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| 22 | My boyfriend (31) says he wants to move in with me so he can “save” and is not talking about going half on bills. How can I tell him that I expect him to pay bills if he moves in with me ?Write up a lease explicitly stating his amount of rent, utilities, etc. due. But honestly, just don't. He shouldn't be moving in with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 05:04 PM |
| 123 | How to spot a Deadbeat DadMy kids' dad filed to get full custody twice. First time he didn't know which school they attended. Two years later, they called CPS claiming neglect. We were both investigated... and found their living situation unsuitable. I've had the dubious pleasure of hearing a judge in open court inform dad he is an embarrassment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/22 06:36 PM |
| 282 | How to spot a Deadbeat DadAlso be careful of men who have extensive history of "fighting" for legal custody... but really are super focused on reducing child support payments to mom. If he's a grown man but doesn't work and depends on your income... watch out. My child's dad remarried and they bought a house and car... but put it in her name. Then he quit his job. He still pays child support and she pays it. She's not happy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/22 05:41 PM |
| 24 | Ali Wong Getting a DivorceI think he manipulated her to feel bad about not being "as good as him" and she ate it up before realizing what a crock of shit it was. The thing she praises him most for is that "he let's me be myself". Which, let's face it, reads like he treats her like she should be lucky he "lets her be". He'll do fine. He'll get bank from Ali because they have two kids and he'll likely get at least 50/50 custody. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/22 02:52 AM |
| 669 | Ali Wong Getting a DivorceGOOD. I read her memoir and she is funny AF and clearly was the winner in that relationship. She had a lot of very tender and raunchy stories about not-her-husband and she clearly married before she knew her worth. I hope she carries on gloating about her success and being the wildly interesting, fantastic person that she is. She can do better than the guy she married. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/22 03:41 AM |
| 41 | ... and wait! when this doesn't work out, he asks his mommy to call her.I was honest about my dishonesty! How dare you hold that against me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/22 01:42 AM |
| 39 | ... and wait! when this doesn't work out, he asks his mommy to call her.I remember this. It's the first in a series of VM. Basically- he stands her up, then leaves mountains of verbal vomit on her phone, claiming she owes him another chance, and then his mom starts leaving her voicemails also, inviting her over for lunch, stating that her son would never do what he did although it's probably her fault he stood her up. The crux of his anger is that after standing her up, calling 2 hrs later with the lie that his dad was sick, then calling again to admit he lied, he t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/22 01:06 AM |
| 110 | What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith?Chris Rock handled himself with astonishing grace. His composure almost had me fooled - but he had a minor fumble when saying the "documentary was awarded", so he absolutely was rattled. Will Smith is not OK. And to follow it up with a speech about being "a vessel for love"? He's troubled. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 05:40 AM |
| 24 | Does anyone else feel the pressure to explain your single hood to partnered people?Nope. And people who pressure me to be less picky are never in relationships I admire. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 08:08 PM |
| 220 | Has a man ever left you or started abusing you when something negative happened to your looks?The divorce rate is 20% men leaving women when women have a cancer diagnosis, 2% women leaving men who have a cancer diagnosis. 11% divorce rate is the average in a population. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 08:39 PM |
| 2 | "Are you a feminist?" How do you answer this?Yes, I am a feminist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 01:55 AM |
| 150 | She quit her job and is live-in childcare for her husband’s affair baby and is now being asked to cancel her birthday trip to babysitCan you imagine having a child that you allow her father's wife to care for, knowing that she left paid work so you could continue your own? I would bet dad has told biomom some flavor of "I love my wife more than you but she could never have kids" and both women are being strung along. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 08:42 PM |
| 212 | Really?!? Still years later they’re dragging her.Kanye was disgusting to Amber Rose after their breakup, so I have no doubt he'd be horrible to Kim. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 09:26 PM |
| 137 | Same dudes who have/want to have casual sex will look down on YOU for having a history of it. The hypocrisy. Yet another reason to stay away from casual sex AND slutty guys, they're hypocrites with insane Madonna-whore complexes and STDs/STIs who think they're a prize to be won.It reminds me of that hideous man who trapped multiple women in his home. At his sentencing hearing, he rambled hideously about how the decades of R--pe they endured wasn't so bad because some of them weren't virgins. Men who view you as less of a person for your history are abusers, as your inexperience and naivete are what they prize about you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 08:50 PM |
| 43 | I asked my boyfriend what he would do if I decided to keep the baby - was his answer a red flag?I think what you're sensing is that his gut reaction lacked the commitment you anticipated based on your discussions about your far-off future. 30 is really far away. He got you pregnant and panicked at the thought of you keeping the child and having to raise it with you. He's not the one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 05:11 AM |
| 45 | How to avoid a situationship?LOL exactly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 02:16 AM |
| 101 | UPDATE: on 46 y/o coworker claiming to be 34.This guy is giving a taste of what being in a relationship with him would be like- him spouting lies and popping off when he gets called out. Grey rock this loser. You don't need his chaos in your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 10:45 PM |
| 11 | When Talk Show Hosts Make Celebrities Uncomfortable (how gross. it's of course mostly women)It's horrifying that Jennifer Aniston had to put up with Letterman sniffing her and SUCKING ON HER HAIR??? TO THE POINT HE DROOLED ON HER AND AFTERWARDS HANDED HER A HANKERCHIEF TO WIPE HER HAIR DRY? I've never seen this clip before and I am outraged. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 08:12 AM |
| 9 | REMINDER: Those "small signs" that you let slide at the beginning of the relationship? Those aren't "nothing" - they are 3-seconds teaser to what's coming.I'll never stop being upset about her texting her suspicions and doubts to her friends, who consistently minimized her concerns and gave her horrible advice. She would text her friends that she thought he was cheating and that he didn't want sex with her, and they'd goad her to go for it and try her hardest to sleep with him. She would text her friends that something was off and they'd respond with rah-rah-youdabest stuff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 08:17 AM |
| 171 | Facts don't care about your feelings 😙💅Summary: CONS: Age gap relationships greater than 2 years tend to happen in partners where the increased age makes them less desirable to same-age partners Gaps of 4 years correlate with increased depression among partners, with greater depression for greater gaps Sex satisfaction decreased rapidly in age gap relationships, a steeper decline than in lesser age gaps Inter personal violence associated with men being much older than wives age gaps in either direction is detrimental to the wives' lo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 03:36 AM |
| 21 | A breakdown of Jason Mamoa's red flags now that he and Lisa Bonet announced their divorceHe does now that Zendaya showed him how to be professionally delightful for the public. She's awesome, BTW. Talented and a good person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 04:43 PM |
| 32 | A breakdown of Jason Mamoa's red flags now that he and Lisa Bonet announced their divorceExactly. He's bitter and started to come off poorly in pressers at the beginning - mocking other cast members and whining about his height. Zendaya has been handling him and it took him an insanely long time to catch up and realize he could benefit from her wisdom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 04:14 PM |
| 48 | A breakdown of Jason Mamoa's red flags now that he and Lisa Bonet announced their divorceZendaya is awesome. I think Tom is a little shit and if he didn't have Zendaya's grace and wisdom, would have already gotten his smug ass cancelled. He was a nightmare in promoting the Marvel movies and literally had to be babysat by the cast on pressers so he didn't spoil the plotlines. He had weird public beef with the actor who portrayed Falcon. He was way up his own ass in the beginning and Zendaya would very deftly tease him or call him out humorously to get him tone down his narcissism. Yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 04:07 PM |
| 14 | Advice: He seems wonderful but isn’t as financially secure as meThis guy is a red flag parade. And you know it. Re-read your first sentence of your post: I’ve been dating someone who I believe is a wonderful man for ~6 months now. Who you believe? ...BUT. You know something is off. He is pushing for kids because he's probably sensed you want commitment. But this "entrepreneur" is a gambler - he knows you're stable, so worst case scenario he gets a a child or two with a wonderful, well-off woman who will probably owe him child support should you ever separate… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 02:38 AM |
| 44 | Advice: He seems wonderful but isn’t as financially secure as meAnyone who built a successful business either had a safety net in the form of a wealthy family or wealthy spouse to cushion any errors or lean years, or forged ahead and buckled down until they made it work. Does he have a singular solid idea that he's been working diligently on? Or is he an entrepreneur in the sense he haphazardly jumps from thing to thing, hoping this is the thing where he strikes it rich? I've never known a successful individual who didn't have a combo of luck, hard work, and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 11:56 PM |
| 20 | Advice: He seems wonderful but isn’t as financially secure as meYES. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 05:06 PM |
| 18 | Advice: He seems wonderful but isn’t as financially secure as meExactly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 05:04 PM |
| 92 | Advice: He seems wonderful but isn’t as financially secure as meWhat he says he intends to do is not what he has done. This is a huge red flag to me. He fully knows what you want and how financially well off you are. Prenups are not ironclad. And you have no idea if he's going to be a good dad - I know very few "entrepreneurs" who exhibit the kind of stability a good parent takes. He sounds like a risk taking smooth talker. Don't marry this dude until a year in and don't have kids with him unless he's the most home-makery, organized, social event planning ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 05:02 PM |
| 32 | Have you noticed there are more snoring men than women?Your last sentence is exactly why I get so confused by people who complain about modern medicine. Oh? You're angry the pediatrician wants to vaccinate your child and are also angry you are having trouble locating another doctor because you refused and they kicked you out of their practice? Why TF are you bringing your kid to a doctor if you refuse to listen to their advice? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 04:13 PM |
| 91 | Looking the same after babiesI breastfed and didn't lose any weight. It took intense dieting for me to lose the weight, which I did five years later. My abdominal muscles separated and I will require surgery if I ever want a 'flat stomach again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 07:25 PM |
| 36 | The absolute audacity of some of these men. Could you imagine telling your partner that you are taking a three month break from being a spouse and a parent?Exactly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 08:01 PM |
| 44 | The absolute audacity of some of these men. Could you imagine telling your partner that you are taking a three month break from being a spouse and a parent?She should tell him to enjoy. One day after he leaves, she should visit a lawyer and begin planning divorce and steel herself to never take him back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 08:00 PM |
| 75 | Guy murders his separated wife... Horrible men in the comment section are defending his actionsI bought a new phone, changed my Gmail pw and wiped my laptop and started my own Netflix account. Don't log into ANY shared systems - I was able to see what my ex was up to based on our shared Amazon account but he could also see my location and IP address. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 09:59 PM |
| 181 | "Women 32% more likely to die after operation by male surgeon, study reveals" I am lost for words...That's horrifying, especially because with one ovary she would still have hormones, but removal of both plunges her instantly into a permanent menopause. Including irreversible side effects like bone density loss, memory impacts and untreatable hot flashes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 11:09 PM |
| 41 | "I'm feeling blamed"https://ia800108.us.archive.org/30/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 02:36 PM |
| 33 | Diamonds Are ForeverBecause jewelry and diamonds have horrible resale value, I don't think they're valuable. Putting money towards a down-payment on a home or stocks ira/savings should be what women think of "diamonds". If you're thinking about pairing up with a man and he has shitty credit, try to get the house in your name, so his bad credit can't tank that. And if you're in an abusive situation and are trying to leave, don't let him waste money on jewelry. Sock away cash in a bank account only you have knowledge… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 05:05 PM |
| 13 | Paying off someone else’s debt?This is such an excellent point that cannot be overstated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 08:45 PM |
| 98 | This Woman's Date Sent Her Home In An Uber — He Was "Too Embarrassed To Be Seen With Me" In The Outfit I Was Wearing... At least she broke up with him immediately!Ugh, wish she didn't feel either the need to venmo him money or that she had to post this online in order to be validated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 06:53 PM |
| 2 | This is narcissistic abuse.In all states in America, taking someone's phone away while abusing them increases the domestic violence charges. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 04:41 PM |
| 6 | 12 hours into a new conversation this happensIn many states, it's actually illegal to privately record a conversation without the other parties' consent. So it's better you didn't try to sneakily record anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 01:11 AM |
| 4 | What does FDS think about the rise of the “stay at home girlfriend?”The only benefit to being a stay at home girlfriend is that you're not legally tied down to another person if they become abusive and you have to flee. Which begs the question of why you're in the relationship. If you wouldn't marry an individual, then you should NEVER put yourself in a position to be wholly dependent on them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 03:37 AM |
| 1 | Just broke up with a sweet, funny, kind and attentive guy, because he works a minimum wage jobExactly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 02:08 AM |
| 389 | Men can hate you, despise you even, and they’ll still string you along for years to get their revengeLadies, once you break up, that is it. Never return. You had a good reason. Remember, Ted Bundy rekindled a relationship with a woman who had dumped him years prior merely so he could dump her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 11:46 PM |
| 5 | I’m not sure where to go from here in terms of meeting someoneYou're 24. Focus on yourself- get that grad degree on lock, eat healthy, nurture your friendships and activities that excite you. Stable professional men start looking for serious wife relationships around 26/27. Date men who treat you with respect who you desire and enjoy being with. You're the perfect age. Stop rushing and be your amazing self. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 05:17 AM |
| 25 | I deserve better than this relationship, but I have never experienced love this deep.As long as you stay with this mess of a man, you will be alone. As soon as you kick him out, you will find time to spend out in the world with other people and begin building a life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 06:35 AM |
| 43 | I deserve better than this relationship, but I have never experienced love this deep.He knew. You knew it was his first day and he knew he could no-show and you'll still pay all the bills. This isn't love. You're experiencing a bond and you want to be there for a person the way you wish your family had been there for you. You deserve to be treated well. He isn't treating you well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 06:33 AM |
| 39 | Ladies, can you help me interpret these yellow/orange/red flags?What gave you pause? Dig deep into it. On a piece of paper, write down what was said and what you observed and how you felt. Figure out what you wish you could have said or done that you didn't and what you'd like to have seen instead. What media and interests would please you to discover? When you sensed he didn't want to touching his phone, what did you realize he was concerned about? What photos or texts did you think he'd be concerned for you to see? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 05:20 AM |
| 3 | How do you handle exes who, whilst not harassing you directly and having no contact with you, are still acting in strange ways around friends you have in common? Crying to/in front of them, tirades about missing you, asking them to deliver messages, etc?Posted before I saw this comment but you are 1000% correct. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 03:15 AM |
| 3 | How do you handle exes who, whilst not harassing you directly and having no contact with you, are still acting in strange ways around friends you have in common? Crying to/in front of them, tirades about missing you, asking them to deliver messages, etc?The people relaying the information back to you are "flying monkeys". Politely avoid them. These people are not your friends if they are telling you this information as a way to garner sympathy. If they told you in the context that he was acting oddly and they are concerned about your safety, have them document this so you can take their statement to the police later if needed. If they won't write a letter you can give to police, then avoid them, because they are just vultering the weird drama. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 03:09 AM |
| 28 | Gomez Addams 💚https://youtu.be/zIC2aMlqEZk | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 09:20 AM |
| 197 | Be careful around maintenance men if you live alone. If possible, have a male relative with you when you need something installed/repaired. I’ve heard some ladies say to have used men’s shoes just in case they try something u could say ur husband will be back soon. Imagine if she was alone with him😳"Men refusing to let go of your hand after what should be a perfunctory handshake" is my first memory of sexual harassment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 04:53 PM |
| 27 | I just saw MaleficentYes. And there are no scenes where men discuss anything other than a woman: https://bechdeltest.com/view/5510/maleficent/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 04:14 AM |
| 9 | People Hating on a Woman at DisneyIt's Gaston. His whole character's deal is to be a narcissistic a-hole. Not sure what this has to do with dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 10:49 PM |
| 40 | Taylor Swift’s “All Too Well”This. Cher understood it "I AM a rich man." Marriage is traditionally way to bond women to men to perform domestic labor. Western women take care of themselves domestically and if they are financially independent, marriage is very unlikely to be a benefit unless they have children with man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 09:58 PM |
| 156 | Tired of polyamorous folks being judgemental towards monogamy, I need helpNobody owes anybody a reason for monogamy. If somebody wants to discuss their polyamory and debate it with you in the context of dating and you're seeking a long term monogamous relationship, I'd block and delete. Dating may be non-exclusive, but if you're dating with the assumption that you're moving towards commitment and the other person is wasting your time building out their harem, it's fundamentally incompatible. You wouldn't date somebody who wants a SAHM to raise children while you want … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 09:49 PM |
| 2 | I don’t know what to do.Just leave. Ghost his ass completely and never look back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 05:38 PM |
| 242 | This is hands down one of the most utterly depressing things I’ve ever seen. No matter how bleak things get, thanks to FDS we’ll never be this woman, passively rejected for a proposal by her child’s father after 11 YEARS of dating.It feels like he doesn't actually perceive himself to be in a relationship with her and probably tells whoever he's dating and his friends she's an Ex and excuses his visits to her as visiting his child. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 02:20 PM |
| 66 | If you are in a verbally/mentally/physically abusive relationship. Leave now. Make a plan stick to it and go.I'm so glad you're okay. Thank you for sharing your story. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 10:14 PM |
| 6 | Chris Pratt continues to be the worstThe former Hollywood mogul has been accused by numerous women of rape, sexual harassment, and abuse, and his attorneys recently quoted Lawrence in his defense against a class-action sexual harassment lawsuit, saying that Lawrence and Meryl Streep had stated that Weinstein never harassed them. In response, Lawrence said in a statement, “Harvey Weinstein and his company are continuing to do what they have always done which is to take things out of context and use them for their own benefit. This i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 05:22 PM |
| 56 | He (27M) revealed he was a virgin…Does he have a fetish? Asking because the only man who I dated in my 20s who was a virgin had a very long list of fetishes and was very difficult to get the truth out of (he'd never had technical sex but spent a lot of money paying a dominatrix). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 10:07 PM |
| 139 | Chris Pratt continues to be the worstHe's posted several photos of her his feet, either rubbing his feet or clipping his toenails. He's obviously really into showing off her debasement. I'm really glad Anna Faris left him and here's to his new wife also seeing the light. I will say I don't believe for a moment that Jennifer Lawrence touched him. I think Pratt was a flirty jackass and maybe cheated during that time period with someone, but JLaw has higher standards than what he has on offer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 11:31 AM |
| 2 | The movie ”Creep” is amazingIt's a combo of found footage and psychological horror. It's very low-budget but if you are into slow burns, the payoff is worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 09:06 PM |
| 96 | The movie ”Creep” is amazingOMG this is spot on. "Creep" is one of my favorite horror movies and you are completely accurate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 03:20 AM |
| 26 | Woman comments “we Stan a short king” on random videos on Tik Tok. Men take the bait every single timeA geographical oddity, no less than six feet every time ! 😆🤣😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 02:23 AM |
| 116 | Had to read this in my English comp class.. immediately thought of you all ❤️❤️❤️ Mods, please delete if not allowed.This is why women are the prize. Because we allow men to be successful with what we bring to a marriage and a man does not provide this to us in return. Marriage is skewed heavily to favor men so we should be exceptionally careful before entering into marriage with a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 08:19 PM |
| 193 | Is Marriage a Bad Deal for Women?Yes. Marriage was always a sort of lottery - a gamble to potentially make your life better but just as likely to keep you down. Marriage was one of the few ways women could keep property or hold some kind of status in society. Now that women can work and vote and have a credit card and purchase birth control... we aren't obligated to enter into a legal contract with a dicey man just because he's the only prospect. Marriage is basically a luxury and holds favorable qualities for women who want ch… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 06:15 AM |
| 53 | What are some vetting strategies to ensure a man won’t turn like this on you after giving birth?I wonder if the marriage was previously "great" because she's a vibrant pleaser and made his life easy and was amenable to all his needs coming first? Children recalibrate everything- the man won't be the center stage any more and if this guy is working to be a doctor and didn't even anticipate the obvious sleep deprivation that comes with new parenting, it speaks to a lack of understanding reality. To be concerned about his wife's hair while acknowledging that the baby is disrupting his and her… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 10:16 PM |
| 423 | How I went from side character to main character in less than a year"Go where you're celebrated" - such excellent advice! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 10:09 PM |
| 5 | Oh goody, yet another way men are entirely too happy to deceive you.Spitten FACTS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 12:48 AM |
| 13 | Dirty John: S1 John mehanI read the newspaper series about it and was aghast. Debra is a pickme raised by a mother who completely didn't care that a man murdered her sister. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 02:42 AM |
| 4 | Please form the queue ladies😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 07:30 PM |
| 631 | Who here ACTUALLY enjoys giving blowjobs?I only enjoy it if reciprocated. I actually had a LTR lasting years where I only gave them twice- I asked both times for him to go down on me too, only to be told he'd rather use his hands. Which was fine and enjoyable, but going forward I only offered him hand jobs, which he declined. EVERY time he would ask (which was monthly for years) I would request he go down on me first, which he would decline. He also wouldn't rub my back or feet although would sometimes request the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 10:36 AM |
| 64 | As a woman looking to buy a property in the next few years. It’s so important to legally NEVER give a man this much financial/ legal leverage over me. Any advice from you ladies???"Bond to unpaid labor" - this is exactly what marriage was established to do, thank you for putting it so succinctly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 01:41 PM |
| 69 | Thoreau - the baby manYou would love Apple TVs Emily Dickinson- they have a whole episode dragging Thoreau. It's delicious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 07:04 AM |
| 5 | Need recommendations for understanding psychology/behavioursGavin de Becker's book "The Gift of Fear". Relationship advice books from John Gottman. "Eyes For Lies" blog. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 09:22 PM |
| 96 | So we all know that men can’t stop talking about themselves, so I wanted to ask you ladies..My highschool "sweetheart" told me if he was more popular he'd be trying to date/sex up someone else. Was super hurt when we never slept together and didn't want to be just friends. My college boyfriend once commented as we were hiking that he could shove me off a cliff and he'd probably get away with my murder. He and I were not arguing. He still refers to me as "the one who got away", according to his wife. My baby daddy would punch walls, throw and break my things and threatened to kill our d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 08:30 PM |
| 36 | He stood her up, left unhinged VMs, then his mom joins in (part 2)I love the delusion of insisting he wouldn't do the thing he did and how they both are moving the goalposts to "it's bad of you to not give him a second chance". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 03:42 AM |
| 46 | He stood her up, left unhinged VMs, then his mom joins in (part 2)"They've created a whole fantasy in their heads and they're mad at her for not following the script." ThisThisThis | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 03:40 AM |
| 35 | He stood her up, left unhinged VMs, then his mom joins in (part 2)Oh. My. God. The red flag bouquet didn't fall far from the red flag tree... "He let me have a job"... "You don't have to call me back.." DANG it's horrifying and hilarious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 03:39 AM |
| 16 | It's 2021 why is it still on women mostly to take birth control? 79% of men think it should be a "shared responsibility" its msyogynisyic that we still have to carry the burden as womenAhh, the rhythm method, unexpected parenting with extra steps. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 08:57 AM |
| 70 | It's 2021 why is it still on women mostly to take birth control? 79% of men think it should be a "shared responsibility" its msyogynisyic that we still have to carry the burden as womenExactly. It didn't get FDA approval because it made men have mild discomfort. Meanwhile, I had a blood clot and nearly died in my twenties from hormonal birth control and when I went to the ER with symptoms was told it was such a rare side effect, they weren't going to test for it. (Blood clots are one of the most common reasons otherwise healthy women in their twenties die, and "a sense of impending doom" is one of the symptoms if it hits your lungs). I traveled across town to another ER and at… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 01:12 AM |
| 32 | It's 2021 why is it still on women mostly to take birth control? 79% of men think it should be a "shared responsibility" its msyogynisyic that we still have to carry the burden as womenMale birth control doesn't get FDA approval because men experience discomfort and potentially dangerous side effects. The side effects are less severe than those reported by women on birth control, fyi. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 01:07 AM |
| 286 | Why did Disney and society at large lie to us about the true nature of most men?I always felt uncomfortable as a child discussing marriage and weddings. I grew up hearing that women were equal to men and could do anything they want, but legit did not understand why women were suppose to get excited about marriage. All the women's magazines my mom read made it seem like married women were all too fat (but needed endless recipes to make sure they made tons of good tasting food), were disorganized (but had to clean up everyone's messes), and needed to be told how to look, dres… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 07:28 PM |
| 3 | I broke up with him. And he didn't even care?!You owe him nothing. Move on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 11:19 AM |
| 30 | 100%Don't forget Celine Dion. Rene Angelil groomed her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 04:53 AM |
| 29 | Men benefit from women romanticizing marriage through the lens of unconditional loveMakes me think of Penny Lane in Almost Famous... "What kind of beer?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 02:21 PM |
| 56 | Aileen Wuornos is often compared to Ted Bundy and Jeffrey Dahmer in terms of the heinous nature of their crimes. That’s because of cultural misogyny, victim-blaming, and legitimate hatred of women.Fully agree. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 08:33 AM |
| 27 | I thought this belongs here..."Bimbo" but a man = him + bimbo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 08:07 AM |
| 19 | Should I Stay or Should I Go by Lundy BancroftI'm on the fence about whether or not I think Dr Romani gives good advice or not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 04:47 PM |
| 2 | How can she fix things?DTMFA. Seriously what is there to fix? She has all the information she needs to realize he married her with the expectation she would support him and he doesn't add anything positive to her life to make it worthwhile. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 04:55 AM |
| 14 | The audacity of a zero value manShe wanted to know wakanda foolishness this man had 😆🤣😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 03:52 PM |
| 220 | The audacity of a zero value manI am here for her energy. I loved how she asked his deal-breakers just knowing she knew he was gonna spout something stupid only for him to trot out a blatantly hypocritical "I don't want a woman with baby daddies". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 12:26 AM |
| 73 | I can't believe he really said that to her yet if it wasn't because of she is on her period, he might wanted more than a innocent holding hands.Exactly. He'll want to to rawdog for the same reason- no condom accidentally left behind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 08:58 PM |
| 60 | Why is it the most hideous men that are Ethically Non Monogamous (ENM)?Also meth. Lots of meth will cause people to lower their inhibitions while massively spiking their sex drive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 05:15 AM |
| 50 | Gamer husband, I can't believe what I read.Yet they were homemakers who cooked delicious meals, cultivated friendships, raised children and kept themselves looking nice. All this guy does is game and drag her down while she works in and out of the home. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 08:37 AM |
| 21 | Scrote sexually fantasizes about maid of honor DURING HIS OWN WEDDINGI think he only married the friend due to her proximity with this woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 12:34 AM |
| 55 | So much of our culture, including dating culture and how we are expected to treat men, how we are expected to behave comes from media and movies. And this is how women are represented. Funny true and sad."Tell me your life story... you're not going to find out anything about me, I promise." 😲 ded | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 02:51 AM |
| 208 | No, an abuser does not "lose control." He is perfectly in control of his faculties when he is abusing women. He knows exactly what he's doing. The first time an incident like this happens, walk away, block and delete, and never look back.My ex did this. Never broke his things, only mine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 06:42 PM |
| 231 | No, an abuser does not "lose control." He is perfectly in control of his faculties when he is abusing women. He knows exactly what he's doing. The first time an incident like this happens, walk away, block and delete, and never look back.Lundy Bancroft "Why Does He Do That?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 06:41 PM |
| 174 | more examples of "subtle negging" and what's in a Neg Sandwich?Great points! Plus, why would an actual medical professional want to wear scrubs after their shift ends? That gear is at worst going to be coated in body fluids and at best viruses and germs. It reminds me of Dirty John - he'd hype his "medical career" and wear scrubs out on dates to galas where real doctors were appalled. Real doctors don't feel the need to be walking germ factories to score fake doctor points. 😒 If they're suggesting you are immorral and that's how your business is profitable,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 02:53 AM |
| 98 | 🚩 Don't get suckered into "protecting/respecting" the guy you're dating by keeping his dirty deeds a secret from your longtime trusted family/friendsTelling women to ignore talking about the small Effups but giving "permission" is discuss the large Effups is merely so he can gaslight better. It's not different than how society as a whole says "but they don't have a record" or "but you've never complained before!" Mention the small stuff; memorialize it in an email to a friend/ family member so that later you have a paper trail. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 07:50 PM |
| 64 | My friend matched with a guy on OLD. He sent her this..... what in the???Oh man. AOL instant message. It wasn't email but was basically texting on your computer before cell phones became popular. You know the messaging app within fb? AIM was the first iteration of that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 02:24 AM |
| 2 | My cat being more supportive of me recovering after surgery, then my ex of 4 years whom I have 2 kids with during our whole relationship and me raising our children. I love this kitty.And that kitty loves you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 07:06 AM |
| 3 | Ok why do they all look like they've never been in front of a camera before tho'Because camerawork is totally different than being The Talent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 08:06 PM |
| 4 | There is a steep and rapid decline in US birth rates. The media is placing the blame on the pandemic but I’m just over here like, “Have you seen these men out here lately?”The sixties in the USA and title VII were when rules changed and woman were able to work and be married. Total game changer. And once women began to be employed they experienced lower wages than what were traditionally given men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 03:10 PM |
| 5 | There is a steep and rapid decline in US birth rates. The media is placing the blame on the pandemic but I’m just over here like, “Have you seen these men out here lately?”Marriage Bar- the practice of excluding women from employment once they wed. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriage_bar | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 03:08 PM |
| 1 | If he wanted to he would vs. Love does not conquer allHave you seen Schitt's Creek? There is a character, Alexis, who falls in love with a veterinarian named Ted, who falls in love with her. Initially Alexis doesn't really want Ted and kind of dates him to make an Ex jealous but they break up and have a good friendship. She slowly realizes her feelings for him but levels up and starts carving out a career and her own life. Ted gets an opportunity of a lifetime to work in the galapagos and she's not willing to set her life aside to follow him. They … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 10:39 PM |
| 11 | Thank you for posting that video by Lundy BancroftHugs to you! I got out when I realized that the only direction my relationship was heading was me in a ditch somewhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 08:57 PM |
| 17 | Hypocrisy of men: Women are not allowed to kink-shame, but they are allowed to boundary shame women?!It sickens me when men use rough sex as a murder defense. It's been gaining in popularity as an effective legal defense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 05:54 AM |
| 1 | Terry Crews: Men Don’t See Women As ‘All the Way Human’. We already knew.I was taught this lesson by my first love. Had a friendship at 14 with an extremely nerdy boy in my grade. He was weird- he said provocative things in class for attention and wore the same outfit daily to school even though there wasn't a uniform (different clothes, but always the same outfit, like a cartoon character.) We got to know each other and he was funny and could be kind. I didn't find him particularly attractive- he was anorexic and had horrible halitosis. But we were kids and I becaus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 01:29 PM |
| 3 | Terry Crews: Men Don’t See Women As ‘All the Way Human’. We already knew.Or women that assure them that men's needs should always come first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 01:44 AM |
| 3 | Women can do anythingI always loved Fargo for its portrayal of Margie. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 06:46 AM |
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