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What is the deal with all of you guys needing it to be about "winning" and "losing". "Holding frame" does not mean needing to be in control all the time. When she called you "mean" she was probably just flirting with you. If she thought you were being too mean she wouldn't have responded or she would have put up a boundary. Flirting is a dance it's not an Olympic sport. There are no winners and losers. It's supposed to be mutually fun! And she unfollowed you so how are you supposed to message he…
/r/seduction26/08/25 03:25 AM
1

If she is already talking sexual topics with you it's likely she is naive. She knows what the deal is. As another commenter said just invite her to coffee or a drink near your place so you can see what the vibe is like one on one. Hug her when she shows up. Maybe take a walk nearby afterwards or grab an ice cream and see what the kino and intimacy is like between you. And then see if she wants to swing by your place on some innocent pretext that we all know isn't innocent. She will either be dow…
/r/seduction25/08/25 09:01 PM
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I'm not saying I understand it I'm just trying to explain it! 😅
/r/seduction25/08/25 08:53 PM
5

Read articles, watch videos and ask your women friends who dress well. No need to pay for a consultant. Just dress your age but always try to look good. Honestly it's not that hard. Once you get away from athletic shoes and athletic wear and wearing jeans everywhere you will look better than most of the people you run into. Just remember that when you got into your relationship most of these women were in kindergarten so there's a huge age and life gap. But when you find the right women that is …
/r/seduction25/08/25 08:52 PM
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I am 57 and I am shocked at how much attention I get from women in the 25-32 age range. I think the most important part to remember is that if you are relatively healthy, are well dressed and well groomed, have decent emotional IQ and can carry a conversation you are heads and tails above 95% of the men they are meeting and dating. And if you are into younger women, many of them will consider your age and experience a benefit and not a shortcoming. You may think you're over the hill but many wom…
/r/seduction25/08/25 07:42 PM
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Sounds like your current focus is being successful. I get that you miss the "chaos" of nightlife. So fill it in now and then. Maybe once or twice a month just to remember the energy. And stay locked in on what is working for you. The bars and the clubs will still be there. They aren't going anywhere.
/r/seduction25/08/25 04:33 AM
4

Good for you. Rome wasn't built in a day. Stretch out more and talk to people (not just women) in your everyday daily life when it's not "going out time". I always approach groups with a question. "This is my first time here. Any drink recs?" "Is this your first time on the boat?" If you are friendly and non threatening many groups will invite you in for a chat. 👏
/r/seduction24/08/25 04:23 PM
6

Think of it this way, they are saving you time and making you more efficient. They could sit there and talk to you for five or 10 minutes and then tell you they weren't interested.
/r/seduction23/08/25 07:22 PM
2

True. I did know some guys in my college dorm who would have been like "hey are we doing a water balloon toss?"
/r/seduction22/08/25 08:04 PM
3

"Did you grab condoms or should I?" will suffice for most men.
/r/seduction22/08/25 07:59 PM
5

I wasn't there, you were. You just asked if you were being impulsive and I said that it seemed like you were. But if it was me, I would have taken a pause and asked how she was doing instead of letting yourself get increasingly frustrated. "Hey you seem a bit quiet. I'm excited to meet you in person and I wanted to see if you were feeling differently. No big deal if you aren't into it." And then just sat back and let her process that and answer at her own pace. That could have landed a lot bette…
/r/seduction16/08/25 04:13 AM
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Sounds like she was just nervous and she told you she was tired from work. Maybe she just needed some time to relax and unwind. That's not unusual. She dressed up and met you for the date. And she didn't give you any indication she had buyers remorse from the dating apps. You do you, but 10 mins is pretty quick to bolt from a date. I know we are all looking for that "magic connection" but it didn't always work like that. I've seen women be nervous and awkward as hell at first and slowly warm up …
/r/seduction16/08/25 03:36 AM
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Typically women know that sex is on the table when they come to your place. Especially after a second date. They aren't that naive. This sounds less like last minute resistance (which is common) and more like they think you are pushing for some sort of relationship and they just want to fuck and see what happens. Also, you need to initiate way before you get to your place to make sure they are on board. Are you hugging them during your dates? Touching them and seeing how they react? Kissing them…
/r/seduction15/08/25 12:40 AM
2

Yeah you gotta get her off that pedestal and treat her like a real human being. We are on the same planet here. Do you want to get to know each other or what?
/r/seduction14/08/25 11:35 PM
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If it bothers you so much then stop paying. But it sounds like your problem is not money-related. Stop worrying about what they say or do and whether that bothers you or not. Worry more about what you want. You just need to center yourself more. "From now on, I think i wont pay for them, keep the dates short, dont pick them up" Coffee dates work for a reason. If they can't make the effort to meet you at a cafe and pay for their own latte for a 20 min chat to see if the vibe is there, they probab…
/r/seduction14/08/25 11:18 PM
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vibe coding, but for seduction
/r/seduction13/08/25 11:21 PM
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You are paying way too much attention to the guy and not to the person who really matters here. Is the woman even giving you any signs that she is opening to being approached? A woman with a BF next to her is rarely going to do that. Who cares if another guy tries to “shut you down”. If a self-aware woman is motivated to get to know you, she has plenty of ways to shut other guys down. The other night I was at a social event and an attractive woman showed up and this guy greeted her like they wer…
/r/seduction13/08/25 05:20 PM
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I spent a month backpacking in Spain back in the day and while it's a beautiful city, overall Barcelona was my least favorite city. Sevilla then was a dream for me because the lifestyle was amazing and there were so many students either studying or vacationing from elsewhere. Valencia was probably second. I'm not a big city person but if I was going to base in one city it would be Madrid. There are lots of tourists there. Plenty of interesting neighborhoods. And you can easily grab a train to th…
/r/seduction13/08/25 02:57 PM
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I use ChadGPT.
/r/seduction12/08/25 12:05 AM
8

"turns out they were related.." Sir this is a Brazzers ad. 😅😅
/r/seduction11/08/25 12:37 AM
1

Wait what? Where in the world did I infer you should have sex with someone who isn't into it? That's completely bonkers. I am trying to explain that in general, women's desire path works quite a bit differently then men's. It's literally science. Ask any woman who trusts you and has self-awareness and she will explain the same thing.
/r/seduction10/08/25 08:48 PM
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Exactly! You want the opposite of pressure. You just want to both enjoy yourselves and if she starts walking through the stages of intimacy you will know. It's not a switch you flip except for pretty rare circumstances. Which I have encountered but not much.
/r/seduction10/08/25 08:46 PM
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What is "this". And why is it dangerous?
/r/seduction10/08/25 08:42 PM
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You just need to pause, acknowledge, pivot and change the subject. I asked a woman too early if she wanted to go back to my hotel room (I was traveling) and she very clearly told me "I'm not going to have sex with you." And I was like "Cool. No problem. Hey I heard that place over there has good cocktails. Want to try it?" I realized I was pushing too soon before she was comfortable enough. So I needed to wait and be patient until she was. Which turns out was later that evening. It's a dance and…
/r/seduction10/08/25 08:37 PM
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Well that makes it sound transactional. It's a dance not a wrestling match. There don't have to be winners or losers. You don't want to get too far ahead of where she is.
/r/seduction10/08/25 06:32 PM
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Every time you see someone just try to get out of your head and get a little closer to an approach. Your only goal should be a simple connection. "Hey, how is your day going?" And then you can smile and LEAVE. There's no wedding rings or condoms involved. So take the pressure off yourself.
/r/seduction10/08/25 06:30 PM
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Exactly. Just like you wouldn't kiss a woman out of the blue without signals that she was ready and willing, you just need to do the same thing emotionally. And you can take the pressure off a lot by saying things like "I'm really enjoying this time with you" rather than "I'm so happy we are together" or something too forward looking. It's okay just to stay in the moment. What happens tomorrow happens tomorrow. When she wants to start talking about the future or about "us" she'll let you know.
/r/seduction10/08/25 06:21 PM
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You are looking at this like a spigot and you are wondering when it's "safe" to turn it on. I get it because I totally used to be that way and pushed women away unknowingly. I would suggest a much more proactive approach of really paying attention to the woman and calibrating based on her current desire and comfort level. Sending "loving" messages by the 2nd or 3rd date, especially if you haven't slept together yet, is going to feel like it's way too much for many women. You just have to navigat…
/r/seduction10/08/25 05:18 PM
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Fair enough but that is pretty vague. A much clearly comment would have been "I might go as well. Maybe we could connect there?" Her immediate body language and response would have saved you a lot of effort later. Approaching women at work is fraught with danger. But it can work as long as you are very clear that you are shifting things away from work AND that she is clearly on board with this. If there is any hesitation from her end you just need to back away. But you were unclear and she was c…
/r/seduction09/08/25 02:17 AM
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"Now, the creepy part begins" You weren't kidding. You gotta warn someone before you show up at an event they mentioned. That's creepy af for me and I'm a guy. For a woman??
/r/seduction08/08/25 11:50 PM
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Improv is amazing because it will teach you to actually pay attention to the other person and get out of your head. Highly recommended.
/r/seduction08/08/25 02:20 AM
2

Why worry about her number? If you work together, just tell her you want to get together outside of work. Invite out her. She will get the picture. If she is into it, make plans then and there and her number will follow naturally so you can keep in touch. Strike while the iron is hot! Pivoting to numbers or socials loses all of that energy you have with her right now.
/r/seduction07/08/25 03:57 PM
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It happens to all of us. You will pick up the vibe quicker next time. 👍
/r/seduction07/08/25 12:43 AM
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Dinner is always a bad idea for a first time. But there are a few other yellow flags here: "She said she'd be late" = she doesn't respect your time "she casually mentioned she had to meet her female friend later that night." = I'm not coming back to your place to fuck you tonight unless you are amazing for some reason "her friend was calling nonstop during the 'date'" = it wasn't a date to her otherwise her phone would have been on silent "She mentioned she had a boyfriend she wasn’t happy with.…
/r/seduction07/08/25 12:12 AM
3

You should probably ask this somewhere that is not 98% guys.
/r/seduction06/08/25 10:50 PM
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These are super useful once you get to some level of experience and competence. But I see guys commenting all day long that they need to be tall, wealthy, handsome, super connected, etc to have any game. They count themselves out before they even get started because they say some other guy was just "lucky" or "had it all. Make your own luck and actually talk to the woman. Let her decide whether she likes you or not.
/r/seduction05/08/25 05:31 PM
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You had me at "gasping for air". 👏
/r/seduction03/08/25 03:57 PM
7

If you knew there was nothing wrong with the message you sent then why did you ask if you did something wrong with your message? Got nothing to do with flirting. You just sent her a stupid text response. What woman is going to respond positively to that.
/r/seduction02/08/25 10:23 PM
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Did you not notice that your last response was totally incongruent and pretty boneheaded? She went to work because she was sick and you tell her that’s hot? Maybe step back and think about that for a moment. What did you expect her to respond? Thanks?
/r/seduction02/08/25 10:14 PM
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Three days seems like a huge amount of time. You just need to create a bigger spark quickly over text/DM so when you ask for the date it feels like a no-brainer to her. She has guys DMing her all day. Find ways to stick out from the crowd.
/r/seduction31/07/25 04:55 PM
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Why do you care what someone else says they did? It's you and the woman and nothing else really matters. First date, third date, doesn't matter. She's a person not a check box.
/r/seduction31/07/25 04:49 PM
4

You should chat on a dating app the very minimum amount you need to make a connection, see if there is interest, and setup a date IRL. Most women don't use dating apps to chat endlessly with men. They want to actually meet and get to know them. TL;DR pivot to in-person ASAP
/r/seduction31/07/25 04:47 PM
3

Either she is or she is not. All you can do is ask. No big deal.
/r/seduction30/07/25 04:43 AM
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"Hey I got a little drunk the other night but it was fun. Want to hang out tomorrow?" Don't complicate it. Yes you fumbled. But if she wants to fuck you as much as it sounds like she did, she will likely give you a second chance. Don't drink so much this time. Forget about taking what she said literally. I had a woman tell me "I'm not going to have sex with you" while she was grinding her naked crotch on mine. You need to do a reality check with her actions as well.
/r/seduction30/07/25 04:27 AM
1

These are some of the truest words I've seen in this entire subreddit. There is no "key". But this is the closest I've seen to someone articulating the truth.
/r/seduction26/07/25 04:50 PM
1

Some people just prefer in-person to texting. I totally get that. I am one of them! If it was me, I would step back on the flirty texts and start making concrete plans one-on-one in person to connect deeper with her. If she is giving a hint, follow the thread to see where it goes.
/r/seduction22/07/25 10:05 PM
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I just got back from the farmers market and there were literally dozens of women there. Not all of them were married or taken. You just need to touch grass and get outside every day. Talk to people with the only intention of talking to them. When I started going to the gym I had to lift the bar by itself before I could start lifting any decent weight. You just need to do the reps.
/r/seduction22/07/25 07:32 PM
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No you just have to read the room first. Make sure you are getting good eye contact and "approach me" body language from at least one of them. I wouldn't cold approach or surprise a table of women.
/r/seduction22/07/25 07:30 PM
5

You have nothing to apologize about. You did a human thing and she did a human thing. Nothing transgressive or wrong happened. Bringing it up just starts the conversation on the wrong foot. If you move on from it she will see that you are a man who can pick himself up and keep going. Women want clarity not apologies.
/r/seduction22/07/25 05:18 PM
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If she said yes to a second date even after she said that clearly there is attraction there. She is going to go into this date likely with her guard up or at least with low expectations. The first five minutes are going to be crucial. Otherwise she will figure "yeah he's no different than before" and completely check out of the date. So you need to bring the energy you didn't bring the first time. It's okay to be a bit performative. Show her you are really excited to be with her. Hug her with yo…
/r/seduction22/07/25 05:12 PM
1

Just start a normal conversation with her that has nothing to do with dating. You've already broken the tension and she already knows you are interested in her. Once you start chatting you can start finding out whether she is interested or not. If she is, find a totally low risk way of talking to her outside of a gym. Hey I'm going to grab a smoothie after my workout. Want to chat for five minutes?" People get nervous all the time with online interactions. It's probably not you. If she was actua…
/r/seduction22/07/25 05:05 PM
2

I am presuming you are having these conversations at work? In person? Ask her to grab lunch off-campus from where you work. Eliminate the awkward work talk from the equation. And then ask her out. No hiding. Just say you want to take her out on a date. Either she says yes or she says no (or she says maybe which is the same thing). She could easily be uncomfortable not with you but with the work environment. TL;DR don't overthink it just ask her out
/r/seduction21/07/25 06:41 PM
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Some people are just terrible over text. Ask him out to a coffee or a drink. Just something casual. Maybe he will be much different F2F.
/r/seduction17/07/25 05:13 PM
2

Wait, she was making fun of said male colleague and then she found out he was rooming with you? Sounds like it could be a big step back from embarrassment more than anything else. Guys rooming together (accidental or otherwise) is a social landmine for women. The dynamic with him could be a lot more likely than her pulling back merely because you didn't walk down the hall with her. Unless there was some "fuck me now" body language from her we are missing from this post.
/r/seduction15/07/25 05:28 PM
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Well you originally asked how to apologize to him for being awkward and I said you didn't need to. If what you are actually asking is how to shoot your shot with him, then just go over to him and say hi. If he is willing to chat then let him know you are leaving soon. His response will tell you everything you need to know. (and no you do not need to apologize to him in this scenario either) "It’s just that I’m 100% sure he feels something close to what I feel. Especially from the looks I get." T…
/r/seduction15/07/25 01:02 AM
7

You don't need to say anything to him. It's likely not nearly as big of a deal to him as it is to you. It's okay just to walk away. Really.
/r/seduction15/07/25 12:36 AM
10

Women who really like you will move heaven and earth to see you again. It's okay. Just take the L and meet some more women. You had a fun date and you learned some things. Nothing wrong with growth.
/r/seduction14/07/25 08:11 PM
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You need to concentrate on the women who don't need someone to speak on their behalf or "protect" them. I have watched many women deal with "helpful friends" and "white knight guys" themselves by simply shutting them down and saying "I'm fine" and then turning back to talk to me. Talk to women who openly want to talk to you.
/r/seduction14/07/25 07:21 PM
8

I hear ya brother. That's not an easy task. Maybe tell a story or two about other fuck buddies you've had in the past and how positive it was. This is before you have sex of course. Good luck!
/r/seduction13/07/25 11:13 PM
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I get what you are saying. But if you were right they wouldn't be fucking you in the first place. Just take the W and move on. If you are actually looking for a relationship than be much more clear upfront.
/r/seduction13/07/25 11:06 PM
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"You have soft eyes" and "you look so nice" is their way of saying "I trust you". Women typically don't fuck men they don't trust. You seem to be confusing what they are saying with them not wanting to fuck you again. Likely those two things have nothing to do with each other. Plenty of women just want to hook up and then move on with their lives. It'a nothing personal.
/r/seduction13/07/25 11:01 PM
6

"I am a doctor. Of love." That actually works for anyone.
/r/seduction09/07/25 08:18 PM
7

Plenty of women will give numbers or social with little to no intention to follow up. Or maybe they keep you as a backup plan or maybe just to get the validation. You just need to learn to live with it. Keep multiple plates spinning because likely they are as well.
/r/seduction08/07/25 04:14 AM
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I don't know a lot of women who would randomly talk to a guy for two hours they had no interest in. If she's showing you a pick of her baby she may have been a lot farther down the "are we going to have sex?" road than perhaps you were. She was already thinking about practicalities. "Is he going to freak out and eject when he finds out?"
/r/seduction07/07/25 11:59 PM
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Since you don't seem to speak Dutch I will translate for you: 🤣 "I am thinking about fucking you, but you need to be okay with me being a single mom. Are you?" (you made a broad assumption that he was her partner; could have easily just been the father or a family member) She mentioned the baby at the end because it was the natural time to transition to something else like exchanging numbers, grabbing coffee off the train, etc. She showed you a picture of the baby to see your reaction that she A…
/r/seduction07/07/25 11:43 PM
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"90% of the time I get put in the "guy-friend" category, aka friendzoned." The first question is: "how do you know??" Do they literally tell you "sorry I only think of you as a friend"? Or are you making assumptions based on your interpretation of their actions (verbal and otherwise)? This is coming from a guy who used to friendzone himself all the time when I was younger.
/r/seduction07/07/25 11:04 PM
0

"Then how the fuck did your father then manage to fuck your mother then to have you?" Sir this is a Wendy's.
/r/seduction07/07/25 03:39 AM
61

Plenty of women go to bars and clubs for a good time. And then they go back to their real life. She may have really been into you in the moment. But at the club you are in what is called a magic circle. Clubs are designed for people to let their hair down and make connections with people more easily with less fear of looking bad to others or facing social stigma. Once she steps away from that magic circle things change. If you are just an "insta guy" there is no real connection. Just a fun story…
/r/seduction06/07/25 09:39 PM
3

I once missed a date because of a bad cold. When we were going to reschedule she got a cold sore. Finally we got together and fucked like rabbits. If she likes you she likes you. If not any little thing is going to cause her to eject.
/r/seduction05/07/25 02:21 AM
2

Women can very quickly tell if a man is 9/10 in looks but a 4/10 in personality and inner game. Just like a man can quickly tell if a woman is 9/10 in looks but is dumb as a log. The difference is that most men do not care while most women very much DO care. Think about it this way, what if you got some huge mole on your face and you were suddenly a 4/10 in looks. How would you approach women differently? What if you had a beer belly? How would it change your approach? You are using your body as…
/r/seduction27/06/25 05:15 PM
1

I think you need to lower your stress level. Talk to people who you have no reason to be nervous around. Practice with the barista, with the person in line at the grocery store, with some random dude. Learning to hold a conversation with anyone is part science and part art. It takes practice! Save the "girl I like" for after you get way more reps with "girl I don't particularly like". I used to be the exact same way and now I can walk up to any woman and start a convo. It just takes practice. Th…
/r/seduction26/06/25 04:17 PM
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I'm 55 and don't use dating apps and I am shocked by the level of constant interest I get in person from women in the 25-32 yo range. The daddy issue is largely a myth if you look at the actual science. I think a lot of high value women are simply done with immature men with little to no emotional intelligence and want a man who has more apparent stability and can hold a simple conversation. I am not particularly good looking and nothing about me says that I have money.
/r/seduction26/06/25 04:13 PM
10

I guess it's better than Creep lol. 😆
/r/seduction26/06/25 04:10 PM
18

Username checks out. 🩸
/r/seduction26/06/25 03:47 PM
14

When you tagged this "inner game" you weren't kidding.
/r/seduction25/06/25 12:49 AM
6

Women tell me I am a very good conversationalist and I had to really think about it and deconstruct it since I just assumed everyone else was like me. And I realized the two things I say the most are: "That's really interesting, tell me more." "(That thing you said) really makes me think of (this)." I'm not trying to run patterns or neg or push-pull or anything like that. I am just a very curious and passionate person and many women really seem to respond to that. I'm also not afraid to be vulne…
/r/seduction24/06/25 07:15 PM
1

I prefer the ground and pound myself. 😅
/r/seduction22/06/25 04:17 PM
1

That's pretty natural. It takes time to get to know someone intimately.
/r/seduction21/06/25 05:47 PM
7

You need a big reframe here. They are not "judging" you. They are thinking about what it would be like to be with you long term. The one was who said "you should get something bigger" wasn't referring to you as a single man. She was projecting you as a man with a long term partner. Maybe her! They are looking at you as a valuable person and looking at your living space aspirationally. If they were judging you, they don't need to say a word. They are hinting at your potential. And women marry men…
/r/seduction21/06/25 05:16 PM
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Just got out of a yoga class with like 3 guys and 15 women.
/r/seduction19/06/25 06:42 PM
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Intentions are external. You should make sure women know this is not a platonic or “merely friendly” encounter. Luckily that is not hard to do as many women are pretty savvy and pick up signals you don’t even know you are giving them. Expectations are internal. “I want to get her number. I want to ask her out. I want to bang her.” Let go of the expectations in the moment and go with the flow. Act and see how she reacts. And then adjust based on that. Progress down the path of intimacy if that is…
/r/seduction17/06/25 03:38 PM
1

You are likely stopping her from fucking you. Stop putting speed bumps in your own way. None of that's stuff matters. You aren't trying merry her. Get her away from class and then work that magic. 🪄
/r/seduction15/06/25 10:48 PM
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I'm seeing all the other content you uploaded there as well. Thanks for the hustle.
/r/seduction15/06/25 03:42 AM
5

Of course they give you their number. They are stuck in a cramped physical space you. Most women (rightly) fear the repercussions of saying "no" to a strange man. You are trying to "build rapport" while they are simply seeking physical safety. So stop asking for their number and ask them out on a date. If they so "no", smile and move on. If they say "yes" ask them "what is the best way to reach you to keep in touch?" Your "numbers" will go way down but your connections will likely go way up perc…
/r/seduction07/06/25 05:38 PM
7

She is telling you to stop texting her so much. Just wait a week or so and then hit her up again. But keep talking to other women. This one is likely not going anywhere. Just chalk it up to experience.
/r/seduction05/06/25 11:27 PM
3

"Sir this is a Penthouse Forum article."
/r/seduction05/06/25 10:10 PM
2

Not many nerds out there connecting Burning Wheel to seducing women lol 👏🎲
/r/seduction31/05/25 03:09 PM
15

I'm going to be 57 next month and it's crazy how much attention I get from women in their 20s and 30s. Stay in shape, dress well. Be confident.
/r/seduction29/05/25 11:46 PM
8

You might feel like it's awkward, but if you don't come out and say it then you are just confusing him. It's okay to be clear about your intentions. Most people will respect that. And the people who don't? Well you don't want them in your life anyway. It's also useful to ask them what they are looking for very early on. This gives you a chance to state your preferences as well. "Hey that's cool you are looking for casual. I'm actually not in the market for a casual relationship. I'm looking for …
/r/seduction29/05/25 03:58 PM
5

This is a comically bad set of generalizations and is actually toxic for being a man who these women (either "type") would want to be with. I would worry much less about your assumptions of them and a lot more about who they actually are when they are interacting with you.
/r/seduction26/05/25 10:08 PM
17

What does this have to do with seduction?
/r/seduction25/05/25 04:45 AM
6

She is feeling out your boundaries and probably can detect your energy. So answer accordingly.
/r/seduction23/05/25 01:15 AM
10

Don't be surprised if she has a much better idea of what she wants than the average 23 yo. And she may be more direct than you are used to. Enjoy it! They call older women "experienced" for a reason.
/r/seduction22/05/25 06:52 PM
24

I think you are making assumptions about how good looking your face it because of the completely fucked up algorithms on dating apps. Has a woman literally said "yeah my bro you got a 5/10 face"? No? Well then ignore that. Meet women everywhere you go. Whether you are attracted to them or not. Imagine you are going to the "dating gym" and the gym is everywhere outside of your place. Get those reps in every day. Let THEM decide how good looking you are. You might be pleasantly surprised to find l…
/r/seduction21/05/25 05:30 PM
93

When there are pauses or lulls: Always push away from thinking subjects. Always pull towards feeling subjects. Kick yourself if you have to and repeat "this is not an interview".
/r/seduction21/05/25 03:35 AM
6

I feel personally that my anaconda don't want none unless she got buns.
/r/seduction19/05/25 09:03 PM
10

Doesn't matter what you think. Ask women who know you well. They will know.
/r/seduction16/05/25 07:27 PM
3

I have found in general that if a woman wants to fuck on the first or second date, she is usually pretty okay just coming over again to fuck. You can eat or take a walk later. That is secondary to her if the sex was good. She can have a meal with anyone. It's very possible that your pivot from "sex" to "a walk" is communicating to her that either you are pushing for a relationship or that you just didn't think the sex was that good. So yeah, a quick convo helps as well to set expectations.
/r/seduction15/05/25 10:10 PM
5

With a few (naive earlier) exceptions I don't ever go on a dinner date with a woman I am not already sleeping with. There are so many more interesting dates to go on! Dinner dates are so much more tension filled and can frankly be kind of boring. Sounds like you are really overthinking this. Three dates and you are in a relationship?? Did you ask her if she agreed with your assertion?
/r/seduction13/05/25 03:22 AM
7

Hard disagree here. Minimizing social media doesn't have to do with being an introvert or an extrovert. It has to do with your own mental health and your sources of dopamine and validation. I'm older than most of you likely and every time I get rid of a social media app it makes my life richer. And in reality, any woman who rejects you or won't go out with you because you don't have Instagram is not someone worth being with. If she really likes you she wants to be with you in person. It's 2025 a…
/r/seduction12/05/25 05:07 PM
1

I know one pressure point that always works. 💦
/r/seduction11/05/25 10:17 PM
5

So you are saying we should be vibe coding? 😅
/r/seduction11/05/25 04:52 AM
3

"Hey kid I got an XBOX and a Playstation at home." Trust me that kid will do all the work for you. 🤣🤣
/r/seduction09/05/25 10:48 PM
58

If you say "I'm looking for something real" or "I am looking for something casual and fun" you are basically saying the same thing. But you are not saying it a way to be much less threatening to her. You gotta read the room. I once had a woman I just met pull her dress up and show me her g-string on a dance floor to attract me. But that usually does not happen lol. That is generally an aberration unless you are hot as shit or she is drunk off her ass (or both). So you need to build connection an…
/r/seduction09/05/25 08:41 PM
1

Listen. You take the same hand you used to put cologne on your face and you rub some on your inner thighs. You don't have to drench your balls in it lol. Less is more. Give her a little treasure to discover as she works her way down there and smells you.
/r/seduction07/05/25 02:15 PM
1

Nope.
/r/seduction06/05/25 03:08 PM
5

A woman once told me to spread a little cologne around my privates. That little piece of advice has been paying me benefits ever since.
/r/seduction06/05/25 04:37 AM
8

If you don't get physical with her first, in many cases coming home with you feels like a huge move to her safety wise and can also hit her "slut defense". If you get physical with her first, especially if it gets hot and heavy, then coming home simply becomes a viable option for you both to "get a room" so she can feel comfortable being truly private with you. TL; DR she needs to be comfortable with you AND she needs to want to get off. First.
/r/seduction05/05/25 12:39 AM
78

If a woman needs you to drink alcohol for her to have a good time, you need to GTFO of there quick.
/r/seduction04/05/25 02:16 AM
1

(Whispers) "Remember, thou art mortal." 👑
/r/seduction03/05/25 06:23 PM
0

There is nothing wrong with trying to make yourself look better (improving body shape, reducing fat, better skin quality, well fitting clothing, smelling better). But once you get past the basics you should worry much less about that. Start worrying about meeting and talking to women of any type anywhere you can find them. Old, young, married, single, hot, ugly. Doesn't matter. You are at the "woman gym" and you are there to get reps in. You aren't waking around with a marriage contract. Stop wo…
/r/seduction03/05/25 04:25 AM
2

Yes you are overthinking it but that is your right. If you feel a glass of wine is "under the influence" then just ask her for coffee or tea. It's not about getting someone drunk. It's about spending time to see if a connection is there. Just be playful with it and don't take it seriously! Sex is not rocket science. It's more like cooking. You find a mix or ingredients and see how they taste together. Sometimes the dish sucks but sometimes it tastes amazing!
/r/seduction02/05/25 09:16 PM
3

Stop taking first date jitters as some sort of gospel. Time passes and people's minds change in all sorts of ways. I remember having a totally neutral and almost awkward first date over a glass of wine and walked away after a goodbye hug thinking "oh well". Our post date messaging was pretty neutral as well. A few days later I randomly hit her up to see what she was up to and she invited me to her place to make me dinner that evening and fucked me like a porn star. Turns out she was super attrac…
/r/seduction02/05/25 08:10 PM
20

Listen don't make this more complicated than it needs to be. You are putting her on a pedestal and that is killing your chances of being with her. You make this age gap out to be insurmountable in your own head. I am 56 and regularly have women in their mid 20s to early 30s practically losing their shit with me when we are alone. Older men have a lot to offer younger women (besides a wallet) and many women know it. You need to stop checking your cash balance and start checking your self esteem. …
/r/seduction29/04/25 08:40 PM
7

I guess you have to ask yourself "just how bad do I want this?" 💰
/r/seduction29/04/25 08:27 PM
3

You are worrying way too much about her perceived state (which is impossible to guess) rather than concentrating on her actions (that she enjoys spending time with you and misses you when you are not there). Don’t worry about her ex. If he was an obstacle for her she would let you know. And if she had friendzoned you she would be telling you all about him. But she is not. Just ask her out. Doesn‘t have to be anything crazy. Could be coffee. Just somewhere that you can have one on one time togeth…
/r/seduction20/04/25 11:14 PM
59

That is some ninja-level shit right there. 🥷
/r/seduction14/04/25 08:24 PM
193

A long time ago I used to work with this guy in his early 20s we called "The Russian Pipeline" and not just for his nationality. When we were on work trips he would walk right up to a group of middle aged women in a hotel bar or even the lobby and start chatting them up. Later in the evening he would invariably be banging one of them in his (shared) hotel room. That MF didn't miss. 🤣
/r/seduction14/04/25 05:31 PM
7

While you are talking to her and making eye contact, occasionally look down at her lips very briefly and then back to her eyes. She will know exactly what you are doing. And her response will tell you everything you need to know.
/r/seduction14/04/25 12:23 AM
1

Dates are much less about the words you say and much more about what happens in between the words. Concentrate on that rather than trying to sell your hobbies.
/r/seduction13/04/25 09:33 PM
13

One of two things is happening: She is only interested in you platonically. Fair enough. She is potentially interested in you romantically/intimately but you haven't shown the level of trust she requires yet to be alone with you. Thus the "group" invite. Your call whether you want to proceed. If it was me and I was interested I wouldn't overthink it. I'd just go have fun and play some tennis and see what the vibe was like. No pressure. It's a few hours out of my life. Maybe one of her friends is…
/r/seduction12/04/25 06:42 PM
20

This just sounds like an inner game issue to me. Listen I am average height at best. But when I tall woman is interested in me, she literally makes herself shorter in my presence. Sitting down when I am standing, or leaning on something to equalize the height difference. It seemed weird at first but eventually I recognized it was them trying to normalize the interaction since they were attracted. This isn't about them and their "egos". It's about you. Of course their compliments don't go further…
/r/seduction11/04/25 05:31 PM
2

Having your own strong self esteem and sense of self is like being two drinks in already. Only you won't be slurring your words and missing 80% of what she is saying to you and fucking up your body language and boundaries.
/r/seduction08/04/25 06:21 PM
1

Good for you! You shoot your shot and you walk away with your head held high. Or in your case, sit next to her in class for two weeks. 😅
/r/seduction08/04/25 05:04 PM
1

I have self esteem and confidence now and carry myself way differently.
/r/seduction06/04/25 06:32 PM
1

"and thus have joined a secret underground seduction community in the early 2000s in order to hopefully give myself a chance at not dying alone one day." Damn you were there back in the day as well? I felt like I had joined some source of forbidden knowledge lol. Completely opened up my eyes at the time.
/r/seduction06/04/25 03:05 PM
23

It seems pretty clear what happened. There was huge sexual tension built up to the point where you kissed. And she was expecting the "magic" to happen there. Whatever that meant for HER. And for whatever reason it didn't. Maybe it was you maybe it was her maybe it was anything. Who knows. But SHE was deflated after the kiss and she moved away from YOU as a result. Unless you literally had bad breath or are a really bad kisser (which I'm doubting) just take the L and move on. Don't overthink it. …
/r/seduction05/04/25 07:51 PM
5

I'm 56 and I get way more attention from women in their 20s and 30s than I ever did at that age. It's nuts.
/r/seduction05/04/25 07:12 PM
1

"I like both kinds of music. Country AND Western."
/r/seduction05/04/25 12:39 AM
3

I'm going to visit Argentina soon as a non native speaker. I'm curious why you say it's so hard to approach women there. Anything in particular?
/r/seduction01/04/25 04:12 AM
81

It's just like working out. You gotta get the reps in. Just not with her. Keep meeting different women and just being friendly.
/r/seduction30/03/25 10:20 PM
1

What if the real shit test was the pussies we forgot to lick along the way? 🤔
/r/seduction30/03/25 03:14 PM
17

You all are getting stuck on his numbers and not wanting to believe it. And so you aren't even listening to his approach. But I've seen it happen with a close friend growing up. He had his inner game set tight. He was a pussy magnet. And I literally never saw him approach a woman. One night I met him at an upscale crowded bar and asked why he was leaning on the bar instead of grabbing us a table. He said "I can't talk to any women sitting at a table. Listen, go sit over there and just watch for …
/r/seduction30/03/25 03:09 PM
12

Some of it is confidence but honestly more of it is building good self esteem so you don't need to rely on external validation so much ("does she like me?") and can come from a more internal state ("I am someone who is worthy of being liked"). Personally I find that line of inquiry much more helpful than "just go talk to her".
/r/seduction29/03/25 11:08 PM
30

Concentrate on the inner game. It's much more about me than it is about them.
/r/seduction29/03/25 11:04 PM
23

I think you are mistaking "cold" for "nervous and anxious" in many cases. Keep taking and give her some time to warm up. The apps have gotten us so crazy that many people can't talk in real life. If she is still cold after a few minutes you will have a much clearer idea.
/r/seduction28/03/25 07:20 PM
1

Sounds like she is trying to slot you into her schedule. Her morning business->lunch with you for vibe->afternoon funtime with you I'd go with her plan.
/r/seduction17/03/25 02:12 AM
2

Okay I get that you were having a chill time and all. But WTF is freezed coffee"?? We need some answers here.
/r/seduction16/03/25 08:55 PM
1

Trust me no one was more surprised than me! But bear in mind this was the late 80s and I was a 19 year old college student so a different era. This was a freestanding store so no mall involved. I just counted how many items they were taking into the fitting room and game them a numbered tag. And the rechecking when they came out. The constant weird MILF flirting just came about from that. Why? Honestly I think the (woman) manager just didn't want to train me on the cash wrap and this was her bri…
/r/seduction16/03/25 03:00 PM
3

I lot of younger guys (but not all) don't understand that younger women actually appreciate complete sentences. It shows emotional maturity. You don't have to meme your way through life.
/r/seduction15/03/25 08:59 PM
6

Yes to all of that. Texting is for people you have an ongoing relationship with. Women want to spend time with you in person if they are into you. Give her the chance to show you what she is all about. Not just type back and forth. (This coming from someone who loves to text in general)
/r/seduction15/03/25 08:56 PM
2

I'll be honest I don't use apps at all.
/r/seduction15/03/25 03:43 PM
8

I am mid 30s or older.
/r/seduction15/03/25 06:06 AM
15

"Hey I have a really busy week but it would be cool to hang out and get to know you more. Want to grab a drink Thursday or Saturday? I have a few really good places in mind."
/r/seduction15/03/25 05:33 AM
54

Why would you waste time trying to have a conversation over text? Once you match with someone you should be trying to meet them in person as quickly as possible. Plenty of people are cold fishes over text and brighten up in person. Only way to find out is to find out.
/r/seduction15/03/25 04:11 AM
9

I was so clueless back then (this was a long time ago pre-socials). I was like 19 and these women in their 30s and 40s would come out of the fitting room wearing a bikini and be like "how do I look in this." And I'd be like "sure it looks like it fits you." 😅 Finally this girl closer to my age who worked there flirted with me an entire shift and we ended up having a fun fling all summer. I was like "how lucky was that?" 🤣🤣👏
/r/seduction13/03/25 06:00 PM
11

When I was in college I was the fitting room attendant at a women's clothing store. 👙
/r/seduction13/03/25 03:12 PM
1

If a woman is really into you she isn't going to give a shit about your haircut. Don't overthink it.
/r/seduction13/03/25 03:01 AM
1

Use a clip on?
/r/seduction11/03/25 04:59 AM
10

My kid in middle school is already doing this and having way more success than I ever did. He will go right up to college girls and give them a compliment on something they are wearing and 1/3 of the time they will just start chatting until she realizes how old he is lol.
/r/seduction10/03/25 11:40 PM
40

I respect that. You gotta be you.
/r/seduction08/03/25 05:20 AM
89

"No my friends just took off. I decided to have a last drink. So tell me more about that crazy story."
/r/seduction08/03/25 05:14 AM
1

Maybe you should call the Gangster Party Line.
/r/seduction07/03/25 04:43 AM
3

But you know what I mean. You need to extract her from work to see if the interest is there. "Hey tomorrow I'm checking this thing out. Wanna go?"
/r/seduction05/03/25 05:49 AM
9

"Hey after work I'm gonna check out this cafe/restaurant/bar nearby. Want to come along?" That will be your answer. Just separate her from work and see if she comes. No need to risk flirting or making a move at work.
/r/seduction05/03/25 05:33 AM
6

This is no different than “hey if I buy her dinner I deserve to get my dick sucked.” Which is no way to deal with a real person. Grow a pair and be a real man.
/r/seduction01/03/25 10:49 PM
24

She must be pretty disinterested to accidentally bang you three times. Maybe don’t overthink it.
/r/seduction01/03/25 04:18 AM
6

B Sharp, not B Flat. 🎶
/r/seduction25/02/25 05:41 PM
28

It runs the gamut. I dated a woman for a year, we decided the sex was amazing but the relationship wasn’t. So she was my FWB for another year and a half until I met my (now) wife and ended it.
/r/seduction03/02/25 03:05 AM
6

She may or may not have been interested in you. But she clearly did not want you stalking her at her yoga class. Gotta pay attention to people’s boundaries.
/r/seduction09/12/24 04:17 PM
1

“Sir this is an Eagles song.”
/r/seduction19/10/24 06:57 PM
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