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CULTURAL MISOGYNYSpectralCadence/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 05:22 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYSpectralCadence/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 09:36 AM
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LEVEL UPSpectralCadence/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 03:45 PM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCESpectralCadence/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 08:01 AM
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NAH, SISSpectralCadence/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 05:59 PM
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STRATEGYSpectralCadence/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 09:07 PM
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QUICK TIPSpectralCadence/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 01:47 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYSpectralCadence/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:55 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYSpectralCadence/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 06:54 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYSpectralCadence/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 07:12 PM
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SpectralCadence/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:34 PM
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SpectralCadence/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 08:58 AM
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SEEKING ADVICESpectralCadence/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 11:52 AM
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FDS SUCCESS!SpectralCadence/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:19 PM
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LEVEL UPSpectralCadence/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:23 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYSpectralCadence/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:41 PM
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RED FLAG 🚨SpectralCadence/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 11:32 AM
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RED FLAG 🚨SpectralCadence/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 11:37 AM
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THE AUDACITY OF SCROTESSpectralCadence/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 04:54 AM
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STRATEGYSpectralCadence/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:52 PM
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FDS SUCCESS!SpectralCadence/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 12:40 PM
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SpectralCadence/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 06:35 AM
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A good warning for the rest of us -- look how he treats her despite all that. A classic case of "nice for what?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 06:44 AM
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Yep! I read it here somewhere a few years ago and it really stuck with me - male attention is cheap but worthless!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 03:49 AM
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NO O
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 09:43 PM
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Yes 100% - your life would have been miserable with him. I had to make a similar decision 2ish years ago (FDS made me see the light and helped me through it!!) and looking back, my life would've gotten immeasurably screwed up if I went ahead. You will miss the happy moments - that's okay! But they can trick you into thinking "it could've turned out okay", which isn't true. Can you imagine the stress of living a life with such a man? Having children? Facing an emergency in life? It would've been …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 09:36 PM
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Came in to say exactly this - he probably makes more than her but she goes 50-50 despite that (modern, liberal, independent woman, cool girl). He was just looking for easy sex, a maid to clean his home, and someone to help him financially. He probably has a nice retirement fund and she's going to start from scratch. Ladies, never invest your time and money into a relationship unless the man is your husband who has proven to be a decent person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 06:15 PM
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Men in their 20s look undeniably better than those in their thirties or forties. You just can't beat the youthfulness and vigour they have. The only thing older dudes have going for them is more disposable income (but they don't want GoLdDiGgErS yknow)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 03:19 AM
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Absolutely! As someone from one of those places, the fact that I'm financially independent is the only thing (other than my mum's independence ofc) that makes me nearly immune to these socio-cultural problems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 05:46 AM
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Damn that sounds harrowing. I had no idea it was like that. But I'd still want a partner to get a full panel STD test including HPV before I get married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 03:51 AM
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but that's, like, so sex-negative! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 03:47 AM
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lol exactly. rEcLaiM YoUr SeXuALiTy end up with an STD or a kid you didn't plan for - both of which which change the course of your life (with zero consequences for the man of course)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 03:45 AM
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ahh okay sorry I misunderstood 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 06:34 PM
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Wait why is it okay to hit your dog edit - oops sorry I misread!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 01:35 PM
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Proof they can never be grateful. She literally turned his life around and probably gave him free rent worth 10k but he doesn't consider paying it back. Leech.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 02:04 AM
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He's gonna give his poor unsuspecting wife an STD...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 09:10 AM
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I can look back and see a fulfilling life, and not be left a wrecked shell of myself with all these broken dreams of what could have been if I wasn't so desperate to be picked by anyone below my subterranean standards and my obliterated boundaries. DING DING DING!!! Of all the partnered-up women I know, out of dozens, only 3 or 4 seem happy. The rest appear to be full of regrets, and have posted about their frustrations so many times, but they're carrying on just for the sake of their children, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 06:10 PM
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Dr Brennan (Bones) - I really looked up to that character as a teen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 10:24 AM
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That's my #1 thought whenever a woman invests too much time and energy into protecting a relationship or worrying about her boyfriend or husband - you can't control another person, you can only control yourself, so instead of wasting all that energy why not improve your life? Never understood it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 10:19 AM
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PERFECT response! He should value you AT LEAST 5x as much as some material commodity that won't last more than a decade
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 04:09 PM
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I just watched that movie a few days ago and that's exactly how I felt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 04:13 PM
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They don't want someone who wants, loves, and respects them - they just want to be dominant and have a free bangmaid and nursemommy that'll stay under their foot all their lives. A wife, to them, is a useful tool, not a complete human being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 07:21 AM
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yeah it doesn't have to be now you can just future-fake with her and waste 7 more years of her life teehee
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 08:47 AM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HONIXE2FlA4
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 08:33 AM
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There's a 911 call where the person clearly says he was slapping and hitting her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 06:06 PM
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Why did they take SO MUCH TIME for them to label him a person of interest? TWO people go on a trip and ONE person returns in the OTHER person's car and doesn't say a word and they wait and wait until he gets time to escape?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 04:26 PM
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late teens/early 20s stage is one of the most dangerous times to be a woman. You are 100% correct!! I consider myself lucky I didn't get raped and/or kidnapped or end up in an awful marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 04:13 PM
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It's definitely a very nuclear option but this is why I never show my face anywhere - FB, LinkedIn, YouTube, dating sites (when I was active, I used to blur my pictures) - nowhere! Even though not showing my face on YouTube comes at a cost for my growing business, but oh well...safety is more important (but it's unfortunate that women have to even think about doing this)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 05:03 AM
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YES!!!!!!! This is kind of what I'm planning to do possibly in a few years - high quality seed without the hassle of dealing with a man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 07:32 AM
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All life starts off female - that is the original human form and anything else is a mutation 😌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 06:55 AM
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Prostitution is legal there but there have been soooo many documentaries detailing how women from eastern Europe are conned into going there under the pretext of finding a job. ​ Oddly enough I watched this movie when I was 12 - I think it's called 'Your Name is Justine' that really opened my eyes to such things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 06:38 AM
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No "not-my-Nigel" posts over here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 05:54 AM
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This just confirms younger dudes are where it's at. Bonus - if you want kids, their sperm is healthier!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 06:49 AM
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They really did a self-own - WHY would I ever want to be with (and/or be impregnated by) some loser male who can only worsen my quality of life? It's better to remain single!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 01:15 PM
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Kelly Stamps had a similar experience!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 06:19 PM
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I fully agree - but what does one do if one's father was an NVM and the name is merely a reminder of an awful person?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 06:08 PM
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Not cynical, just realistic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 03:02 PM
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Yep he's been accused of sexual assault by many women and he's even admitted to disturbing behaviour in his book
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 05:38 PM
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What the hell 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 05:37 PM
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yep this is exactly it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 05:36 PM
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Exactly!!! Having had a crap father really did a number on her picker. Her mum didn't display the strength she should have so she's had no strong female figure in her life it seems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 03:48 PM
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Omg yes! I remember reading about that years ago! Sent chills down my spine, the way he treated her and her sad demise as a result of all that...ugh 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:44 AM
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Fully agreed - but the marriage played a major role in creating the perfect conditions for her to be placed into a conservatorship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 09:47 AM
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Yes!! Last year I cut off a close friend who was an LVM. As a consequence, I saved so much time that I normally would have spent chatting with him. A few weeks ago I realised my once-best friend really did not invest in the relationship as much as I did and I think I'm going to dial it down now to just being casual friends (I'll need a point of contact in this country when I start travelling anyway)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 09:39 AM
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This is deeply disturbing. Just a couple days ago I saw this picture of a woman who went on a hiking trip - her boyfriend killed her soon after that photo was taken. Ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 05:10 PM
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That's amazing! Congratulations 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 06:35 AM
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FUCK YEAH!!! This is ridiculous I hope her dad and all those who let this happen suffer the consequences. Why was a man who couldn't control HIS OWN finances (she grew up poor and the family filed for bankruptcy iirc) given control over his successful adult daughter's empire?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 08:32 AM
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Exactly - this is what FDS taught me during a very sensitive time in my life and my life has completely changed due to this revelation. I, as many other women, was taught that there'd be some prince out there to "rescue" us and give our lives meaning - turns out you only need yourself to make your life better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 05:43 PM
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WTF is that cover even (and to think the search led me to Teen Vogue of all places...)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 04:56 PM
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Yep - just look at Maia Sandu, the president of Moldova. I couldn't believe she's 49!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 04:03 PM
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So disturbing - women have immense value, monetary value even, as depicted here and otherwise in the sale of human eggs (not saying that's a good thing) - and yet these women saw none of that value being given to or passed on to them. Instead they just had it taken from them. Instead of protecting and preserving what is precious, society wants to actively prey on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 09:14 AM
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I'm 100% pro female separatism but a monastery isn't much different from a nunnery so I don't get the hate for Mt Athos (which is Greek Orthodox, not Russian Orthodox). The whole "female animals banned" bit is from the 11th century; it's no longer the case. A little research goes a long way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:13 PM
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Warning for any women still thinking a man will save them. They just add to your workload and misery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 08:06 PM
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This sub is pro-"snooping". We're not about that "but what if a man did..." blahblahblah. Newsflash: They already do much worse. We're not concerned with "fAiRnEsS and EqUaLiTy". This isn't arrr forwardslash relationships. Women's welfare comes first, above all else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 02:43 PM
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Tell the blokes that. According to stats, only a minority of women orgasm during their first sexual encounter with a man. If men cared for the female orgasm, they'd have more enthusiastic partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 04:01 AM
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You're absolutely right! I agree, she was well-known for throwing cellphones at people back in the day. She definitely has a lot of issues, but the only thing I wanted to draw attention to was that, just like /u/Throwawayrightaway28 said, children can be had at any time if you focus on building your own wealth, instead of settling for L/Z/NVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 02:06 PM
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exactly, and nobody bats an eyelid!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 08:59 AM
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Yep. Scrotes on FB were like "waaahhh just because you can doesn't mean you should" "but she'll be 70 when the child is 20" like bruh shut up. If you can, and it doesn't harm anyone, you should. Naomi is wealthy so the child will not want for anything and will probably be better off than most of the human population. It's always ok for men to want to have kids when they're 50 but God forbid a woman does it. Besides, she isn't the average 50. They just hate it when they see women are refusing to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 08:15 AM
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Joke's on them, I fully support female separatism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 08:09 AM
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Yeah this is pretty much why I'm afraid of marriage. I do all the hard work of creating the child, birthing it, feeding it, raising it, but you get 50% say? No way. We all know men change even after 20 years there's no relying on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:54 AM
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wOmEn ArE lEsS vIsUaL Is that why most women dress well, present themselves in an appealing manner and are great at decorating things, but most men can't dress well, wear socks with sandals, and don't have any sort of flair for design? Because...they're visual creatures? Make it make sense!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 05:48 AM
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Your comment says it all. A man being kind to his wife is being compared to an unrealistic fetish. Yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 05:32 AM
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That's the thing! He's not deluded; he's very cunning. He's probably enjoying the turmoil he's putting her through. Cruel men like this know exactly what they're doing, they're simply playing dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 07:20 PM
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Yep!!!!! Basically an unpaid prostitute 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 07:17 PM
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That's an excellent idea, we should definitely collaborate on something like this!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 07:10 PM
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Oooof, yep that's 100% true, it's absolutely a revenge "power" move for them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 05:34 PM
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It's so weird 'cause I had this exact thought even as a child when I took public transport (to be fair, we have a great public transport system that's quicker than private transport, but it's overcrowded and the climate sucks). If a man can't make enough to give his wife comfort during one of the most stressful times in her life, he's not good enough to be knocked up by. If I can afford this quality of life for myself, a man should at the very least be capable of being on my level - and most men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 04:29 PM
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do you think this is a big reason why manosphere/redpill/PUA men “prefer” young women? Absolutely. Young women are easy to fool, control, impress, manipulate, lie to, abuse, mistreat, and use. The frontal cortex isn't even fully developed until you're around 25.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 08:23 AM
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Yeah, I agree, but everyone has had a pickme phase, right? Hope this incident wakes her up for good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 06:37 PM
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She gave him three kids for free. That man deserved not even one. Hope she gets full custody and a hefty alimony + CS. Stop rewarding subpar men!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 06:35 PM
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Same. The juice just isn't worth the squeeze. The amount of effort a woman puts into sustaining a relationship...my gosh, if one were to redirect that much effort into an education or a business, that would be so much better. At least it has a tangible return on investment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 07:03 AM
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Yes, I think this happened in Iceland for a day - women stopped doing unpaid labour to show their value to the country's economy https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/1975_Icelandic_women%27s_strike
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:36 PM
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Classic deflection of any concerns a woman may have: "Oh you're just crazy". Good on you for standing your ground and showing him this shit isn't tolerable and I'm super glad the neighborhood also knows what he did. Fuck these scumbags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:44 AM
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401(k) is the name of a retirement account :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:29 PM
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>the WHOLE POINT of FDS is to SIFT THROUGH THE TROVES OF MEN THROWING THEMSELVES AND THEIR DICKS AT US TO FIND ONE WHO IS SUITABLE, or if no such suitable man is found, to learn how to ignore them and make sure they cease bothering us and negatively affecting our lives. Yes, THIS is precisely it!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:27 PM
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Seriously. I just want to exist in a world without these dangerous, predatory, opportunistic men. Life would be so much more pleasant and stress-free. I wouldn't have to think twice about nearly every action I take. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:22 PM
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Scrotes were always deviant (e.g. pederasty in Rome and Greece). Now we can broadcast it - earlier it was just hidden by those in power.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:34 AM
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LMAO it didn't take even a second for him to throw a mantrum
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:22 AM
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They only see women as their body parts and the usefulness of said body parts to them. I truly don't think men who think otherwise, i.e. think of women as human beings, even exist anymore. I had the misfortune of seeing a YouTube video yesterday (I often watch travel blogs to understand where to go) and this sexpat was just going on and on about the women in country X and how they're sooo desperate and will treat you like a king. Blegh...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:15 AM
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We will love[...]women like her. NOOOOOOOPE. They do not love. They merely use. Pick her? Yes. Have casual sex with her? Yes. Expose her to STDs? Yes. Impregnate her and then bail on the kid? Yes. Ruin her and the kid's life by not providing child support? Yes. Make her pay rent if she lives with you? Yes. Cheat on her? Yes. Use her for her money? Yes. Pimp her out on Onl*F *ns? Yes. Use her as a free maid? Yes. Get a free cook as well? Yes. Free childcare as well? Yes. Prevent her from getting …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:03 AM
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Indian female here, I've been turned off the idea of dating a local scrote ever since I hit puberty lmao. Moving next year. Not only are the men ugly as sin but they're equally repulsive on the inside. Zero redeeming qualities. If arranged marriage did not exist, these dudes would never get laid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 08:06 AM
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Omg, that is so awful!!! I feel for her. More women need to be financially educated and aware of policies, laws, and the possibilities of what could happen to them in the future if things go south with their boyfriend/husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 05:37 PM
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Yep. There is very little benefit to a partnership with most, if not all, men...all they do is bring more stress and uncertainty for a little bit of romance. I am considering becoming a single mum by choice tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 05:35 PM
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"I pour my energy into men when I can be reading a book, painting my nails, learning a fourth language, petting my cat, volunteering at the soup kitchen, or bonding with my girl friends." That hits so deep. I see way too many women IRL and online, in my friend circle and elsewhere, who spend soooo much time, energy, even money, on men, and get ZERO return, heck even a NEGATIVE return on their investment. It makes zero sense. Whyyyyyyy??? Why do that when you can be investing in your own life ins…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 05:22 PM
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For real. Dates (I mean proper dates) involve way more investment from a woman's side. My last date I didn't even break even and I actually liked the bloke even though I ended things for other reasons. Clothes, hair, makeup, bags, shoes, grooming, etc cost money (not even including the opportunity cost of me working on my business or doing something else). Why men think women are "golddiggers" for wanting them to take us somewhere decent and pay up is beyond me. If they are as smart as they clai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 07:02 AM
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I feel like I am way ahead of him You ARE. He's not worthy of you and your friends & family are pickme enablers.
/r/askFDS28/04/21 04:22 AM
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Absolute queen post <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 06:16 PM
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Exactly. Whenever possible, I will not be paying a man any money that could instead be going to a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 09:58 AM
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very well written!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 07:06 PM
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This is so beautifully written. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 08:14 PM
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This is my #1 fear and could well happen in my country with the way things are going forward. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:54 AM
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You're right. At the start of the pandemic, I was terrified and worried about the fall of civilisation. Men of course seem to not care about Covid, but women have everything to lose. If civilisation falls, my financial independence, my skills and my ability to live peacefully on my own terms will mean nothing if some brutes can knock down my door and rape, beat, kill or force me to carry their children. We'd be back to being a slave-like underclass in an instant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:33 AM
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Males have no empathy. None. So it's impossible for them to understand why a woman would scream!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 04:35 AM
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don't you know? every mistake a man makes is ACTUALLY a woman's fault! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 06:14 PM
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Exactly why I've had this no-sex-before-marriage policy. I was not born to be used as some scrote's free warm masturbatory aid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 12:36 PM
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Woah, what the hell? That's messed up beyond belief
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 03:39 AM
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When I was 21 I had a flirtation-thing going on with some dude from OLD who went all out on future-faking and pretending to be some great bloke wanting to take me out on a date, but I was hesitant. Found out in a few weeks when I was searching for info about him on FB that he was married (to a total stunner!) and already had a child (a daughter, at that!). Really eye-opening experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 07:20 PM
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All my pics on OLD are blurred
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 07:14 PM
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EXACTLY! 👏👏👏 This is what I've always thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 03:28 AM
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Evanescence - Call Me When You're Sober Britney Spears - What It's Like To Be Me Britney Spears - Cinderella Evanescence - Made of Stone Evanescence - Sick Evanescence - The Last Song I'm Wasting On You Evanescence - Sweet Sacrifice Evanescence - Say You Will Garbage - Special Garbage - Supervixen Ariana Grande - God Is A Woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 03:23 AM
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I come from a similar culture. While my mother is very FDS, she's been asking me to actively look for a man since I was 22ish. At that time I had no real career to speak of despite having graduated uni. I, too, had this idealised romantic notion that I'd find a man and he'd take care of me in every way (despite hearing and seeing otherwise!). I became antsy with time when I realised none of the men I spoke to lived up to my rather basic expectations for a future husband and father. Around the ti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 03:29 PM
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From blokes that were romantic prospects? They've often told me I'm assertive and confident. (the one about confidence - he was actually asking me how I became so confident and if I had anything I felt insecure about - RED FLAG! - but he was NVM). I value these types of comments so much more than "you're beautiful".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:11 AM
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It's grammar. Female and dating function as adjectives, and strategy is the noun. However, using an adjective as a noun (females) is grammatically incorrect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:07 AM
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Big Ed was particularly awful. Lied about his height and so many other things, and yet knowing that he's entirely repulsive he has the audacity to say "women in California laser their legs"....my dude, those women are most certainly not lasering their legs for men like you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 02:22 PM
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HELL YEAH. I'm sick of normies telling me I'm "old fashioned" or "possessive" or "toxic". It 1000000000% is cheating and always will be!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 08:13 AM
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One of my friends had sexual relationships quite early on. Now she's married and trying for a baby, but has HPV which according to her doctors is a source of some trouble. Be super careful. Men leave you with disgusting little 'gifts' that mark you for life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 08:33 PM
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yep. a man's only involvement is ejaculation. all fun, none of the hard work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 09:11 PM
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Same. Considering becoming a single mother by choice through IVF/getting an anonymous sperm donor or something when I'm a bit older, cause I really want to have kid(s) but I don't trust any human male enough to be a good husband and parent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 09:10 PM
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Congratulations!!! 💖💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 06:49 PM
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exactly my thoughts!! please say sike..........
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 11:19 PM
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i get teh SAAAADS when someone tells me why I'm not being a good boyfriend!!!! i'm a SENSITIVE guy y'know!!! 🥺🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 06:52 PM
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Woah. That is such a perfect analogy for human relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 06:05 PM
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HER house should go to HER child. Gosh what an NVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 04:20 AM
7

re: jewelry, don't buy diamonds and stuff. Buy gold - I mean REAL gold, 22kt, not the 14kt stuff sold in North America
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 06:33 AM
2

You need to read the whole chart. Personally I avoid: A full 5th house, 12th house Venus, Air moons, other Pisces moons, Sag/Aries Venuses, 12th house Mars, Gemini sun and mars, Sag mars and mercury, Virgo sun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 02:32 PM
2

Oh my gosh YES. I love working out but I hate being surrounded by men. This is why I let my membership expire in March. Most dudes didn't really pay attention but a few dudes (especially older ones yuck) would literally come over to my general area when I did hip thrusts... like they weren't even trying to be covert about it. Let's not even talk about squats. Ughhhh I want to find a women's-only gym but there are none nearby
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 05:32 AM
6

Not unless that man is your younger brother or son. Standard etiquette dictates that the person who invites is the one who pays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 02:37 AM
43

Why do you want to stay with someone who treats you like dirt? You're worth far more than his scraps. Stop accepting (and therefore PROMOTING) poor treatment! Dump his ass. Block and delete. Don't send him paragraphs and don't explain why you're breaking up with him. I had an argument with an ex and despite me not talking to him for a day, the next day was Valentine's, and you bet he blew up my phone and came to meet me with flowers and a bar of chocolate (we were just 19-20 at the time). THERE …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 02:34 AM
40

He told me he needed to have sex first to check sexual compatibility LMAO what sexual compatibility? The male orgasm is freaking guaranteed as long as there's a participant with a moist cavity. He's telling you he has weird fetishes and is likely pornsick. If lack of sex really was a problem, he would only need to ask you about your libido, and as long as both of you had similar drives, there would be no need for any "cOmPaTiBiLiTy TeStInG" on his part. If anything, it's women that need to deter…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 02:29 AM
112

I think we should start calling LibFems 'feMANists' because that's really who they're catering to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 01:53 PM
1

Noooo! We don't date potential. Please read the Handbook :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 12:10 PM
6

It's a reference to 'Why Men Love Bitches'. I was shocked at first when I read that title, but Sherry Argov explains it as such: Babe In Total Control of Herself. (WMLB is a GREAT book and what made me FDS when this sub didn't exist)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 06:05 AM
235

This is why I'm done with shy nerdy introverted types. It's also not a woman's job to build up a man's confidence and self-esteem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 02:13 PM
125

Stealthing is sexual assault and I sure hope she presses charges if he ever does something like that. Pregnancy is no joke; women put their health and welfare on the line to give birth to the next generation. Being tricked into that is cruelty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 02:10 PM
4

It just goes to show how women have been conditioned/brainwashed since birth to put others first. It's SO difficult for most women to put themselves first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 12:58 PM
69

ABSOLUTELY NOT. You did the right thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 09:43 PM
64

- he literally ONLY talks about himself. RED FLAG. A man who isn't interested in what you're upto and just loves to hear himself talk is not long-term material. ​ - he said "I love you" after one week. Love bombing. ​ - he hardly texts or calls me I would personally find this unacceptable ​ - after a few weeks of dating he still had Tinder on his phone . I called him on it and he sheepishly denied and changed the subject. But then the next day he came clean and said he deleted it He was only sor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 09:20 PM
80

It starts in the family, usually. Mums/grandmums/aunts etc are huuuuuuuge pickmes, desperate to get the girls married off asap because of the way Indian society thinks of unmarried women (and in general how unsafe the country is for women - they think women need someone to protect them, and any man is better than no man, in their view)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 06:50 PM
12

Sure you can DM me :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 10:22 AM
35

> If you are indian woman living in india you are better off single. EXACTLY. I've known this since I was 13! I have zerooooooooo interest in these m*les and I out-earn 95% of them. Can't wait until digital nomad visas become a thing and I can live in a safe and peaceful country.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 07:45 AM
3

Omg, Baggage Reclaim was a gift from the heavens for me when I broke up with my first boyfriend many years ago and read about the no contact rule! LOVE that website
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 09:29 AM
4

Shallon Lester said something along the lines of how "intentions aren't actions", and that the only, THE ONLY THING YOU TRUST, should be their actions, despite what the other party may say, think, promise or believe (this goes for friends as well tbh)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 09:24 AM
25

A man can decide to leave you at any time. Your educational qualifications and work experience will always have value and keep you warm and fed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 05:18 PM
2

Omg I came here to say this. EVERY single experience (platonic, friendly or romantic) I have had with a Virgo sun male has been AWFUL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 06:10 AM
158

Yes, they have no shame making someone a placeholder and leading her on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 06:56 AM
22

Yesssss! I am religious, but I see religious men as a big walking red flag. 9/10 interactions with these "Christian" men have been awful. There's always something terribly wrong with them, either they're into some submissive kink, or seem abusive, or are manipulative, or are the types who slept around and had their fun at the expense of other women and now want to be the "good guy" and settle down, or have strange views of women and women's "roles", or are simply lip-service Christians, or some …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 06:53 AM
468

Funny how, to him, wasting a woman's time is just "God's timing" and a "plot twist".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 06:38 AM
4

LMAOOOOOOOO omg I literally just said this to a friend the other day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:44 AM
16

He even dared to say ”Plus I don't really see what we're having this combo, as we're not having sex anytime soon. Wow. "This doesn't benefit ME, so I don't see why you're doing it". Men really do just see women as accessories and servants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 02:26 PM
8

Now this is a Queen post. Great analogy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 02:17 PM
4

It's okay. Walk away with your head held high <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 02:06 PM
2

Mary from Downton Abbey
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 01:36 PM
8

Men are supposed to sacrifice themselves for their wives just as Christ did for people, so that kind of covers it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 07:22 AM
1

Yes, men ALREADY see women as sex-dispensing objects and we get bombarded with propositions without doing anything, but when we put ourselves out there on an app that's infamous for promoting casual encounters...well what can one realistically expect?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 07:27 AM
19

Tinder is and has been marketed as a place to find casual sex partners, aka free prostitution. Why any high caliber woman, who cares about her mental and physical welfare, would think she would find a relationship or an HVM on that smarmy platform, designed mainly by and for men to find casual partners with ease, is beyond me. By having a profile there one essentially screams "I hand out free sex to losers who can't afford a prostitute's fee, and I do not value myself". You deserve better than a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 03:15 AM
9

This one dude I was chatting with cleared his throat or something (y'know it was this weird sound, not a cough, something else) in a voice message. I'd never been more disgusted and lost any attraction I had towards him. Yuckkkk!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 08:56 PM
2

Thank you!!! It wouldn't be an understatement to say that FDS rescued me. My new life is a direct result of this forum existing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 06:59 PM
3

How dare women support each other instead of attacking and competing against each other!!! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 06:45 PM
2

Exactly, too often we just can't see a situation for what it really is. But when you have hundreds of other women telling you the truth there is no way to ignore it or remain confused!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 06:28 PM
3

Saaaame I was such a terrible pickme that it's still causing me to cringe at myself LMAO. It was such a slap in the face to read all this info, but like, it was NECESSARY!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 06:27 PM
2

Isn't it amazing?! Our community is lovely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 06:26 PM
2

Thank you!! <3 Man, life would have been awful if I had not discovered this sub on that fateful November day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 06:26 PM
3

Exactly. This community is SO necessary!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 06:25 PM
2

Yesss! There is so much more confidence in one's choices now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 06:25 PM
3

Omg I totally feel you on that. My parents had the SAME idea of only moving out when you marry a man. Yikes! Yes, it's been the same here as well. Mum now gushes about how her daughter is all independent and successful, haha. Maybe this will end up being the best thing for the movement. I mean with a website we can have a wider reach, do ads, bring in more eyeballs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 06:25 PM
1

At first it was just "ahh I have boy problems and I need support and advice" but now it's improving our lives in all ways!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 06:23 PM
3

Thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 06:22 PM
5

Exactly, it is SO important to have this community of women uplifting each other. I mean, I had already read a bunch of books from the recommended reading list, but I had no one to come to with my problems, for advice, for support...and they want to take this away? Ugh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 06:22 PM
2

Right?! The change in yourself and in others is amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 06:20 PM
33

Why give men what they want for free? Do you really want men masturbating to your photographs? Or making deepfakes (that will ruin your image/reputation/career) with them? Most men are dangerous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 06:29 AM
5

yes :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 03:36 AM
2

It's a good idea!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 07:18 PM
21

It does look great. With a website we'll be able to reach more women too, hopefully!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 08:38 AM
94

What the hell?! What awful news to wake up to. The women of FDS LITERALLY changed my life (not even kidding). I really need this community 😭 Asked for my code, will be contributing to the forum regularly! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 08:37 AM
10

If it works out, it'd be beneficial for all of us. I'll test it and post in this sub and FemaleLevelUpStrategy as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 03:08 AM
10

I wrote it out and modified some things, I'll try and implement it with the next potential client, let's see :O
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 01:59 AM
14

I just had the wildest idea. I'm sorry, it's like 2am and my mind only works at night, but like, what if this system could be somehow implemented in sales?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 07:57 PM
96

This is an absolute Queen post and we need more of THIS kinda stuff on here!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 02:53 AM
10

I'm on board. We need to get started on this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 12:25 PM
10

LMAO I love this. I'm actually getting better matches now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 12:20 PM
2

thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 01:01 PM
2

What does the (small-sized) text say?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 12:36 PM
5

I'm gonna agree with /u/socalqueenofcheese. Ideally you would know a good bit about a man before this Skype chat. You would also know whether this man falls into 'LTR material' or 'freebie material'. Just like men say there are women you have sex with and then there are women who you wife up, there are men who you use for their money/resources and then there are men who could be husband material. You treat the two differently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 05:05 AM
41

I'm really getting skeeved out at how men behave with women who have had their kids. If a man wants children from me he is going to need to be involved 150% to my 100%.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 03:40 AM
12

Whenever I manage to find the time, but it's normally 12-ish hours if the messages are longer than 80-100 words (i.e. not a light convo/small talk). Put yourself first. Tend to your work, hobbies, etc first, men later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 02:09 PM
151

That's not sex...this poor woman :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 02:06 PM
1

/r/relationships is that way, I think you're on the wrong sub
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:45 PM
2

Communicating your needs and being direct is never low value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 06:17 PM
57

If a man ever dares to disrespect me, he's never hearing from me ever again. Doesn't matter if he's a friend, boyfriend or husband. There are some lines you never cross, and disrespect is one of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 05:09 PM
3

"The only reason you would want to attack him is because you were hurt." Exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 03:38 PM
21

Why would you regret it? He just wanted free sex. Read the Handbook. Edit: Damn, y'all. Read her post history. Pickme supreme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 01:14 PM
49

Just remember that even the nicest man can treat you with utter disregard once he knows he has you. No Nigel is special. It makes no sense to treat a man nicely, that doesn't cause them to love and desire a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 07:23 AM
75

A man has to cater to you; YOU are the table, you are the prize. Dump him if he doesn't care about pleasing you and making you happy, there's tons of men out there who would give you what you want (sexually) without you having to beg for it. With men, always make it known that you could next them at any given time. They should be on tenterhooks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 07:21 AM
16

I think it might have to do with coming across as more 'soft'/feminine than 'hard'/masculine. Let me give an example. This dude asked me if we could talk on the phone, I agreed, he asked me for a time, I gave him one. He saw my text but didn't reply. Turns out he forgot and he profusely apologised the next day and explained why (to be fair there were time zone issues). But I read his texts and did not reply. He sensed I wasn't happy. When I finally did message him, I told him his behaviour upset…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 07:14 AM
61

It's fine, don't be so hard on yourself. You've taken out the trash and are free for a better man. I'm proud of you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 08:27 PM
1

She thinks depending on a man and playing a supporting character in her own life is a good idea 🤡🤡🤡 please may I have a crumb of traddie brownie points
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 06:31 PM
10

Yo, can we not create a website? Make it based in Russia or something. We really need to do something about the scrotefluenza.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 05:24 AM
24

HELL YEAH!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 08:56 AM
10

Nope nope nope. Run for the hills. He's not just low value, he's going to turn out to be a NEGATIVE value man who sucks the life out of you and ruins your life in ways you can't even begin to imagine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 01:17 AM
14

Yes! I personally don't want a large wedding either; it seems like such a waste of money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 02:53 PM
47

Right?! Even $1000 seems super low to me considering a man wants me to be his wife for the rest of our lives, and bear, birth and bring up children for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 01:26 PM
44

Lord, give me the confidence of a mediocre man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 12:35 PM
34

IKR??? I'm so disgusted wtf how is this acceptable?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 04:08 PM
25

Holy crap in which country do you live? How is showing porn to children acceptable and encouraged?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 04:08 PM
25

That was years ago, and I was the one who broke up with him, so no, I don't even think about him really, and no, my research wasn't based off Reddit. But yes, I'd like to help other women avoid such a situation -- after all, that's what FDS is about, building up other women and warning them of danger. FDS is not about female submission and subjugation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 11:23 PM
31

Yawn. Go ahead, call me racist as well while you're at it; throw every name at me, idc. When I was 18, I dated a Muslim who pretended to be very into Christianity; we agreed on so many things such as no premarital sex, etc. I thought my Nigel was diiiiffereeeent, lol. It lasted for four months before he inevitably dropped the conversion bomb, and I blew up on him, after which he backtracked and said I would not need to convert. I then began to research extensively, after which I dumped him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 11:14 PM
6

Read the Handbook instead of making low effort posts, PLEASE. We just had a similar post last week, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 05:57 PM
77

Any guy who does or can do the following: asks you to repay your mahr if you were to divorce him (thereby financially controlling + crippling you). (Sharia law) takes your kids away from you (Sharia law) follows a system which explicitly allows him to beat any and all of his four wives if they disobey him (Sharia law) believes he deserves 72 virgins for his sexual pleasure in heaven (This is in the Koran) believes that a wife owes him sex on demand (This is in the Koran) believes in a system tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 05:50 PM
9

True. Men would not have achieved the successes they have historically had were it not for their wives slaving away in the background. That's where the adage 'Behind every successful man is a woman" comes from!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 12:28 PM
55

Laugh at his face, dump his ass, and let him try. Make sure to block him so he can't come crawling back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 07:10 AM
12

Not surprising, I saw this growing up. Indian m***s are utter and absolute crap, avoid at all costs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 07:05 AM
5

Seriously! Good FDS advice is also being downvoted at times; I noticed this over the past three or so weeks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 03:57 PM
14

That's prostitution and porn; it's something FDS is against. No HVW should sell her sexuality or perform for men's pleasure. Please read the Handbook!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 03:47 PM
7

We're not spending time complaining. We're making women aware of the very real dangers associated with such men. A man can ruin a woman's life in a way that a woman couldn't even dream of doing. A lot of women have been burnt and want to vent and get support so they can recover. "I wished him well...I believed he deserved a good life" This is not a sub for sympathising with men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 11:30 PM
3

What's this Pickme advice doing on FDS smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 08:22 PM
4

DO NOT put up pictures of yourself on social media unless you're at peace with the idea that men can and will use them to make deepfakes at worst, and masturbate to them at best. My FB is on lockdown and only my closest friends can see my pictures; I do not keep a profile picture of myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 03:28 PM
21

You have the right to expect a decent man who can provide for you, but please DON'T depend on a man to take care of you. Anything could go wrong (and when a man has full control it almost always does). You should always have the ability to take care of yourself. This has nothing to do with age, even if you were 20 I'd say the same thing. As everyone else has suggested, you need to level up in your own life, education, career, hobbies, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 03:40 AM
9

Go find the man who truly wants to be with you and is passionate about being in your life. Someone who wants you isn't going to give you mixed signals, and STOP making excuses for men - they would NEVER do that for a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 10:32 AM
28

Women ARE the table, don't forget it. Yes, while I am slightly above my goal weight, I still date, and am still desired by men (to be fair I don't look 'fat' so this might be it). I don't think weight is an issue unless one is obese or something. If homeless, bald, debt-ridden, uneducated, abusive, poor, felony-ridden, drug-addicted, porn-addicted, balding men can date and look for love, why can't you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 10:27 AM
2

Disgusting, but not surprising, unfortunately. And this is why I have no pictures on social media and blur my pics on OLD sites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 07:51 PM
3

YES!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 07:51 PM
15

Stole the words right outta my mouth, Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:43 AM
6

Lol, exactly. Men of other races and cultures are worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 03:03 AM
16

When a dude likes you, he will make it obvious, and if he is serious in his intentions you will not have to guess how he feels. YOU should dump a guy that strings you (and multiple other women) along if it's been over a couple weeks and you've had the time to thoroughly know one another and he still wants to date others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 05:29 PM
19

Ah, the classic neg. Hope you blocked & deleted this loser without an explanation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 06:17 AM
10

This is exactly why I'm afraid of the consequences of the virus...and probably also why men don't care at all, because, as you said - if law and order breaks down, they're free to display their true nature with no repercussions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 02:12 AM
15

60-40 is too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 09:45 PM
27

Honey I get older; they stay the same age. YES! I'm thinking of getting myself a zoomer guy when I'm older, old guys/30+ guys are such a bore lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 03:36 AM
7

Great points. They mostly ARE actual rapists, which is why all they can do is cry online about "false" rape accusations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 04:58 PM
67

This is why I have no sympathy for such men (well, men in general, but these, even more so)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 10:42 AM
8

She's just trying to make excuses for him, unfortunately :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 05:02 PM
3

Lmao! But at least weasels are cute and won't ruin your life 😛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 06:14 AM
5

"Describe your behavior in the month of March, 2020" should be a REQUIRED question on all dating apps in the future if we survive this pandemic. 100% YES. Omg, I am so sorry you have to deal with this stress. I wonder why they have to be so stubborn? 🤦‍♀️ I mean, being young and without any pre-existing conditions, he probably isn't concerned about him since he'll bounce back even if he gets it, but doesn't he realise it would easily spread it to others who are vulnerable and would literally die…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 08:43 PM
1

Right? I mean, even if I get the virus I won't even know until 6-11 days have passed, and until then, I'd constantly be spreading the virus around to other people, who would also spread it to others, and all of this will eventually cause some deaths. We all have a responsibility to do what we can to avoid catching and inadvertently spreading it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 07:24 PM
6

EXACTLY! I completely get it 'cause I have rabbits, and they also need a special diet. I can't just feed them rice and pulses, they'll die if they eat that for extended periods of time. I am trying to source hay in bulk and I found commercial feed as well. They are the only reason I was making daily trips outside, putting my family in danger (I live in an extremely densely populated city and we are not testing for community transmission yet, but it's almost a guarantee it's happening). Men like …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 06:32 PM
26

Nope. Hard next. Block and delete these NVM who see women as a warm body for them to masturbate into.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 11:10 AM
9

I agree, even if a male displays HV traits, he cannot be trusted 100% and you always need to watch out for your best interests.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 03:30 PM
57

Exactly. This isn't even the hundredth time we've seen a post like this. THIS BEHAVIOUR IS COMMON!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 04:01 AM
4

Well, Tinder is a hook-up app. It's literally a free prostitute service for men. Don't expect gold from a sewer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 09:10 AM
11

It sucks that you can't just shower them with love and attention like you really want to when you're in love or when you like someone, but this really is the truth. Treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 04:46 AM
3

Sun signs aren't accurate enough for anything meaningful - you need to see the whole chart ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 05:18 PM
11

Do whatever you can to kick him off everything. He deserves nothing. Do not feel a shred of sympathy for him, if the tables were turned, he would definitely screw up your life and if you had kids together, he would have no shame in even evading child support.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 04:34 PM
2

the real life man will see that you want him to pay the bill and he will immediately think you're a golddigger and be very much glad and be on his way. LOL this has literally never happened in my experience. Also, gold-digger? Over what, a $50 date? Really, that's gold?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/20 04:06 AM
53

I'm not like those materialistic and vain gold diggers! I'm a cool girl 🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 07:05 PM
75

This. Absolutely do it, and honestly? Report it to the cops. He needs to learn how to behave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:33 PM
5

lol but you weren't wrong tho :P
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 07:45 PM
5

Exactly, you hit the nail right on the head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:23 PM
16

If you don't learn to speak up, you're going to be constantly disappointed your whole marriage, and your husband won't even have a clue. THIS is very important. An important part of FDS is not tolerating anything that you do not like. Whether he will like your reaction or not is not something we are, or you should be, concerned with. Losing a man is not something we worry about; we cut him out before that has a chance to happen, if he does not make us happy. Your well-being is and should always …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 03:04 PM
7

Not at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 05:52 AM
32

Men over 30 look so terrible that I don't understand how they expect women their own age to be attracted to them, let alone much younger women. Sure, 60-year-old men can and do get with women half their ages, but they're the top 1% of men, not McDonald's burger flippers making minimum wage. 30 is relatively young when considering the average human lifespan but most of these 30+ year old dudes look like they've had a rough life: deep lines across their foreheads, sunken cheeks, scarred skin, and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 03:51 AM
12

I fully agree. If a man has no savings, that's a huuuuuge red flag and completely unacceptable (depending on age, of course). More often than not, there is a huge risk that the financial responsibility of planning and paying for things falls squarely on your shoulders in such a relationship/marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 03:23 AM
3

South East Asia
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 09:04 PM
15

Yes, having no female friends is a red flag, but super close ones, that kind of makes me uncomfortable if he has emotional intimacy with other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:38 PM
7

Likes anime/manga etc Has significant debt Is shorter than 5'7" Does not have a high income potential Expects me to do all the chores Dislikes/cannot deal with dogs (dogs are needy) and cats (cats need to be SERVED) Uses porn Uses drugs / used drugs in the past Drinks alcohol frequently Does not show an active interest in things that matter to me Shows any signs of being into TRP etc Has a criminal record Had has many relationships Shows any sign of interest in polygamy Has close female friends …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:07 PM
19

Oh, my God, it's even worse with all the pictures of kids! Children ought to be protected especially since we KNOW there are rings of pedophiles looking for information about where and how to abduct children and yet most parents behave in such a clueless manner. Ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:50 PM
2

Precisely. Allowing some loser to pass his genes on through you is not just bad for you, but terrible for the poor child, who never asked for any of it, as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:41 PM
79

This is one of my biggest fears. This is why I don't put out images or videos of myself anywhere anymore, and even my Facebook account doesn't have a display picture of me; only my closest friends can see pictures of me. Male degeneracy knows no bounds. I used to be so dumb, I'd have most things on public, and of course, there were/are e-stalkers. Next thing you know he's going to try and make deepfakes of these women :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:22 PM
19

Absolutely NOT. The man has to come to you, not the other way around. If he insists, let him pay for your travel. Don't make excuses for him. If a man wants you, he's coming to see YOU, not your city, and even if it is a boring place, he will come to you if he is truly interested in you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:19 PM
7

YES! Exactly this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:33 AM
111

Yes, I agree. It weeds out men who are no good for you ASAP! Of course, popular advice always runs contrary to women's best interests. If more women talked about these things, then how could men scam them into being forever girlfriends and string them along? Once a woman falls in love, she will make every excuse possible for a man, because we never truly want to see the negatives and tend to be fairly optimistic about people in general...and they prey on this. Make her fall in love with you and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 08:29 PM
12

they prefer asian because more feminine Because, y'know, western women are fEmInAzIs and stuff, and they want a SuBmIsSiVe woman aka someone they can fool for years, possibly even decades
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:51 PM
24

Decades of brainwashing from mass media, most likely :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 04:02 PM
6

Yes, that's 100% the right thing to do. Letting him know he has or had the power to influence your feelings, even if those feelings are anger and hatred, will only give him pleasure. He will not change, so it would have been a fruitless endeavour. Stay strong, I know how anger makes us want closure and how you really get this burning desire to confront the scrote, but you'll feel better soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 03:57 PM
1

LOLL exactly, I never really researched it, but like, it's being pushed everywhere that you can just literally change your gender and I never bothered to read up too much cause that trans stuff honestly infuriates me. Yes, I'm subbed to /r/GenderCritical as well, I love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 09:38 AM
4

I think consent given under a false pretext should definitely not be considered willful consent. It's your body that you're giving access to, it's a very serious thing and pregnancies and STDs carry serious risks for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 06:47 AM
4

just wanted a wife for the sake of society. Phew, bullet dodged! Marriage ought to be about love and loyalty. Wtf is this JuSt GeT mArRiEd FoR ThE sAkE oF SoCiEtY crap that is so common in our country.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 06:25 AM
3

Congratulations! 💖 You just threw dead weight off your shoulders :) Definitely post here whenever you feel weak or doubtful about anything, we're all rooting for each other here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 06:08 AM
6

Kick him out. At best, he's likely using you for free emotional labour and therapy cos he can't afford an actual therapist. At worst, he wants to scam you into marriage and kids so he can have biological kids of his own, and will ruin 15-30 years of your life for it with zero, ZERO remorse. I literally told this one dude just that: it's great that you can deal with workplace stress by talking about it. It's sad that society doesn't place a premium on mental health, but I encourage you to book a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:08 AM
19

He's exposing his wife to STDs. This ought to be a punishable crime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 02:39 AM
12

Exactly. Any man who goes on and on about how he wants a submissive female is someone you need to next asap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 02:27 AM
101

Cool girls don't visit FDS ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 02:26 AM
24

Yes...also, if he critiques his mom frequently, please next him asap, even if he is not outright insulting or attacking her. Of course, sure, it's possible that he might've truly had a bad parent, but normal people don't go around blabbing about their family issues until they've known someone very, very well and consider them a close friend, which normally takes years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 02:15 AM
14

Because snobbish women won't sleep with trash men!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 02:13 AM
3

Thank you <3 It was a worthwhile and important experience in many ways. Be very wary around this guy. Don't develop any feelings. If possible just block and delete, but I know it can take time before we can muster the strength to do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 02:10 AM
9

So I think I was biologically incorrect and it's literally impossible for this kind of surgery to exist :P But it's exactly what you said - that's the point, right? Men ought to drop the whole mUh EqUaLiTy thing and more women need to realise their own worth instead of putting up with the 50-50 stupidity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 02:05 AM
2

I legitimately didn't know :p Wasn't there like an article a couple years ago about a man giving birth or something?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 02:01 AM
189

Men say that out of jealousy and rage, because they know most of them are disposable and inherently worthless; dick is abundant and low-value by default.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 09:23 PM
12

Exactly, it's rape. I don't understand why such men aren't jailed and why these women are being deluded by society into letting it go. No, make him pay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 09:21 PM
6

I completely understand. I was right where you are. We're all here to learn and level up. See this: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/elrq3a/date_report_feeling_confused_need_advice_on_what/ The final straw was when I realised that this dude was talking marriage and children "ASAP" in his messages, telling me I'd make the perfect mother for his children, blah blah he's never known such an amazing woman with whom he had so much in common with and stuff but he was severely und…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 09:18 PM
14

I remember watching this Shallon Lester video where she said something like "what we permit, we promote" and it got seared into my mind and yanked me out of any pickme traits I might still have had LMAO it was so eye-opening
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 09:11 PM
9

Nooooo no no no omg this is bad. A month and a half ago I got this advice from FDS about a similar-ish situation: RUN, don't walk. Block and delete, he's likely up to no good. I did not listen and dragged the situation on for two more weeks. I should have listened and cut him off earlier! Your time is precious, do not waste it on some dude who thinks he is a suave manipulator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 09:08 PM
1

Yes, I think there should be an official FDS YouTube channel for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 08:58 PM
11

If it's really early, he's probably love bombing, be wary! If it has already been a handful of months since you started dating each other, then I wouldn't see it as such a red flag. Normally, when they say things like this, they are trying to create a false sense of intimacy with you. Saying ANYTHING costs a man NOTHING, so they do it without even thinking, really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 08:56 PM
13

OLD is like wading through a pool of STD-infested sludge these days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 08:55 PM
21

I used to go chasing after and make excuses for them. If only I matched their level of low effort, then I would have dumped them much sooner. This! I think back to my pickme days and it annoys me to think of all the heartache I could have avoided and time I could have prevented from being wasted by just doing this simple thing. KickHimOut2020
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 08:53 PM
12

Before I discovered FDS I would've been making excuses for him and I'd even have confronted him with a long essay LOL. Exactly. Even if you are undecided about whether we can be in a relationship, basic politeness is LITERALLY THE BARE MINIMUM, even for acquaintances. I actually posted about this dude way back in late December. He later reached out to me and then we had our first video convo and I made it clear that low effort and a lack of communication leads me to lose all interest, and I'm co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 08:50 PM
18

How could you be so selfish? A man has NEEDS, you know?!?!?! You freaking feminists are going to end up alone and lonely while the men end up being successful CEOs with models by their side when they are 40 and have just hit their pEaK, and you'll regret not being nicer to him! Just you wait!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 07:01 PM
32

b-b-but MuH pEnIs ReAsOnS!!11111 mEn DeSeRvE SeX!!!1111 EvEn If It EnDaNgErS a WoMaN's LiFe!!!111
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:58 PM
12

Yes. Also add this to the list to REALLY make things EqUaL: The man must get gender reassignment (top/bottom + internal organs) surgery, get pregnant, then give birth to and breastfeed half of all the children you as a couple plan to have, THEN it's REALLY EQUAL!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:56 PM
56

Guy I have been talking to for the past 3 months completely ignored the fact that we had scheduled a (normal audio) call today and simply sent text messages. I sent a couple messages back and forth but then did not reply to his text once it had been 20 minutes and he did not call. ​ He's never hearing back from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:52 PM
3

I know it's difficult but you need to understand that companionship and attention are like drugs. You're facing withdrawal symptoms at the moment, and if you take a hit, you'll feel nice BUT ONLY FOR A SHORT TIME...and then you're back to square one. De-addiction takes time, but in a couple weeks you won't even be thinking of him. Do not keep in touch with him at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:47 PM
28

Exactly! Many men on the other hand find it arousing when a woman cries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:18 PM
22

Haemorrhoids, fistulas, piles, fissures...not worth it sis. You deserve better than being degraded. Sex is an act of love and mutual pleasure, not harm and hatred.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 01:37 PM
113

Women have been trained since birth to try to please others even if it comes at a detriment to their well-being. Ask yourself, how many boyfriends or husbands would do something that brings THEM discomfort to put a smile on a woman's face? They won't even wish women for their birthdays or on Valentine's day but expect a woman to do EVERYTHING.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 12:21 PM
45

She should just block and delete him. When a man screws up, it's because he does not care about you or is not that interested in you. Nothing she says or does will change his behaviour at this point, and he will simply learn from this experience so that he can scam other women into giving him free sex. When a man is interested in you, he's going to make it hella obvious, because he wants to impress you and he wants to take up your time so you can't spend it with another man. NEVER GIVE MEN SECON…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 07:46 AM
7

Why are you raising his kids? He's using you! Expend your precious time, energy and money elsewhere. Your child is your only responsibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 03:47 AM
9

DING DING DING!!! Women literally put their lives on the line every single time they partake in sexual intercourse. Do most men even REALISE this? Absolutely not! Your message is pretty much literally what I told a dumb scrote last month when he expected me to not only marry him but also be a working woman after having children. LMAO!!! Why would I need a man then? I can just go to a sperm bank if I wanted kids that badly, at least I can pick the characteristics I want my kids to inherit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:55 PM
12

Exactly. The fact that women are being "encouraged" to work until they give birth, and get back to work as soon as they're done giving birth is not proof of equality or egalitarian attitudes at all...it's just proof that the world has very little empathy for women. It's literally a man's job to provide. If he is a leech, he's worthless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:35 PM
10

100% you deserve better. Take the trash out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:06 AM
39

FDS is about more than just withholding sex and emotional investment until commitment. It's a mindset you continue for a lifetime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 09:16 PM
9

Exactly...he seems manipulative AF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 06:22 PM
8

Exactly. This guy has received extremely little criticism, and none of it is even 1/100th as vitriolic as a woman would've received if she posted what I did. What's worse is that one's appearance is harder to control than one's finances. He is literally judging her for something she can't make major changes to, but if the hypothetical woman even did post something like this, it's well within the hypothetical man's reach to fix it with some time and hard work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 11:16 AM
27

Gee, I wonder how people would respond if a woman said this: This happened three days ago, I'm not going to bore you all with the details but long story short my boyfriend lost all of his savings and investments after he was fired from his job, and he's been couchsurfing since then. I've visited him when he crashed at a friend's house and I tried comforting him but I got too uncomfortable looking at him in his disheveled manner. I regret this now, but in the moment I thought it would be a good i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 05:29 AM
13

This is literally the same thing that I said to a friend a few days ago! If I could cut out that part of my brain that craved companionship, desire, love, and children, I definitely would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 07:48 AM
5

Seriously! I doubt it costs more than $100 (and that's a generous estimate). Even if he made minimum wage he could still save up $20 a month - that's $240 a year, and 240x9 = $2160, with which he could've EASILY gotten her something decent!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 07:30 PM
94

Imagine having to put up with a man for nine years just to get that ugly, discolored, ill-fitting piece of trash. I can buy myself something much better and not waste a decade of my youth. Lmao!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 03:23 AM
1

Yeah, I agree. I've had the same experience so far. It's disappointing, but my reasons are spiritual, so it's...okay...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 05:30 PM
2

That's 100% true. I have an itch I haven't addressed - my dissatisfaction with my location. I've typed out my letters and I'm going to send them to immigration lawyers today and get the process started so I can be where I want to be and live the life I want to live instead of expecting it to happen from someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 02:56 AM
2

There were red flags which I ignored but I finally cut off contact with him today
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 09:04 PM
19

No, I want children and men can't get pregnant, give birth and breastfeed - that responsibility falls on women, so he's gotta be able to provide in other ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:49 PM
24

If you use OLD, especially OkCupid, make a fake profile and snoop on his answers, and if he has any strange fetishes, well, you know what you're dealing with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:38 PM
8

Oh phew! :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 06:19 PM
40

Just be careful that he isn't intending to live off you once you get that amazing career.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 04:00 PM
3

Annual general meetings of companies that you hold stock in. I've been thinking about buying small amounts of stocks of very high-value companies so I can go to the AGMs. Could be a good place to meet HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 06:35 PM
4

Crap. "I want you to know I'm thinking of you" is exactly what this one dude told me. I found it sweet that he started wishing me every day wtf :/ It looks like I got conned ugh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 05:06 PM
1

I'm definitely inexperienced since I've only had two relationships of which one was long-distance and we never met and the other lasted only a few months. To be fair his height was only off by an inch and we video chatted so I never thought he was average or anything anyway, just wasn't expecting a beer gut LOL. You're right in that he possibly has other women lined up even though he tells me otherwise. He's definitely a chameleon and I have to wonder what he is gaining out of pursuing me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 04:49 PM
12

YES YES YES. I write poetry. It's amazing, you're creating art out of your feelings, and even if things go south with your dude...you've created some nice art!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 09:29 AM
-1

But there is literally zero possibility that would happen since we've only met once and he's leaving Saturday. I would never sleep with him pre-maritally no matter how emotional I feel since I feel very strongly about that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 05:58 PM
2

I'm 25 :P LOL when I was 19 I was in a situationship with a 36 year old. Talk about red flags and stupid decisions! I thought it was so cool he was interested in me and that he would take care of me for the rest of my life HAHAHAHA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 05:30 PM
6

Well, I didn't explicitly tell him that, I've just alluded to it on my profile/in my Q&As, but you have a very valid point for sure. I was actually just hoping to find a man who was also like me :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 05:08 PM
7

Thank you. That's exactly what has been running through my mind. It's so disheartening that I thought he was not like the others. I get oneitis too easily so I was intent on following this subreddit's advice of keeping a rotation. Got at least 2 dudes I regularly talk to and even though I ignore them for days they still message me and even double text. One guy is coming to my city so I will probably go out with him. That one is super interested and will quadruple and quintuple text me but I have…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 10:54 AM
2

Thank you. A resounding no is exactly what I needed to calm my fears and stop the self-doubt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 09:38 AM
9

Yes, I've realised I'm probably making some excuses for him. I had a habit of doing this excessively in the past. You're right!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 09:38 AM
4

Thank you. I know, the same thing happened to my mom. My dad was an alcoholic, abusive loser who spent money on literal hookers instead of the family. So I ought to be really whip-smart after all my mom has been through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 09:30 AM
17

EXACTLY!!! Like um...you're out there meeting your parents, grandparents and siblings after such a long time...but you have the time to be online on this website? To be fair, the times he was online on OLD were the same times he was online on Skype. Damn, I am making excuses for him. A real man who isn't secretly gay would not even be deterred if you showed active disinterest. I feel slightly bad because he was doing the bare minimum and yet was leagues better than the men from my past. Anyway, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 09:20 AM
7

Baby rabies is wild. I want a bunch of kids and feel so terrible when I see my acquaintances/friends showing off their kids on FB and Instagram LOL. I want a few of my own to kiss and hold 😭😫 But I know I have to find someone who is worthy because you're right - kids CAN ruin people's lives and this is a mega-huge responsibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 09:13 AM
2

I make a pro-con list. Unfortunately for my codependent brain, with the dude I'm talking to currently, his pros waaay outweigh the cons and I'm falling hard :( Of course, I won't show my actual feelings to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 03:38 AM
9

Don't, you'll be showing your hand if you do. Just block him over text/OLD/email. If he really wants you, he'll call you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 10:41 AM
3

I'm sorry. Don't let it get to you, it's just a lesson in life and you are relatively young in the grand scheme of things. These people are really crappy!
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/19 10:44 AM
38

Don't let dudes sleep with you if you're not in a relationship with them and you won't feel so bad.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/19 04:25 AM
1

I'd never date a blue collar fella, just not my thing. I prefer brainy men even if they don't have the nicest bodies. With old age we all become wrinkly and saggy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/17 04:43 PM
3

Yeah, the middle ground of childless, middle-aged catladydom for OP.
/r/RedPillWives10/11/17 03:09 AM
4

Let him ruin his life, but don't let him ruin yours. Next. HARD next.
/r/RedPillWives10/11/17 02:04 AM
2

She means dude :-)
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/17 06:13 AM
2

very expensive 20% of his monthly salary lol no Anyway, men don't wear engagement rings, it's normal.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/17 06:12 AM
1

If any woman is still searching for a husband at 30, she will likely experience associated issues/difficulty of finding a suitable and preferable mate. There's also biology, fertility, and SMV issues for the woman versus a man at age 30. I'm not questioning this. I am already aware of this! This is why I'm telling OP to next this fellow. That guy isn't going to wife her up anytime soon. If she's RP aware she's likely wanting to be married reasonably early and this man is not the one that will ma…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/17 12:26 AM
1

The guy stringing his girlfriend along is in an LDR so he's not really getting that. They also break up often. My point stands - OP's love interest is not going to marry her - atleast not anytime soon - and she'll be single at 30 and still looking for a husband if she continues with this guy. This subreddit is primarily for guiding and helping women to achieve their LTR/marriage goals, not for men to achieve their plate/LTR/marriage goals.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/17 03:21 PM
1

I base that statement on my experience. I have male friends that are ~28 years old but are on the same mental level as I, a 22 year old am. Heck they're actually not on the same level since NONE of them are ready for marriage, and are not sure what they want in life, and one is actually just stringing his girlfriend along, who really wants to marry him. It's just how men are these days...I'd say women, too take some more time to become mature, but women have the biological clock to contend with,…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/17 07:58 AM
1

He's younger than you - next. Most 25 year old guys are not fully mature yet...marriage isn't in his mind going by what he's told you about love and relationships. Do you want to be broken up with near the age of 30 and still looking for a man to marry?
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/17 10:26 PM
1

I sure hope a man loves me enough to cheat on me and expose me to STDs! /s
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 07:50 PM
8

My mum lived through cheating and abuse - so don't assume I have no idea about things like this. Forgiveness is great but you don't need to risk your health and happiness just to look like a good Christian. You have a dangerously starry-eyed and rosy take on adultery.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 07:45 PM
7

Go read your last paragraph from that comment again. Adultery is grounds for divorce, even for Christians. He won't change. Also, keep in mind that sex for men is different. Women are far less likely to be able to truly have random sex without any kind of emotional element. For men, it is not only likely, but very common, for them to simply have sex and feel nothing for the woman. This is why many women allow themselves to become plates, and get strung along by players. The women are emotionally…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 07:19 PM
8

Oh, so it's okay for men to cheat just because they get stressed. Lovely! /s
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 12:01 PM
3

Do you really want to be a stepmom? Be second or third in his life? Always have the mother of his kid in your lives? Have his resources go to another woman's kid? Are you okay with that - are you okay with knowing that you'll never be the first mother of his first kids?
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 06:46 PM
1

You're 30, don't waste any more of your precious time on him. He's got kids and no career. You'll never be important to him and will always come third/fourth in his life. Next.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/17 10:36 PM
1

It's not just him agreeing to convert on paper. If you're a Muslim your kids will need to be raised Muslim, right? Make sure your boyfriend knows that because it's a make or break kind of a thing.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 08:08 PM
3

You're absolutely right! I'd never date/marry someone currently using medication. I'm not using any meds/have no conditions that would require using medication, so it's only fair to expect the same in a partner.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 09:36 PM
2

No, not that...it's just a feeling I get...that they're just too old for me to truly have a great marriage with, and of course, men over 40 have issues when it comes to making healthy children. It's not a huge risk but it's a risk nevertheless.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/17 09:56 AM
2

Not date, but talk/Skype quite a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/17 12:08 AM
4

Well I'm 22, and with 42-45+ men, it starts to feel weird...so I think, yeah, a ~20-22+ year gap is a bit much.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/17 11:08 PM
7

30+ (I'm 22) Great career/high income Conservative values (but centrist/middle of the road is fine, too) Good work ethic/drive More masculine than feminine (I'm very feminine, so I prefer masculine men but I'd rather have a high earner even if he's not very masculine/dominant) Not abusive/not addicted to drugs or alcohol/not inclined to having affairs. What do I bring to the table? My great homemaking skills, virginity, soft/pleasing voice and demeanor, encouraging and gentle nature, physical at…
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/17 10:17 PM
1

This is highly likely!
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/17 11:18 PM
1

He was a total bae until his fifties, now it's hard to call him attractive...he's grandfatherly!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 08:43 PM
2

I think it's...unladylike...I mean, yeah, it's a natural part of being a human being but I'd never talk about any of those things with my partner. When I marry I plan to continue doing so lol. I'm not even going to let my husband be in the same room as I am when I'm giving birth.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/17 07:27 PM
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Like, I'm not saying he's a bad guy or anything...just that, we HAVE to be practical and kind of ruthless when making decisions like this...marriage, while beautiful, isn't a bed of roses, but marrying an incompatible partner can make it an eternity in hell. Go for guys 30-35+ who are on a good career track if you want to stay home and raise your kids. Be cold when it comes to cutting off unsuitable mates, otherwise you'll be unhappy and eventually become a divorced woman or worse, a divorced si…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/17 11:41 PM
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You still don't understand. What I've been trying to say is that it's wrong to lead women on and tell them they've got plentyyy of time to look for some Mr. Perfect when they're close to 30 or past 30 already. It takes time to find a guy, date, get engaged, get married, start conceiving. By the time they're ready they'd be well over 33-35 and it's a bit late to start if you really want more than one healthy child.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 10:01 PM
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It's of course possible, yes! BUT, a lot of people think it's as easy as conceiving in your twenties, and thus we have an entire crop of women who are 35+ and say "why yes I'd like to have babies someday" who have been fooled into believing they could easily have many healthy children!
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 03:59 PM
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Exactly lol
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 10:43 AM
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What do you want out of a relationship? If it's marriage, kids and with the husband earning most of the money - next. A barista isn't going to provide much. Of course, he could be in university, which is a positive...well, that's up to you to find out, but don't waste your fertile years on duds.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 10:42 AM
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It's not, not anymore...the other day I had women tell me it's completely okay for women to have kids after they're 30...like having your first kid after 30!
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 10:35 AM
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I meant that women don't need to be established in their careers before marrying.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 03:31 PM
1

Femininity comes in many flavours, not just bubblegum! :-) That said, I loooooove colours in my outfits, but my favorite colour is black!
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 01:46 AM
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Yes, I agree, you need to be absolutely sure because there's no going back!
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/17 11:56 PM
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EXACTLY. The exception doesn't make the rule. Plus it's SO risky to have kids that late - both for the baby and for the mom! Why don't people realise this? It's like "oh I knew a woman who had kids at 35/40/45 so don't worry gal go conquer the world". Fertility has an expiry date, and the closer you get to the expiry date, the worse the product becomes.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/17 09:45 PM
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Women don't need to "have their s--- together" unless they're single mothers. All they have to do is find a man with the resources necessary to support a family. If you're gonna say kids born to older mothers are more emotionally stable than ones born to younger mums, please link the research. I'd rather have five healthy kids than one kid with Down's Syndrome or low functioning autism. You're pretty much saying that someone who has more than 1 or 2 kids can never raise them to be good human bei…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 03:54 AM
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Um...children are better off being born to women between 20-30...the risks for Down's Syndrome shoot up dramatically after 30. 30+ women also have a hard time conceiving, and IVF is expensive. Your mum was lucky; most women aren't.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 01:44 AM
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Only three things are intolerable in a partner/relationship: abuse, addictions, and affairs. Hard next.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/17 08:32 PM
2

Many years ago I was in a very short relationship with a man who told me that no other man would ever agree to be in a relationship with me because of my refusal to have sex before marriage and that he was my best and only choice for a boyfriend. I, too, thought exactly like you think...let me tell you, that's WRONG. I have met and talked to countless men who don't see it as a problem and many actually thought of it as a very good thing. But these men were all marriage minded. If you're only loo…
/r/RedPillWives17/04/17 08:38 PM
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Marriage should not be an emotional decision, it should be a clearly thought-out logical one. You know what else is an emotional decision? Having an affair. Falling in love with someone else and divorcing your spouse. Blowing up the family savings on something frivolous. Quitting your job when your family could use the money.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 01:32 PM
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Having an extensive checklist that details things like his level of education, his field(s) of work sounds silly, at the same time, having NO checklist is ridiculous. Listen - I'm not going to submit to/give myself to some aimless hobo! Of course I'd be afraid of that :P Are all 3.5 billion men in the world suitable for you? No way. You gotta cut out so many undesirables: the poor ones, homeless ones, married ones, gay ones, infertile ones, etc...not having a checklist is opening yourself up to …
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 01:28 PM
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I'm sad that I won't get to do some of the things she did with him, like having children together, shopping for a house together, Well, you knew what you were getting into when marrying a divorcee with kids, didn't you? I agree with /u/Kara_El.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/16 11:20 PM
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I don't believe in engaging in premarital sex so this problem is mostly non-existent, but even when married, my answer is no - and this would be very clearly detailed in the prenuptial agreement as well. This is a very good question - my best friend's mum got pregnant and her dad made her get an abortion although she was alright with having another child, he only wanted one :(
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/16 10:58 PM
2

I absolutely require a legal and religious union. I'd never cohabit with a man, or be with someone against marriage. In fact, the religious ceremony is even more important for me than the legal certificate, however, I would not marry a man who only wanted to be married religiously and not legally. I would also require a prenup to be signed. I used to think it was quite unromantic and showed a lack of trust in your partner, but I gave up thinking that way long ago. Of course, it's cold and unroma…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/16 05:09 AM
1

Ooooh wow! Time for a reality check hehe So before I start this list, I once watched this show...Millionaire Matchmaker or something...anyway it was this silly show but the matchmaker said something veryyyyy important to her clients - make a short list of 5 non-negotiables instead of a big list of random things, and stick to it. Here's my current lists: Must have: Must be older than me Must be significantly well-to-do Must be a Christian (Orthodox preferred but any kind will do so long as the ki…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/16 05:10 AM
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Great article! I agree with everything she's said, however, if I didn't know it was a woman writing this, I'd have thought it was a man. Having gone through a few more posts, I find her to be quite aggressive...I dunno...if we're talking about being feminine it's more than just looking great. Cussing, arguing, insulting and mocking people - not very soft and feminine!
/r/RedPillWives31/10/16 08:29 PM
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Thank you for showing me this! It was a very interesting read. Seems like I should stick to this path, although I sometimes do lose sight of the goal.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/16 03:43 PM
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I'm glad I listened to mom and didn't become wayward :P
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/16 03:40 PM
3

Oh yes, you know everything about my desires. That's great! I'm not interested in thotting around, okay? :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/16 03:30 PM
7

What good end, you ask? Well, right off the bat - attracting a high quality, masculine man with resources. It has the added benefit of inspiring protective and gentlemanly behavior in men. I like feeling protected and cherished. I also want to be a good role model for my children, I want them to look up to me and be proud of me. I don't understand your sentiment about the "joy of giving pleasure" because I'm highly religious and wasn't raised to be promiscuous. I'd also be upsetting my parents -…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/16 07:49 AM
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Ding ding ding! This is exactly the advice my mother gave me.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/16 04:52 PM
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Just because you can doesn't mean you should. I've had plenty of blokes hit on me, offer dates, want to be with me - this doesn't mean I go sleeping with every guy I see. It's easy to maintain purity if you've got the willpower.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/16 04:51 PM
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LMAOOOO! No I meant like mentally :P
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/16 07:29 AM
2

I understand and agree with the point you're making. However, I don't really date, like with all those strings attached, it's more like chaste courtship. My "all" is not for everyone, only one man.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/16 09:00 PM
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Yes, of course. I pit my suitors against each other and find out which ones are the best. I intend to marry only once, so I have to do the BEST I can for me and my future children. In addition to that, I'm not at the top of my game yet, so once I'm better in every way I'll obviously be able to attract and keep a higher quality man. I do think it's a problem when it comes to maintaining a marital union - once you've chosen a partner there should be no looking elsewhere. If you think you can do be…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/16 05:12 PM
3

virtually everyone (...) we're all sluts Don't paint everyone with the same brush please.
/r/RedPillWives04/10/16 05:42 PM
4

Maybe physically (not sure if tattoos count as being clean...) but mentally and spiritually you're still an Alpha Widow, at just 21, and no high quality man is going to buy your lie.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 05:44 AM
3

Not as silly as you were :p
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 05:42 AM
2

When you do snag a high SMV/RMV man (and you will, I believe in you) Sooo I'm the opposite of OP. Do you believe in me enough to tell me that Vladimir Putin will take me for wife? Lmao. What even is this thread 😂
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 05:19 AM
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Exactly! Honestly, I'm so shocked reading the replies here!
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 05:13 AM
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Here's the thing. She's not going to fool any man into believing she's an untouched flower when she's got STDs, which she likely has if she's slept with many men. OP, get tested.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 05:00 AM
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If she's trying to attract a high quality mate (which is presumably why she has given up her past lifestyle), then this isn't exactly RP advice!
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/16 11:50 PM
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Yeah, I've come across those folks, too, but the Bible absolutely does not advocate physical spousal punishment! Here's the website... http://www.christiandomesticdiscipline.com/
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/16 04:52 AM
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My husband is the most important person in my life Exactly! The children will one day grow up and leave the nest to pursue their own lives, after all!
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/16 07:59 PM
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I agree with what you said. My mum was a SAHM until I turned 12, after which she pursued courses and her career part-time. I'm really grateful for that. I can't imagine having children and then just handling them over to some random daycare workers! I believe that if men can look for beauty, youth and purity, women are allowed to look for wealth and status. After all, we're answerable to our children... I wouldn't want my children to suffer in any way. I've noticed that it's usually low-value or…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/16 07:56 PM
2

Awwwww! hehehe :p Thank you for the kind words!
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/16 12:10 AM
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'Too religious' might be a dealbreaker for you, but it's a dealmaker for me :)
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/16 10:35 PM
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I think you've mistaken me for an "experienced" girl. I am virtuous.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/16 10:24 PM
2

I'd never marry a younger man. My lower age limit is 26, and my upper age limit is probably 40, no more than that (okay maybe two or three years over/under these limits if the man is really great and age is the only issue).
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/16 08:48 PM
4

Omg I was scrolling past this thread and read my username and I was like "Woaaaah!!! Someone remembered me for some reason!" 😂
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/16 08:41 PM
3

Exactlyyy!!!
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/16 01:24 PM
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A high SMV man with a low/0 N count? Why would I ever have a problem with that - that's the ideal!
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/16 07:15 PM
1

Exactly! He thinks traditional means 'easily able to be brainwashed' or something.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/16 03:52 AM
1

You're a man. Don't try to give me bad advice. Go build up your dirty harem of sati-lovers elsewhere, I'm not interested.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/16 03:50 AM
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Really? I see no reception for those ideas here. Those things disgust me, I see no merit in them.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/16 07:49 PM
2

I think you've got 'traditional' confused for 'spineless people-pleaser'.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/16 07:47 PM
4

...what ultimately matters is that a woman seeks a transcendent dimension of her specialized abilities, and less the particular institutional form. No, no, I take it back. You're in the wrong sub.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/16 06:36 PM
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Ummmmm... wait... what? Jump into a funeral pyre? Be in a polygamous relationship? Am I in the right sub?!
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/16 05:32 PM
2

Yeah, the video exaggerates quite a bit :p I understand when someone uses cusses to show emphasis, though - I understand the emotion, the intensity that they're trying to express. Sometimes whatever you're feeling is so intense that it just needs to come out.
/r/RedPillWives02/08/16 08:34 AM
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I completely agree :) I want to be on the receiving end of that kind of behavior, and I want people to think of me in a certain way, and this can only be done if I modify my behavior.
/r/RedPillWives02/08/16 08:32 AM
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I giggled :P But I don't cuss at all. I used to, when I was 13 and just discovered pop-punk music, but thankfully I've grown out of it (the cussing, not the music!). Lately it has started to irk me when someone cusses when talking to me.
/r/RedPillWives31/07/16 10:30 PM
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I agree with /u/rproller. He has cheated more than once? Say goodbye. You're wasting precious time with this man that could be spent looking for or dating a better man.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/16 05:09 AM
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You're right about that. This is worrying. :/ And "childfree"? That's just disgusting. I've seen the subreddit - it's a vile cesspool. How can you hate something as pure as children? Shows that she must be a damaged woman.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/16 03:15 AM
4

Exactly. I was kind of shocked to read that on RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/16 05:04 AM
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I don't think it's right to say that, given your status. RPW isn't about telling women to "cool off" their "silly" baby fever and become career women that shun marriage and family for fun in their prime years.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/16 05:04 AM
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Why risk all the drama? Besides, with a child around, you will always be the second priority, not the first. I knew a woman and a few men with a child/children who said they didn't want any more kids - are you okay with that possibility? Unless you're completely fine with the child being the center of his world, and are fine with being step-mom and using your resources/his resources being used to raise another woman's child, don't pursue it.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/16 04:57 AM
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I really, really want a prenup. I don't like the negative connotations associated with the word 'prenup', though... I consider it more like a...a marriage preservation agreement, something like that. I don't want to be cheated, I don't want to be beaten, and I don't want to be divorced - I'm highly religious, so in my eyes (although remarriage is permitted in my faith), I'd be "ruined" if I were divorced :( Whoever I marry will be my first physical partner, so there's that aspect, too. I'd die o…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/16 05:37 PM
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Yes, it's definitely sabotage. Misery loves company, as they say!
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/16 12:40 PM
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I am currently in an semi-open relationship (I am mono, he is poly). Do you want to have sister-wives if you marry this man? Are you okay with that - sharing your spouse with other women? What about when you have children? When the sister-wives have children? Please think about this. Are you sure he hasn't just plated you? How, as an RPW, do you handle unwanted attention from other men?? I haven't been catcalled on the street, so I don't have an answer for that. But otherwise, I simply tell them…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/16 05:21 AM
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AHHHH! The new design is so pretty!! Well done :)
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/16 06:52 AM
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When I was young (13-18) I really looked up to Amy Lee, I kind of still do. Here's some tour dates: http://evanescence.com/tour/
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/16 08:27 PM
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