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LESSON LEARNEDcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:37 PM
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MINDSET SHIFTcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 05:46 PM
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DISCUSSIONcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 10:23 PM
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RANTcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 12:21 AM
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FDS SUCCESS!comet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:59 PM
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RANTcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 09:58 PM
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DISCUSSIONcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 06:25 PM
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FDS SUCCESS!comet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 03:10 AM
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DISCUSSIONcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 06:33 AM
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RANTcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 11:58 PM
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DISCUSSIONcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 02:38 AM
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FDS SUCCESS!comet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 12:00 PM
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DISCUSSIONcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 08:05 AM
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DISCUSSIONcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 06:59 AM
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RANTcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 08:27 PM
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RANTcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 12:02 AM
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RANTcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 12:43 PM
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DISCUSSIONcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 01:59 AM
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DISCUSSIONcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 04:15 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 01:44 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 02:36 AM
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THE AUDACITY OF SCROTEScomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 04:52 AM
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RANTcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 07:06 AM
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#KickHimOut2020comet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 05:38 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 08:16 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 10:06 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 09:39 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 07:03 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 07:18 AM
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ROAST-A-SCROTEcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:57 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 03:20 AM
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DISCUSSIONcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 12:30 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 05:26 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 09:00 AM
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NICE FOR WHAT?comet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 03:43 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 09:17 AM
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DISCUSSIONcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 03:10 PM
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DISCUSSIONcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 03:05 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 09:55 PM
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DISCUSSIONcomet2004/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 11:45 PM
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That’s fine lol. My mom never really cooked either but she was a software engineer who was boss when it came to investing money and running a household financially. As I said I think these things are very nuanced and only a lvm would see it as black and white as cooking = good wife not cooking = bad wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 05:47 PM
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I do this inadvertently. Just have a crazy work schedule (residency, 80 hour work weeks) and I don’t have time to prioritize cooking or cleaning. I’ve had guys lose interest in me when I mention I don’t cook (which is more due to my work schedule than not actually being able to cook), and I’ve had guys see how busy I am and actually step up to the plate and bring me food and offer to help. Lvm have no sense of nuance or empathy lol like having your life together is not ONLY about domestic skills…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 05:25 PM
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I’ve had guys flip me over from category 2 to category 1 a few times. So frustrating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 04:01 AM
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3 is one I am so mad I ignored with the last guy. I really liked him, seemed sweet, then he after date 3 he invited me to Netflix the 1st time I ever initiated contact. I said no and almost dumped him over it but he backed off so we kept talking. after a few more dates he asked again for me to go to his place and against my better judgement I got talked into it by a friend. we didn't have sex but it was so weird because I was still not comfortable with him fully and I could tell he was frustrate…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 01:24 AM
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my mom married a doctor. she constantly tells me she would rather be married to a plumber who is nice than him. he's a huge scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 03:00 PM
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yup. emotion is dangerous, liking someone is dangerous. Boundaries and standards are not dangerous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 02:38 PM
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lol he doesn't care he just wants sex. I think what really scares them off is if you on the 1st date ask them for marriage 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 03:41 AM
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i don't use any other sub haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 03:11 AM
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i followed the advice to invite a guy over after 6 dates and literally had a relationship ship ruined over it. we didn't even have sex, just made out. and immediately after he changed and labeled me as a girl who is not relationship material. misogyny absolutely does exist. never following that advice ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 12:56 AM
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yup so far last Thursday is when I heard from him, it was after I declined his date offer from the day before for wine and cheese at his place (what am I a mouse lmao) for that day 🚩. we have been seeing each other for about 3 months now. a couple weeks ago is when it really started going downhill but now that I think about it even from the 3rd date there were clear signs i should have ended it. he invited me out to dinner back then during the week (which bothers me because what happened to the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 06:12 PM
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wow this is exactly what I'm going through. except the guy is currently trying to string me along (takes a day to respond, shorter texts) since our last date, I can just feel it, and I'm just waiting for his next text so I can tell him this is going no where and just end it myself before he does LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 05:40 PM
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wow. she's literally stunning. could get any guy she wanted. and this is how he treats her. girl, run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 09:21 PM
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that was honestly initially my thought as well (I didn't even realize i cpuld have emasculated him) but he also barely tried to kiss me once after three dates so he didn't seem super sexually aggressive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 11:08 PM
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I mean, that would explain it lol. whoops 😅 I definetly didn't mean it that way my uncle who is very masculine literally got shot in that area.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 10:21 PM
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haha no way, i messed up but not THAT bad 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 10:08 PM
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its so cuteeee I can't deal with this hahha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 10:35 PM
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yeah ok maybe I can mention it in passing. like hey I know your husband he invited me to coffee!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 02:02 AM
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I would but the thing is this guy is so slick he leaves just enough doubt he's just being friendly to make it so even if I sent his wife screenehots she would not believe me. like "oh let's get coffee together as colleagues" for no reason
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 12:10 AM
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true because if he were actually high value, knowing I literally straight up told him I am dating for a serious relationship, he would just let me go if he decided he wasn't interested. I just let a guy go recently I lost interest who I also could have strung along for free dates but I didn't because that's the right thing to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 08:59 PM
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there's a another guy I literally have mutual friends with who I know is married (he doesn't know we have mutual friends). yet he keeps asking me out for coffee and messaging me constantly. he even added me on social media and there is no trace of his wife. I would have never thought a guy in my own community that would pull this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 08:57 PM
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I vetted his social media before meeting up with him and it didn't seem like it, but who knows with these dumbass shady guys they are getting sneaker by the minute
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 06:08 PM
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reminds me of the dude who tried to mansplaon medication to me. im a pharmacist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 09:45 PM
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Oh yeah. Those two scrotes. They make plenty of videos bashing women. I was actually thinking of posting them here just to get a response. One of them literally admitted to being a cheater and still has the audacity to constantly tell women to settle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:08 AM
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I was so disappointed when she first got with him. she is way too talented to be this outwardly sexist scrotes trophy wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 03:47 AM
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Separate account. Messages off. For this exact reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 02:57 AM
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I'm someone who prefers to call instead of text. That being said first of all i'd ask to call way more politely than the way he was doing it. He basically demanded it. Second of all, if someone told me they would rather text longer, I'd absolutely respect their boundaries and just continue talking until they are talk. Either that or if I lost interest i'd just stop responding. Bullet dodged, he is entitled and rude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:49 AM
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Hah. I learned this lesson in college. I used to be very friendly towards everyone, and there were a few guys in my classes who I had ZERO interest in. When I was friendly to a girl we just became friends, when I was friendly to a guy they ALWAYS ended up thinking I liked them even through I didn't. I had so many guy friends tell me they had a girlfriend and just liked me as friends and I was like dude WTF I didn't ask you out nor do I have any interest in you so why are you telling me this. I d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 04:19 PM
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I just watched shallon's video on this and was surprised at how FDS her stance was. For anyone who doesn't know John was in rehab and broke up with his wife right after he got clean. Likely his wife probably sacrificed everything helped him get sober, helped him go to rehab, and then once he got out of hit he ditched her because like most men he doesn't want to remember how she helped him because then he will feel like he "owes her" and a bad guy so he looked for someone shiny and new. Or as sha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 01:06 AM
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yall mods here work hard as hell. Can't even imagine what kind of stuff you have to clean up. Thanks for everything <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 08:52 PM
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Also how abusive to try and tear her down and judgmental is that. How dare he say no one can trust her when he doesn't even know her. There are men out there who straight up commit crimes and people still don't dare say that no one can ever trust them to their face but that's ok to say to women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 09:55 PM
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he also was aggressive and honestly, she seemed legit scared.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 09:50 PM
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Just want to shout out to this girl for handling this with grace and class while still standing her ground and proving her point. The look on her face says it all though. I have been on dates like these before and I just shut down and start smiling and pretending to agree until I can gtfo. He wants to give his stupid ass opinion and clearly demonstrated he doesn't care nor have empathy for anyone else's point of view. Typical entitled manbaby behavior. Notice how when she disagrees she does it w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 09:40 PM
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This reminds me of the last guy I went on a date with. He was more subtle than this, but jeeez everything I said got twisted and I felt interrogated and defensive. And I mean, I also don't get it. I was just irritated by him and blocked and deleted him as soon as I got home. He probably was hoping i'd be dying to prove myself to him LOL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 09:36 PM
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Also someone with a doctorate, and I agree. I think in the early stages i'd be annoyed if I saw them more than once per week. But before i'd ever consider being intimate i'd better be seeing them more often than that. I mean if I wasn't then chances are I probably don't even like him that much anyways (or vice versa) and probably shouldn't be seeing him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 09:31 PM
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i agree but she should at least prove he's cheating then leave to get more money from the divorce
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 06:13 PM
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I loved how this movie literally portrays just how disgusting taking a drunk girl home is. Like everyone in our society acts as if its ok, as if its the women's fault, and then you see it happen in this movie and you feel disgusted because you really see how manipulative and predatory it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 11:31 PM
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when my negative value dad pursued my mom he exactly acted like this despite her saying no. guys who can't take no for an answer have serious empathy issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 09:11 PM
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also herpes 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 09:09 PM
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yeah to the point where im looking for a guy similar to me lol. i love how genuine but blunt I am and what a good friend i am and how my priorities are always on point. I could go on and on 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 09:06 PM
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good! I need to learn from you. FDS has really helped me when it comes to boundaries and demanding respect but the one thing I still struggle with is identifying red flags. That IS a huge red flag, because holy shit you are right he is basically saying he's comparing you to his ex he isn't over. and to be honest I'm not sure if I would have noticed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 09:00 PM
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I've literally never had a crush my entire life. Don't get it. To be the act of asking a girl out properly is what makes a guy attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 04:09 PM
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you know your society treats women badly when an octopus is goals 🐙
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 03:37 PM
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She could do that, but honestly, I am the ice queen and it STILL doesn't work. And if you get straight-up angry they become violent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 02:43 AM
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I never went on dates during grad school. I had no time. I was too busy studying my ass off and working full time to pay my tuition. Also I even said in my post it was NOT easier because the guys who did approach me were sleazy who DID look at me as lesser than for being broke. Now they are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 11:39 PM
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The society you are describing does exist. It's called Saudi Arabia. If it were so great women would be flocking there in droves.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 10:55 PM
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Anecdotal but for me it has. When I was younger, thinner and broke and in college more sleazy guys would approach me. The minute I finished grad school and started making mid six figures, I have not had a single guy approach me with that kind of energy. Just as many approach, but now its mostly people who ask me out properly and are seriously trying to date. Guys really do take you more seriously when you are accomplished. Edit: also how are women working less to achieve the same? To do what I d…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 10:24 PM
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Just in general when a guy switches up like that SO early on I think its a red flag. Some people like texting once daily, I know I do. But when a guy goes from constantly communicating to more infrequent once he thinks you like him or vice versa that just shows he wasn't even being authentic with you in the 1st place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 09:37 PM
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I mean not to that extent but I had pickme friends just throwing these trash guys at me and trying to gaslight me into dating them. I threw the whole friend group in the trash instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:48 PM
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I honestly feel like if I even have to set boundaries in the beginning then he can fuck off. I shouldn't have to turn down an offer to go to someone's place because he's too dense to understand what women go through. I shouldn't have to tell a guy it's rude to ask a women to drive to your part of town for a date. he should know better and if he doesn't then the entire relationship im just going to be dealing with him testing my boundaries. nah, I want a guy who was raised right and doesn't test …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:24 PM
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I think I know what you mean by the weird hookup category thing too. I used to also get frustrated because despite being rather conservative actually, guys would also try to dehumanize me and put me in that category despite doing NOTHING to indicate I would be ok with that. I think for me it was because I had low self-esteem due to also having a LVM father, and then also being vulnerable due to still being in school and young. These guys can sense vulnerability like sharks and try and manipulate…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 05:28 AM
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I mean it depends on how he is hooking up. Is he hooking up because hes attractive, charismatic, respectful, and therefore girls enthusiastically want to hook up with him? Or is he manipulating girls into sex. Because the difference is someone manipulative who sees women as objects will never stop being manipulative even after they settle down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:17 AM
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Well...its better than a coffee date. But in all seriousness I love mini golf lol but it has to be paired with dinner or something else. One of those things thats great for third dates I feel like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:44 AM
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You know who else thought they were the joker? The creep who shot up a movie theater. Don't even care to look up his name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:27 AM
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Is it bad I would have deleted it lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 03:59 PM
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Is there any chance this is dry British humor? Because if not this is just sad....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 08:23 AM
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I legit just ordered that off amazon based off your suggestion. Read the description of the book and could not relate more. Hopefully, this will help me articulate what it means to be a diaspora American Armenian a little better. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 11:35 PM
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Good for you. I have a similar dad, and i've done the same. You won't regret it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 09:11 PM
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didn't Cuomo straight up admit that? I swear I read or saw him say something along the lines of "whoopsie doopsie I guess sexually harassing women isn't ok anymore! My bad!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 08:07 PM
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Thank you. I have a lot of Turkish friends, and I agree this could happen anywhere men get too much power. As it has in Afghanistan, and hell I even think handmaid's tale is more realistic than people think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 05:45 PM
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the ending is even more badass. once she got to Iraq she decided she wanted to become a doctor and then dedicated the rest of her life going to poor villages and providing free medical care. Never took a penny from anyone unless it was to fund free medical care for the poor. To this day people tell me stories of the lives she saved. If she hadn't escaped she would have spent her life being a sex slave, instead, she became a doctor. imagine that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 05:38 PM
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don't believe the "women just day they don't want a ons but they do" mental gymnastics bs men like to pull. literally just trying to justify the audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 02:31 PM
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this is so fucked up. during the armenian genocide, my great grandmother's entire family was killed and her along with all the other young girls were forced to convert and taken as a young teenager to be a bride to some old ass army general as a reward. either do that or be raped and killed. she ran away in the middle of the night. waded in a river for hundreds of miles to avoid being sniffed out by dogs. these young girls walked all the way from turkey to Iraq in a desert because they would rat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 01:50 PM
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ugh yea! or when they ask me what the last book I read was. probablt have the time to read a book every few months. if it was a good book ill remember, but if it was a bad book ill probably struggle to remember it even if it was a couple of months ago. a better question would be what kind of books do you like. that right away I could answer since it's not super specific
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 01:32 PM
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it always makes me regret mentioning reading. like damn ok I read a book every few months when I have time. probably don't remember the details. but these guys make it seem like how dare I claim it as a hobby unless I read every day and take deep notes and analyze the plot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 01:26 PM
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there's this one story I remember reading about of a rapper who did that same thing to random girls he didn't know. one day a girl did go to his room but not without stealing 100k worth of jewelry before she left
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 02:24 AM
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his girlfriend is stunning too. and I've seen her interview and she has such awesome vibes and confidence. why wouldn't Keanu date her over some 18 year old he has nothing in common with. these double standards are insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 02:19 AM
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I am attracted to Jack the fictional character. I am repulsed by Leo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 02:16 AM
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I met one. unfortunately, I was not attracted to him and also I think at the time i was just too stressed out to date. and guess how he treated me? dinner for first date, consistent but not overbearing communication, cared about my preferences, no drink dates, no weird sexual talk, clearly expressed liking me, hyped me up even though his career was far more prestigious. he did this all without being a pushover too. I compare every single date to this one guy. honestly don't even waste my time un…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 02:08 AM
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second if he wanted to he would! saved me so much grief. I feel like despite agreeing with everything on fds its still so hard to overcome society's conditioning. but the one thing that I completely changed is worrying about a guy not doing something and trying to interpret what they do. because if he wanted to date me he would!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 02:02 AM
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omg and then they always say women have mismatched expectations on reddit. I remember this rhetoric was way worse before fds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 01:55 AM
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why is it sooooo hard for them to empathize with us. funny story but I had a ex guy friend who would constantly spew this bs about how lucky girls are for attention and how easy girls have it. one day we were out and he got hit on/propositioned by a old ugly ass dude. he sure as hell did not like it when it happened to him! I should have been like "oh man you are so lucky to be able to get easy sex like that!" but I was way too nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 01:51 AM
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like why do they even bother dating 🤣 they are so paranoid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 01:42 AM
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what's worse is it was the ONE topic I specifically told him I always struggled with in school. like almost like he was trying to assess my knowledge base. literally like a school exam 🤣 ofc doesn't ask me the drugs I told him i was great at
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 01:37 AM
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that also goes to show the ego they have. like why would anyone lie about liking comics. if someone even mentioned to me no questions asked id just assume its because they like it to some extent and would try to find common ground. doesn't matter whether they like it casually or are super into it. but guys they are so self centered they think every girls hobbies revolves around impressing them and hence the grilling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 01:34 AM
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ugh yes!! like hobbies are great sure, but you would think they would be more interested in questions regarding basic compatibility. but nope all they ask is about hobbies hobbies hobbies. like yes, there's things i like to do when I have the money and time and I can probably talk about it to an extent, but not everyone always has that all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 10:57 PM
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low self esteem. also dangerous mindset to have because people are not reliable. you have to love yourself. what if one day her husband decides to get up and leave for no reason? she gonna collapse? nah sis you gotta love yourself and respect yourself. even the most traditional people I know who prefer men to be providers love themselves enough to always have independence and a plan B
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 10:46 PM
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yup its always the same faux intellectual types too that do that. like ok Steve you got me you can name a book and i can't. you proved you are smarter than me. congratulations 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 10:36 PM
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I do but this still happens to me 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 10:33 PM
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I legit had the last guy start grilling me on antibiotic drug pharmacology when I told him my job lmao. like what. im on a date can you NOT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 10:32 PM
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ngl i listen to hip hop and guys do judge me for it so why shouldn't we. I mean in my case it really doesn't mean anything but the fact they judge us for everything anyways so yeah we SHOULD have that attitude too until they prove otherwise just like they do to us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 09:49 PM
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yup posted on there for advice before fds and instead of getting it ny inbox was flooded with guys hitting on me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 09:46 PM
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oh trust me i won't go lol thats a whole different rant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 01:04 PM
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exactly. like I like my coffee plain but if someone is paying four to five bucks for a damn coffee then they have every right to make it as complicated as they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 05:31 PM
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even bad dates from lvm have walked me to my car. the worst date I have ever had in my entire life the guy literally abandoned me on the curb after I refused his offer for sex as I was waiting for my uber lmao. this is not even lvm shit this is a no value male type shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 12:39 PM
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who calls their daughter attractive? the fuck. my dad will call be pretty because pretty is what you call a flower. but never in a million years attractive. a word that literally means attracting the opposite sex. ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 06:21 PM
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yeah I was wondering why even if I agree pornsickness is bad the question weirded me out and I guess that's why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 04:38 PM
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yup like I love how if im not into a guy i politely end it and even offer to pay my half but if they are not into me they try this 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 10:16 PM
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yup I gave him a chance by finishing the entire date and being polite and this is what I get
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 10:14 PM
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its just so messed up. like I would never think of using a guy for dinner if I didn't like him yet they think nothing of attempting to use girls
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 10:14 PM
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I am short so I prefer men on the shorter side. like there's plenty of women who do. so why pressure someone who doesn't to be with someone they aren't attracted to. just doesn't make any sense. also as short as I am, I still prefer someone taller than me (which isn't asking for much) but on the flip side a couple of times I've met short guys who have such presence i found myself not even noticing how short they are. so literally there's zero excuse like no girls do not need to give you a chance…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 04:49 AM
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hahhahahaha. literally you could say "im giving you a million dollars ;)" and that wink would still weird me out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 03:08 AM
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lmao my grandma loves this Turkish soap oprah shit ahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 12:12 AM
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wow sounds like my dad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 11:02 PM
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thanks for saving us ladies from him. ugh so gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 11:00 PM
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as a pharmacist let me tell u the reason why. drug companies actually did develop a male birth control injection which was 96% effective and had half the side effects of female birth control. the reason it didn't go to market was because during market testing they found out men could not handle the side effects (mood iness, acne)...which again mind you was not nearly as bad as female birth control side effects (blood clotting for example is a big concern with estrogen in addition to the aforemen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:14 PM
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nursing home time lol they don't want kids until oh shit they realize they need one. same goes for all the deadbeat dads like no bye u lost ur oppertunity should have invested in that child earlier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:10 PM
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yeah mental illness is abundant in the USA epidemiologicaly, theres a reason for it especially in achievement centric societies like the USA. how does that surprise him lmao its basic sociology. also does he not understand the difference between a minor mental illness and a full blown psychiatric disorder requiring institutionalization. wow hes so dumb. even worse than my dad who is a sociopath psychiatrist....even he at least believes in mental illness because he isn't stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:02 PM
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what's there to remember there's a million lazy ass dudes just like him if I wanted that 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 08:56 PM
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so many guys on reddit complain about us not wanting coffee dates as "what do u expect gotta see if she's worth the effort 1st blah blah blah screening blah blah blah how can I afford to date otherwise". its like bro if you feel the need to screen then you are asking out way to many girls you aren't genuinely interested in. slow down, only ask out girls you actually want to date, and you will save so much more money that way. if if what they just is free sex from as many girls as possible good l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 08:53 PM
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honestly even when I do that and even if they do plan properly after a nudge like that they still end up dissaponging eventually. their natural inclination should be to plan a date we shouldn't have to tell them. some guys really do respect women and the thought of not planning a proper date wouldn't even cross their mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:36 PM
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haha yeah I did :) and I went in the morning 🌄 you know....when people actually enjoy coffee 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:33 PM
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oh yeah the second time he texted the day of yeah i wasn't but the few days before when he asked me to plan is when i left his ass on read hahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:31 PM
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lol people say that to me too or act as if there must be something wrong. like im gorgeous, educated, and still in my 20s. yall seriously think guys aren't constantly asking me out? yeah, they are, but I only date to marry and if its painfully obvious someone isn't compatible I won't waste my time. sorry not sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:03 PM
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how the fuck does a psychiatrist not think mental illness is real. you have to be a special level of stupid to believe that. I did one rotation with psych patients in school and it was so painfully obvious it was real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:40 PM
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its literally not even hard to text a girl in an interesting way no matter how busy you are. I had one surgeon who kept trying to pursue me (unfortunately I just wasn't attracted to him and tried to genuinely give him a chance) and despite how busy he was, he would listen to thinks i liked and send me pictures of things that reminded him of me consistently until I made it clear I just wanted to be friends then he respected that. it was sweet. it was short. it didn't require tons of time but was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:14 PM
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this is exactly why I refuse to date anyone who makes significantly less than me and it pisses me off when people suggest it. id rather be single forever because unlike men who need a women to fulfill their needs women don't need a man. like it's not about money or being shallow lol but the reason I worked so hard to earn six figures ans went to grad school is to maintain a lifestyle. a guy doesn't have to make more than me, can even make slightly less, but he should at least very able to keep u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:33 PM
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yup my reaction is always this 😬 I mean I'm in my late 20s. the thought of being with a man in his early 20s makes me cringe. has anyone heard college students talk? holy shit it's annoying hahhaa. when I was that age im sure I was annoying to everyone not also my age. also at that age it worked the other way around and I also found old people annoying. I would have never dated anyone and still would never dare anyone more than 5 years older than me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:24 PM
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omg yes this makes me so happy. im so glad you believed in yourself and went for it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:20 PM
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I learned quick never to add a guy on any sort of social media. theres nothing worse than some scrote you went on one date with orbiting you 🙄.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 09:22 PM
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lol he's in for a rude awakening. hot charismatic girls can easily get hot charismatic guys and most hot charismatic guys are able to make good money anyways so why would they settle for a dweeb just because of his job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 10:48 AM
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I'll also add I dated a gi and let's just say he fits right in with the assholes he examines all day. he would literally treat everyone like an idiot and was super judgemental. anstesiologists are my favorite. they always joke that the curtain in the OR is to protect him from the ego of the surgeons hahaha. psychiatrists I've met are either super nice or have some sort of personality disorder themselves I think you are so spot on with ortho and plastic surgeon. dermatologists are condescending a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 10:17 AM
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haha I weirdly have had great experiences dating lawyers. last one I dated went to an insanely competitive school and worked I corporate law yet was the biggest weed peace and love type hippie I have ever met in my life. like his personality didn't match his job at all. I seriously could not imagine him being cutthroat 🤣 maybe he is like dr jekyll and Mr hyde at work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 09:51 AM
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I recently had a gross experience being hit on by a 55 year old surgeon who was married. like the dude kept trying to "tease" me in that weird neg flirt way i haven't seen since high school instead of examining me even though I was barely responding. finally snapped and told him to either give me medical advice or shut the hell up and then he tried to insult me for just being a lowly pharmacist and huffed and puffed out of the room lol. also had a weird experience with another surgeon when I was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 09:44 AM
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when I was in pharmacy school I remember one time where over the intercom they announced a Mercedes that needed to move their car, and all of the residents in the room started laughing for no reason at nursing because "nurses can't afford Mercedes". literally made my blood boil. plus why the hell wouldn't a nurse afford a Mercedes they make 70k plus a year with virtually no loans and can easily hit six figures. i know plenty of engineers who make that much and drive Mercedes. they think the worl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 09:30 AM
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she should be going to the highest rank law school she got in not via location. for them rank really affects your career.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 01:11 PM
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wow im so sorry. thank God he got caught and arrested and all of that confiscated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 08:55 PM
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yikes I feel sorry for the next woman he dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 06:20 PM
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thank you I needed this. I was so guilty of this tbh and its stressful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 06:14 PM
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I just fell into this rabbit hole of reading his old posts and just LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 10:19 AM
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reminds me of when I used to ask the dating reddit for advice and it was always "LoWeR yOuR sTaNdArDZzzz". for what lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 10:15 AM
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as someone in healthcare, the majority of single male doctors are either 1) socially awkward meganerds or 2) fratty douchebags. anything in between is a unicorn who already probably got snatched up in college lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 06:12 AM
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for me almost half the guys I've dated off these sites seemed like decent dudes with the only fault being incompatibility and then the other half were comically lvm. like to the point where if I wonder if im on disaster date lol. the most hvm guy I have ever met was even an an anesthesiologist. He was super into me, but kind of an awkward nerd which makes sense because the non douchy doctors are usually nerds. but he was so soooo nice. high effort dates, constantly texting me but not in a weird …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 06:02 AM
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and then they have the audacity to bitch at us for swiping on the "top 10% of men only". Like no LOL that doesn't even make sense women aren't even that visual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 05:40 AM
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medicine is such a toxic field. literally i wouldn't be surprised if the hospital fired her for complaining over some douche harassing her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 05:20 AM
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I'm glad you mentioned you are a doctor because it goes to show despite literally having a respected career, despite literally being capable of making life or death decisions, and despite making more money than 99% of men (therefore they know you don't need them)...despite all that they still have the audacity to objectify you. Just goes to show us women can never win. I'm a Healthcare professional too and I deal with this shit allllll the time. One of my coworkers literally made a comment about…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 05:11 AM
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lol I came here to say the same thing. I feel like guys on dating apps are like this whereas most girls I know usually are willing to at least give it a few dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 09:59 AM
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besides how lame a walk date is i never understood how impatient men are with dating apps. like it takes time to build a relationship lol if you think someone is nice and attractive at least give it at least a couple dates sheesh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 09:57 AM
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honestly what I took from it is takes a scrote to know a scrote. No wonder his advice was so good lol literally he was advising us how to avoid guys like himself lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 09:54 AM
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YES omg im so glad this is going to be a thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 09:09 PM
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I think that is why it irks me the most. im looking for something VERY specific. a man my age from my culture and religion. If the man is not from my specific church hes frankly not an option because my family will never accept it and my culture is difficult to assimilate into and very much a part of my life. its selfish to assume a girl is interested in you you let alone even available just because she's alone idc how attractive you are. I would never hit on a guy unless I talked to him and thr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 09:30 PM
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Dating is about balance. If im making bank and I don't value looks/youth then I literally have nothing to gain from dating someone broke and everything to lose. I feel like personality does matter but someone with a good personality wouldn't be broke in the 1st place because they would be responsible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:29 PM
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What the hell even Hayley Williams went through this. She is literally the definition of cool lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 06:06 PM
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Sometimes having a LVM father can make you even more hyperaware of a LVM. A LVM has rarely gotten past the 2nd date with me - the minute I get low effort vibes like my dad I run for the hills. I also tend to be more picky because you see just how much a LVM can destroy your life. I think also though this could be because my mom is a HVW who had a very one and done approach to marriage and also wasn't afraid to kick him to the curb and was self sufficient with a good job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 05:58 PM
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even then they try and stop you LOL. Normally I'll at least try to be nice and let them down easy but with headphones I don't feel bad at all pretending I didn't hear them and ignoring them totally because thats literally a universal sign for "DONT TALK TO ME" and to try and get someone to take their headphones off is just rude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 05:48 PM
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I agree with Derek and its an important reason why you should never base your self worth as to whether a guy is serious about you or not. Its never you, its always about them. You could be virgin Mary, a model, and a billionaire and a guy still won't be serious about you if he's not ready. Meanwhile once they do become ready to be serious they literally will just go for the next girl they are remotely attracted to lol. Its so EASY to date a guy who is ready
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:03 AM
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saving the female race from him hahhaa that's what she's doing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 11:10 PM
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I dislike her politics but I will always be happy to see a women break down barriers like that. I remember when hilary ran all the misogynistic things I'd hear about women in power from men all around me. literally id hear disgusting things like "oh a women can't be president if she gets her period she will cause a nuclear war".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 04:10 AM
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honestly if they do this don't bother. I had a guy do this and I responded with " im new town idk anything here what do u think" and he did follow through and take me to a nice restaurant. asked me out on a second date and then again asked me what I wanted to do and again I was like "idk lol whatever im new in town". he texted me after saying he had a good time, texted me the next day to see how im doing. then when it came time to plan the next weekend texted me how am I doing on Sunday rather t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 03:08 AM
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one time this annoying ass weirdo kept hitting on me in line for some kind of event and i was swerving him so hard. he kept trying to put his arms around me and talk to me and I clearly looked uncomfortable and was moving away from him/ giving one word answers but he was not getting the hint at all. this dude has the audacity to turn to some random guy behind him and say "I like American women they are easy" as this American women was literally right there rejecting him left and right and he was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 02:51 PM
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it amazes me...this dude manages to land a big shot attorney and he is hesitating doing the bare minimum. if it were the other way around society would be telling the women to pull out all the stops because "men like that ate rare". like come on after everything she had accomplished you think its too much to spend 500 dollars on her for dates??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 02:30 PM
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I was just going to post her. I also love how Jeff is known for being a greedy scrote who hordes his billions and doesnt even provide adequate working environment but Makenzie on the opposite end is an actual philanthropist. how can people even complain about her getting half when she is the only one doing good things with it and if it weren't for her Jeff would have just horded it anyways. also, she is gorgeous idk how he even cheated on her...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 09:26 PM
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I have dated a lot of doctors partially because I work in Healthcare and they are the only people who really understand my job so its just easier 1) one of them was not really that cute, socially awkward, but he was an anesthesiologist. really sweet guy tbh I really wanted to be attracted to him but I just wasn't. his gf will be lucky one day. 2) another was kind of cute but also kind of short (and lied about his height) I almost walked out on our 1st date because he would constantly contradict …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 04:10 PM
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if you can get an annulment, that's the best option. you may not be able to unless you can prove you were under duress when marrying him or something. I know how hard divorce can be I wouldn't wish that on anyone and im so sorry you have to contemplate this right now but it is shorter since you had been married so short. question though I'm curious since you asked him why did you feel the need to ask him? is it becauae you guys got into a fight or was he clearly just hung up on her? if he was ju…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 12:59 PM
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im glad she did because I got the same message and I was hella freaked out. but I also see what you are saying dude probably wants that reaction to shame us from not posting. such a shame despite having every advantage in society men still don't feel compassionate enough to let us enjoy our own safe space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 12:47 PM
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ohh i got this exaxt message too lmao. I wanted to message back and be like yeah I'm 15 you just solicited a minor lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 12:41 PM
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nope. I'm considered very attractive. I need fds because that's precisely why guys enjoy wasting my time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 08:14 PM
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if your name is what i think it is its a beautiful name! im astounded anyone would have the audacity to think its football related it literally sounds Irish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 08:42 PM
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do guys not get girls generally aren't that into sports. I'm sure some are but I don't get why they just assume it. that's like me assuming a guy is into makeup and nonstop talking about it without him expressing interest
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 10:07 AM
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everything i am into is a girl hobby ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 10:03 AM
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ooh we need a whole list here. I have a contribution: "what are you looking for? or "what brings you to this app"" - I am trying to figure out if you are down for casual sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 09:59 AM
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im actually less guarded because my standards are higher. if someone is hvm enough to even get me to go on a date anymore then subconsciously I feel more at ease with him. vs a lvm who you open up to knowing he's from day 1 disrespecting you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 01:36 AM
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makes no sense. even if she were "bad" there's this beautiful thing called divorce. how about you divorce and let her live her life if she's so bad rather than just annihilate your entire family. another excuse for him ive seen is they had this mtm buisness or something that sold shady caffeine energy patches that he was wearing like 4 of per day and that made him irritable. again there's people on legit drugs that don't annihilate their family lmao. its amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 01:30 AM
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im not even Muslim but I feel uncomfortable with guys who think its ok to hook up. it means there's a huge fundamental difference in the way we think. why do guys who are not conservative insist on dating a conservative woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 12:56 AM
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lmao so true. it's like the minute I had to be an adult and work my tolerance for bs went way down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:14 AM
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lol mines the opposite i used to date bums in my 20s now I only date people as highly educated as I am
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:09 AM
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oh 100% agree and had the same experience and came to the same conclusion. I think it just goes to show how a guy treats relationships in general and how selective they are with dates. I want someone who is selective about who they take on dates and is seriously looking just as I am. a sign of that is the effort because a selective serious guy will go on less dates but take them more seriously. guys who treat girls as disposable until proven otherwise tend to be the the type to treat relationshi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:21 PM
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one more subtle way to tell is if they take more than 6-8 hours to text you back. no matter how busy you are, that's gameplaying. someone who isn't interested will just not initiate contact, ghost, or break it off nicely. someone busy will apologize and communicate their schedule. someone who is trying to redpill you or is a narcissist will try to keep you on the line by playing games and taking forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:39 PM
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oooh how did you do this theme so pretty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:24 PM
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can i get it as well?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 11:09 PM
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at least you aren't 27 haha. oh well honestly even before covid dating sucked at least now I have an excuse not to do it 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 11:07 PM
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this is why I don't take it personally when I get rejected by guys. they literally have zero intelligence when it comes to assessing character. I feel like most of them just want a sex doll and can't appreciate a women who has her shit together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 08:43 PM
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its because society conditions women to take that much abuse. before I found fds I was making the same kind of posts because people irl and the other reddit subs make you doubt your reality as a women. now that ive found out about this sub I read my old posts and cringe at even questioning whether that behavior was acceptable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 05:27 PM
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anytime someone does that to me I suddenly remember I have a cop "boyfriend"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 06:52 AM
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Ugh whats disgusting is that why is there even a grey line. As someone who is only attracted to guys who are extremely attracted to me....how is anything other than a fuck yes even attractive. This reminds me of when I was reading Aziz ansari's accuser's story and everyone was blaming her for even going to his place and defending him saying he can't read her mind and I was thinking...ok but if it was fully consenual then why was he pressuring her though. If it was consenual she would have been j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 06:20 AM
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You know I am really glad this sub exists because this behavior is SO normal by men I remember at one point pre FDS I was wondering....is it really that unreasonable to expect a man to come to you...it might be since every single one without fail tries this. Thank GOD for FDS never doubted myself again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 05:42 AM
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of course he is a dentist saying this....the men in that field have the biggest inferiority complex idk why...my best friend is a dentist too and even she noticed this about her classmates. probably doesn't like black women because he hates himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 05:29 AM
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Wow. Kind and beautiful. I can't even blame her like someone she cared about was dying....I mean yeah i'd think twice but I also can see why she did it. Whats with people backstabbing people who donate kidneys to them though...this guy, george lopez, and I heard Selena gomez stopped talking to the girl who gave her her kidney.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 05:14 AM
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oh I guess because i wear slides all the time i have three kids LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 02:37 AM
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also a 6 figure recovering pickmeosha 🤣 when men make six figures they act like gods gift to earth i wish i could do the same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 02:35 AM
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it shouldn't be work on yourself it should be put yourself 1st. meaning do things that make you happy and a happy you will attract people into your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 02:27 AM
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I hope the cat bites him 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 12:39 AM
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I put i dont drink and I just get questioning why as if it's the most bizzare thing in the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 12:30 AM
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some people do get in because they have super rich parents but I think the type she is referring to are the upper middle class kids who went to prep schools so yeah they are smart, but they had the oppertunity handed to them vs a regular middle class kid who got in because they were valedictorian at their random public school and had to overcome a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 12:10 AM
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I think by limiting talking to guys who clearly have read your profile and try to have a genuine conversation weeds out a lot of assholes. Guys who try flirting right away almost always tend to be an ass even if you successfully steer the convo away from it. you should always be vetting though never trust a guy you meet online until you've known them for months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 04:24 PM
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my dad. everyone thinks im so lucky because he's a surgeon. selfish, abusive, cheater. because of his salary I got no financial aid for college yet he refused to contribute a penny to my education or even upbringing because he was too busy blowing his entire income on his girlfriends he was cheating on my mom with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 04:40 PM
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at best lateness means they aren't at a point in their life where they take dating seriously. I once gave a guy a chance who was 7 minutes late to our 1st date despite my better judgment. the minute me met me he seemed 100x more interested in me as a person, but it became clear that his work is way too demanding for him to be dating. that lateness was just the 1st sign. that's at best lol moat likely it means he's a douche who doesn't respect other peoples time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 04:36 PM
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oh my god I wish I did LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 01:33 PM
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don't worry we know 🤣 we just can't do anything a about it either the asshats usually end up becoming our boss or doing better than us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 12:53 PM
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I had a friend recently bring my a book by a president and had the actual president who wrote it autograph it so this is extra hilarious to me 🤣 imagining if she got me that same book with her autograph
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 12:51 PM
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my dad is a doctor...his friends are all doctors...they are all asshats to their wives minus one of his friends and hes a family medicine doctor that's probably why he's more normal. None of their wives are happy, all of the wives who didn't have a career are stuck with their cheating husband. I tend to attract doctors a lot I guess because I am so used to being around them and work in a similar field and what makes me laugh is how they think everything is about them and they can't comprehend me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 12:43 PM
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haha it's hilarious because it's not even that impressive 🤣 like a 2001 mercedes would cost 5000 soo I mean
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 07:53 PM
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this reminds me of the time a really agressive weirdo kept hitting on me and would not take any hint as to me moving away or feeling uncomfortable. He kept putting his arm around me I kept pushing it away and avoiding him. He then has the audicity to tell a guy behind me very loudly he likes American women because they are easy and continues creeping on me and following me around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 07:42 PM
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Tommy?? hahaha I'm crying 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 07:25 PM
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my ex was 19...screaming 😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 05:24 PM
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I prefer being nice and polite too lol he pissed me off to that extent which is why I found it so bizzare. I remember leaving the date not even with an excuse I literally was just like "....ok well im going to leave bye" and then being shocked when he literally immediately texted me after saying he had a good time and wanted to see me again. I was like wait what now you text me right away?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 02:56 AM
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I dated a guy like this and the entire time I felt off about it and I think this is why. Leading up to the 1st date he was kind of douchy looking back. Took 24 hours to respond to my texts, postponed 1st date, didn't seem super enthusiastic via text. I went along with it and basically just mirrored him and figured he was just shy/didn't think much of it. On the 1st date he did some things that annoyed me (poorly planned date and being late) and I gave him major attitude and ended it early and le…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 11:41 PM
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she just seems like a typical pickme cool girl type. actually tbh part of me is worried about her like I hope she is being treated right by the guys she dates and isn't pretending to be ok with random hookups and stuff like that. she's pretty and seems to be more screwd/intelligent than she lets on she deserves way better than some of the degrading shit she talks about doing on her podcast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 11:22 PM
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armenian!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 11:16 PM
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1 will get back to you if he's truly interested just let him do it since he last left you on read. 4 can be nudged into a date id say something like "so texting is great and all but I prefer talking face to face" see if he bites. 2-3 seem weird and annoying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 10:55 PM
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this is such good advice. for example for me when I was dating while still in school I accepted so many more red flags than when I graduated and was making money. once you are independant you can clearly see who is adding to your life vs being on survival mode. it's different when you start dating someone when you are doing well then things go bad and you rely on them as a partner than that being the type of relationship from the getgo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 08:02 PM
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men don't care if you have an education just have a goal you are actively working ob and a plan and be well read. if dating distracts from that then focus on that 1st but if you can do both I don't see why a hvm wouldn't want someone who is working on something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 02:36 AM
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if i ever see a black man ever disrespect or put down black women while chasing me as a non black women that is an AUTOMATIC turn off. In my culture even when the men date outside our ethnic group they still show respect for our women and try to integrate their own women into our culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 11:35 PM
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eh I wouldn't be upset he is shooting his shot but id ignore it or even block it i didn't feel comfortable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 11:29 PM
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hahhhaa the smugness...the audacity 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 11:28 PM
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Yeah I struggle with this as well. If it's the man's fault for even entertaining them then I don't deal with him. but sometimes the man will even make it clear to the pickmeosha he isn't interested and she will go and make my life hell to make me go away if he shows interest in me and usually it works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 06:48 PM
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ugh he is ruined bye henry hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 07:06 PM
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Theres a whole sub dedicated to men being short on reddit and out of curiosity I browsed it thinking it would be full of like 5 foot guys.....most were like 5'6 and above complaining about being short and I was like wait what since when was that even short..literally at that point your height is not the issue LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 07:32 AM
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I'm convinced the only hvm in hollywood is henry cavill haha (but really hes my dream guy ugh)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 04:09 AM
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Its not....bad or even shady. But it is indicative of his personality. How do I put this nicely....he seems dense, not the thoughtful type. Almost as if he thought "hurr durr all women like flowers this will woo her" without really truly thinking deeply about what you, as an individual, need or would like. I would be annoyed too but some people who are more patient I guess would be wiling to explain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 03:58 AM
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this post should be empowering. it made me realize that a lot of it is not my fault...made me realize that if someone doesn't appreciate my warmth and kindness it's them not me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 02:16 PM
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let me just add to this but only lvm get smitten. how stupid do you have to be to base an entire relationship on your 1st impression of a girl you barely know and how low value is it to be disrespectful and aloof unless you are smitten. A hvm will be respectful of every girl he dates and choose the most compatible in a rational and respectful way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 02:08 PM
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seriously she looks like a completely different person in both but also beautiful in both pics
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 02:02 PM
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honestly for me it varies but usually within the week...like by the Thursday of the next week at the latest. Also ive experimented with texting them thank you or not after and guys who are interested will text you quicker if you don't
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 02:00 PM
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everyone hates bumble but in my experience ive met the best guys on bumble? I usually keep the 1st message low effort and they usually carry the convo from there. I don't even go near tinder and hinge has had more fuckboys than any other app I've tried despite being marketed towards relationships. cmb is ok but there's some weirdos/fuckboys on there too and the good ones are all also on bumble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 01:55 PM
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Sean Penn literaly looks like a scrotum
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 01:51 PM
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ahahhaa im gemini I hope the girls are better 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 01:49 PM
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I don't do it maybe for the 1st date only with online dating where all you are doing is meeting to vet but after that I choose 1.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 01:38 PM
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going through shit is mancode for not wanting to grow up literally. i've actually been through shit and let me tell you if it gets in the way of dating I explain the shit I am going through to the person I am dating and let them decide if its too much for them and they want to hold off or if they are willing to work with my situation. You don't just treat someone badly because you are going through stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 05:58 AM
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I'm 5'3 and my cutoff is 5'7....maybe 5'6 if i'm really digging him.....dudes be putting 5'7 and they will be 5'5 and i'm like brah why you lyin
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 01:51 AM
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This advice is amazing. I felt the same way as OP and I realized its because I am still in grad school -- of course I am going to be enamoured by a guy with a good job when my future is not yet set. I decided to wait until I graduate (next year) to date so at least I have that good job and no longer feel like I am missing something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 10:30 PM
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YES! There was another post that talked about how you shouldn't feel guilty for attracting toxic people because toxic people approach everytone at random. What matters is enforcing boundaries when people try you and that applies to dating AND friends. I use FDS and block and delete with friends who try me too. Literally lifechanging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 09:49 PM
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this made me cry. this man needs to be name and shamed and locked up. I hope hope hope she called the police on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 12:26 AM
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im not confrontational either. some people it just does not come naturally. however over times I've learned of other ways to cope. the grey rock method of staring at them for a good minute before sayinig "idk... why?" with attitude. this either intimidates them to either back off or if they are oblivious they make their intentions blatantly clear which is when i then confront.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 06:55 PM
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as a short women 99% of men are taller than me so I really have never cared about height lmao only time I care is when 1) they lie about it and 2) they act insecure over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 06:43 PM
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you did good. you talk to them they don't leave you alone you ignore them they act like you are a bitch. us women can never win. recently something similar happened to me. I work at a hospital and I was eating lunch outside....its covid so there's signs everywhere max two to a table and even though there were empty tables just way further away a 50year old scrote comes up to me and asks to sit by me. I just kind of look at him and im like....uhhhh it's covid. he then proceeds to say he doesn't h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 06:35 PM
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haha I once had someone who looks exactly like Joe biden ask me for directions at a grocery store and when out of politeness I answer he says something about "im glad stores are open and I get to see beautiful women such as yourself again". literally I didnt even answer him i just looked disgusted and walked away lnfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 06:28 PM
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oh my God I just realize I do this lol 😆 huge wakeup call
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:00 PM
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recently i started experimenting with saying...well its a dating app. why what do you want from it? works like a charm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 06:08 AM
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yup me too sis and I did tell him what I wanted and he did repeat it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 05:30 AM
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yall read what his ex wife justine wrote about him if you truly want to comprehend how lvm a billionaire could be. he literally told his ex he is the alpha and fired her like an employee.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 05:20 AM
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her logic only works with a genuinely hvm. a hvm will not take advantage of a girl. I've been on dates with hvm who simply weren't interested and politely and clearly let me know when I thanked them for the date and didn't try to hookup or use me. problem is if you browse seduction or red pill or even reddit in general you can see the abundance of lvm who literally pray on women in general but especially women like this. These guys flat out brag about how they will try for sex if a girl shows in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 05:15 AM
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I was in a similar situation and ultimately I decided to ghost and I don't regret it. if he really cares enough to wants an explanation he will text despite you one more time and that's when you can explain why you are done if you want but honestly in my experience he won't because he knows what he is doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 05:02 AM
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sorry had to reword my last comment because auromod didn't like my wording but yeah most guys are lvm do that. they don't see us as individuals they see us as objects. I know girls who are literal virgins that get treated like they are a sex object by guys who make assumptions after one date. i mean how much more dense could a guy be...so yeah just think of them as stupid don't let it affect you. if you follow fds you will sleep easy knowing you maintained your self respect no matter what a lvm …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 07:11 AM
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5 years, no ring..... sis can do better just saying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 12:16 AM
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yup never not listening to you guys in the 1st place again. luckily at the very least I was cautious with him the entire time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 11:25 PM
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I said it once and said it again as someone in the medical field the male doctors I know are the lowest value men on earth. Some are just smart but most only become doctors because they have awful personalities and need to have a prestigious career so people will put up with their bullshit. Half the doctors I know are so cringy if they were not doctors they would he considered the biggest losers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:05 PM
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Keep in mind you were with him for 5 years. How long has he been dating her? sounds like it's still honeymoon stage. of course he is going to be attentative because unless someone is a lvw they aren't going to get into a relationship with someone who doesnt do the bare minimum and he knows that. and what he is doing for her is the bare minimum. I guarantee you once he starts to feel comfortable he will revert to his LVM ways. the only way to handle lvm and keep them in line is to constantly keep…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 07:14 PM
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lmfao ikr it's already audacious enough to sneakily pick a meetup site near you without the girl knowing where you live but to have the balls to straight up send your address hahahhahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 08:05 PM
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this explains the last guy I dated "when are you free. how is your day" "next weekend. its good" "I'm glad its good" lmfao like WHY DID YOU ASK ME IF IM FREE JUST TO IGNORE IT YOU ASSHAT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:51 PM
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how is the dating scene in boston btw? I was thinking of moving there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 02:58 AM
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I bet he lectured you for being shallow meanwhile his overweight friend probably refuses to date overweight girls
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 02:55 AM
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I had a guy once ask me to meet up for a walk and grab some food. I was like ok why not, expecting him to pick the beautiful touristy well known park literally right by me. The dude had the audacity to send me his address and tell me to meet him up in front of his place 20 minutes away from me to walk around some ransom ass no name park near him. Immediately blocked him 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 02:55 AM
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I am a jenny and I will always be a jenny and it sucks. I don't even get men either like why wouldn't you want a girl who actually likes you right off the bat and will care for me. the only explanation I can think of is the man is trash and therefore sees any woman who genuinely likes him as trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 08:09 PM
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the part that kills me is he has the audacity to tell her that she is too dumb and he just wants sex when he looks like a thumb
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 07:57 PM
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what a dooooooooouche. I have a self deprecating sense of humor too and if it's your humor it's your humor but I tend to get along with people who also can self deprecate and are self aware. boy bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 07:55 PM
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is he trying to prove what a raging hipster he is hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 04:06 AM
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this kind of puts lvm into perspective. I think people on here confuse lvm with nvm. lvm aren't necessarily audacious like nvm but they add little to your life. that could be something like "yeah they pay for dates but they suck at planning them" or "yeah they text you first but take too long to respond". Stuff like that is low value but easy to overlook. if I asked myself these questions I would have saved myself a lot of headache from lvm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 03:14 AM
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I would never do it but at the same time if its tasteful (like insta model), she has the body for it, it's part if her brand....then girl get that coin. if it's for no brand then hell no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 03:09 AM
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what's wrong with this style I looked it up and its really cute
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 02:51 AM
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when people compare this sub to RP it boggles my mind. there is no comparison to what women and men go through with the opposite sex. statistically most men can get away with rape. statistically most women have experiences sexual harassment. theres actual danger to us out there vs with men their actual lives statistically aren't at risk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 02:29 AM
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it's funny when guys say they see tinder as a hookup app when those are usually the same guys who go on coffee meets bagel and still try to use it as a hookup app. We literally cant win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 02:00 AM
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even with FDS I still struggle to set expectations. that's how bad it is out there. if it werent for FDS I'd have a lot more heartache than I do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 01:57 AM
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the only sub I'm even subscribed to is this one and the_bachelor. both mostly female run I wonder why 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 03:09 AM
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This sub changed my life as well. I still tbh struggle with low self esteem from having a LVM father, but this sub saved me a loooot of heartache.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 03:03 AM
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honestly I do the same it's so obnoxious lol. I try to just smile and look away and other than that limit contact before I fuck it up. Definetly saving this to see what others respond!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 02:45 AM
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I will cry if this sub gets banned it literally changed my life 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 02:22 AM
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thanks for posting this. the surgeon thjng really made me feel better because I dropped a surgeon recently for playing games via text and I wasn't sure if I was overreacting for not responding to his last text. What good is a surgeon if he can't communicate properly to save his life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 02:18 AM
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You know what you are right haha. At best this guy has trash communication skills at worst he has lukewarm interest. Thanks so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:02 AM
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thank you so much for this. I was feeling kind of upset because I struggle so much with the texting phase. There was a recent guy I went on two dates with who I really liked who even said he wanted to see me again/had a good time. I thanked him for the date and he responded and then he texted me 3 days after the date and we had a short convo but his last text wasnt a question it was a statement and it wasnt really fostering conversation so I didn't respond and I haven't heard since. can I pm it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 07:45 PM
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I dunno about the driving thing lol I wouldn't let an OLD drive me 2nd date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 07:30 AM
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I lost 35 pounds and I noticed guys try to sleep with me more than before. vs before I felt like if they liked me they actually wanted a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 06:26 AM
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How did you talk to your boyfriend during the texting phase? I feel like that is where I get tripped up the most.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 09:19 AM
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say something. the friend may get mad but you are right it sounds shady. hell even have her watch 90 day fiance. I have relatives that have admitted to using women to come to the States who displayed the same red flags as this guy and it really fucked up those women's lives. I think it's pure evil and seeing how my relatives laugh about it makes me never ever want to marry someone from out of the States. this isn't one of those things where she just has to learn from her mistake like literally t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 05:13 AM
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I love you for even posting this. The other day I was browsing the regular reddit dating and this girl posted about how she is hot, fit, makes money, and is looking for someone in the same age range that is her equal and the guys had the nerve to tell her theres a million girls in her same position and that she is just average LOL. Meanwhile guys like this who are actually average aim high.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 11:55 PM
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literally I was starting to think I must not be as attractive as I thought when despite having a high paying job myself, all these ugly ass tech dudes were treating me like I was blessed to be in their presence. I then moved to San diego and matched with dozens of hot doctors who all were 10x more thoughtful and respectful than the Bay area tech slobs. Bay area sucks!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 03:32 AM
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ugh and they all think because they are in tech they are gods gift to women even if the women is 10x more attractive and they have 0 social skills
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 03:19 AM
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bay area....god bless. I don't miss that dating scene at alllllll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 02:58 AM
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I remember reading an ask reddit thread for men explaining why they lead girls with relationships for sex vs just finding a girl who is dtf when dating and the answers were so disgusting it turned me off of dating for a while. It basically boiled down to guys think its ok to trick girls because girls who want fwb are way too picky. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 02:30 AM
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my only good old ever was with a guy who I literally worked in the same field as and who I probably would have met in person anyways eventually so yeah its trash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 01:16 AM
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literally I don't think I could have relate to you more. I was a hot mess at 19. I feel like I barely sorted my shit out now in my late 20s!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 06:48 PM
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ugh yeah I am done with OLD! It's just way too hard to gauge intentions and interests of someone you barely know. When I do go on the dates I don't feel comfortable at all. The only good online date I've ever had was a guy who literally was in my field and went to my school before and I had some kind of third degree connection with and I probably would have met him in person eventually anyways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 06:25 PM
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pretty much every alpha male over 35 I know marries a girl close in age and of similar success lol. they don't even take 20 year olds seriously and I say this as someone in my 20s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 04:26 AM
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nope. I've had a couple good dates that went no where. a couple horrible ones. mostly meh ones that fizzled out after the guy tried to kiss me on the 2nd or third date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 01:08 AM
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that's exactly why guys kill me when they try to hook up with a girl above their league or in their league. Like hello if we just wanted to hook up dick os abundant plenty of Male models would be more than willing to do it for us no matter who we are. Why would we bother with a random scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 01:01 AM
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they make their students wear buisness casual to class Haha like what even
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 09:35 AM
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I had the same experience. put a stunning pic up and all of a sudden they respond to me right away. when I had makeup free photos, where I still looked pretty mind you, they would like half ass message me and ghost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 08:47 AM
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Its fine if you date med students usually the hvm want to meet someone in class....but just let it happen. If you have to look yeah look elsewhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 08:42 AM
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lmao I didnt even realize real estate developers were high earning. I turned one down just because I didnt like the way he asked me on a date 🤣 whoops...or maybe not still dont regret it hahah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 07:27 PM
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this is anecdotal but my dad and his friends are all doctors and they are all LVM. They don't seek out their equal and tend to marry someone they can control (who needs then for money and therefore puts up with their shit) who will do all the domestic stuff for them. The few HVM in medicine get snatched up before they even go to medical school or meet someone in class/on rotations. My dad is the only one who married someone also high earning. The entire marriage he bitched about her having her o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 07:19 PM
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yeah of course. because that means he is not a good person who has empathy and that's a horrible trait for a partner. a kind and empathetic man would feel bad for women and not try to hurt them and would not want to waste his time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 11:16 PM
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hahaha yeah I know that school too like it's not thaaaaaat impressive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 05:23 PM
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it's also funny how guys brag about how they don't care about those things as a good thing...it just proves they dont view us women as human and therefore could care less who we are as a person as long as we are attractive 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 07:29 PM
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I hate it when guys say this. All relationships start casual even serious ones 🙄 you have to date for a while to like each other. He means he wants someone who is willing to sleep with him before exclusivity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 06:46 PM
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yeah I love how it's ok for men to be arrogant and say douchy things like "oh I lead on interested women I never intend on dating to sleep with me because I can" but saying the female equivilent of that statement "oh I lead on interested men to buy me things I never intend on dating because I can" gets you eaten alive. even simply being confident and knowing what you want as a women gets you called a bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 12:18 PM
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I don't get why women aren't allowed to describe themselves as attractive online without being attacked. If you didnt say that those same people would be telling you the problem is that you are not attractive. It's not like attractive women don't know they are attractive and it's not like we go around saying it irl to guys 🙄 hell even me and my hvw friends joke about being goodlooking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 11:24 AM
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I totally get the culture education and faith thing. Men from not my culture tend to fetishize me. men with different education levels just dont get the way I operate in work and in life, and men of a different faith is the biggest dealbreaker because they don't get my moral code at all. when men say to lower your standards IVE TRIED. it doesnt work. I just am unhappy with the guy and have one foot out the door. These basic standards are for finding someone who I can marry who gets me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 11:18 AM
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this is the story of my life too. I have been called attractive by literally everyone but only men so dusty they would give the dust bunny a run for their money ever approaches me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 11:12 AM
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I would have been like lmao do you say that to every girl who rejected you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 11:11 AM
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Yeah I agree. Idk how to explain it he didnt give me bad guy vibes but he def seems like a smartass who doesnt know how to talk to women type vibes and you are right that would be a pain in the ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 08:21 AM
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Yeah I thought it was kind of...ingenuine too. Like for example he would ask "do you have siblings" and I'd be like "no im an only child you?" and he would be like "yeah a sister...what movies do you like" Like literally any other guy would ask me about being an only child or talk about their sister but he would like barely respond to my questions before moving on to ask me a new question. idk it was awkward af.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 07:03 AM
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This is exactly how I feel! Like I was just wondering if his social skills were bad or maybe he was nervous. His negging was like not bad enough where I really could call it out but it was stuff like for example I said it was raining this morning and he corrected me and said it was drizzling...or I commented that the sailboat he was describing sounded big (because it sat 6 people and I was imagining a two seater) and he was like actually it's pretty small. Or like me mentioning my parents giving…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 06:50 AM
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that's why I am so glad this subreddit exists. us ladies need to stick together because men love it when we lose and are threatened by our potential
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 11:39 PM
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^ op this is some queen advice right here listen to this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 11:35 PM
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Homegirl is a queen I don't blame her one bit for not wanting any old scrub 👸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 11:33 PM
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I had a guy do that to me on a date but even dumber. I told him something like "oh I tried to go for a run today but it was raining so I couldnt" and he mansplained something like "actually it was drizzling". I literally gave him a look like bitch are you for real??? Raining and drizzling is literally the same idea - point being I got wet and couldn't run. What is with guys smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 11:23 PM
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lmao who the fuck would say that. even if I did see someone ugly with someone good looking I wouldn't say anything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 11:16 PM
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You should have been like maybe you should learn to actually be funny and bot sound like an idiot. Honestly though with guys like these silence is better because I feel like they just want to get any reaction out of you....positive or negative. They think any reaction = they have a chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 11:05 PM
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wow I mean if he sees himself with her for the rest of his life why not get married LOL. I feel like anytime a guy doesnt want to get married is because he plans on ditching his gf the minute the next best thing comes along.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 09:09 AM
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I was dragged into watching it. I swear that shit was so bad it was comedic. The guy was such a disgusting creep literally even though he should have been attractive physically he was repulsive the way he behaved. I literally laughed every time the guy said baby girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 08:32 AM
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I love how he says he doesnt lie but he is clearly lying about his age hahahhaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 08:24 AM
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I don't know because I'm not 30 yet but I do know Meghan Markle found a literal prince in her mid 30s so I'm sure you can find someone you really like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 08:16 AM
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I went on a date with a guy who was late and he apologized profusely and explained why. That's how a guy should handle being late.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 08:02 AM
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I wish I could be a lesbian too hahaha but I cant ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 08:00 AM
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I know like how condescending. We know we are great girls but clearly your ass doesn't appreciate it because if you thought we were great you would date us. He should just say he didn't feel romantic vibes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 07:58 AM
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hes not interested. if he were he would have tried hard to change your mind. dont respond.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 07:50 AM
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Because they don't care what you want or whether you are attracted to them they only care what they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 07:48 AM
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Lin is smart. I like Lin 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 07:46 AM
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if you are on OLD put it in your profile. Otherwise I'd say after you guys have the conversation about what you are both looking for. 1st is too soon/presumptuous because that date is all about figuring out if you even like each other in the 1st place. But any later and its just time wasting to date someone who is fundamentally I compatible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 07:42 AM
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I know literally every person on this sub advocate's loving HVM...as long as you respect yourself and love yourself 1st. We are rude to LVM because they are rude to us 1st. On the other hand red pill literally advocates manipulating perfectly nice women by dangling a relationship carrot and using them for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 07:38 AM
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This is why I'm afraid to even respond to men who call me pretty. I know I'm pretty LOL. I just ignore that as an opener.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 07:34 AM
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Besides everything anyone else said I actally laughed at the cat thing. What kind of scrub takes the black cat trope that seriously that they leave a date because of it hahahha 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 05:24 AM
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hey man I've been in a similar situation with bullies making up shit about you to the point when you believe it and trust me you aren't loony. Someone looney would not have the self awareness to even ask if they were and would not be able to hold a job for even a year. Even if someone were looney a decent human being wouldn't make fun of them for it they would try and help them. I remember when the same thing happened to me for a few years I believed it were true, but eventually I heard things a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 05:18 AM
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Go for a run. Seriously I usually am do tired and clearheaded after I dont even care about the guy anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 08:20 PM
4

happened to me too. I'm not in my dad's will because "my mom is giving me her inheritance and she has a good job" but his kids are. how is that fair his kids get joint parent inheritance and I get a single mom one 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 06:28 AM
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this is why I dont even remotely act nice to men in relationships. their jealous pickmes go apeshit and i do not want to be the target of bullying over a scote I wasnt even interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 06:22 AM
2

I had a guy invite me to a casino during quarantine 🤣 immediately blocked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 06:20 AM
1

you are right. thank u I'll just start ghosting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 05:45 AM
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people confused low value men with negative value men. low value men by definition have some high value traits but they are not adding much value to your life because they have negative traits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 05:38 AM
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I personally hate my father's guts so I would be more than happy to use anyone elses name on a doctorate hah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 05:24 AM
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in my culture (middle eastern) its gold. when the girl gets married the guy is supposed to buy her a ton of gold. like I'm talking enough gold to buy a house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 02:16 AM
25

this doesnt even make any sense if all powerful men only date women in their 20s than those women would be snatched up by the time they turned 30 and 39 year old women would only be dating those 20 year old guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 02:12 AM
3

Just less time wasted. I still find HVM to be rare but in between I'm not texting scores or wasting time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 01:57 AM
1

hinge is one of the worst dating apps out there hands down. I don't think I've ever gotten to the point where I've actually gone on a date with someone off hinge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 12:26 AM
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the funniest thing to me is when guys on hinge ask what I'm looking for. Always have to resist the urge to type " i'm on an app designed for LTR you fucking idiot what do you think I'm looking for"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 12:18 AM
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The minute I see a guy ignore or be anything less than chivalrous to a not attractive women I completely lose interest. It makes me think he doesnt like me for me and only wants to get in my pants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 09:51 PM
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also henry cavill is just a hvm lol. hes nerdy, handsome, down to earth, kind, smart, hardworking. like even if he were a teacher and not a celebrity I'd go gaga for him. leo is just gross to me ugh like let himself go and sleazy when it comes to women celebrity or not ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 12:31 AM
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You can get around the bumble lvm thing. Just send a very short hi as a 1st message and let them take it from there or let the match dissapear. Guys can technically make the 1st move by extending a match or superliking. I feel like most of the hvm I've met have been on bumble but had to wade through a lot of lvm. The app with the most lvm I've ever been on is hinge. I don't think I've ever met a HVM on hinge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 12:28 AM
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lol when I was 20 I thought 25 was way too old. No way I would have dated a 35 year old. even at 26 I think 35 is way too old and they all try to match with me on dating sites. like girls at 35 look good guys I'm seeing at 35 already look like george Clooney. max I'll go is 33 and that's even pushing it for me...prefer 27-31 year olds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 12:24 AM
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the only Male friends without a hidden agenda that I have are people I met in a professional setting. but even then I have to keep my distance and not get too close because they have thrown a questionable comment once or twice. literally one time we were at a professional conference and I was talking about how fancy the suite our company put us up in was and the married scrote actually twisted that as an invitation for me to show him my suite and literally knocked on my door. I almost puked at t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 08:56 PM
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lol what kills me is they do this despite the fact I dont have snapchat and they still insist on giving me theirs. Like bro I'm not going through the effort to download and make an account for an app designed for 12 year olds just for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 12:30 AM
1

These women look great I don't see the problem here....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 03:43 PM
1

Its appropriate but as long as your friends arent pickmeishas. Pickmeisha friends can do more harm than good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 03:26 PM
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this made me spit out my coffee 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 03:25 PM
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Lol men always over value themselves. I can relate to men thinking that you are using them when you yourself have a good career. like no girl making six figures is going to bother using a guy for his money when we can afford a comfortable life ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 03:19 PM
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yup that's me introverted and shy 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 11:18 PM
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yes it's super annoying to me because im much more than looks. especially if you have a career and are educated. I'm on dating sites and I have a doctorate and these guys have the nerve to only talk about how beautiful I am. how on earth is that even a compliment or supposed to make me feel good. you are born with looks who freaking cares about that, but my education I actually earned. ugh. this is educated men too like really they cant appreciate the hard work I put in?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 11:17 PM
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I literally had a group of pickmeishas like this that I got tired and dumped. literally if a guy even looks at them guess who dumps and ignores all their friends. I now surround myself with strong women ONLY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 11:08 PM
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this is literally sf dating. a 4/10 tech dude who has so many demands it's insane. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 11:07 PM
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👏 it's sad how we have to worry about our safety but yes be careful girl. people are scary when it comes to women standing up for themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 11:04 PM
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I love you 🤣🤣 this actually illustrates how stupid RPW sound
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 11:02 PM
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I love that you posted him. I would have never known who he was if you didnt. Plus it's a reminder that hvm do exist and that THIS is the bar for what I want in a future partner. rip to this beautiful soul. he would have gone far in military which is what he had wanted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 09:23 AM
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I believe in soulmates but that there is more than one...many actually. basically a soulmate is someone you are compatible with who is a hvm that also gets you and you have built a bond with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 09:17 AM
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see I was never a pickmeisha, but I grew up very sheltered and had a lot of pickmeisha friends and as a result was naive during dating. being naive about guys true intentions can be really hurtful to your self esteem. for example, when guys who said they loved me would say vulgar things to me out of no where and before this sub id be wracking my brain, wondering if I did something to deserve it...but no turns out they are just sleezebags. I honestly feel so strongly about this sub being protecti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 09:08 AM
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reminds me of the guy madison beer dated, zack bia. he wasnt even a 4 and she is a 10 and famous and he still mistreated her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 06:24 PM
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besides what everyone else says in also just wonder how men have the energy for this. I barely have the energy for my work life and home life let alone on top of that a double home life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 06:03 PM
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it's actually so dumb how men are like that. like why are they so influenced by the environment they meet you in and so not open. I've met guys online or at bars who completely disrespected me without bothering to get to know me, then later meet in person in a different setting (class) and all of a sudden they are chasing me hardcore and want to date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 10:00 AM
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that's how it is. I know I'm a very pretty girl - maybe not miranda Kerr but pretty enough where people stop me on the street and tell me I'm pretty or try to set me up with their sons. problem is I'm not photogenic - it literally does not do me justice. I have the same problem as you with old - like the guys I get set up with irl are 100x more attractive than guys I match with mean while on old i only get people who look like no neck ed who are 10 years older than me seriously trying to date me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 09:57 AM
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omg that annoying ass statistic that shows up on reddit all the time. Every single women I know is with a guy less attractive and less successful than them. how on earth would 80% of women want the top 20% of men I go out of my way to avoid men on dating sites that seem out of my league...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 09:52 AM
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I deep down love mine (I feel sorry for him for ruining his own life and our family by being a self destructive low value selfish idiot who cant maintain meaningful relationships for shit) but I also keep contact to like the bare minimum a daughter can. I don't contact him unless it's on special occasions, set firm boundaries (no talking bad about my mother, no antagonizing her in front of me), and when he calls I pick up once a week and keep it short/life updates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 09:46 AM
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I'm very sorry about your grandfather. May be rest in peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 09:40 AM
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I 100% agree. people either know how to maintain relationships or they dont. narcessists are very well known to be great at initiating relationships but horrible at maintaining. life is never starightforward; at some point it will throw their relationship a curveballs and usually these people are the type to try and save themselves 1st above anyone else and expose who they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 06:32 PM
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its amazing to me how many guys hit on me in a rather condescending way (because they think they are more successful than me) and not once do they ask what I do for a living. i have a doctorate i am super proud of and passionate about do they care or ask about it. no. and then they are surprised I cant fall for them...like how am I supposed to fall for someone who could care less about me as a person. clearly to them it's all about looks yet they call us golddiggers. its always women I meet out …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 06:14 PM
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for real I wanna see the comments on this. watch the idiots on reddit baby him in their response yet if it were a female saying the same thing they would rip her to shreds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 12:42 AM
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I just wanted to say that this post is more relatable than you think. I recently dumped a friend group because it was full of pickmeishas and I felt like they were pushing abusive men on me and normalizing bad behavior vs me being alone and knowing my worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 12:37 AM
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honestly be like oh well in that case what am I doing here bye! and then they come chasing after me. if you say who said I want a relationship with you in their head that means "oh so she is down to ge a fwb".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 12:23 AM
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I love how you mentioned evy pompouras I've been following her for a while and shes actually my biggest role model besides my mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 12:18 AM
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I have a friend who did it and hes actually very hvm. but the difference between him and some of the weirdos who do this is he was actually interested in Korean culture, took korean since undergrad, and had a plan to come back and get a masters in world public policy, and was there on some sort of scholarship that paid off his undergrad loans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 12:14 AM
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City definetly makes a huge difference. I like my men to be all american family oriented types. When I lived in Chicago no shortage of suitable guys. The minute I move to SF, it's full of tech peter pans who have no clue how to talk to women and no concept of family. It's like a night and day difference. I am moving to San Diego soon and already it seems 100x better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 01:53 AM
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all I can say is what in the hell no we are not. those things repulse me. I'm sexually attracted to a guy who protects me and makes me feel secure. that feeling of being safe and secure - that's the only thing that makes a man feel like a real man.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 06:32 AM
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you should have sent him a dick pick. honestly that's what these guys deserve who have the balls to insinuate for pics
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 12:54 AM
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if he loved his wife he wouldn't do this to his baby. pos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 12:50 AM
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I honestly dont know what to tell you because I am similar and I tend to attract the same type of guys. it's almost as if normal guys are intimidated by us reserved empathetic girls whereas the sleezebags who shoot their shot at everyone strike lucky because we give them more chances than most women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 10:11 PM
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this is like real life too. I'm educated, make good money, living the life, yet people tell me I'm being picky when I expect my equal and turn down guys who can't keep up. yeah because I worked this hard to give up my lifestyle to use all my income to support a man who makes 25% of my income and not be able to maintain my lifestyle. makes sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 10:07 PM
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