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OP is correct and you should all be listening
/r/seduction28/09/21 06:19 PM
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Eventually you just take on what you learn as part of your character and you'll just end up passively attracting women as you go through life, it just becomes your default way of interacting with women and the world. Eventually you just stop cold approaching, your never opening cold so to speak, you've designed your life so that you project an attractive image and women send you signals that they would at least be open to you saying hello. So when you do open, it's met with smiles and it all run…
/r/seduction27/09/21 06:47 PM
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Finally someone gets it, playing to win vs playing to not lose.
/r/seduction21/09/21 01:14 PM
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It's a problem, the vast majority of women want men who look physically strong. If you are injured then why worry, it's out of your control, just do what you can and come back stronger when you recover.
/r/seduction21/09/21 01:10 PM
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It is legit advice for the majority of people, if you replace chasing women with chasing excellence. That means, lifting weights, making bank and building a better life. Combine that with socializing a lot and you will find that there are a lot of women out there who will make things rediculously easy for you or will just straight up make it happen.
/r/seduction21/09/21 01:07 PM
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You are missing the point of openers really, 9 times out of 10 it won't matter what you say, you can say literally anything to get the ball rolling. I think you are putting far too much energy and thought into your opener and it will come off as weird when you use it. Just keep it simple and spontaneous in the moment then quickly move on.
/r/seduction19/09/21 11:36 AM
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From my experience really hot girls rarely if ever get approached, guys will assume they have no chance or that you are already taken and not even try. There's nothing really you can do other than approach men but even then they will assume something is wrong like why is this stunning girl hitting on me what is she trying to sell me. The solution is that men grow some balls and approach the most attractive women.
/r/seduction16/09/21 08:46 AM
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Love it, it's a core part of maturing as a man, having the courage to conquer things you fear and take action.
/r/seduction13/09/21 06:32 PM
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Sounds like you aren't used to conflict, you are going to come across situations like this in life and you just have to learn how to deal with them. I'd recommend doing jiu-jitsu or mma to get your confidence up and you'll be able to handle yourself a bit better in these situations.
/r/seduction12/09/21 01:39 PM
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The only real reply here, there is an abundance of people nowadays who avoid problems which induce discomfort.
/r/seduction09/09/21 09:14 AM
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You just get used to it the more you are exposed to it, I used to be anxious and nervous around beautiful women but not anymore. I am pretty much myself with or without them around.
/r/seduction09/09/21 09:09 AM
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Everyone says "I don't want to get too big" lmao have you tried it's not like it's easy....
/r/seduction07/09/21 04:22 PM
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Yeah, your kind of right, I am at work so I don't exactly close these women, it's not where I get results but it does provide a lot of of experience interacting and flirting with women. It's mostly just fun flirting but I've been doing this for 3 years and it's meant I've been in-field so to speak for 30+ hours a week with a guarentee of lots of women being receptive. The experience has made me way better with women in general. Also, it's just a different culture, it's exactly like the movies wh…
/r/seduction07/09/21 11:12 AM
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Ngl, I love eye contact, I find it hard not to look attractive women in the eyes tbh. EDIT: It's best not to make eye contact a big deal, just look her in the eyes and enjoy her beauty.
/r/seduction06/09/21 10:58 PM
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You will make zero progress if you require certainty to take action in life
/r/seduction05/09/21 11:45 PM
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Lmao, approaching a girl is not a big deal, stop making it one
/r/seduction05/09/21 01:26 PM
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The vast majority of guys here don't actually want to change, at least not enough to put in the work and effort required. I preach to the few who do.
/r/seduction04/09/21 01:17 PM
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Both, I work as a bartender at a busy venue so I'm meeting dozens of women every night. I have noticed a change with some female friends, they have all complimented me on my changes and started acting a little different towards me.
/r/seduction04/09/21 12:55 PM
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Long game? dude stop deluding yourself unless you want to be her emotional tampon for 6 months while another dude is banging her. Forget her.
/r/seduction01/09/21 09:24 AM
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Well, she is treating you like this because you are allowing it, you're essentially an emotional tampon for her right now. If you want a romantic relationship why aren't you making that clear? it won't just fall into that on it's own. If it were me I'd pretty much tell her straight up, "Stop talking about your ex, tonight is about me and you". Also even though you say you have escalated, I doubt it was anything of significance if she was able to ignore you. Real escalation pretty much ends up in…
/r/seduction01/09/21 09:21 AM
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Not op but it comes down to your physique, your style and your hair. Hit the gym and put on some muscle, then just avoid fast fashion and stick to traditional style, pants, shirts, tee's, dress shoes and so on. Avoid modern fits such as skinny and muscle fits, they are way too tight, stick to traditional slim or straight. I've had lots of conversations with female friends about what looks good on guys and they all hated guys who are overly concerned with being trendy, they view it as too feminin…
/r/seduction31/08/21 01:18 PM
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You just need to try something when you are with them, nothing ventured nothing gained my friend. I was in a similar position, this year I hit the gym hard and fixed my style, it can be jarring to go from zero attention from women to getting lots of IoI's no matter where you go but you just need to accept it and enjoy it. There are far worse problems to have in this world. The next girl who gives you IoI's just make a move with her, it will be hard to doubt yourself when she is kissing you back …
/r/seduction31/08/21 01:07 PM
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Depends on their interest, can vary from simply looking over at you to smiling and giving you a clear invitation to say hello.
/r/seduction30/08/21 03:37 PM
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Yeah but out in the real world girls don't actually think this way. Reddit is a sub-culture which does not reflect reality at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 08:04 PM
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She's trying to test if you are what you are advertising yourself to be, the best answer is the one that recognises what she is trying to do and shows her that you aren't going to be affected by it. Her: "Who do you think you are?" You: Lean in, "Do you want to find out?" with a cheeky smile.
/r/seduction25/08/21 09:30 AM
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You will never lose women chasing excellence but you will lose excellence chasing women.
/r/seduction18/08/21 03:41 PM
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Lmao okay bro
/r/seduction13/08/21 03:36 PM
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I honestly hate this way of thinking, it's total victimhood and not gonna fly here. You are not born damaged or malfunctioning. This is such a stupid way to go through life, you are the product of millions of years of evolution, you posses the same genetic information that has succesfully resulted in mating for millions of years. It's not that he was born with some kind of advantage but that you have decided that you are damaged or broken, as a result you reinforce it by believing that you need …
/r/seduction13/08/21 10:44 AM
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“excuse me miss, I’ve seen you around here before but have never gottenthe chance to talk to you, how about we go grab some coffee this weekendand actually get to know each other?” Do not say this. Dude come on, use your brain here, when have you ever heard another human being talk like this? especially a man talking to a woman he is sexually interested in? "Excuse me miss" sounds pathetic, like you are being overly polite in order to not scare her away. "I've seen you around here before but hav…
/r/seduction12/08/21 05:36 PM
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She's going to be thinking, "Why is this guy so interested in my pants, is he gay??". Women aren't idiots you can just hoodwink, they are gonna know that you aren't actually interested in their pants, they are gonna know that you are asking this as an attempt to hit on them. She'll then wonder, why is he asking about my pants instead of just hitting on me, the only conclusion is that you aren't confident enough to do it directly and she won't have any interest. "Hey, you're cute, what's your nam…
/r/seduction12/08/21 05:09 PM
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Well asking her what her idea of a perfect first date is might sound romantic but it's not a great move. She's expecting you to lead, which means coming up with something interesting and worthwile without needing her help. You should just create some plans and tell her this is what we are going to do.
/r/seduction12/08/21 05:07 PM
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Yep, many attractive women have talked me out of being interested in them. Looks have zero impact on who they are and they can still be incredibly annoying or boring to be around.
/r/seduction11/08/21 10:18 AM
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It's so ironic when guys how have never ventured into bad boy behavior try to downvote you and claim what you are saying never works. This absolutely works, if you think women are some kind of innocent princesses then you are an idiot. The vast majority of women will put on the innocent and pure act just to get rid of the guys who don't get it. Inexperienced guys grab onto this hook, line and sinker. There's nothing that will turn a women on more than having a guy she is attracted to be so encha…
/r/seduction02/08/21 12:09 PM
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And that's a better result than progressing any further with a women who isn't actually interested in you back.
/r/seduction02/08/21 10:52 AM
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No it won't, the majority of worries guys have never actually come to fruition. I think he'd benefit greatly from pissing a few people off and realising that the world wont end and life will go on as normal.
/r/seduction02/08/21 10:46 AM
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A lot of these suggestion are god awful, you can try to band aid the problem or you can tackle it properly. Get to the source and figure out why you have low self-esteem. Only you truly know why that is, maybe you are unhappy with how you look, maybe you hate your job, maybe you want to go do something crazy in life but have been too afraid to do so. From what I've noticed low self-esteem stems from being unhappy with the person you are vs the person you want to be, in some are of your life you …
/r/seduction31/07/21 04:15 PM
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I get that but you also need to realise what the competition is actually like out there, the biggest lie told in society is that there is an abundance of high value guys walking around. There isn't, if you are one of them, you are in a tiny minority and you will have women coming at you from every which way. Take a year and just forget pursuing girls, make your goal instead to get to a point where you feel like you deserve these girls. That will only be when you look in the mirror and see a stro…
/r/seduction29/07/21 12:49 PM
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Low self-esteem, at a core level you know that you don't deserve her. You're going to have to do things which will prove to yourself why a girl like that should date you. Go out and do some challenging stuff, get some victories under your belt and make sure that you are being proactive throughout the day in hustling towards your goals. There is no easy way out of this. Unless you can look in the mirror and honestly see a man who is kicking ass and taking names in life, you won't feel like you de…
/r/seduction28/07/21 02:40 PM
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This is absolute gold, including your replies to the comments below, great contribution man.
/r/seduction25/07/21 04:18 PM
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Lots to unpack but a really great post and a good description of what it's like to really make progress in this area. Lots of guys will hate this post but they are just guys who haven't got to the stage of making these realizations yet. Once you do come to these realizations it's definitely a life changer, you realise like you said how many guys just have no clue at all about how any of this works and women can recognise that you do.
/r/seduction24/07/21 09:32 AM
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Good post, I like what you said about showing girls interest and girls showing interest back, lots of guys are afraid to shoot glances but it's literally the first step in flirting. Just look for the signs that she likes your attention which is normally playing with her hair, looking down when you look at her and smiling. If you are a decent looking and in shape guy, you are above average nowadays and should be getting those responses all the time.
/r/seduction24/07/21 09:09 AM
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You are totally correct, I've been doing this for a decade and the biggest thing I hate about this community is how bs it is. Look, here are the facts, from someone who has done the leg work. Gorgeous women don't want a man who feels like he needs to game her in order to sleep with her. She wants you to feel like you are already enough, she wants you to feel like you don't need to do anything to get her into bed. Until you can look a stunning girl in the eyes, feel absolutely no need to perform …
/r/seduction23/07/21 10:13 PM
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Exactly, like think about your life and all the struggles and challenges you have had. All of the memories and all of the shit you have done, now imagine how insignificant a little rejection is. Honestly, no one cares, this is the biggest lesson I learned. Who the fuck cares if you go up to her and get shut down, only you do my friend.
/r/seduction23/07/21 09:14 PM
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Yes, it's far more attractive than a jester type of guy. Women want strong, confident, masculine men. Letting your emotions run wild is not masculine, she wants you to be in control of your emotions. It also gives her an opportunity to seduce you, if she is getting you to laugh and you are showing her and only her emotions you wouldn't show other people like intimacy she is going to feel special and that's a big part of attraction for women.
/r/seduction23/07/21 09:51 AM
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Lmao, you are high as shit but still a good mindset to have. Put this stuff into perspective and you'll realise that it has like zero impact on you in the long run if she rejects you, you have literally nothing to lose apart from a knock to your ego.
/r/seduction23/07/21 09:10 AM
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She couldn't tell whether or not I actually liked her or if I was justbeing nice because I come off as such a chill guy who could get alongwith anyone. So here's the thing, women always want to feel your attraction and interest in them, they need you to express and show it for it to be felt. She is saying this because to her she wants you to show her that you are actually into her. How do you do this? start just randomly introducing little things which reassure her about your feelings, I'll list…
/r/seduction18/07/21 09:02 AM
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All I'm seeing is excuses, you try, you measure, you adapt your strategy. Repeat until you achieve your goal. Stop focusing on problems and start focusing on solutions. Total bs that you can't bulk, you just haven't tried hard enough. Have you purchase a fitness watch to track calories spent? Do you measure your food and track the calories consumed in an app like MyFitnessPal? Do you track weight progression and loading with an app like Strong? Have you gone to a PT or an experienced friend for …
/r/seduction14/07/21 07:54 PM
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Totally agree. Addressing the comments down below, what planet are you guys living on because it's not one where you have ever done real game. If you aren't touching her, she's not thinking about you sexually. She's not going to get horny because of your intellectually stimulating conversation but she will get horny if you start getting physical.
/r/seduction14/07/21 07:34 PM
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If we are talking about genuine turn-off's like there is nothing going on in my pants when we interact with each other then it's being too masculine and not feminine enough. Lots of girls trying to be bro's and it's the biggest killer of attraction for me. I just need you to be feminine, let me lead the conversation, sound excited about what I tell you, laugh at my shit jokes, show you are interested but let me act on it. Basically do the best you can to allow me to be a man.
/r/seduction13/07/21 08:54 PM
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This dude is irrelevent, just go and be as you would on a date.
/r/seduction13/07/21 08:39 PM
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It's interesting that you list physical attributes for why you should feel worthy of a woman like that but not actual things done, challenges faced or obstacles overcome. This is where you are lacking, your outer appearance is obviously fine but internally there are no pillars holding you up. As men our confidence and certainty in ourselves comes from meeting uncomfortable challenges and overcoming them (we actually get a huge long lasting boost in testosterone when this happens). These challeng…
/r/seduction13/07/21 08:13 PM
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So why do women choose to have sex with men who display traits that show good genetics even if it's just for fun and not for procreation? Why don't women just sleep with cave trolls since it's all just for fun?
/r/seduction11/07/21 02:33 PM
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If his intentions are to get you into bed then at some point he is going to have to kiss you. Would you rather he sprung his feelings on you after 6 months of friendship with no indication of his initial intentions prior?
/r/seduction11/07/21 09:11 AM
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Spread your wings my man, stop stifling how you really feel about these women. It comes down to expressing who you really are, you are interacting with her because she is turning on in some way. You want to kiss her, touch her and get into bed with her. So why would you interact with her in any other way?
/r/seduction11/07/21 09:07 AM
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1/1 feels like a lot, 1/100 feels less severe.
/r/seduction11/07/21 08:50 AM
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You first need to lose this attitude that you somehow don't posses the skills or abilities to do it. There isn't some secret sauce that I know that you don't, I don't go into interactions with a plan in mind. You go up to her, you say whatever you want to, you listen to your body when you get aroused by her beauty or femininity and you act on it. There will be no one there with you to make those leaps of faith, only you as a man can make those.
/r/seduction11/07/21 08:39 AM
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Why would you want to?
/r/seduction09/07/21 09:47 AM
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Totally agree, lots of guys here carry core wounds from past rejections and relationship failures. They sit on reddit all day and create echo chambers so they can entrench their beliefs but if you just go outside and date lots of women, you'll realise that the vast majority of women aren't running around expecting to date 10's. It's the vocal minority who are. Not to mention those girls are unattractive imo and I pass on them quite often. Guys need to realise that most women aren't delusional ab…
/r/seduction08/07/21 08:33 AM
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Right, I'm sick of this text game bullshit. It doesn't work and it is straight up simp behavior. No self-respecting man is going to try and escalate on a girl over text. Do you want to be the type of man who gets to enjoy the rewarding feeling of boldly taking risks in the flesh where things are exciting, uncertain and fun or the type of man who takes his risks hiding behind a screen?
/r/seduction07/07/21 06:23 PM
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Yep but the thing to remember is that anyone can be exciting and interesting, it's all down to how you view your daily activities, what they mean to you and how you describe them to others. As a writer you should know this, anyone can make anything sound alluring and interesting, "I went for a walk" or "I walked through this amazing forest at sunset and just took it all in, the light was coming through the trees and everything, it was beautiful". "I cooked dinner" or "I made some creamy parmesia…
/r/seduction07/07/21 05:31 PM
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Hundreds of average and unimpressive men, be having the most amount of fun in the venue and girls will come to you. Which means, you are totally relaxed, laughing with your boys, making a lot of noise and giving zero fucks about what anyone thinks about it. Also, the nightclub is for warming a set up, closing is at the afters. Lots of guys make this mistake, you can make out with her for 30 minutes straight then watch her vanish into the night. If you want to secure something, host a small after…
/r/seduction04/07/21 09:49 PM
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Get the basics right, steady eye contact, get close, square up so you guys are facing, touch her, her response to these will tell you all you need to know.
/r/seduction04/07/21 09:36 PM
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This isn't advanced, it's like step number one, if you are alone with her and she is giving the bamby eyes, kiss her.
/r/seduction04/07/21 09:34 PM
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Lmao, I'd straight up ignore her saying this and not even respond
/r/seduction04/07/21 09:25 PM
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Yes, guys with really good game are likely sleeping with all of their female friends.
/r/seduction04/07/21 07:42 AM
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You need to realize that if you don't make a move, somebody else will.And quite frankly, they may not even be that much better than you. Getout there. Stop hesitating. Stop doubting yourself. This, it's always good to keep in mind why you are a better option above other men. Really observe other guys, the average man is pretty pathetic nowadays. It's always surprising when I meet female friends boyfriends and I'm like, really you date this guy...
/r/seduction01/07/21 11:30 AM
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As a bartender, it's likely you were doing something weird to warrant this, the only time I would actively get in-between a guy and girl customer is if she is clearly uncomfortable or has asked me to.
/r/seduction29/06/21 09:07 PM
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As a bartender of 3 years, this is just common practice. I'm watching all customers at all times because I'm responsible for everyones safety, when you see a dude start talking to a girl and she starts looking over at you like o.o I kind of have to intervene or see what's happening.
/r/seduction29/06/21 09:03 PM
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Well for a start, you are in the wrong mindset. As a man, none of this should be going through your head. You like her so you express it by giving her more of your attention, that's it. That's how she know's that you are in to her. It's the fact you are choosing to chat to her or spend time with her over other girls. You don't need to be overly flirty for a girl to pick up that you are attracted to her. Cut the crap about pretending to be uninterested, you're only going to make her less interest…
/r/seduction27/06/21 07:01 PM
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You'll be surprised how many girls sext guys with absolutely zero intention of ever having sex with them, out of respect for yourself you should be telling her to meet you in person if she wants your affection.
/r/seduction23/06/21 05:13 PM
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Totally agree, I've also wondered how guys even have the time to sit and text girls all day and the conclusion I have come to is the ones that do are making major sacrifices to do so. There's just better things to be doing with your time. And if you really want to text her, tell her straight up, "Hey, I'm busy right now but I'll call you around x time". Also I have lots of attractive female friends thanks to my profession and have had the pleasure of seeing their phones and where they end up aft…
/r/seduction23/06/21 05:07 PM
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Of course they aren't going to interact with you the way they do with women they are sexually interested in. He's not trying to take you home so what are you expecting? Every guy you ever meet will treat you differently from the way he treats women, why? She has something he wants. You have literally nothing he wants and he couldn't give a crap about impressing you. The more experienced and succesful you get, the less you are going to give a fuck about random dudes. I will sit around a table of …
/r/seduction18/06/21 09:46 AM
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