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| 15 | Legalised theft and transfer of wealth. | PokerFriend247 | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/23 06:32 AM | |
| 10 | Help - Angry and frustrated with New GF whilst separated. | PokerFriend247 | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/11/23 03:52 AM | |
| 7 | Commitment vs Casual Dating vs Paid company. | PokerFriend247 | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/01/24 01:13 AM | |
| 5 | Hearing in 7 days and I’m anxious. | PokerFriend247 | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/01/24 06:20 AM | |
| 4 | Disobey Financial Court Order | Court | PokerFriend247 | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/03/25 01:17 PM |
| 3 | Am I responsible for welfare beyond 18. | PokerFriend247 | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/24 01:50 AM | |
| 3 | Questions asked your Ex during financial statements | Lawyers | PokerFriend247 | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/02/24 11:04 PM |
| 2 | Form E - Uk Help. | PokerFriend247 | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/09/23 11:26 AM | |
| 1 | Poker as side hustle till financials sorted. Anybody encounter problems in court hearings. | PokerFriend247 | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/09/23 08:31 AM |
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| 3 | Male PerspectiveWhy has this got the flair - success stories… I’m going to give some wisdom. For your future and during this process. Step 1 - point your finger at someone. 🤛🏼 👆🏼 Step 2 - look closely at your digits. ☝🏻 Step 3 - notice that there are 3 x fingers pointing back at you. 🫵🏼 | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/02/24 02:58 PM |
| 2 | Male PerspectiveDid you weaponise Sex ..? Did you manipulate and lie … ? Did stonewall - silent treatment ? Did you discard him and still want him as a supply? Or hope this would work and bring you closer. If you are serious about getting him back you need to understand yourself better fast. Get a psychiatrist evaluation and be honest. You may have a cluster B personality. One of you is codependent and one is the abuser. Work out which one … only you know. Google Trauma bonding in codependency. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/02/24 02:50 PM |
| 2 | Male PerspectiveAnd did she open her box.. yep In your own words posted Ms Sunshine you deserve to be left to have your freedom if this how YOU work on things regardless of his behaviour. Asked a divorce ,, you’re getting one.. ‘I'm not innocent. There was a period of time where we were separated that i engaged in a friendship with benefits situation, and had a couple one night stands. He was also having sex with others during that time. It doesn't make my actions right, separation doesn't mean divorce. Though,… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/02/24 02:41 PM |
| 3 | My attorney likes to say…I request hence forth you make it known you are a women before you spout your nonsense. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/02/24 10:09 PM |
| 2 | My attorney likes to say…Spoken like a someone who doesn’t understand, your false rhetoric does not trump experience. No matter how you try and frame it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/02/24 09:57 PM |
| 13 | My attorney likes to say…Well it’s always short term gain for them. If they could see past there nose they would have realised what they are losing in the first place. Live your best life dude. Nice 👌🏾 | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/02/24 04:10 AM |
| 1 | Having a very hard timeHas any finances recently changed… Women love money too. She most likely decided 2 years ago and has been planning the exit. 1) get all financials in order and have proof before you get the ‘I need space’ Ruse 2) don’t move out!!! No matter what she says. You can pretend you want to work on the marriage. ( you fallen for the trap - her making you think it’s ALL your fault and playing the victim) There is usually a pattern - some shrews or divorcees friends lurking in the background giving premiu… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/02/24 10:49 AM |
| 1 | He'll hath no fury like a woman scornedThe Four Rings of Wife. Friendship Ring 🤝 Engagement Ring 💍 Wedding Ring 🫶🏻 Suffer Ring 👀😵💫 | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/02/24 01:33 AM |
| 1 | Caught my Ex in a trap todayHe meant sweaty 😰 in deep inferno’s | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/02/24 01:25 AM |
| 1 | Am I responsible for welfare beyond 18.Same experience I went on parenting classes and did change dramatically realising the error in my thinking. My anxiety and sleep deprivation, impatience does still show through at times in the form of short temper. I had to grow up fast and for the most part I want them enjoy their childhood. But Time passes so quickly and the skills they need can only taught in such limited quality time. Effin’ Ex is just out there enjoying herself and teaches them nothing. I guess I fear having inept adults. W… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/02/24 12:45 AM |
| 0 | Am I responsible for welfare beyond 18.This is true I still want to be part of their lives. I think my strict parenting style ( patterns from my late father) is so different that boys will just end up hating me anyway. Parental alienation , gaslighting and constant errands has taken its toll on me. I’m soooo tired. So I set a date into the future , a goal to work towards. Thanks for your advice guys. I need to reevaluate my approach to the future. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/24 07:22 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone know of an app or some function in iOS that allows you to export an entire text thread to PDF or some other printable format?I concur 👍🏼 I set up a dedicated protonmail account - encrypted and secure. for parenting stuff. The silence was bliss. Grey rock 2.0 🪨 Lost my main phone and never gave her my updated number. Although children have it. But honestly it works. Email today is fast , reliable Time stamped and proof. You get notification messages instantly. But YOU choose when and how you respond. You can even set autoresponders. And create boundaries of hours.. Honestly reverse uno silent treatment. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/24 01:38 AM |
| 1 | Hearing in 7 days and I’m anxious.Thanks I know. But tried and can’t afford. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/01/24 06:36 AM |
| 2 | How do you feel about your wife keeping your surname after the divorce?Family surname has a special significance in our tradition/culture. Identifies linage. Three things have affected my mental state. 1) Gaslighting and annoying passive aggression behaviour. The EX narc misspelt my Surname on divorce filing. I believe in purpose to get a reaction. This may be considered a typo but I don’t. 2) Spam advertisement still coming to family home with MISS A. Surname. 😡🤬🤬 Turned from mrs to miss. In the first few weeks of separation. I actually want her to change hers , b… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/01/24 06:06 AM |
| 5 | Shit show continues (vent)I have four simple words of comfort and solace in these moments. I DID MY BEST…. Given the circumstances Given the finances Given the mental stress and anxiety. Given everything that could go wrong. That’s it.. I DID MY BEST.. dear daughter and that’s all anyone can do. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/01/24 03:22 AM |
| 3 | Mediation tomorrow can it really be OVER after this???It means you being overly generous ,negotiating and making concessions in your own mind to your own detriment against your self. Making justifications and essentially bidding against yourself in the auction of life. This a like a business negotiation and emotional manipulation from the other party will already be in place or actively used. But I was SAHM - I contributed to making you successful etc. I washed , cleaned etc .. sometimes exaggerating and changing history and narrative. Portrays her… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/01/24 04:29 AM |
| 2 | Commitment vs Casual Dating vs Paid company.You are clearly someone who understands addiction and the single event that forever destroys your outlook and perspective. So I thankyou for valuable advice and guidance and time taken for a detailed reply, I will try and change focus to work on myself and search for a Real relationship. (Neurodivergent adhd/ASD type ) | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/01/24 01:22 PM |
| 1 | Could use some advice/motivationWhere there is a will you can find a way through this, Learn , adapt and change. Get a a paying temporary lodger. Sleep in living room couch if need be. Do what’s necessary to make changes. If you make decisions from a position of fear and accepting abuse then your life is only going to have even greater suffering. Kudos for reaching out and actually asking for advice. Now take the final step and decide. Own it. Don’t be a doormat You will no longer be Tolerating abuse Tolerating trauma help wit… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/01/24 11:34 AM |
| 2 | Commitment vs Casual Dating vs Paid company.The logical reasoning and calculation is spot on. Ex had let herself go badly and to be fair so did I. Went from size 32 inches to 40 inches Fat rolls and perky breasts-went from 36DD to a humongous 38HH - Sweaty FUPA. Princess lei turned into Jabba the hut. ‘When you said anything - nobody tells me what to eat and how much’ Having only got x number of toothy painful blowjobs and Y number of vanilla sex. Snored like a pig and just lay there like it was a chore. Honestly I would have got more ani… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/01/24 08:05 AM |
| 9 | AdviceYes you can buy your own flowers and talk to yourself for hours, write your name in the sand.. blah blah blah So Do it - just don’t Moan about it, ‘ Gotta let a woman be a woman And let a man be a man ‘ Wish list and secrets : Accountability for self Can accept CONstructive Critism and can does something about it. Entitlement and selfish - Being realistic with economic stage in your country - no fantasy / dream houses/ dream holidays / princess / queen treatment is BS. You are nether royality Be… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/01/24 03:38 AM |
| 4 | What do you do with yourself?Stop being - half glass empty and fill the void and create a positive outlook. Not all plans workout in life … time for a new plan.. Create routines of activities with units of time Watch this movie clip from About a boy.- island living. You find hobbies old and new. Your second chance to reinvent your life. Indoor sports -badminton in winter. Outdoor sport - tennis, basketball, football , cricket. You find some indoor and outdoor social hobbies- photography , creative endeavours , Poker ♥️😜. Go… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/01/24 05:26 AM |
| 4 | ForgivenessYeah but when you get constant reminders every few days. Forgiveness takes a back seat. I will never forgive nor forget. Aslong my memory holds up. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/01/24 07:53 AM |
| 3 | Go work out they say…I get it I’m late forties. And have put on weight again after the last OLD romance scammers and toxic GF. It’s a Wild West out there. One step further grew a beard and long hair to self sabotage any chance of reconciliation or anyone being remotely attracted to me. Weight management is the last thing on your mind when you are emotional eating to just make it through any given day. Just consider going for a walk after heavy meal. Start somewhere if nothing just for mental health. The spiral of de… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/01/24 02:49 PM |
| 1 | Anyone have tips on how to overcome stress induced insomnia?Fellow longtime sufferer. I had a sleep study done and it has helped. Diagnosed with nightmare disorder and insomnia also. wiki how - severe anxiety /sleep advice | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/24 05:58 AM |
| 1 | Anyone have tips on how to overcome stress induced insomnia?Do you snore? Overweight BMI? Have more than 16 neck size ? Wake up choking or feel like drowning gasping for air. ? Call the Sleep team - seriously this could be undiagnosed sleep apnea. sleep on side Valarian root. No devices TV /anxiety news before bedtime. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/24 05:55 AM |
| 4 | People in western world are lucky - not stuck forever like IndiaYeah Eat pray love phenomenon. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/24 04:46 AM |
| 1 | Help me pleaseAsk a legal consult before you do anything. Redditors won’t be responsible for misinformation or making foolish decisions without proper care and planning. Some USA laws may not apply to marriage abroad. Dissolution to occur in country of marriage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/24 04:19 AM |
| 4 | Someone talk some sense into me.This all reads like manipulation and long term planned on her part. Asset stripping - long game. Lining up her next victim. Emotional affair is still an Affair. No matter how much blame shifting occurs. Get outside perspectives and don’t believe her lies. Cognitive dissonance is happening. Some of these patterns of behaviour suggest some dark psychology traits at play here. Yes it takes two hands to clap and your part in the marriage will factor in. But.. You deserve happiness, commitment and RE… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/12/23 03:56 AM |
| 6 | Getting over herWhy am I reminded of the movie 🎥 Misery .. My Ex was morbidly obese and fat rolls , snored like a pig 🐷 Obviously didn’t start out this way. Google codependency and narcissistic tendencies and trauma bonding. you will soon know the why… You feel like she is special and the only family. This push pull discard technique is a pattern. Do NOT get sucked into her black hole. 🕳️ now that you have escaped. You a strong 💪🏽 We will be your family in the mean time. You deserve better, you will get better … | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/12/23 03:29 AM |
| 0 | The WifeyLost my phone and only kids have my number. Email all the way. 💩 emoji prior to that | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/23 11:17 PM |
| 1 | Those that were domestically violent, how did you change?First start with a parenting class. Your children deserve the best version of you. If you need to get medicated then do it. Anxiety, depression, Find the ROOT cause of your nature. Mine largely attributed undiagnosed sleep apnea. Flight/ fight fatigue and anxiety fuelled rants. First step is recognition of your a unique traits and triggers. Know thy self better. Rule out and address psychological issues that stem from childhood , bullying. Family dynamics. These are not excuses , OWN that shit a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/23 12:39 AM |
| 3 | Forgot how it feltThankyou. Great help and kindness to old lady. 🫡 | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/12/23 07:11 AM |
| 8 | Forgot how it feltWhat was the item?? I need to know to be fully immersed in the experience you shared. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/12/23 06:53 AM |
| 7 | Sexual Frustration‘ Meats back on the Menu Bois’ The 4 rings of life. Friendship Ring Engagement Ring Eternity Ring No more SufferRing 👀 | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/12/23 04:56 AM |
| 1 | Am i wrong for contemplating or wanting a separation/divorce?You start by explaining you have everything? House, dogs etc… But do really have everything? Are you familiar with motivational theory -Maslow needs | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/23 06:48 AM |
| 2 | Am i wrong for contemplating or wanting a separation/divorce?https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/psychology-insights-new-world/202111/responsibility-freedom-empowerment-and-mental-health Your life your choice Free from conditioning. The option you create for yourself. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/23 06:44 AM |
| 1 | Am i wrong for contemplating or wanting a separation/divorce?https://www.wikihow.com/Recognize-a-Manipulative-or-Controlling-Relationship | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/23 04:57 AM |
| 4 | Am i wrong for contemplating or wanting a separation/divorce?Eat pray shove. I think deep down you won’t admit you feel trapped and controlled without a voice. You earn freedom of choice and options. Q - who changed the plan on the vactation? And why. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/23 04:53 AM |
| 1 | I thought I was over my ex but I'm notSomething to ponder about current relationship, Any fear of abandonment issues?? | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/23 04:11 AM |
| 2 | I thought I was over my ex but I'm notPotential here too confuse anxiety with love. I was trauma bonded to my Ex. If this was any other scenario other than illness , would you feel the same? | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/23 04:07 AM |
| 4 | Women call preferences Standards and for Men is being ToxicNice response You should have been collecting action toy figures. 🫣👀🤣 | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/23 02:31 AM |
| 0 | I need advice to prep for my first paid consultationhttps://www.wikihow.com/Hire-a-Divorce-Lawyer https://www.wikihow.life/Choose-the-Right-Divorce-Lawyer https://www.brookman.co.uk/divorce/questions-divorce-lawyer-meeting This just became a series negotiations about resources and division , future outcomes with legal elements. Imho - Learn some negotiation tactics commonly used. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/12/23 05:25 AM |
| 3 | I need advice to prep for my first paid consultationMy take limited experience. But time is money, You are paying for their services and time. Don’t ask questions already answered on a pamphlet or website. Dyor and check reviews. 1 ) will just say all the time - generic answer and sales pitch with a few examples. and unless you are going check these references, how would you know? 2 ) this not a SWOT 3) best question and essential. 7/5/4 prioritise needs and importance and what you actually want/ desired outcome. Why should I use your firm ? Fixe… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/12/23 05:14 AM |
| 1 | Be Creative with Mediation Settlementassuming the other party as the intelligence and self interest. And the best interests of children at heart. I fear creative thinking is extinguished by greedy lawyers and outrageous fees. The whole system is adversarial from outset. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/12/23 05:00 AM |
| 1 | DrainedGrey rock 🪨 strategy with a twist. I never see her face, I never hear her voice ( unless in court) , I never engage. Does not have my NEW mobile number. My children do. Oopsy I Accidentally lost me phone 🫣 Just make out you really badly affected by her drama and situations she creates. Angry , overwhelmed , distraught. That way you are happy internally and she gets her supply. Refine your Acting skills. Learn, adapt, change and overcome, I refuse to be further abused and there is not a law in th… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/12/23 03:35 AM |
| 3 | Don't let your hate towards your ex wife turn into hatred of womenYou can’t hate women. For they make up sisters, mothers and other relatives. Initially the MGTow movement appealed to me. Through female platonic friendships and dialogue. I have witnessed kindness and compassion and understanding. I genuinely believe it’s the system that is flawed and media manipulation. A type of brainwashing, programming which starts at an early age and creates an unrealistic viscous cycle. An unhealthy dynamic of expectations. Fantasy vs reality Would world be different with… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/12/23 01:31 AM |
| 1 | Does anyone here have experience with a court monitored texting app? How do I force her to use it? How much does it cost?Forget victory. It was as always going to be a lose - lose scenario. What about time lost… Sanity and stress lost. Trust lost Relationships lost Children lost something more.. You about to lose and risk relationship with GF.. Just lose as little as possible Grey rock silence, don feed the troll and let it wander looking for new supplies. Enough to make her feel like she won. Whilst keeping the children at heart of the decisions. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/12/23 07:08 AM |
| 1 | Does anyone here have experience with a court monitored texting app? How do I force her to use it? How much does it cost?Everything by dedicated email between certain hours. Suggest Proton mail, Till you get family wizard | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/12/23 07:01 AM |
| 2 | Where do you actually meet other women?By asking how do I meet women outside OLD. 🥴 It’s a paradoxical irony. Speed dating? Meet-up groups Social groups The issue is here, you will be cold approaching and have to find out 1) single 2) ready to mingle 3) drama free. 4) not a scammer / long con. 5) playing it cool - thirsty, needy or creepy. Good luck dude. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/12/23 03:38 AM |
| 1 | How do you cope with the depression?What is depression? Ted ED video Run time - 4 Minutes 29 seconds. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/12/23 05:57 AM |
| 3 | How do you cope with the depression?Find hobbies that are fun and provide hits of dopa. (Username checks out 4 me. ) This can me a mix of competitive board gaming online or Board games Chess. physical racket sports and fitness related activities help with serotonin levels and healthy eating in gut area. This is your second chance. I mourn the loss of my plan and devastation/ destruction that has occurred and will occur when dust settles. But in meantime….. fun fun fun. Get to know the real you, mini experiments of what you like. T… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/12/23 05:47 AM |
| 3 | Married for 2 years but sex is decliningBecause she will go back to breadcrumb mode back to square one without finding out. WHY? It’s the why that causes most pain. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/12/23 02:13 AM |
| 6 | Married for 2 years but sex is decliningLook up weaponising sex and stonewalling. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/12/23 02:10 AM |
| 5 | Married for 2 years but sex is decliningSo at what point do you realise she having an affair? So sexual appetite may be genuinely low. Depression/ anxiety / body dysphoria etc. But too many choices for her out there. Bail now before the next baby trap is set. DO NOT engage in sex till you have determined WHY… Get tests for iron levels. Vitamins and rule out obvious causes. Get yourself STi checked. You could offer sex therapy/ counselling sessions Refuses these or help then you have your answer. You have Needs. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/12/23 02:06 AM |
| 2 | Is marrying a God-fearing woman the answer?Some interesting reading for you. Christian marriage statistics. . | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/12/23 03:32 AM |
| 6 | Is marrying a God-fearing woman the answer?A Massive NOPE. It is an answer but not THE answer for you. Bible versus may be like a long T&cs. Some Women agree to them without actually knowing, reading them or living them. 10 commandments wouldn’t exist otherwise. 🤔 You are only looking at upside and downsides. So you never heard of faking it till you making it. ? You are better off looking for someone where the husband died for REAL commitment. Till death do us Part. Too religious = sexless dead bedroom and friendship mainly. Will your se… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/12/23 03:15 AM |
| 6 | Wife wants divorce, but promised if I changed we’ll be back together.Just change for yourself and not HER. Once you change and grow independent you will not want her back for you will be more empowered to see the reality. You will realise you are being manipulated, coerced and brainwashed and abused. Never be someone’s footstool, doormat or compliant monkey. Mine would not accept any constructive criticism. Do I spend the rest of my life never speaking up or just accepting her abuse and conditions. I would rather adjust to her absence than get frustrated by her p… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/12/23 07:36 AM |
| 4 | My wife just told me she wants to separate... after these holidays. Don't know how to react.Not to ruin everyone’s Christmas except yours. 🙄 Nasty women. Stay strong 💪🏽 and may strength be with you through the hols. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/12/23 05:46 AM |
| 2 | Ex keeps emailing me about financial problems🤔 Maybe pictures would help for this fucktard to get the message through her thick 💀 🫵🏻 🧝🏻♀️your 🛌 Now lie in it . IDGF🖕🏼 | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/12/23 11:00 AM |
| 2 | Ex keeps emailing me about financial problemsEat Pray love … Say you changed your number Give her the number for local zoo or homeless shelter. 🤣😆 | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/12/23 10:53 AM |
| 10 | Anyone actually left the country?2032 , my countdown clock started Till youngest 18. Till then I’m stuck and miserable. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/11/23 07:30 PM |
| 1 | Post DivorceDefamation case ?? | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/11/23 03:27 AM |
| 1 | I f*cked up. I just want my family backI apologise for my earlier comments. I can see the remorse and genuine sincerity in the last post. The loss of parents at any age is heartbreaking. I lost my parents at very young age. Liver cirrhosis for my father most likely from alcohol coping mechanism. I guess it triggered an assumption on my part and frustration. Sorry my tone was not mindful and brutal. I truly hope sobriety and happiness finds you in better circumstances. Be patient and kind to yourself. We are human after all and mistak… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/11/23 12:00 AM |
| 3 | I f*cked up. I just want my family backWhen something is shattered and broken , you can try glueing it back to together but it will be forever imperfect. This lady deserves better and you did the worse thing ever. She supported you and was there for you. You chose addiction. You were not drunk 24/7 You were affecting her mental health and children’s well being. You have changed the children’s outlook forever. You spiralled downwards again and again. Honestly once you tell her about all the ladies you banged and her remaining faithful… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/11/23 01:51 PM |
| -1 | What advice would you give to men to protect their assetsTry this new Hollywood trick celebs and wealthy elites are using. You get married on day 1 and immediately separated on day 2. But still remain together as a couple. Here you go my forever love You are welcome to the Assets I created and acquired over 24 hours I was married to you for. Bye bye gold diggers. Hello lawyers drafting this workaround. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/11/23 04:25 AM |
| 2 | What role does/did passive-aggressive behavior play in your marriage?It has created a lifetime of anxiety based decisions and trauma. I’m paranoid , have trust issues as a result. Made my life miserable. Felt I was dealing with a child most days. Attention seeking behaviour Depression and sleep deprived days wondering what did I do wrong to deserve this skull fucckery and mind games. Manipulating your partner just so you can get what you want is cowardly and the steps of a baby/ child. Babies cry for needs and wants but they were really grow up and use words. Poo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/11/23 04:18 AM |
| 1 | Need a Different PerspectiveHer EAT pray Love fantasy is just that. If deadbedroom - outsource and stay Separate rooms if necessary. Agree till youngest X age. She desires another guy - open relationships but keep unity. Just think of it like a prison sentence you have to endure. Why? As someone who is going to get totally shafted financially and seeing the impact on my youngest education, well being and bonding. My pension obliterated , primarily property based assets. I would have chosen putting up with my EX BS and just… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/11/23 01:20 AM |
| 2 | My stbx starting dating someone and it's pissing me off so muchBuddhist philosophy and enlightenment. Attachment leads to suffering. A time will come when it will finally make sense. She was never yours to keep forever. Everything in life is temporary. 😳 Everything in life is temporary. 🙂 Everything in life is temporary. 😁 Let it soak in then you will understand why you are only causing yourself pain and mental anguish. IMHO trained Therapist are just mirrors asking questions and getting you to place of self discovery. The truth - True change will come from… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/11/23 10:23 PM |
| 2 | Anybody glad they divorced even though it meant not retiring and 5-10 years of alimony that took up most of your take home pay?Monetary pain vs life long Mental anguish Today we have options and the best thing about life is FReedom and freewill. No amount of money will replace that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/11/23 01:27 PM |
| 2 | Keep me from texting my exAs other have said outsource the horny stuff. Go explore safely without the manipulation, lies , deceit, trauma , mind fucckery , alimony , moaning and headaches of chasing tail. AwLists. ( dot ) com Plenty of Adult Work for oldest profession. Better options out there with zero drama and chance of honey trap/gold digger/ trauma bonding. It’s 2023 - Even AI girlfriend apps exist. 👀 Fleshlights exists. Then when ready get a regular FWB or two. Yoda yada yada. unlearn you must , the ways of dark si… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/11/23 09:47 AM |
| 3 | Advice for bringing it upShe only somehow play the victim and make it your fault. Confronting them is a pointless and futile exercise. Because cheaters are liars. Trust is evaporated like a fart in the wind. Stealth mode - get manoeuvres in place first. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/11/23 07:51 AM |
| 0 | Sex with exBoth of you just hit the apps. Tinder special. Convenience Sex is going to bring complications further down the line. End the pain and suffering. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/11/23 07:26 PM |
| 5 | Wife Wants to Borrow Money for New House Down PaymentBorrow does not mean what you think it will. Steal might be more appt and appropriate. Clever tactic. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/11/23 02:06 AM |
| 4 | Wife Wants to Borrow Money for New House Down PaymentNo no no | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/11/23 02:05 AM |
| 21 | What makes a man submit to a second (or third) destruction in divorce?We deluded ourselves and we get caught up in brain chemicals of bonding. Confuse Sex for love. Etc I think we should ‘memento’ movie tattoos. Remind ourself daily. 4 rings of life. Friendship Ring Engagement Ring Wedding Ring 💍 And nope it’s not an Eternity……….ring… In end you finally realise it was all SufferRing. 👀 | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/11/23 08:03 AM |
| 2 | What’s The Point?Because the point is journey And that is life… You will stumble , you will get lost. But you will find a path in the end. I’m currently trying to fathom what was the point of everything also. But a social system is in place and we are within that system. From this point forward create your own rules and focus on a better life. If it means being selfish and some isolation so be it. When you are depressed/anxious everything looks gloomy. But you are not broken. I assure you better times are ahead…… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/11/23 02:45 AM |
| 1 | Form E - Uk Help.Yes but time has passed. judge ordered progress from me. I may adhd and struggling with orginasation/ paperwork etc. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/11/23 02:32 AM |
| 3 | *Who* are these men that go through divorce once and then *get married again,* and WTF are they thinking??Once smitten twice shy. Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/11/23 05:29 AM |
| 3 | What do you guys think about MGTOWIf you transition , you can have your own female genitalia to play with all day along. 👀 jk I concur. Don’t use mgtow acronym, | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/10/23 06:31 AM |
| 3 | Please help me healRinse and repeat.. third time will be the lucky one. Jk I may have adhd myself but … Honestly you Really blaming a diagnosis for lack of will power. ? So you cheated twice. I hope you find solace in doing the right thing this time round. Older but none the wiser. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/10/23 05:27 PM |
| 3 | Do I tell the kids even though my wife is forbidding it?They probably know already. Real eyes recognise real lies. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/10/23 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Court today - help?Details.. how did you fair. ? | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/10/23 03:43 AM |
| 1 | Court today - help?Just don’t get riled up or angry. Composure at all times. You got this. 💪🏻 | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/10/23 09:33 PM |
| 8 | She seems to be struggling...You didn’t like my security future plan.. Now go away and make your own one,, just not at my expense. Mine just created more expenses , not saved a single penny for the kids. Like the petulant child she is…. Now expects me to sort out her mess. NO … I don’t think I will. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/10/23 08:50 PM |
| 6 | She seems to be struggling...And that’s why courts screw the fellas over. Maintain their lifestyle. Wtf 🤬 does that even mean. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/10/23 08:45 PM |
| 7 | Can I just vent here from time to time?Yeah call you out on it…. Venting about everyday puberty problems belongs elsewhere. Should have stayed Anonymous.. 👀 If it’s anything like this old posts. https://reddit.com/r/sex/s/ENPsNjlUiJ Welcome aboard. We could all do with some cheering up and laughs. 👀 | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/23 07:57 AM |
| 1 | He lied to me about being singleWrong sub. Try dating over forty / Dating advice. OP - harsh Lesson in dating learned and time to move on. Do you not have scores of other players / gentlemen lined up in a swipe list. ? Divorced men, 👀 Side note. Don’t date till after divorce completed and stay away from toxic mentally ill drama/ attention seeking ones. Poor chap now has two scorned women after his pound of flesh. Jk … 😂 | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/23 07:26 AM |
| 1 | Dealing with unnecessary, humiliating and degrading discoveryI hope your Mental health problems get better over the next few years or more. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/23 06:43 AM |
| 4 | Things you wish you had knownHappy wife does not equal happy life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/23 06:28 AM |
| 0 | Wife kicked me out, how long til I can see kids?Man has needs. Time to outsource…? AW lists. Com 💃 Not experienced myself but in the end we all pay a high price anyway. 🙇🏻♂️ Considering.. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/10/23 01:33 PM |
| 1 | Quick question to the group. Is it better to hire a male or female attorney to represent you?Best advice is get armed with own knowledge and negotiation skills. They can advise, but YOU decide. After all Your future depends on the outcome. They get paid either way More conflict = more hours of work. Both types have little empathy for your situation and you are essentially another billable hours/ payday. You want the most ruthless effective negotiator. Ask for references and get recommdations from other divorced men locally. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/10/23 08:08 AM |
| 8 | What would you do?She could claim signed under duress if she did not get her own legal representation and advice. I second the not trusting anything that comes out of her mouth. The script and history may get altered over short time frame. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/10/23 07:55 AM |
| 3 | I need help badly. I don't think anyone is facing what I am facing.Money isn’t everything , you escaped with your life at this stage. If you are truly entrepreneurial, you will find a way to recoup and get back what was lost. Even if it means a fresh start in another country where can leave cheaply and forget this part of your life. Do both have life insurance policies… 👀 Media story / screenplay to fund the legals. Tell the world your story. If you have nothing to hide yourself. Go after the sisters and parents assets. Family fraudulent enterprise. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/10/23 05:55 AM |
| 1 | Wife kicked me out, how long til I can see kids?Another reddit to explore. Hope you get through this period. r/deadbedrooms | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/10/23 03:27 AM |
| 4 | Does your ex refuse to see reality, understand what she did?This quote get me through these times and summarises why I now insist on a divorce. (She abandoned me.) I would rather adapt to your absence than be frustrated by your presence. Im Patiently waiting for the entitled penchulant woman child to be a distant memory. Next time she asks why. … God decreed that man has Free Will and I choose to exercise that choice. My life , My choice. Pushes you further.. I spoke with a higher power. Can she argue with god ? ( I’m agnostic 😂) | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/09/23 12:34 PM |
| 14 | Why won't married women have sex?Truth is biological imperative changes. Once children on the scene. Once they have what they needed , your sperm…. They are free to go anywhere and do anyone. 😤 | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/23 11:25 AM |
| 1 | If you were to remarry, who would you look for?I will get a tattoo on my forehead Memento style. NEVER..EVER GET Married. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/09/23 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Form E - Uk Help.They won’t help with family legal. Tried a few times. Thanks for suggestion, | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/09/23 01:46 PM |
| 2 | Slap in the face 🤯She bought stuff probably for friends/family and then sold it for cash. Maybe a side hustle even. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/09/23 08:34 AM |
| 1 | Am I a pos…Bipolar soul mate… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/09/23 08:23 AM |
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