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Pegging &butt play
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 12:31 PM
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Like you had sex twice in a few hours and then he was done? Like thrice but yeah. Was he not going down on you or doing anything in between? Nah. In my experience the younger the man the more likely he's to do that though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 07:14 PM
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We had a few sessions but not as many as I'd like.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 07:08 PM
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I'm not attracted to average let alone below average men. They go to the gym, workout If he's fit and well groomed (good hair, skin, teeth, eyebrows) he's not average unless he has a very unfortunate looking face so this doesn't apply. improve their finances His finances don't concern me as long as he's not homeless or in big and/or unmanageable debt. is there anything a man can do who is average looking or below average looking do to make you genuinely desire him? Gym (optional). Grooming (see …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 03:37 PM
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English is not my first language 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 03:57 PM
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She just did
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 03:55 PM
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I was the first of every man I've tried pegging with save for one (that one was indeed bisexual and into pegging prior to meeting me but I forgot about him). Straight men don't like to be flipped My experience says otherwise That's your problem. Obviously. I'm the one who's sexually frustrated so I don't see how it could be someone else's problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 01:51 PM
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None. They were all as straight as it gets. Which is funny cuz I'm a bisexual chaser.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 01:26 PM
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You won't stay monogamous. I doubt that You think yourself a demisexual Where did I claim to be a demisexual? I don't think of myself as one at all. You will find a much better lover during a rough patch or temp breakup and that will lead to inner conflict as you realize that dick is what you always wanted I don't cheat so the first option isn't an option. As for the latter, that happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 11:44 AM
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Sure. I'm into pegging and butt play in general. Most men I've been with accommodated that but one guy I was really into dumped me after I suggested it to him. My current boyfriend didn't mind me having said kinks but he's not interested in giving it a try either.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 11:33 AM
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I'd swipe right ngl
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 09:58 AM
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why do you want to be with someone who is incompatible with you? As I said to another commenter, you're right in that regard. When I first got into my relationship I didn't think I was gonna miss my kinks that much, so I didn't see it as a dealbreaker since everything else was perfect. Now a year and a half down the line I find myself feeling a bit sexually unfulfilled. I'm not really considering breaking up over it but if we break up for unrelated reasons I wouldn't seriously date someone not i…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 09:14 AM
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If you say so. But that makes you an outlier, not the rule. And then there's still sexual performance which usually deteriorates with age and the "vibes" that rpers love to make fun of. Again, not rules but strong tendencies.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 09:06 AM
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Depends on your circle. Mine is pretty much leftist men who are ideologically opposed to porn for ethical reasons so I highly doubt they secretly watch it. My boyfriend certainly doesn't. As for conservatives and liberals, I don't bother thinking about them as they're not in my dating pool. So again, not my issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 09:04 AM
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Nothing like a bald fatty with ED to get the pussy juices flowing 💅🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 09:01 AM
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Well the relationship is perfect otherwise so I'm not thinking about breaking up due to one unfulfilled kink. But if we do for unrelated reasons sometime in the future I will avoid getting into another relationship where I can't be 100% sexually fulfilled cuz it's a bit frustrating. It's like that one tiktok song, you gotta find someone who matches your freak. True.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 12:47 AM
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Well. You're right actually. When I first got into my relationship I didn't think I was gonna miss my kinks that much, so I didn't see it as a dealbreaker since everything else was perfect. Now a year and a half down the line I find myself feeling a bit sexually unfulfilled. I'm not really considering breaking up over it but if we break up for unrelated reasons I wouldn't seriously date someone not into what I'm into again.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 12:40 AM
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Fair enough
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 09:41 PM
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If you're indeed 5'8 and not 5'5 cosplaying as 5'8, I'd say that's tall enough for most average height women. I think men have to face more obstacles in terms of attractiveness, and most of them aren’t even in their control. I both agree and disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 09:37 PM
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Well tbf outside of the US most women are slim so not being fat doesn't cut it. In my country not being fat is like the absolute bare minimum. You can be skinny and fit and still be considered a 5 lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 09:24 PM
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Lol. I have my answer I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 08:48 PM
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Majority of women in the US are overweight. You're saying you're attracted to overweight women (assuming of course you're from the US)?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 08:42 PM
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Fair enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 08:12 PM
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I have no need for a provider so I'd rather stay single than settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 08:12 PM
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I have the opposite experience of being rejected due to my kinks and not a lack thereof so let's agree that situations vary
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 06:16 PM
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Damn 😭😂
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 05:49 PM
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It's so cute watching coomers get all riled up over women choosing to ignore their asses and opt for better men. Rpers always say "choose better" and when we do they cry about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 05:32 PM
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You're too hell bent on defending the sex who claims we hit the wall at 35. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 05:26 PM
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Lol. That sucks, ngl. But I wish you luck in finding someone to lose your virginity to and explore your kinks with. I've heard of many people losing their v card while older even though I lost mine at 18.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 04:56 PM
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Same. Most women I see dating older are not college educated and they work dead end jobs, or they're not that physically attractive for their age bracket. By going older they can secure better looking (for their age) men than by going for men their own age.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 04:47 PM
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I've fucked older (26+) men a few times. None of them could keep up with me. Small sample but that has been my experience. I have a relatively high sex drive and I need someone that can deal with that. Even if they are teachable it would still take them some time to improve their skills to the point of actual satisfaction to the women. If they aren't teachable then older men aren't better either. And I'm a good teacher so it doesn't take more than a few days for me, I'd rather sacrifice a few da…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 04:23 PM
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I'm sexually experienced enough myself to teach my partner whatever I want. I could say I actually prefer it that way. Young men may lack the technical skills which are easily taught but they have higher sex drives and better stamina, which you can't teach. And many young men are good at sex as is. My bf gave me great sex even our first time.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 04:04 PM
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Lol, it's always #notallmen till you mention porn usage. Then suddenly it's #allmen. It amazes me how rpers are far more misandristic than a radfem could ever aspire to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 04:02 PM
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24F here with super high body count. I'm not sexually reserved/asexual in relationships so the question isn't 100% applicable to me, but I tend to hide some kinks of mine earlier on if it's not a hook up because I've been dumped for revealing them too soon before. I've heard the same from other women for different kinks or slutty behaviour in general. I should edit to add I no longer do that as I've come to greatly appreciate sexual compatibility and I'd rather get dumped now.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 03:52 PM
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I don't date men who watch porn no matter their age so not really my problem
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 03:30 PM
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Younger men look better, fuck better, and vibe with you better. Older men have money. That's it. Anything else is cope. No woman in her early 20s without daddy or money issues is gonna choose a 35 year old over a 25 year old of equal attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 01:25 PM
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As a woman in my early 20s I can safely attest to the fact that a man over 29 has nothing to offer that I actually care about, aka good and youthful looks and a dick that works as well as I want it to. If the women you're going after care for money over looks in a day and age where women can make their own that's their own issue cuz the only thing you could ever compete against a 25 yo man is money and you're deluding yourself if you think they're with you cuz you look better or are more sexuall…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 01:16 PM
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One of the men with the highest body/relationship count I know cried all the time in front of women. Didn't really stop him from acquiring high numbers.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 07:59 PM
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They exist there to keep the unwanted males away. If you belong in that category that's hardly my problem. Also engaging with everyone in the group and not just with attractive women is basic human socialisation. Don't expect good results CoLd aPpRoAcHinG if you can't even socialise with people outside of flirting properly.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 07:59 AM
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Understandable, I'm just weird hahah
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 06:53 AM
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If you view her female friends who you are not attracted to as "cockblockers" and not as human beings you can equally mingle with I have bad news for you
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 06:45 AM
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I would prolly argue with him over the book 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 01:22 AM
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TIL women have to have a boyfriend to go out. a personal army of cockblockers Who constitutes this army of "cockblockers"?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 01:07 AM
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If she has a book with her that you have read and you can make conversation about it without it feeling forced or pushy? Can confirm. A male friend of mine got his last two girlfriends that way. Yes, he reads a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 01:01 AM
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Ah, apologies for misreading your comment then. Just wish Greece could turn themselves around. Yeah that'd be nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 08:38 PM
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Pretty bad tbh. People are working more and making less each year that passes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 08:36 PM
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If you want to get married, you have to actually push him for it. I am not saying there have to be ultimatums, there are subtler ways. I have nothing to contribute to the conversation but what do you mean by that? If I wanted to get married I think I'd just ask for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 05:51 PM
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Hello there!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 05:16 PM
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No, everything was extremely problematic before they took over. They did their best imo (take that with a grain of salt as I don't overly immerse myself into my country's politics), but after a certain point that just wasn't enough. Things were slightly better for workers and every day people however. Worst thing is there is a real possibility of finding a big natural gas pocket in some of the Greek Islands and if that happens Turkey is going to kick your ass and take it. Actually if NATO falls …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 02:27 PM
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Do so 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 11:59 AM
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I would suggest visiting Thessaloniki if you haven't before as well as Athens and Korinthos, it's a really beautiful and tourist friendly city. I would also suggest visiting less touristy islands for a more authentic (and much lighter on your wallet) experience. As for Athens do take me up on my offer whenever you come, I'll be happy to help since it's my hometown.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 11:41 AM
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Right wing government, backwards culture, really shitty conditions for workers and/or financially disadvantaged people. Many people work 12 hours a day 6 days a week just to make ends meet. Pretty sexist (and homophobic as these two always go hand in hand) too. The rest is good I suppose and I'm not really that affected by the things I mentioned personally so maybe I shouldn't have included the crying emoji hahah. I’ll be there this summer actually. The family from Κόρινθος. (Near the city anywa…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 11:22 AM
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Greece
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 11:13 AM
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I don't see women settling. Most choose to remain single rather than settle at least in my county (which isn't even a progressive county, just european and somewhat developed). But assuming it does happen to a certain degree I think the following would be potential factors: Social pressure to be in a commited relationship by a certain age Genuine desire to have a partner to share life with and/or feelings of loneliness Wanting to have children. Women could have children single since they are the…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 11:02 AM
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I'd much rather fuck/date/marry a hot server than a mid looking successful lawyer personally. So I don't see why I'd admit to something that isn't true. The women who care about status/money don't actually hide it, they mention it literally everywhere. So I don't see what you're on about.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 05:23 AM
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Sounds like he was not a Chad He was the textbook definition of a chad. Model, high body count, high relationship count, RPer. is not anymore Obviously. Since he's so fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 11:33 AM
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As a woman, can confirm. If a guy is hot he's hot, doesn't matter if he tried for it. But same goes for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 10:16 AM
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I mean you can always date an ex fat/skinny fat chick who got big into fitness and is now fit and who's in therapy lol. If you date women who were born pretty and mentally stable ofc they'll have done nothing but rolled a better number at birth.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 10:15 AM
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I have an ex fwb who was a chad and soon after we broke it off he put on 40 - 50 kg. Now all he does is hitting up his numerous exes cuz he can't for the love of god find a new woman lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 10:07 AM
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imo too many things are sold to men with the intent of getting women. “be a good person so women will like you”, “lift so women will like you”, “make money so women will be interested in you” and so on. Men need to be taught to do these things for the sake of doing them, for the reward being his own well being As a woman I couldn't agree more.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 10:05 AM
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For women you would no longer be at as much risk of domestic violence, SA, and general harassment but you would also be expected to make most of the first moves. Society cares a lot less about your feelings, don’t get the benefit of the doubt in altercations with the opposite sex, essentially invisible to most people etc Yes lol. I already make most of the first moves anyway so that wouldn't change anything for me. And I wouldn't mind being invisible to the opposite gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 09:50 PM
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They get upset because orbiters provide things What do "orbiters" provide to their female friends that they don't also provide to their male friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 05:17 PM
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That's bs. Size does matter. The bigger the better till a certain point.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 01:30 PM
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I have suggested said lifestyle to my boyfriend for the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 08:34 AM
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The males seem to be mostly silent on the topic. Or they don't seem to feel strongly about it. Because it benefits them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 05:58 PM
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Character is important but looks are too, at least for me. I'd never date someone just cuz he treats me right if I wasn't physically attracted to him. All options considered, I'd much rather be single
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 10:08 AM
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Agreed. I'd sooner be single than date a man below my league. Being partnered up isn't obligatory socially or financially for women nowadays, thankfully.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 09:36 AM
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If they never drop their standards then they will be an old alone cat lady. As younger women see a big glut of old cat women, presumably, that will be a warning to lower their standards and things will find a new equilibrium. False. As a young woman who's seen older women either alone with cats/dogs or who have dropped their standards and settled I'd much rather be the first. I'd never date below my league. Ladies, never drop your standards. Being alone > settling.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 09:34 AM
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He's prolly referring to physical attraction. Although for some reason I highly doubt he'd date a woman he's not physically attracted to himself 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 04:55 PM
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I'm a woman and I've rejected relationships with fwbs multiple times so in my personal experience it's true
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 03:43 PM
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I used to be into hook ups prior to getting into a relationship but I fail to understand your question lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 01:51 PM
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Let’s say he has something like this (on the top), but manages to carefully hide it under the cap. I would honestly prefer he kept it on. And I don't know if I would ever get in a relationship with him unless he either fully shaved or got a transplant. Would that be true if that happened to you? Let’s say you have a ons and use the pads. But the moment the guy sees your breasts he finds an excuse and bounces off. Would you think of him more highly than had he stayed and had sex with you? That wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 08:04 AM
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Im not talking about bald men, but specifically about balding men who have hair but with a M shaped receding hairline. I suppose that depends on how far along it is. It could range anywhere from barely noticeable to the point he only has hair at the back of his head. What would you think about a man who would bounce off the moment he sees the small breasts under the pads? Personally I would think of him more highly than had he stayed. Have you used pads before, if I may ask? Yes. I use them stra…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 07:41 AM
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Yes. Specifically, I find 1, 2 and 3 to be things any responsible parent would do for their child of either gender. 4 and 5 are more controversial but if my son/daughter was short/ugly I'd do it for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 07:39 AM
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That depends on how he looks without it. I don't find bald men attractive on average, but some men can pull it off or even make it look good. If it's the first scenario, I'd prolly find an excuse and bounce. If it's the second, I'd gladly stay. Are you bald/balding OP, if I may ask?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 07:22 AM
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The first part I would find weird, since the pads will be coming off during sex so he will be exposed to the feature he doesn't like. The second part I wouldn't think something of.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 07:15 AM
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I’ve encountered a lot of comments where women say they don’t particularly consider bald men unattractive, but rather balding men and men who have insecurities about it and who hide it with a hat or toupees or even hair transplants. I consider bald men unattractive. If it's an ons I wouldn't mind a toupee, especially if he looks better with it on. For a relationship I wouldn't care about hair transplants either as long as they worked, since he's now not bald lol. would you consider women who wea…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 07:07 AM
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Did you read the part where she was the one to leave or did you just skim over that? Or maybe it's just classic AF/BB. You'd think he'd have to work something other than retail for it to be BB, unless now bucking isn't required for someone to be a BB lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 07:50 AM
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It's because women mask better. I was diagnosed with autism at 18 and bullied over my social skills (or lack thereof) throughout junior high school. Fast forward to 23, even my psychiatrist, a trained professional, couldn't tell I had autism till I felt comfortable enough dropping my mask around him. Men just aren't forced to learn to mask as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 09:55 AM
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I'd be crushing that shit ngl
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 08:08 AM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 08:36 PM
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I swear to god most ppd men are far more misandristic than the most radical radfem could aspire to be
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 08:31 PM
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cHanCe - with you more like she misses the bullet 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 03:24 PM
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If he wants 50/50 then he's getting 50/50.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 04:11 PM
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I'm all for 50/50 provided that both partners also provide equally in the house and in childrearing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 09:54 AM
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As a rp man, how come you don't share the same mindset?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:03 AM
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Interestingly enough, one of the main reasons I don't shave is that I sweat a lot less with my armpit hair on. Hair has the only drawback that it amplifies smell but I shower daily anyway so I don't care about that. I get to sweat less and smell better when I keep to my showering routine.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 04:14 PM
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That's all very interesting, thank you for sharing. And congratulations on battling your ed.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 04:11 PM
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Is this a belief you've always/long time held or is it a recent belief?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 04:05 PM
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I completely agree with you. How old are you if you don't mind me asking?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 04:01 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 03:49 PM
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Not at all. I don't even bother shaving my pits or legs even in the summer. And I don't really care about looking "feminine" next to my partner either. My bf is very masculine looking but back when I was single I would also entertain femboys.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 12:51 PM
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A man of applaudable commitment
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 09:12 AM
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What if she doesn't eat your ass back?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 08:52 AM
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Your girlfriend was just a sub. For me as a switch if a man acted all dominant it would be a turn off and I'd become less "feminine" and "submissive" in the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 02:21 PM
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^ This. OP dated a submissive woman who (shocker) enjoyed him being dominant in bed and started liking him more for it and now he thinks all women are submissive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 02:18 PM
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Not me. I'm a radfem who loves the idea of equality and being a boss girl and I'm also a boss girl in the bed. Cope harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 11:31 AM
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😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 09:10 AM
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I respectfully disagree. Now you can make the point that sexual attraction is also highly influenced by societal standards to which I would not disagree (for example fat people being the beauty standard some centuries ago or asian men being considered "less masculine" nowadays), so someone could potentially work towards changing their attraction if they feel it's indeee due to social influence but it often isn't, some people are just attracted to what they're attracted sexually with no other rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 09:09 AM
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That's different. A friend of mine had a friend who would regularly fuck men from a common ethnic minority in my county but never openly date them (they are no longer friends). Now that would account as racist, as it points to her viewing them as sexually attractive but not dateable for presumably racist reasons. However not finding someone sexually attractive in the first place (so not fucking people of a race) isn't racist because attraction often can't be helped. Is not fucking fat men/women …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 09:00 AM
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Not fucking people of other races doesn't make you racist 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 08:49 AM
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Are you interested in my experience given that I'm 23 or you're specifically interested in women in their 30s? To answer your question specifically, I have one friend in her 30s. A few years ago she used to be in a relationship (so monogamous) which broke up badly. She then had rebound sex with 2-3 men over the course of a year. She's now been voluntarily celibate (sexually and romantically) for over a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 07:59 AM
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Jokes on you, I have bpd and there is no thing such as "too available" for me rofl
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 08:59 PM
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Unrelated to your post kinda, but if you feel confortable sharing what kind of mental illnesses do you have? I have bpd, bipolar and adhd and I've been happily partnered up for a year now (granted, I'm in therapy and I take mood stabilisers), so if you have something similar to me I'd be glad to offer some pointers that personally helped me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 09:53 AM
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being sexually dominant. I'm a switch and I could never settle down with a man who's not a switch as well. being conservative. I don't know if this belongs here but since most guys lean conservative I'm inclined to include it. I'm super left leaning so disagreeing over politics/social stuff is also something that disqualifies a guy from being anything other than casual sex. My other icks are not gendered but if I come up with anything else I'll edit my comment to include it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 04:20 PM
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Interesting. So how do you go about implementing rp theory in your own life? And also, are you a socialist, a communist, an anarchist, or?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 10:05 AM
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I'm a woman who's 23 and I heavily criticize older men being with younger women. Is it jealousy when I myself am younger? No, it's recognising possibly predatory behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 09:12 AM
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I see you identify as left wing. Which rp beliefs do you hold the most?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 05:38 PM
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I checked OP's profile and as far as I scrolled down she doesn't even have pictures of herself, where did this "4/10" garbage even come from from a man who conveniently also doesn't have pictures of himself posted lmao. Also she's partnered up with a fairly attractive for his 30s man according to her profile so hardly a "femcel". I rate this roast attempt 2/10 being generous.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 09:43 AM
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It's because rpers want us partnered up with older men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:59 AM
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Can't believe I had to scroll so far down to find this
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 09:16 AM
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Fr, in some years it'll be normal for men to wear makeup and actually take care of their appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 11:15 AM
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Could be antidepressants
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 11:07 AM
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TIL I'm apparently a man
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 08:43 PM
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How is it pumped and dumped when the woman is into hook ups herself and doesn't want anything more from the guy when the sex is finished rofl
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 08:32 PM
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I answered the quiz as my boyfriend and got bars and nightclubs. We met on tinder rofl
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 06:17 PM
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Because he's delulu on top of being bitter and an incel
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 03:02 PM
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Where do you find them even rofl
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 10:01 AM
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That's so stupid. I had a former friend who would cheat, get asked for commitment by men she cheated with, say no and return to her boyfriend. And I've seen guys leave their gfs for their "sport fucks"
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 08:32 AM
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Not as rare as rpers claim. But let's say it happens nonetheless, does it make it better?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 06:23 PM
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What about if she's asked for commitment by the cHaD and doesn't give it to him, does this make it any better for you rofl
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 08:42 AM
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if age gaps weren't a problem you wouldn't see fathers and brothers so pissed when their daughter/sister brings home someone much olde They are obviously closeted gays/bis craving the older dick and being bitter about the daughter/sister getting to enjoy such a rare and valuable thing
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 02:08 PM
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I am 23 and shaming older men in relationships with women half their age is my hobby, try more with your oLd wOmEn BiTteR
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 01:46 PM
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A woman would get called a slut for wanting to practice non monogamy. And yeah it's not a normal standard but it's not hypocritical/immoral. If his standard was "I want to practice polyamory with a monogamous to me woman" then he'd catch some heat, yeah. But as long as it's symmetrical I don't see an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 12:08 PM
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Wow. A non unhinged PPD user. I don't believe it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 12:06 PM
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Men get validation from sex because they think women aren't horny and they are doing it for them so it must mean they are special. If they realise the woman just has a really high sex drive and that she has sex with other men easily too then that validation goes away. Girl wants me to come over, bang and then leave? Can't say that would make me feel like a loser. In fact that's pretty ideal especially when I'm too busy. Unless you're crushing on said girl and want a relationship with her but she…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 12:06 PM
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Who has ever shamed you for having these standards? They are among the most normal standards
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 11:43 AM
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They're more likely to mistake sex for meaningful attention is all. Spot on
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 08:26 AM
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I used to be a full blown out misandrist and I still racked up bodies, there isn't much of a correlation there. Pick me's are more likely to be low n count cuz they care more about male opinions (which are usually against having a high bc).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 05:55 PM
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Nice shirt
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 12:28 PM
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It's not ad hominem cuz I'm not debating with you, I'm insulting you. Apparently you're not that blessed in the brains department.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 05:05 PM
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Men who have sex with women they aren't attracted too are pathetic and a minority, not to mention lacking empathy. If the majority of men would rather have sex with anything over masturbation then incels and red pillers would just fuck each other and shut up but they don't. Most men have enough self respect to not to have low quality sex so I don't see what this has to do with the conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 01:55 PM
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Or else they deserve being cheated on? If the guy was so out of their league he wouldn't need to cheat, he could straight up say he is seeing others. But no, he lies cuz he knows he'll be dumped otherwise. Sounds like he's the one going for women out of his league.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 01:26 PM
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If the women knew he was seeing others then that guy wasn't a cheater.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 12:25 PM
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Too many assumptions. Most cheaters are not all these things. You never knew one/had one in your circle? Also they wouldn't wanna date him if they knew he's a cheater, so I don't see why what they do not knowing that matters
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 12:17 PM
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But those women would not answer that they are in a committed relationship with the guy. Why not? Especially if they're not aware of other women he's seeing. If the women are not aware he's seeing others then the reason for males reporting being single is because they are more likely to be cheaters, not because women "share men". But of course you'll never see men being held accountable in this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 12:10 PM
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I’m in my early thirties and have some experience with dating women. After joining this and similar subreddits my thoughts on women and relationships has changed drastically. I’m not sure if I even ever want to enter a relationship tbh. Sometimes when I talk to my irl friends who have no idea about these subreddits or conversations I get kinda jealous. What thoughts did you have that changed?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 08:45 AM
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Not really, most women my age want men around our age. I only know one who doesn't
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 02:19 PM
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Αs a woman I can confirm PPD and lurking in RP spaces has boosted my ego so you're not entirely wrong lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 07:45 AM
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23
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 06:51 AM
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Yeah, and I'm also wondering why they don't find men our age attractive enough. I feel like there are always underlying issues. There's a difference between dating a 30+ guy once and only dating so much older and saying young men are unattractive though.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 06:21 AM
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I only know one woman irl in a ag relationship and her reasoning was she wanted someone to explain the world to her. Both she and her boyfriend are into astrology, numerology, and everything weird, and he's the one who introduced her to them to "explain" her the world. Either that or daddy issues so I can see why it'd be a red flag
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 06:19 AM
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I am the younger women and I take pity on my fellow young women in relationships with 30+ men
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 06:17 AM
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So, second guy will also be a chad if OP's friend "lets" him have kids with her as well, right? And if they break up her next boyfriend will be the Simp TM
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 05:38 AM
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A man nutting in an ovulating pussy twice and then breaking up/being broken up with the owner of said pussy doesn't mean he reached chadment though
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 05:31 AM
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How do you know he's not providing for his kids? How do you know he's not paying child support? And why would being a deadbeat make him a chad? Is being a shit person who doesn't care for your offspring a requirement for chadment? If so why do men want to be chads? I am a woman but if I had children I'd take care of them, whether I wanted them or not. Also nowhere in the text it's mentioned that the stepdaddy is paying for baby daddy's kids' needs so I don't know where all those assumptions on t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 05:22 AM
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So if she has kids with this man and then they break up he'll be a chad too? Does a man being a baby daddy automatically make him a chad? If so why according to this post single dads struggle in dating? https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/15xao0v/are_single_fathers_attractive_to_women/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=2
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 05:06 AM
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We both like chilling at home so we'd be fine
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 11:50 AM
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Having no compassion for their dating troubles =/= hating them. Suggesting single dads should date single moms is far from hateful either and it's usually what single dads end up doing anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 04:28 PM
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What I meant is she'll enjoy the company, not merely put up with it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 01:35 PM
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An autistic gf won't put up with your shit cuz it's not shit to her, autistic people tend to pair up well with each other and usually prefer it over dating neurotypicals
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 01:32 PM
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I am physically attractive and at least mildly autistic and I very much prefer that over being unattractive + nt. Having good looks gives you opportunities to improve your social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 10:35 AM
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Physical attraction can only take you so far if your social skills are awful. I used to date a (highly) autistic, super good looking guy who was looking for a gf. It did not work out eventually cuz it was too tiresome after a while (although he was , again, really high up on the spectrum). He's still single afaik. Being good looking grants you tons of opportunities but to nail those opportunities you need to practice your social skills as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 10:32 AM
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I do understand, but it still gives me the ick
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 01:51 PM
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Same. I've gone on plenty of dates with 5'5 men and used to have a 5'6 bf (I'm 5'5) but when a 5'5 man says he's 5'10 it always cringes me out to the point I wouldn't pursue a second date
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 01:38 PM
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So you'd fuck a woman you find physically unappealing if she was a good girl who wouldn't cause you troubles? Good for you but I think being single is better. And I've also never seen a man do that unless he feels it's time to "settle", so no, I wouldn't say women are more "shallow" in this regard.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 09:13 AM
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He doesn't have to be "hot and good looking" in some generic conventional sense, he needs to be "hot and good looking" to her. I thought that was implied which is why I didn't clarify rofl Ok, if I had the option between a shitty 6' blue eyed and blond rich giga chad with a gymbro body and a man who's my type no matter if a random RP dude says he's a 5 cuz he's not super tall/rich/whatever then I'm choosing the 5. But if someone is a 5 to me then he's not my type so I'm not choosing him. My 9 lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 09:11 AM
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Do women get turned off if a guy tells them how he regretted some of the women he hooked up with? Depends on the reasons he regrets it If women like a guy who has had sexual experience, does it matter so much to her whether it was really good experience, or whether he could take it or leave it, in his own opinion? Yes it does, a selective man with a bc of 1 or even zero is much more attractive than a desperate man with a bc of 50 However I don't see how/why this would come up in a convo, I've ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 07:12 PM
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Most men in my generation perform oral during hook ups and are open to the use of toys in my experience so the clit gets attention. But many women prefer vaginal stimulation (me among them) so it's not that mind-boggling to me his ex seeked out hook ups, whatever she was into
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 06:10 PM
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8 months. It wasn't much of a struggle cuz I was super depressed. However when I'm in a more normal mood more than a month is awful, I used to masturbate 6+ times a day sometimes. It's one of the main reasons why I love being in a fwb arrangement/relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 06:04 PM
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Why are you in a Q4W post if you believe women to be liars?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 05:03 PM
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Did the knowledge that sex requires physical attraction and being turned on shock you? Apologies.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 05:01 PM
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Looks fade with time, personality while the spark might not be as sparkly they will still be themselves over the course of years! Because I can't bring myself to have sex with someone who I'm not physically attracted to. I used to be in a relationship with a woman (I'm straight) and the sex traumatised me. I assume having sex with a man I perceive as not attractive would be very similar in regards to how I'd feel throughout and afterwards, to the point where it would be more damaging than someon…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 04:04 PM
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Is there even a single woman here who would chose that kind of guy over the one who is protective, kind, makes you feel safe, and feel comfortable. Like let’s say they were twins just different personalities. I personally would chose the guy who makes me feel safe. Is there any women who agree with him and want to feel unsafe? I'm choosing the kind guy Going to even extreme examples if I had to chose between a 9/10 who made me feel unsafe and a 5/10 who made me feel safe and like I can be vulner…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 03:42 PM
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How do they get companionship as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 10:51 AM
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Fair enough
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 02:56 PM
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If everyone who doesn't care about their first is then yes I suppose
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 02:55 PM
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Women love to trot this one out anytime female promiscuity is mentioned. Trot what out? That people are more forgiving of flaws/perceived flaws when the person is hot? I guarantee you most men even if contemptuous of prostitution in general would gladly date an OF model/escort if she's hot (which they usually are) and with decent social skills (which they usually have, especially escorts). In my experience the most sexually active women were pillow princesses who put all the expectation to perfo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 02:55 PM
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Careful there, a man cannot get laid unless he's a Chad TM, it is known
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 12:09 PM
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I didn't view my first as special at all, most of my friends didn't either with one or two exceptions
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 11:33 AM
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Many people would prefer a relationship with a hot and sexually skilled person with a crazy sexual past over one with an average looking person with average sex skills and a more acceptable sexual past, which is why you see ex prostitutes or plain ex promiscuous women / ex promiscuous men ending up in relationships with other good looking people with options (as long as they are hot with good social skills of course)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 10:57 AM
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I draw the line at calling johns people
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 08:22 PM
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Tough work but someone's gotta do it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 07:56 PM
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Look into the norwegian system
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 09:31 AM
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Fr. The way men talk here I wonder if they'd abandon their male friends similarly to how they say female non girlfriends should be abandoned.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 09:19 AM
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Most women looksmax to some degree from puberty on, that's inaccurate
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 07:24 AM
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Depends on the type of the woman. I prefer stoners to white collars who seem like their work is their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 11:44 AM
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A man can seem to have easy access to casual sex without being considered a fuckboy. They're two different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 11:36 AM
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Indeed. I've never had sex with a man more than 3 times who did not later ask for exclusivity. The ones who say they don't want it the louder ask sooner.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 11:34 AM
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i remember the other day i went to the gym with some of my friends and while me and my bro went to go do our ppl, the women were getting approached by guys pretty much every 5 mins Thank god there was a female only gym close enough to where I live so that I don't have to endure this while I'm working out.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 08:50 AM
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What's your husband's body count, if I may ask?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 10:06 AM
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Meaning?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 03:57 PM
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Yeah I know. At the moment I was too shocked to react as it had never happened before - worst I was expecting was the usual that every pornsick dick will attempt. Now I would probably have a much more appropriate reaction. Only good thing about pricks is they give you experience and practice.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 10:00 PM
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A guy I hooked up with punched me in the head during sex as "play". I had to repeatedly ask him to stop. A friend of mine got slapped so hard her head rang. That's not to mention countless instances of choking, spanking, etc. All of the above were not discussed before the fact or even indicated, so yes, I'd count them as physical threats. As to your other comments claiming these guys "look dangerous" the guy who punched me seemed like a very nerdy, beta, loser type of guy and not "dangerous" as …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 09:48 PM
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The social consequences yes. The socioeconomic/survival ones are smaller due to women entering the workforce, although it could be argued that's also due to feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 04:19 PM
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Women have always wanted casual sex, they just couldn't have it without extremely severe consequences. Now the consequences are much smaller so some women will act on the desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 04:14 PM
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Yet when women do the same and have fun with hot unstable guys and then settle down with more inhibited inexperienced guys who are stable and kind it's called betabuxxing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 04:51 PM
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I hope you're also really good at oral including eating ass and that you're also open to pegging You sound pretty embarrassing to be seen in public with so your partner would have to be better than you in this regard at the very least Male hypergamy at its finest
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 04:50 PM
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Agreed. According to RP guys all men are the same but almost every man I've seriously dated was the opposite of a "chad" in everything other than looks. Usually the resentful, manipulative guys are a) ugly or b) grew up ugly, had a glow up, stayed resentful. Guys who've always been hot don't act trashy, most of my exes were nice towards women and people in general and did not act shitty rofl
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 09:45 PM
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She's complaining about being broke and friendless, she's not complaining about being ugly. Was she supposed to take a bad picture on purpose so that she'd be roasted on her looks as well when that doesn't apply?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 11:09 AM
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It wasn't a mistake if it worked as intended, which was filtering promiscuous men with double standards out. And yes, I don't have no issue at all with lying if it rids me of low value male vermin.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 09:52 AM
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When I was a virgin/low count I used to lie about it and claim I had a much higher one to avoid guys like this
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 04:52 AM
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A) many women put dildos or other things in their vagina when masturbating, it's just more convenient to rub your clit cuz you don't even have to remove your clothes and there's no clean up cuz there's less fluids flying around, plus no need to clean a dildo up afterwards. B) something not making you orgasm on its own doesn't mean it's not pleasurable lol, I'd hate having sex without PiV orgasm or no orgasm cuz PiV feels very good even if I don't finish from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 01:21 PM
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So what you're saying is the average straight woman would opt for a rich lesbian partner if she had said choice over a less rich male partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 12:59 PM
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... You do know that women buy dildos for masturbation and that lesbian couples often use strap ons, right..? You also know women can have hook ups with men whose name they often don't know? The fact that porn stars who are usually just getting raped on camera after being trafficked or drugged up don't enjoy it doesn't mean that a woman who has sex cuz she's horny and not because she's forced into it out of risk of starvation doesn't enjoy it rofl
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 12:57 PM
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I don't have a point to making, this is mostly curiosity. Edit: let me give you an example. There's a girl at work right now that's been "flirting" with me. I know all she likes about sex, I also know that she's also speaking about different men (including one that I know, she's not aware). Solid example. But often times you'll meet women outside of your social circle (ie work/friends), for example through OLD, in a hobby thing like a hiking group you join or a class, at a cafeteria you happen t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 04:44 PM
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Unless you have very overlapping social circles, how would your friends know anything at all about her sexual past unless she flaunts it herself? And at what world would her friends discuss their friend's sex life with you? Do your friends hang out with your potential gf without you and talk to her about your sex life before her? I've never met a good girl or even a "good girl" who was resentful of men. I suppose that depends mostly on your own definition of the phrase. But every girl I speak to…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 02:09 PM
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I simply get the information one way or another and decide who I want to date and who I don't. What does one way or another refer to?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 12:59 PM
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I think looking into attachment theory (if you haven't already) could be quite helpful to you. Most people with bipolar (or any mood disorder in general) tend to fall in the insecure attachment styles category and they usually are not even aware of things they do that are basically red flags to people with a healthier attachment style.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 09:41 AM
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I struggled with that as well. According to my psychiatrist I may also have bipolar or something similar so while I'm a woman we may have some common issues (I'm unmedicated btw but I do drink a lot). One of the things I'd do that I believe disqualified me in the eyes of more mentally healthy men was giving them tons of attention one day and zero the other. Now I'm trying to be more reserved if I like the guy (especially if I like the guy) and once he starts "asking" for more attention/affection…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 09:34 AM
1

Totally unrelated to your post but what combat sport do you practice if you don't mind me asking?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 09:27 AM
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Hmmm. I honestly can't remember the last time I got hit on in a way I enjoyed. I prefer approaching men myself as it feels more comfortable. On first dates I don't like men "hitting on" me as in giving out compliments or making suggestions etc. I much prefer them having an open body language, looking at me in a way that expresses interest in me and that they like how I look, having a nice chat, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 09:20 AM
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Yes, this works, but I'd much rather be with someone who doesn't require me having to act shitty and who'll respond to my words. Being forced to act shitty to make him act less shitty sounds like a huge chore unless you're shitty yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 08:30 AM
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I'd argue more than half women on the street also look below average to men, especially if they're not wearing any makeup (light makeup still counts as makeup) and they haven't done their hair, nails etc
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 06:10 PM
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Well yeah. But there are unattractive men who don't end up resentful and mean. It's just that those who are resentful and mean are usually below average. Attractive guys who are mean appear much shittier than ugly guys who are mean cuz the ugly guy has a "justification" at least, but they're also not that common, in my experience
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 05:39 PM
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Fr, men here love to act like hot guys are all shit but the meanest men I see are usually ugly or at least below average. A man that's hot doesn't need to "take you down a peg" to think he has a chance nor does he feel the need to act distant and play games if he's into you
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 04:04 PM
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Baby trapping would be her lying about being on birth control or one of them tampering with condoms. Since they're into creampies presumably they've talked over their views on abortion etc, she's not babytrapping him more than he's babytrapping her unless he didn't learn cumming in a vagina can lead to a pregnancy in med school lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 06:30 PM
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Oh, I thought you were referring to chest hairlessness specifically. Well a guy I was with for 5 months had a hairiness pattern very similar to the one you're describing, never bothered me. I don't think it's something I'd notice in general, most guys have leg and arm hair but many don't have chest/back hair. It's not rare/weird. I never took notice, personally. Also many guys who are hairy all over will only remove chest/back hair, which makes the pattern even more common even if it's not "natu…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 10:02 PM
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Lots of women into that tho lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 09:24 PM
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By low bf dude with biggish muscles I mean something like this https://www.google.com/search?q=skinny+fit+guy&client=ms-android-samsung-gs-rev1&prmd=ivsn&sxsrf=APwXEdfPRmz6B-HZ0vcCbeFOb_3HwIQ65A:1685208997036&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwif0Y_dhJb_AhXJRvEDHSEYA7cQ_AUoAXoECAIQAQ&biw=412&bih=770&dpr=3.5#imgrc=tDcAjhalLAePGM, not like peak Arnold Schwarzenegger. I agree face is important but imo a fit guy or a guy with a body I like in general and an average face > a fat guy or a guy whose …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 05:46 PM
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I've been with some men with very hairless bodies. Most were when I was 16-20 and they were my age so it makes sense they didn't have as much body hair, but I remember when I was 21 I was dating a 19 year old guy who had skin like glass, he only had hair on his armpits and genitals and even that was less hair than I have (and I'm already considered less hairy than average, in my country at least). I've also been with an asian guy who had even less hair than the aforementioned boyfriend. I don't …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 05:28 PM
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Most physical characteristics are not objectively attractive/unattractive and are judged differently in different societies. Today low bf men with biggish muscles and waxed bodies are considered the cream of the crop, a few decades ago the construction worker build with chest hair was considered the most attractive, some more time ago being fat was considered peak attractiveness. That applies to most physical characteristics, only stuff that I'd call more universally valued is having good skin, …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 05:01 PM
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I used to only be into skinny dudes (whether skinny with a tummy and some squish/skinny fit) and I only liked men with naturally hairless bodies. Now I enjoy more bodytypes so I'm not really into them only but I still like them well enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 04:56 PM
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Yeah, I don't disagree. In fact if you read my comment that's exactly what I'm saying. The more naturally "fitted" you are to your social role and the less you have to try, the happier you'll be. If you have to consciously try, the more you'll expect and the less happy you'll be, especially when you're not "rewarded" as you "should" be.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 03:11 PM
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I'm not even a diagnosed autistic person but this really describes my experience. Whatever I've done to attract men whether that was completely changing my clothes or learning to wear makeup or removing body hair or behaving in a more traditionally feminine way always felt like a huge chore that I ought be "rewarded" for. So when you're not "rewarded" it really stings.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 02:55 PM
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Wow. The most normal post I've seen in PPD thus far as my memory serves me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 02:51 PM
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Fr. I don't mind men my height as long as they're honest/don't mention it. If I went out with someone my height or a bit taller/shorter who claimed to be 5'11-6'whatever I'd be bummed out even if they've otherwise fitted the bill cuz it shows they're insecure. I understand being insecure over height as a guy given how much shit guys get over being short (which is bad and should be discouraged) but in that case simply don't mention it unless asked, don't write "6'1" on your profile when you're 5'…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 02:45 PM
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I don't know how relevant they are to your post. I'm currently mainly testing waiting more till I initiate sex with men I really like and the rest of the stuff is purely on how I'm behaving. Even my hypothesis on waiting more for men I like is something I want to do but haven't done yet cuz I've yet to meet a guy that gives me the tingles so the 4 men I've slept with in 2023 did not fit the bill lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 02:01 PM
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I cannot say for certain. My first boyfriend was very affectionate and caring towards me while we were still fwbs, which was something I needed at the time. He was pressuring me to become a couple which I was very afraid of. In the end I said yes and once I "gave" him that he slowly drew away emotionally and sexually. That was over the span of a year. With other fwbs I didn't notice the same emotional withdrawing (I stopped having the same emotional needs as well as I got a bit better psychologi…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 01:55 PM
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I ask this question because a lot of women and a few men advocate hard for romantic relationships and often pair that with holding off sex until exclusivity. Many claim that men, like myself, who want sex before are just schemers, no serious or just immature. I would not call myself any of those things. Ugh. It's tricky. You're not wrong in wanting to test sexual compatibility before jumping into a relationship with someone you think you're attracted to, but many people, especially men, will fak…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 01:42 PM
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I think you replied to the wrong conment But ye I agree with you, most men my height/2-3 inch taller than me claim they're anywhere between 5'8-6'4 (I'm 5'5)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 12:12 PM
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If you're not above 5'7 yourself you can't usually tell the difference between a 5'11 and a 6'1 guy unless you make them stand right next to each other and observe them lol. I can't see a 5'7 woman ending up with a 5'11 man as a tragedy or something she'd ever care about. Thing is most men who are 5'6, in my country at least, will self identify as being 5'11, which skews women's view on what a 5'11 man actually looks like. A 5'7 woman ending up with a 5'6 (even if he insists he's 5'11) man would…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 12:03 PM
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I'm referring to OP's premise, not mine. He's the one who specifically refers to "hot and social" women, implying women of a (well) above average SMV. In my own opinion a woman that's indeed hot and social wouldn't even need to lower her standards, but I don't count being an 8 who's dating a 7 "lowering your standards" if you like them, if nothing else being an 8 who's dating a 9 you don't like fits more in the description lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 11:37 AM
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The post refers to hot & social woman. If we take hot to mean above average (aka a woman who's a 7), lowering her standards would be pairing up with a 6-8 man instead of the 9-10 man she's fantasising about, if you take the hypergamy theory seriously (personally I don't). But someone that's a 7-8 isn't really that different to someone who's a 9-10 unless you really nitpick, so I fail to see how that's "horrible" or something that would make you "miserable" as long as you honestly like the person…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 11:27 AM
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Most of the things I find great can be replicated, most guys just don't care to do that. If a guy is into them he will replicate them, if he's into me enough he'll at least try them once and he may find out he likes them. If he doesn't like some of them that's fine by me but I want him to at least try and if I like him enough otherwise it won't be a dealbreaker if he doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 09:56 AM
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Average guy in my country would be around 5'6-5'7 height, dark hair and eyes. Skinny fat build and facial features of average attractiveness, maybe some facial hair. Average dick size maybe around 15 cm.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 09:49 AM
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The only part you agree with me is the part where I say things a woman wants to hear. Interesting how it works. Well, many men who slut shamed other women to me have also told me how they wished they were a woman and how much sex they'd have. 2 ex fuck buddies of mine would like to be (female) sugar babies (they didn't word it like that, but that was the gist of it). Another said if he were a woman he'd fuck 5 different guys a day and then ghost them till he was 30 and then he'd marry a crazy ri…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 09:32 AM
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A woman who sleeps around a lot already can carry STD. Most people who sleep around consciously (that is, not to get in a relationship but because they're after the sex itself) are very meticulous with protection and usually get tested regularly. A woman who's slept with 5 guys who she wanted a relationship with/she was in a relationship with, is more likely to have skipped protection and less likely to get tested than a woman who's slept with 50 men strictly casually. Imo the first woman is mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 08:12 AM
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Sorry, what does lease mean? Also in the case where the guy is the one still living with his folks, is his practically moving in at your place equally indicative of interest?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 08:23 PM
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What would a good time frame to move in together be, if you meet someone and start dating them now say?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 08:16 PM
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I don’t think kinobody is a 10 at all. He’s not tall, and he’s not that handsome He's not my type as a straight woman but if we're being objective he's a 10/10 easy. 10/10 doesn't mean you look like a supermodel (which he does, height aside), it simply means you're in the top 10% looks wise. Go outside and have a look at the guys walking around, kinobody is easily a 10/10 by comparison. RPs always complain looksmaxxing can only take you so far but given how little the average man takes care of h…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 02:22 PM
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The 80/20 thing isnt real. Very very average looking men use women for casual sex all the time, in fact Ive met ones I personally find ugly that do. "use" implies the women being interested in something more with the man and him basically dangling that in front of their face and then offering them only the sex part. Other than that I agree, I've had tons of casual sexual encounters and most of the guys were very average both in terms of looks and personality. I only really liked 5 of them (who w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 10:16 AM
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wanting to do something to a partner doesn't mean you have to also want the opposite While in general I agree, I think you should still be open to try that at least once so that you know how what you're doing feels. For example I really like pegging and I also really like anal, but even if I didn't like anal say I'd still be open to trying that once so I know how it is. Same applies for most stuff, I've practiced choking on myself and I've had other people do it to me so that I know what feels l…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 10:37 AM
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The amount of guys who got upset after I didn't let them choke me while we were having casual sex is staggering. It's crazy to me how normalised choking has become. Just pornsick dudes who think borderline physically assaulting women during sex is standard procedure. Funnily enough few of them are interested in getting choked/slapped/manhandled/spanked/any of the other things they want to do to you and even act shocked when you bring that in. If you can't take it don't dish it out
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 10:19 AM
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If this is a good faith comment, I'd recommend you check Maddison Callaway's content on tiktok. She's an ex pornstar who talks about the industry and what it's like being inside it. She talks a lot about porn contracts and how they work, as well as how filming is made.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 10:12 AM
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Why are you approaching women who you deem to be with an appearance deficit? Or you mean you're not approaching them thus you're not an asshole to them? Also how can you avoid hurting other people's self esteem when you act like an asshole, when these people are interested in you especially?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 12:28 PM
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I'm 23, the youngest guy I've dated thus far was when I was 21 and he was 19. I would not mind dating a 20 year old or even a 19 year old, the latter in the very slim chance we'd be a good fit seeing that we're in different life stages.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 07:08 PM
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I personally agree that fwb is not really that casual, I'm just stating what most people here define ae casual and how the term is used/understood
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 04:47 PM
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Do you have the same energy for him receiving oral without a condom on?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 04:45 PM
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Most people here define casual sex as sex outside of a romantic relationship, fwb is as casual to them as an ons or a fb situation
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 04:06 PM
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I don't value different attributes when looking for a relationship, I just have more attributes that I look for. Man A: decently sexually attractive to me, without an unpleasant personality -> ONS/FB depending on how fun our time together is, how's the sex, how sexually attractive and interesting I consider him, if he satisfies the above I'll see him again for at least a few more times Man B: very sexually attractive and very good looking to me, very pleasant and interesting personality, we have…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 03:57 PM
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While it's true that most bisexuals end up in straight relationships that could be attributed to a) there being more straight people, so if you're more attracted to both sexes it's simply easier to find someone of the opposite sex and b) people gaining more social status from straight relationships A woman in a relationship with a man will be more respected and seen as more socially accomplished than one with a man, all other things being equal. And that's not mentioning homophobia/internalised …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 12:46 PM
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If he has good teeth hair and skin and is under 24 send him my way sis
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 12:34 PM
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Agreed. Dating apps and online dating in general are very good for more introverted people or just people who are not that social in general. You can play video games all day and never go out and find someone who's also into that sort of lifestyle without basically forcing yourself to hang out outside just to maybe meet someone when you don't wanna do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 05:09 AM
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For casual I don't mind "sleeping down", as rpers call it, it doesn't make much of a difference to me. I can see a guy as less attractive than me or a guy as attractive as/more attractive than me but not my type (so to me he's still less attractive) and I'm fine with casual. If I meet a guy I really like, which usually means he's my type looks wise and he'll turn my head and then he'll also have a compatible personality, I don't want casual, I want to have him all to myself and I want him for th…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 05:10 PM
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2.)Pumping and dumping often times occurs because the sex is trash and the guy doesn’t want to revisit it again. If you give a dude the best head he’s ever had he’s not gonna be like “yeah I totally don’t want that again” lol Tbh I believe how much you like the other person is an important factor as well. If bad head is a dealbreaker (which is something that can be improved as well, unlike facial features for example) then that means the guy wasn't really into the woman to begin with, only diffe…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 04:56 PM
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What you're suggesting doesn't even make sense. Why would I go out with, spend time, affection and money on a guy I deem as less attractive? For starters you need a spark to really want to get in a relationship with someone unless you're desperate for a relationship in general - you don't need a spark to get your pussy licked and ride someone's dick because that's something purely physical. A relationship is an emotional ordeal, it requires much more. I won't say I have to be "in love" to get in…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 04:07 PM
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A man needs to be more attractive for a woman to commit to him unless said women is very insecure in her chances of getting a better looking boyfriend, or she has issues that could include wanting to feel better than her partner. A 5/10 man can easily hook up one or two times with an above average girl but he's unlikely to get a relationship out of that. Hook up guys simply need to reach a certain physical attractiveness threshold and not have a very unpleasant personality. Boyfriend material gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 03:58 PM
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Why do you say sexualize and not objectify?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 04:18 PM
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Why do you say sexualize and not objectify?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 04:18 PM
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Do men who work out to get a really low body fat and big muscles (which is not healthy), dress in clothing that accentuates their fit body and thick sneakers to appear taller and apply wax/gel on their hair also objectify themselves then? Women apply makeup and dress in certain ways to fit the beauty standards for women, which require wearing makeup and dressing in certain ways among other things. Many men also go to great lengths to fit the respective male beauty standards but it's not consider…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 04:01 PM
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Sometimes the guy doesn't give a shit about you and just want to crush his mental barriers and fear of approach/rejection. Wow, this makes cold approaching sound like something women should respond better to then, why didn't you say so from the start /s
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 12:08 PM
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Much better, in my opinion. The current dating market is a result of relatively fast socioecomic changes in the past decades. Women do paid work outside of the house almost as much as men, disparities in financial differences of single men/women will diminish even further. Men struggle with dating because in the past (and that often includes just the past generation aka the generation of our parents) all that a man had to do to get a woman was have a job and not be physically deformed or have a …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 11:49 AM
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Women care about a partner's morals when it's a long term prospect as much as men. Men will also often have casual flings with women that are liars, manipulators, drug (ab)users, rude, with anger issues or other asshole traits, but will prefer a woman that's kind and genuinely caring for a ltr even if she's less conventionally good looking. Yet no man will say he prefers asshole women just cuz he doesn't care about that in a casual context (and no sane person would believe that), whereas women's…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 11:29 AM
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Isn't that the case for men as well though? They will have casual fun with women who are rude, manipulative, have anger management issues, etc, but for a ltr they'll usually prefer a woman who's kind and genuinely nice even if she's less good looking. But you'll never hear a man say he prefers asshole women just because he's okay with something casual with them as long as they're hot - why would a woman say she prefers asshole men because she's done something casual with some?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 11:23 AM
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In a partner and in people I choose to associate myself with I don't seek general objective morality but it's important that we share the same values. I don't mind a partner that drinks, shoplifts, smokes or smokes weed, swears, scams companies, sleeps around or other things I don't consider to be bad personally and I also do/have done. But I care about his views on politics and social issues (in this case it's a watch what they do not what they say approach), I'd never date a man who I know has…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 11:01 AM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 09:47 AM
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I enjoy it a lot. I'm a switch and it's one of my favourite things to do/have done on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 11:58 AM
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But they are usually very tall (she has no tolerance for non tall men), thin and look like they’re never step foot in a gym in their lives, alwys us have a full head of hair though, good jobs, posh and preppy, and ultimately look like you could break them in half and if a robber came into the home you would be defending them and if a spider was around they would scream like a girl 😂that kind of a guy..but she likes that and says she likes men that are “elegant” Hahahah. That's funny cuz till I w…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 10:57 PM
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Idk man. For all this to work the woman would have to have almost no interest at all in you or be very experienced herself in casual and emotionally healthy to at least some degree. If a woman likes you and you act like that she'll get hurt and cause trouble aka drama. That may not translate into her blowing up your phone as you said but it bleeds into other areas as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 10:49 PM
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It’s actually mental because the guys that she takes her time with are IMO the LEAST attractive but they are the ones that she sees “long term potential in”. Are they the least attractive as in short, fat/too skinny, facially challenged, balding, to quote a few things usually listed as least attractive? Do they make more than her? Or are they unattractive in the sense they're shy? Also is she sexually attracted to them? Does she put in more effort in them than the hotter guys? When they break up…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 10:42 PM
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The guys she likes she takes her time with and they think she is an angel. Are these guys hotter to her, ie she needs to restrain herself from initiating sex, or are they what the rpers dub as "boyfriend material"? I'm a woman and the guys I usually "make wait" are the ones who I consider hotter plus more attractive in general. I always find it hard to not have sex with them right off the bat. The guys I have sex quickly with I usually don't care much about and most times are less physically app…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 10:33 PM
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Huh. It seems very weird to me that this helps with avoiding drama. I'm a woman and my experiences in casual are the exact opposite. If she seems relatively independent and cool, go the clingy route. Just imply a future with her a lot. Role play as a couple. That sort of shit. Yeah if she doesn't like you a lot this 100% works. If she seems relatively conservative/feminine, go the player route. Be a douchebag, intimate or hint that you have a lot of options, etc. This is a receipe for drama imo,…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 10:10 PM
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You get good at being able to angle for just a ONS so you don't have crazy chicks blowing up your phone. You get good at managing FBs so they don't blow up your phone. What's your angle for avoiding drama in ons and what's your angle for avoiding drama in fb?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 09:53 PM
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Basically, my philosophy is that the patterns of behaviors we find attractive in the opposite sex have been shaped by millions of years of evolutionary biology and sexual selection. They are fairly uniform across populations and cultures. According to most rpers, revulsion to high n count women is also something biological stemming from evolution and not something social. Do you not subscribe to this specific belief or do you believe you're not "alpha" enough to really secure a low n count woman…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 02:54 PM
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Interesting. Do you subscribe to any pills?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 01:48 PM
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In my opinion nothing's wrong with that, but I'm asking what OP's opinion is based on what he views as acceptable when he's the one dating a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 11:37 AM
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I have experience = refers mostly to past experiences I date (present tense) = refers to the current situation
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 11:20 AM
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I'm 23. I have experience with older men. I only date men 3 years younger or older. But even so I'd be more comfortable dating a 19 yo guy than a 27 yo guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 11:15 AM
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My experience, my friends' experiences, my older friends' experiences, what I see around me. The reasons men themselves give for wanting younger online under the cover of anonymity. In person it's gonna be "oh, she's just so mature for her age!". Online they're more truthful.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 11:09 AM
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Experiences with older men are usually negative and/or damaging. So claiming women are jealous for them seems a bit ironic. You can't even say it's because these men "get taken off the pool" cuz they're very rarely desirable to women of their age as well. There's no profit for them in warning others.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 11:04 AM
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I'd say it's mainly women who've been 19 and have had similar experiences and see them for what they often are.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 09:50 AM
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I disagree a lot with said mindset. If a behaviour leads to you being taken advantage of or feeling as you've been taken advantage of, you should avoid repeating that behaviour, unless you feel safe doing it. This doesn't mean you treat someone "less well" just because you're waiting a bit longer to do something that due to past experiences or even experiences of other people makes you feel vulnerable.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 09:41 AM
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Irrelevant to your point, but about your flair, what do you mean by trans inclusive misogynist?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 06:28 AM
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No, but at the same time, I would keep things very casual and still date other girls. If we haven't had sex yet, we are not together. Even if we did have sex, we are probably not together, but DEFINATELY not before hand... we are like friends who enjoy spending time together once in a while. So you'd stop dating other girls after you've had sex or after you've had sex and you're together?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 06:20 AM
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If I got to the point that I am dating her I already know enough about her past to know if she ever had sex with a man in less time than that. If she did, I would not feel offended. I would just lose interest. If she is not bringing her best to the table she is out. Do you judge interest solely on whether you have sex or not? What if she put effort into dating by suggesting and taking you to new places, offered you emotional support, got you small gifts, brought you baked goods she's made or inv…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 06:15 AM
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A lot of them. Not one of those lessons justify that I treat future partners in a different way from the way I treated previous partners. So if you used to always start dating a woman by wining and dining her but then ended up getting strung along by a few of them now you can't take someone new to a coffee date till you're positive she's into you because she'll "suffer different treatment"? I swear some of you sound so chronically online.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 06:08 AM
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So you're presumably okay with a high body count woman? Assuming that if she has sex with everyone she's liked and dated within 1 month at most some of these attempts did not end up in a LTR either due to her or the other party being uninterested, that would mean her n count would start stacking up, unless she ends up in a LTR after every single dating phase. Or you're in general not ok with that and you'd like her to make an exception strictly for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 05:58 AM
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I would not want to become a man now but I think I'd be better off having been born a man. I was always very athletically inclined but was heavily discouraged from working out cuz I would get bulky and in general discouraged from achieving things I could achieve in that department. Even now while I'd love to put on muscle I know I couldn't do that and still appeal to the majority of men, so being that I'm straight that'd be bad. If I were a guy I could in general do lots of things I do now and t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 10:19 PM
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What are the differences between an "alpha provider" and a "beta bucks"?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 10:04 PM
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Not really. I think unless the guy is like 7" or above the woman will be able to call him small and win the argument. You'd be surprised. I've seen women being called loose for saying a 4" is not their first choice. Was anyone here insulted for that? Here no, and surprisingly I've never seen that on reddit in general. I'm talking mostly about facebook groups and stuff like that, both my country's and international ones. I think this insult doesn't really hold much weight on reddit anyway as redd…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 07:03 PM
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Personally I wouldn't but many women would, I think. Its very easy for them to just turn it around and just say any guy that isn't up to her standards is just small and not man enough Ye, I agree. It's mostly about who insults the other person first in these scenarios, then the other will turn it around. What I'm talking about here is women saying in a public forum they prefer larger (without dick size shaming anyone), who'll still be insulted over voicing that preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 06:46 PM
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Again, liking big dicks is not a view nor a priority. That's like me saying whether a man is gonna be an ass or a boob man depends on his group of friends. Cheating is a lifestyle and an indicator of someone's morals, so that's entirely different. But I'd say cheaters tend to group together and not that if someone in the group cheats then all the non cheaters will suddenly view cheating as something okay to do. Ye, and lots of men don't even talk about sex and their preferences/tastes with their…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 06:42 PM
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Fair enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 06:36 PM
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Usually yeah. I've been with guys whose dicks were average/on the smaller side which I found very arousing, but more often than not that happens with larger dicks. I suppose shape/colouring/balls/size and whatever combinations between them all play a role but I don't know how to put that into specifics. A nice dick is a nice dick and size often plays a role.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 05:15 PM
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That's because most men who say they're 5'11 are actually 5'6-5'7 at most. I've had men I am almost the exact same height (I'm 5'5) tell me they're 5'11-6' tall. Most women's notion of height is skewed from that and they tend to picture 5'11 as much shorter. A man who's actually 5'11 is indeed in the top 20-30% and I highly doubt any woman would reject him over his height unless she's pretty tall herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 04:52 PM
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How would you feel about a woman otherwise checking your other boxes for a LTR if she was positive she doesn't want kids, or at least biological ones?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 04:46 PM
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I agree. The other day there was a q4m thread asking what they qualify as average and there were a few guys posting pics of young, skinny, fit, very facially attractive women that could be models for beauty brands and calling them a 5, or very pretty women with a bit more weight (mostly boobs/hips/butt as well).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 04:44 PM
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So if they're selfish players who lie to sleep around then you must agree that they should be outed to be prevented from doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 02:17 PM
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Getting turned on by a big dick is not a "view", it's a taste. People don't form groups by having similar tastes regarding dick size, unless you assume I found my friends on big dick subreddits. And of course not all women prefer larger. What I said is many women who do actually prefer larger will say they don't or that they don't care so as to virtue signal. After all if a woman says so everyone will say she has a loose pussy or that she's a slut with too high standards whereas if she says she …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 12:26 PM
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Most women prefer larger judging by convos I have with my friends. But most women are also fine with smaller so it's not a dealbreaker per se. But for some reason women online will never say that so as to virtue signal, either that or they're really inexperienced. Even in this thread all the most upvoted comments are women saying they don't care/ they prefer smaller and every woman saying she likes larger has very few upvotes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 11:03 AM
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I don’t really like oral as much and fingering hurts me I'm the exact same. I almost never hurt from PiV but when a guy fingers me it's painful more often than not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 10:58 AM
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I don't know about your whole "alpha female" theory to its whole extent. I also don't really believe "alpha males" are as much of a thing as the rp community makes tnem out to be. What's true is that most women will notice how you treat other women, especially women you're not attracted to. I may have dated guys who were disapproved of by my group of friends, but they were guys who met my own arbitrary standards. When I was 18 the guy I dated (who was the one to leave more of an impact as well) …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 11:29 PM
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The previous pic is not up anymore and I can't remember it well but they both seem equally average to me. Personal taste plays a role to what one considers average but they both look very much like most women I see on the street when going out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 08:03 PM
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That's hardly a 4. She's at least average, unless you consider the average to be skinny women with conventionally pretty faces which would make the actual average woman be at best a 3. I see guys here going on all the time about how women go only for the "top 20%" and that men are "happy with an average woman" but then you go on and describe actually average woman as below average. There was a post some time ago where men were asked to describe what's average and some posted pics of women that l…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 07:45 PM
1

Why would not I be honest on a debate forum. But yes, it's mostly the visual aspect for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 05:54 PM
4

people are jailed for it when it happens Boy would that be nice
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 04:42 PM
7

Personally I tend to prefer dicks on the larger side (6.5" - 8"/16 - 20 cm). But that's mostly because I like how they look better. All dicks feel different and you can't really know how one will feel before you try it, I think it has to do with shape a lot as well + the shape of your vagina. I've had 7"+ I could honestly not feel that much and I've had 5-6" dicks which satisfied me a lot. So to me it's purely visual. I own three dildos as well, two 6" and one 8".
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 04:40 PM
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So if something illegal that's a jailable offence that men do isn't ending up "all over the news" then it's safe to assume men simply looking to see if they're dating the same woman would not either. For the record I'm not against an "Are we dating the same woman" group, but men tend to make these types of groups vulgar and use them to share nudes or humiliate women over sexual encounters.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 04:34 PM
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No, of course not. It's women's fault when they slut around and it's also women's fault when men slut around. Can't ever have a man practicing the "accountability" they preach so much about
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 04:19 PM
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Because men, regardless of level of attractiveness, will try and date and have sex with multiple women at once. I swear redpillers are far more misandristic than the loudest most man hating radfem
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 04:17 PM
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Men making groups where they share women's nudes or share stories about specific sexual encounters are hardly "all over the media". I highly doubt men simply seeking to see if they're being cheated on would.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 04:13 PM
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Can we have the pics you used of the 4/10 woman? Also how do you see how many likes you got on tinder unless you got the premium version
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 01:27 PM
1

Hm, interesting. Wish you luck in that department if that's what you'd like but it seems a bit hard if you go younger. If I was dating older men (I don't) it would surprise me a lot if I was still making more as that usually goes with age.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 12:23 PM
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Would you be willing to date a woman making more than you? I've had dates become pissed after realising I make more than them and even here I see lots of men (although rp only men) saying they'd never date a woman making more.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 12:19 PM
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While that's true to the extent that having female friends you spend quality time with doesn't guarantee that you'll always know how to escalate, it certainly helps a lot. Even being close with your sister(s) makes a huge difference, in my experience. Same applies to women as well to a degree, most women with good male friends or close to a brother are much more comfortable talking to men or flirting with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 01:01 PM
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Talking to women as friends allows you to not other women, which is important when you try to talk to a woman for sexual/romantic purposes. When chatting with a man I can usually accurately tell whether he has female friends or not cuz it affects their attitude and how they talk to you either casually or flirtatiously a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 12:53 PM
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If she's high libido and non promiscuous she'll settle in a relationship cuz she wants sex and the only way to have sex is having a relationship, so she'll have lower standards cuz she "needs" it more than a low libido woman/a high libido woman who'll satisfy her needs anyway. Same way a man may get in a relationship with a woman while not that into her just to have someone to fuck. A man who can fuck outside of a relationship will be more picky cuz he screens for more than just "I gotta get lai…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 10:11 PM
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> 4 to 6 dates Hm. Interesting. Many rp men consider not having sex on the first date as "waiting", so thanks for clearing that up. > See this is the issue. How do I know she likes me more than someone if she doesn’t show it?? Remember, men have to do most of the chasing during the early stages of dating. Men are the ones actively wooing, planning and organizing fun dates, etc. Yes, I am aware that this is the issue. I am talking about a hypothetical. Knowing her n count is also a hypothetical s…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 05:06 PM
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it makes logical sense the women we chase have a high N count The women you chase in general or the women you chase for casual? And if you could know that a woman has had casual sex or ons in the past, then what do you deem a normal "waiting period" to be? Also if you could know a woman likes you more than someone else, sexual attractiveness included, would you still find her having sex with you later a dealbreaker?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 04:08 PM
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All the high libido women I know who are also very concerned with body count end up in relationships mostly of of horniness or fuck their exes. To have a high libido and never have casual sex you either need to be in a relationship constantly, thus you'll screen potential partners much less, or you need to have amazing self restraint. A woman may be relationship oriented but she still may be single for one or two or three years. Unless she settles relationship wise or doesn't fuck her exes which…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 02:47 PM
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Many redpillers don’t mind if a woman has a high N count. How do you mean that?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 02:41 PM
1

How old are you and where do you live and have these experiences, if you don't mind me asking?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 08:56 AM
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I am specifically referring to an approach combined with height, not just height. If you use a similar approach then feel free to take it personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 06:33 AM
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That still counts as "short" for a man. Like, most men are around an inch taller than me, lol. But since you guys care about hook ups that much, my shortest hook up with a guy was one 2-3 inches shorter.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 06:31 AM
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Imo that's because it can feel predatory sometimes. I'm not short short (I'm 5'5) but I've been approached by tall men who made it a point to state how "petite" I am. If a >5'7 man wants a shorter girl it's not the same as a a 6'2 man saying the same, it's like they're approaching you just cuz they like that they could easily overpower you. Some women may be into that but many are not and personally I hate when tall/big men have this approach, it feels aggressive and is a turn off to me, like I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 12:39 PM
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When I was younger, I used to think I was only attracted to taller guys, because all of my crushes thus far were on the tall side. When I was around 20 though, I met a guy I really liked who happened to be just 1-2 inches taller than me. After that I realised it's not really a factor for me and that I have potential for attraction regardless of height. Now as to looking at (taller) guys that's not really the case with me because when I lock on someone I don't look at other guys in general in tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 12:32 PM
1

Why wouldn't a rp woman use dating apps?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 09:11 PM
1

It's established in research that women raise their standards for physical attractiveness and/or other superficial metrics when considering someone for short term mating. I haven't looked into researches addressing this, but for me it's the opposite, personally. I would be much more comfortable having a hook up/an ongoing fwb situation with a man I consider just attractive enough but not attractive enough for something more, such as making it more public or even just being exclusive with him. I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 07:49 PM
2

It's established in research that women raise their standards for physical attractiveness and/or other superficial metrics when considering someone for short term mating. I haven't looked into researches addressing this, but for me it's the opposite, personally. I would be much more comfortable having a hook up/an ongoing fwb situation with a man I consider just attractive enough but not attractive enough for something more, such as making it more public or even just being exclusive with him. I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 07:49 PM
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Personally I'm against shaming for having criteria, although I do see that as well. What I'm saying is one should be fine whereas you should not be trying to justify the other, even if both are common.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 11:26 PM
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Assuming someone on a date with you is automatically assuming you're there just to get laid is wild. So no, you have to make that clear in one way or another if that's indeed what you're there for.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 11:19 PM
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We don't agree. Going on dates =/= feigning romantic interest. You can go on a date with a woman you only want to have sex with without acting as if you're into her romantically as well. That doesn't mean being impolite, or not being courteous. That means being as nice with her as you would with anyone else but without acting like you're in love with her. If she doesn't fuck you that sucks, but it's morally far better than you acting as if you like her just for her to fuck you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 11:10 PM
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You keep ignoring my point about whether you act deceptively or not. A man can have as much casual sex as he wishes, period. What changes things is how he has that casual sex. And no, not all men will feign romantic interest to get laid when there's none, thankfully. If you want to trick women who want to boyfriend you into fucking you no one can stop you, it's not even hard. But you don't get to act like that's something morally correct or the same as having casual sex with someone fully into t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 11:02 PM
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If he's not into her the same way she is. I'm obviously not talking about a woman being simply sexually attracted to you and she to you. That's how casual sex operates. I'm talking about a woman being romantically into you as well as sexually, while you're only sexually into her. If that was not the case we would not be talking about deception, since if the woman is only sexually attracted to you you don't have a reason to deceive her by feigning romantic interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 10:53 PM
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No one argues (I hope) that you should date someone you don't want to date. People's issues come when you start shaming people you don't want to date it, which is different to simply having "preferences". If a man doesn't want to date a fat woman for example, or lists that among his criteria in a relevant discussion, that's perfectly fine. If a man calls all fat women landwhales and says nobody should ever like them that's not about his preferences any more.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 10:49 PM
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A man having as much casual sex as he wishes is fine. A man being manipulative/deceptive or straight up lying to get as much casual sex as he wishes is not. Example 1: a man goes to clubs to smash, or goes on a date with a woman seemingly seeking something casual and has sex with her. Totally fine. Example 2: a woman a man goes on a date with is clearly into him (while he's not into her). He pretends to be into her to have sex with her and then either ghosts her or strings her along. Not fine. C…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 10:45 PM
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The majority of men would give their life to protect the woman they love. Apparently based on statistics on which partner is more likely to leave when their SO is diagnosed with a terminal illness/has a serious accident men are not even likely to sacrifice their time for the woman they "love".
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 10:39 PM
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I agree with you, if you read my comment again that's what I basically said. I said a man being a virgin is in no way indicative of poor morals and could actually be a sign he has more morals than a man who's not one. Men definitely face social pressure to gain sexual experience. Some men because of that will resort to manipulative tactics to get laid, eg they'll meet a girl clearly into them (who they're not into), and they will act very interested in her just to ghost her after sex or outright…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 03:05 PM
2

It depends on the guy. If he's a good looking guy with a pleasant personality, I will automatically assume his being a virgin is a choice and could see it as neutral or potentially a plus. If he's like over 26, 27 years old and a virgin, and he's not that good looking/pleasant, I could see it as something weird but in the end if I was attracted to him it would not turn me off I believe. Many men who don't have the looks or the personality to attract women even for something casual will resort to…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 02:42 PM
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12% is already quite lean and I don't know if you could go much lower for a substantial period of time without damaging your health/body in the long run or using PEDs
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 09:11 PM
3

It's how she behaves after you've had sex is the make or break. Care to elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 03:50 PM
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I can see that but imo that's more usual in the case of men, who earn social capital for having casual sex. Many women don't even disclose that to their friends depending on the social circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 11:56 AM
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Interesting. What would be an alternative motivation for a hook up for a low sex drive person?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 10:31 AM
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Why not make it so that after you're done you use your mouth/hands/a toy on him? I think that could work
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 12:17 AM
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I know, it was more of a joke/vent
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 12:09 AM
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Hormonal birth control usually also reduces sex drive, meaning a woman on bc would be less likely to pursue casual sex compared to one not on it anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 11:41 PM
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Chivalry is not something that "works" or "doesn't work". Of course if you see everything you do as a way to get sex/a relationship and you hold doors open for women not into you in hopes you'll get that you see it that way. If you're chivalrous to a woman not attracted to you she likely won't get attracted to you just because of that. But on the other hand if you act chivalrous to a woman attracted to you she's likely to become more attracted to you. It's a behaviour, not a coin to put in the p…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 11:33 PM
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Where do you find men like that rofl My main problem in anything more serious I've had was the guy not putting out enough once he felt secure in my feelings for him. Obv not a dealbreaker but I'd love a high libido man and I don't know where they're all hiding
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 11:23 PM
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Most women care, I would say. Most of my friends have said they wouldn't do something serious with a bi man/a man who's experimented with the same sex. They would maybe have a hook up or something really casual but nothing serious. Personally as long as I'm otherwise attracted to the guy I don't mind, for most guys I would even say that it's a plus. If any of my previous partners/fwbs told me they're bi I would either not care or find it a positive thing/a turn on.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 11:15 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 01:07 AM
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For 50/50, all budgets have to be set by the person earning less. Otherwise spending should be proportionate to each partner's wages.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 07:01 PM
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Yeah, I see two entirely different approaches among women coming to that. I have my own personal theories on why a woman may choose one over the other but to me it's interesting nonetheless cuz before joining such subs I always assumed every woman does the same as me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 01:05 PM
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For me it's the opposite tbh. If I go out with a man I consider more physically attractive and more "high value" I would likely delay sex to see if he feels the same about me. It's honestly weird to me hearing the opposite. Although, to clarify because I read in other comments about waiting periods of months, what I mean is I'm more likely to have sex on the 5th date versus the 1st, I'm not talking about waiting an entire month to have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 12:58 PM
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I'm strictly speaking about my own experiences and experiences of people I know. And I'm also a woman who is and has been getting approached by older men for the past 10 or so years, so based on that I'd say I know what types of men adopt which approaches, unless you've also spent the past 10 years of your life getting approached by men 20 years your seniors. No, I don't have a study for you, but I doubt there's a study gathering data on such info in age gap relationships. Socioeconomic differen…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 04:04 PM
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It's usually manipulation/grooming. Most men in their 40s approaching women in their 20s will almost always go for women with financial issues, family problems, mental illness/disorders, and/or trauma, because they know a 25 year old woman with her own money/a family that supports her who's mentally healthy and has a good life would 9 times out of 10 go for a 20-30 year old man, not them. That on its own seems predatory to me. Now of course there are outliers, but that's not usually the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 03:50 PM
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So to be with an attractive woman who actually wants to be with you and isn't just broke and desperate you also have to be attractive, what a shocker. That's just how most relationships work, people won't generally pair up with people they don't like.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 12:54 PM
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So your issue is not whether she actually preferred them (ie, didn't want a relationship with them/dumped them), but whether she had sex with tnem on the first date versus having sex with you on the 5th. Then why are you even mentioning the other guys presumably dumping her since that's a) not something you know b) not something you care about anyway? If the situation was reversed it'd be all the same to you, it shouldn't matter who dumped whom.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 12:44 PM
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Yeah but she still fucked the other guy right away and "made you wait for sex" so how does her dumping him or just plain refusing anything more serious with him in the first place make that better since your issue is her having sex faster and not her having preferred him for commitment
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 12:31 PM
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I am 22 and I will call him creepy, I don't think it has to do with age. Most women are very accustomed to older men making attempts to them from a very young age so it makes sense it's easier for them to recognise the creepiness and whatever manipulation/grooming may be going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 12:28 PM
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So if you somehow knew she was the one to break up with them or refuse/not pursue commitment in the first place you would not care?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 12:24 PM
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I agree that this partially explains it. But also sex isn't necessary for survival. Sex is something fun that relieves horniness. I would never prioritise having sex if that meant I'd be fucking someone up emotionally, much less someone who's crushing on me. Yeah, for most men it'll be harder to find sex again, but if they don't care about fucking a woman up just cuz she fell for them they are still pieces of shit. It's not about what you "lose", it's about how much value you place on that in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 05:19 PM
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Yeah it could be a baseless claim, as I said I'm only presuming. Usually when I'm seeing a guy only for sex while of course I'm nice I always take care to not be too affectionate or say things I don't mean, and I'm open about what I want. If someone I keep seeing shows signs he's falling for me when I'm not I'll usually cut them off to save their time. But in my experience and from what I hear from female and male friends alike most men won't return that courtesy, a fwb I had led me on for weeks…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 05:02 PM
1

Difference is you did not lead these men on by acting as if you've fallen for them (I presume). Male promiscuity is fine when it does not involve manipulation tactics but that's often not the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 04:49 PM
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Yeah, this tbh. She picked a photo where her clothes, pose, expression, etc, are really traditionally feminine, so even tho her "male" version looks good it still looks weird and you don't focus on the facial attractiveness as much. If she did the same with a more neutral photo or one where she was specifically aiming for a more traditionally masculine vibe her "male" version's attractiveness level would be perceived as pretty high by most.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 04:43 PM
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That's not true. I'm promiscuous and I liked only 10% of the men I've been with enough to want to have a relationship with them. Same for fwbs, most of them I would not consider for a relationship (although I've had relationships start that way). Difference is men are open with this so you hear about it more whereas women will usually hide it and only mention guys at/above their league as for women it's something more socially defining.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 09:34 PM
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FDS is not a feminist sub. It's literally all about modern tradwifism. Everything I see here has nothing to do with female liberation and everything to do with "securing" a "high value" man, which is a dog whistle for a traditional man. FDS is sort of a reverse rep pill movement, where some women try to find power in the status quo, usually in the detriment of women who refuse to subscribe to it. It's definitely not about dismantling rhe status quo. According to FDS to be a feminist you have to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/23 10:56 AM
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Why would you go out of your way to find a person who's looking for a relationship and make them attached to you if you are not looking to be with them when you can find a person who's looking for what you're also looking for? Like if you wanna have a fwb arrangement why not just go for someone also into that instead of basically scamming someone wanting a relationship into a fwb thing?
/r/seduction27/08/22 05:34 PM
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Please don't let them make you feel that way. Men will catcall you to assert dominance no matter what. Your tattoos are their excuse, not their reason. It's just as likely that precisely because you look confident and white collar they feel the desperate need to attempt and "put you back into your place", by reminding you that no matter how much more than them you earn or how educated or successful you are you are still a woman and thus but an object intended for their pleasure. It's a dominance…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 07:10 AM
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