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| 180 | Is this a weird "joke" for a guy to make?It's not a joke, he wanted you to give him an ego boost and he didn't get it so he put you down to compensate. He sounds like a dick. | /r/askFDS | 30/03/22 12:43 AM |
| 2 | She is still beautiful. There is no wallJennifer Aniston has had a lot of surgery and now looks quite fake, but regardless, why is "not aged a day" a reasonable goal? Like, she's twenty or thirty years older than when most people first saw her. She SHOULD look older! Have wrinkles, and whatever else goes with ageing. No doubt she takes a lot of care of her appearance, but I don't think not ageing visibly is a decent life goal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 11:23 AM |
| 168 | I used to and still feel scared of embracing my feminine side because it feels unsafe. Has anyone else felt this way?I don't have an answer for you, but I'm so sorry this happened. Do you see a therapist? I absolutely think the first step is working on your trauma in order to feel safe internally, before moving towards shifting your outwards appearance in a way you want but makes you (quite justifiably!!) afraid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 10:38 AM |
| 340 | "CoMmUnIcAtE""I don't know if he likes it rough" - he can like it however the hell he likes, but that doesn't apply to your body. This is not consent - this is do it now, ask for forgiveness later, with another human being's body. Fuck that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 08:31 AM |
| 269 | Cant Even Give Birth In Peace..Holy fuck. I've had two babies, and heard some of these horror stories but that's so fucking fucked. Men joke during labour like it's some sort of problem they have to endure, meanwhile the woman who has grown a living being inside her for nine months, changed her life to ensure that body is as healthy as possible, endured SO MANY COMPLICATIONS of normal pregnancies including vomiting, nausea, constipation, pain, aches, squished bladders, water retention, and so much more, let alone the worse on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 10:51 PM |
| 4 | Woman catches partner in bed with side woman. Instead of beating cheating boyfriend she beats her with cast iron skillet. Boyfriend sits there and let's side woman get beaten. Shes beating another woman over a guy that has his blinds duct taped to the wall. This whole video is a mess 💀💀💀WTF!? That's incredibly violent and being beaten with a skillet would result in serious damage to that woman. It's likely that they're both stoned, hence the response, but that doesn't in any way make his lack of defence or action okay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 06:42 AM |
| 7 | Saw this and thought of FDS. No surprises.Yeah, 100%. Real response would be to leave, but I liked this point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 09:24 PM |
| 22 | Saw this and thought of FDS. No surprises.I'm so sorry this happened 😣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 09:24 PM |
| 10 | [Trigger Warning] Remember the 80’s movie, Sweet Sixteen? Check this link out. 🤢I've never watched it. But that article draws a really insightful narrative of why rape culture isn't specifically overt: it doesn't say "ten guys raping a girl they've never met in an alley is okay". It simply shifts and reframes rape until it's "not really" a problem, so that like a seasoned narcissist they can slither and gaslight their way out of the spotlight and blame the woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 08:43 AM |
| 79 | I saw this and thought, what if this is what people watched for recreation? Instead of mindless fucking - it was about meaningful relationships that led to natural intimacy (and the physical intimacy didn't need to be shown on the screen because it was a by-product, not the purpose)Yeah, that's the thing. Intimacy seems to be seen as sex. No. Sex can be a form and product of intimacy, but you can be intimate with a hand on a cheek; with meaningful words; with the ring glance at the right time to communicate something much more meaningful. Fucking doesn't inherently mean anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 08:06 AM |
| 4 | Yikes, they’ve somehow found something worse than walk dates.Thank you for that! Yeah I expected some people to side with the creepy guy - so glad they didn't and that she went and didn't see him!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 08:43 PM |
| 8 | Yikes, they’ve somehow found something worse than walk dates.OP, what were the responses like? I hope in this case that there was absolutely fucking no difference to what is said here in FDS, but I'm curious if there's anyone who even tried to justify it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 02:19 AM |
| 61 | His reaction was scary 😳How is this this guy's "favourite reality TV show moment"?? Or does he mean he enjoyed it because she took the money, not sharing it with this violent psychopath who threatened her in front of cameras? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 10:06 PM |
| 232 | Roasting my past libfem pickme self 🤡Thank you for sharing this! You can see my flair and work out where I'm at, but I do believe FDS has made a big change to how I view relationships and I'm enjoying learning more as I go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 10:13 AM |
| 1 | How are they not angrier?As many other women have noted re: vaccination and pap smear advice, we do not all live in the United States of America, and vaccination approaches and pap smear advice varies. Education is awesome for all of us, but assuming that advice given in one country is best practice, or that poor practice is one country is widespread, can be misleading. Generally the US tends to have pretty woeful public healthcare approaches, especially for women, whereas many other countries are more liberal, supporti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 05:04 AM |
| 4 | Have any of you ladies actually gotten an orgasm from men?I orgasm fairly easily, so it isn't an achievement of any male when I do, however my current partner actively aims for this, focusing on me getting off and him not. Sometimes I feel weird when he gets me to orgasm repeatedly, and I'm exhausted and can't move, and he hasn't cum, and I ask if it bothers him and he says, "no, I like seeing you enjoy yourself, I like doing that to you". This also happens during PIV sex too - he wants to be able to make me cum a lot before he allows himself to. At th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 04:28 AM |
| 239 | I would give my child my maiden name as their last name after this.That's horrific. What an awful experience right after nine months of discomfort and possible suffering (pregnancy often sucks) before hours of pain and exhaustion, before more months of exhaustion and putting another human 100% before you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 02:49 AM |
| 89 | What did I just read?!This brought me to the edge of tears. That's horrific. Mortifying. They mocked and then shamed this poor girl, after a traumatic incident, and sexualised her and then, whatever the teacher did I have no fucking idea but borderlines sexual abuse, it's just. God. That poor child she was, and poor woman to carry that with her. That's heartbreaking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 08:43 PM |
| 11 | Nothing to add, she said it all LOLI have, yes. I don't agree with everything in it (most but not all), but I don't recall reading the "what's mine is mine and what's his is mine" approach. If there's a specific link, more than happy to go read and I can comment there! I just don't recall reading it. I appreciate that if there are elements of FDS that personally don't vibe with me, I simply don't usually comment on them as I understand that's not the focus of this sub - and learn everything else I can here! So if this has been co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 09:43 AM |
| 7 | Nothing to add, she said it all LOLCan you explain why, in a healthy relationship, this is okay? Genuinely curious as I can't see it that way, but I'm open to having my opinion changed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 09:27 AM |
| 8 | Nothing to add, she said it all LOLIt was so lovely to see this response - I thought perhaps you'd be strongly opposed! I agree that often I've been naive in the past and assumed HVM responses from LVM. And in those cases I think you're totally right - it's a really easy way for LVM to control and waste finances in a relationship. I'm lucky now that my partner is the more frugal of us (and I'm pretty good with money), while he has no issue with me spending it on me or looking after myself, he'll make sure he gets the nice foods w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 09:23 AM |
| 170 | Radfems In The Wild 💯Hidden camera show captures a HVW protecting a young girl from a creepy old scroteI'd love to hear more background to this - it sounds like a set up to see how people react, and in response this woman has stood up to these people, asked for police to be called, and basically stepped the fuck up in a way most people would never dream of. Amazing. Incredible! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 08:43 AM |
| 78 | Before You Want to be “An Elegant Lady”, Think Twice (Be yourself and keep raising your voice ladies!)I think there are some really good points in this. I hadn't heard much of the elegance movement, but I certainly agree that a lot is presented to us as what we need to do to fix our problems or be a "suitable" woman, when those answers are riddled with privilege and access. Her point at the start - that self-respect and identity aren't the same as appearing elegant - is so true. Being your authentic self is always a central point. Don't try to be something else, for men or anyone else, or you'll… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 09:10 PM |
| 4 | best "advice" to keep a man from pinkpilled sistersAh right, guessing the reply was autohidden, but thanks for saying it - so obvious but my brain was thinking something about patriarchy 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 08:04 AM |
| 3 | best "advice" to keep a man from pinkpilled sistersWhat does the rp stand for? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 07:22 AM |
| 9 | best "advice" to keep a man from pinkpilled sistersI'm not familiar with rp? Is that those women who are all about serving their partners, often under religious pretext? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 06:07 AM |
| 3 | An oldie but a goodie: Marina's twist on "Boyfriend" hits different after discovering FDSI fucking love this! First heard her sing "teen idol" and enjoyed that - she's got a gorgeous voice and talent! Don't actually know the original song as I don't listen to Bieber, but read along to his lyrics as she sung and it was awesome! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 03:30 AM |
| 11 | "Vanity is only a sin because a woman who believes she deserves good things is harder to commodify". I think regardless of size, the principles she lives by emanate the FDS vibe.You're welcome! I came across it and it really shifted something for me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 02:18 AM |
| 10 | "Vanity is only a sin because a woman who believes she deserves good things is harder to commodify". I think regardless of size, the principles she lives by emanate the FDS vibe.I'll look them up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 01:35 AM |
| 72 | "Vanity is only a sin because a woman who believes she deserves good things is harder to commodify". I think regardless of size, the principles she lives by emanate the FDS vibe.There were a few hidden comments about "why regardless of size?". In this poem (if you watch before commenting), she specifically references her weight as a core element of her response, and how she is perceived and seen as "less" because of it. The principles of what she has to say ring true whether your body or weight are similar to hers or not. I wasn't calling her size out as an irrelevant feature; she literally wrote this amazing poem SPECIFICALLY about her own body size and how that is tre… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 01:04 AM |
| 54 | "Vanity is only a sin because a woman who believes she deserves good things is harder to commodify". I think regardless of size, the principles she lives by emanate the FDS vibe.It's such a deep puritan view that self-worth and vanity are negative. I'm learning that valuing how you look is something that intimidates others - but doesn't actually affect them at all. We shouldn't care if someone loves themselves and thinks they're the hottest thing on earth - it only becomes an issue if we think OUR opinion means more than their. Which is exactly what people who get angry at people who feel themselves and value themselves think. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 11:51 PM |
| 25 | NVM vs HVMI guess we don't know about these men at work, but without more context the first guy could just be flattering/polite flirting to get what he wants, and the second guys comment just seemed a little bit ... neggy? I just get a negging vibe is all. Be careful is all! But yes, contacting someone with no info or photo is just a "I might get a lay, will just contact anyone" thing. Bleugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 04:30 AM |
| 1 | They can make you believe they're right just by putting doubt in your mind about your own abilityIt works because you've been wrong in your life before (we all have) just like we've seen visual tricks. So when someone says "you think this is one thing, but you know you've been wrong before and in this case you're wrong", it's so easy for them to play on that. Trust your gut. Every time. Even if you don't know why - it's literally your brain processing non-verbal and subconscious cues that you can't yet verbalise, but are reading. You don't have to explain yourself. You only need to trust in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 03:17 AM |
| 2 | DAE find this story fishy? This guy decided to googles his girlfriend’s adult daughter’s username for “dog pics” and just stumbles upon her nudes?? Reddit also marks NSFW posts..You think? Perhaps I'm just giving him the benefit of the doubt and not seeing the darker side. I tend to be optimistic about people's motives in general, rather than judge, and it does make sense to me, but then again, that's the whole point of people who tell lies about their motives - they make sense at a glance on the surface, but you dig deeper and it's a lot darker ... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 10:30 PM |
| 2 | Found in another sub; shining example of the audacity of men and the ties between fundamentalist religion and the patriarchy.This is fucked up on so many levels. She was forced to apologise in front of others but she's deceitful for not fully meaning it? When she knocked up his co-worker!? And their response to her not forgiving him is for her to become a house wife because she's becoming big-headed!??? What the actual fuck!??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 08:35 AM |
| 4 | DAE find this story fishy? This guy decided to googles his girlfriend’s adult daughter’s username for “dog pics” and just stumbles upon her nudes?? Reddit also marks NSFW posts..He searched for her instagram using her snapchat handle, and found Twitter and then reddit. He didn't find the insta (at least at the start). I'm surprised at being down voted just for having a non-toe-the-line opinion. There are many many instances of men being creeps. I just don't think this is one of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 08:32 AM |
| 20 | Try Interrupting MenI wish i could upvote this many times!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 07:07 AM |
| 4 | DAE find this story fishy? This guy decided to googles his girlfriend’s adult daughter’s username for “dog pics” and just stumbles upon her nudes?? Reddit also marks NSFW posts..Mmm, I disagree in this situation. I think if he was doing it for enjoyment, he had no motivation to tell his girlfriend, and a hell of a lot to lose. He also asked other female friends to see if it was the right thing to do. In this case, it's also not just she has reddit or OF but how it leads to personal information (where she lives). If he wanted a benefit, telling his girlfriend which would lead to her daughter likely changing her handles etc. wasn't the way to get it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 06:59 AM |
| 7 | Put your energy into the type of love that rewards you100% - you want to fill your heart with love of all types, as those loves ebb and flows and come and go over the years, and putting all your focus on one type with one person isn't healthy or happy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 06:34 AM |
| 6 | Put your energy into the type of love that rewards youI'm sorry to hear that - it must be so painful to lose a person so close to your heart and in your life. I'm glad to hear it brought something positive to you ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 04:33 AM |
| 11 | Put your energy into the type of love that rewards youYep - my hardest depressions I curled around my favourite books and just immersed myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 03:20 AM |
| 21 | Put your energy into the type of love that rewards youTotally fair point. Perhaps it could just be "many kinds of love" without being "other" - but I also don't have context for the comic so may have been part of something which covered that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 11:19 PM |
| 29 | Put your energy into the type of love that rewards youYup, no real family love for me either. Well, I have my daughters but they're not to support me, it's my job to support them. Still, focusing on all the others helps 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 11:18 PM |
| 6 | Say no to hookup.I used to be her. Reading into every little sign, desperate to see the hidden message about how he "really" felt, what he really wanted, what he wanted but just couldn't realise right now. I look back and hurt for myself. My therapist told me he was feeding me crumbs and I, starving, took them. Now I know: I'd rather starve than give myself to someone who views me as so little that they're happy to only feed me crumbs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 10:33 AM |
| 4 | Today is Meme Free Monday!Ignoring the actual topic, I really love that FDS has so many in-depth style posts. There's value in what you read, and the comments - not just a long QA forum that duplicates content or ends up being quiet. While being meme free for a day is also awesome, I just generally love the quality of content. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 10:28 AM |
| 4 | Violence Against Women In Media Is EXHAUSTINGI took my partner to go see it to show a non-glamorised, realistic depiction of what women face. I feel the ending said a lot - I don't want to spoil anything but personally I thought it was amazing about such a shit topic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 09:41 AM |
| 9 | Career Change and BoundariesThis is a pretty damn honest answer, which is what is needed. I always wanted to be the sort of person who wanted to feel rewarded by those things, but I'm not that passionate. Having moved into the corporate sphere I found my passion (project management) which also pays well, and being a single parent for a long while I'm glad I did. As for knowing what you want to do, I would say you don't always know for a long time. I suggest doing what you enjoy that you can reasonably make money from - and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 06:25 AM |
| 4 | Signs you're being preyed on by a pick up artistJust reading this gives me the heebie jeebies. Ugh. Thank you for sharing, even though I'm not single and even when I was didn't meet random people like this. Good to know! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 06:11 AM |
| 9 | My dad has been acting extremely shady lately. How can I support and, if needed, protect my mom?I'm not in America, but wanted to thank you for posting this. Often the really detailed and practical advice is hard to find, and knowing what you know may make a huge difference to this woman and her mum! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 06:07 AM |
| 7 | Violence Against Women In Media Is EXHAUSTINGI really loved than in promising young woman, the central violent act the movie revolves around isn't shown, and barely heard at one point. Then a final less violent but still brutal act occurs which is shown, but in a painful, non-romanticised, very raw way which I didn't feel was triggering or in any way sexualised. I agree that rape is way too showy, and I hold my breath and close my eyes when I happens and wait for it to be over. Yes, it's realistic, but that doesn't stop it happening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 06:03 AM |
| 7 | Ex’s Ex best friend Called me todayHave had that happen with two exes - their "best mate" called up or texted after we broke up to "check up" on me and hit on me. Bleugh. You're right, he's a NVM, block him everywhere and anywhere and keep working on you after the breakup. | /r/askFDS | 28/02/21 11:47 AM |
| 63 | Scrote’s advice to his male fellasWhat strikes me most is the fact that the definition to him of being attracted to a girl is solely based on if you want to fuck her. Sure, being horny can make you want to have sex with someone you wouldn't normally. But how about you get to know her personality. Does she like things you find interesting? Do you find her funny? Do you two vibe? Does conversation flow easily? Do you want to know more about her and her about you? Those things aren't influenced by how horny you are. But if your eva… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 08:23 PM |
| 15 | Write a list of all the reasons why your ex is awfulThis is across several LVMs (including ex-husband) : LVM1 - after knowing I had extensive childhood abuse, got drunk (he was an alcoholic) and told me my parents should have beaten me more cos I was arguing back with him - when I told him to stop calling me a whore on the phone else I'd come over, I did and sat on his bed refusing to speak because I was so angry. He wandered off, came back, and then dragged me out of the room by my hair and kicked me physically out the door - trying a new antide… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 11:26 AM |
| 4 | The rabbis have had ample time to use their sharp minds to nullify a Jewish husband's ability to exploit his power to chain his wife to an unwanted marriage. They just haven’t done anything since it doesn’t benefit men.To be clear, this isn't all Judaism. This is one (conservative) form which some people might consider traditional. Reform Judaism supports women, gay rights and marriage, etc. etc. But yes, it's shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 04:24 AM |
| 8 | If a man abuses you like this it will escalate to physical violence. Leave and don’t let him know your location.Notice how his behaviour is exactly the same as that of a five year (except my five year old doesn't swear like that or threaten?). Yeah. Man whose never been expected to emotionally extend himself or grow up beyond that age. And so he acts out like a child, but he's bigger and louder and more entitled, and better at faking adultry around other adults. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 04:06 AM |
| 27 | People respond poorly to Gigi Engle’s newest Pro-Kink article on Instagram, and rather than self reflect, she comes for Redditors. Gets told about herself by some infamous Redditors. 💅This sickens me. I have a five and seven year old daughter, and an eight year old step-daughter. The thought of this being normal exposure, if not for them then their peers, is horrifying. In their twenties, sure, they can begin to explore and decide. But from a magazine which is clearly pro-anal? For teenagers? That's vile. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 03:59 AM |
| 27 | So many videos like this on TikTok. Why is this being normalized? Absolutely disgusting.What's the context for these videos (I don't use tiktok)? Is it just "hey, I'm young and want money and he's old and has money, and sEe iT wOrKs - but it's actually just glorified sex work dressed up as a relationship? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 03:51 AM |
| 26 | This is a REAL MGTOW scrote video giving advice on how to verbally abuse and manipulate women!! So many trash males out there. Ladies, watch out for this scum!🤮That's mind boggling. I can't even conceive of that sort of person, and I've dated some selfish men. This is just... it leaves me speechless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 10:18 PM |
| 20 | This is a REAL MGTOW scrote video giving advice on how to verbally abuse and manipulate women!! So many trash males out there. Ladies, watch out for this scum!🤮That's just disgusting. How does that sort of content exist? Free speech, hey? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 10:17 PM |
| 92 | This is a REAL MGTOW scrote video giving advice on how to verbally abuse and manipulate women!! So many trash males out there. Ladies, watch out for this scum!🤮This is horrific. But I don't get why any man would watch this - it doesn't even seem to be about negging to get laid, but literally just destroying the confidence of your partner. This is so vile. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 09:21 PM |
| 1 | Single dad “can’t make you the center of his world” yet.... can’t leave women alone. Four kids and two baby mamas, this guy is a catch! Leave women alone and raise your kids!I really struggle to give this the reading everyone else has. If this were a woman, we'd be applauding her putting her kids first (not introducing them early, making time for them), and saying she'd been screwed over by two men, one who gave up all responsibility and was carrying that. The men dating her clearly would have had unreasonable expectations on her time. In this case, having been a single mum myself, I think what he says is reasonable. We don't know why he had the kids. We don't know … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 09:51 AM |
| 2 | Happy Valentine’s Day queens!❤️🌹💕💖💘 Got my mom a rose, a card, chocolates, and tea to enjoy on this snow day while our cat tries to catch birds❄️ Here’s your reminder that you are deserving of love and you deserve the best!💕Absolutely gorgeous. And your cat is adorable 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 09:13 PM |
| 2 | Tell me why Valentine's Day is worth celebrating.Thank you, I think that's very much true. I am working on my self-worth a lot, and it's MILES better than it used to be, but asking for things or expecting things for me is still definitely a challenge I'm facing. The more I read FDS and hear comments like this, the more I see how the journey is important - regardless of whether I choose to celebrate in the end or not - and valuing myself as a central pillar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 08:44 PM |
| 2 | Tell me why Valentine's Day is worth celebrating.That's a really good approach! Thank you 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 09:23 AM |
| 51 | Just say you’re a broke lvm and go.As noted, I feel it seems staged. But I also kinda felt like I'd the guy was doing that to make a point, I'd just get up and walk off and leave him with the bill. Not sure if that's right, but given he's filming it after what looks like an argument to make a point, and I think in the second video says he's her boyfriend, then just walking off seems the best response. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 07:08 AM |
| 1 | Tell me why Valentine's Day is worth celebrating.Absolutely. I'm reading it daily just slowly shifting my perception of "normal" so it's not out of the ordinary to expect these things! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 04:49 AM |
| 8 | Men learn how to manipulate women by learning how to manipulate their mothers.Thank you so much for the award, I've never had one!! But they will, I promise. My girls saw that, too - mummy cooking and cleaning and working and not having long elaborate times with them. Mummy being grumpy cos she was awake at night for gastro or bottles or whatever. Mummy racing us all out the door. But my girls now are 5 and 7 and know how much I love them and show it back. They're so kind and empathetic and loving, and they don't doubt my love for them. I often felt like a bad mum, but in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 04:03 AM |
| 1 | Tell me why Valentine's Day is worth celebrating.That is so helpful, especially with your suggestions around communication. I'm in the middle of my work day but I will re - read this when I finish because I think there's a lot of value for me in it!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 02:31 AM |
| 5 | What’s the right response to a dick pic that you didn’t really ask for?I think this is fucking hilarious. | /r/askFDS | 11/02/21 01:30 AM |
| 11 | Men learn how to manipulate women by learning how to manipulate their mothers.I feel you on this. The hardest part of single parenting is doing it all yourself, with no support - nobody to laugh when they pee on the floor or drop a bowl of food you have to clean up, or to smile and see their first day of school or first steps. I know it's exhausting and hard. But they'll see what their mum does for them, and how lucky they are to have you, and that is an amazing lesson - better than having a broken household where mum does everything for dad, and they learn that dynamic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 01:29 AM |
| 13 | Men learn how to manipulate women by learning how to manipulate their mothers.I got my kids a stepping stool, so things they can reasonably do without me, they can use the step for. My five year old makes herself toast in the mornings by stepping up on it to put the toast in, and to get stuff out of the fridge. It's really helpful to allow them to do things themselves without me having to do stuff that they can't reach :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 01:25 AM |
| 31 | Men learn how to manipulate women by learning how to manipulate their mothers.This is awesome - and I do think a really great element of this movement. Often, people think kids "can't" do things. Fuck, kids used to be working in the mines or factories at six, you know? Yes, your kid can. Now, there's a huge emotional support element, and that's critical, but if you work *with* your child, they not only can do it, but they're empowered and often want to do it. It requires work, and can be harder up front to teach them the skills while you're with them, but once they've lea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 01:23 AM |
| 15 | Give to yourself as you've given to others, you deserve it🙏🏼🤍I think this should be taught to every single female, everywhere. We justify and explain and do anything and everything to say why we help others but they don't do it for us, but it really comes down to: Value yourself. Treat yourself that way. And it's so so hard to see ourselves clearly, that the best way to adjust our thoughts is: what do I do for others? Now: do that for myself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 01:16 AM |
| 3 | Tell me why Valentine's Day is worth celebrating.that's so true, and such a good point. I'm better at doing that with other things, but I still struggle so much with attention. like, my partner likes to go down on me, and I'm like "oh, nooooo that's terrible". i've never had anyone focus on me, and it's hard to just lie back and enjoy it, even if i know he's enjoying it. I get so much anxiety I don't actually know if I do enjoy it (although pretty sure my body does). Do you get scared that if you want and ask for it, that you'll have an ideal … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 01:11 AM |
| 9 | Tell me why Valentine's Day is worth celebrating.I'll start with the last bit as I mis-explained. I meant historical partners, not my current partner. The rest of your advice is amazing. I've been in therapy for years, and the last year has been a huge leap - partially because my partner is a lot more functional, but also cos I'm working fucking hard at valuing myself, being assertive, and putting myself and my daughters first. I've began working on sexual abuse and trauma memories, setting boundaries, and having expectations. Your point about… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 01:06 AM |
| 9 | Tell me why Valentine's Day is worth celebrating.I think that's really important, self love. And I fucking suck at it! I shower love on my daughters and partner, but when it comes to me I'm like "oh no, I'm fine, really, I can get by on crumbs, it's okay!!". I baulked when my partner focused on me during sex and wanted to go down on me, because I felt awkward being the "focus" during sex like that. We have our challenges - he shows me he loves me in more low key ways (making me my coffee in the morning, rinsing my hair in the shower gently whe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 12:54 AM |
| 11 | Tell me why Valentine's Day is worth celebrating.You're right, I am trying to talk myself into it - I'm just not sure whether my reluctance is genuine and internal, or a learned behaviour? It's a big growth period for me emotionally, exploring all of this, so trying to pick apart my own internal workings is really important to me. Still, it's nice to hear that not celebrating is also okay - I just need to figure out what I really want! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 12:29 AM |
| 14 | Tell me why Valentine's Day is worth celebrating.I really love that - a holiday for love rather than romance! I have two young daughters and I think I'd love to spoil them so they renege their worth and feel that. We're very expressive of our love anyway, and they would soak it up. Thank you ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 12:27 AM |
| 46 | The fallacy of the nice guy : The men of Big Bang TheoryI can't stand BBT. First it has this trope that nerds are completely socially incompetent, and women are only dumb bimbos or rigid robots or whatever. The laugh track I hate, the humour is stupid and awkward without it. And I hadn't seen enough to see your points in play, but it absolutely makes sense that it plays to the trope and how many men view themselves. The lack of their ability to function is infantile, and only perpetuates the "oh he's so smart he just can't do daily stuff". Well I'm a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 05:44 AM |
| 19 | Why is it the norm to give kids the fathers last name even when he's a LVM/NVM? I think it's time to start normalizing giving kids the last name of the person who's really making the sacrifices. What do you think?When I met my ex-husband, I suggested he take my surname as it was better and he did. My daughters have my surname now (which isn't that of my abusive parents - I legally changed it when I was 19), and I LOVE that this surname is all ours. Not my shitty parents' or their bio father who left when I was pregnant with #1 during his manic episode or when #2 was 11 months old. We're the three of us, always, and we share that name - nobody else tarnishes it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 06:56 AM |
| 417 | Okay, which one of you did this?? You need another 👑I think that low value people in general put more stock in how they are perceived than their innate value. When you don't recognise the external things that validate them, they get angry or upset. A high value person can laugh and say something like "more or less!" and move on because the specific college they went to doesn't define them, even if they see the value for themselves in it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 05:12 AM |
| 2 | The REAL reason men are on dating sites often isn't to find a date.Wow. Everything about this rings true in every way, from every guy I've dated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 03:24 AM |
| 9 | Guys making fun of noises you make during sex. Just why?I laughed out loud at this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 11:20 AM |
| 3 | advice neededI also recommend changing locks. Don't bother getting anyone to deal with the TV, he can get it when it works for you, and can't get in with the keys changed. | /r/askFDS | 06/02/21 10:32 AM |
| 2 | My boyfriend saw a post I made about being attracted to another guyGet you on that. I guess from an FDS perspective I think the approach would be to end the relationship now, formally, and still say goodbye in person, yknow? | /r/askFDS | 18/01/21 06:50 AM |
| 5 | My boyfriend saw a post I made about being attracted to another guyYou say "we've all but broken up". It just sounds like you haven't taken the plunge to just end the relationship, and are half in and half out. If you've broken up definitively, then who you're interested in is none of his business and entirely your own and I see no issue there. It just read like you're still dating - I don't understand breaking up "officially" in person? | /r/askFDS | 18/01/21 06:43 AM |
| 3 | My boyfriend saw a post I made about being attracted to another guyHonesty is important. Just because he's not done the right thing by you, doesn't make it okay to do the wrong thing. It doesn't sound like you've objectively done the wrong thing, but by not being honest with him and yourself and just ending the relationship when you're not okay with his behaviour and interested in someone else, you're not being the bigger person either. | /r/askFDS | 18/01/21 06:39 AM |
| 2 | I think my boyfriend of 6 years is an LVM please help me. Everyone on relationship_advice said he’s in the right, and I’m in the wrongHe sounds awful and all the advice tells you this. But retaliating with name calling and stealing is just as LV and plays into the cycle. Break up with him. Go to therapy. Work on loving yourself and learning. Ways to deal with conflict healthily. Definitely read the FDS handbook. I'm sorry you're in this situation, it sounds so hard, but only you can choose to leave it. | /r/askFDS | 15/01/21 08:18 PM |
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