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21

Say it with me, and remember these words. A man gives up his hapiness for his family. A woman gives up the family for her hapiness.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/25 09:31 AM
1

Fkn run dude. Marriage rewards the person who fucks up and breaks it. RUN.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/25 07:27 AM
3

My ex accused me of 'not fighting for us and abandoning us.' This is after her affair and divorce she wanted to continue her affair. I ignore her.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/25 09:33 PM
5

Zip ties on drive shaft.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/25 08:21 AM
13

I kept my 401k and gave her 40% of the house and a few years child support. I forced that deal because I knew she was desperate to be with the AP. Only after did I hear about how I took advantage of her. Nobody cares.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/25 02:27 PM
9

Not celebrating birthdays was the ex's idea so I was respectful of her wishes. After a while you won't even remember them.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/25 01:18 PM
2

Talk to me when the ex left home to meet the boyfriend while the AC is broke on the 3rd of July and it's 93 degrees in the house, there's nothing cold to drink in the fridge and 4 kids at home. That's borderline abuse. Maybe a CPS case.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/25 02:47 PM
10

It usually doesn't end well for relationships borne out of affairs and infidelity. Let them deal with the problems they created.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/25 08:45 PM
3

Someday the individual states might come to their senses and see that adultery plays a huge part in divorce and the destruction of families.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 03:18 AM
5

Bingo.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 12:46 PM
1

AG Paxton for prison.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/24 03:16 PM
2

Mine was out screwing her affair partner on the anniversary a few years ago. When confronted a month later she said she never meant to hurt me.😳
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/24 04:59 AM
5

I'm gonna say no. It's a financial agreement just like a divorce. Too many options for the spouse to cheat nowadays, let them be free to ruin someone else. Make money, have friends and hobbies, be single, be happy.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 05:59 PM
10

No communication except about the kids. No more. Be cold like a polar bear's nuts. Gain strength from this.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 09:22 AM
24

Always the eternal victim even though they are usually the one to initiate divorce. Just move on and leave them in the past.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 09:25 PM
5

Nope! Not your problem anymore. Sooner these women start figuring out what the consequences of divorce are and the marriage rate drops to nothing then men can get a fair say in family court. It's a racket.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 06:28 PM
2

Have you seen some of these people on dating apps? Good lord, if I wanted to date a WWII tank I'd just buy a panzer.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 08:45 AM
6

She's a selfish, cheating cunt. They always act like a silly teenager in the endgame. You are now free of that. Act accordingly and ignore her.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 08:06 AM
10

Mine said the same thing as yours and played the victim during and more so after I found out about her affair.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 01:27 AM
6

Distance and time. Distance and time. This will be the thing that cures you of her. Forever. Takes a bit but you'll move on and leave her in the past. Look thru the windshield never in the rear view mirror, good friend told me that, it absolutely helps.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/24 07:43 AM
6

Do nothing. That's her decision and I uphold it. No birthdays.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/24 04:05 PM
7

Turn up the grey rock even more, eventually they just give up contacting you. This is hard now but it will get easier.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 09:52 AM
1

Apart from the monetary losses you came out relatively unscathed. Lawyers can be a pox. You are on top of it, and now it's your life. You go bud.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 06:49 AM
4

No. Never do.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 01:11 PM
30

Wtf do you think she cares about her kids? She's out banging some other guy not giving a fuck and destroying her family.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 04:42 AM
5

There could be many avenues to fix this but I'll throw down this one since I have male children. Just don't. Don't get married. Don't sign that fuckin form. She wants kids? She can adopt them or find another wallet. Pump and dump.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 01:47 AM
5

Tell that bitch to shove it. Good luck to you.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 01:41 AM
2

Bingo! You win a prize.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/24 12:43 AM
6

I kept my 401k too, just child support no alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/24 04:52 AM
9

I took 60% of the marital home value and 60% of that final equity cheque too.😄 Cheating has consequences my dear. Pissed her off so bad, I'm laughing.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/24 04:51 AM
2

She got issues and I'm gonna pay.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 06:00 AM
2

What in the world happened to you?
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 06:00 AM
2

Man she got issues and I'm gonna pay?
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 05:58 AM
5

Friends of her screwing with you, ignore it.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 05:33 AM
3

Congrats! You are free of that train wreck. Just take care of your kids and ignore her.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 01:50 AM
2

What's your name and I need your bank account info while your toiling away at work dreaming of her while she is doing all kinds of nasty, dirty things with other kooks.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 06:26 AM
11

Street smart? Apparently not. Let a chick have her hoe phase but at that point I'm out. She did it once, wait till middle age kicks in, she will do it again.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 06:17 AM
10

As a few others said here, just move on. If its not validation it's the 12 other dudes she's got in her queue list, it's a common theme. Go get that boat and get you some boats and hoes!!
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 07:53 PM
2

Boy, you hit it on the head 💥. Good on you for recognizing, step 2 is washing her contaminated stank off you and setting her out by the curb where trash goes.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 06:59 AM
2

Spot on.👍
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 06:55 AM
6

Giggling and reckless behavior. Yep, they become teenagers again without any accountability.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 03:18 PM
15

I didn't have that issue. She cheated with one dude who became her unicorn. We have 4 kids, had a nice home which I maintained, she was a SAHM, no abuse, no arguments. 21 years shot. She said she resented me and didn't respect me, people will say the most fkd up things when they're bouncing onto the new love interest. I took most of the assets (uncommon) but once trust is gone it's a done deal, don't care if it's ten years later not happening.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 03:07 PM
11

Don't give that woman shit, she's not worth it. Do not communicate with her, block her. As another poster mentioned she is looking 2-4 steps ahead and merely sees you as an ATM. Live life for you and your kids, leave her on the curb where the trash belongs.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 05:02 PM
3

$5 sez it's yoga. It's a good cover. My ex would do the whole Hollywood thing for the security cams, carrying the yoga mat back and forth to the car. She forgot to take her workout uniform, it would be sitting in a bag by our bed. Didn't take Columbo to pick up on those details.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 01:49 PM
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The kids are young adults/teenagers, they are into themselves at this point in their lives. I don't tell them anything on mother's day and I certainly don't talk to the ex then either.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/24 07:00 AM
8

Always planning secretly, always scheming seems to be the M/O.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/24 07:14 PM
1

"Sorry I spoiled yer black panther party." He should have let that clown in the wermacht jacket beat her senseless. Women love these uber Chad's.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 01:29 PM
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Yep. Last words I had with her were ' You abandoned us.' No mention of her extensive infidelity, wrecking the family, having to sell the home, damage done. The make believe world that they live in is something else.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 07:11 PM
1

Sorry only saw part of your comment. This sub has been compromised.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 05:24 PM
1

Good for you bud. I found a loophole in texas law that stated. ' spouse that did more improvements to the marital residence gets 60,/40. Fuck yeah I gleaned that cheating bitch When the escrow checks came, you better believe I took 60% of that too. Affair fog only lasts for a bit. Use it to your advantage gents. Good luck and God bless to all who read this, and you may be in a state of dissaray but you will get much better with time.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 09:40 AM
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After looking at your post history, you are a teenager who has no grasp of language or punctuation. There are lots of video game sites you can act out fkn silly. Leave real life to adults.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 09:23 AM
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Shows what you know. Don't come on here giving advice about divorce with a woman. They will take you to the hilt, and beyond. Check the stats on divorce. $10 says she was a rotten choice from the beginning. Also, as good as a father and a husband I was mattered nothing to her father who was the cheater and married over 4 times in texas. I have no more contact with this carouser after 20 years being with his daughter. It's the fkn national past time in texas. DON'T GET MARRIED.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 09:16 AM
8

Did all the vehicle maintenance when I was married. Not my responsibility anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/24 11:20 PM
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Any woman that demands this( screwing other guys) grant her it and divorce her. Do not look back. Good times are in your future. Do not take them back, ever.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 09:52 AM
1

I hear you. Wife (now ex) had oldest daughter 15 on anti depression meds. Ruined her. She would wake up at noon, then eat and go back to bed. She looked like the scummy roommate no one ever wished they had. Sleep in same clothes, hair looked like a rats nest. This is behavior unbecoming of a young girl. Mother doesn't care, she has her own agenda fucking different dudes. Terrible thing to see.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 08:05 AM
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No response. As another poster said she's looking for an emotional response as a way to negate her own fault in said affairs/divorce. Drop her ass and move on. Hell, I wouldn't even hate fuck her one more time. You don't need the stink of another man on you by touching that filthy receptacle. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 03:54 PM
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I will message you. This sub reddit has a problem with people of a particular gender. I'll explain later.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 12:47 PM
0

I agree with your opinion. If I could swing it there's nothing better I'd like to do than pay her off and be done with this mess rather than dragging this out over years. I will always be in my children's lives but I see no point in knowing her anymore. She cheated in the marriage, full blown emotional/physical affair her business not mine. If I can pay her off with one cheque and a written, rock solid contract it would make my decade. Why downvotes on a guy that made sense and gave you what you…
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 09:42 AM
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Oh man, my story exactly. I didn't see it coming but a good friend told me she was going to leave me when I confided in him. I looked at him incredulously when dude said that. He was 100% correct.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 03:38 PM
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Women who have their shit together, aren't complete sociopaths, and are attractive and normal... are not on dating apps. Those are the dreggs.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/24 03:50 PM
4

Write that letter but never send it. It's called Journaling, come back to it every couple of months and add to it. After a while you'll see a change in the pattern of your words, always positive and slowly healing. You got this.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 05:54 AM
12

Good lord. I couldn't have written any better than you just did. She got a free ride thru a quarter of her life till she met the rich unicorn. Boom! Yer fucked. She knows we'll never be friends again or as she said cordial to each other. Not happening. Rich boy fucking married women in cheap cum stained motel 6's is gonna learn the hardest lesson ever dealt to him by a succubus masked as an angel. Lol.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/24 10:33 AM
2

This is exactly the right answer. Divorce is just the end business details of a deal that went south. Treat it as such and it will numb and help you eradicate any emotions otherwise.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 06:05 PM
5

Yes, they regress into teenagers without a care in the world, just let them go they aren't your problem anymore. When they do eventually crash and burn make sure you are not available to aid them, let them choke on it.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 08:52 PM
4

Toss her a big rock.😁
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 12:20 AM
1

Mods lock this thread up, it has been infiltrated with political bullshit. This sub is about MEN dealing with divorce, it is here as a forum for support, advice.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 07:47 PM
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There are other sub reddits for politics. This one is for men going or have gone thru a divorce. Please comment accordingly.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 07:39 PM
15

Best insurance against this happening is to never get married. Learned my lesson.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 06:18 PM
11

When men finally figure out that marriage and divorce are a racket and stop marrying these harpies. That's when court preceedings as you describe won't exist because all the players will be out of a job.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 07:17 AM
10

Same boat. I rarely see or talk to them. This divorce nonsense has destroyed our family bonds.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 03:28 PM
3

Pre nups mean nothing. Read up before you pull the trigger. You are the prize. 24? Good luck buddy.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 01:45 PM
3

Exs father cheated in 4 marriages , he's on his 5th. Should have read those red flags in my own situation. Everyone is different.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 01:33 PM
12

Let it go. She will screw her whole world up eventually, stay clear. The trash takes itself out.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 10:52 AM
8

Best advice ever. DON'T
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 09:55 AM
5

My ex went off the deep end about a year after the death of her mother by acting strangely and having an affair. Also you have way too much communication with your ex wife, don't put up with that shit.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 06:47 PM
1

Good God. There's a reason a decent 9mm hollowpoint bullet costs about 30 cents. DO NOT EVEN THINK ABOUT THIS. I have and and I'm still here. You will get thru this. Things will get better, when they seem they're darkest, there is always a better road just out of sight. Fix the lawyer and put yourself down that road. Time. Time, is what puts everything in the correct perspective. You will win.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/23 11:13 AM
1

Please don't tell the guy to be a truck driver, the money is terrible for that trade right now he could probably work at a fast food restaurant in CA and make comprable wages.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 05:46 PM
1

Lending her money? Wow. That's rich. Tell her to get it from the bf. Fkn laughable. Stay strong.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 11:35 AM
8

Zero contact with her works best for me, I cannot stand the sight or sound of her.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/23 05:58 PM
2

What's the difference between the Chargers and the planet Saturn? Saturn has rings.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 06:35 PM
7

Her hapiness = chasing new dick😆 Let them have it. Then they wonder why men are not 'emotionally available'? Why the hell would anyone invest their time in someone like that? Never again.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 12:55 AM
2

Kick her to the curb, be there for your kid. Here endeth the lesson.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/23 08:44 AM
-2

I'm two years out of a divorce and most definitely a man.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 06:09 PM
-4

You pointed out men in your post. Nobody else can do that? Clean up your accusations first.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 02:26 PM
7

She's his problem now if you want to put it in a realistic perspective. They are trading in the built to the hilt Toyota TRD pro truck for the used 2001 Dodge Ram with the non factory paint job, used and abused transmission and 400,000 miles on it and and no title. Food for thought.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/23 09:04 AM
7

When the focus is not on the divorce, the kids, everything you've built together for the past 20 years but you are hearing that lingo? That's limerance, thats another guy in her orbit. Trust me. DM me if you want. all the tells and truth are there but bro, she is gone. I'm 2 years out. If I can help I will. Only time and separation makes it better for you. Good luck. By the way, this is no longer your wife. This is the enemy. Do not get sucked into games she is playing. PROTECT YOURSELF. THAT BI…
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/23 08:32 AM
4

I burned mine, made sure she saw them going up in smoke 😊
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/23 12:23 AM
1

F##k em. Let her and the AP figure that shit out. Love yourself first and the kids second. I'm sure most of you gentleman's ex didn't give a shit when they were sucking the chrome off a trailer hitch in a seedy motel while you are busting your ass at work to provide for family. Consequences. Let them reap, What they sow. Stay strong boys. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 12:56 PM
4

I moved 3 states away for a better job and clean break. Only get to see my kids every few months. It sucks but better than living in a 1 bd appt going crazy.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 04:45 AM
3

At this point they've rewritten a new excusable history in that head. Everything you ever did was bad, the new guy is the knight in shining armor, eventually she gets bored and fks him over too. Rinse, Repeat. Same old story.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/23 05:48 AM
10

I tested my 6 year old with a kit because I caught the ex cheating. Our other kids I can remember exactly when they were concieved but she was our little suprise. Told the ex I was gonna do it and she gave me this dissapointed look and told me to tell her it was a covid test. No problem. She's mine 99.9996%
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/23 06:26 PM
18

Thanks wartime dad, that is the most accurate thing I've read on this site all year. 100% this.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 03:03 PM
13

THIS👆. Read it OP. This is the way it is now. Faster you get this mindset, better you will feel. Distance grown, bad memory fades, but she's never coming back buddy. If she does you get to go thru the pain again. F$$k that.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 09:51 AM
7

Don't count on it.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/23 06:43 PM
13

I said this. 2 boys, 19yrs,14yrs. Do not get married, be single, successful, childless. Ex wife gave me shit for stating this to them but it is exactly what she herself is chasing. (Dude wont marry her but she's good for a rich guys chewtoy)
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/23 07:51 AM
3

My buddy has' beer' tattooed on his lower gum. That cost him $40. His ex probably cost him $100k. Lessons.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 10:49 AM
1

Dude with the bike pulls women.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 07:00 PM
4

Great answer.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/23 05:33 PM
5

Shit. That does not sound good and all too familiar. Thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 11:59 PM
3

You need to get the fk outta there and do something, anything social.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 03:31 PM
4

Luckily no daycare. She already spends that money on herself, don't want to give her a penny more.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 06:02 AM
4

6yr old female, the rest are teenagers. About $700 a month
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 04:18 AM
17

Working, being with some friends, Drinking to excess, gotta knock that off.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 03:09 AM
21

I'm divorced, house sold, 4 kids, she has 100% custody, max child support. I moved so I wouldn't delete myself in a one bed apartment alone.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 02:27 AM
9

Good post and true to the bone. I didn't put crap on fakebook, direct emails with select family members only. Let the unfaithful spouse lie. She's only embarrassing herself.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/23 12:43 AM
5

She can get a mother's day gift from the new guy, It's not my concern anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/23 01:25 PM
7

This right here. And yes, that lingo she is using is right from the cheaters handbook.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/23 02:39 AM
10

Divorce is the death of the marriage and in some ways the family unit. Divorce is the final details of a business agreement, nothing more. Told the ex this one and she said she didn't see that way.😉
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/23 02:33 AM
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You don't. Go live your life without her, she's an ex for a reason.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 10:16 AM
6

Name's McCoy. Lol!
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 05:00 AM
7

Just don't. It's over so put her out of your head and life. I dont answer her texts or calls anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/23 07:43 AM
5

No. It will get worse from now on. File papers and start the divorce process. Having a weapon pointed at you by a spouse should be the last straw. While she is in her affair fog is the time to strike, it will be beneficial to you. As another poster said she will want this over quickly so she can bounce to her new life, it's to your advantage.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/23 07:34 PM
3

I heard that about 6 months before she cheated and we divorced. Apparently the husband's happiness doesn't mean anything.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/23 09:31 AM
3

F that. Retain the lawyer. She will have to pay her 50%, you pay yours. They are sewn into her chest not your's, the AP gets to play with them for free. Move on with your life and drop her like a bad crack habit, you will be better for it in the end. Whatever she does is beyond your control and doesn't concern you anymore. Harden your heart and good luck to you.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/22 02:41 AM
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Incoming!
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/22 01:49 PM
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Wrong sub bud. You are about to recieve an artillery barrage of downvotes like the battle of ElAlemien. Truth hurts and you better get in your foxhole. 🤫
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/22 10:13 AM
1

I'll say it again as I just told a good friend juggling a few women at the same time. SIMPLIFY. YOU ARE THE PRIZE. Y'all getting that back there in the cheap seats?
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 12:52 PM
1

You probably should have separated those joint accounts the moment divorce was imminent but do what you think is right.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/22 03:26 AM
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'Needs to take a break' and 'Loves you but not in love with you' is straight from the cheaters bible talk for an affair. See a lawyer, get dissolution paper's drawn up, serve her.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/22 03:13 AM
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$26k in cc debt but she's off partying with her gal pals? Priorities. Get rid of her.
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/22 08:51 PM
2

Perfect weekend to gather some boxes and start packing up stuff.
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/22 08:33 PM
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I've heard the same old thing. "I'm a prisoner in my own house" "You're a control freak" " I don't feel safe around you" "You're not going to murder me are you?" "You have to move out now" "I just wanna live my life without you" "I don't love you anymore" "I'm getting a restraining order" "I dont know who you are anymore "I'm in the driver's seat now" "I hate you" That last one was when i caught and confronted her while she was waiting in a motel 6 parking lot for her lover to arrive. See a patt…
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/22 11:18 AM
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Why do you think the first guy never stuck around? Now you know.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/22 12:43 AM
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This right here☝️
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/22 02:37 AM
12

Divorce is just a business agreement, the WW can argue that this is not true but once the love ,respect and emotion is out of the picture, all that remains is the money aspect. I took 60% of the house sale and it drove her crazy I'll never hear the end of it and I don't care. I loved that house and poured my talent, time and sweat into it to make it a wonderful home for our family. Get what's yours.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/22 02:36 AM
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Welcome to the club pal.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/22 12:16 PM
2

😆
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/22 04:48 PM
0

Honestly, stay single. Play the field, don't get caught up in that shit. Anyone can cheat and if the timing is right and the opportunity presents itself its a done deal. Make money, look good, fuck em all. Do not commit, do not cohabitate. Remember opportunity and timing can dash any fantasy you have of being with the right person forever.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/22 12:37 PM
6

The suicide rate is something like 10% of divorced men or 1 in 10.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/22 06:11 AM
2

My.tools/talents are not for hire at her house for any price. Let them find out the hard way and hire a contractor $$$
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/22 01:01 PM
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That's probably the best positive advice I've seen on this sub. My story is strangely familiar. Let her ride the cc. You be you, it does get better.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/22 11:25 PM
2

Yep. Bluff em. Poker face.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/22 05:22 AM
2

Well stated.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/22 11:36 PM
3

Same. I left California to move to Texas and buy a nice house for my family. I did all the improvements on it to fix it up and make it a home. She found some rich guy, cheated, divorced me, we sold the house. She now lives in the same city as the rich guy, pretty obvious what her intentions were.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/22 09:01 PM
2

Divorce was final in April. Done deal.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/22 12:29 PM
1

Thanks for your comment, but dude already retired on his exorbitant city pension when he knew that I knew who he was. City of Dallas. I was gonna run a live news crew thru his office. He would be absent from his desk, banging my wife in a motel 6. No class.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/22 04:28 AM
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18,16,13,5
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 08:19 PM
1

I took 60% of the house proceeds because I did most of the upgrades. Child support yes but no 401k payout. Texas is tough.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 06:31 PM
7

This is what I'm dealing with, ex wife has 100% custody. She cheated, she divorced me and drove my kids against me, they seldom answer the phone. She brainwashed them and they sided with mom even though she's the one that deliberately broke the family bond. I just send the cheque and stay no contact. It hurts but what can you do.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 04:46 PM
3

Crank some old Van Halen, troubles gone bro.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/22 03:15 AM
3

67 is when I make my final child support payment. I'm 54. Just bought a motorcycle and said fuck it. Loud pipes save lives.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/22 09:09 AM
1

Chuck her to the curb homey. Somedays you contemplate her bullshit, but don't. Right now, I'm sitting in a bar solo and there's these 2 chicks , drunk hashing it out about guys, some married guys according to their drunk asses. Never look back , be a fuckin mammoth. THEY ARE ALL THE SAME. A man's sanity is worth 100x than a scheming see you next tuesday. Hang tough man, you are the prize ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT. If you have kids(boys) tell them the same. You got this. CONFIDENCE, CONFIDENCE, CONFID…
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 03:06 AM
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100% true.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/22 10:36 PM
1

Just saw a 4th of july card that my ex made with our 5 year old. Little drawing of the 4 kids, the mommy and low and behold there is no daddy. She's trying to erase me ever being there, so spiteful.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/22 12:48 AM
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I'm hoping this is the scenario my ex is in when I split, lets see what Mr wonderful thinks about spending lots of time with my kids. Not happening, he's only there for the sex.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/22 06:42 AM
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Don't go to Texas, the reason she wants this is because texas is a no fault state where she will have the upper hand when she files for divorce. No alimony though but she will still have you by the balls, tread carefully and good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/22 12:27 AM
1

Too true and congrats on your first post.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 07:11 PM
5

Any date that specifically says she's looking for an alpha I'm getting up from the table and leaving. Point taken, there's your alpha. She will probably try to reconnect in a couple days.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/22 08:15 PM
2

Guy has already been thru a divorce, she can only take a quarter of what he had. Keep your head up.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/22 08:05 PM
6

Treat them like shit like the bad boy they desire and watch them bend over backwards for you. Validation only empowers them to shit on you and seek out the next guy.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/22 07:57 PM
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There's no point of getting married, if they dont cheat on you when their young they'll do it when they have the midlife crisis. Better to stay single and play the field.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/22 08:57 PM
2

Absolutely.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/22 05:02 PM
1

I just wanna bounce up and down like a kangaroo on some hot Australian Sheila's.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/22 05:00 PM
6

Denmark or Austalia sounds nice. Thought about it too.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/22 03:48 PM
9

Yep, cheating then playing the victim. Ive been dealing with that bull crap since the beginning of the year, she still says she did nothing wrong.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/22 05:45 PM
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There is no alimony in Texas but it's still a no fault divorce state, Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/22 01:50 AM
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What if she's got plans on the AP and intends to marry said rich sucker?
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 04:51 PM
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Guess we'll find out, I'm about to send off the 3rd of 156 payments. She got the boobs done just prior to cheating and the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 01:21 AM
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Smart advice. Sometimes the most amicable and civil divorce situations can turn into a screaming, bloodbath, knock down drag out shitshow like my own divorce. Smarten up, lawyer up, be prepared boy scout.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/22 02:07 PM
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Agreement in the final decree, I had done all the improvements on the house, this gives me more equity in the house, she didn't do shit except bang her AP.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/22 03:32 PM
1

She hid it well for 15 years.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/22 08:49 AM
3

It's in the nympho play book,
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/22 10:26 AM
1

Definitely hire an attorney, sound advice. My 'amicable' divorce spiraled to a total screaming shit show with all the infidelity that surfaced on her part. She was playing me for months. Done now. Arm yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/22 12:17 AM
3

Michelin 60k mile tire gets a lot, but they only cost $260 a pop.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/22 08:36 AM
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Best of luck, you're going to need it battling the most unholy of evils spawned on this planet.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 01:03 PM
2

I was thinking more like body modification surgery, botox, turkey neck, butt implants. She already got the fake boobs when she raided our joint account prior to the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/22 05:29 PM
1

Says CHILD SUPPORT PAYMENT right on the stub and accompanying reciept.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/22 03:55 PM
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About 2 weeks ago our divorce was finalized, today, mothers day the ex has to work a 'double shift'(read as go to APs house this afternoon.) Not doing a damn thing for her, no more mothers day.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/22 03:40 PM
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My attorney said I should pay her the first few payments with a paper trail, no cash! At some point they step in and garnish my wages even though I've never had a garnish order against me ever.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/22 03:15 AM
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Yeah it's tough man but youll get thru it. My ex-wife goes to the bf's every other day, she never had that sex drive with me, even when we were dating.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/22 06:31 PM
5

When I watched them both walk out of a motel 6 room.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/22 01:23 AM
1

She can get the new boyfriend to do it. As for weddings and parties and what not I don't talk to her family, it's finished, over.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/22 03:35 AM
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Exactly what I went thru, won't lift a finger to help around the house, primping herself for hours before going to see the boyfriend. Divorce her and drop her like a hot rock, let him have her. Do not take her back she'll just cheat again.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/22 02:10 PM
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If something is broken she can call someone else to repair it and pay for it too. That privilege ended with the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/22 02:44 PM
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I know who they both are, she's a 48 yr old single mother of 4 who gaslights and tries to manipulate. He's a predator who hangs out in gay bars to pluck women, playing the nice guy. She's a chew toy for this dude but they can figure that out later together. I'm Done.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/22 07:40 PM
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Texas. The adultery doesn't count for much unless it was to do with custody of the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/22 12:52 AM
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Liquidate the house but we have a 3 month lease back option, so I could stay here for free but have to cohabitate until I get my cheque. Or till I can't stand looking at her anymore, whichever comes first.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/22 10:09 PM
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Suits me fine.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/22 10:04 PM
1

Just sold my house, 60/40 just like I said.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/22 07:07 PM
2

Not too many plane tickets purchased on a waitresses salary.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/22 06:28 PM
2

No, standard custody agreement.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/22 06:22 PM
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No, she's the custodial parent. I see them whenever I want ,not so strict.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/22 04:07 PM
2

Never mess with a man's guns.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/22 04:04 PM
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Oh yes, there was no trial this was an agreed upon division of assets. I took 60% just because I can. She was fkn around and it cost her. I was gonna take 66% but I left some meat on the bone for her.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/22 03:37 PM
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I got 60% just to fuck her at her own game. Initially she was only gonna get 34%. Chalk one up for the guys. Lol.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/22 03:18 PM
1

Marriage is about love, divorce is a business contract.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/22 01:06 PM
3

My stbxw took hers off and immediately started banging some guy. I took mine off for a few days then put it back on for a day, took it off for good. It's on my keyring with other junk now.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/22 01:24 AM
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Divorce isn't final and we still live in our house with 4 kids. I got them up early to easter egg hunt in our back yard, took pictures, hugged them all told them I loved them, said goodbye to the wife. Then I drove to a buddies house out in the country for a barbeque, stayed gone all day. That was our last easter together.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/22 07:19 PM
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Bought mine (cameras) to monitor the property and our vehicles. Turned out to be the best device ever for exposing a cheating wife.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/22 12:52 PM
7

This👆. Lots of guys in this group are going through this myself included.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/22 05:35 AM
5

Women move on quicker and leave the wreckage behind, not a fkn care in the world. I know my wife is seeing this guy prior and thru our divorce, I just found her t-shirt with man stink hidden under her pillow.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/22 11:17 PM
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Wife filed January 28. Irreconcilable differences. My attorney filed march 11th. Adultery. Waiting on judgment
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/22 05:37 AM
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Absolutely true statement
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/22 04:41 PM
1

Oh thats ok. It's 60/40 split to me but thanks for showing up Perry Mason.😄
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/22 08:27 PM
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I'll do something to intervene and make sure that doesn't happen to my kids. As for her, I bet she could describe the decor in every motel 6 in the metroplex.😁
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/22 05:18 PM
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Not worth my time, they both have no morals.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/22 12:53 PM
5

Divorce decrees are signed and sent to judge, just awaiting their signature.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/22 10:52 AM
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Definitely a conflict of interest.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/22 09:50 AM
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No fkn deja vu, just a cheatin spouse and her not so bright AP.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/22 05:37 AM
1

THIS👆
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/22 01:45 AM
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Good advice. She is the primary parent. My living situation in the near future may not be ideal for me or to the children. I may have to stop all contact to get my shit squared away for 60 days or so. This will be right after the actual parting of the ways, I'll doubt she'll want to talk to me anyway and the feeling is mutual. It was an ugly divorce and we are angry at each other, she's already moved on with an AP.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/22 12:04 AM
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According to the stbxw I'm a bad dad. But I never cheated that's her dept.We're not divorced yet, tensions are high.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/22 06:34 PM
1

Everything is taken care of. No calls just the occasional text. Graduation, birthdays.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/22 03:59 PM
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Don't lament your loss, she moved on quick enough with a new guy, no respect for you. Let her go and find someone else, don't get treated like a doormat.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/22 10:52 PM
6

Join the club man, the woman you loved is no longer there, they can be nasty and spiteful when it comes to the game of divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/22 01:26 AM
1

In Texas, the judge could see that 60/40 and the child support I'll be paying and decide to change it on their own accord. Not cool. I spent $$$ and hundreds of hours improving this house bit by bit. That should be my offset $$$.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/22 08:59 AM
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That's if the judge doesn't fuck up our 60/40 agreement split on the house. Good luck bro.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/22 05:15 AM
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You can level the playing field with a female attorney, I did she's been great so far. 2 more days till D day.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/22 05:14 AM
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Hilarious! Good for you
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/22 11:11 PM
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Houston is fast becoming the 'Texastan' of the state. Lol Too many shootings and a general social breakdown of what was once a nice city. Watch yer step in that burg.😉 Dallas is better but not by much. Take care and thanks for your replies and encouragement.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/22 10:49 PM
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Bro, I'm already growing a new set of eyes in the back of my head to watch for those terrible drivers. Cheers from Texas.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/22 10:18 PM
2

Yes sir, 4 kids. She's got custody because I work early mornings but I see them on weekends. She cheated with a dude she met a month ago, she is quite taken with him. He will drop her soon enough and she will be on to the next one. Slept with this guy on our wedding anniversary but still married to me. Oh well. Vindictive.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/22 09:42 PM
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I'm buying a motorcycle soon as its done, hit the road, clear my head. She has a bf as her midlife crisis. I'm getting a Harley. Seems fair.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/22 09:34 PM
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I appreciate every last one of the guys on this forum, no matter what stage of the separation/divorce they are in. Ive got a week till final and I'm steeling myself for whats to become of the family afterwards. Chin up gents.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/22 09:29 PM
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Hiding or being secretive with the phone is usually one of the first signs.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/22 03:30 AM
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You should have seen her face when I hopped in the van instead of the other guy at the motel 6. She wore more makeup than she left the house with and was screaming and crying, that was all because I caught her. She has no regrets to what that did to our marriage or my heart.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/22 12:55 AM
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HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/22 07:51 PM
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Narcissists rarely can see the fucked up shit they've done.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/22 05:21 AM
1

Oh boy did I see that, a lot of primping in the bathroom mirror. Taking much more pride in her appearance than she did before the divorce started. Stomping round the house humming to herself. She was meeting dude 3 times a week for sex and did it on our wedding anniversary. Never seen her sex drive that high in years with me. Whack shit.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/22 09:19 AM
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Usually the ones with one photo or the age doesn't look right for the photo are bots.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/22 04:34 AM
2

Spot on. Plan B was in effect a while ago.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/22 03:47 AM
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Don't knock the motorcycle, I'm 54 and seriously considering it. Divorced at the end of this month
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/22 03:41 AM
1

Well said. I hope her new boyfriend is a mechanic, plumber,electrician, pool tech, carpenter, protector and a dozen other titles. Fat chance.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/22 03:34 AM
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