TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

Potential_Item610 Archive

View 0 posts and 143 comments by Potential_Item610 on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Title Category Author Subreddit Date (UTC)
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
2

My teenage daughter went the same way due to my ex, painful however I’ve let that relashionship go and concentrated on my younger son who I get in really well with.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/25 11:31 PM
2

Sounds eerily familiar.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 02:41 AM
4

42 certainly seems to be the magic number as mine went totally off the rails once she hit it.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/25 09:24 PM
2

Same for me mate.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/25 02:51 AM
4

Do not go, she is the past and must cross that threshold with her choices made.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/25 07:23 AM
3

This advice is on point OP.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/25 06:10 AM
1

Bingo.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/25 06:50 AM
1

Duck I miss my dogs almost as much as the kids sadly.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/25 06:17 AM
1

Yep my stint was 17 as well.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/25 09:34 AM
1

100% match for me.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/25 04:00 AM
2

Yeah I do t understand the forgive Ex wife sentiment I sometimes hear at all.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 02:54 AM
1

Congratulations mate.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/25 10:00 PM
1

Well mate it’s not incompatible, I pay CS however my daughter is 18 in 2 weeks so it’s drops considerable. The house split etc sucks however I’m lucky enough to have some good work opportunities which will help me in the next 12 months. Still pissed about what I’m loosing but can’t change it so don’t see the point in getting all sad about it. I figured out finally that I do t need that much to live and enjoy life when there’s not an entire family to support.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/25 11:44 PM
1

Absolutely mate, I know people will tell me to fight for my daughter, be there etc - hopefully she will learn a lesson and come back one day, but she’s gonna have to work for it. Maybe I’m a shit dad however I also have only one go at life - being discarded by a child I e always had an awesome relashionship with is a tough one to forgive.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 09:07 AM
5

Same story as mine and too many others unfortunately.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 06:23 AM
1

Just replied mate.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 06:22 AM
5

I don’t get it either but it’s not hard to guess, sucks but I find her betrayal of me much worse than the wife’s. I simply cannot agree that because she is my daughter she should. get a free pass for being g an areshole- no matter how many people in the comments disagree.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 06:22 AM
6

Yep and while it hurts me my daughter may learn a valuable lesson for later life - discarding g people that have done so much for you is a shit thing.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 06:20 AM
3

Already done mate.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 06:19 AM
5

I’m not sure I’ll ever forgive mine after she covered wife’s infidelity and was out house shopping for a month while I was out field working. Still living with me the whole time when I got back and was completely oblivious. Harsh to say but she made some very adult decisions and there needs to be repercussions for that action.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 06:17 AM
4

Yep going through this right now 2 weeks out from daughters 18th. Went from a good relationship 6 months into separation with her to being totally cut off without a birthday or Christmas call in a couple of months.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/25 11:51 PM
4

Hey mate, I’m from Melbourne and deep in the legal throws of it - feel free to DM at any time.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/25 07:21 AM
3

Facts approved!
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/25 07:00 AM
3

I’ll echo what others have said mate, I’m 52 and just finalising the financials which has hit hard but life is much better. Get my son every other weekend, focused on work when I don’t have him and the money will come back in a year or 2.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/25 07:52 PM
1

Classic, mine just pulled the same shit with all the legal correspondence.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/25 08:27 AM
4

Great description mate!
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/25 10:17 AM
1

Best advice here OP.☝️
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/25 02:59 AM
2

Bingo.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/25 05:57 AM
9

Congratulations mate, I also officially divorced yesterday morning.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/24 09:17 PM
8

Not a fucking chance.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/24 10:50 PM
1

She will try to.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/24 10:00 PM
5

Yeah I’m looking at my packet now after 10yrs off them, divorce hearing 9 Dec then throw them in the bin again.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/24 09:16 PM
7

Quit your job and go onto government welfare, simplify your life and refuse to be a slave to her and the system. I’m in Australia and looking at a similar grim outcome for my divorce, seriously looking g at leaving g the Military after 25 yrs and enjoying the time I’ve got left to just chill out.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/24 09:14 PM
4

Bingo.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 11:46 PM
4

Nope- found it to be a waste of time from her end.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 04:53 AM
3

Thanks for posting this today mate as it was the Inspiration I needed, taking my son back to his mothers today and had a great week with him. I find it easy to wallow and forget what is important sometimes as I finish out my divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/24 11:54 PM
1

Happy birthday mate.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/24 04:51 PM
2

I’ve decided to not send anything tbh, I get that many will shit on me for this however I got sick of being sad about my daughter. In the end I get she’s still technically a child however she has made adult decisions- no doubt influenced by her cunt mother. Maybe I’ve been somewhat jaded by my long military service but while I’ll always be available I will not live on my knees.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 08:02 AM
2

My 17 yr old daughter has flipped the switch on me this year, hurts like hell however I respect her choice and leave the door open for - won’t chase after her though.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 12:15 AM
3

Good analogy in my opinion.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 08:30 PM
2

Mate my MTB and the lads I ride with saved my life when I first started on this shitty journey, a year out and I would not go back to that old life for anything- life gets better.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 08:58 PM
4

Welcome brother, I’m 12 months past you and don’t believe it but the darkness gets lighter and life better. Reach out to this group if you need to mate - awesome collection of wisdom and lived experiences.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 06:39 AM
2

Absolutely correct, I am pissed and treat my cunt Ex accordingly- always decent at drop offs but any interaction not involving the kids I remind her of her being a cunt.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 06:48 AM
2

Standard playbook that mine runs as well, she can simply fuck if as I really no longer give a shit tbh.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 02:48 AM
1

Excellent advice which it took me far too lo g to take myself, it’s now paying off dividends though and my life is getting on an even keel.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/24 06:14 AM
1

‘Probably’ should not be in your lexicon in this situation mate, best of luck on a tough road ahead.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/24 05:11 AM
2

Slow clap….👏
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/24 05:09 AM
1

I’ll second that, MTB with a bunch of mates has been my go to therapy and it’s working amazingly well - not cheap but now the dead weights gone turns out I can afford a bunch of stuff.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/24 02:30 AM
5

☝️remember this comment OP and understand that she is now the enemy in a law suit.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/24 08:27 AM
1

I’m 51 and am reset to my early army days before the Ex, just need to get a dog to complete the reset! Mind you those were the best/simplest times in my life tbh.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 09:13 PM
2

Feeling your pain brother, I’ve just downsized my family SUV, sold the entire home box/gym and generally slimed life down - shit but doable.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/24 05:42 AM
2

Well said mate, after our mandatory period of separation mines completely shocked at the fully packaged up divorce my lawyer just dropped on her. Mine wants to now talk and go on ‘healing journeys’ blah, blah - foots firmly on the gas and I’m in the drivers seat now honey.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/24 09:27 PM
1

I feel this comment, turning 52 this year wife drops the D bomb and now in the legal meat grinder. 3 years till a good retirement after 26 years in the Army and life was looking pretty good tbh- guess I’m not taking a knee anytime soon now.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/24 09:21 PM
5

☝️last line in the second paragraph OP - she is not your friend, business of your kids only and stop being her girlfriend.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 08:58 PM
1

Amen, mine has gone off the rails in the two weeks since I told her I’m divorcing her after the now completed mandatory seperation period. I actually laughed (don’t recommend) and asked her why she isn’t thanking me for doing what she actually wants……..
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 06:04 AM
1

Absolutely mate, my multiple ‘trips’ through Iraq and Afghan were a cakewalk compared to this mind fuck - at least the bad guys were honest over there. Ah well I’m staring to see the light at the end of the tunnel and my lawyer is keeping me on the path well.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 06:01 AM
2

Luckily mine reminds me at kid drop off so I regularly thank my blessings that she’s gone.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 04:35 AM
3

Same story here, mine has decided to stick my son in an expensive private school, sign him up for all manner of activities I wasn’t even tracking etc. now making a bunch of demands including paying half of all these costs, reduce time with my son into a ridiculous schedule etc. lawyer sent her a nice letter detailing her stupidity- best money I’ve spent this year and she gets that the ATM is out of service.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/24 07:56 PM
2

I feel you pain mate, mine sent a crazy list of demands and proposed changes to custody following a generous settlement offer. My lawyer almost burst out in laughter, sad it’s gone bad so quick tbh. Ah well I’ll push for trial quickly and all our money can go towards the lawyer’s mortgages and not our own children.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/24 07:48 PM
1

Agreed mate, I’ve let my daughter and focus on my son- the doors open for her but she needs to walk through it.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/24 08:09 PM
1

Eerily similar situation with my daughter who suddenly decided that I had traumatised her somehow after wider left me. Son and I are solid but daughter now gone completely, sad but she just came of age so her choice.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/24 08:02 PM
5

I’m right there with you mate.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 07:25 PM
3

Solid advice that I now wish I’d actually listened to a year ago.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 05:11 AM
4

Way too common mate, mine also re-write history and cast me as the villain only to deny the reality of her behaviour.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/24 11:38 PM
5

OP read the last 2 lines above and internalise them.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/24 12:39 AM
1

Yep pretty much sums mine up neatly.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 08:51 PM
3

I have just sold the one we had and started life fresh, I get the money piece however cannot understand the guys that live in the ‘divorce’ house.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 08:14 AM
2

Bang on.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 11:23 PM
3

Bingo, OP ☝️listen to this advice.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 11:03 PM
1

Sorry - ‘not’ all cash and prizes for her!!
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/24 06:32 AM
1

Mate DM me anytime you want to, the whole process is a shit show however I’m finding out at the 10 month mark that it’s going to be all cash and prizes for my ex - not great but not as devastating as I initially thought.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/24 06:31 AM
5

Mate as a fellow Aussie I’m feeling your pain right now, I’ve had my lawyer he for a trial date asap - probably get slightly worse result in court but time to get moving. Good luck on your journey through this rubbish situation mate.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/24 05:24 AM
1

Solid idea.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/24 12:53 AM
6

Thanks mate this was the post I needed to start my day.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 09:04 PM
2

Well trust me it’s not just the American women/whores!
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 12:11 AM
2

😂 spot on mate, she can continue on her healing journey all she likes!
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/24 11:15 PM
1

My wife didn’t invite her farther to our wedding either, pissed me off at the time. Now my Ex has done a solid job of alienating my daughter and I doubt I’ll be walking her down the aisle later in life. While that makes me sad my daughter is nearly 18 and must live with we own choices.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/24 09:44 PM
1

Haha - yep.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 05:10 AM
2

The ever repeating narrative it seems.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 03:14 AM
7

Yep the reality of giving g over choice to someone in a robe is sobering for them, hence I’m not even bothering with mediation.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 01:35 AM
10

Mate no fear there, I laughed at her when she told me about it at the weekends drop off. She had this puzzled look and said ‘but I’m at the point of my healing journey that I want to work on us’, simply reinforced how much better off I am with that idiot out of my life.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/24 09:20 PM
1

You as well, great to hear that there’s more of us out there!
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/24 09:02 PM
5

Yeah my marriage was never abusive until she needed it to be to justify her actions. Threw me at the start but I catch on quick and called her bullshit and am now finalising the divorce ahead of thought she wanted. The irony of her setting up ‘couples counselling’ a week ago is mind blowing now we are so close to finishing out.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/24 08:57 PM
7

Mine told me recently that ‘it was not her choice’ but that I was abusive and forced her out, they all seem to have the same narrative. Action meet consequence.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/24 08:07 PM
4

Listen to this advice OP ☝️
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 10:14 AM
1

Bang on advice right here☝️
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/24 12:13 AM
2

Bingo.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/24 02:22 AM
3

Well mate her honesty cuts through any emotional bullshit, she is the enemy now and you must look after yourself first and foremost.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/24 03:37 AM
1

Never do give betrayal, it is not a strength and as some one has already mentioned part of a bullshit narrative - it’s a business deal that involves children.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 07:20 AM
3

Awesome mate, I’ve just had a shoulder reco and miss my Xfit and MTB - absolute life savers when my process first started. This sub is a great resource to vent and ask questions, look after yourself and keep driving forward.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/24 07:45 AM
9

My condolences brother, there is a rocky emotional road ahead of you that many here have trodden before you. It sounds cliche however look after yourself physically, get to a lawyer ASAP and do not let her back onto your life for the sake of the kids etc. the woman you loved is now gone and you must protect yourself from the one now in her place.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/24 07:18 AM
2

Doesn’t need to get married to her to have a family though does he?
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 06:48 AM
7

You absolutely need to be completely cold hearted to her, your are now in a hostile business deal with someone who has betrayed you. Do your best not to allow your emotions to soften you, she is the enemy and the enemy is to be destroyed so you win.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 06:24 AM
10

File and move on, fight for time with your kids and give the slut the least amount possible- you will be much better once you walk through this hell.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 06:22 AM
4

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different result - continue therapy and self growth mate and do not re-marry.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 06:19 AM
2

Yep mine brought up a bunch of little rubbish points she’d been stewing over for the whole marriage. My reply was ‘17 years of you being unhappy and abused without saying anything’? Yep she replied, so I simply gave her the ok let’s get the divorce rolling reply……now I’m a selfish prick that wasn’t willing to fight for it!
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 03:52 AM
1

Wish I could upvote you more mate, the pain and confusion of initial divorce ‘contact’ is real however keeping moving forward in the face of the enemy is the only option you have. Slowly but surely it gets easier and better, I’m at 10 months out now and struggling to remember what I was upset about when my Ex drops my son off. Mine looks awful and I kinda hope that there is some guy that she ends up with - not going to be this guy though.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 03:31 AM
6

I cut of mines car insurance and phone which she threw a hissy fit over, shortly after I cut my mortgage payment in half and advised her she needed to pay her half…….she hasn’t yet and the bank has warned it might be repossessed. I’d rather have that than pay to enrich her going forward.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/24 04:04 AM
4

Yeah I’m my Ex is pissy as I’m simply not interested in being ‘friends’ after she fucked up our 17yr marriage……women’s self delusion still surprises me.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 11:32 PM
3

Bang on mate.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 11:14 PM
6

All the best mate, your story is repeated time and time again and almost exactly my own - 17 yrs for mine to simply throw it out.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 09:37 AM
3

Don’t bode from reality mate, I am happy you wan to be yourself however the reality of life and divorce says different- accept the reality of the situation and your new reality or don’t.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 07:42 AM
6

Do not share anything of how you feel, it simply makes you weak in her eyes and makes finalizing things more difficult. There is zero reciprocity in being emotional, she is the enemy and will take advantage of your weakness, destroy her as you would anyone else who has wronged you.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 05:01 AM
1

Truth be told the moment she wants to seperate I wrote her off mentally. Looking back on 17 yrs I disappointed in myself for putting up with her as long as I did.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/24 10:33 PM
1

Oh it’s all apparently 100% my fault she spread her legs for other guys!
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/24 09:11 PM
2

I’m military and got the same phone call from mine a year ago, no doubt monkey branched and now she’s shocked that I said fuck it I’m out.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/24 07:11 PM
5

They all seem to run the same playbook as well, predictable disasters in the making empowered by the law and financed by men like us on here.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/24 07:08 PM
1

Yep my Ex spewed venom about most of my family when we split, then isolated my daughter from them and is now upset that they didn’t acknowledge my daughter birthday. My parent are pretty hurt about it but I honestly don’t think my daughter will ever be welcome in their lives again, sad but the Ex got what she wanted.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/24 12:57 AM
1

Feel the heartbreak and remember who did this to you, be cold and indifferent to her and make your own memories when you have your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/24 12:49 AM
1

Nicely wrapped up my Ex in a nutshell, it’s all just about her trying to g to control the narrative in the end.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/24 12:48 AM
1

Opera non verba.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/24 05:05 AM
2

Sorry for your pain mate however 3 yrs separated is ridiculous and not good for you. You need to pull the pin and get on with you life for yourself and leave her to whatever fate has in store for her.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/24 02:39 AM
25

Because it’s a bullshit physcobable term meant to justify a woman’s shitty behaviour and absolve her of responsibility.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/24 02:26 AM
1

All the best brother.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/24 09:23 PM
1

Hope is definitely not a task verb when planning.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/24 10:33 PM
2

I’m in Australia so mostly East coast and Tasmania.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/24 10:29 PM
2

Good buy there mate, I’m going for a Commencal Meta Power Sx, got bitten by the bug a year ago so now I have the time I’m prioritising my interests.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/24 10:28 PM
4

I’m about to buy a nice electric MTB and head off for 3 month trip to the various bike parks.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/24 09:21 PM
1

Excellent summation mate.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/24 09:10 PM
1

Great post.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 02:38 AM
2

Older and wiser for sure….bent but not broken.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 06:14 AM
2

Thanks brother, and you as well- reach out anytime.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 08:37 AM
2

Burn it now.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 07:43 AM
2

Fuck forgiving her mate, she destroyed your family and caused your kids lifelong pain - she does not deserve forgiveness, forget that new age bullshit. Don’t wallow in hate, just get on with your life and give her not a single thought.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 07:42 AM
7

Jesus fucking Christ, just when I thought my Ex was a cu t I read shit like this.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 07:32 AM
3

17 years and 2 amazing kids for me mate, yeah bunch of regrets however only half my fault and she decided to spread her legs for other dudes. I’m 9 months post H-Hr and even though I don’t see it at the time it definitely gets better..
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 07:21 AM
1

17 years and 2 amazing kids for me mate, yeah bunch of regrets however only half my fault and she decided to spread her legs for other dudes. I’m 9 months post H-Hr and even though I don’t see it at the time it definitely gets better.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 07:21 AM
5

Great post mate, thank you as it’s exactly what I needed today.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 02:54 AM
4

Not sure how it works in the states however here in Australia the child support agency gets our yearly taxable income statements. My Ex also just landed a much better/stable government job which will decrease my support bill come tax time.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 12:35 AM
7

Nailed it.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 12:28 AM
5

Man I wish I could upvote your comment more.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/24 12:06 AM
2

☝️This
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/24 10:24 PM
3

Mine just bragged about how much more money her new job is making her, triple what she made when assessed last year - should be interesting in Aug when CSA reassessment comes through.
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 08:16 PM
3

Awesome thought process and one I need to take on myself as mine is currently hinting at ‘sorting it out’.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 07:15 PM
2

I have 6 years and a reminder set in my calendar - then it’s eject that fickwit from my life permanently.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 10:29 PM
1

Of course!
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 12:19 PM
4

Exactly where I am now at, I still have no idea what happened to my relashionship with my daughter.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 09:31 PM
3

Well done brother, I hope to be in the position to say the same thi g a year from now.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 10:03 AM
2

This is the most accurate summation here.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 10:13 PM
2

DM sent mate.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 04:15 AM
2

Thank you mate, I will definitely be reaching out. I finally told her we are divorcing yesterday and she has lost her shit! Dropping my son back off shortly and the bullshit gaslighting and blame shifting is unreal. I e suggested mediation however she lives in her illusional world. At this stage I am starting to not care what it’s going to cost tbh.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 04:02 AM
2

Yeah I’m 5 months separated and now sitting with a lawyer - god dam slaughterhouse is what family court is.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 03:41 AM
3

Mate I’m also an Aussie and a similar position so while I have no advice I will be watching g your thread closely - best of luck to you on this shitty journey mate.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 02:26 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter