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Good luck in life, friend.
/r/askTRP16/06/21 08:06 PM
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I would start by getting your fucking head examined for coming here and asking for medical advice.
/r/askTRP16/06/21 06:31 PM
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Great answer. I think that's pivotal. When you naturally feel that she is your property, that is when the dynamic between you and a woman is at its healthiest. Cheers.
/r/askTRP15/06/21 07:05 PM
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even though it is obvious to me we were both just looking for sex The existence of "just sex" or "casual sex" seems to be a concept that I understand but haven't internalized I think the problem is clear. You aren't looking for "just sex". From the way you're describing the issue, you're looking for an emotional connection with a woman as well. That's fine. I think you're putting the cart before the horse by thinking about immediately jumping into bed with a woman without realizing you slowly bu…
/r/askTRP13/06/21 12:16 PM
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Don't think what you're saying sounds silly, of course her sexual experience is heightening your anxiety. Many people have been in your shoes, don't sweat it. My impression, from the amount of thinking you appear to be doing about this, is that it is more anxiety than porn, although porn certainly isn't helping your performance or your anxiety. I felt comfortable with the girl I lost my virginity to because she was also a virgin. Nothing to compare myself to. Don't have to think about whether or…
/r/askTRP13/06/21 12:11 PM
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I make sure she spits my cum into my mouth to assert dominance.
/r/askTRP09/06/21 05:39 PM
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Longest was 23 years lol. Since I lost my V-card, I'd say 4-6 months at most. Currently around 2-3, but not really concerned about it.
/r/askTRP02/06/21 10:22 AM
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Sounds like she could have an obsessive-compulsive personality disorder. Needs to be in control of every little thing. If she is so excessively controlling that you're feeling uncomfortable, might be an option to move onto greener pastures, as a personality is quite rigid and inflexible. That being said, could compromising be a possibility? If it's a case of you being able to focus on something else and her being so obsessive that she would just make you a plate of sandwiches, maybe that isn't s…
/r/askTRP02/06/21 10:19 AM
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I think if you're not affected by an LTR of 10 years cheating on you it speaks more towards a certain degree of psychopathy than abundance. Be careful what you wish for.
/r/askTRP28/05/21 10:38 PM
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Sounds like a good mindset. It's not going to be easy dude, I'll be honest. I still think about a similar LTR I had that ended nearly two years ago. She'll be stuck in your head for a while. Unfortunately, there's nothing quite like time to heal you with these things, if she was something special to you.
/r/askTRP27/05/21 08:05 PM
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Sounds like you're the one who's complicating things dude. It's enough for a chick to be indecisive and uncertain. No need for you to be as well. She had a good time. Just ignore the bullshit and ask her out for a drink and take things from there. If she says no just move on - and she'll probably chase after you.
/r/askTRP27/05/21 06:05 PM
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How do you feel about it? Just make sure your attitude towards this is your true attitude, and that your mentality of "easy come, easy go" is what you think, not what you think you should think because you know it's the RP way to go about things. There's an important difference. If you like this chick, and were in an LTR for 1.5 years, then you should know compromise is an eventuality of this sort of thing. You don't have to take a lifelong my-way-or-the-highway approach. It all depends on how y…
/r/askTRP27/05/21 05:54 PM
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Call her when you want to. If she’s leaving town for three weeks you’re at quite the handicap.
/r/askTRP22/05/21 07:40 AM
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Hard to say dude. Bear in mind she is working a job where a certain positive approach to customers is to be expected. I think at this point you need to weigh up whether your desire to ask her out is greater than your love of burritos lol.
/r/askTRP18/05/21 10:34 PM
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Load of bollocks. Move on.
/r/askTRP12/05/21 10:27 PM
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The fact that you need to ask this question over here, and that you need to discuss the issue at such length, really underlines how much you are overthinking this. You've already fucked her haven't you? What are you worried about? Just ask her for a coffee. Remember, coming here with your problem, and identifying the best thing to say after an hour or two of debate in the comments, and then hitting her up, is not what you want to be aiming for. The real state of mind you want to be at is to ask …
/r/askTRP12/05/21 08:10 PM
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Overthinking. Just text to set up the date and if you've set it a few days in advance just hit her up on the day to confirm. I think the comments here saying to absolutely not confirm the date are a bit over the top. If I'm going to drive 20 minutes to meet some chick I'd like to confirm we're still on. It's not a big deal. And if, on the off chance, you get any odd remarks from her end, just say that you wanted to confirm you guys were still on because you would have set up plans with somebody …
/r/askTRP12/05/21 06:23 PM
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I'm convinced half of the posts over here are just opportunities to brag. "So this chick sucked me off and is now texting me daily showing clear enthusiasm with regards meeting up again. What do I do?" What the fuck do you need from us exactly? There are worse problems to have my dude.
/r/askTRP10/05/21 11:40 AM
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she's usually submissive and does what she's told I genuinely feel sorry for this girl. I agree with those in the comments saying this sounds psychopathic. You grab a guy by the neck for making a dumb remark about a girl you’ve been seeing for a month? Chill out dude.
/r/askTRP09/05/21 07:11 PM
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Rofl IKR. "A girl didn't let me fuck her in a car in broad daylight with passers-by? Was I not red pill enough?!?!???".
/r/askTRP08/05/21 07:51 AM
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I think a good learning point is to tone down some of the red pill shit if you’re open to something long-term. I don’t think that was necessarily a shit test if all you’ve truly been doing is acting like a cocky bastard. Remember - TRP is good for getting you laid but beyond that you’d have to strike more of a balance. Also, don’t mistake being alpha as a list of characteristics and behaviours you need to fulfil and exhibit. If you’ve been approaching plates by doing nothing but A&A, not showing…
/r/askTRP07/05/21 06:10 PM
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Absolutely. I meant more in terms of the way you're perceiving and approaching this. In terms of building some emotional maturity for any future problems you may have. Being a potential father just happens to be the issue that is presently placed at your feet. Best of luck.
/r/askTRP03/05/21 06:25 PM
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I'm not sure what your goals are in life, or what your social situation is, but maybe this is something you should think on.
/r/askTRP03/05/21 06:05 PM
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I feel like a couple of things are true of you. I think you might have traits of an anankastic (or obsessive compulsive) personality - which is not at all a bad thing and is prominent in quite a few high achievers. Furthermore, I think you've attained such a high status, that perhaps quite a few of the women you perceive around you are below your SMV. Do you think that could be the case? There are certainly worse problems to have. Perhaps you need to have a little bit more of a look around until…
/r/askTRP03/05/21 06:03 PM
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She's not "delusional". I mean by all means verify whether or not this is true, but your description of her comes off as extremely petulant and immature.
/r/askTRP03/05/21 05:54 PM
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My advice to you is to just get more experience, and worry less about what you say. The aim here is not to think about what makes you sound like a Chad, it should come without thinking. The key is just to worry less about the consequences. It's clear you're approaching the situation with at least a little bit of fear that you're going to get ghosted. Just send a chick whatever the fuck is on your mind without worrying about what might happen, and the quips and effective one-liners will follow on…
/r/askTRP03/05/21 05:51 PM
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Yikes. Still missed an opportunity to just be smart and playful. Talk about going in guns blazing.
/r/askTRP02/05/21 10:56 PM
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Stop trying so hard to play it cool. Your messages read as if you’re thinking “Okay what’s the most red-pill thing to say?”. Just quit overthinking it dude. You’re trying too hard and it shows you can’t adapt to different situations. Why should analysing someone be “rough”?
/r/askTRP02/05/21 10:52 PM
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This sounds pretty benign. I hate taking sick days off work and feel guilty when I do. That said, if your gut is telling you something, there might be more to it. But based off your description alone I wouldn’t be worried. Sounds like you’re overthinking to me.
/r/askTRP01/05/21 05:42 PM
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Thanks for the reply dude. Now that I've had some time to think things over, I think the issue with this chick was her not being over her ex (she genuinely did just get over a long-term relationship). I think she was into me for the date then got cold feet over some lingering feelings for this dude. I'm not sure if this paints a clearer picture but she did mention to me having self-esteem issues, thinking she's not attractive etc. Perhaps she was still hanging onto the previous guy/alpha-widowed…
/r/askTRP30/04/21 08:22 PM
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Greek yoghurt. Cottage cheese. Tofu. Oats (surprisingly high). Bean/lentil pasta alternatives.
/r/askTRP30/04/21 08:17 PM
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Do you think fingering+handjob is enough for a first date? We got to third base.
/r/askTRP30/04/21 09:46 AM
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Logistic. Never fear. I was pressing my erect cock against her pussy. I didn’t want to take it any further considering we were at the beach. At the same time, I felt the date went more than good enough for me to just meet her again and fuck her the next time.
/r/askTRP30/04/21 05:02 AM
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To be honest I was thinking not getting the f-close was restraint enough. Either way, I clearly appear to have ballsed it up with whatever I did. Still - I can't help but feel that a key piece of information is missing here. I can't make heads or tails of it. Thanks for the reply pal.
/r/askTRP29/04/21 10:57 PM
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The issue is, we were on the beach. We got to third base and I was teasing her by rubbing my cock against her pussy through her pants but I wasn't too disappointed with that sort of progress considering we were out in public. And for all intents and purposes she appeared to be dead keen on seeing me again.
/r/askTRP29/04/21 10:47 PM
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Thanks for the reply. Yeah, I think I might have incorrectly perceived some comfort tests in her conversation. On the date itself I feel like I was escalating adequately. I pushed. I pulled out my dick and pulled her hand towards it and she was loving it. I could have fucked her there and then. She seemed interested in meeting again and I teased her asking "What makes you so sure I want to see you again?". Then the next day I get "friendzoned". My frame has collapsed with these last messages but…
/r/askTRP29/04/21 08:06 PM
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You're welcome!
/r/askTRP19/04/21 08:38 PM
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The advice you'll read here is to just fuck a load of chicks. And it is most certainly the case. However, don't think of feelings as some kind of cancerous growth you need to lop off. It's alright to have feelings. You don't want to be chasing meaningless hook-up after meaningless hook-up and realising that the fun's not there anymore. I've fucked girls in my car before and have literally felt like I was going through the motions. I was having sex just for the sake of it. It was bland. Tasteless…
/r/askTRP19/04/21 08:35 PM
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The best way to react is just not to react. You should be entirely independent of her answer.
/r/askTRP19/04/21 08:30 PM
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You're absolutely right. Unfortunately realized I couldn't edit the title once I submitted.
/r/askTRP15/04/21 09:17 PM
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Yeah but "friends" within 24 hours of her having her hands on my cock and opening up about how being tied up is one of her kinks, that's what I was scratching my head about. I feel perhaps she's just genuinely conflicted. Agree with the consensus here to just not do anything from my side and perhaps hit her up in a week or two.
/r/askTRP15/04/21 09:12 PM
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Yeah I understand that. Just felt like more detachment would have just been kicking her while she’s down.
/r/askTRP15/04/21 08:48 PM
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Depends on a lot of variables. Obviously you should defend yourself if you feel you're being put in danger. However, also depends on who you are and what your job is. If you're a doctor or a lawyer then it's almost certainly not worth getting into a tangle unless absolutely necessary. Also, be aware of the alternatives to physical violence - a lot of situations can be deescalated verbally.
/r/askTRP15/04/21 08:43 PM
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Fair enough - can’t argue with that!
/r/askTRP13/04/21 08:38 PM
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Yep, advice was accurate. Just very surprised the situation ended up being as fucked as it did.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 07:32 PM
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I think it's alright to pay for the first date. Just keep it something simple like a few drinks or a coffee, not dinner. If she doesn't at least offer to split the bill on the second, then there's no need to see her again.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 07:23 PM
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So she used to be my junior at work for a couple of months. But we both moved to different work rotations and only ever really stayed in touch by the occasional meet-up or text-message. EDIT: And cheers for the reply. Feel kind of disappointed for her if I'm honest as it smells to me like she has some deep, unpleasant psychological issues which are reflected in her thirst for attention and validation. It's a shame but I'm cutting off contact and moving onto the next girl for now.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 07:19 PM
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You can get far by renting some basic equipment. Right now I've rented a barbell, basic rack, some rubber mats and 140kg (not much weight but oh well). Aerobic step for a bench and presto - you're set. Or just buy some stuff if stores are open. It's what I'm going to do next. Can do all the compound lifts pretty easily if you put your mind to it. With regards diet I aim for at least 0.8g of protein per lb of body-weight but there's plenty of information on this online.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 07:03 PM
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If you want to go into medicine I think Australia/NZ is hard to beat. Best combination of pay and lifestyle. US might be alright but you'll work your arse off.
/r/askTRP06/04/21 06:25 PM
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That I'm not too sure about. You'd need to read into it. I know that it does help with fat-loss and glycaemic control, besides a host of psychological advantages. YMMV.
/r/askTRP01/04/21 10:15 PM
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Good point. Thank you.
/r/askTRP01/04/21 09:27 PM
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This is awful dude. You're overthinking this like a bitch. At this point I'd advise just going through the sidebar and trying to internalize the principles there. You are way too emotionally involved here. Situation sounds like it's already past the point of mending it pal.
/r/askTRP01/04/21 09:15 PM
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Maybe look into intermittent fasting. Lots of benefits. Really saves time when you only have a short period to eat in.
/r/askTRP01/04/21 09:06 PM
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07:00 - Wake up. Usually skip breakfast (always would if intermittent fasting) 08:00 - 14:00 - Work (my hours are a bit of a luxury) 14:30 - 16:30 - Lift 17:00 onwards my day is free to do pretty much whatever I like but this usually involves doing work-related projects. Plenty of time to pursue other interests, however. Your schedule seems pretty reasonable to me. Perhaps meal-prep to shave some time from 5-7.
/r/askTRP01/04/21 09:03 PM
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Thanks for the advice dude. At least you got a little posturing in.
/r/askTRP01/04/21 08:58 PM
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Smoking's a fucking stupid thing to do. You'll be glad it helped you socialize when you're out of breath going up the stairs in 30 years. Also if you feel you don't have much to offer people besides having people ask you to meet them because you'll have cigarettes on you then you're asking the wrong question anyway.
/r/askTRP01/04/21 08:47 PM
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Well I'll find out tomorrow I guess. Can't believe girls would go through that effort but maybe I'm wrong.
/r/askTRP01/04/21 08:44 PM
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Could this really be the case even in the span of the two days since I've asked her out? I'd understand this in the context of a few weeks of acting like a bitch but I feel like the only variable in this situation is the fact that I've asked her out.
/r/askTRP01/04/21 08:40 PM
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Could you elaborate? Where did I go wrong by asking a girl out and her agreeing? I'm not concerned about the outcome of this exchange - I've got the mindset and back-up options not to care. I just don't see the link here.
/r/askTRP01/04/21 08:38 PM
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The weird thing is this girl is pretty decent. Until now I never noticed this bullshit with texts. Now it starts when I've got a confirmed date with her. It smells a little bit like shit-testing to me. It's a deliberate change in her behaviour - this wasn't the case from Day 1. I'd agree with you if this was a girl I'd just met - low quality signs to be sure. Sometimes I feel like the only way you can avoid bullshit like this is if you're dating dudes.
/r/askTRP01/04/21 08:22 PM
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Go see a therapist or a counselor. No harm in it. One of the best decisions I'd ever made a few years ago - it dug me out of a hole.
/r/askTRP01/04/21 08:05 PM
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Have well-established boundaries. Ideally these should have been set early on. Also, listen to your gut. It's probably right. She's going to the club with her friends? Not sure about that dude. Also, if you had an "idgaf attitude", you wouldn't be asking this question.
/r/askTRP01/04/21 08:04 PM
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Just being more well-read in general is a central tenet of self-improvement. Pick an author you like and go for it. Not everything you do has to be "alpha".
/r/askTRP01/04/21 08:02 PM
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Girls come and go. Focus on your goals and education. Do you really want to sabotage your journey for the girls you yourself have identified as slutty attention whores? Fuck them. You're looking for the wrong type of girl. Continue on your path and better quality women will follow.
/r/askTRP01/04/21 08:00 PM
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Dude, you're finding out how the female mind really works, but do be conscious not to absorb absolutely every bit of advice you read on here. TRP offers an excellent framework as to how to live your life and interact with women, but it sounds like you knew this girl was in a relationship before you fucked her. You knew what you were walking into. If this did not follow your principles, you shouldn't have approached her and could have easily found somebody without the baggage.
/r/askTRP28/03/21 04:04 PM
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Excellent stuff.
/r/askTRP08/05/20 12:55 PM
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Cheers all. Opened my eyes a little bit. Two word reply: No problem. And that’s that.
/r/askTRP08/05/20 12:47 PM
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True. Not exactly drowning in pussy with this pandemic I guess.
/r/askTRP08/05/20 12:20 PM
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Dude, you were eating her out. I think she found you compelling enough. Next time when you're making out just guide her hand to your dick and make your intentions known. I wouldn't over-complicate things and ruminate over whether to ask her out or not. If you like her then go for it.
/r/askTRP05/03/20 10:14 PM
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I mean did you even at least ask for a hand/blow job?
/r/askTRP05/03/20 09:47 PM
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Bang on. I feel my hardest erections were with my first LTR. Man I could go all night ... those were the days.
/r/askTRP03/03/20 09:54 PM
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I know it's dumb as fuck but in my experience whenever I did just reply promptly the chick would tend to lose interest more so than when I wouldn't. I agree with you, but it seems like you give yourself more of a chance when you join in on these games.
/r/askTRP03/03/20 03:28 PM
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Agreed. We met online. So far all I’ve had to show for myself is that and two short dates. Think I’ve got to work myself up her priority level with a good fuck or two ultimately. Sometimes I feel like the more red pill knowledge I take on, the more it seems like I have to jump through a series of hoops thots hold out for you. Heh.
/r/askTRP03/03/20 03:15 PM
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Not yet.
/r/askTRP03/03/20 03:06 PM
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Yeah cheers for this. I think this is the most encompassing reply. I just feel as though I should be over this by now. We had an excellent relationship, but she was just one of those girls who is able to disconnect the emotions of it from her career and her goals in life I guess, which I found out at the end. She's left the country since this has happened and my thinking process was that I could get some sort of closure. Though if that just starts a friendly conversation I suppose that shit woul…
/r/askTRP02/02/20 11:29 AM
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This is the crux of the problem for me. Is it better to continue feeling shit but looking “alpha”? Or is it better to potentially get over these feelings and look desperate and beta (which I wouldn’t care about if it helps me get over this anyway) How do you feel now after finding that out?
/r/askTRP02/02/20 07:43 AM
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I mean at this point I feel like any reply might just help better than waiting. Even her saying she’s moved the fuck on and is seeing someone else with a bigger dick. I was wondering this because I remember being fixated on a chick with a boyfriend d a few years back, and the simple act of asking her out and her saying no kind of helped.
/r/askTRP01/02/20 03:50 PM
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Nope. What difference does that make? I’ve kept zero contact entirely.
/r/askTRP01/02/20 03:39 PM
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Of course not, sorry if I didn't highlight this enough. It's absolutely transparent bullshit. But I'm wondering if I'm out of touch with what girls are doing these days since I've been in a relationship for 2 years. Just wondering if these kinds of slooty videos are just what girls are doing these days, or if it's the sign of a whore.
/r/askTRP11/05/19 09:46 PM
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Yeah it's incredibly frustrating. The thing is this girl isn't career-driven as such. She's very spur of the moment. She's been wandering without settling for the past 5 years or so. She's so clever, but at the same time I don't get why feels the way she does but at the same time was clearly very upset when I told her we'd break it off. "The werid thing is the more you agree with a chick like that the harder she makes your life." Can completely understand that. Don't think that kind of behaviour…
/r/askTRP23/02/19 10:49 PM
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Yeah I feel like I made the right decision. I don't mean to refer to her as a unicorn or anything, but the one thing I will give her is that she is extremely intelligent (like came second in high-school exams from a province of 30-40M people in her home country of China). So she's extremely logical and less likely than your usual broad to give up everything for some bloke. Part of me does understand her thinking. But at the same time I feel as though trying to work in the same region she wants t…
/r/askTRP23/02/19 10:20 PM
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NoFap is great in theory, but it's important to find a balance. While I find myself only able to masturbate through visualizing porn as a minimum, I started suffering from bad PE during my last NoFap streak which resolved after re-introducing masturbation.
/r/askTRP23/02/19 10:09 PM
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Not family. The previous 2 have been trips with girlfriends. The 3 week period was only about 10 days with her family.
/r/askTRP20/01/19 01:47 PM
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Yeah like I said no big issues otherwise. Just thought 4-5 weeks in like 3-4 months is pushing it.
/r/askTRP20/01/19 01:02 PM
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You don't have to take everything here as gospel and become the kind of man you don't want to become. That being said, the red pill provides a good foundation from which you can branch off in your own personal direction. That is what I've found. You don't have to go start spinning plates if you've got commitments with work, kids etc. That being said, the mindset TRP proposes is worth pursuing. Also, LIFT. That's essential.
/r/askTRP09/12/18 09:49 PM
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Just passing by and browsing through this comment section. Read your story. Horrible story. Fuck that cunt. Just want to tell you to stay strong bro.
/r/askTRP09/12/18 08:42 PM
18

Yeah it's probably the guy who's inside on a Friday night calling other anonymous people betas in an internet forum.
/r/askTRP16/11/18 07:05 PM
0

One day I was speaking to this girl I had a bit of a crush on, and I'm sure the feeling was mutual. We had just bumped into eachother in the office and at one point in the conversation she gives me a sly smile and calls me a cunt. I forget the context, but it was such a turn on haha.
/r/askTRP16/11/18 06:08 PM
3

Stop trying to find distractions and just process the emotions and deal with them. Fucking other girls two weeks after dumping your oneitis can't be helping. I'd imagine it's only fucking you up further. Don't follow the advice posted on here like gospel. By all means, be your own man as you are rightly doing, but from your short description it seems you are doing everything you can to take your mind off her. Time will heal your wounds brah.
/r/askTRP16/11/18 06:06 PM
3

Agreed 100%. I don't browse TRP as frequently as I used to. Partly because of the repetitive posts. But I do pop by every now and then to keep myself in check; to make sure I'm not softening up too much while in a relationship or to refresh my memory on certain tenets (many of which I do agree with). I think the best way to use TRP is to adapt it to whatever your targets or goals are in life. I personally have neither had the inclination or the time to spin multiple plates, but I fully agree tha…
/r/askTRP14/11/18 10:00 PM
5

It's an LTR of 1+ years. I think a certain element of "oneitis" is natural. I'll be able to overcome it if this chick does end up leaving but I just find it a frustrating way for an otherwise decent relationship to end. Is cutting it off now rather than later (3 or 4 months) sensible in this case or does it not really make much difference?
/r/askTRP14/11/18 08:36 PM
2

You were fine. Handling the situation well is not in how you outwardly address the problem, it's how you deal with it internally. You could have done cartwheels and started singing when you were heading back - but if they didn't get to you and you just do whatever the fuck you were going to do anyway then you have handled it. Wasting your time thinking about it is where you are going wrong.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 09:44 AM
0

Really? Seems kind of overkill. No troubling red flags thus far and going out and getting drunk with friends is certainly something I would feel I had permission to do.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 08:45 AM
3

Condom.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 07:58 AM
10

It's okay. Enjoy it. Don't get her pregnant.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 07:47 AM
7

Of course it is. Manifest your destiny.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 07:31 AM
45

Haha OP was a kissless virgin one week ago now he's giving out advice as though he was personally handed the New Testament itself.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 07:31 AM
2

Chinese culture is more conservative. Not wanting parents to know that she has any partners for fear they would expect marriage. Her gay brother not coming out to their parents because they would react extremely badly. There is expectation from her father to have a partner who is Chinese. That sort of stuff. The fact she's fucked 5 guys isn't exactly some sort of ray of sunshine I'm deluding myself into holding onto. But I was never really fussed about it Still, thanks for the feedback. I think …
/r/askTRP11/08/18 08:42 PM
5

Ouch. What can you do. Thanks bro.
/r/askTRP11/08/18 08:07 PM
1

Yeah I thought of that. But driving over to her place from the gym to try and talk to her about the dog situation after speaking to her over text messages (after we'd split the cost of everything, I'd taken her shopping for everything we'd need etc) and then just having her give me the silent treatment and having her hit me with things like "I've said everything I had to say" and turn her back on me drove me up the wall. I hanged around for half an hour, told her she was being childish and petul…
/r/askTRP11/08/18 08:06 PM
1

Yeah I read the break thing the same as you. It's either over of it isn't for me. And unfortunately in this case it seems it is. I believe her regarding the N count. She's been pretty straight with me regarding everything and I don't think the same culture of loose relationships and one-night-stands has permeated mainland China as extensively as the West, but I digress. I just don't see where this has come from. Admittedly the dog situation has rocked the boat. Could she be throwing her toys out…
/r/askTRP11/08/18 08:01 PM
1

Yeah fair enough. This was actually a whatsapp message, but it just took me had me taken aback for a second. I'm fairly certain it was tongue and cheek, it's just that I am conscious of the fact that there is always this evident age difference between us that gets brought up every now and then. I decided to ignore it and continue the conversation. I think reacting to it in any way whatsoever would show weakness.
/r/askTRP27/04/18 05:11 PM
1

I'm fed up seeing this answer. Not at one point am I saying she's muh unicorn. I am just asking about the meaning behind this statement. How on earth is your comment relevant?
/r/askTRP27/04/18 05:08 PM
4

Just focus on yourself and try to maintain some sense of abundance mentality. Keep using Tinder, keep speaking to other women. Put all your energy into gym and (more importantly) your school work. I don't get this retarded advice that's spouted around here to next her as soon as you developing feelings for her. That's going to happen sooner or later with any chick. You're 18. Just enjoy it and use protection.
/r/askTRP26/02/18 06:48 PM
32

I grew a second cock after discovering TRP and now every girl I sleep with gets double penetrated.
/r/TheRedPill04/02/18 08:41 AM
23

Yeah I don't think the act of cuddling is wrong per se. If you're into the girl it helps build a good connection and I would think after giving her "the best sex of her life" putting one arm around her and spooning her from behind gives them the tingles they're looking for. However the act of asking her to cuddle is kind of beta. If I've fucked a girl hard and well I take the opportunity to give her a few light kisses while running my hand up and down her waist. I think there's a case to be made…
/r/TheRedPill29/01/18 04:45 PM
2

You need to splash some water in his face bro. He's been with this girl for 7 years. He isn't thinking straight. You need to open his eyes.
/r/TheRedPill28/01/18 04:51 PM
1

She goes out with colleagues from work. Doesn't have many friends otherwise. One potential red flag was that she went out to a couple of casinos and got a bit drunk with them (but this was when she was still a plate so I wasn't too concerned at the time). She doesn't have many friends otherwise to be quite honest (she's a foreigner who moved here recently). We're not even close to living together.
/r/askTRP27/01/18 05:32 PM
1

Thanks for the replies to each of my posts. I've familiarized myself with the side-bar, believe me. But oneitis is just a problem of mine - to be fair I've been seeing this one for 3 months now, I've developed some feels as a result. Was perfectly happy with the casual nature of it at the beginning but I can't help feeling this way. I have swallowed the pill. I'm a good value male. I show off my skills in the kitchen with her, I treat her well, I fuck her well; she's definitely invested in me as…
/r/askTRP19/01/18 08:35 PM
2

I felt like I was being cucked effectively, couldn't carry on keeping it casual pretending I wasn't getting oneitis. I guess I'll learn from my mistakes.
/r/askTRP18/01/18 09:52 PM
1

Yeah you're bang on with me there. I was fine with dating her casually at the beginning, but the issue is that I've started to like her and develop feels and would prefer an LTR at this stage, and at this point I wouldn't be fair to myself if I continue as is.
/r/askTRP18/01/18 09:36 PM
3

Agreed. I thought simply using Tinder and flirting with women was maintaining some semblance of abundance mentality but clearly I was wrong.
/r/askTRP18/01/18 09:18 PM
1

Right now she's the only one.
/r/askTRP18/01/18 08:57 PM
1

She asked about the hotel thing since I brought up working there. It was a long time ago, long enough to be something trivial I thought. Besides - we never mentioned being exclusive. Agree that a fucking would have helped, but I was pissed about making so much effort from my side to stare at the back of her head all night. Plus I had just fucked her two nights before - maybe that had something to do with it.
/r/askTRP10/01/18 11:35 AM
1

I've been dating her for 3 months. It's not exclusive. She's slept with one other guy in this time, which was over a month ago. She hasn't brought up wanting more commitment from me up until now and if anything seemed kind of indifferent to the idea of me sleeping with other women and the possibility of being exclusive. But I haven't slept with anybody myself in this time - the sex is pretty regular and great with her and I've never had never had much interest in chasing more tail. She's hit me …
/r/askTRP10/01/18 10:01 AM
1

I mean, her actions seemed in keeping with her words. She seemed jealous and borderline upset.
/r/askTRP10/01/18 09:44 AM
1

Why do you say that? I have no intention of bringing this up again after reading some of the comments.
/r/askTRP09/01/18 06:15 AM
1

Damn bro, good answer. I think I've spent so long seeing this girl that my vision got clouded and I forgot some of the main tenets of TRP. I'm not going to lie it feels a bit shitty thinking about her as being just another whore. I have money, looks and status and she's happy with the sex, bought me a couple of presents from her trip abroad the other week. I feel like I give a pretty good account of myself. But last night she told me she thought it might be too early for a relationship and I als…
/r/askTRP08/01/18 08:08 PM
1

I guess our opinions differ man, but I think your time is spent better focusing on your life and career rather than chasing and wasting money on worthless pussy.
/r/askTRP08/01/18 04:11 PM
1

Sure bro, I'll quit my job and stop looking for a house to chase more pussy like a complete tool. Get your head screwed on buddy.
/r/askTRP08/01/18 01:58 PM
3

Whatever you say man. Sex isn't everything.
/r/askTRP08/01/18 11:31 AM
1

That's essentially what she is right now I guess, just one who's company I particularly enjoy.
/r/askTRP08/01/18 10:57 AM
1

They're all very similar pictures. Don't know why you take so many side-profiles. Just be confident in yourself, that's all that matters.
/r/askTRP08/01/18 10:56 AM
1

Yes. Seeing more than one person at a time seems like added stress.
/r/askTRP08/01/18 10:55 AM
1

You're fine, but stop looking for validation, and stop paying so much attention to your looks. They mean nothing if you lack basic social skills.
/r/askTRP08/01/18 10:52 AM
1

I don't have the time nor the inclination for spinning plates. I work 60+ hours a week which usually involves one or two overnight shifts. With gym and other commitments it just feels like too much effort.
/r/askTRP08/01/18 09:55 AM
2

I never doubted the fact that she was after other dicks besides my own. It's a fact I always accepted since we never said we were never committed to one another.
/r/askTRP08/01/18 09:53 AM
1

Fair point.
/r/askTRP08/01/18 09:50 AM
1

I think what might help you in this situation is putting yourself in her shoes. Imagine giving out your number to 3 different chicks, then deleting text messages in the hope (I can only imagine) someone close to you who can access your phone won't read them. How would you feel doing that? Dishonest? Sneaky? Red flags are there for a reason mate. I learned that the hard way.
/r/askTRP19/11/17 07:35 PM
-1

Not really to be honest. Was just wondering why more people don't go for Asian chicks. Thought I might be missing something regarding their culture/upbringing but I guess not.
/r/askTRP01/11/17 08:14 PM
1

Yeah
/r/askTRP01/11/17 07:46 PM
2

Yeah that was my impression. She mentioned her parents wanted her to get married by 25 and they were really disappointed when her brother came out as gay etc etc. It was always in the back of my mind that they'd want their offspring to marry Chinese too.
/r/askTRP01/11/17 07:44 PM
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I just don't see many guys on here talking about Asian chicks, and my thoughts were that white beta males tended to go for Asian chicks.
/r/askTRP01/11/17 07:41 PM
5

Great read. You splashed some water in my face.
/r/TheRedPill16/10/17 12:53 PM
1

Peace has cost him his strength.
/r/askTRP24/09/17 11:52 PM
2

Ouch.
/r/askTRP17/03/17 01:16 PM
0

Maybe she's just really cosy in bed. No need to look into it too much. If this is a recurring thing then that might be a problem.
/r/askTRP17/03/17 12:58 PM
1

My only worry is coming off as sulky. There wasn't any real finality to the conversation we had yesterday. Taking time away from her feels like I'm surfacing for fresh air after being held underwater. It feels good, but I don't want to give the impression I'm being a child.
/r/askTRP18/02/17 08:45 PM
3

Is this likely? I know all women have the potential to cheat but I didnt feel too concerned about that with this one. I know AWALT and I'm sure this can happen in the future with this girl if I stop gaming her but till now I've been screwing her well and she's been showing regular AND frequent IOIs. I was thinking it was empty threats and her trying to goad me. He does look like a real Chad tbf.
/r/askTRP18/02/17 07:50 PM
1

They've been fine, she showered me with gifts over Valentine's day and my birthday (which was right after). She loves the sex and is ways soaking wet for me. I've just been concerned by the things she's said and her behaviour towards me yesterday which I think was unacceptable, but I've got to say she was absolutely distraught at the time. Not going to lie this co-worker bullshit is not something I want to deal with. He looks like a Chad.
/r/askTRP18/02/17 07:28 PM
1

Yeah soft next. She's already sending me warmer messages to try and get me talking to her again. I'll give her a few days of radiosilence and, based on her reaction, make a decision.
/r/askTRP18/02/17 07:25 PM
-1

Because I see it as the equivalent of a child yelling at their parents and saying "I hate you! I wish you were dead!!". I don't take it seriously and don't rise to her provocations. If she wants to cheat she can cheat. I can't stop her. But I know that she's invested in me and she's just throwing a tantrum with empty threats. The disrespect is what concerns me. I'm leaning towards a soft next, as is the general consensus here.
/r/askTRP18/02/17 04:13 PM
2

I think a footnote should be made about when this is a comfort test. I've had a girl mention that she's been thinking we should split up then get distraught when I say "alright then I can live with that", with complete impassiveness. On occasion LTRs do look for evidence you're still interested in them and still want them.
/r/TheRedPill26/12/16 06:51 PM
1

I'm not in a position where I'd be happy to walk away, but that's not really my issue. I used to struggle with ED for years and years. I've been with this girl for a while now and I got past the mental block and have had great sex with her dozens of times, but the ED worries are always there. I guess I felt ashamed because I find it difficult to accept not being able to perform and going sort. It makes me feel like less of a man.
/r/askTRP13/11/16 06:53 PM
16

Kind of weird that your lecturer made a joke about you being gay. Doesn't seem very professional.
/r/askTRP19/10/16 03:53 PM
1

Well I confronted her on it. I've been trying to ignore the situation and play it cool but her coming an hour and a half late to my place when I was doing lunch really ticked me off. This was over text message. Her hamster started clocking a few miles and she started going on about how she met her cousin for a few drinks and she broke down in tears with her (she's been struggling with money and school lately), but I stood my ground and told her I didn't care what she was doing, coming an hour an…
/r/askTRP13/10/16 03:50 PM
1

She's just started school but she was making a big deal of me not texting frequently enough. Perhaps she's trying to get back at me but she was late to my place because she was having drinks with her cousin, which is BS behaviour in my eyes. I am twice as busy as she is and dont find it difficult to look at my phone and reply to a text. It doesn't take any effort. I feel I'm justified in expecting her to do her part but just want to be careful bringing it up.
/r/askTRP13/10/16 09:07 AM
3

Damn bro, never go overboard with the spending like that again. The first date maybe but no more. She saw you as the beta provider because that's what you were happy to be for her. Things should be split when you're seeing a woman and it's not unreasonable to expect that. Also, 4 dates is way to early to be thinking of wifing anybody up. Next time take it easy and he wary of women who are unwilling to split the tab.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/16 06:01 AM
4

I imagine she's cheated on you already. If she hasn't and you want something long-term with a partner I would probably dump her ass. Does not sound like something a girlfriend should be saying. Has she been acting weird lately?
/r/askTRP06/10/16 10:13 AM
1

She's doing therapy. I'm swiftly seeing that that's the only answer, and last week I told her she has to work on these problems. Whether or not that happens we shall see. Thanks for your reply your summarizes the situation well.
/r/askTRP04/10/16 08:24 PM
1

I overdid it and would only text once or twice a week.
/r/askTRP04/10/16 08:22 PM
1

I mean obviously she's got a few screws loose and she has big trust issues but I think if she gets over these she's a good LTR prospect. She has her own place and keeps it tidy so whenever she's at mine she cleans and helps me cook, has good manners, shy, a fantastic lay. Yeah she's got major issues but (perhaps can't see the wood for the trees) if I can get her to sort them I think she can be a good faithful partner, which is what we're after at TRP after all.
/r/askTRP04/10/16 08:22 PM
2

We have had one of two issues, but nothing that would make me think she'd want to cheat. My problem is that I over think things by nature and TRP has only contributed to my suspicious and overly critical thinking patterns. I made the mistake of saying I only wanted her to go out to clubs with me a couple of weeks ago. Since then I've eased off and am hitting the gym more regularly to try and be a bit more confident and relaxed about it. Increase abundance and dread and all that.
/r/askTRP29/09/16 05:14 AM
16

I'm sorry mate, but you're coming off as a complete fucking dickhead. I don't know where to start. First of all, this was what you wanted. She didn't poke holes in your condoms or sneak off the pill, you're the one that wanted a kid. You've made your bed now be a fucking man and lie in it. Don't pussy out and let this kid grow up without a dad just because you've changed your mind halfway through. Secondly, she isn't warming up to the idea of motherhood because she thinks she has you tied down o…
/r/askTRP25/09/16 10:31 AM
2

Yeah I've definitely lost ground. This is the second time I've not efficiently handled a situation like this. I feel as though I've also lost some abundance mentality while dealing with this.
/r/askTRP24/09/16 03:45 PM
22

You are the rock. She is the storm.
/r/askTRP24/09/16 05:57 AM
1

Good point with that last bit.
/r/askTRP22/09/16 07:47 PM
2

Not getting it up and being embarrassed for one night is infinitely better than having a kid. I'm in your position as well bro, only I'm quite girthy and condoms are a real challenge. I lost my hard on instantly while trying to somehow wrap that shit around my dick with two hands. On the other hand, I had sex with my girlfriend the first time without it and it was incredible. She's on the pill but still... You're taking a risk. Sex is a moment's pleasure. The sensible thing to do is struggle wit…
/r/askTRP17/09/16 06:12 PM
3

This is one aspect of TRP I'm not sure I agree with. The way I see it, in this day and age pretty much every girl has at least one guy friend. I think it's very hard to find a woman who hangs out exclusively with girls when schools, universities and workplaces are all mixed. It's inevitable, and you'll be nexting for months until you find a good conservative girl without any guy friends. I come from a country that is quite conservative. Small population and one of the most religious. We're extre…
/r/askTRP13/09/16 04:34 PM
2

Studies come first. Fuck everything else. Sure try and be social and make friends and meet girls but this is just a couple of years which will shape the rest of your life so choose your priorities wisely.
/r/askTRP06/09/16 12:36 PM
6

Why quit chess? I get video games but chess is a fantastic game to play.
/r/askTRP05/09/16 11:22 AM
-2

Again, I can't take replies like this seriously. It's just immature vitriol. Why all this anger? If it has to end it has to end, fuck it. But this is just catastrophization. There is no need for all this rudeness and if there's anything that shouts weakness it's replies like yours mate. Learn some manners.
/r/askTRP02/09/16 05:56 PM
0

Betrayed because swallowing the pill and the advice on this sub just seems to have made her miserable and ready to dump me. I've dealt with shit tests before where she brings up being asked out by guys, where she says I look gay etc and have passed everyone. But she wanted to meet me yesterday to split up with me because she hated being with me. There's no two ways about it. This wasn't a shit test. And reading some of these immature as fuck replies isn't doing anything to convince me I'm the on…
/r/askTRP02/09/16 05:34 PM
-1

I get this. And I did this. I acted unmoved and unconcerned, I kept control but she just kept ticking off everything that was wrong with this relationship and getting more and more emotional. I could see it wasn't working so I took her somewhere quiet and I kept getting more of the same shit. I agree with TRP on many things but I can't help but feel it's tailored to sluts and loose women. I'll see where this leads but I'm struggling to see how keeping up the act is going to help me in this scena…
/r/askTRP02/09/16 04:27 PM
2

I'm having a hard time believing all this right now. Sure I could have kept acting alpha and I would have gotten my ass dumped. I don't see what the point of that is. What is conform game?
/r/askTRP02/09/16 04:20 PM
0

So how would I have passed the shit test? By splitting up with her? I'm not so sure. She wanted to meet up with me to dump me. She says she been enjoying this at all and that she's been crying herself to sleep these past few nights. I think there's a limit with these things.
/r/askTRP02/09/16 03:56 PM
0

Damn, this is me. I'm a doctor, recently graduated. Never had a passion for medschool. Came close to quitting several times. Pushed on through. Kept thinking it would get better. Never did. Got my degree. Started working. Hours are long and stressful and I've been dealing with some pretty intense anxiety. It's all about the money for me. I've almost given up on finding something I'm passionate about that pays well. In my opinion it's a little fanciful thinking the two can be anything but mutuall…
/r/TheRedPill29/08/16 10:36 AM
1

To be honest, I did take this girl's virginity too. I mean, I won't be buying any more gifts of this expense until it's her birthday, but maybe giving this to her might be the right move.
/r/askTRP18/08/16 07:18 PM
3

Focus on school, work, money, friends. Girls will follow naturally. If they don't fuck it, just get your degree and go from there.
/r/askTRP18/08/16 07:16 PM
1

I'm still spending a good amount more on her, but I think it might be a positive move. I think I've been overdoing the dread and the aloofness a little too. I just feel like such a fucking dickhead spending that much more on her. Going round the shops today I saw a couple of watches that were really pricey so I thought it was only fair to spend €100-150 on her. Only coming home did I check the cost of the watch online and find out it was a lot cheaper. I suppose I'm worried I'm going to come off…
/r/askTRP18/08/16 07:07 PM
2

You haven't met my mum and my sister haha
/r/askTRP18/08/16 06:49 PM
1

Yeah and I wanted to avoid it, but besides the watch she's been over to my place a few times and always brings something nice over. Sure it's common courtesy but she lives at this special home run by nuns because of some family bullshit I won't go into but essentially boyfriends aren't allowed over. She also tends to pay more than I do on dates. I've felt like I've been overdoing the uncaring, alpha traits and I don't feel comfortable just receiving all these things and doing fuck all in return.…
/r/askTRP18/08/16 06:48 PM
1

Solid advice. As I said, for now I'm sticking with it. The grass always looks greener on the other side. There are some specialties I'm interested in, but medicine was always something I was kind of pushed into. I was never incredibly passionate about it. At the end of the day, a job is a job, and I think it's immature to expect to be paid well for something you love doing.
/r/TheRedPill17/08/16 06:47 PM
1

Damn, this hits home. I've always had doubts about whether it's what I want to be doing. Big ones. It took a lot to work through and get my degree. For not I'm just going to carry on and see if I eventually enjoy it, and at the very least accumulate some money.
/r/TheRedPill14/08/16 06:46 PM
10

Good for you. I just graduated from med-school, and sometimes I feel so discouraged. I was pressured into it and all I've ever wanted is to be comfortable. Not necessarily succesful, but to have all my needs be taken care of and to never be in the crippling debt I lived with for the past 20 years. My dad was always a lazy fucker. He'd drink a carton or two of wine a day and just gave up on life at some point around 10-15 years ago. My mum was always extremely volatile but it took me a few months…
/r/TheRedPill14/08/16 10:05 AM
1

I do agree she is a little fucked up psychologically, but I think the picture is a little different from what people her have in mind. I don't mean to go on the defensive, I am after good advice. But I come from a very conservative country. This girl I'm seeing lives at a home where she's looked after by nuns, she's a virgin and in her longest relationship with thus guy she never even touched his dick. They were together for a year. I see where you're coming from and I understand the guy thing I…
/r/askTRP13/08/16 07:43 PM
1

I'm still a virgin. Prior to TRP a girl had never even touched my dick, so I'm doing things over the past few weeks that I should have been doing years ago but was always too nervous to.
/r/askTRP13/08/16 06:12 AM
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If that's the case I'll have no problems leaving her ass behind. I'm not saying I'll be over the moon about it, but I won't let myself be a doormat. However I can't find it in me to next. Other than this problem things are fine. She's shown her appreciation by buying me a watch, never pays less than me on dates, frequently tells me how she loves spending time with me while I've invested a lot less. I don't think I'm justified if I call it quits.
/r/askTRP13/08/16 04:47 AM
1

Ask politely what you expect of her. You're paying the rent. Your requests sound reasonable. Obviously don't be a lazy piece of shit, take care of yourself, cook for yourself etc. If she doesn't agree then dump her ass. Parents not wanting to support her sounds dodgy.
/r/askTRP20/07/16 02:24 PM
2

Yeah, you fucked up. But there's no changing the past. I don't see what the point is in reminding you in the comments. However her talking to this guy again is not acceptable.
/r/askTRP19/07/16 04:40 AM
1

Foreplay, fingering, eating out etc. But remember: she is there for your pleasure.
/r/askTRP18/07/16 07:03 PM
1

Maybe you find some of those traits endearing without realising? The armpit thing is fucking disgusting though.
/r/askTRP18/07/16 08:55 AM
-1

I'm seeing one right now. I took a while out from seeing girls because of some anxiety issues and decided to ask her out. I get along great with her and she's very appreciative. You grow to find girls more attractive the longer you get to know them. She's a virgin too so I feel a little more at ease but knowing I can be the first person to fuck her feels great. All in all very pleased.
/r/askTRP15/07/16 05:38 PM
1

I recently had my first therapy session. One of my issues is being unable to get over past experiences. I constantly rethink situations and try and justify how I acted, but bringing them up relentlessly just leads to anxiety and you end up feeling like shit. My therapist told me that when these experiences come back up you must not engage them. This was an interesting perspective for me. I always thought thinking about past experiences was helpful somehow ... I've been feeling awful lately and p…
/r/askTRP10/07/16 06:48 PM
1

Gym.
/r/askTRP10/07/16 06:44 PM
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Why? Its a place for noobs like me to ask questions. If you're going to have a subreddit for asking questions but then clean it up so the only people who can post already know everything about TRP that kind of defeats the purpose of it.
/r/TheRedPill06/07/16 07:59 PM
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With 100 million I imagine you'd feel happy doing just about anything. Could I be your unfaithful partner?
/r/askTRP06/07/16 06:47 PM
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Exactly. I believe what she was saying. She did feel guilty. I imagine she also felt pity. Perhaps even disgust that he would be willing to stay with her after what she did. She had no respect for him because he had no respect for himself. I think people feel they can move on from cheating because it's something that happened in the past that they can consign to the past. What helps is to imagine your partner cheating on you right now and see if you would still feel the same way. Right now she's…
/r/TheRedPill06/07/16 06:04 PM
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Damn, I feel like TRP is making me paranoid more than anything. I can't relax in this relationship. Think you've got it right. I don't think there are any problems I just didn't like being addressed like that. I'm less decisive the more I'm seeing this girl.
/r/askTRP05/07/16 06:27 PM
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I dunno man. You cheated on her and she was upset about it? What the fuck is the issue here? Where is the abuse on her part? She clearly wasn't thinking straight. I know TRP is about male empowerment but you're the one who's fuck Ed up here.
/r/askTRP05/07/16 01:44 PM
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I think setting some boundaries is important, and represents good communication. I've been toying with this idea recently and I do agree with the view that setting boundaries helps you in selecting higher value women. Option 1 is a bit of a leap. Your woman is behaving badly so you respond to it by turning your life around? Working on yourself is something you should be doing irrespective of any relationship you are involved in, and should not be contingent upon the actions of others.
/r/TheRedPill04/07/16 06:04 PM
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She's the only one.
/r/askTRP03/07/16 07:15 PM
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Lol well that's not good to hear. I trust this one but if she is cheating you'll be the first person I tell.
/r/askTRP03/07/16 04:15 PM
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Awesome. Appreciate it.
/r/askTRP03/07/16 03:37 PM
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I never intend to get married. My parents saw to that. However I do find the idea of a LTR kind of nice. Any good posts on LTRs to read? I'm about 2/3rds through the sidebar.
/r/askTRP03/07/16 03:16 PM
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I'm only seeing her but it's only been about 2 and a half months.
/r/askTRP03/07/16 03:08 PM
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Thanks for your answer. I think I've got to find a gentler balance with this one. Keep going as is but take it easy if I see her getting visibly upset again. Part of me just knows that if I soften up as I did with previous girls, even this chick (who as I've said I consider quite innocent) will begin to explore her options. I used to be such a needy pussy in the past. I don't intend to make that mistake again.
/r/askTRP03/07/16 02:30 PM
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Damn, never thought Tarantino would be such a player.
/r/TheRedPill02/07/16 04:14 PM
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I think it will be difficult to pull off option 1 without sounding worried and lowering my SMV. I think I've got to go for option 2. At the end of the day, she'll do what she want, and I'll make it known that if she decides to pull any bullshit I will have no problem walking away without looking back. I've got gym nailed down and I'm starting to be more social; speaking to random strangers and being more outgoing. Already I feel better at the suggestion of abundance mentality. I think this is wh…
/r/askTRP30/06/16 02:06 PM
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I apologise because I still consider myself new to TRP, but it seems like 2 options might be considered appropriate here. Lay down rules which might make me look concerned and weaker in her eyes or don't give a fuck, treat it like a shit test and just dont pay it any mind and be ready to walk away if something does happen. Am I right?
/r/askTRP30/06/16 10:32 AM
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AWALT? This girl is pretty conservative and innocent. She's a virgin and she's had 2 boyfriends at 22. I don't want to fall into any traps but I don't expect her to act like a slut.
/r/askTRP28/06/16 02:44 PM
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Hmm thanks for this. Some articles definitely resonate with me. What helped you overcome your ED? Damn, I eat soy almost every day and have been relying on it for years as a vegetarian who goes to the gym a lot. My test is a little middle-ish. I wonder.
/r/askTRP28/06/16 09:40 AM
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Interesting comment. I've been hitting the gym lately but have been wondering about getting more spiritual. I'm an agnostic but I made a promise to myself that if I passed all my exams this year I'd go to church because they were the hardest I've ever had. And I did. But I've also been feeling quite miserable over the past few years. When you think of antithiests and famous anti religious speakers you think of intelligent people but how many of them do you look at and think are happy? That's som…
/r/askTRP27/06/16 09:59 PM
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Would that be the best option for spinning plates? In spite of this new mindset that's been forced on me I do want to keep things going with this girl. Spending the weekend with her just messed with me a bit.
/r/askTRP27/06/16 09:54 PM
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Yeah this is what I'll do. Cheers.
/r/askTRP22/06/16 06:00 PM
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Good point. Touche.
/r/askTRP20/06/16 12:39 PM
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I've been prescribed some cialis. To be honest, it doesn't help much if I'm still feeling anxious (although it makes a difference when I'm calm).
/r/askTRP20/06/16 10:13 AM
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Good point. I'm still trying to undo the beta behaviour I've been ingrained with. I think one of my biggest faults is becoming too soft when I get comfortable.
/r/askTRP11/05/16 12:36 PM
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If she's anything like this girl I'm seeing, she should be easy to impress and wrap around your finger. She probably won't feel comfortable escalating right away but I imagine she will be willing to hang around if you play your cards right, allowing you to fuck her in the future if you're happy to wait a bit.
/r/askTRP07/05/16 02:25 PM
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I didn't mean to offend. It's all great info, but these things have to happen naturally. I'm sure every successful man employs these principles. But for some guys just starting out I imagine they'd stress themselves out wondering when to kiss, what to wear, how to tackle shit tests, when to escalate etc.
/r/TheRedPill27/04/16 05:41 PM
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I think this is a case of over-analysis. If it's going to happen it has to happen fluidly and spontaneously. You can't obsess over all these steps. Also, to the guys who are just discovering TRP, don't get preoccupied with sex on the first date if it's not your main objective. Focus on frame and leading.
/r/TheRedPill27/04/16 05:33 PM
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No that is not the case. I enjoy her as she is. I raised this subject because I've had a few years out with some personal issues such as anxiety and have only recently started dating and employing TRP principles. I ask whether it's valued because to me this feels very desirable as I'm relatively inexperienced. I feel as though this will be harder for me to fuck up than if I was dating somebody else.
/r/TheRedPill23/04/16 09:59 PM
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Is insecurity and lack of confidence something to be valued in a girl? This girl I've been seeing had a messed up childhood where neither of her parents took very good care of her and she clearly has issues with trust and confidence (she wanted to make sure I didn't have a girlfriend on our first date). Bearing this in mind, she's also the kind of girl I imagine I can wrap around my finger quite easily. Is this a desired TRP situation or am I misreading red flags?
/r/TheRedPill23/04/16 05:53 PM
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I can't find it in the sidebar, could you post a link?
/r/TheRedPill23/04/16 05:00 PM
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Thanks for the link. Just read it. Interesting stuff, but as somebody who's still getting familiar with a lot of the themes here I, like many others I'm sure, find it quite harsh. I've no doubt the information in that article is correct and valuable, but as somebody just getting into seeing women again, would you say it's necessary to make a few mistakes to see this stuff in a new light and begin employing TRP principles effectively?
/r/TheRedPill23/04/16 04:58 PM
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I feel like I've been reading loads of posts and articles but I think I've barely scratched the surface. I love how well-researched this sub is.
/r/TheRedPill23/04/16 04:52 PM
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Thanks for your reply. Could you break down "passive dread" and "abundance mentality" for me?
/r/askTRP23/04/16 03:39 PM
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Is it insecure to say I have zero tolerance with cheating or any bullshit she might be pull in the future?
/r/askTRP23/04/16 03:36 PM
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Thanks for the heads up. Where does TRP stand on telling her you want to be exclusive?
/r/TheRedPill23/04/16 03:33 PM
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Nope. Could you post a link?
/r/TheRedPill23/04/16 03:31 PM
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How do you go about transitioning from dating to LTR? What sort of ground rules do you lay down? How do you maintain frame?
/r/TheRedPill23/04/16 07:56 AM
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I think you draw an important distinction here. I don't feel it's necessary to be an asshole to attract women in the most effective way. Sure, women will always choose an asshole over a beta pussy who can't decide anything for himself, but what women desire biologically is a man to take charge. I can't find it in me to treat women like shit, but on the contrary leading, commanding and taking charge are very desirable traits that should be worked on in my opinion. I find putting myself in the sho…
/r/TheRedPill22/04/16 08:21 PM
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Fair enough. It's not like this is a recurring thing; I've just done this once but it's my first time since getting over some anxiety and discovering the red pill. I do maintain that in some scenarios promoting yourself can work (this girl could hardly keep her hands off my dick and paid for the second date we went out on. It will quite clearly lead to sex when I want it to) if all you want to do is bang her. But in the context of LTRs and meeting somebody for the first time you are right. As I'…
/r/TheRedPill21/04/16 05:25 AM
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I'm not sure man. I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm new to TRP and new to getting myself back out there again, but you have to talk about yourself at some point, and if you do that in a way which gauges interest then is that really that big of a problem?
/r/TheRedPill20/04/16 09:04 PM
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I agree and disagree. Certainly you shouldn't fawn and put on that cringe-worthy obsessive interest you've described OP, but at the same time if you do something interesting and impressive I think you're welcome to talk about yourself.. I'm a med student and had great success on my first date with this chick feeding her anecdotes from hospital. She's one of those innocent caring types and I thought it worked well in that case.
/r/TheRedPill20/04/16 04:31 PM
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I just feel it comes off as a bit clingy perhaps?
/r/askTRP18/04/16 09:44 PM
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Awesome. This is just what I need. I would also recommend people be careful with Nofap. Believe me, I've probably been trying that shit for longer than anybody else on here (about 7+ years). Spending too much time on it, especially on hardmode, can condition you to think of porn negatively. That might not sound too bad but this can eventually progress to negative reactions to other sexual stimuli and even women in real life ("I've got 90 days to aim for on hard-mode, I can't ruin this streak"). …
/r/TheRedPill18/04/16 06:20 PM
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Well, just like I said, it's mostly from self perception. It's knowing you are the shit. And if you weren't born being told this every second, then you will struggle to adapt to this feeling. This is a great point. I attended some counselling sessions recently due, in part, to my lack of confidence, and my councilor really opened my eyes as to how this was my issue. I had a bad childhood growing up where my parents were constantly fighting and often putting me in the middle of it and making me f…
/r/TheRedPill18/04/16 03:12 PM
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Good to know! Just what I wanted to hear ;)
/r/askTRP16/04/16 10:12 AM
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I'm a little new to TRP, but it sounds like you had a good thing going. Would it have been the end of the world if you wouldn't have been able to have sex with other women? I mean you clearly wanted her and it sounds like you had her wrapped around your finger. What would have been wrong with keeping it going?
/r/TheRedPill15/04/16 11:41 AM
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Great post. This really hit home for me. Whether I'm at the gym lifting xkg or studying a certain amount of hours I constantly compare my numbers to others. When I've finished my exams the motivation to study goes out the window - NO EXTERNAL STIMULUS. Really thought-provoking stuff, thanks.
/r/TheRedPill07/02/16 08:04 AM
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