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Are they children you both had together or were they kids either of you brought to the marriage from previous relationships? Not having any shared kids makes a difference when it comes to whether to stay.
/r/RedPillWives31/03/23 09:35 PM
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My honest opinion is that this is not a marriage worth saving, at all. Nobody is perfect but you seem to think your faults are on par with his. They aren't. You deserve better. If he's tired of you, let him leave to seek out these other women while you seek someone who will keep his promises to you and always prioritize you over mistresses.
/r/RedPillWives31/03/23 06:00 PM
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Yeah. Feminists act like they were the only ones ever in history to say absuing women and children is bad, but in reality feminism was never necessary to protect them. There were many other groups and causes working towards that goal.
/r/AntiFeminists30/03/23 05:38 PM
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The total lack of concern among feminists for male victims of domestic violence drives me straight up a wall. They rarely admit it even happens, and the few times they do they are so quick to claim we shouldn't help them because it would take the focus off of female victims. That mindset it despicable and a major reason why I am against feminism.
/r/AntiFeminists30/03/23 01:49 PM
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Second wave was awful. First wave had some good points like advocating against domestic violence but you're right that it was not as purely good as most people claim. Anything that weakens the family unit is bad for women, men, children, and society as a whole and every wave of feminism has elements of that.
/r/AntiFeminists30/03/23 01:46 PM
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He could be really good at sex - just not with you, or just not that time. Whatever worked great with other women may not satisfy you. Or he was just too nervous this time. It doesn't sound like this was the only thing going wrong, though. If you had only ever seen him as a friend for years and are just now starting to consider a relarionship with him after he insisted you give him a chance, the chemistry probably isn't there. That doesn't make you superficial. It just means you two aren't right…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/23 05:57 PM
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He deserves someone who loves him and enjoys having sex with him. Being small isn't a barrier to good sex when both people are willing to try new things and learn what works for them. But most importantly he should not be in a relationship where he has to beg for affection. If you just aren't into him you need to cut it off and encourage him to find someone who thinks he's great. It doesn't sound like either of you will be happy or fulfilled in a relationship together.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/23 05:07 PM
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If it took him until 34 to become a responsible person, he may not be as responsible as you think he is. A guy who was NEET in his 20s finally getting a job later in life doesn't signify much. He is probably just reaching out to you because he wants to get easy sex again like he was getting when you were friends with benefits. At 28 there is still time for you to find a better man. Don't waste more time on a guy who isn't going to commit to you. Stop seeking out low quality men who only want you…
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/23 01:08 AM
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I think you're right. All the men I've ever known who saw no problem with porn were low quality men. They were immature hedonists with high time preference. Better men know porn is a vice and even if they struggle with temptation to use it, they recognize it's a poor substitute for real human connection. They actively try to prevent it from taking up too much attention from other things in their lives.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/23 01:03 AM
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If he does not see a problem with porn, the real issue is that you two have a different set of values about sexual activity with people outside of the relationship. It is okay to be uncomfortable with him masturbating to images of other women. He's getting sexual gratification from women who aren't you and that's always going to feel bad. If he thinks porn is normal and acceptable, he's unlikely to ever stop and you will have to decide whether it's something you can live with. Being in a relatio…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/23 11:21 PM
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This is true. It's so common it's a trope, the high IQ know-it-all smart guy with such poor social skills he can't realize how obnoxious he is to everyone around him. Academically they are at a PhD level but socially they are stuck in the teen years. The fact that he openly admits he uses immature humor to intentionally bother you after you've asked him to stop is concerning. You are definitely being too nice if you tolerate that sort of toxic behavior. He should not enjoy upsetting you. The fac…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/23 11:38 PM
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No, you're not being too sensitive. He's showing a lot of immaturity and it's going to be a problem in your relationship. Middle school boys make constant sex jokes. Grown men show self-control and good judgement and realize intentionally provocative sex jokes shouldn't be their go-to choice of humor. They also don't anger their girlfriends and wives on purpose. I know a woman who ended up divorcing her husband over stuff like this, because she grew up and he did not. You don't want to be in you…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/23 10:38 PM
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My mom went back to work when I was in 6th grade. She ended up quitting within a year because working motherhood was so, so hard on her, me, and the family as a whole. The money wasn't worth it. I hated being a latchkey kid until she came home in the evenings. I hated that when she was home, she had too little time and energy leftover to do things like cook or clean or spend quality time with me. "Acts of service" is my love language so it mattered to me a lot that she was no longer doing all do…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 11:25 PM
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Sounds like it's time for her stop being a close friend. Let her find someone else to be a punching bag that can do no right. With these types, anything you say about it is going to cause her to flip out on you then complain to all her mutual friends about you even if all you did was remind her of her own words.
/r/MensRights17/03/23 03:45 PM
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I agree it's a red flag. The worst husband I personally know cycled through women quickly after his divorce. He got very serious very fast with his current girlfriend even though he had only been separated for a few months when they met. She is in for a rough ride if the guy I know ends up treating her like he did his ex-wife. OP should make sure she's not a rebound relationship before making any kind of commitment because it is common for people to seek a fast replacement after a break up witho…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/23 03:07 PM
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Being a second wife and step mom isn't anybody's first choice for a good reason. It is possible to find happiness through the struggles, but it is not something anyone wants to do unless there are truly no other options. At 30 it is still possible for you to find a man who has no kids with other women. Of the people I know who became step moms, it tended to work out best when the kids were older teens and had either left home already or were very close to it. Trying to have new kids with a man w…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/23 02:57 PM
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Same thing happened to my dad when his ex-wife decided she wanted full custody of my half-sister. Endless false claims for years. I hope your lawyer is able to get you a good outcome. I hate how common this is.
/r/MensRights15/03/23 10:36 PM
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My college boyfriend was like that, and I hated it. It was not the reason we broke up, but it is a major reason my life became happier and less stressful without him in it. Don't underestimate how big of a hit his behavior will have on your quality of life if you choose to stay. If your boyfriend has been like this for over 4 years he is unlikely to change, and he is also unlikely to fully commit to you. Statistically, couples that date longer than 2 years without marrying are much, much more li…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/23 02:40 AM
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Yeah, anyone buying drinks for a stranger does not have good intentions. That's one of the many reasons I never went to bars and nightclubs even when I was young enough to not look pathetic going to one.
/r/MensRights09/03/23 10:41 PM
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I agree with this. Wanting to go clubbing and party on a yacht in Miami without her husband are red flags, and if she did do something sketchy you are unlikely to ever find out. It just is what it is. In my experience, happily married women stop going to bars and clubs especially if they are past 30. At best, she's still yearning for her single girl party days. At worst she's hoping to meet a fling. I sincerely hope she's an exception to the rule and just wants to have an innocent night of fun b…
/r/MensRights09/03/23 08:06 PM
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I've been married 13 years and I think that's a completely reasonable boundary. I would not personally be comfortable going to a nightclub at all as a married woman, but if I did I would not accept any drinks from a man. Even if nothing bad happened, it's inappropriate.
/r/MensRights09/03/23 06:35 PM
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Well........all I can say at this point is that your replies will really help people decide whether your opinion on this post or anything else is one worth taking seriously.
/r/MensRights05/03/23 07:59 PM
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It means you can't be in a consensual relationship if someone is lying to you about information that would change whether you would consent to be in that relationship with them. It's intentional deception. Body count, or whatever you personally choose to call it, is an extremely common part of that. There are solid, data-driven reasons why people generally do not want to marry those who have high numbers of previous sex partners and especially those who lie about how high that number really is. …
/r/MensRights05/03/23 07:31 PM
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It's also hard on the rest of the man's family. Suddenly the child is no longer someone's grandson, nephew, cousin, etc. My family went through this not long ago when we found out my husband's cousin's son was not biologically his. It meant he wasn't related to any of us either.
/r/MensRights05/03/23 06:45 PM
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She lied to him. There is absolutely no excuse that could make that okay. None. OP broke the trust. Lying about past body counts is still lying, and it's unethical to lie about it when knowing the truth may have changed whether someone would have agreed to enter a relationship with them in the first place. Lying breaks consent.
/r/MensRights05/03/23 06:21 PM
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This all started when OP's sister revealed something about OP's behavior in past relationships that shocked him enough to suspect the kids might not be his. OP was the one who did something sketchy in the past, lied to her husband about it, and broke the trust he had placed in her.
/r/MensRights05/03/23 06:04 PM
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100% this. Even if the children turn out to be his, he has a right to be upset that he married a woman who lied about her past. He is now legally tied to a woman who wasn't as honest as he thought she was and wants to deflect the blame on him, and that's a serious thing. I would not personally marry someone with a body count of 21 and would be upset if someone witheld that info from me until after the marriage was already done. If OP's husband feels the same way he has a right to feel disoriente…
/r/MensRights05/03/23 05:57 PM
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She won't say what the sister told the husband what she was hiding to make him suspect that cheating. OP broke the trust first by failing to reveal something unsavory about her sexual past to her husband.
/r/MensRights05/03/23 05:51 PM
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If you did nothing wrong, you have nothing to hide. Paternity fraud is common enough that it shouldn't be taken as a sign of lack of trust. Many, many good men who loved and trusted their wives completely have found out that their kids aren't biologically theirs. I know some of them personally. Men shouldn't be shamed for having anxiety about it after seeing it happen so often. This is especially true if whatever your husband was told about your past are things you did not tell him yourself. He …
/r/MensRights05/03/23 01:25 AM
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This is what I suspected based on anecdotes, but didn't have any data to back it up. Thanks for putting this post together with some numbers.
/r/MensRights03/03/23 11:47 PM
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Not having friends and assuming other people will betray him are red flags. The saying about you being the common denominator in all your interpersonal relationships rings true for people like that. If they can't maintain even one longterm friendship and are consistently choosing to hang around people who treat them badly (or are paranoid enough to assume everyone is with or without a reason) it's a sign something is wrong with them. It's good to know for next time.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 08:02 PM
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Same thing happened to my mom in the 1960s. It's so painful but it's not your fault, OP. Don't feel embarassed. I am just happy you learned what was really going on and are able to cut ties and move on without major losses. My mom married and had a kid with the guy before she found and out and 60 years later the painful fallout of this guy's deception is still being felt in the family he created then ruined.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 06:00 PM
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Socially conservative, economically libertarian
/r/AntiFeminists23/02/23 02:50 PM
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I search online for A-line skirts and dresses. They tend to be tailored in non-revealing ways and have hemlines that go at least to the knees. I used to go to Dress Barn a lot but I can't remember if they are still in busines or not. I have also had luck with overstock places like TJ Maxx.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/23 09:46 PM
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In my personal experience few women know what "red pill" means and even fewer realize it can apply to women and romantic relationships. They usually think it refers to being of aware of political conspiracy theories or is the term for male pick up artist tactics. Most women who follow red pill beliefs call themselves traditional or follow social media accounts with labels like trad wife, trad life, etc. They are typically religious so secular men may not encounter them as often. So, red pill wom…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/23 07:05 PM
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If even other anti-feminists and other men have been telling you for weeks that your personality problems are why women run from you that ought to be a sign. You have become notorious on these subs when nobody else has. You are the outlier. It is very clear to everyone but you that something is wrong and if you are unwilling to see that, you're going to continue to struggle with the issues you complain about.
/r/AntiFeminists14/02/23 04:32 PM
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It's to encourage lurkers by letting them know they are far from alone. Destructive social movements rely on making the majority believe their opinions are actually the minority by blocking them from hearing opposing viewpoints.
/r/AntiFeminists14/02/23 03:09 PM
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I just think it's worth considering whether you yourself may be the source of the problems with women you complain about every day online....I guess it's something you need to hear more directly if my comment flew over your head like it seems to have. Every day you come on reddit to blame women and feminism for being chronically single at 32 but your personality problems and mental health issues are so huge they are visible from space.
/r/AntiFeminists14/02/23 11:48 AM
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My husband and I were just talking about this yesterday, the realization that we have known guys who fit the popular image of an "incel" for decades but there was no word for it until recently. It's a vastly overused term but reality is there have always been men out there who struggle with with explosive anger, arrogance, bitterness, obsessive tendencies, and other symptoms of serious personality issues. They don't understand why those traits would make them poor romantic partners and get angry…
/r/AntiFeminists13/02/23 09:43 PM
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How long have you known him? Someone who is interested in pursuing a relationship with you will put in effort to contact you regularly and spend time with you frequently, but they may have to get to know you more first before deep attraction can develop. If you've only known him a few weeks it can make sense to stick around and see what develops, but if you've known him for many months and certainly if it's been more than a year it could be time to move on.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/23 09:51 PM
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I thought he might be but I've met enough teen boys that post exactly like him to make it hard to know for sure whether he really is just like this.
/r/AntiFeminists09/02/23 11:10 PM
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Yeah, the male style of humor focuses more on the comedian criticizing himself and others. Comedians popular with women tend to joke about situations and objects. It's why stand ups like Jim Gaffigan have a big female fan base but not ones like Dane Cook. The Jim Gaffigan routines that went viral in mom circles were ones he did about food, parenting, etc. People who assume the male style of humor is the best because it's what they personally respond to can be left thinking women don't appreciate…
/r/AntiFeminists09/02/23 06:13 PM
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I think there are much deeper problems here than what your children could potentially look like. I second the suggestion to see some kind of counselor about your worries.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/23 05:48 PM
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I haven't delved too deep into any of it, but from what I've read it seems like what's actually happening is that men and male-oriented forms of humor are funniest to other men. Then some of them assume that means women are either not as funny as men or lack a sense of humor.
/r/AntiFeminists09/02/23 05:39 PM
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Yeah, the comment and post history strike me as pointing to some kind of obsessive personality disorder. He's not likely to let it go any time soon.
/r/AntiFeminists09/02/23 05:32 PM
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I have seen people get attacked as sexist for saying specific female comedians aren't funny, but this is actually the first I've heard anyone say women in general are not as good at humor. There is a gap in how popular male comedians are compred to women and how much they earn, but since what qualifies as funny can be much more subejctive there's more room to say something other than genetics may contribute to it. For instance, men and women tend to like different types of jokes and subject matt…
/r/AntiFeminists09/02/23 04:57 PM
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Telling him how much it costs to fill a cavity or get a root canal might motivate him to take better care of his teeth. Not brushing and flossing could cost him anywhere from a few hundred dollars to several thousand.
/r/RedPillWives08/02/23 11:36 PM
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The strongest and longest lasting relationships come from couples who begin as friends. You might be focusing too much on feelings of emotional excitement and sexual desire and not enough on the underlying bond. When the novelty of the confident and impulsive Bad Boy wears off, you are likely to find there was nothing of substance tying you to him. Look for men you enjoy talking to for hours and spending ordinary days with. They are the ones you will enjoy living with day-to-day. They aren't goi…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 11:32 PM
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I married at 21 but a good friend of mine married at 34. Her husband has a blue collar job and she is frustrated that she has had to be a working mom and the breadwinner with all the stress that comes with it, but he is a great guy and a great father. She met him through a professional matchmaker. Most women I know who marry past 30 end up being second wives, which isn't really anyone's first choice but it can work out. The key is to be intentional about dating and to consider men you wouldn't h…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 05:32 PM
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I had similar thoughts while reading this. I do know a number of women who left the father of their kids in their 20s because they thought someone better and more emotionally exciting was out there, but the quality of men they could attract as a single mom of multiple kids was much lower than they thought. It only got harder as they aged, and they are now in their 40s living with obese men with dead end jobs who keep them around for sex but won't marry them or take care of the other men's kids. …
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 04:00 PM
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It's a very common fantasy in incel forums, they view showing to women that they are not needed for childbearing and family life as a way to get revenge or level the relationship playing field. On their subs at least once a week someone will post that they are done with women and want to be a single dad by surrogacy so they can have a child without needing to be around a woman, but it is very rare for one to actually follow through with it.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 01:56 PM
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That's only for the ones that are deemed good enough to implant. Most of the ones created are destroyed long before they can be either donated or used by the mother. And either way, it's always better to solve a problem than try to manage the fallout.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 01:49 PM
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That doesn't make it right. The whole point of this sub is knowing the negative fallout of society accepting selfish and flakey behaviors in relationships and family life. It's time we stop enabling it.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 01:46 PM
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I agree when you say your fiancé deserves better, as do your children. If you already know you are not the kind of woman who can fully commit to someone and place your family members' needs ahead of your emotional desires, it's time to be honest with them about that. Growing up in a broken family does lasting harm to kids, but so does growing up with a mom who fades in and out of the family's life as she seeks out a string of newer men for affairs or relationships. Marriage and parenthood involv…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 01:34 PM
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Part of being a good parent is putting your kids' needs ahead of your own desires, and kids need both their mom and their dad to thrive. Being a single dad through surrogacy is no different than being a single mom through a sperm donor. In both cases a person has decided ahead of time that their child will have to live with the painful fallout of growing up outside of a family and not knowing who their other parent is. The parent has decided to alleviate their own emotional suffering by creating…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 01:07 PM
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Nice try but my husband is from Peru. My kids are Hispanic.
/r/AntiFeminists06/02/23 02:35 PM
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Crop tops and above-the-knee skirts are widely considered risqué. It is possible to dress modestly but attractively, and that may be something to ask him if he'll accept. Hopefully dressing more fashionably but without revealing a lot of skin will make him happier. Look for clothes that are tailored for your body shape.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/23 05:51 PM
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This sounds like a difference in personal values. You will have to decide if you are willing to give up your beliefs about modesty and the benefits that come from dressing in a socially acceptable way in order to stay in a relationship with him. There would be no benefits to dresssing in more revealing clothes beyond pleasing him sexually. There would be a lot of downsides, though, including unwanted sexual attention from other men and a loss of respect from people around you. Only one can decid…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/23 05:23 PM
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Birds of a feather flock together. Your ex's best friend sounds like he's got just as many issues as your ex. Forget about them both and move on to someone better. You aren't obligated to spend time and energy on every man who gives you attention on social media.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/23 05:53 PM
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You know what they say, you are the common denominator in all of your failed relationships. The men in my family and social circle stuck by their wives even with severe and debilitating health conditions. If that's not the kind of men you have been attracting it's time to change something about yourself or how/where you are looking for men.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 11:34 PM
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I was in a similar situation at your age because while my husband grew up in a spotless home and was expected to do chores, I was raised by feminist parents who told me to focus only on career and education. The first time I ever held a mop I was 19 years old. I was 20 when I did my first load of dishes. I have ADHD and getting on meds helped a lot. If your parents were hoarders, it is possible you have a pre-disposition towards disorders involving executive dysfunction and anxiety. Keeping a ho…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 05:32 PM
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I have never been cheated on but I have come accross lists of warning signs online. I would suggest searching for some because many of the items on the lists were ones I never would have thought of. Sometimes the signs are not at all obvious. The red flags tend to involve some kind of sudden change. He will either start acting emotionally distant from you as his attention is drawn to the other woman, or he'll begin to be kinder to you out of guilt. He might start buying new clothes and dressing …
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 05:08 PM
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Consider asking him what household tasks matter most to him. The things that are most important to my husband (having the sink and laundry basket clear) are things I don't care about at all. I have never been bothered by a plate left in the sink until I am able to do dishes, but to him it's stressful, gross clutter. I would never have guessed that if I hadn't asked. Also consider asking him if he has differing expectations of a future wife vs. a live-in girlfriend. A lot of men prefer to keep a …
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 04:54 PM
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Yeah, I grow some every summer.
/r/AntiFeminists18/01/23 09:17 AM
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Maybe don't date toxic psychos? Too many women go for the dark triad types again and again then blame men as a whole when their bad boy lovers do bad stuff.
/r/AntiFeminists17/01/23 03:51 PM
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Lurk and take screenshots of the insane stuff they say to roast elsewhere. You don't have to be able to participate for it to be a source of entertainment.
/r/AntiFeminists16/01/23 04:16 PM
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I've been told I'm not a woman for not being a feminist. Feminists say I must be a male troll pretenting to be female online because they can't wrap their heads around a woman who doesn't think exactly like they do.
/r/AntiFeminists15/01/23 12:39 PM
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I think this is because education and career path are signifiers of social class. Men really don't care about their wive's careers and tend to see them as a hobby she enjoys. Her career is not a source of attraction for him the way women are attracted to men with high-status careers. It's just a way to weed out working class women who are not on his level enough to make a good wife and mother in his eyes.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/23 11:39 PM
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I can't stand "alpha male" chads either. Not my type at all. Women are attracted to traits like confidence and drive, but you can find those in all types of men and not just the stereotypically masculine Bad Boy types.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/23 11:30 PM
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No. People have always been expected to pay for their own personal care products like toilet paper, shampoo, toothpaste, etc. It's insane and entitled that feminists think tampons should be an exception and demand that someone else pay for them so they can have them for "free."
/r/AntiFeminists13/01/23 04:39 PM
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I think both can be true - I personally know a large number of women who made false rape and sexual allegations against women that were confimed by both the police and the women themselves to have been lies. Anything from wanting a leg up in a divorce proceeding, to simply being mad at a boyfriend, to mental illness can prompt the lying. But I also know women who never reported their rape or sexual assault for the reasons you gave. Lying about rape and being afraid to report one are sadly both c…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/23 11:41 AM
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That's so tough. It depends a lot on whether he intends to marry you or not - it's been a year, so he should know shortly whether he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. People who date beyond two years are statistically much less likely to ever marry and to stay married if they do tie the knot. You should make an effort to find out what his intentions are. You are definitely wasting his time if he just isn't into you enough to commit. The advice I would give you now that you're in your…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/23 08:43 PM
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I have to agree. The commenters in the screenshots gave him solid advice in a nonconfrontational, nonjudgemental way. OOP was the one who lashed back and said other people are calling him a creep and a stalker when the commenter never did. His immature reaction makes the commenter's words about him having a victim mentality a truth he needs to hear and not a baseless personal insult. Too many guys are still following 2000s pick up artist advice on how to cold approaching women in public and the …
/r/AntiFeminists12/01/23 03:25 PM
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But if a dude's voice was asking her to fetch him clean water she'd call that patriarchy too. She'd accuse her male robot vacuum of making her go to the kitchen.
/r/AntiFeminists11/01/23 06:48 PM
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Deifinitely. Collapsing birth rates have made it incredibly hard for companies producing child-oriented products to avoid falling sales so they redesign packaging to sell to adults. This is how we got baby applesauce packets marketed to athletes as "on-the-go fuel."
/r/AntiFeminists11/01/23 05:30 PM
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I'd rather support women by not encouraging even more of them to become overweight or obese by eating candy. 73% are, last I read. I'd also rather not support them gullibly believing some coroporation really cares about them.
/r/AntiFeminists11/01/23 11:40 AM
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I'm a woman. I don't hate women in general, just feminists and a few other categories. Ones like gullible MLM consultants or the type who rub oregano oil on their kids' feet because legend has it cures the flu.
/r/AntiFeminists11/01/23 01:45 AM
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I care because of what happened to the kids. Some are quite open about what it's like to grow up with a mom who brings a new boyfriend into the home every couple of years and it's not good. I wish these women had cared more about their children's wellbeing than their desire for casual sex. If what a woman does with her life is deeply harming her kids, I am not personally comfortable lying and saying that's great as long as mom gets what she wants in the moment. Her kids ought to matter to someon…
/r/AntiFeminists10/01/23 01:45 AM
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If she hadn't slept around she would not have become a single mom and would not have died. Her doctor confirmed her cancer was caused by HPV she picked up through casual sex. If anyone is shaming her, it's reality itself. It's a tragedy a girl had to grow up without her mom because of her mom's choice to sleep with a large number of men. Feminism can say casual sex is awesome until they're blue in the face but it can't undo the damage is has caused in too many lives. I value considering how my c…
/r/AntiFeminists10/01/23 01:39 AM
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The myth of safe casual sex is one of the main problems with feminism. I'm sorry you fell for it. It's an irresponsible and destructive choice, whether you're a man or a woman. Feminism's promotion of "sexual freedom" as a right and necessity is behind your friends' choice to sleep around while married too. Society falls apart when men and women don't learn to responsibly control their sexual urges and refuse to consider the fallout of casual sex outside of marriage.
/r/AntiFeminists10/01/23 01:28 AM
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Facebook and high school reunions reveal it all. Yes, I still know them.
/r/AntiFeminists10/01/23 12:29 AM
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Do you know what happens to the kids growing up without dads but have a rotating cast of Mom's New Boyfriend and a bunch of little half-siblings? It does end up hurting people when they reach adulthood and society has to deal with the dysfunction their mom caused.
/r/AntiFeminists09/01/23 08:10 PM
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This is exactly why sensible people avoid sleeping with anyone who has a high body count. Sleeping with people who have ridden the tindr carousel is a bad choice whether you're a virgin looking for your first time or someone who has double digit experience.
/r/AntiFeminists09/01/23 08:02 PM
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Yeah, I was way too old when I finally learned that cervical cancer doesn't just randomly happen and that the vast majority of cases are caused by HPV. I was even older when I found out men can get cancer from HPV too. Important health info is being withheld from people to avoid hurting the feelings of people who get with enough strangers that they are at sky high risk of STD infection.
/r/AntiFeminists09/01/23 06:17 PM
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Red pill people are a pretty diverse group. I personally encounter plenty of married men and women, religious people, and preppers. Troubled teen/young adult incels can follow red pill stuff but they are just one of many subsets. If someone is only encountering red pill incels that says more about their personal social circle and the type of people they attract than red pillers as a whole.
/r/AntiFeminists09/01/23 05:27 PM
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This is worth considering. A lot of attractive men will sleep with women lower on the scale than they are but will not commit to them. This leaves the women thinking they are in a higher league than they really are. They end up wasting their time chasing men they don't truly have a chance with. This is a known redpill concept. Reality is that men are always going to go for the youngest, lowest body count, most stable woman they can possibly get. If you've already been in relationships with sever…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 03:01 PM
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He sounds like an awesome guy which means he deserves a woman who loves him as much as he loves her. If you can't be that woman, the ethical thing to do is be honest with him about that and allow him the chance to move on. Every day you spend in this relationship that isn't going to work out in the long run is day you're both not out looking for whoever it is you're more compatable with. Not every woman wants a tough alpha male, I certainly didn't. They're not my type at all. You're early enough…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 01:25 PM
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Thanks! My motto has always been to learn from the mistakes of others, and even as a teen it was clear that living as a feminist is a mistake for the majority of women.
/r/AntiFeminists09/01/23 01:12 PM
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I'm a middle aged mom and have been getting told I have internalized misogyny for years. I always tell them I'm old enough now to have seen what happened to the hot party girls who put a lot of mileage on their bodies while young. A lot ended up with 3 or 4 kids with different dads and are panicking because they couldn't find a new guy to pay for their mistakes past 40. The others are still single and childless and angry that the only men who will even consider a relationship with them are divor…
/r/AntiFeminists09/01/23 12:47 PM
2

It's probably an implant or a prosthetic similar to a padded bra.
/r/AntiFeminists09/01/23 12:35 PM
14

Technically, yes, but it's not nearly as enjoyable with a crying baby or toddler. It's stressful trying to eat restaurant food as fast as you can while your 1-year-old is starting to melt down because you won't let him toss chicken nuggets onto the floor. It's hard having to choose between missing out on a concert or hiring a stranger to watch your toddler in a hotel room in a strange city. It's just not the same. Traveling with kids under about 7 is stressful.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 12:28 PM
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Unfortunately my aunt got custody but I'm hoping she realizes her mom and grandma's lives are cautionary tales about what happens if you follow the feminist path. Telling Millenial girls that it's smart and modern to focus on career, travel, and hookups until they're "ready to settle down" in their 30s leads to disaster. My cousin is not even the only woman I know who barely made it to 30 before dying of an STD.
/r/AntiFeminists09/01/23 12:22 PM
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I got married at 21 and we had our oldest at 22. After almost 13 years in what I ended up missing the most were going to restaurants, live music, and vacations. My parents were able to watch the kids for the first few years but eventually got too old to do it (Fallout from my mom putting off childbearing until her 40s - she couldn't be an active grandparent in her 70s). If your relationship isn't good, make sure your husband is still 100% committed to you before having a kid and intends to do a …
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 11:38 AM
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I had a cousin who died at 32 from cervical cancer caused by HPV she got hooking up with a guy at a bar. Left behind an 8-year-old daughter she also got from hooking up with a guy at a bar. My aunt is a sex-positive feminist and says she has "regrets" about how she raised her daughter, but is still a hardcore feminist. She still says men are somehow the problem in the mess that is her family life.
/r/AntiFeminists09/01/23 11:28 AM
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He's right that it's generally not appropriate for a woman in a relationship to go to most bars and any clubs even just once every few weeks, and if he's in his late 20s or older he's probably aged out of it. He may want a girlfriend who has aged out of that stuff as well. Concerts are a different issue because depending on the musician and venue it could be very casual and not club-like. Parties are the same way, if it's a casual get-together with friends you know it is not necessarily a proble…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/23 05:34 PM
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It's not weird to have no interest. Those types of places can be sketchy at any age, but even people who go there tend to have grown up and moved on by their late 20s. You are no longer in that stage of life and that's not only perfectly fine, it's a good thing.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 06:53 PM
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It definitely makes it clear how miserable feminism has made women that so many would rather take their chances with the hazards of the past than continue living as an unmarried, childless career woman wasting away in an office 60 hours a week. The feminist ideal ended up being a lonely nightmare for the ones that took that path.
/r/AntiFeminists04/01/23 06:20 PM
1

If you or him have any doubts at all, it's best to walk away. It's better to seek out a man who is really right for you at 35 than struggle along for years with the wrong one. Having doubts leading into the marriage ups the odds it will end in divorce. It's a warning sign that shouldn't be ignored. The fact that your post focuses on what this man can give you more than your emotional attachment to him suggests your bond isn't as strong as it needs to be to make a marriage work, especially one in…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/23 10:01 PM
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I saw that in action yesterday. Someone went off on me when I mentioned I know a woman who was very sad she will never have grandkids because her daughter didn't want kids and is now too old to have them anyway. Turns out the angry feminist openly says she is desperate to be mom and had frozen her eggs hoping to make it happen, but was still single and childless in her 30s. She was ripping my friend as "entitled" and "s*****" for wanting grandkids and accused her of just wanting a hobby for her …
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/23 04:03 PM
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Yeah, for sure. Nobody hates wives and mothers like feminists despite all their talk about supporting all women and any choices they want to make.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/23 04:24 AM
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I agree that redpill spaces are an oasis for traditional-minded people. Everywhere else there is a strong expectation that a woman will support hook up culture, divorce, gender neutral division of labor in a household no matter the circumstances, and look down on women who want the vocation of marriage and motherhood more than a career outside the home. There's no willingness to discuss what actually would make a woman happiest in the long run, or what choices would help her relationship and fam…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/23 03:08 AM
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I believe tradition is generally there for a reason - our ancestors did a lot of trial and error over the centuries and passed on ideas that worked. Men and women are different, their strengths and weaknesses compliment each other, and they need to work together to build strong families. Because strong families are necessary for a strong and functional civilization, anything that messes with family bonds is a serious threat to everyone's quality of life. One of the things that drew me to religio…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/23 01:47 AM
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I am a pro-family and pro-child anti-feminist. I oppose feminism because of the impact it has on families. Economics doesn't play a role in my reasons beyond issues like how feminists abolishing the family wage made it harder for men to support a family and pushed mothers into the workforce whether they wanted to be there or not.
/r/AntiFeminists31/12/22 01:32 AM
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r/MensRights might be the closest to what you're looking for. There are regularly posts by guys hoping to share what they've learned from bad experiences.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/22 02:29 PM
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Or ask them about 50/50 custody arrangements. They nearly all want the woman to have automatic full custody of any children no matter the circumstances.
/r/AntiFeminists27/12/22 07:32 PM
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I am very pro-family and pro-child and nearly all of feminism's thought leaders have said marriage and children are burdens on women that should largely be avoided, especially from the second wave onward. If a woman has a family at all, they say she should prioritize her wants over their needs. It's a selfish and destructive worldview, and one that ultimately leads to loneliness and unhappiness for everyone involved.
/r/AntiFeminists27/12/22 07:25 PM
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I'm so sorry this happened but it's good you found out early on in the relationship. There is a lot of truth to the "once a cheater, always a cheater" addage. If you stay with him this is a behavior you will have to put up with again and again even if he has periods between cheating where he is exclusive with you. It's really not worth the heartache. You're still just young enough that you have a very good chance of meeting someone much better and more faithful. If you want kids, you have to con…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/22 11:50 PM
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Yep, this happened to my dad. His ex wife falsely accused him of abusing me (daughter of his next wife) hoping it would give her a leg up in the custody battle. Police determined all the accusations she kept making were lies but she was able to tie up the court for years until the daughter turned 18. I have also had several friends go through the same thing. Luckily for them the women were dumb enough to text their friends or post on social media that they were lying.
/r/MensRights17/12/22 12:54 AM
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They can't handle getting pushback on their opinions. They want that echo chamber.
/r/AntiFeminists13/12/22 07:44 PM
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A lot of the second wave ones.
/r/MensRights13/12/22 06:08 PM
2

This is true. There are big rifts along multiple fronts, with the two biggest being the divide between feminists who think being biologically female matters and ones who think identifying as a woman is enough, and between feminists who think marriage and children are prisons to be abolished and ones who think wives and mothers should be supported in their vocations.
/r/MensRights13/12/22 05:53 PM
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Once you become a mother, the love between a parent and child will hopefully make more sense to you. Narcissism does not play a role in it. EDIT: It sounds like you already are one, nevermind.
/r/RedPillWives13/12/22 02:01 AM
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The mother-child bond is incredibly powerful. Most mothers would do anything to protect their kids. Aborting them is devestating and unthinkable for them no matter what is going wrong in their lives. Women who keep their babies despite being in awful situations actually say their child is one of the few bright lights in their lives and were worth every difficulty. Once a woman becomes a mother the choices have already been made and abortion can't undo it. It can't transport her back to a time be…
/r/RedPillWives13/12/22 01:33 AM
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In my experience, people who are asking if they should leave typically should and often do. When a relationship is strong and healthy before marriage, there are no doubts or hesitation from either person about whether marriage is a good idea. People who reported serious doubts pre-marriage are much more likely to go on to divorce. The doubts are a warning sign that the relationship isn't as good as it should be.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 02:31 AM
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Frequent emotional outbursts and blaming you for his reactions are very bad signs. That's not normal or healthy. If it were just emotional volatility I would suggest looking into whether he's burned out at work or has something impacting emotional regulation like ADHD, but blaming you for his actions makes it more likely his problems are deeper and less fixable. At 25, it's likely this is just who he is as a person and not someone who needs more time to mature. Odds are good the situation is not…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 02:17 AM
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If he's grateful for the work you do and works hard at his own roles in the family, I would not call that being taken advantage of. Acts of service is my love language and it was for my mom too. Cleaning the house, cooking food, and making the family feel at home are how we show love. I don't enjoy things like folding laundry but doing them does give me a sense of satisfaction because it's how I show my family I care about them and their daily needs. Developing that mindset might help you feel b…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 02:11 AM
1

Have you looked into love languages? He may not be a gifty sort of person. I've been married 12 years but my husband and I never give anniversary gifts because it seems like a meaningless waste of money. Spending time together is much more important to us on that day. That said, if you've been together for a year he should know soon whether you really are the one. Very lengthy dating periods are a warning sign that the relationship isn't meant to last because 1 to 2 years is enough time to get t…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 02:01 AM
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You've mentioned your background, but what about his? Has he ever been married before? Statistically, men who don't marry by 38 almost never do. It does happen, but it's extremely rare. 50-year-old men who marry are virtually always divorced or widowers. It is almost never someone who is seeking a first marriage. There are a variety of reasons for this but ultimately what it means for you is that the most likely reason he hasn't taken initiative about a relationship with you is that he just isn'…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 01:41 AM
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Don't waste your time on someone who isn't interested.
/r/AntiFeminists07/12/22 06:50 PM
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Yeah. My mom was a career woman who had my brother and me in her 40s because my dad wanted kids. She told me to wait until 35 to marry and consider not having kids so I'd be freer to focus on my education and career, but instead I married at age 21 and I'm currently pregnant with my 6th. My oldest daughter frequently says she wants to be a stay-at-home mom and gets angry when other adults tell her to get a STEM job instead. Feminism was a brief, single-generation blip on my family tree. My daugh…
/r/AntiFeminists02/12/22 09:49 PM
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They also really hate ever having to face consequences for their actions. They want to live in a fantasy world where every man adores them no matter how awful they are. The ones that insist men should overlook their 25+ body count also tend to constantly criticize their man and take him for granted but demand he put up with that too.
/r/AntiFeminists02/12/22 08:26 PM
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Her user name checks out.
/r/AntiFeminists02/12/22 07:04 PM
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Same sort of thing happened to my husband's cousin. He married his girlfriend thinking she was pregnant with his baby but a paternity test after the birth showed it wasn't his. For this guy's sake I hope it's not his and that he can move on with his life without any permanent ties to this cheater.
/r/AntiFeminists02/12/22 07:03 PM
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It depends. Sometimes the one who asked for the open relationship asks the other one to stay monogamous anyway, and even if they both start sleeping around they get jealous and it leads to fights. So even if OOP was technically free to run around on his gf he was still in for a rough ride if he had stayed.
/r/AntiFeminists02/12/22 06:55 PM
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I've heard that it is. I frequently hear liberal moms and teachers say their sons and/or male students have gotten into traditionalism of all sorts after reading about how damaging wokism and feminism are to families and relationships. Polls seem to back it up. Teen boys today are much more likely to answer they want a family-oriented wife who rejects various secular progressive beliefs about sex than they were 20 years.
/r/AntiFeminists02/12/22 05:47 PM
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Good for him for not putting up with open cheating. She just wanted OOP around to keep her company because the guys she really wants are willing to sleep with her but would never commit to her. The moment one of them agrees to be in a relationship with her she will dump OOP because he's outlived his usefulness to her.
/r/AntiFeminists02/12/22 01:03 PM
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I'm so sorry. I had the same type of feminist mom who told me not to have kids so I could more fully devote myself to my education and career. I ignored her and got married at 21 instead but if I hadn't my life would have been a wreck. I feel so awful for your wife but stories like hers are making a difference. The hordes of childless middle aged women burnt out at the careers society told them they should want are warning younger women to take a better path in life. Some are starting to listen.…
/r/AntiFeminists01/12/22 01:55 PM
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That place is more for people who hate kids and never wanted them. The wife desperately wanted kids and is pained that she can't have them.
/r/AntiFeminists01/12/22 01:48 PM
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I have come across way too many women like this. If someone cheats even once, you need to get out of there. The dumpster fire will only get worse as time goes on. It's always a red flag that she'll bring deeper and worse problems into your life.
/r/AntiFeminists01/12/22 01:44 PM
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Happened to my dad. His ex-wife knew falsely accusing him of abusing me would give her a leg up in her custody case for my half-sister. The police determined she was lying but there are no consequences for it and she got what she wanted. She was able to drag out the custody case for years until my half-sister turned 18 and dad had been bled of tens of thousands of dollars in lawyer fees. Evil woman. I warn my son not to even talk to feminists. Having one in your life even as a distant aquaintanc…
/r/AntiFeminists01/12/22 01:32 PM
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Someone claiming prostitution is a caregiving profession and a guy who doesn't realize it's normal to dislike having your girlfriend sleep with a long line of other guys.....wow. Both of these people need to wake up to reality.
/r/AntiFeminists30/11/22 06:28 PM
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I'm so sorry she turned out to be awful but I'm glad you found out early on. The saddest stories are the ones where the man doesn't realize it until after he marries her or has kids with her.
/r/MensRights29/11/22 10:56 PM
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Statistically, women who have 10 or more sex partners have way more trouble in future relationships than people with a more average body count. They are the least likely group to stay committed and are drastically more likely to get diagnosed with STDs and cancers stemming from them. It makes sense for someone looking for stability and health to avoid them.
/r/AntiFeminists29/11/22 10:41 PM
3

Her user name checks out.
/r/AntiFeminists29/11/22 04:21 PM
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Men make up 80% of suicides and 93% of workplace deaths but I guess talking about stuff like that counts as some kind of hate speech now.
/r/AntiFeminists29/11/22 04:18 PM
2

Feminist men tend to be so meek and passive they aren't a problem anywhere near as often as feminist women. It's the feminist women who tend to come up with bad ideas and work to bring them to fruition.
/r/AntiFeminists28/11/22 02:18 AM
2

I hadn't even heard of him until he made news headlines for getting canceled. All it did was introduce him to more people.
/r/AntiFeminists28/11/22 02:11 AM
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I know a mom who got so mad at her daughter she ripped the 4-year-old's arm right out of the socket and had to take her to the ER. When she posted about it on social media all the other women commented "oh mama, don't feel bad! It's okay to get angry! You didn't really mean to hurt her!" I was disturbed and apalled. If the girl's father had done this he would have been arrested and her friends would be urging her to file for divorce with full custody and no visitation.
/r/MensRights28/11/22 12:23 AM
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If she's even pregnant at all, the baby probably isn't yours especially if you only had sex 3 times. The fertile window of a woman's ovulation cycle is not long (about 7 days) and even if you time it perfectly and use no birth control there's only about a 20% chance fertilization and impantation happen. Get a paternity test immediately if she does eventually give birth, but expect her to claim she miscarried or aborted within the next few weeks. Odds are excellent she's lying. It's safest to go …
/r/MensRights26/11/22 12:39 AM
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I have always heard never marry a man that you wouldn't want your kids to grow up to be exactly like.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/22 11:46 PM
16

Yes, unfortunately you are wasting your time. Trust him when he says he doesn't want to get married. At 26 he's not likely to be a late bloomer, this is just who he is. Break ups hurt but he is never going to be a leader. He is probably going to coast through life smoking weed and being taken care of by the women in his life. I have seen a couple guys finally shape up and become good family men in their 30s after their laziness and immaturity cost them a good woman, but far more often than not t…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/22 11:06 PM
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I have heard people say things like bringing hostess gifts make them uncomfortable because they feel preasured to reciprocate if the person ever invites them over, and they feel guilty getting rid of the gift if they don't want it. A lot of people also say they get frustrated when guests don't finish the food at a party. Money is tight for Millenial and Gen Z people and that may play a role in some of this. Things like verbally thanking hosts and offering help are a lot less controversial though…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/22 07:20 PM
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"Once a cheater, always a cheater" tends to be true. The odds are excellent that he will cheat on you again. Even if he says he won't, if you stay in a relationship with him long enough he is likely to give into the temptation to cheat again in the future if he feels bored with you or simply comes across someone he likes better. He has shown that he is someone who has trouble saying "no" to temptation and that's a personality trait that's not going to change.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/22 09:29 PM
4

I used to be an atheist and am still a Libertarian. Your best luck might be to look in prepping communities. Most of the men hold a mix of libertarian and conservative views but being non-religious seems to be more common for them than in the general population. Maybe the culture of self-reliance attracts people who don't want to rely on God, who knows? Also consider dating men who are in early middle age and possibly divorced. A lot of them are hesitant to have kids, either because they never w…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/22 07:05 PM
2

Other studies have shown that unmarried, childless, middle aged women are the least happy demographic. Anyone can point to a study that shows whatever they want to be true. The strongest research consistently finds that people with the most social connections are the happiest and healthiest. For the typical person, that's going to be their spouse and children.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/22 06:08 PM
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Reducing my carb intake significantly improved my acne outbreaks. I have a PCOS hormone profile so that might be linked.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/22 09:45 PM
4

I've been married 12 years and we are about to have our 6th kid, it truly is a dream come true. A loving family is a joy.
/r/MensRights30/10/22 02:45 PM
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The guys I know getting married are faithful Catholics marrying tradwives. In Catholicism a valid marriage can't be disolved. Tradwives know this and are motivated to keep the marriage a happy one. They are also family-oriented enough to not want to put their kids through a frivolous divorce. I can't remember the last time I saw a secular man get married, they almost always just have longterm live-in girlfriends. So the answer is that the guys who are still getting married despite problems with …
/r/MensRights30/10/22 02:23 PM
1

The ghosting isn't the red flag for me, that's common. It's talking a ton about knowing he wants to have a serious relationship and sleeping with her immediately when he had only known her a few weeks at that point. They only dated for 8 weeks total. Acting like a brand new date is a long term relationship starting to turn serious is a well-known red flag that the person's personality traits (such as impulsivity) and yes, sometimes intentions, warrant a closer look. Emotionally healthy people wi…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/22 03:42 PM
1

Was he significantly older than you? Sometimes much older guys say things like that to string a girl along for a few weeks while they're getting the sex they wanted but ultimately always intended to move on. If the dating relationship only lasted two months and he ghosted, it sounds like he may have just wanted a brief fling.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/22 01:30 PM
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If you only dated him a couple of months, he did not genuinely get to know you and your friends and you did not wait long to sleep with him. This was a very fast flash-in-the-pan relationship. You found him alluring but it doesn't go deeper than that. Odds are good you will meet someone new quickly and forget about this man.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/22 12:55 AM
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I agree it's a ridiculous double standard. On the one hand society says everyone has a right to define their personal sexual preferences and boundaries but if you're a man who is not attracted to morbidly obese women or a lesbian/bi woman who isn't attracted to transgender biological males there is immense pressure to sleep with them anyway if that's what they demand from you. It's not okay. Consent doesn't stop mattering no matter how angry it makes you when you're turned down for sex or dating…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/22 06:53 PM
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Most men I know value their wives for their companionship, their mothering skills towards their kids, and how much easier, happier, and purposeful they make their lives. They speak highly of how smart, responsible, kind, and productive they are. The key is that the men I know are family-oriented. Men who only care how hot and docile a woman is tend to be very young and their lives don't involve much other than seeking immediate pleasures yet. They are just looking for a toy to play with. Some wi…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/22 03:56 PM
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That's unfortunately one of the risks of getting very intimate with a man you don't know well. He hasn't seen you in enough situations yet to know whether he really likes the real you or just the you he sees on formal dates. There is a real chance he will decide he just isn't that into and move on. If this is a concern for you your best option would be to hold off on overnight trips for now and see how the relationship develops. His response to you canceling the overnight stuff will also tell yo…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/22 11:43 AM
1

We're Catholic so he doesn't know I'm bi. I know he would react very badly based on how he's reacted to others coming out.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/22 05:33 PM
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I'm bi but married to a man. I do agree with the comment that you may just need to find the right man to make it work if the ones you've been with have been mediocre. Maybe you just need to finally encounter the right type of guy that will awaken sexual attraction in you. I am kind of specific about the type of women I am attracted to and I rarely encountered them until I was older. The same may be true of you and men.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/22 03:06 PM
11

I like long skirts paired with boots and a sweater.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 06:17 PM
1

It really depends on what caused his tempermental period. Even wonderful people can get angry and lash out if they are depressed, anxious, burn out, etc. If it was a temporary mental health problem it can be worked through. It's only if it's his true nature revealing itself that it would be a dealbreaker. It does sound like low level anger is a long term problem for him. If you've been with him for 4 years you should have a good feel for what he is normally like and whether his anger was very ou…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/22 11:20 PM
1

Sorry, mistook you for OP. My fauly for using reddit way too early in the morning.
/r/MensRights03/09/22 02:12 PM
2

It's not. If you are too deeply fearful of a woman leaving you to risk having a relationship with one, biological kids just isn't in the cards for you unless you are willing to burden your child with deep psychological wounds to fulfill your own personal emotional needs. Having a child on your own would make you an even worse parent than mothers who abandon their child's father, because at least in those cases the child knows who he is and spent significant time with him before the split and can…
/r/MensRights03/09/22 11:38 AM
1

It's completely understandable why someone would want to raise their own genetic offspring instead of someone else's child. Blood is thicker than water. Biological ties are deeply meaningful and most adopted people yearn to connect with their genetic families even when their adoptive ones are loving and supportive. We are hardwired for it. But that's exactly why surrogacy is so problematic for children. It blocks them from having the relationship with at least one of their biological parents and…
/r/MensRights02/09/22 10:41 PM
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It's the same as with single mothers by choice, it's a decision to take risk and pain off of the parent and place it on the child instead. There are serious concerns that go with that. I would suggest reaching out to support groups for adult children of sperm and egg donors before making a decision. It is important to keep the opinions of a potential child in mind and fully understand what you will be asking them to go through. The children tend to be far more negative about the experience than …
/r/MensRights02/09/22 04:31 PM
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There would be at least a 50% chance they would continue to live with both parents until adulthood, though, and even if one parent moved out there would be regular contact with the child and a emotional bond. They would have also experienced at least some time in an intact family. A child born to a single parent by choice intentionally has no relationship with one of their parents. Single fathers by choice are the male version of single mothers by choice, and both run into the same ethical conce…
/r/MensRights02/09/22 04:18 PM
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Children of lesbians do experience negative fallout from lack of contact with their father, as do children in any kind of single parent situation. It's not the ideal situation for a child to be in, though in the case of surrogacy or sperm/egg dontion there is the additonal challenge of the child knowing it was intentional. I can understand the attraction for both single men and women to create children to be raised alone but being a good parent does involve considering what's best for the child …
/r/MensRights02/09/22 04:07 PM
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Kids naturally want an attachment to their mother and their father, so you may end up having to cope with the child's emotional struggles surrounding not having contact with her. This is true even if surrogate uses a donor egg, and can even make it worse because the child now has a connection to two different women. Men who went this route have written about how surprised they are that their children still frequently ask for contact with their mom(s) and are very sad they can't have it despite b…
/r/MensRights02/09/22 03:41 PM
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At least in my area, stadiums are used for concerts, fairs, and expos as much as they are for sports. Depending on the event, the number of women attending can equal or exceed the number of men.
/r/MensRights31/08/22 10:46 AM
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Putting on make up and waiting for friends doesn't impact how quickly people cycle in and out of the stalls though. Putting in more toilets is the only way to really shorten lines. Architects of newer buildings seem to have realized this, there tend to be twice as many as in buildings designed 20+ years ago.
/r/MensRights31/08/22 02:31 AM
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I have seen this sometimes, mostly at places like stadiums where the women's bathroom lines can be 30 people long but there's no line at the men's bathroom. Some women will go into the men's bathroom saying the line length differences are "unfair."
/r/MensRights31/08/22 12:56 AM
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Clearly, coming from a broken family has left you with some issues.
/r/MensRights29/08/22 02:35 AM
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I'm a married woman. I've just seen enough broken families realize that far more often than not it's best to avoid getting involved in one. 9 times out of 10 you're better off not messing around with a single parent. The personality problems and choices they made that lead them to that situation are ones they are very likely to carry over into any new relationship.
/r/MensRights29/08/22 02:14 AM
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I remember reading an article written by a former single mom angry that so many people told her she was "lucky" she found a man willing to marry her after her wild choices in her 20s left her with a son. She eventually realized it meant people didn't see her as a top-tier choice and that her husband was settling by marrying her. She really did expect that quality men would line up to marry a 30-year-old mom with a high body count because of her "great personality." She hated that people saw her …
/r/MensRights28/08/22 11:33 PM
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Well, all I can say is that's exactly why women should not sleep with men who won't commit to them. It used to commom knowledge that that's a terrible idea. Now women insist it's sexist to say she should have picked a better man than a tinder hookup who wants to keep his options wide open to father her children. If she got in bed and had a kid with a guy she wasn't commited to that's on her. Though with your account being brand new with only this thread on it it's hard not to suspect you're a fe…
/r/MensRights28/08/22 09:57 PM
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She chose to sleep with the bad boy who wouldn't commit to her. Yeah there are sweet, loyal wives who get dumped by men who appeared to be Prince Charming who didn't show their true colors until years into the marriage and run off with the secretary. But these days that's uncommon. A single mom who claims her baby daddy is a deadbeat usually chose to sleep with a guy she knew was sketchy, or hardly knew at all.
/r/MensRights28/08/22 09:54 PM
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It reveals how trashy the woman who says it is. She's admitting that she picked a loser who didn't stick around as a dad for her first kids and is now married to a loser who couldn't attract anyone better than a single mom. It's even worse when the bio dad was actually a good man and she pushed him away on purpose, because that means she's blaming him for not being around when she's the real problem. I never blame anyone for not wanting to be a step parent, because no one should feel pressured i…
/r/MensRights28/08/22 08:59 PM
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Having your default first date location be your house and still insisting the woman meet you somewhere very close to it if they aren't comfortable with entering your home without knowing you does send up red flags. It's not a good idea to date a woman who would go along with that unquestioningly anyway. She's either an extremely easy lay or a pollyanna with no situational awareness skills. Neither of them make good girlfriends or wives.
/r/MensRights28/08/22 12:12 AM
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It could also be an age issue. The most pleasant, level-headed, down-to-earth women I know all got married in their early to mid-20s and most are religious. A man over 30 is likely to have a lot of women of a similar age in his dating and social lives, but they are the leftovers nobody else wanted for a reason. It is not at all surprising that a man would notice women getting worse as he aged. The good ones have been in their husband's homes taking care of his kids since they were 24.
/r/MensRights27/08/22 09:56 PM
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It's becoming more common and it makes sense. I personally know multiple women who made false rape and abuse accusations for a variety of reasons. Police were fortunately able to officially determine the women lied in most of the cases, but having a recording couldn't have hurt. Ultimately, though, sex with strangers carries a lot of risks and false accusations is just one of them. A recording of consent may offer a false sense of security. Risk-averse people are beginning to leave hook up cultu…
/r/MensRights25/08/22 10:12 PM
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If you dress up sexy and go to a nightclub, you should expect to be stared at.
/r/MensRights25/08/22 12:32 PM
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There's a red pill wives sub. Subs for traditional Catholics also tend to be welcoming of family-oriented women with red pill values.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/22 01:58 PM
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I saw a thread a few days ago from a man who found out a woman who seemed okay in person was spewing horrific anti-man feminist rhetoric on social media, like claiming all men are rapists-in-waiting and she wished all men would just die, etc. There's a lot of people who are good at hiding their true beliefs while in the real world and only let it out online.
/r/MensRights20/08/22 12:11 AM
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It probably depends on how attractive the guy is. They're willing to submit to a strong hot bad boy but a weak, ugly man they expect to function as a doormat.
/r/MensRights19/08/22 09:20 PM
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100%. They just want a Ken doll who will do whatever they say with a smile on his face. They don't want a real man with opinions and a personality of his own. That might take compromise and even sacrifice, and anything that takes work like that has no place in their fantasy world. They want the guy to be the one to do all the work. It's supposed to be a like a movie where a perfect guy just shows up to solve all their problems and accept all their flaws while having none of his own.
/r/MensRights19/08/22 05:25 PM
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The kind of woman who sees men as just a prop in her dream life wants one who will listen to her opinions but never challenge them. They don't want the difficulty of having to explain or defend them to him.
/r/MensRights19/08/22 12:42 PM
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I majored in K-6 education with a concentration in Spanish. I never used my degree as I got engaged while still in college and graduated into a recession. I only went to college because I had always been told that it was necessary, and that no man would ever want to marry me until we were at least in our late 20s. So at 17 I went to college under the assumption that I needed a career to support myself for several years while I searched for a husband. It was a waste of 3.5 years (I took summer cl…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/22 12:15 AM
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You have fewer options than you did a few years ago but there's no need to worry. You will still get a lot of attention and can get a good man if you prioritize finding one. The women I know know who were succesful marrying past 30 took dating seriously and sought out men who were ready to commit and settle down. They didn't waste time with casual dating. They went to sites like eharmony or paid professional matchmakers to introduce them to family-oriented men. I second the suggestion of dating …
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/22 10:58 PM
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That's exactly why they hate it when a friend loses weight, it proves weight loss is possible for them too and they are also now at risk of being "the fat friend" if they don't. If too many of their friends get slim they will suddenly be the ugliest of the group.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/22 01:26 PM
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Definitely. OP says she wants male attention and a lack of it is hurting her self esteem. It's not any different than men going to club to look at pretty young women. Everyone is there to flirt and see how far it gets them and everyone knows that.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/22 07:24 PM
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That's what I told the OP. Men in a night club are usually looking for a specific type of young woman and if she doesn't match the look they're going for she's wasting her time. She's better off seeking male attention just about anywhere else. Organizations and events based around her hobbies and personal interests would at least give her personality a chance to balance out a plain physical appearance.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/22 06:00 PM
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A friend's old high school classmate was like this. She weighed about 250 pounds from high school all the way through her 30s. She would get lots of free drinks at bars because men would buy rounds for her whole group. This left her thinking she was more attractive than she really was. Everyone she knew would talk about that behind her back but to my knowledge no one ever said it to her face.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/22 03:40 PM
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Looks like reddit auto-removed your comment over there after a flood of sensitive women reported it for being "mean." What a shame. I hope the OP got to read that weight loss is both achievable and worthwhile before it got taken down. Anyone who is serious about improving their life needs to start with the truth. I am personally grateful to everyone who was honest with me about my need for weight loss - I lost 87 pounds last year and finally regained my health.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/22 03:21 PM
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I have seen this an endless number of times. Sensitive women will always choose to protect a friend's feelings instead of telling her uncomfortable truths that would help her, then enforce the same "niceness" on everyone they catch trying to tell truth to that friend. This is why I value honesty and emotional resilience in female friends. Women who insist on "niceness" push their friends to stick with bad health habits, dead-end relationships, toxic friendships, ill-fitting career paths, etc. Th…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/22 03:09 PM
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There does seem to be some truth to this. There are a lot of young women who want to be traditional wives and mothers who are realizing that feminism is designed to block them from that. They are dumping feminism rather than dumping their dreams about marriage and family life. https://redstate.com/brandon_morse/2022/08/10/feminism-is-losing-its-hold-on-gen-z-as-women-speak-out-n610152
/r/RedPillWives11/08/22 12:23 PM
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Don't make any permanent decisions about your relationship while you are pregnant or have a new baby. If things were okay before you got pregnant, prenatal anxiety could be behind a lot of it and postpartum depression could follow and bring additional temporary issues. Being very annoyed at things that didn't bother you previously is a symptom. You could very easily go back to liking him once your body has recovered from the birth. He will always be your child's father so no matter what happens …
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/22 06:52 PM
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Please do, that sounds incredibly useful.
/r/MensRights09/08/22 11:55 PM
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I ignored advice about making a cleaning schedule for a long time, but in the end I realized it helps a lot. It takes a weight off my shoulders because I know that even if one room is messy today, I will get to it in a day or two when it is on the schedule. It also helps make sure no area of the house is neglected. In the past I would focus on the high traffic areas and end up never having time left to clean other places for weeks or even months. Decluttering helped a lot because it ensured ever…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/22 07:45 PM
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It doesn't seem like it. One woman said some were going for things such as intelligence and personal values and the reply is that the "other things" were really just money alone.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/22 10:31 AM
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No, it's not about money. A lot of people go for loyalty and dedication, for instance. I wanted a husband I knew would stand by me if I got cancer or faced some other serious tragedy. Sex is important but secondary to a lot of other things. Would good sex be worth it if your husband ignores your kids, is mean to your mom, never wants to spend time with you, and cheats while you're in the hospital? People with life experience know marriage is about so much more than sex or money.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/22 01:32 AM
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Yeah, there are some really weird posts and a ton of reposts on there. Not sure what's really going on.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/22 12:43 AM
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Your husband has valid points regarding safety and I understand why he wants you to switch jobs. Working in law enforcement means he sees what could happen to you nearly every day. You've been lucky to have escaped mostly unharmed so far but I am sure it makes him very anxious knowing your luck could run out any day. You've only been in your current position a year, but at some point you may burn out. If this is a big issue for him, maybe come up with a timeline for leaving? I have known quite a…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/22 01:16 AM
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She's not disliking goth clothes at you. To each their own.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/22 06:50 PM
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Can I ask how old he is? Is he 20 as well? If he is your age he may just need a few more years to mature and start taking your input into consideration, but if he's several years older asking you to wear tight shirts and match an aesthetic could signal some underlying problems in how he plans to build a life with you.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/22 01:17 PM
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If you don't fit his vision of what he wants in a woman, you guys might not be a good fit for each other. Even if you start wearing clothes you dislike just to please him you are likely to eventually fall back into familiar habits. It's also likely he will ask you to start changing other aspects of your life. I would suggest asking him to describe his ideal woman and ideal life with her and deciding together whether you are able to match that well enough for him. You should also ask yourself whe…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/22 12:19 PM
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You're right that people's idea of what women find attractive can be too narrow. I am attracted to nerds - my first crush was Bill Nye the Science Guy - and I ended up marrying a software developer who loves Battlestar Galactica. I have zero attraction to the celebrities magazines hold up as "The sexiest man alive" and many even repulse me. No matter who you are and what you look like there is a woman somewhere out there who thinks you are 10/10 and is uninterested in the guys you assume she'd p…
/r/MensRights02/08/22 11:15 AM
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Like I said, it's up to him to decide if he's willing to risk that. It doesn't happen in every marriage but it does happen far too often. 12 years in I actually weigh 25 pounds less than I did at the wedding despite 5 kids. But if you don't live in an area with lots of fitness enthusiasts that can be very unusual. I do know a guy in Peru who was able to get out of a bad situation easily (found out his newborn wasn't biologically his). Any man who can get a second passport should consider it.
/r/MensRights02/08/22 11:07 AM
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If you want companionship and a family, dating can be worth the time though you have to be extremely careful about who you pick. It can be hard to find a family-oriented woman who appreciates men and is willing to make personal sacrifices for him and her kids outside of traditional religious communities. Those are one of the few places where a woman who serves her family and prioritzes their wellbeing is respected. But those women are definitely out there. A lot of men I know enjoyed endless fre…
/r/MensRights02/08/22 12:34 AM
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That stuck out to me as well. This is likely to be a significant problem if the relationship ends up continuing.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/22 07:57 PM
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I remember seeing some statistics about this. People who dated beyond a certain amount of time (I think it was 2 years?) before getting married were more likely to divorce. The theory is that within two years of serious dating it really ought to be clear whether the person is a good fit for you or not. If someone is still unsure after 3, 4, 5+ years it's a sign something about the relationship is just not working well for one or both people even if they can't articulate exactly what it is.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/22 07:22 PM
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This. He may not even realize that's what he's doing, but he is. People will always choose the easiest path to what they want, it's human nature. If you are willing to act as his wife by providing companionship, sex, emptional support, etc. without him having to take the risks and sacrifices of marriage it is understandable why he would want to keep things as they currently are. But if marriage and family are your goals it is important to find someone who will commit to you without hesitation.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/22 07:16 PM
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I know a guy who did this to a woman. He was open with his friends he didn't see a future with her but also didn't want the pain, embarassment, and ego hit of a break up. She broke up with him after being strung along for 4 years and luckily found another man quickly. She was a very sweet and hardworking woman, it wasn't hard for her to find someone thrilled to marry her. I personally would have a hard time staying with someone who just wasn't that into me. Especially knowing that there are plen…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/22 06:08 PM
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I'm sorry that you're in this situation, I know it hurts a lot. But you're right when you say most couples who break up shouldn't get back together. The strongest couples are the ones who have no doubts that they are with the right person - there is research to back that up. Sometimes on-and-off again couples make it work the second time but those couples have a much higher than average risk of struggling while together and breaking apart again later on. His uncertainty and fear of fully commiti…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/22 01:58 PM
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I'm pregnant right now so I couldn't even fake being an incel.
/r/MensRights26/07/22 04:10 PM
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I remember she didn't want natural family planning because her husband worked on an oil rig.
/r/MensRights24/07/22 10:42 AM
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No. She gave plenty of reasons for not wanting each type of birth control but none were legitimate like that.
/r/MensRights24/07/22 04:12 AM
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I once got a crazy 20 response thread from one making up endless reasons why every single form of birth control in existence was not going to work for her. She also claimed getting pregnant would be such a major health risk that she'd have no choice but to abort the next kid she got pregnant with. But she swore she loved the three kids she already had. I told her if she really loved her kids and birth control was impossible she should abstain from sex until menopause so none of her kids had to d…
/r/MensRights24/07/22 12:39 AM
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My husband and I both have relatives with mental illness and sometimes things like this can be necessary to protect the individual and those around them. I don't know your boyfriend or his motivations but I don't believe what he is doing is automatically abuse in the context you've given.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/22 09:57 PM
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It quickly morphed into an insult feminists hurl whenever a man says something they don't want to hear, or when they just don't want to hear a man say anything at all.
/r/MensRights25/06/22 12:28 AM
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Money is tight for everyone these days. If it's been a while since you two have gone out somewhere to spend money it may be because he can't really afford the restaurants and drinks you suggest right now. Consider doing free or lower-cost date nights more often. If this relationship turns more serious in the future you will both have to work out your money situation together and get on the same page about what's really worth dropping big checks on and where exactly the money will come from.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/22 10:52 AM
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Not necessarily. It depends on the man - a lot of Gen X men I know are really into women who have a bit of an edgy streak because they were teens in the grunge years when that was seen as attractive. A confident woman who knows how to shoot a gun, ride a horse, and fix a car appeals to them even if she's not the right fit for others.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/22 01:38 AM
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I have seen feminists totally flip out and also deny it's true when they've heard people say this or post it online. There is still a lot of "anything you can do I can do better" mentality among them. My husband loves to tell the funny story of a young feminist friend who insisted she was stronger than any potential rapist and could beat a man off after learning some moves at a women's self-defense class. He grabbed her arm and told her to use all her moves on him and she was completely unable t…
/r/MensRights20/06/22 07:14 PM
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Having children in your 30s is possible but much riskier physically for both the mom and her children. Much higher chance of losing the baby and experiencing health complications. It's far from ideal for a lot of reasons though I'm happy to hear it is working out for your friends. A lot of people who put off childbearing until their 30s find out they waited too long.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/22 10:18 AM
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I got married at 21 and I feel the same way. Now that my husband and I are middle aged we can plainly see what happened to our school friends who chose the trendier, more modern life paths. They are either still single and childless in their mid-40s or they are single mothers to mulitple kids who have different dads. They thought hooking up with strangers and prioritizing career over family was fun and smart at 24 but at 44 it's just sad and lonely.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 11:02 AM
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Looking at your profile, I think you need to worry about getting off drugs more than other people's happy marriages. You are not in a good place to offer life advice right now.
/r/RedPillWives10/06/22 11:41 PM
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Most people aren't disabled but things like burnout are common. So are surgeries, cancer, deaths in the family, etc. In my experience the healthiest marriages are ones where household work is split up in a way both feel is fair (doesn't always mean 50/50) when times are good but each spouse is willing to take on the other's typical tasks in a period of crisis. Some of the best marriage advice I ever got was that we need to be prepared to carry each other through bad times.
/r/MensRights05/06/22 12:58 PM
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I would not personally place the blame on the husband beyond saying that he should not have married an ungrateful feminist. Some men don't find out that's what their wife is until it's too late, though. The warning signs can sometimes be subtle in the dating phase.
/r/MensRights04/06/22 10:49 AM
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When all the work needed to run a household is taken into consideration, most couples naturally split it up pretty evenly according to what I've read. The problem is only that too many women see a pile of dirty dishes and complain that their husband isn't cleaning them and never notice that he cleared the gutters, did the taxes, mowed the lawn, patched a hole in the wall, rotated the tires, etc. When women say their man isn't helping with the chores they usually mean he isn't helping with her ch…
/r/MensRights04/06/22 01:34 AM
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I am extremely traditional. It really depends on your social circle. Some groups are full of very traditional women, some have few.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/22 08:48 PM
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Once a cheater, always a cheater. He's done it multiple times and he's not going to stop. He will continue to beytray your trust and blame you for it as long as you are with him. Leaving and starting over with someone new is scary but in the long run you will be much, much happier. The longer you stay with this man the less time you will have to find who you are really meant to be with.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/22 08:26 PM
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I always say that if you have to ask whether you should stay in a relationship or leave, you should leave. When you really love someone nothing can keep you apart.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 02:30 AM
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Humanae Vitae addressed all of this. Pope Paul VI was brushed off as a pearl clutcher when he wrote it, but all of - literally all of it - came to pass exactly as he said it would. Sometimes the seemingly small things lead to big problems. Wise people understand this.
/r/MensRights06/05/22 10:01 PM
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"As the family goes, so goes the nation and so goes the whole world in which we live." - John Paul II What happens in individual families does impact the rest of society. It will always be a topic of concern. "It doesn't affect you" could be used to say no one should care about men's rights or injustices done to others.
/r/MensRights06/05/22 09:27 PM
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I'm a married stay-at-home-mom of 5 kids, I have many years of experience with how rosy and happy this lifestyle is.
/r/MensRights06/05/22 08:56 PM
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Taking the husband's name is the cultural default, most people don't typically put too much thought into it. But yes, I tend to be very traditional when it comes to family matters. As the head of the family the husband's opinions do carry the most weight though in a healthy marriage he will always consider his wife's needs and wants in his decisions.
/r/MensRights06/05/22 08:41 PM
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The few men I've known who've done that had hardcore feminist wives who did not give them much of a choice about it. In those marriages the wife makes nearly all the decisions big and small.
/r/MensRights06/05/22 07:31 PM
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Do a google search for RCIA programs near you. It standas for Rite of Christian Initiation for Adults.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/22 10:11 AM
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I understand. The men in family are all faithful and hardworking but many of the women were cheaters and false accusers. It left me with very worried for my son's future, because it was hard to believe that he would not suffer like other men have when married to an awful woman. But it helped to think of how many good wives and mothers I knew. The type who would take a man's house and children and try to replace him with a string of new boyfriends are in the minority. Try doing the same. Think of…
/r/RedPillWives28/04/22 05:33 PM
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Honestly it sounds like you have a lot of personal issues regarding a fear of being left vulnerable, I think a therapist would be better equipped to handle this discussion than this sub. These are not fears healthy people in healthy relationships have.
/r/RedPillWives28/04/22 05:05 PM
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All of your reasons for not wanting them come down to fear. They are understandable fears, but women who have that as their only (or even just primary) reason not to have kids are nearly always happier as mothers. Taking the plunge into parenthood ends up being the right choice for them. The worst case scenarios they are anxious about don't end up materializing and they grow confident in their parenting skills over time. You are at a higher risk of regretting not having kids than a woman who is …
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/22 11:15 PM
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This has been my experience. Life is easier with 5 kids than it was with 1 or 2.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/22 07:36 PM
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I have 5 and I wouldn't have it any other way. They love and support each other so much. My mom was one of 7 and to this day they are all each others' closest friends. Nothing can replace the lifelong support and sense of belonging of a big family. I also had a doctor tell me to stop having kids after my oldest was born. She said she had 3 and having the 3rd was a mistake because it was harder to continue prioritizing her career with more than 2 kids. I do agree that working motherhood is incred…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/22 05:59 PM
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I think that'a very true. They are typically shocked and try to make excuses when I show them quotes from prominent feminists. They don't want to believe it. They want to continue believing feminism is what they want it to be rather than what it really is.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/22 12:15 AM
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I completely agree. Feminism that respects marriage, children, home, and family is not and has never been mainstream feminism. The foundational texts and thought leaders have all been in agreement on that. A woman who thinks feminism respects her choice to be a wife, mother, and homemaker is unfortunately falling for a delusion.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/22 12:05 AM
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You took this way too personally and made way too many assumptions. I did not say all female doctors are like that, just more than people tend to believe. My own mother was a surgical nurse and was not like that. And I absolutely did not say all working women. Most women do not even work in the medical field. I was sharing the personal experience I and others have had when the common advice that female doctors are kinder and more understanding did not turn out to be true.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/22 12:48 PM
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My inlaws had a locked liquor cabinet. Kids are sneakier than parents can imagine. My BIL would also leave the house for hours at a time and go find booze and drugs around the city or from friends. With his parents gone for 8+ hours a day, there was nothing they could do to stop him. Some of their neighbors lost their two latchkey kids in a house fire, and another family had a set of twins drown in a neighbor's pool when they decided to leave the house and go play in it. I could go on and on and…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/22 01:28 AM
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I don't think you should stay, for everyone's sake. He will never truly be happy in your marriage if seeing his kids grow up in daycares or with nannies is something it would hurt him to watch. And you will never be happy if your career is your priority but he can't share your joy in it or fully support it. And finally, as someone who had a mom who worked as a surgical nurse, your kids are going to miss growing up without you around much. It is unfair to them to marry this man and create them if…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/22 01:12 AM
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Being a latchkey kid was the most lonely and empty I ever felt. I'm an introvert and like some alone time, but not like that. I totally understand why so many former latchkey kids say it's something they would never, ever do to their own kids. My husband and his siblings were latchkey kids and his brother would sneak their dad's alcohol when his parents were gone all the time. It set him down a path of addiction that ultimately took his life. It really destroyed his mom. How could money ever be …
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/22 01:01 AM
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The weird thing is at this point everyone knows what it's like to be a daycare and latchkey kid. This isn't the '80s anymore when working motherhood was just starting to be common and moms didn't have any personal experience to go on when making the decision. Most of the stay-at-home moms I know, myself included, chose it because we didn't want out own kids to experience what we did. We're not doing it because we don't like our education or previous careers. I wish more working moms would respec…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/22 07:32 PM
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People pointed that out but it unfortunately didn't matter. Just be careful I guess.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/22 07:25 PM
2

There was some issues with that in previous months, mods were warning people on multiple threads not to speak negatively about non-red pill advice when it is given out. Those who called it out were asked to leave the sub. Quietly blocking is a great idea though. Some women switched to PMing privately after all that which is a good option as well.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/22 06:40 PM
11

For as much as women always say to seek out female doctors because they will be kinder and more understanding, they frequently do have a lot of contempt for stay-at-home moms. The stuff I have heard women in the medical field say about us is just awful. They are often the type A workaholics who are immensely proud of being able to handle 80 hour work weeks and look down on anyone they assume can't catch up to their level. Male doctors, on the other hand, frequently praise me and talk glowingly a…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/22 06:36 PM
1

I have been in this situation, but in reverse. I dated my college boyfriend for three years even though it was obvious a year in that he was not good husband material. Every time I would attempt to break up with him he would get so sad and give me reasons why we should stay together and get married. He had a lot of good qualities but it didn't outweigh the bad. For both of our sakes I should have ended it much sooner. The eventual break up was inevitable and we are both so much better off with o…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/22 01:13 PM
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My husband is 11 years older than me and his parents also have an 11 year gap. We had all our kids when I was in my 20s because my mom was in her 40s when I was born and I didn't want to do that to my own kids. It is hard having an older mom in ways people don't expect. I think that helped a lot because we were both still young enough to be active parents. The only time the age gap is annoying is when we can't relate to each other's childhoods. We grew up in very different eras and not being abl…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/22 02:05 AM
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That's really tough. I have met several female doctors who regretted choosing med school over marriage and kids. There may not be a lot you can do for yourself but sharing your story may prevent someone else from making the same mistake.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/22 01:23 PM
13

They will continue to shun and harrass you until a new target for their anger pops up. Could be two weeks from now, could be two years. Your options are to put up with it or get a new job. I would not trust them not to lie to HR as a form of revenge if you try to report them. I have personally seen that happen three times. If you work at a hospital, you could probably get a job at another one within days with a pay raise on top no matter your job title.
/r/MensRights01/03/22 11:05 AM
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At that stage in my relationship with my husband we started spending time cooking together. If you make a big batch of something he could eat the leftovers for two or three days. At this point introducing him to new recipes and leaving behind homecooked meals makes the most sense. If you are still dating in a few months you can consider joint grocery shopping trips to stock up his pantry.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/22 01:00 AM
2

Like others have said, a one-year-old is going to need some supervision while you work. Consider reaching out to work-from-home friends and ask if they would be interested in letting their nanny or home daycare watch the child if you pay them a few hundred dollars. Casual arrangements like that are usually the most affordable, flexible, and accesable. Daycares centers are massively booked up right now and are often so expensive they may cost more than you earn.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/22 08:01 PM
2

My husband's family lives 4 states away and his town has a huge, spectacular 4th of July festival so that's when we go. All of his old friends return to the hometown for it so it works perfectly. We went once for Thanksgiving and once for Christmas but everyone decided traveling through snow and ice was not really worth the risk. One year an unexpected ice storm delayed us for several days and it caused issues with paid time off at work. So, our decisions on holidays mostly revolve around weathe…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/22 07:54 PM
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In my personal experience, most of these types of relationships end on their own and family and friends just have to wait it out. The fact that she vents frequently means she is not entirely happy with the situation. At some point she is likely to reach the limit of what she is willing to tolerant and end it. If she gets upset when you criticize her boyfriend, only talk about him when she brings him up first. Maybe casually bring up how nice it is when a mutual friend's boyfriend does something …
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/22 06:51 PM
0

If you want specifics, the majority of complaints center around 1. pro-feminism comments and perspectives consistently getting defended even though it's against the sub rules and 2. the rule about sticking to the truth even when hearing it may hurt is often ignored. Commenters frequently say that even if something is true and helpful it should not have been said if it would potentially make the OP feel bad. There was a big DM convo about that just two nights ago.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/22 01:36 PM
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I do participate frequently and do make sure my comments are red pill. I would love to see this sub live up to its potential. But OP deserves an honest response. If she is looking for a red pill group this one, at the moment, is not going to fit her needs any better than the others that have also come here for the same reasons. That has been an issue far longer than I have been here. Don't shoot the messenger, so to speak. I am far from the only one who has said this either in the sub or breakaw…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/22 12:47 PM
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This place may not be quite what you're looking for. Look through some threads and you will find regular comments from people surpised at how blue pill it is. It's not too different from the standard women's group on reddit. It just is what it is.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/22 09:14 AM
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When it comes to passing on mental health issues, age plays a role but you still had a very high chance of doing that even if you had started in your 20s. Having a baby at 24 vs 30 would probably not have made a significant difference in the odds of having a mentally ill child. At 30 you are just over the peak of your fertility and will face higher chances of problems such as miscarriage you but still have two or three years left before it starts to get serious. I had an older mom (she was in he…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/22 11:30 AM
1

Start with books first to understand the basics. That makes it easier to evaluate what you encounter in the future. Blog posts and internet comments can contain a lot of personal opinions that are not at all red pill.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/22 11:43 PM
1

That is deeply concerning. There is so much emotional intimacy and support that my husband I get from each other but never could from friends or family. The nature of what we share is totally different - that's why people describe their spouse as their "other half" but not their siblings or highschool buddies. If sex really is the only thing that separates your relationship from a friendship that is a major red flag that your relationship may not be as deep and permanent as you believe it is.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/22 03:04 PM
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My motto has always been "don't go where you're not wanted." If he doesn't love you don't bother sticking around. Tell him to go find someone else. You deserve someone who thinks you're the best thing to happen to him.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/22 02:54 PM
1

She said in a comment below the post that sex is the foundation of her connection to this man. The post itself was heavy on sex, physical attraction, emotional feelings, and producing feel-good hormones. There is a reason so much advice to young couples says it's a bad idea to make sexual attraction and strong emotional feelings the center of a relationship. Those are the relationships that flounder and fail as soon as the feelings do. The emotions are strong today but over the course of a marri…
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/22 02:14 PM
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I don't think it's all good, no. There are multiple red flags. I'm not being a killjoy, I'm trying to gently point out that someone who has been sleeping with a man for 10 years but hasn't married him yet may not have as solid a footing to hand out relationship advice as she thinks especially when paired with some of the details she has given.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/22 01:19 PM
1

That's great, but is there a reason you have been together for 10 years and still have not been married? I've been married for 12 and as I've watched my friends go through dating the pattern is that when a relationship drags on for many years with no marriage (even in cases where they eventually call themselves fiances) the woman always thinks the relationship is much happier and healthier than the man does. Men who want a wife simply don't wait that many years.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/22 12:17 PM
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This regularly comes up in r/fatlogic. Men are very rarely talked about in the Body Positivity movement because it's dominated by morbidly obese women and their concerns. Obese men and anyone with other types of body issues (such as amputation or vitiligo) are almost entirely ignored.
/r/MensRights17/02/22 05:54 PM
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At 26 you should be completely fine. Kind, caring, helpful people with no major issues (such as drug addiction, criminal record, or kids from previous relationships) in your age group don't have trouble finding dates if they put in the effort to meet people. Don't stress about your weight - you are already at a lower BMI than many people. Lose the weight but don't let it delay your dating. The ones who have the most difficulty are the ones who waited until early middle age (above age 34) to cons…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/22 10:45 PM
2

Some don't even seem to want the man to be traditional. Lots of career women in their 30s living with boyfriends and wondering why things aren't going well for them. They haven't made the connection yet that their issues come from having a modern secular worldview and don't want to hear it.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/22 05:09 PM
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I would do all that for a husband, but never a boyfriend. That's where the line is. You shouldn't damage yourself, your life, or your future for a man who does not intend to stick around long term. Your next steps should depend on the level of commitment he has to your relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/22 11:58 PM
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I agree. I've seen some stuff that just doesn't match up.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/22 10:30 PM
1

I've encountered plenty. It's definitely common.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/22 10:10 PM
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A guy who wants to marry you will not hesitate to do it. The fact that he is stringing you along and placing lots of conditions and distant time frames on you strongly he suggests he does not want to do it. He is happier getting sex, companionship, and housekeeping work from you with no strings attached. I have seen your situation many times before and it always ends one of two ways: the man strings the woman along for many years until she finally figures out what's going on and leaves, or the m…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/22 10:04 PM
1

You're right, childcare is affordable when you don't have to pay for it! The majority of families I know with more than 2 kids utilize family members, pay someone who is ineligble for other kids of work a low wage under-the-table, pay a stay-at-home mom friend a little to watch their kids too, drop down to part time, work opposite schedules with their husband, or simply leave the kids unsupervised and hope for the best. But none can afford a standard daycare or full-time nanny for all 3 or 4. I …
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/22 11:05 AM
9

I love my husband but I do know couples who stayed together for the kids. The kids were much better off for it, and in several cases the love between the couple returned. Divorce is one of the most damaging things that can happen to a child. Even if you end up deciding to split after your children reach adulthood, the impact is much less severe than if you had broken up the family when they were still young. I highly recommend every couple read the book Primal Loss before deciding to divorce. Th…
/r/RedPillWives13/02/22 08:01 PM
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Guys who do this are typically just looking for a good time with a younger woman. If you're not able to entertain him in some way because you are sick, busy, etc. he is going to look elsewhere until you are available to him again. At least you are finding out early that's the kind of relationship he wants. If you are aiming for something more serious, he's not your best option because he is taking this down the "friends with benefits" route.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/22 06:04 PM
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I was a teacher before becoming a SAHM, but not for long as I married young. I did not want to be a working mom, and after having kids I realized I couldn't even if I had wanted to. I would have been burnt out and exhausted. Very young children need a lot of care and there is little time for anything else during those years even with a very involved husband. Staying home also eliminated the stress and cost childcare. I don't think it's possible to convey to a non-parent how quickly childcare pro…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/22 09:51 PM
4

I'm Catholic and having a prenup invalidates a marriage because it means you are not intending for the union to be permanent. It could therefore only be a civil marriage, not a sacramental one. I do think a guy requesting one is a red flag because it means he doesn't trust you. Even if he has good reasons to be fearful (at this point everyone has had to watch friends, brothers, dads, uncles, you name it get slaughtered in divorce court) you can't build a secure life with someone who already has …
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/22 02:50 PM
7

4 years and he hasn't committed? He's a stringer. It's time to move on, I'm so sorry. Better to leave now while you still have the opportunity to meet and marry someone better. He is clearly comfortable just casually floating through life and he isn't going to change.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/22 01:19 AM
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No. Women who lift weights tend to just get more definition to their arms, legs, and waist which is usually more attractive than an untoned skinny-fat look. You will not get 6-pack abs or thighs the size of tree trunks unless you spend hours at the gym every day and build your whole lifestyle around bulking. Guys who get ripped put immense effort into getting that way, and women don't have the hormones to achieve that amount of muscle even if they put in the same level of effort. So get fit and …
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/22 07:54 PM
1

Yes. I'm entering my 12th year as one. Being a working mom was not something I was personally willing to consider. My husband and I both decided that if I could not stay home with the kids we would delay or forego having them until I could.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/22 11:53 AM
3

My husband and I took the Dave Ramsey course and it was very useful for building good money habits and seeing the big picture financially speaking. His cash-only mentality is hard to pull off these days when people order everything online including groceries, but it may be helpful for a few months if you need to get spending and budgeting fully under control. Rich Dad, Poor Dad was useful for pointing out the difference between productive and unproductive assets but there's too much emphasis on …
/r/RedPillWives09/02/22 10:11 PM
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My big issue is that you don't seem to want to marry him and aren't on the same page about what you want your shared life to look like. My husband and I both had working moms so I don't blame him for not wanting his own kids to have to go through that if there's any possible way to avoid it. But if that's not something you can commit to it's best to walk away. You both deserve to be with people who share your values and goals. You also both deserve love. If you really loved this man you would no…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/22 07:09 PM
11

Once they find a girlfriend, the problem is typically resolved. The issue is whether you continuing to have contact with them is preventing them from looking for someone else. Some guys will hold out hope for years that you will eventually change your mind and enter a relationship with them, but that's not something you really have the power to change. He has to make the choice to emotionally move on himself. If you're only talking to someone a handful of times a year he has probably already mov…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/22 02:08 PM
2

That's where the "especially life insurance" part kicks in. If my husband dies I will get $400k, and when my dad dies I will get $700k.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/22 11:11 AM
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I married a man of integrity who would not abandon me. If a "relationship break up" is something you fear would leave you up a creek without a paddle, it's a sign you became too dependent on a man you were not committed to. Don't quit your job for or move in with a boyfriend and that will prevent a solid 90% of potential problems. Only do that stuff for a husband. If you take the time to get to know him and his values before marriage, it further decreases the odds of ending up with someone who w…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/22 07:58 PM
9

My local news recently did a story on college students getting married to get better financial aid and living accomodations. It's an extremely risky move. In some states your boyfriend would be entitled to half of what you own and you could end up being legally responsible for half of the debts he picks up while you're married. The divorce process takes an entire year in some places, and typically costs hundreds or even thousands of dollars of lawyer fees for the paperwork. It may also be seen a…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/21 12:44 AM
2

The fact that mothers leave their kids home alone for hours every day believing it's no big deal to have them raise themselves is exactly the problem. Kids don't want extra money (assuming there is any leftover at all after childcare costs are factored in - there often isn't) they want their mother's loving presence, attention, and guidance. It matters a lot to a kid when mom isn't there to feed, clothe, comfort, discipline, and play with them. Even a dad can't replace her role, and it's even wo…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/21 08:24 PM
23

I had a working mom and that was absolutely not something I was ever going to do to my own kids. Being gone all day until 5:30 didn't make her a better mom, it made her an absent one. To her credit, she quit when she realized how hard it was on the rest of the family for her to keep working.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/21 02:27 AM
4

Does anyone know of an anti-feminist subreddit that is not explicitly leftist for those who do want to comment opinions that are not necessarily leftist?
/r/AntiFeminists19/07/21 06:28 AM
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If it's causing stress and unhappiness in your life, it's best to avoid it. You could also just be more selective about which platforms you use. I deleted my facebook account two years ago because keeping up with friends didn't offset the negative impact it had on my life, but Reddit has been a much more positive experience. I also enjoy MeWe even though fewer people I know use it. Whatever you decide to do, make sure you have your friends' phone numbers and email addresses so you're never stuck…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 02:00 AM
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Personal stories can be effective. Share an article about the pain fathers go through when family courts don't address parental alienation and they don't see their kids for years. That's a common gateway into men's rights for people who were once skeptical of it.
/r/MensRights06/07/21 10:43 PM
6

Uh, no. Are you on the right sub? It's been awful for wives and mothers. It's been extremely positive for corporations who get cheap labor and states who can tax multiple new incomes streams.
/r/AntiFeminists05/07/21 10:07 PM
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I'm antifeminist and I really don't care who knows it. Worrying about optics isn't going to make a difference. Feminists will just find some other reason we're bad.
/r/AntiFeminists05/07/21 10:05 PM
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I'm not too familiar with that author or those books but I know a lot of women who get really angry when they see other women who want more traditional marriages with the man as the leader and the woman as his helper. It never bothered me too much because I know their marriages are unhappy. They are constantly complaining about their husbands and taking him completely for granted, while proudly and openly saying their career is more important to them than their spouse and children. Whatever they…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/21 09:27 PM
45

You're right that there are marriages where both contribute equally. But in the feminist marriages I see, the wife almost always works fewer hours and has a much safer, more comfortable job but still complains that her husband won't do her half of the household work in addition to his own share. He can work 50-60 hour weeks, take care of the kids, do all the lawn care and car maintenance, pay most (or even all) of the bills, worry about insurance and the 401k, vacuum the house, and plan outings …
/r/MensRights03/07/21 03:46 PM
43

This is sarcasm, right? It's hard to tell sometimes. I've seen feminists who actually think this way.
/r/MensRights03/07/21 02:16 PM
413

I get so upset when feminist moms complain that they have to remember to take the kids to the dentist and send Christmas cards. They never notice that their husbands spend 10 hours a day at a construction site or warehouse floor then come home to cut the grass and clean the gutters. It's clear who's doing the real hard work keeping the household going. One load of laundry and dishes a day just isn't the same thing.
/r/MensRights03/07/21 01:25 PM
8

I think there's already too much gatekeeping. I'm tired of people claiming feminists who trash talk wives, mothers, children, homemaking, and men "aren't real feminists" to deflect critcism. It's always been the norm for feminists, from the writers of its foundational texts to regular everyday nobodies. But gatekeeping who a "real feminist" is lets them pretend it isn't common. But I do think labels can be helpful. There's a difference between Marxist feminists and liberal feminists, for instanc…
/r/MensRights30/06/21 07:53 PM
73

I'm a woman and I support men's rights. I don't comment often because I don't want to intrude but I lurk all the comments and upvote a lot.
/r/MensRights17/06/21 06:26 PM
16

As far back as the '90s it was extremely common for churches to have policies like this to prevent false sexual harassment claims. The same type of women who complain loudly about every kind of unfairness are also the same type to make up accusations and start rumors of misconduct regardless of the actual truth. Some women just enjoy conflict and drama and there was more of a willingness to acnkowledge that than in the secular world. They were wise to protect themselves.
/r/MensRights11/06/21 12:50 PM
16

There's so much infighting and gatekeeping in feminism it's a total dumpster fire even before you get to how harmful their beliefs are.
/r/AntiFeminists06/06/21 03:47 PM
35

I had no idea. When pediatricians recommend giving boys the HPV vaccine, they always say it is to protect his future wife. They never say HPV could pose a threat to the boys themselves. I'm stunned.
/r/MensRights17/05/21 04:03 PM
6

Feminists fought to abolish the family wage, flooded the workforce with women to bring down wages further, then made homemaking socially unacceptable. Things like globalization and artificially low interest rates inflating housing bubbles are also to blame but feminism bears a lot of responsibility for making homemaking a very difficult vocation to achieve.
/r/MensRights24/02/21 04:32 PM
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I commented that he's NTA because he can't be held accountable for his grandfather's decision, it's common for wills to divide up assets based on who the deceased believed would need it more, and no one is entitled to another's persons financial windfall no matter how much they want that money, and they already got some of the inheritence money through their dad. I also noted the possibility that grandpa recognized that his sisters would not spend the money as wisely as OP or would not be as gra…
/r/MensRights24/02/21 02:54 PM
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Disgusting and sadistic! She has no place in a healing profession if that's what she thinks of her male patients.
/r/MensRights20/02/21 05:26 PM
2

My half-sister was that kid. She didn't see our dad from age two to age 18 because the mom ignored court ordered visitation to make her think the guy she cheated with was her new dad. Keep reaching out and be there for her when she turns 18 and her mom can no longer block her from having a relationship with you. Missing the first 18 years of her life is painful but there's 50 years that come after that. Imagine going on a vacation with her and your grandaughter someday when it feels overwhelming…
/r/MensRights19/02/21 01:05 AM
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Same thing happened to my half-sisters from my dad's prior marriages. I grew up without them because the moms would make up abuse stories or refuse to follow court-ordered visitation for so long they aged into adulthood before I could meet them in person. Evil cheating mothers who want their new boyfriends to be "daddy" can run out the clock with endless false accusations with zero consequences simply because they are women. I hate it.
/r/MensRights13/02/21 03:39 PM
3

Exactly. Every sonogram printout has the mother's full name, birthday, and age of the unborn baby at the time of the procedure. It's how the ultrasound machines are made, the tech presses a button and they spit out of a slot like at a photo booth. Don't trust any sonogram without it because it's a fake she got from a google search.
/r/MensRights12/02/21 05:23 PM
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If you slept with her on the day of your break up, she'd be at least 14 weeks and 4 days pregnant right now. Anything less than that and the kid belongs to some other man she slept with after you left (assuming she's even pregnant at all). Ask her the due date. Any date after August 8 means it can't be yours. Ask her the name of the OB, ask her whether she's drank the glucola yet, ask about nuchal scans and what point she has to go in every two weeks instead of just once a month. If she doesn't …
/r/MensRights11/02/21 11:45 PM
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This comes up in r/fatlogic sometimes. It's hard not to notice that the fat acceptance crowd is made up almost exclusively of women who want men to find them attractive despite their morbid obesity. They only want fit men to approach them, though. They don't even see the double standard of turning down obese men while accusing everyone who can't get aroused by fat women of being "fatphobic" and shallow.
/r/MensRights10/02/21 01:50 PM
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I've read about this several times before and it's widely consider to be true by people who research this sort of thing. Men in countries where feminism has a lot of social power now hesitate to help women in need. Not just because they fear backlash from touching a woman to rescue her, but also because they've been taught from birth that it's sexist for a man to assume a woman would need rescuing at all. They end up believing the "I'm a strong independent woman, not a damsel in distress" stuff …
/r/MensRights29/01/21 11:11 PM
1

This is good advice. When a group of women approach a man and ask a question like that, the itent from the start is to gang up on him. They do this when they're annoyed at something a man previously said and want to fight over it. Know when they're trying to invite you to a fight that can't be won. OP: Good, level-headed, women who are deeply grateful of the men in their lives and don't believe feminist lies do exist but you have to look for them where they tend to congregate. That can be a chal…
/r/MensRights21/12/20 03:42 PM
3

Feminism has built a society where marriage and motherhood are demonized. A few feminists pay lip service to respecting wives and mothers but most are openly hostile to them and their life choices. The powerful career woman who has no family ties (if she has a man or a child in her life at all, it's just for fun and she makes it clear she does not truly need them) is held up as the ideal. Regular women are seen as mombies who are wasting their potential, or worse - actively oppressing other wome…
/r/MensRights17/12/20 01:45 PM
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It's not just random people on the internet telling me I'm a gender traitor, wasting my life, ignorant, and personally contributing to their oppression by daring to be a married stay-at-home mom. It's coming from countless women I have personally encountered through my life, as well as the writings of recognized feminist thought leaders spanning decades. The rot starts at the top. The Gate's female education intiatives and ones like it are meant to reduce population in poor countries because the…
/r/MensRights12/12/20 11:01 PM
5

I always challenge feminists when they say my grandma was oppressed for being a homemaker instead of having a career in the early 20th century. My grandpa worked at a chemical plant in coal mining country, dangerous work that nearly killed him on at least one occasion, so all his money could go to grandma and the kids. He worked so hard all day so grandma and the kids could have a safe, warm home, enough food, and a good education. It's an insult to his sacrifices and dedication to say he was op…
/r/MensRights10/12/20 01:47 AM
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