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"Ethnic" nose jobs are entering that "beyond the designed intent" territory in that, it's only recently that there's more thought and training around it. Most doctors come of out school only having been taught the standard based on white features and white beauty ideals. With that said, Beyonce has had at least one nose job, and it 'refined' her nose in a way that respected the natural shape of her nose. Of course that's unreasonable, but if that's not your knowledge base, you can't really claim…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 10:45 PM
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I hate tomatoes unless they're in a sauce or sun dried :( But I also can't have them because of acid reflux :)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 09:34 PM
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But before and afters of what procedures? How recent, what city where they in? Plastic surgery being visible is often a choice by both the surgeon and patient. There's a whole sociological aspect to this, people go in knowing the results will be obvious and even wanting that. Like girls in Iran want whoville noses. The girls in LA want Kylie Jenner lips. The girls in Miami want that BBL diaper booty etc. Which is why even before and afters on surgeons own sites are not necessarily "best of" exam…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 08:46 PM
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You're underestimating just how much good subtle work is done tbh, most celebs have had at least one procedure done. Marilyn Monroe had a nose job, chin implant and browlift in the 50s. Most obvious work that looks worse is bad/poorly done or seeking something too far outside the natural base. And nowadays a lot of work looks bad because it's filler vs actual tissue work.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 11:50 AM
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This is so wildly out of touch with the real world. No where is a cute young girl like that a 3.5 "But she has a negative canthal tilt!" like the autism of it all
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 10:53 AM
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Yes, this is how most people chose friends and lovers. Familiarity breeds fondness. Relationships grow deeper with more interaction, people become more comfortable, interactions become more lively and enjoyable. Some people hit it off right away too. Instant besties, love at first sight is basically this. But most relationships will need some level of re-exposure to build. If you don't desire deeper social relationships or fear them, well that's a sign to 🌟 get assessed 🌟
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 09:14 PM
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That's a terrible strategy lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 08:37 PM
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Consent is a legal concept. Not an emotion. The idea you can't have mixed feelings around a situation that was not illegal is pretty silly. People walk away from interactions feeling used all the time. If your fall back is only, 'well was it against the rules? If it wasn't why are you upset?' well...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 09:47 AM
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You're acting like there's some sort of fixed number of approaches in the world and women need to "use up" to prevent bad behavior from men. When in reality, people can do whatever they want. Men in relationships still hit on women. Men still hit on women in relationships. The existing barriers of social norms do not stop unsolicited attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 08:37 PM
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Are you trying to pretend that people deny that looking attractive exist...?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 06:55 AM
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A male poster saying that women baby trap men by biting holes in condoms during oral sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 09:13 PM
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With the right outfit.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 08:46 PM
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ADHD loophole, I have no favorite hobby.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 08:45 PM
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When can they break up? I don't get men who chase and put up a front just to have sex once an dip. But if someone is that pathological in their purist, forcing them to stay is not gonna be much better for the target.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 08:43 PM
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Passive to active is a spectrum, women making themselves available is somewhere in the middle. Men complain about women being unavailable all the time, and that is often a choice women are actively making. To be closed off and guarded, to not give pro-social signals to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 08:30 PM
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I don't want to do other peoples laundry.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 08:01 PM
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A pedo fanboy? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 07:59 PM
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Yes, it's completely normal to be in a committed relationship without it being 'serious' in the sense it's leading to marriage. That is not leading someone on. Leading someone on is lying when the topic of long-term commitment comes up. Men who are promising to propose "someday" are leading women on. If you want to get married, you need to "date with intention" and bring the matter up before you even start dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:35 PM
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Brand name.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 12:31 AM
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Now it's lifetime earnings? Nice move of the goalpost. As cited below, it's is not very small. And this is marriages from like mid 60s onwards IIRC. Where the older marriages would see lower incidence of equal or higher pay from wives. This number has gone up over time, as women have started to earn more. Not a random snapshot.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 08:20 AM
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Olivia Rodrigo's new album got Best New Music from Pitchfork and has a 3.7 on RYM. Why are you putting her on the same level as 'dumb girl stuff' like Love Island? Hating everything popular is going to make you look like an unfun snob.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 07:26 AM
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Data doesn't support that women as a class refuse to date men who earn less. The rate of income equality in relationships and women earning more are both going up over time. The women who do refuse are likely from a lower class who genuinely cannot afford to pair off with a man who earns too little to support a family (Doing so means poverty) Because men are more likely to be horny and desperate as you note, many women filter for effort as a measure of genuine interest. If you dislike having to …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 06:55 AM
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If you don't eat meat, this is never an issue :P
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:43 AM
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There is no singular "weird behavior" here. What's weird is context dependent. It's the lack of ability to read that context and adapt/adopt new behavior that generally leads to someone bring labeled "weird" That's also not true. People are turned off by behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:42 AM
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I agree, it might not be 100% but it is the majority.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:31 AM
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Literally never. If I see a cute guy, I'll want to talk to him. Not sleep with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 12:29 AM
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Liberal is when you date Lizzo. I see. Like... what?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 11:39 PM
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Captain America, Mr. All American hunk, Chris Evans is a big fat 'I'm with her' Lib.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 08:50 PM
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I just get nervous sometimes because I'm so autistic. Burying the lead here. Does liberal = autistic now? You are not the barometer for what constitutes a liberal man. Liberal is not a personality type or a body type.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 08:04 PM
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The only thing close to leg lengthening surgery is a BBL. Both are high risk and disable you for a time after surgery and potentially permanently. But leg lengthening is way more disabling. It breaks your fucking legs lol its normal to never regain full function.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 10:09 PM
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About 50 dollars a month on skincare/makeup/hair give or take. I have acne and am very pale so, mostly it's dealing with that. I don't really alter my appearance from its natural state. I do have a really expensive IPL device and a red light mask. But I struggle to use them consistently (ADHD). I spend a lot more time than money.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 10:01 PM
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I singled out shelter work because most people there are passionate about the work. There are more casual volunteer gigs.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 09:26 PM
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I'm only gonna say this once: You do not need to be skinny to get the NDA. how do I know? I can't legally tell you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 09:38 AM
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Men's social skills have evaporated for no reason? Or women have gotten pickier with the enormous amount of options they have compared to 20 years ago? Women have always had options. And 20 years ago the young adults on the dating market were not iPad babies.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 11:50 PM
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I don’t give a shit about volunteering at a dog shelter, for example, I’d rather donate money and work extra at my job instead of doing that. The issue is, if you meet a woman doing that she's likely going to care deeply about volunteering at the shelter. It's likely apart of her life, something she wishes she could do more of. You can put on a front, but she's going to expect that front from then on.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 11:32 PM
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Inventing things to get mad at.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 07:06 AM
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Are you going to mention he was losing his hair because of PEDs He had basically no filter for what he'd put into his body. He abused various drugs and was in psychosis as a result.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 05:33 AM
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Choices...
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 04:55 AM
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I like thin mustaches. You don't need a pet up there.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 02:25 AM
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I don't think it's amoral, but I do think it's funny. I'm an average height woman and I gaze over some women's heads. It's funny to me that some of those same girls would only go for men a foot taller than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 02:19 AM
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You should just not vote for laws that marginalize your sex partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 02:14 AM
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I studied because I love learning, I love lectures, I love taking classes. I would spend the rest of my life in school if I could. Who is getting a nose job just for fun? Who is getting lipo when they think they're already too skinny? There is simply a clear and direct relationship between elective cosmetic work and perceived flaws.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 02:15 PM
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Self-improvement isn't insecure, that's an assumption on your part. See how you have to totally transform and misquote my statement to say this? Self improvement doesn't mean you're insecure, but elective cosmetic surgery does. You get surgery on the aspects of yourself you dislike and wish were different. You are not secure in your appearance and are willing to spend a large amount of money and go through pain to change it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 01:52 PM
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That's what the leading looksmaxxers do and promote. Gender transition involves hormones under medical supervision. Not listening to a 20 year old with the handle 67muscles on what to buy off some Chinese wholeseller to add to your stack. If you get cosmetic plastic surgery you are insecure. If you can't handle that being pointed out, don't do it. But it's a fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 12:49 PM
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And that guy who just drowned? Who was injecting gold? And by illicit I don't mean meth. I mean hormones, peptides, research chemicals. I have no seen a looksmaxxer influencer who wasn't juicy. Plastic surgery is stigmatized and a shameful thing, period. Women still lie about it. We still mock people whose surgeries turn out poorly. People still treat pointing out someone had work done as an accusation on their character. See fans in the comments of videos on female celebrities work. Things like…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 12:29 PM
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Most people wouldn't agree that DIYing medical gender transition is wholesome and empowering. Looksmaxxers - at least all the influencers- are on illicit substances and pursing alt medicine. No one really cares if you want to lose weight and get a nose job. More power to ya.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 11:58 AM
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Your friend work and still cook HALF the meals? What are we doing here lmao If he didn't have a wife, he'd cook... 100% of the (cooked) meals. Working adults still do daily living tasks. A wife isn't a maid. Having that view is how you get deadbedrooms.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 07:16 PM
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Kids don't need iPads.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 06:24 PM
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Do you think you can abort a full term pregnancy?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 09:50 PM
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"The latest National Survey of Family Growth shows that, for example, men with college degrees are half as likely to have had four or more partners in the last year as men with a high school education alone." Why are you taking this as a "not good with women" thing and also taking it as a bad thing? How do you know these men are trying to be promiscuous and failing? That is not how you use data like this. Having multiple partners a year is higher risk behavior and indicates a lack of stable rela…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 10:25 AM
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Had a creepy old guy at work hit on me. He was there with his family too, blah. He came up to me and asked if he could ask me a question, I said sure I'm here to help you! And then started the oh how old are you (older than you think) do you live around here (around yeah) do you have a husband/ boyfriend (I work a lot) you're pretty I stopped him there and asked him if he has any questions about our business? Does he need help? He said no and tried to get back on his train of thought but I just …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 08:27 PM
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Right, because we all love our bosses? Do you actually have an argument for why someone should date someone who fails to make them feel romantic passion? Is that not the dreaded settling?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 08:11 PM
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Are you actually going to engage with my comment or just do the usual "you shouldn't have a job, you're a woman" thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 07:46 PM
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Dating is distinctly not under the purview of most 'liberal principles' by which I'm assuming you mean non-discrimination and inclusion. It is discriminatory by nature, and then selective even within that. Dating is not inclusive. Most people are neurotypical. So while you can ask for them to "meet you half way" and change their behavior or tolerate yours, what you're up against is the many other choices they have who will not ask of that of them. Again, example but if you don't like eye contact…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 07:11 PM
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I have rejected a guy for being too muscular shrug
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 01:31 PM
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You should reflect on why you feel so opposed to taking risks, making mistakes. It's a risky idea, not an awful one. It could blow up in your face, or it could be nothing that fizzles out, or it could be love.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 08:22 PM
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I'm not deflecting, you just don't like reality. Everyone more masculine than you is not "hyper-masculine" and given you self ID as a 'femboy' that's basically all men. Because unless a man is activity pursuing feminine presentation, he going to be masculine 98% of the time. You are not the benchmark for society.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 07:47 PM
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If women truly cared about character, I would’ve had a LTR by now by simply being the good person I know I am. Being a by the book good person doesn't mean you're compatible with someone. Being a good person doesn't men you're showcasing you're capable of giving what someone else needs in a romantic context. But no, I’m lesser to society because I’m autistic, work at a restaurant and rent with a roommate. Men who work in restaurants date, as do men with roommates. You have to understand and acce…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 07:32 PM
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Most men are not hyper-masculine by definition. It's a state defined by going beyond typical expressions of masculinity. Having dating experience and a stable job by 30 is not a benchmark of "hyper-masculine." It's an expectation that most people, male or female are under because it's the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 07:06 PM
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Most men are not 'hypermasculine' But vast majority of have dated by 30. That's relevant and a rebuttal to OPs post.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 06:52 PM
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Most men have had a LTR by their mid 20s. That's not anecdotal, just population level trends.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 06:42 PM
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How is this looks?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 07:44 AM
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I'd agree that that stuff is silly. It's more it comes down to the fact it's a social norm. Breaking it is uncomfortable. People seek reasons to account for that discomfort that's not just, breaking a social norm because that's not really accepted. But breaking a social norm is enough actually. What social norms people want to break does tell you something about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 09:17 PM
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Again, would you jump off a bridge if everyone said it's gonna be so much fun? Someone else being a dumbass is not a get out of jail free card for you to act the same way. Hey, grow the baby in your body and 'abortion' can be part of your birth control tool kit too! Until then pro-lifers aren't the bed fellows you want given they're increasing anti-birth control and sure as hell aren't gonna be cool with "paper abortions" either (unless a good het christian couple gets the baby outright)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 03:03 PM
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Not deeply reflective enough to take on some of the burden of birth control. If everyone jumped off a bridge, would you jump too? Men have control of their reproductive future, they need to stop exporting the duty onto women. If you don't want a kid, see to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 02:45 PM
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Introverts are not mentally challenged. Why are you using that as some sort of sympathy qualifier? What is he going to tell a judge, calling to schedule a vasectomy caused him too much phone anxiety? The only legitimate scenario is in the case of rape. Not wanting to use a condom or get a vasectomy isn't sympathetic let alone a legitimate reason to offload your parental duty to the tax payer.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 10:24 AM
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She's anti-vaxx, used to date Nazis/had actual Nazi imaginary in her brand, is anti-feminist. Vegan is just part of the woo to right wing pipeline.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 05:57 PM
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Where are you getting that answer? Not goth, but the 'alt' crowd is chop full of right wingers. I feel like everybody knows that. Kat Von D is a good example.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 03:52 PM
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You are the definition of a mooch and you don't even understand the difference between an asset and debt.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 08:16 PM
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and we can share one bank account with $10,000ish in it for emergencies 10k for emergencies in NYC? You are low balling everything so severely, it makes me think you actually have no contact/experience with nay of this stuff. You talk about getting a lawyer and negotiate prenup? That alone will be more than 10k in NYC.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 03:49 AM
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Unless you live in a very LCL area, 40k a year is basically min wage. 1 year of min wage income is not establishing any sort of cushioning. Edit, you live in NYC? 40k a year in NYC???
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 03:30 AM
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It is interesting that hypergamy sometimes works this way, where it's not enough to just provide resources to some women; it's supposed to be "earned" This is not you being a rich kid. If you were just a rich kid whose parents were rolling in it, that'd be different. You want to put your mother into debt for this.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 03:23 AM
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It's unlikely you're going to get a career woman who wants to mooch off your mom. You're going to attract low quality, low earning, not hard working, high earning. But again, fine, I need her to earn then, chop chop The point is, this woman in your head, she doesn't need you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 03:19 AM
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If you don't see the difference between inheritance, i.e. whatever a person has left over after using their wealth to take care of their needs in live, and asking your parent to take out a mortgage so you can not work- you have They literally build houses called "mother daughters" because women have more than this level of deadbeatery built into their fucking gender role by default So you want to mooch off your mom... because you think women used to mooch off their parents? Never in my life have…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 03:15 AM
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rake in 40k starting a year before any children are born. Rake in 40k starting a year before any children are born? "Rake in" 40k... starting a year before any children are born?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 09:57 PM
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All I can say it, couldn't be me lol What if you're future wife can't breastfeed? Does she still get this 'vacation' to be with the baby? It is 100% a luxury to have both parents to be unemployed and stay at home full time. That's why even if your 'dream' scenario, you're taking out a loan to finance it. It's something only the very wealthy can do, and you plan is to blow through a mortgage (i.e. a house) for it. All why you plan to be renting an apartment? if it's a luxury, she can be a 100% wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 09:43 PM
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Does your parent know you're planning on them taking out a massive amount of debt to finance your luxury lifestyle?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 09:11 PM
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And yet you rebut nothing of my comment. The whole idea of the Alpha Widow is cope because men like to imagine Chad down in the trenches with them and would prefer women being tragically hung up on some pretty boy than simply being unmotived by their "average" selves.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 07:25 AM
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The theory of Chad is that the Chads have such a magical pull on women that he has the pick of the litter and these women make it easy. Chad has no reason to select women he's not attracted to. Literally every college athlete and personal trainer I know Okay so, this is where men get tripped up. You can be in-shape and be basic and average looking, even uggo! Not every in-shape guy is a modelesque beauty, NFL draft picks for ref. Based on that, I bet what you're talking about is these guys hooki…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 06:53 AM
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Uglier women are not nicer or easier to deal with. Crazy doesn't only kick in above 7. If a guy has to routinely get down with women he's not attracted to, he's not Chad. He's not Alpha.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 05:08 AM
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Some women have unrealistic standards. Those types existed before dating apps, and it's not really why this is all bull. The theory of Chad and the Alpha Widow cannot exist in the same space. Chad should never have to swim in the backwater, he is Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 04:21 AM
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Hot men are not having sex with women they find unattractive on en masse. They don't have to do that, they're hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 04:18 AM
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Hearing these terms spoken outloud is fucking hilarious Nothing he said is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 03:51 AM
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Of course they exist. As do husbands who don't want to have sex with wives. But old people (and 'trad' people today) often got married without knowing much about their sexuality or their sexual compatibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 08:28 PM
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I get the ick from high body counts. I'm neutral on porn in of itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 08:13 PM
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Really? Men are filing for bankruptcy due to the cost of first dates? Men at once have limited options and yet are being driven to the poor house by going on so many first dates?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 03:47 AM
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Then they need to decide which one matters more, their standards/values or being in a relationship. The standards that most men here talk about, like not paying for first dates, or having sex on the first date, are not the sort that reliably filter for successful relationships. But if its the hill you want to die on, it's your prerogative.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:52 AM
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I've never gotten people who are so scared of vaccines because they might be a scheme by the government/big pharma whatever But will have surgery no problem? If they wanted to make us sick/chip us, that's when they'd do it. How does anyone come out not worse off.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 09:40 PM
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Furthermore, let's say you and him are out on a date and he doesn't really do the sidewalk rule or stand in front of you when elevators open or open doors for you any less than you do for him. It's not that he's keeping track of making sure to stay even with your acts of love, rather, he naturally is just less assertive, protective, and dominant. Stand in front me when elevators open? What? That just sounds like he doesn't care about me. I think you're confusing possessive and paranoid with an a…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 11:21 AM
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Going off steroids and having three facial surgeries in a month is a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 08:37 AM
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You've never known a weeb/otaku? Anime fandom gets a bad wrap for a reason. Tbf the community found it in is part of the issue lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 07:35 AM
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Oh, guy #2 went from DJ Khalid to Regé-Jean Page's brother.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 07:12 AM
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No one is biting holes in condoms, much less during a blow job. The joke is that it's absurd and everyone who has given or received a blow job can attest to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 04:20 AM
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It's a joke about a virgin claiming women bite holes in condoms during blow jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 10:39 PM
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No one is 'advocating' that though. It's people who want to work within this idea of the 'sexual marketplace' but then ignore how the market assigns value.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 11:19 PM
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Porn, smut lives on
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 11:16 PM
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Men here. You don't even know about Tumblr sexy men, do you?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 02:17 PM
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I don't think the women who push the "de-centering men" thing are the ones who are too shy/anxious to pursue relationships. Most of the de-centering men types are just jaded and in-between relationships. The ones who are avoiding relationships also tend to avoid the discourse around it. So much so, it's not really part of the narrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 09:30 AM
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ADHD coaches are such a big thing. You can't explore ADHD help content without running into someone selling their program you can join. It's kinda grift-y but also pretty tempting! I don't get why "autism coaches" are not as much of a thing. Like, it barely seems like a thing at all. PUA were basically autistic life/dating coaches but they failed to understand/name that autism is behind a lot of issues their clients were dealing with.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 08:40 PM
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Like, at your house? Or did you bring food you cooked to her as a surprise? If you like cooking and doing domestic stuff, make that part of your brand.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 08:05 PM
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Yes, because it's part of being thin/in shape. Which women also by an large like.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 07:13 PM
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I don't think that Sophie Rain girl is really that pretty? I'd put her in that "average but attainable" group. Apparently, that is what sells on OF. The people who manage multiple pages say the 'less' pretty girls do better.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 05:14 PM
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We need a public awareness campaign around this.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 05:07 PM
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What is your theory of asexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 01:23 PM
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Night stock is 25-35% women on average in grocery/retail. At my store it was like 40% women, with a mix of young alt chicks and moms and older ladies. From what I heard, night crew had their fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 12:34 PM
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And what do men who live alone do when they get "man flu" ? Do they simply soil themselves and starve? Or do they still do basic self-care and take care of basic responsibilities? Like basically everyone who is not a small child. You can be sick as a dog, but if you have a dog you still have to take care of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 11:10 AM
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SOo Clavicular fucked up his nose?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 11:00 AM
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They have side effects.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 07:54 PM
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Unless you both love baseball, I truly cannot imagine many worse innocent first date options.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 06:53 PM
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But that's what I'm saying lol 'giving someone a chance' isn't always out of pity.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 10:07 AM
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Yes I've I've had allegations, charges, lawsuits they never went any where because I didn't harass anyone Completely abnormal dude. Not normal at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 06:24 AM
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aslong as its not a minor you can ask a person that atleast one time and it's perfectly legal.. You are going to get people fired lmao It is not okay to randomly proposition coworkers for sex. There are in fact, no protections for trying to get your dick wet, and you make yourself a liability.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 05:37 AM
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Been sued before? And no, that's not how it works. A coworker outright asking me for sex would be demoralizing and humiliating. It would impact how I treat my other co-workers and potentially call into question what they think about me. It would be stressful and embarrassing to bring this up to my bosses. I probably wouldn't want to work with the co-worker again and that would have side effects job wise. I might want to leave my job. That is what would be taken into account in a sexual harassmen…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 05:27 AM
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I don't think its the same thing. People who are super picky/neurotic are likely going to have "give someone a chance" as part of breaking out of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 05:13 AM
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You know there are also laws about this right? Company policy can go further, but not stop before the law. In California a single instance is enough to constitute hostile work environment, and the employer has a responsibility to fix it. If I coworker did this to me I would report. If a client did this to me, I'm telling my boss.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 04:05 AM
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This is not true. If my co-worker asked me outright for sex, it would be sexual harassment and my job could get into trouble if they did not address it after I report.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 02:44 AM
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The thing is, that is not my or any other woman's (or persons) problem. If you cannot read social signals well enough to where you can reliably make that call yourself, and you still insist on asking... you're responsible for whatever fall out it causes. There is no hack or cheat code here. The vast majority of the time this is going to be an unwanted interaction by women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 02:41 AM
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You only need one kidney to live. We could all sign up to donate one kidney to a person in need tomorrow. This is not a hypothetical, people are dying because people are not giving them their extra kidney. I know this, have known it for years, and I have no plans on signing up for altruistic kidney donation. I don't give blood because I'm scare of needles. I'm not on the bone marrow registry for the same reason. I'm already letting people die with those actions. So, no. It wouldn't change my beh…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 02:32 AM
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You go through the steps of a normal social interaction (for whatever environment you're in) In more environments, this is going to be a normal conversation. Where you can get to them know and their deal. And if someone does not want to talk to you? They do not want to talk to you about sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:39 AM
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You're not asking for consent when you ask random people to have sex with you. You are in fact violating their consent because they did not consent to discuss sex with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 12:47 AM
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Hmm, here I see more of men asking for women to give them a chance then I do women advocating for it. A few here outright ask why women don't pity fuck. And there's a difference between giving someone a chance out of pity/feeling bad for them, and giving someone a chance because you're opening to seeing what's there.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 08:49 PM
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Not wanting to have sex with a stranger is not demisexuality. Most women do not want to have sex with strangers, but that answer isn't always accepted.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 04:04 PM
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Chad has a magical effect on women until he doesn't (he has to "resort" to unattractive women, despite making all women insanely horny)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 02:35 AM
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Because poverty isn't that romantic lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:52 PM
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I was just thinking about this. Both in reflection to my own behaviors at times and the interactions I engage in with others. It can be reallllly hard to tell if a "shy" man is simply shy or... doesn't like you and wishes you'd stop bothering him. No one is a mind reader!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 08:44 PM
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I think you possibly just cannot interpret non-literal lyrics?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 07:36 PM
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They have real guts for announcing it. It is what most people do, but because it makes people with kids/siblings with Downs syndrome flip out it's not spoken of. People can't handle that people look at their kids, and do not want to live their life of raising them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 05:12 PM
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Most of the time, the main thing is to lose weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 08:45 AM
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In fact, I think the term baddie is even more embarrassing than alpha male, because at least the word "alpha" is based on an actual term from a scientific study about wolf pack behavior, whereas "baddie" is completely made up and just sounds ridiculous. All words are completely made up. That wolf study is long retracted. Baddie is just slang bro. It's not that serious. It means someone is feeling themselves. You and other men are just disconnected from more mainstream pop culture which takes the…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 07:14 AM
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That's not the topic here. Again, it was what it takes to get women to spend money on the unobtainable. Being attracted to a person through the lens is totally different from being attracted to someone in real life. And that's OPs topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 06:55 AM
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Human breasts are one of our actual sex selected traits. No marketing was needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:56 PM
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Anna was a total bombshell. It's a compliment girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:43 PM
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The classic masculine man is THE most common sought after archetype in the gay community. That's... exactly what I'm saying? You started this by saying that gay men have a strong prefers for "femboys" which is not reality. The top twenty "types" would not include men who look like women. A pretty boy is not the same thing as a femboy. So, I don't get why you find it annoying when you actually agree with me. Again, plenty of gay men in the community observe the same thing. Trans women observe the…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 06:13 AM
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np.reddit.com/r/askgaybros/comments/1plhq8v/why_are_dl_men_obsessed_with_femboys/ Go to and adult Pride and see whats going on the gay male area. It is not a sea of 'femboys' and masc dudes. It's men who look like men and some will have makeup/some "girly" stuff on. They are not masc in expression but they're built/have beards/body hair etc. and how they're fem alines with gay male culture. Not hetero culture. Bretman Rock is a good example of a very feminine person who still is firmly in the ga…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:15 AM
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Are you counting twinks or any femme gay guy as a "femboy" ? Many of my friends are feminine gay men, but they are not femboys. And not even the fem gays can breathe, Grindr had to ban the "no fats, no fems" line so many people put it in their profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 01:51 AM
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Being an actual conservative and harboring shameful desire for the forbidden is the weird place. Most men into femboys are not out and proud gay men. That its more common for them to be "straight" conservative men suggest something. (i.e. its mentally a safer way to get dick)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 01:26 AM
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Maybe when we solve climate change, and pollution, and homelessness, and healthcare, and housing and all the other issues of the world we can get to "people make harmless assumptions based on patterns"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 06:33 PM
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I'm a liberal progressive and provided I could ever make enough money would be happy to support my hypothetical husband so he can do all my chores/tasks. He won't be a macho masculine man or a femboy. I'm not into either.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 06:21 PM
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Exactly lol sometimes after hearing one of my gay friends describe their type I'm just like "how many people realistically are that?" but they want they want. Few people are equal opportunity providers of sex. Expecting straight women of all people to be quiet funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 06:19 PM
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Conservative men are, perplexingly, MUCH more likely to be into femboys, and that doesn’t make them “progressive.” People end up in weird places when they suppress themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 06:09 PM
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Have you considered that women don't want to have sex with you because you go to is calling them names lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 06:09 PM
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Who do you mean by reddit bots? Ironically the people who seem to push the idea that attractive men will fuck any woman and do on the regular (dating apps, sex with chad blah blah) are the ones who are upset because their only options are unattractive women lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 05:57 AM
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Opioids slow digestion to the point that without an accompanying treatment, you'll die from not pooping after a while. And that's at safe doses without any other side effects. High does of opioids just kill you. (high dose here depends on tolerance) You stop breathing. Chasing the high will lead to this side effect eventually.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 05:47 AM
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Like half of my co-workers right now are single because they want to be and under 30. They rest are married/engaged.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 04:23 AM
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Most of what I see is people arguing casual sex is normal. And not something that ruins someone. Most people have had casual sex and few are as hung up on it as posters here are. What's rare is women seeking sex with a stranger. At any given moment most women are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 10:27 AM
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Wasn't that because you were describing what her p*ssy should look like lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 06:16 PM
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Women who can't find what they want need to adapt as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 05:30 PM
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Right? Men are so generous to like, small (perky) tits and glasses.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 09:28 AM
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What's the point of this post? You don't want to attract gold diggers but seeing this triggered you so now you're gonna fly in women from a country known for being poorer? It sounds like this girl isn't poor and is dating within her bracket. The guy spent a little but he likely knows her background.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 07:50 AM
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Intersectionality just means that different aspects of our identities effect us in different ways, it doesn't mean that any specific feminist/gender theory ideas are valid. I'm not less of a female and am not not impacted by that because some feminist think that sex is a social construct. A lot of men think that because they lean left, they can't be sexist. It's ultimately not that connected. I'm not saying you're wrong, but that your premise is faulty. Leaning left doesn't really say what you t…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 09:48 PM
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Political liberalism has nothing to do with dating norms though. And being left wing does not mean you're a feminist. Only feminism is feminism, and there's many cohorts within that. Everyone disagrees lol You really can't say people are being hypocritical just based on their political leanings. Wanting universal healthcare and public education doesn't sign you up for "gender abolitionism" or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 07:45 PM
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Q4M: Have you gotten the Gardasil 9 HPV vaccine? If yes, how old were you when you got it?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 07:22 PM
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Sexual socialism and planned economy relationship communism. People here have amazing ideas.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 07:22 PM
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No it's not lol that's not how growth is generated. Half the workforce leaves and productivity crashes. There's not simply more money in the pot. There's less. At least 20% of doctors are married to other doctors. Do you know what 20% of doctors leaving would do the healthcare system and economy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 07:20 PM
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That's not... how it works lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 07:03 PM
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While these women actively turn down DMs from Reddit men. Do you understand why someone might do that lol I think you're looking for excuses not to believe the women on the subs. They're self reporting is as valid as male posters. They feel ugly and unlovable and that their real life experiences reinforce that. Reddit DMs from men who have never seen them do not counter that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 06:59 PM
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What? lol you think only one person in a marriage should have a job?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 06:45 PM
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The share of women making more than their male spouse has been growing for years. It's not uncommon at all in new unions.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 06:42 PM
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This post is A+ lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 06:40 PM
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When you're asking someone for their time, yes I'd say it's pretty normal. Like say, I invited a friend to an art museum. Friend doesn't really know anything about art and doesn't really have a strong interest in it, I would pay for them. I'm asking them for their time to show them a new experience. Whereas if I had a friend who loves art, we connected on that and agreed to go to the same museum, I'd assume we'd both pay our own way in. We'd have gone anyways, but now it's social. Or a more gene…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 08:55 AM
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Wanting to have a child because you want to be a parent, is not the same thing as having a crisis over your DNA.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 04:45 AM
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For older men that have been unsuccessful they start facing the existential crisis of being a genetic dead end. Those men need to get over themselves. You don't realize how weird this sounds?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 10:26 PM
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Can you defined what feminism is in this context? Surely you don't think feminism is just women talking about dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 11:11 AM
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Who/what is feminism? How are you defining that? What does it mean for "feminism" to be quiet on this? Is the Go Red for Women campaign feminism? Are articles/research on the knowledge gap for providers in the presentation of cardiovascular disease and cardiac events in females feminism? Are specific interventions being implemented to address this feminism?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 10:31 AM
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If the leading cause of death for men and women is the same,what might that say about the culture and environment we share? Or how we age? Or about peoples access to healthcare in our current system? What is the connection to feminism, in this context what even is feminism? You can't just smash topics together and have a thesis. You have to think about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 09:53 AM
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Heart disease is also the #1 cause of death of in men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 09:34 AM
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That doesn’t turn most men off.... until they physically can’t do it anymore So, it does turn men off the woman as a person. They just chose to ignore it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 08:20 AM
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The key is that the whole "bad boy" thing, is a lower class attraction dynamic. And yes they're not hot bad boys but they preform masculinity in a way that is attractive in communities where that is more important than looks. There are communities where being a pretty Chad won't win you points unless you back it up with the behavior that proves yourself a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 08:55 PM
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There's plenty of short young guys with gfs in America.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 08:23 AM
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This is why husbands actually get the crazy sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 04:06 AM
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As a woman, I'm seriously unoffended right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 06:03 AM
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She gave you the reason, most likely the idea was all she needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 04:30 AM
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Reading comprehension
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 02:19 AM
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The actor is conventionally attractive. He has softer features and they lean into the dweeby look for the movie.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 08:07 PM
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I mean like, a guy not being a virgin doesn't mean things are gonna go great. Plenty of men have left multiple women disappointed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 11:29 PM
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I don't care. Isn't that deterministic tbf
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 11:13 PM
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OP, you marked this CMV and you haven't responded questioning of your premise. Do you want your view changed?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 10:57 PM
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Neither lesbians nor gay men exhibit such rigidity of standards. Gay men famously have cut throat standards? No fats, no fems, no censored is a meme. And the bear, otter, club, twink, leather daddy etc culture. Lesbians are less strict with body standards, but lets just say you don't see two butches together that often.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 10:17 PM
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Generally associated with a type of person who is obsessed with their "queer identity" and is also very very sensitive. Generally tries to push the definitions of "queer" stuff to center and make themselves comfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 07:14 PM
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I didn't even realize some people might be mixing aspects of tender-queer theory and manosphere rhetoric. What a funny world.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 06:38 PM
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A big reason is all the people hawking the "asexuality is spectrum uwu" stuff. Hence the meaningless splitting hairs version of asexuality where you just, luuuv having kinky kinky sex and want it all the time but have no "attraction" An issue with treating asexuality as just like being gay or straight, and having people form identities around it as teenagers (some of whom have been on libido killing drugs all of puberty! lol)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 06:21 PM
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How are they not asexual? What are they attracted to? They cannot see. They cannot see the body, thus they cannot be attracted to the body. Your entire argument rests on visual attraction to the body. A blind man has no more visual attraction than a blind woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 05:23 PM
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Do you think by default, all blind people are asexual?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 05:16 PM
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For men who have sex with women, its possible to observe.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 05:15 PM
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I'll seriously consider settling at 45+. That'll give me just enough time to see my grandkids, most likely. And what if your kids have kids at 45+
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 04:06 AM
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I believe in the Netherlands disabled people can request the government to provide a sex partner A sex worker. Someone is paid to have sex with them. Not a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 03:05 AM
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Random boners did horrify me in the sympathetic manner when I learned about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 08:37 PM
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I'm straight btw, but I usually have sex with men. You have sex with men... but are straight?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 08:30 PM
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My issue actually is, men here tend to put forward an "average" guy who is not average.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 02:39 PM
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Of course men have crushes on talented women. We just wouldn't need a Fiona Apple or Aaliyah to become famous to feel the attraction. You guys say "narrative buy in", but that seems euphemistic to me. It's more like "social proof". But this not what I and other women are talking about. You're bringing in your own priors and deciding that's what we're saying. What I speak of "narrative buy in" in is not "social proof" it is not based on external success metrics. It's something that sparks of a fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 06:10 AM
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There's multiple straight posters here who are obsessive compulsive about casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 12:05 PM
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Why does it worry you?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 11:49 AM
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I don't care what other people enjoying doing. If cooking and cleaning gets you going, go for it. If you don't enjoy it and are only doing it because they won't, leave them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 03:25 AM
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No, this is also his opinion if you go down thread lol He thinks that women are not attracted to men unless we'd pay for sex or porn. He thinks that attraction to celebrities is not actual desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 03:17 AM
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Women who pay for stuff? Working adults in a relationship. Depending on what you mean by mommy, a doormat who is going to burn out or a normal expression of affection.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 02:22 AM
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My understanding was Boys Over Flowers is the most popular 'harem' manga, ever. So popular that every live action iteration of it has made stars of its stars in multiple countries. I also know Ouran High and Yuri On Ice is very popular. I don't actually know any traditional harem anime/manga by name. My gathering is that while the harem genre is popular it kinds just, cranks them out? And I do agree that manga/anime is very sexualized in terms of female characters in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 01:03 AM
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There's harem manga for women too, no? And women like NSFW fanart aswell. Commission it. Draw it. It tends to involved couples or 'ships' though. I do agree that there are men who also prefer to have context around attraction and sexual content. But for whatever reason, they're not... here.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 12:41 AM
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If you can response to my typo you can response to my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 12:31 AM
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Nice but price. If you can afford it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 11:59 PM
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Well one, your habit of deleting posts gives them no context. And two, none of those is a "leftist" subs. Feminism is not in of itself leftism. Further, many replies in those post are talking about biological realities. Like women being as greater risk in dating because we are physically weaker, and us having more to lose due to pregnancy concerns.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 11:43 PM
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It's fine. Dating is work, sex is work, relationships are work. I don't know their lives. I think dating and sex is too much work for me to handle (I have ADHD, being alive on hard mode) So I stopped.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 11:15 PM
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I don't know what the singular 'leftist' gender ideology is? I'm just not a leftist period. I'm a liberal progressive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 11:12 PM
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That would be getting off topic but female fashion and grooming is more complex then just being "for men" and yet it still does exists within patriarchal society. What is seen as desirable in terms of "style" is mainly driven by women themselves. Men aren't why we tweezed our brows away in the 90s and then wanted them full and bushy in the 2010s. Or why lip filler took off. Or why fine lines you can only see on your magnifying mirror need to be botox'd away. They are why women get breast implant…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 11:07 PM
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Well to be frank, because a lot of things driven by that "female desire" are... not good lol Nothing needs to be "taken seriously" because women like it. Often its lowbrow, trope heavy, predictable, with low production value/bad acting or in books terrible writing. There are great romcoms, great romance books, great boyband songs. But as a women, I don't care for most of them because I'm a snob. But I do understand the market for these things perfectly fine. Movie studios have one goal, and that…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 10:25 PM
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We don't do all of that for men. Of that the only thing really done for men is waxing and hair removal. No man has ever rejected a woman because she didn't have a fresh lash set. Women 100% pay for sexual content, but it's normally fictional.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 09:52 PM
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I asked here once if men have any celebrity crushes/favs and the few I got was "no" Which to me is so strange because... I have no crushes with no narrative. Every single 'famous' hot person I can cite being attracted to is down to a narrative reeling me in. I loved their movie and watch an interview and boom, gone. I loved their voice and omg wow their personality is just as wonderful. A pretty face is fun to look at for a few seconds, but it doesn't move me to any sort of investment. Now, I kn…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 09:43 PM
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Aren't you tired.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 09:33 PM
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He's making money off the female desire to the same degree every hot man with a fanbase is. My point was I see a lot of female creators with purely friends "girl talk" vibes in their followers do the same sex shop sponsorships. Like a know a creator who is a virgin who gets them lol Just pointing out that's not unique to him, its just being able to show women watch. Ehh, I don't think that's really true. There's booms and busts for genres, romcoms got oversaturated at one point and then parallel…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 09:32 PM
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That is true. But the amount of men paying is faaar larger then the amount of women paying.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 09:21 PM
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Wait that makes it sound like he made a model of himself? lol I checked and he just did a sponsorship, those companies give sponsorships to all kinds of creators. He's just an influencer who women have a crush on via the parasocial relationship. Not what OP what talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 07:54 PM
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But TBF you're not paying. I don't think this is what OP is talking about. Passive enjoyment of random hot guys social media feeds you isn't the same thing as seeking even more content and paying for it. Men also have plenty of random hot women on social media. They still seek more.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 07:41 PM
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If you read the average womens romantic novel, the man isn't just some idle pretty boy waiting for the woman to seduce him and be "used" Why do you think this alone would appeal to women? Attempts to present men to women as context-less as women are presented to men have failed. But there's a huge market for men to be objects of women's desire. Heated Rivalry made the stars top tending celebrities overnight, mainly off the frenzy of female fans. That's just the first real taste of the Boy Love (…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 07:30 PM
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Do they say they prefer short men (rare) or that they don't care? (common)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 08:19 PM
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How is face controllable.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 08:13 PM
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he’s already proclaiming how much he likes me which often times is an indication of how fast he’ll leave. oof Yeah, I've gotten that before. Like bruh you don't even know me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 09:09 AM
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Far lower than what? Vaginal sex? No. The lifetime risk for cervical cancer without screening programs is very high, like above 5% far higher then the lifetime risk of HPV linked oral cancer in men (for which there is no screening) And again, many of those men are gay and bisexual. There is no conclusive research on the per-encounter risk of HPV, but most sexual active people have it. For oral infections, smoking has a big effect on how likely someone is develop an infection and that has to be a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 07:17 AM
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Every single friend of mine has at point point experienced some of these (without being asked): being slapped across the face, had their head pushed down while giving a blowjob and being held there, choking them, spanking them, attempting anal, spitting on their face, pulling their hair, or being recorded. None of this shit is acceptable without talking about it first This is such a desire killer lol I know about it so, I wouldn't even think about having sex with a men before asking him if he pl…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 07:30 PM
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I would think finding a man on board with casual would be like finding a straw in a haystack? My impression is there's a massive surplus of men that want casual and a massive shortage of women. There is surplus of men who want to have sex with strangers and then have the choice to take it or leave it after. Women are less down for sex with strangers but more would like NSA arrangements.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 07:25 PM
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Blowjobs can pass HPV too bro lmao women shouldn't be doing that either. Gay men have higher rates of throat cancer, and they're not eating pussy. And 99% of cervical cancer is caused by PIV sex passing HPV. There is basically no other way the cervix develops cancer but an HPV infection.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 07:12 PM
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Nope. Because, having casual sex would still expose me to STDs and I'd have to get back on birth control. Both are not my idea of fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 07:04 PM
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Right? It's so childish and silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 06:54 PM
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That's not how it works for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 06:47 PM
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You shouldn't feel anything when wearing them. Good pairs are extremely comfortable, your foot is free.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 11:39 PM
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But because he doesn't want to be the safe, lower-desire, less exciting option. Then you need to filter for passion in the relationship. Using sex acts as a proxy for measuring this is a sign you lack the ability, or doubt your ability, to gauge this independently. There's nothing wrong with filtering for passion and sexual compatibility in relationships. It just requires people to put on their big boy/big girl pants.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 10:43 PM
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It's the fixation on purity and wanting a rigid moral structure to be enforce.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 08:02 PM
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This is another flavor of autism/ocd, from the left lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 07:44 PM
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Well, what type of doctor.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 09:32 AM
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Drugs that induce uterine contractions/labor do not directly kill the fetus. That is why as your wikipedia link notes, misoprostol is used to induce labor (and actually save babies lives). In early term abortions, the fetus cannot maintain homeostasis or take in nutrients outside the uterus. That is why the fetus perishes, that is why it's an abortion. A 39 week old fetus is full term, it has a fully formed brain and lungs, it will not die outside the uterus for simply no longer being in the ute…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 09:16 AM
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Not seeking medical help for a newborn or killing them, is not an abortion. You understand that right?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 07:53 AM
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She didn't abort the baby, she induced labor and it was stillborn/she let it die/killed it. Inducing labor is a routine practice, inducing does not kill a full term baby. It's nonsensical to charge her for that and in the UK women have the right to home birth. (and women wanting magical natural homebirths kills many times more babies) Late term abortions are defined by inducing fetal demise in the uterus and you have to inject the medications into the fetus/amniotic fluid to do that. Women do no…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 07:05 AM
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Based.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 06:46 AM
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There is high expectations and yet... more and more kids are showing up to elementary school not potty trained. It's a weird wave of "child centered" parenting, where people at once fret terribly over their children yet build nothing in them. Spend all of your time together but transfer no skills. Bleak as hell lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 06:18 AM
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Singapore has a decent housing situation, but still has a that notable high pressure work culture and they have long commutes. Housing is just one piece, you need families to have space they can afford. Commutes times are another, you want them as low as possible. Hence mixed use and dense. Daycare/pre-chool should be no more than a 5 minute walk, schools no more than 10. Ample jobs with 30 minutes and /or the flexibility to WFT / adjust the day around the kids needs. Carfree life also opens up …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 05:29 AM
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Build more dense mixed-use housing suitable for families in desirable areas.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 02:21 AM
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short men that are well above average in face and body. They are minority of the pop by definition. Below average in one area but above in two others, hard to hit all three.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 02:20 AM
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Do you mean with strangers or with acquaintances/friends? Casual sex is a big umbrella.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 06:36 PM
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That is soooo !! These guys just need to kiss a man gosh.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 07:53 PM
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You don't have to feel "strongly" to have an opinion, just own your take. Have some passion about life isn't gonna make you seem gay lol I could not deal with anyone like this, but esp a romantic interest. Relationships with these type of people just don't work long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 07:49 PM
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Why do you think women who say they get no attention are lying? That was just an example, because it can be something thin women report too.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 11:35 PM
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What's wrong with being afraid of the cold? Why is it bad to wear a long sleeve for 20 C? What do you wear in that weather? You really don't bring a jacket in the 60s?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 11:11 PM
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So he's blushing like a school girl and keeps looking because he's uncomfortable?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 10:57 PM
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Someone who matches my freak (my freak is loving the environment and mixed use development)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 10:51 PM
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Men here say every day they don't want a fat chick. Almost all women who lose weight see a huge uptick in male attention. There's a committed demo for bbw but it is smaller. And there's a surplus for those guys lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 10:47 PM
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Clavicular is so closeted. I feel bad for him lol https://x.com/barragers/status/2053332380606226582
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 10:44 PM
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Right, we have plenty of primate studies that back this up. A lot of what men bemoan here is just, most women have a different hormone profile and behaving accordingly. Add in learned knowledge of our own limitations / the inherent physical and emotional risks of sex - and you overall get both the more passive nature and more cautious behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 08:37 PM
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People have different risk tolerances.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 06:56 PM
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You mean you don't generally like people in the 'group' at all? Boys from school count for my question, I don't mean group as in friend group. Just people you'd see multiple times in the same environment.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 11:34 AM
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There is something to love's light, but what made you crush so hard then?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 11:30 AM
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Follow up, so in the event someone even more conventionally attractive comes into the group setting, do you shift your interests?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 11:19 AM
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There's also that, you can't exactly trust what people say without seeing it yourself. This guy/another posted an article where the author left her husband for a man she was instantly attracted to. I looked up a picture of that guy, he was totally average if maybe tall? But to the author he was gorgeous, her 10/10. Everyone images a beautiful Greek God when they read these things, when its likely just Rob from accounting. Not a bad looking dude but not exactly a model.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 09:09 AM
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Q4A: In group settings, how often have you found yourself having a crush on a person in the group - who is not the most conventionally attractive person in the group? And why do you think you developed that crush? School, work, church etc. any setting with a lot of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 08:51 AM
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I don't think the argument is its conscious, but more that we're more low-interest as a default. With that said, I personally have avoided dating and sex due to risk of pregnancy and other sexual concerns. But I'm very risk adverse and basically when presented with any risk my choice is just not to lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 07:18 AM
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I'm pretty picky overall, but not in a super limited way. I like a lot of stuff, I'm just... specific. If you remember Maria Condo, my natural has always been that idea of "sparks joy." If something doesn't spark joy, I don't like it. I don't want to waste my time on it. I do have ADHD and I think that's part of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 05:18 AM
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After seeing all the people complain about “having to do things” on dates makes me realize what a blessing it is to have a partner who actually likes doing things. Oh a lot of people here are semi-shut ins lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 09:04 PM
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What is actual monogamy in animals though? Social monogamy or genetic monogamy? Lots of bonded pairs are raising a bastard child lol And animals will also practice serial monogamy. There's been lots of famous gay penguins over the years. But only a few have mated for life, they have gay penguin break ups, and then they often get with females and have more chicks. So they're bi and serial monogamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 05:34 AM
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Serial monogamy is just monogamy. People have always had multiple relationships over a lifetime. Even if you tried to do the mate from teenage years thing one of you would die.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 05:18 AM
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If being a virgin and staying with one man for your entire life was natural, That's not what monogamy means.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 04:21 AM
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Women aren’t innocent enough to be worthy of even asking me that question in their defense. What? None of that really answered my question. This is about a 1st date? How is he going to take precautions. Is he going to insist they meet in a public place with good lighting and cameras? Is he gonna stick to drinks with lids? He is gonna text a friend his ware-bouts?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 04:17 AM
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What precautionary measures would men be taking? Not paying for the first date?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 02:07 AM
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the post was about sexual attention, looks, body based desire, forwardness, obvious lust, directness, casual sexual interest Bro, what aren't you getting lol none of these should be expressed without clear signals from the flirting stage. If you have no idea what those look like, don't pull these moves.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 09:52 PM
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How do you know how many partners their female partners get? How do you know these men don't have more partners than their female partners? You said they're in denial about "not getting any" but they are. You assuming a lot of these men's lives. Actual ENM people generally don't have issues finding partners and also generally have a wider concept of whats attractive. Posing this question to them is somewhat silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 09:34 PM
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i am talking about the gray area before that. the look, the compliment, the flirtation, the direct sexual interest, the man making it obvious he wants her. The bold is not a gray area. The bold should only be breached when after the first three steps have been well received and reciprocated. Pushing forward when those steps have been met coldly and rejected is crossing a social boundary. Crossing that social boundary is what makes it creepy. And objectively attractive men that cross that boundar…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 09:23 PM
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All of the comments from men above self report success with women. What is there to be in denial about?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 08:26 PM
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A man who has elegance to his heterosexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 12:24 PM
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I swiped right on some of them because I've been told women lie about it Those people were the ones lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 12:17 PM
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Or is it proving that you only seek answers that act as conformation bias? You got your answers from poly men, you just don't like 'em. Looks can matter and also not be deterministic.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 12:09 PM
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I have type(s) plural. But by far I'm most moved by men who fall into them. I have a separate admiration for beautiful people but it's legit platonic.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 08:34 PM
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Short men is not a "type"
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 08:23 PM
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And even if abortions were easily obtainable and free, they still suck. I don't think most men here really understand that its not like blowing your nose. Surgical abortions are easier but still can leave you recovery pain and in some cases bleeding for weeks. And medication ones are like a brutal period from hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 08:13 PM
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I don't think most people do. It's a sort of signaling because people are anxious about hygiene.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 08:03 PM
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All practically a non-issue in 2026, easily opted out of. For women of course, the cost and risk is still there for men who could be on the hook for decades of payments, completely against their will. The risk is all the man's. Condoms are easier to use than hormonal birth control and IUDs. Men only take on risk when they fail to use them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 07:53 PM
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What if you have a kid and they fucking die? Lots of people bury their children.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 07:44 PM
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I chose my career path (bioengineer into biomolecular researcher), not because I enjoy it (I would much rather do sociology research), but because I believe I have a responsibility to do difficult work others can't, and I have no intention of changing. What is your background? What you're describing is a mindset that people of upwardly mobile families have and/ or people who grow up in educated households. The feeling of not having worth unless you have a hard degree and the high status career t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 07:37 PM
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Calling people ugly is just what the internet does. Never become the main character if you're clapped.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 07:53 AM
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There's no difference as in, no one is making the "girl" floral scented version of the same line of products worse or using worse blades in women's razors. But the "first grab" product for women might be an actual different line of product and that might be worse. And the "pink tax" is a real thing in that pink stuff can cost more without being higher quality. (there's also now reverse "dude tax" with some manly mens lines being so basic but $$$ lol)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 07:34 AM
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Do something to make the world better.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 10:57 PM
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But it seems like people who do the most "deconstruction" of gender end up still really liking a certain type of gender expression in their partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 01:39 AM
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Not the dangling earrings
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 01:37 AM
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Bosses reacting to Tinder messages I wish they were my bosses.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 01:23 AM
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And there are too many tiktoks of femboys lol. You guys don't realize how much you tell on yourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 06:32 PM
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That is exactly what is happening. That is why so many men have decided to become femboys and take advantage of the reverse trend where women now have to pay on dates, etc. I can’t speak for every femboy, but my assumption is that more than quite a few of them are actually anti-LGBT and pro-right. There is no mass of women looking to date femboys, much less to the degree that there's some code we all know to honor like, femboys don't pay for dates? lol Femboys get attention from men first and fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 08:17 AM
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Lmao, there are not "many" straight cis men who want to do this kiddo. Drag is drag, even if its drag for losers who can't be divas.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 08:00 AM
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And then if they find her phisically attractive, well, the will is there and anything could happen​. So it's not "help" then, its shooting a shot at an baseline attractive women. Which is what many men will do regardless of her sexual status. Women generally don't make moves on any men we find baseline attractive. If a woman is in the mood for that, a purely sexual connection, she's generally not looking for a situation where she's going to have to do all the work. Ever heard the "I don't dream …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 11:20 PM
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She's likely trying to avoid chasers, but its fine you declined to go further.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 08:27 PM
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Being a baritone doesn't mean you don't have a falsetto.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 06:41 PM
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That's what most are thinking when they answer the question. There's no brown or polar bears in the outside of the high north. Black bears do not want to mess with humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 06:44 PM
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As a woman, a big reason I don't want kids is the risk this happening. The little ones on my butt freak me out when I touch them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 05:49 PM
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Gayest post you've ever made
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 05:36 PM
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It wasn't a cis woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 05:35 PM
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What sort of adult is not aware of that? It doesn't change anything if they're turned off of casual sex due to the political climate.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 09:41 PM
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This has nothing to do with "liking" anything. Cultural norms are not about likes vs dislikes. OP presenting that a collective "men" agree that the collective "men" shouldn't approach or make the first move with women. This is sort of a reasoning question in that, the most restrictive answers are going to be the least common. And men not approaching is against the culture norm and very restrictive. Very few people are going to actually have that option. Men should make the first move is the cult…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 08:50 AM
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I think men and women do in fact largely agree who should do the approaching/make the first move, men. Even women who are forward and active still generally set up situations so the man can "make the first move" Similar to how when you're playing with a cat, you have to let them "catch" the toy. Men who loudly bemoan 'approaching' are a minority and generally have something going on inhibiting their social process. They want women to relive them of the burden. Some fantasize about it and then so…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 09:35 PM
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I went to amiugly and there's three white bald guys who look exactly the same. They're not ugly but they're also so common looking what can you say? Men's looks just aren't very interesting unless you like them or they're doing something terribly wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 07:02 PM
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That's accurate to the discourse at the time. Girls body image issues was blamed on the culture they were exposed to, not their peers. Boys body image issue weren't really a public concern at the time and steroids weren't as easily accessible. I wouldn't say that's true today.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 06:06 PM
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I've never gotten them done as an adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 09:05 PM
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The guy isn't really a nazi, he drew some stuff when he was a teen? But has since apologized and has anti-right/ left wing positions. But he is an addict and Jenna's probably using with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 09:03 PM
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Disagreement and asking for sources is not gaslighting. Let's drop the tiktok speak here. Your example implied that the morality of men's attraction to breasts was discussed in an academic context in American schools, that you were taught this. That's a claim that needs evidence. Fat acceptance types also told/tell women is was anti-feminist to lose weight. It was a moment. I'm not denying that. But again, that's very much an Obama era thing. I can buy that kids in like, 2012 were shown some Kat…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 08:38 PM
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You were put into a mixed sex classroom and told to consider your attraction? Day after day, every school year? In G Ws abstinence only America? Or was that just your take away form a general "eating disorders and body image issues are influenced by cultural pressures around whats attractive" part of a lesson?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 08:30 PM
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And society clearly said women are already like this per default while men need to be taught so. Yeah, but what parts of society? Every tv show with the hot wife and fat husband trope? The loser gets the girl movies? Girls don't care about weight/looks is a media trope, and generally a boys media thing. It was never taught in schools.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 08:27 PM
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You think "no fat chicks" came about in... the mid 2000s? As a reaction to body positivity???
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 07:55 PM
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Were you home schooled? This is not how health lessons are presented to kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 07:41 PM
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Boobs were your example! You said boys were being made to feel bad about liking big boobs and pushed toward liking small boobs. I'd like some proof of this. We were told by authority figures to unpack and critically examine our beauty standards in all aspects, to the point that we were told that girls' body image issues and anorexia were our fault. This was in official school curriculums, not a random, fringe, one-off thing. Okay. Please show me those course materials, cite your sources here. If…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 07:30 PM
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If a D cup was our ideal boob size, we were told that we should seriously assess whether we could be okay with a C cup, a B cup, or even an A cup, for example. Were you actually? Told to ignore women with big tits for those of us who got nothing going on there? Or were you just told it's actually not super common to have big boobs relative to weight naturally. That dating a woman with an A cup and asking her to get a boob job is being a super shitty person. Or that natural big boobs aren't going…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 08:52 AM
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It's not a bizarre defense at all. I'd say the same thing to a woman who is posting videos but not filing charges. It's just not smart. If you accuse someone of a crime, do so in a protected space. The Amber Heard trial was purely because she wrote an article instead of filing a report. If the exact same thing happened to me, I would not consider it sexual assault. I would consider it very odd and even distributing but if that's all they did to me - I'm fine. And the context here is clear, its l…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 09:44 AM
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You know these are works of fiction right
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 07:15 AM
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Getting a little kiss on the cheek isn't sexual assault. And if he thinks that, he should press charges.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 07:07 AM
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Both stats also rose for women. The biggest thing that happened between the two collections of data was COVID. A mass isolation event.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 01:57 AM
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Or idk, segregating genders and being done with heterosexuality could maybe theoretically work too. We're not going to go full Taliban because some men are too neurotic to learn how to flirt.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 01:41 AM
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Honestly, I don't think most of these guys could handle being gay either lol not in homophobic culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 12:24 AM
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People are more isolated. That's the issue, but dating has always been and will be "hard"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 12:19 AM
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Men are more risk-averse Not true. Men take more risks overall. But almost def true of men who self report having dating issues. But overall, yeah, young people in general have a lot of anxiety issues and social anxiety issues. And how much time they spend hearing about how socialization is supposed to work vs actually socializing is a big problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 12:18 AM
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I think it makes sense. A man's lift routine means nothing to me, but I know Ninja Warrior and that shit looks fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 12:06 AM
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Messaging on dating apps is not approaching, no. And again, the guys I'm talking are the ones who act like approaching women, even just to make small talk, is in fact a crime and you're likely to end up with a rape charge or have your life ruined by tiktok. Lots of men here have anxiety disorders but somehow think they wouldn't as women.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 10:44 PM
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My post is about fear/anxiety. If you fear women as a man, its funny to think you wouldn't fear men as a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 07:50 PM
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Yeah... but they're typically not women who fear other people lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 06:14 PM
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Most women don't use apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 06:04 PM
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Who said anything about quiet girls?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 06:04 PM
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Guys on here who are like: I will never approach a woman I could never justifying taking that risk, but if I was a woman I would have sex with strangers. Totally.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 06:36 AM
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You guys are so rude and wonder why you're single lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 07:31 PM
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We also can't call him out for his stereotypical double timing husband BS because he's non-binary now lol (Lindy notes it but uses he/him in her book and they only started this they/them whining because people aren't saying he's sooo cool and such a good husband)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 11:36 AM
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From people who read it, the fact she's fat and has crushing white guilt. Self hating white women anxiety disorder. She said people shouldn't be hating on them bc the gf is Iranian (ethnically) and Iran is getting bombed by Trump? And the husband wrote a snarky "free Palestine uwu" response when the reported asked him why he sent her that crazy rude email. So, that's the sort of people they all are.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 09:28 AM
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Little sucker needs to read the eviction notice already. I hope you go into labor tonight! I also think sharing bdays is very cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 10:41 PM
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Get vaccinated against HPV if you haven't been. Its infuriating that men aren't. Herpes and HPV totally changed how I view sex on a risk reward scale. I'm double vaccinated and low risk but still, lowkey freaks me out I could have it lurking.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 10:21 PM
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That's what I'm saying. Now granted, neither women here are total hotties themselves. He's not dating up much. But he can get women, a lot of them. Which is supposed to be impossible because of "hoeflation" lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 09:46 PM
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I'm not saying she's hot! But she's his third wife and he was dating two other women while married to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 09:42 PM
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I don't recall her ever being one. She was a very normie pop culture/feminist writer. More up to date with Beyonce than her local jazz scene. And here she complains about it
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 09:41 PM
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Aren't male musicians often one of the most attractive "hobbies" for men? He's a trumpeter. That is not an "attractive" instrument to play, unless you like, are a total jazz head. And yeah, I agree! That's why it's funny too. But this guy is not a catch in any sense. He has heaps of baggage, he's not hot, he's fat, he doesn't have money, he doesn't have status. He should be a "struggling" male but he's not.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 09:32 PM
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Because she's very obese, not because he's good looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 08:40 PM
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He is tall yes, but that's all he has going for him. And he has no status, he's a studio musician. Lindy makes the money. is 100% a liberal so it makes sense why she would be in favour of polyamory She was not! That's the whole point. She only came around to it after he guilt her into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 08:38 PM
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Who is following this Lindy West saga lol Summary is white fat feminist writer marries less-fat but still fat mixed race man (who had been divorced twice and had two kids). A few years into their marriage he tells he needs to be poly because monogamy is like colonialism. She agrees under duress and sets rules, he breaks them and starts dating two women behind her back. They work it out and now they're both dating one of the women he was cheating with. She's thin. Lindy wrote a book about how won…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 07:46 PM
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Seems logical, you can always lose weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:38 AM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:05 AM
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Most women are not so scared of men we cannot socialize with them and have male friends. Taking an internet meme more seriously then anything you can observe in real life is more indicative of your own issues than women as a whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:01 AM
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He needs more repressed homosexuality to be Clav tbh Still funny lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 02:54 AM
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Smoking is just an example, you're taking it too literally. There are behaviors/demeanor that are more widely selected against. We've had post here from men who can't speak to women. Looks can only get you so far if you can't converse. At any moment, a small minority of women are game for casual sex with a stranger while a much larger percent of men are. For women attraction is part of selection but so is "vibing" basically creating chemistry. If men have looks and this skill, then they'll do we…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 02:51 AM
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Wouldn't that be the guy who brutally frame mogged him. Clav at least has a good haircut.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 02:49 AM
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Let me put it this way, I don't like smokers. I find plenty of men who smoke attractive - but not dating them is a judgment thing. Not an attraction thing. Not taking home the cute guy who looks like he's about to faint from nerves doesn't mean you don't find him cute, but he's obviously not up to the task.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 10:17 PM
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A man can be physically attractive... and his presence and behavior can be the turn off. Or what stops him from being a contender.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 10:08 PM
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There's a difference between being cute and clueless and being actively off-putting. And we're talking about casual sex, not longer built connections.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 07:27 PM
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Because most people have found themselves heavily attracted to people outside the realm of conventionally good looking. That's what a normal person means when they say looks don't matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 08:30 AM
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Genuinely curious, what do you think is the line between beauty and attraction? What do you think it means when someone isn't attracted to these sort of people?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 06:46 AM
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Of course. A man can be handsome but have such poor game on the social level that it doesn't matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 06:42 AM
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They always leave out she had brain cancer. And her marriage was falling apart before cancer.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 08:17 AM
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Most people supporting Iran's government are tankies/leftist. Mainstream liberals don't support Iran at all, but this war is not doing anything to help Iran's people. The regime is intact.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 07:08 AM
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Chinese people have no chill. Their are so ruthlessness, no polite tact, no farce.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 06:10 AM
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I absolutely care about his past. Especially if he was an asshole to women. Idc how well he treats me now This goes way beyond sex, but totally. I don't want to be the "exception" in terms of getting respectful treatment, that's not being special. A high body count for men shows skills at attracting women but bad at keeping them Yeah, I think this too lol But also high risk taking behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 12:26 AM
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The higher the bodycount goes less compatible I think we'd be. I simply don't think most men who have high body counts would be really match me and cool with my preferred dynamics for a sexual relationship. And this isn't hypocritical from how men here talk about high N count women because I don't desire to have lots of casual sex and multiple partners. And my idea of high scales with age. I wouldn't care if he was a virgin for the being the virgin part. I'd care if he had resentment towards wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 11:49 PM
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That is the exact same cope fat acceptance types used. There is not a mass of fit people skewing the trend in BMI. And being overweight due to muscle can still have negative health impacts FTR. And it generally does not happen naturally esp creeping towards obese.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 09:35 PM
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If you're immature, you're likely going to date immature people ¯\(ツ)/¯ having an issue with the gender of your partners healthcare provider is deeply immature. Bachelor/ette parties where the point is to binge drugs/alcohol and hire sex workers to "celebrate your last night single" (you're not single?) are often where cheating happens. I don't think people who are really in love and serious about getting married have them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 06:15 AM
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You do not have a right to be insecure on the biases of one male gyno being a criminal. You're insecure over the fear your (imaginary) female partner would be...assaulted? You're insecure over that?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 08:47 PM
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Why are you putting things like having a therapist or doctor of the opposite sex with things like having work wives/husbands and wild bachelor/ette parties...? That is insanely controlling behavior. Insecurity is not attractive in anyone. I do not understand why men put up with women who freak out because they want to hang out with their sisters. I would never put up with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 08:43 PM
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Often seen as a perk of such a style.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 09:05 PM
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A lot of these arguments are men bemoaning that benevolent sexism isn't real. Hot women are supposed to be fair maidens who see whats in your heart and reward it with casual NSA sex, because "empathy" or something lmao They want sexual socialism. Or a sexual lottery. Something that will make them win with no effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 09:43 PM
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A lot of men are really boring and know it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 08:42 PM
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Why should most men be able to have that? There's no argument, it's just supply and demand.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 08:40 PM
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bbw apps are for feeders lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 04:02 AM
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if men had strict, measurable size requirements for women's breasts if the tightness of a woman's vagina... became gossip topic among men and "loose vagina" became a widely used slur, including mainstream media and movies. if the only body type considered widely attractive on women required a meticulous gym and dieting plan All of this is just reality. And tall women are rejected for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 11:18 AM
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For women being more then average can make people take you less seriously, depending on the culture. There's a Victoria's Secret model whose also a programmer with a highly rated Stack account and a lot of people still doubt her abilities because she's beautiful. For men, I don't think there's many limitations but an interesting one is actually in the entertainment world. Being a very good looking but bland guy can basically be a hard limiting factor on ones career. You don't look every man enou…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 10:23 AM
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Why is this suddenly about you personally? Isn't this about men who look like shit? This attitude isn't what's between and yes and a no. She's still not gonna say yes to a man she's not attracted to, she could take it as a compliment or this. She is above average in the face, she has a very balanced face with nice features, nice skin. What is above average to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 08:44 AM
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Do you think it's okay for 10s to have this attitude? At what level does being toxic become okay? The whole idea of 'looks match' is what gives people the feeling they have a right to act like this. She's not mid anyways, above average face and in her community and outside it her body is very desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 07:56 AM
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B: you can very easily tell if people don’t like you. Autistic people perhaps can't, and people with other anxieties/ocd issues will ruminated themselves into feeling like they can't. A big reason why I think most guys here are autistic/ocd/anxiety disorder.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 04:16 AM
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I know? Where are you getting I think it's two people. The latter article is the much more honest one.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 08:45 PM
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Recently he was seeing a woman who was having a rough time in her relationship with her boyfriend and they decided to take a break, during that break she was seeing him and he said that the sex is amazing and primal between them, he saw a side of her that her boyfriend will probably never see and should not see as well. So this guy likes to blow smoke and you're buying it. How would he know this. He doesn't have to play the clown or jester to grab attention of any woman, if he wants her he gets …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 08:13 PM
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Because unattractive people usually date each other? But you know the joke about poly people? It's never who you want to be polyamorous who's polyamorous If you think your partner is fuckable you shouldn't be shocked others do too. That's the bottom line. And yeah it's super messy as a rule basically. But clearly a lot of people who ask for this are not really analytical thinkers. Open/poly/ENM works for people who are truly into the lifestyles and that includes embracing their partners freedoms…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 08:09 AM
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idk about more common but its certainly more common for them to think little wifey is going to stay home and knit and they're fuck hot chicks and become crybabies when she can bag and young hot chicks aren't like flies on shit with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 11:08 PM
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Why would two people in an open relationship need to acknowledge anything about unattractive women? If you think your partner is unattractive why are you doing this "open" bullshit and not just leaving? People in open relationships can set the terms, but if you go into wanting to "win" the bodycount you need to call it something else. Competitive cheating maybe. Like you clearly wanted the green light to cheat and get one up on your partner, you didn't want to "open"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 11:04 PM
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Because both men and women ask to open relationships? There's a popular writer Lindy West, right now pushing her book about her husband sitting her down and telling her he "needed" to be poly. He then started dating/having sex with someone without telling her. Both men and women push this poly shit onto their mono partners lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 10:58 PM
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I don't think open relationships work if you view it like a contest.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 10:04 PM
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"Appreciation" isn't going to keep the lights on. You can like anything but if at the end of the day you're not ponying up some cash for an artform that has fixed high costs - it will wither away. No one would know who Chalamet was if he followed in his grandmother and mothers footsteps and became a dancer. That's what he was saying and he's correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 09:27 PM
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There's isn't a gender aspect to this. Open relationships are trendy and appeal to people wanting their cake and eating it to. If someone asks you for an open relationship, just break up.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 09:09 PM
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Fundraising isn't the point of a non-profit, and not all companies fundraising are non-profits. They have a model that should be bringing in enough revenue to cover costs but doesn't. More than half of ballet companies are in the red. That's fab but most people getting pissy about this don't
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 09:04 PM
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He said they're not popular, which... they're not lol if you're actually into these arts you see how often they're fundraising (begging) because the money just doesn't flow in. If you're offended make sure you buy tickets, and to something other than the nutcracker.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 08:35 PM
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No, you can be attractive and not sexy. Sexy is in how you carry yourself and how you present.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 07:56 AM
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No, most men just aren't sexy. Sexy is skill.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 06:52 PM
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I don't consent to not having all of the money in your bank account. You are stopping me from having that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 07:47 AM
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I don't consent to not having a billion dollars.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 08:20 PM
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No lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 08:19 PM
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Have you ever used a menstrual cup? lol If you can't wash it, you can't even put it in.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 07:56 PM
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Never.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 07:41 PM
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Are you posting drunk? I can't even follow this. I read both pieces, I think he's a good writer and sympathetic figure who came to understands his own struggles and doesn't blame them on others. He was doing well as of the last piece, and I'm happy for him
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 07:17 PM
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Death of a close friend of relative often pushes people to take more risks.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 06:25 PM
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And those feelings fucking broke him until he fucking paid for sex. Until he became a man women in here claim are disgusting. The writer makes it very clear that losing his parents and aunts back to back are what broke him.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 09:55 AM
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I read both pieces, the author admits he was the issue in the latter? That it was his fear of women and sex that kept him a virgin for so long, that he was using the 'waiting for the right person' as an excuse to avoid his fears. He admits that once he got over them, slipping into the social role he could have always preformed well was not hard. He had arrested development, a mix of being risk adverse and having a safe loving home he could remain protected in stopped him from taking a step to ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 09:52 AM
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Second, because height is related to ethnicity, the researchers only included white couples in their findings. Third, they couldn’t be sure of causality. Setting aside metaphysical questions about love, the researchers found that height is correlated with education, and there’s evidence that people choose partners based on their education level. But there’s a bigger issue here — maybe you’ve already spotted it, John: Men tend to be taller than women anyway. Is it really so surprising that only 7…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 04:35 AM
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She had to push that doubled headed baby out, she deserves her gay soft core show.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 03:39 AM
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Dish but can't take it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 03:37 AM
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Abortion is illegal babe. Chad chooses not to wear a condom and leave hit fuck trophies for the rest of us to support. Men are the leeches in this case.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 03:36 AM
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You're assuming a lot about a situation you have no part of.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 03:30 AM
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And you don't have to worry about the male role in that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 03:27 AM
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Yes, we know you're not making any babies but most men will.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 03:18 AM
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You're post has no real coherent argument. You cite a summary of study that has no direct relation to your examples, which is women in the 4B sub gets upvoted? And other women disagreed? Where is the in-group bias? You just showed a fringe group having a disagreement. No idea what you mean by the sex stuff. You see traditional women saying sleeping around is empowering...? Not comparing girls who have sleep around to pieces of tape and crushed flowers? Again, a lot of men here really struggle to…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 03:16 AM
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What other scenario is applicable here? Whenever men bring up this "paper abortion" thing, the context is women lying about being on birth control or biting condoms. Most children are welcomed into the world by two parents. Things go south after, but there's no such thing as post-birth abortions.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 09:28 PM
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This sub just has so much low IQ Every child has two parents, and if one or both abandons that child the state steps in. You're paying for Chad's children. Chad is the leech.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 09:02 PM
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Again, we should all just pay for Chad's sperm deposits. That's legit your argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 08:52 PM
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"baby trapping" is basically a male paranoia. Most children are born to couples, and have their fathers sign the birth certificate in the delivery room. You can have 50/50 and still owe child support if the child needs it. And 50/50 requires actually having the kids 50% of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 08:51 PM
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No what? Are deadbeat dads also not leeches? Isn't this whole sub asking for women to police other women for men's benefit.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 08:09 PM
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Really? So no there's no man out there who had three kids with ex wifey and now is working under the table to dodge the child support?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 08:06 PM
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We lose that reflex in infancy. And a nipple is not a dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:59 PM
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Now do deadbeat dads.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:52 PM
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I don't hear women say this very often? I hear it most from service workers. Service workers are not asking for friendship from customers, just basic politeness. Speak in full sentences, don't invade personal space, say thank you or acknowledge the effort to help in some way. 'Treat me like a human' is a basic level of respect in human to human interactions. It doesn't mean two people are connecting deeper. In the context of dating, it means be socially polite on the date, have manners. Not acti…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 02:58 PM
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I walked out of film staring the Rock where he plays a football player who discovers he has a daughter.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 03:19 AM
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And he had a hot goth girlfriend before it was cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 01:28 AM
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Women do not use work headshots my dude. This lady has nice pictures.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 11:47 PM
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The truth is Aang is a bb Chad and Zuko is an autistic loser. That's canon.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 11:46 PM
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But they're not. They're bad selfies, work headshots, wedding pictures, bro signaling, overall low quality. The last guy is holding a drink next to a newborn.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 11:42 PM
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I would rather meet a succubus in the forest. Think about that for a moment. Take a good look at yourself. Isn't that your fetish. You're basically whining you don't have the right to make generalizations without people pushing back. People will push back to generalizations because by nature, it's easy to.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 11:39 PM
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There are still men here who bring up the bear and how much it hurt their feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 11:20 PM
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This is what women mean when they say the profiles are bad. Work headshots, sloppy vacation pictures, wedding photos, bro4bro pics. I don't think there's anything wrong with these men's looks but they're not doing a good job presenting themselves. There were like 4/5 good pictures.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 10:51 PM
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Almost all of them had terrible pictures, you guys go so easy on men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 10:43 PM
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Nah, only about 20-30% of them are and that's estimating through the terrible pictures.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 10:42 PM
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The problem with men who claim to want to be breaking "societal norms" is that they somehow equate being meek, passive, and not having a personality with "feminine" (which isn't the case), even though that's generally unattractive behavior to anyone who's not a predator. A good portion of the 'gender wars' is this, people who are lacking wanting others to step up and take care of them. A lot of people are seeking parental figures more than partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 03:50 PM
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Patriarchal culture + daddy issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 05:19 AM
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This is basically dating woo lmao its the mindset~ that matters now? Inheritance playing a role in who you chose to date is some Jane Austen era shit, denying that's hypergamy as hell is hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 04:58 AM
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If you're in a relationship with someone because of wealth/inheritance, that is textbook hypergamy lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 03:36 AM
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or her greater wealth/inheritance/status/freakiness which warrants a better looking man settling for her You mean... male hypergamy?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 03:14 AM
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I said going bald young can be indicative of underlying hormonal issues. That if you went bald at 18 and think as a women you'd magically be problem free, you're probably mistaken because you'd probably have a female variant of hormonal issues. Like PCOS, but swap with your favorite. The trouble is, there isn't a good female equivalent to balding for women, because women's beauty standards are not impacted by genetics the same way men's beauty standards are. Women also go bald and experience hai…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 03:11 AM
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What...? lol Who said balding itself had negative health effects? You're not understanding what I'm saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 02:16 AM
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I would love to see a source, everything I'm seeing says even balding in the late teens and early 20s has a mostly genetic component. PCOS also has a genetic component. You're getting tripped up because you're focusing on equivalent treatments, not that a genetic mutation changes how structures respond to hormones. The same underlying factor, a genetic mutation, could warrant completely different treatments and cause different health problems in different people. Estrogen blockers are used for b…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 06:44 PM
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Early androgenetic alopecia is compared to PCOS, you can look it up. The reason being early androgenetic alopecia is indicative of insulin resistance and gonadal dysfunction. Androgenetic alopecia also does have the same lifestyle risk factors, including obesity. But overall my point was OP lists signs of hormonal issues as a man. As a woman, he would have female hormonal issues not none. Because women are in no shortage of our own hormonal stuff (I just had a ER admission due to mine)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 03:34 AM
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This is staged.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 11:34 PM
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If you went bald young, as a women you'd probably have PCOS. So that means likely to have acne, hirsutism, thinning hair, narrower hips and larger stomach etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 11:15 PM
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I wanted buccal fat removal before it was cool, now I appreciate the fullness. I don't need cheek hallows.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 10:59 PM
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He fits a sort of ideal, if these aren't filtered. But not my type. Good for him tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 11:11 AM
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People like rules.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 11:08 AM
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Where do you live where this isn't every 4th 30 something
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 10:08 AM
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Virginity has nothing to do with ones humanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 07:03 PM
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"Don't call people virgins as an insult, just say they're not truly humans"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 06:57 PM
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Put the cat down for the incontinence/Manx syndrome. She was on the euthanasia list for a reason. I love animals, classic almost prefer them to people, but I have no tolerance for human-directed aggression that isn't provoked.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 06:54 PM
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A lot of men who experience SSA don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 08:21 PM
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People take them for souvenirs and to make water balloons.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 06:18 PM
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Female sex tourism is a thing though. Very common in the Caribbean.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 08:39 PM
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Up to half of all men with Klinefelters can have viable sperm extracted for use in IVF. You can do this before you have a partner to have it there when you need it - because the damage to the testis will increase with age.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 08:38 PM
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In the USA, average height for men is about 5'9. Following normal distribution only around 8% of men are below 5'6 and only around 4% would be below 5'5. The average height for women (meaning, about half are shorter) is 5'4. Even most short guys are taller than most women, so "the taller than me" want is pretty benign. And most men also want a woman shorter than himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 08:20 PM
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Most of the most mentioning height are not asking for a tall guy. Just taller then themselves. Which unless they're outside OPs stated range, is still gonna be a short man. Why does that still trigger you?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 07:04 PM
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I'm 5'3 and 110lb, younger looking. I want a cute handsome face. Lean/slim/skinny body. Darker hair. I want him to have similar values and concerns about the world. I want him to be emotionally stable, no mood swings, no temper, no major depression either. I want him not to use substances and become intoxicated often or around me. I want him to make or have enough money to were we're not poor and struggling together. I want him to have similar interest in media and culture. Will talk to me for h…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 10:58 PM
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Yes, it's normal. But a lot of people time it poorly
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 05:23 AM
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For example women can easily get non majorily invasive surgeries like a breast augmentation A breast augmentation is a far far far more invasive surgery then a hair transplant my dude. However for a man who is ugly it's very rough he will need super invasive surgeries such as a double jaw surgery You can be ugly without needing double jaw surgery, and 2/3 of people who get corrective jaw surgery are women. Your post is a good example of why it's annoying. Getting surgery is not "easy"
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 05:19 AM
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Its the OCD. (Reddit has so much OCD its funny)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 11:32 PM
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How is this arguing men should to do anything? The unfortunate reality is that in America most people are fat and out of shape. These people are still part of the sexual marketplace. If you want what most men here want, casual sex, where the supply and demand for men seeking women is already asymmetrical. If you shut out fat women you're shutting out like 60% of that already small number. Its just math. Still don't have to fuck the fat chick, no one cares you won't.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 11:26 PM
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You tell me. You all here generally have some strange ideas about what makes an average man.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 07:44 PM
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Is it "should" or is it just an option if men here are as desperate as they paint themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 07:32 PM
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Due to the severity of capitalism what choice do women have here Getting an education, a job, and changing the political system. Actual feminist never advocate for relying on a man as plan AB and C.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 02:21 PM
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We know what happens in cultures that practice polygamy. There is generally a function to reduce competition from young men, the military, monasticism, castration/eunuchs etc. A recent example is the Lost boys of fundamentalist Mormon sects. Older men expel boys and younger men from the compounds to reduce competition for wives. Free mate choice does not produce this effect. Hypergamy is marrying up, which in cultures where it is a thing- men and women can do.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 02:10 PM
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Shrek is a cautionary tale about... the fallibility of fairy tales, wealth & class inequality, villainization of the other, and... Micheal Eisner. Especially Micheal Eisner. but in my opinion this lens of pink pill feminism isn’t one that I see feminists actually push back on as much as they do the red pill/manospere That's your algorithm. There is constant push back to the "looks and money are the only things that matters, stay at home and raise babies!" content rotting peoples brains. This is …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 02:05 PM
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He doesn't seem to be. He said he was celibate.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 06:39 AM
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I can never meet the “gym doesn’t matter” crowd because it’s the thing that’s had the single biggest impact on the volume of attention received and perceived attractiveness for me Being in shape is better then not being in shape. It's the idea that getting big swole is the trick to getting women. When it's actually nichemaxing. Nichemaxing is good tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 06:36 AM
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Do you think all criminal men are hypergamous 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 05:49 AM
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He's attracted to wealth and status.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 05:09 AM
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Jeremy Meeks, or Prison Bae, is hypergamous. His ex wife on the right, and his heiress ex on the left. His ex wife supported him during their marriage. Then he cheated on her with the Top Shop heiress and had a kid with her. The amusing thing is, they look pretty similar. So he has a type maybe. But meal ticket all the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 03:59 AM
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I got bangs to get a boys attention. It was a terrible decision that haunted me long after that fizzed out. But it did work.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 02:52 AM
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And believe me, lots of guys fall short of that. Like yes you can be a court jester to try and impress me and still be incel or red pill or mean or borderline manipulative in other ways Right, I think this is a disconnect. It comes back to a lot men wanting a cheat code they can use on women. They preform certain actions and get frustrate when they don't get results.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 01:42 AM
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Well, how much money does the OF model make? Sub is more realistic but model seems more fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 10:28 PM
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That is not misandry? That is pretty typical cultural reinforcement of desirable female behavior in patriarchal culture. Telling women to avoid acting on their own sexuality because then they'll become victims to bad men and bad things with happen to. Like, you really don't see that?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 08:13 PM
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Because the actual answer for most of recent history is the military.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 12:01 PM
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No one discusses their views on abortion before they fuck dude. Oops babies are almost never the result of lying, it's almost always the result of two dumb bitches lying together. Child support is about the child, not the woman. I don't care about the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 04:25 PM
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Now men just do everything women want. Be a man and advocate for your health and safety. Said the Republican senator to the women protesting the overturning of Roe v Wade. Condoms are as artificial as abortions. Both are awesome ways to prevent the natural consequences and purpose of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 04:16 PM
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What can she lie about re: condoms? I'm gonna have to learn how to break a condom. Didn't realize that was a thing that was the woman's fault. Of course some women want raw sex too, they're also stupid. Don't be stupid like dumb bitches. Yes, I've never heard the term before. You're understanding my tone here perfectly.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 04:14 PM
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tampers with the condom Your condom. Your penis. How can it be tampered with? Do you also think women bite holes in condoms? Again, "she lied" is just an excuse because men want to fuck raw. If you don't want a baby, the great news is that's totally within your control.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 04:11 PM
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Unsuccessful men need to pay for Chad's children to balance their lack of reproductive success. It makes total sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 04:05 PM
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Also, it is really telling that people always cite the most irresponsible men as proof why no men should have protection against being reproductively exploited. No one ever thinks of the young man just starting his sex life who is assured by the woman that she is on the pill and that, even if something happens, she'll abort. "but young men wanna fuck raw :(" Condoms exist. You don't get baby trapped if you wrap. For feminists, the favorite and cherished sex that is the focus of their attention i…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 04:05 PM
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but I definitely was vulnerable to being reproductively manipulated as a young man. Wanting to fuck raw isn't being manipulated. Wear a condom.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 04:02 PM
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Fighting for Chad's rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 03:42 PM
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For example, I believe a woman should be able to be protected against being LPS'ed by a guy if he is married (whether to her or anyone else). Stefon Diggs had four children with four different women last year. He's not married. You think he should be able to legally abandon those babies? I've ever seen feminists be when formulating policies to help their pet sex. What is a pet sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 03:42 PM
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You're injecting a lot into this story to give him grace. He admits he was selfish, does not blame the other party at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 01:59 PM
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You need to hold her hand bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 12:40 PM
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You're not even responding to my comment. This is not about dating, this is about men's behavior towards women when they are hitting on her. You said a 6/10 will have "no audacity" with an 8/10 - because you took that to be mens rank and not % of suitors. But I've seen 4/10 have audacity with 10s. Everyone has.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 10:00 AM
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You said your post is saying men only act demanding/aggressive with women they think are lower SMV than them. But if you go out with a undeniably beautiful women, you'll observe that men who are demanding with her are not all undeniably beautiful men. They have lower SMV and are still demanding in how they approach her and don't take a polite no as a signal to back off.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 09:01 AM
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Kudos. But I meant in a friendly context where you can simply observe how men approach her when they think she's available.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 08:21 AM
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If you've even been out with a really beautiful woman, you know this is not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 08:15 AM
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How is it a form of payment when one party think they've fallen in love mutually and are now ready to express that love and romantic attraction to each other? Sure, some women will have duty sex as a reward for paring off. but that will be very dry and boring. So neither like your so valued 'raw attraction' casual or newly in love sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 04:07 AM
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dive bars, r4r subs, raves. idk I don't hook up.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 03:36 AM
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Commitment/a relationship is a natural progression of strong romantic feelings. It's not a form of payment.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 03:34 AM
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You guys talk like you've never had a real romantic connection and thus, don't understand what commitment actually means.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 03:18 AM
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If a woman sleeps with you under the pretext of it being sex within a relationship... it's not casual sex. There is no trick to get casual sex beyond vibing with a woman who wants casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 03:12 AM
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I don't think that's an uncommon version of celeb crushing for autistic women/people. Which is why I added fandom. But I would still count it as a celebrity crush because it generally doesn't transfer when the characters get rebooted and a new actor takes over. But it's also from my observations, common for autistic fans to not feel that separation at all and intensely focus on the celebrity behind the character and kinda blend them in their mind. Think the types of fans straight actors who play…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 03:06 AM
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Ah yes, autistic women. Well known for not being part of celebrity and fandom culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 12:21 AM
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How is me finding him ugly hypergamy. Please explain.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 10:53 PM
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I'm gonna show this to my cat shelter friends and see if they want to do it lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 10:10 PM
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Makes for a great bonding experience. Exactly. This is a way (normie) women social bond. It's a way for women to dote on men in a way that is fun and social. If a woman ever wants to do this for you, it's a good sign boys. Sit back and enjoy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 09:16 PM
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He's ugly lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 08:51 PM
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You think he's good looking?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 11:01 AM
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She flew him to Korea She's... Korean lol her brand is based in and manufactured in South Korea. He knowingly married a Korean woman with a Korean business, dude is not being kidnapped lmao It’s also interesting that in the male hypothetical, her visible happiness is what makes the scenario acceptable. It's acceptable here because the husband is visibly happy. again you're framing of this is very weird. This is a cute thing a couple did, all smiles and laughs. He looks super excited and confiden…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 10:45 AM
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What does your post have to do with mine? People being argumentative, combative, quick to anger is not the same as politics. Lots of trad women are toxic people who are difficult to maintain a relationship with.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 05:52 AM
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Men "making over" their female partners has negative associations with men asking women to get plastic surgery or fitting them into a narrow ideal of womanhood. Think Stepford Wives. Or what Kanye West did with Kim K and his new wife. When women makeover their partners, it's rarely taking them outside of their literal comfort zone. There just isn't a 1:1 for a women getting her man better looking and more comfortable pants to a man say, having his wife start wearing heels and makeup. I don't thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 05:18 AM
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It's a huge trope in tv shows and movies. Every heard "don't stick it in crazy" ? This is hardly a censored aspect of reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 03:12 AM
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Well... yeah. Set a boundary and get some self esteem/respect. But you're framing this as a universal norm of courtship. It's not.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 03:06 AM
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A lot of what men do emotionally is about preventing blow-ups during courtship: choosing not to argue with her, letting things slide, absorbing accusations without defending themselves, and staying quiet to keep the peace. Failure to do so reliably provokes women and endangers the relationship Healthy relationships are not like this, whatsoever. If a man has to do this he is either lying about who he is or he's dating a toxic crazy woman. Or both. Either way, it's his choice to put the continuat…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 02:47 AM
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Porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 10:38 PM
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How would making English the official language prevent a private corporation from letting a popular musician sing on tv in Spanish (or any other language)?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 10:36 PM
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I think that a big problem these days is that most men don’t believe that the women who claim to make every man wait are actually making every man wait, or that when these women claim that they have always made every man wait that it is true. Manosphere induced anxiety. There's no way to win if a man comes at you already viewing you as a Jezebel. There's no point to engaging.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 10:24 PM
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This is something really important for female sexuality as a lot of women admit in various discussions online. So I'd say it's kind of balanced - men getting their physical desires met and women having their mental desires fulfilled. Yes, it is an important aspect of sexuality for most women, but that doesn't mean it's a complete experience for most either. Eps when there is a lack of foundational connection, a man wanting a woman to fulfill a role for him isn't the same thing as a woman herself…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 07:06 AM
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Using the same logic you used, we could say that "sub" women are also seeking sexual submission from "dom" men since they want to be the center of focus and attention in the scene. I'd say that'd be a completely fair characterization if the what the 'sub' woman is seeking is mainly about her wants and her pleasure. Even to the degree most of what she wants done is stuff the man cannot physically derive pleasure from. I don't think it ends up like that too often just because male and female sexua…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:26 PM
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I'm one of those women (not into BDSM) So, I'm a little out of my depth here as to gender ratios in any scene. Yeah, so my understanding is 'femdom' as desired by men and women are very different things. Probably shouldn't be referred to as the same thing. Most "sub" men are seeking sexual submission from women by another name. The sex is still primarily focused on the woman providing the male pleasure/release, just through "dominate" acts that physically or otherwise place them in the typical r…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 04:06 PM
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idk, I've seen men being much more forgiving of a woman not being "ideal feminine woman" when seeking such power play. In fact from personal experience, the women who usually lean into bdsm/being submissive are almost never the attractive ideal. But it's not known as "maledom" is it? It's the default that must be distinguished from. Men being doms is not in of itself a power play between gendered dynamics. It's extreme but normative in the hierarchy of the dynamics. A man is in control and a wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 12:24 PM
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This is such a funny take because Prince's heels were no higher than his female peers. They weren't even platforms. He also always had his band and dancers in heels, even if it meant the girls were much taller. He liked the heeled look, he could have worn actual booster shoes for the same look and less strain. Micheal Jackson had a similar lot pain wise and never wore high heels. They just went hard on their bodies, and in Prince's case - was reluctant to get proper help due to his religion.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 09:52 AM
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Peter Dinklage has a pretty wife. The son from Big People Little World also has an average height wife. The dad had an affair with an average sized woman, cheating on his little person wife. These guys also have average sized gfs. It's not that rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 09:12 AM
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That's not normal! If I ever have to bail someone out, it'd be my parents (that is also not normal! lol) But the rest of my family is stable and I know no one else who'd be likely.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 08:52 AM
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My eyes, they're green/hazel.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 08:49 AM
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Right? Now we're expected to believe Pearl is widely found attractive, much less by redpillers.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 08:47 AM
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I was assured it's a very real thing that happens by a virgin here, so yeah IA.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 08:44 AM
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Boobs/nipples, stomach, butt, labia, leg hair, bad skin. Take your pick. The idea that all you have to be is thin is false. Men can be very unhappy with a thin woman's body and let her know it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 08:33 AM
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BDSM/Femdom doesn't really challenge gender norms. Finding breaking social norms sexy isn't the same thing as challenging them. If anything, it makes sense women seeking men for this want an ideal of masculine men, because the power play is between gendered dynamics. From what I've seen people who actually challenge gender norms generally don't seek a gendered thing like femdom. They'd go to a more queer thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 08:29 AM
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Yes, but that's the risk you take when you want to babytrap someone by biting a hole in a condom during a blowjob :(
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 08:04 AM
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Men with darker curly/shaggy hair, big noses, rounded off features, glasses, trending towards cute but still manly. Gives off the vibes of liberal yuppie who drives an electric car.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 10:00 PM
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This isn't an advice sub, it's not tooled to help anyone directly. When people try to help they're going above and beyond the call of the sub. They're generally trying to be nice - and you're mischaracterizing this as something only women do. Nonetheless, most men who self ID as "struggling" flag for issues like: autism, anxiety disorder, OCD disorders etc. Most people, thus including most women, can't easily pick up on those or the fact that's what many struggling people are dealing with. It's …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 09:46 PM
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I'm not sure what you mean by this post. Those aren't grifts but proposed explanations from the downward trends in coupling/marriages. And a major issue with your rebuttals is, things being different in the past doesn't negate how people feel about their circumstances in the present. Have many people lived communal and had active sex lives over history? Yes. Does that really impact how a modern person feels about the concept of bringing over their partner and having sex with their parents home? …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 09:25 PM
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I think you're saying this to make yourself feel better tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 07:49 AM
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For me personally, no. I care more about STDs risk than pregnancy, so that remaining still makes this unappealing even as a thing to do when bored.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 07:29 PM
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Yeah this is so adhd its funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 06:38 PM
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Breaking up with someone because you two don't connect sexually isn't machiavellianism.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 09:50 PM
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That they never had a consistent sexual relationship at any point in their relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 07:34 PM
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Lefties don't normally need to pretend to be virgins and get secret abortions so they can marry the tradcath guy they found for instagram.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 10:42 AM
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Conservatives grifting and cheating is not a mating strategy. They're just morally depraved people.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 07:44 AM
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I have a type/types. They're not extremely narrow but it's enough of a thing for me that I don't really consider men far outside of it as options. Even if they're attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 03:12 AM
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Front line healthcare workers have very high infidelity rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 01:39 AM
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Quadriplegics can be doctors. Just like sluts.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 01:33 AM
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Doctors are kinda notorious sluts.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 01:30 AM
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Stroke game isn't a new term buddy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 01:20 AM
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A slut can be a doctor. A NEET cannot.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 01:19 AM
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So what do the guys who dont get much interest from women do? Not the topic! Id take multiple annoyances over multiple risks of public embarrassment. Then let that be your limiting factor, but again, for most people this is not a matter of public embarrassment. That you feel that way is signaling social anxiety.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 03:31 AM
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I just don't think that's true because men who get plenty of interest from women, still hit on and pursue women. Again, most of the men here are highly neurotic and naturally passive men, but they are a minority. And shooting your shot is not "would you like to go out on a date?" its just trying to connect. Again, socially attuned people can tell when it's not vibing and self-eject before any "rejection" happens. I don't think you guys realize the volume of interest some women can get. It doesn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 02:20 AM
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No, my thing is you're painting this as a rigid social norm men are simply preforming and not something they're doing of their own desires. Because right, men aren't mind readers and so - most men approach women because they want to, women's behavior is totally irreverent. And this is a two way street. Men can talk to anyone they'd like in public and women can have whatever reaction they want. Shoot your shot sure, don't be a whiner when you piss some people off.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 11:58 PM
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That is mainstream normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 11:24 PM
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Yeah man, idt that's true. The "you're only allowed to socialize via dating apps and meet up groups! and this is Good/Bad" is just two groups of neurotics talking in a circle. Normal front page reddit has always been about shooting your shot and Normie Reddit is more normal than it's ever been.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 11:10 PM
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So now normal dating advice is good? Isn't normal dating advice bluepill?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 10:30 PM
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And what about women who are forward and active in their dating lives? Why do they have to put up with it? Women approaching would not remove the desire from men to approach us. Our behavior is not the deciding factor here. Men approach because they want to. Autistic/social anxious and men who loath it are a loud minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 10:25 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 08:15 AM
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The top post is about a father being so miffed by his black-hole of a son he charged him 20 bucks burrito.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 07:59 AM
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Of it getting sexual? Sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 07:56 AM
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I'm not as concerned with pregnancy as I am with HPV and herpes when it comes to casual sex. More partners = greater risk of the later, not fully mitigated by protection. Which is lower without intercourse. I do think more women would be game for casual sex if there wasn't the perception that it has to involve intercourse.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 08:54 PM
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Short guys are always hanging out with men way taller.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 04:14 AM
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Is it, or is real life sex not like porn?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 04:26 PM
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Being porn brained isn't about how much sex you have, but your expectations around it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 04:24 PM
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Why are you labeling yourself hypersexual? Having a high libido isn't being hypersexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 10:27 PM
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You're just arguing my point from another angle. Young people settle in many circles where pairing off young is the expected thing to do. They have kids because its expected. They stay together because it's expected. And attractive is not the same as attraction. Two attractive people can have weak romantic and sexual attraction for various reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 10:20 PM
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Single mothers who never had the commitment of the father is generally a lower class thing. The lower classes in general have declining rates of "settling down" at all i.e. marrying.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 10:10 PM
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One based in reality. I don't think men need to like random vag pics to be straight, but way way way more men than women would like that. Certain aspects of human sexuality are just 95% male.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 09:58 PM
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My dude, I didn't even know Qunora got freaky like that. Are you sure you find that disgusting if you're going that far to seek it out?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 09:54 PM
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The idea that people who play the field and marry later are the ones who "settle" just doesn't match with what I really see in a more liberal area. When slutty people settle down they tend to be really into their partners (that doesn't mean it will last) The most common form of settling I see is from people who got together young, weren't careful, and got married because of a baby. They let life drag them whichever way it wanted, and end up rather unsatisfied by it all.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 09:51 PM
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I'd never say all women who have FWB are hotter then the men. Plenty of FWB situations are between equally mid looking looksmatchs for one thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 09:25 PM
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Not so. I think you just like men more than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 09:02 PM
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FWB is not a hook up.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 08:27 PM
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Are you going to tip your fedora too? There is no "nice" way to catcall. Catcalling is not hitting on a women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 07:52 PM
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Or do most women really find average men as sexually unappealing as straight men find gay men? Yes. I have zero sexual interest in men I'm not attracted to. There is no baseline feeling of "well at least he's the sex/gender I prefer" there. It's not 1:1 to straight men and gay men because part of the reaction to gay men is based in cultural homophobia. Which is also why men think we're saying we're disgusted by men we're not attracted to when we use this example.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 07:50 PM
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Which would have nothing to do with your post history being hidden or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 07:49 PM
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It's not a loophole and it's not against Reddit rules. You shouldn't expect privacy on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 07:39 PM
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Reddit doesn't ban searching a users post history.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 07:26 PM
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Bruh lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 07:23 PM
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A new piece of lore has been added to the "women" world building by the nerds. Nothing you said reflects the diversity of reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 06:57 PM
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It's cute you think all men in FWB situations are very attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 06:44 PM
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Not personally, but I don't often watch his work. Might be different if I did. He's a good example why men's understanding of female attraction here is so off. He's not perfect handsome Squidward looking, but that gives character. It makes him real and tangible. Add in his talent and charisma, and that's fertile ground for attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 09:51 AM
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I genuinely don't know because my N count is too low to draw any conclusions from. I've never dealt with one that made me want to pull out the measuring tape. All I know is too big for me wouldn't be that big. Women's anatomy is different enough that the ideal is not gonna just come down to length, but also circumference, shape, curve.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 09:35 AM
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Like, I said, it leaked down as social media trends do. But also, men do not have a good eye for this stuff. Plenty of natural and "clean" girls have had the same work done. Just to different desired results.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:38 PM
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fetlife? pole & hole.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:17 PM
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No. The women who pushed this idea are the sort to have had work done to achieve a hyperfeminine appearance men like. Boob jobs, BBL, lipo, laser hair removals all over, hair extensions, a wardrobe full of sexy clothing etc. You want a shallow and materialistic women, you have to pay the price. It might have leaked down to to the normie girls who don't put in the upkeep, but that's where it's from.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:09 PM
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He was on set all the time. But this is a a purely speculative story from Star magazine. Not even a good rag like Page Six. She never cheated on her ex. The thing with Glenn Powell was a PR stunt. Her ex was a film producer and didn't care, they split two years later.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:15 AM
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The only known thing is Sydney was liking tweets about how hot Tom is.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 08:34 AM
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He was doing nothing. They took his weapon and then shot him.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 07:46 AM
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He wasn't doing anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 08:52 PM
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My ability to be in social company with new people and still end up mingling with the gay guy is near flawless. I don't even instantly pick up on the fact they're gay sometimes, my subconscious gayradar guides me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 07:14 PM
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Then why are you mad women are talking about them lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 06:50 PM
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Bro he doesn't look healthy. He looks like a roided out toddler. He's not average tbf, he's below.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 08:54 PM
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I don't think the men here would consider this guy average. They'd def think he's very attractive. He's not, but he's got that swole naked mole rat thing going on straight men get hard for.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 07:18 PM
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Most people are not going to understand how they were coddled. Simply being allowed to say rude stuff when young is being coddled in a way that's going to really hurt your ability to socialize when you grow up. Parents/caregivers not pushing you out of comfort zone is coddling. Parents/caregivers not allowing you to feel and understand the consequences of your actions is coddling. Autistic people can get a double whammy because most parent and caregivers wouldn't even know where to begin doing t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 08:28 PM
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Autistic men are not really coddled, but autistic boys can be. Which sets them up for failure when the coddling goes away in adulthood.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 06:35 PM
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A lot of the rp/bp guys here are mainly just mad they can't have kinky sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 06:26 PM
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Don't Pick Me Girls
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 09:25 AM
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That site had like 50 women total.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 08:54 AM
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I honestly don't really like either.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 02:45 PM
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thats why russians are so good at the arts
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 02:31 PM
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Nordic countries have a big binge drinking/party culture (meaning drugs).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 01:30 PM
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Some women will have problems therefore, bitter men can't actually have revenge fantasies?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 02:05 PM
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Or better yet, not fucking a few men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 02:00 PM
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This girl and I share so much energy... except I don't have tits like that https://x.com/ive_arc/status/2012633833598812208?s=20
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 11:06 AM
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Single men/people are free to pursue sex. People in relationships, given monogamy is expected in most, are not. Thus sex is generally considered a reasonable expectation in a relationship to a degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 10:28 PM
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Which is the same source for all the "single mothers are the scorn of the Earth and no one wants them" post here. It's a handicap for both men and women, but also doesn't stop most of them from being more successful in dating than most men here.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 09:48 PM
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Oh wow, what a source. Popular dating app Zoosk Just like men and single mothers, most single and childless women are not gonna be eager to hop on that baggage train unless a cart is filled with gold.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 09:27 PM
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Lots of CF people are happy being the best aunts and uncles, blood or other, they can be. They just don't want to have their own kids. People who have kids... have kids. And I said older kids, not adult children. Because men with teenagers think that somehow counts at "no kids."
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 09:11 PM
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The sweet independent 24 year old can become the strung out 28 year old needing to move back in basically overnight. Plenty of people crash out and parental love being what it is, will try to fix it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 08:57 PM
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Having a poor relationship with a parent does often nuke the desire to have kids. I knew by like 11/12 that I didn't want children and it was because I have an emotionally abusive mother. Edit: I'm not actually childfree lmao I'd be opening to adopting if I'm ever rich enough too. But that doesn't change the fact that being a single father is a negative in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 08:55 PM
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It makes perfect sense. People are parents for life. Having to deal with adult children without having the bonding experience of raising is not something most people like.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 08:39 PM
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It's very amusing that if you go to the Childfree sub and look up dating, the #1 complaint is from CF women who report that all the interest they get is from single dads. That men think that because they only have the kids part time, or because the kids are older, or because they don't want any more kids, they count as "no kids" Edit and yeah the funny part here is the men. not the women. as is the idea that only men have to deal with single parents not understanding their kid actually does limi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 08:11 PM
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Being on the spectrum is fine but comes with a lot of problems. Just like having ADHD (hint most people with ADHD couldn't manage "dating" multiple people at once, we don't keep schedule well) People with autistic and/or ADHD have a lot of issues in dating. Being bigger sluts than normal people is not actually one. It's also hilarious because the comment you're responding to is proposing to give further explanation if they are. So in a way it's very considerate That commenter is not genuinely as…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 07:59 PM
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If you're going to use these terms as insults you should at least have a grasp of the actual conditions. You just sound stupid calling it ADHD dating and asking if someones on the spectrum for point out its dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 07:48 PM
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you have to talk about something interesting, like how they did the laundry.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 10:19 AM
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Vintage ones. Poshmark it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 09:04 PM
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Lower your standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 08:54 PM
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People take jabs at each other on the internet. That's a pretty funny one.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 08:52 PM
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Nah, not even that. People can become hot from observing them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 07:31 PM
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Nothing contradictory whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 07:23 PM
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Its how they used to be sold. I don't get why brands stopped promoting them as the proper storage.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 12:20 PM
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a metal tin big enough to fit the condoms without bending them
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 09:28 AM
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Get a condom carrier.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 07:19 AM
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What you're citing says most women haven't even used a vibrator solo?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 09:11 PM
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Men get nothing out of you getting fucked with a dildo. He gets to watch? Gee thanks! Men will beg to do this.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 08:32 PM
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Isn't it about if she's your #looksmatch? gotta post your pic. But really, she's on the swim team/a coach, she's been selected to recruit on social media. That means young / college aged, athletic, with a social network and she's considered likable. She doesn't have to be the prettiest girl in the world to be out of your league. It depends on your lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 06:10 AM
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Well, that's quite an accomplishment isn't it? I'm not even very good at the whole being a woman thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 11:15 PM
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It's silly and playful as long as the responses remains silly and playful. A "no, of course not. worms are not lovable creatures" is not silly or playful. Like, I'm not trying to be mean here but that fact you're struggling with this idea so much is pretty indicative of you're brain and how it works. It's not bad but it's not how most peoples brains work. You can't change that, and labeling it emotionally insecure and childish isn't going to win you anyone's favor. What you're asking is for some…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 09:30 PM
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If you can't discern why someone asking you a silly impossible questions like "would you love me if I was a worm?" or "would you take care of me if I was a cockroach" wants a playful answer reaffirming a your love for them, instead of a cold logical "no of course not" that's your how mind works. It's very common in autistic people. It's fine, its not inferior or superior but it can be a genuine incompatibility between people. As is jumping to the accusatory language. Once you say "the way you th…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 08:41 PM
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Probably Neuro-divergence. Yes, its textbook. But it's why a lot of neurodivergent people find themselves not getting along with neurotypical partners. This is how neurotypical people communicate. It's an example of the communication mismatch causing hurt feelings and confusion. Can you think of any other situation where that would apply besides romantic relationships? Yes, very common in friendships as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 08:34 PM
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Dude, we're not dumb. This is like saying when a man asks about what you're wearing he cares about your sense of fashion
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 07:15 PM
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From 99 to 2003, DC/Beyonce outsold Jay's albums released the same year. They also sold more than he ever has. Jay was a certified legend in his genre and pop stars can burn bright and fast. But they were both major stars when they got together, they were a power couple.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 12:42 PM
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Like the person I'm replying too, I'm talking about looks there. But I'm not sure about Jay Z being bigger when they got together. DC and Beyonce were both huge, and the DC albums and Beyonce's solo records sold better than Jay Z's released in the same year. She was pop, he was an established hip hop great, a mogul. He had more respect and more cred, but idk man Beyonce is massive in my memory as a little rural white girl lol She was A list, she was everywhere. Beyonce has been omnipresent in po…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 12:26 PM
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I can understand how it can feel like a cosmic 'punishment' to connect with someone only to discover you're fundamentally incompatible. But if you want a child, it was gonna come up sooner or later. That's how its supposed to work, you can only push it off for so long. Older people are not very comfortable with people being childfree.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 10:25 AM
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See "does this dress make me look fat" "would you love me if I was a worm" Those are not tests to see if men will lie, they're tests to see if he can read between the lines and affirm her feelings in that moment. Emotional IQ. If you really don't get why "no, I wouldn't love you if you were a worm" isn't an acceptable answer, you have some stuff going on. Which just might be how you are, but is still gonna make her feel shitty if she's the kinda girl to ask that. You're not punished for telling …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 09:42 AM
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That doesn't sound like she "punished" you? You two were incompatible. It sounds like the women in your life are kinda crappy friends for encouraging you to stay in relationship with such a big difference of desires. That is how you end up a single father, formally or otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 09:38 AM
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What do you mean, famous women love dating down. Beyonce and Jay Z. Britney and K-Fed. Christina and her ex husband and current long term partner. Ariana Grande and multiple of her men, her current boyfriend is below average in looks. Amanda Seyfried and her husband. Scarlet Johansson and Colin Jost. Lupita Nyong'o who has the most stunning and perfect face was with a very basic looking bald chubby guy for years.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 08:57 AM
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I mean look at any promiscuous male celebrity, there are so many women around them all the time. Like Dan Blizerian, Drake etc. No idea who this Dan guy is, but every woman around Drake has a rotation or men and orbiters herself. Promiscuous people cluster together. There is no sweet virginal woman hanging around Drake and holding out for only Drake or any other celebrity. If you're willing to be a groupie, your standards are not high and your bridge lowers easily. Famous men very infamously sha…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 08:49 AM
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Women don't use the apps in large numbers. About 80% of accounts are male. Women don't swipe as much, which means they don't swipe out of the 'best' male accounts. The best accounts are a mix of hot guys and paid accounts. Because the apps want your money. Many men swipe yes on anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 08:30 AM
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You can keep track of a piece of paper? lucky.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 10:25 PM
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But I'm talking about men who like fat women, not settling for them. So why would her income matter more than other women? Men keep saying over and over they just don't care about our income or inner lives, they just want a someone they're attracted too.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 07:23 PM
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No, but it is in favor of men who like fat chicks. And isn't that what you guys want? Supply and demand to favor men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:49 PM
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Right. The idea that Chad's have to resort to having sex with unattractive women and that women lose control of ourselves for Chad will never compute. If a fit good looking guy has to take what he can get, then he's not actually a magical pussy slayer.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:46 PM
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That's their problem though. As a woman I really don't care if a delusional fat women ends up with no man, her life her choice. And there is niche for fat women with fitter or skinny men. So sometimes its just a matter of holding out for one.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:37 PM
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Then what's the issue with them sleeping with fat women? You can't get mad at women accepting freely given attraction. You guys need to pick between "poor men. forced! to fuck the fat chick" and "actually, fat women are attractive" because if even you guys here with all the hang ups can admit that, then it's pretty obvious why normie gym bro Noah would fuck and date a fat woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 09:40 AM
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You're attracted to fat women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 09:38 AM
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You can't tell what's reality anymore? I remember being like 11 and reading in the girly mags how men would fuck a fat chick but not date her. This has always been a thing. Anyways, it's hypocritical but fit men control access to their bodies. Tell them to stop having sex with fat women they're not attracted to and would never date.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 09:08 AM
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Lots of 5'9 men lie about being 6' foot.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 08:55 AM
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5'9 is average for the Angelosphere.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 08:45 AM
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Autism and anxiety disorders are easy to armchair because people will flat out spell out how they fit the diagnostic criteria. This space is unique for that people overshare with regards to their socialization problems. Once you know what to look for, its not that hard. Autism doesn't have many differential dx, and anxiety disorders are just easy to clock. Esp if you had/have one and gotten treatment. I can't say weather its 100% autism or an anxiety disorder or both, but most people here have o…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:54 AM
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This place is not about Neurotypical dating. OP is right that many many posters here have autism. Many posts are just check list for autism or other conditions like social anxiety or OCD. Neurotypical people don't have problems approaching each other and understanding signals. Neurotypical people do not dread the idea of making social contact. And being autistic does not mean OP can't add anything, autistic posters who've put in the work to decode typical social interaction are actually one of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 05:17 AM
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you have to go for people who don't signal superficiality
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 01:34 AM
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You're dipping into some Freudian shit here. No women don't have penis envy, we're not seeking a metaphysical balance of our lack of yang. We're not suffering because we lack biological male traits, we suffer when men cause us harm. Now culture at large, does view being a woman as overall devalued compared to being a man. It does assign weakness to womanhood. The Greeks thought we were just defective even deformed men. The pre-Enlightment Europeans thought men and women reflected each other, but…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 10:50 PM
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I constantly see those same people use virgin and some other things as a go to insult the moment a man does something they dislike or likes something they dislike. Do you really see the same people do that? Say it's okay to be a virgin and then use it as a synonym for loser? I'm gonna bet you really don't see that often. People who say bring a virgin is NBD are a minority pushing back against the dominate idea virgins are losers. Even when a man states a dating preference (sometimes) in a non-of…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 08:58 PM
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"I want him to be at least taller than me" = I want to feel this difference, and then have a great equal respectful dynamic from there. What are you implying with this sentence? That equality is when men and women are the exact same height? That it's odd women expect equality if they date a taller man? Men claim they just want women to be reasonable about height, and women who want "at least" taller are being more than reasonable. Most men are taller then women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 08:36 PM
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I've never had to report anything, thank god! Honestly, coworkers get together all the time and it's not a bad place to meet someone lol But yeah, direct flirting used to trigger my fight or flight so bad and people I had to be around long term was the worst. only got better as my anxiety lessened (which is to say, it's still there just way less severe)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 11:39 AM
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Remembering that at one of my old jobs, I lowkey avoided a coworker for almost the whole year I worked there because he winked a me on the first day lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 10:14 AM
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What men don't get is, there's no magical way to phrase the question. Most women aren't gonna be down with being propositioned for sex. If she wants a FWB, she'll find one.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 10:02 AM
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I tune her out because she's kinda cuckoo, but her tits look amazing there. justified clap back.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 09:50 AM
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I can link you to who I like.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 03:20 AM
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you also have to have pretty lips
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 02:39 AM
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saying he's Shaggy is crazy like Shaggy is a skinny slouching unkempt type, to go along with the bit he'd be the type of guy Lillard would shove into lockers and turn upside down for change ... you realize Lillard not only played Shaggy in the live action Scooby Do movies, but has voiced the character for the last twenty years? The man is literally Shaggy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 01:44 AM
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So you admit he's weird looking lmao He was cast to be Lena Dunham's lookmatch. He does have good proportions/frame but trust me that women who love him love that face of his.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 01:40 AM
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I don't see why Lillard, Cumberbatch and Crooks all can't sit at the Sid looking table. Lillard is a handsome guy, but he's not a pretty boy. He was cast as the archetypal punk kid for a reason. He's a character actor. Pretty white boys in the 90s were like Ryan Phillippe and Paul Walker.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 01:29 AM
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Well, you can't help if you get the Sid look. That's just your bones. And no it's likely not gonna make you a convertionl pretty boy, but plenty of women do like the unconventional thing in a man. That's the only reason Adam Driver has so many shooters. He's weird looking. Women like muscles, but when you approach the level of muscle that will get you kudos from men, you're approaching diminishing returns with women. Looking like Sid and being a big swole muscle daddy are both niches. Women do l…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 01:22 AM
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But he wasn't. He was never a pretty boy, never cast like that. He's tall but that's about it. He was Shaggy, not Fred. And I forgot the actual reason I know this, Benedict Cumberbatch is a Sid ass looking man. He even admits it himself. And he's a sex symbol for a good deal of women (not me) Quasimodo doesn't look like Sid, and he's human. Looking like animal characters is more vibes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 01:11 AM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 01:06 AM
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Well, I meant in the face. But it brings to mind guys like Matthew Lillard, esp when he was young. Guys with wider eyes and longer thin faces.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 01:03 AM
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Most of them don't know anything about feminism and just think its equals something women did/said. Most women are not feminist.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 12:33 AM
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Plenty of women like the Sid the sloth look.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 12:31 AM
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Women can be porn brained too, but that's not what you posted. And it'd be silly to act like men and women experience porn addiction at the same rates. Do men having bad relationship experiences with women actually make them not want to have sex with women? Relationship, sure. But sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 09:46 PM
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It's very funny because in the medieval period in europe, people thought women were sex crazed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 09:27 PM
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The Victorians. Women are less spontaneously horny than men though on average. Our hormone cycle is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 09:14 PM
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Okay? What I'm saying is, I don't think there's ever been any majority of men loudly demanding their unattraction to Sabrina Carpenter be validated. As an artist she appeals more to women, but she's a cute little plucky blonde in lingerie.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 09:06 PM
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I don't believe "men" don't find Sabrina Carpenter attractive lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 08:47 PM
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Bad relationships/experiences are what kills women's sex drive. Which is different from rotting your brain with porn and being frustrated the real thing doesn't work like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 07:34 PM
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its true
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 07:26 PM
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People don't have strong feelings on men's looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 07:23 PM
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Both statements can comfortably coexist.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 07:16 PM
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the second is such an odd picture. why does he look 4 foot tall
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 09:58 AM
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Like they are seeking some Brandy Melville style dating solution. Dying lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 09:00 AM
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Sadly a lot of MIL look at new DIL as their new slave in many trad cultures.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 08:38 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 08:34 AM
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Why do you have to link to a video? Your answer to that question is: engage sexually with men, centering their pleasure, even if women don't really want to do anything with them. Just say that. Why do you want women to watch your porn? Porn has no relevance to a dating issue in this context, because dating issue here implies trouble getting that first date/1st base.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 11:26 PM
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Because every health care system needs to ration care.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 09:10 PM
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Most women have uneven breast to some degree. Like most men will experience some hair loss. very uneven breasts would likely mean multiple cup sizes difference. it's not just having a c lefty and a d righty. often one displays a deformity.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 09:06 PM
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Yul Brynner very famously kept his head shaved after doing The King & I because he got such a hot response for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 02:25 PM
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Breast reconstruction after mastectomy restores a missing organ that’s directly tied to bodily integrity and social functioning. It does not restore an organ because breasts are not organs. The only reason its covered is TBF because society likes its women with tits. Save the tatas. Breast implants are also like, a nothing add on after cancer treatment costs. Esp if they can be placed during the mastectomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 02:09 PM
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The "gender affirming care" stuff for plastic surgery is stupid. It's always cosmetic plastic surgery, on a trans person on a cis person. The state should therefore fund hair transplants for all men who have advanced past the Norwood 2 stage. But this is exactly why - even if accept your argument - it shouldn't be covered by public dollars. Hair transplants are an art. When do it, what stage what age, what technique to use, where to place the hairs and how many. All that impacts cost. The fact m…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 01:46 PM
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No, the NHS will not cover breast implants for having 'tiny' boobs, it can cover it if you have no breasts, which is a totally different thing. From the NHS website breast enlargement (implants) – if you have very uneven breasts or no breasts, and it's causing significant psychological distress NHS also covers male breast reductions which are also about cosmetic/desiring a normal appearance. male breast reduction – if you've had a condition called gynaecomastia for a long time, other treatments …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 01:22 PM
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The brainrot is home grown bb.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 02:52 AM
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A man of legend has returned.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 09:49 AM
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Or that lesbians are way more likely to have bio children compared to gay men. Or men who have children, but know they were donor conceived so are answering honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 08:36 PM
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What.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 08:34 PM
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That's the 15-49 number. It's because of grown men knocking up teenager girls. Among older adults ending their childbearing years: Among women and men aged 40–49 in 2015–2019, 84.3% of women had given birth and 76.5% of men had fathered a child. That's about a 7% difference, almost basically dead on and likely under capturing the number of men who have fathered a child since that's not always something he's aware of.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 11:14 AM
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Not wanting to date a trans person is transphobia, but it’s not a serious transgression of rights, although it does come from a place of bigotry and discrimination. Being trans isn't an immutable characteristic, by definition. People who transition are undergoing treatment to alter their immutable characteristics to match how they want to look and be perceived by the world. It's not just a choice but a series of choices. And in terms of sexuality, that is immutable but having sex with someone of…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 10:43 AM
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But at the same time, men routinely receive unsolicited semi-nudes, sexualized photos, or “hey 😊 support my page?” messages from women they never engaged with. From women or "women" ? There isn't a singular person behind most of those messages, it's bots or men & women working for the creator or even basically enslaved to do so. If a man stopped a group at dinner and said, “Hold on ,no one eat until I get the perfect shot,” people would call it controlling or a red flag. When women do it, it’s n…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 07:55 AM
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The ones I follow are mainly the "corsets weren't torture devices put on bare skin, please stop that trope" types.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 04:23 AM
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Well, I said stereotypical for a reason. I haven't actually met a guy like that. I don't play games or do "nerd" stuff. But normal gamer/nerd types say they exist, and I've seen guy online who list video games as a their main hobby most often be the ones who also ask where they can meet the mythical creature known as "women" - so I guess they're out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 04:18 AM
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Nope, its not most hunters. If it was there wouldn't be such push-back against lead ammo being banned, bitching about tag limits etc. Not everyone is Ducks Unlimited.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 03:46 AM
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Accumulating large amounts of plastic shit Oh, this one too.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 03:43 AM
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How flexible historical reenactors is what it comes down. Most of the ones I follow know when to let people have fun, but wish the shows/movies with budgets cared a bit more.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 03:41 AM
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Nope hobbies would be Guns/weapons Boxing, MMA, fighting stuff Classic cars/car racing Trophy hunting/poaching Turn off hobbies Video games Big sports guy MCU Anime The turn off hobbies are turn off because of prior experience with men who define themselves by their interest in these things. Video game nerds if they aren't the stereotypical stuttering "a-a-a girl" losers or roided up gymbro who'd put a hole through the wall for "making him lose his game" are typically commies/far leftist? The re…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 03:32 AM
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But you don't look like that with zero effort. He uses his body. Works out, does manual labor etc. he watches what he eats. Is he in the gym for hours a week and taking creatine and drinking protein slop for every meal? no. and that's fine. natural levels of testosterone and normal healthy activity are enough for most men to be in good enough shape to please a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 07:29 PM
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He's obviously in shape lol 'Riods have destroyed the perception of what normal in shape men look like.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 06:21 PM
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There's big benefits in getting in shape. It's just the natural/normal gains are not going to be that impressive to other men Getting swole is going appeal to a smaller percent women. It's a type of niche maxing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 06:14 PM
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but 'doesn't look like he lifts' is the level of muscle most women like
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 05:12 PM
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you dont see all the post bemoaning "fatties" and all the non 'looks matched' couples where the poor suffering guy is so much hotter? the dude posting women from dating apps asking people to make fun of them for the crime of liking his chadfish profile? all nasty behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 11:21 PM
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this sub is an exercise in shitty. people are just upset when the groupthink is broken.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 11:13 PM
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Oh, I'm perfectly fine. I'm just being frank in that I know what social lines I'm crossing when I call someone mid/ugly. It's mean, I know it, you know it, we all know it. I'm just not pretending that ranking someones looks is anything other than mean. People do it all the time, eps here lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 11:11 PM
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Yep. See. I think she was way way way cuter before. And that's not even a good picture! I find it really sad what social media drives women to do to their faces.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 10:46 PM
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When I say she hits the points for being conventionally attractive, I mean she's white, blonde, tanned, blue eyes, big boobs etc. she's fitting the "ideal" which for a lot of people is going to be enough. But I don't value any of those things in of themselves. Only if they flatter the person and bring out their beauty even more (which IMO the bleach blonde and tanned look rarely do) I'm zillennial aged, so maybe? But I genuinely find this girl very unattractive. And I can see the beauty in peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 10:42 PM
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She's got influencer face. Which.... only seems to appeal to men of a certain demographic and insecure/ugly women. Exactly. All these guys are proving is they aren't actually the keen judges of attractiveness they think they are. Their beauty standards were shaped by porn stars.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 10:23 PM
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I'm not upset, I'm being mean because it's fun. And calling out plastic surgery is good because a lot of people are blind to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 10:20 PM
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She has cheek filler/implants, jaw fillers, nose job, brow lift etc. Her real face might have been quite cute but it's not coming back.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 10:14 PM
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Not a phenotype, just a lot of plastic surgery and bleach.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 10:12 PM
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Not married, look about 20 years younger than this chick. I'm good!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 10:10 PM
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This really got under your skin lmao No, I think she's mid because she's mid. Clockable plastic surgery and fillers, looking waaay older than her age, unbalanced features. She just has a very harsh and fake look to her. She's just not pretty, she reminds me of the sort of actress they'd cast as an ugly step sister in a Cinderella adaption. Like put her next to Lily James... the actress who played Cinderella. She was so pretty in that movie. (but she also kinda ruined her face with fillers, much …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 10:09 PM
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I'm the one who called her mid. Why do I think that? Because she just... is. She's had a lot of work done, and it looks very harsh on her face. Her features are not balanced well. She's just not very "pretty" She hits the points for conventionally attractive that a lot of women want to hit, this the followers. But like, Kylie Jenner does too and her face is fucked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 09:57 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-XhKsiI9kEs
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 12:28 PM
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It is imperative that the cylinder and larger object remain unharmed.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 11:13 AM
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Being too scared to talk to women is not autism. It's social anxiety. Plain and simple. People with autism very often have social anxiety but it can be treated, just like anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 10:43 AM
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You know that's exactly what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 10:29 AM
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Have you actually seen those movies? The female lead in Win a Date with Tad Hamilton is not shy? A Cinderella Story also isn't about a shy girl, its about a poor girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 10:23 AM
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No amount of widening gender roles is going to remove the necessity of actually being social in forming social bonds. There is no way around it. And in that, widening gender roles is also unlikely to fully capture the issues that stem from disorders of social functions. The educated middle class already has shifted gender expectations for men. It's expected men will take time off when they become fathers, it's expected for them to taken extended time off or switch their work schedule to be prese…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 07:31 PM
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Otherwise known as an actor.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 10:24 PM
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Most people in the west are no so impoverished they can't BBQ. You can go to the park.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 09:31 AM
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He looks way older than his age, given he's black. 13 years is a lot but not really in "realistically could be your parent" age so I think it's not a big deal as long as they met when she was in her 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 08:45 PM
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Its a reason to take things slow, even if you connect like this instantly.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 08:42 PM
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These feelings don't mean you know someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 05:04 PM
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be prepared for SENsational news
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 06:20 AM
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Very underrated, eps if you don't want to attract a basic bitch.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 06:15 AM
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I don't think there's any different in between Tatum, Cavill, and Beckham. The model isn't a 10/10 either.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 06:13 AM
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I think he's probably cool and chill. I think it's a rich guy when he's 1. much older. Or 2. has a very done up and flashy woman with him and he is not. Never have I ever considered how strangers are in bed just from their looks lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 05:38 AM
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For every single mom there is a single/deadbeat dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 04:38 AM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 03:39 PM
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I'll be so mad if you pass on a guy for being skinny. Skinny Kings deserve love too.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 10:17 AM
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I have a dreamlist of conservation projects I'd like to fund. Land conservation, human-animal conflict mitigation, habitat restoration.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 10:06 AM
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This many words being dedicated to a cast member of American High Shorts's content is so crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 09:38 AM
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A non-earner broke woman can marry a millionaire but a man cannot do the same. Please tell me how. I'll do it and give all the money to charity :)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 09:36 AM
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You just replied to one. Though I would rephrase that to be more accurate, as what I meant have not had casual sex in that specific period of singleness. (FTR I have never had casual sex, but I also don't drink or do drugs) And no, that experience is not an outlier. When surveyed the percent of women who report no sex within the last year bounces around from 10-30 percent and is higher among single women. A good portion of women do not have sex when single.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 09:29 AM
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When I come onto I internet, i know I'm entering a freakshow. I am consenting. IRL I am not.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 08:16 AM
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Better because I'm not an alcoholic.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 11:18 PM
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I'm not dating a guy who can't show me a 5 years history of libbing out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 10:31 PM
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This is true. And even if they're full Fox News bleach blonde big boobed babes, their personalities are not the sort of keep sweet feminine women these men want. Bimbo on the outside but still have the personalities of head strong tomboys/butch women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 10:29 PM
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Sure Jan. But yeah, that's exactly why I'm not down with this sort of shit. It's a no, they can go. Edit: Yes a guy who thinks "female sexuality is male sexuality!" would think a woman asserting her own desires over catering to men is somehow sex crazed lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 10:09 PM
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There's a market for casual sex, you do well in that market. But it doesn't give you any insight to the market of people not seeking causal sex. When women say they're fine single, you can't assume they're part of the casual market you participate in.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 10:00 PM
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What is this playground comeback? No, OP. I'm not, but I think men who have multiple kinks they've developed from porn addiction are. How are you a cuck accusing others of being obsessed with sex lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 09:57 PM
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Might be your area, but nonetheless. It's assuming to see you describe yourself as the guy Sweater Weather is about and act bemused you got any interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 09:53 PM
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You're not the only man on Earth. I'm not concerned with men who don't want what I have to offer. There's nothing enticing about a sexual relationship where both parties just put up with each others desires. And people who are sexually incompatible should break up.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 09:45 PM
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I expect compatibility, neither of us should find the other laborious to be with. And let's be real, there's basically nothing women want in terms of sex that you can't easily find a man who somehow desires it more than you. It's apples to oranges.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 09:35 PM
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I'd probably start planning a way to break up with him. I don't trust men to be "unfulfilled" in their sexual desires and I have no interest in doing things I get nothing out of.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 09:07 PM
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There are long-term single women who have never had any sort of casual sex, and are still fine with being single. That's the rebuttal. The assumption that all single women are getting some on the side is incorrect.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 09:05 PM
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I didn't my cultivate my profile one bit to be oriented towards getting hookups, but I still got plenty who were fine with it. Selection bias. Women are on the apps are already going to be more open to casual. I mean, it's called Tinder because it's the straight knock off of Grindr. I'm a tall skinny indie kid who's wearing bleached out jeans with fuzzy sweaters or cardigans who's posting plain selfies or pics with his friends. I'm not exactly a frat bro with a 6 pack posing shirtless at the bea…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 09:03 PM
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Another thing in my google history I cannot explain. But I mean, men fixate on dicks in porn. Straight men (or at least men who'd rather have sex with women) are the drivers of the massive dong thing in porn. Not women. But they want a woman involved, even prefer nothing but women. And I guess this is like lesbian porn but also getting the fix for seeing dick. idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 08:42 AM
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I want a restraining order lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 11:31 AM
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No app is gonna make their ranking system public, but its widely considered to have an element of truth by people with more insight than I. If these apps have to use the swipe data to try and put the good profiles in front of people, why wouldn't they use the match rate?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 04:40 AM
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I think the idea is, pretty people are shallow. It's not that looks matter more in love, but that, your average conventionally pretty/hot person might value the social capital of dating each other more than finding 'love' And within that, its not contradictory. Esp if you think that most aspects of being attractive, being thin/in shape, hairless, blonde/hair plugged, botox etc. are not natural but active steps one must take.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 11:46 PM
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Yes, your ranking goes down. You get shown less, put at the back of the line.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 07:37 AM
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its just gag worthy
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 03:28 PM
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People are more than a sum of data points.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 03:17 PM
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i like palestinian people, in fact a lot of them are hot. Your speech at the UN
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 12:02 PM
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The word on the street is, it tanks your own ranking first of all. Because the more people you like who don't like you back - the worse the app views you. And two, women view it as spam. Spam pushes uses away from platforms. Dating apps are partly as sucky as they are for men because the number of active men so severely out numbers of the number of active women. It'd be in men's favor to not act like spam and keep the women on.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 09:22 AM
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If you have black & white thinking, it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 07:07 PM
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A Civil War reenactor is passionate about history, and even something as stereotypically "lonely nerd" as miniature wargaming is a skill-based hobby (painting and assembling the minis, playing the game) rather than a consumption-based hobby (i.e. watching TV) First off, both are consumption based hobbies lol a non-consumption based hobby would be like, running. But anyways. There's women in Civil War reenactments, because there is plenty of women active in historical reconstruction in general. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 06:55 PM
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Introvert and extrovert are not like... medical conditions. They're descriptors of clusters of traits, it's a model. No one really "is" either. Jung himself never intended that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 09:01 AM
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there was a whole era of heroin chic and giant bags
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 06:03 AM
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I read the thread, it was not "go do a line and you'll get laid" It was an observation that fun guys who do cool kid stuff do fine on the dating/sexual market. Occasional drugs were just one noted thing they do. And it's true. Drugs are illegal and risky and many many people have done them. Including the majority of cool status having people. Most people are not in gangs or doing sex work.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 09:42 PM
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Doing drugs isn't like joining a gang or doing sex work. Again is it advice? Or is it an explanation as for why you're not gonna get the same outcomes as people who partake?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 09:20 PM
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Isn't this sub supposed to be about the naked truth of the world. Partying involves more than drinking. People smoke weed, do drugs, pop pills, in that environment. It's just a matter of fact, its not really advice. There is never gonna be a surplus of sober women looking to have casual sex with sober men they just met. Risk adverse with drugs? Generally risk adverse with sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 08:58 PM
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But that is what fuels casual sex with strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 08:37 PM
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Anyone can sell themselves to multiple buyers. It can be transparent or fraudulent. Both men and women are switch what they're seeking in the market whenever they want. It's a major risk of long term commitment. Yesterday, he was child free. Today he longs to sire a child. There is a mismatch in supply and demand, if men are the sellers well, the market has crashed lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 02:37 PM
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Nah, his face shape is rounder, shorter. His nose, his lips, less pronounced brow bone. Even when he was thinner he had round cheeks, his father does too. This does seem like a good example of how men and women (&gay men) see faces differently tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 08:07 AM
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Other than having a bread, I don't think they look alike at all tbh This guy is lowkey caveman maxxing, square long face, heavy brow, pointy nose. https://hips.hearstapps.com/hmg-prod/images/giselejoaquim-index-65d63ff4b338d.jpg?crop=0.8888888888888888xw:1xh;0,0 Mamdani is very round, his face and features, all round.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 07:57 AM
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There might be a sexual market place, but in it people are not comparable to consumable goods. Because you can't sell the same pizza to two different people. If dating is a market, it's not a perfect one. Buyers and sellers have market power. Econ 101.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 07:47 AM
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He's not a pretty boy or very handsome. He's actually average.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 07:36 AM
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Male movie stars used to get married for their careers. It signals good morals.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 05:47 AM
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She left Tom for this guy too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 05:31 AM
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what BMI of men can women sleep with and still be virgins. answer quickly, this could be big.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 05:27 AM
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how lol he's not even skinny
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 05:25 AM
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I've recent wondered how many non autistic trans people there really are. Not all autistic people are trans, but it really seems like the super majority of trans people are autistic. (it also seems common in people with BPD, for what should be obvious reasons)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 05:22 AM
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You can just ignore people you dislike.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 03:07 AM
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Men are weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 01:35 AM
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Autism.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 05:12 PM
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This is why we need sex education. People are extremely bad at taking medication, any medication! Failure rate for typical use for the pill is 5-10% Much better odds than nature gives you, but that's extremely high. There's no way to parse that out from lying. If someone is on the mini and misses their window, they can ovulate and boom, baby. Tricking someone into becoming a parent is evil to them, but esp the kid. But most people are just stupid and ignorant.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 07:18 AM
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Like can she only certain color? Eat her peas with a fork?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 12:52 PM
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Well, whats the conditions.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 12:38 PM
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Half of the problem with a social disability is that because of your social disability you can't actually accurately assess a situation. It is like thinking you are always going the speed limit because you have a broken speedometer that can't go over 60. lol I don't follow Christianity On The Spectrum, but whenever they pop up on my twitter feed, they're dropping mean bars.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 12:24 PM
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Y tu mamá también?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 12:08 PM
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Reddit is always like that. Whatever gets posted early normally takes the top. It happens in every sub, every topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 11:21 AM
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The slimness one needs for abs is more attractive than how defined the abs are. Women liking abs is our version of don't be fat. Looking like a pack of hotdogs isn't gonna net you more points with most women than just having a slim waist.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 06:22 AM
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Also, sometimes, when a guy labels the other guy as a bad boy, it's cognitive dissonance: The guy who has what you want must be bad and I must be good. That kind of thing. I'd also add, sometimes men who are assholes to certain types of men, aren't that way to other people. In-group vs out-group behaviors. Harry Potter is a good example of this. James bullied Snape terribly. He was truly cruel to him. But James was very kind to Lily later on. Snape became a wizard Nazi, and James became a resist…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 11:39 PM
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But the "games" here are still romance, just different paths for it. Men are playing the "date strangers" game. Women are more likely to play the "date acquaintances/friends" game. I've only ever dated classmates, co-members, or co-workers (in non-formal work environments). while they actively continue to be affected by the consequences of their choices and continue to blaming all men for it Where am I blaming all men? Or even say I'm being affected by it? The vast majority of young men who hit …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 08:39 PM
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This is an early playground lesson we all have to learn, not everyone is gonna wanna play your game. Men want to play dodgeball, women want to play foursquare. Just because men put in a lot of effort getting all the balls together and clearing a space to play, it doesn't mean women have to stop playing foursquare. It doesn't mean men did more of the work for everyone. They did more work for their game. Here's the thing, men here always say that. But I've never stopped getting hit on/cold approac…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 04:04 PM
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Idk dude. Some of us do.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 02:11 PM
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You know, I strongly hold the view that incel men who can’t get a woman should check out of society, just collect benefits and stay at home and play games. No need to work and spend rent and pay taxes. Dry dick isn't a disability.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 02:03 PM
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The credit card debit of it all is terrifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 02:00 PM
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I'm only jealous of the lack of UTIs.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 01:58 PM
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It's not worth it too appeal to boob men. Never become a fetish object. Non-zero chance you'll have to have them removed so, only do it for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 09:47 AM
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Nah, they don't. Lots of boob jobs look great if you size them properly and place them well.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 09:45 AM
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I do love the flavor of it tho when they "men do all the HARD blue collar labor" all while the dirtiest job they've done is washing their own dishes when mommy threaten to turn off the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 09:41 AM
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Your advice is not wrong per se but it is still heavily rooted in basically "women can do no wrong and have to spend no effort, men you have to do everything, spend all the time and effort and investment, while women will put in no effort, as well as reserve the right to turn you down and possibly mock you while they're at it". It's rooted in the fact that it's men asking how to ask out women. How to ask out women who are strangers to them. As is well established at this point, women just don't …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 09:30 AM
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Higher density but, free time is similar in shot supply due to the work and school culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 03:52 PM
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This is centrist slop. Giving a major pass to conservatives based on very little, and being really off on whats even going on the liberal side.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 08:10 AM
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This is why we call it the ick.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 08:06 AM
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Do you have any concept of supply and demand, and what happens when a market is flooded with supply? The idea the mass of women would make money doing OnlyFans is stupid. This is basic econ 101. As is, most people on OnlyFans do not make money. It's like a MLM/pyramid scheme, the top 5% are the only ones making a livable income. So the reason I don't do a scam that involves showing my body? Because I'm not stupid or desperate. I have nothing against sex workers but this minimum buy-in stuff is o…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 08:51 PM
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Don't give blackpill the credit for filters and fillers.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 02:54 PM
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Filters.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 05:29 AM
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As a woman not on the apps, the thought of being on them genuinely scares me. I have friends, women and men, who have been stalked by people from the apps. I have friends who went on dates with persons from the apps, and ended up in scary situations where they felt forced to play along for safety. I could handle the gross comments and pics. I'm tough like that, but the idea that people in my area could see my pic and then see me at my job seriously freaks me out. The women on the apps are not as…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 05:15 AM
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She was shooting her shot. This is a classic scenario many movies and tv shows have depicted. She likely already had decided she was going to talk to those men, and you trying to start a conversation with her was gonna impede those plans. In 10 seconds she didn't "assess your value" she likely wasn't thinking much of you at all. That can feel bad to be on the other end of, but its really not about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 03:52 AM
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not once i've seen them say, "yea he's attractive and women better looking than me might be interested in him i'll leave him for those" Why would anyone say that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 03:45 AM
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No one thinks they're "saving themselves" buddy lol it's just a fucking hassle and anxiety inducing re: pregnancy and STDs. She's responsible and risk adverse. The men are idiots.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 06:30 AM
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No, but I was one for longer than most are. I also have known other women, and if they weren't waiting for (perfectly valid mind you) religious reasons, it was due to mental/emotional stuff. Judge all you want, but plenty of older virgins are sex positive ¯\(ツ)/¯
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 06:19 AM
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There are a small percent of women like that. The chance they'd be turned on by your judgement of others starting their adulthood at a normal time, while not being a religious conservative, would be low. Because people who stay virgins that long (and aren't asexual) either are religious conservatives/raised as religious conservatives or have mental stuff going on. Very few are just perfectly happy people who just haven't found the perfect person. The ones who have mental stuff going on - for wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 05:56 AM
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Contrary to what the misandrists on this sub want to believe Women are mainly the ones who add that plenty of women are willing to go 50/50 in the west. men too but there is no belief here among women that women won't pay for dates. some won't some will, you can have it as a standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 03:08 AM
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He was convicted of rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 10:21 AM
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The value equivalent of paying for a typical 1st date is gonna be 1 or 2 hours of cleaning, at most. We paid our house cleaner 100 for two hours.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 10:12 AM
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Point out where I was speaking of myself. But you know for a fact a woman's presence is worth paying for and men do it all the time. Don't play dumb. Again, women often are not super into the idea of a date, and you're not going to change their minds with insults.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 01:57 AM
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If a woman is with you on a date, she has already "done" something. She's with you, on a date. You got what you wanted. She obliged your request for her time. Men pay because normally they're the ones asking a woman out. Not uncommonly, the woman took some persuasion to say yes. Paying is part of making a yes more attractive, as she won't be out money if she agrees. With that said, be smart about who you ask out and you can get 50/50. A woman done up to the 9s prob wants you to pay, she knows wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 06:48 PM
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save the world
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 04:59 PM
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it increases his chances, but there's no guarantees in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 06:33 AM
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That just means you're sample isn't a representative one, because it's not like all short men are fit. And if you know these guys you can ask them what body type they like. I'm just stating the reality, if most of your dating pool is fat, that's not gonna change. Because it's so tied to location.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 06:26 AM
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California is shorter than other states because of our higher diversity. The higher income areas have plenty of shorter men. If you don't like the dating pool where you live, really the only option is to leave it. Be it for weight, religion, income etc. Women can lose weight and so can men, but neither are doing so. Both sexes are just getting fatter.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 06:06 AM
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Correct, which is what I'm saying. If you live in an area that are above average obesity rates, you'll see more of that in the dating pool. Shorter people are more prone to obesity too.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 05:53 AM
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Other guys here say all they see are men dating 'down' by dating fat chicks. I think a lot you just live in fat areas. I very rarely see a couple that is fat/skinny, no matter height. But my state and area isn't highly obese.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 05:24 AM
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If all the tall guys and all the short guys y'all know are dating fat chicks, you just live in a fat area bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 05:15 AM
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I mean in these online spaces, where it is commonly discussed. I've asked posters here what they expect out of the apps given the extreme gender imbalance, and how the math just doesn't work out. I normally don't get a response after that. Soon they'll pop up again complaining about women on the apps. Obviously, the apps themselves are not going to let the secret slip to normal users. But people here do know the apps hiding this reality and want to bait you into spending money.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 09:59 PM
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So you're a radfem?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 09:20 PM
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It's not rape. It's an abuse of power for sure, but not rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 07:44 PM
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This is why I'm left cold when the men's problem on dating apps are brought up. I feel bad for men who are unaware of this reality and think the problem is unique to them - but many men are aware of this and still chose to put all their eggs in the OLD basket. Even if every single woman on the apps got into a relationship with a man from the apps - the ideal outcome - there would still be hoards of level over men. Because women just don't use the apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 06:22 PM
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Well, yes and no. I think for shy people, the feeling that people dislike you is real when the reach outs for connections stop. But I'm presenting the other side of that. That despite my reach outs he still isn't super comfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 09:37 AM
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Making someone shy is actually a huge high.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 09:30 AM
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Well, my point wasn't that it was a turn on or turn off, but that it legit makes it quite difficult to get to know someone. To get a proper read on them. Shy people see people pull away and feel unliked, but being on the receiving end of shyness can also feel like someone doesn't really like you. With this guy, even though he's displaying what I call friendly shyness, I've still had to mull it over. To see if I'm just bugging him by trying to interact with him. It makes me second guess my own so…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 09:17 AM
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Here's its often claimed that women "hate" shy men, but like, I personally don't. But shyness does makes it very difficult to get to know people. Current example, I have a what I assume is a shy coworker. I don't see him often due to our hours and that our tasks differ so we don't work together much. While I've forced him to talk to me a few times and I gauge him as friendly, I can see he doesn't see me as someone he can just talk to. Which means I know nothing about him. And we've worked togeth…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 12:18 AM
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you really think someone would do that? go on the internet and tell lies?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 07:25 PM
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Attraction is needed for good sex most of the time, yeah but its only like 10% of the act itself. It might get better but there's also a reason the last girl he got to agree didn't stick around lol She might feel bad about that and want to try being slutty lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 12:39 PM
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It's really a wild demand in planned encounters for hetero stuff. (not that its wise for gay stuff but PrEP gives a false sense of security) The reason a lot of hook ups lack it is substance use. He's her second? No offense but in that case I doubt it was even good lol she's just telling herself that most likely. It sounds like she doesn't want a high n count and is gonna just stick with this guy now that she gave it up. Lots of smart people end up at the clinic.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 12:11 PM
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You're kinda burring the lead that this guy is having trouble finding a woman to go along with his rawdog thing. That means most women are actually staying away from him. Your ex sounds like she lacks enough experience to safely and wisely do casual sex/dating. And she wasn't rewarded with anything special for it, she's getting not great sex with extra clean up.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 11:57 AM
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It is a engagement farm account doing that just that
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 10:33 AM
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Account is legit ripping off a romance novel lol Book: meant for now by Allison Speka
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 10:33 AM
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Ambition isn't tied to just work. Ambition can be in hobbies or something. Right. I don't think they realize what they're implying when they say this. You have no ambition? You're content in a passive nothing existence? I know people like that and they're not fun to be around and lead weights to whomever they rope into supporting them. Ambitious does not mean ruthless moneymaker, but it means you have a purpose for life.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 07:36 PM
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So we can murder any drunk passed out man we see and get away with it? His fault for being drunk after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 07:25 PM
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Go find a sugar mama then.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 07:23 PM
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Progressive people are normally ambitious though. CF people don't want the burden of children weighing them down, why would they want an adult child?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 07:21 PM
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If men marry down most times why not the opposite Because men want women more than women want men. Ambitious women are not to blame for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 06:48 PM
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But that's not the topic. The topic is why childfree women should like non-ambitious men
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 06:45 PM
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Some men will unironically offer poverty as bait and wonder why they have no fish biting.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 06:14 PM
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Do you think women who don't want children have no goals or ambitions in life? And I'm assuming you defined yourself as non-ambitious, what does that look like?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 06:12 PM
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"I can break down my attraction by percentile, everyone who can't is lying and being deceitful. I am the normal one"
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 05:59 PM
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This gives strong autism vibes NGL
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 03:02 AM
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I would agree that kids today have better access to skin care to help with acne but here was always fit guys in high school and college. Just percentage wise, about a third of kids are overweight or obese and being overweight as a kid makes it really hard to drop the weight in adulthood.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 08:55 PM
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Bc this is the best looking group of men we've had ever What group? Not in the west. Most men are overweight or obese, same for women. People were fitter and groomed better in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 07:21 PM
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She must be tall herself to pull off that move. As an average height woman I'm the same height sitting and standing in a really tall one lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 09:21 AM
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But how did she do this sitting lol you do this with shorter folk. Are you sure she didn't just wave him away
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 08:46 AM
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What is a 'too short' gesture lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 08:42 AM
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Thin is in in NYC, esp in the upper income areas.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 10:18 PM
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But that is what guys who run around demanding nothing less than "raw attraction" mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 09:05 PM
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Wise.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 08:54 PM
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Jacked is not the vibe for NYC.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 08:48 PM
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Seeing an attractive man =/= actually wanting to fuck him from looks alone
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 08:42 PM
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snatching defeat from the jaws of victory
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 08:27 PM
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But guys here go on and on about being "hook up material" not FWB/situationship material. The fixation is on being picked, not preforming well.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 08:25 PM
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But I don't want to have to do that, I don't think you understand that. I would prefer my dating life not include having to ghost someone because I feel so freaked out at the thought of an honest conversation. Ghosting also doesn't always work, stalking is a thing. I've had friends who have been stalked from just messaging on apps. (and the wording there is because the stalkers haven't been limited to just men). I just do not want to deal with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 06:57 PM
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It just doesn't match with the reported data re: organisms in hook ups lol It might be exciting/thrilling experience... But great sex physically? Hook ups are not that for most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 07:09 AM
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Mind you, the scenario here is I barely know the guy but I have enough infatuation with him to want to get to know him. If instead of trying to get to know him and feel things out, I go straight to asking him out - I think that often signals way way more than I'd want it to. At that point, I'd still be in the "lets talk a lot before you touch me" phase. And this isn't just about sex. People think dates that don't end in at least a kiss are failures. In my mind if I ask a guy out and then refuse …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 07:04 AM
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I've never approached a man for a date but I have tried to get know men I thought were cute and been stonewalled. I would consider that rejection of sort, they rejected my platonic interest, surely they'd reject my romantic one too? But overall I am a risk adverse person and fear is a big reason why I don't directly state intent. In this case it's really not rejection I fear. No, what I fear is that by declaring romantic interest I'm signaling I consent to things I absolutely do not. I fear esta…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 04:43 PM
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That is the weirdo bit. Most people would agree that she was not a virgin, but she's at once very liberal and using the sort of excuses conservative people use to skirt around their amorality (hand stuff doesn't count, oral sex doesn't count, poop hole loophole) She didn't have PIV until her husband. To her she was a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 07:16 AM
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Actually basing this off of previous instances of this happening. But genuinely how do you know this if only have sex with them and you don't date them? lol do you keep up with every fat woman you sleep with and their love lives? (wanting to keep seeing you doesn't count) but again, you're not that rare a bird. its a trope even. its funny to think you're changing the outcomes when the outcome here is actually determined by men. and unlike guy who sleep with bigger women out of lack of options yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 07:12 AM
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They'll think they can marry a guy like me just because I let them have sex with me. I've known plenty of child free/sex pos/non-monogamous fat chicks. There's plenty that will fuck NSA. So unless you lie to get in bed with women, you're writing a little fantasy in your head that you'll ruin them
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 06:26 AM
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thinking you're going to give them unrealistic expectations is ego. its even funnier given you're actually attracted to them, so whats even unrealistic about it? you really think you're the first fit chubby chaser? lol and come on, do you also stop your self from going after short women? they're the worse with the height stuff. are you sure you just don't want to catch feelings for one of these women you're attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 05:38 AM
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So you're going to leave chips on the table because of your ego? lol That's very male behavior I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 05:14 AM
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Much of this seems to come down to straight men not understanding her for the gays/girls shock jock thing. Seeing straight men trying to decode what poppin pussy means is actually funny. She is a bit of a weirdo but so are most famous/semi-famous people.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 05:07 AM
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You can find this Alex guy's photo. He wasn't even attractive. Past tense, because he killed himself. You cut that part off.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 07:39 PM
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I've never worked with food or drink in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 09:54 PM
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Guess
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 05:34 PM
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lmao I honestly don't get it. Do they really think they're that tempting...? Surely if we heard we'd have jump over the counter already!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 05:34 PM
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Luckily not, and even if they are a little creepy they normally give up if I ignore or say "what?"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 05:31 PM
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I can't imagine anything else is my fate.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 04:43 PM
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I get hit on a decent amount at work, but most of it doesn't bother me. It's mostly younger guys who I can lightly brow beat into behaving. But last night there was some drunk guy who ah, kept using everything I said to actually just say some variant of sex? Like not even hitting on me just "oh that non-english word is sexy, it means sex right, I like the sound of that" very off putting, very creep stuff. I was hoping his sober friend would jump in and tell him to stop it but he left me with him…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 04:39 PM
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Same, I only have to pull out the ID to buy sudafed.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 09:46 AM
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I think dating apps are probably the worse use-case to the determine chronic "online" ness of anyone. As they're really not super time sucks unless you pay and fixate to an unhealthy level (you run of likes pretty quit no?) Internet/ screen use as well as hobbies is pretty gendered. That's why both sexes can have screentime that's more or less the same and exist in pretty separate worlds. Everyone under a certain age has spent way more time isolated from direct contact with others, and that's an…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 08:23 AM
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My guess is, latin dancing isn't super popular with the under 30 set. There hasn't been a movie/music genre trend in a while to push people towards it. Even fitness stuff like Zumba is really for older women at this point. Young women are really into things like... adult ballet classes. Pole dancing. Heels classes. Hip hop.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 08:17 AM
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My age lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 08:13 AM
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Trying to get laid isn't a crime and not really why women don't like apps. Women are on the apps trying to get laid too (much smaller mind you). Plenty of happy relationships come from hooks ups. The issue is men who lie about it or have no tact when doing so, which is not all.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 08:13 AM
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they really don't need to stay on the app for long to get their fix. This doesn't account for the reported stats we have on the apps. Female users are dwarfed by male ones, and the way apps like that generally calculate users is monthly. So if in one month 80% of all users who check the app even once are male, and only 20% are female... how are you drawing that 'women' are addicted? (remember, a good portion of female accounts are scammers/bots or... not looking for men) Some women probably do g…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 07:54 AM
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Women aren't men. A nice body isn't going to make up for not being attracted to someone's face. Like... I really just don't care about a man's body that much (legit just don't be fat). He can get in better shape if he wants to, its not a big deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 05:33 AM
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Not eating meat will avoid this.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 10:00 PM
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I wish I could find this youtube video fo a guy who went full PUA/red pill and started having lots of casual sex and said eventually when his partners would increase intimacy he would run away and hooking up started making him throw up from stress lol There's a reason drug often get involved in hypersexual behaviors. It's actually really difficult for most people to deal with.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 09:56 PM
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You guys are thoroughly broken what the concept of average means in debate but the idea here is that, the average man any guy picked at random, can't handle casual sex culture and still maintain his ability to "pair bond" with an eventually life partner. An above average man in this context would be someone who can have lots of casual sex but has a basic emotional connection with each of them and can still fall deeply in love and commit.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 09:52 PM
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you like the way the wicked ladies look?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 10:17 AM
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You'd have no choice! Semelparity baby, for males and females.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 01:42 AM
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Lmao bro why are you gonna sleep with her?? This is what we mean by men need standards. If her situation revolts you, reject her!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 01:38 AM
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Weird statement given dating apps are only maybe 20% women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 11:57 PM
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Because when you dance to music with a beat, you pop your pussy He's not famous. Not even D list. Girls in developed countries do not lie about that. But from looking it up she's virgin as exclusively PIV sex. Which is silly but who cares.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 03:14 PM
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No clue who that is bro. Popping pussy means dancing. People have ONS, people have ONS at parties. Normally due to substance use. Normal people don't care about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 03:02 PM
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I cannot give you the gift of my keen observation skills. I'm right and I know I am, all you have to do is pay attention and not fall for rage bait. But for this case, all you have to do is google this user to see that this poster likes to makeup stuff https://np.reddit.com/r/AskMenAdvice/comments/1p0uldh/i_told_my_cheating_ex_wife_to_have_some_shame/ https://np.reddit.com/r/AskMenAdvice/comments/1o43cgs/my_daughter_keeps_being_rude_to_the_women_i_date/ https://www.ranker.com/list/double-cheater…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 02:57 PM
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Well, it doesn't. Not for most women. Meeting a guy I find attractive and am drawn too - makes me shy and a bit giddy. I just get aware of myself and my behavior and don't want to look foolish in front of him. There is no instant desire to jump his bones. Meeting any ol' objectively attractive guy, a Chad so to speak, doesn't do anything for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 02:25 PM
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Most reddit AITA/advice/ask posts are fake.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 02:15 PM
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No. People go out (or go on the internet) with the intent to hook up. Men and women. They look for something that passes the minimum threshold. And often people will use substances to lower that even.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 01:53 PM
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Over a fake story written by a man? These stories are always so silly. This guy waited for a year, knew his gf wasn't a virgin, told his sister they waited a year and she wasn't a virgin, suddenly discovered she had a ONS, told his sister and she's saying he needs to end it? There's a lot of social norms being broken here. Two non-virgins waiting abnormally long for sex without reason rooted in religion/trauma/or marriage being the end goal. A man telling her sister very intimate details about h…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 01:47 PM
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Another thing I wanna bring up is the stories of very sexually inhibited women (perhaps traumatized) finding an awesome male partner Right. The partnership and mutual interest comes first. People are willing to help people they care about and have an interest in. By definition inhabited women do not lead with their sexual desire. They are getting lucky that this time, the guy actually cares about them. Plenty of women have had multiple partners who didn't care at all about if they were enjoying …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 09:55 PM
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Sydney Sweeney has a rapidly dying career. Didn't make it half as long as Ashley. Bro, most famous women date down! Unless you think Scooter Braun is Sydney Sweeney's lookmatch? I can perfectly accept that weight drags down someones appeal and I think its fine. I'm not fat, I'm thin and petite. And tbf I don't want to date a fat guy. This is not about forcing men to like fat women but the idea that an literal supermodel is mogged by men as a rule, because they're low body fat and she's not. A pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 09:38 AM
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For our lack of back problems and boob sweat, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 09:05 AM
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I do enjoy the idea of your basic Brain flexing in front of the mirror muttering "I mog Ashley Graham, I mog Ashley Graham" over and over to himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 09:03 AM
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But you guys think your opinions about males looks should impact how we view men. You tell us all the time that we have to accept these "objective" standards re: looks even though we tell you that's now how it works for us. Ashley's a total bombshell. That's not even a rare take. She has validation that your 6/10 but fit examples don't have.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 09:02 AM
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Yes, most likely. But women are gonna be the least of his issues. But ex-con bad boys are not the reason why he can't make headway with his peers. They are not catching the fish in his pond.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 08:54 AM
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Everyone from 6 up looks basically the same. Some of them look like they could be the same person. And none of those 9s are 9s. Stunning is like Aishwarya Rai, peak Britney, Beyonce etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 08:01 AM
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This is why men are so confused by looks stuff, Ashley is stunning. Most girls agree!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 07:55 AM
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Because the context is dating apps and the complaint isn't just bitchy women but obese and unkempt bitchy women. You don't interact with people on them unless you match. So why are you matching with obese unkempt women! I don't have sympathies for people who like and then get offended by who matches with them. I'd give the same to women matching with short men and then acting offended by it. You made that happen. Like come on, this "I was coming down to the gutter to swim with you, but how dare …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 07:52 AM
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Ashley Graham is over 200lbs. If you think average Joe is better looking just because he's 17% bodyfat you're very disconnected from reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 12:42 AM
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Plucking my brows thinner, de-centering my hair part slightly. I have an IPL device and it works, but I'm horrible with using it. So I got 25% of my leg hair to stop growing and then just stopped.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 12:30 AM
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Assigning these words to how you "feel" about a person instead of plainly what they look like is stupid at best and willfully complicating communication at worst. It's just how many women work. That's not gonna please black and white thinkers, but it's how it is. I don't think Timothée Chalamet is attractive at all. I like him as an actor, feel nothing for his face. I don't think he's hot. Many other women feel very different. It what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 12:11 AM
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Loud cocky drug dealing ex-con with history of cheating and abuse Helpful, polite, timid virginal engineer These people are not of the same class and thus don't have the same social network.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 12:08 AM
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Half of my family is upper middle class, a few relatives were actually wealthy in the sense they lived off of income generated from their portfolio. This obsession with "providing" does not exist for them. It is a very loud signal of being lower/lower middle class.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 10:32 PM
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You know what community property is RIGHT?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 10:22 PM
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Mildew smells. You're used to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 10:19 PM
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No, it is true. They do not have this "the man works and provides and the woman stays at home at does chores" idea. That is a vestige of the middle and lower class. The wealthy can work and work hard, but the work they do is rarely where their living comes from. They do not work to provide, life has already provided for them. Women who come from wealth are not fretting over finding a man who can support them why they "stay at home" to vacuum and wipe baby butts. They have cleaner and a nanny, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 10:18 PM
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Right. I would actually be find with supporting a Mr. Mom type man. If I had the income for it. I have ADHD, I suck at housework. But advertising that would just get me a bum.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 09:50 PM
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What does your comment have to do with mine. And who cares. Not the topic. And working for an effective charity is a great thing. Oh no don't help feed people, you could be selling them alcohol!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 09:48 PM
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Yes, they are. They're typically uneducated and not very smart.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 08:19 PM
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Well, for one thing, men who say those things a weirdos. It's a red flag to be looking for a totally dependent adult as a partner. But again, this 'provider' role basically doesn't exist outside of religious conservatives/lower class/immigrant at this point. Most households are dual income. Most single income households are forced into that by the cost of childcare. Middle class people do not look for providers, they look for jobs with parental leave/WFH. Upper income households spend money on h…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 08:19 PM
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If all the women in your area are obese, don't take care of themselves, have a bad attitude, that's just where you live. (Texas?)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 07:00 PM
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The point is, you guys are acting like you're being forced to engage with these chicks. You can unmatch, politely dip out. They're doing your a favor, take the hint.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 06:48 PM
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So, dating app IRL stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 06:21 PM
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But in that case, you're hitting on them in person no?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 06:13 PM
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So Hinge the only place you see this? You never match with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 05:32 PM
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It sounds like dating apps are bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 05:31 PM
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I feel like that's implied.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 05:21 PM
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How do you know they like you unless you match?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 05:18 PM
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Female gaze is a fake social mediaism. Lesbians have their own little sub culture re: looks, but yes when both parties let go of beauty norms you'll probably get less effort in the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 04:49 AM
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It's less trying to attract men, then straight women don't often have a trigger to question (heteronormative) beauty standards. Thus women will adhere to them even if they're not looking for a man. But men here will kick and scream before admitting that women invest into our appearance in a way that benefits men. so idk what you mean by proof.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 02:11 AM
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It's not even rejection. That we're not throwing ourselves in their laps for nothing is the issue. Men here don't even try.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 08:16 PM
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I mean no, this isn't stopping me from getting hit on. You can't see it from two feet away.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 11:46 PM
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I took one antibiotic dose and I have fungal acne all over my neck, chest, back, around my lips.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 10:21 PM
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Tattoos aren't a feminine gendered practice or gender norm in western culture. They were formerly more masculine coded and linked with counter culture/outsiders. There's no reason today to skip tattoos if you admire them. I've never met a woman who loved tattoos on men who wasn't inked. The ones that exist are likely repressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 05:15 PM
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Women like tattoos more than men, women have more ink than men. This is like asking why men like women who play video games, shared interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 03:20 PM
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My husband focused on the extra full page on “social emotional growth” commentary and looked confused the whole time. “What does any of this mean?” “Nothing,” I said. “Ignore it.” And then that evening we explained to our son the lesson that is going to get him through his life: “People will put up with many things if you are excellent at math. You’re so good at math. We’re proud of you.” And that was that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 01:27 PM
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Because its what men claim they want to get back at the height filters, a weight filter. Modern feminists claim their fixation on men’s height and fitness is a payback to the standards we ‘imposed’ on them in the past. Modern feminist claim nothing of the sort. Feminist is not a synonym for woman. Both sexes are roughly equally fat. Women's weight is made a bigger deal compared to men's just like men's height is made a bigger deal than female height. I would actually agree that the height obsess…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 01:13 PM
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Young and cute girls would smile and converse in 2012 because you were also a young and cute guy. You're not young and cute anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 05:06 PM
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You're speaking for yourself. Many men DO get the sadz when their committed partners stop wearing pretty dresses and makeup and cut their long pretty hair. They like the effort, they just magically want it to happen without them allowing the space & energy for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 01:25 AM
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It's contradictory because putting a lot of effort into ones looks does demand a high amount of energy and resources. And men like the results of said energy and resources, and will pout and whine if she stops. If you're not willing to pick up the slack your girls 15 hour a week beauty regime takes up, then she just might stop. And now your girl has is rocking sweats with hairy legs and pits, less clear skin, no make up, three day unwashed hair in a bun.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 09:12 PM
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It's totally socially acceptable and there's just as many products and services. You're typical video game playing nerd just doesn't see the point in trying, and thinks its unfair he has to change himself to get attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 07:19 PM
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I don't like jacked guys, huge muscles are unattractive to me. The look of oversized traps/deltoids to me, screams steroid use, and steroid use is a deal breaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 07:05 PM
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For me the "bare" is stuff like... treating me and others with respect and kindness, being able to regulate your emotions, being (mostly) responsible with money, living a (mostly) healthy lifestyle, and sitting on the same side of the isle as me politically. Traits that make a man stand out and I find desirable are: Sharing my passions/more intimate world view. I'm an environmentalist, I really can't imagine being with someone who isn't also one. Being completely sober by choice. Eating a plant …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 09:31 AM
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I agree about it ultimately being about ego. Which is why suggestions like seeing a sex worker or lowering standards is met with such harsh pushback.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 09:56 PM
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How are overweight and fat men "settling" for overweight and fat women? What happened to looks matching.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 07:32 AM
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It's something men who actually date and have sex with women care about much less than the virgins here think. Like, it does matter but it scales with the scale. And culture/environment effects it too.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 10:32 PM
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The data on this is that women with degrees are settling, the degee wife/non-degreed husband is an increasingly common dynamic. But they tend to pairing off with men who are in licensed professions or business owners.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 02:26 AM
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Right, the sheer amount of criminality assumed in these spaces is just baffling to me as a person who grew up in firmly middle class environment. Of course there's people who've done drugs/gotten DUIs, white collar crime and, dark family secrets of abuse. But I do not know any men who are "criminals" socially. Who have been in and out of jail and whose criminality is chronic and diverse. If I brought home a criminal it'd be shocking and cause discord. It screams lower class to me, or sometimes h…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 08:27 PM
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an upside, but it sounds like being a phone sex operator without having your hands free to paint your nails or knit or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 12:37 PM
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that somehow seems like more work.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 05:58 AM
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BMI?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 11:28 PM
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Same, sorta. I mean I'm not pinching bodyfat but I'm a small person. I just don't really go for "big" guys, if you're tall you have to be lanky lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 12:15 AM
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On the apps. But LBR most 5'10 to 5'11 men are listing themselves are 6 foot and most women cannot tell. So the 6 foot rule is really more or less equal to a hard and fast weight rule. But IRL 5'9 is more then playable height wise. Even heightcel agree that the effect starts to kick in around 5'7
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 12:11 AM
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The funny thing is, I'm actually against the height inflation thing, and I think weight is a more valid and practical reason to not date someone. But if I applied that to dating, I'd be cutting out way more men. Making a weight rule cuts far out more of the population then a height rule. 50% of men in the US are 5'9 or taller, but somewhere around 60-75% are overweight or obese (depending on age)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 10:28 PM
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where is my husband boyfriend
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 10:19 PM
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If you love someone as a partner, you would not see them as below you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 10:11 PM
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How to Get Laid at an Anime Convention Is actually really good advice. Shockingly good advice for the site its on. Doesn't just apply to anime cons (outside the talk about her cosplay bits lol) Reminds me of those 'for dummies' books, which were actually fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 11:41 AM
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Right, the idea of an "average" man on here is so strange. If you have a number of traits that are below the SD and have otherwise uncommon traits (autistic, ocd, crippling anxiety etc)... you're not average. The idea of an 'average' person overall is somewhat flawed, but basically all examples here could never be even entertained as the average.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 11:23 AM
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And note, you can't tell the religion from that alone. Hindu and Sikh women will also dress similar. It's a cultural thing. I know there's a lot of in fighting with regards to how it should be worn, if women who let a little of their hairline show are wrong, if doing fancy wraps are wrong, colors etc. kinda normal group in-fighting... but year the homogeneity of Muslim women dress is new. Not great IMO. Women should be able to wear what they want but kinda not great what they want is the result …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 09:31 PM
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That is true, but not really what I mean. Islam is the major minority region in India and has been for centuries, and Indian women have never worm what you'd call hijabi until recently. Basically all Indian women wore veils or headscarfs of some sort, but hijabi is a certain style of head covering. Hijabi covers the hair entirely, ears, and the neck. Most of the time up to under the chin. Indian Muslim women traditionally wore their veils in such a way they you could see their hair, ears, neck. …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 02:09 PM
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Why don't you want your wife to have a full time job outside the home while your kids are young? Do you have an actual reason/understanding of that. Educated, hard working, and intelligent and also eager to submit to a man, (and I mean actually submit, plenty of tradwives keep their husbands balls in their purse) is not totally an oxymoron, but its rare a type. And a woman like that who strongly desires motherhood will probably not want to wait for a man in his late 20s to begin making money. Wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 01:10 PM
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I mean the real weird bit here is, hijabi? Indian Muslim women used to just wear a sort of head scarf/veil. Calling it a hijabi is very specific. I know its more common now, but that's an effect of Wahhabism. But would a woman his fathers age/class have done so? I've never seen an older Indian women in a hijabi here in the US. Older women don't tend to change their dress with the trends like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 12:34 PM
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The chance of secretly being filmed is one reason I don't date. Cameras and the internet have made relationships far less worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 07:34 PM
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I mean yeah, a Kinsey scale 5 is generally gonna be that (and they may self id as lesbian) But there's also just being somewhat asexual/low libido.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 04:30 AM
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Some guy posted a survey of women and preferred height, and it started falling off pretty hard after 6'4 People don't actually perceive height well. People who are over 6'4 are really giants. I have family members that tall and taller and giving them a goodbye hug is so funny. It's not my ideal at all for romance. I have a hard time imaging much beyond 6'2 and that's only because of celeb crushes I have. If they weren't 6'2 I probably would prefer a shorter limit.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 04:16 AM
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Most NBA players would be pushing or blowing past my height limit, they'd need a lot to make up for being over a foot taller than me lol Tech guys are fine, as long as they go outside. Be nerdy about the outdoors too and I can put up with a techie.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 08:43 PM
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I'd be curious to see what type of girl OP goes after. In my experience, the difference between those women who are hyper-materialist and women who aren't, it worn pretty plainly on the sleeve. Show me your girls wrist I can tell you what she's in the game for.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 09:50 AM
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Well, so did Charlie McDowell
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 09:36 AM
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He created Family Guy and American Dad. He voices Peter, Stewie, Brian, Quagmire, Stan, Roger etc. He's also a jazz singer and animator. It's his birthday today.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 09:31 AM
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Is Seth MacFarlane a Chad?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 07:36 AM
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I'll admit there's no sure fire way to meet someone. It's exposure + luck. Getting out there is the exposure, while self improvement juices the luck a bit. But dating apps are basically gambling. The house/app always wins.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 09:22 AM
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you realize she doesn't write SNL right lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 08:31 AM
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She dated a tall guy, Shawn Mendes, before Barry. He also cheated on her lol She'd dated short, average and tall men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 08:11 AM
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I actually don't think incels/men who can't date are total shut ins. But many state outright they do not want to change any aspect of their admittedly limited life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 02:33 AM
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This is real but somewhat overblown concern in today's world. He just needs to not be an asshole re: lgbt stuff because his pool for dating is gonna be very pro-lgbt. The issue is its hard to disclose. Trans guys can disclose and the implications are obvious. He can say he's intersex, not exactly a lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 10:41 PM
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Most women would understand not dating a pornstar or a single mom. But as we see here, people who are rejected, or just feel rejected can be quite bitter over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 10:09 AM
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I mean, yeah lol its also normally the very short women who have extreme height requirements.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 10:05 AM
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There were sooo many men throughout history who felt excitement upon getting a chance with a woman they barely know Because they're desperate. Or she's really impressive somehow. But that's mostly a feeling of desperate men, which again is not universal. Why should desperate men's experiences be the "normal" from which we decide to see the world and all human behaviors? And see, there it is. Hypergamy as you define it, is just your projection. It's a way to take a swipe at women for not picking …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 07:22 PM
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Is that really a "men" thing? Or is that a "low value" /desperate men thing? It comes back to this, not all men have no standards. Not all men just want any willing warm body. What you ascribe to women's sexuality is just healthy self-worth. These places are echo chambers of men who have no standards and no self-worth drowning themselves in rage-bait content. It's useless to have a term that is basically "vibes" based with no set meaning. Like now it's age too? When you add so many things to a c…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 12:26 PM
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these prominent theories (like hypergamy, dual mating strategy, female choosiness, etc.) in EvoPsych are already attributed to human mating BY evolutionary psychologists, sociologists, anthropologists, etc., NOT TRP individuals. But not in the way manosphere types talk about it. I've been told on here liking funny guys is hypergamy. That if the man is taller, it's hypergamy. If the man is better at even one thing, you guessed it, hypergamy. Hypergamy is an actual lens you can look at human cultu…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 06:35 PM
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Other studies being poor quality is not an argument for "just so" evo psych
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 06:29 PM
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This lens is most often one of genetic fitness. But that's not how we evaluate other species. This is an elementary understanding of evolution, it is much more nuanced in reality. Sexual selection can often reduce fitness. Neutral mutations neither reduce or increase fitness. Traits that increased fitness is certain conditions, can reduce it in others. Human breast are sexually selected, they do not increase our fitness. Human eye color is a neutral mutation. Humans with large appetites were at …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 06:26 PM
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Its the cognitive rigidity. They understand that bad boys break "rules" but have no sense for how that scales. Guys who break the "rules" of social interaction are ruler breakers therefore on the same scale as violent criminals. Even the 'criminals' are typically just a guy with a weed plug.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 09:02 PM
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Your mistake is this: standards are a minimum, not a ceiling. There is no reason to expect a women to not go for someone who is above her standards when presented the opportunity. Men do the exact same thing. There's probably a small percent of women who use the apps with the intent to find conventionally hot men for emotional reasons. Ego or validation of their self worth. But most women are simply acting rationally for the environment. If you're on the app to hook up, swipe on you who think is…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 07:52 AM
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Most men do not know how to take attractive photos of themselves, and not all women are looking for hook ups on apps. That's just proof as to why dating apps have limited use.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 07:30 AM
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Legit these men cannot make a single post without somehow shitting on autistic women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 08:04 PM
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I don't think it's attractiveness induced exactly, its' just something you'll see reported again and again. And clashes with the idea here that only hot normie people have sex lives, or are the 'keepers' of everyone's sex lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 11:11 PM
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There is just such a weird disconnect here between the reality that most people that have super freaky sex lives, are not conventionally attractive. Your looksmatched nerd couple goes to BDSM parties. Your 3(00lb) chick with a 4.5 dude are poly. Your 55 year old, seen better days, neighbors are swingers. The trans guy you know who doesn't pass has plenty of willing blue haired bullnose ring chicks at the ready. Trailer trash who are missing teeth get up to all sorts nasty stuff. The secret to ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 06:39 PM
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I didn't say it makes them invalid, but it makes them unusable to me and many others. The apps give low barrier stalkers much more to work with than IRL approaches. People would wouldn't go to the length to stalk someone they met IRL have a much simpler path online. They have your name, area you live in, and your pictures and whatever else you freely give. Are they free of mixed signals and judgement? The biggest issue with apps is mismatched desires. Many people on them do not want romantic con…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 04:40 AM
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What do you mean by valid. Should we shame or fine couples who meet IRL? Should we all be compelled to join dating apps? If so, which one? All of them? Online dating is perfectly valid, but for many people, it's as uncomfortable and scary as IRL dating is to you. I personally, have zero desire to use a dating app and the idea gives me anxiety. There's also been cases of women (and some men) being stalked by people they rejected on the apps. Either by swiping no, or talking and rejecting. So this…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 04:18 AM
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It's textbook.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 04:13 AM
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Why would most people sexualize, a lack of feeling? People desire physical sensations, not a lack of them. The basic idea, that more means more feeling, is simple and fairly logical. Men and women do this - lets not even touch the topic of gay men. Who do you think runs Bad Dragon. And as for women, women don't know much about dick size! Many women who claim they love a big dick, have a past boyfriend as a reference point. If he was 5.5 inches but told her he was 7 - that's what she thinks she c…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 08:08 AM
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I'm disappointed the 'full frontal' is a dick print! If anything, this is proof most women don't know what a big dick is.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 03:07 AM
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It's not lol assuming he's a shower. The thrill is that it's really his penis, and the women already like him. It's the same as when an actress shows her boobs, even if they're not zomg huge.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 06:21 PM
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Man who are attracted to men still display male attraction. News at 11.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 08:54 PM
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Look at it this way: a tall, slim, blonde with blue eyes and legs for days will generally be seen as conventionally attractive. Perhaps even model like. People around her and herself will imagine her "league" is probably some fit tall guy with a chiseled face. No doubt about it here. Now meet her opposite: a short curvy girl with thunder thighs and bamby brown eyes. Despite not having the proportions of a model no one thinks her "league" is a short stocky man. Her female friends will say that sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 07:22 AM
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On dating apps, which is allegedly now the number 1 way people meet, the proportional difference is in my opinion fucking absurd. Meeting online doesn't mean meeting on an app. Women do not use dating apps at nearly the same frequency as men. The reality you're likely looking at is: There are far fewer real female profiles, those users spend less time on the apps when active, and ultimately are more likely to cease use totally or cycle through use with long periods of not checking. You write fro…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 12:42 AM
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The answer is culture. People desires for their appearance is shaped by culture, having a nice body is culture capital. Showing it off is signaling worth. Fashion is signaling. Finding new options for showing off the body and what wares you can afford are both currency. But with that said, are that many women really dressing provocatively, or is it just hot outside? Are they dressing provocatively, or do they just have large breasts/butts? Is it provocative or is it normal but fetished? At a cer…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 08:09 PM
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It's like 70% women and 2/3 of the men there are gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 07:48 PM
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That level of shallowness is flat out inconceivable to guys. Some1 has been on Grindr with a gay friend. And this is a little funny in a thread that has a guy bemoans about fatties everyday.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 06:55 PM
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Spot on. It's actually amazing just how little some men try because declaring its joever and marinating themselves in bitterness. It's self-destructive and self-fulfilling.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 09:49 PM
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I have said on here that I prefer "feminine men", but got comments such as "oh yeah?? bet you wouldn't like a man with child-bearing hips and like.. BREASTS! That's what feminine means!" and my protests that to most people "feminine man" is more akin to "sensitive twink" fell on deaf ears. It's actually wild. The idea of a looksmatch goes out the window.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 09:29 PM
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You don't see any irony is using Christine Chubbick as an example? In the same post where you maintain that all women can get sex/relationships when they want? Chubbick had deep emotional and metal issues, which was the barrier between her and romance. She could not see this and fixated on the lack of romance verse the issues that were underlying. If she had help for her mental health and stopped being so self-negative, she would have likely found both romance and the ability to be happy without…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 10:37 AM
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I noticed that it seems like she looks more masculine and in her time 70’s, men were really into more confident and feminine women. No, she was seen as beautiful. She was an on-air personality. She was very self-negative and it made it difficult for people to connect with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 09:35 AM
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OP asked about media!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 09:05 AM
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That you're very hypocritical. Can you not see the irony of refusing to get in shape but at the same time having the idea of your partner aging and gaining weight as a horror story.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 11:00 PM
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I'm morbidly obese. It'll take way longer than 1-2 years for me to get in shape. And even if I did somehow get a hot woman, she won't stay hot forever. She'll age, she'll gain weight. Bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 10:53 PM
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Behold: Ugly Guy, Hot Wife Its a very popular trope OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 10:42 PM
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I mean, I'm getting something else... but sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 09:44 PM
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I have had guys like this hit on me. Still didn't go for it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 09:37 PM
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He's a handsome young man (he looks like a child) but the steroid use is so sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 09:36 PM
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Men had no problems approaching women in real life despite high rejection rates until women came on the Internet to call every guy who approached them Schrödinger’s Rapist or call guys who so much as looked at them eye rapists. Dating apps are the "safe" option to approach women until they make it unambiguously clear that they want a return to normal. Excuses. These men admit they don't even know women in IRL. Autistic/anxiety ridden men who grew up gaming and thus have no social skill did not g…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 06:17 PM
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For a group who are allegedly eager to pair up and start families women refuse to approach, refuse to initiate sex, refuse to propose, preferring to play mind games and give ultimatums then act shocked when men don't want to deal with that headache. Just like the men here who are desperate for a gf but refuse to do more then have a profile on a dating app! Wants don't always guide behavior. Yeah the average male is more concerned with getting into a relationship at all especially with a sane wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 05:41 AM
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Unless you're stupid, you're not having kids unless you the stability needed to raise them. That typically means having a partner/getting married. You have to go pretty far up income before there's a notable increase to having 3 kids per family. People are not having that many kids because of limited resources to devote to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 09:10 PM
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Staying with a man for years and still not getting that ring is not betabuxing very good. If people didn't want kids, fertility treatments and surrogacy wouldn't be in such high demand. People want kids, they're just delaying to the point having more than 1 or 2 is difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 08:57 PM
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The issue with a lot of gender wars stuff, is it demands you exist in opposite day land. Where it's overwhelmingly men who are eager to pair up and start families. When that's just not reality. I've never had a male friend antsy and depressed because their partner hadn't proposed/giving a signal they want to be proposed to. I've never had a male friend heartbroken because the put down an ultimatum and their partner left rather than commit to marriage and children. take r/Waiting_To_Wed its basic…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 08:28 PM
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We're overpopulated and about to have our livable space reduced, as well as an upheaval in our ability to feed ourselves. Zero reason to worry about a decline in population rn, its one area were we're letting the steam out. Marriage is linked to good outcomes for kids yes, but marriage is also increasingly a habit of the middle and upper class. Stable people marry, and can stably raise their kids. What other functions do you mean? Like, elder care? Because I'll tell you what, few things damper m…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 08:20 PM
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But why tho? The only real answer is the birthrate but, in many ways population decline is a good thing and coupling no longer reliably leads to children. DINK is the ideal relationship model for many. You're never going to force attraction or affection. Cultures that do arranged marriage know whatever comes from those unions is only rarely as great as a self chosen love. The is only creating more spaces for it to spark organically.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 07:47 PM
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Mr. Collins. A marriage of necessity is just that. You also have Lydia and Wickham, who are in a loveless marriage by the end because Wickham needs money and gets browbeaten into accepting Lydia for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 07:20 PM
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Pride and Prejudice's plot is based on the economic necessity of marriage for women, and there's a character that is rich but so poorly socialized and obnoxious, that no woman wants him. He is settled for by an aging woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 06:32 PM
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You can't get a voice job like you can a boob job. And tenors have deep voices too! Plenty of tenors have dark tones with depth. That's really what people mean when they say deep. A lot of men people think are baritones, are tenors! Actual men with low voices tend to shock people. As for singers today, Giveon is an actual baritone.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 02:14 PM
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Humanity is dominated by tenors, like 80% of men are tenors. R&B singers often sing nasal which makes their voice sound higher, because the nasal placement helps with doing runs, gives it a little edge. Some singers today are too nasal tho!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 01:43 PM
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As does the man. So why all this whining about providing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 01:22 PM
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Reposting?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 09:33 AM
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Ejaculating inside a woman is a choice. Not wearing a condom is a choice. Not getting a vasectomy is a choice. It's not some rite of passage, for a human being.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 09:32 AM
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Yeah sure, just don't cry about the birth rate lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 05:27 AM
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All my stem prof were married women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 05:04 AM
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That looks like a sports bar, mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 05:03 AM
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Heavily? They split 95% of the finances 50/50 lol When someone is a Type A planner sometimes letting them do their thing is love.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 07:33 PM
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