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THINGS SCROTES SAYOrcrista/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:08 PM
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DISCUSSIONOrcrista/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 11:23 PM
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FINE AF FRIDAYSOrcrista/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:49 AM
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For those of you who want to watch Asian drama without the taint of Netflix, try the app called VIKI. It is full of asian dramas and you can pick whatever you want. Lots of old school kdrama and lots without the tawdry sex scenes Netflix is plagued with. I unsubscribed from Netflix at Christmas and I thought I'd be back after a month or so. Nope! Still not gone back. Also, you can try Gaia which is an app for more spiritual esoteric type programs with fascinating documentaries and interviews tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/22 02:50 AM
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Lol! This is fantastic! A perfect encapsulation of their inability to self-reflect and do better next time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 01:48 AM
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You ladies are killing me 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 08:52 AM
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Ahaahahahaha! I can't breathe!!!🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 08:51 AM
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Love this! Hope your house turns out as fabulous as you want it :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 10:07 PM
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O.M.G! It's like I wrote this! I'd been no contact with my mother for a couple of years but started talking to her again last year. I was 36 at the time. She asked if I was dating. I said I'm not and I'm not fussed about it because I don't think I want to get married or have kids. Well, she flipped out. She called me crazy, said she should have left me in the third world country where I grew up because if she had, then by now I would have gotten married and had kids. That was the last time I spo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 09:50 AM
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Thanks for sharing these videos. Edit: a word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 09:31 PM
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I came here to quote this. That's all that popped into my head when I read this drivel of a post. They always find a way to blame women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 08:42 AM
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I didn't mean that they shouldn't report on it. Of course they should. I just meant that they should anonymise the terrorists who go on such killing sprees. Their names and identities should die with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 09:17 AM
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I think we need to start a petition for this. I hate seeing their disgusting faces plastered everywhere? Who benefits from that? How does it help the victims and families of the victims? They should be referred to by numbers or at most their initials used and a blank black and white silhouette instead of a photograph. We need to make it known that this kind of publicity encourages and enables others to do most vile things like this. If they achieve nothing in their lives they think they will go …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 12:51 AM
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Yeah, I heard it on the radio and they ended the very short segment saying "the police say it is not terror-related". I wanted to scream! What part of that sis not terrible?! How is it not terror to have some lunatic shooting up innocent people? Is that not the definition of terrorism?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 12:08 AM
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This what I used to stay towards the end of my dating life (I gave up dating in Mid-2019; couldn't be bothered anymore): It's never only one thing. If I ever noted one red flag... there'd be a few more coming up in short order. Guaranteed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 02:43 AM
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Fantastic write up! Brilliant! I just want to add that porn is not a free- thinking, sentient being that exists independently by itself. It is created by men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 05:01 AM
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You are not the only one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 03:27 AM
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Exactly what I would say. Why give them a direct answer after all? If he's it, then he's it. If he's not, then it's none of his business what you are looking for. Lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 09:35 PM
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This book broke me. I was so distressed all through it, that I had to numb my emotions to get through it. I didn't cry. I cried a month later when I was telling my friend the story. It was just too heart-breaking. It was devastating especially knowing that there are women in the world going through this even now. I can't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 11:42 PM
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Lol! I was gonna say the same thing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 09:47 AM
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I wish I could upvote this multiple times. I've been thinking about this same issue of males lashing out at women through millennia a lot recently and came to the same conclusion. They can't help thinking ' how can this person who is so much smaller and physically weaker that me, be going around the world so confident, strident, stubborn and brilliant?!' It is such a shock because they know how much they rely on their physicality and strength. So they believe that because we don't have that, we …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 12:11 AM
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Fascinating article. It touches in egat we've all noticed really despite what men claim. They obviously see the ones who don't actually what they want and as usual they project it onto the women. I'm glad she did the research, named the phenomenon and has written a book about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 09:32 PM
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Ahahaha! I tell you, you really had me going until the end. I was about to fell my phone with a blunt object and set the world on fire if this was really serious advice. Good one. I cackled :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 08:43 PM
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Lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 07:56 PM
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What a fabulous one! Love it! 😅😅😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 11:39 PM
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My bad. Noted. I haven't seen it much here, hence I asked since we talk a lot here about women being ok with being on their own. But I get you don't want to dwell on it on this sub. Apologies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 11:16 PM
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But why are we not more vocal about female separatism on here. We identify the fact that most men are LVW and therefore women should be prepared to be without men for the rest of their lives if it comes to it. Why don't we talk about female separatism and forging lives with other women - platonic partnerships, instead of focusing solely on being 'alone'? That is not the only option and the fear of aloneness is the main driving factor for women settling with LVM. If we are more vocal about female…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:04 PM
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That's what I've been trying to say: 'Female' is the standard; 'male' is the derivative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 09:47 PM
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I've found out about this term recently and it just makes me so happy and makes my imagination run wild. Lol! They've always known that after 25 (ie after our brains are fully formed - even before this was scientifically proven), we are more likely to be able to detect make bullshit at 50 paces. And our response to it which is basically " Stay TF away from me, you ghastly creature!" Is refered to as being 'thorny'. I approve of it. If only we could actually turn in verified dragons 🐉 with massiv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 09:15 PM
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This is what I say alllll the time. Why keep bothering women???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:13 AM
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OMG, thanks for putting me on to Jean Kilbourne! I'd never heard of her and now I have a few of her talks lined up to listen to as I've gone through all of Gail's at least twice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 08:10 AM
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Fantastic episode 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I am chuffed that you got Gail. I've been wanting a more recent lecture from her and you delivered it. Brava, Ladies! You did good💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 08:06 AM
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Yep, I found it recently too. Can't remember how, but it is very interesting and historically informative about the feminist movement. Would recommend!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 03:12 AM
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Definitely feel ya! Well done for protecting yourself and putting your care for yourself first. It's a big step. Hurts like hell but time is a great healer. It gets better. The gift is getting to learn who you are without the venom being dripped in regularly. Much love💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:54 AM
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It's not on Netflix where I am but I'll check Viki too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:08 AM
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Lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 02:50 AM
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I said anyone who is not you is by definition an 'other' in relation to yourself. Feel free to re-read my whole comment and not just the bit you cropped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:19 AM
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Well then we could start saying instead, that they are inhumane in their treatment of us. That they are not human in their actions towards us and their inability to recognize another human. I just chafe when we repeatedly refer to ourselves according to how they 'see' us. We should speak about how we perceive them in our reality. They are inhuman towards us. And we should say it over and over again. Their behaviours are inhuman/e towards us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:18 AM
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No actually. That is directly opposite to what I mean. I am arguing that we are fully human no matter how they choose to treat us. I will read the Second Sex, but I don't have to have done so in order to form my own opinion, hence this post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:12 AM
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I see what you mean, but I do stand by my point. Of course they see us as other... because we are. We are not men. Same as we see them as other because they are not women. But we do not treat them in any sort of negative way because they are other, they just are. After all, inanimate objects and non-homo sapiens beings are also other but as I said men don't demand from them what they do from us. Us being their human equivalent means they can only get what they want from us. I can also argue that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 01:39 AM
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Yes, I agree that they hate us for being better than them. Why else do they get so much joy from trying to degrade and destroy except as the only way to help them to overcome their feelings of inferiority? The only thing they have over us is physical strength. And yet they see how we thrive in the world without that strength and they resent it. That's why when they feel intimidated by a woman, they try to loom over her or otherwise attempt to flaunt their physicality to threaten her and thus mak…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 12:32 AM
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Yep, still haven't finished this show though I started it over 6 months ago. I have no idea why the main female character couldn't have been a struggling late- 20something. Very problematic because they even referred to her as a child quite a few times 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 11:26 PM
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They were a joy to watch. They really set the bar for a loving TV couple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:14 AM
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Haha, I posted one (actually several) of him already today. But I totally agree! We need more!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:24 AM
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Yes! And in Memories of the Alhambra he was a bit of a jerk but still gorgeous 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 01:00 AM
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They seem to go together well, don't they? I wish them well!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 01:49 PM
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Yep, that's where I found him too 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:43 AM
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👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 Fantastic quote from Pride and Prejudice brilliantly delivered by Jennifer Ehle in my favorite reproduction of that wonderful book. And yes, I was so proud of her for standing up for herself and for doing it so eloquently. The issue with people pleasers though ( I count myself as 'in recovery') is that we don't feel others as 'wholly unconnected to' us. We feel their disappointment, sadness, shame etc as if they are our own and so we scrabble to manage those emotions for them instead of l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:06 AM
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I'm sorry but I'm dying laughing with this this, I can barely type straight!!!🤣 Bless his innocent heart. It makes sense that if they see the world like that, it will be totally confusing for the why we reject what is such a lovely thing. Such ignorance of current dynamics can be irritating so though. Like talking to a brick wall the amount of non-comprehension you get trying to explain how different things are nowadays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:57 AM
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Gosh, that photo just fired up my love of property viewing again. I've rejoined Houzz. I love that website.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 12:54 AM
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I wish I had known about it dealing with my narc parent before I went no contact. It would've been enlightening to see their reaction to me saying, "Stop!" Just as they are about to launch into a narc rage. Oh well, I'm sure I'll be able to use it at some point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 11:39 AM
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OMG! I'm just coming to the end of this book and was going to post about it here. It is a gem! It should be given to every young woman as she enters secondary school. Verbal abuse is insidious and pervasive and so normalised now in all sorts of relationships..I was identifying with so much of it but with regards to familial interactions and friendships not really with romantic relationships. Withholding Countering Discounting Abuse disguised as 'jokes' Judging and criticizing Trivializing Underm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 10:52 AM
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Every time I think men can't be any worse, I am swiftly disappointed. This is beyond sickening. I have no other words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 02:02 AM
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I recently realised this too! Men EXPECT women to make effort before leaving the house so they can enjoy a lovely sight wherever they look. That's why they are so harsh to/mad at women that don't wear makeup or that cut their hair. Those women are not making the effort for random men's enjoyment and they hate it. We should start doing it to men too. Our standards are not obscene as men's are: Have a shower, brush your teeth and put on clean, well-fitted clothes. That's the minimum women do every…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 08:31 PM
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I'm starting to think there may be some link between not reading and being an abusive imbecile. Because reading exposes you to different perspectives whether the author's (- in non-fiction type works) or the characters in fiction. That helps you understand people better and stop seeing things solely from your own narrow world view. It plays a very important role in creating a well-rounded person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 01:54 PM
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Ahahaha! This is gold 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 01:46 PM
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I'm literally watching him in Vincenzo right now. I agree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 07:49 AM
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This is amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 08:51 PM
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Yes, because the answer to everything is always about force in a patriarchy. It's gross and they should be ashamed of the sick sick world they have created.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 02:37 AM
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This is the reason I decided to opt out. The way we raise children now, especially in the 'west/developed' countries, is just a giant scam for women and a sure fire pathway to extreme distress with poor mental and physical health outcomes. We were never meant to be trying to force block-headed men to do this and that and try to make them appropriate living companions. I am definitive that we are supposed to find a guy we find attractive when we get broody, get knocked up, leave him to his own de…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 01:59 AM
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Gross, gross, gross 🤢. But yeah, it's something else women are woefully under-informed about. Or is it that a lot of women are too timid to ask partners to wash beforehand, thinking it's up to them to not get a UTI or raging tonsillitis. Once again, the work is put on the woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 10:19 AM
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Yes! We tell women to pee before and after sex and clean their private areas etc after sex but where is the PSA for men to wash their p*nises and beards thoroughly before going anywhere near their sexual partner's private parts???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 04:40 AM
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I'm sure they must. It's such an obvious scam that women have been falling for, that they must be wetting themselves laughing at us at this point 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 10:07 PM
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I can't disagree 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 09:58 PM
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Yep, this is what makes me choose myself over dealing with any LVM any day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 09:55 PM
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Definitely! I've gotten so many ideas from you ladies that I can't wait to try :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 09:54 PM
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I have boardgames afternoons with my girlfriends and it is such fun!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 09:52 PM
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Yep, take him to a circus show... leave him there🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:41 PM
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Oooh, l love big libraries and a fairground! Great ideas!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:26 PM
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Indeed! I had a LVM randomly say to me while we were chilling on my sofa, 'you're so boring.' Right out of the blue, approps of nothing. When I asked why, he couldn't think of any other response than, 'you know, you are listening to jazz/classic music in the afternoon. It's for the night.' Then tried to wax lyrical about atmosphere and whatever nonsense he could think about in an attempt to not sound like the total fool he was sounding like. I just responded well, my hearing's the same day or ni…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:25 PM
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Whilst being sure that someone else is definitely going to pick up the slack, so you'll suffer no negative consequences for being a lazy good-for-nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:48 PM
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I can't stand him either. So unfunny and cringe in everything!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:46 PM
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I'm sorry, but cooking lunch in your own clown costume just had me chuckling on public transport! Thanks sis 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 04:33 AM
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Accurate 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 09:36 AM
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Hit dogs will holler. He felt attacked/called out because he is obviously the male angler fish. The shoe fits, hobo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 09:34 AM
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I keep trying to figure out the answer to this and consistently come up short. I have no f*cking idea what's wrong with them. Depravity will never be satiated. It'll always demand more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 06:48 AM
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*lack of
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 12:55 AM
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I'll see if I can collect my thoughts on the issue into a coherent piece.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 08:25 AM
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THIS! THANK YOU! Especially nowadays they won't stop badgering women for anl sex. If you are not interested in vgina, then just find a dude and have sex with him. A man is guaranteed to have more pleasure that way than a woman because of the prostate being a 'g-spot' for men. So why don't they just focus on pleasuring each other. They don't want the emotional commitment women want and also don't want plain ol' v*gina. Soo... Leave women alone!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 02:54 AM
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Thanks for this! I was thinking writing a post about this recently because I see a lot of women saying these men treat women like they are 'not human'. I actually disagree with that. They know full well that we are human. They: 1) don't care 2) use that knowledge of what women want and like, to gas light manipulate and extract as much as they can from us. They know full well that we are human, every step of the way - that's why they abuse us, for our human female resources.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 02:48 AM
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I support this motion!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 01:35 AM
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Also, I've been thinking a lot about the constant projection that men do and I see it everywhere now. A dude literally standing on the street corner soliciting sex from every woman that walks past still has the audacity to scream that she's a whre when she rejects him. How is she a whre if she refused sex? Bitch, YOU are the Ho! YOU are on the street corner begging for sex. 🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️YOU📣 ARE📣THE📣 HO📣!!!!! Damn, incessant projection getting on my last nerve 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 12:56 AM
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I'm here doing my self-care with my face mask on and I can't even laugh because the mud is gonna crack all the way off🤣🤣🤣 Lemme go wash this off and holler! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 12:44 AM
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👆🏽THIS! That's exactly what it is. Patriarchy be like: You get a wife! You get a wife! Every scrote gets a wife! No wonder they uphold the status quo with every struggle-breath they take.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 12:41 AM
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I realised that. My brain just initially refused to compute someone referring to 40yr old women as 'girls'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 11:57 PM
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I had a guy do this, not to a joke of mine but to a comedy I told him was funny and he agreed (after much cajoling on on my part) to watch with me. He literally covered his mouth and turned away from me to hide the fact that he was in fact laughing during the movie😒. Because that would have proven that I did have good taste and was right that he would find it funny. Smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 10:27 PM
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"Is he funny or am I just polite?" The amount of guys whose egos swell because I laugh a lot.... They think they are the most hilarious thing, but I'm usually laughing at some tangent my brain went on from something they said or something I saw/remembered. I crack myself up. Edit: grammar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 09:39 PM
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Makes me so happy! Only a few years ago, men like this strutted around like a 🐓 of the world, firm in the conviction that women their age were dying to bag anything with a penis attached in order to get their bay-bies before time ran out😱!!!!! Well, well, look how the tables have turned. Who's the desperado now?? Mold yourself into a reasonable version of a dependable and useful person and some woman would deign to consider you for a second date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 09:23 PM
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I had to read that first line a couple of times. Did he mean 40months old? 40 minutes from him?? But those makes even less sense. Lol. He is obviously a disrespectful dips**t. That's why they don't want his dusty products 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 09:00 PM
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Considered this a lot. Pity I'm not very religious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 02:32 AM
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Disdain. That is such a perfect word. A word I suddenly alighted in the upon a few days ago because I'd been searching for one to explain the look on a narcissistic relative's face when they looked at me sometimes. For years I couldn't pinpoint the exact description I was looking for. Then a few days ago, it clicked: Not revulsion, not disgust but disdain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 01:39 AM
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You know, even if the bf is a HVM it still hurts to be repeatedly thrown over and keep having plans cancelled because her plans with you are not as important as those she makes with him. If there's not place in a friend's life after she meets a man (HV or not), then the whole friendship needs to be reconsidered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 01:28 AM
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Yep, I did pole too for about 6 months in 2019 and it was fab. I went initially to see what it was all about but after the first class, it was a challenge! I had felt so unfit during the class that I just had to keep going to see how much I could improve. It was so much fun. And no men involved :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 09:04 AM
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Full recognition and monetary recompense for emotional labour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 08:54 AM
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Cackling!🤣🤣🤣 I can almost see your confusion with the way you numbered the questions: 1) 😮😟 2) 🤨🧐🤔 3) 🤔😬😨🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 09:07 PM
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Just listened to it while I cooked dinner. It was hilarious and that title kills me everytime I remember it: The Princess and the Bum🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 09:27 AM
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Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:45 AM
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Wow! I know it, but I've never seen it written out like this. I need to check this source out. Thanks for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 05:26 AM
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OMG, this too! I had a friend who'd ask me within minutes of meeting up with her (we met up every couple of months), if I 'had anyone'. When I said no, she'd respond 'don't worry, don't worry.' I was always flummoxed. Why does she think I'm worried?? Then I realized that it's because she'd be worried if she were single so she assumed I must be too. Smh. Best not trying to understand others and just live your own life. People are a lot sometimes with all their projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 05:12 AM
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🤣 Fabulous, dahling!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 09:47 PM
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Nah, sis. Nigerian's def say that too. 'izzit by force??' 🤣 But I don't think her accent is Nigerian so you're probably right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 08:20 AM
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Same. same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 08:25 PM
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The most gorgeous guy I ever met (Channing Tatum lookalike) was so buff and good looking but the more he spoke the more he sounded like he had brain damage or something. He was apparently in investment banking with a business card and everything but as our flirting/coversation went on I started wondering if he was hit on the head as a child. He just sounded really dumb 🤷🏾‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 10:31 AM
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Oh yes, boundaries are a sure fire way of weeding out pickme and LV female friends. I lost a new acquaintance that I'd been hoping to make into a friend. About 6 weeks after we met (we'd met up for different things during this time), I had to tell her 2 things: 1) that she interrupted me so much when we were having conversations that I could hardly get a word in edge-wise. I'm a great listener and all but a conversation is supposed to be back and forth. 2) that I didn't like talking about men so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 10:02 AM
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I'm reading the book right now and assumed it was a woman who wrote it. Oops!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 11:06 AM
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I will never be ok with this. It wounds me whenever I think about it. I seethe constantly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:39 AM
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Ignorance can be bliss sometimes. But ignorance is usually not permanent because women grow and mature and things that they used to allow become unbearable. Unfortunately, when the veil falls, the pain comes on full force and we see how much we've put ourselves through in our ignorance. A lot of men (most) bank on that ignorance that's why they try to remove possible influencing factors from their women's lives - like FDS 🤣. Also, I call that 'instinct to run': my grandmothers. Lol! They are fol…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 06:15 AM
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👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I have so many thoughts about this! I am similar. I started dating at 26 because I decided then that if I continued to see men as they actually are...then I'll never find one good enough. Then followed 5-7 years of hoodwinking myself so that I didn't stop seeing every guy after the first date. Still, I could only make it to 4 months max before I had to duck out because I could see what they were doing/acting etc. Some of them saw that I saw it and would say things like 'I know you are goi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:30 AM
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So did I 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:20 AM
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I listen to her. Her advice is fantastic. Just saw that her latest show is about how we should 'block and delete'. She's an fds'er haha!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 10:06 AM
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Yes!!!!!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I've been thinking this for a long time but had nowhere to vocalise it. You have done so beautifully. They stick up for every man's depravity because they know it's likely that tomorrow their own depravity will be made known and they will need other men to stock up for them. It is the First Law of Patriarchy: Stand up and defend the next man's depravity so that when yours is exposed, he'll be free and able to stand up and defend you. I wonder how they all learn it though an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 05:22 AM
6

A Little Princess by Frances Hodgeson Burnett is one of the best books I've ever read (listened to actually on audiobook on my commute a few years ago). I'd not read or watched secret garden and hadn't heard of her prior. It was such a beautiful story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 12:39 PM
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Ooh, seen 2 out of three of those and really enjoyed them! Not keen on checking out extracurricular - just not a fan of that genre. Mine are too many to list but I'll pick 3: Crash Landing On You (my first ever kdrama); Stranger; Flower of Evil. The female gaze post from yesterday made me want to suggest 'Search WWW' for ladies who might be interested. That drama was female gaze writ large👌🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 11:38 AM
23

Solidly on the kdrama train for a year now and no regrets!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 10:11 AM
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It was amazing to me when started to read all the classics in my late 20 and early 30s in a bid to become more sophisticated and well-read, that the works often referred to as 'great' and 'best ...of all time' etc etc, not only bored me but I found a lot of them just plain unimpressive. I kept thinking maybe I just don't like this one, I'll try another. After a few years, I gave up. I realised that for most of those, the only thing that made them great were the (usually male) critics naming them…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 11:12 PM
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Can't upvote this enough 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 12:06 PM
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Yep, I caught that too🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 11:43 AM
59

Lol! I like the "ETA". Sometimes we just need to hear ourselves (and others) to get a fecking clue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 11:42 AM
38

OMG, I actually had some dude (40yo) make me those fish finger things when he 'cooked me dinner' - basically out it in the microwave straight from freezer. First and last time I ever ate those as an adult because I was too polite to laugh in his face..I was so embarrassed. How can a grown adult present a date with that? That's what latchkey kids have as a snack before their parents return home from work. Shameless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 09:01 AM
40

Convenient how they forget that little bit of info, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 08:43 PM
607

Wait until they have kids. Then the nappies change themselves, the babies feed themselves and everything just happens around him and when she eventually snaps and tells him to entertain his own spawn for an hour he'll huff and complain how she's no fun anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 10:33 AM
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I can't upvote this enough! Women need to know this! How many men in this whole earth will be happy d ay after day after week after week etc etc just giving his partner orgasms and never getting any himself? Which men?? I can count them on no fingers!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 12:56 AM
3

Gorgeous!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 09:35 PM
11

We No Ducks Given! Love it!!!🚢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 09:29 PM
2

Same. Same re: publishing a work of fiction without all the graphic stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 08:57 PM
5

Thanks for the cackle!😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 12:20 PM
30

They are comfortable seeing men kll each other, animals kll men etc. But showing a woman hurting them in a way that could actually happen (i.e. not fantasy fighting in heels)?? Nah... But seriously, they are very aware of the effect on the psyche. Women seeing themselves brutalized by all sorts of men is a'ok. But they have to shelter men's precious nerves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 12:51 AM
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Hahaha! This is amazing! "He was asking to get kicked in the crotch" 🤣. It's funny how there is a unspoken rule about not showing women killing men or hurting them visibly (i.e. in the presence of the audience). One that stood out to me was in Revenant where there was a rape scene that the audience was subject to - front and center of screen- but when the woman got the chance (after he was distracted) to slice off his pe*is, the audience wasn't shown. We just had to assume that that is what she …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 12:00 AM
5

Brosephous🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 05:10 AM
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I think his lectures (in university of Toronto where he teaches/used to teach) are great learning. But when he moved on to doing public lectures and answering questions from the audience I started to get bored. I don't agree with most of what he says about women so I just dump those. But a lot of other things he says are actually reasonable and important - things about resilience making the most of your life and not being a whiny victim when you still have the ability to improve yourself. We sho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:58 AM
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👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:57 AM
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I've been thinking about this for years! Why not! If those thoughts are running your life and making you useless to society... Here's a pill for that! The important stuff always gets ignored when it would benefit women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:40 PM
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I've always thought that the reason woman may have problems conceiving after age 35 is that they have problems with fertility anyway; and if they had tried to conceive at 25 they would have had the same issue 🤷🏾‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:14 PM
5

Let me clarify what he said for the confused young woman: Don't move around. I get turned off when I realise you are actually alive. You being alive when we have sex is gross to me. Now, young lady, proceed however you will with this information.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:51 PM
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Exactly. They always see women complaining about unwanted attention like 'oh, I'd love to get attention', and forget about the 'unwanted' part. So we should start sending straight dudes dick pics, pretending to be big dudes wanting to date them, and basically harass them as they do to women, only in a package that will definitely not see as 'attactive'. See how it remains thier 'dream' then. Losers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:35 PM
21

Asking him any questions before dropping your knickers = Interview. Scrote troubles🤷🏾‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 05:23 AM
6

Yep, being controlled by sexual impulse is gross and pathetic. No different form being an animal in the wild with no impulse control. They should be ashamed of themselves and work to overcome that instead to sinking further into imbecility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:36 AM
4

What???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 12:51 AM
29

Yes, because if they praise us too much we might realise we are too good for the majority of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 12:38 AM
54

Yes. Patriarchy 101: Women = do everything and then some but remain silent and humble about it. Men = do the barest minimum but crow about it until Kingdom come.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 12:37 AM
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Well put. Exactly what I came here to say. But you said it all 👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 10:50 PM
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'Plain duty of a wife' = Being Super Woman. Apparently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 10:33 PM
7

For k-dramas? Yes, yes we are🤦🏾‍♀️ lol! At least the 2am part - those shows can get hella addictive!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 11:50 AM
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Wow, I'm happy the young ladies are getting it but sad how low the bar has gotten even for the younger generation. Smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 07:14 AM
22

Gorgeous! What kind of stone is that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 06:25 AM
12

Same! I love her username too. I would do the same but I have to build myself a HVbookshelf first. I'm working on that!😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 02:04 AM
53

THIS! We should normalise this! If withholding sex is not allowing a man to use a woman's body until he climaxes whether she wants to or not, then what is the equivalent for women? Since men like to whine 'it happens to us toooo', with everything that women have an issue with, let's look at it from the 'it happens to women toooo' perspective. If a man's climax signifies the culmination of a sexual encounter for him, then it should be the same for women. Sex can't have happened between two people…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 11:10 PM
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Formidable woman!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 09:08 PM
2

Will do, thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 08:48 PM
4

It's infuriating that the people that are the main cause for continual distress to women are the same one that try to police our response to it. It shows that they don't see us full humans with diverse emotions. We Amy as well be 2d because is being angry is so disorienting for that they can't actually listen to what we are saying. They just think "She's angry. Women aren't supposed to be angry. She's not behaving well. I should stop her from doing this because I don't like it." All this instead…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 08:47 PM
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Yes, but why is she angry though? Men's favorite emotion is anger. They empathize with each other all the time about things that made them angry and 'made them lash out'. Always trying to find out "what did she do to make him so angry?"etc. But when a woman is angry, it's time for them to shut down and not listen to her. Her anger is a reason to dismiss her argument, while their anger is valid and should be understood. Why is she angry, scrote?! What did men do to make her so angry? What are the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 07:19 PM
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Yep, it's on my list now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 08:37 AM
19

I'd been looking for someone to explain the damage I know porn is wreaking on society and I am glad someone posted a longer video of hers on here last week. I've listened to them over and over since then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:22 AM
17

Yep. The last guy I dated before deleting the app, my thought when I saw his profile was 'At least I'm not repulsed by him.' That was how low the bar was, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 11:38 PM
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Ahahahahahaaaaa breathes ahahahahahaaaaa 🤣🤣🤣 Creep. But isn't this the sum of what emotional labour men demand daily in relationships with women though? If he got a male painter, he'd just get his house painted. That's it. And he wouldn't expect anything extra.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 11:26 PM
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I had a guy I was casually dating (we had agreed definitely no relationship and he was free to see other people) tell me I was getting too attached. Because I was interested in his life and was commiserating with him about his ex whom he still wasn't over🤡 So I said 'Ok, maybe you are right. Noted.' Soon after, I didn't hear from him for a few weeks. Then he messaged: I haven't heard from you for a few weeks. I responded: ditto. Then he said: if you haven't heard from me shouldn't you ask me how…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 07:01 AM
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Yup!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 08:39 PM
10

And that saddens me greatly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 08:38 PM
15

Yes! They want us to continue doing everything but can't do their ONE thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 08:38 PM
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You know it's only in the last few days that I started thinkingg about this fact due to a post on FDS and I'm just getting angrier and angrier. They literally had everything done for them so they could focus on their work and then they have the audacity to boast that they invented everything as if women were just incapable for no reason. How infuriating!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 11:14 AM
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Sorry you are having a hard time, but this warmed my heart to read. Glad your surgery went ok💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 06:58 PM
10

I love this story. I want to go on a months-long road trip too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 04:07 AM
22

Pun definitely intended!!! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 09:02 PM
19

That's the thing about boundaries, isn't it? You are not telling him whether he should have a disgusting fart fetish or not. He can do whatever the hell he likes... But you want no part of it! Apparently, he can have his fetish (notice he doesn't offer to go get help so he stops being turned on by something so gross), but she can't have her boundaries?? GTFO! Well done for standing up for yourself..big hugs, sis!!! 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 08:10 PM
19

Great read! I wanted to keep flicking the pages. Off to go seem how I can get it. Cheers!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 07:45 PM
10

Yes, I suppose that's it. But it can't happen unless the victim is kind-hearted and giving. It continuously saddens me that we live in a world in which those with such good qualities are targeted for abuse and misuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 07:34 PM
2

Smooth brain🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 07:40 AM
2

That's more like it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 07:06 AM
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I really don't know how you ladies do this. How do you stay longer than the first time this dude tells you he's only going to pick up his stuff?? How do you mop up his pee more than never?? I will be soo angry that I'd probably vomit blood. I have never lived with a man. Now that I am 37 yo, I am confident that I never will. I'm not looking to date at present but if I happen, in the future, to meet a man that I like enough to be in a relationship with, he's staying in his place and I'm staying a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 06:58 AM
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I have seen this book recommended so many times but finally decided to get it. I just downloaded it on Kindle. Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 01:10 AM
3

Ahahaha!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 09:15 PM
4

Why did I just visualize this?😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 08:50 AM
3

Good on you, sis👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 12:37 AM
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This is actually brilliant. We are so used to the audacity that we don't think to be as audacious ourselves. Yes, if one asks you to cook, they should be asked to perform an equivalently time consuming task to earn that meal. Make this a thing, please! Let them be more aware of all the things they are useless at and to be aware that a woman's effort is equivalent to theirs. Who am I kidding, the meaning will fly right over their heads 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 10:01 PM
8

Me too! Urgh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:42 AM
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I snorted when he said 'Maybe I should have found a therapist before I left'. F**k off, dude. She doesn't need a therapist. She has her 🐈 and the trash has taken itself out. She's good 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 11:41 PM
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I read this as 'Anything about the giraffe is an immediate left swipe', and thought, 'No! What's wrong with a giraffe 🦒??' Then I realised I'd morphed the sentence with your username. Lol! Giraffes are cuter than probably all the men on OLD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 12:58 AM
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This is a beautiful message 💖 I actually have a tote that says 'Sisters before Misters'. It's my fave!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 12:25 AM
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OMG, I just nearly spat out my morning tea! This made me cackle!!!😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 10:05 PM
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Me too.. I hate cringe comedy and this was sex positive cringe. It just came across to me as dirty and cheap. Maybe I just didn't get the humour..lots of people thought it was the best thing ever. I preferred The Marvelous Mrs Maisel for a female-led comedy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:53 AM
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Thanks. I recently read the article myself and was floored by their tenacity and bravery. Brava to them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:40 AM
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Lol! It always surprises me when these men can present themselves in such a low manner and expect a positive response. How do they expect anything other than rejection? Rumpled shirts, unbrushed teeth... Even to go to your local shop you should present better than that let alone to a date?? I'm starting to resent the women who accept such non-effort. But that would include myself in the past so I can't be too harsh now that I've seen the light🤦🏾‍♀️ I had one dude present to all our dates wearing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:38 AM
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Victimizing themselves exactly. It's beyond ridiculous at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:21 AM
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Aw, thanks lovely! You know what, I've never seen it as projection, I was just confused as to how he would insinuate that. Now, I realise that that is exactly what it was. He even said once 'I would still date you even if you were a cleaner'. To which I responded, 'But I'm not though.' Imagine trying to get virtuous props for something you are not actually doing. Smh. I'm sure there were cleaners (or whatever other job he sees as lowly) on the website we met on, so why didn't he date one of them…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 11:43 PM
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Indeed...depressing especially considering how much coercion is applied to women to look their best when stepping out of their houses so every man that sees her that day can enjoy the benefit of it. Makes me so angry to think about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 11:08 PM
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It was so refreshing to realise it, sis, honestly. What's with the beards? I agree! Where's the fun in trying to kiss someone whose lips you can't even get to because of an overgrown moustache? Ergh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 11:05 PM
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I'm too sad to upvote this 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 10:55 PM
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No embarrassed at all! Never held the door open for me. Got upset when I asked him how he intends to provide for a wife and possible children in the future if he can barely pay his car loan every month without running out of money (didn't say it exactly like that, just asked what promotion opportunities he had at work and if he felt able to provide for a family). Dude broke up with me via email after that conversation siting that I'm always talking about money. Apparently, his friend who works a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 10:17 PM
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I get a skip in my step after a breakup even if I'd only been with the guy for a couple of months. Lol! Me time is the best time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 10:05 PM
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One guy I dated for a few weeks (still kicking myself that it lasted the 6 weeks it did), said he does not give compliments because he grew up without a father so he doesn't know how to give compliments; or do anything romantic like get me flowers or chocolates. This fool was 39 years old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 10:01 PM
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Why don't these bastards ever go to therapy???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 09:57 PM
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I once went to a free 'get the guy' lecture ( I know, I know, but it was years ago and I was very naive, I thought I needed tips to me more flirtatious etc). When I arrived at the venue and looked around at the attendees, my heart sank. I realised the issue wasn't me. There I was with about a hundred other women in the middle of London and I knew that there were not enough men in that city who were up to the standard of the women that were sitting in that room. They was a groomed, poised, educat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 09:27 PM
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Just posted almost the same thing about not seeing any attractive men for months at a time! Re: your edit - it's true! But why will they have a whole woman in their life for months even years, but be determined to ignore her, abuse her, reduce her to a beggar pleading for crumbs of affection and humane treatment. Yet, when she decides to leave they start crying and pleading for her to stay????!?? Stay for what?! I will NEVER understand that. Never.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 09:16 PM
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Excellent breakdown! At the end of 2019 or so, I was coming to the conclusion (in my mid-30s) that I am asexual. I was realising that the reason that I go months at a time without seeing any man that I think is attractive may not be because that are in fact unattractive (after all, a lot of women seem to have no problem dating them), but may be due to the fact that I just don't have a libido. I was content with this conclusion. I was happy to go out into the world and just focus on my errands, f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 09:07 PM
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Why do they think that a woman trying to buy that skirt wants to see it displayed like that??? Do they think about women at all aside from when they are sexualizing us? 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:47 AM
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Ahahahahha! Shtappp, I'm cackling! This whole thread has me dying😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 11:13 AM
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Hahaha! This is hilarious. Thanks :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 01:55 AM
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Lol. True though.. Or we should just let women know that this situation is very likely to happen after you give birth so women stop being so shocked and disappointed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 07:45 AM
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I'm 37 and my longest 'relationship' was 4 months. I haven't dated for 2yrs now. I usually go long periods between dating and don't realize until someone asks me directly if I'm dating or when last I dated. I don't miss it. I'm well aware that I get bored of men as soon as I get to know them. The ones that lasted 4 months consisted mostly of me convincing and talking myself into it. I am straight. There's nothing I can do about that. But the older I get, the disillusionment I've always had about…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 07:40 AM
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Could I get a code, please?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 04:16 AM
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I'm coming to the conclusion that wen may be better places to stop trying to marry and co-habitate with men. That seems to be where everything starts to go wrong. Date (fds style) but live in women only communities where we can raise our children away from male resentment and violence. Then we won't have to deal with their slovenly attitudes and generally contrary attitudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 04:17 AM
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I have been thinking about this from time to time recently - how come we evolved to be so different.- like oil and water as you say and the only thing bringing the sexes together is the urge for sex/reproduction. The book title 'Men are from Mars, women are from Venus' is beginning to seem quite a literal statement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 09:41 PM
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Cool! I'll dm you when I figure out how. Lol! It'll be nice to have a writing pen pal :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 08:58 AM
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I self-published my first novel which was a romance but I discovered I find that not so compelling to continue doing. So, I am now writing a new adult fantasy-type story. I love fantasy fiction. It's interesting enough to keep me interested, but it's also very difficult. Lol! It's a steep learning curve and sometimes I feel I'm not up to it but I keep going because I just love it. I'll be so proud when I complete it! I'm not good at short stories, though. I always want to keep going :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 02:54 AM
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Hello! I'm also a hobby writer (currently procrastinating by reading fds). I'm not as successful as you are though so kudos to you and keep up the good work! Sorry about the scrotes who are obviously jealous and incensed that a woman is better then they are and is being recognized for being so. Pathetic. Their energies would be better spent improving their own hobbies (if they have any) but we know scrotes abhor expending energy doing anything other than trying to convince women that their worth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 02:23 AM
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We love to see it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:36 AM
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Ahahahahahaaaaa! This made me laugh so much. How pathetic. It's beyond ridiculous at this point. Thinking about the post about the man who told his pregnant partner that all pregnancy expenses are hers to cover... even though it was his child she was pregnant with. Since joining FDS 2 months ago, I've been shaking my head at all these sorts of posts that I'm getting quite a muscular neck now😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 11:46 PM
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Your username is so cute!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 09:08 PM
5

Recently watched the first season of Derry Girls and quite enjoyed it. I am with you on the female-led shows. I currently can't stand to watch any male-centric 'entertainment'. I'm just put off by the constant in-your-faceness of toxic masculinity and violence. I'll pass, thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 02:55 AM
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Haha, definitely some LVM, but at least in general they 1) are handsome and in shape 2) have jobs or something that they are passionate about 3) consistently do things that show that they are thinking about their love interest and listen and respond to her wants and needs. It's no surprise that most of these shows are penned (though not often directed) by female writers. It shows! The LVM in real life don't hit any of these points and think it's so horrible that women expect them to. Lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 02:14 AM
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If anyone is still sleeping on korean romantic dramas, please give them a chance. I discovered them during lockdown last year and it's a rabbit whole I'm still in and enjoying a year later. No sex! Just romance and fluff and actual wholesome stories that are relatable whether you are Asian or not. I haven't been able to watch a western production since then apart from Queen's Gambit (which was suggested to me over and over again for some reason by friends) but I was extremely disappointed. I onl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 10:00 PM
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I'm so sorry to hear this. They hate you for helping them. How sad😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 10:00 AM
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They mean unconditional in the sense that you don't have to do anything for them to crave your vagina. You could totally minding your own business oblivious to their existence (waiting for the bus, doing your shopping and other mundanities) and they're already in love with your vagina. So they chase (by any means necessary) until they get it. Once they get it and no longer crave it, then to them, the 'love' is gone, so off they trot. In my country of origin growing up, strange men (adults) would…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 07:03 AM
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What?! what?! This is the first time my mouth has actually dropped open reading a post. I am incredulous at this. What have women reduced ourselves to? Why??? I have nothing else to say. I'm child free and will remain so. Whatever chemical/hormone-induced urge it is that drives women to rationalize this situation for themselves, I have never been afflicted with it and I never will be. I wish them godspeed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 10:10 AM
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Makes my heart happy ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 01:01 AM
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Gah! If only I'd been a lick wittier, I'd have thought this up myself! Lol! Well done 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 01:00 AM
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Always need to be on the lookout for those! Lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 08:14 PM
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Important bit of info there. I bet she's still a stunner too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 08:14 PM
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I see what you did there. Lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 08:12 PM
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I just made the same reply to a comment above. I'd never really thought about it until the ladies comments on here. It is so true that they want to be able to feign ignorance by not asking. 'BUuT yOu dIDnt sAyY'.😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 10:23 PM
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Wow this is so true! If they ask and you say no, then they can't go ahead with what they wanted to do. So they just don't ask, go ahead and do it then can pretend with the surprised pickachu face when you complain. Bastards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 10:19 PM
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Putting it out in the zeitgeist is something worth doing. Maybe one or two rapists will have their dicks cut off during the act, by their victims. Maybe other men will hear about it. Maybe a potential rapist (or two) casing out their victims will hesitate and consider the possibility that that will be the very last time they have sex. Maybe one or two potential rapists will decide against it. Put the thought out in the zeitgeist. Maybe women in horrific circumstances with nothing else to lose wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 09:27 PM
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I think women across the world should start frequently and loudly 'JOKING' about castrating men. Why is it such a taboo? Men repeatedly 'joke' about violent acts against women: rape, mutilation, all sorts of other degrading and revolting acts aside from outright murder like this meme does. And then act shocked when we are offended. We should just start replying with castration jokes. This meme should have been replied with: 'Lol, my previous bf kept bugging me to do something with his dick to ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 12:27 PM
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Ok, I lol'ed at "looks like she could do more work after raising 5 kids" 😂. But totally agree that we just get on with it. I do think though that we have realised if we do make a big fuss you are ignored anyway so why waste time and energy? What we need to do is also ignore men when they make a fuss. They'll soon learn to keep it to themselves too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 05:27 AM
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Doesn't surprise me at all. I'm all for it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 05:23 AM
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I think that at this point, they are making themselves revolting out of spite. Because if they are keeping themselves up, then they would be doing it for us. And they'll be damned if they will be such simps as to wipe their own ass or brush their teeth for a woman. I would routinely go months and even could go a whole year without finding any guy attractive irl let alone on OLD. Cancelled my last OLD acct 2yr ago any thought of going back however fleeting, makes me shudder. Never again. I also n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 03:28 AM
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That was my thought! Like damn, man, do you want him?? Geez, calm it down. Your thirst is showing..smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 09:54 PM
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This is beautiful. When I read the first part of your title, I thought it was a question. So I answered: peace. Then read it again and saw the 'Peace' written on the next line (that's how it appeared on my screen) and I mini-squealed and gave you a mental high-five. I moved in October and a friend of mine with a van helped me. I spent days after moving, grinning and grinning and being so elevated in mood, so happy that I found such a lovely cosy place for myself. I was single before I moved. I'm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 09:49 PM
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Hahahahaha!!! This picture is me and I like it :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 09:18 PM
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Wow, it's a great way to look at it. On one hand, they bemoan the fact that women aren't traditional anymore and that things aren't as great as they used to be. But at the very same instance, they insult and sneer at those very women whose lives were dedicated to lovingly making sandwiches for the men in their lives. The very same men who when it came to it, did not hesitate to leave those women in the dirt without a second thought. It is the daughters and granddaughters of those 'sandwich maker…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 08:56 PM
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Abusive people in general. You can say no nicely until you are blue in the face.No. no. no. no. no = ignored. Then, NOOOOOO!!!!! Screamed in their face and it becomes 'why are you screaming and overreacting you should have just said no.' F**king lunatics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 09:10 AM
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Boundaries Boundaries Boundaries 2021 is about me racking up my boundary usage and especially enforcing them. It's a learning process that I improve each time I have and oops moment and someone ignores, violates ad straight on bulldozes through them. I recommend the podcast: Baggage Reclaim by Natalie Lue. She is fantastic at breaking down what our own roles are in the difficulties that we are having on relationships. Stellar content. Lots of eps to sift through but each one had a nugget to lear…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 06:48 AM
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I tried to upvote this but couldn't because your ex's behavior just pissed me off. Lol! Urgh. Glad he's an 'ex'!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:40 PM
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It's amazing how much men support each other in their low-valueness. They know that if they can force strange women on the internet to keep their expectations and self esteem low, then it will benefit them by proxy somehow and will make them feel that will continue to have a chance with any woman, no matter how worthless they know they actually are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:43 PM
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Hmm. I see I got a lot of downvotes. Is it cos I said a woman wrote it? Ok, maybe it wasn't a woman. How does the rest of what I said change? There have been so many posts on social media over the last year or so in the same vein. They get a lot of engagement and seem to trigger a lot of women. It looks like this one is pdoing the same here. My point was for is to save our energies and ignore the sometimes blatant attempts to trigger us which I think this is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:14 PM
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Fantastic post👏👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:53 AM
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I think these kind of posts now are more click-bait because they gets such a fiery response wherever they are posted. I think it was a woman who wrote it. I don't think a man in such a relationship can ever be this self-aware or self-effacing. Let's try not get ourselves too worked up by the nonsense. There's too much of it about, so there's a risk of wearing ourselves out with all of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 04:09 AM
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This made me really laugh out loud 🤣. Especially the succinct last line. Very well stated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 09:04 PM
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The funny (not so funny) thing is that men have always known who they are. They have spent millennia working through every avenue be it by gaslighting, passing laws, physical violence and suppression to ensure that women never get to a stage where we can CHOOSE not to have them in our lives. Because they know for sure that if we had the choice and we're free of gaslighting and insane societal pressure, most women would opt out. The opting out has been happening. In the past there was more censur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:27 AM
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Lol! Well done. They need to know they are no different from flashers hanging out in the park. No one is impressed by their diseased malfunctioning rot stick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:05 AM
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Oh. My. God. What did I just read? Was this person raised in the wild? Did he function in any sort of adult manner outside your house? He is worse than an untrained pig. Disgusting! I can't believe it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 11:17 PM
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I think that through millennia, women have powered up and men have powered down. Through time, most women were thought of as easily replaceable - if a man's wife died (whether in childbirth or whatever other myriad of circumstances) she was just replaced. The man almost never tried to learn to do what his wife had been doing for him - cooking, cleaning, caring for the kids etc. A new wife was provided ASAP. There was societal trust that any woman a man marries would take over the 'womanly' respo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:48 PM
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Notice how he says "I can have fun with someone without it being 'just' sex". Fun=sex. Fun can't be anything else that's NOT sex. They can have fun but it has to be 'sex+other non-sex things'. Fun can never be just non-sex things. There's literally nothing else fun to do with a woman in the whole world but sex. For far too many men in this sad world (the vast majority): Woman=sex. And that's it. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:08 PM
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A woman deciding she would rather focus her energies on herself and deserving family and friends is the LITERAL SAME!!! as wishing death and destruction on men. This is because not having women dedicate their lives to men (even women in other countries that these men are never going to meet in their lifetimes!) is such a dangerous prospect to their fragile and forever teetering egos, that the idea itself must be stomped out by any means necessary. Logic does not have to be involved. Irrationalit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 01:38 AM
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