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I didn't say until married though. But most men seem to consider themselves single until they are engaged and tell the friends/family, and thus we should do the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 05:13 PM
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TBH he never put a mutual profile picture of us or ever uploaded any pictures or stories of us or even set a FB relationship with me (or at all, it stayed as "single"). This is why women need to consider themselves single until there's a ring on the finger, and the facebook etc is updated. Like you, I learned my lesson the hard way :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 01:20 AM
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Yeah, this... I personally can't really blame someone for looking for women during lockdown, as it gets lonely. But basically ghosting them during lockdown, instead of using all this free time to chat and get to know each other? Nah, sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 01:15 AM
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I wish I could upvote this a million times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 01:13 AM
27

This is why you should always consider yourself single until he makes it "facebook official"-
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 01:06 AM
2

Aww this is so wonderful :D Congratulations
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 12:57 AM
2

I usually use whores or sluts too, but Community Dick just made me LOL.... I mean, community services are usually not very valued in the first place
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 01:37 PM
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"Community dick". omg I love thst phrase :D Thanks :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 12:09 AM
8

We'll make it a party down there :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 12:24 PM
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Haha indeed oddly specific but true.... Why are so many of us attracted to guitar players? No matter how skilled their fingerwork is on that guitar, they still can't find the clitoris...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 11:32 AM
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BeSidES I wAs OveRReaCTinG BcUZ I teNd tO Do ThAt. I SweAr He ONly sPanKs ME wHen HaViNg sEx aND cAllS mE uSeLEsss wHen I cAlL hiM OuT oN iT. ​ (that's a /s in case the dumb typing wasn't obvious).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 10:43 PM
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Yes. And it also makes me feel objectified, which makes me lose any attraction that might have been there. Becuase when they say that, they are basically admitting that they're valuing my looks more than anything else. I think I would feel different if they managed to compliment somethign I actually achieved. Like my hairstyle that day or whatever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 07:53 AM
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And yet they expect us to give blowjobs while they refuse licking p%%sy *eyeroll*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 09:02 AM
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Seems like negging to me. Talk about projecting his insecurities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 08:45 AM
7

Well... Maybe we could use "something heavy to lift?".... I mean, that is the only thing they're good for?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 12:14 AM
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Well, I'm not condoning the publisher of this video, but the actual video speaks for itself. https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=2631413170246819
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 11:41 AM
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Not all that surprising, israeli men are extremely pornified. And that first message alone should have been enough to block and report, as it's negging aka emotional abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 08:17 PM
17

Yeah same...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 02:49 PM
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This is so important. I've never really spelled it out like that before, but you are spot on. If he's not the one who visits you in the hospital, he's not the one who gets the benefit of the doubt when it comes to STDs like pregnancy and other nasties.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 08:46 AM
7

Ahahahhaah...... Thanks, I needed that :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 07:25 AM
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Well that was a slap in the face...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 02:55 PM
9

Heh yeah, I understand. I'm hated by most men, as I'm very in to football and have chosen to root for my favourite players rather than the team. But have never really found a team I vibe with, because they tend to sell/buy players and coaches I like/dislike. It's hard for me to support a club who makes decisions that I'm certain will be their downfall. (And to be proven right too - \cough* ManU *cough*).*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 07:08 PM
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Well, Liverpool has done well since they got Klopp.... But yeah, this is quite profound, isn't it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 05:05 PM
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So much THIS! I've come to the point where I instantly lose attraction to a guy who compliments me now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 08:45 PM
99

This is really telling about expectations from the male vs female side of dating. They want a slave, we want a companion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 03:45 AM
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It should be 2nd child and age 35, but otherwise awesome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 10:52 AM
8

I really wish this was printed on t-shirts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 04:05 AM
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Joined :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 05:02 AM
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Yeah, it's sad. I wish all women would learn to start out with that boundary, because porn is a form of infidelity. You seem to have met a good guy there, who realised he had a problem. Unfortunately most don't, and think we're the prudes for not accepting it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 03:27 AM
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Exactly. Getting involved with porn watchers (addicts or otherwise) is basically setting yourself up to be emotionally abused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 12:43 AM
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This is why I want r/PornFreeRelationships. Anything else just bring too many problems to be worth dealing with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 10:20 PM
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Shouldn't common knowledge be "3 strikes you're out", anyway? But I guess just saying "we have problems, I need change" doesn't count as 1 for most of these issues, so they don't even recognise when it goes to two because the paperwork didn't come in. And then they're blindsided when the signature enters at 3.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:09 PM
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Oh that makes sense. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:43 PM
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Sorry, but what's the relevance there? (asking because I was raised by such parents)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:38 PM
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"My GF sHouLd pRoVIdE emOtIoNAl LaBouR bEfoRe sHe GIvEs mE a bLowJoB"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 05:08 AM
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Excellent points. Even the males I do know who have access to therapy don't use it the way they should. They basically tell the therapist what it wants to hear so that "they'll leave me alone". Because that's how you get over trauma and become a better person, right? *eyeroll*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 03:37 AM
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Ah thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 03:34 AM
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Ah thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 03:34 AM
4

Sorry.. FLS?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 01:45 AM
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Thank you SO much for these words <3 I struggle with a lot of internalised ableism, since it makes it so hard to find dates in the first place. And when I do get the dates, and they treat me like shit, like it's some kind of treat they did because I should take what I can get, I go home and question if they were right afterwards and if I should put up with it rather than stay single. And that's why I love this sub, it tells me several times a day that they were not right for treating me like tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 01:43 AM
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This is so spot on. I think I want to cry now :'(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 04:06 PM
1

Oh thanks for explaining. I wanted to check the flair options just now, and wondered why I couldn't do as before when they were all free to choose. Somehow this post never showed up in my newsfeed when you made it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 01:10 AM
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I am very happy for you. Just be careful, so he's not faking it. As the other commenters say, it sounds a bit early for a lot of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 01:02 AM
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I'm not sure this works so well in your 30's, since men suddenly get the "omg I need an incubator for my sperm ASAP"-idea in their head then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 09:18 AM
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And this is a big reason why I'm childfree. Noone has yet convinced me their genepool should continue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 12:05 AM
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Probably. But they are gonna ask, and won't believe you if you say he was Prince Charming all the way through. Notice that I didn't claim they called me fat or anything, just disliked my choice of dress.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 10:18 AM
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"I dumped them because they slipped up. Once. The bastard wondered if I was really gonna wear that dress, or if I had something more flattering. So I told him that since he just compared me to a celebrity in a magazine, I would do the sameto him; and wondered why he had gotten that beer belly lately. He got mad, so I ended things on the spot".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 09:56 AM
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Sadly, I think you're right. And that is really effing depressing :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 07:58 AM
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No, we're supposed to just be cumdumpsters with no feelings of self-worth or inherent value as human beings. We exist for male pleasure, and male pleasure only, apparently :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 03:50 PM
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Yeah, it's really depressing that there truly is no good men out there. Personally, I'm still stuck in the "getting feelings if we spend too much time together"-bucket, so I'd rather know early on and end the date right there. (If I ever get another one that is. The porn issue, along with some other things are really making it hard)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 03:48 PM
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OOh look at the downvotes. We must have a lot of pornwatching men lurking here, who don't like the idea of figuring out their little tricks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 02:50 PM
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Nah, do it on the first date. Pretend to be the cool libfem girl. "So, what kind of porn are you in to?" Their facial expression tells a lot, and if they think you're in to it, they will have no problems telling you about it. If they claim they dont watch it, ask to view their search history. However, keep in mind a little too many use the incognito option.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 11:30 AM
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Doesn't show up for me (android or pc), so maybe it's not rolled out everywhere yet?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 06:10 AM
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Me neither
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 06:09 AM
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If you change your mind about replying though: "Wish I could have said the same, but you look like a trainwreck and there is absolutely no trace left of the man I fell in love with."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 06:50 AM
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Yeah, same. My father would even point out shitty behaviour displayed by men; "See that? That's how males are, so don't ever put up with them treating you badly. Be strong, independent and don't end up like your grandmothers". Sadly, he was very blind to his own bad sides.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/19 01:48 AM
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Definately have seen this a little too many times. No wonder I'm always alone :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/19 01:07 AM
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Sure. And like I said, I hope it brings her the happiness she needs. However, life experience has showed me (and most of the other women in here) that it won't. She'll end up pretty miserable. She is of course welcome to come here and prove us all wrong 10 years in to her marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 03:24 PM
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If he's very introverted and/or depressed, it could be that he just needs to isolate himself. Talking online is less stressful than talking in person, so if you're really wanting to give him the benefit of the doubt; give him a couple of days with no talks, just texts and see if it helps. If not, then dump him before he dumps you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 03:21 PM
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Obeying someone can never create equality between them. One will always be in a subordinate role to the one they obey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 03:03 PM
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Off Topic, but I strongly feel that you need to make a dating site where that is the profile questions. Alternatively to any dating site developers who may be lurking: Hire u/theOGJammies right now! (Unless you work for Match Group, because they ban people for stating things like this)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 02:36 PM
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aNd I wAs prOBablY oVerReACtiNG AnYWay BcUz I TeND to Do ThAT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 01:50 PM
153

Oh dear lord. I hope that unequal marriage will bring you all the happiness you currently seem to lack, darling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 01:31 PM
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I've been wondering that too. This doesn't seem like the right sub for women who like to be objectified.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/19 06:21 PM
2

I agree that he doesn't deserve them. I just understand that she is socialised to feel weird if not giving any explanations, and thus making up an explanation will feel easier. At least until she's comfortable with just giving him the middle finger and nothing more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/19 12:40 PM
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I agree with u/TheOGJammies about him being a total a**, and that you could totally give him a piece of our mind, but I understand you will feel weird about it if you meet him later. Just go for option b, and if he ever asks about your sex life again, then say you solved your "virginity problem" with someone else. You don't owe him any details, but I know it can be hard to tell someone to STFU, so then just go like "was a guy from school, all went fine, no big deal".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/19 04:56 AM
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I kind of doubt it. Unless it's a Dr Phil thing, in which the sons get promised help of some form other than having their d**ks cut off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 06:44 PM
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Not to forget: If they truly believe they are feminists, they are usually "the fun kind" who praises promiscous sex, porn and prostitution as empowering etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 05:17 PM
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Haha oh dear... I'd totally watch, but I sincerely doubt anyone would enter such a show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 04:34 PM
2

Yeah, I know. It's definately a struggle. *sigh*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/19 05:19 AM
6

Ok, I need to tattoo this on my hand or something, where it's easily within eyesight at all times. Body: Override oxytocin Might be easier if you have a more steady way to get oxytocin, perhaps? Like, someone you know will never be more than a fwb from your perspective?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/19 01:56 AM
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Good for you. Now you can go out on the town looking smashing and admire all the looks, even get laid if you want to, whereas he can sit home alone and wank off to girls way out of his league. Alternatively, deal with his wife and kids, since getting home is clearly so exhausting, which is yet another codeword for "can't tell my wife I have to go out again, it's much easier to tell her I was working overtime".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/19 08:45 PM
2

Well, account history might be useful but that will rule out new users or long time lurkers? Besides, pictures can be taken from any random place and claimed it's me as long as it's a nobody who won't show up in image search, so it's not really all that useful as a boundary. Video chat might work, but even that has issues, like the mods time to schedule such a thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/19 09:17 PM
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I don't have strong opinions either way, but I'm wondering how it would be checked? I mean, this is reddit. Anyone can make an account here and claim anything?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/19 01:37 AM
2

Good question. At this point I don't even know any more. Maybe because I can't get the emotional fulfillment I need from a male prostitute, and I can't get the sexual fulfillment I need from a female best friend? And although I might just date women instead, I am still attracted to some men (damn you, biology), and have been sold this fantasy of getting the sexual and emotional needs fulfilled in one and the same person. So even though I know on a logical level it's just a fantasy, on an emotion…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/19 07:54 AM
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I have to say I agree with your experiences. When you show interest in men, they lose interest in you. When you're not all that interested, because of whatever reason, they show a lot of interest in you. (At least until a certain point, as I guess they also read /r/relationship_advice/ and are told to "dump them" if there's anything that doesn't resemble complete and total submission.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/19 10:59 PM
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I'm not a mod, and pretty new on reddit overall (although been lurking for quite some time before getting an account), and I think it definately should be a space for lesbians as well. There are many similar issues with dating lesbians, especially certain butch lebsians who might be on the verge on declaring themselves trans, as they have internalised a lot of misogyny, and show many similar traits to those of men. But perhaps a particular subreddit dedicated to the more unique challenges will b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/19 08:07 AM
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