Do you ever think of yourself as calm and cool, but find that changes around women? You might start to doubt if you're really as strong as you thought, especially when you act in ways that go against what you believe in.

When we act in ways that don't match up with who we think we are, it can make us feel lost. Our rules and limits start to stretch and disappear when we're unsure about ourselves.

Let's think about someone addicted to drugs, like heroin, for a second. They really want their next high, so much that nothing else matters. Some might say these people are just broken, but that's underestimating the power of addiction. Even very strong and successful people can get hooked on heroin with just one use. After that, they lose control. The drug takes over.

Getting high on drugs can make everything else seem boring and sad. If all humans want is to be happy, getting that feeling from a drug without any effort might not seem so bad at first thought.

But I'm not saying drugs are good. I'm using this as a way to show how being with a woman can feel like a drug. We often call this feeling love, but it's really about pleasure. Real love doesn't need to feel good all the time.

So, treat these good feelings around women like you would with any addictive thing: Be careful and know what's happening. This is extra important if you tend to get addicted to things easily.

Some people suggest having many women in your life so you don't get too hooked on just one. This spreads out your feelings so you don't get too attached.

But, this doesn't solve the problem. You might still be chasing that "high" and miss out on deeper connections. My advice? Be careful with the "woman drug." Know that it can be addictive, and admit that you might be at risk too. Most of us have felt this way at some point. When you miss her, think about whether it's her you miss or just the feeling. But, honestly, it's usually the feeling, kind of like when you miss something else you're used to having.

Having said that, we shouldnʼt avoid things that make us happy, even if they are addicting. Life is all about finding happiness in many things, whether it's a cup of coffee, hanging out with friends, spending time with family, or working out. We shouldn't just rely on one thing for happiness. If a woman is the only thing that makes you happy, it's no surprise you act differently around her. For your mind it's survival. And we do anything to survive.