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| 1 | [FR] Edgy girl from class. Same day f-closeOther guy doesn't want to be exclusive but she's just gonna keep laying him too. Don't be the second choice chump! | /r/seduction | 19/02/14 03:23 PM |
| 1 | What are the must watch seduction videos?Google A torrent of David's stuff, they usually put ALL the ebooks in there. | /r/seduction | 08/07/13 01:25 PM |
| 1 | What are the must watch seduction videos?Usually the supporting info in his programs is much better than his actual content. Pay attention to the books he mentions etc. | /r/seduction | 03/07/13 06:48 PM |
| 1 | Ways to meet women in the summer without hitting up bars or clubs?A ballroom dancing class or even other types tend to be big hits. The women I know go with one ANOTHER and always bitch there are no guys at them | /r/seduction | 23/05/13 02:41 PM |
| 3 | Ways to meet women in the summer without hitting up bars or clubs?And you usually find fit women too a plus | /r/seduction | 23/05/13 02:40 PM |
| 6 | Ways to meet women in the summer without hitting up bars or clubs?Two types of IT guys: The nerdy antisocial types, or the social outgoing types...who are also nerdy lol. If you're the latter you can do well. I'm this type and I used to get hit on all the time in my last few jobs. | /r/seduction | 23/05/13 02:40 PM |
| 1 | Ways to meet women in the summer without hitting up bars or clubs?And look on the bright side you'll be able to be sewlf sufficient | /r/seduction | 23/05/13 02:39 PM |
| 2 | Ways to meet women in the summer without hitting up bars or clubs?Group Social Sports Clubs. Volleyball. Kickball. Softball. Dodgeball. Tennis. Whatever. The women are out there not just to play but to meet SINGLE men. | /r/seduction | 23/05/13 02:38 PM |
| 1 | Another female seddior coming out from the lurking, need some male advice!For future reference: Ask him if he'd like to grab coffee sometime. Exchange numbers. It will be very clear. | /r/seduction | 05/04/13 06:07 PM |
| 1 | Can we have a frank conversation about STD's for a minute?I wast asking just stating that there are different strains and the really most common one is oral,herpes also known as cold sores of the mouth. | /r/seduction | 16/08/12 12:50 AM |
| 1 | Can we have a frank conversation about STD's for a minute?Th simplex of herpes is really important to note here. The cold sore in the mouth one is pretty common...but not genital. | /r/seduction | 15/08/12 11:28 PM |
| 2 | Can we have a frank conversation about STD's for a minute?Sucks. The wort part is you knew beforehand and took precautions and still got it. I'd say the best offense is defense in these situations and if a partner is known to have it, just pack up and move on. IMO sex is never worth the risk for an STD. Now as for your "game" you'll have to prepare yourself for a lot of letdowns. Despite the views held by those who have it the common perception of herpes is an icky one and most people will move on rather than continue. Best you can do is be honest and … | /r/seduction | 15/08/12 11:27 PM |
| 2 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?Just click Save :) | /r/seduction | 24/03/12 08:22 PM |
| 2 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?Lol looks like someone's saving ;P | /r/seduction | 24/03/12 12:08 PM |
| 1 | The Best PUA Book I've ever read. From the early 90s and just as relevant today. Can be bought for around $4!This book starts out with a respect for women that a good chunk of the other material out there does not have. If you're serious about finding a relationship it does an amazing job of determining what you're looking for, who you're compatible with, what you should be looking for etc. The guy flat out says if you're only out there to lie to women and just get laid that it's not for you. There are more reasons but the parts where you fill out things about you, your match and your views on situatio… | /r/seduction | 22/03/12 06:40 PM |
| 1 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?This windbreaker. With this logo. http://blog.glsen.org/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/cisco.gif Screams nerd :P | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 07:34 PM |
| 1 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?Lol Cisco windbreaker jacket...yes like we'd go out and he'd wear that. He's a pretty trim guy he could rock things and up until he got laid off about a year ago he was making 100k+ for 3 years. He's still looking for work but he could AFFORD to spiff up. And yes my best friend is a wuss with women. He had a gf in highschool who we're still friends with who I believe he never really got over. She's married with a kid now. His last relationship was a woman he met through a group I was a part of, … | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 06:52 PM |
| 1 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?I get the reference. Descartes was like the "father of modern Philosophy" (if I'm remembering my college class right...I could be way wrong lol) | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 03:16 PM |
| 2 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?This page has them at the bottom I believe. http://www.60yearsofchallenge.com/revolution/ | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 02:14 PM |
| 2 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?The notes are good to have handy WHILE watching I think. | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 02:09 PM |
| 2 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?I JUST started The Blueprint Decoded like this week. I made it 2 videos in so far. It's pretty easy thus far, but I know it's going to get deeper and I'll have to slow it down and maybe take some notes. I'm thinking of putting them on a flash drive and then watching them full screen on my TV at home, then I can be really relaxed and paying full attention instead of like iPad etc. I find I get too distracted if I listen to audio only rips | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 02:07 PM |
| 1 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?That's a really good idea. So many times I want to just "get through it" because I feel like I have so much material, however I'm now keeping the BIG recommendations on my personal Android phone, my work iPhone, my iPad and my XOOM. Might even put some on the iPod Nano and a flash drive etc so I can listen to a little bit here or there. | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 02:05 PM |
| 1 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?Good looking out. Torrenting is super easy. It JUST really got big when I was in my senior year of college. Since then I can't tell you how much crap I've gotten. My entire PUA collection is nearly torrented. I'm not proud of that and I pay for the things I think are really well done and helpful, but to blow $600 on DVDs that may not be beneficial for you at all is pretty daunting. | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 02:03 PM |
| 2 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?I can't imagine my college doing that shit lol people would switch schools. | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 02:02 PM |
| 1 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?Got a laptop? Go to Starbucks for a few hours, torrent it there. The only thing they probably track is if you SHARE or SEED illegal torrents. Just set your seeding to zero or disable sharing altogether. Or like I said go somewhere with free wifi for a few hours, have some coffee and get what you need. | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 02:02 PM |
| 1 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?I think if you attend one of the conferences you get all the crap for free, but the prices on this stuff is exorbitant. No wonder every video of Tyler Durden is him in front of an Infinity Pool, in a different City, in a huge suite lol | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 02:01 PM |
| 2 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?He's pretty entertaining TD | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 02:00 PM |
| 1 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?I can personally recommend these as well. I've been subscribed to both for over a year and I've downloaded/ripped/converted EVERY video. Been getting through some on my iPad. Blows me away how this "average" seeming guy does so well | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 02:00 PM |
| 2 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?This too. I use a Firefox Extension called DownloadHelper. It lets you download flash or whatever videos from many popular sites. I paid the $20 for a license key too because with it it also lets you download and convert to other formats automatically and rip MP3 files. Good for rare things, or youtube videos I just want to rip into an audiobook for the car etc. | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 01:58 PM |
| 2 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?Noted! | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 01:56 PM |
| 1 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?That confused me too lol | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 01:55 PM |
| 1 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?You know my friends it's really this weird kind of dichotomy.... So I'm 29, about to be 30 in April. I've been in 3 relationships, all pretty crappy. I'm tired of this shit and I'm ready for a serious real-deal lifer relationship at this point. I'm also Catholic so sex and laying tons of women just really isn't for me. I'm looking for a relationship for sure. Now my friends, my close guy friends at home that is, are: -Nerdy Indian, (we're talking wears his Cisco windbreaker out) -Best friend cou… | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 01:54 PM |
| 1 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?Great list. | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 01:50 PM |
| 2 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?I wanted to take a moment and really thank you again, you laid things out so well and clearly...plus you took the time to type this out which really is appreciated. I've got a lot of this material but your responses (and others!) are helping me gauge what I should really dig into first. | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 01:49 PM |
| 1 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?Excellent. I seem to have trouble putting what I've studied into effect. That's on the iPad too! :) | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 01:47 PM |
| 1 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?Yay Tofu drops in :) | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 01:46 PM |
| 1 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?What do you mean, that most people overlook this guy as good material? | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 01:46 PM |
| 1 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?Downloaded and saved! | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 01:41 PM |
| 1 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?I'll definitely look into this, it's been recommended a few times | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 01:33 PM |
| 1 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?I've seen these mentioned a few times, never heard of him/them till now. I'll put it on the list. I'm really trying to just absorb AS much as possible, and not follow it gospel but see what good methodologies are, how to boost my confidence and approach, squash approach anxiety and then build my natural method over some core principles. | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 01:33 PM |
| 1 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?I actually downloaded and converted this yesterday along with a bunch of others but I'll make sure to mark this as one to specifically pay attention to. | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 01:31 PM |
| 1 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?All those are dl'ed converted and on the iPad :) Thanks for the suggestion! | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 01:30 PM |
| 1 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?VidDownloader Firefox extension. It rips whatever version you want. I bought the full unlocked serial version as well bc it was worth it to be able to rip and auto convert immediately. Also FreeMake Videoconverter will convert videos to ANY format out there, and rip sound from them too to mp3. | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 01:30 PM |
| 3 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?I highly recommend his how-to-book that has like 30 days of steps to follow. It's pretty damn good if you stick to it. | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 01:29 PM |
| 1 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?I'm not so much interested in "canned material." I really have no problems keeping or getting the conversation going, approach has always been my challenge. Approach and confidence to initially approach, and setting the date. From there I'm usually golden but 90% of the effort feels like the initiation. | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 01:20 PM |
| 1 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?This was REALLY helpful. I liked how you gave me what you really learned from them as well that's super useful. | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 07:32 PM |
| 2 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?For YouTube videos I simply rip the video. If they're up there and free you rip the MP4 if they're in HD format. Then you just drop it in iTunes. For other format such as eBooks or the dvds I'll buy, and then rip to Mp4 or upload the PDFs/EPUBs | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 07:32 PM |
| 2 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?Got that pending! It's on the iPad I need to get started on it I know it comes highly recommended. | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 06:55 PM |
| 2 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?Any linkage? | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 06:52 PM |
| 1 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?I'll dl these and drop to my iPad. Good suggestions thanks! | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 06:04 PM |
| 3 | My review of the Simple Pickup guys and Tyler Durden (RSD) after having seen both in field during the past weekWatch this video. "SHE'S MY FUCKING SISTER JUST FUCKING WALK" lololol http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cEFgvbNBTbk&feature=plcp&context=C45c8592VDvjVQa1PpcFMFSBhwLXYj9S2Yk1KNN48beTq-JFsz-cA%3D | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 01:21 PM |
| 1 | My review of the Simple Pickup guys and Tyler Durden (RSD) after having seen both in field during the past weekWhat's that? | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 01:06 PM |
| 2 | My review of the Simple Pickup guys and Tyler Durden (RSD) after having seen both in field during the past weekHe's not THAT bad, but he's average and it goes to show you that it's all about the approach and handle not your looks as a base. | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 12:59 PM |
| 1 | My review of the Simple Pickup guys and Tyler Durden (RSD) after having seen both in field during the past weekUpvote for Super Saiyan reference. LOL well upvote anyways that was a great post. I've been watching TD's stuff lately he's the most down to earth of all of them. Mystery seems hokey, and David D. is just so ridiculously complicated all his "tricks" are becoming too apparent to women. | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 12:58 PM |
| 1 | My review of the Simple Pickup guys and Tyler Durden (RSD) after having seen both in field during the past weekTyler is the long haired (usually at least in his vids right?) PUA right? Blueprint Decoded, Transformations etc? I've been watching his stuff lately. | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 12:54 PM |
| 3 | Social Momentum: Why You MUST Go OutI find when I force myself to go out and get in the zone it's easier to "keep" myself up in that level or easier to maintain. I had a speed dating event last night, and I did it mainly to fill in for my friend who runs the organization. So I was totally not stressed or all that serious. Went in to have a drink or two, have a good time and just keep my conversation skills and leading a conversation sharp. Ended up with 11 matches. 11 Highest number I've ever gotten before. AND 4 extremely pretty … | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 12:53 PM |
| 1 | how can I help my friends with their inner game?Awesome. | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 03:20 AM |
| 1 | how can I help my friends with their inner game?You can't arm wrestle someone to confidence. It doesn't work that way. Most people have to actually hit rock bottom before they want to make a change. If they don't then they're probably not going to make it in life. Some are lucky and can be in the middle average areas and pump themselves up from there, but not all. I've given up trying to make my friends do anything and I just worry about leading by example. If they see your success and all that it might help. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 04:32 PM |
| 3 | [FR] TofuTofu & TheEngDude pick up two 20 year olds in Pizzeria -> f-closed 'em both like bossesHOW DOES THIS ISH HAPPEN | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 03:22 PM |
| 1 | You're walking one way in a crowd at your university, random yet absolutely gorgeous girl walks by you in opposite direction. How do you talk to her?This. The heart attack bit seems cheesey. | /r/seduction | 14/03/12 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Tell me your favorite piece of Seddit advice.Got 'em both just gotta get to it! | /r/seduction | 09/03/12 01:05 AM |
| 1 | Alone on V-Day? Struggling with Women? ** Unofficial Seddit Podcast **Did this ever get recorded? I want ep 1 and 2. | /r/seduction | 07/03/12 03:54 AM |
| 2 | SEDDIT PODCASTDo it I'll subscribe. | /r/seduction | 31/01/12 04:46 PM |
| 1 | Date tonight HB9. Need a little revving up!Yep. We did coffee already and she's not a big drinker, doesn't enjoy bars really. This one's gotta be played differently than usual. | /r/seduction | 10/10/11 01:53 PM |
| 1 | Sticking point: Going for the k-close (have never kissed before)This girl WANTS to be kissed. You're being given some EASY openers. Go google how to kiss, read up, and then JUST GO FOR IT! | /r/seduction | 07/10/11 08:10 PM |
| 2 | I've had a crush on a girl for two years now and finally went for the kiss closeWay to be. Now you now and you can move on to the next lucky girl. | /r/seduction | 07/10/11 08:06 PM |
| 2 | If an alpha male is alone in an empty room, is he still an alpha male?You're damn right. Being an alpha isn't how other MEN view you, but how you internally project yourself. | /r/seduction | 07/10/11 08:06 PM |
| 1 | Had an awesome first date, leaving for a weekend road trip. How to keep the attraction/interest high until I get backYeah it's not really since she's a good Catholic girl and kinda pure as snow lol I don't foresee that being too much an issue. I just don't want her to go dating a ton of other guys in my absence...want her to keep thinking about me :P | /r/seduction | 28/09/11 05:39 PM |
| 1 | Had an awesome first date, leaving for a weekend road trip. How to keep the attraction/interest high until I get backI'm thinking of doing that. We chatted on the phone last night for about 20 minutes on my drive home from a jazz concert. Will hopefully talk to her Thursday evening as well. As of right now we tentatively have a week from this Saturday blocked out for each other. Just gotta keep a text or two here or there going and I should be good. | /r/seduction | 28/09/11 05:37 PM |
| 1 | Today I cried like a little bitch.Don't let it. Manifest destiny! YOU affect the outcome of the night. Flirt all around and if she DOES, ignore it and go back to what you're doing. She may try to get a reaction/rise out of you but nothing will have her wanting you more than seeing her efforts have no effect. | /r/seduction | 27/09/11 07:44 PM |
| 2 | Today I cried like a little bitch.First things first: Stop your game. You're not on it and you CAN'T be on it until you're cool with yourself. YOU are all you've got in this world. You're stuck with yourself until you die so first off it's time to BOOST the positivity. You should love, like and be happy with WHO YOU ARE. Everyone has room for improvement but getting down on yourself is no way to help your game out. -Talk to yourself in a positive light/tone. No more negative comments or thoughts. Get 'em outta here. I'm a very o… | /r/seduction | 27/09/11 06:50 PM |
| 1 | Had an awesome first date, leaving for a weekend road trip. How to keep the attraction/interest high until I get backThat's what I'm hoping. I was thinking of chatting with her just one night and sending a next like that before going...might be the best route | /r/seduction | 27/09/11 04:14 PM |
| 1 | Had an awesome first date, leaving for a weekend road trip. How to keep the attraction/interest high until I get backSee I thought of this too....so the event tonight and tomorrow are jazz performances. I'm bringing a woman tonight to one, and tomorrow a buddy who's leaving for California for good (to move!) on Thursday. Thursday like I said this girl has to work until 10pm, and Friday I'll be gone bah so it kinda doesn't work out this week. Perhaps I could squeak in seeing her tomorrow for lunch if she has the whole day off...hmm | /r/seduction | 27/09/11 04:11 PM |
| 2 | Had an awesome first date, leaving for a weekend road trip. How to keep the attraction/interest high until I get backYeah that thought had crossed my mind, seeing something that reminded me of her etc. Sex before marriage may be out of it, but that's really a non-issue for me. For the right woman I could wait but that's just me. | /r/seduction | 27/09/11 03:35 PM |
| 1 | Four Game-changing Life RealizationsSure. I started off with hey? How are you tonight? I'm <Peter>. Having fun so far? What do you do for work (yes this is an interviewer type question but I don't go rapid shot like where do you work? What do you do? What's your name? Where are you from etc) One girl recently was a bio engineer to which I replied "Oh I love women who are engineers they're usually fairly intelligent." Here I've qualified her as being a smart girl. The fact she IS one doesn't mean she IS smart lol you dole out that … | /r/seduction | 22/09/11 12:47 PM |
| 1 | Why can't I stop acting needy and scaring them off?Don't sweat the timeline, just focus on the plan and the outcome. | /r/seduction | 21/09/11 04:31 AM |
| 1 | Have zero female friends. Have few friends that have female friends. Not in college anymore. Where to meet new girls?Good point even though we're not committed that totally slipped by mind | /r/seduction | 21/09/11 04:30 AM |
| 2 | I'm the most nervous person around random stranger girls....But if I can approach so can you!Keep us updated with some more FRs I want to hear about your progression! | /r/seduction | 20/09/11 07:28 PM |
| 1 | How do I get guys like you to approach me?Yep if you touch us in any way something clicks and we think you're interested lol | /r/seduction | 20/09/11 07:27 PM |
| 2 | How do I get guys like you to approach me?There could be a number of factors involved here. Not dressing attractively, or your demeanor in general. When I'm out and I see a woman who looks open, fun, positive and receptive I will approach her. That's all it takes. Men are PRETTY simple when it comes to our initial qualifiers. Yes unfortunately the majority of the time your initial attractiveness comes into play when choosing between women but the LONG haul interest is more intelligence, personality, wit/humor etc. If you're tall and blo… | /r/seduction | 20/09/11 07:26 PM |
| 1 | Have zero female friends. Have few friends that have female friends. Not in college anymore. Where to meet new girls?-parks -coffee houses -Reading groups -Yoga -Dance classes (salsa, ballroom and SWING women so go to these with all their single friends) -Cooking class -REDDIT meetups -Meetup.com Get out there and talk to more! I joined a Catholic Group recently and I've met 25 women in a month I'm interested in. | /r/seduction | 20/09/11 07:23 PM |
| 1 | Have zero female friends. Have few friends that have female friends. Not in college anymore. Where to meet new girls?This you'll have great success. | /r/seduction | 20/09/11 07:21 PM |
| 16 | Have zero female friends. Have few friends that have female friends. Not in college anymore. Where to meet new girls?Dating a woman now who's hardcore into yoga. She's taken me a few times. Not even TRYING and being there even with a woman I'm seeing I've been hit on several times. I'm not super fit either lol. | /r/seduction | 20/09/11 07:21 PM |
| 1 | Four Game-changing Life RealizationsHell yes to #2. If you've ever been to a speed dating event see how well the men do who DON'T go with the whole interviewing questions. I tried this out last week, best results of my life. Casual conversation, banter, and qualifying screeners got me several matches when I usually got 1 or 2 in the past. | /r/seduction | 20/09/11 07:20 PM |
| 4 | Who can explain how to properly neg a girlThere's a difference between being insulting and keeping the humor/playfulness in it. Whether it's a gleam of the eye during the delivery or the play on words etc. I'm not the best at describing this but upvote for someone who is! | /r/seduction | 20/09/11 07:17 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Club Game, good..great..wow! i jizzedSeconded you could have closed that one easy. | /r/seduction | 20/09/11 07:16 PM |
| 1 | Best E-Book?You will not find this in an e-book form but it is one of the best books I've ever read. It's good for dating, getting laid or finding a serious relationship. The guy isn't cocky as shit and it's not all these "general tactics that work for all women." All the other PUAs have some good points but nothing has helped me as well as this book. And it's under $5 on amazon. http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0962645508 | /r/seduction | 20/09/11 07:12 PM |
| 1 | Why can't I stop acting needy and scaring them off?How old are you? By 26/27/28 I think you should have the following figured out: -What do you believe as a person. Your morals, values etc. -What do you want out of life? (Job, career, wealth, love, material things) -What do you want in a partner? (You can determine this by what you do AND don't want right??) If you're not where you want to be right now that's ok. What's your plan for getting there? THAT is knowing yourself and what you want. | /r/seduction | 20/09/11 05:03 PM |
| 1 | Why can't I stop acting needy and scaring them off?Screening qualifiers are CRAZY easy. It's as easy as asking a question about something you want to know about her, then giving her your approval. As for insecurity that goes away with the more you practice BEING secure and doing things in life to make you feel secure. I'm 29, and at this point I feel like I have a TON to offer. I'm college-educated, very intelligent, have a good career, financially stable, funny, family-oriented, a good uncle/godfather to nieces and nephews, optimistic etc. I fe… | /r/seduction | 20/09/11 12:37 PM |
| 1 | Why can't I stop acting needy and scaring them off?Let me add also at my age, 29, I'm seriously looking for a relationship, likely my LAST relationship so a ton of these things for me are crucial. (Catholic, likes dogs, financially responsible, comes from a stable family etc) | /r/seduction | 20/09/11 12:34 PM |
| 1 | Why can't I stop acting needy and scaring them off?The trap here is you don't want to come off as being overly agreeable and just saying you like something because she likes it lol. Don't use it a ton but toss it in here or there. The important thing, (and the article stresses this) is that the reaction is genuine because you care about her INTEREST as opposed to oh that great I like that...where it sounds more dismissive. I use a screening qualifier to direct and boost conversation. Cooking opens up whether she is self-reliant, whether she want… | /r/seduction | 20/09/11 12:33 PM |
| 1 | Why can't I stop acting needy and scaring them off?And Amen to that. You know how many average women are out there trying to one-up every match they get? I haven't had a viable eHarmony date in MONTHS. Screw Dr. Warren and screw that site lol. It's all about in-person interaction, you'll find a winner that way. EVERYTHING about the dating world is tailored to women. Online Dating, Speed Dating, matchmaking etc. Forget it, take the power back. | /r/seduction | 19/09/11 08:47 PM |
| 1 | Why can't I stop acting needy and scaring them off?That's a good frame of mind to be in. Godspeed! | /r/seduction | 19/09/11 08:46 PM |
| 1 | Fell off my bike. You guys might enjoy this.:) How about, And I took neither path...and that has made all the difference. Nerdy reference lol but I like it. | /r/seduction | 19/09/11 04:06 PM |
| 2 | Fell off my bike. You guys might enjoy this."Not the initial plan but it looks like that's where it's taken me. What are your names?" | /r/seduction | 19/09/11 02:41 PM |
| 1 | How do I talk to a girl passing by?This this this. | /r/seduction | 19/09/11 02:40 PM |
| 2 | How do I talk to a girl passing by?Usually comes off too awkward for me. I like to just say hi with a warm smile. Gauge her response, if she's open and receptive then go with what's up! | /r/seduction | 19/09/11 02:40 PM |
| 1 | Say you've moved to a new area. You want to ask a girl on a date. How do you find a good place to take her?Last resort is usually to ask her. YOU want to be the date-picker, chooser, planner. I go "scouting" to places with friends sometimes. Case in point, I went to this jazz place about 25 mins away. Scouted it out one evening with my 2 friends. Looked awesome, met the owner, chatted him up. Fast forward 2 months, took this girl I'm dating there on a double with my friend and her friend. Owner knew me already, I'd tasted the food, seen the locale etc. Got a big welcome, reserved table with an amazin… | /r/seduction | 19/09/11 02:39 PM |
| 1 | Oneitis Is Starting To Seriously Hurting My GameDrum has it right. If you can't tone down your jealousy and it's really affecting you I'd cut off contact for awhile. Increase your options and dating circle and you'll force yourself to have less time and attention to be paid to her. | /r/seduction | 19/09/11 02:36 PM |
| 3 | I have hairy arms...how can I be cool when girls start shit testing me about it?"What man shaves his arms?" ::Pokerface:: Seriously though I have hairy arms, I'm an Italian lol. And I have kinda patchy scraggly backhair. Guess what? I own it. It's who I am. It's part of being a man. Don't take offense but tease the hell out of her for being a little superficial. Does SHE have a little hair on her arms? :P | /r/seduction | 19/09/11 02:34 PM |
| 3 | Why can't I stop acting needy and scaring them off?Good advice here as well. Neediness does stem from insecurity and a need to garner the WOMAN'S approval. When you're of the mind that YOU are the picker and SHE needs to be approved by YOU, it's such a better state of mind. Something else that I really like to do is incorporate "screening" qualifiers into my conversations with women. So when you talk to her you ask "Do you cook?" "Yes I love to cook!" "That's great I love a woman who cooks." You've praised her and let her know she's passed a scr… | /r/seduction | 19/09/11 02:32 PM |
| 2 | Why can't I stop acting needy and scaring them off?+100 upvotes to YOU. Keep it up and boost the confidence, dating SHOULD be fun and enjoyable. If it's not, something's gotta be going wrong. One of my cardinal rules is that if it doesn't feel natural or easy to get to know her, then it's not going well. A woman who is interested in you will bend over backwards to make it VERY linear to get to know her. I've got 3 women right now who are texting, calling and seeing me often. Even just a text to see how my day was or whatnot, they're keeping the … | /r/seduction | 19/09/11 02:27 PM |
| 1 | I am currently seeing two HB10's (who are friends) and also personal escorts (formerly in Hollywood) and one of them wants to move in with me. I've met them twice.Wow this isn't really a success...someone who wants to move in with you after 2 dates...you might want to be afraid! | /r/seduction | 19/09/11 02:12 PM |
| 0 | Tips for first date with a stripper?Playing you for money bro. And who wants to date a woman who every man's seen her tits and had a go anyways? If she's THAT forward how many other men has she done the same with meh. I'd say avoid like the plague. You should play around a bit and tease her and see if she'll pay for the first meal lol | /r/seduction | 19/09/11 02:11 PM |
| 1 | Talking to girls sitting alone eating lunch.Yeah it's kinda indirect in my opinion. Just ask hey mind if I join you? | /r/seduction | 19/09/11 12:45 PM |
| 2 | Why can't I stop acting needy and scaring them off?I had this problem. At first I really thought that the email game should last 2-4 emails so they "got comfortable" with you. Screw that. If they're not comfortable initially with online dating you pushing or "opening up" isn't going to make it happen. Now I send the initial message, maybe send back one or two, and progress to either IM chat or phone convo. If she's not interested in either she's either: -too shy -not interested -a waste of time Or all of the above lol. Once you get to the phone … | /r/seduction | 19/09/11 12:42 PM |
| 1 | [FR] First ever OkCupid date, unexpectedly cute girl, f-close.So here's my OkCupid experience so far: -First girl, awesome personality but kinda desperate. Also 250 pounds...lol. We hang out finally, make out, etc. Gets awkward, still facebook friends but I'm not really interested. Made it clear. -Had a date JUST tonight with a girl who messaged ME first on OkCupid (like the last one!) She's older than me, 32 and I'm 29. We go out on a "double" with her friend from NYC who came to visit her this weekend. My best friend comes. I've already been on a coffee … | /r/seduction | 17/09/11 06:06 AM |
| 1 | [FR] First ever OkCupid date, unexpectedly cute girl, f-close.Geesh I wish I had these experiences via OkCupid! | /r/seduction | 16/09/11 06:53 PM |
| 1 | How do I overcome my fear of meeting girls?Great advice here but you MUST do it each day! | /r/seduction | 14/09/11 02:56 PM |
| 1 | How do I overcome my fear of meeting girls?This. I'm currently casually dating about 4 women right now. When one falls off it's not as much of a sting AND you don't have too much time to hyperfocus on any one and even get to that point. You really have your "pick" of who to settle down with if you want, which is a great place to be in. | /r/seduction | 14/09/11 02:56 PM |
| 1 | Help Seddit, I choked. (Approach anxiety)Hang in there brother. Easier with experience I'm getting better every day | /r/seduction | 13/09/11 05:35 PM |
| 2 | Flaky girl. How to get her to call back?I think you're pushing the limit of even calling her anymore. 2-3x and I'm usually done with a woman and moving on to one who makes it EASY. The girl I'm seeing right now calls back within a few hours, (has even called me during work lol to chat on my lunch hour) and will text/fb respond fairly quick too. | /r/seduction | 13/09/11 03:57 PM |
| 2 | Flaky girl. How to get her to call back?This. The musician in a jazz trio should be the COOL confident "cat" who knows what's going on. Act like you're Ray Charles! | /r/seduction | 13/09/11 03:38 PM |
| 1 | How do you go to a loud dance club without looking like an idiot?I've always disliked dance clubs etc because it's basically sidle up to a girl and it's a physical interest go or no. Sometimes you can get a little convo in at a table etc, but I've never been that guy who just goes up and thrusts his penis into every ass there. | /r/seduction | 13/09/11 03:24 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Seddit, I leveled up this weekend. 8 day-game #-closes, all HB6-9sAmazing job man. The 6-8s are usually overlooked too! | /r/seduction | 13/09/11 02:45 PM |
| 2 | Women are attracted to who you are, not how you look.Exactly right. Attractive men will get sex, but the "whole package" is what most women are looking for especially 25 and up. They are just wasting time otherwise. | /r/seduction | 13/09/11 02:42 PM |
| 1 | Some first date questions...Dinner usually is too much too soon. Too forced for convo etc. Drinks or coffee date is usually the best first date in my experience. My USUAL first date is always coffee at a Starbucks. Unless she hates coffee then I tease her and she can have hot chocolate. Or tea. Or whatever lol. So I had a coffee date on Saturday that progressed into a full day thing. OKCupid girl, met for coffee. Coffee lasted for about 2 hours, then we got up walked around a bit into a dollar store and joked around. We we… | /r/seduction | 13/09/11 02:40 PM |
| 1 | Pursue the uninteresting?Get yourself some more experience. You could be psyching yourself out because: A.) You really aren't interested B.) You're scared of failure/rejection C.) You'd rather stay home and whack off :P I'd say go for it if you're attracted. If there's nothing there another "notch in your belt' helps you none. | /r/seduction | 13/09/11 02:30 PM |
| 1 | Blew off a HB8 because I thought she was too easy, now I want her back.Never turn down guaranteed ass. But sounds like she's pretty promiscuous to begin with. Came up to you, asked you for your # and then gave you you a handjob right away LOL yeesh. She's probably afraid you told all your friends what you've done with her and they think she's easy...I mean look at it from her perspective. I'd assure her no one knows the nasty deets but you two. | /r/seduction | 13/09/11 02:29 PM |
| 2 | Flaky girl. How to get her to call back?When you speak with the woman you've got to have a plan. "What do you want to do? or "I don't know" are attraction NULLIFYING. You have nothing really to chat about etc and no reason to hang out with each other it seems besides pure physical attraction. Work is difficult for you to chat because she's hosting, you're playing. Get her ON the phone. No more voicemails unless it's a direct request to "call you back." Have a coffee place, date and time set up and lay it on her. Screw finals (what it'… | /r/seduction | 13/09/11 02:26 PM |
| 1 | OKC first date: f-closed, now how to keep momentum?Be careful RAWDOG...a 22 year old who's that eager to have sex has likely been with a ton more guys than you lol. 3-4 days is too long to wait. I'd send a day or two after follow up text about how fun that was, tease her about the rope, call her a little freak a leak etc. Get the point across that it was fun, (it was wasn't it?) and you'd like to see her again, (you do don't you?), and then call her on the PHONE (no texting for the date make) chat for 10-15 mins then set it up! | /r/seduction | 13/09/11 02:01 PM |
| 1 | Help Seddit, I choked. (Approach anxiety)It happens, what you need to do right now is stop beating yourself up over it. So many FTs on Seddit turn into a loathing pity party where you just compound what happened and go over it over and over again in your mind. Let it go, chalk it up to experience and then plan your NEXT attack! Go over how you want it to go in your mind. Do this many times, visualize seeing the girl, say Hi! Say it a thousand different ways, so when it comes down to it all you have to do is SAY THE WORDS. I have RARELY… | /r/seduction | 13/09/11 01:58 PM |
| 1 | She almost immediately regrets fooling around on the first date. Help me figure out where I went wrong.The girl is a weirdo is right. You just acted on your desire and the moment that was there. Inviting a guy back to your place is pretty open code for making out, unless she was testing you since she said she "doesn't kiss on first dates." Even still if she really didn't want to guess what she would have stopped it. | /r/seduction | 13/09/11 01:54 PM |
| 1 | She almost immediately regrets fooling around on the first date. Help me figure out where I went wrong.If you don't mind I'd like to hear HOW you progressed from sitting on the couch to making out? I'm always interested to hear about that process for different guys. | /r/seduction | 13/09/11 01:52 PM |
| 1 | Use this material for good, not evil.I'm a big proponent in honesty is the best policy when it comes to intentions. I get really worried about this because for the first time in my life I'm at a point where I literally have 5-6 women at one time that I'm dating. Now I really believe you can only get to know a MAX of 3 (which is pushing it, ideally it'd be 2) women seriously at a time. But I've found women in my state/age range etc so flighty that I have to keep some backups in case a few fall off the radar, which happens crazy ofte… | /r/seduction | 13/09/11 01:49 PM |
| 1 | Am I imagining this?...The real point is...Does it matter? I think you're getting more confident in your skills, your body, your self-image and your self-esteem is boosting. Usually you can tell when you're over reading things but it sounds like the change is becoming more evident to others AND it's changing how you feel on the inside, which exudes as well! | /r/seduction | 13/09/11 01:46 PM |
| 3 | What's a good response to, "I can't believe we did that, I never have sex on the first date!"?Aces that's hilarious. | /r/seduction | 13/09/11 01:44 PM |
| 2 | What do you wear on a first date?Thanks! I'm still overweight though, I've got a stomach and can stand to get down to 220 if possible. I'd like the double chin gone :P | /r/seduction | 11/09/11 02:50 PM |
| 2 | Must I pursue sex ASAP to be successful?Damn straight. Please your woman and sometimes don't expect anything in return and it can do wonders. | /r/seduction | 11/09/11 05:44 AM |
| 2 | What do you wear on a first date?Jeans are actually a little looser than I'd like them. These were snugger a few months back but I've lose MORE weight. A positive but now I have to figure out if I'm down to a 36 from 38. | /r/seduction | 11/09/11 05:42 AM |
| 2 | What do you wear on a first date?Dates went really well, have 2 today. First was a smashing success, coffee for 2 hours, and we walked around for a bit. She didn't want it to end yet so we ended up grabbing thai for dinner. Will likely see her again this week. | /r/seduction | 11/09/11 05:41 AM |
| 2 | Must I pursue sex ASAP to be successful?Depends on the woman honestly. My ex was a sex-fiend and she waited nearly 2 months to have sex. It was about a month before we really messed around. I tend to have some heavy makeout sessions or 2cd/3rd base stuff earlier on with her, which is enough usually. By pushing the boundaries I mean referring not so overtly to sexual things etc. Today for instance I had a date with a woman I'm fairly interested in. I'm 29 she's 33. I complimented her boots, which is normal fare yes, but I did like them… | /r/seduction | 11/09/11 05:41 AM |
| 1 | What do you wear on a first date?I'm 6'4", 265lbs right now. Losing more weight. The jeans are Lucky 38s, (I'm down from a 44 originally) I think I need to look into 36's as these are much looser than they were back in May. (Even a new pair is, I'm kinda shocked but I may be able to do the 36s) | /r/seduction | 11/09/11 05:24 AM |
| 1 | What do you wear on a first date?I agree problem is I'm a size 14 and it's been VERY difficult thus far to find any good boots. | /r/seduction | 11/09/11 05:23 AM |
| 1 | What do you wear on a first date?It's an understated graphic, I don't wear anything loud really. Also the hair is curly, can't really fight it much I don't look good with a shaved head. | /r/seduction | 11/09/11 05:22 AM |
| 1 | What do you wear on a first date?Shoes! http://www.imgur.com/lNjXf.jpg | /r/seduction | 10/09/11 04:07 PM |
| 1 | What do you wear on a first date?Oh I'm all set on the cologne ;P I've got some really nice ones that work well for me. My favorites are: -Gucci Pour Homme II: Kind of a floral scent but I've been told it's delicious and seductive -Diesel: For Life: Sweet but has a spicy kick to it I'm actually headed out to pick up a new bottle of something once I sample a few I've had my eyes on today :) | /r/seduction | 10/09/11 03:08 PM |
| 1 | Partying with 5 girls tonightNo YOU'RE the best. Hope it kicked some ass and you better give us a FR. | /r/seduction | 10/09/11 02:31 PM |
| 1 | Getting to the next level...how do you guys do it?This is a good point you can't think of it so linearly. The "steps" should be more fluid and not as rigid in your mind or practice. It has to feel like it's flowing (at a natural and comfortable pace, and the key is the comfort is your OWN! | /r/seduction | 10/09/11 02:14 PM |
| 0 | Getting to the next level...how do you guys do it?Sounds like the convo is getting too deep too quickly. One of two things is happening, either she sees you as bf material and puts the brakes on and slows it ALL down way too quick, OR you friend-zone yourSELF with the actions/behavior etc and she's talking to you like a "girlfriend." You need to ABE: Always Be Escalating. Kino may seem cheesy but the science and logic behind it is undeniable. Let me give you an example that's as recent as the past 2 days. Started talking with a woman on OkCupid… | /r/seduction | 10/09/11 02:13 PM |
| 3 | Must I pursue sex ASAP to be successful?Being a gentleman is about holding open doors and caring about your friends and their wellbeing. It's not holding out for sex. Actually you can go further and say making sure you really please her and wow the fuck out of her in bed is in a way being a gentleman. | /r/seduction | 10/09/11 02:07 PM |
| 1 | Must I pursue sex ASAP to be successful?How did you disqualify yourself if THEY allowed it to be there and happen too? | /r/seduction | 10/09/11 02:05 PM |
| 1 | Must I pursue sex ASAP to be successful?Agreed. I dated a woman from CatholicMatch this summer from June-->July. 6 dates. 6 wasted dates because all I ever freaking got was a kiss on the cheek. She was frigid as hell and WASN'T a good Catholic or really devout, she ended up using her religion as a crutch and shield. I say this because I KNOW she had sex with exes etc so it wasn't an issue. Lessons learned? Push the interest as early as possible Find out how to determine if she's REALLY interested or just USING you for the meantime unt… | /r/seduction | 10/09/11 02:05 PM |
| 3 | Must I pursue sex ASAP to be successful?I'd go on to add you don't know a woman "fully" until you have sex with her. Sex is something that makes both partners extremely vulnerable-especially the woman. Once she's opened up that much to you there's more invested in you, and things always get a little more serious whether she wants to admit it or not. | /r/seduction | 10/09/11 02:02 PM |
| 1 | Must I pursue sex ASAP to be successful?This is an excellent post. I myself have no problem waiting until the third date to have sex. In actuality I've never actually had it that quickly before lol, and I think one of my big challenges is keeping the ESCALATION going with sex or without. You're DEAD on about showing your intent and letting these women know that you WILL be moving forward. You're the unstoppable train and it's her decision if she wants to board or let it rush past. You're unaffected by either outcome (outcome-independe… | /r/seduction | 10/09/11 02:01 PM |
| 1 | Must I pursue sex ASAP to be successful?Good perspective here. | /r/seduction | 10/09/11 01:58 PM |
| 1 | Must I pursue sex ASAP to be successful?Wow man sounds very similar to my situation. I come from a Roman-Catholic family and I didn't have my first gf until I was 20, and sex until I was 22. I've had a few since then but most sex has been in a monogamous relationship, which is how I prefer to keep it. I'm 29 now and back on the single scene for about 6 months. Been dating like crazy. (Got one in a few hours actually) I'm slowly realizing that while my aim INITIALLY should not be to have sex with the woman, until things get more seriou… | /r/seduction | 10/09/11 01:56 PM |
| 1 | Hey guys! I did something I never thought I'd do after joining this subreddit.And now every initiation from now on is so much easier right? | /r/seduction | 09/09/11 03:28 PM |
| 2 | Great way to get girls to come to youI want to say it was Barcade in Brooklyn but I'm not 100% sure. | /r/seduction | 09/09/11 03:26 PM |
| 1 | Seddit, please help me. I'm a freakin' mess.Thanks, it's only taken me 2 decades ;P Live and learn eh | /r/seduction | 08/09/11 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Seddit, please help me. I'm a freakin' mess.Ego is a big issue here. You also are WAY young so you may not have your idea of what woman you WANT 100 fleshed out here. My standards are way high for women I want to take home to momma, but the basics I know right off the bat: -Non-smoker -Non drug user -No tattoos (I can bend if it's something small and concealable) -Smart -Attractive -Not obese (I like a little extra or average but we're talking like twinkies for breakfast here) Past that it's all about learning how to not waste time in the… | /r/seduction | 08/09/11 07:03 PM |
| 1 | Any advice interacting in bars/nightclubs?Pump each other up a bit. Get talking before you go out. Listen to some good tunes. Then I love testmypatience's tactical strike. Talk to the first person you see! | /r/seduction | 08/09/11 06:59 PM |
| 1 | On texting.Good advice here. Calling is almost always better, you can have a real conversation and read her cues back as well! | /r/seduction | 08/09/11 06:58 PM |
| 1 | On texting.I wouldn't RELY on texting any more than I would other techniques. It's a tool in your arsenal but not the most or least important. I find "snatches" of texting work best. I've had 2 girls texting me every day, and I go back and forth 1 or 2 messages then bow out with no response. That conveys enough business. Social interacting should MAINLY be done in person or on the phone if possible, as she builds up rapport and confidence with you. There grows a slight level of attachment too, to your pers… | /r/seduction | 08/09/11 06:57 PM |
| 1 | Tons of bars in my area of NE Philly. Is it weird to go alone? How do I meet guys once there?Women don't usually fly solo, that's much more of a guy thing for sure. Join some groups or clubs in Philly and meet new people! | /r/seduction | 08/09/11 06:53 PM |
| 1 | [FR] First try, first #close after subscribing to r/seductionGood things: -You felt the fear and went for it anyways. Asking for her number was direct and maybe unexpected but it worked! -Not texting back to everything. GOOD! And the delay in reading her piece and getting back to her added to her perception of you as a busy guy Be casual and fun the first date. Discuss literature since you're both into it and share that as a common interest. Move her for a drink later. Get some physical playful nudging or kino in. If you have a great time, tell her so! Se… | /r/seduction | 08/09/11 06:51 PM |
| 1 | It's really all in the teethI had to do this too. I think my "post for picture" smile is kinda goofy and not really attractive. But my half smile or a slight upwards lip curl makes me seem that much cooler. | /r/seduction | 08/09/11 06:46 PM |
| 1 | It's really all in the teethAnd you didn't even have to fake it until you make it! I always try to tell friends to work on yourself and be GENUINELY happy to begin with. If you're not good for you you're no good to anyone else. When you're happy it exudes confidence. People WANT to be social, we're social creatures. Given the chance most women will smile back. | /r/seduction | 08/09/11 06:45 PM |
| 2 | Need advice in order to better DHV.I like that. When I start getting into deep convos with women I have asked them "Tell me something about yourself that few people know." | /r/seduction | 08/09/11 06:44 PM |
| 1 | Thank you all for your help and support, but I've decided to become a recluse.For every woman out there who thinks you're creepy I bet there are 100 who don't. Don't give up and don't disappear. | /r/seduction | 08/09/11 06:43 PM |
| 9 | Best way to leave when you've been shot down by a girl, or group of?I'd not even say that. A simple have fun is good enough | /r/seduction | 08/09/11 06:42 PM |
| 3 | Hey guys! I did something I never thought I'd do after joining this subreddit.Initiating the conversation is 90% of the battle. Truly. | /r/seduction | 08/09/11 06:40 PM |
| 3 | [FR, kinda] AFC here... gonna try to cold approach frequently and post how some goYou're getting the smile, push it farther and number close! | /r/seduction | 08/09/11 06:39 PM |
| 1 | To delete from Facebook or not?You're hyperfocusing and getting too caught up on a girl that freaked out for basically no reason. I'd say leave her, ignore her profile and remove it from your feed. Problem solved. | /r/seduction | 07/09/11 03:04 PM |
| 1 | How do you # close?I chatted with two women at a Catholic group last night. One I had already kinda been communicating with through a dating site and she happened to be part of the group. The other I had just met. Some short convo and towards the close I mentioned that it would be cool to hang out sometime we had a lot in common. I did the "What's the best way to get a hold of you?" I agree asking outright for the number isn't always the best route, sometimes you can try other methods whatever seems to work for yo… | /r/seduction | 07/09/11 02:59 PM |
| 2 | How do you # close?It's not so much HOW you ask for the number but rather that you DO it. If she's receptive you should have no qualms asking. | /r/seduction | 07/09/11 02:50 PM |
| 2 | Socializing is incredibly exhausting.Ever play the game The Sims? Friends are kind of like that lol. You have to spend time with them, call talk etc or the friendship almost feels like it can degrade day by day lol. It's an extreme metaphor but it's true. Social interaction for some are definitely taxing and can wear you out. Sometimes approaching women etc is not what you're about. There's a big difference between what you THINK will make you happy and what WILL make you happy. I think being really on your game is finding the happ… | /r/seduction | 07/09/11 02:49 PM |
| 1 | Two Revelations: On sunglasses and being too availableEyes are some of the EASIEST things to read on a human. When you take them out of the equation it perks up a woman's interest because she CAN'T READ YOUR Po Po Po Pokerface. Now the bit about being not available. THAT...is good info. | /r/seduction | 07/09/11 01:04 PM |
| 3 | Asked a girl out on a second date and she said, "sorry, I had fun last time but you're not what I'm looking for."This. A thousand times. At least she told you and you weren't posting today about "Why she dropped all contact and never gave me any reasons." The reason WHY she's not interested is not as important as the fact that she isn't. You found out early on, don't torture yourself trying to wonder what it was. | /r/seduction | 07/09/11 01:00 PM |
| 1 | Asked a girl out on a second date and she said, "sorry, I had fun last time but you're not what I'm looking for."Agreed. | /r/seduction | 07/09/11 12:59 PM |
| 1 | Asked a girl out on a second date and she said, "sorry, I had fun last time but you're not what I'm looking for."This is one of those frustrating times where you just have to man up and say "Ah that's too bad. Good luck." Then move on with the whole thing like water off a duck's back. It DOESN'T mean that you HAD to close the deal. If she REALLY was a virgin I'm sure she doesn't want to "lose her tag" in a rushed and non-important way. Perhaps you just weren't what she was looking for. It comes down to attraction and how you make a woman FEEL. She might be friend material but not romantic etc. Don't sweat … | /r/seduction | 07/09/11 12:58 PM |
| 1 | mini[FR]A few quick things on social circlesEep that's rough. | /r/seduction | 07/09/11 02:47 AM |
| 1 | Girl's game?You're quite welcome and thank you. I think the whole idea and labeling of /r/seduction is probably what gives us a bad rap. The frustrating part is finding a woman around my age who's looking for quite the same. | /r/seduction | 07/09/11 02:47 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Cigarettes got me laid.Truth :P | /r/seduction | 07/09/11 02:43 AM |
| 1 | I am a beta... Will I ever be able to build my confidence and shine like everyone else?Glad to help. I think that's my longest post to date ;P | /r/seduction | 07/09/11 02:42 AM |
| 2 | mini[FR]A few quick things on social circlesIt's icing on the cake when she does. But you come across as THAT GUY who is just awesome in the group. He's about a fun time, making sure everyone is enjoying themselves but at the same time NOT making himself a doormat. No one can look down on a generous man. Ex situations are tough. I'm lucky in that I never keep in touch with them and take great pains to avoid them if I was ever near. Luckily most have either moved away or lived so far off it was a non-issue. | /r/seduction | 06/09/11 08:20 PM |
| 1 | Gave a guy my number, he texted, and then nothing.. What now?Tease him. Leave the door open once more. "How are we going to hang out if you won't call me?" That's pretty overt lol and if he can't take the hint and man up, come move to the East Coast and I'll take you out. | /r/seduction | 06/09/11 08:18 PM |
| 1 | Girl's game?Agreed on all of these. Confidence is so huge. And a voice can be to die for lol. | /r/seduction | 06/09/11 08:16 PM |
| 1 | Girl's game?Mindsets at "steak?" Well if she makes me steak she could be a keeper ;P Long response incoming bc I just had a chat with a friend of mine when she asked me what I was looking for. My list has evolved over the years, with each breakup too as it should. I would say: -Honest, caring, compassionate, good with children, has a solid family-life and upbringing (I prefer women from families with married still loving parents) -Someone who preferably is Catholic or Christian gels well with be morally usu… | /r/seduction | 06/09/11 08:15 PM |
| 1 | Differences in the way a girl perceives a guy if she calls him 'cute' vs. 'hot'? (physically)The only different I've really seen between the two is how you present YOURSELF to them. Fast Track/Slow Track. Hot is a guy who's on the fast track. He's Alpha, he's made his sexual interest in her known (if not overtly still known) The cute/handsome guy is still bf material, still attractive but if you move too slowly and risk friendzonish behavior, she may slow things down so much because she's worried SHE will screw it up. The most important thing is really to care LESS of what she thinks of… | /r/seduction | 06/09/11 07:46 PM |
| 9 | I want to kiss this girl the next time we meet. Quick tips for how to escalate, and then execute for someone who's never kissed before?I've always felt this way too lol. "Do you want to come over and watch a movie" is code for let's watch the movie, cuddle and then get a little frisky. Unless she's super ugly. Then you may need to dim the lights and get some head. | /r/seduction | 06/09/11 07:17 PM |
| 2 | I want to kiss this girl the next time we meet. Quick tips for how to escalate, and then execute for someone who's never kissed before?When you both laugh you also have the chemicals of feeling good flooding in your brain. It's only natural to associate the person you're with (who is ALSO laughing subliminally your mind associates the two) with those good feelings. Then it's all downhill from there. | /r/seduction | 06/09/11 07:16 PM |
| 3 | I want to kiss this girl the next time we meet. Quick tips for how to escalate, and then execute for someone who's never kissed before?The only thing you REALLY have to do is set the scene and then go for it! :) | /r/seduction | 06/09/11 07:15 PM |
| 3 | I want to kiss this girl the next time we meet. Quick tips for how to escalate, and then execute for someone who's never kissed before?This. This. This. Alphas and MEN are not subtle. We say what we say, and we don't do things softly to gauge the response first. We strike while the (perceived) iron is hot and don't care about the outcome. Your first kiss should be an impulse you FEEL and WANT to act on. Not something you need to plot. Think about it less and it will happen easier. | /r/seduction | 06/09/11 07:13 PM |
| 3 | I want to kiss this girl the next time we meet. Quick tips for how to escalate, and then execute for someone who's never kissed before?I will never forget a good friend of mine's first kiss. They were watching some movie together and during a romantic scene he turned to her and said "You know people often emulate what they see in movies." Looked at the screen with her, turned back went in. BAM. 5 year relationship lol. Sounds a little sappy but it worked with that girl. Of course every woman is different! I did something similar in college with my first gf. We watched E.T. the Extra Terrestrial bc I couldn't believe she had nev… | /r/seduction | 06/09/11 07:12 PM |
| 3 | mini[FR]A few quick things on social circlesGood post. One thing you should never be as a grown man: Stingy, cheap or frugal. Whenever I go out to this happy hour with friends and a former hs girl I knew who I really dig, I always buy a round or two. People usually return the favor and you are the gentlemanly awesome guy. Don't do it EXPECTING to get a round back, do it because you're happy to be in good peoples' company. Never drink to drunk. Ever. All it takes is one sloppy image to ruin weeks or even months of work with a HB. As for yo… | /r/seduction | 06/09/11 07:03 PM |
| 3 | She asked me what I thought about another girl. Why did she do that?It's either a shit test to see what you'll say and to count you out OR she's not interested and trying to hook her friend up. Try to come up with some canned responses to that or at least consider it so that you're never caught in that position and blindsided. You can always go neutral and say I don't know her very well to make any assumptions or judgments. Now YOU however... | /r/seduction | 06/09/11 06:59 PM |
| 7 | Is porn really affecting us?It could just be that you're getting older. Isn't there a ton of research that shows short-term testosterone gains from fapping-restriction but then mid to longer term it severely drops? It's a use it or lose it thing. Last year i thought I was having issues due to densensitization of porn etc, and then I found out I was a diabetic and that was sapping my libido. Exercised, ate better, got my sugars under control and it's been better. Also even in peak health there are just some men who will hav… | /r/seduction | 06/09/11 06:57 PM |
| 2 | [FR?] Text advice soughtThat's a great response. | /r/seduction | 06/09/11 06:55 PM |
| 3 | [FR] Cigarettes got me laid.HB9's better blow fantastically otherwise. | /r/seduction | 06/09/11 06:48 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Cigarettes got me laid.In college I used to always carry a Zippo lighter with me. Now I've never smoked pot or ciggs and never had any desire to do so, but I can't tell you how many times I'd light up a girl walking home to her sorority/dorm/house and her friend and I would hit it off while she would stand there puffing. Zippos are just cooler especially if you do the fun opening tricks. Smooth operator instead of the AFC Bic :P | /r/seduction | 06/09/11 06:48 PM |
| 2 | I am a beta... Will I ever be able to build my confidence and shine like everyone else?A beer or two can definitely help but like Pete (that's my name too!) says, don't overdo it. -Pete & Pete lol | /r/seduction | 06/09/11 06:46 PM |
| 21 | I am a beta... Will I ever be able to build my confidence and shine like everyone else?Excellent point to be taken here: -YOU CHOOSE TO BE AN ALPHA you aren't BORN one. | /r/seduction | 06/09/11 06:45 PM |
| 5 | I am a beta... Will I ever be able to build my confidence and shine like everyone else?I used to subscribe to the fake it mentality but I realized that you concentrate too much on faking it that it can also come off as unnatural to others even if you don't realize it. I think it's more about the process of MAKING it then it's just natural. If you practice anything long enough it will become second nature. | /r/seduction | 06/09/11 06:44 PM |
| 9 | Great way to get girls to come to you"Have something they want." Absolutely. Whether you realized it or not you were ABC there! The pizza was in a way making you "Always Be Closing." (Watch Glen Gary Glen Ross if you've never seen it and don't get the reference :P) It was your open, and the teasing etc just built attraction. Love bars like that. There's one in Brooklyn where every beer you buy you get a personal pan pizza. Fairly sizable too. | /r/seduction | 06/09/11 06:43 PM |
| 1 | 30'000 subscribers.....seddit's highest milestone so far!What whatttttttt. That's a lot of lurkers. | /r/seduction | 06/09/11 06:41 PM |
| 1 | I am a beta... Will I ever be able to build my confidence and shine like everyone else?Excellent advice here. At my heaviest I was 290, I'm down to 268 now but it goes to show 3/4 of the battle is mental/communication not physical. | /r/seduction | 06/09/11 06:34 PM |
| 5 | I am a beta... Will I ever be able to build my confidence and shine like everyone else?Absolutely. You need to make the decision that enough is enough. Mentally it sounds like it. You made this post! Now get out there and start acting. | /r/seduction | 06/09/11 06:33 PM |
| 8 | I am a beta... Will I ever be able to build my confidence and shine like everyone else?So listen, there are two sides to being an Alpha. There's the physical side and the mental side. Physical can FEED the mental but not vice versa. You can work out, eat right, be healthy and feel GOOD about you who are externally and that can transfer and bolster your internal feelings, self-esteem and self-worth. However it doesn't completely replace the internal side of it either! I was pretty introverted in middle-school and even a bit through high school. I stuck to my own group of friends, p… | /r/seduction | 06/09/11 06:33 PM |
| 3 | [mini FR] Gave a cute girl on the train my number, she texted, what would you reply?"I don't do this for every woman, but you were pretty cute." Bring up her sketching etc, get the convo going for a little bit. Ask her if she wants to chat on the phone. Talking on the phone = more Alpha than texting. Wimpy men will text bc there's little emotion attached and they think the woman will get attached or "used to you." In reality hearing your voice, feeling comfortable with it, the intonations and inflections you can convey (sarcasm, humor, busting her balls etc) are invaluable. You… | /r/seduction | 06/09/11 06:21 PM |
| 1 | Gave a guy my number, he texted, and then nothing.. What now?Sounds like he's a beta and way not comfortable enough to talk on the phone. If he won't man up a bit wear your ovaries on the outside (assuming you're female here) and tell him you prefer to talk on the phone and to call you sometime. You can say THAT by text but then the ball is in his court and either he nuts up or shuts up. You can tease him next time you're in Trader Derps. I tease women all the time if they don't want to chat on the phone, it's a long lost art for our generation. | /r/seduction | 06/09/11 06:18 PM |
| 3 | [FR] Have you seen my balls? because I can't find them.In my experience it's tough to close when you're got an "Alpha-Ass" making them too nervous. It's like all your hard work gets diffused and you're not the focus anymore. That shit may work at frat parties, but it sure doesn't post-college in the real world. I'd say you have to build up to being comfortable. One way I started getting over my initial-kiss nervousness was the lean in close and whisper method, where you talk for a bit and share "a few shared secrets" like in your case "Man don't you… | /r/seduction | 04/09/11 01:37 PM |
| 3 | How do you respond to date-breakers/cancelers?Good advice. Part of the problem was THIS particular girl was hard to get on the phone or to reply ever. When she finally got back to me after a week it was like oh now she's responsive but she was feeling sick. Blegh. | /r/seduction | 02/09/11 07:30 PM |
| 2 | The 4 Foundations to Getting Success with Women"Rejection is a state of mind and if you understand that the actions and words of other people define who they are and not who you are" "Well that's just like YOUR opinion, man." -The Dude This totally flashed in my head, and it was exactly the mindset. | /r/seduction | 01/09/11 07:52 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Every girl you see is an opportunity.Yep how you progressed, where you started from etc. | /r/seduction | 31/08/11 07:51 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Every girl you see is an opportunity.And how do YOU feel you've gotten yours squared away? Elaborate on that! | /r/seduction | 31/08/11 04:03 PM |
| 1 | Do you call and leave voicemail, or only speak?:D Well I did leave the vm on Monday night, and to follow up she texted me on Tuesday saying she was driving back from MD with her dog. She wasn't sure if Wed night would work. I heard back from her again yest that she had had her work interview and had to go back for a round 2 this morning. She asked if we could reschedule for this weekend or perhaps next week. So at least she offered another time, not a specific night but an interested woman will always offer another time if she's eager. Tryin… | /r/seduction | 25/08/11 12:25 PM |
| 1 | Do you call and leave voicemail, or only speak?Well she did text me ty a few hours after our initial date, this was just to set up our next date. I did get a text back, but hopefully she can progress to phone because you build much better interaction that way as opposed to solely texting. | /r/seduction | 24/08/11 01:46 PM |
| 1 | Do you call and leave voicemail, or only speak?Great response I'd upvote 50x if I could. I did end up leaving a message actually, but I was just curious what others thought. She ended up texting me back on her way back from MD from picking her dog up, and said she'd text me later...which she didn't lol. But I at least took the opportunity. | /r/seduction | 24/08/11 01:46 PM |
| 6 | K-Closing gambit that's worked for me 4/4 timesExcept you DO touch her and the gum ;P | /r/seduction | 23/08/11 09:47 PM |
| 1 | Please smile - for your sake [1st post]Thanks that helps a lot lol. | /r/seduction | 23/08/11 09:46 PM |
| 1 | Instant turnonsI've thought long and hard about this since I've been single since April. -There has to be some base attraction there yes, but although I list it first it's just to get it out of the way. I honestly value other things and would rather have a cuter girl over a drop dead gorgeous woman if she outweighs the latter in all sorts of other ways -Optimistic. Women I like have to be optimistic. If you're a Debbie Downer I'm not interested. Don't be negative about everything -Personality. I love a vibrant… | /r/seduction | 23/08/11 09:44 PM |
| 1 | REMINDER: The IAMA mPUA Interview Series continues tomorrow with ABCs of Attractions - Get your questions in now if you can't make it! (7PM PST tomorrow)The places you've had the most success meeting women that are "out of the norm?" What is something besides The Cube etc that you can do to create some mystery/attraction early on? Opinions on soloing? | /r/seduction | 23/08/11 09:29 PM |
| 3 | Seddit, what are some quick tips someone can do to improve their game? I'll start.Great post. | /r/seduction | 23/08/11 09:24 PM |
| 3 | Please smile - for your sake [1st post]Can someone tell me what the IOI is? I've not caught up on the basic reading for this subreddit but I keep seeing it! | /r/seduction | 23/08/11 09:13 PM |
| 2 | Please smile - for your sake [1st post]I have been often trying to keep myself smiling like you've been said. I usually have a pretty pleasant visible demeanor, but when I'm dedicated or in a hurry I can have a determined look on my face that might not be to my benefit. You'll meet someone awesome so hang in there, keep smiling and let 'em guess what you're grinning about. | /r/seduction | 23/08/11 09:13 PM |
| 2 | Don't know what to say? This one's pretty simple.Click the user's name, then the message button is on the top right under their "profile" | /r/seduction | 23/08/11 09:11 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Seducing a HB8Sounds like she's got a lot of problems. Also you're making yourself WAY too available...I'd wait till mid week, let her think you lead a busy life even if you don't. | /r/seduction | 22/08/11 11:45 PM |
| 1 | Condom StorageThis is what I do: -Colder months in the cellphone pocket of a jacket, or front pockets -Warmer months in a gum packet (I use the 5 gum too! Thought I was the only one lol) -Trojan also makes a condom holder for regular size condoms that holds like 2-3. If you're having sex more than that you're gonna need a roll accordioned up :P | /r/seduction | 22/08/11 07:02 PM |
| 1 | Condom StorageYep Trojan2Gos. They're great but they ARE thin condoms, so let that factor into your decision | /r/seduction | 22/08/11 07:00 PM |
| 5 | It's OK to be nervous and shitty in front of her than to not talk with her at all.Do you know what real courage is? It's not the absence of fear...it's what you do in SPITE of the fear. That's what real courage is compromised of. So you can be nervous as hell but put on the clear calm and cool exterior. You may think it's cute to see the guy all nervous and bashful but women are hardwired to be attracted to confident men who exude control, power and being able to take care of them. So you may have some scattered success with being nervous and letting it show but in the long r… | /r/seduction | 16/08/11 08:27 PM |
| 6 | It's OK to be nervous and shitty in front of her than to not talk with her at all.Eventually I think you'll learn the rules don't matter and the less preoccupied you are with thinking about them the better off you'll perform. | /r/seduction | 16/08/11 08:23 PM |
| 13 | It's OK to be nervous and shitty in front of her than to not talk with her at all.Good POV here, they're probably JUST as nervous as you are. Keep it in mind. | /r/seduction | 16/08/11 07:52 PM |
| 1 | Epic rejection by text message. What the heck happened?Yeah I didn't mean there to be a double-standard implied, but I see a lot of women who go around boasting they're so dominant and "alpha" and when I see that it's a definite turn off just like when a man is TOO cocky himself y'know? There's a point where confident becomes arrogant that you have to be careful. I know a woman or two just like that and they're so contrary to anything you say JUST for the sake of it, that it's like...why lol | /r/seduction | 16/08/11 03:20 PM |
| 5 | Epic rejection by text message. What the heck happened?There's a difference between aspiring to BE an Alpha and then outright declaring you're one. You don't see a lot of the men in seddit walking around going DAMN BRO I'M SO ALPHA. The declaration, (and the apparent need for her to divulge it in the manner he described), seems like just arrogance without any supposed purpose. | /r/seduction | 16/08/11 02:49 PM |
| 1 | [FR] 3 dates in 3 days with same girl. 1st date: great. 2nd date: okay. 3rd date: meh.Absolutely, I used to do this. I'd auto-respond to a text like immediately..it looks like OH SHIT....this guy is sitting on his bed or something WAITING for his phone to go off. I have had times where I could actually SEE the attraction diminish because I was over-available. In the beginning on my online dating I would write TOO much via email, and not escalate fast enough. It'd be like 6 paragraphs and you have to think if a woman is dating online, is she going to sit there and read all that an… | /r/seduction | 16/08/11 01:08 PM |
| 2 | Epic rejection by text message. What the heck happened?No you're exactly on point. Don't get attached too soon. I call it "hyperfocusing." And I'm so guilty of it at times I admit. I usually date 2-3 women at a time, and it keeps me from hyper-focusing on any one of them. By that I mean, replying to texts/emails too quickly, giving one more attention over another, and generally just being "too available." And GOOD for you. Get right back out there, the mentality is AH dodged a frigid bullet, now some REALLY lucky woman just hit it big when she meets… | /r/seduction | 16/08/11 01:05 PM |
| 2 | Lots of texting, want to escalate without blowing it.Escalating text is night on impossible. Think of it as a TOOL you use in conjunction with facetime. Keep your responses delayed, and not instant. You have a life, (at least you want her to think you do if you don't ;) and she should NOT be the priority. Never hyperfocus because once a woman knows she "has" you a lot of the interest can instantly dissolve. I would flirt the hell out of this shit, and get on a REAL phone convo. Say "Let's chat on the phone, you know that long lost art people in ou… | /r/seduction | 16/08/11 12:55 PM |
| 24 | Epic rejection by text message. What the heck happened?I think first off any woman who "declares" herself an Alpha Female may not be worth it to begin with. Just being 100% straightforward...if you two had great chemistry and the sex was great, and this wasn't about the mixtape not being done yet, the girl obviously has some other weird shit. I mean seriously who says MY FRIEND AND I GIVE YOU THE THUMBS DOWN! BWAHAHAH. Especially if she's an Alpha, what? This isn't Roman times in the Coliseum lol. You shouldn't have to charm her friend "enough," if … | /r/seduction | 15/08/11 09:37 PM |
| 11 | [FR] 3 dates in 3 days with same girl. 1st date: great. 2nd date: okay. 3rd date: meh.First off never see a woman you're JUST starting to date 3x in 3 days. You're WAY too available and come off as way too desperate. You can kino, seduce or do whatever correctly but if she knows she's "got you" then you're not a challenge and she'll lose interest. Good for you realizing not to do that again. Her interest level seems pretty low. Date her, but at YOUR convenience and pursue other women. | /r/seduction | 15/08/11 05:54 PM |
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