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| 1 | Single on Valentine’s Day...No problem | QUEEN SH*T | Quebeks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 05:57 PM |
| 1 | FDS podcast | SHOWER THOUGHT | Quebeks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 01:32 AM |
| 1 | I thought he was HVM-now I’m left hurt and confused | Story time ☕ | Quebeks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 04:25 AM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 41 | al i can say is… jfcWhat an entitled piece of flaming shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 06:54 PM |
| 6 | On what men do with nudes of their exes, majority responds “they are mine to do what I want with.” This is the entitlement they feel towards our bodies. LADIES DO NOT SEND NUDES EVER do not even watermark as those can be removed with photoshopI’m happy that the nudes I sent never showed my face. I will never send a nude again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 02:49 AM |
| 3 | “Too Much Woman” by Ev’Yan WhitneyHoly shit this was beautiful and hit me to the core. Thank you for sharing this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 02:43 AM |
| 43 | not supposed to represent feminism on a feminist subreddit... what?I was banned from breakingmoms just for being associated with FDS. It’s ridiculous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 06:36 PM |
| 8 | A year of climbing without menSo badass! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 01:23 AM |
| 14 | Ben Affleck casts blame on Jennifer Garner for his drinking problemSounds like my ex who blamed me for his meth addiction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 04:23 PM |
| 2 | What’s something a man did that gave you “the ick”?Nope. He’s an atheist. Just a very insecure one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 04:21 PM |
| 2 | What’s something a man did that gave you “the ick”?He was deeply insecure about his “skinny legs” and felt like the long Johns made his legs loom bigger. Weird, I know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 04:21 PM |
| 117 | What’s something a man did that gave you “the ick”?My ex used to wear long Johns, year round under his jeans. Like the same pair of them, in the middle of summer. He wouldn’t wash them regularly either. 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 12:08 AM |
| 2 | Right as we are about to get a place, I found out my boyfriend lied about his income.Leave now. These lies will only get worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 06:36 PM |
| 6 | Have Low-Value "Couples" Ever Tried to Degrade You As a Single Woman?You keep doing you. People are going to hate. It’s best to not engage, but simply put your headphones in until the show starts. Show them how much queen energy you have. Good luck and keep being the badass you are! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 04:03 PM |
| 24 | Chris Pratt continues to be the worstI’m glad he’s being blasted over this. Fuck that guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 06:46 PM |
| 3 | Help me figure out my strategy...You definitely need an attorney you trust who will give you good advice about how to move forward. Do you have access to accounts? Do you have an accountant that will show you the accounts? Do you have access to his private computer? Try and get access to documents and make copies of everything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 11:20 PM |
| 27 | Men tend to complain about women being fatter in person vs. their dating app pics... Well in my experience TOO 👏 MANY 👏 MEN 👏straight up LIE about their heightExactly!! That shit makes me so mad. No second date for guys who lie about their height. Why do these guys think we won’t find out they lied? Do they really think we are that dumb?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 07:32 PM |
| 26 | I wouldn't touch that guy with a ten foot stick after he pulled this kind of shit. He agrees to pay first date if she pays for the next, she ends up being footed with a bill 4x what he paid.Ewwwww. Everything about that made me cringe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 06:54 PM |
| 82 | Why do so many men refuse to go to the doctor for injuries, illnesses, etc? Growing old with someone who doesn’t take their health seriously doesn’t seem like a good choice.I was just talking with my step mom about this. Her husband (not my dad) has taken such poor care of his health and how it’s somehow her and other peoples fault that he’s in such poor health. I brought up that another reason I find my boyfriend so attractive is that he goes to the dentist twice a year and sees his family doc for a yearly check up. My NVM ex didn’t go to the dentist once in the 10 years we were together. Yuck! I will never be with someone who doesn’t value their mental, physical … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 02:36 AM |
| 132 | What would you consider going above and beyond?It was my mom’s birthday last weekend and I tried to get a reservation at one of her favorite restaurants and there weren’t any available. I told my boyfriend that we’d have to wait for a table when we got there. He said “why don’t I go there 30 minutes early and put our names down so you guys won’t have to wait so long?” This gesture made my mom tear up. Edit:grammar | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 04:58 PM |
| 3 | Ask Polly: ‘I Hate Men.’This was a phenomenal read! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 01:15 AM |
| 155 | Conservative men can be so misogynistic that I can no longer tell the difference between reality and satire.All while he’s obese. Hahaha! I bet he can’t even see his dick. But women are supposed to he 115-125 pounds. Fuck off, scrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 07:02 PM |
| 59 | Be Wary Of Male DoctorsI went to residency with a guy who was kicked out of residency after he was alleged to have sexually harassed several female colleagues and medical students. He was training to be an OB/Gyn. Thankfully, he won’t ever practice medicine again. I agree that male gynecologist are a creepy bunch. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 12:40 AM |
| 11 | Men really out here thinking having a wife is being "romance scammed" in a thread about a "girl" on bumble potentially robbing a guy.Sounds like his brother exhibits high value traits. This guy is a low life and probably jealous that his brother makes this kind of money. His brothers wife is probably gorgeous too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 07:37 PM |
| 25 | If this woman was home at the time, she would have become another statistic.I hope she pressed charges against him! What a piece of garbage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 06:10 PM |
| 12 | Green flag - thoughtful, non-sexual giftsI love hearing stuff like this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 02:38 AM |
| 12 | Needing advice on how picky to be regarding a man's careerLove this perspective. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 09:05 PM |
| 24 | Have you taken your husband’s surname? Or, will you take your future-husband’s name?I wish I would’ve kept my last name. I got divorced and then changed it back to my maiden name. My son has a different last name than me, which used to bother me, but I got over that. Plus I have my doctorate and didn’t want to forever be Dr. ex husbands last name. I think a lot of professional women don’t change their names but go by their husbands last name in their personal lives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 02:36 AM |
| 18 | Dissociation During Sex & Strategies to Cope With ItI used to disassociate during sex and dealing with my past traumas via EMDR has made my sex life so much more enjoyable. I can know orgasm looking into my partners eyes when I previously used to keep my eyes closed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 03:13 PM |
| 11 | In 8 months out of rehab he got a divorce, a new gf and is now expecting a baby....this is going to go great.Seriously! I stayed with him far too long but sooooo glad I left when I did. I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 01:23 AM |
| 105 | In 8 months out of rehab he got a divorce, a new gf and is now expecting a baby....this is going to go great.Reminds me of my ex husband. Out of rehab, a month later is in a serious relationship, then 4 months later his pick-me girlfriend lets him move in with her and her 2kids and now he works for her company. SMH at the red flags. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 04:42 PM |
| 9 | This is some of the vitriol that our podcast hosts recieve. Be very careful when talking about FDS. These men live and walk among us.Holy shit. This is alarming. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 07:17 PM |
| 6 | I’m really curious to know..Focus on my studies, work on my self esteem, and travel by myself. It’s taken 30 years to finally feel comfortable in my own skin and I wish would’ve attained this sense of awesomeness in my teens/20s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 02:11 AM |
| 34 | If he needs space from the relationship, it's a no.What a great outlook to have! You’re going to be just fine! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/21 01:53 AM |
| 65 | Being in a good relationship has made me realize how women are being gaslit on a mass scale to ask for lessThank you for posting this. I have felt needy and clingy in so many past relationships. Now that I’m with a man that exhibits a ton of high value traits I realize that I’m a normal human, with needs and desires and he never makes me feel bad for asking for what I want or need. It’s quite refreshing to feel validated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 05:36 AM |
| 6 | Doctors are performing pelvic exams on anaesthetised women without consent. If you’re going into surgery you need to explicitly state you don’t want one. Stay safe out there.I can attest this still happens. When I was in medical school and residency, it would be a line up if people doing pelvic exam after pelvic exam on anesthetized patients. Starting with the attending, then 1-2 residents and then 1-2 medical students. It always made me feel icky but I never spoke out against it. Oh, how I wish I would’ve said something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 08:36 PM |
| 6 | Update. Water is wet, and my psycho ex is still a psycho.Can you get a restraining order against him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 08:20 PM |
| 14 | Why are all female halloween costumes sexual??This bothers me so much, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 07:17 PM |
| 49 | Never date someone who criticizes your fitness routine.Yes to this. My NVM ex husband used to criticize my buff arms and back, saying “have you thought about not lifting so much?!” I never stopped lifting, but did feel insecure about my arms/back for the longest time because I thought I looked too manly. Then when I left I realized he was saying all of this due to his own insecurities because I looked physically more buff than him. I never looked manly, I looked beautiful and in great shape. He was a skinny-fat, bitch. Edit: grammar and spelling mis… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 01:43 AM |
| 29 | Please share stories of some weirdly specific rules you set after *that* one guyDoesn’t wear long-Johns, year round, under his jeans. SMH | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 03:09 PM |
| 5 | Just a few dating strategies:Thanks for posting this. All very good things to remember. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 08:15 PM |
| 113 | Emotional abuse can be as destructive as physical abuse & everyone needs to know this.My lvm narc-ex did this exact thing. “I never hit you!” Yeah, but you destroyed so much more than breaking my face. It’s been two years of intense therapy and I can finally say that I’m going to be okay and actually not have to convince myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 03:35 AM |
| 2 | Men 👏 Dont 👏 change 👏 EVEN FOR THEIR DREAM GIRL. FDS works ladies. Left my NVM fiancée 4 years ago and he immediately started dating the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. My heart was broken then, but this is them now!!Gross. Glad you got out when you did. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 02:49 AM |
| 5 | Thanks to this sub, I’m divorcing my extremely LVM husbandGood luck and stay safe. If he’s a true narcissist, he may suffer a narcissistic injury and come after you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 06:01 PM |
| 7 | Woman on Tik Tok reminds us that LVM neg confident women, and that patriarchy relies on women hating themselvesI want her queen energy! 🔥 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 03:40 PM |
| 22 | Don’t Let him Skip the CourtshipThat’s great you’re not internalizing his low value behavior! You go, queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 01:07 AM |
| 2 | A forced “Yes” is not consentI’m glad to hear a man say this. Maybe the lurkers in the back will finally hear it! Die mad, scrotes! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 12:49 AM |
| 2 | 3 Reasons Why Narcissists Need to “Replace” Their Partners:Yes, a lying, liar, that lies. Pretty much sums these people up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 09:28 PM |
| 22 | 3 Reasons Why Narcissists Need to “Replace” Their Partners:My narc ex did this! He said he was into so many of the same things I liked, only to find out that he doesn’t like to camp or hike or anything he claimed to like. His whole persona was a lie. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 04:08 AM |
| 9 | I got divorced today! 🍾🎊🎉Getting divorced from my LVM, scrote, narc ex was the best decision I could’ve made! I’m happier than I’ve been in a decade! Here’s to healing and growing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 05:44 PM |
| 13 | A boyfriend you don’t like looking at naked, who STINKS?! I’d rather be single, thanks 😘Omg, I was going to post this same thing! 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 02:17 AM |
| 10 | Sex workers accusing us of slut shaming then in the next breath mocking us for "sucking dick for free" ...wow. And they have the audacity to demand we "support sex workers"Projecting a little? SMH | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 03:46 PM |
| 31 | Patterns Of Thinking And Behavior Often Displayed By AbusersMy narcissistic ex husband exhibits soooo many of these! Thank goodness I got out when I did and am on a much needed healing journey. Thanks for posting this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 03:51 AM |
| 5 | Reminder: Mamas, you CAN do this alone - you don't need that ScroteThank you for this. I left an emotionally, abusive narcissists when my son was just 2. I’m happier than I’ve been in YEARS! Thanks to FDS, EMDR and the love and support from my community, I’m a better friend and mother. I’m finally at a point where I’ll be fine if I never meet another man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 12:00 AM |
| 122 | There is a steep and rapid decline in US birth rates. The media is placing the blame on the pandemic but I’m just over here like, “Have you seen these men out here lately?”Listen to NYT The Daily’s episode from today about Japan’s declining birth rate. There are similarities to what’s now happening in the us. Mostly it comes down to gender inequality in the workplace and in the home and Japanese women are sick of it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 05:11 AM |
| 11 | How to talk to menOmg I dying!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 08:34 PM |
| 8 | Mama’s boy: covert editionExactly! I experienced this when I finely left my ex after he was injecting drugs, yet according to his mom it was still my fault he’s an addict. I made him that way. Please. No, you made him this way. They are both enmeshed in each other, it’s gross. It’s not my problem anymore. My LV-ex has a new girl that can worry about that toxic dynamic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 08:52 PM |
| 3 | Mama’s boy: covert editionHoly hell, this sounds like my LVM-narc ex husband and his mother. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 08:49 PM |
| 3 | Found this on Facebook...This has to be satire, right? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 02:15 AM |
| 2 | Please google your name and “opt out” of these background check websites that make it easier for men to stalk you.Thank you so much for sharing this information! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 02:50 AM |
| 1 | Men love to remind women that they can physically dominate us because they are bigger and stronger than us. That's why I think women shouldn't be afraid of gaining muscle and having a little extra body fat, so we have more mass to throw around in self defence.This is why I’m getting trained in jiu jitsu. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 07:24 PM |
| 47 | It’s more than just therapy. They need to beat the socialization that causes them to be so narcissistic.From my experience with my narcissist ex-husband, I’d say that’s correct. He doesn’t use therapy to be better, he uses therapy as a way to “prove” he’s not the problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 11:35 PM |
| 4 | I guess this is my cue to delete bumble cuz I’ve finally seen it allDisgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 04:10 AM |
| 5 | I’m new to this community and this way of thinking, so I’m wondering. What are your thoughts on the kind of music we listen to? Do you ladies actively try to avoid music with lyrics that are disrespectful to women/sexualise women?She’s so good. Love her! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 03:52 AM |
| 29 | I wanted to share a really informative article that does a great job of outlining what it means to be trauma bonded to a narcissist as well as why it makes it so hard for the abused partner to leave.This article resonated with me so much. I’m so thankful I never got to the self loss part of my relationship with him. I was close, but left him before he completely destroyed me as a person. I find myself still missing him, even after almost 2 years of separation and mostly being no contact. We have a son together so we have to communicate, but I’ve worked so hard to limit my interactions with him, for my mental health. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 05:45 AM |
| 3 | Being/acting insecure will only ever get you a manipulative low/no effort NVM: know your worth and show it, never settleMy mantra these days is “I’d rather be single than ever settle again.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 01:06 AM |
| 6 | If he can't get it up and blames you, kick him outThanks for your comment! I’ll try to feel embarrassed for them, not me, next time it happens. Although, at this point I’m single and staying that way for a loooong time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 01:59 PM |
| 57 | If he can't get it up and blames you, kick him outThis shit has happened to me more than I’d like to admit. I always internalize it, too. How do I not take this stuff personally? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 02:28 AM |
| 3 | “I cannot imagine another day where I do not strive for the absolute maximum of what I deserve.”Yes! This is exactly how I feel. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 03:27 PM |
| 70 | “I cannot imagine another day where I do not strive for the absolute maximum of what I deserve.”I was telling my therapist the other day that I want the “girl”(ie my old self) who settled for my ex husband to die. I want that part of myself to never come back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 01:25 AM |
| 18 | Why are men such assholes about women's muscles???My ex husband once told me (actually multiple times) “your back muscles are so buff, have you considered not lifting so much?” Umm nope. I should’ve seen that as a red flag and left then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 03:32 PM |
| 21 | For all the moms that have to be the tough/strict/main parent, because dad wants to be the ‘fun’ parent.. You’re being appreciated!I’m a single mom with a 4 year old, too. My ex is definitely trying to be a good dad, but he’s spoils him so much and it’s making it so hard to continue to set boundaries especially when it comes to material objects. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 03:27 AM |
| 1 | Single on Valentine’s Day...No problemBought myself flowers from scratch and made these lovely bouquets. It’s one of my hobbies and since my break-up I haven’t wanted to do it, until today. I’m loving the shit out of myself today and everyday. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 05:58 PM |
| 3 | Give to yourself as you've given to others, you deserve it🙏🏼🤍I told myself this tonight! How funny that this was posted, too. Glad to see it’s being reinforced with this meme. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 05:38 AM |
| 10 | Divorced Women of FDSI was married 6 years, divorced November 2019, but left in April of 2019. There were lots of red flags especially regarding his drug use, and when he starred using methamphetamine and became psychotic, I left. He refused to go to rehab so I filed for divorce. Life post divorce has been very eye opening to the gaslighting, controlling and abuse I suffered during our marriage. I’ve dated a few guys, but haven’t settled down. I’m still working on myself so i stop choosing men like my narcissistic e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 02:22 AM |
| 1 | I thought he was HVM-now I’m left hurt and confusedOk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 05:05 PM |
| 14 | Can we talk about the sexism in medicine??I never refer to myself as Dr. <insert first name>. I always refer to myself as Dr. last name. Even to my male, physician consultants and to all the staff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 02:17 PM |
| 5 | How many here ended up with the man they met on tinder, bumble and other dating apps?Haven’t met a decent guy on OLD yet. I’m feeling pretty jaded about that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 05:17 AM |
| 2 | Experiences with alcoholism?My NEX isn’t an alcoholic but an addict to opiates and eventually meth. He dabbled with opiates, mostly pills, but never seemed to have a problem. Then he stole medication from his lab job, and nearly got kicked out of school. This was a year after we married. We stayed together as I wanted to be the supportive wife, but this snowballed into him using IV meth, hallucinating and me finally leveling up (with my son) and kicked him out. After this he refused to go to rehab. Only after he was arrest… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 05:08 AM |
| 3 | FDS incarnate: the story of my momAs a single mom, this gives me hope. Thank you for sharing this beautiful story of resilience and love. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 05:02 AM |
| 111 | Can we talk about the sexism in medicine??Ugh. This disgusts me. I’m a physician and I am called nurse, or hun all the time. People look at me so surprised when I say I’m their doctor. Female doctors reduce mortality, so you all should be glad to have women taking care of you. #micdrop | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 04:55 AM |
| 5 | I love everyone's ring pics, I decided to join in. I got myself my dream car! Taking myself and my pup hiking all along the east coast for 2021.Yaaaas! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 02:06 AM |
| 10 | For those you were married, what made you stop feeling that you want to have sex with your ex-husband?I was with my NEX for 10 years, married 6, and the repulsion for sex started before we even got married. He was lazy, skinny fat, stayed on his computer for hours a day and then would expect me to just be ready to fuck when he was ready. There was so intimacy. He would just get up and leave after sex, no cuddling. I think I lost my desire for sex when I felt like it became a chore for us. Neither one of us enjoyed being kind, loving to each other. It was always tit for tat. That along with his w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 07:46 PM |
| 13 | Just remember..micdrop | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 08:27 PM |
| 5 | "You should've crowned her, 'cause she's a goddess. You never got this." One of my favourite FDS anthems. Basically, I find most of Banks' lyrics very relevant and inspiring. Her music is an empowering story of a recovered pickme who became an unapologetic queen.Yes! I love this song. She gives me the chills when I listen to her music, because it’s so relatable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 03:51 PM |
| 24 | Does he do any of these things? Throw him out!Wow! My nex husband did ALL of these! Glad, I finally had enough and divorced him a year ago. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 03:49 PM |
| 9 | Intuition vs. Denial: Emotional Self-Discipline Beginner WorkoutI do the same thing. I wish I had words advice for you. I’m trying to figure this exact thing out. That’s why I’ve stopped dating for now. I desperately want to break this habit (amongst many others). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 01:58 AM |
| 17 | Never give men who were cruel to you a second chance.I appreciate this post so much! Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 03:12 AM |
| 6 | It’s probably been posted before butttt...I needed this today. Thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 11:41 PM |
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