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they are all like that its nuts because I've never seen a dude be that way ya know.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/23 01:02 AM
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Fucking sucks too.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 03:12 AM
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most women see that as "THE game" sorry man.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 08:27 PM
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did she change as a person or just realize she couldnt do better? She's so afraid you're going to realize you're better off without her. Men do 10000X better in the dating pool at later ages than women do.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 02:49 AM
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Women are told not to accept responsibility for their actions by their friends, meanwhile men get the opposite message. Our way, the price is paid up front, but its cheaper, their way, the price is covered up front, but its much more expensive on the back end. Women basically take out high high interest loans on their lives to make shitty decisions because our culture tells them good men are disposable, but the truth is that we are not.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/23 10:51 PM
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I'm so sorry your mom died dude....I hope you're getting or feeling some support
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/23 03:25 AM
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First of all why do you need to abbreviate online? Stop doing stuff like that it’s dorky. I’ll read the rest of your post in a minute 😂
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/23 03:57 PM
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no hes selling a course brother hahahaha
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 07:39 PM
5

Perky 25 year olds exist and that's who you're competing against. they will never admit this
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 07:13 PM
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These types of people are completely predictable. 100% self interested and oriented which means, like most people, they simply ask the question “is this what’s best for me?” If they think the answer is yes they do it. It’s that simple.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 04:28 PM
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yeah my ex would sort of apologize for things....I never really saw her take full responsibility for anything though, at best it was a "yeah I did this but you also" type of situation. I hated it. Sometimes I screwed up and I'd just say sorry and try to do better ya know.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 01:55 AM
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bruh, idk if my ex is a narcissist, I think that term gets thrown around a lot, but I do think she is ultimately selfish and doesn't even realize it. She fits every situation and belief to most benefit her situation, doesn't see herself as a smaller part of a more important whole, if that makes sense, either in a relationship, an organization, or a church. Ultimately life is all about what serves her most in a moment. She too is a "career" type of woman, which, if you can be a loyal partner is f…
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 12:09 AM
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but short thats tough but not impossible to overcome, girls are usually more willing to date shorter than we'd think. Status and confidence matters a lot more than height. I had a friend who's 5'5 pull some incredible tail but hes a dr. I'm pretty good at putting lots of puzzle pieces together if you ever need help thinking through potential changes etc I'd be happy to offer an opinion.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/23 09:01 PM
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Most dudes can make enough money and lift enough weights to be attractive, just depends on how hard you’re willing to work for it
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/23 06:50 PM
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the feeling of wholeness was an illusion anyway, because she lied to you about "forever" and she lied about wanting a true marriage, because ultimately she put her own petty desires before her vows. Her word was never true, her heart was only yours as long as it was beneficial in her eyes. A woman doesn't make you whole, no matter who she is, God is the only one who can make you whole. Everything else is an illusion. I wish I didn't have to bring religion into it because its not really my thing,…
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 10:22 PM
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And second, it's a LOT easier for women to get attention from men than the other way around. not my experience after 30, but I stayed in shape and make good money so that probably has something to do with it.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 07:17 PM
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shes over 30 right? She will find out its not like it used to be for her, women are astonished at how much the dating pool shrinks for them after 30. That being said, you should put something together for yourself my friend, its a lot better for us. I never got so much attention in my life I had to shut it all down and just pick a girl after 3 weeks I shit you not.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 07:14 PM
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The thing is being alone isnt inherently a bad thing. But when you've been with someone for so long it feels really bad. That is just a feeling though. So you are on a journey to learn to accept and even enjoy being alone at times. Ironically part of that journey is that you must build a community around yourself because there's no woman to do it for you. If you work at it, down the line there will be a week where you see friends on Monday Friday and Saturday, you played golf Wednesday, and Sund…
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 03:00 PM
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That's such a funny point. You could interpret the show as a message to men of "knownyour worth or some average chick will run all over you" these dudes are world renowned minds letting a waitress drag them around. Sad.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/23 09:21 PM
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dog.....just run away for sure tbh find a job overseas and disappear, you can come back in 10 years when you've got your shit together. Don't fall into drugs and women and alcohol though, none of those things serve you well...
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 03:34 PM
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Don't do it we love you 🙂🙏
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/23 04:09 PM
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Hard to make sense of someone looking you in the eyes for years and saying they love you and then watching them overnight turn into vindictive sociopaths.....I don't think it's supposed to make sense.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/23 06:04 PM
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Cats are fucking awesome. Mine loves to cuddle. Don't leave them for more than 4 days though op 2 weeks is absolutely excessive.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/23 12:35 AM
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damn dog she never even made anything for you and you MARRIED her? Be honest brother....shes hot and you couldn't see past it.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/23 01:45 AM
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too logical, would help stitch society back together, they'd kill me before they let me change things like this.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/23 01:10 AM
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sounds like you chose who to procreate with poorly my dude, I'm sorry to hear that.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/23 01:09 AM
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YES op. Hormones is a big reason, they have fulfilled reproduction and the marriage needs to offer them something else as a reason to stay. I'm not a dr. but pretty sure you'll find that women around 40-50 experience hormone changes. Additionally something I've noticed many couples are horrible at is - building effective walls around their marriage, if your wife or you have friends who put down your marriage or your partner, you need to cut those people out. Its something couples really need to …
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/23 10:30 PM
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Its hard to find a woman who won't leave when the relationship no longer benefits her, but they are out there. the crazy thing to me is, 99% of women will leave within 3 MONTHS of the relationship no longer being "beneficial" to them, thats what OP is talking about. My ex was supposedly super loyal, good person, caring, kind, etc. as soon and I mean AS SOON as the relationship didn't give her what she wanted, she dipped. Unlike a lot of you even her friends tried to gently tell her not to but sh…
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 08:15 PM
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How are ya doing?
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 05:11 AM
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the divorced club comment is really only because part of your identity was being married, nothing wrong with that, but you need to be careful to mourn and acknowledge what parts of HER you are grieving vs the IDENTITY. You can grieve the loss of the "married" identity, without grieving losing a shitty wife. btw she sounds like my ex. Did the same thing, checked out, came up with a suitable narrative and then tried to be friends with me lmao. nahhhh.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/23 04:13 AM
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63% of college graduates are women and it's been skewed this way for a long time. Most scholarship recipients are women. The USA is horribly systemically biased against men. We are now starting to see the first generation of men who are truly from birth to death affected by this. As for me...I'm out when I make my money I'm moving to Europe, they are no joke, way more fair towards us.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 05:45 PM
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Yeah it's so hard to admit the person you thought she was was an illusion.....that part succkkkks
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 03:54 AM
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Thats a thing I haven't been through with a woman before, but yeah, I totally empathize, not many men are prepared to deal with postpartum or menopause and its not the womans fault in those cases. Men need to be better about that.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/23 12:01 AM
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I don't know the story, but I do know that bipolar people can get meds and therapy and manage it. There are some actions that you can't come back from though and I get it.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/23 08:52 PM
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women are REALLY wired to seek safety above everything. It's nuts but they will literally dump a dude if they think they can do better and when they need him again they will call like this, and in their mind they aren't doing anything wrong. Its NUTS when your eyes start to open. They are really a different species, and don't get me wrong we have our own flaws as men and I don't hate women at all, but just understand more as I get older about how their brains work. basically its a flow chart: is…
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/23 09:58 PM
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Who's a character from a book or TV or movie that you'd want to be like op?
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/23 04:59 PM
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Every dude I know who is truly the good guy in divorce situations and doesn't off himself ends up better off...all I can tell ya.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/23 04:48 PM
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The thing is though man....I think you gotta honor the marriage if she's not cheating or abusing you and she just sucks....well....you gave your word for better or worse. That's my opinion. But I do get you, some women have a very important outer image that doesn't reflect the way they act at home at all.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/23 04:47 PM
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My ex was the same, everyone thought she was a gem but getting her to do a half hour of chores was like pulling teeth.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/23 05:06 AM
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are you seriously asking a forum of divorced men if you should MARRY a 22 year old 10/10 and expect her to stay loyal and not fuck you over WHILE you have TWO children?????? EVEN THOUGH YOU LUCKED OUT OF ALIMONY AND CHILD SUPPORT THE FIRST GO ROUND? YOU ARE DOOMED.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/23 09:05 AM
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I admire this, but don't get too obsessed with money brother it will destroy your life, even if you're just trying to save. I'm probably a bit too lax, but my rule of thumb is, if I can't pay off my credit card every month, I'm spending too much, otherwise I'm good.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/23 06:16 PM
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Lmao classic
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/23 03:50 AM
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I'm gonna drop into this comment that there are a lot of good dudes on this forum. If you really need someone to just bs with hit me up or many of the other guys. Men need to build better communities for each other.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/23 03:49 AM
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I am Catholic, if you need someone to talk to...or needed a sign to go back to church well boss here it is.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 06:53 AM
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Also what is interesting about this, is from Gods perspective, you have EVERY right to divorce her. Cheating is really the one hard line in the Bible that allows for the other partner to leave with no fault/consequences and its totally clear. You can leave if you feel it is within Gods will. If you're a Christian, if not, carryon lol
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/23 06:06 AM
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My brother that is some awesome introspection. A thought about all of those habits, they were distractions, a lot of weak people jump from distraction to distraction, not wanting to acknowledge reality. I think porn is one of the worst ones alongside the bottle.... Drinking makes you forget who you are. Porn makes you forget you are alone OR that you don't have a satisfying sexual life. Both things that can be worked on, but not as long as you are distracting yourself. You and I had similar expe…
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 06:14 PM
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And that needle is not some single mom with 4 kids doing spandex squat videos on dating sites. I feel so bad for the guys who can't even understand this basic principle man....some girls really put all the warning signs up and dudes think "I can save her". No. You cannot, and you're wasting years of your life. Aside from just knowing these obvious things there are much deeper and more nuanced traits to look for in a woman to at least have some idea of whether she can stay committed. Who are her …
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/23 07:24 PM
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Women initiate 75%+ of divorces, and the ones they don't I'd be willing to be more than 30% are men catching them cheating, so its reasonable to assume about 85% of divorces are initiated by women. It's not the water either, its the legal system.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/23 07:20 PM
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This is an awesome post, it's impressive how you've taken responsibility for your part and how well you can articulate it. If it makes you feel any better, you can really love each other and be best friends and still not be right for each other either.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/23 09:14 PM
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yeah one thing I've learned from this thread is that a lot of guys stop "trying" in the romantic ways and focus all their efforts on providing and protecting rather than leading and romance etc. I think you've got to keep leading and keep pursuing her once you're married or she will eventually leave.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/23 08:06 PM
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Can't improve yourself or your life unless you can take radical responsibility for your mistakes.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/23 08:04 PM
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yeah its not your fault society is telling people that women need to be in charge and giving women a lot of excuses not to allow their husbands to lead, but I won't even date someone who doesn't agree that I should be the leader and I won't date someone who doesn't like the way I lead or trust my leadership either.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/23 08:03 PM
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tough break my guy
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/23 08:02 PM
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Sometimes the night is darkest before the dawn. If you did it once it can happen again.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/23 03:00 PM
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what are the true terms and implications?
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/23 05:46 AM
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yeah if she doesn't lie, even dudes in the nursing home would avoid her haha
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/23 05:12 AM
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damn dude that's cruel.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/23 05:05 AM
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Man, women check out of relationships much faster than men, and they will stay IN the relationship until they have fully processed leaving it, only then will they approach you and let you know that its over. They don't view this as dishonest. Even the most honest women I know have done this, its something they do...can't explain it. That being said, dating for middle aged men is a LOT better than it is middle aged women so she will have a much harder time than she thinks, and she will miss the k…
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/23 05:03 AM
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its actually a great opportunity for you to be a leader for your family in a lot of ways
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/23 05:44 PM
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Be a man. That means still being a leader for your kids even when they have no idea why certain decisions are right or wrong. DO.THE.RIGHT.THING. my sense here is the right thing is to set very firm boundaries about never going to that house again. Your small child won't understand, but when they grow up they will, and literally everyone will respect you more for it not less...even if they don't admit it.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/23 04:29 PM
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Mission is to follow Gods will and not my own.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/23 03:14 AM
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Hey boss reach out to me or any of us here if it gets too dark and you need someone to talk to my dms are always open
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/23 01:34 AM
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there are women who don't use social media
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/23 08:33 PM
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gotta say, the bible is the absolute best resource I've found for handling people who wronged you. That's a big ole long journey though and its not without sacrifice.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/23 04:06 AM
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how did you find partners, I'm curious because I'm much pickier now than I used to be.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/23 12:28 AM
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at least she helped you man, thats a pretty good deal if you got sober. I am a weekend warrior type but I'm about to quit
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/23 12:23 AM
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I get what you're saying, the hard part is sussing out what kind of woman you're with. Some women will swear up and down they would never leave you or betray you then go fuck your friends behind your back, and others at first glance appear like they know how to handle tough times and aren't too judgemental about men etc, then leave when it gets hard. idk man. I have no idea how to "quickly" figure out if I've met a good one or a bad one. Most all of the ones in their mid 20s to mid 30s just want…
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 09:11 PM
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pretty much my take, I also know that wanting to be a better man, taking responsibility for yourself, working out, and becoming successful through hard work and changing your trajectory is good advice....regardless of who's giving it. I do not give a fuck about either of them really, and its the first tucker carlson thing I think I've ever watched. I am implementing standards for myself and I am going to work out, so in that sense, this interview was pretty great. No idea about the charges.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/23 08:49 PM
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She did you a massive favor outing herself about 20 years earlier than they usually do. Congrats, you got these 20 years of your life back man that is awesome.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/23 04:33 AM
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You had sex with a married woman who is clearly not honoring her husband and is love bombing you, there are 50 red flags here and half of them are yours, but you just want to get your dick wet. This is shameful dude, and it shows you learned 0 from fucking up the first marriage. How about you grow yourself in healthy and productive ways, admit that you need to improve internally and externally and start on the long road back to self love and self respect. I know this sub is mostly about supporti…
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/23 09:54 PM
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Bible is the jam dude so much wisdom and when times are hard the words really jump off the page. It's kinda nuts.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/22 07:54 AM
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sounds like a shitty person who's managed to temporarily fool you and her new boyfriend into thinking otherwise. Get your kids man and raise them right you're lucky that shes not using them to try to hurt you.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/22 03:34 PM
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so my best advice is to understand that before she cheated on you, all that stuff was REAL. Those memories don't have to be tainted by a bad ending, appreciate them for what they were, you got 7 good years out of your relationship. Then, she CHOSE, to be a different person by cheating on your and lying about you. She is not the person you once loved, she has chosen the wrong path, abandoned you, and is regularly taking dick from other dudes...its over and shes a different person. So keep the goo…
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/22 05:34 AM
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Vent privately, in public you are a rock.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/22 04:39 PM
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Heard this once and never forgot it, what's easier to replace, the income or the woman? There are plenty of women out there that won't drain your bank account and will be grateful to be with you.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/22 04:28 PM
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I think its like half evil monster and half wonderful human.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/22 09:53 PM
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I dated a bi polar person for 2 years mate and I knew what she was before you stated it. You can't be married to that, I'm sorry but shes only the person you love 30% of the time at best you gotta remember that.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/22 05:02 PM
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I simply do not understand, I cannot fathom paying for someone elses kids. I feel horrible for the shmucks that do. Adopting is a different story, if ya marry a nice girl and you guys decide to adopt a kid I think that's awesome, but just dating someone elses sloppy seconds and then taking care of his kids after shes over the hill? uhhh no? wtf.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/03/21 04:35 AM
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Annnnd no one was surprised :D
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/03/21 04:41 AM
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Every night she spends alone well into her 40s will become a slow, agonizing, crushing realization of exactly how wrong she was about....almost everything.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/03/21 06:43 AM
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Want to come in 2nd at a bare minimum but probably 5th? Date me!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/03/21 04:27 PM
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Also I just wanna say, please don't harass her or be fucking weird, but I really get the angle this sub is coming from and while I don't hate women or anything, especially in America I agree they are entitled as fuck.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/01/21 09:36 PM
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my response would've been "the fact that this is the first question you asked me is a huge red flag, not going into a relationship already fighting your per-concieved notions about men"
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/01/21 12:19 AM
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yep, theres a huge difference between "we aren't having sex because I really don't feel like it today" and "you've upset me, and as punishment, no sex" type of behavior.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/20 03:49 PM
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shouldnt have gotten married at fucking 70 lmfao
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/20 01:36 AM
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Tough dude, keep your head up. Hope you work out or something today and have a few beers for me.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/20 07:00 PM
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realistically, divorce or not, this is incredibly good advice for men.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/20 09:38 AM
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you get 1 life mate, you want to spend that on a repeat cheater?
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/20 11:39 PM
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thats baller man good on you, sucks you married such a garbage human
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/20 07:41 AM
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sounds like you cheated on her?
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/20 12:44 AM
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es because if you marry a person for their character you are much much less likely to get divorced. fify
/r/PussyPassDenied05/05/20 02:11 AM
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It's a cognitive/chemical thing, just try to be kind to her and move on and it will get better imo.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/20 01:05 AM
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that would be a circumstance where I think you can go ahead and get divorced and take half and not feel bad about it. We're not unreasonable people on this forum and if you're being mistreated in your marriage (and rejection is included in that) then I think you have grounds for a divorce and I think you deserve half. Just don't be vindictive, and please please please go get a good therapist.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/20 06:10 AM
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she's got to make concessions if she wants to live under your roof....no free rent man. Have some balls...
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/20 06:41 PM
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exactly man. Other peoples shitty decisions and lack of morals reflects on them not you, and trust me, obvious or not, there are consequences for that, severe ones.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/20 06:41 PM
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found this guys ex wife
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/20 06:04 AM
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Because she’s looking for happiness and fulfillment from other people, instead of finding it within herself. exactly. I wish I had a word for those "happiness" chasers. She left her FAMILY for a chance at a fleeting feeling that can never last, she is a fool and no one will tell her differently. Happiness as a life goal is todays biggest lie imo
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/20 07:15 PM
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Honestly and this is gonna sound lame, but spend all your money making sure she doesn't get shit, hire the best lawyer in the world and crush her in court even if it costs you more than it would otherwise. That's what I'd do. You also better have proof of the cheating.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/20 09:00 PM
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man this is how I feel its so weird who my ex decided to date after me but w/e...
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/20 06:55 PM
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Cheating is almost never about the partner and almost always blamed on.... The partner.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/20 10:13 AM
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everything is my guess.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/20 08:21 AM
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bro.. YOU ARE TWENTY FOUR. You will be 100% fine. Think of this as a bad breakup and learn from it.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/20 05:24 AM
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bookmarking this post FR it's a good one.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/20 01:07 AM
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this is some fucking great advice.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/20 09:38 PM
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women have a sick way of twisting the knife. Don't twist the knife.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/20 08:43 PM
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God, but I think many fade from this subreddit once they get it figured out or once they're healed, this place is for people who don't or can't feel alone in the misery of heartbreak and often betrayal. 28 is young, sometimes all you can do is survive and not make bad choices.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/20 04:04 AM
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