Anyone feel judgment from ex?

CrazySanta7 · 2024-02-14T13:24:01+00:00

There is always judgment. When most women are not happy, they scour their mind to determine why. Something or someone has to be responsible for this feeling. This person is you. You are the bad guy, and only the negative things about you are recalled. They tell others about these things to help them justify separation/divorce. This is where they 're-write history about how awful you are. You are only as good as what you did yesterday. This is why 'reconciliation' is an absolute waste. Our minds are just different.

Unfortunately, a majority of men call their spouse their 'best friend' while very few women do the same. There have been studies on this. It's one of the factors as to why divorce is very devastating to a man. Don't seek validation from her at this point, you will not get it. Someone has to be the villain in the story....that is you.

DarbyCreekDeek · 2024-02-14T12:47:21+00:00

Give yourself time to heal but definitely put in the work during that time. You can do it. There are resources available both online and IRL

dday_throwaway3 · 2024-02-14T12:45:21+00:00

Stop caring what other people think of you. Validation-seeking behavior is cringey.

AlmostThere22 · 2024-02-14T11:56:42+00:00

Bro I hate that you're feeling this way.

Moving forward you absolutely have to know that you should NEVER be vulnerable with a woman ever again.

Seeing a man being vulnerable for a woman disgusts their subconscious even though verbally they may say they want it.

Your wife or girlfriend is NEVER your best friend.

Anyone I have ever heard refer to their wife/girlfriend as best friend end up divorced or dumped.

Due-Ad4708 · 2024-02-14T10:16:47+00:00

No, I'm sure that she is ignoring my existence as she did in our marriage.

upvotersfortruth · 2024-02-14T08:13:37+00:00

Betrayal like that is pretty damaging so you're probably hypersensitive and, if you're like most of us, care about your reputation and how others view you. Well, divorce will cure you of that, one way or another. The only takeaway here is: If you let her see that it bothers you, she will double down.

ColSolTigh · 2024-02-14T07:18:35+00:00

“She was my best f**king friend”

Lol

major92653 · 2024-02-14T05:11:22+00:00

I felt that way in the beginning.

Even talked to a therapist many times about it.

Therapist asked me if these people were really important in my life. Turns out, they weren’t important, so he advised me to just let it go and continue living.

DivorceRecoveryMen · 2024-02-14T04:06:18+00:00

It's hard to get her out of you DNA, but over time what she thinks will wane. Work on yourself and start to enjoy your new reality without her. The sooner you get her out of the parking spaces of your brain, the better.

aPersonWithAPlan · 2024-02-14T04:02:11+00:00

From an outside perspective, your ex just sounds very bitter. It's best to stay calm and do whatever you want to do anyway cause whatever action you take, she's gonna try and take you down. Don't be affected by it and she'll vanish like a ghost

Subtle-Catastrophe · 2024-02-14T04:00:11+00:00

No. Seriously: no. She ain't sheeeit.

My forebears, and my children and their children, can pass judgment on me. The rest? Including HER? Get lost.

I've bested more challenges, won more contests, kicked the crap out of more opponents than she ever imagined. She's the consolation prize.

Too bad she effed up and lost me.

edr5619 · 2024-02-14T03:44:04+00:00

I have experienced this, except it's no suspicion. She has run a vicious smear campaign against me for a long time and making fun of me for my hobbies, my feelings, my mannerisms, my car, my job has all been integral to it. It's disgusting leaving aside the embellishments and outright fabrications that accompany it all.

I'm not going to lie, it has been hard, really hard. But, I remind myself that it's her problem, not mine that she doesn't like any of these things. I also remind myself that she is showing her true colours now. Reminds me that she is coping by trying to belittle the things that she once (at least told me) she valued in me. And even if she never did value these things, it reminds me that she simply is not the person I thought she was.

Fuck her, it's a "her" problem, not yours. You do you and don't let her dissuade you from pursuing the things that you value. Her opinion no longer matters, and she will only succeed in convincing everyone else of her own pettiness.

Title	Anyone feel judgment from ex?
Author	Radiant_Chipmunk_616
Upvotes	7
Comments	18
Date	February 14, 2024 3:09 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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