RRjr Archive

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1	At 26, is it too late for me to build a new network of friends? Your question loses relevance when you look at the world. There's hundreds of thousands of people of pretty much all ages who, at some point in their life, move to another city, state, country, continent. Some do it multiple times in their lives and some do it all the time, for whatever reason. The vast majority of them make new friends, form new circles and even new families. So no, it's never too late. It's merely a matter of going out there to find new people you genuinely like to hang out wi…	/r/seduction	09/03/15 04:42 PM
1	[FR] German girl i met on the bus. Well, if she happens to live in Cologne and you ever decide to visit our beautiful country, hit me up and maybe I can arrange a meet ;)	/r/seduction	08/01/15 11:40 AM
1	[FR] German girl i met on the bus. Did she tell you where in Germany she lives?	/r/seduction	07/01/15 08:17 PM
11	How to be the man in a relationship How old are you? Serious question.	/r/seduction	11/12/14 07:14 AM
1	Julien Blanc just got banned from doing his seminar in aus [off topic] Well... if his "teachings" involve any of the sort of stuff I just watched in the video posted by Shoninjv I'd say its well deserved. This is not pickup, it's straight up sexual harrassment. Where I live people will file charges against you for this kind of behaviour. It's repulsive.	/r/seduction	04/11/14 01:40 PM
1	Went out with a guy from the local "lair" yesterday. It was the most pathetic experience of my life. I don't know if I can do game anymore. Well there you have your problem then. You don't know what he did to come across as a creep. The fact that you don't know tells us that you weren't watching. It was a lack of awareness on your part and because of that you missed the opportunity to obtain valuable information for yourself. Out of a gut feeling you judged him as a creep and that was that, which is perfectly normal. It's what most people do. It's what I used to do all the time and it got me nowhere. I doubted myself just like you. …	/r/seduction	27/10/14 01:05 AM
3	Went out with a guy from the local "lair" yesterday. It was the most pathetic experience of my life. I don't know if I can do game anymore. I don't think I can do this if it means being a pathetic tryhard Game isn't being a pathetic tryhard, it's pretty much the exact opposite. It's about improving your social skills and your life in general, with one goal being to become more attractive to women and even other men. You may say the guy was creepy but, hypothetically, if he made out with 5 girls that night and fucked the 6th, would he still be a pathetic tryhard? Maybe he didn't do well that night, maybe he did. Maybe he is a creep, …	/r/seduction	26/10/14 04:51 PM
1	I don't feel like girls can be attracted to me Two things: but things like Tinder (and lack of matches) say otherwise. Obviously this had its toll on me. It shouldn't. Look. Online game stands and falls with the quality of your pictures. If you have pictures on there with you just looking your normal self, you'll get downvoted compared to dudes who put pics on there that had the shit photoshopped out of em with good lighting, posing, etc etc. If you get bad ratings online, it's probably because your profile simply isn't good enough and you n…	/r/seduction	20/10/14 04:06 PM
5	Get Laid with Online Dating- The Complete Guide I don't understand the online dating thing. Attractive and interesting women don't put themselves on the internet to meet men because they don't need to. I met my current GF through online dating. She's attractive, interesting and so much more. We been together for more than a year now. It started out as me just fucking around with this dating app out of sheer boredom (my commute is pretty long) and curiosity. Eventually I discovered what OP writes about. You can catch plenty of sex online if yo…	/r/seduction	14/10/14 07:09 AM
1	I'm a male virgin (28) and I'm only attracted to women out of my league 100% Long as you think in terms of "leagues" and "I'm just an average guy." you're not getting laid, period. And this goes both for guys that actually have average looks aswell as the chiseled model Brad Pitt type of dude. It's a pitfall for many guys... and the result of years of conditioning and indoctrination of maintream society. If you think of yourself and of others in these terms rather than seeing the facts, you'll never get into a position, both inner and outer, that enables you to fix …	/r/seduction	23/06/14 04:17 PM
1	Chickened out on girl at the gym. What should I have done? Please don't take what I wrote personal. Noone here can know all the specifics of your situation so unless you clarify beforehand naturally assumptions will be made. And it wasn't only directed at you speficilly either but more in response to what Jim_russel wrote. Also said if you're getting clear IOIs then by all means go ahead and get your prey tiger. But her simply saying "hi" or giving a smile just cause you sit next to her or bumping into her somehow isn't that. It's politeness. Fumbling h…	/r/seduction	27/01/14 09:55 PM
1	Chickened out on girl at the gym. What should I have done? Also OP is worried about what people will think if they see him talking to a girl. This is textbook AA and I think "never approach, it's rude" is bad advice for someone in that spot. It's not bad advice, because as you say he shows all the signs of having some AA to tackle and therefor will show the insecurity that goes with it. You do not want to have someone like that try and get it done in the gym because there's a pretty damn high chance of him blowing the set and coming across as a creep or…	/r/seduction	27/01/14 03:57 PM
6	Chickened out on girl at the gym. What should I have done? Approaching girls in the gym runs against the spirit of it. You come there to work out. So work out. Girls are humans, too, and most of them do not want to be approached in there. This is not the environment to play the approaching numbers game. Talk to girls. Actually talk to them and ask them how they feel about being approached by random strangers in the gym. It's annoying as fuck to them because most of the time girls come there with the intention to wind down after an 8 to 10 hour day on th…	/r/seduction	27/01/14 08:40 AM
1	How do you explain to women that you're a virgin? Thinking about the past like this is useless. Now is the time you can make change, so make it happen and don't hold yourself back with negative thoughts and emotions about things you can't change. You don't live in the past or future, but and only now.	/r/seduction	30/12/13 10:06 AM
3	How do you explain to women that you're a virgin? You don't have to explain at all. Just walk into a decent brothel if you have to, lay down a few bucks, bang the prettiest hooker you can find and be done with it. I'm serious. You put way too much thought into this. Listen. Putting your dick in a girl really ain't all that super special. It's not like your first fuck is going to magically transform your dick into something else. You're not a girl. You have no hymen, so technically speaking you can't even be a virgin in the first place. There's …	/r/seduction	30/12/13 09:11 AM
1	I Am Paralyzed By Fear I then get up and walk to the bar to get a drink thinking that I can come back and execute the 3 second rule. At this point you already failed because - don't get this wrong - you haven't understood the 3 second rule. The 3SR basically means you take 3 seconds from the very first moment you spot the set. So by the time you went to that bar, those 3 seconds were long since passed and you were already in your head, messing up your inner game. Don't think, do.	/r/seduction	26/12/13 07:34 PM
4	Good inner game books? "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle In my opinion this is pretty much the book on inner game. Once you've understood the core principles of what Tolle's talking about and if you don't read too much into the esoteric guru-talk, this book will show you some really powerful concepts. I gave it to my sister and it changed her life forever. It's that powerful.	/r/seduction	20/12/13 11:08 AM
1	how do you become less outcome dependant? Seriously if all you think about is sex and the sole purpose of your game is to get sex, then you might wanna consider either picking up a troll and banging the shit out of it, or going for paid sex, just to relieve the pressure.	/r/seduction	13/12/13 07:43 AM
4	So... I failed (?) Outcome independence, man. The fact you're going alone means everything you meet there is fair game. Seize the opportunity. but since I am one of the organizers, I have to be there an make sure everyone is having a great time. There's you social proof and value. If that's not good grounds for game, I don't know what is. Edit: Oh and let's not glance over the fact that you being the organizer and all is pretty much the perfect opener.	/r/seduction	12/12/13 12:09 PM
2	How to stop caring what other people think, and be the person I want to be? What is one way I could combat this. There is only one way you can combat this: You accomplish your goals. Will he still be calling you a nerd when you pass your exams, get degrees and then move on to a highly paid job? Maybe, but chances are you're gonna be the one with the wallet and accomplishments and he'll still be just a broke, useless hater. Will he be mocking you when you're 6-packed ripped and jacked with girls fondling your thick tricep all the time? Maybe, but chances are you're gonna…	/r/seduction	10/12/13 03:15 PM
3	21 year old virgin here, getting rejected during escalation from lack of experience. It doesn't mean exactly what it says i.e. sit back and do nothing. Example: She's sitting on your lap you're just starting to make out. You don't move into her and begin to fondle her tits while frantically trying to play games with your tongue. Instead, you tip her chin or maybe gently grab the back of her neck, pull her into you and then let her do the kissing and from there you adjust to and mirror what she does. When you take action all the time you are raising the probability of yourself do…	/r/seduction	10/12/13 02:56 PM
4	How do I build attraction with girls in online convo/text? Whatever aims to escalate beyond a number close or date after a day or two of chatting doesn't really work for a number of reasons. Thing is: If you spend weeks or even months texting with a girl, she'll eventually see you as a guy who spends significant amounts of his time chatting up girls online. Because essentially that's what you are doing... and it's a turn off. At that point she'll either lose interest altogether or ban you to the friendzone. Online dating is great for picking up girls. B…	/r/seduction	10/12/13 02:36 PM
1	It turns out that I'm an AFC when it comes to adult dating I think what k-lloyd was pointing out is the fact that you have to lead the date and, more importantly, the conversation in a way that allows for you to kino without too much effort and for it to be 100% comfortable, natural and sincere. Takes some planning. Selecting a place to eat where you can sit next to her instead of across the table would be one example. Maybe I got bad results because I was uncomfortable. Probably. Happens to everyone. First thing I had to learn is to keep initial kino v…	/r/seduction	06/12/13 02:33 PM
1	How important is a kiss on the first date? I doubt you would dump her straight up for that. Did it many times actually. Though to be more clear I'm really only talking about the type of girl who goes overly defensive and to an extent shuts down in response to light kino. You're right of course that it's not unlikely that she might just be really shy or need more time to open up. So in no way would I ever suggest that this is the way to go for everyone. Point being that I'm just not into this type of girl, so I prefer to handle it that wa…	/r/seduction	06/12/13 01:24 PM
1	How important is a kiss on the first date? I guess I realized I'm uncomfortable trying to touch unless there's an open invite or it seems totally natural. There's a simple trick to this: Always make it seem totally natural ;) Steer the conversation to where it is natural for you to touch her and then just keep up the kino, gauge her reaction and go from there. Confidence is key, of course. To an extent it's also a matter of personal preference I guess. Me, for example, I always kino very early to see her reaction although I'm well aware …	/r/seduction	06/12/13 10:15 AM
1	How important is a kiss on the first date? How important is kissing on the first date? Girls are human, believe it or not. Some of them like kissing on the first, some don't, some aren't sure, some are sure but decide to test you / play games. Some communicate their intentions clearly, others don't. So to answer the question: On some dates it is important. Others... not so much. It really depends on her, how well the date goes and last but not least how much attraction you manage to build. It's a very wide and very colorful spectrum. Am …	/r/seduction	06/12/13 08:56 AM
1	Texting ruining attraction or am I overthinking this and need to mellow out? Texting paragraphs is never a good thing IMO. She might actually not reply cause of feeling obliged to text you back with one of them paragraphs, which take time and energy to write. I think you should cut the texting as far as you can and be open about it with her, too. Think about it this way: If you guys text so much all the time you have less or nothing to talk about when you meet. So instead of risking to ruin something via long texting (which is really easy to do), cut it out and save all …	/r/seduction	02/12/13 08:35 AM
6	Kissless virgin here, how do I stop that from keeping me down? Two things: Kissing and fucking isn't rocket science. In fact 9 out of 10 women are terrible at it. They won't even notice your status unless you tell em. You can stop being scared now. Stop the self-loathing. Obviously, just from reading your comments here, I can tell you're drowning in it. Fix your inner game. And realize you being a virgin is neither pitiful nor is it all that uncommon. And face this: Technically speaking you can't even be a virgin cause you're male. You have no hymen. Stick …	/r/seduction	02/12/13 08:18 AM
3	Any advice tips on how to get out of destructive relationship? She doesn't have any place to go, so I can't kick her out. And I don't have enough money to rent two apartments for both of us. What exactly are your obligations here? Why can't you kick her out? I'm asking because I think it's rather a fact that you don't want to kick her out or just move out yourself, even though you technically could. Don't get this wrong I don't mean to knock you. But if you want to handle this situation you need to be honest to yourself with how you feel first and foremost.…	/r/seduction	19/11/13 03:57 PM
5	A thank you to Seddit for helping me overcome One-itis, One-job-itis, and helping me get my life back on track Halfway through this post, if you listen closely, you can hear Eye Of The Tiger start playing louder and louder in your head.	/r/seduction	19/11/13 03:47 PM
2	Tips on what to do first night out I was thinking of catching a movie Don't. As you already said you can't talk in a movie. It's good material if you've been seeing her for a while but it sucks ass for first date. Treat her to a nice evening in the park, at a lake or similar. It's about as romantic as it gets. And it's free. If weather makes that impossible a good (cocktail-)bar is hands down the perfect "standard" place for a first date for so many reasons. No doubt about it. Make sure it's a good bar, though. Drinks need to be …	/r/seduction	28/10/13 02:49 PM
-1	"So... do you have a boyfriend?" When, if ever, is it okay to ask this? IMO never, unless it's part of the plan. If she's giving you the IOIs it doesn't really matter if she's got one because obviously she's about to cheat on him. Also, she'll let you know soon enough. Girls mention it casually and / or intentionally. They can't help it. Unless the girl is a confident slut, asking directly has a very high probability of making her feel ashamed and guilty. Both of these are feelings we want to avoid at all costs I'd say.	/r/seduction	28/10/13 07:43 AM
1	Damn, trying to work on my confidence but other people keep bringing me down. Whatever you gotta do man, just do it. Basically what I'm trying to tell you is you need to cut words like "hopefully" out of your vocabulary. You don't hope, you make it happen i.e. become Napoleon, emperor of the kingdom called you. And once you've conquered it you will automatically stop giving a shit about what people say or how they might look at you.	/r/seduction	24/10/13 06:20 AM
1	Damn, trying to work on my confidence but other people keep bringing me down. You need to hit the gym man. Hit it hard. Matter of fact, I'd advise you to focus solely on this for at least 6 months. It'll teach you a lot about focus and the general concept of grinding hard to improve yourself. The point here isn't to just get swole. That's just a nice side effect. It's about grinding every fucking day to chisel away your edges and carve out the man you can and want to be. Once you've learned that, you will learn to apply this philosophy to everything in life. Also don't gi…	/r/seduction	23/10/13 11:00 AM
2	a REAL guide on how to be irresistible with women This is basic game, really: Do your research and know beforehand where the best places are in your town. I store lists on my Google Drive for this. Use your tools, man! Neil Strauss made notes on paper. We have smartphones! My Galaxy S4 literally became my personal game assistant of godlike awesomeness. Listen to the girl! Ideally you should know what type of food she prefers. If not, just ask! It's a huge DHV: "I'm not in the mood for steak today. What do you like best?" "Oh I love Sushi!" "Yea…	/r/seduction	16/10/13 06:28 PM
3	An alternate guide to text game Great points! People hate on texting / online dating so much. Good for me :D Picked up two HBs last week via free online platforms / apps. Three more in the making right now. Been at it for like 2 months now after a drunk friend insisted I install this flirt app on my phone just to check out all the duckfaces. Turns out there's a lot of HBs on there, too, and it's awesome what you can do with a decent profile and some smart texting. So far I had 7 straight up blind dates. To say I'm pleasantly s…	/r/seduction	11/10/13 12:34 PM
1	Long look and quick look. You're feeling confident because A. you're pumped, B. the girls have nowhere to go, C. they're numerous and D. many of them are gorgeous & sweaty in skintight hotpants. I guess we all know the feeling. It's tough for a man. But the fact of the matter is it's rude to approach in the gym. See it from her perspective. Just picture constantly getting hit on by mostly awkward, pumped up dudes day in day out in a place you visit for recreation and sports... and you'll see why the mere thought of it gi…	/r/seduction	11/10/13 09:34 AM
1	Long look and quick look. Well it's either that, or she's flirting with you. There's really no grey area on this one.	/r/seduction	10/10/13 01:00 PM
1	Long look and quick look. That dominance you get might be her trying to tell you to look somewhere else cause staring girls down in the gym is pretty damn rude. Girl hate being hit on in the gym, understandably so. IMO you shouldn't game in the gym unless she straight up looks for your attention and gives you a crystal clear signal.	/r/seduction	10/10/13 08:10 AM
6	Just tip for you guys using Plenty of Fish, Tinder etc. Yeah. Don't ever ask for specifics. Seriously. It's something I quickly learned to stop doing because it dead-ends the conversation and she'll eventually start believing you're some kind of stalker or something. Just build enough attraction via making her feel comfortable chatting with you about random stuff. Making her laugh - without being overly cocky or clown-funny, but classy instead - is really the only thing you can do to build attraction via chat, so keep it focused on that. If she asks …	/r/seduction	01/10/13 08:44 AM
0	General question: what to do after being turned down I invite them to come join whatever's on my list. If she turns down the second invite I'll move on. Doesn't matter if she has legitimate reasons. I'll just tell her "You're missing out ;)" and go about my business. If she's really interested and honest she'll get back to you.	/r/seduction	01/10/13 08:11 AM
1	General question: what to do after being turned down Disagree with "don't go for a drink". Taking girls bar-hopping is awesome. In my town there's this big strip with lots of really good cocktail bars. I almost always take girls there and they always love it. The atmosphere is exactly right. Good music, good drinks and its cozy so you can sit down, relax and talk. If the conversation ever goes stale I'll just grab her hand and take her to a different bar, make her choose one, keep it fresh. I also often (sometimes secretly) invite friends over, or…	/r/seduction	01/10/13 08:08 AM
30	How can I stop being socially awkward? I used to be like you. Now I could write a long winded story about how I overcame all this, but instead let me just tell you this: Go sarging, alone. It's not only about meeting chicks. In doing so you will eventually overcome all of your issues. But not only that. You will also, eventually, arrive in social circles which accept you for who you are. You'll meet people that are more like you. Talking and opening up to them will be easy. They will be receptive and friendly. Right now you are the o…	/r/seduction	29/09/13 02:21 AM
1	Alcohol: The Reason I Chose to Stop Drinking The keys to not getting a hangover: Be fit. Pussy bodies get pussy hangovers. Make sure you get enough vitamins before you drink. You'll piss a lot when drunk. When you piss a lot you also piss away a lot of vitamins. Getting a shot of vitamins beforehand counteracts that. Stay away from beer, wine, cocktails and liquors. They fuck you up. This is not just bro science. The fact of the matter is all of these drinks naturally contain more congeners. It makes the hangover more severe cause your liv…	/r/seduction	23/09/13 10:37 AM
1	Is it okay to game in the gym? I never run game in the gym because I work out in the gym. So, logically, running game would imply me not focusing on my workout. How could I get the best possible workout when I don't focus? Answer is I couldn't. You should be focused on your training. And that's all you should be focusing on. Call it extreme but it's my philosophy. When I work out I don't talk to people, I don't run game, I don't pick up the phone. I crank up the music and train hard for them gainz!. And that's all I do until …	/r/seduction	19/09/13 01:22 PM