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What do you mean make something of himself? Most average dudes will have a house and a stable job at that age. What’s the bare minimum of accomplishment you have wanted them to manifest?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 07:26 AM
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https://preview.redd.it/ae1jf7be5s0f1.jpeg?width=1284&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=aa84b488e7c7b281ec16c39d348f4dca6af72976
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 05:10 PM
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Are there a lot of bots in ppd?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 06:25 PM
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Men are typically more direct, we do not dance around communication like women 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 09:48 PM
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Thank you for clarifying. I was just curious.🧐
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 03:59 PM
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Can you describe your symptoms of ASPD?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 03:11 PM
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Maybe they’re drawn to the personalities that are more likely to be a Wade Wilson type
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 03:05 PM
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“This isn’t my reality” plus your downvote says to me you were going to explain why you disagree. Instead, you made me read an entire paragraph unrelated to anything I just said.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 02:02 PM
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I don’t understand how that negates what I said
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:58 PM
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Isn’t it so easy to tell them apart though? The ones with a huge ego are the loudest, always show-offy, always the stereotypical example of what they are trying to personify. A person who is real is going to appear pretty average, not talking about looks, but in career, hobbies, cleanliness, etc. Yet, people always want the above average, so they buy into manipulation. Idk just my view
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 08:20 AM
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Could it be that the gender wars are finally a fading trend?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 03:04 AM
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But I think I’ll go ahead and join the weekly runners next Thursday and continue my venture
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 02:20 AM
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That’s the second time this year I was caught up in convo and forgot to pay for my food
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 02:05 AM
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Well the 5k went good. Finished in 35 mins! Even started talking to a guy at the end who seemed really cool and chill, actually he started talking to me! Except I was so anxious and distracted that I forgot to pay for food in line I just grabbed it and didn’t realize until after I started eating. I went up and immediately paid but the guy clearly noticed and was weirded out because he kinda didn’t seem to want to continue talking after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 02:05 AM
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Yes boss ✌️
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 09:30 PM
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I already had a couple cups don’t wanna do too much especially since my heart will be racing at the run
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 09:15 PM
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I know, i just had a stressful day/last two weeks with car and water heater issues and it kept me up last night. As long as I can do the 5k I’ll be happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 09:15 PM
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I have a 5k in like 4 and a half hours, and I only got 5 hours of sleep last night and can’t nap right now. I feel alright right now. Think I’ll be alright?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:42 PM
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You’re married? According to your controversial threads in weddingplanning , you’re getting married in November.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 04:48 PM
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I’ve seen her around, she’s pretty much the embodiment of “misery loves company”.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 04:41 PM
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Dunno man. A car under $10k here is probably going to start having problems in the next couple years
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:45 AM
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I know two passport bros in person (neither call themselves passport bro). One is 35 one is like in his 50s. The guy in his 50s got scammed pretty much, and the guy who is 35 I just met him and I think he’s only been with his wife a short while so I can’t say anything. I don’t know. The passport bro thing to me just reeks of desperation. You’re really going to put money towards that when you could be using it to build your life?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:19 AM
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This is not good advice
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:04 AM
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It’s womp womp for me daddy
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:03 AM
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Congratulations on the build bro! Exercise is great for the body mind and soul. What’s your split? Cool on the skincare. I try to put on sunscreen every time I’m going to be outside for more than an hour, but that’s about it. I wish I had the motivation to do better, but my theory is a little is better than none. Can I advise against the tan though? Tanning is undoing everything you’re doing for your skincare. You really want a chance with that girl man? Just go up and start a conversation with …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 04:01 AM
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I had a couple shots of crown apple when I went to pick up the bar food because I was like “why not?” and took a couple hits of weed when I got home. Feeling nice. A long day in some random parking lot for 5 hours waiting for the tow truck and finding a place to tow it to. Gotta get a new transmission in it. It will be $3000 out of my savings. But I guess that’s what we have savings for. I am grateful to have my dad who is letting me borrow his vehicle right now. I guess this could’ve been so mu…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 03:54 AM
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I had limerence with an old coworker. Her name and face come to mind now and again, but after a couple years of rarely seeing her I don’t get butterflies anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 03:24 AM
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What if I honk my number in Morse code?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 02:36 AM
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Man, I know it. This is how I felt at the car dealership today. This is why i get my phones from Walmart, usually a generation or two older than the new one
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 02:33 AM
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Is it socially acceptable to approach a woman at a red light? If you see a hottie in the car behind you, can you get out of your car and ask her number?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 02:28 AM
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Yeah, true. I have a metal roof on mine thankfully, but if I stay for 30 years it might need replacing. Floors, I haven’t had to do at least yet. Though my water heater gave me a scare, but it was only the elements that needed replaced.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 02:11 AM
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Vehicles suck. Wish I could just buy a car and don’t ever have to worry about things going wrong with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 12:53 AM
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AskMenOver30 is probably the least gender biased sub I’ve been on, if that helps. Not the regular askmen or askmenadvice those are both full of manosphere shit
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 12:44 AM
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Can you give more details on the approaching more part? When would you find it safe to approach? How would you go about the approach?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 02:33 PM
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All in all, dating is luck and there is no strategy. Right time right place is all it is. You have to put yourself into situations where it is more likely to happen if you want it to happen. I believe you could learn to enjoy occasional outings if you found something you’re interested in, even if it seems like it isn’t up your alley right now. That’s all I have to say. Take care
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 06:01 AM
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Coming from someone who has had severe social anxiety and has some remnants of it to this day, the only real way to get over it is to figure out what you’re anxious about (rejection, what people think of you, how people will treat you, whatever) and put yourself into social situations and learn to accept when it inevitably happens. Awkward moments are unavoidable for everyone, and they’ll especially come more frequently when you’re socially inexperienced. But you do get better the more you do it…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 05:26 AM
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I diagnose you with dying. For your bill, please just pay me by leaving everything you own to me in your Will.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 05:01 AM
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Honestly I have been thinking the same exact thing you’re saying in these comments. I read a post that I will link here after I comment and it kinda put it into perspective for me. Basically, you’ve just gotta learn to enjoy it. You aren’t going to really make friends with strangers at the gym, coffee shops, on the street, etc because a lot of people are there doing their thing. While some might be open to friendship, others aren’t, and while it doesn’t hurt to start small talk and be friendly i…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 04:54 AM
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Of course it’s the Asian dude and the nerd at both ends
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 05:35 AM
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Yeah. My ex broke up with me. How was I supposed to know I couldn’t change him?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 04:18 AM
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-puts hands on hips- Well excuuuuse me!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 04:10 AM
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Let’s put it this way: if there’s a lot of single mothers because they picked bad men, that only means she picked a bad man that was in her dating pool. But we know that there are better men out there. So if the man was toxic, she fell for it and chose bad. I have to clarify I don’t believe this entirely, but it does happen sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 02:29 AM
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I would think it leans more towards the correlation of “bad boy traits are more interesting to girls” than the “they are all going after chad”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 02:16 AM
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I have nothing against single moms myself, I was just expressing that idea. Like you explained, it would be very easy to see it that way, but that doesn’t mean the single mom doesn’t deserve to be happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 02:14 AM
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I haven’t seen anything in Iowa
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 02:06 AM
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Yeah don’t do this man lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 02:04 AM
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I think the bitterness comes because the manosphere says it confirms that women pick the bad men
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 01:56 AM
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I was thinking about celebrating earth day going on a hike or something. But I don’t got much time today. My water heater needs fixed, gotta do my gym and food routine, gotta vacuum and do laundry, and it’s Tuesday, my dedicated writing day of the week where I go to a cafe to write. So… not much time. Maybe I’ll have time to walk around town at the end of the day, but not hiking. Tomorrow I have to take my car to get looked at, on top of my daily food/gym routine. But I also want to see a movie …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 04:32 PM
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Sounds like he wasn’t having the best day
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 03:27 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 03:22 PM
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So you get two cows?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 03:21 PM
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Do you not believe average-attractive people could be a virgin later in life? Let’s assume they had low self esteem throughout their life until their mid twenties, and, in their late twenties, actually earned their confidence and self esteem? But they live in a rural area, networking is hard there, especially in post-covid years. Cherry on top, they do seem to catch a woman’s interest once or twice a year, but not enough yet to come across an option that they reciprocate the interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 02:30 PM
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It’s not about the individual themselves, it’s in discussions like these, and the overall stigma around “virgin”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 02:21 PM
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What if someone is still a virgin late in life but they have a woman interested in them once or twice a year?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 02:20 PM
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I’m the master of baits
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 05:03 AM
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For me it was for finances, I figured having a fixed mortgage would be preferable to having a fluctuating rent. And I was right
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 05:03 AM
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I’m not one of the guys that thinks being average means no hot chicks, but I suspect being funny and extroverted is a big one. I want to be proven wrong on that one. Oh, Lordy, tell me hot chicks can dig the cringe dudes like me!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 05:01 AM
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Honestly it was just that he looked really good in that first pic. But now I see it. Do you happen to know what his personality is like?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 04:48 AM
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It definitely looks like the guy puts more work into himself. And he is above average
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 03:28 AM
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Makes sense to me. Honestly, the first rule of dating apps is you gotta dig through a lot of incompatibles first. Be yourself, I think you’ll find your match. Personally, I’ve given up on dating apps and am hoping to meet a partner through social activities.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 02:17 AM
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Not gonna lie, he sounds kinda like a dick. I mean, was the wood cutting board you broke worth $150? Sounds like he coaxed you into buying him the expensive one.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 02:01 AM
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Myself, I’m a conversation guy. Ask me about the books or weekends. Tell jokes if you got them. Don’t worry about being serious if you don’t. But I’d like to move away from the texting asap, because in person conversation and hanging out is just all around better.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 01:54 AM
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Oh man, i have a habit of that too. I gotta stop!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 11:49 PM
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I want to be buried alive in that
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 08:49 PM
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Woah, congrats man! Please give me your autograph
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 08:48 PM
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The baby
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 08:47 PM
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I’ll be sure to get my MPPDGA hat out
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 08:47 PM
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Me: Acts cold and cool and like I’m not worried about dating, they’ll think I’m above the social norms The ladies: That dude must be gay
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 08:44 PM
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Only if he’s making eye contact with you while he licks the rim
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 06:02 PM
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I literally read through that comment five times. I’m just asking what relevance does this have? It’s not like all women hate non-players
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 04:47 PM
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Why does it matter that players exist?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 04:36 PM
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Yeah, they’re called players. What’s your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 04:21 PM
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So what you’re saying is, all women like the same thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 03:37 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 03:33 PM
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I don’t think Obama was a narcissist
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 02:01 PM
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I agree, most people who go out of their way to be “masculine” give me the same vibe you get from Reddit “alpha” folks. Strong identity attachment to these nuanced things is just screaming they have a nasty case of ego.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 02:01 PM
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You act like having sex is some magic thing that changes your entire personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 01:56 PM
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You don’t have to hide it. I wouldn’t bring it up, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 05:47 AM
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What trait is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 05:36 AM
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Parents and siblings came over to my house for Easter. We’re not religious either, but celebrate Christian holidays. I went to the gym and then celebrated 4/20 at the end of the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 03:45 AM
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What color is your hair?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 03:15 AM
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I had a really good day too
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 02:59 AM
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We will have to contact the head of Women Culture to know for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 02:53 AM
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What made it a good day?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 02:52 AM
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It reminds me of how my sister and I would argue about being the favorite when we were kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 02:47 AM
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Happy Easter! And 4/20, if you’re into that!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 02:45 AM
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I just have a fictional world i want to share with the world
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 12:58 AM
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Is it unwise to post your face here?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 12:11 AM
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We all know what happened to his ex. He ate her.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 12:07 AM
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I’m the last year in the 19s that has an age starting with 2. Please help, what do I do?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 12:05 AM
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Not necessarily conquer the world, but more like a well-known author.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 12:01 AM
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There’s something abnormal about everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 11:55 PM
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Are you going after psychics? What they probably notice is you seem unconfident in the way you carry yourself. It has nothing to do with being a virgin. You’re not wrong, i remember when i was in high school, class of 2015, girls were using the word virgin like some kind of undateable outcast, but they can’t magically sense if you’re a virgin. Get some confidence—exercise it’s good for the mental health, socialize with people who don’t seem like assholes—you’ll meet ladies, ladies who’ll want to…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 11:52 PM
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Nah he looked like Jack Black if Jack Black was a LVM
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 10:36 PM
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Yeah lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 10:28 PM
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I saw some dude masturbating in the back of the theater at the Minecraft movie the other day
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 10:13 PM
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Bobs burgers
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 10:12 PM
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Jerry Seinfeld the Immortal
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 10:10 PM
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Yeah, why would I buy shit? I make my own for free
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 07:30 PM
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I will send you a pick. Unsolicited. Actually, I’ll just post it at the top of the thread
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 07:24 PM
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12 inches bb
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 07:19 PM
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That’s awesome dude. I have friends that let their kids play on the phone CONSTANTLY and then friends and my sister who only lets them occasionally. I think there is going to be a largely drastic difference between the two types of kids as they get older. Bigger than any inter-generational gap we’ve ever seen before. Their behavior and lifestyle will be so different, they’ll almost be like Morlocks and Eloi
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 07:15 PM
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That’s small
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 07:13 PM
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Hey, just found one at the top of this page for ya
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 07:13 PM
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Just a high (19.5) BMI girl, living in a lonely world. She took the midnight train going an-y-where
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 07:09 PM
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It’s more likely to find someone to pretend to be all of those things, than someone who can equally balance all of them. Which is why women often claim that men are master manipulators.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 07:07 PM
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Yeah, I think it’s just the way the culture is now. I suspect it will change, since culture always shifts its practices of sex, and there’s no reason to think it’d stay the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 06:53 PM
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I’m gonna go against the doomer grain here and suggest that later generations, like the middle or tail end of Alpha will be more sex positive and less uptight as the current generation. Gen Z incels and femcels will become an echo of the past, many will off themselves as they grow older, others will just become bitter, but some will actually change themselves and mature.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 03:14 PM
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Well it’s a good thing it didn’t happen then
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 04:52 AM
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It’s an Easter 4/20
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 04:38 AM
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When you come up with these ego boost stories, do you actually believe they’re true or do you just think other people are dumb enough to believe them?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 04:32 AM
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You can still view deleted threads through links
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 12:46 AM
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What thread was it? Could you link it?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 12:38 AM
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Do cool paintings and poetry come with it? And jousting?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 12:37 AM
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What do you mean by higher level of social aptitude? I am about to try going out to bars and clubs.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 12:34 AM
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Doesn’t that prove the OP’s point? As a guy, I agree it’s hard to find genuinely empathetic friends. But as an empathetic person myself, genuine empathy for friends certainly does exist and checking in on friends’ wellbeing from time to time isn’t disingenuous .
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 06:59 PM
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What makes you assume that? Do you think people don’t have empathy for their friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 06:23 PM
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Checking in on a friend/partner’s mental health is a brief overlook/understanding. Not a deep therapeutic level project. There’s shit I talk about with a therapist, and then there’s shit I’d tell a friend or a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 05:47 PM
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It’s hard to be a non-drinker in a world where drinking is popular. Even swapping vices, like another commenter suggested toking instead of drinking, doesn’t accommodate for the social disconnect there. So now if I’m at a bar or a club I’ll have one drink per hour and down a glass of water after every drink or two.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 03:24 AM
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I think the best thing a man can do is put himself into those situations, where he will occasionally come across women regularly. You don’t have to date anyone who you’re not interested in, but you’ll have a better chance of meeting someone you’re interested in. I don’t know. I’m single as fuck so maybe my advice is stupid. But, dating apps are a waste of time in my experience and really aren’t worth the trouble. You think a good looking woman would pick your profile, have a prolonged conversati…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 07:25 PM
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Are you pretty close with some of these male friends from the hobbies and sports? Has the topic of dating ever come up when you hang out? Do they know you’re single and looking? It puts you into the right position. Women don’t like being hit on at the gym, right, but that doesn’t mean you won’t bump into any and have a conversation. Leave the headphones at home, smile when you make eye contact, make small talk if they look open and not busy. I mean, this isn’t going to guarantee anything, but ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 06:48 PM
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Always nice to have a song that validates me 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 06:06 PM
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Any hobby groups in your location, or social activities? Sports? Maybe go to a pub, even if you don’t drink. Even just going about your day to day life in public places could increase likelihood - it is always possible to meet friends at the gym or, if you do any work in a cafe you might eventually start talking to regulars. Become a regular face to your locals.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 06:02 PM
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That’s real
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 06:00 PM
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That’s a pretty big thing for a lot of guys in this generation, because of the gender wars rhetoric being as loud and expansive as it is. Put everything you learned online out of your head, about women being afraid of men approaching, etc. there’s obviously some truth to it, but it’s highly exaggerated and varies from woman to woman. There’s nothing wrong with making small talk with people man. Don’t let it get you down when people aren’t as reciprocative of your small talk, some people just are…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 05:59 PM
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I pity anyone who uses Dating Apps. I’d rather not meet anyone. You have to go through so many toxic people and annoying situations, and most of the time there is no pay off.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 05:52 PM
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Good to hear. I’m an idiot with vehicle maintenance and, repairs? Let someone else do it, less time out of my day and less chance of things getting messed up. My car recently took a shit, so I’m pretty much just taking my anger out here.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 05:38 PM
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Q4W: Would it be a red flag if your guy doesn’t know shit about vehicles? Like he knows how to check a dipstick and fill up the tires, but if you point to a random thing under the hood he couldn’t tell you what it’s called or what it does.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 05:16 PM
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Well, if someone finds you unattractive then that's just what it is. Basically, you can try to to get to know anyone, but you can't control if they want to get to know you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 02:58 AM
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That is why I say tread lightly, it helps weed out the ones who aren’t interested to prevent the awkward moments
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 02:11 AM
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Possibly an awkward moment. But that’s why you tread lightly at first so you can roll it off without awkwardness, if the vibes don’t mesh.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 01:28 AM
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More sociable people in general are just nicer
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 04:32 PM
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How’s it going these days?
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/25 04:08 PM
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Pink Pony Club
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:57 AM
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Please reread my comment
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:10 AM
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I’ve gotta be honest. It’s incredibly weird to me that that’s all you said, “she’s an awesome person, hope she’s doing well” and that’s the reason the girl didn’t want to continue. You either minimized what you actually said, she had another reason for not wanting to continue dating but she used that as a convenient excuse, or she is incredibly insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 11:47 PM
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None
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 03:30 PM
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It's also right about detachment
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 11:46 AM
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She selected Hard Mode for life
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 11:45 AM
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One thing that is undoubtedly consistent is that bitter people are unhappy in their own lives, so the pattern you're seeing probably does mean something. Not that autistic people can't be happy in their own lives, just that some aren't and take it out on others.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 10:43 AM
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What’s AFBB again? Alphas Fuck Betas Bitch?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 02:23 PM
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Thanks :)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 12:23 AM
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Can a guy that isn’t very funny have a chance at being successful with women? I feel like my boring straightforwardness is what limits me. I am always very literal. I’m working on being funnier, but at 29 years old I feel sort of sol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 12:15 AM
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Nah lol. If my friends and I touch hands we make sure to say no homo 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 12:16 AM
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You don’t have to be angry to use a rage room, just gotta have money.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 12:12 AM
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Not very straight then
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 12:08 AM
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Date his date’s mom
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 12:03 AM
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I recommend you try one of those rage rooms
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 12:02 AM
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I ask every woman I meet these same three questions. Grocery store clerks don’t like me much, probably because they know it’s true.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 11:59 PM
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What did you sing?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 04:02 AM
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It’s how you become Spiderman
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 04:01 AM
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Well said, and the same for men. Spoken like a true high value person! (Those who put effort into themselves are high value)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 03:57 AM
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Yep. I’m hopeful to make friends/meet a partner eventually by regularly going to the gym and nearby coffee shops, and going for walks. Not that they’re the best places to cold approach, but I feel like I might see a familiar face and start a conversation, or they might recognize me and start a conversation as well. I’m stuck in a very rural area, I like it here, but there are not much in the way of events and no sports teams for adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 03:33 AM
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Myself i would think 1-2 nights a week, maybe a 3rd, we spend some time together. But usually once during the week and once during the weekend. And we take turns picking what to do: go see a movie, movie at home, go have some drinks, have coffee, dine out, go for a walk, or just stay at home, etc. I also want to take turns driving so we both have a turn to look out the window.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 03:28 AM
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What do you want people, who do want an ltr but have trouble finding one, to do about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 07:04 PM
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Also, with exactly how uncommon that type of man is, I think it’s more likely to pull a person pretending to be all of that than it is to pull someone who is all that. All of those are fair traits to desire, but it’s unlikely someone is able to do the splits covering all of those to a high degree
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 02:27 PM
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Don’t you think that men would also like to pull their ideal woman to have a ltr? How can it be different if we have the same goals?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 02:22 PM
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Just went to see the Minecraft movie!! Laughed a bunch
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 02:24 AM
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The dude is obsessed with food
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 07:52 PM
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Don’t show this to the “healthy bmi 19-25” guy that frequents these threads lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 07:36 PM
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I’ll take the clogged toilet over trying to wipe Willy Wonka’s chocolate river from my crack hole
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 05:01 PM
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Why should one put on such an exhausting mask to upkeep? That mask isn’t going to stay on forever, and if your girl finds you a bit boring later down the road, or less fantastic than the show you put on to get her, there’s a chance she will not accept the real you and move on. Yes, I agree, it’s important to not be a humorless stick in the mud. But one should be having fun for themselves, and hobbies for themselves. A lot of times, the “game” means fake being this amazing person who likes to ris…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 04:53 PM
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Pfff, victim blaming. How was she supposed to know she couldn’t change him?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 01:23 PM
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If she doesn’t say “here comes the airplane, vrooom” she isn’t wife material
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 01:12 PM
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Of course it’s worth it, you’ll find people talk about fucking when they’re in their 50s and 60s.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 06:26 AM
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Yep same, it’s just the sub for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 06:24 AM
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And if you don’t live near a large city?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 12:08 AM
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Well, well, how the turn tables Women don’t like to be the safe option either https://www.np.reddit.com/r/RandomThoughts/s/Aj64B8E9uW
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 10:49 PM
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It doesn’t bother me much, if I genuinely enjoyed the time we shared I’d like to show it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 10:45 PM
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How do you make your salmon?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 10:40 PM
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Agreed. It’s a traditional way of showing gratitude that she gave you her time to spend with you. I would even consider paying for a friend (if they otherwise weren’t going to go because they didn’t want to spend the money). I would insist on paying for a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 10:38 PM
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And everyone clapped. This story sounds completely made up by a femcel, for the femcel audience which is that sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 10:34 PM
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Ah ok, but would you say cold approaching isn’t such a bad strategy if you don’t have a wide enough social circle to meet someone that way? Maybe at a coffee shop? Or just via meeting people at the bar, not necessarily directly the girl herself
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 04:17 AM
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It’s hilarious to open up a thread called something like, “Men care about body count because they’re jealous” Or “Men should stop lying about having low standards” or “CMV: There’s no good reason for men not to cold approach” - something that sounds like a little bitty argument you’d have at a campfire when most of the party has passed out drunk and there’s just three of you left at 4am. Then you speed scroll down it, and you see charts and lines and lines of blue link sources, and long chains o…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 04:00 AM
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Can you define warm approach? I believe I’ve always been interpreting “cold approach” as “start things lightly, get to know them through conversation, then ask to meet again” but maybe that’s warm approach. If people this whole time have suggested cold approach as “go up and flirt with her” then I really don’t believe it, who would think that’s a good idea?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 03:57 AM
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Who gets the ick from directness and communication and the tingles from flirtation/wit again?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 03:49 AM
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Most of the people you’re talking about rarely interact with women
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 01:45 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:11 PM
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“So, what did you do this week?” “Oh I went on a couple other first dates”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:11 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 05:33 PM
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Have any supplemants helped with anxiety in particular?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 05:26 AM
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Peace be with you man. You sound like a reasonable person, just caught up in some struggle. Everything is temporary, the good and the bad. You’ll have better days and that’s what to get through the bad ones for.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:33 AM
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Did you edit your response? I could’ve swore it said “it’s not due to his dignity” the first go around.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 11:16 PM
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Why do i feel like you’re a woman behind the guise of a western male avatar?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 05:51 PM
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Where are you getting your statistics? What I found was around 5% are virgins after 25, sure it’s still a low number. That doesn’t mean something is wrong with their person, again, going off all of the discourse of how picky women tend to be, as well as other factors such as the men is supposed to approach, etc. Especially when someone can be a virgin and still have some women interested in him, but not women that he is interested in, or else he is too shy to approach himself and nothing ever ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 03:38 PM
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Reread my very first comment: Considering all of these answers here that just go to show how picky most women are, on top of previous threads that show that women give reasons for not approaching men themselves and that the onus should be on men to approach, why is it assumed “something is wrong” with a man if they are a virgin later in life? Why is it so surprising a completely normal dude could just have not ran into the opportunity?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 02:52 PM
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You cannot say that’s the only “something is wrong with him” part, when you read about how most people speak of virgins in this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 04:54 AM
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I think men might ironically be better with online connections than women, while women are better with in person connections. I could be wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 04:22 AM
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Can someone link the N count thread? I can’t find it
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 04:21 AM
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I should clarify I don’t have a problem with women being picky, I’m a bit picky myself and I don’t blame anyone for being picky, especially if they hold themselves to high standards. I’m just saying, this thread is one of many proofs that it’s just a fact that women are picky.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 04:16 AM
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Considering all of these answers here that just go to show how picky most women are, on top of previous threads that show that women give reasons for not approaching men themselves and that the onus should be on men to approach, why is it assumed “something is wrong” with a man if they are a virgin later in life? Why is it so surprising a completely normal dude could just have not ran into the opportunity?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 03:58 AM
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My jaw literally dropped when I read your tag, before I realized….
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 04:53 PM
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No Ma’am. I’m just speaking from experience. To have a good friend you need to let them know when they’re doing things you don’t like. A partner works the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 03:05 PM
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You’ll never have a healthy, consistent relationship if you ghost people out of fear of expressing boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 02:59 PM
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Would you walk out on a year long boyfriend if you found something you disliked about him, without first having a one-on-one with him about the issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 02:48 PM
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I have a doctors appointment today. I might tell them I have been having a super serious symptom, then say April fools
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 02:45 PM
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I’m 29 :(
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 03:11 AM
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Ah, I see what you’re saying. Thanks for the tip. I’ll think of it that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 01:38 AM
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I just know that I need to expand my friend group so, I’d like to develop the skill. I also would like to meet a partner some day, and between my current social group and OLD it’s not looking great, so expanding friend groups or meeting women I don’t know are really my best options.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 01:30 AM
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Has anyone gotten over social anxiety later in life? Mine isn’t severe, I still go out and can talk just fine to people I’m close with. It’s just when I don’t know someone I am pretty awkward. I was at the gym and a couple dudes wanted to share bench press with me. It went fine and everything we exchanged names, but I felt terribly anxious inside and we didn’t really talk much outside of “what’s your name” and “how long have you been working out” and then basically asking what plates we were goi…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 01:13 AM
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Become more consistent with daily walks/gym routine Camping, kayaking, hiking, more coffee shops, go to bars in the city occasionally, more campfires in my backyard Spend more time with family Finally finish my book I’ve spent 4 years on and off with! Oh yeah, and hopefully get laid I have a busy summer
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 01:55 PM
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What’s NSA sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 12:53 PM
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Someone needs therapy just because they didn’t date in school? Get off your high horse, pal, having sex and relationships doesn’t make you something special above people who haven’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 12:43 AM
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Only know you need to poop after Taco Bell
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 01:34 AM
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Bliss before bed
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 01:33 AM
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The ghosts are waking you up
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 02:27 AM
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As someone who’s dabbled a little bit in Left Hand Path faiths, it doesn’t even sound occult-ish. It sounds pop culture-ish.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 02:27 AM
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5000 calories let’s go!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 01:50 AM
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That isn’t normal to talk about during sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 01:43 AM
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I’m 30 BMI but my partner shall be 10 BMI less than me
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 01:41 AM
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I’m so sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 01:39 AM
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Keep doing math daily. Multiplication, remember divisibles.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 12:42 AM
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Ever since I’ve started journaling what I did each day since mid-January, I’ve been increasingly productive and organized! Eating healthy, consistently exercising, important chores get done on time, less important chores get done eventually. I’m getting way better. I did miss out on writing this week, my goal is to set one day a week where I edit 1 or 2 chapters and that’s my goal for the week. I also need to put more time into socializing, which I plan on doing one day a week - going to see a f…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 02:35 AM
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You’re acting like an ass assuming I don’t have hobbies. I go to the gym, go for daily hour walks, occasionally go hiking or kayaking, camp a couple times a year, and I write fiction in my free time. Full time job on top of it. So yeah, I have hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 01:32 AM
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Roaches in my couch, bedbugs in my bed, flies in my fridge
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 11:35 PM
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When a pigeon shits on your forehead right as you walk into your 12 hour shift in the factory 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 11:35 PM
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Hey ladies and extrovert men, since yall seem to have a lot of friends, where did you meet them? Also, what are your top 5 friends like?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 10:51 PM
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Question: where did women meet these mutual friends? And where did these mutual friends meet these mutual friends? Is dating pretty much hopeless if you don’t have a large expansive friend group? I’m hoping to make more friends over time but, it’s hard out there. An actual good friendship is hard to come by especially when you’re almost 30
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 07:59 PM
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Oh no, he didn’t take the hint 🫣
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:20 PM
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But you did fine. Yeah rejecting sucks for both parties. It’s good to be nice about it like you did
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:06 PM
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Myself, i wouldn’t give reasons, id just say “Im not trying to lead you on, but im not interested in being more than friends” or something like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:05 PM
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Cheers
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:02 PM
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I’m guessing the kid is the “quiet kid”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 03:48 PM
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Imagine you’re finally in bed with your 11/10 and every time you have sex they fart the absolute worst smelling fart you’ve ever smelled
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 03:16 AM
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Nahh. If it isn’t some guy complaining about how he can’t get none, everything else just seems casual to me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:51 AM
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My bad, ma’am.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:35 AM
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I only let myself get toasted on special occasions, so it would be a waste to fall asleep during it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:29 AM
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Smarter. I like learning new things. As long as they’re patient with me
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:28 AM
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He can reuse most of that stuff with a quick rinse after using it, especially cups and plates and bowls. Random question: i thought you are a dude? Are you gay? Not that im judging just wondering
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:27 AM
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I have to be happy for 5 minutes
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 09:06 PM
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I have to be happy for 45 minutes
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 09:06 PM
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That sounds easy, straightforward, and pleasant.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 08:58 PM
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Late bloomer. Maybe a huge crush developed and they started thinking about it more.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 07:11 PM
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I was just kidding. But yeah it is pretty laid back.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 05:59 PM
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Is that meant to be a stereotype? Not every factory worker is a fat gamer you know! Some of us are hicks that think the meaning of life is having the loudest truck on the block, some of us are 50 year olds who resolve their midlife crisis with more voluntary overtime hours, some of us even are high school drop outs who snort coke in the bathroom! Although, some of us are actually fairly normal and just appreciate the simple life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 05:36 PM
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Become sexy enough to brave your photos on PPD, that’s the ultimate goal
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 05:31 PM
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Any job or a job you want? Factory work is worked up to be unpleasant and backbone labor, but I’ve been in factory work since 2016 and ive always got paid fairly well, vacation days, mandated breaks, and insurance benefits. As well as 401k and at a couple of jobs, pensions
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 05:15 PM
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With makeup
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 05:12 PM
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You’re comparing a time in your life when people are naturally more horny/angsty - late teens/early twenties.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 05:08 PM
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I agree. As a virgin there will be many times when I just don’t think about sex, because it’s never been a part of my life. I imagine someone who has played the game, put some effort into being flirty/dating/and learning how to have decent sex probably thinks about it more, it’s a bigger piece of their life they’ve put more energy into.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 05:05 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 03:06 PM
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Play the dream where I’m Ryan Gosling
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 03:02 PM
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Close the sub, we have the answer
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 02:26 PM
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The approach is probably different for different women and also depends on who is approaching them. The whole thing doesn’t sound like something I’d do, using the word “gorgeous”, complimenting looks in general, or asking to take her to dinner being the first thing out of my mouth. Not me, but if that worked for that guy then god bless.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 02:24 PM
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https://youtube.com/shorts/6uis-_hJm3M?si=QwHigAeom4O-X6li How men think Tinder works To be fair, those kind of men do better around here in Iowa
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 04:38 AM
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Is that a sandwich with whipped cream in the middle
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 04:13 AM
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I’m just saying, I myself would probably assume someone more passive is safer than someone boisterous and look for red flags along the way. But like another commenter said, there needs to be a balance. Someone clearly simping is not mentally stable either, it shows obsession.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 03:47 AM
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I think this take is more commonly expressed as an assumption instead of an actual experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 03:03 AM
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I would guess a narcissist is more likely to boast their ego or be flashy, and it’s more often than not that’s the case. But I don’t disagree that a quiet person can be an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 03:01 AM
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In other words, hell yes
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 09:35 PM
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“oceanside, riverside, waterslide. Doesn’t matter to me babe, let’s get naked!”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 09:33 PM
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Are you saying they basically boiled themselves? 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 09:31 PM
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You’re skinny lad. Put on some weight my dude. And move around some weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 09:28 PM
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Fingers crossed
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 09:27 PM
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There are more strengths than social skills and wit.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 06:59 PM
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What’s with the desire to become above average in social skills? Is that something you really desire for yourself? You can’t be avoidant and expect to meet anyone, that’s a given. But you don’t need to be above average at it to make connections. Somebody you like can like you for other strengths that you have, if you have the social skills to meet them and hold a conversation with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 06:43 PM
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I disagree. People do make progress away from social anxiety later in life. You can easily find plenty of examples. It doesn’t have to be a person’s choice in order for it to not be genetic, or for it to not be engraved in a person’s being. Just like addiction isn’t a choice but it also isn’t engraved in someone’s DNA. (Well, ok, addiction has been proven to be genetic in some cases). There are ways around it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 06:16 PM
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Yeah, OP. If I was told to lower my standards because I’m reaching out of my league, I wouldn’t budge. I don’t think anyone would. I think we all have to have an idea of what’s right for us. A man who is reclusive and severely introverted shouldn’t expect a woman of high status. A woman who is severely overweight shouldn’t expect a man who goes to the gym daily. A man who is scrawny and a geek shouldn’t expect a gym girl either. A lot of it is about lifestyle similarities.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 06:14 PM
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The unfortunate thing is men that are passive, subservient and submissive are often overlooked by a lot of women. And are often called creeps if their social skills are stunted on top of it (and since a lot of people take advantage/avoid men like that, it isn’t unusual for their social skills to be stunted)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 06:08 PM
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Genuine question, since this seems to be a common experience from women I’ve heard on Reddit. How are men even able to manipulate women this way, especially unattractive men? I can’t say I’ve ever been manipulated by someone without me catching on. When things start getting uncomfortable, your boundaries being pushed, isn’t it natural to stop and think and push back?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 06:06 PM
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Well said, baby steps lead the way. The path to confidence requires perseverance and patience.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 05:59 PM
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What’s white pill?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 05:55 PM
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Confidence and charisma is genetic? I highly doubt that, it seems almost entirely nurture not nature. Unless we are talking about autism.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 05:54 PM
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A song for my friends who feel their confidence slip because of loneliness: https://youtu.be/hZnfbd_BGw8?si=awAV6MckFnrpmDU6
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 03:19 PM
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Should I go out to a bar tonight? Socialize a bit and try to meet new people?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 02:17 PM
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Yeah really lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 04:51 AM
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What’s it about and why did it make people mad?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 04:50 AM
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What did you do to improve your status?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 12:05 AM
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My skill set is writing, and I am working on a novel. It’s probably not promising but here’s to hoping. Cheers.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 12:05 AM
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How does one improve their social status?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 11:22 PM
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I think you’re right OP. And it’s entirely fair. I just don’t want to accept it because I have low social status 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 10:46 PM
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From what I’ve heard on here and out of the mouths of various other ladies, don’t most women like dominating/assertive men? So isn’t it more natural to attract the conservative men you mention that see women as children?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 04:18 PM
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There is no difference, it was a part of the same sentence
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 04:11 PM
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Thank you 🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 10:17 AM
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I do go to neighboring cities that have colleges, to hike and go to cafes to do some writing. That’s about it. They’re still around population 10-15k but bigger than my city. I’m hoping to start a nice chat with someone at a cafe some day, if I can come up with something meaningful to say. The other week I was at a cafe and an attractive lady sat nearby me when there were plenty of other places to sit. I shy’d out but maybe next time if in a similar situation I might just start small talk if she…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 09:48 AM
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Just had a shake with oats peanut butter and honey for breakfast, now I’m drinking my black Folgers coffee before work
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 09:36 AM
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I can see that working using dating apps, but I don’t use them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 09:04 AM
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Don’t laugh at me, don’t call me names 🎵
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 08:45 AM
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I wonder, are a lot of other guys on here from rural areas? Dating in rural areas is nonexistent. No meetup groups, no wide friend group unless you’re a part of “the” clique.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 08:41 AM
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I wasn’t talking about myself, just most men. And women. People in general. At least in their teens and twenties.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 06:57 AM
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He not like us He not like us
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 05:33 AM
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No more daily?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 05:03 AM
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You clearly don’t know men
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 05:00 AM
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It’s still much more successful in dating than humble confidence
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 04:53 AM
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Bro that was your last chance, you’ll never get one again. Nice going
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 03:04 AM
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If you have a desire to.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 03:02 AM
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Do you have to be flirty/teasing to succeed with attractive women? It’s just not something I care to put effort into. I have a sense of humor, but I need all conversation to be down to earth and straightforward, and humor here and there sprinkles in. Can’t do constant back and forth witty banter, not only do I not have the skill, it’s just not enjoyable as an actual conversation. This is how I talk to all of my friends and family, so it’s what’s natural to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:34 PM
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That sucks
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 03:18 AM
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I didn’t see anything woe is me in his comment, at least not his first comment, so that’s quite an assumption. Just because someone says theyre passive or shy you automatically assume woe is me? Why couldn’t they just be saying it as an explanation why they’re a virgin (if they were asked why)? Also, how does being passive or shy not have anything to do with dating? Most women prefer dominant and boisterous men, and shy men make less moves.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 03:17 AM
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Being passive or shy in dating so put more focus on other things throughout his life?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 03:12 AM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 03:06 AM
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I’ll accept it, but never speak to them again
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 03:06 AM
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I read that in Weird Al Yankavich’s voice
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 03:06 AM
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You know, i never really thought of it til now. But yeah, it is. And his last name is kind of gross. Who wants to be Musk?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 03:05 AM
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I went to jail when I was 22 for three days. It was for weed, first offense
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 03:03 AM
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I’m feeling so discouraged from trying to be normal 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 09:45 PM
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Uh, no? Lol I’m just going to delete the app again. I only re-downloaded last week.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 09:22 PM
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It seems like little difference. I probably would’ve gotten ghosted no matter how I started the small talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 09:20 PM
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Why is it weird?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 08:53 PM
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That’s why I don’t like dating apps, I’m used to meeting people via small talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 07:22 PM
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Thanks for the idea. It does make sense. It gets their attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 07:06 PM
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I don’t have a mean bone in my body, man
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 06:59 PM
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“What are you wearing?” could work
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 06:48 PM
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I’m not religious, in spite of my username 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 06:45 PM
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I once again got on dating apps, just to be reminded of why I stopped using them. I’d get a match with someone I liked and start the conversation, in this case it was “I see you’re also into healthy eating and nutrition, what are your favorite healthy meals? Also how has your week been?” — just to never get a response. This is how my experience in dating apps has always been. And it takes two months to get another match with someone interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 06:07 PM
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So it’s the paradox of choice that’s the issue for you. Eg, “there’s nothing to watch” because you’re subscribed to dozens of streaming services. Some shows catch your eye and you’d probably enjoy them and be glad you watched them, but you’d rather keep scrolling until you found a show that you think will be 10/10
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 07:15 AM
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The one arguing in bad faith is you, you’re the only one being rude in your responses. My argument is leading more towards the second one, about whether to put more effort into building a quality relationship vs putting more effort into a career or saving for a quality house. The only difference is I would say that since a partner is more valuable I would want to take MORE time finding that, because it is more valuable I’m searching for higher quality, but it’s a more central focus. There’s obvi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 07:12 AM
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A relationship is less permanent than a house or a job? Sure, if you’re materialistic. Are you saying you’d honestly prefer to live and entire life without feeling love or loving anyone than live a life without a dream home? What’s so funny about saying love is more valuable than a house?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 06:53 AM
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I responded to someone who made a similar point as your first two paragraphs: I guess you’d have to ask yourself why none of them are appealing. Is it the paradox of choice, where having more options means all options are less satisfying? Or are you really only coming across absolute bad choices? It seems delusional to believe that a woman would actually encounter so many men who would only use her for sex, if she was a true catch.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 06:44 AM
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I don’t want to speak for OP, but I believe he meant a quality house/job. Of course nobody wants to be homeless or jobless. But even still, if you’re homeless, if you have real love there’s still a very valuable, unwavering constant in your life. I would say it’s more valuable, but not as essential for living.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 06:42 AM
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I guess you’d have to ask yourself why none of them are appealing. Is it the paradox of choice, where having more options means all options are less satisfying? Or are you really only coming across absolute bad choices?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 06:38 AM
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I don’t see anything in the OP that indicates he can’t be happy alone. His point is entirely still valid, and you’re entirely correct that being happy alone is the primary thing even before being in a happy relationship. It doesn’t negate the OP at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 06:36 AM
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<image> From r/antimeme
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 01:52 AM
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What if I want to be dragged off to the feminazi gulag?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 12:46 AM
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Yesterday was out hiking in the nice 70 degree weather, today stuck inside because of a blizzard 🥶
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 12:41 AM
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I'm an edgedancer I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 12:20 AM
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Because some women lash out at online men bitter about being virgins, because of their own bitterness caused by some shitty men that are actively dating/fucking.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 12:09 AM
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He got caught when they brought the calves in
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 08:10 PM
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https://preview.redd.it/s3w48w9wvope1.jpeg?width=1224&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3705fbe38b764b6592bc7d742f5c881884ace054 Negative comments on my post
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 06:26 PM
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Having your own part of the woods with your own nature trails sounds not very minimalist or simple living like you said
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 05:32 PM
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What if my reason to befriending women is to become less uncomfortable around them? Is that still manipulative?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 05:05 PM
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Well if brain damage and anesthesia makes you unconscious, it’s very telling to me that brain death would be the lack of existence.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 04:52 PM
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Would owning a very nice but small house in a minimalist city of 10k people, enjoying simple walks, a basic gym, and occasional drives to the city - while making only $40k a year be financially secure in your eyes or not? Not stupidly spending and saving something every month Essentially the minimalist lifestyle?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 04:49 PM
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Accurate
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 02:54 AM
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Can you mods also see our lifespans?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 02:51 AM
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I don’t budget as much on the groceries because food is important to me. Needs to be healthy, filling, and taste good. But I just generally avoid buying anything with a big price tag except once in a while, and I’ve been managing that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 12:52 AM
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What’s yall salary without overtime? $40k here
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 12:21 AM
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I went to a coffee shop by myself, one out of town that I’ve only been to one other time. I did edited two chapters in my book so it was productive! But I was too shy to even look up at the ladies who sat down nearby me when there were plenty of other seats. I didn’t want to accidentally bother them with me merely looking at them. Damn I need to get over this shyness of women. I am fine around dudes. I’m 29. Maybe I should just be gay (just kidding)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 08:18 PM
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I also think many Redditors mistake social anxiety/awkwardness with autism.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 03:35 PM
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If you’ve been talking to someone for a week and have gotten to know a few things about each other, isn’t it borderline sociopathy to think “I don’t owe this person the basic respect of telling them it isn’t working out”?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 03:02 PM
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Anything is better than nothing. Myself I worry about my heart, but I only do 30k of walking throughout the week and 10 minutes of stationary bike before a workout (not extreme, bpm gets to 120-140. Like the heart is literally beating on its own every second, and has to do it for years. It’s crazy to think about.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 02:37 PM
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Did you get it all out, bud?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 02:29 PM
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Then you get plenty of cardio 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 02:03 PM
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Going for walks is twice as relaxing as taking a bath, and it is decent cardio
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 01:55 PM
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It literally does. I’ve seen someone punch a hole in a wall before. It depends on the type of wall though
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 01:53 PM
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The person who your wee wee points at is The One 100% of the time, flawlessly
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 01:45 PM
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It seems the common denominator here is being sociable
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 07:06 AM
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Tell the irs your dog ate it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 06:54 AM
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Dan for sure gets with ladies and maybe Chris hit or miss
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 06:49 AM
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All of them
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 03:38 AM
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Eloquent prose, you are a good typist, madam!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 02:00 AM
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Fellow weightlifters. You ever have days where you significantly lose reps in like all your exercises? Damn so defeating.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 01:38 AM
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Sorry that this happened, especially two days after your bday. But, if you look into all dating advice from older women, men don’t change. If they do it’s temporary. Believe who a person is by what they show.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 12:50 AM
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I would like to see what a guy would look like that looksmatch her
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 12:47 AM
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This is what makes me grateful that my kink is so uncommon I need to use my imagination most times
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 12:45 AM
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I work 12 hour days Friday-Sunday with a 20 minute commute each way. Mondays I’m usually burnt out. It’s 1pm just making breakfast. I feel like I’m just accepting that now, there’s going to be Mondays like this. At least I’m fairly productive otherwise throughout the rest of the week. I wonder if 4 10’s would be better or worse
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 05:51 PM
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Light Yagami beside that quote is kinda crazy considering his ending
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 04:40 PM
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Harry it’s not about how you are alike, but how you are not
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 02:31 AM
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Lmao. Did anyone else see the video of the news reporter accidentally shoving the microphone into Trump’s mouth? It was hilarious his reaction, and because of how much he talks about hating the media
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 02:49 AM
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Sorry bud, you’re wrong. By the pictures she is more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 01:25 AM
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I think high value men already do have the standards you speak of, except a lot of them also participate in a lot of casual sex, and some of them even deceive women with promises of a ltr to get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 01:12 AM
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Do it. If she says no, ask her if she’ll date me and link my profile
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 01:08 AM
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I’d say 1 3 2
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 01:04 AM
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I always say I’ll do better next time it happens, lol. I think I’ll nail it eventually
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 10:14 AM
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It’s not that I’ve never had women interested, and I still do occasionally. But all my chances have gone one of three ways: 1) They liked me but I didn’t like them that way. 2) They liked me that way but I was too shy to reciprocate. 3) I liked them that way but they didn’t like me that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 10:07 AM
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We just have the common neandernerd ancestor
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 12:50 AM
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Q4 the ladies: is a skinny (not overly scrawny) guy with glasses kinda a turnoff? Do you suspect him to be an incel/virgin at first glance? Especially if he is mildly shy or timid?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 12:46 AM
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That’s a relief. I’m banking on it never coming up.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 12:44 AM
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I agree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 07:05 PM
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What does virginity have to do with inexperience outside of sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 04:39 PM
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Is that even useful in a world where a lot of times women fake orgasms and desirable men exaggerate their ability?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 03:39 AM
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I mean, they’d probably find out right before the sex at the latest, which would make the whole thing uncomfortable, the guilt of being caught lying while you’re just about to get intimate. I mean, there’s really no way you can just pretend to know what you’re doing the first time and be successful at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 03:29 AM
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It’s not impossible for there to be both, but someone who doesn’t care about how they dress is more likely to not care about their cleanliness or being organized. It’s like dating jocks when you are looking for someone who prefers playing D&D over watching the NFL. Not impossible but it’s weird to look there. Not saying there’s anything wrong with it, just like there’s nothing wrong looking for needles in a haystack.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 08:52 PM
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Naw. I just want a best friend whose lifestyle goes hand in hand with my own, is emotionally compatible and I enjoy having sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 06:23 PM
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What if that work makes me hard?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 06:14 PM
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Grove Street, home.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 06:13 PM
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I thought about some hobbies I’d like to do socially. And I came up with: campground camping, hiking on trails, and clubbing occasionally. I was considering that I should go out and do those things on my own and just interact with people that I meet there and hope to make friends that way. Does this sound like a viable plan?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 06:13 PM
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Blocked
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 05:28 PM
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I think just about anyone asking for sympathy over first world problems like dating struggles or rich people problems is going to have to accept they’ll get some negative feedback from the group that have less than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 05:00 PM
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It’s verbatim what the jacked gay dude told me when he cornered me in the sauna
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 04:51 PM
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Yeah, that’s me. I made that video. Don’t touch my video games!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 04:46 PM
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Example?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 04:44 PM
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It’s ok until one of the men ask to sniff your baseball cap
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 03:08 PM
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I’ve been upvoting every one of her comments. Why hasn’t she reached out to meh?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 03:04 PM
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A lot of women on Reddit talk about how they’d like their man to help out more with chores around the house. There’s also the theme of wanting them to be college educated and being a hard worker. Being kind and loyal. Being good with money. Those are organized traits, it doesn’t have to be OCD level. But why seek those out in a rebellious type? It’s like finding a needle in a haystack.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 02:11 PM
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Fair enough
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 04:04 AM
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I have never seen TRP advocate for that. But from what I’ve seen there’s so many different variations of the red pill that maybe some believe in it and others don’t. I do think you’re right that TRP discourages beta traits though
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 03:52 AM
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What’s plate spinning?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 03:49 AM
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Yeah, but it doesn’t make you a bad person to make a move if you feel a little breeze, you know what I’m sayin? Shoot your shots
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 03:17 AM
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Sure, but isn’t it a bit contradictory to go after a stereotypical rebel type but also want someone organized?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 03:07 AM
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Q4A: what would you do if your cat had a crush on another cat but the other cat rejected your cat because it was short?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 12:18 AM
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Absolutely!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 05:08 PM
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I do write on the side. I aim to be a novelist, yeah. I should do it more.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 05:02 PM
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I’m unfortunately stuck in blue collar for life. I wish I could change professions for the simple reason that white collar people seem to be more my crowd. But I do not even have a high school diploma let alone money to afford college. Nor would I even know what I want to do, my only dream is becoming a writer.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 04:30 PM
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Everyone has their own way
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 02:38 PM
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Don’t spend time with people who don’t have acts of love as their language then
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 12:45 PM
1

And?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 12:44 PM
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Look at the comment above two above this one lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 12:42 PM
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Dorks make for interesting conversations.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 12:41 PM
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Aesthetics you really just need bench press, pull ups, squats. Calves and abs are bonus. Even more bonus to isolate the triceps and biceps. Training for health the more unnoticeable muscles are important as well: hip abductors, hip adductors, lower back, and a good hamstring focused exercise like leg curls.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 12:39 PM
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Usually A. Occasionally B
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 12:28 PM
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Just wondering, how did he begin the conversation? What kept it going?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 12:05 PM
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Ugh. Can I at least pull Stacey’s mom
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 05:01 AM
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Why is being normal boring? It would be tedious to play the flirty game for life. Except of course, maybe from time to time like on a date, before sex, or on an anniversary/valentines day, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 04:53 AM
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Do you really need “game”? Can’t you just find someone by being normal?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 04:34 AM
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Is Shrek a commentary on one of the popular discussions on this sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 02:06 AM
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So quiet on the sub today
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 01:08 AM
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My dog just pulls me while I struggle to reach the poop with my arm stretched out
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 10:33 PM
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He’s autistic
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 07:36 AM
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Maybe they would’ve seen it that way. You can be a creep for just saying good morning to some people.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 07:12 AM
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Timmy turner is god and fairy world is the afterlife. Touch me
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 05:59 AM
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Fuck them assholes. Go for your friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 05:56 AM
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You should’ve walked by and nodded. “Pretty weather today— I mean, nice weather today” If they laugh, wink. If they are weirded out act like it was a mistake
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 05:52 AM
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That’s a good question because I don’t really have one. I do already talk to people but I suppose to continue to talking to people. Maybe some day I will bump into someone who will be a friend. I’ll try going out to the city bars again here shortly every once in a while. The guy that did my taxes this year and I had a pretty engaging conversation and he practically was inviting me to hang out, explaining that he had a shooting range at his house and he’d have to invite me sometime. Then after th…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 09:06 PM
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I guess it’s a big priority because I hate the idea of growing old alone. At the same time I’m very introverted and usually enjoy my solitary activities except on the occasional times of day I feel lonely and worry about my future.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 08:47 PM
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This isn’t about my feelings, it’s about the important differentiation between incels and virgins. And yes, there is a stigma against virgins, there is no denying it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 05:09 PM
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Fine, let me rephrase the question: I can’t help but suspect that, by the way you talk about them, you seem to have some kind of negative view of involuntarily virgin men. Am I correct in that? Not to mention using “incel” as a synonym for involuntarily virgin. Because incel is used to describe a particular misogynistic group, its literal meaning has been lost to time. And I’m not projecting insecurities on anything, I’m just trying to correct the stigma against virgins. Even feminists seem to a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 04:21 PM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 02:59 PM
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I can’t help but suspect that, by the way you talk about them, you seem to have some kind of negative view of virgin men. Am I correct in that? Specifically “in a society that doesn’t need them”, “feel their lives don’t have a purpose unless it has labels”, and grouping them all together as a hive mind and calling them problematic. Not to mention using “incel” as a synonym for virgin
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 02:52 PM
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So you’re under the impression that virgin or unpartnered men are problematic? Why? Do you believe every virgin or unpartnered man is violent?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 02:34 PM
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The issue I’m having is you’re conflating simply being a virgin with being an incel
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 02:17 PM
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I was hoping to build on the hobbies I already have. I go for walks (i thought i might talk to someone on my walk), I write (thought I might visit cafes and maybe talk with people), I go to the gym (I thought I might talk to people there). Well, in none of those places do I talk to people because I feel like most people are minding their own business and I’m afraid of coming off as intruding. There are really only bars in my area, but it’s a small town bar scene. I’m considering going out to the…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 01:58 PM
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That’s not the same as the modern definition of incel
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 01:49 PM
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So, when are you two exchanging numbers?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 01:42 PM
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What definition of incel are you using
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 01:39 PM
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I’m a 29 year old dude who kind of got a bit behind socially in life. I’ve been picking myself up the last couple of years and have made progress. I’m at a point now where I know I need to push myself even further. I don’t know exactly what that means, but I know I need good friends. It’s hard to come across at this age, especially since I’m in a rural area.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 04:19 AM
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I’m about 30 man. And honestly I don’t really have the desire to be someone I’m not, the only reason I sometimes dream of being more extroverted and witty is to attract a partner. Other than that I don’t really get my jollies from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 01:11 AM
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What about WGTOW and all the complaints about men in subs like TwoX, AskWomen, Mommit etc
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 01:08 AM
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I think the only thing that I’m missing is being quick witted and extroverted. I don’t think those can be learned.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 01:03 AM
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What’s your Reddit password?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 11:25 AM
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Know meee broken by my master 🎵
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 03:18 AM
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I need my sugar momma
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 03:17 AM
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Aw man, I’m 29 and n count is at zero. I feel like I missed out. I’ve always been a pretty reclusive person because of trauma, but I really got over that shit and have matured a lot, still somewhat shy but wouldn’t say I’m debilitatingly anxious anymore. I have hope, but still wish I had some fun through my twenties
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 03:12 AM
6

What’s 4-4
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 03:08 AM
1

$45 gym pass, maybe like 10 cents in sunscreen
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 12:46 AM
3

I love it when a poop accidentally slips out while doing squats 💩
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 12:45 AM
1

What does a good day off look like to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 06:45 PM
2

What’s your social security number
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 06:38 PM
1

Dude isn’t even that hot. Just gotta be funny I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 06:37 PM
1

Edge. It never gets old.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 06:35 PM
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What would your own response be to something along the lines of “I spent most of my twenties getting over social anxiety and figuring out the life I wanted to live?”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 05:46 PM
1

Ahh, young love "AGGHHH"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 07:00 AM
1

I didn't mean that by the video!! lol It's just what i thought of at the mention of cologne
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 06:50 AM
1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q9e9JKUQESI
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 06:45 AM
1

I would smile and flash some of my knowledge of the pills.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 06:42 AM
2

"Hello" "AGGGHH!!!"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 06:38 AM
1

I was thinking like the Bathroom from Saw. I don’t know if it even has a toilet. If it does it doesn’t work. At least it has a bathtub though
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 03:43 AM
1

Red Bull and chicken nuggets
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 03:30 AM
1

Bathroom
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 03:19 AM
1

It makes me wonder why girls say they have trouble getting a good boyfriend
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 03:14 AM
1

Working out is so healthy it’s worth it. I don’t envy girls or guys that don’t lift. It is okay to take time off as needed. The fact you seem to be disappointed and long to return to the gym is a good sign. Illnesses, cold weather, and other inconveniences suck but they’re a part of life. Don’t let it demotivate you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 03:11 AM
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Heck, no reason to start eating it again if you don’t want to. Stuff rots your teeth and increases blood pressure. Also it’s addictive. Milk over OJ, eggs and toast, omelettes, bacon, oatmeal, still plenty of options
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 03:07 AM
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I guess because sugar gives a good kick start to the morning. I like a blend of sweet and savory. Eggs and pancakes. Jelly and toast. Omelettes and orange juice.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 02:53 AM
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Question 4 the ladies: Do you perceive any man who is making small talk with you as having an ulterior motive? Even if he doesn't say anything flirty? Let's say a coworker, a customer (if you're in customer service), someone you don't know who is out for a walk if you're out for a walk yourself (or at the park).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 12:15 AM
1

Hi PB French Toast!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 12:10 AM
2

Them ugly dudes will go through a 2 year relationship, marriage for 10 years, two dogs, two cats and then have sex the first time in order to pump and dump though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 11:59 PM
2

That's crazy. You're right, as an average dude, I will confirm my pumping and dumping dedication is up to 12 months.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 11:58 PM
1

I'll find a way. I promise you!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 11:55 PM
1

It's surprisingly good since AI is still in its early stages. Just makes you wonder what AI will be like 10 years down the line. let alone 5 years down the line...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 11:54 PM
2

Can confirm. Stopped playing video games and a woman came to my door asking for water, because it's 90 degrees outside.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 11:50 PM
2

If man is bad he is average, if man is good he is chad
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 11:49 PM
1

If man is bad he is average, if man is good he is chad
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 11:49 PM
1

I'll be there you can count on that
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 11:48 PM
1

Mine glows in the dark
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 11:46 PM
2

Appreciate it. That makes me feel a bit hopeful. I hope to run into women with your perspective on this when I'm out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 11:16 PM
1

Would it change your mind to know that I'm 29?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 10:51 PM
1

Well, I've had women interested in me but it either went one of two ways: I didn't make a move out of shyness/fear of "reading into things" no matter how certain I was she was flirting. Or 2. I wasn't interested in her back.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 10:36 PM
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I mean, is that an acceptable reason? I am such a man, not sure if you'll consider it since it's a strong, personalized anecdote.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 10:23 PM
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One thing I learned about being in this sub is to not take stuff as word of law here. Life and people are way too chaotic, especially when it comes to relationships/sex, to be pinpointed like that. If you're a decent person and put effort into your life, while you aren't guaranteed anything, you have a good chance of getting laid. Don't worry about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 08:26 PM
1

What about an average or even slightly above average looking man who is shy and slightly socially awkward, but has mostly overcome that in their late twenties?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 08:22 PM
1

You are the rabbit’s god and it seems to be the expression of your emotions/mind at the time. Maybe the reason God created us is because we are an expression of His emotions
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 02:47 PM
1

You’re overthinking this. Text her if you feel like it, don’t text her if you don’t. There is no test. You can’t read people’s minds and you can’t ever really know what someone thinks about you. Just go with what feels right and stop second guessing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 06:50 AM
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Any other guys here feel pretty good about themselves and their way of life but they’re just borderline socially awkward?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 04:38 AM
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I don’t know who he is. He slightly reminds me of Jack from LOST. But yeah that dude is sexy as hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 04:20 AM
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I’d like to pick up a lot of chicks from Walmart, but it’s going to take years of gym consistency. Im only at 250 lbs for my bench.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 04:15 AM
2

Two polar bears coming all over me would certainly make me depressed
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 03:58 AM
2

Oh god, poor India
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 03:54 AM
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And we all eat bread but not too much or we will get sick
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 03:43 AM
3

Then he would be JD Dance
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 03:41 AM
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He is very dedicated to an hour a day weightlifting + daily walks of 3 miles or more He keeps his house clean, makes okay meals, and also writes. He occasionally goes out to bars with friends, or bowling, or camping/kayaking. He’s a little shy around people he doesn’t know. Also he is thirty
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 02:23 AM
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No. Guy in this scenario lived with his parents in his early 20s to save money instead of paying rent. He is entirely financially independent. He’s also from rural Iowa. You can get pretty good houses for under $100k
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 01:56 AM
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In your opinion, if a guy owns a house and saves $200 a month in savings and a little on top of that in checking, takes out for 401k and has a ESOP at his blue collar factory job - is it a turnoff if he only makes 40k a year salary?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 01:34 AM
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I love it when people post food pictures. It gives me ideas for easy meal preps!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 01:02 AM
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Short hair, cap, tight shirt, jeans, brown shoes, and a 5 o’clock shadow
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 01:01 AM
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She looks better without filter
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 12:59 AM
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Have you ever ran into someone from PPD in another sub and you’re just like
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 12:56 AM
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The op stated the reason for it, doesn’t discredit that women still only swipe on 20% of men
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 12:36 AM
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Saw that before. Then there was that study that women only swipe on 20% of men on dating apps or whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 12:26 AM
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Nah
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 11:09 PM
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I’m talking about ppd in general. Women too. It’s a two way street, which is why we all debating
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 11:04 PM
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We all the average ones who want the hot ones
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 09:45 PM
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Anyone wants someone that looks good. I don’t think passport bros require kpop stars
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 08:47 PM
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Skinny isn’t a lot to ask for
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 08:42 PM
1

I saw him walk in, with his cowboy hat, and i thought to myself, I could use some of that
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 08:41 PM
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I make $40k a year and I’m very happy with my life
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 08:33 PM
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Imagine having so many options that something like this is a red flag
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 08:27 PM
2

Swiss
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 07:03 PM
1

“Are you coming to bed, honey?” “I can’t. Someone is wrong on the Internet!”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 07:00 PM
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My own conclusion to this similar experience is that NTs tend to prefer witty banter around serious topics, while NDs like more serious discussions with occasional banter mixed in.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 06:58 PM
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Self improving for a crush is the greatest feeling in the world! It makes you feel so progressive and confident. Enjoy, and good luck with this man! Hope it works out!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 06:55 PM
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Not my experience. I’ve become less bitter over the years so far
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 06:52 PM
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Is it just me or is it crazy that this sub exists and is fairly popular? But yet I see nothing very close to these discussions in real life. Is this just a huge topic that exists in everybody’s minds but nobody says aloud? And where do all of these ideas come from? Just a random thought. I love this sub though.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 06:49 PM
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False equivalence. Passport bro looking for love, got used because they believed in love that wasn’t real. American girl was out looking for K-pop stars and got the ick because they believed the average man should look like a K-pop star
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 06:38 PM
1

Yum. Could you please tell me the exact step by step process?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 06:21 PM
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I’m the opposite. I’m less jaded. Throughout my 20s I was overcoming angst and spent most of my time alone and self improving mentally
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 06:20 PM
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I have to say this while reading your responses. You gave an awesome response, and the shyness thing is definitely my reason for being a 29 year old virgin, and I have been working on it, so I’m glad that maybe that will suffice for some ladies when I get out there. And have to apologies on behalf of these incel-ish sounding comments like “most women are boring though” or “women don’t take accountability”. Not all of us are like that. Like your comments, thanks for the hope 🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 07:02 AM
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You don’t have to be awkward as fuck to be a virgin later in life, a little awkward but still an otherwise normal human being is all it takes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 06:53 AM
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It doesn’t make him a bad person, which disproves your other comment
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 06:50 AM
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Jeez you antisocial Redditors. Some people like chatting with people there’s nothing wrong with that. Yes, please, give short answers and no eye contact, we will get the hint you don’t want to talk. Don’t gotta be a rude ass and ruin someone’s day.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 06:31 AM
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So I’ve been watching Harry Potter since Friday. Just got to Goblet of Fire tonight. Shits about to get serious now that Voldemort is back
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 06:28 AM
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I’ll agree with you on that
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 02:45 AM
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Yes :)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 02:45 AM
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What were you thinking I meant by simple? Preferably the most baseline example of what you were imagining rather than something obviously boring and lifeless. What’s wrong with passive? Conflict and drama is annoying. I wouldn’t want to even be friends with someone who gets into arguments over simple things.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 01:44 AM
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It’s not necessarily really boring, it depends on how much you require to feel excited. For some people, simple pleasures in life are the best. Occasional trips, going on dates and on walks regularly, and living basic. And there doesn’t necessarily have to be mindless obedience in order to be an obedient person. Just someone who doesn’t want drama, who is fairly passive but is assertive when it conflicts with something they find important. And you don’t have to be a clown to be funny from time t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 01:30 AM
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Yeah, whether or not the healthcare guy deserved it, he still shot a dude from behind, offensively.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 01:07 AM
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Or they choose exciting/funny personality over simple/obedient personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 01:04 AM
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And insecure people tend to be the loudest
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 01:02 AM
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Arrogance and bashfulness isn’t high self esteem. High self esteem is generally not trying to prove anything and doesn’t put on a show for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 01:01 AM
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Question for the ladies: What’s your opinion on men who are really into self improvement? 10,000 steps daily, working out (not jacked), counting calories, wears sunscreen, journals. Let’s say he isn’t OCD about and still has fun it but he thinks about it a lot and it’s a big part of his lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 12:54 AM
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You really don’t understand what it’s like to be a man
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 12:20 AM
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I’d say relationships are more like houses. You realistically want that before 30, but sometimes other priorities take over or you can’t afford it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 10:00 PM
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The reason I mentioned the above average thing is because that’s exactly what these men are reacting to. They’re not saying women should have zero standards or just date anybody. They’re talking about unrealistic standards. And yes, I know that dating isn’t necessary. Which is why I said do what you want. But if you are complaining there are no good options, this is the exacted reaction and it’s entirely sensible if the person has unrealistic standards. Let me ask you this, if a guy told you he …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 06:28 PM
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Then what exactly is the issue here? If men aren’t saying this directly to you, then why not just go elsewhere? Men who say this are obviously responding to something, even if it isn’t a direct response to you. You see the rhetoric these people are talking about all of the time on AskWomen and TwoX and dating subs. It’s also just a reaction to the real world dating scene. And you’re talking about some of these men like they’re not options, but I’m willing to bet you only shoot for above average …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 05:09 PM
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I never said it was a good thing, just that some people do that. Which is why I said unfortunately. If you’re dating or, even just meeting people casually, you’re going to run into manipulative people and liars. Are you going to disregard the rest of my post that actually focuses on the main debate? Or are you sidestepping away?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 04:44 PM
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Sure, but if you’re in a rich environment hunting for unicorn meat and complaining about being hungry, hunters that are in scarce environments are going to point out that you have options and it’s absurd to them that you think they’re not worth your time. Like I said, you can look for perfection all you want, best of luck to you, but if you come around complaining about dating issues this is what you’re going to hear.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 04:41 PM
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Intellectually and emotionally and physically attractive doesn’t say much because those are descriptions of basic standards that everyone looks for. Nobody wants to date an idiot, nobody wants to date someone who is rash, and nobody wants to date someone they find ugly. It’s what you exactly mean by those things where the things get gritty. For all I know, you could be the woman equivalent of the guy who is looking for 10/10 blond chicks who are intelligent and also have their shit together. “Ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 04:20 PM
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You’re expecting to find not only Prince Charming but a Prince Charming who has all their shit together. A 10/10 man, every dot checked. You think a man can put so much effort into his appearance and social charisma can also divide more effort into emotional maturity, hard work ethic, being clean, and whatever else? A human is only capable of so much. Part of being in a relationship is accepting a partner’s flaws if you love them for their other aspects. But if you want to keep looking for a per…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 02:27 PM
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Scratching my head here because I remember seeing women say something along the lines of “there isn’t just a male loneliness epidemic, it’s across both genders”. And i remember multiple questions such as “What exactly are women issues in dating?” and the typical response comes up that women are searching for fresh water in an ocean while men are looking in a desert. And other answers implying that while they sift through a lot of responses, it’s hard to find one they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 01:35 PM
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Scratching my head here because I remember seeing women say something along the lines of “there isn’t just a male loneliness epidemic, it’s across both genders”. And i remember multiple questions such as “What exactly are women issues in dating?” and the typical response comes up that women are searching for fresh water in an ocean while men are looking in a desert. And other answers implying that while they sift through a lot of responses, it’s hard to find one they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 01:34 PM
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I hope you’re proud of meh
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 05:32 AM
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You must not have visited TwoXChromosomes? Or any of the AskWomen subs?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 04:10 AM
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Jeffrey Dahmer loves me for my heart too
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 03:43 AM
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Do what you want. Most of these chicks be like "I want a man that looks like a celebrity, makes over $80k a year, is very charismatic, and is also clean, and knows his way around an engine. Not only that, but he's a family man with lots of friends." and then complain there are no good men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 03:40 AM
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True. Just because he isn’t a role model doesn’t mean his ontological viewpoint doesn’t make sense
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 01:59 AM
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I’m not trying to argue, just looking to understand. My way wouldn’t work at all? Why? I brought up something we could talk about, and said my intentions. I feel like just asking her out would have been way more random and wouldn’t have done justice (I genuinely wanted her to know I liked her art). But not asking her out, I guess I could see that working. But I still intended to get to know her in a dating way, so I wanted to be straightforward about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 01:55 AM
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What do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 01:41 AM
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I’m a physicalist, but I do believe there is some sort of inherent meaning to existence. And agnostic about a literal God. I’d say most of my beliefs stem from Alan Watts
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 01:36 AM
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Oh woops lol. Well, I wanted to make my intention known. Is that really a bad thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 01:21 AM
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lol fair enough. On rereading it yeah I see that. I wish straightforwardness was more socially acceptable when it comes to asking people out, I’m not great at flirting especially if I don’t know someone
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 01:20 AM
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Is it kind of hopeless to ask people out over People You May Know? <image> I’ve done it a couple of other times and got rejected, both times they were friendly about it so I’m grateful for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 12:55 AM
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Do us men really get much of a say beyond not be toxic and be attractive? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 03:25 AM
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Talk to her bro
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 05:03 AM
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No and if someone found out I’d be really embarrassed. Even though I don’t think I post anything extreme.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 04:35 AM
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I don't mind if someone finds me less attractive than their previous partners, as long as they're committed and they love me. But if they told me they settled for me I wouldn't expect it to last long, and I don't believe they'd actually love me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 04:21 AM
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Don't worry, us peasants won't have the right to vote in four years. The billionaires will stay put.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 04:19 AM
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I'm slow to anger. I have gotten a lot better at asserting my needs. I tell people when something doesn't sit right with me, if I need to.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 04:14 AM
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It's unfortunate that everything costs money these days. I remember the early 2000s when everything was free and ads didn't interrupt your youtube videos. GPT is just too handy though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 04:12 AM
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If I were able to afford travel, I would go to London or Ireland.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 04:10 AM
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Sure but a lot of women get the ick if a shy guy tries to talk to them and comes off as shy, even just a little. Or they may go along with bullying men picking on the shy guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 04:05 AM
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I succumbed and pay $20 a month because I use it enough to where it's worth it. It's basically become my Google most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 03:54 AM
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Exactly that. I am always the one guiding the conversation, but that can only work for so long.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 05:07 PM
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I’ve had matches on them, but it was like every other month, and half the time it was someone with catfish photos or it was someone I really did find attractive but they didn’t put any effort into conversations
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 04:48 PM
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To me it reads emotionally cheating
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 03:34 PM
2

Just yesterday on TwoX there was a post about women loneliness being worse then men’s loneliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 03:33 PM
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No lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 03:31 PM
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Good morning
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 03:02 PM
1

Someone roughly the same size as me, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 06:12 AM
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What?? My ideal first date is a coffee date, but on my (hypothetical) girlfriend’s birthday she’s gonna be princess that day.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 05:58 AM
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Sounds exciting! Have fun on your journey!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 05:06 AM
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Why do people talk about coffee dates like it’s a bad thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 04:42 AM
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Had that happen with my therapist too before I stopped going. He was a good dude otherwise
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 04:29 AM
1

I imagine whale meat to be like the opposite of an average fat:meat ratio on a decent steak.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 04:28 AM
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I’ve always been 150-170 lbs and 5’11”. Slim guys struggle lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 04:25 AM
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How about Betsy?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 04:16 AM
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To be honest I have no idea. I just want to meet someone I like spending time with and find attractive, then just wing it. I’m almost thirty, so maybe this goal or lack thereof is far behind. Idk. I mean what other goal is there? I have no strategy. I am really just kind of hoping to bump into them someday. Maybe at the gym, maybe at a cafe, maybe on a walk, maybe at work, maybe at a bar.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 03:45 AM
1

I think life being here is a miracle, personally
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 02:16 AM
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Some people say life itself is God showing us himself. But I understand why that wouldn’t convince some people.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 02:12 AM
1

Dream of track
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 02:00 AM
1

What religion do you believe in if you have one? Do you believe in God? An afterlife? Do you have a religion you’re interested in?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 01:56 AM
1

And Clinton deserved that blow job in the Oval Office. I would suck Obama off too. At least these guys did good for our country’s
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 01:52 AM
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Takes a literal meaning to dancing in the ashes. Dudes a fucking psycho
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 01:50 AM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/Vent/s/9DISvpt4Lm is she a femcel? Not asking out of malice for her, because I feel her. I’m asking because guys who vent about the same thing are called incels.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 07:08 PM
1

To make someone happy
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 05:32 AM
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That’s how to pick up a guy who can quote from Mein Kampf
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 05:22 AM
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I make the kid pay me back for it when they get older
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 05:18 AM
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Hey did yall hear Elon musk is talking about $5000 stimulus checks?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 01:05 AM
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Ask her what’s going on bruh - oh wait, they don’t tell you
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 01:02 AM
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“If her age is on the clock, she good for the…” - red pill guys
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 12:32 AM
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<image> Am I physically attractive? My social personality is pretty introverted and shy. I make conversation, small talk, and am friendly, but I’m pretty short spoken unless I know you well.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 12:29 AM
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Women: you ask a guy what his hobby is and he says he writes for fun. Both fiction and journaling. Turn off or is that fine?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 12:27 AM
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Coffee dates are lit. You get to sit and have a conversation without shoveling food into your mouth, or feeling pressured to finish the meal if things get awkward for some reason. Simpler the better for the first couple dates. Walking dates also.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 12:25 AM
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Because 7 8 9
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 12:21 AM
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What’s hard in an organic way look like/mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 04:34 PM
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So you want someone who is soft on the inside but doesn’t show it on the outside? Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 03:53 PM
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In my years of coffee drinking I never had to rewarm my coffee lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 03:47 PM
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I don’t think a sub like this could exist without drama lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 03:45 PM
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Solution join the main one
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 03:44 PM
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Infinity War it was just so well written, even when detached from the rest of the MCU
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 03:42 PM
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I walk 10k a day 4 days a week! If the weather isn’t extreme or icy
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 03:41 PM
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Personality? You mean men that are rough around the edges but you want them to be soft on the inside? Or men with low inhibitions but you want them to give a fuck?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 03:38 PM
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Hope Pilled based!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 03:34 PM
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Eat a pizza in one setting, have a week’s worth of maximum sodium intake going through your veins all at once.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 02:44 AM
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I don’t think Trump cares too much anymore now that he is elected
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 02:40 AM
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Hey, chef
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 02:39 AM
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Put jelly on my burger for the first time. 10/10 would recommend
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 01:36 AM
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Iowa
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 01:16 AM
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I live in the rural Midwest. Mine is little below average in price, the low end shit boxes are about $40-60k. $70k is iffy, fixer upper. Mine is actually pretty good for the price, even has a metal roof and three bedrooms. Only big price reduction is the lack of a basement, but since I lived for years in apartments I never really cared for a basement. A large, brand new house here goes for $200k.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 01:10 AM
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I’m too broke to do anything major with the house, so I suppose the value will just decrease
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 01:07 AM
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$83,400 which is a bit sad because i bought it for $85,000 3 years ago
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 12:48 AM
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Are the people you’re close with all virgins? Having sex for fun, even with a long term partner, is casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 12:44 AM
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Ok that’s pretty cringe. But i could see my autistic ass accidentally having done that. Thanks for the heads up
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 03:39 PM
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What do you mean by repeating your name?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 03:28 PM
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It’s interesting you mention that we aren’t shown how to talk about it or what to do about it. Some boys do learn about it, through their dads, moms, their friends. But when I was growing up my parents never talked to me about dating and sex, and my friends weren’t the role model type for that sort of thing, so I had all of that pent up puberty longing and it just turned into angst because it had no outlet. It took the entire first half of my twenties to relinquish that angst. But still, sociall…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 02:22 AM
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My experience with three different gay men, at different periods of my life, is that they were sexually interested in me and persisted when I said I’m straight
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 03:46 AM
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Yes, and a lot of guys don’t really care to become more than superficial anyways. It’s hard to bond.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 03:43 AM
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What a disgusting picture
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 03:40 AM
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She wanted you to turn around and slurp her tongue like you’re digging for fossils
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 03:37 AM
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I believe younger girls are less direct like this sometimes yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 10:50 PM
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Having friends with kids sucks. I told them in advance that I was planning on having a birthday party at the bowling alley today at 4pm. I checked in again this morning if they’re still coming, all three are going to be an hour late. I already reserved the lanes. Man it’s always like this. My sister has kids too and I never get to see her. My friends rarely go out and if they do, this happens. I get that I’m not the center of their lives, they are busy, just venting. It’s pretty lonely being 29 …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 09:22 PM
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Or bring back gladiator rinks. The audience pays for everything!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 09:13 PM
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Reddit girls: “I pick based on personality.” Also Reddit girls: “Why do so many guys I date suck?”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 09:11 PM
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You can’t deny there’s a huge stigma about it. And no, I don’t think any virgins go around announcing they’re a virgin, but they might be picked up by being a bit uneasy in sexual topics that naturally come up, or not having a sexual sense of humor. They also are likely to be shy around women. This gets more noticeable the older you are, because the less virgins there are at your age. And, not to mention, if you’re on a date and they ask you questions that, even if you don’t directly say it, cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 09:09 PM
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Exercise wise? Socially high energy?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 08:55 PM
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I saw that article too. So fucked up
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 08:44 PM
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I trust my own hand movements more
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 08:41 PM
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Ironically, life sentence is cheaper than death row.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 08:39 PM
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To be fair, the rhetoric on the internet for the longest time was the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 08:37 PM
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I’m a guy but, affair? I’m out!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 08:36 PM
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Yep I got my v card
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 06:38 PM
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I’m sorry I have to disagree. It took me 1 year to get from scrawny to slim muscular. I’ve been consistently socializing and making friends and I’m on year 3 and I still struggle with social anxiety to some disagree enough to debilitate my dating chances. There was a girl at the gym a few months ago clearly signaling interest in me. Taking machines I was on when I got up, going to machines next to me, finishing the same time as me. happened a few times in just three consecutive days, no way it w…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 06:32 PM
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Muscular men can have dating struggles too especially if they have social anxiety
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 06:14 PM
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The op doesn’t say the dad said she can’t so he hasn’t done anything wrong. How he handles it is one of the many paradox-situation a parent has to resolve their own way. If she directly asked to come along, I would say “Sure!” but if I wanted this to be a boys trip, it would feel out of place for me to go up and ask just because of how she might’ve looked at me. Then again I’m not a dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 06:13 PM
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The top comment and the OP seem innocent. Like asking someone out a one and done, or especially just being like “Do you like X restaurant?” Why is that a problem? Why should that get someone fired? I’ve asked a coworker out before and nothing happened. But then again I’m blue collar, so it’s a whole different ball game.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 06:07 PM
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If I were in her situation, as a guy, if the nice guy was still attractive enough to turn me on, but the kinky guy was just a little kinkier, I’d go with the nice guy. But if the nice guy isn’t my type physically and not attracted, I’d probably pass. Well then again at 34 idk, that’s pushing the line for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 06:03 PM
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They are for me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 05:58 PM
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Uh oh!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 05:57 PM
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What’s Vietnamese coffee like? Sounds interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 05:56 PM
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Before long you'll be chewin' tobacco and arm wrestle with da boys!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:05 AM
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That's it. I'm taking you to PPD Prom and you're playing spin the bottle with all of them!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:02 AM
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That's not even a jab at her lol text her that
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 06:52 AM
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Don't lie bro
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 06:48 AM
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Be yourself is probably the best because, as you said no other advice is guaranteed. If you follow your own interests and behaviors, even if it doesn't work out, at least you actually lived how you wanted to instead of dying alone and never having tried being yourself. In fact, even dying not alone and never having been yourself sounds tragic. Of course, there's social "rules" to follow - some soft rules, some hard rules.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 01:35 AM
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The difference is I don’t call women sexualizing me, that I don’t find attractive in return, creeps. Nor do I laugh in their face. Nor do I spread a fake exaggerated story about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 06:23 PM
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It’s much more likely this guy is socially awkward than malicious.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 03:39 PM
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Who says she had to accept them? Just saying the card and cookies don’t make him a creep/malicious.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 03:10 PM
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It’s weird to me that she didn’t add that context until after some comments were calling her out for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 07:26 AM
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The problem is comments were already calling the guy a creep before the context
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 07:13 AM
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Pop evil?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 07:06 AM
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Surprise surprise, the context of pushiness and other creepy aspects were told after comments were pushing back. They make up stories to justify why they defamed a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 07:05 AM
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Well, you can’t really expect to date someone you can barely talk to yeah? I get it man, I’m pretty quiet and awkward around 90% of people, and it takes me a bit to warm up to people, and even then i only get less awkward but I’m still pretty quiet unless I have something to say. Dating isn’t easy, it’s pretty easy to get misunderstood if you’re a bit socially awkward. But all I can say is do your best to be your confident you, and own it. Work out the kinks you can, and accept the rest as a par…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 06:08 AM
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You’re not alone. A lot of women aren’t into liberal men it seems
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 12:28 PM
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I’m glad it worked out for you. Thanks! Happy belated bday to you too
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 01:18 AM
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My bday is on the 13th too Im 29 and most people never really cared. Sorry just had to say it worse bday and Valentine’s Day this year. Man I’m so cooked
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 12:54 AM
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Cool. And your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 10:35 PM
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What’s your suggestion to how men are supposed to solve this problem? We hear you loud and clear, and I’ve never harmed a woman, nor intend to, in my entire life. Do you want me to put on my Spiderman tight suit and roam around beating up dudes who are harassing women?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 02:32 PM
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To tell you the truth, there’s no guarantees in life. I like your mindset. Regardless of whether or not your self improvement takes you to love’s door, becoming the best version of yourself is a reward in its own right and shouldn’t be discouraged. Keep fighting brother! Who knows, maybe you will be the one who crosses path with love
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 02:27 PM
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There’s a large spectrum to a “fit” person, you know that right? You could be a person who exercises a couple times a week, or a person that makes exercise their life, or anywhere in between.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 06:41 PM
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This is exactly the type of stuff i was talking about. It isn’t uncommon either, ive seen multiple news stories just like this one in the past couple of years https://slatereport.com/news/woman-admits-she-made-up-rape-claims-that-put-innocent-man-in-jail-and-reveals-she-targeted-him-over-his-creepy-looks/
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 06:34 PM
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Hopefully it stays in this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 06:48 AM
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I mean, do you go out of your way to make posts defending men from women attacking them? People usually debate for their own gender on this sub, because it’s more closer to home.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 06:43 AM
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That’s fair. I’m glad we can agree insults shouldn’t be normalized. It sounds like you aren’t the type of person who would go out of their way to insult someone if they didnt deserve it. And that’s really all I’m saying here.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 03:16 AM
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Being called a fat feminazi online where nobody knows you is probably not comparable to being accused of being a creep in some pockets of your local social community.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 03:09 AM
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What experiences? The point of this debate is to get to the bottom of what constitutes as creepy. Obviously you can’t expect social change from Reddit arguments. So the only thing I’m trying to do here is 1. Make people realize that “creep” is a huge accusation. And 2. Asking people out is a pretty normal thing, especially when young and dumb and looking for love. = 3. Do you gotta be so cruel about it, if it’s innocent? Don’t call people creeps if they’re not actually creeps. That’s it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 03:07 AM
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It sounds like a bigger inconvenience to call someone a creep and make a big deal about it instead of saying something to deflect or straight out reject. I really don’t see how being kind to people in the moment of ANY social situation is an inconvenience.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 03:04 AM
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Nobody is owed anything. But it doesn’t cost anybody anything to be a decent human being instead of being rude about it. I’ve rejected women before, and I’ve always told them kindly I wasn’t interested. And yes, sometimes women can be very aggressive to that response too. It really doesnt cost me anything. If a girl was behaving in a way that I was afraid of rejecting her, I’d be more stern about it and avoidant, but I wouldn’t go out of my way to make her feel insecure about asking me out, beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 02:58 AM
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All men should pay the price for the actions of a few dickheads on this sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 02:53 AM
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Both
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 02:51 AM
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Couldn’t there be something in between a polite rejection and being absolutely rude about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 02:51 AM
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I guess I can understand that. One question though: should we normalize that as socially acceptable? Or should we call it out? I mean, asking someone out is 100% just part of the natural order, especially when you’re young. I wouldn’t advocate for death threats to telemarketers becoming socially acceptable, much less calling dudes asking girls out sociopathic predators.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 02:49 AM
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So is it socially acceptable for a woman, who feels uncomfortable at a guy merely looking in her general direction, to label him a creep? And before you say this doesn’t happen, you can see plenty of that crap on TikTok from gym girls. Or how about women making exaggerated stories of men asking them out to their girlfriends, to make the man have a way worse light than he deserved? Should that be allowed to be normalized or should that be called out? Because that’s a thing too, for a lot of girls…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 02:45 AM
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I can say in my early twenties i slipped my phone number to a few cashiers and drive thru employees. It seemed innocent, I didn’t pressure, I didn’t flirt then and there, I just slipped my number. I never got negative feedback from it, one girl laughed about it but not in a laugh-in-your-face kind of way. I just never received calls back, which is fair. I wouldn’t bother someone if they’re clearly avoiding me. But i will try to make eye contact or small talk if i see someone attractive. Sometime…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 02:37 AM
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Yeah, I agree all of those things are creep behavior. The thing that makes them a creep is they clearly don’t have respect for you or your comfort and go out of their way to trap you in their vision. Now that we agree “creep” is a serious accusation, do we agree it shouldn’t be used lightly or for anything less than an obvious creep? If so we’re on the same page and I wish more women would be mindful of how they used the word
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 02:31 AM
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That’s… not helpful. What entails being creepy? I said in my post 1. Being inappropriate (touching, asking in sketchy areas, harassing). And 2. To keep perusing after the rejection. Would you agree those are what “being creepy” means? Or are there more situations?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 02:26 AM
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Well what is more likely to upset them? “No thanks” and walk away and going about your day? Or making them feel like crap about it and telling everyone they’re a creep (again, if they didn’t do anything beyond just asking you out and handling the rejection fine)?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 02:23 AM
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The alternative is for ladies to understand where the guy is coming from and kindly reject him without calling him a creep(whether to him or to her friends), laughing in his face, or making a big deal about it? I don’t think lesser of women if I turn them down. I know they’re thirsty to feel love when they are asking, I’d never treat someone like crap for desiring that if they’re respectful with their proposal.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 02:21 AM
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Sure. A dark alley, when someone is shopping or clearly running errands, in a parking lot, etc Someone out for a walk? At the gym when they’re on the treadmill by you (if you were there first) or finished with their workouts? At a pub or bar, of course? At a cafe? I think those are likely to be a hit or miss. If someone misjudges the body language, I think it could make the person annoying for a bit, but not a creep. The standards of creep that I set were if they were doing inappropriate things,…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 02:17 AM
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Yeah. I live in a place where a basic house price is $70-100k and gas is $2.99-3.60 population 7000, not a meth town but just far away from the big cities. Even still, you need a full time job to afford $800 a month rent, a car, and other expenses. Not to mention full time jobs offer insurance. One broken leg without insurance and you’re in debt for a long while.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 07:27 PM
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Kindness is seen as a weaker more feminine trait, thus less attractive. Roughness is seen as more masculine and attractive. There's of course a spectrum, but it's obvious which side that's leaned on more leads to toxic people.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 06:07 AM
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I’m amazed by how much stereotyping you can fit into two paragraphs. I’ve met the most immature pieces of crap who’ve gotten a degree but couldn’t find a job and struggle balancing their debt, and very stable blue collar folks who get more than enough income to raise a family, afford a house, and even go on vacation annually. And their job isn’t “in the mines”. Electricians, plumbers, factory workers, farmers. Just to name a few off the top of my head. Going to college doesn’t say much about a p…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 01:23 AM
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You can make good money without college
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 12:32 AM
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And if it isn’t in your personal goals to go to college, should you not get married? It seems like the person I responded to was practically saying that
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 05:44 PM
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It’s not like you can’t have other aspirations in life beyond college.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 02:38 PM
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If you are looking at your potential partners like HR at an employer, chances are marriages wouldn’t last long with you anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 02:37 PM
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Uh huh. Because getting a license to become a truck driver is so comparable to going to college to get married (facepalm) /s
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 11:57 AM
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Just saying. If college wasn’t your life plan, or you don’t care about your socioeconomic class beyond living comfortably, etc. it’s really not worth going after those goals just in hopes you get a lifelong marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 11:29 AM
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Ah, yes. Jump through more of these hoops that weren’t important to your own personal life goals, just in case you do end up getting married, MAYBE it’ll last without divorce. Maybe.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 11:03 AM
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Nosferatu kicked ass. Wasn’t feeling it in the beginning it was a slow burn starting out, but after the guy meets the vampire for the first time the movie starts its fireworks. I watched this and Wolfman in the same day at the movie theater lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 01:38 AM
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None of the three are needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 01:27 AM
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If you’re a guy especially under 30!!!!! Please don’t be afraid to go out and cold approach, make a fool out of yourself. Of course be respectful and decent, I have no doubt most of you who will actually try will actually be a decent person and know boundaries. Make mistakes. Don’t worry about it. If you see someone you want to ask their numbers, or to start a conversation, do it! I am nearing thirty and missed this opportunity because of anxiety. It’s not bad at my age either, at the right time…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 04:13 PM
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A lot of us here don’t really measure our self worth through how many people want to sleep with us. A lot of us just really want one lifetime partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 03:41 PM
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If you look at the profiles of ones who spew that rhetoric, years later, they're almost always posting on subs about the gender wars.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 04:37 PM
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Ah, I see. So you think it is a fact that all women are the same? What do you get out of spreading this bs? Be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 08:12 PM
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The narrative has been “if they’re a virgin this late in life, there must be something seriously wrong with him” if you read the above comments. The reasons assumed have been actual red flags and issues, nothing coming near “shyness”. Low self esteem was mentioned, which isn’t the same as being shy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 08:04 PM
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Shyness can be and often is something that goes away as you get older.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 07:59 PM
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Shyness isn’t something wrong with them. It doesn’t even have to be completely debilitating for them to end up as a virgin in their adulthood.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 07:49 PM
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So?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 07:44 PM
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If you got any askwomen page, you'll see 99% of them say it isn't an issue. I wonder why this page alone has such an issue with it in contrast. It's also funny to me how the common rhetoric on this page is "Men should be above average, otherwise they add nothing to the relationship", and it seems agreeable among women here to have high standards. And then they wonder why there are adult virgin men? You'd have to be blind to the years of debate here, which all people have come to agree to --that …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 05:48 PM
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Do you interact with a lot of virgins? It seems like not, since in a couple of your other 5+ comments on this thread seems to indicate you usually don't stick around to find out why they are a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 05:35 PM
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Maybe half of Japanese men just need to take a shower and lighten up bro /s
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 04:23 AM
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I just don’t see how someone could enjoy anything outside of fleeting materialistic pleasures if they feel that way about themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 06:57 PM
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You love the things within your control and disregard the things out of your control. If you’re disregarding your opinion of yourself, aren’t you constantly living in dissociation?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 06:46 PM
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What is going on in Japan? I keep hearing about it but don’t know what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 06:28 PM
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The difference is, toxic people like this are going to be more drawn to more toxic environments, like the internet where people speak their minds aloud and especially on circlejerk subs where other toxic people contribute. And, of course, for every video of a toxic person doing toxic things, there’s a thousand other regular people doing regular people things that are not toxic.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 06:20 PM
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There is more to liking yourself than just liking your looks, my friend. You can be doggone ugly and still love who you are as a person
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 05:10 PM
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If it makes you feel any better, I don’t think you’re a terrible person, I just think the idea of leaving a life partner for the simple reason that things are not as exciting as before is a tragedy and misunderstanding of what love is, which explains why we would guilty for doing that if we did that. Your crush was a crush and not a long term partner you claimed commitment to, so that isn’t the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 05:36 AM
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Well, I’m not the one guilt tripping you. You apparently feel a bit of guilt over the idea since you’re so adamant of defending this case. It seems to me you want to be convinced you don’t have to feel guilty for it. You don’t have to throw a dog to a shelter, you could leave it with someone else’s care, but if you had that bond with the dog for years and one day give it to someone else simply because it doesn’t play with you anymore, then you should feel guilty about it, and it’s a good thing t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 04:44 AM
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There is more to a person than just their character. There is their nature, their personality, the vibes you feel with them. You likely would’ve spotted something about this crush that you didn’t like beyond just an interest change, if you were actually together with him for a while. The context you added to the second paragraph goes against the OP’s working theory: that it’s okay even though nothing is going wrong. Something drastic would have to happen for someone to change that much. People d…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 12:12 AM
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It sounds like you valued your ex more for his character than actually caring about him for him. I am looking for someone who is into exercise like I am, and if my wife who used to exercise but one day stopped taking care of herself, I’d be a bit concerned for her if her health started declining, but if she just wasn’t into the same routine and still staying healthy, well, this is someone I’ve known for years and had intimate relationship for all this time, we know each other inside and out, I’d…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 11:27 PM
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Is that how you treat your friends? You just toss them out when you’re bored of them, or the friendship for whatever reason becomes less intimate (non-sexual)? If you care about someone enough to marry them, you love them enough to not want to hurt them in the same way you wouldn’t want to hurt yourself, or your child, or your parents. You would WANT to get over that issue with work. Together you’d find a solution. It simply wouldn’t be as black and white as you are making it out to be, unless y…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 11:06 PM
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My thoughts exactly, except with all the agreements with the post that’s concerning. And people wonder why dating sucks for both genders these days. Love is just the honeymoon hotness to these people.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 10:57 PM
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Aren’t you aware that life partners ARE life? You will go through all of the emotions with your life partner, just as you will in life regardless. You will be upset with them sometimes, maybe even downright hate them for a short period of time. You’ll have boring days, weeks, months. Life partner is a commitment of working together to keep the love going, together. If something goes sour (unless it’s something like domestic abuse) it is not just one person doing something wrong, it’s almost alwa…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 10:52 PM
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Voldemort
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 03:26 PM
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If she says no, can you ask her if she will be my girlfriend and link to my profile? Thanks dude!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 03:24 PM
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I wouldn’t be surprised looking at the erotica novels yall got on that side 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 01:45 PM
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Boom! Mic drop
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 01:28 PM
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Why do men have to shower? Why do women ask so much of us?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 04:45 PM
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Kinda. I would feel a bit obligated to stick with it and it’s just recurring.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 04:45 PM
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Most people I know date within their age range. +|- 5 years
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 12:43 AM
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I remember seeing a picture of an incel group on here, and many of the women agreed they were fairly physically attractive or at least certainly not ugly. I think a larger factor is social awkwardness. A person who spends their time on reddit is likely less social, so i think that’s the larger denominator. At least if we’re going off educated guesses
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 02:40 PM
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How do you know who is attractive or not behind a computer screen?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 02:06 AM
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If you really believe most men are violent, you might need to take meds for your borderline paranoia disorder.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 11:09 PM
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Someone needs both, honestly, to not feel alone. Well, some people can do fine without one or the other, but most people need friendship and intimate relationships. The way you say “a woman to have sex with” seems to me you’re under the impression men only want their partner because of sex. Do you not think men desire emotional bonding/romance?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 10:18 PM
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One thing though, someone who says something like “why are you treating me like a predator I’m a nice guy” is probably a predator. I think on the internet that claim can’t uphold much. I won’t lie, as cringe as it is made out to be, I do understand where some of the “nice guy” comments are coming from. Online venting is basically taking the mask off. I don’t think all online “nice guys” are bad, unless they prove to be otherwise. But in person, if someone says something like that, I’d back out. …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 02:17 AM
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Do you think people who seek fulfillment outside of sexual/romantic relationships are automatically not going to ever feel lonely or desire companionship or intimacy? If so, your idea of what goes on inside a lonely man’s head is so far off from the actual reality of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 02:06 AM
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I mean you can accept being single and still feel pretty damn lonely and want a relationship. The latter is pretty much an unavoidable feeling if you only have a date a year or less.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 01:59 AM
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Actually, all women in the world would find that boring. It couldn't be true. Haha, just kidding. Couldn't resist. Not a bad strategy. I don't use dating apps though. Any other ideas? I appreciate it in any case. Women that have taken interest in me have usually been at my job, 3 different girls in the last 3 years, not bad luck considering most guys stories I read on here, I suppose. More so, I had a girl who I thought was showing signs of interest at the gym (going to the machines beside the o…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 03:47 AM
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Any options for men who prefer few select individuals as friends aka introverts?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 03:28 AM
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Yep. Being an introvert hasn’t helped my dating life any.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 08:05 PM
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It seems like most women are uncomfortable with a guy she doesn’t know talking to her at all in an enthusiastic way, not including asking her out on a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 07:29 PM
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Random but… i read about Station Nightclub fire in 2003 and… out of all the rabbit holes I’ve been down, this is the most stressing. I watched the 6 minute video with the screams, fire, crowd crush, etc. the screams are scarring my brain. The fire only took 4 minutes to get from a little bit of “this thing is on fire it isn’t supposed to be” to consuming the entire building
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 07:05 PM
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Isn’t Henry Cavill into Warhammer?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 01:30 PM
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I guess what I’m saying is, chasing perfection is an endless race. I’m not saying you need to stay committed to the first person you meet. But if you both signed up for a committed relationship it’s pretty nasty to cut someone off without trying to work something out simply because the relationship is not as butterfly filled as in the beginning. Are you expecting a partner that entertains you 24/7 and for the relationship to feel just as fresh after having lived with each other for years? If so,…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 02:45 AM
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I mean, you’re exactly the type of selfish human being we who are serious about relationships should avoid to begin with. As long as you don’t gaslight the partner into thinking it’s their fault, and admit to them that you’re just bored since the honeymoon phase has warn off, there’s no problem with you doing this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 02:34 AM
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Because they only think masculine conservative men are men
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 05:51 PM
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Nah, I don’t have sus behavior and women even enjoy conversations with me at work, servers when I’m dining out, etc. I’m friendly. But I can’t bring myself to become too friendly, because of things read online from other women, and from interactions with the occasional woman who looks at me with distrust for simply saying merry Christmas, or attempting to make small talk. It’s because I don’t want to make people feel uncomfortable, and I don’t want to feel uncomfortable if some lighthearted thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 04:16 PM
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I know I keep my conversations brief with women. Sucks for everyone around, the women that want to have deeper conversations with me that I'm not interested in romantically, and me when I'm interested in someone who I'm too shy to interact with. Every interaction feels like it could be taken as ulterior even if it's entirely platonic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 04:55 AM
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It's the nature of being assertive to face consequences/judgment head on. Do you think men who are assertive just have it smooth riding without consequences or judgment?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 04:07 AM
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Both are happening to an increased amount of people in their respected genders, is my guess
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 03:08 AM
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Examples please on what you mean by cues?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 01:24 AM
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Well my friends all have kids, so it is normally at their place when we get together. We might do campfires or just chat inside with some drinks. Sometimes we go to Walmart together or dine out, not as often though. Those are the highlights of my region, aside from bars, but like I said they have kids and not much money. My own hobbies are going for walks, writing, going to the gym, then cleaning and cooking for three meals a day take up a lot of the rest of my time. And being on reddit, which I…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 11:16 AM
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Hmm. Going out and socializing thrice a week just seems difficult while balancing keeping up with chores, cooking, working out, and hobbies on top of it. And after all that i enjoy a little bit of me time on top of it. Not to mention working a full time job. I do go out with friends and to solitary activities frequently, but finding time for peculiar hobbies is difficult. Well, I’m also from a rural area so those hobbies are pretty much dry on the market anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 10:38 AM
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Three times a week?? That's nuts. Can I bargain for once a week?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 07:36 AM
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What do you mean by conformist? Is conformity unattractive to you, further proving my point? And honestly, it's prevalent across all forms of pop culture. Music, movies, books, games. There is just no denying its prevalence, literally everyone knows of the stereotype and has seen it in various forms. And it can't be a coincidence that it co-aligns with a reality where so many women are complaining about their husbands or men in general, and giving up dating and saying things like 'no good men'.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 12:53 AM
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And you're accusing others of never touching grass. 😆 Online, things get all tangled up. These people accusing you of beta buxx likely don't know your history, or they're chronically online and simply don't believe your history. People take the words out of one individual's mouth and place it into the mouth of another individual in the same gender or whatever other subcategory the topic revolves around.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 12:26 AM
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So you believe the whole "nerds vs jocks" thing of the pre-internet world, "nice guy finishes last" popular saying also from pre-internet world, "af/bb", "women like bad boys", etc all of those various tropes, just come from nowhere?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 12:19 AM
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Same experience as a teenager and early 20s. Since I’ve put myself more together ironically I’ve had fewer women interested in me, and usually only single moms (3 single moms)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 10:38 PM
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It’s more a lifestyle difference, and unattractive to me
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 03:19 AM
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Not being attracted to shitty life choices isn’t the same as not being attracted because of someone’s height. Most guys have more leniency in physical attraction. They have preferences not rules set in stone. I wouldn’t date someone who is overweight because it’s a choice. Height isn’t a choice. It really makes no sense why someone would automatically be considered unattractive enough to even come because of their height.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 02:31 AM
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Good luck to you. Trusting in shady people.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 02:59 AM
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I mean, I've seen women who have admitted to it out loud (in past tense, never present tense) that they liked bad boys, both on Reddit and in person. I'd like to believe otherwise, but I feel like women generally choose overconfident men and douchy/rebellious to sort of closed off/reserved men who may be more stable. Stability and organized can look beige and soft from the outside, whereas rebellious and douchy can look interesting and strong from the outside. Both are illusions. I'm not saying …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 03:43 AM
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There's been someone following me around the gym. It started out around Thanksgiving when I was doing cardio and she came up on the stair master right beside me. I thought nothing of it, finished my session, and went to the shoe-changing area. She got done at the same time and we kinda walked by each other in the shoe changing area, but I was awfully shy so i didn't look. I mean this happened a few more times. Throughout my workout she would come to the machine right next to mine, and then cardi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 04:00 PM
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Welcome back brother!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 04:00 PM
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There's been someone following me around the gym. It started out around Thanksgiving when I was doing cardio and she came up on the stair master right beside me. I thought nothing of it, finished my session, and went to the shoe-changing area. She got done at the same time and we kinda walked by each other in the shoe changing area, but I was awfully shy so i didn't look. I mean this happened a few more times. Throughout my workout she would come to the machine right next to mine, and then cardi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 06:14 AM
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If that's true, why do you feel the need to make a thread about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 10:29 PM
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My balls speak French, so I never know what mine are telling me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 04:44 PM
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Amen. Not only that but it would be a contradictory lifestyle for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 04:40 PM
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Whose fault is it for the men they decided to date that expects this free labor of them? Oh yeah, but let’s blame all men. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 03:30 PM
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Not here. I have no expectations of being owed anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 03:23 PM
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egg
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 05:17 AM
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That's literally me, the only difference is my wife and kids are not real
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 05:16 AM
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I simply smiled and said "Merry Christmas" to a lady on the street, she glared at me like I was the biggest disturbance in her life and said nothing. :\
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 12:51 AM
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based
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 12:49 AM
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Q4W: Where does Santa Claus stand in terms of attractiveness?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 06:22 PM
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I can’t believe Walmart is closed on Christmas
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 06:13 PM
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That’s how it feels on the inside for all men when they have a crush. On the outside you have to appear nonchalant: “hey there, want to grab a coffee sometime?” This is to keep things from getting awkward in case she doesn’t reciprocate those feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 05:00 PM
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What about 35 year olds dating 25 year olds?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 04:46 PM
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Should I put that I cook and I clean on my OLD Profile since a lot of girls seem to think men don't do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 02:13 AM
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There was confusion above about why it was so controversial. I could see it being controversial to Muslim culture which is much more patriarchal than Western norms
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 07:56 AM
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Then the point is null, no? Maybe the guy found the 25 year old smart and mature enough, with the young attractiveness and added bonus. Heck, maybe the guy found the 25 year old smarter than that lady.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 07:51 AM
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“Muslim” There it is
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 07:45 AM
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Both genders choose attraction over personality. Hence the bad boy trope, the friendzone trope, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 07:22 AM
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Young women prefer exciting and carefree over “boring” and normal from how i heard it from women themselves on here, something along the lines of “tastes change” aka what red pill perceives as AF/BB
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 07:15 AM
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If you run a short guys bald head does a genie come out
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 08:47 AM
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I found that my relationship with my family got better after moving out. Seeing my parents every day it felt like our interactions were nothing special and I’d usually spend time in my room. Now that I only get to see them once a month, each time feels special and I love them more. Yeah, roommates suck. I’ve had roommates before. Living by myself the last few years I got to really explore what I wanted to do in my free time, who I really was and what I wanted in life. But that could just be me. …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 08:54 PM
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Living alone isn’t pointless, there are many perks and in fact I would recommend it to someone if they can afford it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 08:31 PM
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Yep, there are at least two delulu mods now that I’ve seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 08:26 PM
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Some of us men are! I’ve met a few myself and have somewhat coaxed a friend who otherwise wouldn’t have into being more social from time to time. Go out there my dude, it might be like finding a needle in the gaystack at first, but chat with some guys at the gym, at the bar (you don’t need to drink if you don’t), someone on the same hiking trail. Some men will be douches, some will simply ignore you, but you might bump into somebody like yourself who is looking to socialize.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 08:20 PM
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See, this is kind of what I was saying. There’s a sort of spectrum of insecurity that even women are on. A lot of women that say they don’t like insecure men generalize any insecurity as an ‘ick’. When on the other hand, everyone is at least a little insecure. Someone who is overconfident is usually fraudulent, reckless, or suppressing something. I can tolerate shyness, a bit of social awkwardness, being inexperienced at something new. The type of insecurity I wouldn’t date, even in a woman, is …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 08:25 AM
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What makes someone an incel is if they fall into cognitive distortions beliefs about the genders, and actively hate women over them. Being an incel/misogynist is ultimately a choice, in the end. And if you don't know if you're an incel, you're probably not an incel. Yes, mental health issues can make dating hard, make the world seem like a dark place. Could I give some advice that helped me? Take some time out of your day, whenever you can, to go for a nice long walk. Do this regularly. Reflect …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 06:44 AM
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What are you talking about, 5'9" isn't short lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 06:34 AM
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Would you stop giving overconfident rowdy guys a chance if you had an experience or two of them being toxic in some way? I get the turnoff of insecure, but I believe some people overthink it. Shyness isn't insecurity, a truly insecure guy you could tell from talking to them for a bit. I'm just saying it makes no sense to think 'all short guys' or 'all shy guys' are bad because of some bad experience with one.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 06:25 AM
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What makes you think every virgin looking to date has a bad personality? Do you think every virgin that has been unlucky thinks they’re entitled to sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 10:46 PM
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The green is a normal decent human being, the pink is an antisocial douche. The duality exists in both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 06:11 PM
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Yep, exactly! It's a well known psychological phenomenon. Here's an interesting 4 minute video on it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3ThUrVXz9j0
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 06:10 PM
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Better enjoy that before Trump's tariffs kick in
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 05:59 PM
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Why not make a thread about this? Could be popcorn worthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 05:28 PM
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Am I wrong here, or do women see a man who might appear to be that stable type and are repulsed because they believe it’s too good to be true? I’ve heard women say that they choose a rowdy carefree man because “at least he doesn’t hide his flaws/try too hard” or some other excuse like “at least he isn’t boring” or “maybe being with toxic men is what I’m used to” Just curious how common it is that women may assume a man is lying about his stability or good personality and choose not to give them …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 03:24 PM
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The poster was being sarcastic
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 03:04 PM
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Thanks dude. I like reading your comments on here. Take care!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 12:40 AM
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It isn't about my integrity. It's about her own. She has to have the integrity to know herself, why she had sex with as many people as she did. In other words, she's the judge of her own character. A rational person wouldn't do something irrational, like sleep with all 1000 men in their inbox to find out who's worth dating 🙄 Therefore no man is going to judge her for profiling through a couple dozen men, perhaps going on dates with a few of them, whatever she needs to find a suitor. It seems a l…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 10:49 PM
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Hmm, so am I basically screwed with dating since I'm an introvert? I'm not really socially awkward or anxious anymore, but I tend to keep to myself a lot. I have my hobbies, I go to the gym, go for long walks, sit at the park, and go out to bars a couple times a year, but I don't have a large friend group nor could I perceive myself ever having one. I can get along with people in the moment, but I usually don't look to connect with those people on a deeper level. I don't know, it's just one of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 10:04 PM
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How's his argument off-base? His questions are completely in line with the debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 09:31 PM
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Then "just because some think against this way" doesn't make it immoral or illogical?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 09:21 PM
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The argument men here are insisting is that actually, no, men do not. The argument here is that men have no choices, and merely get stuck with the 1 woman who will have them because women do all the work filtering for them. Men do not go after the first woman who gives them attention, we too have to filter through. Also, both parties have to filter for themselves. The woman has to want that man, and the man has to want that woman. Right? And it is much better to be more aggressive and filter ear…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 06:08 PM
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Literally no. Your whole premise is that all the cakes are “good” in some fashion, even if it’s just casual sex. Remember, men themselves tell us, often very very vocally, that if we even taste just a few “cakes” then we are worthless for a relationship. Any cake that is not a long term match cake is damaging to us, according to you men. Even if it’s not moldy or yucky or poison, if we try a few we fail to marry them for whatever reason, then we’re gross disgusting sluts or dumb stupid cat ladie…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 05:39 PM
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Isn't this like being served 10 options of cake every month, and you reject them all, and the following month you are served another 10 options, rinse and repeat for life. Some of them are actually moldy and unhealthy, some of them don't align with your taste buds, etc. etc. whatever the reason. But imagine this same scenario, except you're being served only 1 option every 2 months. Less quantity doesn't mean more quality. It's the same quality, less often. It's delusional to think, after 1000 s…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 05:05 PM
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Agree or disagree: in person is better than apps?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 03:09 PM
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I wish. But, too many guns in US now. 400 million or something. And too many people wouldn't let them go without a fight. There'd definitely be a black market for them. There's just no way now. An assault rifle ban would be nice though.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 02:24 PM
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All of my crushes have been blonde
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 02:19 PM
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You watch too many movies
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:53 PM
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There are a few reasons why I think it’s not fruitless to tell someone struggling to date to work on their personality (as long as it’s said as a suggestion and not an insult, obviously the person could have a good personality we don’t know them offline; it’s good for people to introspect “is it something I’m doing?” for any struggling social situation). Improving one’s outlook on life and behavior if they actually have toxic behaviors is beneficial for them all around and will improve their qua…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 09:29 PM
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Aw. Why?? He’s adorable.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:21 PM
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Who the fuck are you to make all of these assumptions about me? Back off!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:18 PM
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It definitely sounds like you think we are your enemies.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 08:05 AM
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You know, I thought the same thing about how to trust women at all after spending time reading toxic Reddit topics. And I've decided it's better for my own quality of life to not fall into the delusional belief that half of all people are my enemies.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 07:55 AM
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It wasn't ever denied. It was just emphasized the importance of personality. Both are important, whichever is more important more likely depends on the woman/man. I myself am a pretty visual man so I would say attraction is slightly more important than personality, but this isn't true for everyone, and that isn't to say I don't care about a woman's personality if she's attractive. Again, both are important.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 07:32 AM
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Yeah, that's where it crosses the line. When they treat you like a creep instead of saying "no thank you". Granted, every girl that rejected me were nice about it so far, so I'm grateful for that. But it does throw me off what I read about on Reddit, I would be so disheartened to be made out as a creep for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 07:19 AM
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The dude's really freaking cute. But I can see why someone who doesn't like chub might not be attracted to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 07:17 AM
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Q4A: What are you looking for in a relationship? how do you select your partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 07:12 AM
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Yeah it is
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 05:31 AM
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I won't throw the first punch, but I'll make sure they know that I'll throw the second.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 05:19 AM
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To be fair i also sit on my phone at the bar until the first couple drinks kick in. Then I dance. It would be cool to see another girl doing the same maybe I’d go talk to her
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 04:35 AM
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I don’t think people deserve to be physically assaulted for teasing someone
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 04:23 AM
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Aww please tell me this isn’t real
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 04:17 AM
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I think you’re lying 😄
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 02:49 AM
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Busted
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 02:31 AM
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The thread in question: https://archive.is/v0Rf1 Many people were confused about its deletion, and if the real reason is because of the post flair, that should mean it is fine by the rules otherwise to post with the correct flair?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 02:14 AM
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I think you’re arguing against the wrong premise. From what I understand, the experiment was to prove the argument not that women have an easier time getting matches, but to prove women have an easier time getting GOOD matches. The entire rhetoric was something along the lines of, a man with a good paying job, is attractive, is respectful, and wants to date. The guy who ran the experiment found 7 of those matches in less than 24 hours.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 02:08 AM
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Care if I repost it then with a “Debate” flair?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 12:43 AM
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Jeez, now you’re arguing just to argue
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 12:37 AM
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At first glance I thought this was a link to your onlyfans
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 07:36 AM
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I didn’t get this from the OP. I’m sure a woman wouldn’t stick with a guy she seems as below herself either.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 06:40 AM
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You’re wrong. Losing weight doesn’t depend on the food type you eat. It’s calories in, calories out. That isn’t to say eating pizza every day won’t cut your life in half.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 06:24 AM
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Stability usually is routine based, planning ahead, being conservative in their spending, eating healthy, and not as risk taking. A stable man will probably also be introspective and enjoy nuanced topics like self improvement and mental health awareness. All of this might make them a bit boring, even if they do occasionally go out of their way to have fun. If that’s not compatible with you, you’re more likely to end up with a man who isn’t very mature.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 06:11 PM
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Maybe we should have the apps be more description focused then, rather than picture focused. Max 3 pictures. More than just a bio, there are interests (that you can manually type in), descriptions in those interests to add whatever detail you want. Have hobbies separate from interests, descriptions in those hobbies. Have a quote feature to put your favorite quote in, it might express one's own personal life philosophy. etc. Get rid of height altogether, mayhaps. And instead of the algorithm bein…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 10:24 PM
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Being resentful is a choice and it’s nobody’s fault but their own. Some people are dicks, and everyone experiences harsh criticism. Some more so than others, still doesn’t make it right to become a jerk. Besides, isn’t this just a carrot on a stick kind of thing? “If you want a girl like her, you’re gonna have to lose some pounds.” It gives incentive, ambition. I won’t lie, my self improvement journey started off on impressing girls, and developed into doing it for myself later. I probably would…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 06:41 PM
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Then you should know the benefits of self improvement isn’t about getting chicks, it’s about improving one’s own quality of life. Getting chicks is just a bonus.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 05:50 PM
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Don't feel bad about believing in something or wearing what you'd like. People will probably be off-put if you're too flashy about things they aren't very interested in so my advice would be to try and relate to others more while balancing that out with who you are (astrology+vintage fashion)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 07:35 PM
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Ah, so to your first point, there should be some implication that the girl thinks you're hot before approaching? Maybe even if it's some subtle thing that you might be reading into, that's an appropriate reason to take the risk and make small talk? (e.g. if a girl has seemed to been following you around the gym and it could be coincidental, it wouldn't be a bad idea to talk to her if you run into her while she's leaving - but if it's just because you see a girl from afar who's attractive, don't …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 05:55 AM
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Just asking, not trying to sound condescending. Why do women swipe left on an attractive person who doesn't have a perfect picture? Maybe a mirror selfie with a white wall background, or something like that. Why is that an automatic left swipe?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 04:32 AM
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Bad luck. I mean, it’s judging a book by its cover, and throwing out a lot of possibly good people for no good reason
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 08:05 PM
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What’s the point of saying that though? Certainly someone can be a virgin late in life because they are a piece of shit, but why would that automatically make being a virgin a red flag? It would just mean being a piece of shit is a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:41 PM
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How about just not being shamed just because we are shy or timid or not flirty or not outgoing?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 02:42 PM
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Solid advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 09:55 PM
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It seems like the men that fits those standards tend to be more humble men, but it seems like a lot of women don't like humble men considering all of the common tropes that point out "nice guys finish last".
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 10:58 PM
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Is complaining online really "acting awful" in the same sense as the "terrible men" described in the OP? I do think OP got a bit carried away by blaming victims of abuse, but I've seen his same argument (about trashy guys having better romance lives than some decent guys) brought up by upset men in a more respectable manner. It seems normal to be upset when you do your best to be a respectable person and people come to insult you when you vent about not getting dates. For context, what about in …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 10:56 PM
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Any proof of that or is that just conjecture?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 06:51 PM
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Hey man I get that way sometimes. If you really want to waste your weekend doomscrolling I’m not gonna say you can’t. But it’s only the beginning of the weekend my friend. It’s hard to start when you feel like you got behind, but trust me it will feel good if you do something even if you got behind.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 04:49 PM
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https://youtu.be/_yovxK4VmUE?si=1lZ2YFJwPaasHNUE Is this really what women fantasize about? 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 04:45 PM
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This is what causes people to be unhappy in relationships, you get a headache keeping up that facade. Just be the best version of yourself. Might get fewer women that way, but you’ll get a real one for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 04:41 AM
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Why is that? Shyness usually goes away after a number of interactions. I feel like a lot of great people are overlooked just because of their initial shyness.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 03:49 AM
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If a man was a 8-9/10 everything else but is shy, what advice would you give? Assuming he is shy because he doesn't want to bother the person/come across as creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 03:26 AM
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I mean, I go with the flow and play it cool but nothing really comes up. I might have a brief conversation with a girl when getting groceries or when I’m at the gym or when I’m out on a walk, things like that, but nothing that could escalate to dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 07:52 PM
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What about mild shyness if they carry themselves confidently, as in they have good self esteem and they're not afraid of people, they are just shy around people they aren't used to.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 06:47 PM
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I'm just asking questions, I'm not sure why I'm being downvoted. What I meant about where you met them is, where did you meet all of these women you had no trouble meeting prior to your current partner? What settings?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 06:43 PM
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Where did you meet them? How many were available? How many would you actually have been interested in?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 06:35 PM
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Could a shy/timid person have a good personality? How much flirting is generally expected?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 06:08 PM
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What does that mean? I mean how you just used it, not the general definition.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 06:05 PM
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What type of status? Are you basically screwed if you are one to only want a few friends and are comfortable with blue collar jobs? Could personality outweigh the lacking of the above?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 05:07 PM
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Do you initiate with men the first time meeting them at events or class? Or do they?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 03:40 PM
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What did I deny??
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 08:43 PM
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Nice job at derailing the convo for no reason
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 08:41 PM
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What problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 08:39 PM
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I think pretty much everyone does domestic labor, especially single people. Or else they would barely survive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 08:37 PM
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What do you mean by more?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 08:36 PM
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Learn to spell
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 08:00 PM
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Aggression indicates lack of control. I think you’re mistaking it for assertion.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 01:23 AM
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What's that? Become a transwomen to get dates? 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 04:07 AM
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Go commit some crimes then what are you waiting for??
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 11:19 PM
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Being virgin is a negative thing and most virgins can attest to that. It doesn’t say anything about who you are as a person though, and I agree on that too. Being black is not a negative thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 11:23 PM
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Maybe chronically online women's standards. Or very superficial women's standards. But most people in general are normal. You go out there, vibe with who you vibe with, guaranteed a real person doesn't expect you to make 6 figures or have a 6 pack or be 6 foot tall.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 07:21 PM
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The loneliness epidemic has everything to do with social media and the ultra-convenience of our modern society.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 05:53 PM
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As others have said, people are grasping on everything they can to tear this guy down. People aren't making fun of him because he's a virgin, but because he's a piece of shit. They are using the virgin thing against him. To be fair, it's his own fault for making being a virgin some sort of pride thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 05:23 PM
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Why is it assumed this is only developed through romantic partners?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 06:26 AM
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What issues??
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 05:44 PM
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Iowa was pretty close this year considerably.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 07:48 PM
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What ad?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 07:11 PM
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i wanted to like kamala but womens called me mean names online /s
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 05:49 PM
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You don't have to wait in the dentist office for an hour :P
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 05:32 PM
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It's morning here. Thrown laundry in and on my first cup of coffee
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 05:13 PM
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I would go do something else in the city for an hour or just go for a walk. When you reschedule it takes a few weeks
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 05:09 PM
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Would you rather wait an hour or come back another day? It's entirely a personal preference and nobody can answer this for you
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 05:08 PM
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"Get a divorce now!" "My husband won't agree to a vasectomy it's ww3!" (Literal words) "Just goes to show Reddit women are as unhinged as incel men, just in their own way.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 07:27 AM
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Did you just 'so-what' the guy you voted for being a rapist?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 06:58 AM
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Then what's the point of saying "most white men" if you're not looking for someone to blame?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 05:58 AM
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Because you need someone to be a punching bag for your anger right? So every white man you see you're going to automatically assume they voted for Trump? I used to think every guy who dressed like a hick, listened to country, or drove big trucks were Republicans. A lot of them are, but when I stopped assuming that about people I didn't know I had a lot less enemies and my blood pressure went down. Just something to think about.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 03:58 AM
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Brian Banks?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 03:49 AM
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If property taxes are your biggest concern then you must have very little to worry about as it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 05:53 PM
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Freedom? You mean like prison time for burning the flag or criticizing the Supreme court? https://demandjustice.org/trump-calls-for-supreme-court-critics-to-be-jailed/ https://www.newsweek.com/trump-backs-jail-burning-american-flags-1944742 I don't think the guy is who you think he is. But it's too late, what's done is done.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 04:58 PM
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Did y'all really vote for Trump because of your incel beliefs? I don't recall Trump saying anything about giving out free pussy. What's going to happen for sure: Tariffs will increase prices for the consumer on all things that come from overseas, Ukraine will fall to Russian hands and a dictatorship will be allowed to snowball into something more powerful, abortion will become federally illegal (with both chambers of Congress red and Trump as president, there's no way it's going to remain at sta…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 04:47 PM
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i think there done with campaigns
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 07:39 AM
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Basically avoid appearing too insecure
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 10:20 PM
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Maybe there's a more obvious reason that both modest men and modest women struggle with the opposite sex: their modest personality keeps them mostly reserved, and it's usually the more vocal ones that find each other in the wild. It's kind of like a mating call. It has nothing to do with the women's personality, I can tell you that. As a modest man myself I would love to date a woman who isn't party-hardy (as long as they're occasionally outgoing and not impossible to get to know).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 04:33 PM
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bad kirby. get spank.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 07:03 AM
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Was there an actual outline to the "self improvement" red pills suggest? It's certainly true that, no matter what philosophy you approach dating with, you're not guaranteed anything. But some you'll definitely benefit from. For example, you go out and socialize more? No guarantee you'll find the love of your life in the wild, but if you avoid meeting people all the time your chances remain at zero. And, if you don't take care of your body, your chances are practically zero with a person who does…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 05:58 AM
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I've seen this person around a lot. She seems to think her life path is the standard and nobody else exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 02:09 AM
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More opportunities to improve their social skills*
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 05:40 PM
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Whoever they find boring and then blame the men themselves for them not liking them
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 03:15 PM
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Someone is bitter
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 06:36 PM
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Dating shouldn't feel like a job interview or interacting with professors. I really don't see it making a difference where or what I take pictures of. I don't believe my profile is even that bad. It isn't perfect, but why is it worth it to get it to perfect? Women can see get a sense of who I am and what I like with my questions/answers, and they can see what I look like. I don't think the couple of more tweaks I can think of will bring me much more success. Every guy struggles with dating apps.…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 03:03 PM
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No advice is better than the advice OP gave. Guaranteed she's swiped left on guys with decent pictures
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 02:38 PM
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As someone who exercises and does have a fade haircut, and doesn’t dress like a bum, I still don’t get matches. Dating apps you’re gonna get left swiped if you merely have glasses to be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 02:34 PM
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It seems you want highly fabricated pictures. What’s so wrong with a selfie in the mirror? Guys don’t naturally have photogenic behavior or friends who are like “ooh let’s take a picture! You look so handsome right now!” Lol Why would we go through the whole complicated monkey dance? If the picture shows you what we look like, why is it such a big deal?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 02:30 PM
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Damn man are you blue or red or what? Smartest comment I’ve seen
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 05:16 AM
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Hahaha same dude she just keeps coming back
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 03:25 AM
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Oh, you want to be a stay at home mom…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 03:24 AM
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Yeah, I'm going to go out to the bar tomorrow for Halloween. I don't expect to pick up a girl, I'll probably just try to politely butt into groups. But if I do end up talking to a single girl, I might ask her to dance to avoid showing too much social awkwardness haha. Thanks for the tips!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 11:35 PM
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Helpful. I would say I'm good at showing interest in others and asking questions to keep a conversation going (sometimes), whether it's enjoyable or not is a hit or miss. I've always just thought to ask the questions I genuinely was interested in knowing the answer to and might make the conversation more interesting (from my perspective). Do you have to be a 10/10 conversationalist to have luck in dating? If your aim is 7/10 women or higher? I can't help but think most people don't realistically…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 11:21 PM
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What are good social skills and how do you develop them? I feel like I understand the basics but apparently I do not impress the ladies. Only a few male friends, ladies like me as friends but never romantic. And I am pretty sure I’m at least 6/10 physically, if not more
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 10:47 PM
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It happens sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 10:39 PM
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Something tells me you haven't experienced a 'first time' yet. It's like walking into the engine of a train and expecting to know how to operate it on the spot. You'd want to let them know you're inexperienced, or else they're sure to find out the moment you and her are alone in the room together.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 07:58 PM
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I'm trying to get my social skills better, it's difficult in this redneck town I live in where 80% of guys are typical right-wing hicks who are competitive and have a distasteful sense of humor, and not to mention the population is literally 7000.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 07:52 PM
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Yeah, I would love to honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 07:37 PM
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I mean unless you want to lie about it when it comes time, which is wrong and wouldn't help the fact that you are literally going into this the first time with all of the nervousness and lack of experience and no idea what you're doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 07:36 PM
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What are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 06:26 PM
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I guess putting words in other peoples' mouths is your strong suit, huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 05:59 PM
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I didn't see anything about the attraction being only physical.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 05:38 PM
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I wasn't? Who said anything about wanting to "fuck someone's privates"? By attraction I thought it was already implied they have feelings. Not to mention, a single person who is physically attracted to another who they enjoy spending time with? It's far fetched to believe that wouldn't develop into feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 05:36 PM
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It isn’t about entitlement, because the person doesn’t have to act on it to have the feelings. Having an immense crush on someone and seeing them going home with someone else or loving someone else more naturally stings.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 02:49 PM
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Most accurate answer
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 02:09 PM
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What if your hobbies are exercising and writing? Both are pretty solitary hobbies. What is inherently wrong with solitary hobbies anyway? It’s best to have hobbies for time apart, to keep one an individual. Which is why many married men end up falling into mechanic/wood working hobbies, as an escape from the family time. Same with women and knitting, girls night out, whatever. You can have solitary hobbies that interest you while also spending time with your family, and taking your wife places y…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 02:06 PM
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A match made in McDonald's
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 12:55 AM
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Maybe. *shrugs* I don't see how that could be proven though. I mean, if someone has any modicum of social experience with family or friends, and if they know their values and what they want in life, I could see a long term relationship working.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 01:01 AM
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It doesn’t seem like having a lot of dating experience is the common denominator for emotional maturity, considering many people with prior dating experience are still immature and there are plenty of mature that have little to no dating experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 12:43 AM
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I guess I've always interpreted red flag as "this man is fundamentally flawed" instead of "i personally don't like this"
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 10:10 PM
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Is it still a red flag if you met a guy your age that is a virgin, but he wasn't extremely weird, awkward, or unkempt? Maybe he is shy around the ladies though. I guess I'd have to ask you why it is a red flag for you. The average man does not have as many relationship opportunities as the average woman does, it's entirely possible for a man to get preoccupied with life and not ever bump into that opportunity. Especially if the man isn't interested in something casual with someone he's not attra…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 09:48 PM
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The only way I see this working is saying "I've had sex once or twice, nothing memorable" which would basically be on the same line as being a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 08:29 PM
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I bought my house before the interest rates doubled, so it would be a hard trade. And it would be hard to find a job that I like as much as my current one. Lower prices, less traffic, there's a lot of benefits to trade up for the minimum chance of joining a hobby group and meeting the love of my life haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 05:56 PM
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Sorry, I was going back to the original post of after a few months in the person became lazy or clingy, which I guess either can have their severities, but the way you described it didn't sound severe. Then again I can't know just by a couple paragraphs of description. I guess I just got caught up in the idea that sometimes relationships are taken too fast, and that ends up with either quickly ending things or quickly setting the anchor, the former is just as harmless as throwing out cake for a …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 05:37 PM
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I don't know how you got 'abusive or untenable' from 'small personality disagreements'.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 05:19 PM
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I don't disagree. I think the 'nice guy' debate is taken out of hand, but I think there's some truth that nurturing men are more often going to be more timid and feminine, and that will repulse a certain chunk of men and women alike because it doesn't seem masculine or appropriate to their gender role, hence resorting in poor social lives for even a nurturing man.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 05:17 PM
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I'm not sure what your generation is but I'm in my upper twenties. I think it makes more sense to pay for two houses than to sign a contract with someone you've only known for a year, or to discard them on small personality disagreements before even all of the seasons are through.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 05:12 PM
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This doesn't apply to people in rural areas, unfortunately. There are literally no hobby groups and maybe once a year can I afford to go to an event like a concert.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 05:06 PM
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Maybe I'm not understanding you. How does one not know the difference between abuse and love? Especially if the person in question recognizes that their parents' behavior was abusive, why would they seek it out again? Why would someone seek out someone that makes them feel uncomfortable in general? People who were abused can still generally tell if someone is being disrespectful or intentionally overstepping boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 05:00 PM
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You don't think a year is a bit fast to marry?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:55 PM
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Because those are secondary priorities, compared to if they are into them or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:47 PM
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I don't think the stress of being seen negatively by some even comes close to the stress of raising a child you don't want.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:36 PM
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How about this instead: "Be the best version of yourself"
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:07 PM
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That's objectification. I don't play video games at all. I do spend a lot of times on forums and don't deny my in person social skills are a work in progress, but I certainly don't view women as objects to acquire. I generally don't hang out or befriend women because, as a 28 year old man, it doesn't feel appropriate. I know I want a relationship, so hanging out with unavailable women makes me feel shady, hanging out with single women I'm not interested could give them an impression I don't want…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:00 PM
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I sort of agree with the OP, and it's because men are generally competitive whereas women as generally nurturing. That results in men generally having poorer social lives than women. But I'm just spitballing here.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 03:53 PM
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Because it's worth it. Keep at it. Don't let dipshits like OP bring you down. Sincerely, fellow autistic guy
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 06:02 AM
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Where are you getting this information? It seems very assumptive. The fact that you are favoring one type of narcissist over the other is a bit concerning, but I'll try not to read into it much. Sometimes you can do more damage if you use the small chisel. What did you mean by this?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 05:08 AM
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Being a good man doesn't hurt your chances with everyone. In fact, it'll inspire your chances of meeting good people over bad people. And, if all else fails, there is a certain integrity and self esteem thing in knowing you evaluated your morals and made responsible decisions, a pleasure quite comparable to sex but lasts the lifetime.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 04:58 AM
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"Covert narcissists are often the worst" I don't see why covert narcissists would be worse than extroverted narcissists. But the reason you gave, their being judgmental to others, doesn't seem like a genuine reason to say they're worse, considering what narcissists actually do to people.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 04:46 AM
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Would you say, from what you view from other women, that 'bad boys' are a common turn on?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 04:43 AM
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So do you think it is true or not? If it is true, it depends on whether the traits women are picky about are worthwhile. If it's about mundane things and less about personality, the effect on the average women could be just as harmful as it is to the average man.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 07:49 PM
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So do you think it is true or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 07:47 PM
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Just hoping to inspire some self reflection about what names you call people. As I see it, it really boils down to 1) You're an empathetic person and you'd try to understand how terrible that word is and should only be used when really meant. or 2) You don't really care what effect such slurs has on a person and you lack empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 12:33 AM
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Do you understand that it is a dehumanizing thing to say about someone, or do you just lack empathy?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 12:08 AM
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I haven't looked into it much. I'm not quite clear on what exactly women aren't equal on. I'm all for pro-choice, though, and all of the stuff that came after the 1950s of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 10:08 PM
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Most other answers here seem to say that creepiness is the lack of understanding boundaries. You seem to be the only one insisting that innocent social awkwardness itself is enough to deem someone a creep.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 05:33 PM
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Thank you for you answers. Very respectable perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 05:31 PM
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Sure, but this thread was made having in mind that the people who were responding were normal people and not childish people who judge presence and behavior in that way or call other people names. It's obviously a social deficit. What does that have to do with the discussion?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 05:15 PM
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Because it's dehumanizing and shows a lack of empathy. Would you appreciate being called a creep over simple slip ups by various random men?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 05:02 PM
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Exactly! This.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 04:56 PM
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Would you say it's fair to use creep for simply being unsure about someone? Especially around other people, defaming him? I'm referring to the "unintentionally creepy" man you described, and not the ones who become actual creeps for not getting "rewarded" (which, believe me, it's not all of us and I would say it's far from all of us, so please don't stereotype us all thinking we'll be like that). I think defaming someone as a creep in your peer group is very dehumanizing and shows a lack of empa…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 04:55 PM
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On top of that, after spending a long time struggling and not getting rewarded for all the effort, these genuinely socially awkward guys sometimes decide to just push the boundaries on purpose even when they understand them because they're so sick and tired of trying so hard and still being side-eyed. So the line between unintentional and intentional becomes a bit blurry, like they usually have trouble, but they're also willing to be wilfully ignorant on occasion when they can get away with it. …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 04:48 PM
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Is there ever a case where the man never becomes sexual or flirty in any direct way, is avoiding disrespecting your boundaries, but his occasional nervousness or his excitement when talking to you (maybe causing him to ramble on or smile at awkward times walking by you, something seemingly weird but nothing threatening) would make you perceive him as a creep?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 04:45 PM
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Yeah, i get the touching thing could be seen as creepy. But what if this guy had avoided touching your hand but instead chose to ask you out for coffee, you rejected, and he said no problem and left?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 04:40 PM
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Would you say you use it sparingly?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 11:34 AM
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Oh yeah. Not even kidding, as a guy it even creeped me out, I read that post after walking home from the gym at night.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 10:59 AM
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But in general it's agreed it should only be used if the person genuinely makes them feel uncomfortable, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 10:56 AM
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What previous post?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 10:54 AM
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Gee wizz
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 09:19 AM
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I suppose our views of reality gets tainted when we average-lookers spend time on a sub full of spite for attractive people. Thanks for clarifying the reality. I sometimes gravitated towards that mindset reading the posts here but I knew it didn't sound right.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 06:00 AM
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For me, who is also fit, it's anxiety and also I suspect most women would find me boring because I'm pretty basic.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 05:55 AM
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Men put in a comparable amount of effort into themselves as well: cardio, weight training, emotional independence (since male friends are almost never going to be emotionally support type the way women friends are), the societal expectations of a man (career, social statues, finances), and often having to be the initiator when meeting women they're attracted to. A man who does most of those things usually dates up as well, it's understandable. But generally if a woman is fit and shaves, they'll …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 05:47 AM
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I don't know you personally, but could you say you truly love yourself if you say "most of us will end up killing ourselves or doing things that hasten death" or "live for spite sake" and also live in envy of people with better sex lives (especially if you have no way of knowing what their sex life is actually like)? A person who loves themselves would never hurt themselves. I think this negative view you have of life or yourself will definitely not help in the dating market. And there is so muc…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 01:05 AM
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It's all fun and games until you grab a shirt and it scurries out in your direction.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 04:57 PM
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What's up?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 04:05 PM
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As an American, if Trump wins, America gets what it deserves.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 03:58 PM
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You've got a good mind, my guy. Don't dwell in this shithole of a sub and let the incel ghost stories or the femcel ragebaits split your mind in half. Leave while you can. There's no logic to dating, just feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 03:51 PM
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Sorry, they tend to overlap 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 02:04 PM
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Your argument is women can have high standards for commitment but not men? Because they are able to be used as tissue more easily than a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 11:43 PM
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I’d put my hulk mask on first then help her. I always have a hulk mask in my gym bag for this specific scenario
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 02:24 AM
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Nope. But anger and hate only makes the hurt deeper. I'll be deleting my comments shortly, just wanted you to know. I hope you lighten up, we only have one life after all. Good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 05:59 PM
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Guaranteed from reading your posts alone, you hate men for some reason or another. Someone hurt you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 05:53 PM
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What's that supposed to mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 05:37 PM
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I've unfortunately seen at least a couple times. Luckily it never escalated. It's usually the single men flirting with the unavailable woman though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 05:34 PM
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Well, I still don't understand how you don't think it's wrong for someone to try and tempt someone they know is married. Not denying that 95% of the person in the wrong is the married person, but you don't think there is anything wrong at all with the behavior of the other? It's pure manipulation. On the other hand, at least you're consistent between genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 05:29 PM
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So it's safe to assume if a man was tempting a married woman to sleep with her, when he knows she's married, and she confides, then the entire blame is put on the married woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 05:21 PM
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You're right, there's different situations. But that wasn't the situation I mentioned, was it?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 05:17 PM
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Let me put it this way: if a woman is tempting a man to sleep with her, when she knows he's married, and he confides, is she in the wrong as well or is the entire blame put on the man?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 05:16 PM
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What do you think it is?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 04:56 PM
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You wouldn't put any blame on a temptress? I find other men disgusting when they are trying to flirt with knowingly unavailable women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 04:36 PM
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Yep, just a normal decent person.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 04:25 PM
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Don't let the few bad apples spoil your view of everyone in the world. Made that mistake myself. Hope you find your people. Sorry you feel this way. I can tell you i used to think everyone sucked too. Then I found out there are actually many mature and respectful people in this world to meet.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 03:03 AM
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I honestly don't think it's as common as you think. like i said, assuming you're observing this behavior in adults and not just school kids, find new people to hang around. most people are not that pathetic to call men incels or virgins in real life. And besides, there's no way they will know your sex status unless you tell them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 01:56 AM
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90% of men are invisible 90% of the time. Male virgins maybe ridiculed <10% of the time unless you're talking to people who are still in high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 12:15 AM
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Those are things I really only see discussed online personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 10:40 PM
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I simply don't believe this. Not to the extreme of what you said. I can't imagine someone, unless they had serious problems of their own, who would fixate on someone's sex life like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 10:34 PM
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Man, I myself have a different experience with the women I meet in my life. And I work in a factory, where you'd half expect people to be toxic like that. Yeah I've heard 'virgin' used as a slur, but never anyone who'd actually berate anyone like that. I tend to just keep my sexual status to myself, and just don't appear desperate on the outside, so there's no way of anyone knowing my sex life until the moment we become intimate, by that point it doesn't matter much.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 10:24 PM
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If women are being indoctrinated and more and more women do this, then men absolutely have a problem with it. Because there isnt enough good women around anymore, and if they want to procreate, they have to settle with these hoes.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 10:19 PM
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Is this the reason why people tend to congregate to the loud yet toxic people? E.g. Trump supporters? Because "if they don't appear evil they must be fake".
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 10:02 PM
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Be honest, where do you hear people talking like that? In real life or online? If you are surrounded by people in real life that talk like that, I'd have to think you live in some trashy part of a city and would consider moving to a more normal region.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 09:58 PM
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Women care more about what other people will think of their partner than what they think of their partner, apparently
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 03:35 AM
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Thanks :) That's a nice story and I wish the best for both of you!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 04:55 AM
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Can I ask where you met and how it happened?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 03:33 AM
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I think there are a couple other factors at play: 1) The guy rejected may wonder, naturally, what did he have that I didn't? The guy seems like a total piece of crap And 2) If it happens frequently enough, that question would become an insecurity, and if they have already put the work into themselves to live virtuously, it creates the illusion that all women find their self perceived virtues less worthy than a man with less virtues. I'm not trying to seem like I'm validating their perception, ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 11:26 PM
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I think you perfectly described the situation of frustrated yet less dysfunctional singles.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 11:16 PM
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