Practical_Window_919 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
52	Tip for the guys during dating	Inner Game	Practical_Window_919	/r/seduction	22/03/24 04:23 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Talking to multiple girls is the best way. Do you tend to get attached too quickly when dealing with only 1 woman at a time?	/r/seduction	23/03/25 02:19 PM
0	How do I stop being a pu**y? First of all, stop calling yourself a pussy. If you talk down to yourself, why should anyone else do it differently?	/r/seduction	04/09/24 07:27 PM
2	Looking for Some Advice I believe the concept of not appearing “needy” is often misunderstood. You don’t want to seem needy, yet you are needy. That’s perfectly fine; everyone has needs. However, not all needs are reasonable to expect the other person to fulfill. You’ve only known this girl for nine weeks. Any affection you feel for her is most likely infatuation, which will naturally fade over time. You’re “catching feelings” because you enjoy the rush of the high you experience while being with her, and now you want …	/r/seduction	03/09/24 04:32 PM
2	How do I stop being bitter? Listen, dude, are you even connecting with these girls? Or are you connecting with anyone at all? When I say “connecting,” I mean forming a meaningful bond or understanding with someone, where conversations flow naturally, and there’s a genuine sense of mutual interest and compatibility. If it’s just the women you’ve met, then you simply don’t vibe with them. There doesn’t need to be anything wrong with you or them. You might just be a bit of a special case who needs to meet someone who is also …	/r/seduction	09/08/24 07:56 AM
1	We talk about how to seduce a girl, but how about keeping her interested in the long run? You raise some interesting points, but I believe you’re oversimplifying the complexities of relationships by focusing almost exclusively on fidelity and infidelity. While fidelity is certainly important, it’s just one aspect of what makes a relationship successful. First, let’s clarify your misunderstanding about conscientiousness. You seem to have assumed that I equated conscientiousness with merely adhering to one’s values. That’s incorrect. Conscientiousness is about a person’s ability to be …	/r/seduction	08/08/24 10:46 PM
2	We talk about how to seduce a girl, but how about keeping her interested in the long run? I intended it more as a reflection on the topic rather than a direct response to your comment. I’m hoping other readers might find some wisdom in it, or perhaps even critique it so I can learn a thing or two. By the way, I really appreciate your compliments, which I should have mentioned earlier. Feel free to reply whenever you like. It might seem like a waste of time, but often it’s through writing that we gain clarity about our own arguments and reflections. The goal isn’t always to convince o…	/r/seduction	07/08/24 12:28 PM
2	We talk about how to seduce a girl, but how about keeping her interested in the long run? The book argues that authenticity and honesty are key to attracting women, which can be true, but merely learning about these concepts does not necessarily guarantee success with women. The idea presented is, “Be authentic, and you will attract women.” However, there is no clear definition of what it means to be authentic or how to achieve this state. The advice may include behaviors like showing intention, but this isn’t truly authentic. In reality, your genuine response in such a situation mig…	/r/seduction	07/08/24 11:46 AM
8	We talk about how to seduce a girl, but how about keeping her interested in the long run? I agree to some extent and perhaps even with everything you say, if I understand you correctly. However, if you imply that sexual history is a predictor of a bad relationship, I would slightly disagree. An individual’s attitude toward sex has a lot to say. In more egalitarian societies, having sex does not lower a person’s perceived value. Thus, for women in these societies, being sexually active is not necessarily viewed negatively. In such contexts, a woman with multiple sexual partners could …	/r/seduction	06/08/24 09:45 PM
32	We talk about how to seduce a girl, but how about keeping her interested in the long run? What you pick up in PUA is basically a crash course in acting—mastering the art of making yourself seem valuable through lies and empty promises. It’s like selling a shiny iPhone, only for the buyer to turn it on and find an Android homescreen. No shit, the buyer’s going to be pissed. You keep people around by being straight about what you’re offering. But I’m guessing you can’t do that because, let’s face it, you’re a crappy product. Who’s going to buy a crappy product? Someone might, but proba…	/r/seduction	06/08/24 04:01 PM
3	I want to approach 100 girls tomorrow Listen, approaching and getting rejected by 100 women is not going to increase your self-esteem or confidence; it may cripple you even more. Now you have 100 confirmations of your unattractiveness. It may not be the case that you are, in fact, unattractive or undesirable, but how you approach them matters. Rejection after rejection makes you anticipate another rejection, which in turn makes your behavior and approach unsettling to both the women and yourself. You need therapy, not an extreme “so…	/r/seduction	01/08/24 11:00 AM
1	I get tons of attention from women but when i open my mouth i see all the attraction goes to the window. I get it, life has been tough for you, and no one was there to teach you shit. But I suspect you think you’re worse off than you really are. You’re assuming everyone knows things you don’t. How do you know that’s true? And when you can’t even say what it is you don’t know, why are you so sure there are certain things you need to know? I’m assuming you think this way because you’ve had some difficulties with relationships, so you should have an idea of what you lack. A better question is, what is…	/r/seduction	30/07/24 12:37 AM
1	I get tons of attention from women but when i open my mouth i see all the attraction goes to the window. I understand the analogy, but what specifically is it that you don’t know how to do?	/r/seduction	29/07/24 04:44 PM
2	I get tons of attention from women but when i open my mouth i see all the attraction goes to the window. You are on the right path, and it’s clear you have accumulated considerable knowledge and reflection along the way. While your points make sense, they are based on certain premises that may not be true. First, it is important to define specific concepts; otherwise, we might be discussing different things. How you define a concept also affects how you relate to it. Confidence can be viewed as belief in one’s abilities and self-assurance, which naturally suggests you need proof of success, such as…	/r/seduction	29/07/24 01:40 PM
0	I get tons of attention from women but when i open my mouth i see all the attraction goes to the window. How do you know it’s “raw attraction”? How do you know it’s not just your delusions or your own attraction towards them? Have you actually gotten a verbal confirmation that they find you attractive? Let’s be clear: unless you’re a mind reader, you do not know for a fact that they find you attractive. Your feelings and perceptions are not facts. It’s not to say that attraction cannot be communicated through body language, but if you constantly perceive something and experience something else, it’…	/r/seduction	29/07/24 11:47 AM
3	I get tons of attention from women but when i open my mouth i see all the attraction goes to the window. That’s a good take on it. It’s called confirmation bias, and it can work both ways. When you’re depressed, you think less of yourself and seek cues to confirm that belief while hoping to be proven wrong. The opposite can also be true; when you’re overconfident, you look for cues that confirm your belief that everyone finds you attractive. In both cases, you’re just interpreting things. It can be true, but it can also just be your perceptions. You find out by actually talking to the person. In an…	/r/seduction	29/07/24 11:17 AM
6	I get tons of attention from women but when i open my mouth i see all the attraction goes to the window. When you think there is something fundamentally wrong with you and believe you must improve to be good enough for others, you are essentially rejecting yourself. You’re hoping someone else will tell you that you’re good enough, even if you don’t believe it. Who does that? Who wants to be with someone who doesn’t even want to be with themselves? First things first—make peace with yourself. Accept your weird quirks and whatever you’re trying so hard to hide and change. When you stop caring about t…	/r/seduction	29/07/24 10:21 AM
43	I get tons of attention from women but when i open my mouth i see all the attraction goes to the window. You guys are overthinking this way too much. It all comes down to confidence—real and authentic confidence. If you have that, you won’t care about what she thinks about your studies. It’s your constant overthinking and insecurity that’s putting her off. Women are human beings, and humans are driven largely by emotion. You can try to rationalize it all you want, but in the end, it’s all about connection. To build a connection, you actually need to connect with those you naturally resonate with. I…	/r/seduction	29/07/24 12:07 AM
5	I get tons of attention from women but when i open my mouth i see all the attraction goes to the window. This may sound tough, but you may not actually be getting the type of “attention” you think and desire. Since you are self-conscious about the “attention,” your brain is looking for cues to confirm what you already believe. When you’re constantly looking around at people, they will notice and look back—not always because of attraction, but out of curiosity. You may simply be giving off weird and out-of-the-ordinary vibes, which attract attention—but not the kind you may be hoping for. They may f…	/r/seduction	28/07/24 11:53 PM
1	Everything starts well and they just ghost me You are right to be confused because the real answer is that it always depends on the context. That means there is no set rule regarding how much you should text or not, but there is a rule in relation to how you present yourself. It all boils down to your self-perception and self-worth. If you are that easily impressed by someone you just met, there's something wrong. You aren't that into them, but more into the feelings they bring out in you. How can you be so eager when you guys just met? It …	/r/seduction	27/04/24 08:33 PM
1	Beards and Dating A beard in and of itself isn't attractive, but it can be attractive depending on several things. One being your face. You might find that a beard brings out your facial features in a more favorable way, but it can also hide them by putting too much attention on the beard. It all depends on how the beard looks, and how you look. Secondly, beards can look very sexy, but only if they are maintained, and that your beard is full and symmetrical. If you don't have that much beard to work with, you're …	/r/seduction	23/04/24 11:51 AM
3	What does having strong "frame" mean? It's to embrace yourself, love yourself, and feel proud of who you are. When you genuinely believe in your worth, it will shine through in your actions and interactions with others. However, there's no need to feel superior to everyone else, as that can be a sign of low self-esteem. True contentment comes from being your authentic self without trying to impress others. This is what is referred to as "frame" - simply being true to yourself without feeling the need to hide or act in a way that doe…	/r/seduction	18/04/24 03:41 PM
1	Don't know what's happening Do you want the best advice ever? Ask her directly. Not only will you get the correct answer, but you will also learn communication, which is important if you ever want to have a successful relationship with anyone. Good luck!	/r/seduction	14/04/24 06:47 PM
7	Why do I have more success if I’m playing a role? Feel like a psychopath.. Listen, you are being “yourself” even in these “roles” as you describe it. You are behaving in a deceptive manner, which is quite a human thing to do. That doesn’t mean deception is part of your identity. The same goes for neediness. You aren’t needy; you can show neediness, which is also a human thing to do. Neediness is not part of someone’s identity but comes from wanting certain needs to be fulfilled, and is heavily influenced by how emotionally invested you are. There isn’t anything called …	/r/seduction	14/04/24 06:40 PM
2	girls think i am gay, but i'm straight and attracted to women. what to do about this? Don't take this the wrong way, but without even knowing you, and just by reading your reasons for why people think you are gay, I too believe you are secretly gay.	/r/seduction	14/04/24 06:20 PM
136	Feel like I can't touch on first dates Bro, it's not like you're doing anything wrong. You're just doubting yourself. If you slide over and put your arm around her, it might come off as creepy if it feels forced. You'll know when it feels natural to do so, so trust your instincts. It's actually a good thing that you're not being too aggressive. Putting yourself down and seeing yourself as a problem is not helpful at all. So, stop being your own harshest critic. The main issue here is that you're focusing too much on what you "should"…	/r/seduction	14/04/24 12:09 PM
15	Messaging a girl who gave me her Insta on a night out? First of all, bars and clubs are not places to gather contact information from women. They 100% will not remember you, and even if they do, any attraction that was present is most likely gone. You would just be another schmuck in her inbox. The only way an Instagram follow under these circumstances would amount to anything is if SHE contacts you because your posts and stories depict an interesting life. Secondly, you being "cool" is not something a woman would say about someone she wants to fuck…	/r/seduction	04/04/24 08:14 PM
1	I can’t get over a girl, is there anyway to regain her interest? Let me ask you something man, did you notice anything off with her whilst dating? Be honest. Right before your "needy" behavior?	/r/seduction	27/03/24 02:09 AM
4	How do you guys handle a long series of rejections? Let me try to explain things using an analogy: Imagine you're an employer looking to hire the perfect candidate. Would you hire someone based on their enthusiasm alone, or would you prioritize their qualifications? It's a tough decision, but ultimately you need someone who is both motivated and qualified for the job. To ace the interview, you need to thoroughly understand the job requirements. Don't just tell the employer you're a good fit for the job, demonstrate it. And don't forget to ask que…	/r/seduction	24/03/24 03:45 PM
4	Tip for the guys during dating Yes, spot on	/r/seduction	22/03/24 09:35 PM
7	Tip for the guys during dating Yeah, but if you have a really good time, you would probably want it again. Especially if you don't have many options. It's also quite easy to think the experience you felt was mutual, when it isn't necessarily so. You may have felt it to be some deep-level intimacy, while it wasn't that intense for her. This goes both ways though.	/r/seduction	22/03/24 09:34 PM
9	Tip for the guys during dating That's devastating. RIP. The romantic Hollywood bullshit has tainted us deeply. Guys are basically clueless about being pure addicts. We've been conditioned to think what you give out is what you receive in return. That couldn't be farther from the truth. But the guys aren't giving for the right reasons either. It's just to feel some sort of affection - whatever little it may be. I'm not sure if we are so deprived of our needs or just used to having them fulfilled constantly, and therefore needi…	/r/seduction	22/03/24 09:31 PM
3	How do I smash this girl I work with Yes, that's precisely when you're at your best. Whenever you start "planning" your moves, you end up getting lost in thought, pondering over what you could say or do to achieve your goal. This approach makes success less likely because, instead of focusing on the person in front of you, you're preoccupied with planning your next move. In most situations, the person you're conversing with can tell you're not fully engaged. Your goal should be to come across as a genuinely cool person to everyone;…	/r/seduction	20/03/24 07:29 PM
3	How do I smash this girl I work with My tip? Just talk to everyone without the intention of pulling. Assume they are not interested and communicate normally. If you vibe, and you like the girl, then make a move. Either they will be interested as well or they won't - in which case you just continue as before. Don't change your style because it's an attractive woman. You don't need to "seduce" her. Look at it as a dance, rather than a chase. Both parties must participate to make it work. Otherwise, you’d only be dancing alone, like a…	/r/seduction	20/03/24 07:07 PM
3	How do I smash this girl I work with Exactly my point. You're too hungry for a score. There are plenty of women out there who'd be down if you just asked directly. Why try to trick them? Because you're scared they'll say no. Then man up and move on. Your value isn't measured by your notch count. Stop putting the pussy on a pedestal, or it'll own you.	/r/seduction	20/03/24 02:31 PM
3	How do you build a roster as a loner? Listen, man, I've read some of your comments here, and it's clear that you need therapy more than a roster of women to fuck. You're just not that guy. Get a roster of therapists, personal trainers, and life coaches instead.	/r/seduction	20/03/24 02:08 PM
3	How do I smash this girl I work with How confident can you be if you’re asking for advice on how to talk to this woman on Reddit? I mean relax man, you seem too desperate. You won't get with women like that if you act like they are all that. Just the fact that you’re willing to put up an act to score suggests that you don't really feel good enough or worthy of her. If she's giving you the cold shoulder, then face the facts. She doesn't like you. I reckon it's more your ego that's hurt, and you have a hard time accepting it. Move on…	/r/seduction	20/03/24 02:01 PM
-1	What are some questions you ask someone that you like? So, the plan is to turn into her personal entertainment monkey, doing backflips with no effort on her end, all for the hope of getting lucky? Count me out. I'd rather endure a snoozefest of a chat than perform in a one-man circus to dazzle her. Doing that just screams she's out of your league.	/r/seduction	20/03/24 01:44 PM
2	What are some questions you ask someone that you like? I mostly agree with what's been said, but with a caveat. Sure, being playful is great, but it should come naturally. If it doesn't, you end up looking desperate, trying too hard to be cool or funny, just to impress. Who is she that you need to fake it? Don't obsess over what women might dislike. If you're curious, just ask. How else will you truly get to know her without real questions, instead of spouting nonsense? Ask what genuinely interests you. If you're at a loss for questions, you either …	/r/seduction	20/03/24 01:38 PM
1	What do you do the next day after a one night stand? Go for what you want. If you enjoyed your time with her and want to see her again, tell her. It's important to be honest about your feelings and desires. However, make sure your intentions are pure. Overwhelming her with affection early on isn't about liking her so much as seeking validation and the rush of good feelings. That's not being true to either of you. If you genuinely liked her, that's your feeling and it doesn't hinge on her reciprocation. Sure, you'd hope she feels the same, but it's…	/r/seduction	19/03/24 10:13 AM
2	I get bored on dates Feeling bored can stem from many reasons, but ideally, your enjoyment shouldn't rely solely on someone else. You're responsible for your own fun; if she enjoys herself too, that's a bonus. If not, your experience doesn't have to be dampened. The real question is why you're feeling bored. It could be due to the quick dopamine fixes from things like social media or the impact of your diet or fitness routine, especially if you're cutting and feeling low energy. It might even be a combination of bot…	/r/seduction	18/03/24 12:59 PM
7	Girls WILL put themselves in positions to let you make a move Confused by your surprise here. Did you really not know women have sexual desires too? What was your assumption before?	/r/seduction	18/03/24 12:44 PM
1	How complicated the first approach as to be to have the best results ? Keep it straightforward. Saying something like, "Hey, I thought you were really cute and wanted to talk with you" is perfectly fine. Overdoing it with originality can backfire and seem odd, but if being unique feels right to you, go for it. It'll resonate with some and not with others, and if you're genuinely indifferent, the outcome won't bother you. However, since you're seeking advice, I'd suggest sticking to the basics. Just prove you're a regular, approachable person, not a wild card. Stand…	/r/seduction	17/03/24 09:47 AM
3	How to flirt and get a person number? Just go for it and ask. There’s no secret trick, especially if you’re naturally awkward—own it. If she’s interested and open to the idea, she’ll share her number. Remember, politeness is key; to her, you're initially just another stranger, potentially even a threat. A friendly demeanor, clear intentions, and demonstrating that you’re just a regular person can make a big difference. Simple, everyday conversations often work better than trying too hard to be unique. Talk about things you both can …	/r/seduction	17/03/24 07:51 AM
9	Where is the best place to meet women in their late 20s and 30s during the day? Spa/Saunas are highly underrated places to pick up women	/r/seduction	17/03/24 07:30 AM
5	Feeling so confused Keep this in mind when dealing with women: they often feel insecure and vulnerable, despite how intimidating they might seem to us. Their actions can stem from various reasons: - Maybe she thought you weren't interested enough, - Or possibly you seemed too eager, - She could have been momentarily interested but doesn't see you that way now, - Or she's involved with someone else and keeping you as a backup. It's easy to assume the worst, but that's just speculation. The best approach? Give the sa…	/r/seduction	17/03/24 07:27 AM
7	Flowers on third date? Backing the previous comment—skip the flowers. Consider this: grand romantic gestures can actually stress her out. If you really like her, why make her uncomfortable? Buying her flowers is more about you expressing your feelings, meaning it benefits you more. Yet, it also sets an expectation for her to reciprocate, which can backfire. Let her be the one to fall for you. The person who loves more deeply is the one who feels more, making them more vulnerable. As a man, you don't want to be in that…	/r/seduction	17/03/24 07:02 AM
3	Why aren't you having fun with women? If having fun with a girl is important to you, focus on genuinely enjoying yourself. If she isn't having fun, then she's not a good match for you. Trying to force yourself to have fun to impress her will backfire in the long run. So, be yourself and have fun naturally.	/r/seduction	17/03/24 04:01 AM
17	Post hookup It's important to recognize that her investment may not match yours. Don't invest more before she does the same. You can't control your thoughts, so don't try to convince yourself of not being invested. Recognize it and don't fret about it. Even if you view yourself as below her, you can still expect someone to invest in you equally. Remember, you can't make her invest. Mirror her behavior and become a little boring to talk with. If she's giving low energy, do the same. When she invests, be skep…	/r/seduction	17/03/24 03:55 AM
3	Why aren't you having fun with women? I appreciate your perspective, but I must say that your list seems too rigid and unrealistic. It's important to have standards, but expecting everything from one person is not only unfair but also unrealistic. Your confidence can be mistaken for arrogance, which can be quite off-putting. It's important to remember that no one owes you anything, and success doesn't equate to attractiveness. If you're looking for a partner, you should focus on building a connection rather than treating them like a…	/r/seduction	17/03/24 02:48 AM
9	Girls are ONLY interested in person They only see you as a fun flirty guy at the club. But if you want them to invest their time and effort in you, you need to offer more than just a good time. Don't try too hard, it's a turn-off. If you want to get to know girls, avoid clubs and talk to them during the day when they're sober.	/r/seduction	17/03/24 01:18 AM
-1	Why aren't you having fun with women? That's too broad and can entail many different things. What specific needs are you seeking a woman to fulfill? I'm not trying to be condescending, I just want to understand.	/r/seduction	17/03/24 12:40 AM
10	Why aren't you having fun with women? Focus on building a genuine connection with the person you're dating rather than just having fun. Don't try to impress them or become a clown for their validation. Be aware of the dynamics at play and let the interaction flow naturally. Remember that not all dates have to be perfect and that success is not measured by the outcome of a single date. Instead, have a clear goal of the kind of relationship you want and the type of person you want to be with. Approach dating as an opportunity to asses…	/r/seduction	17/03/24 12:35 AM
2	Why aren't you having fun with women? What is it that you specifically want from a woman?	/r/seduction	17/03/24 12:17 AM
9	I feel like I’m doing this whole talking to women thing wrong or am I overthinking? If you're trying to impress women on dates, stop focusing on a particular outcome and instead observe and pay attention to her. Don't try to force a connection, if it's not there, move on. Treat conversations like a natural dialogue and only flirt if it feels natural. Don't feed into PUA bullshit and build natural attraction. If you're constantly begging for validation, you don't see your own value and that's what you portray to the world. Change your self-perception.	/r/seduction	17/03/24 12:12 AM