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| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 46 | The worst part of this divorce | Radiant_Chipmunk_616 | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/02/24 03:29 AM | |
| 25 | Why wasn't the relationship worth fighting for? | Radiant_Chipmunk_616 | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/24 07:15 AM | |
| 18 | Stbx can't even respect our late daughter | Rant | Radiant_Chipmunk_616 | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/24 11:54 AM |
| 16 | Self-worth is gone | Radiant_Chipmunk_616 | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/24 03:31 AM | |
| 11 | She's a different person and makes me a villain | Radiant_Chipmunk_616 | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/01/24 07:08 AM | |
| 8 | How do you get a sense of worth back? | Radiant_Chipmunk_616 | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/02/24 09:44 AM | |
| 7 | Constant hostility | Rant | Radiant_Chipmunk_616 | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/04/24 02:14 PM |
| 7 | Anyone feel judgment from ex? | Radiant_Chipmunk_616 | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/24 03:09 AM | |
| 6 | Good or bad to see her in two ways? | Radiant_Chipmunk_616 | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/02/24 05:13 AM | |
| 1 | Stbx is not keeping any agreement | Rant | Radiant_Chipmunk_616 | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/05/24 04:15 AM |
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| 4 | Why wasn't the relationship worth fighting for?Yea I threatened divorce a few times because I was completely burnt out and she wasn't helping. It got to the point where I was sleeping at work because I wasn't able to sleep at home for more than 4 hours total. I worked 3rd shift and then watched the boys until late. I never was going to divorce her, but it was the last resort for me to hope she'd listen to my needs. She didn't. I know I should've gone about things differently, and I keep beating myself up over it because I never wanted this. … | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/05/24 10:04 PM |
| 1 | Guys, how do you stay motivated?Do stuff for me, like reading for fun and learning, gaming, finding new hobbies (kayaking, biking, tea-making -looking forward to starting these when I get the chance), and spending time with friends (although our weekly meetups are only twice a week now). That keeps me motivated, though I want to do more. I find myself feeling down at night or whenever I gotta deal with the latest nonsense from my stbx. I'm also working on me, physically and mentally, and working on finishing my degree. That, a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/05/24 05:03 PM |
| 3 | Why wasn't the relationship worth fighting for?100% feels the same for me. One of her best friends divorced, and I cant help but feel like that influenced her, plus her other best friend just has it out for me. She's entirely different now. Went from a Christian women who was appreciative of us to someone who mocked me for asking to go back to a 1st shift job since 3rd shift was killing me. All of the toxic shit she swore she'd never let into our relationship was let in, and here we are now. I really hope I can find a good woman to marry in … | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/05/24 12:59 PM |
| 1 | Why wasn't the relationship worth fighting for?Sorry for the vent, but that woman put me through hell | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/24 06:02 PM |
| 2 | Why wasn't the relationship worth fighting for?Same thing happened to me about the rough stretch, which only served to make me even more upset about this whole thing. To finish my schooling (and ultimately provide more for us) and to take care of the boys so we didn't need daycare, I first went to 2nd shift, then 3rd shift. Both were rough because we didn't spend any time together during the weekdays, and when I went to 3rd shift it was worse, because even though I'd be home while she was, she wouldn't let me sleep. So even though I was runn… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/24 06:01 PM |
| 3 | Why wasn't the relationship worth fighting for?Yea, the love life randomly faded one day, less than two years into our marriage as well. I mean when we were dating we were all about each other. Then one day I noticed she just stopped kissing me (not even just making out, but she wouldnt even give me a single kiss on her own), and she couldn't even tell me why. Sex became one-sided, she never initiated and just laid there. Then would tell me nothing was wrong, and she was into it. But if I didn't do x, y, or z chore, forget it. Always somethi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/24 05:50 PM |
| 3 | Why do all the men here get into a panic over Mother’s Day? It’s like anxiety takes over. I could be wrong but I highly doubt the same sentiment is shared on the other side of the fence.Mine refused to switch to a schedule we agreed upon after our 2nd mediation because she didn't like that I wasn't able to bring my kid to pre-k on the days I had him, and didn't want to listen to any solutions I came up with until we had our 3rd mediation meeting. Thankfully the attorney called her out in as much of a way that a neutral party could. But this meant I was only seeing my kids for less than 24 hours a day because of my schedule. Something which she was more than happy to try and for… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/05/24 12:29 PM |
| 2 | Why do all the men here get into a panic over Mother’s Day? It’s like anxiety takes over. I could be wrong but I highly doubt the same sentiment is shared on the other side of the fence.If she isn't paying for your son to get you gifts like you are with her...idk. I'd probably stop treating her with that respect I'm in the same boat, my stbx thinks she's the only one who has a say in what goes on for my kids, I compromised so much while she gave so little...you know the deal. I'm done doing anything for her that isn't mandated. She's never given me respect for the last two years, and doesn't care at all | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/05/24 11:36 AM |
| 2 | Self-worth is goneYea I wasn't the breadwinner, we both made the same, but I was working nights full-time and being a full-time stay at home dad to support us from having two kids so we didn't need daycare. So essentially two jobs, plus schooling. Nothing I did was enough, and losing someone after pushing myself as far as I did and burning the candle at both ends just makes me feel like I have nothing worth giving anyone, if all that didn't matter. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/24 02:07 PM |
| 2 | Self-worth is goneYea it's what she's saying is starting to just become what I think about myself. Even though I tried and pushed myself to my breaking point to do right by her, I just think about how she didn't think I did enough. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/24 02:05 PM |
| 1 | Anyone feel judgment from ex?It's different when it's your kids, though. And it's not notsomuch validation-seeking from others as it is simply not wanting to deal with manufactured drama | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/24 01:29 PM |
| 0 | Anyone feel judgment from ex?Idk why that's funny though, was your spouse not your best friend? Sucks seeing someone switch completely | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/24 12:19 PM |
| 2 | Anyone feel judgment from ex?Yea, but the only thing I'm worried of is her turning my two sons (both toddlers) against me. She's able to put on such a facade and lie to them, so for all I know they'll never see her true colors and only have me telling them how she was if/when they ask what happened between us far down the road | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/24 04:11 AM |
| 2 | Why do some of y’all go for a second round after the first show?I mean, if I lived without hope for anything good, what am I living for? I want to find a partner again, and I trust I will. I also know what to do differently this next time, and hopefully I won't have the same hardships again | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/02/24 02:55 AM |
| 1 | Why do some of y’all go for a second round after the first show?I'm hoping to find another woman, I'm currently going through a divorce but I want to find someone to spend my life with. Getting married is that commitment to me. Am I worried about another divorce? I guess, but my personal situation with my stbx wasn't fully out of nowhere. More like she just changed her values during a hardship we put ourselves in | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/02/24 11:49 PM |
| 4 | Has anyone’s Ex-wife ever apologized for putting them through hell?My stbx barely ever apologized (and if then it was hardly ever serious) for what she did wrong the past 2 years of our marriage when things slowly got worse and worse. She turned into such a nasty person towards me, but she really doesn't care. I'm dirt to her. And I'm pretty sure she's already seeing someone (we aren't even divorced yet). She's just completely different, so no, I don't think I'll ever get an apology. The only way I would is if she went back to the old her who I loved. But I dou… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/02/24 07:45 AM |
| 5 | The worst part of this divorceExactly. I got pushed to my wit's end in trying to advocate for myself while still doing everything for my family. I was barely functioning and it didn't matter. But as soon as I snapped at her after many times of not being heard, that was all she cared about. Doesn't matter how in need I was, how little love she gave back for what I did, and how obvious it was that I was struggling. She was only looking to see if I got mad at all, then she'd threaten to leave or whatever. It's toxic af to live … | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/02/24 09:04 PM |
| 8 | The worst part of this divorceYea mine completely disregarded how I was burning the candle on both ends for the sake of my family, and even holding that against me when I'd ask for help. It's crazy how little they care about what we do for them when they don't immediately see the benefit, or when they're asked to give back in turn. Mine basically mocked or denied how rough things were for me. What a joke. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/02/24 07:29 PM |
| 1 | Good or bad to see her in two ways?People change, though. From events or circumstances, it happens. We've had both impact us, but she changed at her core from it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/02/24 06:02 AM |
| 1 | How do you get a sense of worth back?Anytime you need to talk, and it could be for anything including support or just random topics, I'm game. I'm glad you took that step, you deserve more than you know, man. We both got a lot left to enjoy ahead of us, even if there's a struggle. Be well this weekend, and don't hesitate to reach out | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/24 01:04 AM |
| 2 | HateExactly. I put my mental and physical health to the curb to support us, something she was aware would be rough. It got to be too much, and when I asked for help I didn't get it. I don't like how I responded, but it's natural to get angry when you feel like you're in over your head and she isn't seeing that or doesn't want to when you're as clear as possible. I'm at least at the point where I don't blame only myself for how things turned out. But I don't know if she'll ever realize what I did for… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/02/24 12:19 PM |
| 2 | How do you get a sense of worth back?I hope you reconsider, it's tough. As you know I've been struggling, but what helps me is the hope for better days, a hope for finding what will make me happy in life, and sharing that with someone new. If you ever need to talk, I'm all ears. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/02/24 12:14 PM |
| 5 | HateI'm in the same boat. My stbx has not only made me the villain and not owned what she did wrong to lead to our relationship ending like this, but she has emotionally abused me, lied to me, taken advantage of my desperation to save our marriage for her own gain, and lied about me. Has not and probably will never apologize for the shit she did. I slowly got more and more angry with her over the past 1 1/2 years because she didn't want to help me as I was struggling with how much I sacrificed for u… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/02/24 09:57 AM |
| 16 | What do you miss most? (serious)More than anything I miss my best friend. That person is gone, though, and who she is now is nothing like who she was for the first half of our relationship. She's completely become my enemy for how she treats me and treated me, and I hate that I can't just cut her out of my life because we share two kids. I'm hoping and believing I'll find someone else, then things won't be so bad because I'll have someone to share my life with and hopefully have a better relationship than the one I lost. But m… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/02/24 05:00 PM |
| 2 | Broken and confusedMy situation is similar. Soon-to-be-ex is leaving after months of me completely changing my behavior and doing things to make her happy. She was happy whenever we spent time together, and wanted to do something for our wedding anniversary. A month later she told me she was done. The whole time she wanted nothing to do with counseling or trying to work on issues, and puts all the blame on me while ignoring what she did to get us here. I sacrificed my mental and physical health going to 3rd shift … | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/01/24 06:45 AM |
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