RAIDisNotBackup Archive

Upvotes	Title	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
33	How do you guys deal with the "how many girls have you slept with?" question ?	RAIDisNotBackup	/r/seduction	10/01/16 07:57 PM
27	Reminder about the importance of psychotherapy.	RAIDisNotBackup	/r/seduction	14/01/16 05:23 PM
3	A Tale of Two Roads as an approach to Self Improvement and Progress.	RAIDisNotBackup	/r/seduction	27/01/16 07:32 PM
1	How do you guys combat cynicism ?	RAIDisNotBackup	/r/seduction	05/05/16 06:05 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	I feel like I am too boring for girls my age Maybe if you seem like your age. Most girls I meet, when trying to guess my age, think I'm about 28. I've been call an 'old soul' by more than once. It's a question of maturity. If you want to be with more mature people, then you will have to show those signs as well.	/r/seduction	14/01/16 02:53 PM
2	What is the "proper" way to be polarizing? Just shape yourself some informed opinions and share them freely at appropriate moments without really being concerned with how it is received. Share yourself, freely and openly. You don't need to be rude, just assertive.	/r/seduction	14/01/16 12:49 PM
15	I'm feeling like I'm not even a man anymore.. It's not about how you look, it's about how you make them feel. Right now your ego reflects in your personality, and since you don't see yourself as a potential sexual partner, neither do they. There are PLENTY of things that you can do to better yourself and surgery isn't in the top 100 of them. Work on yourself and no is not an answer. Because what is the other option ? you said it, probably suicide. So start today, and never stop. Learn to cherish yourself and your life, and create life peopl…	/r/seduction	14/01/16 12:39 PM
5	How would you flirt with a girl who barely speaks the same language as you? I live in a country that I do not speak the language of. I would say about half the girls I meet speak a proper level of english, the other half leave me in the same situation as you. I can be very challenging, but also very fun. Play with the room, with your hands, with face expressions and movements. Sometimes it nears itself a game of charade trying to communicate and it can become quite hilarious when stuff get 'lost in translation'. You will have to be reliant on your unspoken charm more th…	/r/seduction	14/01/16 09:25 AM
57	I feel like I am too boring for girls my age girls my age (as in plural) went on my first date Don't generalize the entire female population based on one person. You just found the wrong one. You gotta find your demographic of people, and start socializing with them instead of those you obviously aren't attracted to. And you will find them at the gatherings of the stuff you like (book clubs, libraries, gym, hockey games, car shows, etc.). I get your struggle. I'm roughly your age (21), but prefer to hang out with girls who are 25+. So that…	/r/seduction	14/01/16 06:55 AM
3	Can we talk about Naturals for a second? Most of us here aren't naturals. I certainly wasn't. But I'm doing great today. Just keep the head up, cause there is no quitting. You'll get there, in time.	/r/seduction	14/01/16 05:43 AM
1	Can we talk about Naturals for a second? They probably do some things that you don't do. Maybe they escalate better, faster, get physical early enough, all that while making them laugh. You have to remember : if you are not escalating sexually, you are going backwards.	/r/seduction	13/01/16 09:03 PM
1	UPDATE : Few hours ago I lost my virginity (M/16) Congrats dude. Now go do it again. And again. The game never stops !	/r/seduction	13/01/16 08:43 PM
1	Can we talk about Naturals for a second? Well, this. He is most likely not writing on the internet and doing research about betterment, self esteem, women, PUA, and stuff. He most likely just doesn't think about all that, and just goes out and is who he is. You know us humans are quite terrible sexual beings with our consciousness, and ways to over-think what should be elemental, heck, fundamental for survival. You never see a dog write on an online forum, yet he just goes out there on the streets and tries his luck in humping them bit…	/r/seduction	13/01/16 08:41 PM
1	According to Mark Manson, should insecurity be shared with a girl? If you want her in your life, she should know the whole you. Not the perfect you, that guy doesn't exist. The real you, the imperfect you. I rarely do any kind of texting, most of my relationships with women are short but intense. If I meet them in a bar, my insecurities will never be my opener of course. But if you converse for a while, you click, and the conversations start getting deeper, you can make them more intimate by talking about the darker part of yourself. But you kind of have to sen…	/r/seduction	13/01/16 06:54 PM
1	Snapchat to meet girls? You might land a lay of a drunk party chick, but never closely connect with anyone. And the time and effort you will have to put in in effort to maybe only possibly get that lay through Snapchat, might not be very worth it. You're in college, there a 1000s of better ways to meet girls than Snapchat.	/r/seduction	13/01/16 06:11 PM
1	According to Mark Manson, should insecurity be shared with a girl? Again, I don't know either you, her, your text, or your relationship. But are you sure you want to make a comeback from this ? If she is really a person worth hanging on to, she'll most likely come back. If one message scared her straight, then I guess maybe she wasn't worth it in the end. You are focusing too much on externalities beyond your control. What is done is done. Give it time. It is so easy to start obsessing over texts because one is constantly trying to figure out what the other per…	/r/seduction	13/01/16 06:08 PM
4	According to Mark Manson, should insecurity be shared with a girl? Without even starting to get into the details on how hard it is to convey tone, meaning, feelings and personality in text, it is already beyond me why to put so much effort in it if she lives in a different country. I don't know you, her, your life, or her life, but if it were me I would just write to her "you are welcome to come and visit anytime, I'll show you around and you can crash at my place" and then in the meanwhile try and find someone in your area. Now, because of a possibly badly wri…	/r/seduction	13/01/16 05:06 PM
2	According to Mark Manson, should insecurity be shared with a girl? You were telling about your insecurities over text ?	/r/seduction	13/01/16 03:48 PM
1	How do I tell this girl I know that I don't like her the same way she does, in a polite and nice way? If the situation was reversed, how would you like to be told ? Then adapt.	/r/seduction	13/01/16 12:35 PM
3	[21/M] Texting girl i like 3 hours away? we really like each other There's nothing wrong with having different lovers and good friends in different towns. See her as an opportunity for you to leave town maybe once in a while. But don't make her your only one. Continue looking in your area as well, exclusive long distance is not something I would recommend at least.	/r/seduction	13/01/16 12:33 PM
7	According to Mark Manson, should insecurity be shared with a girl? Don't be afraid to share your vulnerable self, your true self. 'We are attracted to each others rough edges', remember ? But you don't wanna convey them as if they are the definition of who you are, you wanna define them as being one of your many sides, despite all your good sides you've probably already told her about. Talk about them in a human way she can be empathetic about. There are few things stronger in this world than empathy.	/r/seduction	13/01/16 12:27 PM
3	Afraid of what people will think of you picking up girls? Be the wolf, not the sheep. All I hear are excuses. Even if what you say is true, you should never let stats like that stand in your way.	/r/seduction	13/01/16 08:35 AM
29	How do you guys do it? Try to do the thing where everything you do, you tell it to yourself in the 3rd person. It's usually way easier to justify a "I'm just gonna go home and relax today, watch tv, eat chips and have a wank. I've deserved it". If you phrase it to yourself as in a book "Then he went home, and like everynight before, chose to sit in front of the tv and masturbate instead of doing something with his life, like he knew inside he always wanted". It makes you think "who the fuck is that lazy ass of a perso…	/r/seduction	12/01/16 01:33 PM
5	My one 'hack' to getting good with women. Who said pain wasn't a part of the game ? part of the fun ? What makes life such an amazing adventure is that every up is followed by down and every down followed by an up. "Life is like a piano. The white keys represent joy. The black shows sadness. As you go through life, remember that the black keys make music too."	/r/seduction	11/01/16 03:58 PM
1	Scared of showing emotion in front of other people I think you need to practice how to be and make yourself vulnerable. You can read up on vulnerability if you want to, Dr. Brené Brown has some great material from books to seminars to TED Talks on vulnerability. At least it's a great place to start.	/r/seduction	11/01/16 10:37 AM
1	I managed to get a girlfirend, now what? I feel like by following ladyboiis logic then every girl I've slept with are now my girlfriend or exes. You don't need to sleep with her for her to be your girlfriend, although it does seem like the next logical step if it hasn't happened yet. Some couples live asexually though, so no, it's not a prerequisite.	/r/seduction	11/01/16 10:12 AM
2	Can't begin to wrap my mind on what went wrong. Don't try to explain the inexplicable. There could have been a thousand different reasons that she apparently didn't feel comfortable talking to you about (ex boyfriend called, met another guy right after the same day better suited for her, religious reasons, mom disapproves of you, etc. etc.). What you are left with is : she is not interested. There is not much you can do about it. Phone numbers don't mean much, because it's a very easy and passive way of getting rid of someone. Once you have h…	/r/seduction	11/01/16 09:08 AM
7	My one 'hack' to getting good with women. If you can see life as one big game then it's easier to stop taking things so seriously.	/r/seduction	11/01/16 08:43 AM
1	I managed to get a girlfirend, now what? "Whenever you're in doubt of what you should do, err on the side of aggression." - Mark Manson. Don't be afraid to be a little aggressive, rough, to take her and hold her strongly when she doesn't expect it. If in doubt, just go for it. Decisiveness is a much more attractive quality than doubtfulness. You're 18, you're officially a man, and not a boy anymore. So just go for it. You're doing great. “Courage is not the absence of fear but rather the judgement that something is more important than …	/r/seduction	11/01/16 08:38 AM
2	How do you guys deal with the "how many girls have you slept with?" question ? Brilliant. Thank you.	/r/seduction	11/01/16 08:30 AM
1	How do you guys deal with the "how many girls have you slept with?" question ? I like that one. Thanks.	/r/seduction	11/01/16 08:30 AM
1	I am 27 years old. I've had two girlfriends and they both approached me. It's based on this idea which later on became it's own sub : https://www.reddit.com/r/100sets	/r/seduction	11/01/16 08:28 AM
20	How do you guys deal with the "how many girls have you slept with?" question ? I guess it can work. But you really have to phrase it well then I suppose, otherwise it ends up sounding like you are hiding something and that is not usually an attractive quality.	/r/seduction	10/01/16 08:47 PM
17	How do you guys deal with the "how many girls have you slept with?" question ? Good one. I'm guessing she'll then crack up for a while but might be going back to a 'no seriously though'. Or it might divert her enough if one is lucky.	/r/seduction	10/01/16 08:26 PM
9	How do you guys deal with the "how many girls have you slept with?" question ? That's a weird piece of math because I'm pretty sure everything raised to the 0 will end up in being equal to 1, meaning it ends up just being 1+5 no matter what you chose as an 'a' or an 's'.	/r/seduction	10/01/16 08:14 PM