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Yea! I agree I feel like a lot of LVMs stop bothering me after realizing I’m not gonna let them come into my house after knowing them for a short period of time, and know that being with me also means having my mother in their lives. Thank you so much for the kind words!! ❤️
/r/askFDS13/03/22 01:44 AM
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Aww thank you so much for the kind words! ❤️❤️❤️You also sound like a wonderful person and if you haven’t already found your HVM, I hope you find him soon. And yeah I won’t be closed off entirely to the idea of dating and keep an eye open but be prepared for the fact that it’ll be hard.
/r/askFDS13/03/22 01:43 AM
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Yes that’s the attitude that I have currently! I think you’re a wonderful mother, your daughters are lucky to have you :)
/r/askFDS13/03/22 01:40 AM
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I'm working in a military installation where this young officer who was stationed here was found dead in a famous hiking trail. It took them over 3 days to find his body despite being a popular site, this is with over 100+ volunteers and aerial reconnaissance. It seems like (and is probably) an accident, the cause of death is from falling 200 ft. -- but it made me think about all these hiking dates LVM want to go on in first dates... jesus not only are they absolute strangers taking me in an iso…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 03:50 PM
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Lol yeah after reading all the comments here I stopped equating her to naive and socially awkward because I realized she's a manipulative social climber.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 03:42 PM
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Great advice, I overshare my bad qualities and underplay my achievements because I dont want to seem like I'm showing off or bragging but now I see theres people preying on my weaknesses. I'm going to stop doing that from now on, also I think as women we're conditioned to underplay how awesome we are. And I'm probably a victim of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 03:41 PM
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So sorry this happened to you, I hate how foolish I feel when people like the intern/your ex friend are the terrible people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 03:40 PM
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Thank you for your response, and yes luckily I'm already guaranteed a job here (although not in this exact location) and she is an intern trying to get looked at so I have a much better rapport with people. I've distanced myself from her, limited my interactions, and stopped inviting her out for lunch. It's crazy, she's been talking about her roommate being terrible to her but now that I "see" who she is -- I'm guessing more likely than not that there's 2 sides to the story. I fear for the day s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 11:03 PM
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Yes for sure, actually someone who was in the room when this happened reached out to me and said that it was super uncool of her to do that. So luckily I think people were turned off by her behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 08:34 PM
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Yes for sure, no more profound and heartfelt conversations with her again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 04:39 PM
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Thank you again, talking this out to you lovely ladies made me feel a lot better ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 04:38 PM
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Thank you so much for this thoughtful response. You are so right, I vet men ruthlessly but way less cautious around women and I feel like this misplaced trust will get me into trouble. I see now that confronting her would just exacerbate the problem and this will just be an important lesson for me. Sigh just another lesson learned the hard way for me I suppose. ❤😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 04:27 PM
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Yeah I agree, I love this sub but I get so angry reading through scrotacity I get so upset scrolling thru and miss a lot of gems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 02:42 PM
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Good advice thank you, that has occured to me as well. Lol anothet question now is how do I stop myself from staying up at night and being angry about it without confronting her 😭😔🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 02:29 PM
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Yeah I think thats the case, luckily I'm leaving in like 2 weeks and will not work there but I keep thinking about it before bed and find myself absolutely pissed of and cant go to sleep LOL. I think for just the sanctity of my mind and sleep I'll bring it up with her and how it wasnt cool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 02:15 PM
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Do you think it'll be worth directly approaching her about it just to be clear it doesnt happen again?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 02:13 PM
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Hi ladies, kinda fuming over something and wondering if I handled it adequately. I'm in an internship and a new intern (woman) came in a week ago. She's fairly young (22) and friendly, I'm 28 and felt a lot of affection towards her. Shes one of the youngest interns here and I looked after her to make sure she was adjusting well. She was venting to me about her roommate troubles and boyfriend issues and to commiserate with her I told her all about my LVM ex fiance and how I broke up with him a ye…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 01:12 PM
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Yeah I completely agree, I've heard a lot of nightmare stories about unicorn fishing/poly relationships. Even though they said their male partners wont join I started getting freaked out, what if I go to their house and their husband/bf all of a sudden joins in and rapes me. LOL I probably got too paranoid but I realized having a man in the equation even minimally is just a no go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 10:53 PM
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Thanks for the suggestion! I made a bullshit comment about how I still have emotional baggage from my last relationship and how I'm trying to fill that void with meaningless sex and how that's unhealthy, that I'm really sorry for wasting their time and that they're super beautiful and nothing to do with them personally. LOL then I immediately deleted the apps before they could reply back hahah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 10:50 PM
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I completely agree, at first I was like oh it's just a hookup. But then I realized all the potential dangers I'm leaving myself open to. Their male partners could always be unsafe with their hookups and leave the women exposed to stds/sti's, which would affect me in return. I realized I'm being unwise, and although fds doesnt have an official policy w/ lesbian relationships, I'm sure this would be a hard no. And yeah I've noticed a lot of bi hate in the lgbt community too, that's why I just call…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 06:53 PM
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Yes haha me too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 06:50 PM
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Thank you! Ugh I dont know why I just feel so irrationally guilty about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:46 PM
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After discovering FDS last year I have been following the guideline to a t, I havent slept with anyone in a year as well. I recently realized I swing both ways and really want to hookup with women (absolutely not with men). I downloaded a dating app for the first time ever and swiped right on every attractive women out there LOL. I matched with 5 women, and already made dates with 2. They clearly know it's just going to be hookups, I was super excited at first but now I'm having a lot of paranoi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 01:57 PM
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Thank you for the advice! I've just been feeling very reluctant to date since I broke up with my LVM ex a year ago, and recently have been wondering if it's even worth it to date if it doesn't even seem sustainable in the long run. But I guess I'll never find a HVM if I don't at least try to date.
/r/askFDS21/02/21 01:43 AM
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Tuxedo Mask was absolutely useless and was like in college, dating 14 year old Usagi.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:07 PM
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I'm so glad women like you introduced me to FDS. I made such a pickme post on relationship advice a couple months ago and a kind lady invited me to this page. I only wish I discovered it sooner :( sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:47 AM
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Same. I didn't know who Offset was until I found out about Cardi B.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 07:07 PM
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Just found out Cardi B is finally divorcing Offset! YAS SHE IS FINALLY LEVELING UP! She never needed Offset to be famous, hopefully she learns her lesson and avoid LVMs from now on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 06:35 AM
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LOL YAS just because the men are in the military doesn't mean they're fit at all. There are tons of men in the ABCP program that look like absolute slobs. Once they take off their uniform you can see their gut hanging off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 06:30 AM
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I completely understand the fear. I've broken up with a man 5 years ago and I'm still in fear whether he would post my nudes or not. I think the only reason he hasnt is because I have nudes of him with his entire face exposed (he's in a professional field where this would heavily damage his reputation). Which makes me wonder, has any revenge porn victim retaliated by posting nudes of their ex's ugly ass limp dicks? I feel like women are less likely to commit revenge porn because we're far more c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 03:50 AM
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LOL 완전 개새끼다, good for you for putting him in his place :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 02:18 AM
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I learned how to fix my microwave recently all my myself from watching YouTube! Felt so proud of myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 02:44 AM
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Yeah I forgot to add this is how native Korean mothers typically act (as in not 1st generation Americans or whatever country). First generation Korean women (and Korean women who were raised in western culture at a young age) are not like this at all!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 05:25 AM
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I understand why OPs comment is so controversial and while I do understand where she's coming from, I don't 100% agree with it. But the most important factor is that there is a big cultural layer to this. She's speaking about her Korean culture and how Korean single mothers act. Korean mothers who are not single mothers are incredibly clingy with their sons and have immense boundary issues. Like for instance, they have a huge problem with their sons leaving the family home (it's changed a lot no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 04:54 AM
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I'm so sorry. I too know the fear and dread of possibly getting my nudes posted. My LVM ex got pissed at me after I broke up with him 5 years ago but i basically groveled and kept apologizing for "being toxic" and how he should find a way better woman than me so he wouldnt resent me. This is why I could never bitch out at him for being a piece of shit and it still keeps me up at night from anger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 12:00 AM
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Ugh I went out with a 32 year old man very briefly during the summer when I was 20. I allowed him to do some fucked up pickmeisha shit to me like he would ask if we wanted to go to a restaurant and never pay for me. I wanted to be the "cool girl" also I was young and dumb. He constantly violated my boundaries. What finally got me to break up with him is when he slapped my face (not hard but still out of nowhere) right after we had sex and he said "see, you love me because you let me do that to y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 11:57 PM
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"Huge fat white cock" LOL I'd be shocked if it's even 5 inches in reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 03:28 AM
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I feel like this woman is taking out her anger and frustration from her LVM husband onto her son. I'm sure he was naturally difficult to deal with, but it's probably exacerbated because he feels unloved by his mother. I feel very conflicted. On one hand, husband is a huge douchebag but also I hate the fact the mother just abandoned her son. However, her husband should have been doing more to help her out with their son. I really wish this woman would have realized her pickme mindset before her c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 03:13 AM
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Yup exactly. Unfortunately I was a pickme at the time and didnt recognize that by continuing to date this man I was furthering the disrespect women face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 12:20 AM
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Yes!!! Can confirm!! Dated a white guy that didnt date white women because he considered them "stuck up" or "high maintenance". That is code for him being a cheap LVM that thought non-white women were less effort and cheaper to date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 11:54 PM
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Ugh, one of the mistakes I made is when I pretended to be happy with a ring my ex fiance gave me. He gave me something completely different than the design I asked for. He was the one who asked me what type of ring I wanted first too! Why bother asking if you're not going to give it to me. 🙄 Then he and his mother proceeded to tell me how we should just have a cheap wedding. He wanted to just marry me at the courthouse first and figure things out later. And that's when I realized he's a LVM. He …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 11:50 PM
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Thank you, yes! It's something I look forward to a lot now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 02:06 AM
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I'm so glad you recommended this! I love it! She helped me get through an insecurity today. I havent talked to a particular friend for a long time, she was both a friend of my ex and I. Since our breakup I haven't talked to her much at all. I contacted her today to see how she was doing in the quarantine and she regarded me kind of coldly. This triggered me because I instantly wondered whether my ex said something to make her distant against me (I broke up with him because he was a LVM to me but…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 02:39 AM
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I agree! After going dealing with a racist white ex I was planning on trying to date within my race to prevent anymore fetishists/racists, but lololol these posts discourage me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 03:00 AM
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I'm Asian and I could tell he was an Asian man even before I reached the part about him thinking he's so special he can't math for an Asian (it's not special). I'm in other Asian American groups on Facebook and there is so much misogyny among Asian men! Not anymore so than any other race probably, but it's so laughable when Asian men complain about not being desired by women (they especially complain how Asian women will only date white men) and then act like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 07:51 PM
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Huge red flag is if he bashes a certain trait he believes is inherent in white women and then glorifies your race for not having that trait. One huge massive red flag I willingly ignored is when my ex told me he doesnt date white women because they're "too materialistic". I should've interpreted it as him meaning that he's going out with woc because he perceives them to be "low maintenance", aka "cheaper" and less effort to date. Instead I was a pickmeisha and forced myself to think that being "…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 06:20 AM
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Thank you for sharing, this let's me know my expectations in men arent too high and nice HVM exist!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 07:33 PM
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LOL wtf basic training + AIT is like 3-5 months and he couldnt even wait that long?! What a complete tool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 03:22 AM
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I was kind of pushing the law enforcement thing on him because it's the next closest thing to the military so I thought it would be easier for him to get a job in federal law enforcement (spoiler: it's not that much easier lol). ​ And I agree, I have a lot of friends that failed becoming federal law enforcement/military but they act as if they are in law enforcement/military and it's very laughable. Thank you for your input, I really appreciate it :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 06:07 PM
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Thank you, so it turns out he is actually coming to my state so I'm starting to think of what exactly I am okay with and what I'm not okay with. I would like to maintain a friendship with him, but if it seems like that is impossible then I will break off communication with him quickly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 06:04 PM
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Thank you so much, now that a week has passed since we broken up I have come into terms with it a lot better and moved past the loneliness and guilt. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 06:03 PM
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Thank you so much for your input and suggestion! At first I was turned off by the thought of dating so early after a break up (also because I'm military I feel like most professional men would not want to get serious with me due to the frequent moving :( sigh) but I figured dating more would help me better with dating and not being such a pushover to men's needs all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 06:02 PM
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Thank you for your input :) a couple days after making this post I'm confident I made the right choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 06:01 PM
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Thank you! It just frustrated me because my ex-fiance also graduated from a very prestigious private university and so does come from a place of privilege. And his lack of ambitions or a dream (in contrast to me) really concerns me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 06:00 PM
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Thank you I really appreciate it, I've always put others needs and wants over what I want myself. I even told that to him and that's why our relationship probably lasted so long and he told me I should do whatever makes me happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 05:58 PM
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Aww thank you so much, I really appreciate it! I actually regret not enlisting before I commissioned so I actually really look up to you and other enlisted women and respect yall so much. Thank you for the advice <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 10:50 PM
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Thank you so much for your comment and then more detailed it is the better for me! I guess if everything else was hunky dory and this came up it wouldve been a different story but we have had other issues in the past. He purchased a $500k house (before we were dating) in a state with a low population (despite not having enough income/savings for a $500k house) . I told him he should sell it asap and not to think about making profits off of it. But he kinda lagged because he was confident he coul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 08:03 PM
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Thank you for your advice! I also know someone like that. She always complained about being in the military, was a terrible leader and Soldier, was incompetent in her job...as soon as she gets out all her posts and her Linkedln is filled with how shes a veteran and served her country blahblahblah. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 07:21 PM
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Thank you for sharing, it's really uplifting being able to hear real life accounts of the happiness women are able to have with HVM and make the temporary loneliness and sadness worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 04:07 AM
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