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Brother, I am so so sorry dude. I can totally relate. We live and thrive for our family- especially the kids. Then….bam…. We became part time father. Basically ,our whole world and routine got F-up. I know it’s hard right now- especially if you are new to these. It will take time. I am not going to say “time will heal” or anything along that line. I know the pain and that feeling too well. My advice wd be - look forward toward your new life with your children. Live for them. Use them as your rea…
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/26 12:18 AM
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Definitely do consult a lawyer. Do you currently have a lot of assets? Your lawyer and your ACCOUNTANT can guide you better. Keep in mind- everything can be pierced. Create a structured S or C corp- umbrella set up. Keep finance separate. Don’t co mingle business/assets finances together.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/26 02:52 PM
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Don’t wait. Lawyer! “I don’t want anything”. That’s what mine said. Then….wham, Bammmm, slap……”I want everything!” This is our new world today.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/26 11:55 AM
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I am sorry,bro. If you need to talk,I am available. I ve been through that myself. Please feel free to contact me.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/26 01:10 AM
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Seriously, it’s cheaper to get a call girl these days. Wham bam ty ma’am. No dramas….. F morals….
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 08:36 PM
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Yes and NO…. Yes it will. If and when you decided that she has hurt you enough. And you have done enough for the ungrateful. Right now, you need to make yourself the happy man. And the best father to your kids. No it won’t. Because of the kids. It can be amicable but women’s mood swing are up and down. One day she can be the nicest and one day, she can be ______. Won’t stop until the kids are grown. And you are NOT paying alimony or child support- anymore. All you can do is “create a new discipl…
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/26 11:21 AM
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At this point…there’s only 1 thing to do— LAWYER UP! she is coming for you and your balls(no pun intended). That’s what lawyers do. Right now, it’s a game of chess. Lawyer up.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/26 11:29 PM
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Sad- but someone got in her head. So….She is trying to squeeze as much as she can from you. Yes,using the baby and custody as her leverage. Sorry dude. All I can add is - lawyer up. I hate these “modern women”. They want old fashion men , yet they cheered each other on for being modern women!
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/26 07:11 PM
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Some people just chose to use God as an excuse NOT to “sin”. To some…. Nothing is ever enough. I am sorry,bro. I know it’s painful. Us here,know the feeling too well. My ex forbids me to pray etc with my daughter.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/26 04:37 PM
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Yup. Cheaper to get a _______ or multiple….. No drama,no headaches. Wife—- unless you want kids- treat it as a business transactions. So said, years of “poking” that….now it’s time to pay up. It ain’t free!
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/26 11:29 PM
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The law totally sucks,bro. My divorce was finalized last year. $450k to her and child support. And she said she needs more
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/26 11:18 PM
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Ask her if she is willing to go for counseling. Do it for your daughter. Do not beg or plead with her at this point. Try to keep it amicable without lawyers- it will be 50-50. If you guys can do that- that’s great. Have everything on paper- and both signed it(or have a lawyer draft the documents)
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/26 03:45 PM
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I know it’s hard….but you just have to accept it. Protect your mental health. Be the successful man for your daughter. And for you. Be THE MAN.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 11:34 AM
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It’s normal to feel that way. It’s ok to be angry. It’s ok to be super pissed! But whatever you do with those emotion is important-don’t let it control you. I am sorry, bro…..I realized that many men gave so much into their marriage and have the rug pulled underneath them. To have their whole life’s dedication wiped out in a flash. Emotionally,financially and spiritually wrecked. It’s hard to hear this…..but you have to focus on you. Let her be. And do you….and , most importantly- the kids. The …
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 09:18 AM
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Lawyers will bill you for everything! Every little thing! I am surprised that you guys shared the same lawyer! Come up with a plan, on paper. Both signatures on it. Then pass it to the lawyer to draft the final agreement.its your “business”, lawyers will make it theirs
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/26 10:17 AM
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Don’t do it. It’s a trap….an emotional trap. The deeper you involved ur emotion, the harder you will fall. Only you can decide what’s best for you. What was her reason to separate?
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/26 08:07 PM
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Let me guess? Her friend is divorced or single? And most likely, miserable in her life? Or your wife is seeing someone? If you want a solid, solid answer. , Most likely, you will never never never get it. Too many men , me as well…..wanted an answer. A final closure. You are and will drive yourself crazy. Crazy in so many words will destroy you and eat you inside out. The answer lied within you. And only you can decide that. It’s not easy. Your mind will constantly trying to find closure. Protec…
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 05:42 PM
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Just another tactic she is and will be using for/during the divorce. My ex filed so many PFA on me. Everyone of them were tossed out by the judge. It’s her way of telling you that she wanted to continue her affair and need you to stay away as far as possible.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 04:41 PM
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When I hear stories like these-Linda pisses me off! It’s dejavu all over for me-again! Yeah, lawyers…even families and friends got in her head. I wish I have the answer for you. But if possible, try to settle out of court. Lawyers are in for the money. They can prolong it as long as you want. As long as you pay. Yeah…… until you guys can settle ,it’s gonna get ugly. Mine put liens on all my properties and businesses. Until we settled.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 01:54 AM
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Prenup brother. Prenup! Protect yourself. I lost everything during—- and after the divorce- constantly using the children as her leverage. Ex has a job - but constantly getting let go. Horrible with finance and terrible mindset. Ex blew $200k in one year with nothing to show- not including the salary from her job So said, I am with a wonderful GF right now. She had moved in with me. I am being very cautious with her when it comes down to finances. I have my goal. And want. So, if things were to …
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/26 05:04 PM
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Only you can decide if it’s worth it to you. But I am glad to hear that you are doing it for the kids. Women don’t really view it in “the perspective of the children “. It’s always —-the grass is greener on the other side….. for them. It’s always “I can do better”. Not the sacrifices you have done for them…… especially the children. I, personally will advise you to try to rebuild. It can survive and thrive….or the other was around in a few years. At least, it’s that— few years you get to be the …
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/26 04:21 PM
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Still debating - although I am currently with a great woman. Our scars run deep.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/26 10:02 AM
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Start “securing” them. Joint or not, the lawyer will find out. Ex’s put liens on ALL my rentals/businesses.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 10:47 AM
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Sorry man. It will be 50/50. I know it’s hard to hear that. I went through the same thing. Left my job and got into a successful business and BAM——just like that. Had to restart all over again at 57
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 06:01 PM
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My ex was hot and still is hot. But her mouth / attitude…. etc completely turned me off. But now ,fast forward—- my gf will way hotter - minus the attitude.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 12:44 PM
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Welcome to the club,brother. Kinda sux eh? - in so many words…..most of us here are going through it. Yea. It’s really messed up. Divorce does kill the man. But,it’s not the end of our journey- though it does feel like it. Heck….me? I ended up in the hospital TWICE! It does feel like that right now but I can truly say this- IT DOES GET BETTER. ❤️‍🩹 You can rebuild- always. And the time to do it is now. It’s time to retrain your mind. Your mindset. Use the anger and frustration, use all your ener…
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 09:27 AM
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Things happened and has happened for a reason. Reasons we don’t understand- especially after you were loyal to the marriage- and especially when you have children. God / the universe always has away of healing you and protecting you. Anger and grief are normal feelings for us. Being betrayed……lost everything- hope,family etc. The hardest part of the betrayed- is moving forward. Part of us still want to understand. To heal- in so many words. I stopped “hating my ex”. Yes,karma is a biatch….thats …
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 11:34 AM
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Always remember what was done to you. Forgive but never forget.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 07:59 AM
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She can’t do jack. You- make sure you document everything-literally- EVERYTHING! Paper trail……digital trail….. whatever you have to do. I have 2 folders- 1: digital/scanned copies of everything. What I am paying and have paid. 2: a physical folder/binder with every paper trail. * duplicate of my digital copies * Them women will always demand more.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 10:18 AM
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It’s your house. You can remove them. But make sure that everything is documented. Videos and pictures
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/26 10:51 AM
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She is NOT gay….lesbian….whatever. It’s her way of telling you “I got someone lined up…….but I don’t want to hurt you.”
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/26 11:13 PM
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Bro,lawyers will eat up everything you make ྀིྀི and later. I learned the hard way. Sorry, you are in the horrible position! Our system is so F-up. Only thing you can do is somewhat stop the mental F and financial bleeding 🩸. Truth, the longer this drags on …and it will, the lawyers will make sure of that. The longer- to them- the better You have to weight your options and plans- 2 years,5 years……the longer this drags out……your mental health will be exhausted. It’s hard to be a clear thinking su…
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/26 08:07 PM
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Dating(or whatever) - do it when you are ready. I made many bad decisions when I was separated. To some( and my friends) cheered me on….. I started dating because I can and I am a man- and truthfully I wasn’t ready- I was rebounding. I stopped because of that. Sex was plentiful and meaningless- and truthfully,I did it because I thought I was THE man. But NOT the man,I wanted to be , the man God wanted me to be. Depending on your moral…..and your perception of you. You will know it when you are r…
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/26 11:30 AM
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Woman- she knew exactly what she was doing. It’s something that she has been planning for some time. Women are governed by emotions. They have to feel it. Most men- spend time and sacrifice self for the family. Responsibility before emotions.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/26 10:40 AM
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Bro, I am so sorry that you are going through these. It’s emotionally exhausting. But I do promise you this- that it will get better. I can only speak for myself. I have been through similar. When this happened to me- I lost myself. I went way deep in the rabbit hole. My mental health went Deep South. I “stayed” because of my daughter. And yes,I was sleeping on an air mattress in a small basement Divorce finalized about 10 months ago. Still “struggling “ but slowly digging myself out of the hole…
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/26 09:50 AM
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Bro, I am so sorry that you are hurting like this.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/26 01:45 AM
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Try a sit down conversation with the ex. Pen and paper- write everything down. Break everything down! Then , try and come up with something that is “amicable “ btwn the 2 of you. Once agreed upon, have lawyer draft up an agreement.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/26 10:41 AM
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Men do not leave their marriage because how they FEEL, women DOES that……family comes first. Bro, I am sorry that you are going through this. I went through the same thing. I was 55 when she “wanted out”. Finalized last year. Everything that I had ever built for the family was ripped apart. Took me years to of hard work to build my businesses. Everything went “whoooosh” in a flash. Right now for you….stay positive,protect your mindset,your health. Rebuilding is hard- but this is when the true and…
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/26 11:25 AM
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Ugh bro. Am sorry dude. I went through similar- slept in my suv for a month. It is doable….just hard. Especially if it’s cold, snowing or raining. Try room rentals—- plenty of people looking for roommates.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/26 01:49 AM
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Congratulations! New journey ahead of ya. We got ur back!
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/26 08:00 PM
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Mediation is great but keep in mind, they are trying to close everything as quickly as possible- so NOT to waste any time in court. Do you have a lot of assets? Maybe sit down with pen and paper- write down everything that’s there. Come up with a plan that she can and will agree upon. Show it to the STBX. See what she has to say
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/26 01:57 PM
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My EX got close to a mil —- in cash. Liquidated almost all my assets/business. And a few $K in lawyers fees. We settled- I assumed all debt. Liquidated what I have to to give her the cash. Yup…..best decision ever. I am still living in the basement of one of my rentals but life is grand. Still driving a 10 years old paid off Hyundai.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 10:58 AM
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Brother, it hurts like hell. You did everything right as a man,father and husband. You did everything to your knowledge and ability to give,provide and plan the future. Yeah,I said it- planned for their future. I am sure you have denied plenty of “fun things “ that you want to do or could have done. It’s ok to be angry. I still am- somewhat. Not angry about myself but the legacy I had built for the family- watching it crumbled and destroyed in front of me. I didn’t build it for me…..for my daugh…
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 10:51 AM
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Seriously? You are making sound decisions and she is countering it with emotional wants. That’s the F-Ing problem these days. Women want men to lead the relationship- men does it wisely. Women just want without any kind of financial understanding. And willing to let everything go when they don’t get what they want! I went through the same thing. I am divorced now…..broke but am slowly rebuilding my net worth. Ex was close to a millionaire after divorce and now…..broke and can’t keep a job. And y…
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/26 03:57 PM
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Absolutely sucks…….. it’s takes 2 to make a marriage work. If she doesn’t want to….and especially when governed by emotion- it’s over. YOU ARE GOING TO DRIVE YOURSELF CRAZY if you keep on pushing and hoping that she ll come to her senses. Protect your mental health. Protect you. Right now, your mind is demanding answers. Or anything reasonable. It’s normal. And it’s OK. I went through it,most of us here went through it. That’s why this group is about. We are here for each other.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/26 02:07 PM
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No. It’s too painful to “constantly “ go back. And be in a relationship that none want to be in. The resentments are already engraved into the relationship. You can pretend, create a facade, whatever. But do you want to live the rest of your life unhappy…..and ANGRY?.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/26 11:15 AM
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Just make sure it doesn’t happen again- you are not going to win….. YOU WON ALREADY.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/26 12:17 PM
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Wow, same old story everywhere . Ex destroyed me financially and…..mentally. Lawyer up, bro.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/26 01:42 PM
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I kept all the pics. No matter how I want to see it, she is the mother of my children. I just changed my view of her.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/26 10:10 PM
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Any amount due to her, whatever extra payment you make/made, anything you spent on them- document everything! If she ran out of gas…. And you filled her tank…….everything,anything—- document it. I am divorced but I still document everything in a binder/folder. Am sorry that you are going through these. I am very well versed in this. Get a lawyer asap. As a man, husband, father- you want to go right with your family. You are going far and beyond to make sure that they are comfortable- but right n…
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/26 10:50 AM
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My 2 cents——if you are happy with the verbal agreement or anything- DO NOT SIGN anything. Yes,lawyers are expensive but it’s gonna cost you more in the long run. She can and will take as much as she wants. Seek legal advice asap,please. It is worth fighting for the future you.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/26 11:59 AM
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Sorry bro. That totally sucks- big time. One day, you are the father,family man- and bam, now you have to struggle just to see your own kids! Divorce sucks. I was in the same position you are in now. Built a great nest. Everything was positioned strategically and ……went to “hero to zero”$$$. I lived in my car(long story) for a month. And then,moved into a basement. Struggled for over a year until divorce was finally settled. During the separation,X constantly used my daughter against me. Multipl…
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/26 01:03 PM
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Men, most men,will look at their wives(back then) and think they are the hottest thing since sliced bread. Men don’t go by emotions or validation- the core- being the father,husband and man of the household. Men overlooked many things. Men stayed faithful because of his family. Whatever it takes to keep the family , HAPPY. SO, fast forward- now she s my ex! Does the perspective change? Ex is beautiful, but the ugliness of what she has DONE TO ME….makes her “ugly” And that will always stay with m…
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/26 09:57 PM
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Honestly,it normal to feel all that emotions. Is it Ok? That’s a different story because of the circumstances. So, you snapped. You lashed out in anger. That’s exactly what she wanted. Getting rid of all that emotions are going to be impossible. I know you are seeking answers to everything that’s going on right now. Rightfully, you deserved to know………truthfully, bro to bro- you will NOT get. No matter how much you plead,how hard you try-YOU WILL NOT GET THE ANSWER. My only advice to you now is s…
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/26 06:20 AM
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The $3500 will go fast , bro. Every letter,phone call, even looking at a piece of paper/email…… That - is the one thing I regret not settling sooner with x.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/26 06:32 PM
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Man…..the lawyers are happy that they are making so much money off you guys The more they do, the more they make.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/26 06:16 PM
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The normalization of the modern mind. Today, social media and society had painted the picture that everything is acceptable and does not require any form of responsibilities. It’s a throw away society. You can always get a new one.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/26 10:34 AM
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Divorce is and can be simple…..until there’s either money and children involved- or both. If she wants nothing - then it’s quick and painless. No need for lawyer and/or you guys can work it out the $$$. so she initiated but did she file yet? If she did,did you signed anything?
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/26 11:30 AM
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Sorry that you are going through these. It is normal. And it’s OK. You are still in the phase of mourning. And slowly ,healing. Yes,today’s world- marriage are viewed differently than the past. Expectations are different. Acceptance- that’s different as well. Right now, do you. Create the best version of you. Discipline your mindset and learn to control your emotions. “Are they any good women out there?” Maybe,maybe not. Just don’t ponder or focus on that. If there’s one for you- she will come t…
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/26 02:00 PM
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You are not crazy and you are NOT ALONE! During my separation, I was slammed by PFA(protection from abuse) every few. Why? Because I refused to sign the divorce papers. And ex was using the only leverage against me - the children. Was in court so many times that my lawyer wd chuckle everytime I went to him saying that. Got served PFA again! Every single one of them were tossed out because it was baseless. My advise- stand tall,my friend. Control your emotions. She is on a mission right now. You …
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/26 10:16 AM
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I don’t see a right way or wrong in this situation. Dating or relationship is subjective to our needs and wants. In this fast paced world, emotions seem to set priorities over expectations. Healthy or unhealthy is how you describe yourself through your journey. You have to know yourself. Do you want,or do you need? Do you like your space or don’t? Happiness is how you paint your world today. During my separation for 2 years, I thought I had healed(accepted my separation). I had plenty of women t…
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/26 11:54 PM
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Amen,bro. Preach!
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/26 02:38 PM
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How long have you been married? Marriage is complicated. You have 2 individuals trying to be one. To be a team. Compromising is key, especially when it’s done through LOVE. With LOVE. Both has to compromise- together as one. It’s hard to say who is right , and siapa yang salah. Communication is so important right now. Right now- there’s a lot of finger pointing. And passive aggressive active. Each trying to make his/her point across. Resentment will continue until there’s communication. Your fee…
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/26 01:50 PM
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That’s the worst part, the worst feeling. Silence, emptiness, somehow ring the loudest. This is WHEN your mind starts racing, thinking ,pondering etc. What helped me—— keep myself busy. I started volunteering- church,homeless shelter etc. Try not to engage ur mind with negativity- break away from social media. Listen to motivation videos- plenty on YouTube. *** if you are religious- get deeper into it. *** Surround yourself with positive conversations and company. STAY AWAY from processed food. …
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/26 01:41 PM
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She won’t and will never admit it. Thats why- like the song == DONT KNOW WHAT YOU GOT TILL ITS GONE.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/26 12:25 AM
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Relationship is basically a business- a partnership. Any business has its ups and downs. Same with marriage. Women…. Society told them that they need to have standards. A checklist- a perfect man. Is that reality? In so many words- men- we are expected to be perfect. Life is not perfect. It’s the imperfections that made it perfect. Through trust and compromises. Men, most men don’t ask for a lot in a marriage. Men do what they must for their family. Compromised a lot to make the family- HAPPY. S…
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/26 11:35 PM
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Check with lawyer/legality. Get a POSTNUPTIAL/POSTNUP. Start separating the asset now and assets moving forward.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/26 12:56 PM
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Women! Dannnngggg women! Kid(s) are always the pawn. Honestly, sucks to be a man in America. That’s why over 63% of homeowners in America are women. Guess how many got it through divorces? You need to either sit down with her. Drop a lump sum. And get everything in writing/agreement from lawyers(hers and yours) Or …….get a nasty lawyer - to represent you.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/26 12:54 AM
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Why are you even doubting it? You are 36 years old ! A young man! Get your life together. Build an empire. Stay positive. And they ll be chasing you. Single women, married women and old women! You- are a gift to women,bro! Reverse your thinking! I am 58 now. I do me. I don’t chase anymore. I am broke AF- seriously- drive an old car- a Hyundai actually! But I went from broke to owning multiple rental properties in 2 years. Still broke but all temporary. Eat well, dress well, super fit for my age,…
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/26 12:45 AM
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A lot of men- when they get married,gave their all into the marriage. You live your family. You had lived,loved,gave, sacrificed etc into your marriage/commitment. You had disciplined yourself into the husband,father,provider,etc Healing takes a longgggg time. You are still healing,bro. Those thoughts you are having are part of the emotions that you have to heal from. New relationship,or new love is part of moving forward. Take your time. Slowly,letting go of those thoughts. Focus on your now. N…
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/26 11:46 AM
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Yup! Don’t. I know it’s hard but….she don’t care. I know you want her to care or at least feel something. You go do you. Be the best you can be.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/26 10:46 PM
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I feel you on that. I lost everything during the separation and the divorce. And now, paying child support even after I gave her everything. It’s traumatic- especially when you spent ur time , effort- basically your life, years of it- to be ripped apart. So again, I FEEL you. One thing my dad told me when I was a child, that people can take physical things from you but they can never take your mind/brain. I am 58 now. And honestly,I am rebuilding myself. my worth. My walk with God has never been…
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/26 02:36 PM
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All depends on your journey. What do you want from life or expect from life. I went from a king size to an inflatable single bed for a few months. Then a single bed frame with single mattress. Now I am up to a queen. I want to rebuild myself financially- so, for a while, I am surviving on basic “what I need” And it’s worth it. I went from $0 to owning 3 rental properties now. And still living in a basement apartment.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/26 12:42 PM
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NY state - get a lawyer asap. Bylaw, the premarital house is yours- legally. But during the marriage- and length of marriage- how much was put into the house? Joint bank account? Co-mingling finances? In today world- “I came with nothing,left with nothing” does not apply. SHE CAME WITH NOTHING AND WANT/WILL LEAVE WITH EVERYTHING- including YOUR ⚾️ ⚽️ LAWYER up , bro. We are here for you and with you It’s time for us brothers to rise up!
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/26 01:59 PM
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At this point- get your head straight. Lawyers equal MoNEy. Time equals headache,pain etc. Resentment, Anger, Pissed! And the list of crazy emotions can and will go on and on. Planning is essential at this point. A clear,healthy mind and body will allow you to focus on the situation and its outcome. Most importantly- to protect your well being.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/26 01:47 PM
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Sorry you are going through these, bro. Yup, it’s always the same story. Am speaking for myself as well. She is ready for battle. Please, do get ready for one. I am not going to echo what everyone had said. At this point, your mind will be your biggest enemy. Your emotions will run wild. Doubt, insecurities,hurt, anger etc- those emotions will run rampage. And it is normal. Very normal. You have to try your best to control them. Eat healthy! You don’t need junk food to bogged you down. You need …
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/26 10:45 AM
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I am so so so sorry bro. I went through the same thing! Ex told them that dad was NOT well. Well, my EX was the one that cheated, that filed etc. corrupted the kids mind- all because she wanted to be with her “man”- in so many word- get the husband(me then) out of the house! Right now, you have to control your emotions. You didn’t do anything wrong. Yet, men. Us men are the bad guys in most divorces- and yes,filed by women. Be strong,bro. We are here for each other. Let her be who she wants to b…
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/26 04:51 PM
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No “chit chat” for me. I only talk about the children. Decided not to engage in any form of emotional conversations. Funny, EX cracked many sexual jokes- so many times! And yes , “initiated “sex” as well. Nope. At 58 years old…..mentally, emotionally and spiritually abused , left for dead, turned my children against me….. yea, the list goes on. Am now with an ex beauty queen….. who can’t get enough of my 🥕? Now EX wanna some too? You do you, brother. Leave them emotions for someone else.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/26 04:27 PM
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Bro, you have to let that go. Sincerely, you need to let that go. I know it’s easier said than done. I was that person as well. Please do it for your sanity. I used to think that I was /am doing it for my children. Truth is that, we are worthless if we can take care of our emotions. Clouded emotions are NOT good. Never good Slowly, back away. Control the emotions. Focus on what you can be for your children when all these are over. YOU HAVE DONE ENOUGH FOR THE UNGRATEFUL
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/26 03:10 PM
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Just be careful ….and mindful. I held on, allowing myself to “decompose “- literally- hoping, hoping that things will go back to the way in was. I went from September 2023 @ 180lbs(lean) to December [email protected]. (The weight not seen since my middle school days) My advice to everyone right now is to take care of your temple- your body. Healthy eating heal and sustain your mind. I am not completely healed but I stayed because my past can help others. Divorce is one of the craziest emotional roll…
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/26 01:23 PM
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The feelings will come and go. And especially when married- you have everything you got into the marriage. The commitment that was betrayed, the hurt, the pain etc- and worse, if you have kids. It does get better. Time- I promise- does heal. For you, just make sure that you EAT right. A healthy lifestyle is essential to your/our healing. ❤️‍🩹. I went through the same thing. I prolonged the divorce because I was “hoping” that she ll make a turn around. And being mentally and emotionally abused by…
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/26 01:39 PM
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Noted! Don’t have anything under your name! If you need to “hedge”, do it quietly. In “small” amount. I hate having to do or say all these things Sadly ,men lose too much during a divorce. Anything “under your name” will be considered marital assets.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/26 05:39 PM
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It’s a complicated one. How “severe” or “bad” is the situation?when I was married- she wd blow the $$$ with nothing to show for. Judge will always say marital assets.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/26 11:55 AM
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Wife or ex wife? Or separated? Hate to say this here- can only speak for myself- start saving $$$ under the mattress.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/26 11:41 AM
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What a beautiful prayer! 🙏🏻
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/26 02:14 AM
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Buy her out of you can. Keep the house if you can. You mentioned “we” bought the house- is her name of the mortgage or both names on mortgage? If her name is on it- did u guys apply for the mortgage together? If that’s the case, the lender may not allow her to quit claim the house to you. Quit claim - in that case may trigger “subject to” , depending on the lender. You may need to speak to your mortgage lender on that. Where are you located?
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/26 12:09 AM
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Definitely,get a new lawyer. My ex threatened to sue me - *** during the marriage- my mom mentioned to her that she has something for me. *** Women are ruthless- they want all your money,retirement funds etc….and your 🏀⚽️ Get a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/26 07:51 PM
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Bro, do not have anything under your name or anything that your name “might” be tied to Let the divorce finalized first. Plan your plans but wait……. Ex lawyer(s) frozen all my accounts. And put liens on all my properties
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/26 07:04 PM
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Vent away , bro. It’s healthy. I am in the same boat. Divorce finalized last year - 2025. Fast forward, we got 50-50. She got the house and $160k in cash(another 140k this year 2026). And she is broke in less than a year??? She is horrible with finances. Has horrible work ethics. Anger management issues etc. reminding me a few times a week when can I have the balance of the 140k for her?- which I will get for her this summer. Am paying child support and everything else for my daughter. Honestly,…
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/26 04:02 PM
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Am sorry that you are going through this. I was in that position. Then I realized that I was hoping that “ being in love again” was going to “save” me. The only one that’s going to “save you” is you. The love for you, yourself, your well being. Your sanity. Don’t look for love…. Or validation from love You are young (31). At your prime! Focus on you. Your career, your journey, your life. Will you love again? Absolutely! The person will come to you. Till then, focus on you. Don’t let emotions con…
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/26 11:05 AM
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Definitely! BUT only after I healed myself! I dated quite a few before the “healing “ part. And not ashamed to say it here- I COULDNT GET IT UP! I realized that I wasn’t heal(mindset and emotions) So , I stopped. Start by nurturing my body and mind. Today, I am seeing the hottest blondie in da world(in my eyes) that can’t get enough of me ! Yup, at 58 yrs old.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/26 07:02 PM
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Keep yourself busy. I volunteered at local churches and food banks. Continue your mindset of doing good. I listened to a lot of motivation videos on YouTube- pretty much that’s what playing nonstop instead of music. Napoleon Hill, Myles Munroe,
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/26 10:57 PM
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Women- they know what they are doing. Women always have their backup plans. To your situation- I am truly sorry,bro. My answer to this is NO. She betrayed you with her toxicity. And NO, you should not go back to her
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/26 03:04 PM
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I am here to say—- FIGHT FOR YOUR KIDS, bro! I don’t care how evil, how vile, how obnoxious, how degrading, how disrespectful your wife/EX is. Kids need you! Don’t let her corrupt the kids even more-with her toxic behavior. Wish you the best
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/26 08:28 PM
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Bro, you just sit back and smile. Be the best dad you can be if you have kids. Divorced because X fell out of love(bs) was having an affair. She was the one that filed. Lost my business and rental properties cuz X wanted cash. Fast forward - the guy dumped her. Her job fired her. And she is broke. Not my problem.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/26 05:59 PM
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Women- they said they want a man who leads. How can one lead when they are being challenged, disrespected,mocked etc? Eve was the one that tempted Adam
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/26 01:59 PM
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Sorry,man. That’s rough. You are and will be going through a bunch of rollercoaster 🎢 Yea, it don’t seem to be fair. But at this time, be careful with your mental health. Situation like this is what breaks a man,father,husband etc. Do seek the council of a lawyer. It does sound like she has been planning these for a while. So,it’s best that you are lawyered up- know your rights. Do you have any close friends that you can talk to? We are here for you as well.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/26 07:17 PM
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Just go and have fun. Dont force anything. Dont expect anything. Heal yourself first
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/26 12:31 AM
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May seem like a good idea but NO! NO! Do not! Be done and be gone. You don’t need to know what she is doing and she don’t need to know yours. Right now, coexist feels right to you- trying to do what’s right for the kids. It’s actually sending very mixed messages to them. And you are jeopardizing your mental health. Please don’t put yourself through that! How do you feel- one night, kids are with you- and you are hearing your X being pounded upstairs or below you?(* sorry for being so direct). Le…
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/26 12:24 AM
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Thanks man. Deep and real, my friend. I needed to hear that today.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/26 01:00 AM
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Protection from abuse
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/26 10:22 PM
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Yes. They can help but she is going to have to refinance the house. Your name will need to be removed. Talk to your bank/mortgage company. Some will let it “slide” if significant amount was paid forward - now with less amount owed. May. - lender based
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/26 12:14 PM
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After over 2 years of uncertainty—- worst was the mind F- and more blood loss— I drafted a financial breakdown that she agreed upon. Handed her the worst case scenario- if we went to courts, we both get pennies on the dollar. Most women don’t understand finance. They just see the numbers and assets- not the loans,mortgages etc- behind the scene stuff. Since we agreed upon- we had our lawyers drafted a contract and both signed it —- and was done with. Honestly,courts don’t wanna deal with divorce…
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/26 08:02 AM
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Do you have a lawyer? If not, it’s time to get one. X seems like she is out for blood and more blood. I am not a lawyer but I don’t think you should - IMO , unless they/she go through proper channels- court ordered subpoenas etc Am sorry you are going through this. My X /lawyer went and placed out lien on all my business and properties. Never did ask for my social media info.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/26 07:27 AM
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Bro, please do not give up on your kids. How old are they? They need you. I know it’s hard. That’s what she wants from you. The system is F up. I am truly sorry you have to go through this. How old are the kids? Don’t let your kids grow up without their father. They need you to guide them. Go down to the courthouse. Find out if there are any assistance available to/for you. Again, don’t sign. Be strong for your kids
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/26 02:30 AM
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Market is and has always been sideways for winter. You can educate urself using Zillow- look up houses sold within the last 3 months- within the 5 miles radius. Thats your “comp”. Is the house paid for? Mortgage? Are you buying out the ex? Appraiser can do so much- will be 10-20% give and take. Housing market falls the same way. Get another appraiser if you wish. You might be opening a new can of worms if STBX don’t like the numbers. Then more lawyers involvement==more $ and time You have to pic…
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/26 04:28 PM
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Congratulations! I stayed because I believe my experience can help others. And yes, helping my brothers! The system favors the women. Men went from full time fathers to “pay child support” if you want to see your kids father
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/26 03:03 AM
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How long have you been married? If it’s over 10 years, there is not much you can do about it. She will get half of everything- house,retirement(s) etc. Do you have kids? If yes, if this goes to court- you will have to pay “child support”. Alimony- also depends on the years of marriage and financial “situation”.(or greed) Are you guys able to “resolve” these before the judge? Come up with a breakdown of whats what- a financial breakdown- eg divided of assets. Dont mentioned alimony etc. ask her w…
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/26 01:21 AM
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The boundaries were crossed. You have to do you- you have given her enough grace. You need to find your peace and happiness. You deserved that much- for YOU and your child. All the best
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/26 06:41 PM
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Living under the same roof? Same bedroom or separate? What if you/she meets someone and bring him/her home? Will you or her be ok hearing or knowing that the “deeds” are happening behind the door(s)? Well, I can’t. Fast forward- I am friends with my X. Basically for our daughter. Beside that- I don’t need to know anything else. Sorry for being so blunt but it’s reality.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/26 06:37 PM
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Definitely seek the counsel of a lawyer asap. What you want and what she wants are 2 different things. You can state your logic- the court will still side with her. I went through 2 years of hell with mine. First year- my mental health deteriorated- BADLY! At this point, everything that’s logical, whatever- will be seen as an attack on her beliefs. And make no sense to her. Right now,it’s about what she wants and what she will get. Some states (not sure where you are) will require 1 year of sepa…
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/26 07:06 PM
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STOP beating yourself up We ALL have faults. We ALL fall short. Can never be the perfect husband,wife,father etc Yes, you are at your lowest point. I was at well at one point. Being married, we cannot go by how we feel- our emotions cannot dictate how a marriage should work. It’s the partnership- the disagreements, the lows of life, the willingness to make it work. Not waking up one day and say “I don’t feel that I am in love anymore”. Ok. I am gonna cut to the chase. She is seeing someone. She …
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/26 02:10 PM
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She cannot force you to sell the house…but you will have to buy her out - her share: half of the profit after all the mumbo jumbo tax and stuff. Unfortunately, that’s how the system works Half is hers. She is not and will not think of the kids right now. To her, she deserves it. Doesn’t matter what is , what if , could or should. You- DO NOT MOVE OUT OF THE HOUSE. How long have you guys been married? That might/may factor in the distribution of marital assets—- if it’s under 10 years. Are you gu…
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/26 01:26 AM
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Hey bro. I want to encourage you to keep going. I framed the items I “got” from the psych/mental wards. I hate the labels that society put on us. Are we supposed to feel nothing when OUR family are destroyed? Especially when we sacrificed for years? So what, society can label us “crazies”? Are we supposed to smile and say it’s ok and simply move on? Nah bro. Don’t let them rob you of your manhood. You are perfect. Made perfect by God. Do we have flaws? PLENTY! But it’s by GRACE that we are made …
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/26 12:15 PM
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I am going to sidetrack this a bit. I totally feel your pain. A marriage is a partnership. Marry because you see potential in partnering with that person. Through thick and thin. Fighting each and every battle together. One day, u are strong and she is weak. One day, she is strong and you are weak. Women, in so many words are and will be emotional creatures. They want to feel. They live by feelings- in so many words- EMOTIONS dictates their journey. I don’t want to sound like a chauvinist……. In …
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/26 11:51 AM
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Took me a good 2 years to finally “able to see” myself. See the man in the mirror. Ex took everything from me- dignity,self respect….and my daughter. My lawyer laughed every time I called him. The joke? “Another PFA?” X had filed so many PFAs that it’s not even funny anymore- and each one was tossed out because it was for some absurd reasons. Told everyone that I was crazy, dangerous…..withholding daughter from contacting me….. destroyed my fatherhood and yes,my manhood. Destroyed all my busines…
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/26 03:04 AM
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Loss of my family devastated me. Lost my businesses. And most importantly, my time with my daughter. Slept in my car for a month. Broke and “homeless”. On so many pills- 12 to be exact- twice a day! That’s 24 stupid pills daily. Branded crazy….u named it! Finally,gave her , her $400k (sold business etc) in CASH! Divorced in 2025….Fast forward, rebuilding myself…..still. Down to 2 pills (my sugar) No “job” ….but owning 4 properties now. Yes, asset rich,cash poor. Found myself a wonderful,beautifu…
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/26 03:39 PM
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I am so sorry,bro. I know that feeling too well. I will be praying for ya. Be strong- don’t let your emotions get the best out of you. All the best
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/26 02:00 AM
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I wd try…..attempt…..to resolve this before going in front of the judge. Talk to your STBX if possible If now talk to ur lawyer. And maybe set up a meeting together. Lawyer= money. Money= time. I am rebuilding my life right now. Went through over 2 years of uncertainty. I sat down with ex- came to an agreement. Then informed our lawyers that we came to a conclusion and have the lawyers draft the agreement. Bammmm, signed and it’s all over. No more pain, uncertainty etc. yes, she got the better e…
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/26 03:42 AM
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Ugh. Am sorry ,bro! I am horrified how many men,husband,FATHER,etc been treated when it comes to divorce! I can definitely see how many men went completely south after divorce. Sadly,lawyers will be lawyers- that’s their job- livelihood, in so many words. The longer, the better….. I wish you well, dude.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/26 11:40 PM
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DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE! Get a lawyer asap- as in NOW Document everything that’s going on. Do you have people around you that you can trust- and talk to? The most important thing now is to protect your mindset- and control your EMOTIONS
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/26 11:40 AM
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Come up with your own numbers. Then run it over with your STBX- that is if you guys “can talk”. Personally, after 2 yrs of “fighting “,I realized that the whole ordeal had caused me more harm- mentally, spiritually and financially. Her demands were insane but I came up with a plan that benefits her and me It’s really up to your mindset- can you rebuild? Are you a go getter? I basically sold a few properties - And businesses ….and managed to keep a few for myself….and…and…and assumed all marital …
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/26 12:06 AM
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Every situation is different. I am glad your eldest is thriving with the arrangements. Divorce is a complicated thing. No one answer for all. As the therapist said to us- no court papers/orders etc- do what’s best for your children.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/26 04:37 PM
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Honestly, reading this really upsets me. Children are not rag dolls to be tossed around household to household. There are no sense of belonging/ STABILITY. In the beginning,my ex and I had very similar arrangements. We went to a few counseling sessions and were advised- whatever we do, do it for the kid(s). Papers/ assignments are just “notes”- yes ,by law,legal language - but if both parents can agree and be amicable- together-ness raising the children. Do it / sacrifice for their well-being. F…
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/26 03:03 AM
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Bro, you are not alone. I hate it when people kept referring that to mental health! What is a real man supposed to do when he had given everything to the marriage? And especially if you have kids! I went through hell myself when x manipulated my kid during the divorce My advice to you- hang in there. Yes, it’s HARD! Firstly, change ur eating habit/food intake. Healthy eating will heal your mind. Slowly, focus on what can be. “STOP BEING AFRAID IF WHAT COULD GO WRONG AND THINK OF WHAT COULD GO RI…
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/26 06:23 PM
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I am so sorry. I can totally relate. You have every right to feel the way you feel right now. “Can’t climb out of it” is true - temporary. But it’s a valid feeling. Hang in there. Focus on you- yourself and your kids. Things will slowly turn around Focus on your mindset. Healthy eating is key. Lots of fruits and veggies. Exercise daily Rebuild yourself- the better and stronger version of yourself. I lost all my businesses- and slowly rebuilding them right now. I am living in the basement of one …
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/25 01:49 PM
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You are not alone. The system is broken. I am surprised that you mentioned zero visitation. Whatever you do- always have ur kid(s) in mind. You are living and doing what you are already….and will be doing for them. I was in the same position- homeless and living in my car. Today, I am living in my basement-of my house! I am house hacking my way back. The rest of the rooms are rented out as room rentals/roommates. Divorce is a complicated thing. One thing I learned- they can break you. They can a…
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/25 01:23 AM
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Same position here. But please,do not sell the biz. I made agreement with ex that I will assumed all marital debts and will/sold a few properties (so she can get the cash). If u sell the biz,it will be harder to rebuild. Keep what u do best.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/25 10:06 PM
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I am with you right there. Am 57 and just lost my career(as designer) due to medical reasons(essential tremors etc). I do have a young daughter. Divorce really breaks a person.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/24 01:51 PM
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It’s sad because today- everyone treats everything with options. To quit rather than working towards the betterment. If they only spend as much effort on the marriage, rather than divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/24 12:07 PM
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Relationship and marriage- really sucks in this so called modern age. Values are gone. Morals are gone. Vows meant nothing. I am so sorry. I know the pain and confusion that you are going through. Most of us here can relate- I can. Try to stay sane at this point. She will continue to “slap ya” until the divorce is over or she gets what she wants. Ugly truth about our modern marriages and divorces.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/24 11:01 PM
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Ahhhh the click and bait. Well, that’s FUCKED UP-pardon my French. I have a PFA right now on me- can’t wait for this to be over. Backtrack- she put a temporary PFA, then came over a few days later to “talk”. Stupid me was like “ok,I ll listen “. She got emotional and start cursing me out so I told her- “am not talking to you like this, I ll talk to you when you are calm”! A few days later, silly me - went over. I knocked on the door and she called the cops and had me arrested. Wooo hooo. Fast fo…
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 08:56 PM
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100%. You became who you are in your group of friends- divorced or toxic friends. You want your lifestyle to align with theirs. Their morals, their values etc. sad world we live in today.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 03:28 PM
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Well, it sucks to be you, it suck’s to be me, it just sucks period. Honestly, we ALL SUCKED! But I know I can think of a few things that we don’t suck at. You being you and me being me. You are a great son- you excelled beyond expectations! You are only 35!- hooray for having a good job at 35! You are a hard worker- yes, your dedication are noted and appreciated! The hell with what people think of you! The hell with those damn meds that they say u should take! The hell with what society dictates…
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 03:17 PM
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Bro. If u smoke crack, a drunk etc. spent all day playing video games. Does nothing etc. that’s ON YOU. That’s is beyond unhealthy! That’s abusive! Unhealthy relationship has NO commitment- it’s a one sided love story. Try clapping with one hand. You have to accept the consequences- period. I am referring to men who are committed and does everything he can for/to the relationship and the spouse are demanding more. Or “fell out of love” as she feels the lovey lovey feeling is gone from the relati…
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 10:44 PM
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Well…. Yes. I am referring to us first. What are you doing/I am doing/ we are doing. You don’t have a choice/ we don’t have a choice if we are but they won’t. I am simply saying that in today’s world- that’s the mindset of most people. There are no more commitments as morals and values are considered old fashioned. Hence the new values - we have today. Both must have the same values for anything to work.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 09:00 PM
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That’s the problem today. Back in the days- we entered something whether it’s a job, hobby , relationship etc. we do not start something with “OPTIONS” in the back of our heads. Today, we jumped from one to another when things don’t “go our way “. My daughter is 10- she went from karate to judo to kungfu….each time things got “hard”(test time). She called it quit and ex supported her- “let her find something else”. So said, we are embracing the mindset that we can call it quit anytime we want. B…
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 08:26 PM
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Life sux until u realized that “the best just happened to you”. Amen brother amen!
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 06:10 PM
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It’s called - experience. Many men whose ex filed for divorce will tell you that- one of the many reasons why she wanted a divorce from you.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 12:26 AM
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And yes- you are damaged goods. We all are damaged goods. You , yourself have to come down to the conclusion and acceptance that it’s NOT your fault. If you have given the best of you- it’s not your fault.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 12:13 AM
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Personally,I can possibly“deal with it” if it’s just one time- or one affair- but multiples? It’s up to you , bro. You want her to be cheating on you for the rest of your life?let’s say you stayed because of the kids—-well, right now, you are leaving because of the kids. That is not the kind of woman you want to be around your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 02:28 AM
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Start “storing” away your bread. Live as poor as you can. Go to food banks for help. Do you “poor”. Do not give her anything- if u have to for the kids- never do CASH. Use Venmo, cashapp etc. give just “enough” and make sure u put a note on every transactions! That’s ur record. She is out for blood…and half of your balls(sorry bro).
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 02:12 PM
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It’s their job to make more money from you. She is out for blood…lawyer is happy to help.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 11:52 AM
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All these “wrongdoing “ and you still want advise on how to “fix things”- YOUR way? You brought all these upon yourself/yourselves……truthfully, does not align with most of our values here.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 11:43 AM
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Truth ….its not her lawyers- it’s her. She wants half of your balls. In her whatever mind- you have money- just because you had carried yourself well. She put you into this. And yes, your debt is part of marital debt.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 01:17 AM
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I am so sorry you are going through all these. She is or will be out for blood at this time. She don’t and will not care what you had done. Or how much you had done for her and the family. To her- her happiness - her selfishness- is her priority. She will use everything against you, including kids if u have them- she will and has driven you to the point of insanity. She will claim you are insane or you are on the verge of insanity- that you are UNFIT. They will not see that it was the commitment…
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 05:39 PM
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No no no! And another BIG NO! I fking hate to even say this. If there’s a divorce looming…..I hate. Hate. Hate. To say this. Cash is king. Like pigs in a blanket- catch my drift?
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/24 09:09 PM
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Wish I can give you guys each a hug. So sad hearing all these stories and situations! And yes, they are all similar! I really “hate” it hearing all these women are just doing basically the same thing. Ok firstly, do not move out. Assets will be 50/50. Have her pay you spousal support. Sadly, whatever you had done for her don’t mean jack to our broken system(no fault states). These “modern women”- eg “we make our own money” - are conditioned today that divorce is acceptable. Society dictates it’s…
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/24 08:43 PM
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I know how you feel. I can relate. Right now, TRY to stay in control- for yourself. Eat right. It’s very important to us right now. To our brains. When I say I can relate—— in January 2024, I was so depressed- I was 127.9lbs when they measured me at the hospital. I am 149lbs right now. I used to be btwn 165-175lbs. But slowly getting there. All I can say ….again- eat right….take care of your body and ur mind. It’s hard,it ain’t easy but try.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/24 11:24 PM
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Thank you for sharing. If you did your best for your family during the marriage- you did your best. Doing and being the best is all you can do in a marriage/relationship. The intention of this post is not to play the blame game. Granted, if a person is abusive , substance dependency etc- the SO has every right to terminate the matrimony. Majority of marriages or relationships today basically comes down to values and commitments. If that ONE person is doing everything- that is enough. A husband p…
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/24 06:53 PM
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100%. My therapist(since he left the practice) has became my good friend. He already told me that it’s not me. Women(and man) with “issues” will always blame you as their source of unhappiness. Too many men were told and degraded beyond insanity-believing that they were the problems. Recently as well, I befriended a phycologist- she actually again, confirmed that I wasn’t the problem and most importantly-I WASNT GOING CRAZY. Truth is that- situations like our has left many men confused,
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/24 01:49 PM
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Man….brother…I feel for you! This is beyond horrible! At this point- not only she seeks to destroy you,but has degraded- mindF-ed you as a man! Unfortunately, our system does nothing for the man. All your proof maybe valid but most likely won’t stand up in court. All you can do now is be there for your kids. She will use them as much as she can to her benefits. Marital home belongs to both. She knows it. But only way she can “kick” you out is order of protection- honestly, is BS. She will claim …
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/24 11:53 AM
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Man….firstly- happy birthday. Second and the most important- make this your best birthday with your kids. Buy urself a cake. And multiple boxes of candles. Have them place as much as they want or can on the cake. Sing happy birthday together. And on the count of 3- blow out all the candles together. Smile, laugh and laugh and LAUGH WITH THEM. And that- is your reason why you are the FATHER. happy birthday,buddy.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/24 08:12 PM
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I am “triggered “ everytime I read posts like this. It makes me angry how a person can-“in a flick of a switch”- become this angry,violent ,enemy. Actually, worse than an enemy. Enemy can destroy you but this person seeks not only to destroy but the degrade you. I am sorry,bro. Am so sorry for ALL THE MEN that are going through this.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/24 01:16 PM
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Man. If we all chipped in with our stories. We can all write a book/books on them. It is ridiculous how some “people “ just “don’t get it”. Well, I guess these type of “circumstances “ are widely acceptable today. No morals,no values and no respect. We can’t say or do ____, because we are too “old fashioned “. I guess in a couple of years, when these next gen grow up- situations like this will be as normal as drinking water.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 01:36 PM
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I am going to say this is good ol plain English. Fuck that. She is out for blood. Mine is as well. Well, it’s funny. With divorces, we see the real them. I am done contesting mine- she wanna destroy everything for the kids- let it be. Let the court order the 50-50. 3 times already that she revised the condition. Sadly, that’s how women see divorces- “it’s time to make money”. Know what’s funny,last year- I was a self made millionaire. Today, I am flat broke as she froze all my assets. Yes,I have…
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 01:19 AM
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Brother, great mindset or not. It takes 2 to tango. But thank you. We are all here because we are all in similar situations. Our morals and values, and OLD FASHIONED …today are pitted against modern philosophy or thinking. No right,no wrong. Some call it evolution. Some easily and readily accept what is the norm today. Wishing you the best,bro.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 11:15 PM
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You can’t but you can. It won’t be easy. It won’t be now. It might not be even later. It’s the same as faith. All under His Grace. Slowly, softly and gently because we are grateful. Many things we can’t see- just yet. Right now, take care of you. Your well being. Your mind. Not easy, but you will, I will. We all will.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 05:25 PM
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You and your wife do what’s best for the child. The child is young. Mistakes are mistakes. We make mistakes every single day. But we strive forward. Forgive is a mindset game. Commitment is also a mindset game. When we can’t is what we tell ourselves. What we CAN is also what we tell ourselves.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 05:21 PM
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Honestly, I hear you. I am just going on a bias. And speak to you man to man. Both doesn’t want the marriage,OK. I get that. But why? The child is here. The child was conceived out of love at one point. What is going on that warrants a divorce? Feel out of love? But why? The child was happy when he is with both parents.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 04:46 PM
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The deal is good but I do have a question—— you have a 6 years old bro. What is going on that you want a divorce? I usually sides with men when it comes down to divorces. Think about your kid. A marriage is not having a child then you can decided you want to be free. A family is not represented by one entity but a unit.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 03:14 PM
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It’s him. He is selfish at this point. It’s all about his happiness. Blame the job,blame the cats,blame everything- because it’s easy. It’s easy to blame other and ready to jump to the next one- as in grass is greener on the other side. You stood for morals and values. You stood up for family and faith. You be found happiness in family. And most importantly, yourself. All your emotions and feeling are valid. Dont doubt it. Don’t doubt yourself. Don’t doubt your sincerity. Right now, you feel lik…
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 03:05 PM
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You know what’s funny? Everyman that was pounded with divorce - talks about fighting for their family. How devastated they are FOR their family. Men care about FAMILY. Women only about how “unhappy they are”. Men about “WE”. Women about “I”. And they dropped “he is a narcissist “. Because we care about family? Family values? Children? I wish I have better and nicer words to say for you, brother. We are….well, most of us are in this convulsing BS. You are the DAD & You will always be the father….…
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 02:53 PM
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I bet all of us here can write books after books regarding these ____! Funny, all them women are always asking for good men…..yet, they are the ones pulling all these ___! Well, oh well
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 06:58 PM
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Easy. Put her name on all my properties. Can’t sell, can’t borrow,can’t refi, nothing. A friend is gonna set a gofundme page- I hate,literally hate that woman. Helped all her siblings to buy investment properties. In the end- F me. Am not happy where I am at- living in basement of one of my properties. But am not going to let her destroy daughter’s investment.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 09:50 PM
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Basically all said- in the end- we,men has to pay for everything! Like you,Mine is not over yet. 3 times - 3 times!- each time- more - I want more $. Her lawyer kept revising as she kept demanding. And what’s worse?- all my assets and accounts are frozen by her and lawyer. Broke as F, and resorting to food banks for food! I don’t even have money for lawyers anymore!
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 09:29 PM
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Insist on couples therapy. Everyone today are so quick to jump to the next one. Remember your value, your morals and your vows during the wedding/marriage. We all change during the relationship- weight,new passions etc. it’s ok. That’s part of marriage. It’s not about self happiness- it matters. But look at the term FAMILY. Try and work it out bro- if you can
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 02:40 PM
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Dog shit is kinda tame and lame. We shld say Godzilla shit at this point. Am here , still here. Partially breathing to stay alive. Trying to keep my chin up. Last year,had family, wealth, businesses…..life was great! Today, living in a basement and resorting to food banks to survive. Still not over just yet. All my assets are currently frozen by her cunt lawyer. Can’t borrow ,can’t sell- I am in the real estate biz. Broke as fuck, somewhat happy as a lark.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 08:15 PM
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I think I am gonna start a new gig. Gonna start “giving out readings” to these women. Lots of $$$ to be made.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 08:09 PM
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A child never asked for 2 separate parents. Family values are never prioritized these days. Sorry, that you are going through this. Almost all the posts here has the same story. Fatherhood being stripped away from a father- because the wife/ex/stbx wanted “her happiness”. I know it hurts like hell right now. I feel your pain. Try journaling - I am. Write a letter to your son everyday in your journal. It’s hard not to be there for him and with him especially now-!you can’t even be here for yourse…
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 11:37 AM
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No kids? Get out while you can. Sounds like she needs help/medication etc . The no sex at this point is a blessing! She may want to have a baby but until you are sure—SURE- don’t! If you guys can’t work out the marriage….its time to leave.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 03:29 AM
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Mine is constantly crushing me because I refuse to sign the divorce papers that she and lawyers revised 3 times! Oh well, am enjoying the ride even tho I am broke as hell. And have to resort to food banks to survive as she froze all my accounts and investments. Yea, women claimed to be sweet until …………….
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 08:14 PM
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You can’t say that and be that—- u will easily labeled a narcissist! Always trying to control
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 12:02 AM
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When the new “modern” world priorities “I” rather than “we”, we are doomed from the get go. Back then, most understood the values of morals and traditions. When you have a family, the family is your priority. Man and woman stood together because of values. Every marriages has their ups and downs. Husbands and wives will never agree or see eye to eye on many things. But both accepted the responsibility of being parents- a family as a unit. Today, “I am not happy” is the most used statement. Kids …
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/24 09:00 PM
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Is it worth the fight? I am in the same position except I am flat broke. I am in real estate- she froze all my assets. Literally, after paying business,loans etc. I have a few dollars leftover every month, while everything is going up as I am paying the minimum to sustain. It’s been 3 times her lawyer changed their demands. I refused each time. It’s a struggle- yes,I went from that to going to food pantries for food. Sob story- I def gonna write a book on my survival. Haha actually,lived in my c…
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/24 01:06 PM
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I get angry everytime that I read something like this. Irrelevant or relevant- it don’t matter to her. Women these days get into relationships- and in the back of their head- they can get out easily. And with lots of $$$. Which state are you in? Some state you have to hit the 10 yrs mark before it can be must be split 50/50. You “don’t have to” sign the papers right away
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 11:59 PM
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Don’t sign s¥1t! Let her pay her part after the settlement. Take what is yours ….. and let her deal with hers. I am in a similar situation and ain’t signing anything. Let her destroy what you had created for your family. It’s sad. Mine is asking for me to pay off house and $500k in cash. All my business and assets are frozen by her and her lawyers. Sucks huh? And I am going to food banks for food. And I am living in the basement of one of my building. All good all good
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 11:58 PM
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Because you have morals. Morals are being thrown around today and being labeled “old fashioned “. No difference that someone demanding respect, rather that earned it. It’s easier to demand than to change oneself.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 10:07 PM
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Many men entered relationships/marriage….. and stayed faithful and true to their calling and responsibilities. Most Men make decisions with logic. Things are thought out and planned out. Women always “want to feel”- governed with and by emotion. They have to feel it to believe it. And sadly, that’s what we are being “taught” by our modern society today…..don’t get me started with social media and movies/entertainment.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 10:04 PM
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Funny she said”your changes came too late”. Why is that all these women ….married women, wife - always except the men to change? There’s always something we as men can complain about. But we don’t. We found contentment in the family- as whole. Women are always unhappy about something and we are always to blame for their unhappiness.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 06:08 PM
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Man, the US court system is broken. You can try…….less than 15% of custody are given to the men. That’s how women makes money. Unless she is doing physical bodily harm, your chances are slim and ….cost too much $.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 02:03 AM
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Sucks to be a man. Sucks to be righteous sometimes. Pay to get married. Now pay to see your own kids.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 08:49 PM
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Man, that’s our reality these days.They all want to “feel the love” constantly. Marriage is a commitment- we are never going to be lovey dubey all the time. Life,family,finances etc- so much going on everyday. As with a lot of divorces these days- 8 out of 10 are initiated by women because they don’t feel that “they are in love anymore”. It’s a sad case-but also a sad truth. To them, these new thinking is call empowerment or self love. Women can do anything these days- and don’t need a man. So s…
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 11:41 AM
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Man …. I feel for ALL my brothers here. Everything will be 50-50. Doesn’t matter how, what or why. Kinda suxs huh? Sad to be a man sometimes.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 12:43 PM
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Nope! Get the prenup! Every women says the same thing- we are not after the money. Every men that went through a divorce can and will tell you- they don’t care if it ll F-u up and will destroy u ever worked hard for. As long and they get their “happiness”. Not yours. Not your kids. Not your family. Her happiness
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 04:59 PM
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It’s a sad situation. Almost a mocked parody. Same position as ya. She hates dealing w finances etc. Establish the business and investments- no fault- 50/50 —- broken system
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 02:42 PM
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Amen!
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/24 09:52 PM
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No kids? Man, that’s a blessing! But am sorry you are going through this. In so many words- it’s shitty. It’s ok to feel how you feel. Part of me wanted mine to be over with …..part of me no- because of daughter. You are ok but not ok. But , it will be ok. Slowly, but surely.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 09:52 PM
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Hahahaha good for ya. But mannnnn, that “time” seems like forever- painful and more pain ….and yes, painful
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 01:26 AM
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Hello. Of course there are and will be exceptions. Every situation is different. And another hello, Asian American!
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 01:24 AM
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Don’t rush into anything. I did. Started see this wonderful lady- we clicked so well. But something just don’t sit right with me. Honestly, I am going to be honest. I couldn’t get it up. Lustfully, I want to. But I can’t. Just take time to heal,bro. It’s hard , impossible. But just try. And strive
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 02:10 PM
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Why? Because she was part of your life. You cannot erase that. Kids? Because you love them. As much as the reality that they have to learn. Fathers- we always sleep w one eye open. Maybe both when it comes down to our kids. No matter how old they are and how old you are. Do what you think it’s right. Just don’t go overboard.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 12:37 AM
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Ok I am going on a bias with my 2cents. I hear a lot of what. What needs to be,could be and should be. I see those as forward answers- the what. I want to ponder on the WHY. As the world change, people change. We can call it evolution. Does the term “marriage” or “commitment “mean anything to anyone anymore? Now, the why. Morals,values and traditions are being dissected daily. The word respect is completely meaningless these days. We lost all those, that’s the WHY. That’s my WHY.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 12:31 AM
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She filed the PFA. During the duration of the PFA, she came over my place to talk. We spoke a good 20-30 minutes then she started raising her voice. Told her , we will continue this when we can talk without being emotional or angry. I went to her place to “talk” to her a few days later and she called the cops and had me arrested. The PFA? I tried to run her over when I went over to pick up daughter. Car was on drive…and I put it in park. Car vibrates or shook a bit. Yes, I tried to run her over.…
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 10:58 PM
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Well….and that hahahahaha!
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 10:46 PM
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Depending on how u want to see it. “Woke” is basically each are forced acceptance conforming to the normality of today’s thinking.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 10:43 PM
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Stbx barred daughter from talking. Was at the sheriffs yesterday. And was advised to file a contempt when courts reopen next Tuesday. Oh yea they get nasty
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 10:40 PM
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Woke has everything to do with it as well. Men when married live for his family. Women will continue to live for herself. Her happiness. Not urs. Men doesn’t find faults (maybe minor) with his wife. Women will find every little thing about u. With the “woke”, women are supporting the SPECIES- you go girl! Divorce that fucker.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 09:41 PM
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Bro, I rather take a knife and also a bullet. Those will hurt like hell. But these “pain” of our hearts hurts more than anything else. Yes, it will fucked u up. It did to me. I lost my marbles and had to be hospitalized- and all she can say- he is not well. Fuck, u expect me/us to be well after u ripped the family apart? Nah, man. You ripped my daughter from me? And not expect me/us to break? F that. We are here for each other. Let them do what they want. Vent, talk. Whatever it takes for you to…
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 07:17 PM
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I am still “effing miserable”. Not quite divorced yet but am getting slammed left and right. All my assets are locked. Frozen by the greedy biatch. It’s been 3 times already they(her and lawyer) came to me with their demands. Each time , more and more $$$- my lawyer said F them. We are not signing shiaaaaat. So said, all my business and properties all the sudden has “her name “ attached to it. Yup I can’t do jackshiaaaaatttt Worse now, she placed a PFA on me. And using daughter as pawn. My lawye…
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 06:58 PM
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Thank you for sharing. “I am not happy”. “I am not in love” ——. That’s the norm for our society today. Call it a woke movement. Call it whatever u want. The word commitment has been completely omitted from most.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 11:23 AM
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Truth is - you will, we will never get over it. It’s easier if there are no kids involved. It’s part of our lives right now. A chapter that’s painful and devastating. Someone mentioned girl power- in someways, we can factored in the new found “woke women”. This new found beliefs is the new morals of today- social media etc. narcissism is now the most used word on men. Men fought for their families happiness. Today’s women- “I am not happy”. It’s always about them - their “I”. Not “WE”. Sorry for…
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 11:05 AM
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Honestly,I am hoping mine does hahahaha! Couldn’t care less. My dilemma- she wanted money ,money,money and more money. I refused to sign the 3rd time because the demands were atrocious So said, she is using daughter against me. I let her play her game. Sad , daughter has to be the casualty of this war.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/24 05:37 PM
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Ahhhhhh the joy of marriage….the joy of fatherhood…they say. Well,as men….we have to pay for a wife and pay to have kids. Doesn’t matter how you want to see it- trust? Love? Respect? Commitment? Am in the same boat as you. Fuck- and fucked. I don’t even know how to advise you at the moment. I was a millionaire same time last year….. and just went to my local food bank today. Her fucking lawyer froze all my assets.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/24 03:26 AM
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Hate is a powerful word. And I am right there with you. Maybe be has been fighting for money since day 1. Kept changing her demands. Last is $600k in cash and assets. I refused to sign. They refuted my offer to put everything in a trust under daughter’s name. And will get half of my gross(a good amount)!! Nope,now they froze all my accounts. Yup, I am resorting to food banks to survive. Broke AF with the lawyers fees on my credit cards. Now using daughter as pawn. Sad, we men paid the price to b…
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/24 10:41 PM
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Thank you. I really appreciate this post. At soon to be 57 yrs old, I am petrified. Not because of losing her, but losing my wish for a 2 parents household for my daughter- who is 10. Petrified because I am losing every stable financial investments that had been created and sacrificed for her. Stbx doesn’t support my financial journey- it was all too complicated for her. I started the many ventures—- built everything from ground up and now cash flowing. Not to bore you…. But this post has been v…
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/24 10:31 PM
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This is the saddest part about any divorces. Husbands/fathers/providers or men in general had to endure it all…and mostly-ALONE. All said, it’s basically u paid to have a wife. And. Kids, if there’s any. I am in similar position- not quite divorced yet. Broke and struggling AF…..all my assets are frozen….locked….. to the point, I am resorting to food banks to survive unless I gave in to her and her lawyer’s demands- over half a mil in cash. So I feel you. I really do. It sucks sometimes to be a …
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/24 01:58 PM
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I decided to read some of the comments first before I comment. Mine- her lawyer has already switched the agreement 3 times. I have a real estate business….. and she froze all the assets. Rendered me broke AF. Put 3 PFAs on me. 2 were thrown out by the judge because it has no merits. 3 one sticker because I violated the PFA - this is after she was over my place just a few days ago. So it’s ok for her to contact me, I just can’t contact her?! Well, lesson learned! The whole time I just want to mak…
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 05:36 PM
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Ain’t that the truth!
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 05:26 PM
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I will. And have no intention of going over. She called yesterday but am not answering. Only concern is daughter and wants this over already. This time, I will call cops if she comes over again. Just saddened how a person can be so vicious when they don’t get what they want.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 11:53 AM
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If you are referring to violation of the PFA- it’s only one time- and that was me following up to her coming over. I know I shouldn’t have done that. I honestly have no intention of getting back ,just trying to make better of the situation for daughter. I didn’t know that the temporary PFA was only for the defendant,and doesn’t apply to plaintiff. The rest of the temporary PFAs were all dropped by the judges- as by the they have no ground. My lawyer told me that from he can gather- she will not …
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 11:45 AM
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I hear you on that. Am not going to put myself in that situation. Thank you
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 10:47 PM
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The best part or horrible about no fault state is that everything is considered marital assets. By law, as her lawyer did was locked the assets. It’s a dirty but legal law- quote on quote- to stop the other spouse from “hiding” money. She wanna live her high live? Be it. I found out that her credit score is below 550. The only thing she has going now is her new job. Which I have been contemplating on doing “what I can do”. Should I revert back to my old self? Thought about that many times during…
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 08:59 PM
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Well….i was in jail. Was out on bail till yesterday. Am not going to stoop that low- I DID PLAN A FEW THINGS BUT dropped it because it’s NOT me. People that knew me in the past understood that I had “changed”. I wasn’t the Mr. GoodGuy like now. Heck, I grew up in the worst slum in the USA- east NY Brooklyn. I changed because of God. So said, I ll be more than happy to forward stuff to you or anyone if ya wanna do it hahaha! I became a better person and a father to my daughter.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 08:49 PM
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Yes and yes and yes. I have proof of everything but couldn’t bring myself to stoop that low- especially to my daughter. Since she was born, I have been teaching her about being truthful and true to self. Never fight fire with fire.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 07:07 PM
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1- the county has been trying and trying to help me. And my therapist & doctors as well. Because of my assets, it kept getting denied. They told them that everything was frozen but state has their own rules. Same goes for legal aid. Which I was on 3 ways with county when we called state. 2- yes. I have been going to thrift stores and garbage hunting for stuff to sell on marketplace. 3- I know I can easily “destroy “ her new career (she got the job then filed the divorce). She had someone took on…
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 06:32 PM
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Am not going to do anything like that. No intention whatsoever. She can do whatever she wants. Fine with me. But putting daughter and corrupting her regarding all these is “breaking me”. Especially now, I am financially…… trying to hold on to what’s left of me.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 06:04 PM
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She is doing all these to force the sales. Basically, Pennies on the dollar so it can be split up. Hence, why they froze everything and rendered me at this point- struggling. To the point,I have been going to food banks for food. She dislike my business which I had grown over 7 digits in assets. Which I worked hard everyday(after work). And when I was let go(am 56 now so first time I was let go).
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 05:45 PM
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Pennsylvania is a no fault state. Basically, it’s 50-50. I told her lawyer that to unfreeze the account so I can put all the investments in a trust under daughter’s name. They said NO
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 05:41 PM
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Haven’t seen her for 2 months now because my finances don’t allow me to do much. Literally, am broke since she froze all my assets
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 05:38 PM
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The mom disabled many of the features on the phone. Including her social media/games, which I monitor her usage. On the thrown/past PFA- she files that I am controlling the child. And on the PFA, she also stated that I hide an AirTag in her school bag (which we both had agreed to put inside with daughter’s knowledge).
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 05:37 PM
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Good advise. I am just “sad” because my daughter and I are very very close. And it has to come to this.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 04:34 PM
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100%! Have been doing all that. If it weren’t for daughter, I wd have let it all go a long time ago. I just wish I can be detached from daughter. And her being used by the mom to get more money
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 02:51 PM
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Thanks man.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 02:25 PM
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I do have a lawyer(the last 3 pfa battle- 2 were thrown out by the judge), just don’t have the money right now. This last one(yesterday) - was me violating the pfa. It’s stupid of me to go over, because she came by me just a few days earlier to “talk” and I ended because it became too emotional
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 01:15 PM
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Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 01:06 PM
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My local county has been trying. With every applications and appeals, it came back denied as I have assets. And country tried to explain that it’s been locked by her lawyer. At the point, I can either just let everything go. Not pay any loans,mortgages, credit cards etc. basically all these years working and building a substantial nest for daughter/family. So said, am feeling that I am left to rot(in so many words)- as I can’t afford an attorney- means I cannot see my daughter until I can afford…
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 01:05 PM
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The court was yesterday. They threw out the criminal/misdemeanor charge. But now, have a PFA on me. I have no intention of contacting her. Just daughter. But now ,don’t know where to turn to or what to do. Have no money for any legal representation. Can’t sell or borrow from my assets etc. all frozen. Yea, I am in a very bad shape. Did not expect to be in this position at 56 yrs old.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 10:54 AM
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