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I understand the intent I don't agree with the action. I mean if you say you want your partner not to cheat so you're going to scan through their phone everyday I get your intent but that action is not personally something I agree with. I don't want my partner to cheat but I'm not going to the extent of making them feel dehumanised in the process. The way you handle issues in life is perceived differently and personally if there's no history of prior cheating on my end and I'm being asked to do …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 04:45 PM
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Thank you!!! Like this is a not a societal problem this is a your relationship problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 01:53 PM
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I did not know it was this normal to be obsessed with paternity testing. Is this a normal thing for men? Ironically, I know more women who raised children that were a result of their husband's infidelity than the other way around. A lot of men don't even want to raise their own kids. I just can't believe that this is as big a problem as men say it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 01:52 PM
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A whole person that they're having a child with and it's none of their business Lord. 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 10:32 AM
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Or it's just reality and people make mistakes. In the real world people mess up all the time it's not that deep.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 08:27 AM
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Yes and no. I somewhat agree the empowerment industry can somewhat be disingenuous. Most people trying to sell a product are disingenuous it's business at the end of the day so I treat it as such. What you say about cheating is personally irrelevant to me. Men cheat on good women, bad women, ugly women, pretty women etc. If a person treats someone badly in a relationship it says more about them than the victim. If a man got cheated on I'm not about to blame him for being treated like shit. We ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 02:31 AM
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These are the correct questions to ask. How is a politician even supposed to address this? I mean every other minority had clear goals and solutions. Black people? Abolish segration. Women? Give us the right to work. LGBTQ? Allow us marriage rights. All tangible things that can be written into laws and are clear humanitarian issues. How does one even address "weak males can't get dates" who is a weak male by law? How are you going to get them more dates? What humanitarian issue are we solving? C…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 02:19 AM
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Recently, I've been thinking about making a thread saying how you can't treat men's dating issues like a human rights issues and I think this post reminded me to get onto that
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 02:10 AM
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Does it count as settling if over time you prefer the "settled decision" over the initial one. 🤔 Like if you didn't get your dream job but the job you do get turns out to be way better than expected or you initially thought you were settling for someone but you figured they were a much better match than any previous people you asked out. Idk I feel like general ideas of settling seem so absolute. Maybe it's cause I'm a woman but I've initially asked out guys been rejected and then had them come …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 10:48 PM
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Stretch! 🤗
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 05:34 AM
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According to you only the unnatractive ones do. The attractive and pretty women are angels. 🤷‍♀️ Mmmm. You only care when attractive people are affected and no one else, do you also sympathise for billionaires who are threatened with higher taxes??
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 05:33 AM
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Yes we know attractive women are perfect in your eyes and ugly women suck, you and the other 99% of the male population have the same opinion. 🤷‍♀️ I will say I've never heard someone - attractive or not - say they don't sympathise for those who got cheated on. I wouldn't even say that if it happened to my ex and I hate him. You just seem mean but I doubt you care.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 05:22 AM
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I cook once a week because I just don't have time for it because of school. I used to love baking for my ex and my friends. I stopped now since moving to a different place and also I wanted to be healthier. Maybe I could experiment with cooking healthy meals? Hardware sounds interesting 🤔 I love books!!! Books were my no.1 hobby until uni. I always go back to them during the holidays though. Ya I get the just wanting to put your mind somewhere else. I've already changed my style a bit. Got my ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 05:16 AM
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👀👀👀You have experience with this??
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 04:52 AM
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Is that what they call them? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 04:51 AM
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Not only that but it's not surprising that he would only ever sympathise with attractive women. Like everything he said was stating what 99% of the population already does.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 04:51 AM
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You're mean and shady... But at least this confirms what I said about ugly women never getting sympathy compared to other groups of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 04:49 AM
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I've been crying for nearly 3 months and I'm very much over it. 😅Yes I need hobbies!! This is a great idea. I meant it's late because I'm going into exams now. 😅That's why being emotional is bothering me. It shifts my focus from studying. Otherwise I don't care about crying. I love going out and don't mind doing things alone. I just currently stay in the middle of nowhere. 😭 But at home hobbies would be lovely to add to my day. Makeup and building a computer are lovely skills to have as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 04:44 AM
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I tried being stoic in high and I got over it after and video games bore me as well I never liked them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 04:38 AM
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Does anyone believe in subliminals or have any experience with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 04:21 AM
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Another day another morning after working out I look at my body and I cry. I think about being left by my ex and I cry. I don't think the gym and working out is enough for me mentally. I keep attaching my body and face to my self worth, while also relating it to my ex and then I feel worse. I thought it would be enough of a substitute for therapy but it's not I'm still crying too frequently. It's too late in the year for me to get a therapist. I stopped bringing up my breakup to my friends cause…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 04:18 AM
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Lifting weights and still hating my body. I feel like I'm going to look worse. 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 04:07 AM
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Maybe it's low-key stupid but I think if you plan on having children try to pick a partner based on what you want your future children to blame you for. In looks subs there are kids who blame their mothers for picking unnatractive men and in poverty subs there are people who blame their parents for having them while broke or picking broke spouses. I remember there was this one post in r/malelivingspace where this rich sixteen year old posted his expensive room and when people asked him how he ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 03:28 PM
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It makes me feel mentally and physically good. I get a nice confidence boost after the gym. Diet is more consistent since I meal prep now. 2 meals and 1 snack a day. The only problem is when I get stressed and fall back into binge eating but I'm trying to combat it by being out of the house and not having any binge-able foods in my room. Sometimes it works or sometimes I eat 70 pieces of gum like the last 3 days. As long as I'm trying not to eat my emotions out I'm at peace. I experience a lot o…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 01:28 AM
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Ya. The slow changes and time are necessary. I'm just mostly scared that even when I get to where I want to be my body will still not be what I want it to be. Like there's a ceiling to how good my body can get and I'll never get the ideal one cause of my natural genetics.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 01:19 AM
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Going to the gym is actually so demoralising when you don't have a nice base to work with. Like I know even with all these squats, rows and deadlifts my natural shape is just not nice. I'd have to be at a very low weight to look tolerable and I struggle with that with school stress. My sister and mom have naturally small waists and wider hips so they have more flexibility when it comes to weight. When they go to the gym it's just to enhance. In fact every other girl I know has a small waist and …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 12:56 AM
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I think approaching women is actually the one way unattractive men can get a woman. I've seen a guy get rejected multiple times and then eventually get a yes. It's a numbers game.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 12:47 AM
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Well today a peaceful protest was supposed to occur at my university and it was not peaceful. I was studying from 8pm till 5am at the library. At 5 my friend messaged me to leave the school by 5.30 people are going to be protesting. I went on my morning run at 5 then left campus at 6am. I doubted her for some reason. I went to sleep woke up at 11 and everything had gone to shit. Apparently the peace left and some students tried to set a building on fire, students have been arrested, shots were f…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 10:23 PM
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I just spent the last 3 nights pulling all nighters and stressing like hell for my test tomorrow and the test is cancelled because the government fucked up. They fucked up with school fees and ultimately their decisions once again fucked over impoverished students and now students are protesting. School has gone to shit, police are there, tear gas is probably being thrown around what a mess. Why can't the government just act right? It's like they know most students in this country live below the…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 08:45 AM
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No. In fact I could never intentionally fart in front of my ex. It was a struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 12:06 AM
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The men here clearly do... Everyone else seems like they could care less. If they can't get what they want they find other things to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 12:04 AM
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Girl nothing. They say the same thing everyday.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 09:50 AM
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My views from an unequal country: It differs I've noticed people who are in upper class are slim. People in lower class are slim(either underweight or overweight). People in middle class are generally overweight. Middle class people stress but can still afford food to stress eat. Lower class people stress but can't afford excessive food so are generally skinny, if they're overweight they're older due to lack of food education. Upper class people generally have no stress so maintaining skinny is …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 09:42 AM
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I 100% understand why some people are entitled. I don't know if that's the right word but constantly asking for certain things and behaviour to be adjusted throughout the relationship and then watching that person act the way you wanted for the next person is annoying. The audacity to say I deserve better when you could have just acted better! Imagine someone telling you they didn't give you their best when they knew they could have. Why do some humans do that??
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 09:39 AM
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Ideally yes but you can get a partner while being a trainwreck. I speak from experience. The relationship might not last though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 11:45 PM
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You probably look amazing if most of it is muscle.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 11:42 PM
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People are generally pathetic and women are weird when they do this too. You never had a chance with your 1000 mile away celebrity crush to begin with!!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 10:39 AM
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Man I get what you're saying but I just don't understand what they expect to do. Argue other men's preferences until those men dump their ugly girlfriends??? You're not arguing with property prices or grocery prices you're shouting down real people who've made their own choices. As a sane human being you have to realise how cruel and stupid that is.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 09:31 AM
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I don't know why this reply came to me but you're still missing the point. I have a male friend, that doesn't dismiss the fact that the general man will still act oddly to the average unnatractive woman. 1 non racist doesn't dismiss the fact that 5 other people are racist. In the same vein you being nice doesn't dismiss the other 20 guys who are assholes. It makes sense. I didn't even say anything about how you personally treat women I told you about how men generally treat unattractive women. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 11:51 PM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 09:51 PM
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Sugar but ill get over it. Life is just going downhill so I'm going back to addictive habits. I'm just going to lessen sugar and go back to meal prepping.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 09:49 PM
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Makes sense. Sadly pathetic and cruel too. Strong crabs in a bucket mentality. My ugly self applauds ugly men who get cute girls I don't rag on them. It's weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 06:33 PM
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But how does that even make them feel better. They don't even want the fat or ugly girls either. So do they just want them to be alone? Like it's weirdly cruel. How can you claim to be a good guy and wish such random animosity on people. Because I'm ugly and you're ugly you don't deserve to be in a relationship???
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 06:30 PM
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This girl in front of me has such clear skin and now my skin will break out. Curse this stupid week and it's only Monday!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 06:28 PM
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People do this in your country?!!!! And they don't get murdered?!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 06:26 PM
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You can never convince me that a food addiction is not the worst. I can't keep gaining and losing the same 5kg. I couldn't get an exercise addiction?? I met a girl with an exercise addiction once. She was anorexic and her hair falling out but I'd still take it. 😭I'd have taken alcohol or gambling too. Food is damn childish.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 06:24 PM
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A relationship was never the plan for me. I didn't plan to get into a relationship. In fact my mother told me never to bother with one as it will derail me so I agreed. We met at an ice breakers thing (because we lived at the same res.) I approached him and sat next to him. I thought he was cute when we started taking but he seemed shy the whole conversation and didn't ask for my number so I assumed he wasn't interested so then we didn't talk after and I forgot about him. 2 months later he stopp…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 05:44 PM
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I will never understand why men are so bothered by other men who choose women they personally don't find attractive. They're so bothered about that ugly/fat girl as if they have to exist in that relationship themselves. Why do you act like a grown man didn't make his own choices?? Why do men infantilise other men so much??Acting like you're on the grand council of dictating who gets to date who.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 05:11 PM
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Funny enough after getting cheated on I would have preferred to have been an incel who never got a chance at a relationship. I think my ex lied and settled for me and having to reconcile with that feels worse than anything else. I don't think my self esteem and sense of self worth will ever go back to normal and having a relationship was not worth ruining those things. I know I could easily get into a relationship again but I always have the idea that I'll be settled for by every man I come acro…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 04:54 PM
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Meh they only went out of their to be rude when I was outspoken. It wasn't all young men but it was enough of them. My generalisation was that an outspoken attractive young woman was met with little ridicule and in general an unnatractive one was. It's an unsavoury generalisation but many are. I won't cry if unnatractive men says he gets ignored by most women including myself. It's unsavory but generally true. When you're quiet it feels akin to being invisible which is a neutral experience. Most…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 08:43 AM
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I generally only find out about people who are rude to someone they don't find attractive after interacting with them. After then I stop interacting. If these experiences happen often you gage that you're unnatractive because average and attractive people don't experience it often if ever. Most people get offended by unnatractive women who speak about being unnatractive. I don't understand why because like I said every other group does it. I have people who care about me, my point was to speak a…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 08:18 AM
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Yes I'm serious. Why are you being dismissive? Being unnatractive as a women or a man means you experience life in a certain way. The same way an attractive women or man may experience similar experiences but on the opposite end. That's basic common sense. There are average experiences people will have based on their looks, hence I made a post about it. The unnatractive men who say what they experience or the attractive people who say what they experience are never dismissed I don't know why my …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 08:00 AM
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I don't think you've spoken to an unattractive woman before. Younger men definitely go out of their way to be dismissive or cruel to outspoken unnatractive women. Being invisible is a neutral experience but I've noticed unnatractive women who are not quiet experience being dismissed or being made the butt of the joke. They're not polite they're immature. Older men are better because you're just invisible which is the best kind of experience. I don't mind being invisible or ignored but when I was…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 07:43 AM
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People only say that because the only thing you can work with is the people who you can get it. If two people mutually like each other whether they're looks matched is irrelevant. I'm saying it again the only relevant league is the one where two people are mutually attracted to each other otherwise you'll just be screaming into the sky. You're not going to force anyone to be with someone they don't want to be with because you want to push the notion of what's fair or not. Romance doesn't work li…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 07:16 AM
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From my experience nope. Obviously a generalisation but in my experience gay men are nice to both ugly and beautiful women. Straight men are only nice to beautiful women. That's just what I've noticed.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 06:48 AM
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I did this with no problem. Then he started taking out another girl on dates behind my back and then I felt stupid. 😒 I still feel like there's no problem with this but I don't think I'd ever do it again as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 08:10 PM
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She should say it immediately and she should definitely say that it's because they're too old. Older man lack self awareness and like taking chances she should make them aware of that. Stop saving these shallow men's feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 08:07 PM
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https://vt.tiktok.com/ZSU8dkevo/ Idk why but this video reminds me of the time my mom told me my granny
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 08:05 PM
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Of course the weather decides to rain exactly when I choose to go out for a run. 😒 I love how I can always use the treadmill upstairs but I never do because it bores me to tears.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 04:56 PM
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Well that's me so. 🤣I'll be honest lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 04:47 PM
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Ehhh don't write it off. You sound exactly like me before I got into my first relationship. I was horrible at keeping friends but it was much easier with a partner. A partner will always feel like a priority. You probably won't struggle as much as you think. I never socialised and still barely do but my partner was essentially a best friend for me. I was very talkative and engaged with him almost everyday. You kind of teach other how to care and do responsibilities for one another and then fall …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 04:36 PM
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I only experience the "I'll do alone" one and I'm more than fine with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 04:30 PM
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I need to look on the bright side I guess. 🥲
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 04:26 PM
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Ya men mention it a lot here. It's more difficult for them and I'm not invalidating that I'm just sharing my own experiences with being an unnatractive woman because that's the only experience I've lived through. I acknowledge their experiences but I also want my own experiences to be acknowledged. I still got cheated on and still experience a shit ton of anxiety due to being objectively ugly. So while my life may be "better" than the average man I still have my own struggles that I don't want d…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 04:26 PM
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With my logic they apply to everyone. I've been rejected before those guys were not in my league by my logic. Why do you guys always make these assumptions?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 03:51 PM
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That makes no sense with what I just said. There are men who don't want me. They're not in my league. There are men who I don't want they're not in my league. That's all I'm saying. So no by my logic not every women is in a man's league. I've been rejected before to know that there are men who don't want me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 03:49 PM
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It may be irrational but it's also realistic. I gained 20kg in high school and started getting treated badly by other people especially boys which sucked but it's life. I've struggled with my weight ever since and never really been able to change that. I've been a binge eater since 15 and I'm now 22. Accepting it was just realistic for me but accepting it didn't mean I haven't always tried. For me accepting it just meant managing expectations for myself. At 18 I accepted that I'd never be able t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 02:37 AM
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Then we can agree to disagree because as a woman who was also fat and had a fat friend I knew that some of us wanted to be accepted and desired while fat because we tied that to a feeling of acceptance. This is even a common sentiment I saw the last time I was on the plus size women sub. Being fat becomes an identity for most women because most men never forget to remind us how they look down on us for it. It feels akin to having failed genetics even if technically it can be changed. Me and my f…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 01:47 AM
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It doesn't feel that way to a fat person though. That fat person still feels like they're going to have to compromise a version of themselves to be attractive to others. Even if objectively it was within their control subjectively they still feel they have to change themselves to gain more suitors.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 01:28 AM
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Ehh that's with anything though. If you lose weight you're probably going to be with someone who wouldn't have accepted you if you were fat but your options will be greater which is all most care about.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 01:09 AM
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Really. I don't believe people cheat out of insecurities, I think they use that as a cop out. My ex tried to imply he went out with another girl because I made him feel insecure in our relationship (he was jealous of my guy friend and it caused friction. He knew very well I didn't cheat and I didn't because I have morals and I'm not attracted to my guy friend. I even dropped the friend so he'd trust me). People only say that to absolve themselves of accountability. They cheat because they want t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 12:55 AM
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I get you. It's because of other relationships and my own failed one I'm choosing to stay single forever no Biggie. 😅 Have faith both in your partner and yourself. For your partner's sake try not to project what other people do onto your own relationship. It will hurt both you and her. Good luck though!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 12:24 AM
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Goodreads has a nice lists of classics and fiction books to read. The books I read are very niche and very female experience orientated 😅 The only guy books I can think of that I read are King. Pet Semetary and The Shining are my favourites from him. I like horror. If you want more niche horror anything by Tananarive Due is nice, slow, but really nice. Octavia Butler for Sci fi. P Djeli Clarke for fantasy. I gravitate towards black literature and African American historical fiction. I doubt you'…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 12:18 AM
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Thank you for reaffirming my decision to never enter a relationship again. Men are always looking for something new. 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 12:09 AM
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If I ever get into a relationship again I'd want this.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 12:07 AM
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So you're dumb because you made assumptions. Where did I say they were giving blowjobs obviously that would have implied a higher body count and who on earth thinks 10 is low. You just jumped to your own non-sensical conclusions. The friend with the high n count has less than 10 and the low n count has one.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 10:26 PM
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I don't understand what you're saying. I didn't say anything that relates to your first sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 10:14 PM
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Oooo also: unpopular opinion incoming! I dont think of leagues in a conventional way. My way is that: the only league that exists is the one where who you like likes you back. For me your league is who you like and who likes you back. If you like someone but they don't like you back you're not in the same league. If someone likes you but you don't like them back you're not in the same league. The only relevant league is the one where you like someone and that someone likes you back. For me a lea…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 07:47 PM
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Trying to find the benefits and pros to being an unnatractive woman. 🤗I think as an average or below average person you should be able to look on the bright side. It can't be all doom and gloom. The only men who have approached me have been obvious red flags. (I've never had a sober man approach me... And I've never been to a bar/club nor do I drink...) Every beautiful women I know who was approached by a man was eventually cheated on by that man (which makes 0 sense to me! How do you approach s…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 07:34 PM
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No. They've never met each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 06:46 PM
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They're not "great" in fact if I were a dude they would both low-key make me nervous but they're just very similar. They each have their own similar messy views but that's the thing their views are really similar which is why I'm emphasising there isn't really a difference in them. Objectively you're not a bad person for dumping someone though, you can dump anyone for any reason regardless of how their ego feels. Just to clarify, I emphasised this point because a lot of men claim women will put …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 06:45 PM
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There doesn't really feel like there's a difference between my friend who has a high body count and the one who doesn't. They both get a lot of male attention. They both also easily attract conventionally attractive men. The men they attract are also very social and liked by most women. They've either dated/ attempted to date unconventionally attractive men (but these men were very confident and never awkward) The only difference is their body counts. The one has a high one and the other has a l…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 02:01 PM
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Now after leaving my ex. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 01:22 PM
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Opposite where I'm from. Short men date women who are shorter and most men in this country are short and Most women are shorter. Most women are fine with dating a man who's short as long as he's taller than her. But I know guys (like my ex) who've said they'd never date woman taller than them. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 01:19 PM
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One of the wisest things said on here. This is definitely true for most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 01:17 PM
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Books. Fantasy, sci-fi, historical fiction, horror, romance or whatever you like. Or you can be like every basic guy who reads finance and self development books because for some reason that's what guys mostly gravitate towards.😅
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 05:45 AM
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Reading??
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 05:43 AM
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There are objectively worse countries for women to live in. Nobody ever said every place was the rape capital of the world. I don't know why you're saying that. I'm from a country with objectively high rates of gender based violence and rape. I'm not from the US. Bruh I'm not using feminism as an agenda for anything I just support the general ethos of women deserve rights. I believe in donating sanitary pads, donating to women's charities, not voting against women's reproductive rights and encou…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 05:42 AM
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It's ok. Life will get better. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 05:36 PM
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Since getting dumped I've had a lot of free time. Friday afternoons and evenings were generally reserved for me and my ex but now I guess I can use it to just study and try getting back into an old hobby. I'll be at the library until 8pm, cook and then maybe see if I can try get back into reading?? I've always complained that I can't concentrate on books in Uni but maybe this is my chance to try again. 😅 I must just make it an easy read so that I can pay attention. The annoying thing is that rom…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 03:54 PM
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Your coworker sucks. That's the over critical nonsense I'm talking about and that I hate. Your last sentence rings so true. I never want to be friend's with a woman who's happy to be at the forefront of another woman's unhappiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 03:27 PM
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Ehh I don't have a problem with feminism. I livs in the rape capital of the world, the average school girl in rural areas has to skip school due to not having pads on her periods, rape, pedophilia and gender based violence against women and children is strong here so I'll still encourage feminism. I'm just not taking up for women who get off on dating men who are with other women and who are overly critical of other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 03:25 PM
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Ya I take up for my friends and I used to take up for other women as well but I think I should only relegate myself to supporting friends now. I used to infantilise women alot but I'm prepared to be much stricter now.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 03:23 PM
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Ya I take up for my friends and I used to take up for other women as well but I think I should only relegate myself to supporting friends now. I used to infantilise women alot but I'm prepared to be much stricter now.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 03:23 PM
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Agreed I have good friends but I don't think all of them are really moral unfortunately. 😭They never make me feel bad but I know how they kind of treat men and it's a tad scary and hardcore. Good friends though otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 03:21 PM
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Ya 22. I guess I was just a bit sheltered and caught off guard. I genuinely approach life with an aloof personality so there are things I don't really care for on others or myself but I realised other women apparently care about that stuff when at first I thought it was only men. I also didn't think I'd be victim to dealing with other women pursuing my boyfriend while knowing he was with me. I didn't doubt his attractiveness but I think I overestimated some women's ethics 😅It's just an eye opene…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 12:08 PM
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I was delusional. 😅I used to think women were better only because they weren't as bad as men. I learnt that a man harming you doesn't make another woman exempt from harming you as well. Women are definitely not exempt from having bad character and being malicious but it feels like I'm only experiencing it now. Most of my life I just got ignored by women or had neutral to friendly experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 12:04 PM
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Would I be a bad person if I said I'm not really a girl's girl anymore? Feminism is obviously important I don't deny that. But being "pro girl" for the most innocuous things is just no longer important to me. Some woman aid in making another woman's life miserable and I know other women don't owe me anything but knowing a man has a girlfriend and going after him is just not kind. Some women are also so critical to the point that it gives me anxiety. My hair's not always great, I don't always wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 11:13 AM
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This is a great suggestion. I might just give it a try! Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 11:33 PM
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Yes. I took pictures of myself after the gym. Compared myself to my ex's new partner then cried. 😂Got showered and dressed did my daily pictures of my clean face for the day and got upset because my face never looks as pretty as I want it to be lol. Tomorrow I will shower and dress again and take more pictures in hopes that I'll see something different and when I don't I'll get annoyed. This is a common daily occurrence unfortunately. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 11:30 PM
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I'm sure you still looked stunning. 🤗 I've only ever worn makeup for school productions a school prom and a university 10 year celebration. Otherwise I've never worn it. I had to pay someone to do my makeup for all of these events. I personally never wear makeup cause I'm lazy and unfortunately my threshold for peer pressure is quite high. I'm so jealous of women who can do make up and look good. I knew if I had the ability to do it I might actually look prettier but I am so damn lazy. I need so…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 04:11 PM
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This is very thoughtful and you were in fact raised very right. 😅Your partner is so lucky. This is the partner I wish to be but as much as I want to be like this I'd also hope someone would want to be like this for me. I hope you and your partner cherish each other for years to come. 🤗
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 03:35 PM
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I experience the anger too. There were many times I wished he'd get hit by a bus. (Sorry for the vulgarity). I'm angry and in a way kind of feeling like I need to prove something to him but I also don't want to walk forward with that mentality. I want to grow but I don't want it to be about him. Ya you're right that her asking him out while he was in a relationship with me makes her less appealing as a person. 😅 Physically she's attractive, she seems smart and she also seems rich so I guess I'm …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 03:06 PM
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That's so sweet. I would do this if I wasn't constantly broke. 😭It's weird because I feel like I barely ever buy myself anything other than food and I'm still too broke for gifts.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 02:42 PM
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This is very true. My number one love language is quality time too. 🥹It's 100% the most important. Then I think the other 3 except for words of affirmation are on second tier. I low-key think I just love the all and healthy relationship needs a good combination of the 5. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 02:41 PM
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Literally what sent me into tears this morning. 😭And I'll do it all again tomorrow morning. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 07:51 AM
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Thank you. This is sweet. 💕
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 05:16 AM
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Today's my friend's birthday and I can't wait to gift her! Funny enough last time I was here on an alternate account I was asking for help on gifting my ex with some shoes. Lol. But now it's her birthday and I think I chose a nice perfume she'll like. I'm jealous of rich people because it must be so fun to gift people. I think gifts are high up as one of my love languages because it's so satisfying to get someone a good gift. It always feels like money and time well spent. Next time is my guy fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 05:15 AM
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Ya that's what he said. That it was more about him than about me but it's like my mind won't compute it. 😞 Especially because he lied about being with her in the first place it's like I take everything he said as a lie now. But I should just accept it's less about me for my own sanity. You're right.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 05:11 AM
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I wonder how a person who gets cheated on gets better psychologically. I was technically just lied to and left for another girl and while technically not cheated on I feel just as awful. I look in the mirror and I cry. I step on the scale I cry. I compare her upbringing to mine and I cry. I go to the gym and I cry. I compare our style and I cry. Like I only ever think of her when I think of my ex and it keeps making me cry because with everything I do I compare myself to her. I think my ex think…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 04:56 AM
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No you confused me I thought you were being sarcastic you're serious? Then you sound ridiculous. They're hypocritical for claiming they value sexual discipline but can't uphold that for themselves. Wanting sexual purity from one party whilst being sexually immoral yourself is hypocritical. It's hypocritical to expect sexual discipline from someone if you can't exercise that yourself. If you say you have a particular moral or belief and impose that onto everyone else but yourself you're a hypocri…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 08:59 PM
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Same for women. 🤗
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 08:31 PM
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Sounds like my ex. 😒At least I have first hand experience. Thanks for the heads up.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 08:27 PM
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Never having to doubt his intentions or faithfulness. You won!! The doing right while no one is looking is my favourite trait in a person. Kindness to everyone no matter who they are or their background is actually rarer than I thought so you have a gem. May you be happy forever. 🥹
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 07:24 PM
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This is so sweet. 🥹You pay a lot of attention to detail and I know that your partner appreciates that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 07:23 PM
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🥹🥹🥹This is so cute. I love that you consider your girlfriend to be your best friend. It's just very relatable to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 07:21 PM
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I love that you guys work on your goals together. It's so cute!!! I can't imagine knowing and spending 20 years with my better half. 🙈
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 07:21 PM
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The users bragging about their partners below is adorable! I'm a bitter old witch but it's so cute. 🤭🤭Despite how painful it is to see I still love hearing how happy people are with their partners. Funny enough hearing about it in real life makes me want to cry, but for some reason reading it online is different. Weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 07:20 PM
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Apparently my ex's partner was pursuing him while she knew he was with me. Now why would someone do that? Like I could never knowingly date a guy knowing he's with another woman. The guilt?? Why does the universe do this to me?!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 07:16 PM
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Well I've learnt that with men it's easy to get into a relationship and just as easy to get cheated on. Some easy relationships just aren't worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 07:12 PM
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Can you visit my ex? 🤔Joking. I've felt like you for so long. You may need to find you tribe. This feeling really increases when you surround yourself with people who don't love or like you. I realised this feeling kind of decreased for me when I was around genuine people who liked me and I liked them back.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 07:09 PM
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I've never had a hangover in my life either. 😭But I get what you're saying. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 07:07 PM
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I've already been crying for two months straight. Hopefully it decreases.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 07:07 PM
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This is the predicted time of my relationship unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 07:06 PM
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Apparently it takes a minimum of 6-12 months to get over a breakup. I can't be feeling like this for six months. I hate this.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 04:23 PM
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I hate how much anxiety I have these days because there's always a possibility I'll see that man. Just saw him and I think he was on a phone call with his new partner. We both acted like the other didn't exist. Now I can't think straight.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 04:22 PM
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Men assume all women with a high body count are the same so I'm doing the same. I'm just matching their energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 12:32 PM
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You literally read nothing I said above.🙄I'm not listening to this bull shit reasoning. I told you I'm not listening to men being hypocritical in the comments above and I made that clear. Everyone can exercise sexual discipline. I have male friends with many options who are disciplined. If they can do it the rest of you can too. You guys always want to be hoes while telling women to do better. Well I don't want a hoe either.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 06:41 AM
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I'm never dating again. But my point was the same way these men constantly complain that attractive women should have low body counts despite being attractive I expect the same for men. If you're attractive and have options I'd rather deal with someone who had sexual discipline rather than someone who just took the chance to sleep with anyone because they could. I'm projecting the exact same expectations men have for women onto men. In fact, I don't care if he has options or not sexual disciplin…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 06:19 AM
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I forgot about the existence of foam rollers! I might just buy one this week. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 07:39 PM
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Ex boyfriend who was a passionate Christian man. 😒
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 07:39 PM
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Oof that sounds awful I'm so sorry. Injuries are so annoying and I can never predict what is safe to do afterwards and what will cause pain. I always underestimate them and then make things worse which leads to me not working out for a while which is annoying. I use to love deadlifts in high school and I haven't bothered to go back to them now. You've further convinced me I don't need them. I agree that it's always squats that cause injury. I always thought it was because I have a very weird wal…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 06:04 AM
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Bulgarian split squats. And I used a very light weight. At some point I just pulled something and for the rest of the workout my lower butt felt tight and sore. 😭 I couldn't even use the treadmill at the end I afraid to make things worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 05:59 AM
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Interesting take. I agree with everything up until the religion paragraph. I actually gave up on religion because I could never take religious men seriously. I don't even sleep around but I know religious men who do. Including my ex. I told him I'd see him in hell. I don't think religion would make men act any better. It just places the burden on women and gives men an excuse to think they can be self righteous hypocrites.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 04:53 AM
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Makes sense. Thanks for the correction. And yes commitment-phobes are the worst especially when they lie on top of it. 😒
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 04:40 AM
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Some people think the best way to get over a break up is to physically engage with someone else. That mindset personally doesn't appeal to me and would make me feel empty inside but I can see that it helps some people get over their exes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 04:38 AM
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That sometimes a high body count does matter. I used to think my ex having a high body count meant nothing and that a high body count is meaningless.I learnt after breaking up with my ex that his high body count was due to a lack of sexual discipline and an inability to remain alone. It made me feel worthless and like a number to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 04:36 AM
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I think I just strained a glute muscle at the gym and I'm pissed. I'm literally only doing weight training so that I can prevent injury from running. It's not supposed to cause the injury! I am so upset. 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 04:34 AM
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Things I've recently discovered about myself (prepared to get down votes): I used to think body count for men and women didn't matter. I learnt my lesson, sexual discipline is very much a big deal. I don't know who once said it but someone here once said that women with high body counts are incapable of experiencing romantic relationships in the same way that women with lower body counts can and the reasoning was somewhere along the lines of not being able to experience as much pleasure after a …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 05:33 PM
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I'll speak from my own jaded experience I guess. I personally think this is true for most men. Most men where I'm from have cheated. Uncles, my father, my friends' boyfriends and even my ex monkey branched. A relationship with a guy feels meaningless knowing he kind of desires something else while with you and the second he finds it he'll just jump to get it. I'm at a point where I don't think most men can experience love in the way I want them to. I just think a lot of them stay in relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 05:11 PM
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You're not the only one who thought that. I probably come across as an incel. 😭 Someday I'll be positive again.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 02:24 PM
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Yep no regrets for him at all, in fact he told me he regrets nothing 😅 just him trying to leverage my attachment to him. He's always known how attached I was and still am to him which is why I always found it weird whenever he accused me of cheating. He always loved to say he loved how clingy I was. He loved that I considered him my best friend and was fine with me essentially dropping my friends for him. I've always been on stuck on him and he loved it and used it against me. Thankfully my prid…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 02:23 PM
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Thank you! I should have done it a long time ago but honestly better late than never. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 01:46 PM
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My depressed ugly self is boosting his ego when he bounced for a prettier non-depressed girl he's already showing off?? She should be enough of an ego boost. It makes no sense. I think he's just being unnecessarily cruel at this point. Let me go and study to not focus on this foolish man.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 01:42 PM
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I'll only have to see him in classes and avoid him everywhere else. And yes he is now blocked. 😌
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 01:29 PM
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Not him calling me saying he wanted to see me while I've been in bed the whole morning crying over him. 😭I had to say I'm going through some stuff. I hate that he heard me crying and he probably knows it's over him. How embarrassing. Last night I blocked him on WhatsApp though. He decided to show his background with the new girl in it and I was like I'm not about to do this to my mental health so blocked! What I don't get is if he's moving forward with this lovely new girl why he is still contac…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 01:27 PM
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No this is my first breakup so I'm just trying to see how to navigate it. 😅But I'm not going to therapy it's too expensive. I'll be my own therapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 10:51 PM
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Ya I'd love to make more friends and go out more. It doesn't come naturally to me but I can work on it. I'm just a bit awkward and closed off. My ex was my best friend and for a long time in fact my only friend so I just need to get back out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 10:51 PM
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No I get you. 😅Getting hot was the goal but attaching fitness to getting hot I just led to me having lower self esteem so I just treat it as a goal to get fit instead. Congrats though on maintaining fitness as a priority for a long time. I wish to be like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 10:49 PM
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Oh it's good to see you're still here and wise. How are you? I'll keep going indeed. For my own sanity. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 05:52 PM
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Good suggestion. I don't really think I can become hot but I can get fit. and fitness is a good hobby for long term mental health anyways. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 05:51 PM
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<image> I read your comment and instantly got up to run since I told myself I'd commit to that and I procrastinated running this week. 😅 I did think about my ex on the run and weird made up scenarios though so I don't know if that's a good thing. But, I was crying before and at least now the crying has stopped so good technique. I'll put this down here to try and remember for next time. I've been crying for the last two months and it bothers me because it keeps happening in classes as well. Cryi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 05:50 PM
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Ya they generally have smaller audiences which sucks. But even the big ones I'm surprised that they're not there. But the subs I want to frequent are depressing so I can see how a daily thread might not be beneficial for most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 04:43 PM
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You sound just like my friend.😅 This feeling is genuinely the worst. And the truth doesn't get better no matter how many times you hear it. Non-linear healing sounds awful. But I guess we have to become stronger? I hope so. Everybody says I'll be better with experience. I'll just have to trust the process. Thank you. 💕
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 04:39 PM
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I never see them 😭 like I can never find them on the subs I want to be active in. But I also use the internet like a grandma from the 50's so maybe I'm the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 04:34 PM
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This is insightful. Thank you so much for taking out the time to give such a kind and sincere response. I'm in a place of a lot of self doubt and self loathing currently but I really hope I get where you are today.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 04:30 PM
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I can't tell if you're being sarcastic or not. But if you're serious. I have friends but I don't really like crying to them because it feels overly repetitive. Like I do vent to them but I don't want to cross boundaries yk. Nobody wants to constantly hear the same thing and I've been crying for like 2 months now. I've never gone out to a bar or anything. I don't really have a social life in that way. I just sit in my room, study or gym a bit. Nothing else really goes in my life. I'm a very borin…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 04:28 PM
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I'm working out. In the moment it feels good but I'm kind of chubby and I have an ugly body so I feel like it's low-key making the self esteem worse. 😅but it definitely helps clear the mind in the moment it just doesn't do much afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 04:23 PM
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Gym??
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 03:45 PM
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Apparently sad rants aren't allowed here either and I'm too poor for therapy😭😂. There's also something so embarrassing about needing therapy for a break up when the other person has moved on, like why can't I be like you?😭
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 03:44 PM
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People keep saying because it's my first heartbreak I'll not feel this way eventually but I've never had my self esteem so low. I feel like I genuinely did not need to have the feeling of love. The heartbreak is not worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 03:42 PM
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Why is this one of the only places with a daily thread? The only other place I know is too productive and encouraging for sad rants or they're centred around niche topics. Ugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 03:08 PM
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I'm jealous of incels. I wish no one had ever taken an interest in me to begin with. Relationship heartbreak is not worth it. I feel like killing myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 03:04 PM
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Which sucks. I'd give up my phone all over again to get away from social media but every time I do people get upset. 😭 I can't even delete WhatsApp peacefully because friends and family always complain. I don't even care that I'm being spied on but don't throw the worst bits back in my face so blatantly but I guess companies don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 02:47 AM
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Ya. I guess I'm just annoyed because I intentionally made sure not to seek out that content on Tik Tok because I didn't want painful reminders so all I can think is it had to look through my other apps. But maybe I slipped up.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 02:44 AM
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https://vt.tiktok.com/ZSDqTvxUC/ I keep getting tik toks like the above that relate too closely to my situation despite not seeking them out. Can other apps read your WhatsApp messages and Reddit posts? That's the only place it could get that info. It actually feels very invasive. 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 02:40 AM
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Like a week after being together for a few years...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 08:15 PM
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I felt this two weeks ago but now I feel like the differences between women and men in my opinion can be explained. Just the way my ex and I are dealing with our breakup is damn near confusing to me but I think it's what makes men different from women and there are tangible reasons to it. I genuinely don't think one group is more shallow than the other though we just operate differently and unfortunately the effects on the other group might feel unfair.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 06:34 PM
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In my experience this mentality isn't only with men though. My female friends are also like this and I'm kind of jealous. They attribute this trait to experience though.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 06:27 PM
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Is there no longer a looks weekly thread?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 05:49 PM
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Valid. 😌Your personality and looks is something he can't replicate though and that's why he still wants you back. (Sorry you had to block him though).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 05:25 PM
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I'm jealous of men then. Trying to accept it is what I'm trying to do but it proves to be difficult in practice. I have my good days though. This isn't one of them hence why I'm here asking. 😅But thanks for the insight.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 05:17 PM
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Ya I commented below that an attractive woman may experience life differently. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 05:15 PM
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Valid. 😅You seem to have very high self esteem. That's good. (Genuinely)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 05:13 PM
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Makes sense. I believe it's like that too. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 05:09 PM
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You must be attractive then. Men leave unattractive women with ease I guess. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 05:07 PM
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That tracks.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 05:06 PM
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How do men get over women quickly?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 05:03 PM
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