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Social distancing is for pussies. I still shake hands!
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/20 01:19 PM
3

Good insight. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 09:37 PM
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That was my problem all along. I was trying to save a marriage I didn't really want to save. I wasn't honest with myself. I just had to learn this lesson the hard way. Thanks again for taking the time brother.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 09:30 PM
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Thanks. I feel better than I thought I would.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 09:25 PM
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OYS #13: Freedom STATS Age 41, Height 6'3", Weight 228lbs, Waist 41", Neck 17", BF 25% (Navy) Wife 41, Married 18 years, Together 22, Kids 12 and 9. 26 weeks, 1 day into Red Pill Journey Lifts (as of 3/16/2020): LP 480x5, BP 245x5, DL 200x5, ROW 185x5, OHP 135x5 Injuries: Lower back, knee, shoulder SIDEBAR Finished: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, MAP Current: Book of Pook (75%) Bless me faggots for I have sinned. It's been 3 months since my last OYS. We are getting an uncontested divorce. We hired a med…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 01:49 PM
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Oh dear Lord...
/r/askMRP16/03/20 03:58 PM
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Thank you
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/20 05:44 PM
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I'll add Revolver to my list.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/20 02:22 PM
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You are a god to me sir. I want what you have, and there's no "probably" about it...I have a long fucking way to go. I've been acting like a bitch and haven't been owning my shit for weeks. This journey is gutwrenching, but there's no going back now. I can't begin to thank you and the others for your help today, so I won't even try.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/20 01:16 AM
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🤣🤣🤣
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/20 10:33 PM
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Damn. This is perfect. Thank you all.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/20 10:16 PM
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Sounds like suicide by cop.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/20 09:30 PM
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I'll never go back. I enjoy a steak as much as the next guy, but I need it to be real.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/20 09:28 PM
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I'm guessing she cut the cord. I'm on the same trajectory if I don't get my shit together yesterday.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/20 09:25 PM
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It's true. I'm not there yet. I'm not unfucked enough to walk away. I got seriously butthurt and went Rambo after one too many divorce threats. But her actions tell me she is bluffing. I will play nice. It's the smart and right thing to do. I'm not losing frame if I decide to be nice because it's the best way forward. I need to buy myself more time to unfuck myself AND this gives her more time to adjust the new, less autistic version of me. I will communicate my emotions. I will tell her how I f…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/20 09:21 PM
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I wonder what happened to that OP. Looks like he deleted his account.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/20 08:31 PM
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I am at a crossroad between full detachment and, as u/rocknrollchuck and u/hornsofapathy have suggested, attempting to connect with her by expressing masculine emotion. I'm fucking confused gentlemen.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/20 08:26 PM
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Wow, that sounds exactly like my wife. She keeps saying she wants me to be vulnerable with her. She says I am open, warm and kind to everyone except for her. In reality I am still waiting for her to play her nice card. I played my nice card every day for months and put up with a ton of her bullshit. It was suggested that I was rewarding her bad behavior so I simply stopped playing altogether and removed my attention. I believe my time and attention are a gift and I choose to provide it where it'…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/20 08:20 PM
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My biggest fuck up to date in my LTR? Getting tricked into talking about my sexual past. Do not, ever fucking do this. EVER. Literally just finished RM Chapter 9 this morning. The Iron Rules. I have violated this every time. But I'm getting smarter.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/20 07:40 PM
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On point 100%
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 04:07 PM
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Thank you Horns. I'm 75% done with RM. A lot of it I had already picked up from MRP. I am still internalizing this. It's one thing to read, another to understand and another to live out. I'm getting there man. It's a fucking painful process. The rules have changed. The world is fucked. It's literally us against the world. This shit is mind-blowing but eye-opening.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/20 02:47 PM
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So I have to DNGAF and embrace OI. I guess I have still been holding on to the idealism of my youth. I always wanted a family and I never imagined it could end in divorce, especially with two young children in the picture
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/20 12:40 PM
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Is this ego again?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/20 12:31 PM
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Thank you brother for taking the time to respond. If I may clarify, I know I have options. It is my preference to stay with my wife. I don't want my marriage to fail because that will mean that I have failed. I don't want to fail myself, my wife or my children. I want to endure. I want to become more than I am. But you are right, I shouldn't react. I need to center myself and be the oak. I need to let go of my anger and be calm and confident in who I am.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/20 10:11 PM
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You're right about the epic shit test. She is gifting me the opportunity to become a better man. For her or for someone down the line.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/20 07:46 PM
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The enemy is me. The enemy is my ego.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/20 07:44 PM
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I know that I need to be my own judge and my own mental point of origin. I know that the only way to get there is by killing my ego. Without my ego, she can't hurt me. If she can't hurt me, she can't pull me into her frame. I need to kill my ego. It is the source of my pride, pain and anger. I don't know how to do this.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/20 07:43 PM
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Yes. My frameless, faggot bullshit.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/20 07:30 PM
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Yep, she got to me. She's probably happy now because I finally reacted after 6 weeks of non-stop nuclear shit testing. I'm telling you man, this is a nightmare. Resetting and going back to war.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/20 07:20 PM
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I appreciate you and others who take the time to read and respond to our bullshit.
/r/askMRP23/02/20 07:16 PM
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Needed this
/r/askMRP23/02/20 07:12 PM
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You're right. Still haven't attained zen DNGAF status.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/20 07:04 PM
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OK. A lot of shit has gone down in the last few weeks. Wife threatened to file "by the end of the month" if I don't "show some humility" and bend to her will. I shrugged it off and told her I didn't care. She has been upping the ante all week. I have mostly remained stoic but fucked up the other day and took off my ring in silent protest. She noticed immediately and started shit testing me about cheating and proclaiming "we are still very much married". I told her I will put the ring back on as …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/20 06:18 PM
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Yes my weight. But mostly my ego. And my pride.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/20 05:08 PM
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There is room for me to step up. I can't control her. I can only control myself. I will keep working. There's no other choice for me. Keep improving. Keep moving forward. It may be too late for her. This is my fault, but I can't change it. This is what is. I can hope and pray but I won't fear the outcome. I know in my heart I am becoming a better and stronger man.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/20 03:08 PM
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The gym is my sanctuary. She has no idea how upset I am. She says I am surrounded by an ironclad impenetrable shield. This is my frame. The line must be drawn here. This far, no farther. But my insides are still soft. I am still not my own mental point of origin, otherwise I wouldn't care what she thinks about me. Dancing monkey. Survival mode.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/20 02:58 PM
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Poor choice of words on my part. I'm not suicidal. Just extremely stressed. Right now she is like Indiana Jones in Temple of Doom with her machete raised to cut the tow rope like that fucking rope bridge, and I am one of the faggots about to fall into the river and get eaten by crocodiles. She is dropping fucking MOAB shit tests on my frame. It's like fucking Armageddon. All I can do is STFU and hold on for dear life. I am still a dancing monkey and not strong enough to walk away. All I can do i…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/20 08:16 PM
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I'm currently experiencing this marathon shit test and it is killing me.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/20 03:58 PM
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Ego is bullshit, frame is truth. Love this.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/20 01:13 PM
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Thank you Horns. My balls are still too small. I've been half-assing it for too long. I'm a dancing monkey with covert contracts and a huge fear of failure. I'm slowly peeling away the layers of my ego to discover what is really underneath.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/20 08:20 PM
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Yes.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/20 03:21 PM
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Right. It is what it is. I'll keep grinding.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/20 03:05 PM
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I'm still at DL 2 and MAP 2. Don't want to nuke it yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/20 02:52 PM
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I'm not ready.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/20 02:43 PM
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What is a better response?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/20 01:15 PM
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OYS #12: The MAP begins (01/22/2020) STATS Recovering Drunk Captain 12 weeks RP, DL2 - Week 2, MAP Phase - 2 Age 41, Height 6'3", Weight 215lbs, Waist 41", Neck 17", BF 24% (Navy) Wife 41, Married 18 years, Together 22, Kids 12 and 9. Lifts: LP 420x5, BP 245x5, DL 180x5, ROW 175x5, OHP (Injury) SIDEBAR Finished: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, MAP Current: Book of Pook (0%) Finished reading the MAP book today. Determined I’m in Phase 2 with my primary “yellow” area being fitness. LIFTING/CARDIO Strong li…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/20 12:55 AM
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True.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/20 08:36 PM
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I never said it wasn't salvageable. I said she would never be happy no matter what I do (plow horse). I still believe it's salvageable if she sees me as a man of value. I'm still grinding brother.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/20 04:50 PM
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The plow horse thing was before MRP. I'm not through the side bar yet. Currently reading MAP. I don't want to kill the puppy before working the plan.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/20 04:34 PM
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There was a six month period where I gave up all of my hobbies, social media accounts and my time with friends to focus completely on her, the kids and the house. I did everything she had been bitching about. I fixed everything around the house. Took her out, spent time with the kids, went to Bible study, stopped swearing, being sarcastic, talking about politics and making fun of people on TV and in real life. I did the laundry, cleaned the kitchen, and the bathroom in addition to all my regular…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/20 01:51 PM
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OK. You're saying she won't get on board with my mission because she feels I am dismissive of her feelings and opinions.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/20 01:19 PM
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Not much but with dumbells I can do lower weight. I figure something is better than nothing.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 08:37 PM
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She's telling me she wants a blue pill husband.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 08:34 PM
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I will.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 06:41 PM
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Hmmm. Yes. Interesting.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 05:20 PM
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Damn. That was 9.5 months in? Maybe don't ban me at 10 months then.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 04:47 PM
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Thanks. I know I'm a retard at 2 months in. If I'm still a retard at 10 months please ban me for life. One thing about my "Batman mission" is that I don't particularly care about "helping people". It's more that I HATE evil people and want to defeat them. It's what I've always felt DRIVEN to do. It's in my code and I like that about myself. For the longest time my FO has been trying to alter my code and hold me back, but I feel most alive when I embrace it.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 04:42 PM
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I am a fan of JP and bought his book 12 Rules for Life. Plan to read it after I finish the side bar.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 02:22 PM
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Indeed. I'll keep reading.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 01:56 PM
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Yes sir.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 01:56 PM
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This is good. Thank you B.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 01:16 PM
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I'm still too autistic to know.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 01:14 PM
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My mission is my mission. I may need a new Robin.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 01:13 PM
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OYS #11: Mission Realized STATS Recovering Drunk Captain, 11 weeks RP, DL2, Week 1 Age 41, Height 6'3", Weight 215lbs, Waist 41", Neck 17", BF 24% (Navy) Wife 41, Married 18 years, Together 22, Kids 12 and 9. Lifts: LP 405x5, BP 240x5, DL 175x5, ROW 165x5, OHP (Injury) SIDEBAR Finished: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP Current: MAP (10%) LIFTING/CARDIO Went to the doc for my shoulder and got a cortisone shot. Taking a break from OHP for a few more weeks and hoping that does the trick. FRAME: PHYSICAL Stren…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 05:39 AM
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OYS #10: Happy New Year, Faggots (01/01/2020) STATS Recovering Drunk Captain, 10 weeks RP, DL1, Week 10 Age 41, Height 6'3", Weight 216lbs, Waist 41", Neck 17", BF 24% (Navy) Wife 41, Married 18 years, Together 22, Kids 12 and 9. Lifts: LP 400x5, BP 235x5, DL 175x5, ROW 160x5, OHP (Injury) SIDEBAR Finished: NMMNG, WISNIFG Current: MMSLP (85%) Read about “Sexual Judo”, learning her cycle, MAP timeline, and the “Sexy Moves”. I figure I am in “Phase 2” of the MAP timeline, with our sex ranks being …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 05:30 AM
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OYS #9: Merry Christmas (12/25/2019) STATS Recovering Drunk Captain, 9 weeks RP, DL1, Week 9 Age 41, Height 6'3", Weight 216lbs, Waist 41", Neck 17", BF 24% (Navy) Wife 41, Married 18 years, Together 22, Kids 12 and 9. Lifts: LP 385x5, BP 230x5, DL 170x5, ROW 150x5, OHP (Injury) SIDEBAR Finished: NMMNG, WISNIFG Current: MMSLP (50%) Read about “Instigate, Isolate, Escalate”, Captain and First Officer, Fitness tests, Rewarding positive behavior, not rewarding negative behavior, and not being a chu…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 05:25 AM
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OYS #8: Banned for OYS Faggotry (12/18/2019) STATS Recovering Drunk Captain, 8 weeks RP, DL1, Week 8 Age 41, Height 6'3", Weight 216lbs, Waist 41", Neck 17", BF 24% (Navy) Wife 41, Married 18 years, Together 22, Kids 12 and 9. Lifts: LP 375x5, BP 225x5, ROW 145x5, OHP 145x5, DL 165x5 SIDEBAR Finished: NMMNG, WISNIFG Current: MMSLP (25%) Was skeptical about MMSLP at first but now that I’m getting into it, I really like it. Read about the Rationalization Hamster, ILYBINILWY (we are both definitely…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 05:21 AM
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OP says he wasn't on antidepressants, but posted in a different sub 7 months ago "I finally caved and started taking antidepressants".
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/20 08:13 PM
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LOL. Thanks man. I think my ban ends tomorrow!
/r/askMRP09/01/20 07:17 PM
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First time poster. I'm not going to ask for you to go easy on me. Fuck that shit ... tell me like it is. Well, that was brutal. Are you still with us OP?
/r/askMRP06/01/20 08:21 PM
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Yes. I have a bad disc in my lower back and had to start out very low with my DL.
/r/askMRP06/01/20 12:52 PM
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SJW feminist? Damn this is going to be an uphill battle.... Nevertheless, there is no secret here. STFU, lift and sidebar. MRP fixes the man, not the marriage. The stay plan is the go plan. Commit or GTFO. Start posting in the OYS thread. Expect to be called a faggot. A lot.
/r/askMRP03/01/20 08:56 PM
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It's only been the last couple of years that I have completely lost interest. She's been steadily putting on weight since we got married (as did I) but it's her attitude that put the nail in the coffin. Now I have a wife who is both unattractive and a bitch. The anger is mostly at myself for allowing all of this to happen. I am trying to channel that into my workouts and willpower to lose weight.
/r/askMRP03/01/20 07:04 PM
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Read MMSLP Chapter 4 Beta Male Traits
/r/askMRP03/01/20 06:31 PM
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I haven't been interested for years. It's hard to know exactly how fat she is because she refuses to tell me her weight but I'm guessing around 200 lbs.
/r/askMRP03/01/20 05:49 PM
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That was fucking hilarious
/r/askMRP03/01/20 04:46 PM
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I have recently realized my mission, however, I don't expect that my wife will get onboard because we are so different. My gut instinct tells me to carry out my mission regardless (alpha) but what beta skills/techniques would you recommend to help inspire her to join me?
/r/askMRP03/01/20 04:39 PM
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True, although I considered the divorce threat to be pretty shitty.
/r/askMRP03/01/20 04:31 PM
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I did that before MRP and it didn't go over well. My new plan is to get shredded and increase my SMV above hers. She'll be forced to keep up or eventually get left behind.
/r/askMRP03/01/20 04:30 PM
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I meant to say "shitty comfort test".
/r/askMRP03/01/20 04:27 PM
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You may be right. I am trying.
/r/askMRP03/01/20 01:16 PM
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I'd say thanks but I don't want to get banned from r/AskMRP too.
/r/askMRP03/01/20 01:14 PM
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She's gross.
/r/askMRP03/01/20 01:13 PM
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Sounds like his wife has been so bitchy that she can't even handle being pleasant, let alone anything else. Correct
/r/askMRP03/01/20 01:09 PM
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Get a fucking mission dip-shit. Make it fun. Invite her to join you. Give her a role to play in your mission. When she does well ... Then reward her. Tell her you're pleased. Give her a smile and a nod. Fuck her like a caveman. You decide how to give a reward. Working on this.
/r/askMRP03/01/20 01:08 PM
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I thought I was pretty good...
/r/askMRP02/01/20 09:57 PM
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Annoyed that i had a good explanation but she was actually more invested in conflict than peace i was notably grumpy and was generally cold to her for the next 30 minutes or so. You are in her frame. Don't DEER. Don't get butthurt. Figure out what you want to do. Don't stay for the kids. Stay because YOU want to. Then work the plan. Don't threaten divorce until dread level 8. Good luck man.
/r/askMRP02/01/20 04:28 PM
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"You have the right to change your mind" Tell her you don't want to separate and are willing to put in the work. Then stop talking and start leading. Find the right balance between alpha and beta. You got this man. Good luck to you.
/r/askMRP02/01/20 04:16 PM
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She doesn't want a divorce. Sounds like you don't either. Own your shit and move forward. Take care of yourself, your wife and your kids. It will take some time but you will be fine.
/r/askMRP02/01/20 03:51 PM
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Tough spot brother. Good on you for not abandoning your daughter, just make sure she's really your daughter.
/r/askMRP02/01/20 03:33 PM
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Good comment
/r/askMRP26/12/19 03:39 PM
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Good on you man. You're one of the lucky ones.
/r/askMRP26/12/19 03:37 PM
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This
/r/askMRP20/12/19 09:44 PM
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Are you posting in MRP OYS? You won't see me in there for a few weeks because I got temporarily banned for acting like a faggot.
/r/askMRP18/12/19 07:51 PM
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LOL. I haven't seen a lawyer yet. The stay plan is the go plan. I still have a lot of work to do before pulling the plug. I can't expect my wife to be attractive before I get my ass in shape. That is my focus now.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/19 03:58 PM
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We all know the story of Snow White. We know the story is about the Prince, the princess and the dragon. I think this is Sleeping Beauty.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/19 03:10 PM
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I have zero interest in fucking my wife. I put down plans to address my weight and reading.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/19 01:45 PM
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Fine...
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/19 01:23 PM
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That's true. i should really stop doing that.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/19 01:22 PM
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No
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/19 01:21 PM
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OYS #7: I'm a fat motherfucker STATS Age 41, Height 6'3", Weight 224lbs, Waist 40", Neck 17", BF 26% (Navy) Wife 41, Married 18 years, Together 22, Kids 12 and 9. LP 355x5, BP 220x5, ROW 135x5, OHP 140x5, DL 155x5 Recovering Drunk Captain, 7 weeks RP, DL1, Week 7 SIDEBAR Finished: NMMNG, WISNIFG Current: MMSLP (5%) Sucked at reading this week. Only read the Introduction to MMSLP. I'm not sure how much this book is going to help me since I'm not attracted to my fat bitch of a wife. (Yes, I know i…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/19 11:48 PM
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In the last 7 months you have posted at least 5 victim pukes about your wife leaving you and only 2 OYS. This is fucking unacceptable.
/r/askMRP10/12/19 10:01 PM
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Yes
/r/askMRP09/12/19 11:33 PM
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And I thought I was having a bad day...
/r/askMRP09/12/19 11:31 PM
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Dude, welcome to MRP! If you fix yourself first you have a chance of fixing your marriage. It will take a lot of work on your part, and there is no guarantee your wife will respond to the new and improved you. That's her choice. You can't control her. You can only control yourself. So what are YOU going to do?
/r/askMRP07/12/19 09:45 PM
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(Stands and applauds)
/r/askMRP07/12/19 09:35 PM
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I found this incredibly cringy and difficult to read.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/19 02:18 AM
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10-4 good buddy.
/r/askMRP04/12/19 09:25 PM
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Don't look back. Keep looking forward. Improve yourself and take care of your kids. Better days are ahead.
/r/askMRP04/12/19 09:20 PM
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What is "on gear"?
/r/askMRP04/12/19 09:17 PM
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OYS #6 **STATS** Age 41, Height 6'3", Weight 217 lbs, BF 23% (Navy) Wife 41, Married 18 years, Together 22, Kids 12 and 9. LP 345x5, BP 215x5, ROW 130x5, OHP 135x5, DL 155x5 Recovering drunk Captain, 6 weeks RP, DL1, Week 6 **SIDEBAR** Finished: NMMNG, WISNIFG Current: MMSLP Having finished WISNIFG I am now well versed in Fogging, Broken Record, Negative Assertion, Negative Inquiry, Self-Disclosure and Working Compromise. I learned how to be assertive without being aggressive. **LIFTING** Change…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 04:50 PM
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Then out of nowhere as I lock at the top just about ready to rack he yells at me in the gym “ONE MORE YOU BITCH!!!”. Afraid of being prison raped on the bench by Terry, I lifted it for a 5th rep. This made me laugh. Sorry about the Big 5 job but love your attitude about it. I'm sure you will get something soon.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 11:13 PM
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I'm new here but I don't see how you can be RP and tolerate infidelity from a woman. Figure out if you're the father of this new baby, get a divorce and start improving yourself.
/r/askMRP03/12/19 03:53 PM
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Cool story bro.
/r/askMRP03/12/19 02:02 PM
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STFU faggot. You don't know jack shit. Pussy.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/19 03:08 PM
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He looked at OPs profile and post history.
/r/askMRP28/11/19 03:03 PM
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She's unhappy because of you. Own your shit.
/r/askMRP28/11/19 02:59 PM
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SB3 is as patient as he is wise.
/r/askMRP28/11/19 02:57 PM
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Great catch and feedback. Thank you sir.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 11:28 PM
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"Why wouldn't I be?"
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 10:16 PM
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Your username cracks me up every time I see it. Why did you choose it?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 08:44 PM
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OYS #5 STATS Age 41, Height 6'3", Weight 215 lbs, BF 23% (Navy) Wife 41, Married 18 years, Together 22, Kids 12 and 9. LP 330x5, BP 210x5, BOR 155x5, DL 145x5, OHP 125x5, Finished Reading: NMMNG, Currently Reading: WISNIFG (35%) 5 weeks RP, DL1, Week 5 READING I am behind on my reading. My goal is to finish WISNIFG by the end of the week and start MMSLP on Monday. Learned "The Assertive Bill of Rights" and that I am my own judge here on Earth. Learned about Broken Record, Working Compromise, Fre…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 07:09 PM
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No one is irredeemable. You can rebuild yourself, but you have to dig down deep and decide to do it for yourself. This is your defining moment. What are you going to do? Give up and die or rise up stronger than before?
/r/askMRP25/11/19 05:28 PM
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I got a vasectomy but they must not have done it right because my wife still got pregnant and the baby was half black. Weird...
/r/askMRP23/11/19 12:28 AM
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What's abnormal, and fatal in an evolutionary sense, is a man bringing needy, validation-seeking energy to sex or any other experience he has. This is good. I need to get to this place.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/19 02:04 PM
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Good comment. Thanks Max
/r/askMRP22/11/19 01:13 PM
11

Congratulations!
/r/askMRP22/11/19 01:01 AM
1

All true.
/r/askMRP21/11/19 02:47 PM
1

This is so on the money. I have been an asshole. I listened to her feelz last night. I didn't DEER. I fogged and then said I wanted to spoon her. She feel asleep in my arms. This morning I gave her a 30 second hug before work. She rubbed my back.
/r/askMRP21/11/19 01:14 PM
1

If the recipient laughs, cool. If not, cool. This is OI. dread isn’t an alternative to AA. It's just another tool in the toolbox. Letting her burst your balloon and drag you down to her mopey level is the very definition of being in her frame. You're right. I'm still letting her get to me. Thanks for pointing this out.
/r/askMRP21/11/19 01:08 PM
1

True. I tend to operate in the extreme. I suffer from very black/white all-or-nothing thinking. Helpful in my profession, not so much when dealing with irrational human beings.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 07:57 PM
1

Oh. Well, there been none of that recently.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 07:36 PM
1

Hmmm. Well I don't want that to happen. I guess I can give her some comfort.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 07:10 PM
1

No, I know...I'm just not interested in having sex with her specifically. I'm in monk mode right now.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 07:05 PM
1

I get it. Trouble is she never laughs at my jokes. Everyone else in my world thinks I'm hilarious and fun except for my wife. She either rolls her eyes at me or doesn't react at all. This is why I don't see A&A ever working on her. She is an uptight bitch with no sense of humor. But she is also very insecure, which is why I think dread is the better way to go.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 07:02 PM
1

Thanks. We do have one. So far I'm doing ok with the regular bar. That may change as I increase weight.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 06:57 PM
1

I suppose I have been acting like a passive aggressive Rambo...
/r/askMRP20/11/19 06:55 PM
2

Hmmmm. OK, you've given me something to think about.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 12:04 PM
1

That's good advice. I will wait.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 11:59 AM
1

I get it.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 11:55 AM
1

I'm not going to file this early. I don't give up that easily.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 01:26 AM
1

God damnit I'm not enjoying any of this. No, I haven't told her that, because I'm not supposed to tell her what to do right? I'm just supposed to STFU, lift and read the sidebar, and dispite the fact the sidebar says AskMRP is supposed to be for new guys that have questions, don't bother asking a question because you'll just be told how much of a fat faggot you are.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 01:23 AM
1

Welcome to Shit Town, population me.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 01:18 AM
1

It taste like fish oil.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 01:10 AM
1

OK. So in the meantime I should just give her sex whenever she wants? Sounds like I'd be in her frame if I did that.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 01:09 AM
1

(Facepalm)
/r/askMRP20/11/19 01:07 AM
1

To be fair this was from a few weeks ago and others made the same observation. I've since lightened up.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 01:07 AM
1

"Don't go from 100 to 0" It's probably too late for that now. I'm just going to have to live with the consequences.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 11:02 PM
1

I was trying to tune the hottest girl in the club along with about 50 other dudes. He got to pick from about 5 girls, who all wanted to fuck. I went home empty handed, he got what he wanted. This reminds me of that movie "A beautiful mind"
/r/askMRP19/11/19 10:54 PM
0

I don't care what she does. I'm not attracted to her. There's nothing passive aggressive about it. That's just the way it is. I asked a question about responding to a comfort test. If you have some advice about that I'd be grateful.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 10:30 PM
1

I'm not withholding sex out of anger. I just don't feel inclined to initiate sex with her. I don't see how that equals passive aggressiveness.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 10:19 PM
2

Path #2
/r/askMRP19/11/19 10:16 PM
1

You’re so angry and butthurt that you wouldn’t initiate over the weekend because your wife didn’t want to get her crotch waxed. Wrong. I made it clear what I wanted her to do. She didn't do it. Should I reward that behavior with sex?
/r/askMRP19/11/19 10:15 PM
0

You don't know shit. No flair, no OYS. Go fuck yourself.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 09:44 PM
1

Hmmm. I don't feel angry. I do feel frustrated that she wants sex but won't initiate. It feels like a battle of wills. She wants sex but she wants me to initiate. I'm indifferent to sex but willing to provide it if she initiates. So we have a stalemate.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 09:42 PM
1

This is my attempt to buy time while I improve myself.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 09:39 PM
1

I am doing the work and that is why she is texting me all this bullshit. I think I know what to do, in spite of all this helpful advice calling me fat and questioning my sexual orientation. I'm going to stand my ground. I don't feel like having sex with her and I'm not going to give her duty sex to make her feel better. That's not passive aggressive. It's not to punish her. It's simply because I don't want to. If she wants to freak the fuck out about it, so be it. If she wants to divorce me over…
/r/askMRP19/11/19 09:38 PM
1

Yeah, this stuff is probably bullshit. I got a copy of my labs and I'm going to reach out to some other doctors.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 09:23 PM
1

Thank you.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 09:21 PM
3

Finally had a chance to read "Verbal Intercourse is Optional". This is really the best advice.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 09:19 PM
1

You'll be waiting a long time.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 09:02 PM
1

I got a copy of my labs and I am going to call a few other doctors.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 09:01 PM
2

You know the answer to this. I used to be, but now I'm not. I understand it is my fault and I'm doing the work to fix myself. I understand this will take time. I understand the tow rope. What I don't know is how to respond to this comfort test.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 09:00 PM
1

She is actively trying to fuck you, and you're the frigid one. Yeesh. I respond when she initiates. She is currently upset because I am not initiating with her and she doesn't feel wanted.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 08:56 PM
1

Her: "Whatever. Fit me into your schedule" Me/You: "I got something that'll fit into you." I find that humor/AA work best for me. No-one wants to be in the drama all the time. She's totally shaking your tree to see if she can affect your frame and if there's reason to. If you joke it away, then she makes a note that her weird hissy fit is a waste of time. The only problem here is that I have no desire to have sex with her.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 08:54 PM
1

Jesus Christ, what am I allowed to say to her?
/r/askMRP19/11/19 08:46 PM
1

No. I'm asking how to respond to this comfort test given the fact that I am not attracted to her.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 08:45 PM
1

all of this shit is extremely unattractive - the weight sure, but more the stupid games you are playing, and "needing some time to focus on yourself" - jesus christ, come on man I thought that was the whole point of MRP the fix is easy, however. drop the bullshit and be attractive Working on that. But in the meantime how do I deal with this comfort test?
/r/askMRP19/11/19 08:30 PM
-2

Why is it my problem that I'm not attracted to my wife? I get that it's my fault that she isn't fit. But I can't change that in the present. Regardless of how I got here, regardless of how many weeks I've been at this, these facts remain: She wants me to pursue her. I don't feel like it. What is the best response to a comfort test under these circumstances?
/r/askMRP19/11/19 08:17 PM
1

I understand all of this. I just don't know how to respond to a comfort test when I genuinely don't feel attracted to her.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 08:07 PM
1

It's just her.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 08:05 PM
1

How am I being passive aggressive?
/r/askMRP19/11/19 08:03 PM
0

That's true, I need to lose more weight. I am actively working on this. I think she must be somewhat attracted to me otherwise she wouldn't be upset that I stopped initiating sex. Why would I leave my wife when it's my fault she's like this? I'm not looking for her to fix anything. She is comfort testing me and I'm asking for useful advice. Do you have anything to contribute besides pointing out my unacceptable BF% that I can't change overnight?
/r/askMRP19/11/19 07:13 PM
2

Sure I was, about 30 lbs ago.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 07:04 PM
1

I started around 12 when I found my old man's dirty magazines and VHS tapes. Totally gave it up about 6 months ago.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 05:44 PM
1

She has no interest in my interests but I have been taking her out on dates and making time for her.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 05:39 PM
0

Yes. Everything in my life is great except for her.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 04:18 PM
-3

Then why be so passive aggressive? Skip to the punchline and submit divorce papers instead of being lazy and trying to make her do it. I'm not being passive aggressive or lazy. I'm working on me and staying true to myself. The difference is that you're more intent on resenting and punishing her for your own failings. I'm not resenting or punishing her. I'm just not attracted to her.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 03:56 PM
2

Interesting
/r/askMRP19/11/19 03:53 PM
2

Blaming it on her would be DEERing. I have no antagonism towards her. I feel very neutral towards her right now.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 03:52 PM
3

I can't squat due to a bad disc in my back. Same reason my DL is low. I don't want to end up back in the hospital!
/r/askMRP19/11/19 03:34 PM
2

I think I'll try a 24 hour fast tomorrow.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 03:32 PM
3

I'm staying in it for a few reasons: 1. I don't want to get divorced. 2. I want to fix myself. 3. For the kids.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 03:30 PM
1

Over a year ago while she was undressing.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 03:25 PM
2

I started 16/8 intermittent fasting last week. So you are suggesting I should give her sex even if I don't want to? I'm having a hard time with that.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 03:20 PM
11

Thanks for commenting. It's physical and attitude, which makes it extremely difficult for me to be caring and warm towards her. I don't want to reward her bitchy behavior.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 03:15 PM
1

Much obliged.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/19 11:17 AM
1

Hope is fine, but your entire OYS bleeeeeeeeeeeeds the dancing monkey. I don't know what this means. I will have to do some research.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/19 03:36 PM
1

When you wrote this line were you imagining what cock tastes like? Fucking hell, man. Your entire mental model is so fucked up here. YOU are the prize. Her reward is YOU. Not the other way around.... this is literally the most faggoty thing I've ever seen you write. I'm too fat to be the prize.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/19 03:34 PM
1

OYS #4 STATS Age 41, Height 6'3", Weight 215 lbs, BF 23% (Navy) Wife 41, Married 18 years, Together 22, Kids 12 and 9. LP 315x5, BP 205x5, BOR 145x5, DL 135x5, OHP 125x5, Finished Reading: NMMNG Currently Reading: WISNIFG 4 weeks RP DL1, Week 4/4 READINGS Finished NMMNG this week. The more I read it, the more Nice Guy qualities I saw in myself. At first, I couldn't really connect with having a poor childhood. The book says that Nice Guys tend to view their childhoods with rose colored glasses, s…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/19 02:39 PM
2

Nothing you said was untrue. I needed some time to digest your comment and kill my ego. No, it's not a win that my wife would benefit from individual therapy because I am the very reason she needs it in the first place.
/r/askMRP14/11/19 10:39 PM
1

Thanks
/r/askMRP14/11/19 01:37 PM
5

Aftercare. Got it. I need to be better at this.
/r/askMRP13/11/19 03:25 PM
1

I started intermittent fasting this week. It sucks.
/r/askMRP13/11/19 03:24 PM
2

Oh shit...
/r/askMRP13/11/19 03:24 PM
1

I'm running to burn more calories.
/r/askMRP13/11/19 02:37 PM
1

Thanks brother.
/r/askMRP13/11/19 11:29 AM
3

No offense taken
/r/askMRP13/11/19 11:28 AM
1

My asshole doctor won't prescribe me any testosterone. I'm looking into some natural suppliments.
/r/askMRP13/11/19 12:06 AM
1

I'm listening and already passed the anger phase. I don't want to be a nice guy, just a good man.
/r/askMRP12/11/19 09:52 PM
2

Read this: http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/selfcoaching/fogging.html
/r/askMRP12/11/19 09:47 PM
-1

Aw, you're sweet...
/r/askMRP12/11/19 09:47 PM
2

Thanks. Still much to learn but I am encouraged.
/r/askMRP12/11/19 08:58 PM
4

Thanks dude. I am planning to write about this very thing in my OYS. I don't want to be an asshole. I'm working to find the kind of balance you talked about while staying true to myself.
/r/askMRP12/11/19 08:57 PM
1

Noted! My trainer also put me on the birthing machine for my ass lol
/r/askMRP11/11/19 10:15 PM
1

Words to live by
/r/askMRP11/11/19 10:14 PM
1

Thank you sir
/r/askMRP11/11/19 09:04 PM
2

I learned this in CBT. When I was depressed all I wanted to do was lay in bed 24 hours a day. The only way out is to get off your ass and do shit no matter how bad you feelz. Once you do the thing you can think to yourself "hey, I did the thing. Maybe I can beat this." Rinse and repeat. Each time I did this I got stronger and I eventually climbed out of the pit like Bruce Wayne in the Dark Knight Rises.
/r/askMRP09/11/19 09:29 PM
1

Our thoughts control our emotions
/r/askMRP09/11/19 08:21 PM
2

Thanks my man. We had this very talk last night. Things are back to baseline.
/r/askMRP09/11/19 11:39 AM
1

Thanks I will read up on it.
/r/askMRP09/11/19 11:37 AM
1

I'm still learning!
/r/askMRP09/11/19 11:36 AM
1

Who knows. Women are insane.
/r/askMRP09/11/19 11:36 AM
1

LOL. I appreciate your concern however all the things you pointed out have happened over the course of 20 years. I'm very much ok. I'm a very stable genius...lol
/r/askMRP09/11/19 11:35 AM
1

Thanks for this. I will look into it. I definitely don't feel horny but figured it was just becaus I'm not really into my wife.
/r/askMRP09/11/19 11:32 AM
1

It seems like you're saying the "nice card" frame mentality keeps you feeling light, positive and happy as opposed to pissed off in general. Is that right?
/r/askMRP09/11/19 11:26 AM
2

I don't think it would work on mine either, but the giving less fucks part is great advice.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 11:53 PM
4

I fucked up A LOT. The date is back on. I just got my T level checked. It was in the high 400's. Doc said it was good. I will load up on those precursors. Thanks for commenting.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 11:07 PM
3

Thanks!
/r/askMRP08/11/19 10:36 PM
5

I think I know her slightly better than you do.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 10:35 PM
2

LOL
/r/askMRP08/11/19 10:28 PM
1

Thanks man. In the meantime, keep it coming!
/r/askMRP08/11/19 10:26 PM
2

Got it.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 10:23 PM
1

Key word "foolishly". I made a mistake. I stopped messing around because of my conscience. I agree that it's better for parents to divorce if they fight, I'm just not there yet.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 10:22 PM
2

Thanks. I'm not worried about custody. In my state it's 50/50 with some exceptions obviously but I am clean as a whistle. A lot of people seem to think I'm a big fat slob! LOL
/r/askMRP08/11/19 09:13 PM
1

10-4
/r/askMRP08/11/19 09:05 PM
2

I hear you bro. I'm in a tough spot because it's only been a few weeks and I don't want to come down on her too hard. She is most likely just freaking out because I am acting differently than I did before. If she tries this again in a few months I'll point to the door.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 09:03 PM
4

Let's ask each other. Good luck man. Keep grinding.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 08:47 PM
3

What did you decide Wolf?
/r/askMRP08/11/19 08:43 PM
4

LOL...right. maybe I'll just stfu instead
/r/askMRP08/11/19 08:08 PM
1

Depressed twice. What red flags do you see for Bipolar?
/r/askMRP08/11/19 07:56 PM
2

"I haven't asked you to do a single thing for me in the last three weeks." Yes, I can see how this comes across as "defending". Nice catch.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 07:54 PM
2

Nah, I'm good. Having been through it twice I know myself and I know the signs. Thank you though.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 07:38 PM
0

Got it. I'll use that tonight.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 07:18 PM
5

What are you guys talking about? I'm here to learn. Please share.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 07:16 PM
2

Saying she gets attention from men and could cheat sounds like dread to me, though at 24% body fat it's hard to see why. I carry it well.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 07:15 PM
2

It's true.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 07:15 PM
9

Thanks Triple S.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 07:14 PM
2

Hmmm...good point. It's not real until there are papers in front of me, so there's no point in getting all worked up about.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 07:10 PM
1

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!
/r/askMRP08/11/19 07:04 PM
2

That's awesome dude. I'll get there with her or someone else eventually.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 07:03 PM
5

Right now, no. But it's my own fault. I don't want my kids to come from a broken home. I don't want to give up until I've tried everything. My choice.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 06:56 PM
1

I hope you realize, sooner than later, how retarded that sentence is. I'm feeling generous today. So if ya need it spelled out, you let me know. I'm glad I caught you on a good day. To be clear, I was talking about her. If she doesn't follow my lead I'll be doing this at DL10.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 06:54 PM
1

Story of my life...
/r/askMRP08/11/19 05:17 PM
1

I never said it was a main event either.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 05:16 PM
4

Just say " I changed my mind after all, I do want to go on the date. Wear the black dress with the lacy thong underwear and matching bra". This only talks about what you want. This is good stuff.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 05:14 PM
3

Point taken. I will not live like this forever. I think there's a less than 50% that she will submit to me even if I become a fucking MRP superstar. But I need to try. Not for her, not for my kids, but for myself. For my conscience.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 05:12 PM
2

A lot of guys are saying the same thing. I was totally butthurt! Right now she does not add value but I want to do right by her and my kids. I need to become a better man and give the tow rope a try.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 05:04 PM
3

Thanks Bow. I have had the same thought. But if I'm being totally honest, I haven't given her much reason to improve herself. I'm going to progress through DL 10 before I throw in the towel.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 05:00 PM
2

Thank you! I think I've been too hard on her. I will try to lighten things up.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 04:57 PM
6

I set this boundary previously but it's time to re-establish. I like the way you said it.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 04:55 PM
2

You're not wrong. Abundance applies. But to be fair to her, it's only been 3 weeks. I want to make sure I've done everything I can before I next her.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 04:54 PM
0

Now....if she comes to you and apologizes, and you want to give this thing a fair shot, then yeah, don't be passive agressive and stay congruent. It'd be a good time to lay out a vision of what your marriage and homelife is going to look like and give her the chance to get on board, if she chooses to. After she's done vomiting her feelz and you fog the shit out of it, of course. My gut says she will eventually come to you, but who knows. That's why we say, the stay plan is the same as the go pla…
/r/askMRP08/11/19 04:49 PM
3

Read and saved. Thanks!
/r/askMRP08/11/19 04:33 PM
5

You're right. Thanks for the comment.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 04:26 PM
2

You may be right. I just don't want to nuke things prematurely. I haven't really given her much of a reason to change yet.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 04:19 PM
1

LOL. Nice HoA...
/r/askMRP08/11/19 04:17 PM
7

I have Degenerative Disc Disease between L4 and L5 so I need to substitute LP for squats. I worked with a personal trainer last week on my deadlift form and am going to start that on Monday.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 04:16 PM
2

Good advice. I just sent her a message and said I was willing to forget about last night and still go on our date.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 04:14 PM
3

Thanks. I just texted her and said I was willing to forget about last night and go on our date.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 04:09 PM
1

It's true I am soft around the middle. Working on that. I really struggle to initiate sex with her. I just don't want to. I've seen other guys say you should put yourself first and only do what you want. So I'm a little conflicted.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 04:07 PM
11

You're right. By doing this I lost frame and allowed her tantrum to get to me. I should have acted like it never happened.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 03:55 PM
1

Thank you. I've read it before but will give it another look!
/r/askMRP08/11/19 03:51 PM
7

Thanks Judge.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 03:40 PM
1

I am getting blasted with comfort tests currently and I don't know what to do. I don't like her and I'm not attracted to her. I don't want to lie to her, but I also don't want to hurt her.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/19 09:10 PM
1

Thank you. I will read WISNIFG next.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/19 04:51 PM
2

Respect to you sir.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/19 04:38 PM
1

OYS #3 (3 weeks RP) STATS Age 41, Height 6'3", Weight 220 lbs, BF 24% (Navy) Wife 41, Married 18 years, Together 22, Kids 12 and 9. LP 295x5, BP 195x5, BOR 135x5, OHP 105x5 DL1, Week 3/4 READING I am half way through NMMNG. I recognize a lot of "Nice Guy" traits in myself, but not all of them. I generally don't give a fuck what people think about me, however, I am definitely guilty of seeking validation from women and creating covert contracts between my wife and I. Noticed a lot of terms in the…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/19 03:30 PM
1

I had the same thought about it being a comfort test but new guys get crucified at the mere mention of it. In truth she is very insecure about herself.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 07:01 PM
1

This weekend my wife said she was uncomfortable with me texting one of my female friends and asked me to stop. I immediately lost frame and started to DEER, saying there was nothing inappropriate going on. Then she got all pouty so I said I would only text her if it was necessary. I fucking blew it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 06:28 PM
1

True.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/19 10:17 PM
1

Agreed. I only do it once a week because kids have a half day. In a couple years my youngest will be old enough to come home alone.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/19 10:17 PM
1

OYS #2 Age 41, Height 6'3", Weight 220 lbs, BF 24% (Navy) Wife 41, Married 18 years, Together 22, Kids 12 and 9. LP 285x5, BP 190x5, BOR 130x5, OHP 95x5 DL1, Week 2/4 Reading: NMMNG PHYSICAL Got a soft tape measure and calculated my BF using the Navy Method. Joined a gym and had a free personal training session. I have another one next week. I asked the trainer to teach me proper deadlift form because I have Degenerative Disc Disease and don't want to injure myself. I am substituting leg press f…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/19 05:23 PM
2

Thank you. This was very helpful.
/r/RPChristians28/10/19 07:16 PM
2

Nooby here. How does STFU apply when I just feel like talking to my wife? I get the impression (especially on MRP) that women are to be treated as children and not taken seriously. But what if I actually want to connect with my wife and talk to her about my day? Can I do this without violating STFU?
/r/RPChristians28/10/19 05:54 PM
1

UNCONDITIONAL Marriage requires unconditional love. Wrong. Marriage is inherently a conditional contract. That's what a covenant is. If love were an emotion, it would be impossible to persist unconditionally. If love is a choice, it would be foolish to employ it without conditions. To take away all conditions on any behavior makes you a slave to that behavior and the one to whom you allegedly owe it. What conditions have you placed on your marriage besides the obvious "no cheating"? Are they kno…
/r/RPChristians28/10/19 01:36 PM
5

This post was helpful to me as a new dummy and faggot. My struggle with STFU right now is that I'm not sure how to be during those rare moments when she's not acting like a bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/19 01:12 PM
1

Thanks. I'll re-read these a few more times.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/19 06:57 PM
1

Thank you. This is one of the most helpful comments I've received.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/19 01:57 PM
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So, you want to stop trying to control her, yet you're still trying to control her? I am retard. Can't believe I didn't see this. Thanks for the feedback. Please comment again next week.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/19 12:36 PM
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Ask her if you can have a boyfriend.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/19 01:25 AM
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I was under the impression that STFU applies mostly to her bullshit. I was establishing my frame by owning my shit and setting the tone. She fell right into it. Sure I felt validated. Who wouldn't? I think the key to validation is not needed it to be happy.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/19 11:54 PM
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Thank you. This helped me.
/r/askRPC24/10/19 09:37 PM
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I do. Thank you. Not exactly sure how retarded I am. On a scale of 1-10? Maybe a 3.5.
/r/askMRP24/10/19 07:00 PM
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OYS #1 Age 41, Height 6'3", Weight 220 lbs, BF% (Unknown) Wife 41, Married 18 years, Kids 12 and 9. Took the red pill early this week. Ready to be unplugged but not sure how to know when it's actually happened. Made my first post to r/askMRP and got called a blue pill pussy faggot. Loved it. I needed to hear that. I'm a piece of shit and I have a lot to learn. For the first time in years I have a purpose: to become the best man I can be. I am excited. I want to be held accountable. I am committi…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/19 06:25 PM
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All the time
/r/askMRP23/10/19 09:08 PM
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I see. I am always in control of myself unless I give her control. I have been operating in her frame this entire time. Shit. Thanks dude.
/r/askMRP23/10/19 08:18 PM
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I was planning to read that first. Are you a believer?
/r/askMRP23/10/19 08:13 PM
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Did she file for divorce when you admitted to looking at porn? No. How did you admit to looking at porn? She caught me. What were the actual consequences for your low value behavior? She said that porn was just as bad as adultery (I disagree) and if she caught me again she would divorce me. Did she make you feel ashamed of having a sex drive while not being willing to have sex with you? She tried to but I wasn't ashamed. What things in this interaction and scenario did she have actual control ov…
/r/askMRP23/10/19 07:23 PM
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She does because of employer matching contributions. I've done some research and I'm pretty confident we could agree on 50/50 custody of kids and split everything down the middle.
/r/askMRP23/10/19 06:24 PM
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I read the side bar. Books get here tomorrow.
/r/askMRP23/10/19 06:15 PM
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We make about the same.
/r/askMRP23/10/19 06:13 PM
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Not currently but I will reply back once I do. Or you can tell me. I'm here to learn and I don't get offended. I'm a high functioning sociopath.
/r/askMRP23/10/19 06:07 PM
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Great comment. Thank you. I haven't been respectful. In many ways I've been a dick to her. My SMV is higher than hers which made me feel entitled to cheat, especially since she would constantly reject my advances and say stupid shit like "I just don't feel connected to you emotionally". I haven't owned my cheating because that would defacto nuke the marriage. I owned up to watching porn and she nearly divorced me for that. You're right that I'm the problem. I think I need to get serious about my…
/r/askMRP23/10/19 05:39 PM
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I'm going to STFU, read, lift, and own my shit.
/r/askMRP23/10/19 03:21 PM
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