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This is wild. I’m glad they have you. Keep being the best dad you can be.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/25 09:19 PM
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Wow.. keep us updated on this
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/25 01:45 AM
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We filed on December 23
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/25 08:42 PM
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Thank you for your encouragement
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/25 07:30 PM
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How do you feel about another man being in your son’s life?
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/25 06:31 PM
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What happened to the comment?! I came back to read it again and it’s gone…
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/25 06:30 PM
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What happened to the comment?! I came back to read it again and it’s gone…
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/25 06:30 PM
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Thank you man. The divorce is not final yet and on different days I feel different feelings and think different things. Sometimes I’m ok, sometimes mad, sometimes sad, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/25 06:18 PM
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Thank you for your response.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/25 06:12 PM
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Thank you man!
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 05:01 PM
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Do you have boys only? Or girls too? Are they still small? I have two boys that are still small. If I had girls idk what I would do. If my boys were older maybe I wouldn’t be so worried.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 05:00 PM
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Wow.. I am sorry to hear this…
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 04:37 PM
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I’m sorry you went through this and are going through this.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 04:36 PM
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I’m glad to hear this! Thank God for our kids! They help us get through this.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 03:52 PM
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Good way to think about it my friend! I was thinking the same. I’d live life and be the best dad I can and if I’ll remain single so be it.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 03:52 PM
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Good that you don’t feel threatened. Yea as long as bio dad is a good dad that helps a lot. And yea my stbxw is changing her last name back to her maiden name.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 03:51 PM
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Oh I see haha. Did you move on?
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 02:26 PM
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Ouch. Sorry man..
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 02:02 PM
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You have kids with her though right? It’s not just the one she already had before meeting you?
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 02:01 PM
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I worry about that too…
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 01:58 PM
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Wow… I am sorry. This is wild. Does she know about his history? Is your son small? Are you getting in the divorce decree that someone with that record cannot be around your son?
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 01:57 PM
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See, having her kids call another man dad is crossing a line. This is something I would absolutely not be ok with. My stbxw said she would not cross that boundary. I hope she sticks with that and doesn’t change her mind down the road. If anything, I will teach my kids myself to not call another man dad or father. That is not cool.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 01:52 PM
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Good mindset. Are the boys still small?
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 01:46 PM
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Would you have felt this way if your ex moved on right away? While your kids were still small? If years pass, I too would not be as worried if my kids are bigger.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 01:45 PM
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Ahh I see. Do you have a good relationship with your daughter?
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 01:44 PM
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Great to be confident in yourself! You are right. If you are a good dad, no one will replace you.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 01:43 PM
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If my boys are that big maybe it won’t bother me as much. Thanks for your response!
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 05:22 AM
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Dang. Seems like you handled it well. I feel like I’d get jealous. Especially about another guy being with my boys. Are your boys older? Mine are still small.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 05:12 AM
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Does he respect you?
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 05:07 AM
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Thank you for this. How old were you when your parents split up?
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 05:06 AM
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Why did you guys break up in the first place if everything was so good?
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/25 02:50 PM
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Blessings to you as well my friend.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/25 05:00 PM
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I am happy for you! This is how I am starting to see things as well. My divorce is not final yet but I am accepting it and seeing that it can be a blessing in disguise. I also plan on getting closer to God, becoming the best version of myself, and being the best dad possible! Do you have kids too? Mine give me joy and purpose. They are helping me get through this easier. Keep on staying positive my man! And God bless you.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/25 04:02 PM
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All we can do now is try and be the best dads that we can be. At least we have our kids. Sorry to hear you aren’t doing much better yet. Don’t give up hope!
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/25 06:12 AM
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I wouldn’t be able to tell you because I am in the middle of a divorce now. I’m thinking everyone is different and takes a different amount of time to heal. How many kids do you have? Are they still very young? I’m worried about my boys the most. They’re still small and I’m not ok with another man potentially coming into their life anytime soon.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/25 05:59 AM
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How long were you married? Do you have any kids together?
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/25 06:12 AM
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Do you have any kids?
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/25 06:37 PM
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Affair partner
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/25 02:36 AM
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Do you know if your son gets along with your ex’s partner?
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/25 02:35 AM
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Keep on being a great day. When he grows up even more, he will understand and see what effort you and your ex put into his wellbeing. Sounds like you are on the right track. Thank you for sharing.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/25 08:38 PM
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Thank you for the long and detailed response! I truly appreciate you my man!
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/25 08:35 PM
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How did he take it when he was 5? And did you or your ex remarry? How has that been on him?
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/25 08:32 PM
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Wow! What a big family. I only have 2 kids and have my hands full 😅
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/25 04:59 AM
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I’m glad they were older and were close to you and bonded! I can’t imagine how hard it would be for someone to divorce when their children are only infants or toddlers.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/25 02:06 AM
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I’m thinking about being single for the rest of my life and being the best dad I can be. My wife is the one divorcing me and open to a new partner. I’m worried about another man being in my kids lives. I feel threatened by it.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/25 02:03 AM
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Oh I see. So they were older. I’m glad you at least have a good relationship with them.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/24 11:16 PM
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I’m glad that you and your son have each other.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/24 11:01 PM
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How old were they when they said that?
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/24 10:59 PM
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Thank you for sharing. Do you have any children of your own?
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/24 10:58 PM
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Wow. Sounds like you have an amazing daughter. I am glad you two have each other. Thank you for sharing. I wish you and your daughter the best!
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/24 04:53 PM
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Thank you for sharing. I am glad you have a good relationship with your kids. Keep up the good work as a father!
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/24 04:52 PM
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Thanks for sharing!
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/24 04:48 PM
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Thank you for sharing. I wish you well!
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/24 04:47 PM
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Sorry you’re going through this…
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/24 03:46 PM
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I am so thankful I have sons! Idk what I would have done if I had girls. It would worry me even more. But you are right. My sons are mini me’s! I’m trying to grow them into good men. And yea, no other man will be disciplining my sons. Well, at least not in any meaningful way. And yea I am thankful they are keeping my last name.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/24 03:41 AM
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Those ups and downs are relatable! I’ve had so many different feelings on different days. And yea I know how it is when they don’t want to talk about things or when it ends up in an argument. We need to be peaceful and be as nice as possible and do the best we can in the situation we are in.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/24 03:35 AM
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Sorry you went through that. Are you planning on remarrying?
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/24 08:56 PM
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I see. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/24 05:10 PM
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Sorry you had to go through this. Did you get 50/50 with the kids?
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/24 04:55 PM
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Wow… how was it so expensive? That’s wild. I’ve heard $30 and $40k which I thought was a lot. $120k and $130k is insane if that’s only on legal fees!
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/24 03:54 AM
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Thank you !
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 09:47 PM
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I will start working on myself. The divorce should be final within these next two months.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 07:58 PM
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Bro I know the feeling. Last night I had an argument with my wife because I just wanted to talk and think deeply through all these things and get answers and then we end up arguing like always when it comes to talking about important stuff like this. I was crying last night and I don’t cry often. I’m frustrated because she can’t see clearly and think through our issues together. She only blames me but doesn’t see how she contributed to this whole problem. And now she is being stubborn and cannot…
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 07:57 PM
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Thank you brother. I am going to try and become the best version of myself! You are right. She doesn’t know what she has in front of her. The potential this family has and what our relationship could be. The only thing that worries me more now is another man being around my little sons. But I need to remember that no man will ever replace me to them! I am their daddy. I will do everything I can to be the best for my boys. They are my number 1 priority.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 07:25 PM
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Haha that’s great. Enjoy those little boogers 😆glad you got them 50/50. Stay strong brother 💪🏼
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 07:21 PM
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Thanks man! You have kids too? I agree we need to be the best fathers possible, especially during this. Also, I bought Clay Andrew’s course New Beginnings for like $200, it’s a coaching course that helps people get back with their exes. I didn’t start it yet and idk if I ever will. I’m going to start working on myself to become the best version that I can be. Thank you for your support!
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 07:20 PM
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Wow that is wild. I think that’s the longest and most expensive one I have heard so far. Good job fighting for the kids! Did you get 50/50?
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 05:01 PM
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Thank you friend. I agree completely with your post. It’s her choice and I can’t force her to stay. I own up to mistakes but she played a huge role in our relationship too so I am not taking the blame for this. The ups and downs will come, but overall I will try and stay positive and just start working on myself to become resilient. Thank you for your support.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 05:00 PM
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My wife is divorcing me and we have been married only 9 years. I have little children. It’s hard. Can’t imaging being with someone 40 years and going through that. But atleast you can look at it that you had so many memories to make even if she does leave. At least you saw your children grow up and it wasn’t hard on them.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 04:58 PM
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Wow 2.5 years is a long time. And was it $120,000 in legal fees?!
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 04:56 PM
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I agree 100% that it takes two to make a marriage and to maintain it. I own up to my mistakes but idk if she doesn’t to hers and I want to work on our relationship but she doesn’t. I just have to accept that she doesn’t want me and I need to detach. It’s hard though because she’s the mother of my children. But I need to let go. Or else I keep hurting because of the hope of reconciliation but she made it clear she does not want that and that I need to stop fighting for our relationship and not ho…
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 04:54 PM
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Yea I totally feel you on the roller coaster thing. I’m just trying to detach from her now since that’s what she wants. It’s hard because she’s my kids mom and I still loved her but I need to let go. She doesn’t want to work on the relationship at all and she says we will never reconcile.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 04:51 PM
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Ask her why she doesn’t love you anymore. Ask her what is love to her. Ask her if she is talking to someone. Ask her if there is something you can do.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 07:54 AM
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You are not alone. My wife was the same. She is so creative and always made the holidays and celebrations super special. Today we filed our divorce paperwork and it’s starting to hit me hard. I feel like crying as I am typing this. I also have young children and I already miss my family and stbxw even though we are still living together for 2 more months. I also wish we could work things out. Hang in there buddy. If you need someone to talk to you can always dm me.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/24 06:42 AM
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Any plans to date or do you want to stay single?
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/24 12:43 AM
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Did you remain single?
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/24 11:03 PM
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I’m glad your relationship with your kid is good! I want to co parent as good as possible but if my ex moves on with another guy then I will most likely transition to parallel parenting.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/24 01:21 AM
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I hope you get your 50%! Keep us updated.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/24 01:19 AM
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Thank you for sharing.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/24 01:18 AM
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Are you the one that initiated the divorce?
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 08:03 PM
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Well said. This is how I have been thinking about it. Thank you for this.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 08:02 PM
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Yea that is weird. Why don’t you guys get back together?
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 07:54 PM
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I’m also hoping for us to reconcile in the future. We just need to take it one day at a time. And if our exes do move on we just need to accept that and commit to being the best fathers that we can for our children! I’m only starting the divorce process now and I know I have more phases to go through. I wish you the best.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 07:54 PM
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Thanks for your input! I’m glad you and your kids are doing great.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 07:52 PM
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Yea things can change then. Are either of you dating someone else?
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 07:50 PM
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Hey can you also give your input regarding the question I posed to Miserable_Ad_1172?
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 07:49 PM
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This is what I was thinking too. That things wouldn’t be so weird at first if she doesn’t have another guy. I was also thinking of parallel parenting if she got another man. How has it been different for you doing parallel parenting instead of co parenting? I can totally see myself going to kids events together and doing birthday parties and holidays, etc if she is single. But if she moves on I don’t see how we would be able to do that and things not to be weird. I still love her and want things…
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 07:48 PM
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I appreciate it!
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 05:51 AM
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Thank you for your input. We will have 50/50 and I’m thankful for that. I know some guys get a lot less.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 05:42 AM
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Thank you for being specific. I know that everyone’s situation is different. I am only now starting the process as my wife no longer wants to work on our relationship and she wants to leave. In a few months if there are no hiccups along the way all of this should be finalized. I still care about her and love her and would want to make it work if she wanted to but she does not. I have young children and I’m worried about another man being around them. I’m just trying to be the best dad that I can…
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 05:18 AM
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Wow.. I am sorry for you my friend. How long ago did this happen? Did you move on or are you still single? How much custody do you have?
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 05:05 AM
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How long have you been divorced for?
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/24 04:50 AM
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Likewise! Best of wishes to us both.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/24 03:49 AM
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Good way of thinking about it, dad. It’s how I’ve been thinking it similarly as well. Our kids need us and we need to be strong for them. It’s ok for us to cry and feel emotions, but we can’t let this destroy us. We can’t change the past. We can only change the present and affect our futures. Our kids depend on us to be the best that we can for them!
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/24 03:17 AM
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I’m glad you are doing somewhat better. Time heals all wounds, at least that’s what they say. It might never fully go away but the pain should hopefully lessen over time. I know everyone’s situation is different and so that matters as well. Thanks to this group we know that we are not alone in going through this. Other men out there share similar pains.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/24 03:14 AM
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I’m sorry for your pain brother. Stay strong.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/24 03:05 AM
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Wow… this is sad but true.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/24 05:12 AM
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Well said.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/24 05:11 AM
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You have a point, sir.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/24 05:10 AM
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Dad, you are doing great! Keep on being the best dad you can. You’re an inspiration. Those kids need you more than ever during this time. You cannot control her behavior, you can only control yours. It seems to me that you are making the most out of this situation. No other man will be those kids dad! You are their dad! No one can replace you. I’m rooting for you man. Stay strong.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/24 05:08 AM
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That’s why there are prenups
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/24 07:30 AM
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What is a hick state?
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/24 07:21 AM
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Hang in there brother. Your children are blessed to have you as their daddy. Keep doing the best you can, at least for them. I’m rooting for you my man.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/24 07:18 AM
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