OrsilonSteel Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
44	It’s Not a Competition	Fundamentals	OrsilonSteel	/r/seduction	20/09/22 11:23 AM
1	Be Candid	Fundamentals	OrsilonSteel	/r/seduction	20/09/22 12:22 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	It’s Not a Competition But that’s not competition. Competition implies winners and losers. So long as you end up in love, that’s all that matters. And love between two people has nothing to do with “competition” from anyone else.	/r/seduction	21/09/22 11:27 AM
1	It’s Not a Competition If you run a marathon, it’s cool if you finish first, but most people only care that you actually ran the marathon. In the game of love, it’s cool if you end up with a really neat person, but so long as you are in love, that’s the only thing that matters.	/r/seduction	21/09/22 11:25 AM
1	It’s Not a Competition But competition means there is an active rival in your quest to secure her affection. The semantics of this whole argument is based on the idea that there is an active antagonist to you, and that isn’t always true. Many women get out of relationships, and fail to get into new ones for a long time. There was no other guy, the one she left failed to meet expectations.	/r/seduction	21/09/22 09:27 AM
1	It’s Not a Competition I’ll take the 5 extremely close friends I have that are my friends in spite of my lack of success than the multitude more I could have because of success because those people are only there because of the success, not because they like me for who I am. And I don’t need my family’s pride to know their love, because that has nothing to do with each other. My family loves me because of who I am, not because of what I’ve done. People who are there because of what you have done are only there for you…	/r/seduction	20/09/22 06:36 PM
0	It’s Not a Competition Even your friendships, your relationship with your family? If so, I feel bad for you, because you must have some very immature people in your life.	/r/seduction	20/09/22 06:22 PM
2	It’s Not a Competition If I woke up a different person tomorrow, then I wouldn’t be the person my wife loves. And let’s say I don’t meet her standards, and she doesn’t meet mine, and neither of us are willing to work to meet them, then that’s that. The relationship is over. Whether or not there is someone better, it’s over. Plenty of people leave relationships with nobody else in mind, with nobody else to move on to. Eventually someone may come along, but I can’t think of a single person who I’d move on to if my wife …	/r/seduction	20/09/22 06:19 PM
7	It’s Not a Competition I feel like your view of women is extremely mercenary, and that you believe they will hop the fence the second it is greener on the other side. If you do see it that way, buddy, you gotta get out more and meet other women, because the women you are chasing aren’t worth the time of day. If you don’t, then it’s not a competition. So long as you meet/exceed her expectation, she will be happy with you.	/r/seduction	20/09/22 06:08 PM
0	It’s Not a Competition I am sorry, but my wife doesn’t “compete” for my time and affection, just as I don’t compete for hers. And any girl that can’t ignore the advances of other men while dating you isn’t worth the time or effort.	/r/seduction	20/09/22 05:59 PM
1	It’s Not a Competition Hell yeah man, absolutely	/r/seduction	20/09/22 05:43 PM
4	It’s Not a Competition And in the theater of base sexual attraction, it reigns supreme. But there’s more to relationships than sex. Maybe if you are only seeking a hookup, but any relationship worth keeping is based far more on personality. Regardless, it is in my experience that meeting and exceeding a girl’s standards has far more to do with winning a girl than being better than those around you. So what if you are better than the rest of men if you don’t meet her standards, she won’t take you all the same. And ther…	/r/seduction	20/09/22 05:42 PM
4	It’s Not a Competition You are talking about base biological roles though, but our society has largely moved on from those primitive definitions. We do not live in a world of sexual necessity. We are not breeding to have as many offspring as possible like beasts: in fact, we artificially limit our ability to mate. Social and emotional relationships are far more important. This idea that we somehow live in the same society and circumstance as our distant ancestors is confounding. So what if it used to be, it isn’t anym…	/r/seduction	20/09/22 04:52 PM
-1	It’s Not a Competition Most of the people in clubs and bars are there for hookups. If you aren’t, I question your methods. Depending on the app/website, same with those too. The exception are matchmaking websites, which focus on personality and interests over physical attraction and sex. And, yeah, if you are there for hookups, you probably should be focusing on the sexual side of yourself: physical attractiveness/charisma. So it doesn’t surprise me that men are starting to get more dolled up. All in all, it’s the sta…	/r/seduction	20/09/22 03:57 PM
0	It’s Not a Competition If she’s still entertaining you with something better in her DMs, she’s playing you and is not worth your time. Or maybe she doesn’t, and you just haven’t reached her standards. Regardless, her standards are the goals you need to reach.	/r/seduction	20/09/22 02:34 PM
0	It’s Not a Competition So let’s say you “win” the competition: is that it? You got the girl so now you don’t have to compete anymore? What will happen to your motivation when you don’t have to “compete” anymore? If you base your drive on that, what will you revert to when it’s gone? Or will you see it as a fight to keep the girl? A constant competition, where you could lose at any moment? Don’t you want to be able to relax and enjoy the relationship and not have to worry that Mr. Perfect will come along and win it awa…	/r/seduction	20/09/22 01:44 PM
0	It’s Not a Competition What about this alternative: the only goal you should be striving to attain is the general standards girls have. If you aren’t meeting their standards, then there’s no reason you should “earn” a relationship with them, even if you are the best available, and if you are meeting their standards, but she is playing you off of other guys that meet her standards, then maybe you need to re-evaluate the kind of woman you are going after, because that sounds like a personality disorder. Their’s no “winn…	/r/seduction	20/09/22 01:39 PM
3	It’s Not a Competition Your urgency should come from a desire to have a relationship, not from a comparative “I need to hurry because everyone else is doing better than me”. Your situation has nothing to do with competing and everything to do with not bettering yourself. Ask any psychiatrist: self improvement should come from a desire to be better for yourself, not because of social pressures.	/r/seduction	20/09/22 01:22 PM
-4	It’s Not a Competition Look, maybe it’s a competition to some people, but from my point of view, life is a marathon. Some people can run faster, go further, and enjoy it more, but so long as you finish the marathon, that’s all that anyone really cares about.	/r/seduction	20/09/22 01:14 PM
2	Be Candid Come and get them, so long as you leave me a case of beer and my lady, you can have the rest. -Sincerely, a Columbusite	/r/seduction	20/09/22 01:03 PM
14	It’s Not a Competition I really don’t think that’s a healthy view. If dating is a competition, then the prize for “winning” is the other person. But people aren’t prizes, they are people, and if you have to win someone over, that means they like what you did to get them, not who you are as a person.	/r/seduction	20/09/22 12:31 PM