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Inner Game Quartrez/r/seduction18/09/24 07:25 PM
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Just getting it is easy, it's getting it from someone you're attracted to that is hard.
/r/seduction15/07/26 12:56 PM
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I don't know what you're talking about. I read his whole post and I definitely found myself becoming smarter and getting
/r/seduction09/07/26 03:14 PM
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I think it's not particularly helpful to reduce women to a scale.
/r/seduction09/06/26 08:18 PM
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I can tell you, as much as it sucks, you will be at a disadvantage with most women if you tell them about your lack of experience. It's just the way it is. Maybe they won't say it to your face, but it WILL affect them negatively. Good news is, it probably won't come up unless you specifically bring it up. At your age, women will just assume you have at least SOME experience and that plays to your advantage whether that's true or not. As with sexual matters, just make sure to communicate with her…
/r/seduction09/06/26 06:22 PM
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In my experience, you should first focus on talking to her and once you're actively in a conversation then you can start trying to gauge her interest. Trying to steal glances just keeps you in your head and personally, I used to not notice signs of interest and use that as an excuse to never approach. The best thing to do when you see a girl you're interest in and seems available for a conversation is just to walk up to her and talk, and not waste time in your head trying to figure out if she no…
/r/seduction07/06/26 01:07 AM
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Huh? I never said his experience is invalid. I'm saying his conclusion is invalid and his reaction is misjudged.
/r/seduction30/05/26 07:21 PM
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Just keep hitting your head against the wall, then I guess. I don't know what else to tell you. You won't get anything until you talk to girls.
/r/seduction30/05/26 12:16 AM
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If they were interested, they would show interest. Yeah, no. Absolutely not how that works. I cannot stress this enough: You cannot gauge a woman's interest until you're talking to her. Too many people confuse "neutral" with "negative". She isn't repulsed by you, she's just thinking about other things.
/r/seduction30/05/26 12:03 AM
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Dating apps are a shit show. Their advocates are either shills or far more good looking than they'd ever admit. Have you talked to women, even if they don't look at you? You have to talk to women to know if they're interested. Making longing eye contact and smiling before you've even talked to her is for Hollywood movies.
/r/seduction29/05/26 11:51 PM
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Best thing to do is focus on yourself, on your purpose, stop talking to people, become a monk, live in a cabin 500 miles away from any town, away from civilization, away from any other human being. That's when you will find your future wife.
/r/seduction25/05/26 05:52 PM
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But what happens when you notice it's not giving you more attention from women, will you just stop going? Fitness for external validation isn't sustainable long term.
/r/seduction17/05/26 05:40 PM
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This video is spot on. You have to play into the strength of the situations. If you see her consistently, play the slow game. Talk to her abit more each week and gauge her reaction. If she smiles at you the next week, if she starts talking to you. You can then steer the conversation, escalate slowly week by week and see if she's receptive. If it's a situation where you only see her once, there's no guarantee you'll ever see her again, that means you HAVE to go for it NOW but that has the benefit…
/r/seduction17/05/26 04:05 PM
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It's just not the right mindset. It still puts your motivation on whether or not women give you attention, you start having expectations on how women will act around you, and when you dont notice any difference, you lose part of that motivation. Go to the gym for yourself, that way you can stay focused on that and learn to attract women a different way.
/r/seduction17/05/26 06:00 AM
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I used to work out a lot in high school but stopped in college and never really started again but I do exercise regularly. Just not as much weight lifting. I only want to work out to improve my health, not to attract women. That seems like a recipe for disappointment and then you lose motivation. Go the gym for yourself, not for women.
/r/seduction17/05/26 05:43 AM
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Except no one freezes or becomes anxious at the thought of taking a shower. That's just procrastination/laziness. The reason people don't talk to women is not because they're lazy or "they don't feel like it", it's because they get lost in their heads and they spiral down in negative thoughts.
/r/seduction14/05/26 06:29 AM
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I used to freeze up a lot in high school, college... What has helped me a lot is to focus on moving. Don't count, don't even think about talking to her, just flip the switch and start doing something. Stand up, walk towards her, turn your head in her direction. Whatever it is. Just focus on taking that action. First, it gets you out of your head. I find that when I do that, it puts my thoughts on pause. Then just keep doing that thing, and at some point you will have put yourself in a position w…
/r/seduction14/05/26 06:20 AM
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The less you worry about looking for clues and signs of interest and the more you focus on making a move on the women you're interested in, the better it will be.
/r/seduction08/05/26 10:30 PM
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I have had the same circle of friends for the past 9 years, I haven't met anyone new through them. At this point, most people are already in couple so I don't really have anyone who knows someone who's single.
/r/seduction07/05/26 05:30 PM
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Ok but statistically speaking, dating apps only work for a small percentage of men and no, it's not always because "PrOfiLe BaD".
/r/seduction07/05/26 11:50 AM
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I mean if you're already giving her massages, might as well just ask her out.
/r/seduction03/05/26 06:07 AM
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Oh OK well just so you know, the second half of your comment does not make any sense.
/r/seduction28/04/26 04:06 AM
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Man... WHAT. Some of you don't proofread your messages and it shows.
/r/seduction28/04/26 03:38 AM
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Thank you for this very real story
/r/seduction22/04/26 08:24 PM
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Well clearly you did something that pissed her off. I can't tell you what that is, however, because you did not tell us anything about what happened.
/r/seduction22/04/26 07:00 PM
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That says more about you than cold approaching.
/r/seduction20/04/26 12:57 PM
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You don't know what you're missing
/r/seduction19/04/26 11:21 PM
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I mean, erections can happen at any time, you don't even have to be horny. However your whole story about sexual/spiritual connection is weird.
/r/seduction19/04/26 04:15 PM
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Sounds like you're mad, not saying that in a mean way. Understand that this is all just rumination. It's fine to ruminate a bit, let some steam off, but be aware that this is a reaction to a frustrating event and not a fair assessment of a situation.
/r/seduction19/04/26 01:55 AM
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The vast majority of people don't even care that this interaction is happening. It's background noise in their lives, they're not thinking about it. And even if they notice, they're way more likely to just assume you already knew her. You just have to understand and internalize that you're really not important to people, and unless you start screaming, no one will even remember you were there.
/r/seduction15/04/26 01:47 PM
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It is high risk, he got that right.
/r/seduction09/04/26 07:39 PM
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Bro he has barely even talked to her
/r/seduction27/03/26 01:08 PM
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No one has ever done that in the history of mankind
/r/seduction25/03/26 12:32 AM
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Don't take this the wrong way. The fact that you're working on losing weight is great. However, realistically, I doubt you're gonna look drastically different in a photo 3 months from now. Regardless, I don't think you should put yourself down like that. Just wear nice clothes that fit your figure, smile, get a good angle, and it's all good. I get your hesitation, but you have to understand that it doesn't look good (no pun intended) to make her wait that long. Interest is very volatile online. …
/r/seduction23/03/26 05:54 PM
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"I can explain it to you" "Please do" proceeds to say it's complicated and doesn't explain
/r/seduction23/03/26 12:20 PM
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I don't think those two things are being touted by the same people.
/r/seduction23/03/26 12:18 PM
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Bro you're gonna make her wait like 3 months to even show her what you look like? If you really want to meet someone you're texting, you usually have to meet within DAYS of you talking. If you wait 3 months to even just show her what you look like, she WILL lose interest.
/r/seduction23/03/26 03:29 AM
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I have found that what helps was simply doing it one step at a time. When I would find a cute girl and be paralyzed, I would just sort of get "stuck". The first step is to get unstuck, purposefully start moving your body. Just get up and walk, whatever. Anything that gets you out of your head and moving. Then, it was about applying that but now instead of walking wherever, you walk towards the girl. At one point during this process, you will get in a position where it will feel more awkward to N…
/r/seduction22/03/26 10:43 PM
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Yes. Doing "mental prep work" so to speak can certainly nudge you in the right direction, but ultimately the only thing that helps is turning your brain off and going for it.
/r/seduction22/03/26 07:26 PM
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The whole anti-age gap thing is a chronically online take, no one IRL gives a shit about two adults dating.
/r/seduction14/03/26 11:58 PM
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The alternatives ARE better, though. There's no guarantee people even see your profile on dating apps. The algorithm puts you in a queue and who knows when (or if) you're gonna get any exposure. And then people will say "just take better pictures! Work on your bio!" And other stuff that required time and energy, all of which could be used to just talk to women IRL and get better results sooner.
/r/seduction11/03/26 04:06 PM
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It's never a guarantee. Might as well take the shot when it's there rather than filter out for no reason and do nothing. You're gonna miss a lot of opportunities with that mindset.
/r/seduction07/03/26 04:42 AM
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I don't think you understand what viruses are, dude.
/r/seduction06/03/26 07:00 AM
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What?
/r/seduction03/03/26 01:21 PM
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Some shills swear up and down on apps as the literal best way for any man to meet women, and if someone can't get dates or even likes, surely it's because their profile sucks and they'd be drowning in pussy if they just had better pictures!
/r/seduction26/02/26 08:04 PM
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Just don't sell yourself short, dude. When you talk with women and you talk about yourself, focus on what you like about yourself ALREADY and then talk about your goals and what you're working towards. Don't bring up the things you dislike. If you just talk about yourself like you're a loser you're gonna turn women off.
/r/seduction22/02/26 09:18 PM
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Who says you're a loser? Anyone calling you a loser isn't worth keeping around. And if you're calling yourself a loser then you need to change your mindset. It's easy to compare yourself to more successful people and put yourself down, but at some point you have to stop trying to be other people and... well, be your best self. It's important to strive for improvement if you're unhappy with certain aspects of your life, but I think we can fall in a trap of perpetually moving the goal post and bei…
/r/seduction22/02/26 06:56 PM
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I can't touch grass, it's the middle of February!
/r/seduction21/02/26 08:21 PM
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All this shows is that people are chronically online and don't meet people IRL anymore. The other half of that statistics is that the percentage of people who are single in younger generations, including millennials, is far higher than it was in previous generations.... sooooo... are you REALLY sure it's easier? Crazy down votes. Feel free to explain to me why I should rely on an app to find someone when that app has in its best interest to keep me single so it has one more user on it.
/r/seduction18/02/26 03:40 PM
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"Made it easier" Are you sure about that? Lol
/r/seduction18/02/26 02:20 PM
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"Talk with women or female in general"
/r/seduction16/02/26 05:59 PM
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This advice needs to be heard more often. I see so many comments here that say "just hit the gym, focus on work" and while those things certainly don't hinder you, they also won't really help if you're not already meeting people on a regular basis.
/r/seduction07/02/26 05:51 PM
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Bro what is that smile 😭😭😭 if a woman looks at you like that she wants to bring you home, however it's to put you in her freezer.
/r/seduction02/02/26 07:40 PM
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During the convo is a different thing. I said "before talking to her" intentionally.
/r/seduction31/01/26 01:08 AM
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Yeah the guy who works on such mobile apps magically has hundreds of dates from them! Just trust me dude! No vested interest at all! My app isn't the problem-- you are!
/r/seduction30/01/26 08:37 PM
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Nope, it's the app. Any app that arbitrarily puts you in a queue somewhere and god knows how long it's gonna take for a woman to even see your profile is doing it for the money. If they ever care to give you dates, they will only care if you give them money. If they really wanted to give you dates, you wouldn't have to pay for boosts.
/r/seduction30/01/26 08:25 PM
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Nah, they don't care that a few get pissed off. Most people just keep at it or even pay for boosts. Any app that literally has a boost function to get you "seen more" doesn't want you to find a date.
/r/seduction30/01/26 07:54 PM
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If the app is able to sell the illusion that it works while not giving you results, it creates retention. Dating apps don't want you to leave, because that decreases their userbase.
/r/seduction30/01/26 05:10 PM
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There's a world of nuance between "women dont mind if you look like a literal garbage pile" and "women only like super models and decide if they like you within 3 seconds"
/r/seduction30/01/26 04:37 PM
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I just don't understand the end goal of your argument. Don't look like a hobo? Yeah ok that's literally the baseline but that's the floor. (Although some guy here argued earlier that THAT also doesn't matter so who knows) You don't need to be a super model to get girls. Just don't look, dress and smell like a slob and you're fine. From there you don't need to fill your head with shit like "oh, she already decides if she likes me or not within 3 seconds". It just sounds like more excuses to not a…
/r/seduction30/01/26 03:50 PM
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If you turned it into a yes it wasn't a hard no to begin with. Many people just give up too fast or assume that women aren't interested based on their behavior. Just because a woman isn't throwing IOIs at you before you talk to her doesn't mean she won't be receptive, etc. Etc.
/r/seduction30/01/26 01:05 PM
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What's base level attraction? Looks? Honestly as long as you look presentable and you take care of yourself, you already have the foot in the door for many women. The thing that's gonna let you in is your personality. You can't turn a hard no into a yes, but women's attraction isn't binary like that. Many women are simply indifferent, neither repulsed nor attracted. And that's where game lets you go in the green. This mindset really lends itself to absolving any responsibility and just chalk eve…
/r/seduction30/01/26 12:56 PM
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The trick to not getting rejected is to never talk to women.
/r/seduction30/01/26 12:10 AM
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No such thing as never getting rejected except when you never approach. If you rely on IOI, you might get a SLIGHT success increase, but it's still FAAAAR from 100% success and your volume decreases so dramatically it actually becomes a net negative.
/r/seduction30/01/26 12:09 AM
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How are you going to distinguish between the two? Or are you just gonna assume they're all valid and you're just never gonna talk to women lol
/r/seduction27/01/26 06:08 AM
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No but not trying means you're going to fail.
/r/seduction27/01/26 05:35 AM
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Bro send those women my way. I have a decent circle of friends (including many girls) but none of them know any single girls. It's crazy.
/r/seduction27/01/26 05:34 AM
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Many "legit reasons" turn out to be excuses when you take a step back and think critically. Of course, anything is going to seem reasonable when the girl is right in front of you but you're stuck in your own head.
/r/seduction27/01/26 05:32 AM
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My best one is "she didn't notice me/never looks at me, so she won't be interested"
/r/seduction24/01/26 08:38 PM
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Better than 0
/r/seduction23/01/26 10:04 PM
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Jesus, what did you do to the word "irresistible"...
/r/seduction22/01/26 02:08 PM
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About that last part, you have to realize that the vast majority of people won't realize what you're doing: they'll assume you already know her or something. And those who do realize, don't care and will probably be thinking of something else 3 seconds later.
/r/seduction18/01/26 02:40 PM
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The original comment literally starts with "it may sound weird"
/r/seduction05/01/26 04:43 AM
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Can't have women flake on you if you flake on them first 😎👉👉
/r/seduction29/11/25 07:24 PM
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That's only half the picture. Physical attraction is only part of what women find attractive in a man. If you take care of your appearance and you're not obese, women might not immediately deem you attractive but the door is open if you have the confidence and other qualities women are attracted to. So in a vacuum and in a controlled environment where women only judge you based on looks (also kinda like tinder, which is why tinder is ass) you might not get much approval even if you present well,…
/r/seduction28/11/25 05:59 PM
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Gonna play devil's advocate here because I keep seeing this response yet it conflicts with what women say (at least in my opinion, feel free to explain things if you believe I'm wrong). A lot of threads on reddit asking women how they'd like to be approached when they're out and about, a lot of them say they just would prefer to be left alone. I'm not saying you're wrong, I am simply curious what your take would be in response to that.
/r/seduction24/11/25 04:33 AM
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You should focus on being healthy and gaining muscle for your own goals and treat game as its own thing. Whether it helps you or not doesn't matter. If you start thinking about that the only thing it can do is make you put out mental roadblocks. By all means, work out but believe you're already the shit.
/r/seduction22/11/25 01:48 AM
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I mean, I've brought a car to women, but it was because it was MY car and I was driving it. And I brought it home afterwards.
/r/seduction30/10/25 01:35 AM
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"women are ultimately the choosers" I keep reading this and it's kinda BS. Unless you systematically go after every single woman regardless of whether you find her attractive or not, you are also a chooser in the equation. Every single woman you decide isn't worth your time or hasn't gotten your attention, you've chosen not to talk to them.
/r/seduction25/10/25 03:06 AM
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First I conciose the women and then I concuosly seduce
/r/seduction10/10/25 02:28 PM
2

Another day, another post where someone gives a person a fictional name, never to refer to that name ever again in the post.
/r/seduction02/10/25 04:30 AM
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Mostly for worse
/r/seduction29/09/25 08:51 PM
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That's a loaded question. Also no one's talking about groping them.
/r/seduction28/09/25 02:21 AM
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Many women still prefer when the man leads the interaction so they'll wait for you to make a move.
/r/seduction28/09/25 02:15 AM
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"without [breaking the toucher barrier] first."
/r/seduction28/09/25 01:32 AM
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Nah dude, you have to break that touch barrier way earlier than that. I'm not talking about squeezing her boobs, but like touching her arm or her shoulder is suuuuper important. I've never had a woman "push her face near my face" without doing that first.
/r/seduction28/09/25 12:47 AM
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What I mean is you don't just "walk outside" and meet people. You need to find actual activities to do with groups and know people.
/r/seduction20/09/25 02:42 AM
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Why does everyone give advice like "walk outside" as if parks were a common place people meet someone new
/r/seduction20/09/25 02:24 AM
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cawmone, ladies, spickk yer mind, donut be shaï
/r/seduction30/08/25 05:49 PM
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What happened, exactly? What makes you think you ruined it?
/r/seduction26/08/25 04:02 AM
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How does anyone meet anyone?
/r/seduction24/08/25 03:32 AM
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Bro I can't even tell if I'm really attracted to a girl on THE ENTIRE FIRST DATE and you figure that out in 10 minutes? Try to joke around a little bit, eases the nerves, and you're both there, why not give it at least an hour? You said you tried to force a conversation, what were you talking about?
/r/seduction16/08/25 04:21 AM
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Ehhhh yes and no. I think there is a difference between a woman being neutral towards you and a woman finding you unattractive. You can't win over a woman who finds you unattractive, but you can definitely seduce a woman who's neutral.
/r/seduction05/08/25 04:26 PM
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You can do both.
/r/seduction05/08/25 05:00 AM
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The memes about men being oblivious to subtle flirting are pretty accurate. Straightforward and direct works better on men otherwise they might just think you're being polite.
/r/seduction04/08/25 05:18 PM
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On a side-note, I find it funny when people tell stories like this and bother to give the person a name and only use that name once in the whole story.
/r/seduction04/08/25 03:45 AM
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Bro if you go into it thinking women have one specific type and nothing else interests them you're going to be miserable. Truth of the matter is, when it REALLY comes down to it, you can't know if a woman is interested until you're talking to her.
/r/seduction26/07/25 06:54 PM
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That's just how it is. I've had women say I'm hot and others say I'm ugly. What women find attractive varies so incredibly much from one individual to another that you really shouldn't take what any given person says about you for granted. Pay attention to the compliments and ignore the insults.
/r/seduction11/07/25 08:51 PM
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Not a huge fan of approaching women trying to go about their day. It feels intrusive and you usually won't get much positive results. It's better if you do it somewhere that's more conducive to conversations or at least somewhere you know she's not in a rush.
/r/seduction11/07/25 06:28 PM
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Yeah because guys on dating apps just swipe right by default, it doesn't matter what a woman puts on her profile.
/r/seduction11/07/25 05:23 PM
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Well as a guy if I see shit like that on a woman's profile it comes across as someone who's still bitter about her past experiences and someone who will come with a negative mindset and it just sounds like more trouble than it's worth. But as someone else said, people just swipe the pictures so I doubt it's gonna have any real impact.
/r/seduction11/07/25 05:08 PM
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No one even knows you're hitting on girls most of the time and even if they do they probably don't care unless someone is yelling. People see clips on tiktok and freak out thinking there's like a 50% chance of this happening to them but there is big exposure bias at play.
/r/seduction09/07/25 01:33 PM
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I've never understood that advice. In the office, maybe if it's a small office... But the gym and the church? Why? People will say that and then say that meeting people through social circles is the best, yet with social circles this issue is 100% worse.
/r/seduction05/07/25 12:20 AM
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It depends on how big the company is. If she's like your direct coworker and you work with her daily, probably don't do it. But if it's a big company and she's like in another department and you barely interact with her professionally, there's very little harm in giving it a shot. Statistically, the majority of couples meet in the workplace. Don't let a bunch of terminally online redditors tell you the most likely place to meet a partner is a no-go,
/r/seduction05/07/25 12:19 AM
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It's just anxiety. Your brain trying to protect you but in this case it's overreacting. You just have to stop thinking and do it.
/r/seduction29/06/25 03:33 AM
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Most people are absolutely ok with 1 percent success rate because if you run the numbers, dating apps technically have a success rate far below even one percent... yet people still flock to them.
/r/seduction26/06/25 07:17 PM
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Still better odds than Tinder and Facebook Dating
/r/seduction26/06/25 07:12 PM
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Go really fast and drift around, basically you want to think of your date as the girl next to you in Outrun 2 who goes crazy whenever you drift and overtake traffic. Just avoid crashing on the sides of the road and flipping the car and crashing. She doesn't seem to be a fan of that.
/r/seduction22/06/25 06:32 AM
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WIFE BAD
/r/seduction17/06/25 10:17 PM
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Man I wish dating apps yielded even 1 or 2 matches a week lmaooo
/r/seduction14/06/25 08:58 AM
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I notice I get a boost of likes when I first make a profile, then it plummets to basically zero after a few days. Tinder is just complete garbage now, filled with girls promoting their Instagram. They all look the same too with the same poses and items, it's kinda funny. FB dating is okay-ish but I suspect it stops showing my profile really fast just because of the wild disparity in likes I get when I start the account vs a week or so later. Issue is, I'm not super photogenic most of the time. I…
/r/seduction30/05/25 03:08 PM
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What is this reaction, guy. Don't write comments on Reddit if you don't want people to reply.
/r/seduction25/05/25 07:27 AM
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It absolutely is a numbers game, what are you talking about? Of course it's not ONLY a numbers game, but at the end of the day, you really can't control whether a woman is attracted to your or not or if she's willing to talk to you/give you her number and there's really no way to know for sure that she will. So you just have to do it. Ergo, it's a numbers game.
/r/seduction25/05/25 07:20 AM
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If you call a 30 year-old woman "ma'am", you're gonna be playing video games by yourself in no time
/r/seduction24/05/25 06:03 PM
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The online dating landscape has completely changed in the last 10 years. The enTinderification of dating apps has ruined most of online dating. It doesn't matter what you say, what your profile is, how good your photos are. Your odds are significantly worse today than they were 10 years ago on any app and other websites like OKCupid.
/r/seduction23/05/25 03:45 AM
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Also the biggest problem with online dating is that they completely ignore what women find attractive. Confidence, personality, voice, how you carry yourself, all those qualities go out the window because you are reduced to a photo and two lines of text.
/r/seduction21/05/25 06:52 AM
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I'm gonna say something controversial here, but you don't need to wait for women to look at you to talk to them. Just look for signs that they're available to talk to.
/r/seduction10/05/25 07:39 AM
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The flaw in your logic here is to assume social circles are a sure-fire way to get dates. They're not. They may have better odds than cold approach, but they still aren't super great. Especially as you get older, you social circles are couples, some have kids, some are busy, etc. So not only do you not see them super often but they only know other people who are in relationships. And the amount of time and investment you put in there is wayyy more significant than approaching girls on the weeken…
/r/seduction10/05/25 07:36 AM
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Looks like it
/r/seduction01/05/25 09:19 PM
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The caveat not one talks about when talking about social circles is that it's almost as unreliable as cold approach, except with the added disadvantage of being even more time consuming. Spent months building a small network of friends? Great! Maybe some of them are even women! But the odds of one of them being both available and into you are low. But you say, ahh but see maybe she'll introduce you to her single friends! .... If she has any to begin with. Social circles just are not as reliable …
/r/seduction02/03/25 04:51 PM
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Go at it again. I spent far too much time when I was younger rejecting myself and never approaching because I was convinced women were not attracted to me. So if I get rejected, I brush it off and I go again. Because once in a while, a girl will say yes. And it is very much worth it. Also when you get to a certain age, you realize you don't have the luxury of wasting time dwelling on such things. The most efficient thing to do to get what you want is to move on and go at it again.
/r/seduction28/02/25 07:06 AM
1

It's rare because it doesn't work. Revealing your feelings like that seldom goes well. More often than not you're just shooting yourself in the foot. That's just how it is.
/r/seduction06/02/25 11:27 PM
17

And none of them reply/match
/r/seduction01/02/25 05:22 PM
2

"some people will laugh at you" Unless you're making a scene, most people not only will not care that you got rejected, most will not care that you approached a girl, and even MORE people won't even know you were talking to a girl you didn't know.
/r/seduction31/01/25 04:31 AM
3

I partially agree but not for the reason you mention. In my experience, when a woman says no, it's pretty definite. However, if you still keep in touch in an amicable way, she might introduce you to more women.
/r/seduction24/01/25 03:29 PM
5

I think it's wayyyyy easier to approach a groupe of 2 or 3 girls at a bar than a girl walking on the street on her way to work but to each their own.
/r/seduction15/01/25 11:06 PM
1

Where do you approach them? If you approach on the street in daytime , most people are just going places and would rather not be bothered. You might get better success from approaching in places that are a bit more relaxed and where people don't mind spending time, like coffee shops or bars, or a bookstore or something.
/r/seduction15/01/25 09:10 PM
11

Don't do scripts. I know it can be hard because the mind tends to freeze up and you think you're not gonna find anything to say, but preparing a script in your head and just sticking to it makes the interaction robotic. You want to bounce off what she's saying and she'll bounce back, that's how you will make a good first impression.
/r/seduction12/01/25 05:24 PM
2

I'm sorry but what are you talking about?
/r/seduction09/01/25 08:36 PM
1

I was being sarcastic
/r/seduction07/01/25 11:00 PM
0

Yeah I suppose it evokes spontaneity if you ignore the part where you took the idea from a reddit post and planned on doing it well in advance, but otherwise yea it's very spontaneous.
/r/seduction07/01/25 10:39 PM
1

Alright buddy, it seems obvious this conversation is going nowhere. But hey, just stay home and don't talk to women if that's what makes you happy.
/r/seduction03/01/25 04:32 PM
1

That's literally the way I met an ex partner but sure, you're right, don't do it. Just sit at home and masturbate and tell yourself you're high value because you don't talk to women 💀
/r/seduction03/01/25 04:28 PM
1

You're being disingenuous. Who the fuck approaches in a parking lot? Also, you do hear plenty of stories of men who met their girlfriends/wives at a bar, coffee shop, some event, etc. It happens, dude. Accept it.
/r/seduction03/01/25 04:23 PM
1

Bro your logic is literally "don't do things that get you dates, because if you had dates you wouldn't need to do the things that get you dates".
/r/seduction03/01/25 04:20 PM
2

Yeah man, when you're attractive, women literally magically appear on your lap. You don't even have to talk to anyone, you just sit at home and some random girl will just knock on your door asking to fuck you. For real tho, just reread your comment. It's nonsensical.
/r/seduction03/01/25 04:14 PM
2

This is just wrong lol If it was financially viable for mechanics to walk around a parking lot and telling people about their services, they would 100% do it. It's just more efficient to air a commercial on the radio or on a billboard, but in this little metaphor of yours there is no difference between the two. Your argument falls flat.
/r/seduction03/01/25 04:10 PM
2

I just want to point out the irony in your analogy about a car mechanic, because in the context of being a car mechanic, they absolutely do ask people to come see them, it's called ADVERTISEMENT.
/r/seduction03/01/25 03:18 PM
1

Because I have friends that are women, believe it or not, and we've had discussions about this. Also if you knew what women want, you wouldn't call them females.
/r/seduction03/01/25 03:06 PM
2

That sounds more like an issue on how you approach the situation, ngl. Also, there are absolutely women who want to meet someone in their day to day lives, in fact they'd rather have that than get a date from a dating app. You just have to do it right. Approaching is mostly about testing a person's vibe than ask a questionnaire like they're applying for a job. Maybe that's why you think it's a waste of time, you just think about it wrong.
/r/seduction03/01/25 02:38 PM
4

The leaps of logic people are willing to go on to justify not having to approach women. You're meeting someone and getting to know each other, you're not offering a car repair service.
/r/seduction03/01/25 02:03 PM
23

You're right. You're a high value man, you should let women approach you. Let us know how that goes for you.
/r/seduction03/01/25 02:01 PM
2

This post feels like a knee-jerk reaction to something you witnessed. "Some tall, handsome guy got all the attention without doing anything presumably, and you didn't, so because of that, the only thing that matters to girls is who they're eyeing and no one else has a shot and nothing you do will make her like you." Your conclusion is just false. Not only do most women not really operate that way but you can absolutely win over a girl with your confidence and charisma. You just gotta stop acting…
/r/seduction02/01/25 07:38 AM
5

You're being too harsh for no reason. I think people overstate the importance of lifestyle/hobbies. Most people don't have crazy lifestyles where they go skydiving every weekend, and they still get in relationships. You just need to be good enough to hold a good conversation and be able to plan something interesting whenever you want to meet a girl. Doesn't have to be the most insane thing either. As far as hobbies, it's not really not complicated either, especially if you're in uni. Just join a…
/r/seduction01/01/25 01:54 AM
7

I'm talking specifically about a situation many guys find themselves in where they'll watch a bunch of videos on how to approach women and read articles and all that jazz, and then never even approach a girl and put any of it in practice.
/r/seduction31/12/24 08:47 PM
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You can do all of that, just be aware that your level of success will vary on the context. Obviously any situation where you see the girl often and have a chance to talk to her on a regular basis will increase your odds. This doesn't mean you should only go for one thing over the other, ideally you wanna take as many opportunities as possible. The idea is to manage expectations.
/r/seduction31/12/24 08:37 PM
139

You can read all the books, watch all the videos, at the end of the day, the only thing that will get you results is to start talking to women and asking them out on dates.
/r/seduction31/12/24 08:24 PM
33

Can't you just focus on building rapport and then when you're both home you invite her solo?
/r/seduction30/12/24 01:51 AM
0

I mean, if you have things in common and you enjoy each other's company platonically, why not? Also girls can introduce you to other girls.
/r/seduction27/12/24 04:23 PM
2

People like to throw around metoo like it's some sort of everlasting storm that's waiting to strike them down anytime they so much as talk to a girl. That's not how any of that goes. If you start doing shit like sending unsolicited dick pics to your coworker after you've asked them out a few times and they declined every time, yea then you can start worrying about metoo. Until then, you can pretend it doesn't exist because it doesn't concern you.
/r/seduction26/12/24 05:26 PM
1

Everyone pays their half during the dating process and we're just getting to know each other. After that it's only if it's a gift of some sort and Im inviting her. Otherwise, still 50-50. If she doesn't agree to that, that means she just wants a free meal and has no interest in me.
/r/seduction26/12/24 05:17 PM
1

New fancy term for FWB
/r/seduction26/12/24 05:11 PM
1

Well over here, plenty of bars and restaurants and places have closed and nothing took their place, or whatever bought the space doesn't offer any social gathering service.
/r/seduction26/12/24 08:32 AM
1

"In a time where MOST people are meeting online" I think this information is taken in a vacuum and is misleading. It's more a case where most people meet online not because online is better but because we're still only 2 years out of a pandemic and everyone was stuck inside and a lot of the things we used to do (that worked far better) are now closed. We're also in a loneliness epidemic, the percentage of single people keeps increasing, the age at which people lose their virginity keeps increasi…
/r/seduction25/12/24 10:01 PM
1

All I see is a ton of effort to invest in a thing that is still rigged against you and wants you to fail, when you could spend that time and energy going outside and socializing with women face-to-face and yield better results faster.
/r/seduction25/12/24 09:38 PM
6

"why would you wanna buy overpriced drinks and jump through all the hoops in order to get laid if you could just “netflix and chill”, hitting on women on OLD’s to get a hookup or an ONS, or just create a house party where you buy drinks at regular price, invite your local friends and ask them to bring their friends? The latter is more efficient" > The latter is more efficient. Except when it isn't. Sometimes you just don't have that big a circle of friends that they can just reliably introduce y…
/r/seduction25/12/24 05:58 AM
7

"wassup attractive" Are you an alien?
/r/seduction24/12/24 05:07 AM
13

I think this really depends on the kind of bar you go to. Nightclubs with loud music and flashing lights, yea, really not ideal to try and talk to a girl. But a smaller bar where people are just taking a beer or two and enjoying themselves and the music is quieter, are absolutely better environments to have a conversation with someone.
/r/seduction24/12/24 05:04 AM
2

I have no idea what the hell you're talking about and I'm gonna be honest, I think you're overthinking it.
/r/seduction22/12/24 06:50 AM
1

You have to internalize that talking to women is perfectly fine, she won't be bothered and whatever you say will be fine too. That's something I used to struggle with (Still struggle with a little bit) and the thing that worked for me was just telling myself over and over that it's perfectly OK and normal to go talk to women and they won't mind it, even if it turns out she's not interested.
/r/seduction21/12/24 09:51 PM
35

Looksmaxxing jargon 💀💀
/r/seduction18/12/24 04:56 PM
5

Except in the real world you're not competing against literally thousands of men across the province/state
/r/seduction16/12/24 10:50 PM
5

Don't cling too hard on the "the right woman will come to you when you least expect it" thing if you feel like it's not leading to anything. Sometimes you're not dealt the hand for that sort of stuff to happen and you have to take matters in your own hands. However OP, reading your other messages I think you probably need a bit of time to heal and clear things up in your mind before going back at it.
/r/seduction16/12/24 07:46 PM
1

They certainly save you time and money but they don't help you get dates lol (if you're a guy)
/r/seduction16/12/24 07:28 PM
6

You already asked her out and she said she was busy without suggesting another date, that's pretty much your answer already. You've done all you had to do, onto the next one.
/r/seduction16/12/24 07:09 PM
1

I think either is fine, I've done both. On a first date situation I think both people driving can be better because you don't have the added pressure of having to get driven back if the date goes south for whatever reason.
/r/seduction14/12/24 07:50 PM
2

As another comment stated, you should prioritize if she looks available to have a conversation with. If she seems hard focused on her laptop and working, seems to be reading a book for school or she is in a conversation with someone on the phone, might be best to not approach. Beyond that, you can capitalize on IOI's but I wouldn't recommend waiting for them to happen. Just go talk to the girl first, and gauge her interest based on how she responds to you in an actual conversation. You really ca…
/r/seduction11/12/24 07:28 PM
1

You're underestimating how pysically attractive he is.
/r/seduction11/12/24 04:33 PM
1

Not the average experience for men. You're vastly underestimating how attractive he is.
/r/seduction11/12/24 04:18 PM
1

Not necessarily true. Dating apps have been extremely enshittified over the years. You need to basically be a super model to even get shown to women.
/r/seduction11/12/24 03:33 PM
34

I mean, they probably have no idea how any of that works. Many people here are probably in their late teens or early twenties and they don't have the first clue on what to do. Even their mindset isn't right. I don't mean to poke fun here, but some guy asked "how can I make her my girlfriend" about some girl he only saw a couple times at his workplace, I dont even think he had a single conversation with her yet. Also the younger ones probably spent some part of their formative years stuck in thei…
/r/seduction01/12/24 08:16 AM
1

For what it's worth, I think a dream like that could be the result of something in your subconscious. Maybe some fear or insecurity or whatever. Maybe not. It could be worth looking into it though, how those dreams make you feel, if you think you may have the impression that women don't like you and where that thought is coming from. Don't take them too seriously though, but it can be interesting to look at. Funnily enough, I've actually had the opposite happen. When I was younger, I struggled w…
/r/seduction30/11/24 10:34 PM
6

Wrong sub
/r/seduction30/11/24 04:49 PM
3

It depends. Some women kinda like receiving the number has it leaves the ball in their court and kind of eases the pressure. You can just leave your number and she doesn't have to worry about giving her number to a guy she just met... On the other hand, many women still want the man to lead so if you give them your number, you're leaving the leading to them and that usually doesn't really work. I can certainly appreciate why some women would prefer you give them your number, but I think there's …
/r/seduction27/11/24 04:37 AM
7

Eye contact doesn't mean anything. Some people will say if she holds her stare a few seconds and smiles then go in, or if she repeatedly looks at you... some women say they actually AVOID eye contact with guys they're into because they're shy or some will even say they'll hold eye contact because they don't feel safe and they're just being cautious... So don't pay much attention to eye contact. If you get it, cool, if you don't get it, cool. The importance is learning how to approach in a casual…
/r/seduction26/11/24 03:31 PM
2

Luck always plays a part, my friend. I'm not saying people should give up and lie down, but it's never 100% on you. Even in repeated occurrence, it means you were lucky to be presented that initial opportunity to be in a position that allows you that repetition. Also it is a bit weird that you're arguing against cold approach and telling people to follow their dreams and that's how they'll meet women while also saying to not rely on luck and to work to obtain what you want. This is bordering on …
/r/seduction26/11/24 03:08 PM
1

Whatever it is that you're doing, know that the reason you're able to do them is that you were lucky enough to be in a position to be able to do those things. Not everyone who will do what you do or follow their passion will find opportunities like that to meet women.
/r/seduction26/11/24 01:21 PM
9

There's definitely a large amount of luck if you meet women without cold approach or dating apps. You just don't realize it or you take it for granted.
/r/seduction26/11/24 08:10 AM
2

Well for starters, don't frame this as you "trying to get in a relationship with her", from what I'm reading here you're infatuated but you don't know her that well. So instead your goal should be to get to know her on a more personal level and see if affinity grows. You said she invited you to do something so that's already a great headstart even if it didn't pan out. You could ask her to join you to some activity, maybe something you'd know you both enjoy and when you're there with her, talk a…
/r/seduction19/11/24 06:18 PM
14

I have a rule where if we're still talking on the dating app/website, I wait a few days and then send another message with a different question, and THEN if she doesn't reply I quit. Believe it or not, I was talking to this girl on OKCupid a few years ago, she didn't reply to one of my messages so I sent another one a few days later and she replied to that one... And we went on three dates.
/r/seduction16/11/24 01:09 AM
1

Maybe it's just my area then. In my experience, Hinge is filled with women just advertising their Instagram and it has done absolutely nothing to show me the kind of women I'm interested in and show my profile to women who would be interested in me. Same as Tinder.
/r/seduction14/11/24 07:00 AM
1

How is it any different than Tinder? The same company owns it. It's still a swipe to match app. Just because it makes you answer a bunch of questions don't mean it's any different. It's Tinder with a mask on its head.
/r/seduction14/11/24 06:45 AM
1

I have a hard time believing that. Hinge is the same garbage as Tinder and it's owned by the same company.
/r/seduction14/11/24 06:18 AM
0

And yet you'd still get far more results from talking to women outside. And you'd get them faster too. Not saying you can't use dating apps. But dating apps are the last thing you use when you literally have nothing else to meet other people. And if you want to meet people seriously, you need to find ways to meet people that don't rely on dating apps.
/r/seduction14/11/24 04:52 AM
0

I mean you don't have to, but I guarantee you're gonna get more results going to bars 2 hours a week than using dating apps 8 hours a day in the same time span
/r/seduction13/11/24 11:30 PM
1

Congratulations on being the exception. Consider yourself lucky. But that's like telling people to buy lottery tickets to earn money because YOU won the lottery.
/r/seduction13/11/24 11:13 PM
1

It does, you just don't realize it.
/r/seduction13/11/24 11:12 PM
1

And because of dating apps, people are more isolated than ever because they rely too much on an environment that wants them to fail. People stopped organizing and going to events and meetups because they think they can just swipe their way to love. Yet dating apps do nothing more than dangle a carrot in front of you with a promise they have no intention or incentive to fulfill.
/r/seduction13/11/24 11:11 PM
0

This is all cool but the issue is, practically, dating apps don't work. They just don't. Humans aren't wired to bond over text and profiles. The statistics clearly show that the percentage of single young men and women is steadily increasing, and it is increasing at the same rate as the prevalence of dating apps.
/r/seduction13/11/24 11:07 PM
5

"Romanticized image of meeting women in real life" Just take a second and take in what you just wrote. This is sad lmao how do you think people met before 2000?
/r/seduction13/11/24 11:02 PM
1

Are you talking to yourself? YOU used those words, I was quoting you lmao
/r/seduction13/11/24 10:54 PM
1

Right you're swiping your precious free time away on women who will never even see your profile. But if you see starting a conversation with a girl in a public place like a bar as harassment, I think there are big issues with your outlook.
/r/seduction13/11/24 10:39 PM
7

IRL will always triumph over apps. Always. If you talked to half as many women IRL that you swipe on on apps you'd get far more dates. The numbers are just stupid. You're not subjugated to an app that tries to determine how attractive you are based on a bunch of random factors and queuing you behind hundreds of guys. You're talking to a woman NOW who can see you, hear you, watch how you present yourself and how you behave. Dating apps are so insanely inferior it boggles my mind that people think…
/r/seduction13/11/24 10:33 PM
14

That's some chronically online take. Get this idea out of your head and go outside, interact with real people.
/r/seduction13/11/24 01:11 AM
2

Reddit is filled with chronically online people who deem any and every interaction inappropriate regardless of context, location and time because they're chronically online and have spent the last ten years locked in their rooms. Take that into consideration whenever you read such "advice".
/r/seduction12/11/24 10:45 PM
15

Basically the idea is that you don't want to come across as her pet just waiting on the doorstep for mom to come home, if you get what I mean lol And ideally you don't want to be like that either. Waiting on people like that is an absolute disservice to yourself. Spend your energy and time trying to find people who want to connect with you now.
/r/seduction11/11/24 07:39 PM
67

Honestly the best way is to let them go on good terms, don't hint that they can reconnect if they want to, assume it's implied and don't just wait in hopes that it happens. Do your own thing. Imma be honest, usually once it's over, regardless of the reason, the chances of them coming back are very very slim. I'd just make my peace and move on. Not saying it's impossible, but the best way to stack those odds in your favor is to end on good terms first and "wait" for her to make a move.
/r/seduction11/11/24 07:35 PM
7

The things people post here. Also rule #1
/r/seduction09/11/24 04:02 AM
3

Newtonian, in reference to newtonian physics, also known as classical physics
/r/seduction07/11/24 01:34 AM
4

The reason they don't get talked about is that usually if you're getting an in through mutual friends you've got your work cut out for you. (idk what the hell a "social media approach" is, btw) Also, we live in a post-covid era. Everything is online, it's very difficult to find hobbies to meet people and online dating is just downright terrible. Ideally, you'd want to meet someone through a hobby or mutual friend, but when your city is devoid of hobbies because covid killed everything and your s…
/r/seduction05/11/24 02:09 AM
9

Great advice if you wanna stay single for a while. But if you wanna actually get dates, you're gonna have to talk to women who aren't really paying attention to you. There's just very little reason to not do that. If you wait for a woman to validate your existence before talking to her, you might wait for years. That's not very efficient. Just take the risk and talk to her anyway, whether she looked at your or not prior to your interaction has virtually no bearing on how the interaction will go.…
/r/seduction04/11/24 04:06 PM
1

I'm never into a girl so fast that I'd feel like kissing on the first date.
/r/seduction04/11/24 06:32 AM
1

I mean, how long are your conversations? You don't really wanna be talking forever, just talk enough to get her vibe, ask if she wants to go on a date and get her number. If you talk for too long without moving things forward they're just gonna assume you're not really interested and they're gonna go away.
/r/seduction03/11/24 06:44 AM
6

Alright, two things: Find better friends People don't care that you're talking to women unless someone is making a scene (which won't happen if you're just being yourself and you respect boundaries) #2 cannot be overstated. Nobody gives a fuck that you're talking to women. They might think you already know her, they might think "Damn, this guy is approaching a girl, I wish I could do that", some might think it's cute, and the majority of people will simply not care. No thoughts at all. As far as…
/r/seduction02/11/24 06:51 PM
1

Except physical attraction, beyond a somewhat minimal threshold, plays very little in a woman's attraction to a man. I'm not saying you can force anything, but the idea that a woman already knows within 3 seconds of seeing you for the first time whether she's attracted to you and that will never change is just wrong.
/r/seduction31/10/24 07:08 PM
14

What used to work for me was just coming up with reasonable statements that positively reinforced the idea that it was OK to talk to women, and just drill them in my mind by repeating them over and over in my head. Never underestimate the power to reprogram your mind by simply repeating a thought over and over, constantly, for days and weeks and months. It's not gonna happen overnight, but it can work if you really put your... mind... to it.
/r/seduction30/10/24 01:57 AM
3

I agree with that, but I'm gonna be honest I don't think you know what "leverage" means lol
/r/seduction27/10/24 06:12 PM
1

Gauging her interest that way is fine, but what's leverage got to do with this? You're only partially in control as she can always say "I can't", so that doesn't make sense.
/r/seduction27/10/24 05:31 PM
1

I don't understand your first paragraph. You choose the evening, and then she says she can't because she already has something planned. So what do you do then, you give up? You keep suggesting dates? Just because she says she can't on a specific date doesn't mean she's not interested.
/r/seduction27/10/24 03:39 PM
-1

Best strategies for gaming at a house party? idk, bring a switch with a couple party games. Mario Kart is always a hit.
/r/seduction25/10/24 11:59 PM
2

Right? Also, women don't need to be clever on dating apps. You have to do the leg work and get her to talk. So if you just send her a message that says "I didn't know Serena Williams had Tinder", you're not gonna get a reply lol
/r/seduction25/10/24 11:35 PM
3

How to use dating apps: Step 1. Don't
/r/seduction25/10/24 11:34 PM
2

This reads like this was written by a 16 year-old.
/r/seduction25/10/24 11:31 PM
1

Idk how I feel about dates where the activity kinda steers away from interaction. If you go to an archery class, you're gonna spend more time watching a teacher explain archery and figuring out a bow than talking to the girl and trying to get intimate.
/r/seduction23/10/24 07:09 PM
5

What you do is, you put your arms over her shoulder and draw a TV with your hands, then say "let's pretend this is a TV, what are we watching" and then she'll usually reply something, and then you go "no wtf that show is BORING I was hoping you'd say something romantic! Now I need a beer and a hug to recover" Real answer, you want to try to lead your questions less on the facts and more about how she feels about the facts. Lets say you ask her what she's studying, instead of asking her what it's…
/r/seduction21/10/24 06:54 PM
1

I mean, maybe he's waiting to see if you're interested enough to initiate the conversation. You'll even see that advice thrown around for men here once in a while. I'd say at least open the conversation, but if he seems distant or still barely replies, yea consider it a lost cause.
/r/seduction17/10/24 06:25 AM
7

Name checks out
/r/seduction17/10/24 06:13 AM
4

Yeah except you're not the guy you think you are in this metaphore.
/r/seduction15/10/24 03:29 PM
7

"Now I need a hug to recover" Things said right before never getting a hug from that woman ever again
/r/seduction15/10/24 03:16 PM
2

Read the post? lol It's literally two sentences, how did you miss it
/r/seduction14/10/24 12:22 AM
77

Yup. That's it. That's a terrible opener. Jesus Christ. Honestly I think "do you know where the toilets are, I need to unload a massive log" would have been a better opener.
/r/seduction12/10/24 03:00 AM
10

It's not about triangulation, it's about getting her to talk about her opinions, her emotions regarding the subject. Not just getting her to state facts about the topic. Thats why "tell me about" doesn't change anything because you're still only getting her to talk about facts.
/r/seduction07/10/24 03:27 PM
25

Is it? I understand what you're trying to say, but I think you need to completely change how you formulate the question to achieve this. You can't just keep the exact same question, shove a "tell me" in front of it and call it a day. Basically you want to ask questions relating to how she feels about things, that's correct. The right way to do this is to ask slightly different questions. So instead of "what do you do for a living?" You could ask "how do you like your job", or "what's the most in…
/r/seduction07/10/24 03:18 PM
3

Well, in your previous town you basically already had them before even opening your mouth, now you need to do a little work to win them over. Just keep at it, you'll see results.
/r/seduction06/10/24 05:34 PM
1

Have you tried, like, walking up and TALKING to women, or do you just sit there dormant waiting for a woman to validate your existence before doing anything?
/r/seduction06/10/24 05:29 PM
1

Do you refer to her as your chesty neighbor when you talk to her or
/r/seduction04/10/24 06:45 PM
1

uh... yeah? I mean, have you talked to her before?
/r/seduction03/10/24 05:36 AM
1

Bumble is just as bad, if not worse. They had to implement some shit that allowed men to talk first because women just don't message first lol
/r/seduction02/10/24 07:05 PM
7

The idea that being friends with her will help him meet with other women is borderline wishful thinking. It's a hinge match. She's not gonna invite him at parties, she's not gonna hook him up with another friend.
/r/seduction01/10/24 06:52 PM
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Warm approaches are cool (no pun intended) but they essentially require that you win the lottery. Realistically the chances that you meet someone who is interested in you in any activity are slim, and so are the chances that they will want to hook you up with a friend of theirs. After that it's still a numbers game to see if the girl is even interested or if you two are compatible. In that regard, cold approaches are better because while the odds are low as well, the number of women you can talk…
/r/seduction01/10/24 06:19 PM
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You don't. You talk to her and go from there.
/r/seduction01/10/24 01:16 AM
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Bro read the 2nd paragrah of the original post.
/r/seduction30/09/24 03:30 AM
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Good for her
/r/seduction29/09/24 07:25 PM
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I'm sorry but if I take the elevator with some random person and they find me insufferable when I'm just minding my own business, that's their problem.
/r/seduction29/09/24 07:07 PM
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Yeah agreed, therapists can't really help with the technique.
/r/seduction28/09/24 09:39 PM
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I've seen a handful of female therapists and just women in general and they all pretty much encouraged that I talk to the girls I find cute (that was in high school and college). The first psychologist I even talked to was a woman, and when I told her about this girl I thought was cute but I didn't talk to her because she didnt look at me, she literally said something along the lines of talking to her to get her attention, grab her interest.
/r/seduction28/09/24 09:37 PM
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Yeah. If I waited for women to give me looks and smiles before approaching them, I'd never talk to women. Like, if you see it then by all means, go for it. But waiting on women and telling yourself "im not gonna talk to her because she didnt look at me" sounds like cope.
/r/seduction28/09/24 09:33 PM
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Hopefully you don't wait for indicators of interest before talking to a girl, because that would be the WORST advice I've seen.
/r/seduction28/09/24 09:10 PM
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Imma be honest with you, I've literally NEVER seen that happen. I think people downplay actual harassment a lot more than they dramatize genuine approach. If you get metoo'd you've done something horribly wrong, you didn't just ask a girl out.
/r/seduction28/09/24 02:24 PM
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Did you just write an entire post typing one word and then hitting the autosuggested word 30 times?
/r/seduction27/09/24 07:12 AM
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Im always of the mind of giving benefit of the doubt for the first two consecutive flakes, but also gauge how she follows up. If she suggest another date immediately, that signals genuine interest. If she just says she's sorry or whatever and doesn't reschedule with you, that's usually worse but not completely over. I go by the 3 strikes rule because at that point it's testing my patience and that's not a great place to be when you're trying to see if you like someone. I'd recommend letting her …
/r/seduction27/09/24 07:05 AM
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That's pretty cool, I'll try it in 8 years when I get a match on an app.
/r/seduction27/09/24 12:29 AM
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I'd respect it if you actually used that message word for word, without replacing the placeholder names and "wherever you're going".
/r/seduction26/09/24 02:02 PM
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Does it? Sometimes people's schedules get messed up, something comes up, whatever, you're just making sure the other person is still free.
/r/seduction26/09/24 02:00 PM
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I see too many guys mixing working out and dating like the former is the key to the latter. It's not. I used to be super fit and I felt completely ignored by women. Getting in shape isn't a magic switch for confidence and attraction. It's important to be healthy, but do it for YOU. And you don't have to wait to approach women. Plenty of guys are your size or bigger and have attractive girlfriends. I see a lot of guys saying "Oh just hit the gym bro it's gonna make everything easy" and it really …
/r/seduction25/09/24 11:30 PM
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Something I used to do in college that allowed me to talk to a girl I was interested (I was 19 and didn't know what the fuck I was doing but at least I talked to her lol) is write a list of positive thoughts that I would repeat to myself over and over, sometimes out loud, just to "reprogram" my mind to stop believing harmful things. I later learned that that is basically CBT (Cognitive behavioral therapy, not cock and ball torture) where you write down your negative thoughts and find positive th…
/r/seduction20/09/24 03:54 PM
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This assumes that guys understand how girls show interest. Most guys can't "just tell". I know first hand of a girl that was actually really into me and it never even crossed my mind.
/r/seduction19/09/24 04:23 AM
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I recommend approaching punctuation next because holy christ.
/r/seduction19/09/24 03:26 AM
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I can comment on the "spark" thing, I think that's hollywood crap and you should not look for a spark, especially if it's the first time you're interacting with someone or like a first date. If it happens, cool, but don't rely on it or expect it. As a guy, I've dated a couple women and I've NEVER had a spark on the first date, except for one girl. Another girl took like an entire month before I started feeling like yea, maybe I'm into her. (I'm not saying wait a month, but I'd give it more time …
/r/seduction19/09/24 01:49 AM
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Iowa mentioned
/r/seduction19/09/24 01:04 AM
1

Well? When you do, do you go and talk to you?
/r/seduction18/09/24 07:45 PM
2

I mean if I notice a girl checking me out or whatever that's cute but women generally ignore me until I talk to them so it's not really a good filter for many men lol
/r/seduction18/09/24 06:46 PM
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Just throw in a random tip like "did you know you can use a charged attack by holding the B button and releasing when your weapon starts shining" like she's in a video game
/r/seduction18/09/24 06:42 PM
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Comment about situation place or something happening Got any tips to find something to comment on? I dont live in a video game where there's an interesting location or a random event happening every 20 seconds. Sometimes there's nothing worth talking about.
/r/seduction18/09/24 05:00 PM
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Do you at least even suggest going on a second date? Also depending on what you mean by interest, in my experience that comes with time. It takes me like 3 or 4 dates before I can really start getting interested in a girl romantically.
/r/seduction16/09/24 03:42 AM
1

Sounds like you need better friends
/r/seduction14/09/24 04:50 PM
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I find the eye contact thing silly. Sure, you want to make sure you're in her peripheral vision before you talk to her, but the whole "wait for her to choose to look at you and then decode whether she's interested or not based on where she looks next" is completely unnecessary. There could be a million reasons why she looks or does not look in your direction. There's only one way to find out if she could be into you and that's striking up a conversation with her. I used to wait for women to make…
/r/seduction12/09/24 07:48 AM
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Or sometimes your friends just don't know a girl they could introduce you to. Cold approach is more reliable to actually start talking to new women.
/r/seduction11/09/24 05:46 PM
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