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Agreed. Best post I've seen in awhile. A number is NOT an objective and should never be considered as one. The objective is to always leave her better than you find them. So aim higher, work on the approach and make sure you solidify interest. Otherwise, a number will be her way of dismissing you without feeling rude.
/r/seduction01/12/14 09:00 PM
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Terrible advice man don't take it personally. Schools are probably the best for this. Just do not be needy since people talk. It's the perfect ground to learn how to "gauge" interest. Plus everybody wants a relationship in school anyways. Most of them are so socially awkward that they don't know what they want so they make excuses. Break these excuses and do something bold.
/r/seduction01/12/14 08:55 PM
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User name is appropriate. Ignore this guy. Don't ditch your friends because they can't keep up with you. Build up your social circle constantly but remember who helps you in certain situations and who does not. This friend clearly does not help you with approaches so don't mix X and Y again
/r/seduction01/12/14 08:52 PM
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Agreed. Don't ditch your friend like the other idiots here are suggesting. Clarify your thoughts with him and be cool about it. Try the approach again, but do it alone next time. Don't even bring up the awkward moment with them. Just go up and lay it down
/r/seduction01/12/14 08:50 PM
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Dude no offense but your post sucks. Break down your post into paragraphs I couldn't even finish it. First off dude your night is completely dependent on your mood. You must TRAIN yourself to get into the mood, you must TRAIN yourself to get into the right mindset. This takes practice and constant work, like lifting weights lets say. It's safe to say you were just not "in the mood". Perhaps you put it upon yourself to have a goal or a certain outcome. Dont fucking do that, just have fun. That wa…
/r/seduction20/11/14 12:25 AM
1

Yes a refute would be welcome here instead of pointless up-voting because it's a mod
/r/seduction08/09/14 07:00 PM
-1

I read this guys book in a single sitting on a flight to Australia. I'll tell you right now that this book had only three or for sentences of useful information in it. (I always take notes) The rest is common sense.
/r/seduction03/09/14 04:57 PM
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So many to terrible advice here...Just keep it simple. Look her in the eyes and smile. If the tension is too awkward, just say, "No? Doesn't matter, you're still fun to be around." Phase shift and reset your game. Distract her playfully to make her more comfortable. Try again shortly after. or on the next date if you went for the kiss before parting
/r/seduction30/04/14 05:12 PM
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TL;DR: There is good information and bad information on the internet. Point being made, its up to the reader to discern which information could be beneficial, and which can be ignored.
/r/seduction30/04/14 05:06 PM
2

There are some people who swear by text game, and honestly this is best summation of how I deal with it: minimally. Some even say you can build attraction via text...while that might be true, it's a hell of a lot harder than being in the moment.
/r/seduction28/04/14 09:26 PM
3

People are naturally more defensive during the night I find, so day game can be easier to find the right frame and open a set. If you ever find yourself unable to open a set due to AA, go approach somebody immediately. Warm yourself up and phase shift your attitude. You'd be surprised how easy it is to approach an attractive girl once you've already talked to a bunch of people you have zero interest in.
/r/seduction14/04/14 06:48 PM
-2

This.
/r/seduction14/04/14 06:42 PM
1

I honestly didn't want to mention this at all but last week I had my very first Tinder date. It was fucking aweful. First off I must clarify that this date was definitely set in stone. She & I both have messaged eachother during the week to ensure it was still on. We continued to have had a very flirty conversations. I actually was impressed by this girl's photos and bios and it seemed like she liked mine too. We agreed to meet for coffee last Sunday at 1pm. I feel like I must mention I've been …
/r/seduction13/03/14 08:47 PM
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Hmm, well I'm reluctant to initiate any contact myself anyway, it will look needy when I dont actually care. Maybe in a week I'll send her a message. What? Figure out if you really should bother because the tone of this thread suggests that you are over her
/r/seduction26/07/13 04:48 AM
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The biggest mistake I make is doubting myself. Especially on the approach.
/r/seduction13/04/13 12:32 AM
1

Nothing worked; she wanted to go without me. So I broke up with her, in a very nice way. To expand upon that, she basically said she didn't envision a life with me and wanted to do this all by herself. Hooah
/r/seduction12/02/13 10:02 PM
1

Good point and thank you!
/r/seduction29/12/12 01:14 AM
9

Thanks for answering my question ThrowawayPUA. To summarize your point (correct me if I'm wrong here): You don't think about what you're going to say in the detail--but rather have a social direction in mind when you approach. Also, can you expand on your "Smart girl" opener to share with us?
/r/seduction29/12/12 12:32 AM
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Do you always think about what you're going to say when you open a set or do you just blurt out the first thing that comes to mind?
/r/seduction28/12/12 11:30 PM
2

I have no idea why your comment was at -1 so I gave you an upvote. Well spoken.
/r/seduction07/12/12 04:44 AM
2

"Am I the only one that really wants to jump down there?" She laughs, less than a minute later we're making out. That's great. Can you please elaborate on this a little more, your method, your conversation, body language and other qualities that are very important here.
/r/seduction02/12/12 07:09 PM
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Agreed, best post in this sub I've ever read.
/r/seduction22/11/12 04:36 AM
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Background: I'm a 24/m white, skinnyfat, slightly receding hairline, gamer. No, you're the fucking Dos Equis man. Get your self-image straightened up. You must BLEED confidence. decide to use my favorite new opener I would personally recommend you get rid of the canned openers. Remark on something she's carrying, holding or maybe the book she has with her. Here was my first mistake: I was walking in front of her and I sat down and made room for her to sit next to me You didn't create enough attr…
/r/seduction22/11/12 04:30 AM
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I would wholeheartly disagree here. Minus the "bad odor" comment, I really do think "greasy haircuts/untrimmed beards/etc" should be classified as looks. You can always change the way you look too. If you're a fat dude, you can hit up the gym. If you're skinny, you can bulk up. And while yes, there are characteristics about looks that can't be changed "height, nose size, underbite, etc" there are still MANY other qualities of looks that can be changed with willpower. That's what I was trying to …
/r/seduction16/11/12 02:31 AM
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Thank you for this post. I just got out of a 6-month relationship and am trying to get back in the groove despite my 2 year long experience in PUA-material. What I completely forgot about was the line "Talk to everyone". This was the golden formula that lit a lightbulb in my head way back when. After I started doing this, I got instant results and a confidence that really stuck out. So reading your post was a great refresher. Thank you very much for this! :D
/r/seduction16/11/12 02:19 AM
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Interesting post, but I would argue with your main point. Yes, I will admit--charisma is important. But looks can be JUST as important. You can be the most friendliest guy in the world, talkative and fun to be around. But if you have a bad odor, a greasy haircut or a untrimmed beard...it really can make a difference to the selective choice of women. Maybe this roommate#1 of yours had so much charismatic swag that women just went along for the ride. Yes, you can be a clean-cut buffed out dude. Bu…
/r/seduction16/11/12 02:17 AM
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agreed with puaCurveBall here. This is amazing progress for 3 weeks. Some people can take months, even years to take the first step. bravo!
/r/seduction15/11/12 03:25 AM
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In short, you're looking at this all wrong. This is NOT you speaking, this is your scumbag brain! therealrazy speaks the truth here man. I realize you're going through some major self-esteem re-evaluation at this stage of your life but you should start it with the upmost of spirit. This whole "I'm a 6/10" depressiveness needs to vanish completely. You've got to be comfortable with who you are and who you want to be. Then you're off to a golden beginning
/r/seduction15/11/12 03:23 AM
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Thanks for your post. Some critique: if you're going to a party....take tequila. It will make you the main man. I actually wouldn't recommend for sedditors to plunge into an 'alcoholic' deep-end that you seem to insinuate here. Being drunk or even moderately tipsy does NOT help you game. It only distorts your senses and your thought process. I'm saying this because, although alcohol can help you losen up, it certainly isn't the main reason you are having your successes. After I saw 'Skyfall' and…
/r/seduction13/11/12 04:35 AM
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At least you know what you did wrong here. Learn from your mistakes and let them help you grow. Another tip I would suggest is giving her a friendly response when you get her number (whether it's via a text, or you're the brave calling type). Invite her out, be friendly but don't overthink it. No matter how hard you try, if you didn't leaving a positive lasting impression--it'll be a flake. Flakes are EVERYWHERE. Do NOT let it get to you man, don't take flakes seriously!
/r/seduction17/10/12 04:01 AM
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Dont approach from behind Tap on shoulder not on the head Laugh in her face next time something like that happens Go to the person next to you and open a new set, make it your goal to have the best night ever.
/r/seduction17/05/12 01:53 AM
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I'm not ready to settle down at all. My last relationship I was just a noob at pickup. When I got into a relationship I turned the PUA switch off completely. Bad idea. She started drifting apart from me slowly and didn't reciprocate as much. I won't be making the same mistake twice.
/r/seduction17/05/12 01:49 AM
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This is why I asked the community if they are having difficulty with 18/19 year olds. They seem to be very emotionally unstable. Figures with the age group albeit.
/r/seduction30/04/12 03:06 AM
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Great job dude. Regardless of the result, keep your chin held up high that you at least went for it.
/r/seduction13/04/12 03:17 AM
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Agreed. Yes, most people in /r/nofap are porn junkies just trying to control their urges. That's respectable, I mean. But there is so much more than just controlling your hormones--it's using this control to better yourself. There is a heavy divide in the PUA between fapping regularly vs. not fapping often. Personally, I find my game is best when I have not been fapping for awhile. (like a 5-7 days). During my approaches, I have no issues kinoing or elevating sexual tension, because I'm complete…
/r/seduction07/04/12 07:48 PM
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There was also a massive outreach attempt from another seduction-related subreddit a few months ago into seddit. I'm sure you guys know their name... Anyways, I logged in one day to find my entire inbox flooded with messages from temp accounts telling me to visit their sub-reddit. Am I the only one here who noticed this? Keeping this community centralized is a great idea. Like ThrowawayPUA said, there are heavy misconceptions about PUA. It would be unfortunate to see this group being scrutinized…
/r/seduction07/04/12 07:42 PM
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Agreed. I'd love to see this. I think most people who don't focus on improving their game, or improving themselves will eventually become too laid back--even when they found themselves right back into AFC mode. Motivate yourself--not just for sex, but to improve yourself and your confidence around women.
/r/seduction04/04/12 03:43 AM
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Whatever works. Personally I do better with other people, but sometimes going out by yourself is good practice. But if that works for you--get a wingman! Just make sure he keeps his distance when you are isolating.
/r/seduction28/02/12 04:48 AM
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Hey I found that interesting. Playing the 'what day are you free' card. What are you thoughts on that, can you elaborate? Usually I'm very hesitant doing this--I usually give them option like "Hey let's meet up for [drinks/coffee/whatever]. I'm free Wed or Fri after 6pm. When works for you?" Usually I've gotten positive responses if I look busy. (usually I have routine to remain busy with tho lol)
/r/seduction28/02/12 04:47 AM
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keep stopping what
/r/seduction25/02/12 04:35 PM
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Invite her out in a few days, if she flakes or declines without offering a new time... next her.
/r/seduction23/02/12 03:48 AM
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"Leave her better than you found her."
/r/seduction22/02/12 03:47 AM
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I used a variation of this once and it got me a number close. Her: "I barely know you." Me: "I don't know you either. Maybe you're a serial killer out to get awesome guys like me. Who knows?--Tell you what, how about I get your number and we could work on getting comfortable with that sorta thing." shrug it worked.
/r/seduction22/02/12 03:00 AM
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Cockiest comment of the day award.
/r/seduction22/02/12 02:55 AM
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Username related.
/r/seduction22/02/12 02:52 AM
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I regret not using this immensely. I had a girl flake on me after 3 dates, and a k-close. She just ignored 1 of my texts. I also called her twice a week later. She was totally cutting me off. This one hurt, because I thought it was going somewhere. But I understand my mistake. I should've just texted her back this line. Not only does it make you look busy (high value/in demand) but it demonstrates the importance of your time. I love this line because it works so well to turn the table on the gir…
/r/seduction21/02/12 04:06 AM
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I adore your username
/r/seduction19/02/12 04:02 PM
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I am in the exact same position as you guys. It sucks, I know, but the trick is to keep going. I would post all the negative bullshit that goes through my head associated with this, but I think what's needed is a continuing evolution of your game. It's hard, but what you need to basically do is continue stepping our of your comfort zone. DON'T ACTIVELY SEEK A GIRLFRIEND. SEEK A SOCIAL EXPERIENCE Oh and one more thing: Contrary to all that anti-friendzone bullshit you see a lot her on reddit, if …
/r/seduction18/02/12 07:23 PM
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I'm very speechless on this.
/r/seduction13/02/12 05:53 AM
1

Upvoted because this is very true
/r/seduction13/02/12 05:51 AM
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If someone at the table asks you a direct question you have to answer. Yeah I like this one because it doesn't limit to how you answer the question. It could be a set where some HB's friends are across the table giving you shorts of shit-tests. Depending on how you answer is what really drives the set forward imo
/r/seduction08/02/12 05:23 AM
2

Try harder next time, get yourself desensitized to striking up random conversations with people. In short, TALK TO EVERYONE.
/r/seduction08/02/12 05:22 AM
9

You did nothing wrong. Find other women, never stick your dick in crazy.
/r/seduction04/02/12 07:42 PM
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Option 1) Consult a doctor, try and get some specialized deorderant Option 2) Extreme mode: Sounds like you may have hyperhydrosis (basically excessive sweat glands) Theres a surgery you can get to correct this, called sympathectomy. Its minimally invasive and fairly safe. It requires only one small incision on each side of the chest. It usually requires only 24 hours of hospital stay. Option 3) completely ignore it and continue gaming like you've being doing. dont like little things pull you do…
/r/seduction04/02/12 04:38 PM
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Anyway, the situations... what would you do if you wanted to get her to play with your dick, etc? This is very odd to read. This should not be your goal here. Your goal should be about escalating. I guess I would've said bye bye to floormate and climb up with her. Talk to her, kino, snuggle. See what happens. Watch for LMR and freeze out. There ya go. I would highlight these points and stick to them. My suggestion: Keep a log or a journal with your interactions and continue on i!
/r/seduction31/01/12 05:42 AM
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Wear a condom.
/r/seduction31/01/12 05:40 AM
1

curveball tells it as is. You have to be very good at building attracting to lead to a kiss on the first date. What about those women who have the rule "I don't kiss a guy on the first date"? Do you go after those women still, or move on? Sometimes you can find some decent gf material in women like that. But I'm not one to ask. Thoughts?
/r/seduction26/01/12 06:05 AM
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Personally it's been a 100% success rate for me. Stop worrying about screwing it up and practice in your head. Or if this isn't your thing, find another way to get her close. GL
/r/seduction26/01/12 06:02 AM
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Dude, hate to break it to you but the way your worded it was that she definitely wanted a kiss. Walking close? Laying next to me? Dude, you HAD this! On the 4th date with no kiss? Man you're stretching it. If dates 1, 2 & 3 were awesome then 4 should at least have some affection if you built up enough attraction. Here's what I do, take her somewhere nice...like a park or view of the city. Start a conversation, about--fucking anything really. Then start swaying close to her body. Kino like crazy,…
/r/seduction26/01/12 05:08 AM
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My advice? Start a journal. Log your interactions. Log your improvements. Start from the ground up. You can do it bro.
/r/seduction26/01/12 04:59 AM
2

I find myself repeating the phrase "I'm a huge nerd" ALOT to women I'm just starting to know. I don't know the impact of repeating this, but I tend to use it alot to get my point across. "I'm not your typical player." Anybody else field tested this? Results? I'm curious because my results are iffy. Had a lot of flakes recently...
/r/seduction26/01/12 04:14 AM
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I'm an engineer, recently out of school. I find that the question "what do you do for a living" is quite the norm question when trying to get to know somebody. My approach is to read the tonality of the question. If the girl is asking as if she doesn't really care/it's a question needed to be asked then I answer the question like this: "Well, which job do you want to know about? My day job or my night job?" If they choose "day job" I tell them that they choose the boring one. And proceed to tell…
/r/seduction26/01/12 04:11 AM
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I have to thank you for this post, it cleared some left-over doubts concerning something I did earlier today that was very unlike myself. I think I tend to think of women who are not "available" as a complete waste of my time. Backstory: Girl that lives nearby usually hangs out with me. We get along great, I thought it was going somewhere when she showed up at my place a few times. After a failed attempt to get a kiss out of her, turns out that her boyfriend and her were serious enough. She apol…
/r/seduction18/01/12 04:25 AM
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This could really come back and bite you on the ass if anybody found out that you knowingly and willingly f-closed this girl when you knew she had a boyfriend. She could talk around, he could talk around--anybody at that party could talk and would just ruin your image and reputation. Remember, the pick-up artist motto is: "Leave them better than you found them." There is no justification to ruining women's relationships, their social lives, and their trust in people and then calling it an "impro…
/r/seduction16/01/12 11:33 PM
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The delivery of this line should be playful, obviously. I would smile when you say it. Personally I never tried this line but it seems like it breaks the boyfriend subject. I'm just concerned about the tonality of actually saying it--some women could find it douchey?
/r/seduction11/01/12 05:47 AM
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A thousand times this. Technique in FR > FR itself
/r/seduction11/01/12 05:43 AM
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"Never stick your dick in crazy" Sit down with her, tell her about your intentions. Make it as casual and as honest as possible. Do not seem like a player, make an excuse (a good one) to distance yourself from her.
/r/seduction07/01/12 10:26 PM
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Im sorry to be that guy that does this but... How exactly does this help the community? I'm pretty sure this is not a FR, it's just a boast about how you got laid. People in this subreddit are interested in the TECHNIQUE you used, not skipping to the end results. Can I safely say, that I believe this community does not have the intentions to "High five" everybody who come here claiming they got laid recently. Honestly--who fucking cares about that? There wasn't even much game in this encounter. …
/r/seduction05/01/12 06:13 AM
1

Gonna keep that to myself, but if you ever want to go sarging in the city, give me a PM
/r/seduction17/10/11 08:40 PM
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I'll give it a read. thank you!
/r/seduction17/10/11 01:13 AM
2

Usually I part in mid-conversation with "Hi sorry I have to go, nice meeting you." Then I walk away. I try to leave the discussion on good terms but not insult them
/r/seduction17/10/11 01:09 AM
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I know--I laugh about it now. I still have no idea what I should've said. That one was an awkward one.
/r/seduction17/10/11 01:08 AM
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One of my sticking points was lingering on the opener. Don't depend on the opener to be the entertainment of the interaction. It is only meant to open. This is what I have to wrap my head around. After the opener wears itself down, I have keep the conversation going. But usually this is where I fuck up--"what the hell do I have to say to this person?" Usually all I get is one word/one sentence answer. I'm the one doing the question asking.
/r/seduction17/10/11 01:06 AM
1

A brilliant suggestion, but wouldn't that be a better line for an approach near the end of a show? Perhaps even I could just suggest a time and place to meet up? I could try my luck with this one, I just wonder what the success rate is?
/r/seduction17/10/11 01:03 AM
1

Sorry, can you clarify what you mean by 'later dates'?
/r/seduction17/10/11 01:01 AM
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I usually am good at keeping a conversation with somebody once I'm comfortable with. It's just the shock of approach--that, and the inability to say anything appealing/interested to strike that initial discussion.
/r/seduction17/10/11 01:00 AM
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OPEN #8: Somewhat a success, but I know where I went wrong. Approached HB9 at the bar standing alone. At this point I’ve had two scotches and a beer so I can’t remember exactly what I said. But I do remember she was a very cool and interesting girl. We talked for a few minutes. She was smiling, and actually contributing to the conversation. She was really easy to talk to. Man, why can’t everybody be this awesome? Out of the blue, this skinny asian guy came up and grabbed HB9’s arm. “Let’s go” he…
/r/seduction16/10/11 03:21 PM
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