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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	Looking for advice		PlatypusTacos	/r/Divorce_Men	11/09/25 11:05 AM

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3	My kids basically begged me to stop the big weekends… so I said forget it and bought a $30 soccer goal Generally kids (younger kids especially) if you ask them what they got for their birthday last year they can't tell you but if you ask how they felt when they got to open presents they'd be able to tell you. for the most part its about feelings and memories over things, doing basic stuff but being into it 100% with them is better than doing big stuff but just going through the process 'just to do it'. Kicking a ball around and being in the moment is so simple but its those things they'll remembe…	/r/Divorce_Men	20/05/26 09:09 PM
1	Ex wife's' current Boyfriend called me to ask about "My Side of the Story" What if it's a once in a life time opportunity, cliffs on both sides, what's he gunna do? paddle to New Zealand? maybe his whole life has been about this moment... vaya con dios	/r/Divorce_Men	14/04/26 04:35 PM
2	Do you get Mother's Day gifts for your ex? "From the kids" Depends on the situation your in I guess, its easy for some (myself included) to say its about the kids not your ex or the situation and instilling values but yeah, case to case mate, my ex and I ended amicably and for the most part things are smooth and we've kept everything as simple and easy as possible, however if you're ex is raking you over coals and making your life a living misery then its understandable to act as though its just another Sunday. However in saying that my mothers day gift…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/04/26 08:35 PM
3	wife wants divorce im actually moving out on the 2nd, similar situation 2 and 4.5yr olds, fairly amicable separation but I wanted to fight for our family, she didn't, I tried and tried but it didn't get any better. I came to the realisation that if I stay this is the role model my boys will see, this is how they will perceive a relationship should be, I had to decided if its better to stay in constant bickering and raised stress that sometimes (im ashamed to say) made me snap at the boys over things that was harml…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/01/26 07:16 PM
2	Positive 50/50 Stories I know a lot of blokes here have been absolutely raked over coals by the ex and I sympathise, one of my best mates has been in court for almost 6yrs trying to get his kids back to a fair split from his vindictive ex so, yeah im aware of the risks and I know every one of our (husbands/fathers) situations is different as are the laws and regulations around it in different countries. My STBX and I hold no ill will to each other, we just don't work together like we used to, I know (and ill probably …	/r/Divorce_Men	05/01/26 08:34 PM
1	Positive 50/50 Stories im moving out Feb 1st, same situation, amicable and 2-2-3, no courts or lawyers just a spit in the hand handshake, I could never go 5 days without my boys (2 and 4yrs) im not looking forward to the days apart but I guess 50/50 and that rotation is the absolute best any of us will get so I just gotta make the most of it and not dwell.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/01/26 08:52 PM
3	If the wife initiates the divorce, why should we tell the kids it was mutual? Because its about the kids and not about you. pretty simple. If its just two people growing apart but she's the one to pull the trigger you need to be responsible for your kids and their views of the world. And yes, if you're willing to fight but she isn't that's still growing apart. To be blunt, do you think it would do more harm or good to drag THEIR mother through the dirt just because she hurt YOUR feelings? unless of course she's done something extreme (abusive, cheating, etc) to cause it.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/01/26 08:48 PM
4	I’m done being nice my stbxw an I are on 'good terms' and im moving out in feb but I've written up a doc for her to sign saying the current situation and why im moving and that it isn't abandonment of my children or the house incase something happens down the line that she'll try to get one over on me... they're 2 and 4 years old so there is a lot of time between now and 18	/r/Divorce_Men	01/01/26 08:05 PM
1	I thought I was doing everything right I feel like this is geographically and situationally specific advice, im moving out of our apartment in a month, we have two kids (4.5 & 2yrs) I kills me to lose time with them but its for the best, we've grown apart, i'll pay rent in my new apartment, she'll take over the mortgage they're roughly the same number at the end of the month, we'll sell the place in a year or so or she'll buy me out, we don't hate each other and want what's best for the boys and if that means they have a stable housi…	/r/Divorce_Men	20/12/25 09:53 PM
5	How do you get over loosing half your kids life’s? im moving out in feb, I think one of the hardest parts will be not hearing an excited "dad!!!" or "dads home!!" when I come home from work on my 'days off'. That and I do bedtime every night, 50% reduction will be pretty tough too	/r/Divorce_Men	20/12/25 08:01 PM
5	Guys Who've Been Through Divorce: What Was the HARDEST Part to Get Used To? im moving out in feb (would be earlier but that's when I could get a lease close to home) we're going to do 50/50 as a 2-2-3 day rotation, im already dreading the days I don't have my boys (2 and 4.5yrs).. won't miss being a shell of myself though	/r/Divorce_Men	03/12/25 08:28 PM
2	I’ve finally hit my breaking point I felt your description in my soul but you missed out on "...says I need to stop putting her down, blaming it all on her" and being the victim if I can put in my two cents... Im so easy and content in my life and never start fights but everything you said nailed it, especially the smiles or silent treatment, together 13yrs married 6, 4.5year old and a 2 year old (boys) they over stimulate her and it is always somehow my fault, she pulled the trigger and were separating, I move out 1st feb, 50/…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/11/25 07:36 PM
1	Looking for advice "honestly I want mutual appreciation and reciprocal respect" 100% unfortunately its not a lot but it feels so unattainable	/r/Divorce_Men	11/09/25 08:19 PM