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BEWARE of school approaches. You're stuck with these people. Not that you CAN'T approach, but you'd want to be VERY non-threatening. Generally, when you start, it's good to go to somewhere with anonymity. Go on the bus and get away from your neighbourhood. For daygame, a park is good, busy streets, malls, etc.
/r/seduction03/11/14 09:40 PM
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Any time someone says something sex-positive of sexually expressive, I generally do something like give a sigh of relief and say something like "oh thank god, you're ACTUALLY fun. There are so many people all pent up in their heads about being sexually open, it's always refreshing to meet people that aren't". I'll even go as far as to then give them props or something corny like that. :p Basically, reinforce that it's awesome to be bi.
/r/seduction03/11/14 09:37 PM
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Just things like saying it was awesome that she was dancing so much, great costume, giving her a hug, etc. Can't remember what I disqualified. But it's pretty easy to pick things out. You can say things like the beer they're drinking, the clothes they have on, etc. Even shit that isn't true (I bet your one of those girls that does ____ aren't you?). You can even retract the disqualifier and make it a qualifier with a simple "nah, I'm just kidding, I love it!" The idea is to just show approval of…
/r/seduction03/11/14 09:34 PM
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And not only as a couple, but even approval vs. disapproval. You should ideally find reasons to present both.
/r/seduction03/11/14 06:13 PM
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Wow, you're deaf and studying PUA? Way to not make excuses dude! I can't even imagine what types of obstacles you'd need to overcome. What's the experience been like for you? How did you reconcile with the fact that you're deaf and STILL decide to push through?
/r/seduction02/02/14 08:51 PM
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Exactly! This reminds me of a 4 step learning curve on the path of pua mastery I once heard (or mastery of anything really): Unconscious incompetence. You suck and you don't even know that you suck; very frustrating. Conscious incompetence. Now you've realized you suck, and are in a position to work on it. Conscious competence. You've developed the skill-set and can apply it when you're focused. Unconscious competence. You apply your new skills naturally and without thinking about it.
/r/seduction02/02/14 07:12 PM
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Hey Sasha! I actually attended the seminar you did in Toronto last January, it was very compelling and I learned a lot! (I was the guy sitting beside you at the restaurant afterwards) about 4 or 5 months ago, I developed a negative frame around approaching that I haven't been able to work around, which is that by approaching people during the daytime, I'm being a "reality destroyer". This is strange because I've approached well over 50 women in the daytime by now, and it seems as though I've rev…
/r/seduction28/01/14 11:54 PM
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...Duly noted...
/r/seduction08/06/13 09:25 PM
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Dude, that's a fucking funny story. I find that in this day and age, people are really open to BDSM, and at the very least, talking about it. It's a good conversation bridge.
/r/seduction08/06/13 09:25 PM
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Exactly! The only rule above be confident: HAVE FUN!
/r/seduction08/06/13 09:24 PM
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Bohemian-hippie. I like it! Now that I think about it, a ton of my game surrounds a lot of hippie mantras: "We're all just human, everyone's equal" "The truth is always the best answer" "Just be yourself" "You are not your ego" "People are not objects, you need to connect man!" "Everybody has their place" "Dude, that's some amazing weed" etc.
/r/seduction08/06/13 09:23 PM
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Indeed. We did all of the sex things. ALL OF THEM. It was wonderful. It actually kinda fucked me up though, it was consistently better-than-porn sex, and when she broke up with me, I kinda went a bit crazy realizing not every girl is down for crazy kinky sex like I was now used to. I didn't have any other sexual experiences to compare to. I guess it's what kickstarted me to want to learn game, so I could have those crazy sexual experiences again. I'm happy to say that just today, I got myself in…
/r/seduction08/06/13 09:13 PM
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As in sex on MDMA.
/r/seduction08/06/13 02:51 AM
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I was a virgin when I met my first girlfriend. I told her I was before we'd ever kissed. She turned out to have a sexual appetite that would make Jenna Haze look like a monastery nun. It can happen man, every girl is different.
/r/seduction08/06/13 02:33 AM
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But you'l never know unless you try. The fact of the matter is, if you're new, you have to get through the "being creepy as fuck" phase. It's actually a good thing, because the reason you weren't a creep before was you never gave yourself an opportunity to be. And you won't stay a creep for long, becoming intermediate happens pretty quickly. Advanced stuff takes longer though. Don't ask that question out of nowhere, but don't put it off bounds. Seriously! You can get away with asking it in the r…
/r/seduction08/06/13 02:31 AM
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Oh my god. The fucking question game. The guy that introduced me to the seduction community used to do this all the time. I suppose you could say it was his go-to routine (though he wasn't exactly a player). And you know what? It fucking worked. A LOT. BUT, only because it was under the frame of "a game", so no one had to be awkward about it!
/r/seduction08/06/13 02:23 AM
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During a date is a little easier. You have to realize that if you guys are together on a date, the sexual pretence is already there, you just need to point out the elephant in the room so to speak. In a bar, it can be a little more tricky, but generally the same rules apply as far as being very comfortable, non-judgmental and not awkward when bringing up sexual discussion.
/r/seduction08/06/13 02:11 AM
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Exactly. I would also add don't be put off if she doesn't agree with them.
/r/seduction08/06/13 02:09 AM
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Yes! This is a great idea! Have any specific anecdotes?
/r/seduction08/06/13 02:08 AM
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Haha, maybe I should have added more ACTUAL things to say. But really, the best way is to just have an idea that you want the conversation to go that direction, then when there's some kind of opportunity, you take it. Like, if she had said "that goes both ways" and then you guys laugh at the innuendo, it's fine to then ask her if she's ever actually been with another girl. And you can continue from there.
/r/seduction08/06/13 02:08 AM
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Thank you.
/r/seduction08/06/13 02:06 AM
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Your sexual innocence. Or your curiosities. The key here isn't to be overly sexual, it's to be okay with conveying whatever your sexuality is and not be awkward expressing it. Some girls LOVE an innocent guy!
/r/seduction07/06/13 08:46 PM
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Actually, I overcame this sticking point while on a date with an asian girl I perceived as not overly sexual. I was wrong. ;)
/r/seduction07/06/13 08:44 PM
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Thanks!
/r/seduction14/05/13 03:55 PM
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I totally know what you mean, I have a few female friends like that. I suppose it's a type of friendzone, but definitely not the standard AFC-friendzone you speak of. The difference is, the AFC one is from a place of neediness and yours is from a place of value. Like you could change it at any time, but you aren't going to because YOU call the shots and decide YOUR relationship dynamics. Plenty of Alphas have loads of female friends, and there's good reason as well. Maybe get her to wing for you…
/r/seduction14/05/13 03:55 PM
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Omg, it was so hilarious. I have her saved in my phone now as Paige Simba. There was a cute moment bringing her down too where before I put her down I kissed her still holding her in my arms. Rather romantic. ;) And YES! doing it for your own amusement is the BEST frame to do it from in terms of attraction! If you can open with this, you're my fucking hero dude.
/r/seduction14/05/13 03:50 PM
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I get what you're saying, and you're definitely right. If I knew I had a better chance of sleeping with her, I would have paced my escalation much better. But I'm definitely not, she wants it to be from a boyfriend that she's had for several months, and I'm definitely not that guy. And actually, a make-out session was all I ever really aimed for, so I totally felt content with the way it all went down. But proper escalation in scenarios where sex is the end goal is DEFINITELY important.
/r/seduction14/05/13 03:46 PM
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It was a risk. But what I thought would have been worse was to just act like a pushover. I wasn't thinking about game here, I was just thinking about whether or not I even wanted to be her friend anymore. If I lost her, fuck it, less to deal with. But, I'm glad I didn't.
/r/seduction13/05/13 07:33 PM
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Lol, thanks. I dunno man, I dumped a lot of stuff on her about my ex and things that normally you wouldn't do with a girl you wanted to get with. In a funny twist though, that same ex was always concerned that I was going to leave her for Paige, hahaha
/r/seduction13/05/13 07:08 PM
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Okay, I get what you're saying. It's a matter of misconstruing the truth to give a false example. I still do disagree though, I would think that EVEN if you lied about the jump, the beginner would be more motivated to try harder because he sees bigger potential. Perhaps, even if he gets hurt, he'll still believe it's possible and push through to achieve something greater.
/r/seduction13/05/13 06:50 PM
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There was no initial rejection, I met her when I was in a relationship with someone else. Our relationship was always very friendly, with mild flirting and cuddling on couches and stuff, but nothing that would really constitute real attraction. All stuff that could be misconstrued as innocent. That said, I know she's always seen me as an attractive person, and more so over time. We've always been very open about talking about our romances and whatnot. She was also always very comfortable to be a…
/r/seduction13/05/13 06:47 PM
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Yeah, sure. She had told me that we were going to get bubble tea one night, and after a whole day of not hearing from her, about half an hour AFTER we were supposed to meet up, she texts me to say that she got caught up at her dad's welcome home party (which she told me she only needed to be at for half an hour). I called her and said something along the lines of "Paige, what the fuck. I don't hear from you all day and then you message me after our meetup time to tell me you can't make it??? You…
/r/seduction13/05/13 06:29 PM
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Unrealistic expectations? What is that supposed to mean? You set your own expectations. Yeah, we're gonna be talking about 8s and 9s all the time, because we're trying to make ourselves into 8 and 9 men DESERVING of it! That's like telling a snowboarder not to tell a novice about some 50 foot long 720 that he landed because it'll set unrealistic expectations for his snowboarding. No it won't, it's just going to take longer to get there, it doesn't mean it won't happen. Sorry if that came off a b…
/r/seduction13/05/13 06:16 PM
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I can't just post that up here, too risky. I could PM it if you really care.
/r/seduction13/05/13 04:20 PM
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Honestly dude, getting out of the friendzone is REALLY tough to do, and admittedly, I didn't think it'd work in my case but kinda went for it anyway because I thought I was building enough arousal. Before you think about doing that, you need to get some reference experiences hooking up with other girls. Something ironic will happen: When you become abundant in feeling like you can have whatever girl you want, and no longer care for the validation or acceptance of the HB9, she'll chase you for it…
/r/seduction13/05/13 04:18 PM
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Nope, she's a virgin man, we actually talked about it that night. Said she'll only fuck someone she's fully in love with first, and I'll respect that seeing as there's tons of other girls out there for the taking. But I know what you mean about the public stuff. At the same time, that's when it felt right, so I just had to go for it. It's a fine compromise to make!
/r/seduction13/05/13 04:09 PM
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There IS such a thing as a genuine reason to have to cancel plans. Shit happens. But THREE TIMES? Well, I was just being naive.
/r/seduction13/05/13 04:06 PM
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I love you. Have an upvote.
/r/seduction13/05/13 04:05 PM
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Seddit: Where choads correct chodes about chouds.
/r/seduction13/05/13 04:01 PM
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Oh my god, it helps so much outside of game! The way I do it is I sit comfortably and symmetrically in a position where I won't move, and begin counting my breaths. On an in breath, 1. Out, 2. In 3. I count all the way up to 20, and then go back to 1. If you feel your mind wander away, bring your focus back to the numbers. You can try visualizing the numbers as physical objects if it helps. It might also help to listen to some meditation music (which you can easily find on youtube). The goal her…
/r/seduction14/03/13 02:04 AM
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Lemme know how it goes!
/r/seduction14/03/13 01:56 AM
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Good luck man! Ex-SO?
/r/seduction13/03/13 06:36 PM
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You have confidence in other areas?? Dude, you're leagues ahead of a lot of people here then, and you can change that around. Look, if you ever wanna talk some more about some of this, send me a PM with your Skype if you're up for it. I'm just putting the offer out there. :)
/r/seduction13/03/13 05:57 PM
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As long as your working on it, you're already leagues ahead of a lot of other men, remember that. :)
/r/seduction13/03/13 05:29 PM
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Awesome man. Keep on playing man! Having creative outlets helps your game a ton!
/r/seduction13/03/13 05:28 PM
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Woah, woah. Why do you think you need to lie to yourself? The whole thing is to understand that you actually DO have reason to believe that you aren't a loser! It's really as simple as a decision that you aren't one. But I know that sounds simpler than it is. I'd suggest you start watching some RSDTyler videos. Right around the time I started watching his videos is when I began to turn around a lot of beliefs about myself. Be prepared to watch a lot of hours of talks with an open mind, but they …
/r/seduction13/03/13 05:25 PM
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This is true. There is DEFINITELY such a thing as too much analysis. We refer to this as "introversion". :)
/r/seduction13/03/13 05:14 PM
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Maybe it's time you change you opinion of yourself. :)
/r/seduction13/03/13 04:31 PM
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That's why I feel like writing FRs is such a good opportunity. It really allows someone to do a big part of game that goes overlooked: analysis.
/r/seduction13/03/13 04:28 PM
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No problem, we're here to help each other.
/r/seduction13/03/13 04:27 PM
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Correct.
/r/seduction13/03/13 04:22 PM
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Yeah, I connect with that line a ton, and think about it before almost every approach. I really believe that breaking down that stranger barrier is one of the first things that needs to happen before she can be comfortable.
/r/seduction13/03/13 04:20 PM
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Dude, I write/perform songs for a living, and I can assure you: Nope. :p
/r/seduction13/03/13 04:19 PM
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Sounds like you might benefit from learning to be present to the moment. In the end, beating yourself for not taking action only makes you weaker, and less ready for an approach in the end. The key is to recognize what went wrong, assess it, and let it pass! Once you learn to let it pass, approaches become MUCH easier. Whether you approach or not, whether she respondes well or rejects you, doesn't matter because it's all just isolated moments in time that can't effect this one. The most obvious …
/r/seduction13/03/13 04:18 PM
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Thanks! Now get out there, approach, and one up me! ;)
/r/seduction13/03/13 04:10 PM
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Trust me, once you get used to doing approaches, this is how you'll feel. Glad you enjoyed.
/r/seduction13/03/13 04:09 PM
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I'm not afraid of her turning out to be a bitch. I've definitely had it happen before, and I actually think it's pretty hilarious when people are like that. Like, why are you getting mad that someone you don't even know is trying to genuinely compliment you and get to know you? Crazy people. For the most part though, when I approach they open up at least a little bit to me.
/r/seduction13/03/13 04:08 PM
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"When you put people on a pedestal, they have no choice but to look down on you". As much as you're going to hate me for saying it, don't think about her anymore. If you're going to start doing approaches, you need to do them on people you don't have any vested interest in. You said you've been thinking of talking to her for months? That sounds like a LOT of weight you're putting on your shoulders. I can guarantee that if you had approached her on day 1 that it would be easier than day 67 or wha…
/r/seduction13/03/13 04:06 PM
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r/seduction: where faggots come and learn to pick up women
/r/seduction13/03/13 04:00 PM
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Thanks, I'm glad you can relate to it. I occasionally do paraphrase my own lyrics. :p
/r/seduction13/03/13 03:57 PM
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I write and perform songs for a living. ;) And STILL have trouble getting laid! :p
/r/seduction13/03/13 03:54 PM
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There's a great video of Liam McRae doing a daytime approach in the goofiest gym shorts. He ends up getting her in bed. Hope it gives you some hope! Remember that no matter what you look like, the best option is still always to approach.
/r/seduction13/03/13 03:54 PM
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That was the exact thought that started me writing this passage. ...I like this cure you speak of.
/r/seduction13/03/13 03:51 PM
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You know, I've thought about this question before. I think in the end, it's impossible. It's different in real life where there are real human beings going up to each other to interact without a monitor in between. A lot of the reason something like a direct approach can even work is because the girl can see that you clearly have some balls. If you do it from behind a screen, it takes that away. Not to mention, facebook would become like a dating site, which would be creepy as fuck.
/r/seduction13/03/13 04:26 AM
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Thanks man, I'm glad that you can relate. Good luck with the AA! Edit: Also, if you want to work on your AA, I wrote a post on a fun exercise to help overcome it that you might get a kick out of.
/r/seduction13/03/13 04:16 AM
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Well, as far as writing, I've been playing music for 11 years and writing for most of that time, recently professionally. Shameless self-promotion! Writing songs has been really great for learning how to express myself, and what I learned is that a very personal experience usually is the one that the most people relate to. It's about being genuine and uncensored. If I could give one piece of advice on expressing yourself: Pick words that are the most honest, not the ones that sound the best.
/r/seduction13/03/13 04:12 AM
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Not really, this is just a piece of writing. I do direct approaches almost every day, I just decided to do some freehand writing on the topic and decided to post it for the fuck of it. And yes, it did, because I think you missed the point.
/r/seduction13/03/13 01:13 AM
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For anyone that was wondering, I wrote this as a piece of freehand writing on the subway today after bitching out of an approach. This isn't meant to give advice/pointers or anything.
/r/seduction12/03/13 09:59 PM
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Aww man, once you do one, it's like crack. You'll just want to get more high-fives. And it's SO not a big deal if you get denied! Think of it as an interaction that only has to last 1 second. And lemme know what happens when you go out!
/r/seduction07/03/13 05:30 AM
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LOOOOL, yes! David Putty! And all George wanted was a Twix...
/r/seduction07/03/13 03:51 AM
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What do you think HIS reaction was like!? :p Me and my other friend just stared at him with our jaws dropped, and he had the most perfect "fuck yeah I'm a baller" face on.
/r/seduction07/03/13 03:50 AM
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My guess, Germans will think you're mocking the Sieg Hiel and will hate you. Guess you could say they get, HIELy offended?
/r/seduction07/03/13 03:48 AM
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Honestly dude, find a wingman. There are wingman locators here if you need them, but having someone that's equal level/a bit better than you will push you. There's a wealth of local online wingmen accessible in just about any city the world, and most of them are generally pretty chill people! I have a couple people that I go out with that I met here, and am now proud to call my good friends. And it's awesome to have someone to go through the journey with you as well!
/r/seduction06/03/13 05:16 AM
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Ever seen the "free hugs" videos? Exactly. Honestly, I hug girls goodbye as much as possible, not a big deal!
/r/seduction06/03/13 05:09 AM
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This is solid reasoning. I had already texted her when I read your comment, I wish I hadn't because she didn't end up getting back to me. In addition, she was a waitress. I'm sure she gives her number out for tips rather often. Lesson learned for next time!
/r/seduction06/03/13 05:08 AM
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ANYWHERE can be a romantic environment if you're willing to be a romantic soul. ;)
/r/seduction06/03/13 03:37 AM
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It IS fucking science! (keyword being "fucking")
/r/seduction06/03/13 03:34 AM
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So the fuck what if you see them again? If you see them and they say "hey, weren't you that guy that was high-fiving people?" You say "yeah man, that was me! Nice to meet you!" Also, if you are feeling uncomfortable, get a couple of friends in on it with you, it'll feel MUCH less weird. Because then at the very worst, you just look like a few guys being a bit ridiculous and having fun!
/r/seduction05/03/13 10:02 PM
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21 years old!
/r/seduction05/03/13 07:24 PM
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That we do. Plenty of cute girls if you look in the right places. Daygame here is great because for the most part people are very friendly and willing to meet someone new in the city. However a lot of girls here are really stuck up when it comes to nightgame.
/r/seduction05/03/13 05:15 PM
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S'all good man, thanks for the feedback!
/r/seduction05/03/13 05:13 PM
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I was already close in her space and it was clear that the interaction was romantically/sexually oriented. I had already shaken her hand, and judging by her body language, nothing I'd done had made her uncomfortable, so a hug really didn't seem out of the question. Again, if you're comfortable with something, and can convey that you are comfortable with it, odds are she will be too. The other thing is girls (especially particularly attractive ones) are used to giving people hugs. Hugs aren't a b…
/r/seduction05/03/13 04:58 PM
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Yeah. I feel like commitment to the interaction is built up over time, realizing that in the end there's no reason to not commit to what you're doing. Just about ever.
/r/seduction05/03/13 04:27 PM
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Naw man, pessimism is the key to game, haven't you learned ANYTHING here retard??? ;)
/r/seduction05/03/13 04:25 PM
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Exactly. You need to just assume it's going to work. If it doesn't fuck it. But if it does, she'll see that you're confident and solid in what you're doing. And her saying "yes, I'll be fun on a date" is pretty much her saying yes to the date already! ...That said, I haven't heard back yet, hahaha
/r/seduction05/03/13 04:00 PM
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I like that. I usually do put too much focus on the number and not the date. Maybe that's why I get flaked on often. Thanks!
/r/seduction05/03/13 03:51 PM
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Dude, I've been working at this shit for months and going out at least once a week to practice either daygame or night game. And I think I've kissed 2 girls since, neither of which I was particularly attracted to. And you know what? I still feel like a fucking champ. 1 to 14 isn't bad! That means in a day where you walk around and pass 100 girls, you could theoretically hook up with 14 of them! If you switch your perspective around a little bit, you'll realize that you're actually doing really w…
/r/seduction05/02/13 05:18 PM
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The other comments have it covered, but I think you might find /r/highseddit a good resource.
/r/seduction10/01/13 06:38 AM
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Dude. Pride. Have it. This was very well executed!
/r/seduction08/01/13 05:27 PM
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Thanks for the heads up dude. I guess I just get excited as this stuff works more and more. But just because it's working doesn't mean I can fall off my game.
/r/seduction03/01/13 07:27 PM
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Honestly, I was just listening to some Skrillex albums on shuffle. It might not be the most musical music out there, but god damn is it high energy. I'd go as far as to say that you could add things like certain Metal, Pop music, Classic Rock, or upbeat Rap.
/r/seduction02/01/13 06:23 PM
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I LOVE these comebacks! I think as your game progresses, your ability to have these quick and witty remarks also gets better.
/r/seduction30/12/12 11:14 PM
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Other Sedditor mentioned in the FR here. Last night was a ton of fun! You looked like you were enjoying yourself thoroughly, and I'm glad you treated every interaction as a little success, and a lesson to be learned. That's a great perspective, and sometimes one I have trouble with. If you can set a base expectation of nothing, then everything that happens can only be a positive. :) Well, now that I'm here, allow me to add a little FR of how my end of things went: Me and my buddy headed down on …
/r/seduction30/12/12 11:11 PM
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Damn, that's a lot of fucking juice.
/r/seduction29/12/12 07:37 PM
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Oh my god, I totally know the second video, THAT SHIT'S NUTS. I definitely get amped watching that. But you're right, it's all about finding what gets you in state!
/r/seduction29/12/12 01:35 AM
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Exactly. I had a shit night last Friday because I went to a club when I was sick with no one I knew. I kinda set myself up for it, but I ended up watching the social dynamics in the club and took mental notes. There's always a way to make a situation into a positive, ESPECIALLY if you start your expectations at NOTHING. :)
/r/seduction29/12/12 01:32 AM
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Welcome to Seddit: Pay no money, see tits.
/r/seduction27/12/12 06:34 PM
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Daily smoker here. Since I've begun applying this stuff in the last few months, I've actually started not smoking at all in a partying environment. Usually leads to a common case of "overanalyzing everyfuckingthing". That said, a smoking date is usually quite a fun one. But the smoking is best saved for a couple hours into the date. Get your game on for the first little bit (ideally to the point where it'd be a good idea to kiss her) THEN go smoke. Hell, I've even gotten lucky asking a girl to d…
/r/seduction27/12/12 05:11 PM
188

With tactics like these, it won't be long till we start seeing ladies making anti-PUA infield videos.
/r/seduction27/12/12 05:05 PM
2

Try the smoking game, bing bang bong.
/r/seduction20/12/12 12:30 AM
2

link?
/r/seduction18/12/12 01:06 AM
1

THAT SOUNDS LIKE A GREAT LESSON AND A GREAT STORY. (O_O)
/r/seduction18/12/12 12:08 AM
3

"Hey, I saw you walking by and wanted to tell you I thought you were really cute. I just wanted to come up and say hi."
/r/seduction17/12/12 11:15 PM
1

One of my friends (HB9) wants to be my wingwoman this friday for her birthday party at a club downtown (score!). What are some rules about being a good wingwoman that she should know?
/r/seduction17/12/12 11:13 PM
2

I remember a few months back reading the 100 sets sub and wanting to do it. I never kept a journal, but thinking back, I've done well over 100 sets in the last few months. And unsurprisingly, I've made HUGE improvements! It really feels great. I can imagine though, for you, that writing it all down must have helped so much! It really is cool to see how your mind is able to replay scenarios is such great detail like that as you write. Even cooler is that as you do it more, your ability to analyze…
/r/seduction17/12/12 10:55 PM
1

I hadn't even mentioned that. Just keeping a log of this stuff is gonna be great if I decide to ever look back at it in 10 years and go "hey, remember when I decided to change my attitude that one year?" Cool stuff. And just because they don't contain instruction doesn't make then not worthwhile. The most important part of any FR, I think is what lessons were learned from it.
/r/seduction17/12/12 10:52 PM
1

It was a game from drama class. Everyone stands in a circle. Someone claps and points at someone, and says "ZIP!" Then that person has to clap and pointat someone else and say "ZAP!" Then the same for "ZOP!" And it keeps going on like that. You get out for either messing up the order, taking too long or reacting when you aren't supposed to.
/r/seduction17/12/12 05:25 PM
6

even so, it's a better joke to do with a girl who you've had a bit of escalation with already.
/r/seduction17/12/12 08:21 AM
3

Hey man, huge respect for being not only honest with yourself, but honest with Claire. I hope you find what you're looking for, it seems like you now know what you want. I'm happy for ya man, hope you enjoy your time with her.
/r/seduction17/12/12 08:05 AM
1

Ma bad, sorry Tofu! (Not to mention I got my question answered last night :p)
/r/seduction13/12/12 08:33 PM
2

If I had an HB for every thread I've seen here saying "Thank you, Seddit", I'd be rolling in bitches. But even if I didn't, this place would teach me how to get them anyway. I like it here!
/r/seduction12/12/12 10:23 PM
3

I know. But I've been more and more like this daily. This was just one day, and one specifically where I realized that I'm now like this on a regular basis.
/r/seduction12/12/12 08:05 AM
2

Well then you've never been greeted by a customer that makes you want to talk. That's the whole point. I work 30 hours of retail a week, and the entertaining customers are the reason I don't mind my job.
/r/seduction12/12/12 08:04 AM
3

Dude, that was hilarious. It's only awkward if you make it awkward.
/r/seduction12/12/12 08:02 AM
5

That's kinda what I was thinking. It was like "I don't need to #-close and change the frame of this interaction. I liked it just the way it was." Thanks man!
/r/seduction12/12/12 02:13 AM
50

Remember, I didn't do this overnight. I was once introverted too. Take baby steps. First, ask a cashier how their day is. Next, call them by their name. Perhaps as you walk by a stranger, you make a remark like "hey, nice shirt man!" Start small, and I promise, you'll get addicted to being social. From there, you just want to be more and more outgoing. Also, developing the mentality to "whatever I do, no one cares, and no one will remember" helps A LOT. Good luck!
/r/seduction12/12/12 01:01 AM
1

Here I am, responding. And yes, you should come along. Make sure you're subscribed to r/torontoseddit!
/r/seduction11/12/12 12:35 AM
3

Thanks Tripp! You've always got something good to say, and we're continually glad to have you actively in the community. :)
/r/seduction10/12/12 10:03 PM
1

LOOOOL, I've definitely been pulled in to buying products like that. Like that one prostitute in Amsterdam... But anyways. I would say that you shouldn't START drinking coffee to improve game. But if you're already a coffee drinker (like I am) then it can hinder your game a little if you don't have a bit of it. It's unfortunate, but kinda true. The good part of it though is that you can begin to make a link between coffee and good state. But yes, please drop us a line if you're in the Toronto ar…
/r/seduction10/12/12 08:46 PM
1

I'm the other guy in this FR. I'm down to go sarge any time you are! Had a blast, wanna do it again.
/r/seduction10/12/12 08:43 PM
15

Oh, stop it you.
/r/seduction10/12/12 08:38 PM
1

In our case, he just messaged me one day because he saw in an FR of mine that I live in Toronto. If you can't find anyone in your city in the posts, there's a Seddit locator in the sidebar!
/r/seduction10/12/12 06:47 PM
7

Dope! Come down one of the sundays I perform! I don't know If I'll be down for sarging, but I'll be up on the stage doing my thing for sure!
/r/seduction10/12/12 05:20 PM
5

They definitely count! People who work in stores are already in state to be social with other people, so it's much easier to strike up conversation with them. If you can #-close and have a date with them, what's cheating about that?
/r/seduction10/12/12 05:03 PM
9

Also, you should x-post this to /r/TorontoSeddit
/r/seduction10/12/12 04:55 PM
56

You really did good that day man! I was quite proud. And again, having you there made ME want to go do more approaches as well. We'll do Yorkdale mall next time and go for those #-closes! (Hopefully Yorkdale doesn't have a fountain for us to awkwardly stand by for an hour :p) If you don't mind me elaborating on some of my successes for the day: When we went to the body shop, I stayed outside by the front door and had an HB7.5 with red hair (which I'm a sucker for) demo some hand creams on me. I …
/r/seduction10/12/12 04:55 PM
5

Thought it'd be worth mentioning a few more lessons learned: LMR from a guy can be very sexy, and turn girls on like crazy. Just go for the damn kiss, it'll work more often than not. Putting your arm around a girl during a one on one talk is very powerful kino that isn't seen as overly sexual. ISOLATE GOD DAMMIT. Nobody knows you're not alpha before they first meet you.
/r/seduction04/12/12 06:07 PM
27

What a fucking tramp.
/r/seduction04/12/12 04:35 PM
3

When the topic does arise, you have to maintain the frame that sex is a very normal thing for you, and talk about it that way. If you make it feel like it's a very ordinary thing for you, and convey that vibe, it will make her more inclined to feel comfortable talking about it with you.
/r/seduction02/12/12 05:11 PM
3

Really, it calls itself a counter and doesn't count shit.
/r/seduction02/12/12 02:19 AM
7

I was hoping someone would write about this. I've been meditating for about a month now, and it's improved my life, and my game. It helps a person be more in tune to the present moment, and worry less about events, consequences, what-ifs, etc. This will help your game because if you have a meditative outlook, it will be much harder for rejection/random events to make you feel out of state. It helps a person not let the outside effect their inside. Not to mention, women can see if a man is calm o…
/r/seduction02/12/12 01:27 AM
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I like your username! Upvote
/r/seduction02/12/12 01:03 AM
8

If you only used to get them, you may wanna talk to your moderator to see if /r/viagra is the right subreddit for you.
/r/seduction30/11/12 04:54 PM
1

First and foremost, you have to ask yourself a question: What do I have to lose by going all in? Will I be more satisfied having tried and failed, or having not tried at all? If you've come to the conclusion that you're willing to push outside of your comfort zone, congratulations. You are now ready to flirt with her more than you have in the past, gradually escalate throughout the date, and go for the kiss when the time comes. Don't overthink it. Just be confident in your actions, and be FUN. P…
/r/seduction28/11/12 09:44 PM
1

Search up in-field footage of just about any PUA's that this subreddit has done an AMA with. You'll find more material than you can watch. If you're looking for some inspiration, look at some of the stuff that RSD posts on their youtube pages.
/r/seduction28/11/12 09:38 PM
5

Thanks some fantastic success! That's what this community is all about: improving yourself and achieving your goals. It's awesome to see so many people transform in a way they once thought impossible. Congrats dude, don't stop here!
/r/seduction27/11/12 06:32 AM
1

hahaha, I guess so. I actually hugged her less than a minute after opening her. And then again at the end.
/r/seduction27/11/12 12:57 AM
1

I'm glad I could help. Really, a lot of people overthink these things. But as I outlined, asking her can really only end positively. I'm really interested to hear how this goes! If you remember, reply to this afterwards and let me know how it went!
/r/seduction26/11/12 11:30 PM
1

Start working on inner game. Don't even worry about girls until you've got that under control. Start reading up about it on the sidebar.
/r/seduction26/11/12 11:17 PM
1

The solution: The next time you find yourself talking to her, you just need to be straight up about it. Tell her you want her number with a big, confident grin on your face. Literally, just, "Thanks for serving me tonight. Listen, I wanna get your number because I'd love to take you out for a coffee sometime." Is she says no, or "I have a boyfriend", just keep that smile going and say "that's okay. Thanks anyways, see you around." Think about it this way: the worst case scenario of this situatio…
/r/seduction26/11/12 11:15 PM
1

It's just like going to the gym! Having a gym buddy makes things WAY easier! Same with seduction. This is where we get the term "Wingman". ;) Just ask some friends, there's no way you don't know anyone that also wants to get good with girls.
/r/seduction26/11/12 10:33 PM
1

I hope for you that you get in field and try some of this stuff soon. Once you do, it makes you feel like a god of your own world. And don't worry, inner game and AA are probably the two things people struggle most with. Of anything seduction related. They take a lot of time. Start looking at some of David Wygant's material, it helps a lot with these fields. And I'm 5'11. You're insecure about your height though? Man, don't even sweat it, not every girl likes a guy that towers over her. You can …
/r/seduction26/11/12 09:57 PM
2

substitute "cute" with "gorgeous" or even "lovely". The idea is to display attraction and confidence, the specific wording isn't so important.
/r/seduction26/11/12 09:51 PM
3

Yeah, sure. Interesting things to talk about is just a matter of being an interesting person. Find some passions and hobbies, go out often, develop circles of friends. THAT'S where a person needs to start. Once you hit a point where you believe you're an interesting person, you probably are. As far as conversation skills, you may benefit from learning a bit of David Wygant's teachings. One thing he teaches is that in order to talk to girls, you have to talk to EVERYBODY (I think there's a sideba…
/r/seduction26/11/12 05:33 PM
1

Naw, not yet. I wanna do Eaton Center sometime, TONS of people and opportunities there!
/r/seduction26/11/12 05:24 PM
3

It can be so hard to do man. Inner game is step one, and a fantastic one. Getting over AA is not simple. But I would say, find a buddy that wants to do the same thing and challenge each other at the mall one day. Make a bet, first one to do 3 approaches gets $10! I took a buddy with me to the mall this time. He saw me try and decided to try himself. He has no idea how to game though, so he crashed and burned. HARD. He went to a 3 set of HBs and very awkwardly said "Hey. Um...I just though you we…
/r/seduction26/11/12 12:51 AM
2

Also, going to the gym is so worth it. Imagine yourself 3 months from now. You can either kick your ass into gear and make it happen, or look back in three months and be pissed at yourself. Either way, at that point, it's all the past. The question is, how will you let it shape your future? Good luck man.
/r/seduction26/11/12 12:46 AM
2

Thanks for reading! More to come!
/r/seduction26/11/12 12:44 AM
1

AA = Approach Anxiety. HB/HB Scale = Hot Babe rating system. A PERFECT girl that constantly gets hit on would be an HB10. An average girl would be HB5 or HB6.
/r/seduction26/11/12 12:43 AM
3

So do I man. It was a really intense conversation, and she probably won't. But I was just trying to remind her that giving up never does any good. But it really goes to show, there's a story for every stranger.
/r/seduction26/11/12 12:41 AM
1

No, but it can go shitty.
/r/seduction23/11/12 01:49 AM
1

It was nice while it lasted. But it's over now.
/r/seduction16/11/12 06:45 AM
2

Can I suggest meditation? I began doing it recently, and it's really taught me a lot about being in tune and present to just one idea. This will help greatly in-field. It allows you to not get caught up in the what-if's of the interaction, and just focus on putting actions into motion. Tyler Durden of Real Social Dynamics is a very large advocate of daily meditation for this reason. Not to mention that meditation relieves stress, which is a HUGE factor in maintaining a good frame.
/r/seduction16/11/12 06:43 AM
2

You're making good steps of progress for day two! The main thing I'd say is this: View yourself as somebody that would be a pleasure to talk to. And you are! You're giving these store clerks a sign of life! You're pulling them away from their boring, monotonous job and trying to engage them a bit further than most people! It's a small perspective change. Put yourself in their shoes. I know when I work at a retail job, I'm BEGGING for something out of the ordinary to happen! So to go on up to the…
/r/seduction16/11/12 06:36 AM
1

Well...FINE! I never wanted you in the first place! All you've done is hurt me!
/r/seduction16/11/12 06:22 AM
1

Too much time online. Which I think is probably a pretty common problem among learners. Ideally, a person should spend more time in-field than learning theory.
/r/seduction16/11/12 06:21 AM
-1

"Oh my god Ollie, take me back to your place right now."
/r/seduction16/11/12 06:16 AM
0

Well up until then, the interaction was relatively smooth. Even when she said it, she was smiling, I just wasn't sure how to respond.
/r/seduction16/11/12 06:14 AM
-5

You grin when you eat shit?
/r/seduction16/11/12 01:29 AM
1

The 2nd paragraph here is KEY! I was just thinking this! If you play if off right, you can actually make your daydreaming habit into an alpha trait where girls actually have to strive for your attention! Might take a bit of experimenting to figure out exactly how to hone in on making it work, but totally doable and worthwhile! However, if you DO decide to try and overcome it, may I recommend a supplement? It's called "Focus Formula". It has vitamins and nutrients that promote specific brain acti…
/r/seduction16/11/12 01:09 AM
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Yeah, agree and amplify is always the best option. It was just a strangely posed statement, and I wasn't sure how to correctly agree with "being a creep". :p But you're right, it's all about the way it's framed! "Yup, out of the hundreds of guys here, you've found the stalker. Now aren't you just the luckiest?" Totally creepy if not said in a "Pfft, yeah right" kind of manner.
/r/seduction16/11/12 01:01 AM
108

From iPad to MyPad. Dang.
/r/seduction16/11/12 12:02 AM
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