Ok-Calligrapher7 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Reported as "Women live more years in ill-health than men, finds gender health gap study" You should sit with what I wrote and what you wrote in response and for god's sake google it. There are books on the topic of data bias against women and how the world is designed for abled white men's bodies.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	07/05/24 08:06 AM
-3	Apparently 1 in 3 women are attacked by men according to this. Did you feel threatened for your life like so many women are by men who choke them etc? I've had women grab my ass and kiss me without consent. Doesn't compare to the violent men both strangers and friends who have greatly violated me and made me afraid I was going to die. There is something to be said for physical threat and the disparity. Stop gaslighting the reality. It is not a level playing field. It is not at all the same.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	06/05/24 07:30 AM
-1	Apparently 1 in 3 women are attacked by men according to this. If anything it is more - I am a woman who has had countless experiences and never reported them because it isn't worth it. I have many women friends who also have countless stories. Some men are skeptical if it doesn't happen to them at these astounding rates and they lack empathy for women.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	06/05/24 07:29 AM
1	Reported as "Women live more years in ill-health than men, finds gender health gap study" Quantitative data doesn't tell you the WHY. Cars are designed for men's bodies in mind, seatbelts, headrest etc. Women are less looked after by the design but men make more impulsive unsafe decisions behind the wheel.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	04/05/24 03:30 AM
10	What do I do if I have been abused as an autistic man for 4 years by a subreddit? It's just the truth. Billions of women and girls are abused in the world. You don't need to be a maths genius to figure out billions of men abuse. Yes even "nice guys". As a woman who has been harassed assaulted or raped by over a thousand different men - no I'm not a sex worker and I dress conservatively, not that it matters - I will carry on naming that men are at a crisis.	/r/ExRedPill	29/12/23 05:33 AM
4	What do I do if I have been abused as an autistic man for 4 years by a subreddit? The majority of men are exploitative, goal-directed, insecure, wanting to hold a power imbalance or sense of control over life, instead of gently respecting life and deeply caring for others' wellbeing when it's not their immediate circle or they don't stand to self-gain from these kind actions. Read books by disabled black feminist women to feel less alone. Books help with gaining strength and feeling less alone.	/r/ExRedPill	29/12/23 05:23 AM
0	Age gaps relationship Check out Aaron Taylor Johnson and his over 20yrs older partner Sam - they are deeply in love and a relationship you should look to for reassurance. I'm concerned about the red pill deeply sexist views that exist out there and that you even take them seriously enough for them to matter but it's good you're being honest about it. Talk to her about it. Women will all age, it's so pathetic of men to not accept that. And to desire women for their youth. Very objectifying and sickening and perpetuate…	/r/ExRedPill	26/12/23 11:20 AM
1	Thinking of ending my relationship because of anxiety caused by redpill beliefs Check out woke Scientist on instagram for really good discussion of the individualist versus collectivist way. Psychology DSM manual mentions work over 300 times, it's clearly socialised by capitalism hard.	/r/ExRedPill	26/12/23 03:31 AM
4	Thinking of ending my relationship because of anxiety caused by redpill beliefs You got this! Surround yourself with more empathetic people. I think narcissism is rife, especially covert narcissism, and the field of psychology doesn't see its own perpetuating of it through being super individualist rather than collectivist. Hard to explain briefly but I study these topics a lot. Most people are taught in school to compete and get gold stars and good grades and get into elite uni etc rather than encouraged to build strong friendships and empathy. Uni is the same. Very capita…	/r/ExRedPill	23/12/23 02:49 AM
15	Thinking of ending my relationship because of anxiety caused by redpill beliefs As a woman, when a guy opens up, cries, holds me tight, is sensitive, that only makes me want him so much more, it enhances the connection. That's my track record. If some people react negatively or get turned off they are likely narcissistic because they feel very insecure and get the ick and in that moment are in survival selfish mode and not feeling the other person's feelings. I was like that in high school sometimes but I'm an adult now and much more empathetic and connected.	/r/ExRedPill	22/12/23 10:32 PM
2	I'd like to recommend the podcast Psychology in Seattle for anyone looking for a positive male role model Currently looks privilege biases lead to better payrises, treatment, receiving free things, getting better results in the court of law, medicine etc. Looks have no business influencing those things. Correct, it is the goal for people to be subjective and connect uniquely instead of based on them having baby skin on their face or big eyes. People should be connecting based on very unique things that personally connect them, rather than the object of affection simply ticking boxes like being youth…	/r/ExRedPill	13/12/23 10:35 PM
1	I'd like to recommend the podcast Psychology in Seattle for anyone looking for a positive male role model Yes I hope the shift I feel in the air with more and more people questioning what always has been (capitalism, unjust biases and privileges) is going to usher in a new era of progress. Fingers crossed. But it takes work. I do the work. It is hard. It takes sacrifice. Most people don't do enough to change things. They still want their ego boost or self gain. But not me, I genuinely would rather a fair outcome for all, and think that should be normalised to desire that over individual self gain or…	/r/ExRedPill	13/12/23 01:02 PM
3	I'd like to recommend the podcast Psychology in Seattle for anyone looking for a positive male role model That's funny because I also used to model and have several chronic illnesses and disabilities too including mecfs! Still, I morally disagree with modelling now and I still look like a teenager to many and am constantly approached by men but it's not the privilege people think it is. It feels very yucky to only be wanted for being thin and young looking with healthy hair and high cheek bones etc. I am now quite the activist and will always be against modelling and implying some people are better …	/r/ExRedPill	13/12/23 09:37 AM
18	Should I break up with my boyfriend when I turn 30 because he believes in the wall? Life is precious and women deserve joy. As much as is possible get out of environments where men believe in red pill and where men are attracted to women for youth or youthful skin/face. It's the same principles as them being attracted to teens and kids as it is them being attracted to a 20y.o. Good men exist who are not attracted to that. Ps. A lot of intellectual pseudo feminist men pretend to be on womens side but are still sleazy and want younger. Don't fall for it. Learn to read the nuanced…	/r/ExRedPill	13/12/23 08:52 AM
8	I'd like to recommend the podcast Psychology in Seattle for anyone looking for a positive male role model I am glad you get something out of him but I'd recommend Instagram Woke Scientist instead for a lot of content that questions mainstream psychology's many assumptions. There are so many good posts including about success under capitalism being not something to aspire to. Alarm bells ring for me that his wife is a model. The modelling industry is inherently unethical the way it is today. It tells people that those who are health and class privileged and look young are more valuable to look at or …	/r/ExRedPill	13/12/23 12:16 AM
9	how do you help someone going down the red pill rabbit hole? Can you? Prevention is better than cure. Governments are sleeping instead of educating young people at school how to have reciprocal, fair, respectful, empathetic relationships of all kinds including romantic. Makes sense why they'd avoid it - governments want the population to comply with the current status quo to maintain hierarchies that they are at the top of. Questioning the capitalistic competitive focus of school and instead pushing for community-minded existence is something we should all do to d…	/r/ExRedPill	12/12/23 03:06 AM
0	Never go down the escort route Listen to yourself, very empty of empathy and effort to do right by ethics.	/r/ExRedPill	10/12/23 10:40 AM
0	Never go down the escort route Men should, not women. I don't even have the money to pay my own bills because we live in a capitalist ableist sexist classist racist society that rewards mediocrity and punishes dissent and traumatises and abuses marginalised people daily through gaslighting, bureaucratic impossible hurdles with government and healthcare etc.	/r/ExRedPill	10/12/23 07:48 AM
-1	Never go down the escort route You don't know that they weren't trafficked yet you are adamant this escort was not being trafficked. I am not making any assumptions. You are. My whole point is we don't know if they are. Saying something is "the oldest trade" does not prove its moral soundness. That's like saying if slavery existed forever it must be moral. Choices are not free for anyone - there are varying degrees of desperation to survive. If sex work was super empowering wouldn't the rich be doing it in high numbers? And f…	/r/ExRedPill	10/12/23 01:54 AM
1	Never go down the escort route If it was real consent it would be FREE. If payment is required it literally means they would not sleep with you for free and not want you sexually if it was up to them. Why would you want to sleep with someone who wouldn't volunteer to sleep with you? Gross, man. I'm not pushing anything extreme by pointing to the very obvious exploitation and objectification of women in society and the major harms this causes not only for women and children but everyone. Given the hidden nature of human traffi…	/r/ExRedPill	10/12/23 12:32 AM
14	My date used the terms “simp” and “frame.” Feminine and masculine are made up ideas and historically and culturally variable.	/r/ExRedPill	09/12/23 11:30 PM
-1	Never go down the escort route 100%. Clearly the woman wanted to be rescued by a friend from the guy.	/r/ExRedPill	09/12/23 08:13 AM
5	Never go down the escort route Redistribution of wealth and deep care for one another's wellbeing is key. Consent cannot be bought. Inside the human body is not a workplace. It's also not about the individual alone - it's how men hiring sex workers perpetuates sexism and objectification of women in a specific way and how men treat me and girls and women. Huge amount of sex workers are trafficked and exploited. You cannot tell who is. Also many men are cheating when they "use" one.	/r/ExRedPill	09/12/23 07:10 AM
31	Never go down the escort route You don't sound like you see women as human. There is no way to tell whether a sex worker is doing it out of poverty and is being exploited. You didn't even consider if she is traumatised or how she feels only that you lost a fairly small amount of money for the risk for her. Women are worth so much more than that. You used a woman as a body as a means to an end. That's why you felt shit. Try to put yourself in women's shoes.	/r/ExRedPill	09/12/23 12:03 AM
2	I don't want the red pill to brainwash me You're asking for help and I'm giving it to you, focus on the other way around to undo your bias. It's your moral responsibility to undo your harmful sexist beliefs so they don't turn into actions. Even your automatically defensive response is something worth reflecting on. Please read up on the reality of the inequality of heterosexual relationships because the injustice is actually proven to be done more against women I'm dating and relationships. From abuse and rape and even murder stats to e…	/r/ExRedPill	07/12/23 10:14 PM
3	I don't want the red pill to brainwash me Do you also see examples of men being abusive or sexist or demand that women, for example, shave body hair and other unjust disrespectful demands? Start to notice the other way around too. Start to read feminist articles and books to debunk some things from red pill too. Do you also criticise men for having "bodies on bodies" or do you have a double standard there?	/r/ExRedPill	07/12/23 10:08 PM
1	Female accusers are never named in media Your response does not address the evidence I provided to debunk you. Nice try.	/r/MensRights	06/12/23 11:51 AM
1	Female accusers are never named in media Yes they are named. For example when the media published photos and info on all of bill cosby's victims	/r/MensRights	06/12/23 11:46 AM
1	Former male feminists. What was your wake up call? As long as you continue to be wilfully ignorant and hateful the world will continue to harm men like yourself (and women) with the cancer that is the patriarchy. You're only harming yourself with your lack of empathy. Truly. I hope you decide to live a better existence filled with fair judgement and compassion and a less biased paradigm. You have the most basic pop culture idea of what feminism encompasses. Clearly you have never read a black disabled dying feminist's writing ever. Clearly you h…	/r/MensRights	01/12/23 08:31 AM
1	So I wrong this is reply to porn as a medicine …. Scary af perspective you hold. Shame on you.	/r/MensRights	30/11/23 10:22 AM
0	Former male feminists. What was your wake up call? That's so selfish of you to stop fighting for all women's rights because your mother did something to you. You were never a real feminist if you ditch it for one woman's actions. Don't see you complaining about men literally murdering women but go off, hypocrite.	/r/MensRights	30/11/23 10:20 AM
1	I have severe erectile dysfunction at a young age. Am I doomed to loneliness? I'm a woman and it's not a dealbreaker to me despite my being very sexual	/r/ExRedPill	30/11/23 12:00 AM
8	Virginity and red pill Yes red-pillers don't seem to have negative judgements about men who are not virgins, yet negatively judge women about it. Double standard	/r/ExRedPill	28/11/23 09:01 AM
3	This shit is making me mentally ill and ruining my life But even comparing our stories - I have thousands of incidents at the hands of men. Sexual harassment at work has been the rule not the exception since I was a child. It's not even on both sides. There is a paedophile issue for men much higher than in women. There are major issues that are gendered. I am sorry to hear about your experiences but they seem much smaller than mine. I know you have good intentions but we need to acknowledge the problem with men. I'm done pretending it's the same. We …	/r/ExRedPill	22/11/23 01:11 AM
9	This shit is making me mentally ill and ruining my life Thank you for your kind words. I also hope men in society heal and stop abusing women so often. Research article came out this week in Australia that revealed 15% of men admit to being sexually attracted to children, with quite a few saying theyd do sexual things to kids who are under 14 if they could not get caught, let alone the rates of problematic rapey men towards adult women. It's only logical to not trust a high number of men.	/r/ExRedPill	21/11/23 04:24 PM
22	This shit is making me mentally ill and ruining my life Exactly!! It's not fun having my nervous system dysregulated due to daily anxiety about safety from men. The c-ptsd of that leads to health issues. Amd before anyone calls this paranoia, I have experienced hundreds if not thousands of assault or harassment incidents from men including rape.	/r/ExRedPill	21/11/23 04:37 AM
59	This shit is making me mentally ill and ruining my life Women have less power in society and men need to help make it equal. Women's objectification is not power. It does not result in more empathy for women at all. We are the more raped ones and the ones living in poverty more. We are treated with disdain daily. The porn fantasies about women that men have mostly disgust me - they don't see women as human. Most men have a desire preference for 21y.o women on dating sites even when in their 60s. Women will have a preference for men near their own age…	/r/ExRedPill	21/11/23 01:12 AM
2	My instagram and the frame i hadof being a sex god 💛	/r/ExRedPill	20/11/23 11:49 AM
2	My instagram and the frame i hadof being a sex god I think it's a positive change you're going through but please also be curious about all women's minds and experiences not just your future wife or daughter etc. Not just someone who will be part of your family unit. A lot of the time men don't care about women's rights as a whole group of women in society - men often just care about their immediate loved ones and frankly that is selfish. Best wishes.	/r/ExRedPill	20/11/23 11:16 AM
2	My instagram and the frame i hadof being a sex god Rather than spiritually damaging for you it's important to focus on it being damaging to women. Think about how this is a manifestation of the patriarchal society we are in with its systems of domination.	/r/ExRedPill	19/11/23 09:11 PM
1	Do men have friendships with women ? It's about the fact that it's all men finding me sexually attractive at some point - very clearly this had nothing to do with me but just being seen as any body to use.	/r/ExRedPill	13/11/23 02:21 AM
3	Do women really have more options in dating then men and do they really start planning to be with a different guy weeks before the breakup? Women are incredibly patient and put up with a lot before they break up with a guy. He just doesn't notice how much she swallowed her anger at all, and the mental load she carried for both of them in the house and in life wasnt thought about by him. Too tired to keep writing. There is so much to write.	/r/ExRedPill	10/11/23 01:40 PM
2	Listening to red pill podcasts made me incredible insecure I consider a couple of years apart the same age. Those toxic preferences for younger women are a product of the patriarchy we live in. Men are missing out by discounting and devaluing women older than them. I've never been older than I am right now and I've never been better at love and relationships and intimacy.	/r/ExRedPill	09/11/23 01:55 PM
2	Do men have friendships with women ? Well that's a positive, keep going. Highly recommend feminist books by black chronically ill disabled women.	/r/ExRedPill	02/11/23 01:13 PM
9	Do men have friendships with women ? So refreshing to hear you're not sexually attracted to your woman housemate despite her walking around in underwear. Seems so rare for men to respect women like that. Also absolutely agree that the sex drive is equal at least, and if anything the women I know have a higher one.	/r/ExRedPill	02/11/23 01:11 PM
1	Do men have friendships with women ? Funny how you don't give a shit about a much worse experience which is rape which is fucking common against women. For every false accusation there are hundreds of real rapes and assaults - you're focusing on the tiny thing and not the elephant in the room	/r/ExRedPill	02/11/23 01:09 PM
3	Do men have friendships with women ? You sure you're "ex" red pill? 👀	/r/ExRedPill	02/11/23 01:07 PM
17	Update. I talked to my therapist today about my red pill views and me blaming my women friends and he helped. I AM OFFICALLY DONE WITH REDPILL VIEWS Feminists are not bad. No energy to unpack the rest of this.	/r/ExRedPill	18/10/23 06:35 AM
1	How to stop myself from falling into redpill ideology. Thanks. But yeah many men don't actually know the legal definitions of assault and rape, including ones I can confirm have done it and not known they have. Let alone legally-ignored perpetuation of sexism-related trauma.	/r/ExRedPill	05/10/23 06:47 AM
4	How to stop myself from falling into redpill ideology. Even just the 3 cheaters and 1 allegedly false SA incident is so little compared to my over thousand experiences of harassment and assault, including multiple rapes ALL by men.	/r/ExRedPill	04/10/23 10:56 AM
13	How to stop myself from falling into redpill ideology. You'd be surprised how many men are dishonest and don't own up to these mistakes or don't get caught. According to research men are more likely to cheat and more likely to lie for selfish gain. Women are more likely to have empathy, to put others first. Look up research.	/r/ExRedPill	04/10/23 06:56 AM
7	are you a simp if you buy her onlyfans? I'm against onlyfans, I don't think it's empowering, but it loves to claim to be. Same with almost all porn. Men need to rethink how they engage with sexuality and other human beings. Because right now it's giving fragile ego that doesn't care about the wellbeing of women, nor respecting them. When you say simp you're revealing that you hold misogynistic views and need to mature and reflect.	/r/ExRedPill	02/10/23 10:37 PM
3	My redpill content watching boyfriend broke up with me after 8 years It hurts now in the immediate aftermath but you'll be pleasantly surprised how much better you'll feel in a few months even though you can't imagine it now.	/r/ExRedPill	24/09/23 10:45 PM
1	Lyft supports discrimination against men in ridesharing I think it's strong within most men.	/r/MensRights	14/09/23 02:37 AM
-5	Lyft supports discrimination against men in ridesharing I support lyft. Men have statistically proven to be a threat to women too often and usually are not only physically more muscular and strong but also psychologically socialised to act in problematic violent ways that leave women unsafe.	/r/MensRights	14/09/23 12:06 AM
3	I wish I knew this sooner, especially before I got lost a female friend and got mad at her. It's not about managing your insecurities - that's a narcissistic point of view. It's about changing the culture for those with less privilege than you. Looks privilege has very real scientifically proven unjust advantages when it comes to earning money, treatment by the justice system, receiving healthcare and more. Individuals do have to start doing the work - not going to magically change by itself. Now that social media has overtaken from magazines it is the individual's responsibility more …	/r/ExRedPill	13/09/23 06:39 AM
3	I wish I knew this sooner, especially before I got lost a female friend and got mad at her. Posting bikini pictures can be (but not always) about seeking validation and out of narcissistic wanting of likes and attention and often the youth/class/health-privileged women are perpetuating impossible body and beauty standards that have real impacts on women who have fewer of those privileges. I think the most privileged women in that sense need to actively dismantle it by showing imperfections, by not airbrushing their already 'flawless' skin etc. Because right now what I see is the most p…	/r/ExRedPill	13/09/23 03:19 AM
14	How to exit redpill when I had to learn about biological human attractiveness at uni? Many assumptioms within evolutionary biology/biological essentialism are often debunked. Read the books Delusions of Gender and Whose Science Whose Knowledge. Read some feminist theory for yourself to see what it's about.	/r/ExRedPill	10/09/23 01:53 PM
12	My boyfriend seems to be into redpill Start sending him good feminist pages on instagram like sommertothill or many others that have scientific studies info referenced if you can be bothered. Considering his beliefs this is a very unhealthy relationship. You might not even realise it. Dump him. You can tell him why you dumped him - his misogynist views are disrespectful of you as a human.	/r/ExRedPill	04/09/23 02:34 AM
1	I used to love having girls as friends and idk what happened? Agreed, it's just one of many factors that unpredictably shapes an outcome	/r/ExRedPill	27/08/23 11:40 PM
3	I used to love having girls as friends and idk what happened? But I've known a few npd people who see people for their usefulness to them and id argue it's a common thing in our individualist capitalist patriarchal extractive culture. The individual does have a moral responsibility to change but it's kinda to be expected people will absorb the toxins they marinate in in the culture especially when it benefits them or doesn't harm them in an obvious way personally. It's never too late to change and we all come from somewhere and evolve. Even npd for example…	/r/ExRedPill	26/08/23 03:08 PM
4	I used to love having girls as friends and idk what happened? But yours are based on very fair reasons while his are based on misogynist thoughts that he has a moral responsibility to heal.	/r/ExRedPill	26/08/23 02:56 PM
6	I used to love having girls as friends and idk what happened? I'm autistic with depression and I'm a feminist who is against seeing people as objects.	/r/ExRedPill	26/08/23 02:54 PM
2	I used to love having girls as friends and idk what happened? Highly recommend reading feminist theory articles and books. It's the only thing that I think has the depth of insight on gender.	/r/ExRedPill	26/08/23 02:52 PM
3	Another thing is men and women are the SAME. There is a monumental amount of bad science around - good scientists are willing to admit this! - and Fine's book interrogates bad science aka science that makes leaps when it comes to assuming a certain hormone means this or that, and Fine references it all very well. Did you ever realise all the racist and sexist "sCiEnCe" that had been published over the entire history of science and debunked later suggests that unconscious biases shape science? You would do well to be more humble. You have a…	/r/ExRedPill	21/08/23 06:52 AM
3	Another thing is men and women are the SAME. You need to read Dr Cordelia Fine's Delusions of Gender and Sandra Harding's Whose Science? Whose Knowledge? Then I guarantee you come back here and have different views completely. Good luck	/r/ExRedPill	21/08/23 02:14 AM