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Can confirm. I was confused, living in a bad environment, and valued the wrong things in my early twenties. I've met a couple of guys who were far more mature than I was at that age, and they would've been crazy to give that version of me the time of day. I do believe that I would have made fewer stupid decisions at that age if I had better people in my circle.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/23 02:09 AM
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Seconded. I get loads of compliments from people on Amazon dresses, it's great.
/r/RedPillWives18/07/23 11:16 PM
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I'm interested in doing this. How much did it cost to buy the specialized thermometer and kits you used?
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 04:25 PM
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No, I can't do that. You're looking for advice on how to get over him sleeping with other women because you want to stay with him. I have no advice to give you because I think that sort of dynamic is terrible. In my book, any RP podcast or blog that encourages that kind of dynamic is garbage. That includes Pearly Things, F+F, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/23 07:36 PM
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I hope so. If this is real, then this lady is a sad casualty of RP men behaving badly and framing it as "traditional." Honestly, I'm thinking of muting this sub for a while because of posts like this. I can get more out of a Laura Doyle/Suzanne Venker podcast episode, or rereading a book this sub recommends.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/23 03:00 PM
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Working out with weights doesn't make you masculine. It's a great way to bring out your womanly shape with muscle tone, especially your lower body!
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/23 12:23 PM
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Seconded. Also, OP: I want to be with him for at least 3 to 4 years. Why? How have you arrived at this number?
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/23 02:36 AM
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"I know exactly what I'm doing and it doesn't make me any less smart." This.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/23 10:20 PM
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Yeah it was probably something like this for me too. I had zero luck with guys ever and in general couldn't ever feel fully comfortable in my own skin. Becoming a more feminine woman helped with that tremendously, and I do credit this sub with that transformation. I definitely don't treat RP like an ideology though. Nor do I turn to this sub for advice about my personal life, as I think it's healthier to look to the people around me who know me well. For maybe the last 6-8 months or so, I've bee…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/23 10:17 PM
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Seconded. It's extremely unclear from the lack of context in your question, OP.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/23 10:08 PM
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Seconded. There's a kinda corny story connecting all the advice together, but the parts where the characters arrive at the advice by talking to each other are gold.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/23 02:54 PM
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I enjoy when they have conservative guests I know and like on the podcast, such as Lila Rose or Michael Knowles. Lila especially held her own against a very rude and insecure RP guy ("I'm not triggered by you; I do think you're annoying"....yeah sure buddy). But otherwise, I'm not interested in the Whatever podcast. The main point of the podcast seems to be, "Look at all these dumb young women making bad decisions for their sex/love lives" and "Wow isn't modern dating terrible?" That kind of con…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/23 11:22 PM
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Commenting to confirm that I was indeed right. There's also a picture included from a women's abortion march and....the women in the image also looked exactly how I expected. It's odd (though unsurprising) that the article includes a photo of Donald Trump and that abortion march photo, as though everyone here loves Trump and wants to ban abortion. This group has literally nothing to do with either of those things, and I'd bet money that the opinions of the women here are pretty varied.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/23 01:18 PM
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And if it means anything, my boyfriend is the man I hope to marry & I now find comfort in the timing of him entering my life. I wouldn’t have dated him a few years ago (he’s younger than me). How much younger? Like, to the extent that you wouldn't have been willing to date him a few years back. I'm curious.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/23 02:12 PM
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This is the content I've been missing here lately. Thank you for sharing!
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/23 07:19 PM
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Wearing dresses and skirts and jewelry and makeup How old you are and how many guys you've been with Whether you can cook or not Weight and taking care of your body These are just to name a few. I'm not saying these things aren't important at all, but at a certain point, a girl's gotta look inward more and focus on deeper things. I'm finding myself turning to these books and Laura Doyle's podcast nowadays, where they focus more on female behavior toward men, particularly in marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/23 07:19 PM
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"For Women Only" by Shaunti Feldhahn is a good one. It's a very short read, but there's also chapter summaries in this subreddit if you'd prefer that.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/23 03:05 PM
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I second "What Your Husband Isn't Telling You" and "The Empowered Wife." To be honest, I've been spending less time in this subreddit lately and more time with these RPW-like books. I feel like this subreddit has degenerated over time into (1) too many women (and men) coming here with no understanding of what we're about after posting on r/relationship_advice and (2) too many women with a superficial understanding only of femininity. Most of the posts I've been coming back to are at least 5 year…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/23 03:04 PM
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This subreddit is for women. Men who post here are veterans of TRP, older, presumably married, and still gear their advice toward women. You are doing none of those things. I recommend posting in TRP instead.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/23 08:26 PM
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Came here to second Altard State
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/23 03:24 AM
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I'll update my comment after I watch the video. Before I do, I just wanted to say that I used to love The Take but got turned off as their content became more overtly feminist and politically divisive. I don't believe I'm part of their intended female audience (or a "girl's girl," as they described in a past video), and I'm okay with that. Updated with my thoughts on the video: I do think there are a lot of male incels who could get a date, a relationship, and/or a marriage+family one day if the…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/23 11:43 PM
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he presented the perfect relationship that “actually works” is the one where the girl is the good girl, and is designed to make a man’s life easier and not harder I mean, yes and no. The goal behind RPW is to get you in touch with your femininity, offer advice on how men work (see content from women like Laura Doyle and Suzanne Venker), and in general inhabit traditional gender roles where practical and optimal for both of you. We generally advise the women here to "take what works and leave the…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/23 03:54 AM
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Two thoughts here. First, I think you should've left after the first incident (if not, the second), long before you found those phrases in his search history. He simultaneously was telling you, "Of course I'll stop, I'm happy to stop" and "Men have tendencies and desires that no one considers or looks at," which sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. In other words, he was assuring you he'd stop so you wouldn't leave while at the same time justifying his behavior because he wasn't…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/23 06:32 PM
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Yeah at first I thought this person either was sexually abused by men ("only job is to spread her legs") or just had a longstanding distrust of men in general, hence the overcompensation with the I'm-so-stoic-and-tough attitude. I now think this person is a troll after reading your exchange.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/23 11:15 PM
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If that's your attitude, then quite frankly, this subreddit is not the place for you. You sound bitter, cold, and unpleasant. I think you're overcompensating for some distrust of men by putting on a hardcore, overly masculine front, and that's weak. Masculine, high-value men do not want this from their women.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/23 11:11 PM
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Tbh, I don't think love is a good emotion - especially not for a man. I doubt men are capable of love anyway, at least the high value one's aren't. If you're dating for marriage....and you don't think love is a good emotion....and you don't think men are capable of love......I'm sorry, why would you want to date men at all? What do you think a marriage is?
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/23 11:07 PM
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u/VasiliyZaitzev has been here for a long time. When he comments here, he's offering advice to help the women of RPW. He's respected and trusted here because he follows the guidelines and knows what he's talking about. I've been here for almost 5 years (deleted my old account), and I can assure you he's done nothing wrong. "Petting the unicorns" refers to a man or boy visiting our subreddit, gushing over how the women here are so "wonderful" and so "different" from blue-pilled modern women, and …
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/23 06:49 PM
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I agree with this. I've noticed a lot of the ladies who post here lately seem to have no understanding of RPW and instead treat us like r/relationship_advice. Some of them even are rude to the women who are active here. Is there a good solution?
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/23 02:45 AM
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Add-on to my other comment: I just looked through your post history. Did this guy buy you lingerie before your mental health issues, or did he bring it directly to the mental institution you're currently at? If the latter....that seems inappropriate. No offense, but whatever you're going through right now, I think you should put a LOT more of your focus into getting well instead of getting this dude to marry you. You're not beyond hope or anything, but you are not okay right now, and a well-adju…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/23 09:19 PM
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Are you two in a committed, exclusive relationship? Is he looking for a wife? How did you two meet? How long have you known each other?
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/23 04:42 PM
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Agreed. OP, what is this guy's lifestyle and relationship history like? Has he been married before? Does he have children?
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/23 04:36 PM
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I wonder if it's a question of her RMV rather than her SMV. Otherwise, I agree with almost all of this.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/23 07:37 PM
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You did great! Don't overthink this.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/23 02:13 PM
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Is this the same boyfriend you've been posting about within the past few months elsewhere?
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/23 12:41 PM
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May 2023 You mean May 2022, right?
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/23 04:09 PM
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Empowered Wife Podcast by Laura Doyle Suzanne Venker Show
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/23 10:37 PM
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Asking us if we support him is not the same as asking us if we hate him.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/23 01:56 PM
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You do realize trust needs to be built and earned over time in a relationship, right? It's not fair to expect a man to never keep anything to himself once the two of you have started a relationship. Should he be lying to you or hiding seriously terrible behavior or an addiction? No, of course not. But when the standard you communicate to men is, "No privacy once you're my boyfriend," most men aren't going to feel comfortable entering a relationship with you. They'll know they won't be able to ke…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/23 06:16 PM
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I'm not going to go there. The ladies of RPW have all sorts of political views, and I don't want to tell you what to ask about, thus sending the message that some political opinions would disqualify him as a masculine man even if some of the women here share them yet still have happy relationships/marriage. Plus I don't know or care about your politics, so I don't want to tell you "A masculine guy thinks this way" only for you to say, "But I think the opposite," as that would cause more conflict…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/23 03:38 PM
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Aaaaand this is why I stopped taking the bait and refused to get into a religious discussion with OP about Christianity and what it means to judge someone. There would've been no point.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/23 12:37 PM
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This is pretty much verbatim what I was going to say. If this is OP's worldview and attitude, she'll never get a good man to stick around for the long haul. Good, masculine men won't stand for this.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/23 03:30 AM
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I’m adding religious to my list of red flags though no offense. None taken. Since you're not religious, there'd be a serious incompatibility between you and a guy who is religious. no I’ve never done anything I personally consider to be bad, i don’t know why that’s so confusing. I don’t do stuff I think is bad. Snooping is considered bad but not by me so I do it. You may want to reconsider this attitude toward your actions. What's going to happen if the guy you're dating calls you out for doing …
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/23 01:35 AM
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I'm also a Christian. The answer to that is complicated, depending on what you mean by "judge." I'm not even going to go there because your line of questioning is starting to go beyond the scope of this subreddit. This subreddit is about helping women vet for good men and improve themselves to become more attractive to men. Normally, a woman who was in your situation and chose to post about it here would be asking for help finding red flags early for the future, what she could do to get past the…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/23 12:59 AM
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I think you misunderstood me. It's not just about how other people see him. He's a religious guy. Even if nobody else is watching, God is. He can try to keep up appearances for God. He can write down privately or in prayer that he believes this and believes that and is a good person for certain reasons so that whatever he's done that's bad and shameful is erased. Like I said, this is common behavior. To be more specific, it's similar to Frollo in Hunchback of Notre Dame. In both the book and the…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/23 12:33 AM
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he turned out to be two completely different people. Even in the end when he knew there was no reason to lie, he just couldn’t acknowledge anything. He was in some extremely deep denial I'll be honest, it's not clear exactly what the story is or why this is all puzzling you so much. I'm not trying to minimize the fact that someone being so dishonest is hard to grapple with. I'm just saying that this dude's behavior is not special. Plenty of people don't like looking in the mirror and acknowledgi…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/23 11:55 PM
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Being stuck on a bad guy after you break up is normal. Stuck in the sense that you're struggling to make sense of him and his behavior long after you're romantically "over" him. It's part of the process. Maybe this guy is treating this diary as a private confession to God without repenting and changing his behavior. Maybe he has a sexual addiction of some sort, and this diary is a sincere attempt to convince himself to stop. But frankly, just from what you've said here, I'm not convinced this gu…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/23 11:20 PM
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Agreed. I'll also add on that in the event that he has an ex-girlfriend who wasn't a total psycho but whose behavior was the (main) reason the relationship ended, he won't paint himself as a saint and her as a succubus. He'll be honest with you about what he did wrong or failed at, while still being honest about how her bad behavior affected him and the relationship. I'm not talking about the case where he dated a fully narcissistic or psychotic bunny-boiler (similar to Alex in Fatal Attraction)…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/23 05:06 PM
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It sounds like you're wondering two things. (1) How do I get comfortable with showing my happiness when a guy takes care of me in small, chivalrous ways like holding the door open? (2) Am I paranoid for worrying that this guy is always going to be submissive and expect me to lead, even if I show him I'm happier when the man leads? For your first question, after 20+ years of comfort with being a hard, tough, strong woman in your professional field, it's going to feel weird to express those emotio…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/23 04:57 PM
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Second this book.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/23 04:35 PM
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I (mostly) agree with her politically and follow her brother/Daily Wire closely. I probably lean a more libertarian than she does; heck, 5 years ago, I was probably far more to the left! As far as her content for women on femininity and modesty and style, I think it's fine. It was a good starting point for me, and though I still agree with her, I just prefer other influencers. I remember really liking the video she and her husband did about how they met. It helped me get past my tendency to hold…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/23 08:39 PM
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I'll let them speak for themselves, but I think the other ladies here beg to differ.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 03:10 AM
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He's respecting us so hard, omg wow
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 02:55 AM
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You can't even spell the word "married," your grammar is atrocious, and you clearly don't understand English. The rules do not say that men have to be married, older, OR longtime RP (which is what you're arguing they say). The rules say that men have to be all three of these things. You are not. I also pointed out to you earlier how the content of your post violates our rules, and you're ignoring it because you have not actually read the guidelines. You're not entitled to participate in a women'…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 02:51 AM
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You're twisting the words. The men who can provide valuable advice and insights are long time RP and older and married. You are neither of those things.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 02:41 AM
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It doesn't matter what your intentions were. Petting the unicorns or making posts that aren't useful to the female participants of RPW break our rules about men posting here. Frankly, 90% of your comment was about how terrible modern women are. Nothing about it was insightful or (more importantly) actionable advice for us. For all these reasons, your post breaks our rules, and it will be removed by the mods soon.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 02:16 AM
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See my other comment.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 02:06 AM
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Also he's petting the unicorns *eyeroll*
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 02:04 AM
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No, u/princess_mothra probably just looked at your comment history. I just looked at it and agree with her. We have strict rules in this subreddit about men participating. One of our rules is that men can't "pet the unicorns." Making a post in here about how modern women are terrible and us RPW are special violates that rule. This sub is for us to improve our commitment/dating game, not for you to come in here flattering us because you're lonely or want to score.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 02:03 AM
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I second Jane Eyre. That book got me through some tough times. Almost any book by Jane Austen will do also. Start with Pride and Prejudice if you've never read Austen before.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 01:54 AM
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If he's out of the closet, he'll just tell you when you start making advances. If he's not out of the closet, he almost certainly won't tell you, and you'll become his beard if he allows a relationship to happen. Some signs he's closeted: Generally isn't interested in sex/the sexual aspect of your relationship. You feel more like friends than lovers even if he says otherwise. He can't/won't pick up cues that you are making sexual advances, be they subtle or overt. When you do engage with each ot…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/23 03:36 AM
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Getting engaged when you have no intention to marry her and see no value in marriage is definitely a choice, dude.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 08:11 PM
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How do you feel about this Bwahahahahahaha how do you counter such ridiculous statements? If it's online, I step away and return to my real life. My real life makes me very happy. I'm not sure when a RPW discussion would happen in person. But in the event that someone says I have "internalized misogyny," I would just smile and say I love being a woman, and it's nonsensical to hear that my happiness suggests I "hate" my own sex. There's a time and place for a debate, which I'm open to if it's in …
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/23 05:53 PM
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The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/23 05:45 PM
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Correct. If after several dates you can't imagine jumping his bones soon, I'd cut your losses and let him go. I'm not going to advocate having sex before you're committed to each other or having sex too early, but it should be hard to hold off on sex. You should be hungry for him between dates. Leading up to your first kiss, you should've been aching and excited for it. If you don't feel the tingles now.....then it just ain't there.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 05:13 PM
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Also a Mrs. Midwest fan! I used to visit places like r/FundieSnark to see why people were hating on her, and honestly, I think a lot of it is in bad faith and not credible. For instance, people use the fact that she went on Roosh V's channel once to argue that she agrees with everything he says, even the really bad stuff. That's really stupid "logic."
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/23 04:12 AM
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This this this.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/23 02:01 AM
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Not quite. I was told for years by the culture and blue-pilled circles I was in that beauty standards don't matter, that we don't need to be beautiful or attractive to get a man, and that men who don't want a girlfriend who's overweight/blue-haired/unkempt are just sexist/fatphobic. It's not that they explicitly tell you to destroy your beauty or get fat; they just lie to you and argue that there are no standards, so you don't need to do better.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 07:34 PM
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Normally, I'd say it isn't a dealbreaker when you're dating. Some guys hold off on saying "I love you" for much longer than even 7 months. Some assume you know already from their actions and feel they don't have to. Some have been burned in the past and are more cautious about saying it. Some just feel they shouldn't say it unless they're ready and able to follow up on it (e.g. with a ring). However: He said his feelings were the same since we last talked about it. They haven't grown and he isn'…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 07:20 PM
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Having a consistent exercise routine (weights and running). Improving my makeup game. Wearing dresses more. Listening more instead of talking a lot. Learning how to talk even to strangers and enjoy doing it took more time and was less superficial. Same with learning how to better vet my friends as well as men.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 03:45 PM
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I was sick of not attracting men and started making more superficial changes at first. Then I noticed that the superficial changes were making me happier, and men noticing me felt like a bonus. The deeper changes came slowly over time. My happiness regardless of my relationship status has just gone up, in addition to the quality of men I attract. I'm very very happy now in a relationship that keeps him in his masculine and me in my feminine. Take what works and leave the rest.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 03:20 PM
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Could you be a little more specific? What are the ways that you are not such a good fit, and how have they caused issues (if at all)?
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/22 07:20 PM
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Ma'am this is a Wendy's (serious: you didn't answer OP's question)
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/22 11:15 PM
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jealous overweight people. jealous overweight women, usually
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/22 10:23 PM
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There are two solutions here. First, you need to invest in yourself. Get fitter. Get hotter. Improve your personal style. Spend more time with your friends. Work on improving in your hobbies, or maybe pick up a new one. If you can truly lose yourself in any of these activities, you won't be thinking about him so much. If you're insecure or not happy with yourself, it's very easy to get stuck on somebody you shouldn't be stuck on. The second piece is to look for a better guy and stop overvaluing …
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 02:35 PM
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Seconded this. I went from being a cardio bunny to balancing running with lifting. 2 years later, my legs are tighter, my butt is bigger and more shapely, and my overall body fat percentage is down. Sometimes I run more and lift less; sometimes I run less and lift more. But it's very difficult for me to bulk up the way a man would. As someone who tends to store more excess weight in my lower body, it was scary at first to notice that my jeans were not fitting as well when I got stronger. But eve…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/22 12:33 PM
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You are still very young. Being a single mother with an anonymous sperm donor is not the best option at all, especially at your age. My advice is to hold off on becoming a mother for now, and instead just fulfill your responsibilities (work, school, family, etc.). The more time you spend doing the (right) things that you're supposed to do when you're supposed to do them, the less time you'll spend fretting about this type of thing, and the happier you will be. I don't know what kind of history y…
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/22 04:28 PM
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Completely agree with all of this. I'll also add that if we come to our men in tears and super upset about something serious, we usually just want to be held and listened to. If a guy can do that for us and be emotionally stable, we feel like he's our rock and that he'll understand us and protect us. We don't go to our girlfriends for all of that.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/22 05:15 PM
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You didn't answer my question. And you're a fool if you think you'll be totally fine with a man being jobless while you're a housewife. (Disclaimer: I'm not talking about a situation where he changes careers or is unemployed for a period of time due to layoffs, for instance. I'm talking about a situation that OP's boyfriend is in.)
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/22 05:36 PM
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You have a lot of growing up to do. Living in the basement and playing video games for the rest of my life sounds boring and miserable. I'd rather get off my ass and exercise, make food for my husband, take care of our home, and bear + raise our children. In what world am I shallow for wanting my man to (1) want that too, and (2) structure his life so that's possible? OP wants to become a wife and have a family one day. Her boyfriend makes unpopular content for YouTube, smokes weed a lot, lives …
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/22 05:21 PM
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I disagree. He is 26 and lives in his mom's basement. He doesn't have his life together, and he doesn't seem interested in actually getting it together. His vision of his life (if he even has one) is incompatible with OP's. If you think his living situation and his lack of a career aren't problematic, then you're either very young or have very low expectations for the men in your life.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/22 04:52 PM
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I agree that pressuring him to make more money is wrong. He either wants to provide and has a job that pays well enough for OP to do that, or he doesn't. If he doesn't, then he's not right for her. If you're willing to do the housework and raise the kids and be the breadwinner, and that works for you, that's great. I'm not interested in doing that, and it doesn't sound like OP is either.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/22 04:44 PM
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Don't show him this post. Girl, you said he was perfect and then gave a laundry list of compatibility issues. You're going to lose respect for him over time, if you haven't already. I'll also add on that his age is relevant here. If he was in his late teens/early twenties and has ambition/drive handles money well has a good-paying job (or will once he finishes school, for instance) has his own place shares your values about where you'll live and whether or not you'll have a family then I'd advis…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/22 04:18 PM
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And you are concerned about his money? Women who care about how fat the wallet of their men is, are gold diggers. If she wants to have children one day and stay home to raise them, then the amount of money he makes is relevant. There's a major difference between being a manipulative gold digger like Casino's Sharon Stone and being a woman who wants to be a homemaker or stay-at-home mom.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/22 04:17 PM
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My experience lately is if they are liberals/leftists/woke you need to just tow the line. Don't rock the boat. If you don't agree with something they say, just smile and nod and say wow a lot. Agree with all of this. Silence works wonders. If they're looking for a beef, you won't give it to them, and they'll change the subject. And if they just want to complain, then you're being a good listener.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/22 03:51 PM
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Basically my contribution right now is that I am very crafty and artistic and I can make him cute/comfy things that he can use or wear. I think you're undervaluing your skills in this area. It sounds like you're a yarn junkie. I am too and love making gifts for people. If you end up becoming a SAHM, you'll definitely be able to put this into action by making clothes/blankets/toys for your children, making decorations for your home, mending things so that they last longer, etc. he's better at coo…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/22 04:17 PM
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To OP: I'll add that premature ejaculation can also be a symptom of porn addiction, assuming the guy you're with isn't 15 and inexperienced. This usually happens because his nervous system is conditioned to have him finish quickly out of fear of being caught by someone. In other words, he treats sex like a quick masturbation session between his obligations, just out of habit, whether he means to or not.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/22 04:32 PM
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You're not alone. If you stay with him, his addiction will most likely get worse. You then run the risk of having him ask you for (or demand) more degrading and unpleasant things in bed. He may even cheat in the real world (if you don't already consider porn to be cheating). You can't fix his sexual dysfunction, and he will almost certainly continue to lie to you about it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/22 04:27 PM
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Completely agree with this, even if it isn't explicitly part of RPW. I think a lot of RPW can be derived from the moral order associated with Christianity. Source: am Christian, love Jesus, hang out on RPW a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/22 06:45 PM
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Seconded!
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/22 07:07 PM
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I'm reading The Empowered Wife for the first time, and this is right in line with some of Laura's advice. Lovely!
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/22 12:26 PM
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I just bought this one from Altar'd State and I LOVE IT.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/22 10:30 PM
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What do you mean when you say "change names?" No one here uses their real name. Are you referring to people's usernames? I'm very careful of what I say on here to preserve anonymity, so I don't have anything here in RPW that I'm uncomfortable with your professor reading. However, I don't know how the ladies here who lean heavily on Reddit's more anonymous design when sharing personal details about their lives and relationships would feel about your project, so I'd like to see what they think.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/22 02:51 PM
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This.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/22 02:41 PM
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Out of curiosity, why did your last relationship end?
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/22 12:05 AM
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I have been in this situation multiple times in past relationships. In one of them, it reached an unspoken crisis point during the early months of the pandemic, as our differing world views led to internal conflict within the relationship. We broke up for other reasons, but I learned to vet more carefully early on for similar values. I think there can be some compromises if the differences are not fundamentally opposed to each other (e.g. both are Christians with slight disagreements on theology…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/22 01:21 AM
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OP, you do not just have a crush on this man. You have been sleeping with a man who is married to one of your friends. I feel very sorry for your friend and her children (if she has any). You need to break things off, admit what you did to your friend, and then reap what you've sown. You said in a previous comment that you don't want to be responsible for breaking up a family, but unfortunately, you put yourself in that position once you became the other woman. I strongly suggest you stay single…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/22 11:44 PM
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Ohhhh yep, you're right. Just found it all. Yikes.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/22 11:40 PM
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Are you sure this is the case? I just checked her post history, and the last post was from a year ago regarding a boyfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/22 11:38 PM
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I'm a grad student on a small budget, and I've managed to add some fall decor to my bedroom without going crazy! I'll try to tailor it to what I would do if my man came to me with the same request. Highly recommend going to HomeGoods, Joann's, or any craft store to find fake plants. I found a garland of fall leaves on sale, and it currently decorates the end of my desk where it meets the wall. You can also find little fall knickknacks there. I recommend: Fake plants with fall colors Himalayan pi…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/22 11:35 PM
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I've ordered a number of long, high-waisted skirts off of Amazon. I have a lot of cute cardigans. Altard State is one of my favorite clothing stores.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 07:57 PM
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You clearly need him to be faithful to you, and he won't do it. It's not complicated.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 03:02 PM
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Don't take this dude back. Monogamy is clearly a core need for you, and he refuses to meet it. You don't actually love this guy for who he is. You're just clinging to him because you feel you can't do any better. Work on yourself, and you can find a better man.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 03:01 PM
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1000%. OP, if I had to make it as simple as possible for you to vet a man once you know you're attracted to him and you get along, I'd tell you to look for an honest man with a backbone. If he lacks either of those things, you'll never be able to respect him longterm. I've been on the receiving end of both flaws mentioned by u/Glittering-Neck557 in a previous relationship. Trust me, you do not want a man who is okay with lying to you and too insecure to show you who he really is. Also, he's not …
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/22 02:28 PM
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This is exactly what I've learned with my boyfriend. If he's right there helping me move or taking charge of something so I don't have to, and I'm still stressed, it really really bothers him. This is a wonderful way to look at it. It's his gift to me so I can relax and not "feel the load" on my shoulders.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/22 02:43 PM
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I'm pretty sure this violates our rules for "man here." The sub is about woman-centric advice. Consider posting on r/askTRP instead.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/22 11:30 AM
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I had a rough day moving house today. This post made my night better.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/22 12:54 AM
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You've said before that the two of you dated 5-6 years before you got married. How were you able to tell if he was a guy who actually loved you and wanted to get parts of his life in order before marrying you, or if he was a guy who was just saying that to keep you around but had no intentions of marrying you? (And if it's not too personal, what life things needed to be in place for the two of you before you tied the knot?)
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/22 05:43 PM
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