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Me: "Honey, I know I've let you down (I don't actually know how, but I'm just validating your feelings). I'm sorry. I want to do better. I want to be better. I want to be the husband you need, and the husband you want". My wife: "I don't need you. I don't want you, and I have nothing to give you". (well, shit)
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 05:51 AM
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It wouldn't actually matter ... they're married. He's legal father no matter what. 100% get the DNA test though.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 05:47 AM
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My wife is also a teacher, go figure.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 04:40 AM
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I also know that she turned into a stranger and that I no longer know who she is but I do miss who she was because when it was good it was really good, at least for me it was. I feel this deep in my soul.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 06:11 AM
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Well, then, I guess I'm lucky in the sense that my wife hasn't had an organic conversation with me, had sex with me, given me a hug or a kiss (or touched me at all), told me she loves me since sometime in 2017 ... not much to miss at this point.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 06:09 AM
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And what's so ridiculous, is that's the type of shit we argued about ... there was no major fallout in our marriage (no cheating, no abuse, no financial despair, no addiction) ... just my wife constantly being pissed about dumb shit, and me telling her she was getting pissed about dumb shit.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 05:54 AM
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Dude, my STBXW seriously has boxes of spiraled notebooks full of her lists. Yes, she saves them. I think she gets off revisiting them to see all she "accomplished" ... shit like TAKE A SHOWER! ... no joke. Seriously? Who TF needs to not only write down "take a shower", but use all caps and an exclamation point?
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 05:40 AM
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Wife filed ... I was served 2 weeks ago. 4 kids. She and I are both still in our house. Over the weekend she took 3 of the girls out of state for a soccer tournament our oldest was playing in. Our 12 year old decided to stay home. Let me tell you. We had a blast. Made chocolate chip waffles w/ whip cream for breakfast (wife wouldn't like that) ... hung up Christmas lights with the garage stereo blasting (wife wouldn't like that) ... then took her and 2 of her cousins out to dinner for sushi (wif…
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 05:27 AM
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Gonna be honest with you my guy. When I read this post what I hear is that you need a serious break from women. Stop deriving your self-worth from women. Become one with yourself. That sounds dumb AF, I know. You need to get to a point where you are good with you. Take 'em, or leave 'em. This might sound goofy, but I'd suggest you find a Cribbage club, or Chess club, or ... I don't know ... (what I'm saying is hanging out with old dudes ... like 25-30 years older ... you can't believe what you'l…
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/23 02:55 AM
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... and this is why I have at least a decades worth of "receipts" (emails & screen shots of texts) ... when my kids get older and start asking questions, I'll just hand it all over to them and they can decide for themselves.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/23 12:32 AM
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Okay ... hold on. You are 30 years old. You just finalized your divorce "roughly two months ago" after "the death of a decade-long marriage". Dude ... pump the breaks. You talk like you are very introspective and self-aware. However, I have a difficult time believing that. You've basically only ever been a single adult for the last 2 months. I doubt you even truly know who you are. In my opinion, you should take at least a 2 year break from having a relationship and REALLY just focus on you. Jus…
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/23 03:51 AM
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You don't qualify for Gov't. assistance.?
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/23 12:40 AM
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100K principle. 250k equity. My wife said she's going to buy me out.Yeah, I'll take the 125k in cash. No brainer. You're overthinking. ***Edit***It pisses me off that I'm going to have to purchase a home with the current shitty rates (I have an 822 credit score) ... on the flipside, I'm 99% sure that my wife has zero fucking idea that she will have to re-fi on our current 2.75 rate up to ... 7.7% to get my name off the title. It's petty (which I hate) ... but still makes me smile on the inside a…
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/23 06:21 PM
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Married 19 years. 4 kids. Wife served me 9 days ago. We've always done Thanksgiving on her side of the family. She hasn't said a single word about Thanksgiving plans to me ... until 9:30 this morning ... "We're going to XXXXX at 3:30". Me, "Okay ... I mean, I'm not going". Her, "What?". Me: "You served me divorce papers 9 days ago, and haven't said a thing about Thanksgiving until just now. By last night, I assumed I wasn't welcome, so I made other plans". Her: "What other plans did you make?" M…
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/23 05:33 PM
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That's my plan. I'm looking at the big picture and have zero will or desire to be petty and/or vindictive. I just want this to end as quickly as possible without being totally screwed.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/23 03:18 PM
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Only debt we really have is the 100K we have left on our mortgage (Around 200K in equity). My wife's wealthy relative (who is covering her legal fees) has already told her that he will buy me out so she can have the house (which, I am fine with. It's the only home our kids have known). We bought our home back in 2006 in a "small" town on the outskirts of Nebraska's largest metro area of about 1 million. The city and our town are now "merged" (we still have our own Mayor, PD, FD, School district …
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/23 02:56 PM
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Oh, we still owe the hospital plenty. Also, I don't have a credit card. Haven't had one for at least 12 years. (My wife has also spent at least $20-25k remodeling the house in the past 2 years ... convenient, right?)
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/23 02:35 AM
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Nebraska. Yes, she is employed ... making 60k-ish (I honestly don't really know) per year.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/23 11:04 PM
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I haven't had a credit card in probably 12 years. I did see that there are a few cards out there that have 0% interest for the first 15-18 billing cycles. I just hate credit cards so very much. We do have around $200k equity in the house ... I guess I'm just not sure if doing something like that would backfire against me at court (tampering with assets, or something). If I wasn't so dang busy with work (and my car hadn't broke down last week), I'd go to my bank and see if I could take out a smal…
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/23 09:33 PM
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Oh, I know that, but it's still irritating. Of course my wife dropped the "I really want this to be amicable" line. COMPLAINT * She remains in the house (I move out) *Legal & Physical custody of the kids *I pay legal fees if it goes to trial I don't remember what else, if anything, is in it. I only looked at it when I got it. Oh, I was also served by the Sheriff's Department. That was cute. I'm tempted to ask her what her definition of "amicable" is.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/23 09:28 PM
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One of the more screwed up things in the Complaint I received from my wife is that I be the one who pays her legal fees if we go to trial. Dude, I can't even afford my own representation. How am I supposed to afford yours? Shouldn't be shocked, I guess. "This is what I want. If I don't get it, I'm going to MAKE YOU PAY".
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/23 07:55 PM
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I'm not an accountant, but I'm fairly certain it's only the person who gives the gifts who pays tax on it. Won't affect my wife. He has "FU" money ... the taxes won't matter to him.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/23 07:50 PM
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I say all of this because nothing is too far gone that it can't be saved. Come to my house and convince my wife of that ... (just got served on Monday).
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 06:16 PM
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She's an elementary teacher (23 years) w/ a Master's degree (better pay than only a Bachelor's).
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 02:01 AM
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I'm meeting with an attorney tomorrow.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 01:57 AM
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Thank you. I am sorry you experienced that.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 01:57 AM
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Just got served by the County 3 hours ago ...
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 09:53 PM
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Then I guess I get a part-time job making $15 an hour ... (and start making income under the table ... I have connections to go a route that's not exactly legal ... Fuck it... 3 hots and a cot w/ yard time isn't the worst that could happen).
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 09:31 PM
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Been with my wife for 30 years. She just told me 12 day s ago that she's filing ... We have 4 kids (ages 5-14) ... I don't see myself ever trusting a woman again. I haven't had sex since 2017 ... It would be nice ... not sure I can ever get close enough to a woman for that to happen (Yeah, even a one night stand ... which, again, I haven't pursued a woman in 3 decades ... ) I think I'll just play cribbage, drink excellent bourbon, and have an occasional cigar.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 09:23 PM
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I mean, I'm not going to just roll over and give her everything. My point being she said "I want this to be amicable" ... that's all cute and shit ... I'm curious what she'll actually be asking for ... like, how "amicable" are you really going to be if/when I contest anything??? All of this being said, I have to be reasonable ... my wife has her uncle (worth about 50 million) bankrolling her ... I make $65K a year .... I have to be realistic.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 09:15 PM
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Your wife won't fuck you because I'm pretty sure you're a narcissist. Legit ... you sound like a fucking asshole.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 08:49 PM
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Women are fucked in the head. They just are. They're selfish. The only thing that matters to them are their .... FEEEEEELLLINGS. Loyalty means nothing to them.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 08:40 PM
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It's bonkers what women will lie about. I was in the same boat in the sense that I truly believed my wife was an honest person of the utmost integrity. My wife hasn't had sex with me in 6 years. I had been sleeping on the couch for awhile because I just couldn't stand laying next to her and feeling even more alone than if she weren't there. However, after about 2 years of me on the couch I decided I was reclaiming the bed. She could stay, or she could move to the couch. I didn't care. Long story…
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/23 08:03 PM
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Except you never know when or where lightening is going to strike ...
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/23 07:38 PM
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It also helped when I realized that I didn't miss her , I was just really codependent. I missed someone. Loneliness feels the exact same as missing a particular person, and it takes a while to realize it. Oof ... I needed to hear this. My wife has pretty much not spoken to me, and 100% hasn't touched me in ANY way, since 2017. I don't even know why I'm upset that she is filing (other than the upheaval it will cause our children).
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/23 07:32 PM
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Yup ... If I could go back and do things differently I sure would ... like not marry her in the first place.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/23 07:17 PM
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I had this thought recently as well. 2 summers ago my wife got a brand new vehicle. Paid for in cash (about $50k when all said and done). She does a lot more driving than I do for various reasons. Our entire marriage I've always just driven $6k vehicles that I would pay cash for and then drive into the ground.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/23 07:12 PM
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I have "No More Mr. Nice Guy" ... I know a lot of guys find it helpful, but I thought it was ridiculous.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/23 04:29 PM
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I can promise you that I will never get married again. Fuck that noise.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/23 04:00 PM
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Ben Folds Five - Song For The Dumped. It puts a smile on my face, but it's cathartic to angry-yell along with the lyrics.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/23 03:36 PM
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Marry? Hell, no. I don't know if I'll even date again.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/23 09:16 PM
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Believe me, it is much better to be alone than feel lonely in a toxic relationship. I agree with this with every fiber of my being. Still sucks, though.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/23 09:15 PM
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I'm not starting over. I mean, I am ... as a single father, but I truly don't believe I'll ever trust a woman again.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/23 09:12 PM
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It really is probably for the better. That being said, it just pisses me off that I'm a good person, husband and father ... she can't see that, and she's going to rip apart our family for absolutely no good reason.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 10:54 PM
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