't do anything. If he goes, he goes. Oh well. It's not a game for me. I have never been desperate enough for a specific guy to chase him or try to convince him to like me. If he wants to be with me, he will make it known.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 06:12 PM
1

Why do you think I was angry?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 12:05 PM
1

Why do you think it's different? Do you think only divorced parents get child support?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 11:53 PM
3

About 1% of Americans recieve alimony. They are a statistically insignificant group
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 08:34 PM
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The majority of single moms are divorced. They didnt get pregnant by swiping on Tinder. They got pregnant by their husbands.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 07:20 PM
2

Resentment and bitterness are not necessary to feel a bit jealous. Don't you ever think "wow I wish I had that!" without actual animosity against people that do?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 06:46 PM
1

What point have you attempted to make that wasn't addressed in my last comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 06:45 PM
3

This just happened to me. Two of my subordinates left within 30 days to take higher paying jobs, and my superior bumped my pay up by 10% out of fear I might leave too.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 03:46 PM
1

So what if someone is angry about it? There have been hundreds of men who were upset or angry at my apparent apathy about their interest in me. That's their issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 03:18 PM
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Some do.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 03:17 PM
0

Instead of responding individually to each of your hamstering excuses, I'm just gonna drop a few harsh truths. You are one who indulges too deeply in fantasy. Sometimes, it can be fun to imagine the impossible. What if I became a billionaire overnight? What could I do with all that money? However, indulging too deeply in things that can never be fosters a victim complex. Which will eventually transform you into a pathetic and impotent person. Life will never be fair. Not for you or anyone else. …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 03:16 PM
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I hope this doesn't come across as condescending platitudes, but good for you! That's a sadly rare attitude that can and will completely change your life if you can hold on to it. You can overcome anything with that perspective. People often fall into angry victim mindsets, forgetting their advantages and gifts. Which we all have. It's powerful to remember and focus on what you do have. Even something as simple as running water or a cell phone. There are millions of people who would kill for tho…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 06:15 AM
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Nobody is demanding anybody else's body or time or emotions. We are simply discussing weather it is fair to shame people for feeling negatively that today have less access to those than other people. Especially in the context where they are shamed for breaking up with a woman for supplying all of those things to other people. I think it is fair to shame people for engaging in silly, self destructive behaviors and beliefs. I think you're limiting yourself. you are giving up the possibility of lar…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 06:12 AM
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And I'm sure theres at least a small part of you that is grateful for the struggle. Because it forced you to grow and gain wisdom. I'm getting into middle age, and if theres anything I've learned it's that everyone's life sucks in some way. We all have things we have to suffer through, and we all have things that others are struggling to get. Compare and despair. Best to just focus on what is in your control, foster some gratitude for your gifts, rather than assuming what other people's lives mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 05:49 AM
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If we're talking about fair pay for hard work, I agree with you. But what you're actually talking about is demanding an individual's time, emotions, and body. All boundaries and rules are fair game in those regards. You're trying to negotiate the non negotiable. I can't change the fact that my parents don't have money, but there are steps I can take to improve my individual circumstances. I'll never have the experience that my best friend has had, but I can create a pretty good alternative for m…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 05:29 AM
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My lifelong best friend was born to wealthy parents who later hit pay dirt and became even more insanely wealthy. She got a beautiful, high quality car for her 16th birthday. She was sent to a prestigious private school that essentially guaranteed her a spot in a great college. She didn't have to work while she was getting her degree, so she could focus on her studies. She was hired for a great job with a great salary right out of school. She bought a house with a huge backyard when she was 23 y…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 04:51 AM
1

Yeesh. You should pick more stable friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 04:39 AM
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The brutal truth? I can't be bothered. A man is a nice thing to have, but I've never been desperate enough to chase a particular man or go through the stress of trying to convince one to like me. If he's serious about wanting to be with me, he will make it known. If he's not, oh well.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 04:23 AM
3

Then why does that strategy work so perfectly on men?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 12:25 AM
3

Nothing beats sex in the honeymoon period. Eh, I disagree. Honeymoon phase sex is rad but it's a totally different thing when you're having sex with a longterm, committed partner. In a lot of ways, sex years and decades down the line is better.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 12:22 AM
6

Wanting only what you can't have is a low grade mental illness. Healthy, stable people don't think that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 12:19 AM
6

I find stupid people sexually repulsive.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 12:13 AM
2

I have a thing for short and strong dudes with dark hair and nice smiles. Almost all my exes and my husband fit that description. Physical fitness is non negotiable, but other details are more flexible. And I can't fuck someone who is stupid, doesn't read books, or has a poor sense of humor.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 10:21 PM
1

Common sense and living in the world? But for a breakdown, about 243,000 Americans recieve alimony. That's less than 1% of the population.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 09:47 PM
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The obvious stuff such as honest, handsome, mature, kind, sociable, loyal, and competent. And some things that make him good for me would be well-read, physically fit, financially stable, sharing my values and goals, and a dog person. I would not date a criminal, but my ex did have a felony on his record from when he was 19. He got arrested for having weed and then violated his probation by getting drunk and tipping over a refrigerator at a house party. He was a perfectly normal, responsible 30 …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 09:40 PM
1

You do realize spousal support is only for the wealthiest people, right? It's not at all normal or common for the vast majority of couples
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 07:14 PM
2

Women can cheat whenever they want. It couldn't be easier. And yet, most never do.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 02:45 PM
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It's worked for me before, but more often than not I avoid that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 05:49 AM
1

How would that be dishonest?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 09:53 PM
3

Self-sufficient but cooperative, principled but willing to compromise, self-loving but not self-centered, shared values and goals, loyalty/commitment, emotionally mature
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 09:07 PM
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No evidence of apathy. Just very little difference in overall happiness and satisfaction for women single or married
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 09:02 PM
0

Dude like 85% of men get married what are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 09:01 PM
1

Fantasy Women always have more and better options for dating, sex, and marriage than men. Make dating profiles for an average 45 year old divorced man and an average 45 year old divorced woman and see how wrong you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 07:23 PM
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Statistically speaking then...Divorce doesn't make them bitter. So being single doesn't make them bitter either. Marriage also doesn't make them bitter. Only women statistically seem to be bitter about marriage. If that were true, single men would report equal or greater happiness as married men. But they don't. Single women would report lower levels of happiness compared to married women. But they don't This is a stat for women aren't easily pleased but lets blame women's hypermajiggle nature o…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 07:06 PM
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Why do men say they are happier married than single? Why do divorced men want to marry again? To me, this is just so obvious. Do you really believe that men are as desirable to women as women are to men? If so, how the fuck do you explain dating imbalances? Men obviously want and need women more than the reverse.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 06:01 PM
4

Right. So men need women more than women need men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 02:48 PM
2

I hope you see how you contradicted yourself here "They're not being honest with their users" "They updated their guidelines and implemented them"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 02:46 PM
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The research doesn't back of anything you just said. It's not apparent that marriage is bad for women. It's just not as beneficial for them as it is for men. The reason most women wish to marry despite these facts should be obvious. For children. What women "have to offer" men is crystal clear in the research. Greater wealth, greater reported happiness, better health and longer lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 02:45 PM
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On a collective level, women and men have equal value and need each other equally On an individual level, men need women more than women need men. Single men report lower levels of happiness and satisfaction and are less wealthy and less healthy than married men. Single women report equal or grater levels of happiness and satisfaction than married women and are more wealthy and more healthy than married women. Divorced men report that they would like to marry again in greater numbers than divorc…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 02:10 PM
1

There are literally billions
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 06:15 AM
1

And? They are free to curate whatever they want. Don't like the rules, use a different platform
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 05:50 AM
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You're leveling it like it's some kind of accusation. Who cares if they have a political agenda? How is that relevant to their freedom to curate content?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 05:46 AM
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"I believe thar private platforms should be free to create and enforce whatever guidelines/content/agenda they wish" "fucking fascist" LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 05:46 AM
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Starr acting like an adult instead of a child who was just told "no" for the first time, and I'll speak to you as an adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 04:57 AM
1

Are websites not allowed to be left or right leaning?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 04:55 AM
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Are you suggesting that platforms shouldn't be allowed to lean left or right? I have a cool trick to share with you. If you find that a platform or website doesn't have content or agenda you agree with, you can leave and go to a different platform or website. There are billions to choose from. I do it all the time. Super easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 04:15 AM
1

According to the people who make the rules, they did. Again, private websites can have whatever guidelines or agenda they wish.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 04:05 AM
2

There is one of those. She is outnumbered thousands to one by incels and sexist terpers.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 03:55 AM
2

Maybe. If the admins think the content here is too inflammatory I imagine it will be banned. No great loss.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 03:54 AM
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What do you consider "censorship"? Any limitation on topic or language at all? If my boss tells me I cant talk about sex or politics at work, am I being unjustly "censored"? If you go on /r/kayaking and try to start a thread about miso soup recipes and get shut down, are you being "censored"?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 03:50 AM
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Censorship is a legal definition, and private websites cannot actually censor. Should I be allowed to go to Martha Stewart's website and go on and on about car maintenance or dog training? Nope. Not because of censorship, but because the company sets guidelines for discussion and those guidelines do not include those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 03:33 AM
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If they broke the rules, then they should be banned. I'm not familiar enough with that sub to know whether or not they did so. I fully believe that any private website is free to limit content however they wish.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 03:30 AM
2

That's up to the website to define
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 01:01 AM
7

Limiting content on a private website is not "censorship"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 12:42 AM
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I don't spend enough time on that sub to know, but the new rules forbid bullying, harassment, and overt sexism and racism. If that's happening over there, they should be banned. This is a private website. They are allowed to enforce whatever rules they wish.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 12:41 AM
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Are they breaking the rules? Ban them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 12:38 AM
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Most single moms are divorced, so assuming that these kids were all accidents is a huge stretch.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 09:01 PM
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Most men have no problem dating single moms once they reach a certain age. Source: am in my forties and know boatloads of divorced single parents, none of whom have any problems dating
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 08:47 PM
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Finding balance is a matter of experience and maturity. Most young people need to fuck up a number of times before they get it right.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 08:45 PM
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Nope. I don't judge if other people want to explore that within their relationships, but I've zero interest in that. Dating sucks and the last thing I need is to consider the wants, needs, and desires of another man. One is plenty, thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 05:26 PM
2

I usually work with studio executives and sometimes owners of some of the most well known movie and music production companies in the world. Along with artists/entertainers. Unfathomable money. There's a difference between driving a luxury car and dressing in expensive clothing and being a flashy douche about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 03:19 PM
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I work in the entertainment industry and I interact with some of the most wealthy/famous people you can imagine. Many of them are out of touch, but most of them aren't flashy douches about their money. The ones that do flash their wealth are "new money". People who grew up poor or middle class who suddenly have access to insane resources and haven't figured out how to manage it yet. These people don't stay rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 12:49 PM
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This is only more common with women when it comes to luxuries based upon one's appearance, like clothes and makeup. For obvious reasons. Flashing cash and showing off expensive cars is the male equivalent. Obviously only a certain personality does this at all, and it's rarely people with actual means and class.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 03:17 AM
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People who are completely honest about their thoughts and feelings are selfish assholes with no friends and probably no jobs. My strong and happy marriage would not exist without several thousands of "wow that's great, honey!", "how interesting!", and "I can't wait to hear about your day" from both of us when we truly could not give a fuck. It's called manners. I don't understand where the idea came from that manners have no place in romance.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 01:03 AM
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I don't think I have known any couples who met at a nightclub in 20 years or so. I don't even know anyone who goes to nightclubs at all, and I know a lot of single people. Are you European?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 01:00 AM
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Unless the dude is very young or very old, I avoid eye contact. It's my experience that eye contact or a casual greeting with men between the ages of about 20 and 60 will result in unwanted conversation/comments/following me about 25% of the time. Much like those people on the street trying to raise money for Green Peace or Save the Children. I just put my eyes down or straight ahead and hurry along.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/19 10:10 PM
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There are ways of showing your sexual interest without trying to fuck right away. I wait at least 4 dates before fucking, but if the dude doesn't show any physical interest at all during those first few dates, I next him. You can give her compliments, touch her arm or back, hold hands, make sext eye contact and even some sexual comments and still wait a while. If a guy tries too hard to fuck on the first date, I assume he's desperate with low standards. Next.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/19 09:56 AM
1

Every person on earth can be and is abusive to some extent
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 12:25 PM
2

I'm lean, toned, and super fit. I'm sure I have the physical ability to overtake many men in my similar weight class. Especially considering how out of shape most men are. I don't want to. Fighting sports are not interesting to me at all. I'd much rather use my strength to scale rock and run up hills. Just the way it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/19 02:40 PM
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That's a lot of hard work. Congrats and best of luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 09:08 PM
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Longest time single as an adult was 7 years. Longest time without sex was about a year, two different times. First time was in college when I had a full class load, two jobs, no car, and lived in an embarassing tiny room in a shitty house. Second time was in my early twenties right after college when I was dealing with some serious health problems and was in and out of the hospital. Had another stretch of about six months in my early thirties when I transferred to a new city for a job and just d…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 09:06 PM
1

That's not how accountable adults conduct themselves in relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 06:31 PM
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And her "sexual best" requires doing things she doesn't like doing?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 05:41 PM
1

It is his issue. He's the one who has a problem with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 05:39 PM
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Sounds like you need to do some serious self examination. Why do you want to do something to your partner that you both know makes her physically and emotionally uncomfortable? Surely you've gone out on a limb in your life and, say, tried a new food. And you didn't like it. Maybe it tasted weird or made you sick. Maybe you even went through a phase of trying to work something into your diet for health reasons and eventually gave up, realizing that it just doesn't agree with you. How would you fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 03:59 PM
1

Morning sex is great too
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/19 05:53 AM
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4-6 days a week is ideal and what I have consistently with my husband. I could settle for 3 or 4, but it would be difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/19 05:51 AM
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There are more thin women than thin men, but pretty much everyone is fat. Which is my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/19 03:48 AM
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Your feelings dont matter . It is a fact that 70% of American men are overweight or obese.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 10:37 PM
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Percent of adults aged 20 and over with overweight, including obesity: 71.6% (2015-2016) https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/obesity-overweight.htm
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 10:01 PM
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70% of men are fat and I'm guessing at least 10% are otherwise repulsive
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 09:23 PM
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It's amazing to me that pretty much all of the most aggressively whiny virgins here expect us to believe that they are not fat. It is far more likely that they ALL are.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 08:09 PM
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Literally everything you listed above is a personal choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 08:05 PM
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Being clingy, being fat, being unmotivated, boring, annoying, self centered.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 08:04 PM
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Fat women are fatter than fat men. That's just a reality of biology. However, there are a greater number of overweight and obese men compared to women. Everyone is getting fat and that trend doesnt seem to be slowing down, but there are more women out there keeping it tight than men. Easy solution for daters. Don't be fat. Fit people want to date and fuck fit people. If you want to stand out and improve your chances, don't be fat. If you're an overweight guy, your dating pool is going to be wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 07:35 AM
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This is the most blatantly obvious projection I've seen here in a long time. Your veil is thinner than you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 05:51 AM
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Desire and willingness to build intimacy= healthy Needing one specific person= Unhealthy
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 05:49 AM
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I have never been to a gym that didn't have plenty of women utilizing the lifting equipment. Ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 03:19 AM
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In theory, potentially yes. In practice, highly doubtful
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 12:39 AM
3

You think Shakespeare watched a lot of porn?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 11:45 PM
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You've never heard of swingers parties? I find that hard to believe
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 11:44 PM
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Cuckolding fetishes predate cave etchings. It's been a thing as long as sex has been a thing. Shakespeare wrote about it and it was a huge cultural phenomenon in the 60s and 70s. Absolutely silly to blame OLD.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 08:24 PM
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Whenever I plan a trip somewhere alone, people get so surprised I am traveling alone or without my wife. They say “you are allowed to do that?!” I just think well yes I am a grown adult. Yes I get a lot of that too. When I was dating, a few boyfriends just seemed confused and insecure about it. One boyfriend, who I actually really liked a lot, said he was "worried about me" because I had, as he put it, been "sleeping in my car a lot and that's not normal". My car was a camper and I don't think c…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 05:20 PM
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Do you really need someone to explain to you the general fitness goals of men and women?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 03:32 PM
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Not exactly. I spent a long time assuming that I would change my mind and want them as I got older. It just never happened. By my late thirties I realized that if that desire was strong enough in me to actually do it, I would have made it happen by then. Now in my forties with absolutely no regrets.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 03:09 PM
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You and I have much in common. I've met some really awesome people who enjoy the same things as me and will often go climbing in groups (because it's much safer and I'm no longer a reckless twenty-something), but most often the whole point of me getting out into the wilderness is the solitude and silence, so I'd really prefer to be alone no matter how pleasant the company is. I don't enjoy hunting and fishing (lifelong vegan), so my husband uses that as his personal escape. I share your observat…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 03:08 PM
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No kids! I love children, but for me that would mean giving up everything I love the most. Likely forever. I have 2 hours in the morning of alone time. I wake up earlier than he does, make us coffee and breakfast, and then take the dog for a hike/run and sit and read for some time before I go home to get ready for work. This time is considered non negotiable. He usually spends that time running or going to the gym, reading at home, or sleeping in. We have one day off together, and usually spend …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 06:53 AM
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It's only a big deal to people who feel left out.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 03:07 AM
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this sure is a lot of nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 03:05 AM
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How easy and fun it can be. I was always on the fence about marriage. I thought it would be constant sacrifice and settling. The idea of needing to include someone else in all my decision making and planning frankly scared me. I have always deeply valued solitude and constant movement. What I have with my husband is nothing like I imagined marriage would or could be. I found someone who respects my need for solitude and has his own things to keep him occupied. We aspire for the same things and I…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/19 10:00 PM
0

Are you under the impression that you were totally powerless in that situation? Like there is no chance that you might have made some choices along the way that hindered your success?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 06:45 AM
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I could never learn to put on eyeliner that didnt make me look like a racoon no matter how many tutorials I watched. Doing makeup well does require a certain level of artistic ability. I gave up years ago and am much happier for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 03:30 AM
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This isn't about a man struggling in a relationship with one woman. It's about men failing with every woman they try to date. Common denominator, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 03:27 AM
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I mean you're typing a lot but you're not demonstrating anything countering a victim complex. You just keep confirming it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 02:43 AM
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No one said they did. Just that they will be punished for violating that safety
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 12:56 AM
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Right. So you're a helpless victim.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 10:46 PM
1

Neat.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 10:31 PM
1

You sure got your panties in a bunch about some random chick being a little rude to you at the grocery store
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 10:31 PM
2

Listen. The reality is that most people dont think about you at all. Even if you interact with them, they've likely forgotten about you by the time you've walked away. Women aren't obsessing over you and wishing you ill will. Your existence isnt offensive to them, it is insignificant.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 10:30 PM
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You havent actually made any point at all other than incel screeching. Which is boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 10:21 PM
2

You write a comment like the one above and have the cognitive dissonance to accuse others of having a victim complex? Incredible.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 10:21 PM
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Your solution lies in examining why you are so reliant on the approval of strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 10:20 PM
2

There's that incel projection!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 10:19 PM
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Incels are just so dramatic Most people are just wandering around living their lives. "Women" aren't thinking about you existing at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 10:13 PM
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It shouldn't. That would be pretty pathetic. Which is why it's pitiful to complain that women "don't respect men".
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 10:06 PM
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And? I can't get on a train without at least one dude making a crude sexual comment about my body or following me to my destination. I've been assaulted by men on the street three times. Think we should take away mens rights and freedoms and force them to treat me with "respect"? People are dicks. Get over it or don't go outside.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 10:05 PM
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There are thousands of women who have personally earned my respect. You have done nothing. Why should I respect you?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 09:59 PM
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No I go around expecting accolades for the work of Eleanor Roosevelt and Edna St. Vincent Millay. /s Of course I have to earn respect. Everyone does. You are free to demand it for work you haven't actually done, but it ain't gonna work.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 09:47 PM
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Trying to take credit for other people's accomplishments is textbook weak. You want respect? Go earn it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 09:35 PM
2

Actually we are entitled to safety. That's the law.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 07:28 PM
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What is with the weakest men demanding credit for the deeds of greater men? What exactly did you do to "give me rights"?. What do you do as an individual to earn my specific respect?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 06:17 PM
2

Seemed like a pretty urgent food poisoning situation. Everyone just felt bad for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 05:23 PM
3

Cheating is an inherent character defect. Cheaters are dishonest and unsympathetic people at their core. You can't make a cheater cheat, and you can't stop a cheater from cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 05:11 PM
1

Some details have been changed to protect the innocent
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 02:58 PM
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Fine by me, but I don't want kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 02:55 PM
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I get cat called on the street several times a week. When I took the train to work, it was every single day. When I was younger and going to shows and bars, I was grabbed/groped probably 50% of the time I went out. I have been full on assaulted 3 times in my life, twice quite severely that resulted in arrests. A few months ago, I was cleaning my living room with the windows open and got crudely cat called by a passerby in my own house. I was 8 years old the first time a man followed me home maki…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 02:52 PM
2

And?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 02:45 PM
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It was multi-stall and he was vomiting with the door open. There were a few "are you ok dude?" comments but other than that the women waited outside and let him be.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 07:44 AM
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What do you mean "able to"?. Men are able to walk in to the women's room if they want. There's no one checking IDs at the door. I was removed from the men's bathroom at a club many years ago for running in to grab some paper towels for a sudden nosebleed. It was an accident. That's the only time I have ever been in the mens room. I walked in on a guy in the women's room once getting sick in the toilet. Everyone just left him alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 07:12 AM
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Hahaha!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 06:18 AM
4

Ya of course he knows. He doesn't care. He's about to have a hot young lawyer wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 06:08 AM
2

Why waste your time trying to control what other people enjoy? Seems
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/19 10:43 PM
2

Oh it's just some inside jokes
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/19 10:30 PM
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That whole theory is based on nothing but your feelings. I dont see why these women and men should give a shit about your feelings
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/19 10:29 PM
2

Or you could just be a normal person and avoid people you don't like
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/19 10:28 PM
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I have a friend who makes a good living doing this kinda stuff and has actually gotten pretty famous for it. The amount of strategy that goes in to it is very impressive. She developed an entirely alien persona and really sells it. From the fashion she chooses which is nothing like she normally dresses, to the genius captions that sound nothing how she actually speaks, everything is very deliberate. She absolutely nails the dumb horny 19 year old schtick. Her disguises are unclockable. She even …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/19 08:44 PM
5

Who cares?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/19 08:40 PM
4

Women get "red pilled" the moment they grow tits. Hard to hold on to a Prince Charming fantasy when you're being sexually pursued by grown men before you reach middle school
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/19 08:07 PM
2

I mean dumb like a stoner but not too dumb to realize that there is something seriously wrong with that woman. It's immediadtely apparent that she is retarded.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/19 07:48 PM
2

What?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/19 07:46 PM
2

A feeling of entitlement doesn't get me anything. If I want something from someone else (like a pay raise, a date, respect) then they have to believe I deserve it for me to receive it. So no, people are not entitled to have someone buy them dinner, treat them with respect, or anything else. They are entitled to pick and choose who they spend their time with based on whatever that person or institution will provide for them. So if I say "I only sleep with men who spend money on me", I'll either f…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/19 03:40 PM
2

What do you think dating is?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/19 03:35 PM
1

I don't obsess over the details of other people's relationships enough to care
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/19 03:34 PM
1

Right. He didn't breastfeed them. He fed them and took them fishing and taught them to drive and helped them with their schoolwork and gave them advice. Like a patriarch would do.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/19 03:17 PM
2

And just how are helpless children in your community not you're people?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/19 03:15 PM
3

Why do you think men pillage and war? To protect and provide for the vulnerable
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/19 07:04 AM
1

Common mistake, no worries at all
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/19 04:02 AM
2

He's is!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/19 12:33 AM
2

How do you think society views a man who races into a burning house to save a few babies?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/19 12:32 AM
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Well, ya. There's a million different ways men can protect or let down the vulnerable. Saving someone from a burning car or shoveling the snow off your elderly neighbors driveway are very different actions. Both are very masculine.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 10:43 PM
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Right. We worship masculine men like war heros and firefighters because they only protect people they're related to. lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 10:03 PM
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Protecting and providing for the vulnerable is man's purpose. That's why men are "disposable" from an evolutionary standpoint. They exist to create life and defend life, and they are wired to die in the process if that's necessary. Modern men, like modern women, are free to ignore their biological purpose and live however they please, but to pretend that doing anything other than using their strength protecting the vulnerable is "masculine" is just laughable.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 09:41 PM
5

That is man's purpose. A man who can't do that is literally useless.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 09:34 PM
7

There is nothing more masculine than providing for and protecting women and children. That is the definition of masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 09:28 PM
12

That's insane. What's more masculine than protecting and caring for the vulnerable? My father was moved when my brother befriended a foster kid and my dad saw what conditions that kid was living in. He was infuriated. He went home and spent the weekend building bunk beds and finished a spare bedroom in the basement he had started building years ago. He is not a wealthy man, but he is very generous with his time and skills. He and my mother applied for foster children shortly after and we hosted …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 09:13 PM
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I never really dreamed of getting married the same way other women do. It was always a take it or leave it kinda thing for me. I don't want children and I enjoy a somewhat transient existence with plenty of solitude and nature. A partner to do that with is a nice thing to have, but not at all necessary for my general satisfaction and happiness. When I met my husband, it was clear we were the perfect match. We aspire for the same lifestyle, agree on pretty much everything, have similar visions fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 08:45 PM
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Oh jeez. An old workplace of mine got taken over by Landmark. They got my boss, who was an intelligent and reasonable guy, completely spun out on finding new recruits, even offering to give us work perks if we signed up. A few of the employees including me had to openly rebel and put our foot down by pointing out to him that he was making himself vulnerable to lawsuits and he had to stop. I could tell that he was embarrassed, but at least the after hours texts about the glories of Landmark stopp…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 06:44 PM
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MLMs are notorious for targeting military wives. These women have a very difficult time finding work due to the demanding schedules of their husbands and the fact that they need to pick up and move frequently and on short notice. Despite what some people believe, many military salaries are insufficient to support a family and many military families rely on government assistance and food stamps. Not to mention that soldiers and their spouses are also likely to come from poor backgrounds and lack …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 04:28 PM
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Right. Obviously the love was no longer there if some small annoyance to break the denial I had been living in.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 04:23 PM
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I think it often happens like that. I remember a guy friend telling a story about how he was watching his fiancee get something out of a cupboard and suddenly realized that he couldn't stand to look at the back of her head. He couldn't shake the feeling, so he dumped her.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 06:29 AM
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Fat women are fatter than fat men, that is true. But a higher percentage of men are overweight compared to women. Most people are fat, but there are more women out there keeping it tight than men. Having a gym membership means nothing. Most people never use them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 05:43 AM
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No it's not inevitable. It can be prevented by only marrying someone who you have a great sex life with, keeping up your obligations as a spouse, and not letting yourself become boring fat and lazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 05:38 AM
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Yes, it's a very Seinfeldian scenario. That was not lost on me at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 05:00 AM
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I'm very happily married to my dream man, but I was engaged to someone else years before we met. His laugh. When we first met, I loved his laugh. It was unique and cute. Four years in we were at a crowded event, standing on opposite sides of the venue with probably 100 people between us. I heard his laughter over all the other noise and had a very sudden epiphany. I can't listen to that laugh for the rest of my fucking life. I can't listen to it for another day. We broke up and I regret nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 03:38 AM
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Originally at a dinner party thrown by my boss. I ran into him about a week later at a bookstore and he asked for a date. We met when I was 32 and he was 35. We are now 41 and 44.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 03:33 AM
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I think OP is confusing idle time spent unproductively (which everyone does to some degree) with a complete and total lack of ambition.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 03:30 AM
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I definitely know more men who I would consider lazy than women, but I know some seriously lazy women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 03:29 AM
1

Hey dude. Don't fuck retarded people. It's gross and dangerous.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 03:27 AM
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Just about 40 years of self reflection and pattern spotting
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 02:10 AM
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I think these are all somewhat common character flaws, they just manifest differently in different people. Some people sleep all day or comfort eat or smoke weed to avoid stressful situations, I run or clean. Its easy for me to get on a high horse about my coping skills being "better" than other people because they're productive, but its really all the same avoidance an fear.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 08:46 PM
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I'm prone to overwhelm. Sometimes tasks, opportunities, or goals that are daunting get me spun out to the point I get a case of the fuckits and get stuck. When I get overwhelmed, I tend to focus my energy on pointless endeavors like tweaker cleaning my already clean house instead of get to work with whatever unpleasant or intimidating task lies ahead. Pride. I can be a huge baby about asking for help when I need it. Denial plays into this as well. It can be something as dumb as completely ignori…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 08:34 PM
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I don't think appreciating and pursuing physical attributes is inherently shallow. There's no way in hell I would have dated or married my husband if I didnt think he was hot as fuck. It's when you pedestal physical attraction to the exclusion of everything else that becomes a problem. If I only cared that my husband is hot and ignored everything else about him, that's harmful to both of us. It puts me in a position to ignore serious red flags that could endanger my emotional and physical wellbe…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 07:24 PM
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Well that's a very naive attitude. My husband is obviously more than a fuck buddy *because we are in an exclusive committed relationship. Without the commitment, he'd just be a guy that I live with and like spending time with. Most people who think their relationship can survive divvying out intimacy to random people outside their relationship find themselves to be very wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 03:56 PM
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Risk takers take risks. Duh. Someone who is brave enough to approach every woman he's interested in is unlikely to focus his bravery in only one direction. He probably does a lot of other risky and reckless things. He'll probably have a few too many and do some outrageous stunt, go for the high paying job, make friends more easily, have interesting hobbies, have a few misadventures, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 03:34 AM
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We are intimate by sharing certain things only with each other. Most notably, sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 03:27 AM
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Good thing workplace fatalities are rare, huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 12:43 AM
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Without monogamous sex, my husband is just a really cool roommate. Nothing special about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 12:40 AM
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Lol. That hasn't been my experience at all. People don't think about you as much as you think they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 12:02 AM
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Yep. Seems like a no brainer to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 10:12 PM
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Why would I bother with a relationship if I want to sleep around?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 09:32 PM
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Are they beneficial or detrimental? Depends entirely on the individual. How long should they last? Until that person decides that they're done. Some people might have a one night stand or two after a breakup or in college and be done. Some people live that way for decades. Would you marry someone who had one? Would you want to know if your partner had one? I did. Like me, my husband preferred long periods of being single between committed relationships. He wasn't a particularly scandalous ho or …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 08:40 PM
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Ah yes. And just like computer technology, cigarettes were also nearly single handedly responsible for revolutionizing our way of day to day life, the economy, and global politics. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 04:02 PM
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I've had fuckbuddies whom I did not ask and did not care if they were seeing other people, but no I've never had an open relationship and never would. Too stressful for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 09:40 PM
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If you're earnestly trying to compare computer technology to smoking, then you are not debating in good faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 06:24 PM
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I'd rather be single
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 03:17 PM
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No one is saying there's something intrinsically wrong with the current generation. But people used to think smoking was no big deal. People used to think having unprotected sex was no big deal. It's about making people aware of what they're actually consuming. People used to run around screaming about Elvis and Superman comics, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 03:12 PM
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Right. People out of their league
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 01:53 AM
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Divorced or separated >45% of single mothers are currently divorced or separated, 1.7% are widowed, 34% of single mothers have never married
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 01:53 AM
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Most single moms are divorced. They didn't get pregnant from hopping aroundTinder. .
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 08:59 PM
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Except getting knocked up by a hot guy is free and can be accomplished in a weekend by simply sending a few text messages. Most women spend a lot of money, time, and effort making sure it doesnt happen. I've never had to actively avoid a luxury car before.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 08:58 PM
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I would rather die than be a single parent
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 08:56 PM
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Anyone who is having a very difficult time finding a suitable partner to date has overestimated their "value".
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 07:43 PM
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All of it. Of course people can and do grow during marriage, but statistics are very clear that going to college and establishing a career before you get married is the best thing you can do to ensure that your marriage is successful. You know why? Because people change when they grow. Of course people should date during that time too. That's another way people develop and learn.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 07:41 AM
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Ain't nothing lucky or wise about that situation for the majority of those who find themselves in it Unless that young woman marries a super wealthy older guy and takes all his stuff in the divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 06:38 AM
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But you said the smart girl were marrying the good guys young? Which is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 04:46 AM
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It depends on the situation and the individuals involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 04:23 AM
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you sound drunk. Statistically, the best thing a person can do to ensure a lasting marriage is to go to college, get a good job, and wait until late twenties or older to find a husband or wife. That's what smart people do. Because it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 04:02 AM
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That's.....not the same thing at all. Not even close, actually. Why is it "smart" to waste your young years on a doomed marriage rather than preparing yourself for independent adulthood? Especially considering that spending that time focusing on self growth actually improves your chances of a successful marriage later on?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 03:38 AM
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The younger the woman is when she marries, the more likely it is that she'll get divorced. How is that smart?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 02:45 AM
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Fucktons of people. Mostly dudes. source: am a childfree "career woman".
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 01:29 AM
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I remember I saw a timeline of magazine covers (I think it was People Magazine) with the headline "laziest generation ever?" dating back from the sixties all the way to gen z. Some things never change.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 06:19 PM
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it is for some people. And a lot of people need to use social media for their work. Especially Gen Z.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 06:18 PM
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The point is that literally every generation panics about the younger generation's new fangled ways and goes into hysterics about how it's "ruining the youth". Dime novels, the waltz, magazines, comic books, rock music, telephones, television, video games, internet, social media, smartphones. There is always a Tipper Gore in the crowd wringing their hands and wailing about the doom and gloom to come. Who cares? As Bobby D says, the times are achangin'. Whining and worrying isnt going to stop pro…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 05:23 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 06:38 AM
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Better ban the internet and smartphones then /s
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 06:36 AM
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In case anyone was wondering what generational dramatic histrionics sounds like ^
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 02:23 AM
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I've waited anywhere from one date to three months of dating. Not including my first "boyfriend" because I'm pretty sure we dated for like a year before we had sex. It all depends on the circumstances and the individual involved. An average for me was probably 4 or 5 dates. I don't known my exact count but I'm guessing 30ish.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 02:21 AM
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I'm old (gen x) but I imagine this is the same hair-on-fire hysterics aimed at millennials for spending "too much time on the internet instead of real life". This is the future. The internet is real life. Anyone who cannot navigate the internet and use it well is unlikely to succeed in any meaningful way. Kinda reminds me of the owner of a coffee shop I worked in about 15 years ago who complained that "all these kids are sitting here on their computers instead of working". I had to explain to hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 11:01 PM
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I shudder to think. This would definitely bother me a lot more than the average woman, I expect. This is something I took into consideration when selecting a husband. Fitness is a huge part of my life and I would simply be incompatible with someone not similarly minded. I would say the chances of my husband letting himself get fat are close to zero, barring a severe blow to the head or complete personality change. I have never put weight on during a relationship and can't imagine why anyone woul…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 08:56 PM
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I know a woman I would consider freakishly good looking. Truly one in a million proportions and features. Everything. her hair, her eyes, her figure, her teeth, her face. Almost cartoonish, and totally natural. She also has a moderate case of fetal alcohol syndrome, so dating hasn't been easy for her at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 04:23 PM
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This is a simple social skills and etiquette issue. Sometimes I've had a bad/long day and honestly am not in the mood to give a flying fuck about my husband's neat story about what he did at work that day. I could be perfectly honest and direct and say "I'm tired and I don't give a shit and I wish you would stop talking", or I could do the polite and emotionally mature thing and quietly listen and give him my time and attention. Relationships mean that you sometimes gotta do stuff you don't wann…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 03:02 PM
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I fell for this once or twice as a teenager, but learned pretty quickly. Fuckboys always scared the bejesus outta me and never got close enough to lie to me or break my heart.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 02:57 PM
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Not once but three times I've caught men I've gone on dates with lying about their age. Each time, their actual age wasnt an issue at all. I would have gone out with them even if they were honest about it. It's the lying that's the red flag. I would never begin a relationship with someone who can't be honest about something so fundamental.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 02:53 PM
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Is it internal attraction (too old) or external social expectations (avoid gold-digger accusations)? I have just always been drawn to boys and men close my my own age. There have been some exceptions on both ends, but my ideal is always my age or thereabouts. I want to have things in common with my partner. Is it that you want to lock your value in early so you have 50-50 equity in the marriage? Lol what? Who thinks like this? Unless some 18 year old is dating the crypt keeper, I guess. Is it th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 10:31 PM
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Did you read my post?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 04:37 PM
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This is kinda a pointless question. What my partner sees as attractive qualities in me would be dealbreakers for someone else, and vice versa. Some of the things I love most about or what attracted me initially to my husband say nothing about his inherent value as a person. Things like loving dogs, enjoying the same books as I do, or being active in outdoor sports. Even liking the same foods that I like. I could be more broad and say that I love my husband because he is kind, funny, handsome, in…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 03:45 PM
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which guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 11:22 PM
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Why on earth would I be in a relationship with someone I don't find attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 04:43 PM
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I mean, if it's true I don't feel bad for the dude at all. They both sound arrogant and obnoxious.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 04:42 PM
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I was just a good old fashioned ugly duckling. I was only ever ridiculed by boys until I was about 17. Puberty treated me very well and the attention I got seemed to make a dramatic shift overnight.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 03:43 PM
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It takes charisma, a shower, modest grooming, and a decent amount of class and socially normal attitude. It honestly is not that hard to be a normal guy and approach a girl you don't know if you do it right and in an acceptable way. Like waiting in line at a coffee place and commenting about how long the wait is. If she is receptive then try to talk to her, if she isn't receptive then stop, disconnect. Most guys don't understand social interactions at all and they are so damn important to women.…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 03:41 PM
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Lol you think woman owned=woman only?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 03:14 PM
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It's pretty funny that I feel exactly the same way about the men in my life. Like "oh that super hot woman you met at a bar who's Instagram is literally 100% selfies and who has money but no apparent job that you fell for turned out to be crazy? You don't say!"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 06:18 AM
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It's been a long time since I online dated, before "swiping" was a thing. Got a ton of messages, a vast majority of them were just "hi" or something similar. Many were more detailed questions or comments directly related to my profile. Odd number of messages asking me if my glasses were "real". Hundreds of creepy comments related to my small stature, comparing me to a child. Dozens of sexually explicit suggestions. I responded to about 1% of the messages. Not because I didnt find the other norma…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 06:09 AM
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So many factors play in to personality that it's impossible to pin it to one influence. My father was super present and involved. One of my brothers is hyper masculine, one is in the middle, and one is so feminine people think he's gay. None of them had any trouble dating, though. I honestly believe it's just their authentic nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 06:04 AM
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Some dudes mistake creeps for aasholes. Creeps are pretty easy to spot, assholes often aren't. Creeps violate social norms and make people around them feel weird, either intentionally or not. Assholes are often purposefully manipulative and intelligent, and unless they are super inflammatory often appear like normal or even very charming people until they don't. Most women will tell you that the quiet creepy guy is a lot more likely to be actually insane than some obnoxious jerk.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 01:21 AM
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You're conflating two related things as being exactly the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 11:18 PM
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Sadly, they are rare
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 11:17 PM
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My point is that whatever social norms are in fashion at the time are not as significant as some want to believe. We do not have total control of it. In the scenario I described above, we all behaved exactly according to instinct. My body and brain knew that the infant and nursing mother were more "important" than me. The mother knew her infant was more "important" than she. The men's bodies and brains knew that I was more "important" than they. And we all behaved exactly like evolution dictated…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 11:01 PM
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What do you think "people" would say if a mother saved herself instead of her children? Or any child? People find that behavior shocking because it goes against our very nature. Children are the most valuable, then women, then men. That's just the evolutionary reality. But in our modern world, those roles arent as vital and we are free to ignore them if we choose. That doesn't mean we wont be criticized. These things do seem very natural, though. I was once at a barbecue, sitting next to a woman…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 10:48 PM
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Yes that's obvious
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 05:48 PM
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You could try reading the whole post before commenting perhaps?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 05:22 PM
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Does it even matter what the literature says when it's blatantly obvious to anyone with basic deductive reasoning that most terpers behave and act this way? That's like saying "Catholics believe that women need to release white doves in a temple every time her period ends. You're an idiot if you believe otherwise because its right there in the bible". Technically true, but I've never seen a catholic do this IRL. Have you?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 02:39 PM
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All of us are here. We all read what you guys say. The tactic of "Well the terpers who act like that are just doing it wrong" is waaaay overplayed. This is what you guys believe and how you behave.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 09:06 AM
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About what?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 08:52 AM
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That is absolutely the rule. There is not much diversity or nuance in what men are specifically looking for. Men's taste might seem more diverse than women's because there are more bottom feeding men who will take whatever comes along, but that low hanging fruit is not their preference. They're just desperate. Women would rather be alone than be with someone they find repulsive. Not so for men. Every person is looking for someone attractive with whom they share something in common. The rest is j…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 08:48 AM
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Knowledge about having negative experiences while dating and taking steps to move on and grow from them? That's pretty much every normal adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 08:39 AM
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Lol. Most people see right through that brand of backdoor "accountability". "It's your fault for ever believing that your girlfriend wouldn't cheat on you " is absolutely not personal accountability or rationality. It's feeding into a victim complex by painting the experience as inevitable from the start. Which of course, it usually is not. "Blue pill" is anything other than red pill, including the belief that while getting cheated on probably wasn't your fault, there are actions you can take to…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 08:34 AM
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Probably not. People who are in pain are very vulnerable to falling into a victim mindset and more readily accept anything that will help them believe that it wasn't their fault. Sometimes it's just a reactionary phase, sometimes it's more permanent. He'll either take his well deserved pity party and then buck up and move on, or he'll spiral. It all depends on his individual mental health. Not much you can do about that other than listen and speak up if you see anything troubling.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 08:02 AM
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There's a pretty big difference between "explain to me why I should enter a relationship with you in particular" and "explain to me why you deserve to exist". This is just dramatics from dudes who want girlfriends and cant get them. Like the incels who literally believe that a woman not wanting to fuck them means they want them dead.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 07:38 AM
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I'm talking about how I became friends with the dude. By helping him with training, lending him equipment, and bringing him to some of my favorite climbing spots. Now that he's a more experienced climber, he also helps me with training, equipment, sites, etc. You know, like friends do. Been climbing together for about 6 years now.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 07:24 AM
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Great argument. Do you think dudes are just born knowing how to climb and owning all the correct equipment?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 07:16 AM
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Yes. And? He borrows my equipment, I help him with training, and give him company as we climb. Literally all the same things he does for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 07:03 AM
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I saw more nudity and heard more dirty jokes at the women-only workplace I was employed at for some time than any other place I've worked. It was outrageously fun and funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 05:56 AM
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I think theres a level of cognitive dissonance there. I have a friend who has more than once claimed to prefer "less feminine" women, "doesnt like girly girls" and resents the implication otherwise. Hes not like the other boys Having known this dude a long time and seen his patterns, it's true that he gravitates towards women with more "masculine" hobbies and interests. Sports, motorcycles, eyc. He just about had a heart attack when his crush fixed his plumbing. However, every one of those women…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 04:09 AM
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100% strait up... what does a woman offer a man in a platonic friendship? First viable answer wins a prize. One of my closest friends is a dude. We met at the climbing gym and hang out a lot because neither one of our partner's likes rock climbing. So we do that. Trade equipment, help each other train, etc. About once a month we double date with his girlfriend and my husband to go hiking and have dinner, but the majority of our hangouts are just us together at the gym and/or lunch.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 02:42 AM
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A vast majority if my friends would do that, regardless of gender. That's what friends do.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 02:39 AM
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I dunno, I've been a working professional for over 20 years and the amount of straight up inappropriate behavior from creepy men has been steadily declining pretty steadily that whole time. Given the stories my mother shares, the decline really started in the eighties. That's pretty evident to anyone with any awareness of social progress since WWII. Normal people are still having normal interactions. There's no sudden shift in everyday interactions. Anything that suggests some drastic upheaval i…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/19 08:54 PM
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34% isnt exactly a small minority, which is how many rapes are committed by family members
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/19 08:12 PM
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Ya those women should pick better dads, stepdads, uncles, clergy, and teachers
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/19 07:22 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/19 07:01 PM
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That's not what he said, though. He said he acts like "everything with a pussy is radioactive" and he acts accordingly. Meaning avoidance and paranoia. And we all know that the most deranged and fearful men who share that belief are also the first to mock and criticize the exact same beliefs and behaviors on the other side. Living your life in fear of some specific highly unlikely danger that may be headed your way is textbook paranoia.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/19 04:40 PM
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What if she assumes every man she encounters wants to violently rape her? Would you think she was paranoid and delusional?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/19 04:09 PM
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How is your mindset different than a woman who shapes her worldview around the fear of being raped everytime she leaves the house?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/19 03:20 PM
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I'm theory, sure. But its difficult to imagine a desire to interrogate and demand details from your partner absent of a serious underlying issue like extreme insecurity, control, mental illness, abuse, or jealousy. If I ask my husband a question, I expect him to answer honestly. If he is dishonest about anything, that's a problem. I dont misuse the privilege of his transparency and vulnerability to pick him apart for my own selfish gain and masturbatory paranoia, though. For example, I expect if…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/19 06:43 AM
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For some relationships, sure. I know that living with my SO has made both our lives easier and better.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/19 03:20 PM
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The point here is that it is inaccurate to claim male fetus miscarriages are “so much more common” and allude to the fact that your theory can’t be disputed based on data that doesn’t exist and can’t possibly exist because sex hasn’t even been determined yet. Ie, “you can’t see it but it’s there, trust me.” That's exactly my point. Those numbers are essentially meaningless because they can only reflect a Tony sample size
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/19 03:19 PM
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the 100:105 miscarriage ratio only applies to a tiny minority of miscarriages
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/19 12:53 AM
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*later term miscarriages The vast majority of miscarriages happen before sex can be determined
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 10:30 PM
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This is also a very strongly backed up theory, which plays into my previous response of homosexuality being a result of both evolutionary survival function and random biological flukes. Biological accidents are often the origin of functional assets that are passed on. The first primate with thumb-like fingers was likely just deformed, for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 09:29 PM
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You're dodging the question as asked because the answer is obvious
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 09:27 PM
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Only if their parents can afford to support them. I had to start working at 14 to help my family pay bills and provide for myself. Staying with them past the age of 18 would have been an undue financial burden on them. That is not uncommon for poor people.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 07:19 PM
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There is no scientific consensus on this, only various theories and practicalities. Homosexuality could exist in nature for all of these reasons or none. It's not a black and white issue of evolution. The fact is that homosexuality benefits species in a number of ways, and therefore persists. The precise original function of homosexuality is likely to.never be discovered Population control? protection of the herd? survival of the individual? evolutionary fluke? yes to all.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 06:01 PM
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Stop embellishing the question I asked. In this scenario, she is with you and wants to be with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 04:27 PM
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Just say you don't want to answer the question. You dont want someone else to control your money because it's a threat to your freedom
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 04:13 PM
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The "Benevolent Uncle" theory suggests that homosexual males could be a response to an abundance of fertile males in the group. The gays are a good way to keep males around to help provide resources and protect the young, but without any drive to reproduce on their own. This is especially prominent in some birds, like penguins. Gay penguins act as overprotective nannies to the eggs and young of the group, and are thusly an important asset. Contrary to matriarchal elephants, where it appears that…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 04:10 PM
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Men are a luxury, not a necessity. For me, aving a good boyfriend or husband is like having a fancy car. I can get by just fine and even be very happy without one, but it is a very nice thing to have.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 03:58 PM
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In this scenario, you can just ask your partner for the money to buy goods and services.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 03:34 PM
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I mentioned it. Why do you want your own money?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 01:46 PM
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Vague superficial stuff like style, hobbies, and music preferences evolved over time, but general personality has been pretty stable. I've always preferred shy creative types. Seem to have a thing for short and strong men with dark hair. And of course I discovered specific dealbreakers as I dated. For example when I was younger, I didnt really care if a guy smoked weed. It took some experience to learn that I actually find stoners supremely annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 06:45 AM
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Why do you need to have your own money, then?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 06:22 AM
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Let's say I am wrong. I assume you plan to abandon your job and hand over all your assets to whatever unfortunate woman you may convince to marry you, so that you cannot leave her or tap into your resources if you ever need to leave? Because doing anything else means you dont love her.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 02:25 AM
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Seriously. I don't know what reality he's living in.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 02:18 AM
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ok, so both then
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 02:17 AM
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