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Paterculus523/r/Divorce_Men24/10/22 02:09 PM
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I have kept some of my ex wife, the kids and family. We have 4 kids together and someday I will let them go through them. It’s for them. I don’t look at them but the kids deserve to have a history of our family if they want it. I do not have any photos of other past partners.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/26 02:11 AM
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Lawyer up, She is free to move. The baby isn’t. I hope you are in a 50/50 standard place. Demand 50/50 minimum don’t back down ever and if she wants to move the baby stays. She wants out of her life let her be out. She doesn’t dictate the baby. Record everything, no matter what. If she is already hostile I would only speak email and text. Only the necessary details. Don’t get baited by her and debate everything is evidence. Be a rock. State the needs of the child don’t debate them. Don’t fight o…
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/26 07:50 PM
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Don’t take her back when she decides the grass isn’t greener.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 10:32 PM
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Perhaps you didn’t see his previous posts about wanting an escort. He isn’t exactly monogamous already.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/26 07:54 PM
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I’m going to throw out a backwards suggestion. Stop trying to fix it. Start working on yourself. Workout, self reflect, heal yourself, and be the best you for yourself and your kid. Do your thing and invite her along but she is totally optional. She will either move on or move closer. Either way you are good for you and your kid.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/26 06:01 PM
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Document document document. Gather your evidence., this might even involve a PI on her next “hair appointment”. Change all your passwords. Move money out of a joint account that you can don’t say anything. Don’t move out. Be thankful you don’t have kids.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 08:16 PM
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My ex bought the two oldest smart watches. With her telling me they were for tracking the children. After the children got calls on them only when we left the house to do activities, they get put on the charger in the living room as soon as they arrive and don’t get picked up until it’s time to go back to her. They are accessible and should the children wish to have contact with their mother they are free to. They don’t.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 07:26 PM
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Ex wife? Ex girlfriend? Divorced final? Casual Agreement or Divorce decree written requirement? Did you make this agreement thinking to protect your children from her poor choices in life and she is using instead to control you?
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/26 12:57 AM
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This depends on how your divorce went and why you had a divorce. If it boiled down to her wanting out because she was bored/didn’t want this life any more/her cheating. Do not be friendly. The problems are still there she just feels lonely and wants validation.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/26 06:31 PM
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Christmas really makes you feel the death of your family.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 12:09 AM
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If you have a decent job and made out with $1,000,000 of the net worth. Buy a house, out right whatever you can afford for less than half of that, buy/payoff a reasonable car outright. Work your job, see your kids move on with your life. Keep your life simple and don’t think about her. Don’t have contact except for exchange, and don’t talk at exchange. She isn’t your wife or friend anymore. Don’t talk about her; except to your therapist. Any child support money you get from her throw it into 529…
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/25 03:39 AM
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I moved on took time to be with myself and heal. Now I’ve been remarried to an amazing woman for 2 years and only wish I had gotten out sooner. Life with a partner who is invested and wants to do the things necessary to keep a relationship going together is a 100000x better. Mutual respect, willingness to accept being wrong, when resolving issues doing so we are working to move forward together rather than having to be the winner or loser, being desired and wanted, accepting and loving my childr…
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 09:50 AM
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There were times not too long after the divorce I regretted it. The feelings had to do with kids and the loss of the ideal family. I put up with cheating, including a pregnancy. Therapy and reconciliation only to be cheated on again. The regrets I felt didn’t erase the hurt it. It was loss and dealing with. I felt worthless and I was screwed up because I couldn’t make it work. But it was my fault or within my ability to make it work when I didn’t have a partner capable of or interested in being …
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 03:03 AM
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I deleted her contact and it just shows up as her number. That way she I pull it for court it’s already shown.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 05:40 PM
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The truth is your marriage and old relationship is already dead and just lingers around as a legal contract. And divorce is actual hell even if it gets better after. Do you want to stay with your wife? If yes, date your wife. When she is around put your phone down and be with her. Send her stupid, happy suggestive texts and memes when apart. Flirt. Notice the things she likes and dislikes now. Be intimate let her choose when to make it sexual. Play with her. When you have sex rock her world. Sho…
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 09:20 PM
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So her new partner works there, too? Sounds like she almost got caught and blew up at you to cover something up.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/24 12:46 AM
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Just make sure you have the concept down. To forgive is to stop feeling angry or resentful toward (someone) for an offense, flaw, or mistake. This is not reconciliation, the restoration of friendly relations. It’s important to release those feelings of past wrongs done to you. It’s better for your mental and physical health. Stress is a killer, dwelling on the past blinds you to the future. This also doesn’t mean you can’t be disappointed by new and continued wrongs. I would say never reconcile.…
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 07:34 PM
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Sounds silly but dude I have an idea for you. if you have a decent car, go be an Uber driver for people not deliveries. It’ll get you out of the house earn a few extra bucks and you have 5 to 30 minutes with people to talk about nothing important or just sit in silence listening to music you like. It gives you something to do, seriously. Each ride done is a little dopamine hit for me.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 12:52 AM
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Can’t change someone. Either have the conversation that you are in a fwb situationship or be done with her.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 06:22 PM
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A friend told me that it would take about a month for each year you were together to really get to a new you. It held pretty true.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/23 12:18 AM
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So she is in her mid 30’s…. Welcome to the club. She is already gone even if she doesn’t let you know. Nothing you do to “fix” this will work. She wants it broken. Any honest attempt you make will likely lead to a fight by her. Prepare for a divorce and don’t trust her. Don’t sacrifice yourself. When her thing falls apart in 6 months don’t take her back.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/23 07:07 PM
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It’s Vegas, don’t take anything you aren’t willing to lose. Gamble stolen or given away. You aren’t expecting sex but you want it. Be clear about it. Don’t show up and be her friend, show interest of you are interested. Be prepared and have the adult conversation before you go. Last str tests and results, pregnancy chances, protection requirements for both, tell her if you want to bang her from noon till dawn or just have a sexy evening before crashing in your own bed. Before that talk have 1-2 …
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/23 02:56 PM
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She was done with you long ago. Please please pleases don’t fall into the trap and accept her back when it fails. Finalize the divorce and have your kids with you before it falls apart.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/23 05:23 PM
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Unfortunately this is a very common theme. She hits 35 and now her life she built isn’t enough, ruins it and blames you.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 11:19 PM
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I’ve followed some of your posts and comments. It sucks to still love someone who is done with you. As much as it hurts, do what is best for you and your kids. That is almost never, “give the leaving partner what they want”. You can give her the freedom to move on, but fight for your future happiness and well-being. Demand your standard of life. Don’t attempt to make her happy. You are divorcing because that has failed. I’m personally on the other side of attempting to make my ex happy though di…
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/22 02:54 PM
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You are not divorcing her because you are impressed with her.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/22 02:31 AM
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50/50 and as far as I’m aware from discussions with my lawyer if both parties are local and interested without abuse. It is almost forced. Because there is nothing legal in Florida I can’t even file a motion for emergency custody until it is domesticated. Unless they have been kidnapped basically.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/22 04:44 PM
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Thanks for your reply. Unfortunately the plan on file is in Arizona and states she lives in Tennessee with the kids as primary and I live in Florida with limited visitation. 2 years ago her situation we divorced over fell apart and she wanted to go back to school and work full time. I requested the children and they resided with me for two years except for one month last summer. The children being in FL for the past two years and not updating means the document is unenforceable in any fashion. V…
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/22 01:41 PM
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We swap Mondays I get them till Tuesday morning every other week. It’s bs and yes I’m going for primary but courts are moving like snails. Florida or at least where I am is overnights not time.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/22 03:49 PM
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Kids are 5, 7, 9 & 11. I guess that makes sense. I just don’t want them spending the entire weekend with childcare while she works and then sleeps. Then has 4-5 hours she doesn’t have a sitter caring for them for over the 60 hour frame she works.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/22 02:29 PM
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