| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 4 | Interviewing lawyers | PuzzleheadedFault305 | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/10/23 11:26 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 0 | Advice Wanted - Fair Property DivisionThis is a good point. How much would you disclose and how much are you mandated to disclose? Example: you can't say you don't have a 401k. It's hard to believe and easy to prove. Can you omit the size of it? Could you omit some bank account or some other assest? Thank you | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/11/23 04:08 AM |
| 17 | Divorce is now on the tableThere is nothing to save and you better act based on that premise. You seem to be sorted out lawyer-wise, so work with that person. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/11/23 08:29 PM |
| 5 | Ex acts as if nothing happenedYou don't say much about the history of your decision. You told her that three days ago, and she used the car a couple times... Not a big deal. It's not like you are divorced and living in separate places. A car is a car, and its use not something someone exchanges for sex. Could it be that she is just waiting a bit and not trying to escalate? Your decision to do the same is a good one. Sounds like you two can take a breather. Again, we only know what you wrote. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/11/23 11:49 AM |
| 8 | Filed to divorce the love of my life. Am I making a mistake?Those guys before you don't count. You were not in the picture. For me it's always a "don't as, don't tell approach". Tinder when casually dating also don't count. She cheated with the ex when? When casually dating? After you were married? Also, how long ago and how old is she? I'm guessing you're both young, since you seem to fear a recent past, and based on the move with the divorce papers. You talk of her almost as if she was too in another category, and I'm guessing that's why you see her on… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/11/23 11:43 AM |
| 12 | Am I overthinking the consequences of getting married?You're here seeking confirmation. Don't get married. Don't live in a place with common law marrige | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/11/23 01:53 AM |
| 4 | Sex with exPost-nuts clarity is a great thing. Rub one off, then decide. TLDR: don't have sex with stbx | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/11/23 07:53 PM |
| 5 | What is your biggest regret?Having a kid. It will tether us to each other preventing a clean and "forever" cut. It's likely we'll end up loving far from each other, and the burden of that will be on me. I grew up without a dad and seen I'm doing that to a kid is truly killing me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/11/23 10:58 AM |
| 2 | My 2nd divorce is comingGet all the money you can from her. Get a good lawyer. Also, it not that she flipped a switch. It is likely this has months in the making. We are just duller to subtle hints. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/11/23 12:21 AM |
| 2 | Divorce Coaching-new to the process, but eager to start.It would be helpful if you provide more details about the goals of this process. You being a lawyer, who is retaining you? Would you work with both partners? How is this similar/different to a mediation? | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/11/23 11:09 PM |
| 11 | Wife Wants to Borrow Money for New House Down PaymentNonononono | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/11/23 11:03 PM |
| 15 | Will I regret deciding to never get married?NO. Not at all. No fucking chance. If you must, make sure she's loaded. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/11/23 09:17 PM |
| 9 | Met another womanWhatever happens and how wonderful she is, don't get married, OK? We are all watching, so be smart! :-) | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/11/23 06:45 PM |
| 9 | Why the hate/animosity?Drama. They can't live without it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/11/23 06:44 PM |
| 2 | Live, Laugh, Lose my fucking number...I hear you. They are like that, and that's on them. Just remember, "He who angers you conquers you" | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/11/23 11:26 PM |
| 3 | How screwed am I?You're not doing that bad. Not having kids makes everything so much easier. If you can mediate, that's way cheaper | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/11/23 07:21 PM |
| 1 | Do You Regret Your Marriage?I just realized I wrote "get put" in my first reply to you. I meant "get out" | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/11/23 06:06 PM |
| 1 | Having children without being legally married - Is it worth the risk?Don't do it unless you are ecstatic about having kids and you have been around them for multiple days in a row. You know what? Not even. Get a dog. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/11/23 01:50 PM |
| 7 | Why do you guys even bother getting married?Not even. They still get most of the compassion, and custody | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/11/23 07:27 PM |
| 2 | Why do you guys even bother getting married?Very well said | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/11/23 07:27 PM |
| 1 | Help - Angry and frustrated with New GF whilst separated.A dating profile is just that, underneath is good'ol people, who always will have half-truths... So don't take any profile as the truth. It's partially a billboard. Go easy. Things like "we are exclusive" can be told but have to felt first. If that was said in the first date, it was too soon. I don't know you but you sound a but eager... Let things flow, don't be following every online action by the other person, and judge them by what you see and feel. More than anything, go slow with you heart… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/11/23 04:53 AM |
| 3 | Wedding ring after divorceThis is the way | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/11/23 02:05 PM |
| 2 | Wedding ring after divorceNo envío damage done by gold and a stone, but selling it could be more beneficial. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/11/23 02:05 PM |
| 8 | Wedding ring after divorceWhy keep it? Are you planning to remarry? That ring is nothing but a social construct that made you spend a few thousand in a symbol. Don't turn it into an altar to your failed marriage. Make it money, and put that money with the rest. Do not buy something just with that money so you don't re-create that symbol. Let it go | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/11/23 02:04 PM |
| 1 | Breaking ex's pattern of negotiating EVERYTHINGThis is spot on. Only recommendation is to mention last what she gets. "you do this for me, I do that for you" | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/11/23 12:04 AM |
| 4 | For those who don’t want to leave because of financesI thought it could be stopped sooner, but it can't. Getting out at the first sign is probably the best thing to do. Correction: not getting married is the best thing to do. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/23 02:26 PM |
| 2 | For those who don’t want to leave because of financesThis is exactly the calculation I've been running in my head. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/23 01:57 PM |
| 0 | For those who don’t want to leave because of financesHelp me understand this. If you are the provider why don't you start cutting or limiting credit cards, or just give x dollars a month? She can get additional credit up to a point, and that's a joint liability, but they don't get unlimited access to your money. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/23 01:57 PM |
| 2 | Another Equitable Distribution ScenarioRetirement accounts don't have to be divided equally. The communal part is what was added/earned since marriage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/23 10:50 AM |
| 7 | Trouble with intellectual and emotional connection with wifeYou're young. Don't fuck up by having a kid (or house!) with her. There are interesting women if you want one, so move, on, find, one, and this time don't get married. If you do, prenup (unless she's the one with the money) | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/23 10:34 AM |
| 6 | 2am, might as well tell my storyAre you getting those years back? No. So you have to live your life and not a make-believe. There is no chance your daughter doesn't notice, so you may well start to live your life again. She's almost an adult, and it doesn't look look like finances are an issue. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/11/23 10:37 AM |
| 0 | What constitutes bad faith in divorce negotiations?Hi. I think your question nerds some more clarity. IANAL, but as a legal defense seems weak and hard to prove. Your lawyer will be able to give you more details. For what I've seen, it seems a tad too subtle for the shit show these trial are. Best of luck. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/11/23 10:35 AM |
| 3 | Do You Regret Your Marriage?Yes, but unhappy and looking for a way out. TBH having a kid is making this very difficult for me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/11/23 03:00 AM |
| 11 | Do You Regret Your Marriage?I have one kid, but I regret my marriage. I could had the kid without getting married... At any rate, if you are regretting it after five months, get put. It will not get better. Im two years in looking for options. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/11/23 01:12 AM |
| 1 | Planning on divorcing my wife... horrified by the fact that I will be single for a long timeI know, it will open an amazing world of possibilities!!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/11/23 12:13 AM |
| 3 | So HOW and WHEN do we finally address this man bashing family court system? I’m tired of talk.Avoid marriage. Historically it has been a losing battle for men. These days, where Netflix remains everyone that we are evil, stupid, or both (unless you are gay), it is even harder. We have been bitten, but we can still remind others of the dangers ahead. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/10/23 05:28 PM |
| 15 | Update: I tried... to no availIt may be over, but go for alimony and everything she would be getting if you were the provider. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/10/23 12:37 AM |
| 1 | Broken and seeking advice.Hello, First of all, happy birthday from an internet stranger. This guy here who never met you, and all the other who read you are feeling for you. As many said, having a consultation with a lawyer is advisable, but since you brought up the lease, and based on the de scripting you gave, it looks like the landlord may not be above board with that rental... That is something you could leverage if you need more information about what happened. Keep writing, there is good advice here, and this is a … | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/10/23 12:58 AM |
| 1 | Why did you get married ? What’s the point?Fuuuuuuuuck. I'm sorry | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/10/23 12:02 AM |
| 2 | Why did you get married ? What’s the point?As a liberal, I do admire your wisdom. No irony in my words | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/10/23 12:01 AM |
| 1 | Why did you get married ? What’s the point?Why? You can have them without getting married. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/10/23 11:29 PM |
| 6 | Why did you get married ? What’s the point?In my case, 40+ and no much family left, so I thought I could build my own. I miss my freedom now. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/10/23 11:23 PM |
| 9 | My journey so farNot having kids Is a blessing. What she did surely feels like hell, but that too shall pass, and you will be even better (and wiser) than before. Just don't remarry, at least not without a prenup. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/10/23 12:28 AM |
| 2 | If wife wants a divorce, and very adamant about it. (I left the home also “she wanted me to”) but is willing or wanting to go to this marriage counseling. What could this mean or am I over thinking things.That woman is gone, my friend. I'm sorry, it's hard, but it's gone. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/10/23 12:13 AM |
| 1 | If wife wants a divorce, and very adamant about it. (I left the home also “she wanted me to”) but is willing or wanting to go to this marriage counseling. What could this mean or am I over thinking things.Is it the same if she leaves with the kids? That would be harder to prevent. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/10/23 12:11 AM |
| 1 | If wife wants a divorce, and very adamant about it. (I left the home also “she wanted me to”) but is willing or wanting to go to this marriage counseling. What could this mean or am I over thinking things.Men leave their homes because that's the shit they see in TV. My guess. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/10/23 12:10 AM |
| 1 | If wife wants a divorce, and very adamant about it. (I left the home also “she wanted me to”) but is willing or wanting to go to this marriage counseling. What could this mean or am I over thinking things.Do you have a lawyer? My understanding is that leaving home is not a good idea, but IANAL. Sounds like late for counseling. You need counsel. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/10/23 12:10 AM |
| 1 | Interviewing lawyersThank you. Your point on a "him" is well taken, and one of the main questions I had. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/10/23 02:22 AM |
| 1 | Interviewing lawyersFor good and evil is a mid-size city, but a really good point. Never thought of it! | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/10/23 02:21 AM |
| 1 | Interviewing lawyersWill check out the podcast. Thank you! | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/10/23 02:18 AM |
| 1 | Interviewing lawyersThank you. Northern Virginia | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/10/23 02:17 AM |
| 1 | She fucked another manSomeone once told me that "men fuck from the waist down but women fuck with their whole body". | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/10/23 11:29 PM |
| 2 | Dividing assetsDo it for all those who had to pay through the nose for the "sin" of earning more money. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/10/23 10:20 PM |
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