Hey FDS! First time post here. So my boyfriend and I (23F and 37M) have been together for almost 5 months and I was very gung-ho on him being a HVM until I really started reading in depth in this sub and now I’m not so sure, even though he does have some good HV traits such as:

Has a respectable job and makes ~$90K/yr

Is respectful to ALL women.

Wants to wait until marriage to have sex (even though we have slipped up before in the beginning) (we are both Christians)

Is a little overweight, but very clean and always neatly groomed.

Is a fully functioning adult and does not expect me to mommy him.

Doesn’t expect or ask me to pay for anything, ever.

Is very respected in our church and will give anyone the shirt off his back.

Consistently finding ways to better himself.

Is very affectionate (respectfully)

Doesn’t watch porn, onlyfans, look at other women, etc.

On the other end of this, here are his LV traits:

Has a 12 yr old son that he has full custody of, but has no bond with him and doesn’t really try to form one.

Constantly yells at son.

Has been divorced twice and says that both wives were “mentally unstable”.

Won’t say “I love you” back, but just “love you”

Doesn’t compliment my appearance anymore.

Doesn’t really initiate contact during the week. I hear from him daily, but 2/7 days it’s just a “I hope you’ve had a good day love”. I refuse to initiate contact unless it’s an emergency.

Doesn’t ask to see me when he has free time most of the work week.

Has disrupted our plans to go help someone at the church time and time again.

Doesn’t take me out on one-on-one dates often, but loves to be around me when we’re with our friends.

I know no one is perfect 100% of the time, but I’d really like some insight here on what to think and if I should reconsider the relationship and dump him or keep at it. Can HV traits outweigh LV traits?