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| 8 | [Update] Wife advice | Proper_Screen | /r/RPChristians | 07/02/20 01:40 AM | |
| 2 | How do I handle my mistakes? | Proper_Screen | /r/askRPC | 17/10/20 07:01 PM |
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| 2 | What are the biggest mistakes most men make in their first year of marriage?If you haven't learned to STFU, do it quick. I can be pretty sarcastic and teasing. My first year of marriage I hadn't learned yet what's okay to tease about and what isn't. By now I'm much better at knowing what's okay and what isn't okay, but until then it's best to STFU. I can also be very passive-aggressive. Women are *super* sensitive to that. If you want to be a "I say what I mean and I mean what I say" kind of guy then any kind of passive-aggressive BS must be eliminated. Save the drama f… | /r/RPChristians | 11/09/25 05:07 PM |
| 1 | Notes from an awesome Dad "Primer on Children"not forced to do something that he doesn't like Can you elaborate what you mean here? If I didn't force my son to do things he didn't like he'd just skip school, play Minecraft, and eat chips all day. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/08/25 04:58 PM |
| 5 | Have you ever seen cases where it's a woman who "creates" a man, rather than the other way around?I've become a better man after having kids. Why? Did my kids do anything? No. I just decided I had a responsibility to be the best father I can be and have tried to rise to the challenge. It's the same with my wife. She certainly challenges me (sometimes intentionally, often not), and I consider it my responsibility to rise to those challenges. My kids and my wife aren't special. They aren't doing anything magical to "create" a better version of me. I'm doing that. | /r/askMRP | 12/05/25 04:08 PM |
| 15 | Divorce your wife in your head!Tell us how it's going a week from now after the initial hysterical bonding has worn off. | /r/askMRP | 24/03/25 03:07 AM |
| 1 | It's hilarious but simultaneously depressingThe way I see it, you have 3 options: Do nothing and whine about it Go find a different church with more/cuter girls Get more/cuter girls to come to your church Also, what does this mean? And these two will be either straight up unattractive and fat or deformed ... it won't fix their busted faces. ... the younger ones around my age dressed like theyre the FLOTUS or royalty full of vanity So you want a girl with a pretty face, but is a bad dresser? | /r/RPChristians | 16/02/25 08:51 PM |
| 1 | It's hilarious but simultaneously depressingSo what are you going to do about it? | /r/RPChristians | 15/02/25 08:59 PM |
| 1 | Married 45 years…if your husband passed would u remarry? If yes, reasons u would remarry and if no, why wouldn’t u remarryI'm curious, why are you asking? And why did you decide to ask here? | /r/RPChristians | 09/02/25 05:48 PM |
| 1 | MRP methods works with other people too?I agree with what others are saying, but to answer your question, I'm a fan of: Jocko Willink: https://www.youtube.com/@JockoPodcastOfficial - lots of discussions on leadership and ownership Mark Manson: https://markmanson.net/ - Mix of relationship stuff and "fix your life" stuff Honorable mention: https://www.youtube.com/@Charismaoncommand (in particular, the latest video about the "king" archetype: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qe3moydLS8w ) | /r/askMRP | 31/01/25 06:53 PM |
| 1 | I'm lacking the courage to break up with my girlfriendI no longer want to be in relationship with her because right now what good for me is to be single and focus on restoring my relationship with God. There you go. Just tell her that. It's honest, concise, and respectful. She'll probably still get upset and beg you to stay, but you just have to put on your big boy underpants and follow through. You are responsible for you, not for her or her feelings. | /r/RPChristians | 16/12/24 07:16 PM |
| 14 | My wife is making life difficult for meSometimes she asks for money before we can make love. Huh? Like she literally says "give me money or I won't sleep with you?" Quid pro quo? This seems like the very first boundary you need to set. Immediately. I don’t want to divorce her because of what society might say about me That's a stupid reason. A far better reason is because God says marriage is for life. But not getting divorced because of "society" is stupid. Find your frame, find your balls, and start doing things because it's what y… | /r/RPChristians | 12/12/24 05:42 PM |
| 13 | Looking for advice"The beatings will continue until morale improves." | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/12/24 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Wife wants to have sex more than me and I feel insecure about it.This sounds like me. My wife would love more sex, but I just don't want to sleep with her. I got my T checked, and it's fine. Turns out I don't want to have sex with her because she's fat and lazy. What is your wife saying when she starts talking? Is it stuff like "fuck my tight little pussy, Daddy" or "are you remembering to slowly move more assets from stocks to bonds in your 401k as you approach retirement?" | /r/askMRP | 09/11/24 09:43 PM |
| 3 | Pushing Past Roe v. WadeIt's a lot easier to wag your finger at other people than to put in the work to fix your own issues. Didn't Jesus say something about that? Specks and planks, or something... | /r/RPChristians | 09/11/24 09:31 PM |
| 2 | What do young Christian men need to learn about intersexual dynamics?What I needed to hear more of at that age was that women (other than maybe my own mom) and my relationships with them and approval from them were not nearly as critical to my life as I thought they were. | /r/RPChristians | 27/09/24 09:13 PM |
| 2 | Field Report: I started MRP 3.5 years ago. My life is awesome now.I'm gonna get her some tits. You've piqued my curiosity. Is this something she wants? If so, is it a "I want to feel better about myself" thing or a "I want to look good for my husband" thing? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/09/24 09:06 PM |
| 3 | Woman was created for manSince you brought this passage up, I have some questions: every wife who prays or prophesies Is this saying a woman can preach and teach? For if a wife will not cover her head, then she should cut her hair short. So "cover her head" must mean an actual head covering, not hair, right? Otherwise cutting her hair short if her head is already "uncovered" by her hair makes no sense. Verse 9 says "That is why a wife ought to have a symbol of authority on her head, because of the angels." What does "sy… | /r/RPChristians | 22/09/24 07:27 PM |
| 1 | Defining 7 basics of discipleship into a 1-10 scale rubricWhy is this necessary? Someone once asked Gilbert Gottfried Greg Doucette how hard must one train to build muscle. Answer: "Harder than last time." Get the metaphor? | /r/RPChristians | 14/09/24 04:43 AM |
| 6 | What is the reason for the decline of activity since 2015?Be the change you want. | /r/RPChristians | 30/08/24 04:05 AM |
| 2 | SUBMISSION TO MY HUSBAND OR VALUESWhy? All it does is prevent the ovary from releasing an egg. It doesn't end pregnancy. | /r/RPChristians | 27/08/24 01:05 PM |
| 1 | Reconciliation LetterIf you have stuff to say to her, why not just sit down and say it to her face? Why write a letter? | /r/RPChristians | 06/08/24 12:52 PM |
| 1 | From the RMV Checklist sidebar:What is the "RMV checklist"? Edit: Nevermind. https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/avclmv/rmv_checklist_how_to_know_if_a_woman_is_good/ | /r/RPChristians | 02/08/24 01:06 PM |
| 1 | What do you guys think of Dan Bacon?But I started to feel like something was off with this guy but I just couldn't put my finger on it so I kept that in mind and then I tried to use this guys advice on the girl in mind (to be fair I wasn't using it properly and I was being kind of cocky,) and it backfired on me so I realised that maybe this guys advice is not entirely reliable. No amount of advice or following the "rules" or playing the "game" or having perfect "technique" is going to work 100% of the time. Some girls just won't b… | /r/RPChristians | 17/06/24 07:42 PM |
| 9 | What scriptural proof is there that having sex with multiple women in a lifetime is sinful?Then considering marrying multiple women, or having concubines (women of lesser social status then the first wife). Abraham, Jacob, David, Salomon. As far as I can tell these women were satisfied with their arrangements. The fact that you mention Jacob and then say "as far as I can tell these women were satisfied with their arrangements" tells me you aren't very familiar with the Old Testament. Read Jacob's story. Also, consider that Jacob married two sisters, which was later banned in Leviticus… | /r/RPChristians | 11/06/24 11:38 AM |
| 1 | Can Christians Be Possessed? Examining a Controversial TopicRomans 6 and 7 seem relevant here. | /r/RPChristians | 10/06/24 06:50 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/20/24)OYS # 65 (previous) 40yo, wife 35, married 7 years, 2 sons under 6 Physical Stats: 5' 11", 189lb, 20% BF?, 1 rep bench: 210lb, 1 rep squat: 265lb, 1 rep deadlift: 315lb My lifts have stalled. Not just that, but my libido is pretty much gone. Even the usual temptation to look at porn is gone. My wife has noticed and is starting to worry about me. We've figure out if we mess around in the morning instead of at night I can usually at least get hard. Possible causes: Low T - I haven't been tested. B… | /r/RPChristians | 22/05/24 08:50 PM |
| 1 | In her frame, needing assistance.Are you attracted to this girl? Do you enjoy talking to her? What do YOU want? | /r/RPChristians | 25/04/24 04:23 PM |
| 6 | Is you, or is you aint gonna forgive?True story: A while ago a member of my church went to the elders and confessed he maybe had a little affair and cheated on his wife. "I'm really sorry and I won't do it again!" The elders said, "that's ok, just be a good boy from now on." Time passed, and recently it came out out that he wasn't just having an affair. He had sexually assaulted, possibly even raped, multiple women, and it was continuing even after he'd gone to the elders. The elders asked him to not come back, and they're in the b… | /r/RPChristians | 28/02/24 04:38 PM |
| 1 | Trying to Please but actually repulsing! A short analysis of men and women projecting.Men primarily prefer dogs, and women prefurr cats (pun intended). That's a myth. Bad analogy. Both prefer dogs. https://www.statista.com/statistics/831452/pet-ownership-united-states-millennials-cat-dog/ | /r/RPChristians | 24/02/24 02:08 PM |
| 3 | “First let me Bury my father” Old order ways in an Old town. An Old man dies on a hill called Insanity.Your anecdotes seem more appropriate for a blog, not for posting here, unless you have a bigger point to make other than "I talked to a guy who has a wife with incorrect ideas." | /r/RPChristians | 22/02/24 01:35 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/19/24)OYS #64 (previous) 40yo, wife 35, married 7 years, 2 sons under 6 Physical Stats: 5' 11", 188lb, 20% BF?, 1 rep bench: 210lb, 1 rep squat: 265lb, 1 rep deadlift: 315lb The cut is over. I lost close to 10lb. Now I'm building my strength again. I started Phrak's Greyskull LP. Relationships This is going to be tricky to get out without going into specifics, but I'll do my best. My wife has a kink that I've sort of kind of known about for a little while. It's not sinful, exactly, just kind of weird.… | /r/RPChristians | 20/02/24 02:29 PM |
| 4 | Churchianity Hates King David! Pastor's question leads Nice Guys in crowd to virtue signal. Women are not impressed.Really not "reading in" much at all, just drawing obvious inferences from human, female nature. You're making assumptions about scripture and claiming to know things it doesn't say. Maybe she was minding her own business taking her ritual post-period purification bath and he happened to be able to see through a window from his vantage point. Or maybe you're right and she waited to take her mikveh until she spotted David taking a stroll up there. We don't know. So don't claim to know. | /r/RPChristians | 29/01/24 11:37 PM |
| 5 | Churchianity Hates King David! Pastor's question leads Nice Guys in crowd to virtue signal. Women are not impressed.2 Samuel 11:2-5: "It happened, late one afternoon, when David arose from his couch and was walking on the roof of the king's house, that he saw from the roof a woman bathing; and the woman was very beautiful. And David sent and inquired about the woman. And one said, “Is not this Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam, the wife of Uriah the Hittite?” So David sent messengers and took her, and she came to him, and he lay with her. (Now she had been purifying herself from her uncleanness.) Then she retu… | /r/RPChristians | 29/01/24 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Advice for journalingOne benefit of writing your feelings down is it gives you a chance to look at all the crap you just wrote and realize how irrelevant and silly and disconnected from reality your feelings usually are. | /r/askRPC | 23/01/24 01:09 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (01/15/24)OYS #63 (previous) 40 yo, wife 35 yo, married 7 years, 2 sons under 6 Physical Stats: 6', 189lb (-6), 20% BF (estimated), 1 rep bench: 205lb, 1 rep squat: 225lb, 1 rep deadlift: 315lb I'm about 1 month into my cut. I've lost a few pounds, but my lifts are starting to slide downward, so I need to be careful about my protein intake. Relationships I always thought of myself as someone who doesn't have a temper and can stay calm when a normal guy would lose it. That's mostly true, except when it com… | /r/RPChristians | 18/01/24 01:27 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (12/18/23)OYS #62 (previous) 40 yo, wife 35 yo, married 7 years, 2 sons under 6 Physical Stats: 6', 195lb, 24% BF, 1 rep bench: 205lb, 1 rep squat: 225lb, 1 rep deadlift: 315lb I've been on a cut for not quite a week. I'm on track to lose about 1 lb this week, so I think my calories are right, and I'm keeping my protein intake the same as before. I feel a pretty constant bit of hunger in the background, but I can ignore it. The main problem is my libido has dropped to almost nothing. Maybe it's the stress… | /r/RPChristians | 19/12/23 01:04 AM |
| 1 | Neglectful Husband, and Wife Wants a DivorceI found PUA/Redpill stuff a long time ago Interesting that you combined PUA and RP like that. There seems to be a lot of confusion about PUA vs RP. Maybe that explains all of the "I did XYZ to try to get my wife to fulfill my covert contract but now she's doing something else and I don't understand but I tried doing this other thing and now she says I'm acting weird I don't know what to doooooooo!" posts lately. PUA = pretending to have your life together so that women will be attracted to you u… | /r/askMRP | 17/12/23 08:36 PM |
| 3 | Rollo Tomassi on Genuine DesireExample: you walk past your wife and grab her butt without saying anything and then continue going about your day The idea is that (at least in her mind) you grabbed her butt simply because you saw her nice butt and wanted to grab it, not because you're horny and want sex so you're trying that "kino" thing you read about on the internet that sometimes works. The idea is NOT that you can't show you are attracted to her (or any woman in general). I like the way Mark Manson put it: the typical woma… | /r/RPChristians | 23/09/23 07:22 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (09/11/23)You didn't even post your current height and weight. If you're 400lb and doing 10 strict pushups per set then that seems very respectable. If you're 180lb and doing 20 strict pushups per set... meh. | /r/RPChristians | 22/09/23 11:47 PM |
| 1 | (Off-topic): Anyone having dreams more often, since starting their MRP-journey?You're probably dreaming the same amount that you were before. The difference is you're waking up during REM sleep more. You only remember a dream if you wake up in the middle of it. REM sleep happens more frequently later in the night, so maybe that means you're sleeping better/longer and have a better chance of waking up during a dream. | /r/askMRP | 15/09/23 01:25 PM |
| -1 | Gen Z Christian males are more religious then their female counterparts!A book based on the premise that the only reason men do ANYTHING is because of women seems weirdly misandrist. | /r/RPChristians | 16/08/23 01:00 PM |
| 2 | Gen Z Christian males are more religious then their female counterparts!What redwall92 said, but also: It seems like you're worried about things you cannot control but doing nothing about the things you can control. | /r/RPChristians | 15/08/23 07:03 PM |
| 2 | Is it okay to willfully commit sexual sin?Is it okay I know this is wrong You know the answer, but for some reason you want permission from a bunch of internet randos to have sex. If a wait until marriage and marry a non virgin i will feel completely emasculated. Why does your masculinity have anything to do with whether your future wife isn't a virgin? I will have FOMO and extreme jelousy I think you mean envy. Especially since your answer to that is "willfully go commit sexual sin and sleep with a bunch of women" that's not the person… | /r/RPChristians | 15/08/23 07:02 PM |
| 3 | It's rock bottom for me and I'm begging for help!Fine. Start lifting. Join a gym. Buy some dumbbells or a pullup bar. Do some pushups. Do *something*. The next Monday come back here and post an OYS and tell us what you lifted and whether you consumed any porn. There's your accountability. | /r/RPChristians | 09/08/23 02:17 PM |
| 3 | It's rock bottom for me and I'm begging for help!I am not good enough for women and I accept that since that's what porn has made me feel! What? What do you mean you "accept that?" Because that's how you "feel?" Feelings are not truth. How much of this porn addiction is because you just gotta see those titties and how much is because you're life sucks and you need those dopamine hits to self medicating the depression that you feel because your life sucks? Try fixing your life. Start reading the sidebar, lift, and post in OYS. | /r/RPChristians | 08/08/23 01:10 PM |
| 1 | I don't feel like fucking my wifeHave you tried talking to your wife, not in the logical 'I can't run a business if you keep tying to fuck me', more like 'why are you feeling this way?' Considering this comment is so highly rated I think I need to understand this more. Are you saying he needs to have a talk with his wife and actually tell her he doesn't want to have sex with her anymore? Especially when OP doesn't even know why and says things like " don't know what has changed, I just don't feel like it." | /r/askMRP | 22/06/23 11:40 AM |
| 1 | Looking for help managing hysterical outburstsDoes she have actual panic attacks or just tantrums when she doesn't get her way? | /r/askRPC | 18/05/23 09:38 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/20/23)OYS #61 (previous, first OYS in months) 39 yo, wife 34 yo, married 6 years, 2 sons under 5 Physical Stats: 6', 185lb, 24% BF, 1 rep bench: 205lb, 1 rep squat: 225lb, 1 rep deadlift: 315lb Due to my wife's back injury and me having to take care of kids pretty much on my own (plus deal with her issues) I haven't had much time in the gym the last few months. I haven't lost strength, but I definitely haven't gained any. But I've been able to get to the gym 4 or 5 times a week the past couple weeks, … | /r/RPChristians | 24/03/23 03:12 PM |
| 3 | What's the best way to lose 50 pounds while building muscle?Would 5 pounds per weekbe realistic, by any chance? Realistic? Sure. Healthy? Not unless your BMI was 40+. IMO the very first thing you should be doing is focusing on building healthy habits that will last the rest of your life. You don't need cheat codes to unlock the Super Fat Burn Inferno spell. You need consistent action over a long time. | /r/askRPC | 02/03/23 07:33 PM |
| 2 | I'm mentally at a breaking point, with my lack of sex and my virginityI don't know what to do. I'll make a post on OYS So you do know what to do. Now do it. | /r/askRPC | 23/02/23 02:04 PM |
| 1 | Choosing the Right GirlIt's on the sidebar. Read the rest of the sidebar while you're there. | /r/RPChristians | 22/01/23 10:04 PM |
| 7 | Choosing the Right GirlI won't fault you for being attracted to a hot 17 year old girl in a swimsuit, but... but she's actually extremely mature for her age Maybe. But remember her brain won't be fully developed for another several years. She definitely has a feminine/not try to overpower you all the time attitude too Because she's 17. I was close to your age when I had a crush on an 18 year old girl. I thought she was hot, sweet, feminine, and mature for her age too. But she was also a teenager with a lot of maturing… | /r/RPChristians | 22/01/23 08:58 PM |
| 3 | Is non-hedonistic sex a sin?Are you asking if it's okay for a man to have lots of sex with lots of women as long as it's not for pleasure and only for the purpose of learning how to spot a virgin when he is ready to settle down? | /r/RPChristians | 16/12/22 11:04 PM |
| 3 | How much settling is acceptable?No one has demanded stats yet? | /r/RPChristians | 01/12/22 05:24 PM |
| 5 | Premarital sex perspective?I’m typically a “red pill” kinda guy so was surprised the other guys were a-holes to me. lol wut? The RP community seems to pride itself on out a-holing each other. I thought OP got a lot of useful, if blunt, responses here. If RPC were more like MRP then it would have been nothing but mocking and ridicule. | /r/askRPC | 26/11/22 12:11 PM |
| 1 | How many of you have read this passage of scripture up close?Lots of things confuse me about these verses. v5 - "but every wife who prays or prophesies with her head uncovered dishonors her head, since it is the same as if her head were shaven." What's wrong with shaved heads? Yeah, personally I prefer long hair on a woman, but what if I were into punk chicks? v6 - "since it is disgraceful for a wife to cut off her hair" Again, when did we establish that shaved head is actually "disgraceful?" v7 - "For a man ought not to cover his head, since he is the im… | /r/RPChristians | 07/11/22 01:25 PM |
| 2 | Why Are So Many Christian Women Physically Unattractive?https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/aslgro/addressing_the_blue_pill_hate_objectifying_women/ Edit: Not sure why the original comment I was responding to was deleted, but it was a quote of 1 Peter 3:3-4, which is exactly what that link is commenting on. | /r/RPChristians | 28/10/22 04:07 PM |
| 5 | Why Are So Many Christian Women Physically Unattractive?https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/8vtpml/100_series_theory_and_understanding_compilation/ Start reading. My 2 cents: marriage is hard, but if Christians are supposed to take marriage as seriously as the Bible says then we need all the help we can get. Being attracted to your spouse is rather helpful. | /r/RPChristians | 27/10/22 01:24 PM |
| 2 | Vaginismus & Concerns About Wedding NightThis sounds like my wife. I don't know if it was vaginismus (no diagnosis) but she was extremely tight (not in a good way). She used a dilator set before we got married but couldn't progress beyond a rather small size (smaller than me, at least). Sex wasn't much fun for her at first. It hurt, and I had to go slow and be very patient. But each time we did it it hurt a little less, until it wasn't painful at all, as long as I got her warmed up first. So, yeah, PIV on your honeymoon probably won't … | /r/RPChristians | 05/10/22 12:20 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (09/26/22)OYS #60 (previous) Does anyone still do these? I'll try to do this without victim puking, so here are the facts. My wife hurt her back several months ago, and it won't heal. That means I'm taking over much of her parenting responsibilities, and also having to take care of her almost like a 3rd kid. My sleep is poor since I'm up several times each night helping her deal with pain, then I'm up all day at my job, so I can't catch up during the day. And since I'm operating in single-parent-with-thre… | /r/RPChristians | 26/09/22 06:43 PM |
| 3 | Girl on my church started to pretend we are dating.I intend on going to the gym for the first time this friday. Did you? | /r/askRPC | 01/08/22 06:31 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/27/22)OYS #59 (previous) 38 yo, wife 33 yo, married 5 years, 2 sons < 5yo Physical Stats: 6', 185lb, 24% BF, 1 rep bench: 205lb, 1 rep squat: 225lb, 1 rep deadlift: 305lb I got my body fat professionally measured last week. Previously I said my body fat was about 18% (based on my own guesstimate), but the correct number is more like 24%. Now I'm conflicted. I really want to focus on building strength since I'm starting to finally see some progress. And I'm TERRIFIED of losing what little muscle I've b… | /r/RPChristians | 28/06/22 12:50 AM |
| 6 | What's the general consensus on the right age to marry as a man?Co-dependence I don't think that means what you think it means. | /r/RPChristians | 26/06/22 03:43 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/16/22)Need to come up with a plan as body fat is going up and I am stagnating. It's been 2 days. Do you have a plan yet? | /r/RPChristians | 20/05/22 03:25 PM |
| 5 | Approaching women interested in me as a 30 year old who never had a girlfriendAll of it. But in particular https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/8vpsn5/dealing_with_oneitis/ You're WAY too concerned about what this random girl (and hypothetical girls you haven't even met yet) thinks of you. | /r/RPChristians | 05/05/22 05:20 PM |
| 6 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/14/22)Don't worry about me. I can take it. Other than the stuff about being fat (skinnyfat, maybe) /u/egc6 is pretty much spot on. | /r/RPChristians | 15/03/22 10:05 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/14/22)OYS #58 (previous) 38 yo, wife 33 yo, married 5 years, 3 yo son, 0yo son Physical Stats: 6', 180lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 205lb, 1 rep squat: 215lb, 1 rep deadlift: 305lb Diet has been pretty good. I haven't made it to the gym as often as I like, but I've got a bunch of plates on the way so I'll soon be able to do actual heavy barbell workouts at home. Relationships Life with the wife has been a strain the last few weeks. I'll break it down like this: She's been depressed lately. I think it's a c… | /r/RPChristians | 14/03/22 04:50 PM |
| 1 | Stop Pointing the FingerThis should be part of the sidebar as part of a foundations/remedial series before the 100 series. Further reading: https://markmanson.net/responsibility-fault-fallacy | /r/RPChristians | 28/02/22 01:44 PM |
| 8 | Fixing Your OYS - Your Life Will Keep Sucking Until You Read and Apply This Posthttps://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/wiki/glossary While you're at it, read the rest of the sidebar. | /r/RPChristians | 31/01/22 10:26 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (01/17/22)OYS # 57 (previous) 38 yo, wife 33 yo, married 5 years, 3 yo son, 0 yo son Physical Stats: 6', 180lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 195lb, 1 rep squat: 215lb, 1 rep deadlift: 305lb I've been taking creatine for a couple weeks (doing 5g/day, not loading or anything like that), and I'm not sure it's working. I don't really feel any different during my workouts, but I have been getting some really bad DOMS the past few days. Maybe the creatine is building up and letting me push my muscles harder than ever? … | /r/RPChristians | 17/01/22 07:28 PM |
| 4 | Discipline Your ChildrenYou linked a study with no peer review over an incredibly small samplesize with nothing stabilizing the test from outside causes. Whereasthere have been hundreds of studies showing the exact opposite. The original comment was removed, but what was the study? Was it one saying that spanking was ineffective and causes behavioral issues later? Because I've seen loads of those studies, but I haven't seen the better studies you mentioned saying the exact opposite. Do you have specific references to a… | /r/RPChristians | 02/01/22 01:15 PM |
| 3 | Wife is flirting with Daughter's gradeschool teacher online.So about a week ago she revealed to me that she had been having dreams about the teacher. I pressed a little and expressed concern that she's been dreaming about this hunky school teacher. After some conversation she reveals she's been lusting after him pretty much since we met him, fantasizing about him, etc. Is it just me or does this sound like a big sh** test? Like deep down she wants the OP to be upset about this and have the balls to call her on it and prove to her that she is his wife and… | /r/RPChristians | 23/11/21 02:47 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/22/21)OYS #56 (previous) 38 yo, wife 33 yo, married 5 years, 2.5 yo son, 0yo son Physical Stats: 6', 180lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 190lb, 1 rep squat: 205lb, 1 rep deadlift: 300lb Diet is ok. I'm thinking about getting myself a barbell and some weights for Christmas. Spiritual/Mission I may as well admit that my mission is just "keep the house from falling apart." Not a good mission, and I'm not even doing a good job of it. I know that Step 1 of fixing my mission is to study scripture more, but I don't.… | /r/RPChristians | 22/11/21 04:53 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/15/21)OYS #55 (previous) 38 yo, wife 33 yo, married 5 years, 2.5 yo son, 0yo son Physical Stats: 6', 180lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 190lb, 1 rep squat: 205lb (+10), 1 rep deadlift: 300lb Diet is ok. Still going to the gym 3 days/week and doing a home workout 1-2 days/week. I'm having some mysterious back pain at night though. I don't know if it's just a part of getting older, or something I need to be worried about, like early akylosing spondylitis. Relationships No progress. Spiritual In-person church t… | /r/RPChristians | 17/11/21 02:47 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/01/21)OYS #54 (previous) 38 yo, wife 33 yo, married 5 years, 2.5 yo son, 0yo son Physical Stats: 6', 180lb (+5 since last measure, which was a month ago), 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 190lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb, 1 rep deadlift: 300lb (+15) I think my muscle growth is still happening. After about 10 years of actively trying I think I've finally figured my body out. Protein and lifting heavy AT LEAST twice a week for each muscle group. Weekly bro split just doesn't work for me. I can tell I'm gaining a little bi… | /r/RPChristians | 03/11/21 02:29 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (09/20/21)OYS #53 (previous) 38 yo, wife 33 yo, married 5 years, 2.5 yo son, 0yo son Physical Stats: 6', 175lb (+5 since last measure, which was several months ago), 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 190lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb, 1 rep deadlift: 285lb Diet is ok. I'm starting to get back into the gym for some really heavy lifts. I don't remember the last time my legs were this sore. Going for volume after not doing any squats for a couple months will do that. But I think the lack of sleep is hurting my recovery. Relation… | /r/RPChristians | 21/09/21 01:05 PM |
| 4 | Sometimes I resent my pregnant wife because of her pastresentment Why? Are you jealous that other guys banged her first? Are you envious that she got more action than you? Is there some other covert contract you have that she's not fulfilling? | /r/RPChristians | 12/09/21 05:50 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/30/21)OYS #52 (previous) 38 yo, wife 33 yo, married 5 years, 2.5 yo son, 0yo son Physical Stats (no change): 6', 171lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 190lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb, 1 rep deadlift: 285lb Diet has been pretty good. Still working out at home since I don't have enough time to get to the gym. And even though it's kind of boring it still seems like I'm getting some results. Even if I can't go quite as heavy, the fact that I'm doing it more often than before seems to be making a difference. My arms seem … | /r/RPChristians | 30/08/21 07:32 PM |
| 3 | Are gay men welcome here?That's just not true. The KJV says "effeminate" and "abusers of themselves with mankind". The Wycliffe Bible says "lechers against kind" and "they that do lechery with men". The Geneva Bible says "buggerers." These are all obviously referring to homosexuality, not just "boy molesters." Besides, "arsenokoitai" literally means "man-bedders," which is a reference to the language used in Leviticus prohibiting homosexual sex. | /r/RPChristians | 24/08/21 02:29 AM |
| 6 | If I were hungry, I would not tell you: Thoughts on frameu/jacktenofhearts post that might be relevant: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/478ye2/wife_admitted_she_uses_sex_to_try_and_control_me/ Also, my own 2 cents: most of the time when my wife wants to know how I feel it's because something about the way I'm acting is making her feel a negative emotion, usually anxiety. Like if I had a particularly stressful day at work, and I come home, and I'm obviously acting different. In her brain it HAS to be because I'm unhappy with her or som… | /r/RPChristians | 23/08/21 12:27 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/16/21)OYS #51 (previous) 38 yo, wife 33 yo, married 5 years, 2.5 yo son, 0yo son Physical Stats (no change): 6', 171lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 190lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb, 1 rep deadlift: 285lb Still not sleeping as much as I should due to a newborn in the house, but it does seem like it's getting better. I'm probably averaging 5-6 hours of sleep per night now instead of 4. I haven't been back to the gym, but I'm doing regular dumbbell workouts at home. I get a good pump, but I'm still kind of limited wit… | /r/RPChristians | 17/08/21 06:51 PM |
| 3 | Are male teachers naturally beta?Can an alpha be a teacher?You need to do something because you want to do it, not because you need to do it for validation from others. The same thing applies to your feelings about your career. This. If OP is unhappy at his job then just find another one and stop worrying about whether everything is "alpha" or "beta." | /r/RPChristians | 13/08/21 12:44 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/09/21)OYS #50 (previous) 38 yo, wife 33 yo, married 5 years, 2.5 yo son, 0yo son Physical Stats (no change): 6', 171lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 190lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb, 1 rep deadlift: 285lb Son #2 was born a couple weeks ago (he's healthy!), and since then we've been living the newborn life. Very little sleep. Our church has been bringing us food several times a week and everyone is bringing big delicious cakes and stuff like that, so diet hasn't been great. I haven't been to the gym since the baby wa… | /r/RPChristians | 09/08/21 01:57 PM |
| 2 | My current weight loss journeyHeight: 5' 11" (180 cm) Weight: 198 lbs (90 kg) they always look at me confused and wonder why a man as skinny as I am isn't happy with his body I'm wondering why they think you're skinny. Sure, from these stats you aren't obese, but you definitely aren't "skinny" either. Do you know your body fat %? Anyways, good job. Keep it up. | /r/RPChristians | 31/07/21 06:36 PM |
| 2 | Hi guys, I’ve been reading posts on here for the last couple of days. And it’s very inspiring/ helpful. I’m going to be completely honest here as I really want change.I am currently water fasting for days on and doing weight training to lose the fat on my body. I have lost 2 stone in the past with this method. But did it stay off? Yeah, you can lose weight like that, but for real long term success it might be better to focus on retraining yourself to eat better for the rest of your life instead of focusing on not eating in the short term. In other words, when you think about your future self after you've lost all the weight and feeling nice and trim, what doe… | /r/RPChristians | 27/07/21 12:14 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/19/21)Sexual sin: Less jerking off because I had two extremely painful orgasms. Almost like someone taking an iron rod and heating it under a fire until it looked ready to melt before shoving it in deep. It burned inside my dick to the point one night I felt like screaming. It took forever until the pain settled down enough for me try sleeping. Not the first time experiencing this pain, but this was the worst. I don’t think I want sex anymore. Experiencing this twice in the same week has killed a lot … | /r/RPChristians | 24/07/21 01:36 PM |
| 3 | How to survive ‘no sex before marriage’ when your Love language is physical touch.There's a sister sub to this one you'll find in the sidebar Am I the only one who doesn't see that anywhere in the sidebar? Anyway, look here: r/RPCWomen/ There's also r/askRPC/ which is still considered co-ed. | /r/RPChristians | 22/07/21 12:45 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/05/21)OYS #49 (previous) 38 yo, wife 33 yo, married 5 years, 2.5 yo son, son #2 on the way Physical Stats (no change): 6', 171lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 190lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb, 1 rep deadlift: 285lb Funny, I wrote this section out and it turned into almost a word-for-word repeat of my last OYS. Yeah, diet is pretty good, could be better. Yeah, getting to the gym, not as consistent as I want, blah blah blah. Relationships I'm starting to worry about my 2yo's screen time. He doesn't play with our phone… | /r/RPChristians | 06/07/21 09:45 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/21/21)OYS #48 (previous) 38 yo, wife 33 yo, married 5 years, 2.5 yo son, son #2 on the way Physical Stats (no change): 6', 171lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 190lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb, 1 rep deadlift: 285lb I'm getting back to my usual routine at the gym. My strength is close to what it was before I took a break. Diet is ok, but I need to intentionally take some time to meal prep healthy stuff. I did make some veggie-heavy soup over the weekend, but I need to be more consistent. Relationships My wife's menta… | /r/RPChristians | 21/06/21 11:43 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/14/21)Moving has definitely made things worse. That's why I'm super glad we're finally getting to the end of the process. I don't remember her being this anxious and depressed last time until after the baby got here. Around month 2 or 3 it got so bad that she had to spend a night in a hospital because she was threatening to hurt herself. It got better after that, but I REALLY don't want to relive all that. | /r/RPChristians | 14/06/21 11:13 PM |
| 5 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/14/21)OYS #47 (previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 2 yo son, son #2 on the way Physical Stats (no change): 6', 171lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 190lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb, 1 rep deadlift: 285lb Only made it to the gym once last week. Not enough time. But I have been doing daily 10 minute Youtube ab workouts plus 100 pushups (started by giving myself 10 minutes to do 100, and each day reduce the time). It's not ideal but it's something. Relationships Last week was rough. My wife's mental state took… | /r/RPChristians | 14/06/21 06:30 PM |
| 2 | Pregnancy and SexHere's my experience with 2 pregnancies. 1st trimester: very little sex. She was too sick. 2nd trimester: lots of sex. She was horny. 3rd trimester: less sex, requires more "creativity." She stacked pillows under her belly to support herself, then we did it doggy style. Newborn phase: no sex. She was healing, and we were getting so little sleep and so stressed that we had no desire anyway. After that it mostly went back to normal. | /r/RPChristians | 10/06/21 11:36 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/07/21)OYS #46 (skipped a couple weeks; previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 2 yo son, son #2 on the way Physical Stats (no change): 6', 171lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 190lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb, 1 rep deadlift: 285lb I finally made it back to the gym, and it was bad. In just a few weeks it's like I've gone completely out of shape. So I have a lot to make up. Relationships Everyone is finally over our diseases, so it's back to work getting the house cleaned up and unpacked. At one point last week … | /r/RPChristians | 08/06/21 12:02 PM |
| 1 | Text GameAnother tip: don't write like a 4th grader. Apparently the main thing that impressed my wife back when we were first still just texting was my ability to put together coherent sentences. | /r/RPChristians | 01/06/21 06:30 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/19/21)OYS #45 (skipped a few weeks, previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 2 yo son, son #2 on the way Physical Stats (no change): 6', 171lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 190lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb, 1 rep deadlift: 285lb Everyone has been sick with a bad cold the last couple weeks, so I haven't been to the gym in, what, three weeks? Diet has been not great either. Lots of pizza. We still haven't gotten back into the routine of cooking regularly since the move. I'm sure I've already lost any strength gai… | /r/RPChristians | 19/05/21 11:51 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/28/21)From my analysis, my fiance dumped me because the '71 426 Hemi Challenger that I used to be decided to swap the Hemi for a small block and stay in the garage even though there wasn't a cloud in the sky. She dumped you because you kept a project car in the garage? I also need guidance on dealing with women in the workplace. Huh. In my experience very few female engineers are attractive or straight. Still, don't poop where you eat. Especially true if woman is a subordinate. Just keep telling yours… | /r/RPChristians | 04/05/21 08:54 PM |
| 2 | Am I weak for not being able to handle a woman's mouth?It sounds like you're confusing "STFU" with "maintaining frame." You're describing STFU. That's meant to be the very first thing you learn at the beginning of "unplugging" or "taking the red pill" or whatever you want to call it. Learning what frame is, what your frame is, and how to maintain frame takes longer. I assume you've already read this, but I suggest you read it again: https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/7koh8d/113_christian_frame_part_1_an_introduction/ | /r/askRPC | 01/05/21 09:57 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/28/21)OYS #44 (skipped a few weeks; previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 2 yo son Physical Stats (no change): 6', 171lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 190lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb, 1 rep deadlift: 285lb My lifts are ok. I'm still trying to improve my OHP and squat, but I don't have much to show for it yet. Diet is ok, but I did eat more junk food over the weekend than I like. A random girl at the grocery store said I was cute, so I got a pretty direct IOI, which is rare for me. Relationships I think I've… | /r/RPChristians | 29/04/21 02:29 AM |
| 3 | Do I have to give my wife sex if she doesn't give me sex?Here's what 1 Corinthians 10-15 says: To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If a brother has an unbelieving wife and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has an unbelieving husband and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce… | /r/askRPC | 28/04/21 11:37 AM |
| 2 | Do I have to give my wife sex if she doesn't give me sex?I don't understand the question. Do I have to give my wife sex if she doesn't give me sex? ... I dont want sex from her ... She doesn't give me sex anyways ... I guess what I'm asking is do the rules still apply 100% if your spouse doesn't believe in those rules? ... I don't even want it and I can live without it. One second it's like you're saying, "my wife won't have sex with me when I want" and the next you're saying, "my wife wants to have sex with me but I'm not interested and want an excus… | /r/askRPC | 26/04/21 07:38 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/14/21)My $0.02 regarding Love Languages: The idea that everyone has two and just two and always those two love languages is bunk. That said, my wife is all about the Love Languages, so the book is helpful to decode what she's saying when she says "my love language is words of affirmation," and then I think, "wait, weren't your love languages quality time and gifts last week?" and then I know what she's actually asking for. | /r/RPChristians | 20/04/21 11:29 AM |
| 2 | I think I made a mistake. Please help 😥My wife isn’t ugly by any means. Her stature and facial features may be impossible to altar What does this mean? She's not ugly, but she's not pretty? And you keep saying her "stature," what does that mean? Not tall enough? Too tall? | /r/RPChristians | 12/04/21 09:16 PM |
| 2 | I think I made a mistake. Please help 😥Divorce is not something to think lightly of, as it is heavily frowned upon in the Bible. I do think, however, by the grace of God, this should be something that OP should discuss with someone close first, before laying this all on the table for your wife without having thought things through. OP. Please, overthink what God would want you to do and keep praying for it. To me this sounds like you're saying, "divorce isn't good, but if you really, really consider it carefully then it's probably ok… | /r/RPChristians | 11/04/21 07:15 PM |
| 23 | I think I made a mistake. Please help 😥Oh boy, you sound a lot like me. I don't have a "here's what worked for me" solution because I'm still dealing with this myself, but here's my best advice: you can't force your wife to do anything. You can't force her to lose weight any more than you can force her to change her height. So focus on what you can control: yourself. Lift Read the sidebar. Learn it. Know it. Live it. Ideally what happens is you begin to become more attractive, which leads her to make herself more attractive. I'm stil… | /r/RPChristians | 10/04/21 11:20 AM |
| 2 | I Want Marriage Badly, but Believe It Would Only Hinder the God's Purpose for my Life. What Should I Do?a podcast on a non-Biblical, Christian movement Maybe I missed something, but what is a "non-Biblical, Christian movement?" | /r/RPChristians | 09/04/21 07:20 PM |
| 14 | The Image You Reflectif Christian women are looking outside the church for high quality, masculine men and bringing them to faith This isn't quite 100% relevant to the OP's point, or yours, and a single anecdote isn't statistically relevant and all that, but whenever I hear someone talk about Christian women bringing unbelieving men "to faith" I think about this: Back when I was in high school I had a male Sunday school teacher tell us the story about how he met this hot Christian girl, and he asked her out. "Sorry,… | /r/RPChristians | 09/04/21 03:17 PM |
| 3 | How do I find an RPChristian man to date?Looks fade quickly so don't give them any heed. They don't fade that quickly if you take care of yourself. Besides, marriage is hard. You need as much glue as possible. Mutual attraction is good glue. Look for a man that puts you first over himself as that is what a husband should strive to do. Uh oh... | /r/RPChristians | 09/04/21 02:17 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/07/21)OYS #43 (previous; skipped last week) tldr: this is a week I want to skip my OYS but I'm posting it anyway. 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 2 yo son Physical Stats (no change): 6', 171lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 190lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb, 1 rep deadlift: 285lb My foot is still healing, so I haven't been able to do much lower body work. But my shoulders are getting extra attention. I hope that turns into gainz. Diet is pretty good, though I ate more sugar than I should have over Easter weekend. … | /r/RPChristians | 07/04/21 07:32 PM |
| 5 | My Daughters Rules for Dating My Daughter.That translates into no cell phone I'm 1000% on board with no smart phone, but no phone at all? Are you not worried that she wouldn't be able to contact you if she needed to? What if she were go out with her friends to do something benign, but then that one troublemaker shows up with a bottle and her friends decide to get drunk instead of bible study, but without a phone or her own transportation then she's stuck with them? Don't get me wrong, I'm impressed you've raised a daughter who is okay w… | /r/RPChristians | 06/04/21 11:46 PM |
| 1 | There is no such thing as mutual submissionAccording to this Ephesians 5:22 doesn't have the "submit" verb. It only seems to make sense if you read it with Ephesians 5:21. So to me it makes sense to group 5:21 and 5:22 together. That doesn't mean I think 5:21 is talking specifically about marriage. I get the impression Paul is saying something like "submit to each other. For example: wives, submit to your husbands..." | /r/RPChristians | 04/04/21 02:24 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/24/21)Ah, you must mean this). I'm going to try to find a copy of this now. | /r/RPChristians | 25/03/21 03:08 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/24/21)OYS #42 (skipped last week, previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 2 yo son Physical Stats (no change): 6', 171lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 190lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb, 1 rep deadlift: 285lb I hurt my foot last weekend, so that means no deadlifts or squats for a while. Instead I'm focusing on upper body stuff. My OHP is embarrassingly weak. Diet is pretty good. Relationships Not much change. I got some suggestions my last OYS to move beyond STFU. I think that's true. I'm re-reading the sidebar.… | /r/RPChristians | 24/03/21 06:23 PM |
| 10 | My girlfriend had a miscarriage. Is God punishing me? How should I interpret this?And his disciples asked him, "Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he was born blind?" Jesus answered, “It was not that this man sinned, or his parents, but that the works of God might be displayed in him. - John 9:2-3 | /r/RPChristians | 24/03/21 03:37 PM |
| 3 | Announcement: Red Pill Christians will now exclusively be a male only spaceHow about a link to RPCW in the sidebar? | /r/RPChristians | 23/03/21 11:50 AM |
| 5 | Sneaky Little IdeasAgain, he never did that. The Bible only says he washed his disciples' feet. You quote Bible passages to support your positions, while ignoring what Jesus actually taught So you're criticizing us for quoting scripture, and say we need to study what Jesus taught, and at the same time you're saying Jesus did things the Bible never says he did. Do you see the problem with this? | /r/RPChristians | 20/03/21 09:25 PM |
| 3 | Sneaky Little IdeasThis is a man who washed the feet of prostitutes. He never did that. Are you thinking of the woman who washed Jesus' feet? | /r/RPChristians | 20/03/21 07:00 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/17/21)What contract are you signing that provides you no benefit? And how are you being forced to sign it? We're talking about a lease agreement, right? It sounds like you're using moral gymnastics to justify being dishonest. | /r/RPChristians | 20/03/21 12:34 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/17/21)IANAL, but this sounds like fraud. | /r/RPChristians | 20/03/21 01:38 AM |
| 1 | Advice needed it’s a messSince I’ve spent 5 years on this girl I really don’t want to just let the relationship go because that would be a lot of wasted time. Reread that Sunk Cost Fallacy link. Then reread it again. Despite her numerous flaws and her being a lying ex-whore I love her immensely. Love is not enough. | /r/RPChristians | 19/03/21 03:36 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/10/21)I'm trying to get better at not taking responsibility for her emotions. That's something I've always done, and now I see that it's not helpful in the long run. That's why now I try to STFU. Maybe she's noticed and she's trying (maybe even unconsciously) to provoke me to give her what she's used to. But maybe I need to start moving from STFU to challenging her thoughts and emotions, like you said. | /r/RPChristians | 11/03/21 05:51 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/10/21)OYS #41 (previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 2 yo son Physical Stats (no change): 6', 171lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 190lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb, 1 rep deadlift: 285lb Diet is pretty good. Still eating more protein, and for the most part avoiding sugar. My lifts have felt strong this week, but I haven't tried any PBs. I really want to get my squat to 200lb. I'm so close. Relationships My wife is begin even more frustrating to deal with than normal. I assume it's mostly because of pregnancy … | /r/RPChristians | 10/03/21 04:20 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/03/21)OYS #40 (previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 2 yo son Physical Stats: 6', 171lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 190lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb, 1 rep deadlift: 285lb (+10) I PBed my deadlift! Diet is overall pretty good, though I need to make sure to get my veggies. I've noticed I'm slacking. Relationships Positive: Saturday is the day to do chores and clean around the house. Usually I do it all. But this time my wife actually asked how she could help. I gave her some tasks, and she did them. This is… | /r/RPChristians | 03/03/21 04:18 PM |
| 3 | What the point of getting married for men? M18I have been thinking and reflecting on why a man would want to get married and made a commitment to put her 1st and the family when he can be working on himself and his dream while putting God first. ... Like if I get married I don't want to put her first and be overly nice which going to make me look like a beta male or going to make me lose focus on my relationship with God and my dreams I got. I think you're on to something. Why would a man want to get married if it means putting her first an… | /r/RPChristians | 01/03/21 04:51 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/24/21)OYS #40 (previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 2 yo son Physical Stats: (no change) 6', 171lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 190lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb, 1 rep deadlift: 275lb Diet has been pretty good. I wasn't able to get any really heavy lifts this week, but I think I still did okay with some accessory and stability work. Relationships I realized that one thing I do a lot is try to get validation from my wife for everything I do. Cut the grass? PB my bench press? Fix something on my car? Do the … | /r/RPChristians | 25/02/21 04:54 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/17/21)OYS #39 (previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 2 yo son Physical Stats: (no change) 6', 171lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 190lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb, 1 rep deadlift: 275lb The winter weather closed the gym for a few days, but I tried to supplement with some simple dumbbell lifts at home. Diet has been pretty good, though my wife is bringing more and more junk food into the house, so I'm having to resist temptation more. Relationships No wife drama. I'm still in STFU mode and not saying anything… | /r/RPChristians | 18/02/21 04:50 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/10/21)OYS #38 (previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 2 yo son Physical Stats: (no change) 6', 171lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 190lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb, 1 rep deadlift: 275lb Diet has been pretty good. My lifts didn't feel quite as strong this week. I hope it's because I was challenging myself on some of my weaker movements. Relationships I said last week I wanted to be more assertive. I didn't really get anywhere with that. I don't remember ever DEERing or anything like that, but I also never sai… | /r/RPChristians | 10/02/21 10:19 PM |
| 3 | I lost my gf due to going into monk modeAgain, read. When you work out and get a hot bod just to get her back then she is the one who gets to decide whether all that time and energy and effort was successful or if it was a complete waste of time. But if you work out and improve yourself for you then you get to be the only one who decides whether or not you are successful. | /r/RPChristians | 10/02/21 07:23 PM |
| 6 | I lost my gf due to going into monk modeDoing what? How have you improved yourself, specifically? What is this "transformation" you mentioned? If you had truly transformed yourself and you lost your girlfriend over it then you wouldn't care. Start reading. (I'll just assume you mean "grind" and not "grindr") | /r/RPChristians | 10/02/21 06:32 PM |
| 3 | I lost my gf due to going into monk modeI feel like this self improvement was pointless. What self improvement? | /r/RPChristians | 10/02/21 06:14 PM |
| 1 | What actually works for defeating pornography?Did try to masturbate without fantasies before. Didn't work, only made me seek pornography. Do you mean that when you rub your penis or balls you don't feel anything? It doesn't feel good? That you *have* to fantasize in order to orgasm or even get aroused? | /r/RPChristians | 04/02/21 03:39 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/03/21)OYS #37 (previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 2 yo son Physical Stats: 6', 171lb (+2), 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 190lb (+5), 1 rep squat: 195lb, 1 rep deadlift: 275lb Diet has been pretty good. And I PBed my bench press this week! The extra protein seems to be paying off. I've also gained a couple pounds since the last time I stepped on scale a few weeks ago. When I gain fat it tends to concentrate on my belly, but since I haven't noticed any extra flab I think the weight is actually lean mu… | /r/RPChristians | 03/02/21 05:15 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (01/27/21)OYS #36 (previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 2 yo son Physical Stats: (no change) 6', 169lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 185lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb, 1 rep deadlift: 275lb Diet has been pretty good. I'm trying to bump my protein up a notch or two to see what happens. I ran about 0.75 miles over the weekend without pain, so my groin issue seems to be resolving too. Relationships Everything seems ok for now. No drama (at least relationship-wise). The genetic testing of the baby-in-the-oven came b… | /r/RPChristians | 27/01/21 04:43 PM |
| 2 | Sectarian issues finding relationships?Really responding to your last sentence about it doesn’t matter what they think if they are in your frame That's not what he said. This is what he said (emphasis mine): Who cares whether they think differently from you before they're in your frame? | /r/RPChristians | 25/01/21 09:39 PM |
| 3 | Sectarian issues finding relationships?Funnily enough, I'm Baptist, and my wife is Presbyterian. Mostly it's not a big deal. The key is to agree on the theological Big Stuff. We agree that baptism, whether infant or believer's, is not salvation, and that free will vs predestination isn't very relevant to anything other than arguments over stuff we humans can't even understand fully anyway. | /r/RPChristians | 25/01/21 08:49 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (01/20/21)OYS #35 (previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 2 yo son Physical Stats: (no change) 6', 169lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 185lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb, 1 rep deadlift: 275lb Diet is pretty good. I need to find some more go-to recipes. Lifting is going well. Still getting stronger. And I think my groin injury from late last year is finally healing to the point that I can start running again, but I'm still easing back into it slowly. Relationships I had a failure earlier this week. I was trying to … | /r/RPChristians | 20/01/21 07:37 PM |
| 3 | Another post about oneitis? How should single guys approach friendships with women?forgot the old terms Social proof? | /r/RPChristians | 19/01/21 08:49 PM |
| 11 | How to vet for virgin woman quickly without wasting time?Should are they a virgin be the first thing asked after I get their number for example ? I assume you're having at least some kind of conversation with the girl before you get her number. Perhaps during that conversation you could mention something like, "I want to get married someday, and I don't want to waste my time dating girls I know I wouldn't marry. I'm also keeping myself pure until marriage, and I expect my future wife to do the same." Now you've established your frame without asking he… | /r/RPChristians | 19/01/21 08:43 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (01/13/21)OYS #34 (previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 2 yo son Physical Stats: (no change) 6', 169lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 185lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb, 1 rep deadlift: 275lb At this point my wife and I are basically like two roommates buying our own groceries and never eating the same thing. She eats her junk, and I eat my healthier stuff. I'm trying to cut her some slack since she's pregnant, so I'm doing well at STFU. My lifts have been pretty good. No PBs, but still feeling strong. Relationshi… | /r/RPChristians | 13/01/21 08:11 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (1/6/21)OYS #33 (previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 2 yo son Physical Stats: (no change) 6', 169lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 185lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb, 1 rep deadlift: 275lb Diet has been pretty good. I've been finding ways to incorporate more vegetables. Lifts have been pretty good, but no PBs. Relationships My wife is nauseated most of the time, and my 2yo is a 2yo. We're all under a lot of stress with the rush to get ready for the new baby, but so far we're all holding it together and stuff is… | /r/RPChristians | 06/01/21 09:31 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (12/30/20)I'm loosely following u/rocknrollchuck's plan, and reading by myself, not with my wife. I'm still trying to figure out how to take charge of the finances. It's a case of her saying she wants to be smart about finances, but her actions don't line up with that. Lately (as in the last week or so) it's been better, but I don't think it's because of anything I've done and it's probably a short term thing, so I'm still going to have to take charge and lay down the law eventually. | /r/RPChristians | 03/01/21 04:24 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (12/30/20)You're probably right. It sure feels like a kick in the pants to finally get serious about everything and not just dabble with all this. | /r/RPChristians | 03/01/21 04:15 AM |
| 0 | Will you circumcise your sons?Look: I, Paul, say to you that if you accept circumcision, Christ will be of no advantage to you. I testify again to every man who accepts circumcision that he is obligated to keep the whole law. You are severed from Christ, you who would be justified by the law; you have fallen away from grace. For through the Spirit, by faith, we ourselves eagerly wait for the hope of righteousness. For in Christ Jesus neither circumcision nor uncircumcision counts for anything, but only faith working through … | /r/RPChristians | 01/01/21 01:34 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (12/30/20)OYS #32 (previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 2 yo son Physical Stats: (no change) 6', 169lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 185lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb, 1 rep deadlift: 275lb Diet was bad, but not as bad as it could have been. I've been able to get to the gym fairly consistently, even though we're in the middle of all the holidays, and I'm actually feeling kind of encouraged with my lifts. No PBs this week, but I am getting some heavy lifts in. Relationships Well, turns out a big reason my wife ha… | /r/RPChristians | 30/12/20 05:29 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (12/23/20)OYS #31 (previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 2 yo son Physical Stats: (no change) 6', 169lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 185lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb, 1 rep deadlift: 275lb I've been able to get to the gym fairly consistently. The next few days will be tricky because of Christmas, but I'm still going to try to get some lifting in. Diet is ok, though with all the extra bad food around the house (see below) it's tough to keep eating well. Relationships I'm pretty sure my wife is now trying to gain… | /r/RPChristians | 23/12/20 10:33 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (12/16/20)OYS #30 (previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 2 yo son Physical Stats: (no change) 6', 169lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 185lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb, 1 rep deadlift: 275lb Still trying to get stronger. I did some heavy (for me) cleans at the gym and did 130x2, which is a record for me. I just wish my progress wasn't so slow. Diet is pretty good, I think. I cooked some healthy meals for myself this week. Relationships Last week I said my wife wasn't helping with any of the cleaning, and that's s… | /r/RPChristians | 16/12/20 05:03 PM |
| 1 | Missing a term in the glossary...You probably mean OI which is outcome independence. This is in the glossary. Is it? I don't see it. | /r/RPChristians | 10/12/20 02:06 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (12/09/20)OYS #29 (skipped last week, previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 2 yo son Physical Stats: 6', 169lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 185lb (+10), 1 rep squat: 195lb, 1 rep deadlift: 275lb I PBed my deadlift (without any back pain!) this week and bench press last week. Work has been busy and not letting me get to the gym quite as often, but I think I'm making up for it by really going for it when I can get to the gym. Diet is okay, probably better than expected considering more and more access to b… | /r/RPChristians | 09/12/20 05:13 PM |
| 2 | Got a breakup text telling me I’m a “kind, gentle and curious spirit”. How do I stop being so nice and toughen up?Got a breakup text telling me I’m a “kind, gentle and curious spirit”. How do I stop being so nice and toughen up? Wait, so just because she said that you're a "kind, gentle and curious spirit" you decided you must "stop being so nice and toughen up?" It sounds like you're giving a lot of power to her and her words that you shouldn't. It's one thing to hear feedback and take it into consideration as you honestly evaluate yourself (that's kind of how it works around here), but if you're just deci… | /r/RPChristians | 03/12/20 12:49 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/25/20)OYS #28 (previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 1.5 yo son Physical Stats: (no change) 6', 169lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 175lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb Work has become very busy, so I'm still not getting to the gym as often as I want, but I'm trying to supplement with at-home lifting when I can. And the gym is going to be closed for much of the Thanksgiving weekend. Otherwise diet this week was ok, but it'll be tough during Thanksgiving. Lots of eating with family, and family loves carbs. Relati… | /r/RPChristians | 25/11/20 05:16 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/18/20)And the fact that you're hoping she doesn't get her license suspended indicates to me that she's had several other violations that you didn't explicitly mention. She only has the two running-the-stopsign tickets that I mentioned. I don't know how many violations it takes. I've personally never had any tickets (only a verbal warning) so I'm unfamiliar with how all this works. This is a bigger problem imo. What are you doing to address this? Is she getting anger management counseling? Have you tal… | /r/RPChristians | 21/11/20 01:49 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/18/20)True, we do have a fully funded $1000 emergency fund. That should make me feel better. But it's still frustrating that it means now we'll have to backfill the emergency fund rather than pay off debt. | /r/RPChristians | 20/11/20 12:07 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/18/20)OYS #27 (previous; skipped last week) tl;dr: Rough week. 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 1.5 yo son Physical Stats: (no change) 6', 169lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 175lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb My work schedule has changed (having to go in to the office more) so it's going to be harder to find time to go to the gym now. But so far I'm making it work. I'm currently rather sore from squats yesterday. Diet has been ok, though I still need more variety of vegetables. Relationships My wife got her second… | /r/RPChristians | 19/11/20 02:16 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/04/20)Are you tracking your protein intake? Not very closely. From what I ate yesterday I estimate I ate around 100g of protein, and that's probably close to what I average on any given day. It may be the way her body is burning fat stores. Probably. It also seemed to be much worse after a couple low-carb days. Maybe her serotonin levels were just crashing. | /r/RPChristians | 05/11/20 01:01 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/04/20)OYS #26 (previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 1.5 yo son Physical Stats: (no change) 6', 169lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 175lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb Not much to report. A couple of my workouts this week made me super sore for the next couple days, so I hope that pays off somehow. Diet has been good. Relationships My wife is now at 5 weeks of intermittent fasting. She told me a few days ago that she's started seeing the scale move, so that's exciting. OTOH, she's been having a lot of major anx… | /r/RPChristians | 04/11/20 08:45 PM |
| 3 | Grieved that wife will never treat me how she treated othersShe continually starts things, doesn't finish them and they fall on me. Why is this your responsibility? This sounds like a boundary issue. | /r/RPChristians | 28/10/20 06:51 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/28/20)OYS #25 (previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 1.5 yo son Physical Stats: 6', 169lb (+1), 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 175lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb I PBed my overhead press (105x2). Diet has been pretty good. My groin injury is still there, but I'm not letting it affect my workouts at all. At this point it just means I can't run. Relationships My wife is now at 4 weeks of intermittent fasting. This is longer than she usually sticks with something. If she lasts another couple weeks then it might be … | /r/RPChristians | 28/10/20 04:13 PM |
| 2 | Downvoted for daring to say that she should save herself for her husband....in a Christianity sub! Our culture is embarrassing.Check your spelling. It's "reap" and "sow," not "reep" and "sew." | /r/RPChristians | 22/10/20 04:57 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/21/20)OYS #24 (previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 1.5 yo son Physical Stats: 6', 168lb (-1), 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 175lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb My groin injury is still slowly getting better, but I still can't run. I lost a little weight this week, which is the opposite of what I want. From what I can tell my diet is pretty much the same as always, and if anything I'm doing slightly less cardio than normal. I'm going to log my calories in addition to logging my food to see what's going on. Rela… | /r/RPChristians | 22/10/20 01:37 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/14/20)OYS #23 (previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 1.5 yo son Physical Stats: (no change) 6', 169lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 175lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb My groin strain isn't really holding me back at all. Except for running and lunging I've been able to do everything else at the gym. Diet was a little better this week. But still, no measurable progress. Relationships My wife has actually stuck to intermittent fasting for 2 weeks now. She did say the other day that she had lost a couple pounds, b… | /r/RPChristians | 15/10/20 01:08 AM |
| 2 | Advice for feeling guilty for wanting to break upHow to Break Up Gracefully | /r/RPChristians | 11/10/20 10:59 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/07/20)OYS #22 (previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 1.5 yo son Physical Stats: (no change) 6', 169lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 175lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb I think I injured myself doing sprints. I feel a kind of sharp pain in my inner-thigh/groin area whenever I adduct my hip. I noticed it a couple weeks ago, but I thought it was just basic muscle soreness, but the fact that I still felt it even after not running for a week should have told me it was something else. I went running on Saturday, and … | /r/RPChristians | 07/10/20 07:45 PM |
| 3 | Why do Rich People marry Ugly Women?My own observation has been very different from what you've seen. All the hottest wives I know are all married to fairly success men. Besides, are you saying the whole "trophy wife" thing isn't really a thing? I suspect this is a case of confirmation bias. At some point you noticed a rich guy with an ugly wife, thought to yourself, "that's weird. Hmm, I wonder....," and now you only notice the Franklin/Eleanor combos instead of the Donald/Melania combos. | /r/RPChristians | 05/10/20 01:04 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (09/30/20)OYS #21 (previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 1.5 yo son Physical Stats: (no change) 6', 169lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 175lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb My lifts felt better this week. I can tell I'm reaching a point where my stability is starting to hold me back, though. I'm trying to find some exercises I can do on my off days to work on that. Diet is ok. I didn't get as many veggies this week. My sleep was pretty bad earlier in the week, but the last few nights I've slept incredibly now that t… | /r/RPChristians | 30/09/20 03:46 PM |
| 9 | No Oral Sex in MarriageDo you know *why* she doesn't want to give you oral sex? Past sexual trauma? She hates the taste of penis? She thinks it's too dirty? She thinks it's degrading? Religious objection? And how does she react if you want to give her oral sex? All that might be worth exploring. Not necessarily so you can eventually get some head, but at least to have a better understanding of her sexuality. Seems to me like that is Step 1. Remember, like you said, you're both still learning. | /r/RPChristians | 27/09/20 08:20 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (09/23/20)OYS #20 (previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 1.5 yo son Physical Stats: (no change) 6', 169lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 175lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb My diet is pretty good. My lifts are either going down or going higher. Example: last week I couldn't squat as much as I did back in the summer, then this week I was doing about 10lb heavier barbell lunges compared to last week. I'm not sure what to make of it. Maybe last week was just a bad week for lifting. Relationships Not much to report. Sex… | /r/RPChristians | 24/09/20 07:22 PM |
| 1 | Is anal sex a sin?I'm going to say no, it's not sinful. Romans 1:24-27 is talking about homosexuality. I don't know how you can read this: Even their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed shameful acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their error. and get that he's talking about anything other than homosexuality here. 1 Corinthians 6:9-… | /r/RPChristians | 21/09/20 02:21 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (09/09/20)No, but I'll try to find a copy. | /r/RPChristians | 16/09/20 10:32 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (09/16/20)Yep. And went through the FPU video series and workbooks. I'm kind of a Dave Ramsey fanboy. My wife is not. That's why I'm trying to be more take-charge of our finances instead of just quietly freaking out about it while she spends. This doesn't compute. Are you rewarding your wife's fiscal choices with affection? I hope not. It's more like my wife thinks of eating out as quality time for the two of us. So if she doesn't get it then she interprets it as, "he never takes me out on dates. He's not… | /r/RPChristians | 16/09/20 09:59 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (09/16/20)OYS #19 (previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 1.5 yo son Physical Stats: (no change) 6', 169lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 175lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb I ate a little worse this week. We had a sudden opportunity to go out of town for a vacation over the weekend and I didn't have as much access to things that aren't chips and cookies as I usually do. I've also been getting only 6 hours of sleep the past several nights, which I think is affecting my lifts in the gym. I had a feeling my squats were… | /r/RPChristians | 16/09/20 06:10 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (09/09/20)I have no idea how extra affection ties into reducing your eating out spending. I think in her mind a date means eating out, going to a bar, stuff like that. So to her, if we aren't eating out then I'm not taking her out on dates, and if I'm not taking her out on dates then that must mean I don't love her anymore. | /r/RPChristians | 16/09/20 05:57 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (09/09/20)OYS #18 (previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 1.5 yo son Physical Stats: (no change) 6', 169lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 175lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb I went to the gym 4 days last week, and did some sprints on an extra day, so it was a pretty good week. Diet is good, I think, but like rocknrollchuck said last week I need clearer goals and better tracking of my food. Spiritual In-person church this week since we were able to get some childcare for my son. As for Bible reading, I've been followi… | /r/RPChristians | 09/09/20 04:02 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (09/02/20)OYS #17 (previous) 37 yo, wife 32 yo, married 4 years, 1.5 yo son Physical Stats: (no change) 6', 169lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 175lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb I wasn't able to go to the gym as much as I wanted last week, but so far this week is off to a much better start. Eating is good too. Spiritual My church's streaming problems seem to be fixed, so we were at least able to watch the service, though I haven't read the Bible as much this week. Relationships Still very little (if any, now that I think… | /r/RPChristians | 02/09/20 03:42 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/26/20)Around here my choice is either my expensive gym with actual barbells and stuff, or super cheap Planet Fitness gyms with barely any weights. We usually spend around $200 eating out, and most of that is on weekly dates with my wife, which I don't think would be good to give up. That said, the more I think about it the more I really don't want to give up the gym. I had a little talk with my wife last night and I think we both agree we have other things we'd rather do without. I'm going to stay on … | /r/RPChristians | 27/08/20 04:30 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/26/20)OYS #16 (previous, from 2 weeks ago) Physical Stats: Stats: 37yo, 6', 169lb (+1), 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 175lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb My back pain went away, but then after some yard work it came back even worse (seriously, how can heavy back squatting not hurt at all but *bending over* kills me?). I've been having to take it easy at the gym. I've been eating pretty well. I've noticed that I'm slowly gaining weight now that I've started eating more. I haven't noticed it going to my gut, so I think I'… | /r/RPChristians | 26/08/20 04:36 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/12/20)OYS #15 (previous) Physical Stats: (no change) 37yo, 6', 168lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 175lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb Going to the gym and eating pretty well. My lower back has been hurting again lately, but I've learned what I need to do to fix it (proper posture when sitting, lots of cobra stretching), so it's already feeling better, and hopefully won't keep me from doing the heavy lifts like it did for about the last 4 months of 2019. Spiritual Still maintaining my Bible reading habit. Currently rea… | /r/RPChristians | 13/08/20 03:50 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/05/20)OYS #14 (previous) Physical Stats: 37yo, 6', 168lb (+1), 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 175lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb Still going to the gym, still trying to eat right and eat more. I'm certainly feeling slightly stronger, though I didn't try any 1 rep maxes this week, but I'm still seeing slight improvements in my normal lifts. Spiritual I'm still holding on to my Bible reading habit from last week. I've made it into Numbers, which is pretty dry. I think I'll follow rocknrollchuck's plan and jump to Matthew … | /r/RPChristians | 06/08/20 03:08 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/29/20)I've always heard that it's better to think of stuff like Car Shield as a crappy insurance policy rather than a warranty. IMHO it'd be better to just save up the money you would have spent on their "warranty," then if/when something does break you'll have some cash to pay for it, and you won't have to deal with filing a claim with a company that has a financial incentive to say, "oh, but Kia says to change the engine oil at least once every 12 months, but according to these records the oil went … | /r/RPChristians | 30/07/20 01:27 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/29/20)OYS # 13 (skipped last week, previous) Physical Stats: 37yo, 6', 168lb (+1), 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 175lb, 1 rep squat: 195lb (+5) I PBed my back squat. Diet has been good. I've started trying to increase my protein to see what happens. Relationships rocknrollchuck gave me a challenge a couple weeks ago. I tried last week, and my OYS was only a few sentences long, so I didn't even bother posting. Now I've had more time to think. So with that challenge in mind... I need more male Christian friends.… | /r/RPChristians | 29/07/20 04:22 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/15/20)Ooooouch. This will take a while to digest. But thanks. I needed to hear this. | /r/RPChristians | 19/07/20 12:11 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/15/20)OYS #12 (previous) tl;dr: Another overall good week Physical Stats: 36yo, 6', 167lb (+1), 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 175lb, 1 rep squat: 190lb (+5) Not much change. Still working on gaining muscle, but slow going. It's been super hot outside, which is hurting how much effort I can put into my workouts. Diet is good. Relationships Last time I said my wife was attempting to eat better and lose some weight. She's sort of sticking to it, although I noticed the other night she had two big bowls of ice crea… | /r/RPChristians | 16/07/20 05:35 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/08/20)I think the main difference was this time I had my back more horizontal. Intuitively it makes sense that a more upright back-squat-ish position would be more comfortable on my back, but apparently not. I do have relatively long legs, so maybe that's part of it. | /r/RPChristians | 08/07/20 06:24 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/08/20)OYS #11 (previous) tl;dr: Overall a fairly good week Physical Stats: 36yo, 6', 166lb (+1), 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 175lb (+5), 1 rep squat: 185lb I did some deadlifts this week, and for the first time ever I felt sore in my butt and thighs, not my back, which makes me think I did them correctly for the first time ever. Diet is good, though I did eat a lot of burgers and chips on the 4th. Relationships My wife has been saying I'm meaner lately. I think she's picking up on a mix of me not being very … | /r/RPChristians | 08/07/20 03:37 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/01/20)what steps are you taking to address that problem? None, other than STFU and hope she notices that I'm doing all the work. I think somebody advised you in the last OYS to give her a debit card with a weekly allowance. Once she spends the whole allowance: sorry, babe, wait for next week's. Yeah, that's the nuclear option. I *really* hope we can avoid that. I see about a 10% chance of that working, a 30% chance of separation or even divorce, and a 60% chance that she just goes and gets her own cre… | /r/RPChristians | 02/07/20 03:35 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/01/20)OYS #10 (previous) Physical Stats: (no change) 36yo, 6', 165lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 170lb, 1 rep squat: 185lb Not much change. My lifts have been steadily improving ever so slightly, though. Diet is good. Relationships Not much to tell. Not much change. Still trying to STFU, and my wife is still not helping around the house. Finances I sat down and made a realistic budget for July. It requires a drastic change in how we spend money. During the first few months of quarantine we were able to use … | /r/RPChristians | 01/07/20 05:47 PM |
| 5 | Anyone else frustrated with their church leadership re: COVID?the 4.8% number (I usually see it as 5%) is the percentage of corona-positive deaths (even if the cause wasn't corona itself) relative to total deaths from all sources. The link I cited specifically says "The case fatality rate is the number of confirmed deaths divided by the number of confirmed cases." These are extremely low-risk cases and it's not fair to be pushing all-age statistics on this community where those statistics do not apply, unless you're specifically making an argument about th… | /r/RPChristians | 30/06/20 09:32 PM |
| 6 | Anyone else frustrated with their church leadership re: COVID?not cower in fear to a virus with a .02% fatality rate Where did you get that number? The lowest estimates I've seen are more like 0.5%, and in the US it's more like 4.8% (source) | /r/RPChristians | 30/06/20 01:13 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/24/20)OYS #9 (previous) Physical Stats: 36yo, 6', 165lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 170lb, 1 rep squat: 185lb Not much change. My diet is good. I've been going to the gym and trying to focus on the big lifts, and my front squat continues to improve. I'm still working on fixing my deadlift. Relationships I'm not sure if it's my imagination or not but it seems like my wife is giving me more and more comfort tests. She was feeling kind of insecure on Saturday. She said she wasn't sure I loved her and that I th… | /r/RPChristians | 24/06/20 03:32 PM |
| 4 | Sparking a Husband's Sexual Desire (RPCW)Some other random things: Don't fart in front of him. If you do at least act a little apologetic. Don't poop with the bathroom door open Remember to flush when you're done Apparently these things aren't obvious to everyone... | /r/RPChristians | 24/06/20 02:30 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/17/20)There's a whole lot to unpack in this post, and I'll let someone wiser dig in, but here are a couple of things that jumped out at me. I can’t live up to God’s standard and seeking grace for my behavior feels like I’m showing up to God’s front door with porn in hand. Is this conviction coming from the Holy Spirit meant to draw you closer, or shame coming from Satan meant to keep you away? Overcoming my extremely introverted nature by building social connections. Have you read Quiet by Susan Cain?… | /r/RPChristians | 18/06/20 03:09 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/17/20)I updated my post. | /r/RPChristians | 17/06/20 06:02 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/17/20)OYS #8 (previous) Physical Stats: 36yo, 6', 165lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 170lb, 1 rep squat: 185lb I PBed my front squat this week (145lb x2), and I back squatted more than I have in a while (185lb x1) so that's cool. Otherwise not much change. Diet is good. Relationships My sex drive has tanked this week. I don't know why. Even the usual temptation to look at things I shouldn't is gone. My wife initiated last night, and I think I mostly satisfied her, but using toys. I couldn't get hard at all. … | /r/RPChristians | 17/06/20 04:02 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/10/20)OYS # 7 (previous) Physical Stats (same as last time): 6', 165lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 170lb, 1 rep squat: 200lb (before quarantine) I'm slowly getting back into the gym and lifting heavy again. It feels good. Plus working from home during the pandemic has given me a little extra freedom to sneak in more workouts. Diet is pretty good too. Relationships Last week's OYS feedback was I need to STFU. I thought I was doing good at that, but I guess not. So I've been trying to do better. But it's been… | /r/RPChristians | 10/06/20 05:05 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/03/20)Just putting the milk away is what the Captain would do. You progressed from passive aggressive to validation seeking. Wait, I don't get it. How is that validation seeking? | /r/RPChristians | 04/06/20 02:18 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/03/20)OYS #6 (previous) Stats (same as last time): 6', 165lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 170lb, 1 rep squat: 200lb (before quarantine) Physical Not much change. But I did better than expected with my deadlifts at the gym yesterday (I maxed at 205lb x 2, much better than last time). Today I feel that post-heavy-workout muscle fatigue for the first time in a couple months. Diet is ok. Since meat is getting so expensive I'm going to experiment with some meatless, bean-heavy recipes. Relationships I need to be … | /r/RPChristians | 03/06/20 06:20 PM |
| 2 | Pre-marraige sexualityIt sounds like your question has confused us. We read "how do I discover my sexuality" and interpret it as "how do I push the boundaries of what I can get away with," which I don't think is what you're trying to ask. Step 1 is to reframe your question into what you're *really* trying to ask. Also, the majority of people here are men, who aren't really the best people to answer your question. You might have more luck at https://www.reddit.com/r/RPCWomen/ | /r/RPChristians | 01/06/20 04:49 PM |
| 2 | What to do when I am tired of doing first moves? Am I missing something?He’s telling her exactly how he feels. Fail. That’s basically the worst advice you can give a man. Why? If your goal is to get That Particular Woman (oneitis) then maybe that is bad advice. But if your goal is to get The Right Woman then it's good advice. Be the most confident, authentic version of yourself you can be and accept the potential rejection, because the rejection only gets you close to finding The Right Woman, without requiring any compromises or pretending or manipulation. | /r/RPChristians | 29/05/20 01:08 PM |
| 4 | What to do when I am tired of doing first moves? Am I missing something?Either she likes you or she's not interested. Either way, let her know you like her. Maybe that means asking her for a date (and make sure she knows it's a date, not just hanging out with friends or something vague). But that will force her to make a decision about how she feels about you and get her off the fence, one way or another. If she's up for a date, cool. If not, at least you know where you stand. | /r/RPChristians | 28/05/20 09:07 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/27/20)OYS #5 (previous) Stats (same as last time): 6', 165lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 170lb, 1 rep squat: 200lb (before quarantine) Physical Not much change. Still working out at home, although it's been much harder this week to find motivation. The weather has been crappy the last several days so I haven't been able to get out and do anything. Diet is okay, although Saturday night I kind of let lose and drank a lot of beer and ate a lot of fried stuff. Relationships I didn't initiate sex any this week, … | /r/RPChristians | 27/05/20 04:54 PM |
| -3 | She left the GOP, her church, and her worldview. Why should you care?Agreed. The man is on his 3rd marriage and has had multiple affairs, so why do so many Christians defend him no matter what? | /r/RPChristians | 24/05/20 11:50 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/20/20)Even if there is a possibility that one day our relationship is so bulletproof and my SMV is so sky high and I'm such a Captain Kirk of household leaders that our marriage would survive me dropping a bomb like that, we definitely aren't there today. | /r/RPChristians | 21/05/20 02:29 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/20/20)Additionally, try to eliminate junk food from entering your house, and encourage your wife and kids to make MEALS 90+% of their caloric intake. I think this is probably what I need to focus on. Since I've been working at home the last couple months I've noticed that she generally eats small and relatively healthy meals, but then snacks all day. | /r/RPChristians | 21/05/20 11:52 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/20/20)OYS #4 (previous) Physical Stats (same as last time): 6', 165lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 170lb, 1 rep squat: 200lb (before quarantine) Still working out at home, though I did go the gym one day last week. My deadlifts were terrible. I feel 90% of it in my lower back and barely anything in my glutes and legs. It's probably have a combination of bad form and lack of mobility. Diet is a little better. I'm getting more vegetables, and very little sweets. Relationships I've initiated twice with my wife … | /r/RPChristians | 20/05/20 06:13 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/13/20)Earlier in the day yesterday she saw me working out and started making comments like, "omg, you look so good, I could watch you do that all day." Then last night I let her know I wanted sex. She made me wait until she found a stopping point in her game, but then we did it. She even put in some effort in her appearance, which I was sure to reward her for. So all in all I guess this is an improvement. | /r/RPChristians | 14/05/20 12:15 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/13/20)You got me, I haven't read any of the books listed, and about half of the PDF. No More Mr. Nice Guy sounds like a good one for me. I'll start with that one. | /r/RPChristians | 13/05/20 11:36 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/13/20)OYS #3 (previous) tl;dr: no sex, not much change since last week Physical Stats (same as last time): 6', 165lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 170lb, 1 rep squat: 200lb (before quarantine) Still working out most days, though always at home, plus an ab workout every day. But I'm making it work. Diet has been a little better. I'm starting to incorporate more vegetables. Relationships My wife and I haven't had sex in over a week. Normally she initiates every few days, but lately she hasn't, and since I never… | /r/RPChristians | 13/05/20 04:23 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/06/20)Updated my original post. I'll calculate my BF% later, but I expect it to be around 18%. Edit: Turns out it was right at 18% (Navy formula) | /r/RPChristians | 06/05/20 09:58 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/06/20)OYS #2 (previous) Stats 6', 165lb, 18% BF, 1 rep bench: 170lb, 1 rep squat: 200lb (before quarantine) Physical Not much change. Still working out at home, still doing core workouts every day. My core is slowly improving, in the sense that I can go longer before the burn becomes overwhelming. Still no more than 2 sort-of-visible abs, though. Diet is still just ok. I need more vegetables. Relationships Slowly getting better. I got my wife flowers this week, which she always loves. One thing that's… | /r/RPChristians | 06/05/20 06:45 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/29/20)First OYS! Physical The gym is closed, but they've been posting home workouts everyday, and I've been doing most of them. I don't have access to really heavy weights, so I doubt I'm getting stronger, but I've been extra focused on what I can do, so things like core work. I never realized how weak my core is until now. That's probably why I've stalled on the big lifts like squats and deadlifts. Diet is ok, not as good as it was before quarantine, but working on getting better. My wife actually co… | /r/RPChristians | 29/04/20 07:40 PM |
| 1 | [Update] Wife adviceInteresting. Maybe I did some of this unintentionally. There have been plenty of times lately where I get home from work and immediately start cooking and cleaning and stuff like that, and she can tell I'm stressed. I've also tried to start saying "I'm stressed" when she asks instead of saying something like "I'm fine. It's all fine." And anytime you feel upset at something she's said or done, take care of it with actions, not words. What does that mean, exactly? Like if she's left her dirty dis… | /r/RPChristians | 07/02/20 12:21 PM |
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